Who is Dad’s Mystery Woman? 😳 I didn’t know what to say 🥺
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- This disease is progressive and unfortunately in this video Dad goes to a place less attached to reality. Every interaction is different and although we try and be as truthful with Dad as possible. At times like this when he’s in his own world, you have to go to his world. Again, this interaction was difficult and caught me by surprise and you can see me stumble in my response.
Might be a good idea to check your Dad's bedroom! 😂
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That might be his secret to long life, the idea of a younger woman 😂
Yes, haha!!! 😂
Our next door neighbor who had dementia would come over and visit with my husband at least once a day. She was great. She had great sense of humor even though nothing made sense. My husband was so good to her he would just listen and laugh with her. She would stay for about 30 minutes and then say well time to go and off she went. One day towards the end of her life she told him he had always been the one. ❤ Rest in peace Susan we love you.
😢 thanks for sharing
awwwwww this is awesome...♥️♥️♥️
Wow! Your husband must be a good man.
Ed always thinks about others.He is so good.
What a great couple you were and how that cheered her days up. Now sadly she is passed, so your hubby can call and chat with me! JUST KIDDING!!!!
I think you are both awesome and kind!
That's the best! "Well, if she's married to you she wouldn't be sleeping with me." LOL!
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He still knows right from wrong 🤣
Grandpa Ed is always the dad. He spotted that beer quickly 😂 don't relax too much Dan 😂
It sounds like we have to add "where's my girl?" To that shirt.
Love to you all ❤
🤣🤣🤣 Yup.
Where’s my girl and where do I need to drop her home?
Followed by
Where are my keys and gas $$?
An Pardon Me!!!
lol truth
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At 4:28 was a moment of full clarity for Grandpa Salinger.
Dan: We'll go tomorrow!
Grandpa Salinger: What is today?
Dan: It's Saturday!
Grandpa Salinger: Sunday, the bank won't be open.
Though dementia is a very difficult disease, this channel is such a blessing in so many ways.
Dan, you have absolutely no idea how many people you help each day, including myself. 🥹
May your blessings be everlasting. ✨️🙏🏾💛
The "young girl" in Grandpa's bedroom could possibly be his guardian angel. Just a thought that makes my heart smile. 😊
My husband and I watch this channel and when "Pop" initially said that about a woman in his room, I turned to my husband wide-eyed, and said that it may be something to that effect! 😊 Great minds ❤
@@lizberry5717Yes! Great minds! 😊🧡
Every girl is younger than Ed..❤❤❤
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Oh lord he’s thinking it’s Danielle. That’s what he’s thinking, I figured it might be Danielle. Lol. I hope Danielle is ok with him thinking that. He probably thinks this poor young girl follows me around asking me if I need anything and Dan isn’t taking care of her, so I will. 😂
Before my father who had dementia passed, he constantly said he had to drive people places. It was every night. He was very adamant that the people were here and he had to drive them home. I would tell him it’s getting late and he needed to go to bed, but I would be happy to take them home. I assured him I would make sure that they got home. He would be good with that. I felt I was a spirt Uber driver.
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One time my mother in law was insisting she had to call someone to let them know where she was. I just told her I have their number and I was going to go call them right away to let them know. She was so relieved and off to bed she went, as did I.
😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤sending love from Philippines
This could be me It brings tears to my eyes shows him all the love that you that you can
LOL love it :) Aww
The two of you are adorable together. Your dad must be a great dad because even in his confusion, he always asks if you’re alright, or if you need something. Your parents raised you right because you’re a great son.
Comes from great stock, no doubt about that.
My mom passed in 84 leaving me my Nana to take care of with Alzheimer’s, on her birthday in 85 she said my mom was at the foot of her bed waiving for her to come on lets go , 3 days later Nana passed , i was 21 and it affected me to this day , i miss those two women more than anyone could imagine ❤
I bet she did come to get her.
It’s the angel of death. he’s the only one who comes by the time of death, no one else
Bless you for taking care of your nana!
@@AliiiGWhat an unusually blunt comment. To each his own.
My MIL also saw her aunt Minnie who took care of her because her own mother passed in childbirth. I have no doubt she saw her.
Grandpa loves younger women 🤣😂😂❤️🤣
Don't most straight men?
@@Hummingbirds2023most normal straight men like older women as far as I know lol
I think he might think he is the same age, bless him 😭
One thing that's for sure he is definitely attracted to Danielle! Who can blame him... It's Perfectly Natural to want to have a companion!!! I'm a 71 year old woman and that's how I feel! I'm always looking for a companion!😊
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I'm a full-time caregiver to my mother in law with advanced stages of dementia and your father makes my day
It's common for those who have dementia and Parkinson's, as the disease's progresses, they will begin to see apparitions and interact with people that you cannot see. I remember one lady I used to take care of. I used to think that her house was like a great big train station with all the people coming and going. She would start talking to people who weren't there even children, leaning down and patting them on the head. We would ask her to describe the people and she would tell us what they look like what they were wearing and then she'd even tell us the stories that they had told her about their life. At night we'd hear her talking to them and when we asked her who she was talking to, she would describe what they look like, what they were wearing and what they were talking about.
As full time caregiver to my husband with advanced Alzheimers, I love watching your videos of your dad. I'm sure he's referring to Danielle as to "the woman". In the video from early in the morning when Danielle saw him in the kitchen, you could see he was confused as to why there was a woman in "his house". He thought it was his house and she said she lives with him. That carried over into this video that you took Dan. He's referring to Danielle. Danielle needs a t-shirt that says "I AM DANS WIFE". It's a real gift that your dad can still read! Maybe a big pin that she can wear each day or a cap that says I AM DANS WIFE that she can put on anytime, day or night. His level of confusion is nothing compared to how he will be as the dementia advances. Hopefully since he has vascular dementia and his Blood Pressure is now under control, his dementia won't worsen too much. Either way, you're doing a great job! Hang in there!! 🤞🌷
Yeah he thinks Danielle being there in his house, is this sweet young girl who needs a man to take care of her. Dan has some stiff competition he has to deal with, if Ed were younger then I don’t know. Lol.
I would be confused too. It appears that Danielle is actually his step daughter and Josh is her brother. 2nd wife was Danielle and Josh's mother.
@sandrabentley8111 really ? Did they say this in a previous video ?
@@blobsha Danielle told everyone in her last live.
@@sandrabentley8111 I didn’t know he had been married more than once. Thanks for sharing that.
Maybe dad moved someone in while you were out of town😂....I love your dad❤
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Pickle you are being cheeky.😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@luciakabui3151 😂😉
Im guessing some some lady that has been living a little stressed housing situation and follows online and see's how well Danielle and Dan take care of Pop's and cooks his meals, etc., has snuck in
Your Dad is just fab. Always so lovely, polite, and caring, despite his condition. What a sweetheart.
Dad,you have a great dad and you are a great son
Maybe he was thinking of a young lady he was dating before he met his wife.I used to work on a dementia unit, and one of my patients was always looking for his daughters, I was told his wife divorced him when they were young. You just never know sometimes. Keep sharing and keep up the good work, Dan.
Did his daughters ever visit him?
Yes my work also. He may be remembering someone he had a relationship with. Or he may be hallucinating. Keep an eye out Dan for infection. Particularly UTI❤
That makes sense
Its true. Infections can make them alusinate. Bladder or other infections.
My father had a will under his bed and he used to drink really clear water from it. Also there was a young guy selling him belts at the end of his bed. There was nobody there that I could see.
@@hiyathere599 sadly no
I love how you dignified him in your responses
❤THAT is the beauty of Dan and Dani ❤
Handled with such class, leaving his dignity intact. Not so much for poor Danielle.
God bless you for all your love and patience!
My parents are 79 snd 83 and have all faculties. Even so, watching your videos has actually taught me to be more patient with them. When i start to get annoyed with them , or even anyone else, I cstch myself and think of how patient you and Danielle are. Thank you so much for sharing this journey. Your Dad is a gem!!
My dads dementia the last 2yrs. got really bad. Scary bad and it ripped my heart out because I was alone with him and my mother who also had dementia and colon cancer. When she past my dad's got worse and his temper became scary. I don't wish dementia on any body. It's extremely painful to watch your parents go threw so much confusion and in circles. They both past with in 2yrs of each other and it's left me and my siblings heart broken.
Ed makes me laugh out loud when he says Daniel wouldn’t be sleeping with me 😆😆
That was so adorable!!!
I roared when I heard that and I had just taken a drink and I just couldn't hold it when he said that.
Danielle
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Dan you handled that perfectly ❤ love to all the family 🙏
Ed has such an engaging smile. Yes Dan, dont you be "relaxing" too much. 😂😂😂😂😂
At the end he said guess I’ll have a drink 😂😂😂😂
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Pops still has his wits about him. He remembered the banks are closed on Sunday!🎉
Holy cow! Pop is having a little snippet of a memory. Someone he dated or had a relationship with. It was buried deep in his memory and came out, perhaps a little garbled ….. but he “remembered” it. Absolutely awesome.
His x wife danelle mom. She was younger them him. And she passed.maybe his remmber her now.
@@creativej4728 Ed was married a second time..but she passed away.. I don't get where it was Danielle's mother that Ed was married to the second time around. They don't mention her because Ed doesn't bring her up. They don't want to upset he
@@creativej4728a few years after he was divorced from Dans mum he remarried. This was to Danielles mum and they had Josh together. Danielles mum has sadly died and Ed doesnt remember her.
@creativej4728 his 2nd wife (now deceased) was Danielle’s mom.
Dan and Danielle are step brother and sister not blood related Ed is Dan's real dad Ed is Danielle's step dad@@bridgettmcgivney2471
Dr Ed is so clear and I ❤ it! "That's 2 days. The bank isn't open on Sunday 👍!"
Somehow a dose of watching you and Ed helps me as I try and help my dad through his dementia days. I am fortunate that he is also very passive and good natured. He'll be 100 in September and still as fit as a fiddle and incredibly needs no medication . Like you I have the same questions on money, where's his car, where's his mum and dad, he's going home. It's extremely hard work but has moments of absolute joy. When we go out to the shops everyone wants to talk to him or give him a smile. People are so wonderful. I've certainly learnt a lot and you take heart from where ever I can, your clips included.
God bless you, Dan.
Amen ❤
Awe bless his heart he's such a sweet heart
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Ed was a hound dog back in the day!! I like him even more now!
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Aren't we all? I hope to never lose that
Absolutely , that's human nature at work! We all want to have a companion....
How do you know? Was he a person you knew?
I really love your videos.
I love elderly people so much so I just enjoy watching grandpa talking. Watching from Africa Cameroon
3:03 kinda makes me wonder if he has glimmers of memories of Josh's mom. He's such a trooper and even though these moments may be trying, it shows just how strong he is. It shows how strong you and Danielle are and these situations display how beautiful the love you guys have for each other even though it's not always spoken.
Yes. He might be thinking about Josh's mom.
He is always worried about the fam! He also mentions his worries about Dan over relaxing or over doing it!!!! He is so sweet and thoughtful!!!
You are so wonderful with your Pop. Your patience is incredible.
I believe it is some nice young ghost lady visiting grandpa in his bedroom! 😬🥰❤️Actually I believe that people with brain illnesses are more prone to seeing people from other world..
My family and I are going through the same thing with my grandma. She has her mind made up that someone is going through her clothes, then she believes that they are switching her clothes with theirs. I love and treasure her, for she is a gift from God. She is declining and I tell her that I love her and am grateful that she is my grandma.
My mom did the same thing. Heartbreaking to watch
dont relax too much😂 i love it and i love grandpa❤
Grandpa always eyeing that jacket by your bedroom door!🧥👀😂❤️
It cracks me up every time too ❤
Probably Had A Similar Jacket Or The Same One
I admire your patience and dedication to your dad. You’re a very a good son. I wish all sons are like you.
God will bless you more🙏🏼
There comes a point when they remember only their younger days. Be happy for that time. Because they have happy memories. Your father is a darling. ❤
You leave town and Ed is bringing girls in.😂 But you didn't tell him he was seeing things or he was confused. You treated it as tactfully as possible. Good on you, Dan.
My mother in law passed away from dementia, and she saw many people around that weren’t there. This would happen periodically before she passed
Dan! You do a wonderful job, your patience with your Dad goes beyond and above.
You are all so lucky to have a Dad who is sooo Sweet and caring. So glad we are able to see how gentle and kind you are to him. Thank you for sharing this video with us.
Bless Grandpa Ed...he is a sweetheart!🙏❤❤❤
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The only thing you can do is, meet him where he's at. And you did that beautifully. He was redirected when you took him seriously. And....we never know who may have come for a visit.
So so beautifully stated and so so true. It's how I relate to my brother who has dementia ❤
Agreed !!! Good job !!!
when my dad heard us denying what he said he would get very angry - he swore there was a basement & we were in a single story house 😂
@joebert3286 My dad is just starting his journey. So, right now, we are learning how to help him when he's confused. In a way, I am very blessed. They live in 2 different states, and I'm the only one residing in one of the states. This allows me special one on one time to learn his quirks and what is and isn't working for him right now. The Salinger's have taught me so much.
I'm so sorry for the losses you have had. 💔
I really love your guy's relationship, you're a great son.
I love how you never chastise him or ever make him feel bad about a question he asks, even if it is completely out of the blue and makes no sense. You just assure him that “you’ll figure it out together”.
The way you handle his questions is the perfect way to handle a family member with dementia.
As they get into dementia, they start to see people
True. This was a big issue with my mother. Sometimes she was afraid of them.
I wonder As they entered dementia, does it allow them to see Things like children are allowed to see things that normally we wouldn't be able to see such as spirits
Perhaps entities, entities such as spirits know the state of mind and they allow themselves to be seen , and they communicate with elderly people like they do with children
Exactly, nothing wrong with that. My mother used to see a 3 years old girl in her bedroom.
Lewy Body Dementia is a form of Alzheimer's where they will speak of seeing people that we do not see , very common .
My grandmother passed from dementia and she saw many people lingering around her room in the final 5-6 months. Including children. She would actually get frustrated with us if we talked to her because we would be interrupting their chats.
@amandac11, i belive in what your saying. Not like the rest of the ppl fooling around. Ater all he is geting up there. And his done well with this sickness. Done g8.
@amanda I'm sorry for your loss. However, what a Debbie downer to say that at pop moment. Love you, pop!!
My mom is 86 with Alzheimer’s and I’ve cared for her for six years. She’s always thinking kids are upstairs and I should go check on them
oh yeah. same thing happened with my mother-in-law in her late 90's. i always wondered if she was seeing in her mind, her daughter, as a young girl who had passed away. she'd tell me to talk to her and of course nobody was there but she and i...
My Mum gave me a telling off for going into her house at 5am with her grandson. It made no difference that it was illogical and extremely unlikely that we did. She died a few weeks later.
Thank you all for taking care of dad! You are wonderful children!
So bittersweet. This reminds me so much of Dad. ❤️ Gentle and sweet. I am glad your father has you - a caring son to watch out for him. 😢
Im glad you went along with him. Not sure what he was thinking but it didnt seem too bad!
I remember when in hospital with my Nan who had dementia, we had some great adventures, I would tag along with her, in reality we were on a ward full of sick and old, but in her mind we would be on a cruise ship or a restaurant..... Sometimes it is easier on them to go with the flow 😊
cruise ship! ha that is awesome!
Sometimes it could be heart breaking 💔. He is so sweet to remember to even ask if he should close the door.😊. Just love you all ❤
U R a great son always respectful even when he seems totally lost.A GIFT from God in his old age to have a son that loves him..
Long term memories are the last to leave. He is confusing the past with now. You handle it so well!
That young mystery blonde, she just won’t stay away from Ed 😂😂
Your right ‼️
He’s so kind even with his memory loss ❤️. I love elderly people
He’s such a sweetheart you can tell he’s trying his best to make sure everyone is happy and taken care of. ❤❤❤ and blessings to you each xo.
You are awesome with your dad and so patient. He's a sweetie ❤
I just love Grandpa! Everyone wants to be loved and have companionship. No matter what age or disability. Thumbs up!
Dad is so special. What a man.
No need to worry Dan you do an excellent job, you can handle situations the best I have ever seen ❤
I just adore him
He’s very considerate and compassionate even when confused he’s always thinking of u & Danyalle 🥹💙
So hard, prayers to you. My dad asked me to marry him and I had to pretend to be his fiancé for months. Prayers for you and your family
A friend of mine, whose mom suffered from dementia, couldn't have her at his wedding, bc his mom was convinced that he was his late dad/they were a couple and it would have been upsetting for her to see him marrying another woman.
@fairgreen42 yes, my husband and I couldn't see my dad at the same time because my dad would get upset thinking I was cheating on him
I love your patience. God bless you n your pop.
God love, everyday is brand new. Dan, you are the most loving and patient son. You will never regret it❤
Pop needs money for date night obviously! LOL she’s staying in his room now>>>>!!! Lmfao dan you are a sweetheart❤😂😢
5-20 $ isn't enough cos of inflation. He must carry at least 50- 80$ , withdraw more on next visit to the bank.
You all are an inspiration for the way you take care of Dr. Salinger. What a Blessing to see. Thank you for sharing. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I love how observant he is, never misses your drink whenever you have one 😅
I do really enjoy watching and listening to you and your pops
Dan your so good with your Dad. He may be forgetful but he is very logical. God Bless you both.❤❤😊😊
What the father is seeing is one of his guardian angles waiting patiently.
As his disease progresses the number of guides will increase.
Totally agree with you.
Someone who understands
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Thought the same thing 😇
I like that thought.
I love that he's so concerned even when he's having mental issues, though. His number one concern is his kids and making sure they have food and everything that they need. That definitely shows how important that was to him. It can be maddening to repeat the same things over and over again and can upset ourselves and cause us a lot of stress, negatively impacting our own health. Make sure that you have some "you" time at times where you can de-stress. Stress can make blood pressure go up and just has an awful impact impact on everyone.
He's so freakin adorable!!! No matter how old he is he still wanted to make sure his son was okay and that he didn't need anything ❤ He's a sweet man!
Try not to read too much into it, Dad has spent a lot of time with Danielle lately whilst you’ve been away. He is just confused, always good to check that he doesn’t have a urinary tract infection too, this can cause more confusion ❤
I think you're right too😊. Makes the most sense. Maybe with Danielle caring for him so much the last few days he's thinking it was his wife...
UTI's are brutal with dementia!
@@user-zz1ty4ie2xhe is always thinking she is his wife or smth
Yes to the UTI!! My husband's grandmother just went off into another world mentally one day and it scared us. Turned out to be a UTI. It's crazy what the body does! Every once in a while she would be off again.... And it was another UTI.
My mother in law was 93 with dementia. Her backyard was up against a large cemetery. One day she was smiling and laughing while sitting outside on her deck. When we asked her what was so funny, she said she was watching the “residents” in the cemetery. I swear I was starting to believe her! Everyday she was looking for a little girl.
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My grandma kept seeing a baby running down the hall. I think it was a memory from my son was young. Then she stated seeing her deceased husband checking the mail ...I finally thought maybe?? Shortly after she passed I really wondered if that was him coming to get her. they were married for over 50 years. Nowadays, I'd like to think that was the case!
Yes. My uncle started seeing his deceased friends and family on a daily basis for 3months before he passed away.
My Mama was 93 she had severe conjestiive heart failure, Alzheimer's and a stroke. Her last few weeks she would see members if her family that had passed years ago.
For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing; they have no further reward, and even the memory of them is forgotten.
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Their love, their hate and their jealousy have long since vanished; never again will they have a part in anything that happens under the sun.
Ecclesiastes 9:5-6
My friend was only 55 when she was diagnosed ,and had an aggressive form of Alzheimer.
She use to tell her husband about the shadow people.
Once he put her in the nursing home he found out how real the shadow people were.
He first had what he thought was a dream,. He dreamed he wrestled one and it shoved him against the door so hard that the door stopper put a hole in the wall. It was so real he decided to check the wall for the hole,and sure enough there was a hole in the wall.
Then one day while he was wide awake a shadow figured grabbed him around the waste trying to tackle him.
Then it was gone. He felt horrible for not realizing she was actually seeing those things. Rest in Peace Elaine.
Haven't seen one of your vids for awhile, glad to see your Dad is still hanging in there 👍seems like a really sweet Man 🙂 Thanks for sharing him with us
All that money get Ed some clothes you should de ashame
Precious, just precious. ❤ Thankfully, I have many videos of my Dad as he experienced Dementia.
Hahaha 😂. Dan, I couldn't finish watching because I just laughed so much..."what about her? She is in my room now 😆" and to that Dan didn't know what to say!😂. Pop is sooo sweet...lol. you need to drink more Dan to understand Pop...😂❤
He's just being a man. A human man❤
Grandpa has got a young girl in his room.
I love his resilience, sense of humour at that age.Bless him🙏
You handle everything so well Dan you enjoy your 🍺 you deserve it.
Aww Bless him, i wonder if hes talking about his granddaughter ? and got a little mixed up . xx good to see his face has healed .
I think he is confused about Danielle/ whose woman she is ? Bless his sweet heart 💞💝💞
My first thought was Hannah, too.
Love the way you just go along with it. He’s happier ❤️
So sweet.. ❤
Worrying about driving some young lady to some city who moved into his room on top off his son drinking a beer. Always a gentleman. ❤️ Love from Iceland
Dan you are just as wonderful as your dad. You showed so much love and respect even in difficult situations. God bless you both.
With all this caring man goes through daily. Strong leadership as a man and father when told his good is already prepared for him to respond " what about yours and what about Danielle's"
Bless this man and family
You handled that perfectly ❤
Its very important to step in their world that what we do everyday . Great jobb Dan ❤❤
I am so touched with your videos of your Dad .
My Dad is also 92 and I was not financially stable to not work and look after him like I would have liked.
I looked after him 6 years and then had to place him in a local care facility when the degree of care was more than I could provide ( mostly bc I had to work outside the home).
I am sad every day that he is in a care home ! Bless you and your wife for caring for your Dad
Iike this.
My Dad is also always asking if I am ok, if I am happy and how the grandchildren are. We both have amazing gentle loving caring Dads.
I've heard about this happening before. Someone's mother had dementia and she was asking where this guy was and no one had a clue who he was!
Just because you don't have a clue, They do‼️. That's what bothers you people 🤣🤣😠
This has to be the best one yet. Bless him.
I love all the patience that you have with explaining everything to him over and over again.
I really like how you respond to your dad’s questions and queries in dignified way without making him realise or feel bad about his disease. Your love for your Dad bought tears in my eyes. God bless you Dan.
I love Grandpa’s shirt!!
Grandpa ❤😊😂😅 that appetite never fails him!
Pop is so sweet , u can really tell how much love he has for you! Always making sure your good, u can just imagine how serious his role as a father & provider he took.
I love you guys, Dan, and you know more than anyone how to take care of Pop. You are doing a great job, and Pops is a good man. God Bless all of your family, Dan.