The Realities Of Love, Marriage & Divorce | Matt Walsh Interviews A Divorce Lawyer
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James J. Sexton Esq., prominent divorce lawyer and author, joins Matt Walsh to chat about love, marriage, and divorce.
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In my late 50's. Married 32 years to a girl I met when she was 16 and I was 18. No infidelities. No divorces. 3 grown daughters. I consider myself "happily married" but it certainly wasn't always happy/perfect. We stuck it out through the difficult times, we never wanted to hurt each other intentionally. We never confused "being in love" with "being happy".
Happiness is a fleeting feeling, you can be happy, unhappy, sad, angry, etc over the course of a single day. Even when we were not "happy" for an extended period, we both admit that we still "loved" each other and wanted things to get better. Don't get obsessed with how "happy" you are (or or not).
A shared Faith and belief in our vows. That was our core.
I called the 30's-40's "The Hump"...when the kids are most demanding, when money was tightest, when we were too tired, anxious, busy to treat each other the way we each deserved to be treated. When the most temptation to stray happened....if you can get past "The Hump" without doing anything you can't forgive each other for....things will get better. Hang on.
One of the biggest hurdles we all face as married people...the decline in sex...is the biggest issue for men when going over "The Hump". In that mix is hormonal birth control, which was a BIG factor for my wife. All you young married folks...be aware. The whole "she needs you to be X (romantic/loving/etc)" to have sex and "you need sex to feel romantic/loving/etc toward her...vs resentful that she hasn't touched you in weeks" is a THING. You need to talk about it, schedule it, do something about it or it will eat your relationship alive.
I still love my wife now as much as I did when she was my beautiful 20-something yo bride. It's been as close to a "Storybook Romance" as reality can provide. But it was absolutely NOT a "Happily Ever After" story. Western media...especially romance/rom-com's...has been a HUGE problem for our society IMO.
Make good choices.
Marry for the right reasons.
Commit. Be Faithful. Persevere.
You married guys are so delusional.
@@GomersPile01 compared to what? Your inexperienced ignorance?
@@thomasgerace4354 compared to those of us who know the true nature of fee mails. I learned the true nature of fee mails from Peter Nolan. Thankfully before I made the mistake of getting married. You married guys should have helped him. But you didn't. Oh well..
@@thomasgerace4354 your wife is going to divorce you one day and you will be shocked. Lol..
.if you can get past "The Hump" without doing anything you can't forgive each other for....things will get better. Hang on.
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absolutely no guarantees of that
Did Matt leave for work one day and tell his wife he’s going to talk to a divorce lawyer that day? 😅🤣
I can see him saying it and his wife going along with the joke because she knows it has to do with work.
She'll stop and think to herself... "Does he know??"
She was likely wrangling one or two of their many kids and said "sounds good honey, have a good day" 😅
Hahaha
Yeah, totally see it as an MW one-liner. And one of the cruelest of all!
Matt thank you for letting James talk without cutting him off like so many other hosts do.
@knine... It was quite evident how excited James was to be hosted, he was actually the one interrupting Matt😂
Surprisingly though, he made alot of valid points about marriage for a divorce lawyer. Like his perspective😊
I like JBP, but Matt Walsh’s interviewing style is very preferable. Let the guest complete the thought please.
I noticed this too. You can tell Matt's sometimes trying to get a point out when James interrupts him to add to something Matt's saying as part of getting to his point, and at first I thought "why doesn't Matt just get his point out? ... Oh, because he's interviewing someone and the point is to hear what the interviewee has to say, not the interviewer." It's rare in interviews where the interviewer is the host of a podcast or talk show, but it's way more interesting - we all already know what Matt has to say, but most of us don't know what James has to say. Great interview.
I thought it was because he didn't know how to respond to the point and let Sexton speak his piece (or maybe Sexton took his words already).
He let him talk because he has to agree and can’t come up with any counter argument.
If this divorce attorney gig doen't work for James, he could easily be a marriage counselor.
Marriage counselor who doesn’t believe in marriage- interesting
He has a degree in psychology, he said so on another podcast called the diary of a CEO with Steven Bartlett. In that podcast he said that he uses his psychology degree just as much as his Law degree, so he could move into the counselling arena with ease. He also appears very empathetic. I think he loves love but dislikes the way we do the “institution of marriage”.
Totally disagree. He makes light of cheating - probably a cheater too. Lol!!
@@amc3964I don’t hear that he is making light of cheating- not at all! In fact, he said that God says twice in the 10 commandments to not cheat…
He just treats it matter of factly knowing that it happens fairly frequently.
@@amc3964 he’s not making light of cheating. He’s just seen a lot of it and he doesn’t freak out over it. He did say that God says twice in the 10 commandments to not sleep with someone you’re not married to.
He REALLY isn’t making light of affairs, he’s just saying that there are many other issues that have happened before and affair happens. He says that an affair isn’t the way to address marital issues.
My wife and I got divorced based on religious differences. She thought she was God. I didn't.
She must be a fan of George Soros😢.
If you follow Jesus, you are done with marriage per Luke 16:18.
Wow that’s pathetic, def just as much your fault as hers
Happy for you. Better to divorce a narcissist than stay. They emotionally abuse and gaslight you.
How do you know that for certain?@23Butanedione
As a 31 year old single person, the most frustrating thing for me with dating is the lack of seriousness people take it with. No morals. No virtue. Thank you so much for giving this conversation a platform....
I strongly recommend a book called how to get a date worth keeping. It will be harsh and it will give you practical steps. Virtuous people exist. That you haven't found one who has chosen you means there are missing steps in your looking process. Possibly missing steps in your process of evaluating them. And very likely missing steps in your process of making yourself somebody that such a person would choose. For what it's worth I got married at 35 and it is a very good marriage.
Are you Christian and attend a church? That's where a moral system exists and moral people congregate
Why are you doing it then?
This convo has been happening in the RP community for decades now. In fact, I would completely categorize it as RP. And everything they say is why RP say what they say.
"just looking to vibe and see where it goes"
That moment when an interview with a divorce attorney winds up being one of the more wholesome things on UA-cam.
It’s not wholesome. He’s getting paid to share expertise. That’s all. He’s in a relationship he can’t commit to it sounds like from what he said. A long term relationship. Not a marriage. A bit jaded. Probably.
@@katemiller7874 We don't know if he was paid for this interview, but if he was, so what? The insight/advice he provided was very rational and helpful. Seems you ignored all that. I doubt you even watched the video in fact.
The speed at which he replied 'sex' when asked what can women do to avoid their marriages ending in divorce 😆 ...he didn't miss a beat!
Right! As if that's a sure fire way to keep a marriage out the jaws of divorce! Its not!
Matt, I am a committed Catholic man married to a committed Catholic woman, but our marriage over the last 17 years has been difficult. Things have been very difficult lately, and we both are at the point where we know we can no longer go on like this. So the fact that this video dropped on the day when I knew that we must take extreme action to save all that we worked for and to give our four children the marriage between their parents that they finally deserve is providential. Thank you. Please pray for us.
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
I pray God restores all the years lost and God will illuminate the path to healing and forgiveness
Praying for your marriage!
Praying for your marriage!
praying for you and your marriage! I can't imagine the difficulties after so long but damn it if I didn't wish the absolute best for both of you.
I’ve never witnessed Matt actually seem like he’s capable of changing his mind or adjusting his ideology even if just by a little bit. He seems genuinely intrigued by the divorce lawyers stance and the knowledge he’s been privy to. Great interview.
Matt lives in a bubble/ echo chamber. But he is usually a reasonable guy. Like most, he'll come to respect the position of the red pill guys after a civil discussion of the hard facts and the logic. Same happened with Jordan Peterson.
He won me over. Sightly
He has changed his mind on a couple of things over the years. Like the death penalty for example. That's one of the things that's so good about listening to him.
@@julieme7927he is one of the least informationally adaptive individuals I've ever seen. I've seen him being confronted with undebatable information, data and facts, yet he chooses to be illogically rigid, but it's likely an act. Just take a look at the absolutely ridiculous amount and scope of the engagement farming he does on Twitter/X, so much clickbait and outright falsehoods, he plays a caricature of what used to exemplify conservativism, a fragment of a bygone era that modernity seems hell bent on preventing from ever returning to, despite it working far better than the postmodern garbage they've bait and switched us on. Sometimes I like Matt, but his Twitter is UNACCEPTABLE, if he genuinely cared about his fans, he wouldn't do what he does, please take a look, it is infuriating!..
He has changed his mind on pot.
He also talked with JP about mental illness and seemed to adjust his opinion
Before we got married I said to my wife, "I think if someone cheats they should forfeit all assets and children, and take on all debts." She said, 'I really like that idea.' And we lived happily ever after.
The idea of a flawless marriage or relationship is unrealistic. There's no set formula for success; what works for one couple may not work for another. Nevertheless, I've learned that solutions exist for every problem. Five years ago, my wife and I faced the brink of divorce due to challenges in our marriage. Fortunately, we managed to reconcile. It was a tough phase, but we made it through.
The wisdom in your words strikes a chord within me, and I genuinely desire that my sentiments align with yours. Despite our separation at present, I cannot conceive of my existence without her; my love for her knows no bounds. I yearn for her return, and I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to achieve reconciliation. We've pursued different avenues, including therapy, in our journey to bridge the gap
Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Your guidance is valued. I'll immediately seek her out online. Appreciate it. I'm hopeful that implementing this method will also bring me success; I miss her dearly.
I promise you will not regret it
I have to admit. The more I listen to James on different podcasts the more I find his perspective very insightful. James does a masterful job communicating issues with failed marriages.
Agree! I didn’t want to think so at first, but after listening a few times, I think he is the most qualified to speak on this hard topic!
@@rosecampion4337 I would have to disagree. I believe both he and Matt are coming at this topic from a position of Luxury Beliefs based upon their current economic status and the circles they run in. If this interview was conducted with a divorce attorney who delt with average Household Income couples, say 120K per year, I think the situation would be much more bleak than we realize.
@@dillianwalfort1333 That's a good point. James is excellent at what he does but only deals with very high income people.
It's very clear and matter of fact while not being at all superficial. He gets right at the true heart of the divorce issues and explains it in a way that just make you nod your head like, "Damn, that seems like it should be so obvious to people but I get why sometimes it's not."
@@dillianwalfort1333 How would average income affect the situation? I’m legit asking, not being sarcastic 👍
"He doesn't make it rain, just sells the umbrella" Such a perfect way of explaining divorce lawyers
Sounds better than- “I don’t endorse suicide. I just sell people the rope.”
sometimes they add some water to rain because that's what make them money.
@@ytcensorship8180 True for the most part. Except what if it was somehow possible for an umbrella salesman to turn that rain into a torrential storm? And some (not all) actually did use that power? I think that's a better analogy.
Not quite honest. They lobby for family law statutes that ensure billable hours stay high. They’re seeding the clouds and then selling umbrellas. And your legal fees are paying for the cloud seeding, which pays off for them in spades.
Not even close to perfect lol. More accurate would be: scum that sells water at an extremely inflated price to people who are dying of thirst in the middle of the desert.
When Matt says there is no Soulmate out there. You chose one and they grow to become your soulmate. Ain't that the truth?💯
An average person has plenty of potential compatible suiters out there for them. They're not soulmates yet. They become soulmates by creating and cumulating powerful exclusive experiences they imprint forever in memory that uniquely bond them together and make them irreplaceable to one another. They begin to no longer see each other as they objectively are, but through the positive enhancing filter of memory.
Promiscuity corrupts one's memory because it gets fractured between many different people one will never forget and diminishes or possibly even destroys any future bonding process.
A mistress will always try to sell herself ( to your husband) as his Soulmate. I know. My husband had a 1-year affair with a coworker who constantly posted that on her Facebook.
I believe in soulmates but I also believe that 99.9999999% of people will not meet that person. Find somebody that you’re as compatible with as you can who you can communicate with and who knows you for who you are and loves the good parts and can at least tolerate the bad.
@@awomansstory.2019your husband wanted her, he truly did. Accept that
@@jollypolly1686this is amazing I am sending it to my fiancée!! Bless your beautiful mind.
Best marriage advice I’ve ever heard/given: treat your spouse as if you owe them everything and they owe you nothing.
Make sure they deserve that kind of devotion because if you're not getting it back, you will drain yourself
Seems stupid. Anyone who gives unconditional love deserves everything bad that will happen to him/her.
If you place her above you, she'll be looking down on you, then lose respect for you. Then she'll leave. Women want men who are busy with their own lives, not men who will give up everything just to make her happy... because she will never be happy. When you listen to women, they sabotage the relationship.. go figure.
I agree with that ❤
I have been married for six years. This marriage ends when one of us dies. Hopefully it's me because I don't want to be on this planet without him. He is brilliant, strong and an amazing father. I wake up everyday knowing I won the lottery.
Where did you two meet? These kinds of discussions are always filled with people saying how they won the spousal lottery, what brings that about, where do people go to find that kind of real love?
Omg I feel the same exact way about my 2nd husband ❤ he’s someone I truly don’t ever want to live without !
Also , my family member introduced us. 🥰
@@brendan254I met my husband when we were both high at a college party. Yet he's a strong leader of our household. It's just random.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle.
@@PeterNolan-009 it has to be, what makes like worth living if not for the people we choose to care about
Matt Walsh is the best interviewer at DW. He just asks the questions and lets the other person talk. 👍
Kinda hard for even Walsh to talk over this guy
Wife says she wishes husband never moved to this city and state.
@@robinpigeon2070he is an attorney
In my marriage I find holding MYSELF accountable is huge.Everyone can get snippy with their spouse but I always try to make up for it with future kindness and compliments
That's a typical male view. Women don't want to be held accountable.
Same here! Learned that from my grandmother as a teen. It's worked well over the last 23 years too❤
yes. exactly…. it’s ALWAYS my fault… at least mostly…. and that’s the key to a happy marriage. ❤❤❤❤
Good on you for not acting like a child, so many not even married and they act like one….
I love that a divorce attorney just said, "I forgot the plot of the story we were writing together." That is so beautiful, and it improves the image of divorce attorneys significantly.
This is an amazing interview.
Color me shocked that a female would entertain the notion that cheating equates to losing the plot.
@danlyons4602, surely cheating wasn't part of the original plot of that story. A lot of things can equate to losing the plot. And anyone can lose the plot. If a person admits that his/her own actions are what caused the plot to twist and wants to correct the error and continue the story together, that is beautiful.
James Sexton with Jordan Peterson interview would be interesting.
Only if you l we get the version of JP that is capable of being literal
JP wouldn’t let him get a word in edgewise
As a woman, I think I would say this should be recommended listening to people considering marriage. I thought this was an excellent interview and I enjoy listening to the lawyer.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle..
I teach young men to never get married and never have kids..
As a fee mail you support the criminal abuse of men in divorce courts. You all do.
@robsab531 I learned that even though the majority of the time women file for divorce it isn't always because they want a divorce, there could be other external but just as important factors at play, and I think that conversations like this are good because it opens up avenues and areas to which improvements can be made.
@@JuniorJunison 95%+ of all divorces are caused by laydees. I divorced my wife. She begged me to take her back. I said no because she was a vile laydee. Then you laydees let her lie about me and you gave her 95% of my assets. Go to the hot place where the man with horns rules.
Great insight. Celebrating 23 yrs today with my wife. She's awesome. We still dig eachother after 4 kids. She makes me feel like a king and I can't get enough of her. It takes extreme humility and effort but wow it gets better and better.
I went into my marriage saying all the same things.
'Divorce isn't an option.'
'I'm in it for the long haul.'
I was even sure she was on the same page...
The truth is, sometimes it just doesn't matter what you want.
No, it matters what you DO.
@AerinTheDude: Same boat. I told my ex-wife I didn't want us to be just another statistic. I wanted us to try counseling. But I later found out she was already having an affair with a co-worker.
In the end, you can have all the best intentions, but what happens isn't solely up to you.
SHE DID NOT LOVE YOU, RESPECT YOU, ADORE YOU!
Same here brother!
@@padilijamesmikomangwa519projection much 😂
Matt is a good interviewer. He asks interesting questions and he listens. I have watched the lawyer in other podcasts but this conversation has more depth. I really hope he keeps doing this kind of in-depth interviews exploring different social issues.
Me too. I've watched Sexton in many other podcasts and I thought it would be same same but this was different
I’m only here for James. I enjoyed it, what others do you recommend
Really good interview!
Matt's usual unwillingness to interrupt his interviewee, paired with his typical, incisive opinions on marriage, really made this discussion worth watching
Yes
Well said! Matt conducts excellent interviews. 👏
Yes. @jasonwhitlock also, because he says he doesn't mind finding out he's wrong on a topic
Sexton's EQ is so advanced. I have heard him be interviewed from the most liberal to the most conservative. And he always has connections with those who agree or disagree with his salient points of marriage and divorce. Great interview, Sir....
“Glad we had pre-marital counseling!”…said hardly any divorcé ever. @31:11
Happily married for 30 years. Had some pretty intense, high-quality, pre-marital counseling. Went into marriage eyes wide open!
I did too and I have recommended it to multiple people before they got married, and sadly few (if any) have taken me up on it.
I wish I did that but too late now. I actually think a "Scared Straight" type of situation would work.
Hey Yankee, I know you from the coin community. I imagine a big reason your marriage has lasted is because you & your wife are genuine, no bs, believers in our Lord. That's huge on both sides of the street
@@thaimuayshoo1171 Amen, brother!!
Hey Yankee, I believe I know you as well. My husband, StackingPoints has your stickers and watches your channel. I wish we had thought to get counseling before, nothing wrong with our marriage but I imagine it can only help. We tell our girls if they want mama and daddy to pay for their weddings they need to get premarital counseling. Something that should be encouraged more in society, maybe it would help the younger generations not be so scared of marriage
I could listen to a 36 hr podcast about paint drying with James! He’s such a captivating speaker.
He is so intelligent and easily understandable. He speaks in plain language and communicates very clearly. To me his views are basically just common sense. It's just really great to hear it from someone else.
Indeed, I started watching the 15 mins on 2x speed but I found myself lapping this up to prepare me for my marriage future
He's funny and very charismatic too
I wish it was that easy. I did so many little things throughout my marriage. I would fill her car up with gas so she wouldn’t have to go to the gas station. I always covered her in a blanket when she would fall asleep on the couch. Getting her things she likes at the grocery store. I told her I loved her EVERY SINGLE DAY. Not to mention standing by her side for two years helping her get through breast cancer treatment. NONE OF IT MATTERED. She still left me for another man.
Did you two have the same values and beliefs before getting married? This doesn't usually happen unless there's a misunderstanding or a lack of communication before tying the knot.
@@Kez-The-Pez Yes I thought we had the same values. She is very extroverted and I’m very introverted. That was our biggest problem. We were together for 14 years so I thought we had figured that out. Thought we balanced each other. I guess I just wasn’t fun and exciting anymore. So she broke her vows and destroyed our family because life got boring for her. I’m sure Cancer played a part in it. She is 42 years old living the life she had when she was 22 years old.
@@Kez-The-Pez You are a liar. She left him because he was never her first choice. (Sorry sir, but that's the truth.) I was born in 1982. I know what it's like to live in a world 🌎 where whenever a relationship or marriage fails, it's automatically the man's fault. Society kept on telling men, "A woman would never leave a good man." Also, men were told that women are innocent angels and victims that can do no wrong. This lie is still being pushed in 2024. But, because of the internet, especially SOCIAL MEDIA, men now know the truth about women's true nature. Women had the home field advantage; all women had to do was keep the lie going through their behavior. Women failed to do that, and social media (TikTok, Twitter/X, IG, Snapshot, Facebook/Meta, etc.) is the proof of all of this. The truth has come to the light! And the truth is this: if he (the husband) is not her first choice, then he's automatically her worst choice, EVEN IF HE'S A GOOD MAN!! Men will never give women the benefit of the doubt and see women as innocent victims that can do no wrong ever again. We all know that men aren't angels, but now we know that women aren't angels either. Oh snap! EQUALITY!! 😃 And don't get me started on FEMINISM!!
Matt going on the record so often and always claiming that he is never getting divorced is tempting fate. I hope he never faces one but he would be a completely different person afterwards. It would change so much about him. I think it would destroy him.
Telling a female u love her everyday is useless cos the words No longer have any value.
When she's so used to hearing you love her it doesn't mean anything anymore.
Next time shut up, humans only value what they work hard for.
I feel so blessed after reading many of these comments. My husband and I met and married after knowing each other for six months..we were 23&24 when we got married. We have never found marriage to be that hard to navigate. We have a shared faith in Christ and a comfortable knowledge of our different but co-equal roles in our marriage, based on scripture. We agree that the harder job was parenting. Our kids are grown now with families of their own and we will celebrate 40 years of marriage in August. My advice would be to be very careful about who you date because you never know who you might fall in love with. If you argue while dating, it will get worse when you marry. Lastly, pray, pray and pray some more.
➡️ Women primarily want to be cherished and desired.
➡️ Men primarily want to be respected and admired.
✅ Prove me wrong.
UPDATE: I didn’t use the word “solely” or “exclusively”. I intentionally used the word “primarily”. Women want to be respected, men want to be loved. I get it.
If a man does not provide for his wife, children and relatives, he is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Timothy 5:8, DRB) A husband is commanded to sacrifice for his wife, as Christ sacrificed for His church. (Ephesian-5:25) Both husband and wife are commanded to submit to, yield to, cater to each other. (Ephesians 5:21 and Pope Saint John Paul II)
"Love and Respect" Great book.
I don't really see how there's a difference between those things, or least how they don't go together. So, I don't really understand what you mean.
@@OneDay38104 there is absolutely a difference. read the book Love and Respect. it does a great job breaking it down.
@@WhiskeyActualTV eh, the things I’ve heard about it haven’t been great. Maybe I’ll read it someday though. In your opinion, how do love and respect not automatically go together?
I'm so early in, but the concept of "weaponizing" intimacy struck a cord. It really highlights just how brutal divorce can be
Women with hold sex to manipulate men. The real definition of femininity is having less sexual prone. The one who cares less about having sex holds the power in the relationship. As a man if you refuse sex to your girlfriend, she would go nuts….
And how brutal a bad marriage can be ❤
Most women use that tactic.
I agree that weaponizing intimacy is wrong, but there does exist a woman or man that isn't in the mood because disgust as a precursor does put a sour spot on being intimate with someone. It's not always intentional
@@songofthefierce9647 This! If your spouse doesn’t wanna have sex with you then you need to look in the mirror and figure out why.
This was not an interview I was expecting.
Why were you not expecting?
@@ACium. My question too, who is this guy btw?
@@mima_piedadeinternet famous divorce lawyer
@@robsab531 you just described a third of the men on UA-cam 😂
@@robsab531 I was trying to be nice.
Forgiveness after an affair...not a chance. Show's you're weak and the spouse won't respect you. Leave and never look back.
It teaches them they can get away with it.
All depends. I have seen it work but only about 1/4 times...
Unfortunately I agree - I thought to myself that he’s right people don’t get divorced for one affair - no it’s after you forgave the first affair and 12 or 18 months later you find they are having another affair or more often never stopped the first one. Ask me how I know. 🙄
@@legalmemories you're right. People today (including Christians) have a mistaken idea of what forgiveness means.
@@ericjames7819 so true. Especially married men.
Affairs are a testament to how narcissistic society is
Coupled with a lack of sexual control.
I'm a devoutly religious married women with 5 kids, and am very pro-marriage. James Sexton made the clearest, most reasonable case against marriage at around the 10 minute mark. Wow. Marriage needs to be entered into as a religious sacrament/covenant, because if it's for legal reasons, good luck.
I think he was saying the lines tend to blur in conversation and context because even a covenant marriage involves a legal aspect that shouldn’t be ignored.
After following Matt Walsh for about 3 years now I'm more and more convinced that he really isn't about politics at all. What he wants to be is the Catholic marriage family advisor. Everything he talks about is marriage, children, duties of men women and families very little about politics anymore.
I totally agree with you. At the very least end of the day, he wants to share what is objectively good and true and beautiful. Personally as a traditional Catholic, I feel sympathetic towards those who have never experienced it or seen/heard about it to be inspired to live it out too.
What do you think politics is about? 🤣🤣🤣
Yup
@@FrankS111 It's about policies, domestic issues and war not about families and children. That's that's a very specific area
@@real_skye the “war on poverty” begs to differ since the 1960’s. Rewards single mothers, no fault divorce also came into effect primarily in the 1970’s and 1980’s.
These two things are examples of government policy/laws that greatly impact the family.
There are definitely steps that can be taken to prevent divorce, but there are also times when whether or not divorce happens is completely out of your control. I see it a lot like driving. Being an awesome drive definitely reduces your odds of getting into an accident, but someone else can just plow into you because they are looking at their phone.
For a man who isn't married, James really loves marriage
19 years in my marriage- married at 20. Easiest and best decision I ever made
You married guys are so delusional.
Don't tell em you live in Utah somewhere
Women who marry as virgins have a 5% divorce rate. Today that means a young woman. If a man is going to get married that's the only way to go.
I don't doubt that it has been the best decision of your life.
The gomer dude is just going around reposting the same comment and trolling everyone. Maybe he’s either a bot or a very lazy sad man who’d rather sit on the couch with cheese puffs then embrace life’s difficulties.
Every marriage has problems. Every person has faults. Each person contributes to the breakdown of a relationship. But the person who commits the crime of cheating is the person who should be held at fault for way more than the other person
What about a spouse who traps the other in a sexless marriage? Would you say completely rejecting sex is unfaithfulness?
@@groatswerth2073 then divorce. The amount of ppl who think cheating is the only option in an unhappy marriage or relationship is mind blowing. Divorce. Break up. Why is cheating the option?
@@LaceCoveredSkiesbecause in a divorce a man loses everything. Cheating means he doesnt have to deal with the messy divorce right away as he has secret options. Or hes prolonging the inevitable while building his exit strategy and talking to lawyers to leave as safely as possible. Men don't owe women loyalty
@@ravenclangaming"men don't owe women loyalty"... wow, thanks for clearing that up. Talk about saying the quiet part out loud, eh? Funny how that belief never swings both ways
@@ravenclangamingand in a divorce, men don't lose "everything". They take their half. Your first mistake is assuming you are the sole owner of everything. Interesting
James sounds measured, reasonable and open minded. Matt sounds ideological.
Red pill is not caring what women think, it’s understanding how and why they think the way they do
The try to shame red pillers for the truth which is weird
@@zacharylowe24 It is envy. Let that sink in and you'll see what I mean.
@@aracelymoran2504 its a dying trend anyway. why envy guys whos main business is to scam men? theres other measurement of success for normal ppl like some kind of moral virtues. most famous youtubers are not red pill grifters.
@@elise9537. Women scam men and society applauds them for it. I don't see why you're bothered about the red pill and hating on them if you think they're doing the same thing y'all are doing. Marriage is a business for women and a charity for men. Men, donate wisely! 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
@@elise9537 its only getting stronger...soon no men will marry
Great interview, Matt. The last 10 minutes of James Sexton’s “what if it’s that easy” advice is inspiring to everyone who is married.
"It was the granola. That was the sign. As soon as he stopped refilling the granola, the marriage was over." James Sexton on 'Soft White Underbelly'
James was quoting one of his clients. There was more to it than that if you're trying to dumb down the failure of marriage to granola.
@@theshapeexistsit was just the writing on the wall.
@@theshapeexists it's a "I scratch your back and you'll scratch mine" situation. When one party reduces the effort it can cause a downward spiral. Suddenly there's no bj before work and the lady is out of granola. Pitiful situation, backs thoroughly unscratched.
@@mikaelfalk6720 100%. Keep the BJ's and granola flowing for a healthy marriage.
I think you completely missed the point of what he was saying and what it meant.
Out of 100 married couples I know of, who are out of the honeymoon stage, I only know 4 who are happily married.
This is how compelling James Sexton is: I despise Matt Walsh's entire world view, but I'll watch this episode simply because I know James can talk to a rock and make it interesting.
Based off of the discussion, James and Matt seem to agree on most things. So if you like James's veiws, I'm not sure why you hate Matt so much.
I don't despise his worldview, but he sometimes seems naive and simplistic.
My parents were married for 50 years when my Dad passed away. As I was growing up he would talk to me about his views on marriage, and I remember his maxim on it: "Marriage is trench living." Marriage is about showing each other love by being there for one another through figuring out what to eat for supper, taking care of the children, working on the household budget, doing the dishes, just day to day mundane living.
Yes the romance films and novels don’t give any instruction on the daily life of most people ❤
This isn’t what females want in 2024… this is boring to them. They need to have the butterflies or it isn’t love.
Back when women wanted to be wives and be mothers lol. In 2024 they want the ring and wedding to show off on insta. Good luck boys, don’t say you weren’t warned…
Matt's humility and insight are some of his best qualities 👍
All laydees support laydees crimes against men.
Humility is for sure an amazing quality
"We've done so much self-esteem work over the last 15 years, that what do we esteem other than the self anymore? What do we serve other than the self anymore?" That's profound and cuts right to the heart of SO many relational and societal issues going on.
This guy is a really good lawyer. I could make a class on the way he handled this conversation and built report with Matt. He even got Matt making points against his own argument to be more agreeable. For those who don't know; a lawyers job isn't to make the strongest argument, it's to make the most convincing. Those are not the same thing.
Fellow experienced divorce lawyer here (Pennsylvania and New Jersey). I agree with much of what Attorney Sexton stated in this video. Some things through my lens:
At 25:25 - if you marry a sociopath or covert narcissist, your life will get turned upside down and your divorce will likely be brutal. Get educated on the signs and run from these people.
At 47:04 Attorney Sexton is spot on when he states there should be a “barrier to entry”. Before social media and UA-cam, this type of information was hard to get and not widely available. Listen. Learn what can and does happen every single day in family courts.
At 1:02:50 Again, Attorney Sexton is 100% correct that almost nobody explains the rules to you before you get married. Hopefully with videos like this (and others), the general public will get a deeper understanding of the realities of modern day marriage and divorce.
At 1:03:45 Prenups. If you think about it, everyone has a prenup when they get married. It is either the prenup written by the state government (divorce laws), or you can make your own rules about how things will get divided in the event of divorce. You should know that prenup laws vary widely from jurisdiction to jurisdiction. If you are not in a “prenup friendly” jurisdiction courts may have the power to modify or set aside a prenup. In “prenup friendly jurisdictions” properly drafted and properly executed prenups do hold up in court. Don’t write your own prenup! Seek competent legal counsel licensed in your jurisdiction! You don’t want to find out that your prenup is defective when you need it.
1:26:03 I agree with Attorney Sexton about pivoting to another endeavor if nobody got divorced (or married). With an MBA and a law degree, I would be happy to pursue other endeavors. We would rather see people be happy and live their best lives.
Finally, (not discussed in the video), if family courts allowed trials to be televised, the marriage rates would plummet even further.
Try watching my video of my divorce court meeting from 2009. That video exposes the divorce courts as a criminal cartel. And not ONE of you lawyers has changed sides in the intervening 15 years. We know EXACTLY what you lawyers are.
You divorcer lawyers are all criminals. That is why none of you can face me in public. Heck, you are even to scared to speak to me in private. I know EXACTLY what your game is.
"Finally, (not discussed in the video), if family courts allowed trials to be televised, the marriage rates would plummet even further."
I video recorded and published my divorce court meeting along with the order that stole 95% of my assets. I have saved the lives of thousands of young men giving them that.
Jonathan Noble. I bothered to collect the evidence of the crimes you lawyers are committing. You are old enough to know that not all men are cowards like you are. You know men like my grand father who fought the Japanese for the duration of the war. I am one of his kind. And we do not take kindly to you lawyers and what you have done.
Peter Nolan is now censored from commenting here.
James has so much insight, what a treasure
"how do you turn something so selfless into something even more selfish than being alone"
DAMN! James is cookin
Anyone who's considering getting married should watch a James Sexton interview.
If I hadn’t gotten married, I wouldn’t have my kids cause I wasn’t about to do the non-marital child rearing. So no regrets except I believe the marriage needs to end.
I am in a divorce now. Ome of the worst things I've gone through
Tru
Maybe you shouldn't have gotten married.
Maybe thoes redpill guys aren't as stupid after all
I'm with you friend. The hardest thing I've ever been through. Including losing both my parents. I'm still going through the final stages after 3 years 😔
Did she take your house ??
I'm so sorry. It's was the worst thing that has ever happened to me as well. So terrible.
Lucky to have great examples of marriage in my life. Grandparents made it to nearly 70 years before my grandfather passes and my parents are getting close to 50 years. Married 12 years myself this July.
That is so huge. Setting the example is everything! Six of my seven kids who are married all married people who came from intact families. One did not, and sometimes that does concern me.
Your family tree is holding up the average
What incredible blessings!
I've had the privilege of seeing my parents and grandparents demonstrate the happiness and strength of marriage. ♥️ My husband's family shares this same wonder blessing too!
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
As a family man, I don't know how the fuck some married men manage to have an affair. Having a job, managing a family, doing chores in the weekend have pretty much run over my life, any time left for myself I would rate peace far above intimacies and sex.
And they have to hide it...
For real.
My Ex husband drove 8 hours to Chicago from Pittsburgh every weekend to have an affair, telling me he was working. 8 hour drive...I couldn't be bothered to drive that far for a side piece...Oh wait...it was "love"
Because they’re not doing any of the managing of the family, doing the chores… they’re leaving all that to us so they have all the free time in the world because they’re using us for our labor. And the majority of us if we get any free time, we want to take a nap or a shower we don’t wanna go have an affair with another man 🤦🏼♀️
if ur an attractive man for your age, women will just throw themselves at you, it actually doesn't take much effort when women are enthusiastic about seeing you, its super easy
As a Catholic in a religious marriage I am actually surprised that there are worldly marriages that work out. I don’t understand why not believers even marry.
My husband and I need God for everything. We have a fulfilling marriage because it’s founded on christian values.
You should study more about marriage, even as a Catholic: it even helps to understand the holy matrimony and value more what we got.
There's such a thing as "natural law marriage", it's in our hearts the longing for an exclusive relationship, life long, to build a family, with other person.
That's not a Church construction by herself but prior, from God, the Church helps to given light to that reality and ordering towards God, taking out the possible distortions as polygamy, divorce, voluntary childlessness, etc.
It was the first sacrament. According to Jesus (Matt.19:3-8), was there from the beggining.
Of course there's this whole lot of material bagage attached to it, but the essence remains there (if even buried under all artificial human creations, from our pride and fear)
Generally speaking Christian leaders lie about needing God to have successful marriages.
One of the best interviews on this subject in a very long time.
You haven't bothered to listen to Peter Nolan.
I'd love to see Matt Walsh interview Rollo Tomassi
SAY MY NAME
I’d love to see Joker from Better Bachelor get his interview from winning the car from the Daily Wire they never gave him.
Rollo is a broken, jaded man. He has nothing worthy to say. Only men with a victim mindset listen to him. Matt is way above that.
@timtbone8187 they did him dirty. and with the Ben and Candace debacle, joker unsubbed to the daily wire. if they want to pivot and really talk about mens issues, then they need to talk to credible sources in the redpill space that are older and respected instead of going after who would give you numbers like pearly.
THIS
Married one time and I had a prenup. Divorce went great but I’ll never get married again. Never will I be subject to maybe getting kicked out of my own house. If I want to break up with somebody I shouldn’t need a judge to get involved and spend 10k (in 2014) to an attorney just to protect myself and legally separate from someone. Nobody should get married. If I’m dating I can just stop dating them immediately without two years of legal bs and losing months of sleep and on and on and on
Uh oh! Your one of those "Red pill" people... lol
Have the ceremony, party, etc. Just don't get legally married.
My four siblings have all been married for life and their marriages have all been very very tumultuous, but for whatever reason - and I’m going to attribute their loyalty to the equally tumultuous long term marriage of our parents - because that’s what we were raised with, and that’s what was imprinted on us in our lives.
Me, I’m happily divorced.
I see it the other way around. BECAUSE my parent's marriage was tumultuous I never had any desire to be in one.
I remember watching James criticize Matt and the Daily Wire on some podcast! I thought something like this would never happen but I'm glad they are actually getting a long and did this interview! Thanks for the content guys!
Yeah, I watched it too! It was on Rollo's podcast. Really didn't like him on there but here he's much more reasonable and it's surprising honestly.
@@silvergimmick4429 I think it shows why it's necessary to mix among different people. We always need to be moderate, even if we are passionate about our convictions. Encountering others keeps us less extreme and more fair.
He didn't like being called a blood sucking leech, what a surprise lol. And Matt's comment were dumb, saying that the divorce rate doesn't affect his relationship. That's not the point, the point is that these stats indicate that the current world is not conducive for long term relationships success.
My grandparents were married for 57 years when my grandfather passed away. My parents will be married for 50 next year. I myself married late and have been married for 5 years. The best piece of advice my grandfather would give my mother and that now my mother gives me is that: someone will always have to be the bigger person and concede in an argument or situation. Or else the situation will never improve and ruin your marriage.
yeah, and its always the woman. Because more often then not they start it.
There aren't supposed to be arguments. Wives are supposed to follow their husbands. He shouldn't engage in argument.
That boomer shit isn't relevant because women didn't really have many options back then. No cell phones, cars with gps, internet, etc..
@@manager4409 -- true. Facebook alone is responsible for 30-40% of the divorces. It is true for my marriage.
There is a reciprocal self-sacrificial element to marriage. The man should be the head but both spouses, should at times, be willing to do something for the other, and especially when they really don't want to. But if the compromises are only 1 sided on a 1 way street, the marriage is broken
The best advice in this interview is “always be closing”. I am 45 and 10years married with 2 kids. I still workout, run, tan, shave, etc…for my wife because that is what it took to get her and I wouldn’t expect her to do anything I am not willing to do myself. The elephant in the room is that most people let themselves go after marriage and then the attraction/romance is gone. After that all the problems and spite they discuss starts.
Yikes
If you told any man his wife would gain 50lbs after marriage and keep it on they would never do it.
Men too. No one is asking for a body builder but taking care of yourself is important for not just your spouse but your kids. You’re setting an example of prioritizing your health and taking care of yourself. My husband goes through phases of eating right and working out and then stops for awhile so that’s kind of frustrating considering he would work out with me and when we first started dating. Got married and that stopped. So I just try to remind him our sons are watching him be unhealthy. Can’t change the man. I’m a bit extreme since I’m a certified personal trainer and health coach, but I wish people knew that your own health is a direct reflection of how your view yourself and the people who you care about.
I agree my kids are also my motivation. I asked my wife how are you going to protect our kids if you can’t even run from danger . Or how will you be able to play with them if you can’t get up and down off the ground easily. When you get married I think you make a promise to be the best version of yourself forever to that person. No one cares what you do or how you look when you are single except you, but somehow people think they can quit trying after they get a ring. It doesnt take much common sense to figure out you got cheated on or left because you are nothing like the person you were when you got married.
@@maryssaannI agree that men are as much to blame for this as women. It’s an epidemic on both sides. We marry happy people. We don’t expect them to morph into bitter slobs.
His book "How to Stay in Love" is a gem for married people who wants to stay away from his office.
I would really love to see James Sexton with Jordan Peterson.
When I got married, I didn't even realize how much that poisonous idea had corrupted my mindset. I'm so thankful I learned how to treat my husband equally and with respect.
Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle. ..
All laydees support laydees crimes against men.
@@PeterNolan-009Do you ever say anything else at all?
@@lynnlee8194 Remember fellas. Don't get married. Don't have kids. It's not worth it. My case proves that. Drizzle drizzle. ..
@@PeterNolan-009Speak for yourself loser😂
My 15 year marriage ended in divorce. I used to think all marriages just needed commitment. In hindsight, that seems overly simplistic. I ignored all the red flags that were there from the beginning, and I wonder why I ever thought it would work.
I’m now 12 years into my second and it is completely different in the best way. Our relationship continues to deepen. My first marriage was constant work from the beginning. This one in comparison is so easy. We just seem to click. Is it compatibility? Luck of the draw?
I still can’t say for sure, but James may be on to it when he asks, “Is it just that easy?” My wife now and I both show gratitude and appreciation for each other. We thank each other, compliment each other. And we have sex. Maybe that is why it just seems easy. I found a woman who reciprocates in the way we treat each other.
That being said, the divorce rate for second marriages is over 60%.
@@Greywolf-91 That is because people tend to make the repeat mistakes in picking a spouse. I focused on not doing that. My new wife has a completely different personality. She is positive and lives out gratitude. We agreed on goals before we got together. We continue to demonstrate appreciation and gratitude for each other. She prioritizes physical intimacy. My ex did none of that.
The key, pick a good spouse and do not ignore the warning signs. Wish I knew that the first time.
@@groatswerth2073- Again, statistically it looks bad.
@@groatswerth2073 glad it works for you.
I've watched plenty of videos on marriage trying to determine that secret elixir. Most are "marriage is hard work" type videos and when I see them I think that these are people in relatively easy marriages that have no idea what "hard work" in marriage actually is. You are in the perfect position of comparison. Would second marriage you know how hard marriage actually is if you didn't have your first marriage as an example?
Best conversation regarding marriage/divorce I've ever seen. Well done gentleman. James is patient, respectful, well-spoken and insightful. Matt knows how to switch between the bigger and smaller questions that makes the conversation flow really well and is obviously willing to learn and open to having his perspective changed.
Look for a man who is quiet, humble, studious/intelligent, kind, thoughtful, has empathy, is a protector, provides for others, and has the capacity to build up his family, his tribe/group. Try to have as close to equal parts of loyalty, passion, and friendship as you can. Of the three, loyalty is the most important.
Just to nitpick. It’s not 20 dollars. It’s 120 for a marriage license in Vegas. Got married there last month to my fiance after being together 7 years. Every man who’s married or in a serious relationship should listen to him. This guy is a gold mine of knowledge and wisdom.
7 yrs is a long time. Men have stated that they knew in months if they wanted this woman to be their wife.
I appreciate that two men with some differences in opinion can sit down and share their views, and still look for a way to come to common ground and still disagree so some points. We need more of this type of discourse. I don’t always agree with Matt Walsh - but I don’t have to and it’s ok.
Everyone has a prenup, its either the one you made or the one the state made. My wife and I have a prenuptial agreement. It states that whomever files for divorce has to pay all lawyer fees and forfeit all financial assets and properties gained during the marriage. This completely forces both of us to make the marriage work.
Oh my, respect. Thats going all in. Love it.
Scary. You can't force love.
You can force commitment though lol.. I don’t see this as scary this is great, although there should be a clause for adultery or abuse cause neither of those are acceptable
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v I watch lots of crime documentaries and whenever I see a case of a spouse killing the the other I always wonder..."why not just get a divorce?" Because thats easier than life in prison! Unfortunately if we start having such kinds of prenups, we might just start seeing people drop dead from poisoned pizza!
@@user-lt1jd1ye3v I'm sure they have such clauses in the agreement.. because why the fuck would you put up with a cheater?
51:20 "How do you turn something so selfless (marriage) into something more selfish than being alone?!" damn bro thats so true
I agree! I always to my girls, to be very selfish, when deciding to get married or not. To ask themselves lves, am I.ready, &/or willing, to give myself completely to this other.person? Do you believe.you can be honest.about your weak areas, & where you need to improve, as you move along in time w this person? Am I comfortable being vulnerable w this person? Can I be TOTALLY HONEST, w this person, sharing aspects of you, that you're not good at! Can you give up being the centre of your own universe? Can you admit when you're wrong, & do you have the ability to say SORRY, & that you were wrong, when you are? I honestly believe, that a marriage readiness class,.is.a.brilliant idea!...be good to each other out there people!...It costs, nothing! 💁🏻♀️🤘
@@KrisCorby-iv8dg I think that's a great thing to tell your girls, and also any guy who is thinking about getting married. Marriage and relationships in general aren't about what you get (as long as your partner isn't an absolute leech) it's about what you can give.
Married 48 years. Together for 50 years. Eight kids. Makes divorce tough…. Alimony and child support wasn’t is the budget 😂😜
Lol.
I can’t stand guys like you, “the old ball and chain” “wife is always right!”
We know you’re in a miserable marriage but that doesn’t mean everyone else’s will. When you talk like this you convince young men that everyone is going to marry a person they end up hating
you still got time lots of 60+ year getting divorced its a new trend
She never did want to budget.
@@JacobsNewsyeah… but now the grandkids are coming… 15 so far and a granddaughter in law…. How do we manage the visitation thing???? And WHO is responsible for buying the bday and Christmas gifts? Too complicated still 😂
My ex wife and I had our first son pass…. We both suffered greatly from this and we started going in different directions. Now 2 years afterwards…. It was the right decision and I will never get married again.
Damn. Heavy weight. Take care
Horrible and heartbreaking..
It’s been 3 years since our son passed, we have gone in different directions. On the brink of divorce or roommates.
Oh man, James is something else. I knew about him year ago, and saved my a** more than twice with some of the things he says or lessons he shares. Awesome dude.
Millenial going through a divorce right now. I loved my wife. We shared our first time together. We have a 2 year old child. I thought she was undyingly loyal, traditional, loving. It turned out she had been living a different life. Went home with a stranger a week after we moved into our brand new dream house. Was texting multiple men. Within a week she was sleeping with a man off tinder. Within 3 months she had already had multiple relationships. It's been 7 months. I'm scared to date again. I have had plenty of opportunity to be with another woman but I'm not ready. She has been diagnosed with multiple mental disorders and is on anti psychotics. Was drinking to extreme excess. I'm still struggling to get primary custody. The eat pray love, oppressed woman in the kitchen, adultery as self discovery journey, very palatable narrative for the court and society. Angry texts and a broken man get painted as unhinged violent abusive husband. I tried to get past her adultery for 5 months. She didn't want to put in the work. We did therapy. She ultimately left anyway. I lost 50 pounds in 3 months because I couldn't eat. She gained weight. This is all feminism.
I'm doing well all things considered. I had some extreme lows. Hardest time of my life. I don't know how I got through it. I've been reading the bible for the first time. In retrospect there were red flags, but I never believed she could do something like this. I fully gave her my heart without hesitation. I was a fool.
Also, she had kind of a moment where she snapped. I never realized she had so many mental problems prior to our marriage. I think I've been through one of the most bizarre and severe kinds of divorce you can go through and it's probably not common. However, society very much works against the man regardless. I'm a pretty straight and narrow guy. I don't drink. I have slept with one woman in my life. I have never done drugs. I'm a good dad with a great career. I was not made for women like this.
Hope you get better, man. Feminism is a plague on humanity
Pray for her
what was the problem with adultery
“Weaponized intimacy” was a term I had not heard before. It perfectly describes some people’s behavior.
Some "people's" behavior. You misspelled women.
Nah, not people. Women.
how about weaponize the kids.
it's another great term that nobody really cares when it comes to separations.
You mean sex? Men force and coerce women into sex they don't want all the time, but that's okay, and it's not weaponization. Most women don't weaponize sex.... we're just genuinely not turned on for whatever reason..... lack of emotional connection, husband is an AH that refuses to help around the house, husband ignores the wife and children to play video games, husband wants to have some performative kinky porn sex all the time, instead of truly connecting via sex.
Intimacy isn’t just sex guys 🙄 he can’t have a deep conversation with us then no need to go deep anywhere else 🤭
Just once I’d like to see a commercial where the wife is completely out of sorts and the husband comes along and says something like “boy, did I sure marry a dumb broad. You never know what dumb thing she’ll do next, that’s why I switched to Allstate disaster coverage…”. What are the chances?
Yep, Homer Simpson, Peter Griffin, all 3 of the guys from Friends, pretty much every male lead from every romcom, we've been drip fed this image of the bumbling dope husband with a virtuous and saintly wife that's way too good for him. Even visually, it's usually a fat drunk slob with a smoking hot wife even in her 40s. And people wonder why there's such an imbalance between the way men and women view each other.
damn, that’s crazy. you still
married her/him though.
Zero
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Well - might be better to say - she needs me to protect her......that is why I have that.....men were to protect women.....women don't understand that
I love this lawyer’s way of exposing his views on marriage. His realistic views of marriage and his appreciation of the virtues of marriage are what makes him credible.
This interview has so much to unpack. I feel like this lawyer has nailed it - what makes marriages work, what breaks them. I think every married couple should listen to this.
James Sexton is one of the few people I'd like to meet and have a real, honest conversation with. I think he'd call me out on the things I think and feel, and ultimately end me up in a better place. I imagine an hour with him would be better than many hours of therapy.
I imagine he charges huge hourly rates now that he's built his profile and is a bit famous. That's why some attorneys advertise so aggressively but james gets free advertising from all these shows he does
I gave chances and opportunities to my ex-husband to step up. He did not want to find a job, and he lied all the time. I found myself in court several times because i had to clean the mess he created.
I got tired, and I filed. I had to pay him because he refused to work and get a job, and we lived in a shared community state.
So, depending on the states you live in, the woman can find herself paying the husband. We need to stop thinking that men are always taking advantage of.
You are correct. Depending on the state and judge, divorce can screw the woman over more than the man, especially if no kids are involved. Generally, the person with more assets stands to lose more. While this is more oftentimes the man, it is not always the man. In any case, divorce laws in the USA currently are broken. It is not marriage I am afraid of; it is divorce.
Except in a majority of cases the men do get screwed. Weekend dad's. Custody should be 50/50, by default. If 50/50, there should be no child support.
The last person I would expect James Sexton to be having a sit-down with is Matt Walsh!!! 😅
This has got to be super interesting! 🤘
Divorce pain lasted nearly 5 years.
I am a single lady looking for a gentleman, I have had many married men ask me out on dates especially on dating sites, I tell them all the same thing "Sit down and talk to your wife, tell her how you feel" because they need to connect with their wife first before they look for connection outside of the relationship.
No point men asking their wives for "fun". They won't do it. The vast majority of incels are married men with children.
Why should men be faithful? You fee mails don't treat faithful men any better in divorce than you treat cheating men. Peter Nolans case proved that. You fee mails stole 95% of his assets. We know what the deal is. It's up to 100% of our assets. No thank you.
Then the marriage is over. Feelings over facts for women.
@@Garett.1214the wife is emotional even though it's the man chasing after a side piece? That's illogical
@@dahliaherrod4301 Yeah that's why men shouldn't get married. Keep chasing men.
Matt Walsh is forgetting that when he got married the state had a prenup already setup for him that the state can change/alter as the tides of time change. Why not set up your own prenup like an adult and stop having the state make much of your decisions for you, like the prenup. Snap out of it.
"A shared Faith and belief in our vows." That is a generalization. But there is no ground like this in most marriages. It's there in Matt Walsh's marriage. 40 years ago I received a divorce. It was simple: no ground. There is no ground for most marriages.
The most sober man on the internet. So proud of this gentleman for speaking up and actually saving humanity.
Matt is a grown man in his 30s who works in media…he already knew all this stuff! He argues against it to stay on brand but anyone paying attention to what’s going on between men and women right now knows how ridiculous marriage and divorce has become…
From my meeting with the wisdom of the fish and know the truth of monke is not marriage. So I am to seek out the truth of monke
Then you need a better community . Functional healthy communities do not make the news and they're not plastering their lives over the internet
@@janelleg597 We must be monke. Monke is the path for the hairless ape, for the monke has no need for the big think and the babble talk. When monke has no tribe monke has the stones and the rocks and monke become angry and then monke has what monke needs
@@user-cz9jj2em2vwhat the hell does that mean?
Matt red pill and knows the deal....but is just acting? Interesting take, never thought of it that way......
ONLY when society begins to recognize and honor the FACT that God HImself made marriage as the ONLY sanctified place for _marital intimacy_ will the world return to a place where fornication is shamed. When mankind is shameless enough to reject marriage as the ONLY proper context for intimacy, then ALL bets for family and marriage and "prof-life" are off the table. We need to bring back s lut shaming (for men and women)
Marriage is the ONLY God-endorsed structure for that kind of behavior and everything that ensues outside of it related to sex is destructive and wicked.
So we know who is behind it, destruction of marriage? Isn’t the world coming together to make war against the great God Almighty? The only next viable marriage is when the Lord Jesus Christ comes for his church.
Amen!!!!
Amen!!!!!
God made monk
Actually God also allowed sex with concubines.
“They are bad numbers, but doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get married” 🤔
If a parachute had an 80% chance of failure, does it mean you shouldn’t jump out of a plane with it? Yes, that’s EXACTLY what it means
The point is that the failure rate is not the rate you are likely to fail at if you put in more effort and time in than the person with a failed marriage did. If there’s a math test 30% of people fail you are not just likely to fail as the guy next to you. If you study and the person next to you didn’t, you have a higher chance of getting a better grade. The statistic is not your static if you make different choices.
@@Daisy99999 Passing/failing an exam is solely based on you. But in marriage there are two parts. You might be the better half for the most part and fail anyway, because the other half decided to walk away.
It means you shouldn’t do it.
At least at face value. And if you’re gonna try you need tools to mitigate that risk to less than 25%
@@NHatemN fair enough. probably not the best analogy in the world. but you still have better chances than a couple who is making much worse choices and decisions as you if you are maintaining a healthy relationship. but yeah at the end of the day no way of really knowing, i think selection of your spouse is probably number one most important thing to consider lol.
@@Daisy99999 Can't disagree with that. Still, I can see why people are weary of marriage.
I'm so proud of the woman I'm choosing to marry. Freedom truly is found in service and fidelity to one person, and I'm overjoyed to know that i have the best. Great interview so far.
I got divorced. I married a girl that had a 3 x married mom. The writing was on the wall.
I understand that, however my mom has been married 3 times also. My dad was her first marriage and he cheated. I wanted nothing like that so I chose carefully. I’ve been married 23 years so far.
@@Rainbows78 You don't think men want to have sex with multiple women? delusional.
When God is not the center of someone’s life, they will follow their will, not God’s will (God’s commandments)
Then why does the church have annulments? Even people who go to church get divorced
As a 32 year old single woman (was in a relationship for 5 years/didn’t work out) I would love to marry. I’ve been dating in a big city and people are so transactional, men have high expectations, while behaving like they are in their early 20s, drink so much alcohol, and say they want to settle down but dont understand that settling down takes sacrifice. I’ve seen a lot of bad or I’d say horrible behavior from both men and women. I’ve turned a lot more religious lately because of the amount of darkness, lack of virtue and morals and manipulation I’ve seen. So please let me know where these high quality men are at!
in your friendzone 12 years ago
Sorry, you should watch Better Batchelor. At your age, things are just going to continue along this path. The power imbalance has shifted, the 6' well off, interesting men are dating younger women. Why? Because they can. It's specifically the men your chasing, the rule is 80% of women are chasing 10% of men. The other 90% of men are invisible.
Marriage is totally within your control, the same as Love. You have a choice to love and to marry.