Your husband sent us to let you know you’re not alone and you have a HUGE family that are here with you ❤ we are giving you the BIGGEST virtual hug to hopefully put the pieces of your heart back together again 🥹
It is ok to cry , you grieve because you loved your husband , which in today’s world of broken marriages is a wonderful accomplishment . Another problem you live with someone for so many years he was part of you and that is taken away . Those memories of your husband will help you get through the hard days . Children are wonderful , but like you say they do not replace your husband .
WE ALL ARE ROUTING FOR YOU TRISHA! Grief isn’t linear, it’s all over the place, it’s messy but your love for eachother is ALWAYS THERE. Don’t be too hard on yourself take each day with a grain of salt, you’ll be okay. and we will be here every step of the way. keep your head high beautiful ❤
Just found your page from Kind Penguin. I lost my momma around 5 years ago unexpectedly. She was my world, I’m still grieving and still urning for her love. Wish I could give her a hug and tell her I love her again. Just know that we are her for you while your grieving. I hope your days become easier to get through!! -love from Michigan ❤
Hello, While I have just met you, my apologies about your loss. My grandma passed away a long time ago, and I sadly have lost a lot of memories. But I randomly came upon your channel and was crying along with you 😥. You reminded me of her and how she would tell so many unique stories. Regardless of who listened :). Sadly, I was too young to appreciate it while she was still here. Gosh it is not an easy task to deal with loss. Wish i could help take some of that sadness away but I can see through ur journey, smile, and strength that you can do this. I keep going back to the quote,'God gives the hardest tasks to the strongest of his warriors' because he knows they can get through it. You are a truly wonderful person who is just so sweet to all those around you. Praying for you hun, never forget how loved you are! ❤
Your husband must of been one heck of a man because i can tell from all the love in your emotions and the glow that sparkles in your eyes when you talk about him. Maybe telling us stories about how you met or stories on your 50 year journey with him could help in the grieving process, we are all made differently all feel differently our journeys arn't the same. I know when my grand dad and dad passed it really helped me to talk about them to keep their spirits alive
Losing our love ones is never easy. Everyone grieves differently, but in my case I was so down, would not come out of my room, I wouldn’t share time with my love one that are still here with me. When I got to that last conclusion I realized that I could grieve at the same time that I can spend time with the people that I love and care. You are keep going to affect (in the good sense of the word) lives. You seem lovely and I’m sure that your love ones are gonna be totally happy with you by their side, and share your grieves and help each other. Life is hard but it’s easier with our love ones around. Best wishes and I hope to keep watching your content!
Grief is unique to each individual. My husband was my best friend and rock. I had 33 years with him and he’s been gone over 7 months. Time passes so quickly. In some was I’m settling in, but I’ll be missing him for the rest of my life. My heart is still broken. Some people do well with support groups, some in counseling. I can spend time with friends,but I still come home alone and the transition back inside my house alone is difficult. You are doing better than you may think. The depth of one’s love is equal to the intensity of grief. Hang in there. One day at a time. Hugs.
You have such strength and grace during the worst of grief. Every time I see your emotions well up, you speak of plans and solving problems and moving forward. That takes such immense strength, strength your husband also seemed to have. His love for you is still alive and evident to me in your videos by the way you carry yourself. These are real, raw lessons for a 30 yr old like myself who fears losing their spouse every day.. the price we pay for love is so immense, but you are showing us that it is also beautiful. ♥ Sending strength, love and healing your way!
You are a very strong women. I am so glad I have found your videos. You seem like a lovely lady. I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband. I wish you all the very best ❤
You are doing an awesome job. By the way, laughter is the best medicine even through your tears. I say a prayer for you each morning. You are loved and cared about.
We all grieve differently. I told my MD that my husband passing and resulting grief made me physically ill. I believe MDs don’t treat grief induced illnesses. The physical trauma eventually runs its course. I was sick constantly for a year or more with various illnesses. Finally getting better. The pain of losing him does not go away but it has softened. The crying still continues unexpectedly. I prayed for him to come back knowing full well it could never be. Wishing you Peace and comfort
I had the samething happen to me. I was in the hospital twice. I went from 190 pounds to 113 in less than a month. I coudn't swallow food even though i was hungry. Over 3 years have gone by and it still seems like yesterday at times.
I am so sorry and can't imagine what you are going through despite unexpectedly losing my Mom last year to the same thing. Don't let anyone tell you there are "stages" of grief. You heal at your own rate. If I could suggest the book "It's Okay That You're Not Okay" by Megan Devine. It's by far the most helpful book I read trying to get through each moment of what I called "dry land drowning" grief. Where you feel like you are drowning where you stand and it's terrifying. I am sending you so much love and healing however that looks for you in this unasked for new reality. ❤
You remind me of my grandmother who is one of the people who is so kind and sees the good in the world no matter what. It's hard to see someone like the both of you be hurt but as they say that to grieve is to have loved fully. I only hope to find the love you've experienced. ❤
Your doing remarkably well for two months. I’ve been 17 months and still have waves of tears. When I was first widowed I had dehydration and a UTI and heart palpitations. I’m still not sleeping. It takes lots of time. More than you’ll expect. The heartbreak may always be there.
You deserve to feel the continuous grief and heartbreak AND to heal. We need you to share more birthday cartwheels with us!! Community and family is the best, so I’m thankful you’ve had your son and daughter to lean on as well as your neighbor who shoveled your snow! Good luck w the ants!!! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing with us. May your husband’s memory be a blessing❤
Give yourself time for grief. It is good that you are taking the time to cry, be sad and feeling lost. One day, you will see your life in a different light. You are helping a lot of people right now. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
Hi, i lost people of mines too, and i know how grief is hard. But, i believe that if they weren’t good wherever they are, they would have returned in some way. They, too have lost us and they’re keeping it strong. We should take example of them, and be strong. Keep it up, you’re not alone, love ya!! ❤️❤️ and good luck for your medical care❤️❤️
Lovely to see you again Trisha, sharing your grief with us all is such a brave thing to do but I hope you get comfort in knowing all your friends on your channel are always here for you, I see many are no stranger to the pain of loss me included, last week was the five year anniversary of my son's passing, oh how I miss him but you know I believe they send signs and myself and my younger son ( who misses his big bro so much ) received a brilliant one , it helped us through a tough week. You are doing really well Trisha as someone has said grief comes in waves, little things can set it off, I shared a love of music with my son and I find it hard sometimes to listen to songs but. I persevere, talk to us when you can we all love to see you and hear how you're doing, take care from your friend in Yorkshire England 🌟💕
Crying is healing and you are very strong. The firsts are hard. It will be a year for me on February 4. I cry a little each day but it doesn’t last long. My anxiety is getting less and less. I use breathing exercises to help and it does work. Take care ❤❤❤
Thanks and 2 of those first came just too close to his passing and it has been a hard couple months. Today at the Eye Doc was kinda sad as he always took me every 6 months and I had to have my niece drive me. So even some everyday stuff gets tough.
@ yes it does. My son and grand daughter keep a close eye on me. One day they were both out of town and I thought I could have a good ol ugly cry (i am an ugly crier). So my day progressed and I cried and cried some more and guess what they came home right in the middle of it. They were worried and I said to them it is okay to cry and sometimes I need to do that. It is better to let the tears come and you will find as time goes by the crying will start to get less and less. I still have bad days but like you I get up and get busy. You will be okay and it is very good that you have your family and us to lean on. Take care and I do keep you in my prayers ❤️❤️❤️
You have a beautiful soul and the world needs that right now. You seem like you would be an amazing person to go thrifting with or even just to grab coffee. Stay strong beautiful lady. ❤️
Love you Trisha❣️ I’m still storming heaven for you and the family. Sharing your journey is part of the healing process. I’m so proud of you and your courage as well as the beautiful yet raw vulnerability you share in your storytelling. I’m lighting a candle for you at Mass. Hugs 🫂 from Mrs. M.
Thank you so much and I love you right back. Thanks for your prayers! You should have seen the candles that everyone lit, in my prayer room, after the funeral.
When my son passed it was so hard it’s been 14 years and I still cry and miss him. It gets easier but the sadness never goes away and it sucks. I am praying for u maybe take up a new hobby I started crocheting
20 years being a widow. I didn't think I would get through it. Sometimes I do cry. I raised 3 sons alone. They are my rock. Couldn't have done it without God. I have to turn the radio on with soothing music to help me.
I like how the internet brings the occasional video my way that reminds me to be grateful every single day for the loved ones I have around me. I've found the love of my life after a 37 year long wait and would be beyond heartbroken to lose her. I cherish every single day i get to see her beautiful smile and cant imagine the pain you must have bravely endured thus far. Wishing you the very best from the UK. Thank you for making your videos.
Content wise, would love to hear about you and your husband’s life over the years. Stories to tell. We can learn a lot from your relationship and experience and it’s also a good way to keep his memory alive
Hi I'm really sorry for your loss. I send you a big hug and a kiss from the bottom of my heart. I have no idea on the pain that you are passing now. I hope you find strength and the will to go on. I do understand how valuable and important it's to be with the important people in your life. I hope you have people near to you to sympathize and be there for you.
So hard it is to go on without him.. hardest thing ever I had to do.. and it does not stop.. nor do I want it to💜💙😭💔 People say time heals all wounds.. helps to remember what the healing process is.. always a scar is formed.. and that scar is a badge of honour that shows the power and beauty of the love you share.. Love does not die Trisha.. neither do we.. our bodies do and our souls and spirits live forever..🙏🕊️ My husband passed a while ago.. even so he is with me still in his spirit.. and will always be.. until it is my time .. and we will be together forever.. 💜💙 You are doing everything right.. keeping busy.. and making this channel helps so many! We love seeing you on your videos.. many of us appreciate hearing about your day and what your life is like.. this helps so much.. talking with those who share your pain helps us all🤗 Thank you for making your videos.. we love you💜💙🤗🫠 William and Jen
I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience of this type of grief, it takes a long time. You are in the first stage of grief, please, please talk to your doctor or a grief counselor. Being kind to yourself will help get you out of the house. Even going to have a manicure or out for a cup of coffee will help with doing something outside of home. Please know that you are not alone. You are strong...
i am so proud of you my lovely , your so brave and doing so well I completely understand losing a loved one your so close with is awful , just know you will always have fans and supporters online and in real life we’ll always be by your side , he’s watching over you smiling I promise ❤❤
Day by day , dear heart! You are doing amazing. Do what needs done each day. Our prayers and love are with you. I’m 71 , alone living with mostly elderly neighbors. We try to help each other, I’m thankful to be here each day! Many places need volunteers. I think you would love that. Give yourself grace. We love you . From Ky.
I don’t speak your language, but i can understand your feelings. All of my condolences, you’ll never be alone, remember that. All of us are with you. You are a strong woman and you can handle with this. I give you all of my support to you. Love ❤
Hello Trisha!!! Its always good to see you and hear your voice. Grief has a mind of its own is what I'm finding out. Its not easy to navigate and I'm sure you're doing the best you can. Take everything a minute at a time and don't worry about anything people tell you that aren't positive. Keep hanging in there my friend!!!
I’m an at home caregiver for elderly.. my two regular clients are both widowed women.. one is almost 101 thankfully her son lives in the house and helps.. the other is a 90yr woman… she’s watching all her friends die around her and their spouses die… something that helps both her and others is the family of the passed come over and visit and they exchange stories of their shared love of whichever person.. death is natural but painful, but having others to share and remember the joy is healing ❤
It’s been 3 years since my life long best friend took her life. For almost a year after I felt such huge waves of grief at the most random times, even now 3 years later one random Tuesday morning I think of her and feel my heart sink. The first year I barely ate and felt extreme anxiety. Time heals everything ❤ grief is love with no place to go ❤ I hope each day gets a bit easier for you ❤
Hes in a good place now ❤ and he sent us here to make sure your not alone 😊😊❤ we love you alot and im sure your husband would be STOKED to see you doing this well ❤ never give up and may god bless you ✝️❤️
I hope you have a beautiful week Trisha. You deserve it. I love watching your videos and thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Youre helping lots of people🤍
Sending love and prayers your way. May the Lord heal your heart and provide you with the peace that surpasses all understanding. Cry, let it out, take your time!
I'm so glad you've been able to get productive and free your mind from anxiety/panic attack (as much as you have). My mother and I have been going through Grammy's stuff today :) God bless you and your beautiful family 💕✨️
Tricia, you're doing better than you might think. Don't be too hard on yourself. Grief is very personal, but its been 7 months since I lost my soulmate and I, too, feel a hole in my heart that almost takes my breath away. But for me it has gotten better over time. I feel him with me and I talk to him too. Be kind and patient with yourself. I'm 78 and have lupus. So, I, too, need to take of myself. As do you. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Remember, some days will be better and some days will probably be grief days. Cry when you need to. God created tears for a reason. Praying for you. Sharon Zolna
You’re very lucky to have neighbors like that. I wish I did. Mine watched me do my driveway. An I too thought I would go soon after but here I am I think God has a reason.❤ God bless you what you’re going through is hard.
God Bless You Too! The neighbor is young and only lived next door a few years. I am blessed as the previous owner would have only complained about something.
I'm so sorry for your loss❤️. 2.5 months ago, the love of my life just left me. He isn't dead, but he did still leave. I feel broken to the core. People tell me to move on and I try, but the pain every day is insane. My heart is like a brick in my chest. I can't even comprehend how you must feel. Please be kind to yourself and stay strong❤️
I'm sure you feel all those feeling that any loss has. Take your time and know that you can't live in the past but you don't have to plan out your future anytime soon. Hearts take time to heal.
My heart is with you Trisha. As I had mentioned before, my husband's health has been declining fast now with pulmonary fibrosis and other complications as well now. I can't even imagine him not being with me and the loss. I know when you say just having your husband there to talk with and just his company is what you miss so very much! I honestly don't know how I am going to handle the time when mine is no longer with me and yet seeing him struggling breaks my heart. I thought I was a stronger person Trisha but I am finding I am not at all. I am very grateful to have had 43 years together, but I still don't want to lose him although I know many people never have that gift of having that much time together but it still is so hard. Sending many prayers to you and if you have any advice on how to navigate this awful journey, please do share. I suffer anxiety as well and I cannot sleep well at all and I know I have to take care of myself as well so I can be there for my husband. 🙏🙏💔💔 Geri
I'm on the same journey as you but my husband is suffering from different illnesses. Also going through exactly what you describe. Watching your husband cry with grief over his current situation and seeing him struggle so badly physically is like a physical pain in my own heart. For his sake I want it to be over: for mine, I cannot imagine how I will cope when the house is empty and he is no longer here to talk to. Prayers and comfort to you for your journey, we are all in this together, just walking each other home the best we can. xx
@@1sweffling Sending many prayers to you as well. My husband too, is grieving this awful and cruel illness. I break down now at the least provocation, even though I am trying to be strong for him. I too, don't want to see him continue to suffer, yet I don't want to lose him. Sending many hugs and prayers to you!🫂🫂🙏🙏 Geri
@1sweffling and @GeraldineFaust My heart goes out to both of you and your husbands. I just wish it was easier to talk with all of you. I think I may make a facebook group where we can really become friends.
Hi, i am watching from the philippines. Just saw your video on tiktok through Kind Pengu. I am really sorry for your loss, i wish i could hug you. Stay safe always!!! ❤
My husband has been gone for over 3 years now. No rules for grief. It will be fine a day or two. Then a week, month, then all hell will break loose again. I'm still not over my husband. I got so sick of people saying you're so strong, they have zero idea and it's just words. You do whatever you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. It's okay to have a broken heart. The harder you love the harder you grive.
Hi! I just want to let you know that you're not alone. And you're husband is always there for you and guide. Please know that all of your viewers, followers, subscribers love you! WE love you! ❤
Your video touched me so much! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 16 years. We got together when I was 16. And just to think about not having my bestfriend there hits me so hard i can't imagine living life without him. I know one day it will come. I hope i can find a community like you did. We are all here for you!! ❤
Dear one, your body is talking to you. There are pockets of grief throughout your body giving you discomfort, a broken heart that's caused a flood that must run it's course. Many of your symptoms will subside. In time. Deep breathing helps. Hot soaks. Laughter. All will help ease those pockets! Bless you ❤
I never comment on videos, I lost my grandma in September and I miss her so much. You remind me of her, sweet and kind to everyone. My grandpa is not doing well anymore and I expect him to pass within the year. Grief is hard and its even harder when you lose your best friend in life. Ill miss seeing your sweet face in my feed, but do what is best for the remainder of your life. Its okay to not be okay.
Bless your heart, grief is hard on everyone but I can’t imagine losing my partner and the loneliness. I know it’ll happen to me one day and it heartbreaking. You’re in my prayers 🙏🏼
Had a friend who thought her husband would pass before her and kept telling me I would have to help he as I recently lost my husband. She took a fall on concrete drive and never regained consciousness. He seems to be doing well.
Came here after hearing about you and your husband on Instagram. I'm from across the world and I'm telling you we are all with you. You are not alone. Let's discover who you are now on..
Nine out of ten widows in this country are women. Many, many will go through the exact same journey you are going through. Thank you for showing us what it’s like to lose a spouse.
This may sound silly but you should consider signing up for an event like a half marathon or a sprint triathlon and start a training plan for the event I personally experienced the healing that comes from physical activity I went thru the death of two sisters and two beloved nephews all within a 3 year span it truly helped me maintain my mental and spiritual peace ✌️
Your husband sent us to let you know you’re not alone and you have a HUGE family that are here with you ❤ we are giving you the BIGGEST virtual hug to hopefully put the pieces of your heart back together again 🥹
Thank you, that means so much to me.
It is ok to cry , you grieve because you loved your husband , which in today’s world of broken marriages is a wonderful accomplishment . Another problem you live with someone for so many years he was part of you and that is taken away . Those memories of your husband will help you get through the hard days . Children are wonderful , but like you say they do not replace your husband .
You are right about the memories. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
WE ALL ARE ROUTING FOR YOU TRISHA! Grief isn’t linear, it’s all over the place, it’s messy but your love for eachother is ALWAYS THERE. Don’t be too hard on yourself take each day with a grain of salt, you’ll be okay. and we will be here every step of the way. keep your head high beautiful ❤
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Just found your page from Kind Penguin. I lost my momma around 5 years ago unexpectedly. She was my world, I’m still grieving and still urning for her love. Wish I could give her a hug and tell her I love her again. Just know that we are her for you while your grieving. I hope your days become easier to get through!! -love from Michigan ❤
Thanks for your love from Michigan.
Hello,
While I have just met you, my apologies about your loss. My grandma passed away a long time ago, and I sadly have lost a lot of memories. But I randomly came upon your channel and was crying along with you 😥. You reminded me of her and how she would tell so many unique stories. Regardless of who listened :). Sadly, I was too young to appreciate it while she was still here. Gosh it is not an easy task to deal with loss. Wish i could help take some of that sadness away but I can see through ur journey, smile, and strength that you can do this. I keep going back to the quote,'God gives the hardest tasks to the strongest of his warriors' because he knows they can get through it. You are a truly wonderful person who is just so sweet to all those around you. Praying for you hun, never forget how loved you are! ❤
I appreciate you so much. I'm so happy that I reminded you of your grandma and you could find her again through me. Thanks for the prayers.
Your husband must of been one heck of a man because i can tell from all the love in your emotions and the glow that sparkles in your eyes when you talk about him. Maybe telling us stories about how you met or stories on your 50 year journey with him could help in the grieving process, we are all made differently all feel differently our journeys arn't the same. I know when my grand dad and dad passed it really helped me to talk about them to keep their spirits alive
He was a good man and I miss him dearly, but I know he would want me to be happy and keep going. Yes I love to talk about him.
Losing our love ones is never easy. Everyone grieves differently, but in my case I was so down, would not come out of my room, I wouldn’t share time with my love one that are still here with me. When I got to that last conclusion I realized that I could grieve at the same time that I can spend time with the people that I love and care. You are keep going to affect (in the good sense of the word) lives. You seem lovely and I’m sure that your love ones are gonna be totally happy with you by their side, and share your grieves and help each other. Life is hard but it’s easier with our love ones around. Best wishes and I hope to keep watching your content!
Thank you for your thoughtful comments.
Grief is unique to each individual. My husband was my best friend and rock. I had 33 years with him and he’s been gone over 7 months. Time passes so quickly. In some was I’m settling in, but I’ll be missing him for the rest of my life. My heart is still broken. Some people do well with support groups, some in counseling. I can spend time with friends,but I still come home alone and the transition back inside my house alone is difficult. You are doing better than you may think. The depth of one’s love is equal to the intensity of grief. Hang in there. One day at a time. Hugs.
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My husband been gone 2 years I still go to grief group
Oh you described that so well. Yes coming home is a difficult transition.
You should go t a widows group
You have such strength and grace during the worst of grief. Every time I see your emotions well up, you speak of plans and solving problems and moving forward. That takes such immense strength, strength your husband also seemed to have. His love for you is still alive and evident to me in your videos by the way you carry yourself. These are real, raw lessons for a 30 yr old like myself who fears losing their spouse every day.. the price we pay for love is so immense, but you are showing us that it is also beautiful. ♥ Sending strength, love and healing your way!
Thank you for those sweet words.
You are a very strong women. I am so glad I have found your videos. You seem like a lovely lady.
I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband.
I wish you all the very best ❤
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You are doing an awesome job. By the way, laughter is the best medicine even through your tears. I say a prayer for you each morning. You are loved and cared about.
I agree laughter is the best medicine! It also is who I am. Thank you so much for the prayers.
Grief comes in waves. Some days are better than others. We love you and will support you through this 🥰
It sure does come in waves and sometimes I feel that I'm drowning in it.
We all grieve differently. I told my MD that my husband passing and resulting grief made me physically ill. I believe MDs don’t treat grief induced illnesses. The physical trauma eventually runs its
course. I was sick constantly for a year or more with various illnesses. Finally getting better.
The pain of losing him does not go away but it has softened. The crying still continues unexpectedly.
I prayed for him to come back knowing full well it could never be. Wishing you
Peace and comfort
My MD doesn't know how to treat much of anything. But when my doc passed they assigned her to me. Thanks for your encouraging words.
I had the samething happen to me. I was in the hospital twice. I went from 190 pounds to 113 in less than a month. I coudn't swallow food even though i was hungry. Over 3 years have gone by and it still seems like yesterday at times.
She replies to almost every comment. What an amazing person! I’m so sorry ur going thru this….😢
It means a lot to me, that you are watching.
I am so sorry and can't imagine what you are going through despite unexpectedly losing my Mom last year to the same thing. Don't let anyone tell you there are "stages" of grief. You heal at your own rate. If I could suggest the book "It's Okay That You're Not Okay" by Megan Devine. It's by far the most helpful book I read trying to get through each moment of what I called "dry land drowning" grief. Where you feel like you are drowning where you stand and it's terrifying. I am sending you so much love and healing however that looks for you in this unasked for new reality. ❤
Thank you for your beautiful comment it truly helped me.
I ran to yt as soon as I saw the IG reel promoting your channel. Sending you lots of love!!!!!!
Thanks, it means a lot to me.
The grieving will never go way but it becomes easier over the years ❤❤❤❤
You remind me of my grandmother who is one of the people who is so kind and sees the good in the world no matter what. It's hard to see someone like the both of you be hurt but as they say that to grieve is to have loved fully. I only hope to find the love you've experienced. ❤
I hope you find that kind of love too. Thanks for commenting.
Your doing remarkably well for two months. I’ve been 17 months and still have waves of tears. When I was first widowed I had dehydration and a UTI and heart palpitations. I’m still not sleeping. It takes lots of time. More than you’ll expect. The heartbreak may always be there.
Thanks and I'm not sleeping well either it seems the nights are the worse.
You deserve to feel the continuous grief and heartbreak AND to heal. We need you to share more birthday cartwheels with us!! Community and family is the best, so I’m thankful you’ve had your son and daughter to lean on as well as your neighbor who shoveled your snow! Good luck w the ants!!!
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing with us. May your husband’s memory be a blessing❤
Thank you for those sweet words
Give yourself time for grief. It is good that you are taking the time to cry, be sad and feeling lost. One day, you will see your life in a different light. You are helping a lot of people right now. Take care of yourself as best as you can.
Thank you for your encouraging words.
Hi, i lost people of mines too, and i know how grief is hard. But, i believe that if they weren’t good wherever they are, they would have returned in some way. They, too have lost us and they’re keeping it strong. We should take example of them, and be strong. Keep it up, you’re not alone, love ya!! ❤️❤️ and good luck for your medical care❤️❤️
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I wish I could give you a big hug Mrs. Trisha! You’re so sweet and you deserve to be happy. It is also okay to grieve! 💙🫂
Thanks so much for the sweet words and hug.
From one widow to another, you are stronger than you let yourself believe. Grief will hit you in waves, and it's ok.
Lovely to see you again Trisha, sharing your grief with us all is such a brave thing to do but I hope you get comfort in knowing all your friends on your channel are always here for you, I see many are no stranger to the pain of loss me included, last week was the five year anniversary of my son's passing, oh how I miss him but you know I believe they send signs and myself and my younger son ( who misses his big bro so much ) received a brilliant one , it helped us through a tough week. You are doing really well Trisha as someone has said grief comes in waves, little things can set it off, I shared a love of music with my son and I find it hard sometimes to listen to songs but. I persevere, talk to us when you can we all love to see you and hear how you're doing, take care from your friend in Yorkshire England 🌟💕
Thank you and I'm sorry for your loss. I feel so blessed to have all of the love from so many around the world.
@flewthecoop1957 🌟💕
Crying is healing and you are very strong. The firsts are hard. It will be a year for me on February 4. I cry a little each day but it doesn’t last long. My anxiety is getting less and less. I use breathing exercises to help and it does work. Take care ❤❤❤
Thanks and 2 of those first came just too close to his passing and it has been a hard couple months. Today at the Eye Doc was kinda sad as he always took me every 6 months and I had to have my niece drive me. So even some everyday stuff gets tough.
@ yes it does. My son and grand daughter keep a close eye on me. One day they were both out of town and I thought I could have a good ol ugly cry (i am an ugly crier). So my day progressed and I cried and cried some more and guess what they came home right in the middle of it. They were worried and I said to them it is okay to cry and sometimes I need to do that. It is better to let the tears come and you will find as time goes by the crying will start to get less and less. I still have bad days but like you I get up and get busy. You will be okay and it is very good that you have your family and us to lean on. Take care and I do keep you in my prayers ❤️❤️❤️
You have a beautiful soul and the world needs that right now. You seem like you would be an amazing person to go thrifting with or even just to grab coffee. Stay strong beautiful lady. ❤️
Thank you so much for that sweet comment, it means a lot.
We love you Trisha! We love seeing you back on here! Hang in…we love and are praying for you!!!❤❤❤❤
Your sharing with us is very healthy. Please keep coming back , we are all here for you!
Thanks so much. I need it.
Love you Trisha❣️ I’m still storming heaven for you and the family. Sharing your journey is part of the healing process. I’m so proud of you and your courage as well as the beautiful yet raw vulnerability you share in your storytelling. I’m lighting a candle for you at Mass. Hugs 🫂 from Mrs. M.
Thank you so much and I love you right back. Thanks for your prayers! You should have seen the candles that everyone lit, in my prayer room, after the funeral.
You are not alone ❤
You will get to the top of the hill, just one baby step and tear at a time. God Bless you and your husband is watching over you always 💐
Baby steps and tears, it's true!
When my son passed it was so hard it’s been 14 years and I still cry and miss him. It gets easier but the sadness never goes away and it sucks. I am praying for u maybe take up a new hobby I started crocheting
Thanks for the prayers and I sent out a prayer for you too.
we are so proud of you and love you so much!
20 years being a widow. I didn't think I would get through it. Sometimes I do cry. I raised 3 sons alone. They are my rock. Couldn't have done it without God. I have to turn the radio on with soothing music to help me.
Last night I listened to prayers and fell asleep. God is Who is holding me up right now.
I like how the internet brings the occasional video my way that reminds me to be grateful every single day for the loved ones I have around me. I've found the love of my life after a 37 year long wait and would be beyond heartbroken to lose her. I cherish every single day i get to see her beautiful smile and cant imagine the pain you must have bravely endured thus far. Wishing you the very best from the UK. Thank you for making your videos.
Thank you for sharing and thank you for taking care of your lovely lady. Its special when you find that one that God made just for you.
You are so strong! Remember it’s okay to not be okay sometimes. We love you! ❤
I’m sorry for your loss, you will feel better over time
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Content wise, would love to hear about you and your husband’s life over the years. Stories to tell. We can learn a lot from your relationship and experience and it’s also a good way to keep his memory alive
I've been thinking that I need to share more of that and I will!
@ Been with my partner for 17 years and I love to hear stories from couples who have been together for longer! lots of wisdom there. :)
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I'm really sorry for your loss. I send you a big hug and a kiss from the bottom of my heart. I have no idea on the pain that you are passing now. I hope you find strength and the will to go on.
I do understand how valuable and important it's to be with the important people in your life. I hope you have people near to you to sympathize and be there for you.
It means a lot to have people like you thinking of me, I'm so grateful.
So hard it is to go on without him.. hardest thing ever I had to do.. and it does not stop.. nor do I want it to💜💙😭💔
People say time heals all wounds.. helps to remember what the healing process is.. always a scar is formed.. and that scar is a badge of honour that shows the power and beauty of the love you share..
Love does not die Trisha.. neither do we.. our bodies do and our souls and spirits live forever..🙏🕊️
My husband passed a while ago.. even so he is with me still in his spirit.. and will always be.. until it is my time .. and we will be together forever.. 💜💙
You are doing everything right.. keeping busy.. and making this channel helps so many! We love seeing you on your videos.. many of us appreciate hearing about your day and what your life is like.. this helps so much.. talking with those who share your pain helps us all🤗
Thank you for making your videos.. we love you💜💙🤗🫠
William and Jen
Thanks William and Jen, and your words are so what I always need. Wendell and Trisha
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God Bless you both, Wendell and Trisha.. with love and prayers🙏🕊️
William and Jen💜💙🕊️
I am so sorry for your loss. I know from experience of this type of grief, it takes a long time. You are in the first stage of grief, please, please talk to your doctor or a grief counselor. Being kind to yourself will help get you out of the house. Even going to have a manicure or out for a cup of coffee will help with doing something outside of home. Please know that you are not alone. You are strong...
Thanks for your kind words.
i am so proud of you my lovely , your so brave and doing so well I completely understand losing a loved one your so close with is awful , just know you will always have fans and supporters online and in real life we’ll always be by your side , he’s watching over you smiling I promise ❤❤
Thank you for your thoughtful comment.
Day by day , dear heart! You are doing amazing. Do what needs done each day. Our prayers and love are with you. I’m 71 , alone living with mostly elderly neighbors. We try to help each other, I’m thankful to be here each day! Many places need volunteers. I think you would love that. Give yourself grace. We love you . From Ky.
Thanks so much for the support! I know that when I'm in KY with my mother in law the people all around are so supportive and nice.
I don’t speak your language, but i can understand your feelings. All of my condolences, you’ll never be alone, remember that. All of us are with you. You are a strong woman and you can handle with this. I give you all of my support to you. Love ❤
Thanks for those understandable words of support.
Where there is great grief, there was great love ❤ sending hugs to your heart!
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You are wonderful, just take it day by day. It's ok to grieve for your loss of Wendell, God is with you. 🙏🏻🥰🙏🏻
Thanks Sharon, Nice to see you!!!
I’m so sorry for your loss! You’re not alone
Hello Trisha!!!
Its always good to see you and hear your voice.
Grief has a mind of its own is what I'm finding out. Its not easy to navigate and I'm sure you're doing the best you can. Take everything a minute at a time and don't worry about anything people tell you that aren't positive.
Keep hanging in there my friend!!!
You are so right, it really does have its own mind! I'm trying to just keep the positive stuff in my mind.
I’m an at home caregiver for elderly.. my two regular clients are both widowed women.. one is almost 101 thankfully her son lives in the house and helps.. the other is a 90yr woman… she’s watching all her friends die around her and their spouses die… something that helps both her and others is the family of the passed come over and visit and they exchange stories of their shared love of whichever person.. death is natural but painful, but having others to share and remember the joy is healing ❤
Yes it is great to talk to those that knew my husband. I find peace in their stories.
I lost my significant other as well... Days are good and days are bad. You will prevail through all of this.
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It’s been 3 years since my life long best friend took her life. For almost a year after I felt such huge waves of grief at the most random times, even now 3 years later one random Tuesday morning I think of her and feel my heart sink. The first year I barely ate and felt extreme anxiety. Time heals everything ❤ grief is love with no place to go ❤ I hope each day gets a bit easier for you ❤
Thanks and I love that, grief is love with no place to go!! I never heard that before.
We love you, Beautiful! Hold tight and know that we are sending you tons of hugs!!
You are so kind and I appreciate that.
Hes in a good place now ❤ and he sent us here to make sure your not alone 😊😊❤ we love you alot and im sure your husband would be STOKED to see you doing this well ❤ never give up and may god bless you ✝️❤️
You are so right, he is in a good place and I'm glad you are here.
So sorry to hear what you’re experiencing, we’re all here with you xx.
We love you and we all support you. Blessings and peace be onto you. I don't usually pray, but I'll make an exception... just for you.
You just made me smile then laugh out loud! I'm so glad you sent up a prayer, for any reason!!! Thanks for the comment.
I hope you have a beautiful week Trisha. You deserve it. I love watching your videos and thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Youre helping lots of people🤍
Thank you for your sweet words.
Sending love and prayers your way. May the Lord heal your heart and provide you with the peace that surpasses all understanding. Cry, let it out, take your time!
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I hope you find peace in letting go. Thank you for sharing your feelings
I'm so glad you've been able to get productive and free your mind from anxiety/panic attack (as much as you have). My mother and I have been going through Grammy's stuff today :) God bless you and your beautiful family 💕✨️
Thank you for the kind words
Tricia, you're doing better than you might think. Don't be too hard on yourself. Grief is very personal, but its been 7 months since I lost my soulmate and I, too, feel a hole in my heart that almost takes my breath away. But for me it has gotten better over time. I feel him with me and I talk to him too. Be kind and patient with yourself. I'm 78 and have lupus. So, I, too, need to take of myself. As do you. I look forward to seeing more of your videos. Remember, some days will be better and some days will probably be grief days. Cry when you need to. God created tears for a reason. Praying for you. Sharon Zolna
Thanks for the encouraging words and Prayers. I said a prayer for you too.
I am very sorry for your loss, you will reunite with your husband in heaven someday, for now, stay strong we are all here for you
Thank you, I believe so too.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your channel was suggested to me by UA-cam. I have subscribed
I appreciate you and your support!
I'm sorry for your lost love, sending you lots of love
Take care of yourself. Be Well. I Enjoy your video
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I appreciate it.
You got this ❤❤❤
You’re very lucky to have neighbors like that. I wish I did. Mine watched me do my driveway. An I too thought I would go soon after but here I am I think God has a reason.❤ God bless you what you’re going through is hard.
God Bless You Too! The neighbor is young and only lived next door a few years. I am blessed as the previous owner would have only complained about something.
@@flewthecoop1957oh boy😢
I'm so sorry for your loss❤️. 2.5 months ago, the love of my life just left me. He isn't dead, but he did still leave. I feel broken to the core. People tell me to move on and I try, but the pain every day is insane. My heart is like a brick in my chest. I can't even comprehend how you must feel. Please be kind to yourself and stay strong❤️
I'm sure you feel all those feeling that any loss has. Take your time and know that you can't live in the past but you don't have to plan out your future anytime soon. Hearts take time to heal.
@flewthecoop1957 Thank you ❤️ and im looking forward to your new videos
Hi hunny. Here to just say we love you, we are proud of you, and you’re a light to the world. God bless you in Jesus’s name ❤❤
Thank you and thanks for the Blessing.
You are an amazing person. My heart goes out to you. Sending my love, prayers and hugs to you. Xxxx
My heart is with you Trisha. As I had mentioned before, my husband's health has been declining fast now with pulmonary fibrosis and other complications as well now. I can't even imagine him not being with me and the loss. I know when you say just having your husband there to talk with and just his company is what you miss so very much! I honestly don't know how I am going to handle the time when mine is no longer with me and yet seeing him struggling breaks my heart. I thought I was a stronger person Trisha but I am finding I am not at all. I am very grateful to have had 43 years together, but I still don't want to lose him although I know many people never have that gift of having that much time together but it still is so hard. Sending many prayers to you and if you have any advice on how to navigate this awful journey, please do share. I suffer anxiety as well and I cannot sleep well at all and I know I have to take care of myself as well so I can be there for my husband. 🙏🙏💔💔 Geri
I'm on the same journey as you but my husband is suffering from different illnesses. Also going through exactly what you describe. Watching your husband cry with grief over his current situation and seeing him struggle so badly physically is like a physical pain in my own heart. For his sake I want it to be over: for mine, I cannot imagine how I will cope when the house is empty and he is no longer here to talk to. Prayers and comfort to you for your journey, we are all in this together, just walking each other home the best we can. xx
@@1sweffling Sending many prayers to you as well. My husband too, is grieving this awful and cruel illness. I break down now at the least provocation, even though I am trying to be strong for him. I too, don't want to see him continue to suffer, yet I don't want to lose him. Sending many hugs and prayers to you!🫂🫂🙏🙏 Geri
@1sweffling and @GeraldineFaust My heart goes out to both of you and your husbands. I just wish it was easier to talk with all of you. I think I may make a facebook group where we can really become friends.
@@flewthecoop1957 That would be great. Thank You. 💔💝
I love your videos and you! You are so strong! I wish you all support for this year.
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Wishing you all the best!
Hi, i am watching from the philippines. Just saw your video on tiktok through Kind Pengu. I am really sorry for your loss, i wish i could hug you. Stay safe always!!! ❤
It's tough but I'm getting through it one day at a time.
Sending hugs 🫂 & prayers!
I also lost my father this past Tuesday, I know that this is not easy, crying is not weakness,we all have to be strong
I'm sorry for your loss and the tears you will shed.
Trisha , all the best to you .
Grief is only love persevering !
That is what YOU will do. I know it. I believe it!
My husband has been gone for over 3 years now. No rules for grief. It will be fine a day or two. Then a week, month, then all hell will break loose again. I'm still not over my husband. I got so sick of people saying you're so strong, they have zero idea and it's just words. You do whatever you feel like doing when you feel like doing it. It's okay to have a broken heart. The harder you love the harder you grive.
I agree, the harder you love the harder you grieve. I'm not so strong cause I'm just broken. But for some I guess I haven't broken farther than them.
best wishes, hope you have great days soon
Hi! I just want to let you know that you're not alone. And you're husband is always there for you and guide. Please know that all of your viewers, followers, subscribers love you! WE love you! ❤
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Stay strong my friend. You can do this 🙏❤️🙏
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Sending so much love and healing vibes, biggest hugs to you 💚🫂
Your video touched me so much! Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 16 years. We got together when I was 16. And just to think about not having my bestfriend there hits me so hard i can't imagine living life without him. I know one day it will come. I hope i can find a community like you did. We are all here for you!! ❤
It's tough to think about that, but I'm so glad you have each other. Just live like he might not be there and you will not regret a thing.
Big hug sent to you from Derbyshire England ❤
Dear one, your body is talking to you. There are pockets of grief throughout your body giving you discomfort, a broken heart that's caused a flood that must run it's course. Many of your symptoms will subside. In time. Deep breathing helps. Hot soaks. Laughter. All will help ease those pockets! Bless you ❤
I think you are right about my body talking to me.
Continued hugs, keep on keeping on.
Thinking about you. Love and prayers 🦋🙏❤️
I never comment on videos, I lost my grandma in September and I miss her so much. You remind me of her, sweet and kind to everyone. My grandpa is not doing well anymore and I expect him to pass within the year. Grief is hard and its even harder when you lose your best friend in life. Ill miss seeing your sweet face in my feed, but do what is best for the remainder of your life. Its okay to not be okay.
Thanks for taking the time to comment
Bless your heart, grief is hard on everyone but I can’t imagine losing my partner and the loneliness. I know it’ll happen to me one day and it heartbreaking. You’re in my prayers 🙏🏼
Had a friend who thought her husband would pass before her and kept telling me I would have to help he as I recently lost my husband. She took a fall on concrete drive and never regained consciousness. He seems to be doing well.
Thank you and you are in my prayers too.
Hi Trisha. Glad I saw your videos on TikTok. Hang in there! You got this ❤
Thank you so much for the support.
When you’re ready, I would LOVE to hear your favorite stories about your husband!
Oh there are so many. In time I will be telling all the ones that have left the most meaning in my life.
Came here after hearing about you and your husband on Instagram. I'm from across the world and I'm telling you we are all with you. You are not alone. Let's discover who you are now on..
I appreciate it, I am so glad you are here.
stay strong ! everything will be fine 🤍
It all is in God's time and He knows my heart.
Darn cars. 🚙 I touhthings and then forget where I put it.💕NonnaGrace 🐓
We're all rooting for you!
I love you! Please be strong xx sending so much loveeee❤
Nine out of ten widows in this country are women. Many, many will go through the exact same journey you are going through. Thank you for showing us what it’s like to lose a spouse.
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Huge hugs Tricia 💓 ❤ xx
This may sound silly but you should consider signing up for an event like a half marathon or a sprint triathlon and start a training plan for the event I personally experienced the healing that comes from physical activity I went thru the death of two sisters and two beloved nephews all within a 3 year span it truly helped me maintain my mental and spiritual peace ✌️
Not really silly and it's kinda what I do only I dance. Once it gets warmer out I will be on the bike trails near my house.
Much love for you always, my dear. ❤