"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Proverbs 22:15 - The Bible clearly states the way to raise children. It's too bad more people don't stand on the truths found in God's word! The world would be a much better place. We raised 4 children, and they are all now productive citizens. Sometimes, when I was ready to spank them, I would quote that verse and I would tell them, "I am NOT raising little fools!" Please understand that there IS a difference in child training and child abuse. If you train a child properly when they are small, they will know the difference. And if you start when they are small, you won't have to discipline as much as they get older. Another Bible verse - "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." - Proverbs 13:24 So I also told our children, "I'm doing this because I love you!" There are many more scriptures in the Bible that are a great help in raising children, if you just open God's word and search. So I guess my advice would be this - raise your children the way that God says - don't raise fools and LOVE your children often! YEE YEE!
Context matters. The original word for "children" to the intended audience was not referring to under elementary school age kids. Probably not before 8 years old, from what I've studied. There was a pattern of a separate distinct words to refer to the early years. That's the age range I've seen physical discipline passed down from generation to generation the most.
I was raised and so were my siblings without being spanked and all us are productive citizens. I do not believe that “rod” is only about spanking. Sparing the rod is discipline but that can be time outs, taking something away, grounding etc. some parents don’t know how to step away and they spank in anger which then leads to abuse. So, don’t spank use other methods as you put it don’t spare the rod.
@@lori1508 I agree with how Granger and Amber explained it that Godly parental instruction includes a spectrum of discipline forms. It includes spanking, but it doesn’t mandate spanking as the only option.
There have been studies done on how spanking effects the brain. Whether you do it with anger or not, somehow, it’s still the same effect. Also lights up the same part of the brain as sexual abuse. So great job. Just because you can’t see the detriments, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Get over your power trip and learn to discipline correctly. Your child isn’t out to piss you off, they need to be guided and taught love by their parents, not fear.
You can do as much research as you want. It’s still not gonna matter. I myself was whooped when I was a kid. I turned out fine. Every single one of my friends was whooped all turned out fine almost every person I know in my life has been whooped parents who think whooping your kid is abuse or fucking delusional, grow the fuck up
I was not spanked as a child nor did a spank any of my children and we all turned out great. My kids would have probably preferred a quick spanking then then a talk and consequences. Not sure the message spanking gives a child? You do something I don't like, i'm going to hurt you? Are you hitting hard enough to cause pain? I think it's a confusing concept. I can hit you when you do something I don't like but it's not ok to hit others when they do the same. Why not raise a child you haven't purposefully inflicted pain on "to teach them a lesson" when there are other healthier options to raise happy, obedient, respectful adults? To each their own I guess.
WAKE UP! My dad was spanking me and said he will keep hitting harder if I kept crying. He called me a brat, a baby, an idiot. Oh, thats totally not abuse! HOW IS IT NOT?! Hitting your kids is not discipline….your scaring your kids wich is not right.
but its correct to spank kids if they get mischievous....i have kids ...i do spank them...and they too know that they were wrong and hence deserved to be spanked
It becomes abuse when you call your kids names through it. Crying is normal part of a whooping before, during & after. Since everyone’s different some people prefer a good hiding or react & understand what they’ve done better than grounding or a time out.
I was spanked as a child and I do not agree with spanking. Spanking is lazy parenting. You do not need to hit a child to make them mind you. Children should not fear you, you should be a safe place.
Spanking takes way more self-discipline to administer promptly and calmly than screaming at your kids in frustration or constantly running around trying to get them to stop behaving badly. Spanking is also just a tool in the toolbox, it is not entirely discipline in and of itself. There’s so much more teaching, correcting, loving, and learning that goes into it. You just have a misunderstanding of what it is
@WindowsXP-y5lI respect your religion but I don’t respect the fact that you would force your own beliefs on to a child physically. Choosing to know the harmful effects of spanking isn’t lazy, it’s creative and people like that make the world a better place. There’s people who believe one side, and there’s people who are connected to both. You should stay educated
I was never spanked as a child. Neither my two sons. I talked to my boys if they did something wrong. Also they did not have curfews. They knew they were nothing to do after 12 p.m. come on home. Both have college degrees, sweet wife’s and one son has two children. Both are Christians and go to church. One son is in his last semester second degree in the Baptist Seminary. God blessed me with awesome sons.
DISGUSTING PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT HITTING CHILDREN FOR BEING CHILDREN. WOULD ALSO ACCUSE A MAN OF BEING A MONSTER IF HE DID THAT TO HIS WIFE . WE ALL KNOW THEY PLAY UP AND ITS PURE BETRAYAL NASTINESS..so who deserves it more . You can't say it's ok for children and not for the rest of us . I say it's never ok for children. Absolutely acceptable for adults men or women. Hurt someone else be prepared to get hurt .
Never appropriate to teach your child “ I love you so much i’m going to hit you “ and you can say it’s just a pop but the reality is we adults are twice their size and we are using our hands to hit our child .
The Bible says he who does not chasteneth his child Hateth his child. I never heard any counting with my parents, correction was swift and strong. We had no doubt between right and wrong
As a now 26 year old.. so excuse me- (if I have no room to talk since I'm not yet a parent), although I think I would've been traumatized as a child if my parents used physical discipline like spanking when I was a child. I did not grow up in a authoritative household, therefore there was not tons of discipline in which I can see where Amber is coming from on the whole she wished she had more as a child, although I like that I didn't have that type of discipline because I know that my personality would've resented my parents in the future if so. There are other ways that are less abusive in my opinion!
@@ng3069 I've never thought of it as guide either, but I did compare a few translations after seeing this post. Most do seem to indicate some type of use of the rod to be in contact with the child's body. so guide doesn't seem to fit the context.
Granger and Amber the kids sure make great models. I know we’re not suppose to wish our kids to grow up fast but I’ll will be so proud to see London to become a vet. She will become a great one. I remember my dad having to come home from the business and momma saying. The kids did abc and we grew up very well as y’all to. I think they need more of that today. Love y’all 💗❤️💗❤️❤️❤️🦋🎈YEEYEE
Spanking is totally fine I agree each kid responds different. My husband says don’t make me get out the Jesus belt and they know ok we need to repent and mind. We only spank not out of anger. We both grew up that we had to respect our parents.
Thank you guys for cause and truth for children. Sometimes do need that, don't okay, goes sit down. You already have a spoon, anything. And I'm glad that you also show that you do. Love your kids because so many people think all will. You spank them? You don't love them. The facts of the matter is there's so many people that grew up. They got spanked and it wasn't because nobody because people didn't love them was because people did love them, and they needed some kind of correction beyond just time out because time out does not always work. Specially when you're kids saying oh I want time out. I'm okay with LOLI don't care if you take that away all that kind of stuff, then it's like, okay, well, they do care about how it feels, so if they get a sweat on the butt, then, okay, that's a starting point, hopefully the listen to You and not. After all there again, hopefully they'll listen with other discipline. But when they're custing at you and hitting you before you even touched them. And being abused towards you because they're not getting whatever they want. Or because Hey, show time is done. And we need to dinner, that's there has to be another solution, there has to be something.
Thank you for saying this. We have a strong conviction against it and I don't get to hear a lot of testimonies where other forms of consistent correction reaped healthy results.
@@RachelDee there is zero evidence that hitting works. The exact opposite in fact. As a Christian I am so sickened hearing people say “whip em” about their own children. Repulsive 🤮
@@melanie7068 yeah, I'm very very very cautious towards it. Most of my friends who spank do not have well adjusted kids. I'm an orthodox Christian that's studied hermeneutics. I believe the interpretation of those verses is passed on without thinking about it and its actually other historical and contextual things that make whooping young kids the norm.
I only got swatted twice, once for going down in the creek bottom during a flood and not getting home on time, mom n dad thought I'd drowned... and once for swinging 20 feet up a tree and screaming like a banshee. I was told I should only scream when in trouble. Learned to be home on time, and don't scream. Notice I didn't get in trouble for the flooded creek bottom or swinging high in the tree. Folks just expected kids to do risky stuff, but use common sense.
Not everyone has the right state of mind to spank. Even if you wait until you are calm, spanking can bring out anger in you. So I would not recommend it if you have a tendency to be quick to anger.
There's two sides to the coin with spanking. One is you're spanking your kid bceause you don't like what he's doing and trying to put him in line with physical force and fear. The other is spanking your kid, discussing why he's getting spanked and you reconcile immediately. Unfortunately, the latter is rarely ever done. I was not only spanked, but hit, pulled by the ear, whipped, and on top of all that, always left alone to cry alone. I'm not denying spanking COULD be effective if done effectively, however, I am not a supporter of it considering what happened to me. When my emotionally dysfunctional 5 year old son is having one of his tantrums and hitting either me or wife, we sit on the floor and wrap our arms and legs around him until he calms down constantly telling him that we love him and we're keeping him and everyone else safe, then after he's calm, we talk about acceptable choices. Slowly, but surely, it's going to sink in, just like with every kid. But I want him to know that his emotions are valid and we do not try to repress them, like was done with me growing up.
On this peaceful Thursday! Let God’s peace guide every moment today as you make your way to work or about your duties. Let his peace go before you and be in you. Have a Beautiful and Blessed evening/ day and weekend. See you next video. Stay safe and healthy. God Bless.
@@MrsAlmaTrumble I'm okay. Not as tired because it's finally cooling down a bit and we got some rain! Yay. The Lord has definitely blessed us here the last week! 🙏🙏🤗🤗. How are you and your husband doing today?🤗🤗🙏🙏.
@@lanak.fromnewmexico1143 glad you're doing okay. We're doing pretty good. Waiting on the arrival of our newest grandson. He should be born tomorrow or Saturday.
@@MrsAlmaTrumble oh, that's wonderful! My great grandson is two months old now and getting so big. He has the best and cutest smile 🤩. I'm so blessed. Hugs and congratulations!!🤗🙏🤗🙏. Take care and God bless.
I was spanked a lot when I was a kid. I was a mean kid at times. WORST spankings were those my grandmother gave me. She's sit me down, and talk to me about what I did and I would just wish she'd go ahead and spank me and not talk to me because she was so soft, and loving, and it felt so bad I had disappointed her that the talking was worse than the spankings. I grew up and know better than, say, if I had stood in a corner or not been spanked or talked to. I see so many parents now days that just tell their child to stop, but don't do anything more than that. Then, a few years down the road that child without discipline thinks nothing about what they do and that it has no consequences. Spanking isn't for all kids, like you said with London. Sometimes a stern, fatherly or motherly talking to and explanation is all they need. Sometimes taking things away is better as they get older. And some a pop or two on the rear is all it takes. You really have to know your own children to know which is best. And knowing this as you guys do shows how great parents you are. I literally could live with you guys just to watch you with your kids because my wife and I never were able to have kids and watching how you all are so wonderful with the kids makes me so proud to have found you and your family. Take care.
A tap on the butt is ok if granted - but I could never hurt my child or make them (THAT) afraid of me. I have six and they were all very well behaved (not always perfect) but I taught them from small on....the word NO.....and I spent a lot of time with them talking to them explaining why they shouldn't or should do things. I never moved things.....I would tell them NO that's mommy's and bring them to their toys.....it's being consistent and not lazy that makes the difference! AS they get older make small disciplines don't lose it and not keep to your word...example.....you can't watch tv for a month - when that is being unreasonable.....say one night or an hour or two....etc. :)
Thanks for speaking without trying to spare anyone’s feelings, whoop em. How did we lose these strong men and women and come to these butt hurt young people? We dropped the ball.
I appreciate you saying that we dropped the ball. It always frustrates me when people criticize how young people are without taking at least part of the blame for that. They didn't turn out that way all by themselves.
That is absolutely not true. In my country it is illegal to spank your kids yet the crime rate is higher in America. Violence is wrong unless self defense
@@cogicmj Well i am not religious and it is harmful to raise your children from religious perspectives. I am not doing that. My kids will not be going to church every sunday (unless they want to) and they will be free to practice any religion they want but i'm not gonna force religion onto my kids. It is 2023 and i can't believe traditional families still exists, a lot of kids in traditional families are unhappy because traditional parents don't really love their kids or at least not as much as modern parents do it feels like.
There's this great book I recently read called The New Dare to Discipline by Dr. James Dobson. It's Christian based and explains things in a way I've never heard before, finding a good balance of love and discipline. In the book he says that past the age of 6, other things work better (Like how you mentioned getting things taken away). Would highly recommend!
Yes they should just have long had it is needed discipline is important kids need a strong leader and it needs to come from parents I believe a lot of problems with young people is because they were never disciplined when they needed it
I haven’t watched the video yet but I’m putting my opinion in the comments now. I won’t spank my kids I don’t think it’s right if you do it hard enough it also could be abuse. So I won’t do it I respect everyone else’s opinion but I won’t do it to my kids. My mom did it my grand father did it to my dad and I still won’t forgive him my dad hates his dad for spanking him as a child my dad said if his dad hit him that hard now days he would go to jail. I don’t want my kids hating me in my opinion I think there’s better ways to handle things then getting mad and hitting your kids.
After experiencing & witnessing physical abuse(not by my parents), I’m very cautious of physical punishment. I almost feel like I’m saying I’m going to hit you because you hit your brother and hitting is bad. With my first two I tried to be the disciplinarian because their dad was too rough to all of us. I do know that by the age of 2 if you don’t have control of the discipline in your home you are already behind. Even babies 12-18 months are learning how to push boundaries. Make your no NO! Stay consistent. I read never use your hand. I had a little wooden spoon that I’d pop against my leg to judge the force. I love the adults my children are though each one of them went through some rough times dealing with childhood issues.
Lord knows this subject will cause all kinds of this & that. Every child, parent & experiences are different in life. Abuse & corrective actions are 2 entirely different things. “Spanking” is fine as a corrective action. As parent it is our duty & responsibility to teach our children right from wrong. Actions have consequences. Respect is something taught. I commend you all for sharing this “sensitive” subject. I was spanked as a child & like yourself Granter I don’t hate my parents for it. At the time I deserved it. It was a lesson & I learned from it.
I so agree never spank out of anger. I would spank if it was life threatening like running out in the street or knowing the end result of the situation was going to cause harm to your child, like sticking something in a electrical outlet. My son is 24 and now is a time for reflection, I asked him was I fair when I disciplined him and he said “Yes I knew where I stood and if I didn’t straighten up I was in for the consequence.” We taught him from a small age a saying that help him think, Every action I make comes with a consequence and whether good or bad I have to except that consequence. Hope that helps.
I agree children need clear discipline spanking does not hurt if not over done. Age appropriate discipline does have a factor also. Kids these days get away with too much.
Spanking kids is the same as physical abuse! If you think you're allowed to spank your kids when they misbehave then an adult can smack you when you're misbehaving, and you are not allowed to fight back. If this last point upsets you then imagine how the kid feels been physically abused by someone who is supposed to love them!
I had to learn how to spank because I was beaten as a child...to the point of wells and huge bruises by my father. Yes..never in anger, but always in love to teach right from wrong. Kids with no discipline today, are our criminals tomorrow. From Montgomery al 🙏 ❤️
I can relate to much of your comment, although Mom was the disciplinarian in our family. She could be a scary little woman, at times! 🙀 Most of the time, just the threat was enough! I agree that kids that had little to no discipline, become disrespectful & belligerent adults & even criminals!
I got spanked as a child and my husband didn't. I think all kids respond to different things! Our 3 oldest the boys needed it and girl who also the youngest at the time would be so sad and so she really only got 1 1 swat.
I don't think kids should be spanked. We teach them not to hit, yet people spank them, makes no sense. IMO, for what it's worth. You can stand them in the corner, or take things away. It really works. My son has never spanked his son, and that boy is the kindest kid ever! I never spanked mine, the corner worked great.
At a certain age, corner time doesn't work if they realize they can just step out of the corner. Kid's should absolutely know how to hit, fighting is an essential part of life, should be reserved for the most extreme of situations. What kids need to learn is when is it appropriate to fight. If they start it, they are in the wrong, if they finish it, then they did right. If London (who is bigger) gets physical first, then London learns that someone bigger steps in and finishes what she started.
There are so many issues that I have with my parents. But being spanked for being out of line and doing things that I knew were wrong is not one of them. I've never resented them for getting spanked.
It sounds like you didn't respect them or their words. Perhaps they weren't competent or good role models. Maybe they didn't explain things to you or answer your questions. I wouldn't have listened to them either and I would have gotten spanked.
I don't think there is a thing wrong with spanking kids. I was spanked countless times, and never did I not deserve it. I was a defiant kid and needed correction. My dad never did it in anger, it was always with the correction and discipline in mind. My daughter does occasionally get a spank, but it usually isn't necessary, most of the time just the suggestion brings the behavior around anyways. I do agree with not counting, there's only one chance to do what you're supposed to, I'm not gonna try to drag it out of you. Kids need hard boundaries, and as they grow up the fruits of discipline show. I've never resented that my parents used physical discipline, it made me a respectful man that understands boundaries and appropriate behavior. I wish more parents would put that much effort in, we're raising adults, not children
WHOOOOOP UM !!!! I REMBER RUNNING FROM MY DAD WHEN HE CAME HOME HE WAS AN POLICE OFFICER I WAS 12 I WAS SO SCARED THAT I OUT RAN HIM NEXT WEEK HE MADE ME JOIN TRACK & FIELD LOL TRUE STORY LOVE YA POPS
My Momma made me pick my own switch off the weeping willow tree. If I chose a real small one she would go get a big one. I have nothing but respect and love for my Momma. She was a single Mom and I was a brat and my brother was a bigger brat so we deserved those spankings. Did y’all get paddled by the principal in school too? I did one time for something that someone else did but I was blamed for it. When my Mom read the note I was sent home with for it she asked me about it. I told her that I didn’t do anything wrong and had no part in using paint on the chalkboard and I never wrote any nasty words on the chalkboard. I told her who did do it and I told her the principal didn’t care to hear me say anything about it so I got paddled hard with his big wooden paddle that bruised my butt. To say the least Momma went into school with me in tow the very next morning and confronted the principal about the situation. He was completely caught off guard when she said I believe you need to be given the same treatment you gave my daughter and without explanation as well. I expect both your buttocks to be bruised as badly as my little girl’s are. He attempted to say that I painted the chalkboard but she cut him off and asked him if he asked me if I was involved. He stumbled for words knowing he just automatically assumed I was guilty because I was sitting at my desk doing nothing wrong other than telling the two kids that did do it that they were going to be in big trouble. They threatened me with a beating if I said anything. I guess because I was the only one in the classroom I was automatically guilty. So I got one lick for each naughty word on the chalkboard and there were six colorful words. I was so scared of the principal because he was so angry I just cried and took the paddling. After it was over I felt so humiliated and I was made to apologize to the teacher, the entire class, and the janitors who had to clean it. My Mom could be heard throughout the halls using a few of those very same colorful words on the chalkboard while she was dutifully schooling the principal about the use of his big wooden paddle with tiny holes in it. He attempted to ask why I never said anything about not doing it and my Mom said to him if you were a little girl in second grade in a new school and an angry man pulls her out of her chair takes her to his office and tells her to bend over a chair while being scolded at and told he will be correcting her bad behavior by use of the paddle. While striking my little girl scaring her terribly and telling her that that type of filth is not going to happen to his school. To say the least the principal apologized to me and my Mom and did punish the two kids that did do the naughty words. I feel like he should have had to apologize to me in front of the whole school, but he never padded me again after that! Mess with Momma’s baby y’all might as well run and hide!😂
I was belted as well and it was humiliating and just made me angry. I never did it. I punished by putting them in their room. No toys no TV. No hitting. 👎
I waited for your answers, nothing out of anger is always good, they would say once a child gets to knowing age (4) a child no longer need to be warned. I whole heartedly loved your answer, for it was the same as mine. ❤️🇨🇦
From another video: "Not only do I think spanking's acceptable, but I think it's one of the best. It's effective, it's quick, it's over, it's done and the kid can go off and play again and not have to sit in a corner or languish in [solitary confinement] or something like that. It's not about: getting angry, I'm mad, I'm gonna whack my kid. -No, it's about: "Okay, you did something [totally unacceptable] and you're going to get spanked for this." I hear opponents to spank say, "I don't want my child to be violent." -I have five kids, 10 and under, and the exact opposite is true. All my friends have loving parents that spanked them as kids and now they've grown up to be great functional, well functional adults who respect their parents and are glad their parents spanked them. Parenting is more than just I spank or I don't spank. If you're a terrible parent, and you think that spanking's gonna fix your kid, you're wrong." Obviously parents shouldn't enjoy spanking -but because they don't like to do it doesn't mean it's bad. There's good physical discipline and totally unacceptable physical discipline. Most kids don't need to be, and shouldn't be, spanked. However, nothing wrong with spanking strong willed kids for severe disciplinary infractions after other means are exhausted. *"Break the will, not the spirit."* -I love that.
My adult daughters got butts swatted maybe a handful of times each. They were respectful and good citizens. One is a great parent, the other a great auntie
I admire you guys as parents SO much, so I absolutely appreciate your perspective on this! I agree, if you as the parent are angry when doing the disciplining, there should be a pause or maybe a different parent to give the spanking. You guys are doing great! Your kids will be grateful for the way you raised them when they are adults
No they are not good parents There is never ever a reason to be violent towards kids and u shouldn't be supporting this It's 2023 Get with the times Violence towards kids is wrong, whether it's a spanking or a belt beating, it's wrong
@@Error_-ct2vp the conservatives ruined america. The laws must be changed to be in line with the United Nations recommendations when it comes to children's rights
All I am going to say is 1. fall launch is making me broke; 2. gorgeous sunset; 3. Mavvy may be a 1yo but that boy needs some shoes on his feet out there on those rocks.
I agree,I survived being hit with a belt,and I’m sure i deserved it every time! But when I had my own children I made a Pat with myself I would never hit with a belt,and I didn’t ,I didn’t have to spank my kids very often,I was more of a Yeller,and it usually got across to them,moms yelling I better stop or run,because I know what’s coming next,a child should be disciplined
This is a hard question. I have read both sides of the story. As a child I was spanked and usually I deserved some discipline. USUALLY. There were other ways my mother could have dealt with me. And most of us can as well. My nephew was naughty 1 day. He found himself eating a bowl of cold baked beans for lunch. (If you didn't guess he HATED baked beans warm, but cold 🤢) I gave my nieces the horrible torture of making them watch an old, boring, black and white movie. (The way the reacted you'd think I was torturing them.) Showing up at your child's school and embarrassing them, that's a good one. Get creative.
It only took one time when my kids were little. After a talk, and they didn't listen, knowing what they did was wrong or especially hurtful to someone else, then came the licken. When I was little, my dad would say " go pick a switch!" And you got your hind end whooped. Didn't happen very often though. Two of my brothers seemed like got it a couple times a week. 🤭. There were six of us so it was hard to get everyone ready for anything. Like church or school. I was the oldest so I'd help get the younger ones ready. But it seemed like those two brothers wouldn't be anywhere to be found. Always made us late. My Mama hated to be late for things. So they'd have to go get a switch after church or whatever. One's passed now, God bless him and the other is doing great. God bless him as well. Love all the new "Yee Yee" apparel! I saw at least 3-4 items I want! Probably more! LoL. Maverick is so adorable! " Ranger Rides!"!! LoL. All of the kids are adorable actually!! LoL. You two sure make cuties!! God bless always 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏.
I remember years ago our pastor, in a sermon, said that God made butts for spanking. It is a padded area. I did spank, sad to say at first in anger but i learned to cool down first. Our youth were more polite and better behaved but also going to church helped them to be better adults. I was always afraid that God would see me doing wrong so i tried to not do wrong. I did, God saw me🙏, but God forgave me.
We saved spankings for moments where the kids did something that wasn’t safe for them only. For instance, running into the street. But it needs to stop when they reach the age where talking and reasoning works. My husband spanked our son bare butt when he was 12. I told him never again. But spankings were rare in our house. I believe they can get over used and make the kids feel it is ok to hit back.
Yeah how about whooping your wife when she's playing up ? Let me guess I'm a monster . No your the monster child abuser . Only adults should be physically attacked for bad things no-one else . No adult should be able to live with our the same consequences.
In the Bible it says if you spare the rod you spoil the child if the child doses something that deserved a spanking then it is up to you to give it to them, that doesn’t mean you give them a beating, do obey God or not?
Nah dawg make em hold there arms out Straight put 1-3 good sized books on there arms and make an hold it for how even old they are like a 7yo would get 7mins. That's how I was punished lol
I am now 23 years of age and diagnosed with several harsh mental illnesses that stem from my upbringing. The simple fact that i was taught to fear violence as punishment for minute and even irrelevant details as a child that could not defend itself makes me want to throw up. Doesnt help that it was a conservative religious household which views i really did not agree with. I wasnt beaten continuously but frequently enough to fear my family for the rest of my life. The psychotic breaking point for me was when my father went off on my mother and swapped to me when i tried to stop him. At 13 years old. They are still married, and i contact them every quarter year if i really have to. They are trying to build a relationship with me now that im in my 20s and i think i'd rather kiss the wall at 300 km/h than have a conversation that goes deeper than "good weather" with them. A parent that uses corporal punishment of any kind, no matter how harsh or not, is an adult thats out of control. "Its not a beating its just a little spank", where does the spanking end? How hard do you have to hit a child for it to become a beating? Why do you stop hitting children when they can fight back? So help me if i found out that any of the kids i care about were being beaten, i wouldnt shy away to show their parents "dicipline" the same way. They acted out, they used violence, they have to learn. Might aswell use their own methods. They have royally fucked up my life and by doing so, earned their ticket to the "i miss my kids" club.
We would get sent to the bathroom had to sit on the side of the tub with my dads belt draped over our lap and had to think about what we did wrong, then was asked if we deserved a spanking, if we said yes we would not get a spanking, but if we said no we would get the spanking, we would have rather got the spanking
As my son reached his teenage years my Pops would hear about the spanking and would tell me to take it easy on him. I couldn't help but laugh and say spare me, you didn't take it easy on me haha.
"Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him." Proverbs 22:15 - The Bible clearly states the way to raise children. It's too bad more people don't stand on the truths found in God's word! The world would be a much better place. We raised 4 children, and they are all now productive citizens. Sometimes, when I was ready to spank them, I would quote that verse and I would tell them, "I am NOT raising little fools!" Please understand that there IS a difference in child training and child abuse. If you train a child properly when they are small, they will know the difference. And if you start when they are small, you won't have to discipline as much as they get older. Another Bible verse - "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes." - Proverbs 13:24 So I also told our children, "I'm doing this because I love you!" There are many more scriptures in the Bible that are a great help in raising children, if you just open God's word and search. So I guess my advice would be this - raise your children the way that God says - don't raise fools and LOVE your children often! YEE YEE!
Correct.
never mind what the bible says about spanking your kids, it's wrong!!! trust me I know....that bible is a cult which people fall into....
Context matters. The original word for "children" to the intended audience was not referring to under elementary school age kids. Probably not before 8 years old, from what I've studied. There was a pattern of a separate distinct words to refer to the early years. That's the age range I've seen physical discipline passed down from generation to generation the most.
I was raised and so were my siblings without being spanked and all us are productive citizens. I do not believe that “rod” is only about spanking. Sparing the rod is discipline but that can be time outs, taking something away, grounding etc. some parents don’t know how to step away and they spank in anger which then leads to abuse. So, don’t spank use other methods as you put it don’t spare the rod.
@@lori1508 I agree with how Granger and Amber explained it that Godly parental instruction includes a spectrum of discipline forms. It includes spanking, but it doesn’t mandate spanking as the only option.
There have been studies done on how spanking effects the brain. Whether you do it with anger or not, somehow, it’s still the same effect. Also lights up the same part of the brain as sexual abuse. So great job. Just because you can’t see the detriments, doesn’t mean they don’t exist. Get over your power trip and learn to discipline correctly. Your child isn’t out to piss you off, they need to be guided and taught love by their parents, not fear.
Tell us Karen how would you discipline your kid when he’s acting like a mean, stupid, violent little shit head?
Right, lights up same area of brain that makes you go "My butt hurts!". What a profound piece of research into psychosomatics
You can do as much research as you want. It’s still not gonna matter. I myself was whooped when I was a kid. I turned out fine. Every single one of my friends was whooped all turned out fine almost every person I know in my life has been whooped parents who think whooping your kid is abuse or fucking delusional, grow the fuck up
@@blinded6502 If you think sexual abuse is "My butt hurts!" you're an actual idiot, a dangerous idiot I might add.
I was not spanked as a child nor did a spank any of my children and we all turned out great. My kids would have probably preferred a quick spanking then then a talk and consequences. Not sure the message spanking gives a child? You do something I don't like, i'm going to hurt you? Are you hitting hard enough to cause pain? I think it's a confusing concept. I can hit you when you do something I don't like but it's not ok to hit others when they do the same. Why not raise a child you haven't purposefully inflicted pain on "to teach them a lesson" when there are other healthier options to raise happy, obedient, respectful adults? To each their own I guess.
So well said, I couldn't agree more
What do you consider great?
WAKE UP! My dad was spanking me and said he will keep hitting harder if I kept crying. He called me a brat, a baby, an idiot. Oh, thats totally not abuse! HOW IS IT NOT?! Hitting your kids is not discipline….your scaring your kids wich is not right.
Exactly
but its correct to spank kids if they get mischievous....i have kids ...i do spank them...and they too know that they were wrong and hence deserved to be spanked
No see you got it wrong your dad was not doing it right whooping your kids is discipline just not that way
Yeah scaring your kids straight. How would you do it? You definitely sound like an idiot.
It becomes abuse when you call your kids names through it. Crying is normal part of a whooping before, during & after. Since everyone’s different some people prefer a good hiding or react & understand what they’ve done better than grounding or a time out.
I was spanked as a child and I do not agree with spanking. Spanking is lazy parenting. You do not need to hit a child to make them mind you. Children should not fear you, you should be a safe place.
Seeing them up for failure
Some people mistake teaching love taps as punches.
Spanking takes way more self-discipline to administer promptly and calmly than screaming at your kids in frustration or constantly running around trying to get them to stop behaving badly. Spanking is also just a tool in the toolbox, it is not entirely discipline in and of itself. There’s so much more teaching, correcting, loving, and learning that goes into it. You just have a misunderstanding of what it is
@user-uo4ro8jo4i You are ignorant! There are years' worth of research proving that you should NOT spank or hit your children.
@WindowsXP-y5lI respect your religion but I don’t respect the fact that you would force your own beliefs on to a child physically. Choosing to know the harmful effects of spanking isn’t lazy, it’s creative and people like that make the world a better place. There’s people who believe one side, and there’s people who are connected to both. You should stay educated
I was never spanked as a child. Neither my two sons. I talked to my boys if they did something wrong. Also they did not have curfews. They knew they were nothing to do after 12 p.m. come on home. Both have college degrees, sweet wife’s and one son has two children. Both are Christians and go to church. One son is in his last semester second degree in the Baptist Seminary. God blessed me with awesome sons.
Exactly
Spanking is just unnecessary!
Finally a sane comment. I'm an atheist but well done on outstanding parenting.
@@RenaissanceEarCandy ye
DISGUSTING PEOPLE WHO SUPPORT HITTING CHILDREN FOR BEING CHILDREN. WOULD ALSO ACCUSE A MAN OF BEING A MONSTER IF HE DID THAT TO HIS WIFE . WE ALL KNOW THEY PLAY UP AND ITS PURE BETRAYAL NASTINESS..so who deserves it more . You can't say it's ok for children and not for the rest of us . I say it's never ok for children. Absolutely acceptable for adults men or women. Hurt someone else be prepared to get hurt .
Never appropriate to teach your child “ I love you so much i’m going to hit you “ and you can say it’s just a pop but the reality is we adults are twice their size and we are using our hands to hit our child .
agree! its still a violent , agressive movement even if it doesnt hurt
Yup and it straightens them up real quick
@@joey6451your opinion
@8:14 is the classic definition of Stockholm Syndrome; the more often it's done, the more often they believe it's normal; and the cycle will continue.
The Bible says he who does not chasteneth his child Hateth his child. I never heard any counting with my parents, correction was swift and strong. We had no doubt between right and wrong
As a now 26 year old.. so excuse me- (if I have no room to talk since I'm not yet a parent), although I think I would've been traumatized as a child if my parents used physical discipline like spanking when I was a child. I did not grow up in a authoritative household, therefore there was not tons of discipline in which I can see where Amber is coming from on the whole she wished she had more as a child, although I like that I didn't have that type of discipline because I know that my personality would've resented my parents in the future if so. There are other ways that are less abusive in my opinion!
Spanking isn't abuse it's correction, abuse is hitting a kid for no reason. There's a clear difference
@@gorillawhale1046 There is NEVER a reason for a grown adult to hit a child. PERIOD! Unless it's a life or death situation...a RARE circumstance
No to spanking. The rod was used to guide not hit.
Are you referencing the rod from scripture?
@@bowed305 hi David, yes, according to scriptures.
@@lindahubbs8146 Interesting, I've never heard that take before. Need to chew on that for a bit.
"If you strike him with a rod, he will not die." The verse is not referring to guide.
@@ng3069 I've never thought of it as guide either, but I did compare a few translations after seeing this post. Most do seem to indicate some type of use of the rod to be in contact with the child's body. so guide doesn't seem to fit the context.
Granger and Amber the kids sure make great models. I know we’re not suppose to wish our kids to grow up fast but I’ll will be so proud to see London to become a vet. She will become a great one.
I remember my dad having to come home from the business and momma saying. The kids did abc and we grew up very well as y’all to. I think they need more of that today.
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100%, she has the personality and mindset to be an exceptional vet.
Spanking is totally fine I agree each kid responds different. My husband says don’t make me get out the Jesus belt and they know ok we need to repent and mind. We only spank not out of anger. We both grew up that we had to respect our parents.
Thank you guys for cause and truth for children. Sometimes do need that, don't okay, goes sit down. You already have a spoon, anything. And I'm glad that you also show that you do. Love your kids because so many people think all will. You spank them? You don't love them. The facts of the matter is there's so many people that grew up. They got spanked and it wasn't because nobody because people didn't love them was because people did love them, and they needed some kind of correction beyond just time out because time out does not always work. Specially when you're kids saying oh I want time out. I'm okay with LOLI don't care if you take that away all that kind of stuff, then it's like, okay, well, they do care about how it feels, so if they get a sweat on the butt, then, okay, that's a starting point, hopefully the listen to You and not. After all there again, hopefully they'll listen with other discipline.
But when they're custing at you and hitting you before you even touched them. And being abused towards you because they're not getting whatever they want. Or because Hey, show time is done. And we need to dinner, that's there has to be another solution, there has to be something.
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I raised 2 and never spanked. Either time out or took away electronic devices. Taking cell phones or X-box did the trick !
Thank you for saying this. We have a strong conviction against it and I don't get to hear a lot of testimonies where other forms of consistent correction reaped healthy results.
@@RachelDee there is zero evidence that hitting works. The exact opposite in fact. As a Christian I am so sickened hearing people say “whip em” about their own children. Repulsive 🤮
@@melanie7068 yeah, I'm very very very cautious towards it. Most of my friends who spank do not have well adjusted kids. I'm an orthodox Christian that's studied hermeneutics. I believe the interpretation of those verses is passed on without thinking about it and its actually other historical and contextual things that make whooping young kids the norm.
The Bible says to. That’s all the evidence you need. -G
@@melanie7068 You should read Proverbs 23:13 and 13:24 again.
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i dont agree with a kid having to wait till the dad gets home for their punishment when they did something when with the mother
Yeah, I've never cared for that approach. Tends to make dad the villain, and what dad wants to come home to kids who are dreading him being there?
I loved my dad MUCH more because of his discipline. He was the best man I’ve ever known. -G
@@TheSmithsTV Same here with my Dad.
I disagree with it because in my opinion it teaches the child to respect the Dad more.
Do you have a close relationship with your father?
Nice watching the sun set through your lens. We have trees and other stuff that block our view
Only if talking dose not work,!then Spank with knowledge, love and don’t be angry.
I only got swatted twice, once for going down in the creek bottom during a flood and not getting home on time, mom n dad thought I'd drowned... and once for swinging 20 feet up a tree and screaming like a banshee. I was told I should only scream when in trouble. Learned to be home on time, and don't scream. Notice I didn't get in trouble for the flooded creek bottom or swinging high in the tree. Folks just expected kids to do risky stuff, but use common sense.
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So appreciate this conversation!! Thank you
Not everyone has the right state of mind to spank. Even if you wait until you are calm, spanking can bring out anger in you. So I would not recommend it if you have a tendency to be quick to anger.
There's two sides to the coin with spanking. One is you're spanking your kid bceause you don't like what he's doing and trying to put him in line with physical force and fear. The other is spanking your kid, discussing why he's getting spanked and you reconcile immediately.
Unfortunately, the latter is rarely ever done. I was not only spanked, but hit, pulled by the ear, whipped, and on top of all that, always left alone to cry alone. I'm not denying spanking COULD be effective if done effectively, however, I am not a supporter of it considering what happened to me. When my emotionally dysfunctional 5 year old son is having one of his tantrums and hitting either me or wife, we sit on the floor and wrap our arms and legs around him until he calms down constantly telling him that we love him and we're keeping him and everyone else safe, then after he's calm, we talk about acceptable choices. Slowly, but surely, it's going to sink in, just like with every kid. But I want him to know that his emotions are valid and we do not try to repress them, like was done with me growing up.
Did you ever do the latter method with your son?
@@thor5446 no, I'm not a believer in hitting for discipline. Especially with neuro diverse children - which my son is.
@@Iesous27i am also neurodiverse (autistic & adhd) i would never hit my kid if i had one.
do you remembere the noise when your dad was taking off his belt
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@@lanak.fromnewmexico1143 thank you Lana. How are you doing today friend?!
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@@lanak.fromnewmexico1143 glad you're doing okay. We're doing pretty good. Waiting on the arrival of our newest grandson. He should be born tomorrow or Saturday.
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I was spanked a lot when I was a kid. I was a mean kid at times. WORST spankings were those my grandmother gave me. She's sit me down, and talk to me about what I did and I would just wish she'd go ahead and spank me and not talk to me because she was so soft, and loving, and it felt so bad I had disappointed her that the talking was worse than the spankings. I grew up and know better than, say, if I had stood in a corner or not been spanked or talked to. I see so many parents now days that just tell their child to stop, but don't do anything more than that. Then, a few years down the road that child without discipline thinks nothing about what they do and that it has no consequences. Spanking isn't for all kids, like you said with London. Sometimes a stern, fatherly or motherly talking to and explanation is all they need. Sometimes taking things away is better as they get older. And some a pop or two on the rear is all it takes. You really have to know your own children to know which is best. And knowing this as you guys do shows how great parents you are. I literally could live with you guys just to watch you with your kids because my wife and I never were able to have kids and watching how you all are so wonderful with the kids makes me so proud to have found you and your family. Take care.
A tap on the butt is ok if granted - but I could never hurt my child or make them (THAT) afraid of me. I have six and they were all very well behaved (not always perfect) but I taught them from small on....the word NO.....and I spent a lot of time with them talking to them explaining why they shouldn't or should do things. I never moved things.....I would tell them NO that's mommy's and bring them to their toys.....it's being consistent and not lazy that makes the difference! AS they get older make small disciplines don't lose it and not keep to your word...example.....you can't watch tv for a month - when that is being unreasonable.....say one night or an hour or two....etc. :)
Thanks for speaking without trying to spare anyone’s feelings, whoop em. How did we lose these strong men and women and come to these butt hurt young people? We dropped the ball.
I appreciate you saying that we dropped the ball. It always frustrates me when people criticize how young people are without taking at least part of the blame for that. They didn't turn out that way all by themselves.
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Disagree 😭 like you guys but no..
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I truly thank you for this post. I think this is very important in raising a child. If your going to spare that rod, you will spoil the child.
That is absolutely not true. In my country it is illegal to spank your kids yet the crime rate is higher in America. Violence is wrong unless self defense
@@Unbreakable245 this video is coming from a biblical perspective in regards to spanking so your wrong
@@cogicmj Well i am not religious and it is harmful to raise your children from religious perspectives. I am not doing that. My kids will not be going to church every sunday (unless they want to) and they will be free to practice any religion they want but i'm not gonna force religion onto my kids. It is 2023 and i can't believe traditional families still exists, a lot of kids in traditional families are unhappy because traditional parents don't really love their kids or at least not as much as modern parents do it feels like.
There's this great book I recently read called The New Dare to Discipline by Dr. James Dobson. It's Christian based and explains things in a way I've never heard before, finding a good balance of love and discipline. In the book he says that past the age of 6, other things work better (Like how you mentioned getting things taken away). Would highly recommend!
Yes they should just have long had it is needed discipline is important kids need a strong leader and it needs to come from parents I believe a lot of problems with young people is because they were never disciplined when they needed it
I haven’t watched the video yet but I’m putting my opinion in the comments now. I won’t spank my kids I don’t think it’s right if you do it hard enough it also could be abuse. So I won’t do it I respect everyone else’s opinion but I won’t do it to my kids. My mom did it my grand father did it to my dad and I still won’t forgive him my dad hates his dad for spanking him as a child my dad said if his dad hit him that hard now days he would go to jail. I don’t want my kids hating me in my opinion I think there’s better ways to handle things then getting mad and hitting your kids.
After experiencing & witnessing physical abuse(not by my parents), I’m very cautious of physical punishment. I almost feel like I’m saying I’m going to hit you because you hit your brother and hitting is bad. With my first two I tried to be the disciplinarian because their dad was too rough to all of us. I do know that by the age of 2 if you don’t have control of the discipline in your home you are already behind. Even babies 12-18 months are learning how to push boundaries. Make your no NO! Stay consistent. I read never use your hand. I had a little wooden spoon that I’d pop against my leg to judge the force. I love the adults my children are though each one of them went through some rough times dealing with childhood issues.
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Lord knows this subject will cause all kinds of this & that. Every child, parent & experiences are different in life. Abuse & corrective actions are 2 entirely different things. “Spanking” is fine as a corrective action. As parent it is our duty & responsibility to teach our children right from wrong. Actions have consequences. Respect is something taught. I commend you all for sharing this “sensitive” subject. I was spanked as a child & like yourself Granter I don’t hate my parents for it. At the time I deserved it. It was a lesson & I learned from it.
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I so agree never spank out of anger. I would spank if it was life threatening like running out in the street or knowing the end result of the situation was going to cause harm to your child, like sticking something in a electrical outlet.
My son is 24 and now is a time for reflection, I asked him was I fair when I disciplined him and he said “Yes I knew where I stood and if I didn’t straighten up I was in for the consequence.” We taught him from a small age a saying that help him think, Every action I make comes with a consequence and whether good or bad I have to except that consequence. Hope that helps.
Absolutely! Spare the rod! 😊keep kids in check!
Good advice!!👍
Beautiful sunset, thanks for sharing
I agree children need clear discipline spanking does not hurt if not over done. Age appropriate discipline does have a factor also. Kids these days get away with too much.
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I'm Gen X and kids back then are and were more respectful. Nowadays it's too easy to call out abuse. Society has changed.
Spanking kids is the same as physical abuse! If you think you're allowed to spank your kids when they misbehave then an adult can smack you when you're misbehaving, and you are not allowed to fight back. If this last point upsets you then imagine how the kid feels been physically abused by someone who is supposed to love them!
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I had to learn how to spank because I was beaten as a child...to the point of wells and huge bruises by my father. Yes..never in anger, but always in love to teach right from wrong. Kids with no discipline today, are our criminals tomorrow. From Montgomery al 🙏 ❤️
I can relate to much of your comment, although Mom was the disciplinarian in our family. She could be a scary little woman, at times! 🙀 Most of the time, just the threat was enough! I agree that kids that had little to no discipline, become disrespectful & belligerent adults & even criminals!
Yes!!
I got spanked as a child and my husband didn't. I think all kids respond to different things! Our 3 oldest the boys needed it and girl who also the youngest at the time would be so sad and so she really only got 1 1 swat.
They didn't need it, you just never looked into the many alternative methods that would have worked perfectly well.
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I don't think kids should be spanked. We teach them not to hit, yet people spank them, makes no sense. IMO, for what it's worth. You can stand them in the corner, or take things away. It really works. My son has never spanked his son, and that boy is the kindest kid ever! I never spanked mine, the corner worked great.
100%. Don’t be mean and don’t hit. But when you don’t do what I want I’m going to hit you. How confusing and conflicting
Agreed.
At a certain age, corner time doesn't work if they realize they can just step out of the corner. Kid's should absolutely know how to hit, fighting is an essential part of life, should be reserved for the most extreme of situations. What kids need to learn is when is it appropriate to fight. If they start it, they are in the wrong, if they finish it, then they did right. If London (who is bigger) gets physical first, then London learns that someone bigger steps in and finishes what she started.
@@MfckingDye dear lord you need help lol. Bless you. I hope you can find help.
@@GohappygirlNah bro you need help because you don't know how to discipline your kids and they just won't care and do whatever they want
There are so many issues that I have with my parents. But being spanked for being out of line and doing things that I knew were wrong is not one of them. I've never resented them for getting spanked.
It sounds like you didn't respect them or their words. Perhaps they weren't competent or good role models. Maybe they didn't explain things to you or answer your questions. I wouldn't have listened to them either and I would have gotten spanked.
@Andrea Weston. I somehow understand what you mean.
Why stop when you’re young? Do you miss getting hit?
Stockholm syndrome
@@Scarmanderg Exactly!!
I don't think there is a thing wrong with spanking kids. I was spanked countless times, and never did I not deserve it. I was a defiant kid and needed correction. My dad never did it in anger, it was always with the correction and discipline in mind. My daughter does occasionally get a spank, but it usually isn't necessary, most of the time just the suggestion brings the behavior around anyways. I do agree with not counting, there's only one chance to do what you're supposed to, I'm not gonna try to drag it out of you. Kids need hard boundaries, and as they grow up the fruits of discipline show. I've never resented that my parents used physical discipline, it made me a respectful man that understands boundaries and appropriate behavior. I wish more parents would put that much effort in, we're raising adults, not children
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Yes kayden got a spanking and is being respectful again
How do you get spanking?
@@sukhpreetkauraroraarora1637 children need a exorcism
Nope, never, absolutely not.
Absolutely, if they need it! I was raised that way, and I was a difficult child 😆. I came out just fine, no therapy for me.
Same here.
Same
Amen, Ditto, same here
Same
Yep.
My Momma made me pick my own switch off the weeping willow tree. If I chose a real small one she would go get a big one. I have nothing but respect and love for my Momma. She was a single Mom and I was a brat and my brother was a bigger brat so we deserved those spankings. Did y’all get paddled by the principal in school too? I did one time for something that someone else did but I was blamed for it. When my Mom read the note I was sent home with for it she asked me about it. I told her that I didn’t do anything wrong and had no part in using paint on the chalkboard and I never wrote any nasty words on the chalkboard. I told her who did do it and I told her the principal didn’t care to hear me say anything about it so I got paddled hard with his big wooden paddle that bruised my butt. To say the least Momma went into school with me in tow the very next morning and confronted the principal about the situation. He was completely caught off guard when she said I believe you need to be given the same treatment you gave my daughter and without explanation as well. I expect both your buttocks to be bruised as badly as my little girl’s are. He attempted to say that I painted the chalkboard but she cut him off and asked him if he asked me if I was involved. He stumbled for words knowing he just automatically assumed I was guilty because I was sitting at my desk doing nothing wrong other than telling the two kids that did do it that they were going to be in big trouble. They threatened me with a beating if I said anything. I guess because I was the only one in the classroom I was automatically guilty. So I got one lick for each naughty word on the chalkboard and there were six colorful words. I was so scared of the principal because he was so angry I just cried and took the paddling. After it was over I felt so humiliated and I was made to apologize to the teacher, the entire class, and the janitors who had to clean it. My Mom could be heard throughout the halls using a few of those very same colorful words on the chalkboard while she was dutifully schooling the principal about the use of his big wooden paddle with tiny holes in it. He attempted to ask why I never said anything about not doing it and my Mom said to him if you were a little girl in second grade in a new school and an angry man pulls her out of her chair takes her to his office and tells her to bend over a chair while being scolded at and told he will be correcting her bad behavior by use of the paddle. While striking my little girl scaring her terribly and telling her that that type of filth is not going to happen to his school. To say the least the principal apologized to me and my Mom and did punish the two kids that did do the naughty words. I feel like he should have had to apologize to me in front of the whole school, but he never padded me again after that! Mess with Momma’s baby y’all might as well run and hide!😂
Granger that was exactly what my dad said to me.
I was belted as well and it was humiliating and just made me angry. I never did it. I punished by putting them in their room. No toys no TV. No hitting. 👎
Why don't you try explaining their behavior to them and why it is not good?
I waited for your answers, nothing out of anger is always good, they would say once a child gets to knowing age (4) a child no longer need to be warned. I whole heartedly loved your answer, for it was the same as mine.
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From another video: "Not only do I think spanking's acceptable, but I think it's one of the best. It's effective, it's quick, it's over, it's done and the kid can go off and play again and not have to sit in a corner or languish in [solitary confinement] or something like that. It's not about: getting angry, I'm mad, I'm gonna whack my kid. -No, it's about: "Okay, you did something [totally unacceptable] and you're going to get spanked for this." I hear opponents to spank say, "I don't want my child to be violent." -I have five kids, 10 and under, and the exact opposite is true. All my friends have loving parents that spanked them as kids and now they've grown up to be great functional, well functional adults who respect their parents and are glad their parents spanked them. Parenting is more than just I spank or I don't spank. If you're a terrible parent, and you think that spanking's gonna fix your kid, you're wrong."
Obviously parents shouldn't enjoy spanking -but because they don't like to do it doesn't mean it's bad.
There's good physical discipline and totally unacceptable physical discipline. Most kids don't need to be, and shouldn't be, spanked. However, nothing wrong with spanking strong willed kids for severe disciplinary infractions after other means are exhausted.
*"Break the will, not the spirit."* -I love that.
Amen 🙏 kids know days they think that they kind get Away with everything spank their butts love 💗 from Ohio Irene and god bless
Hill county is so beautiful and so is your family.
My adult daughters got butts swatted maybe a handful of times each. They were respectful and good citizens. One is a great parent, the other a great auntie
Brian, along with Ben and Hayden need to film more episodes for the Yee Yee Channel. The Smith's are so fortunate to have great employees.
Love this your so spot on.
I love the black antlers that’s awesome
Yes they should, as long as it’s not done out of anger.
I admire you guys as parents SO much, so I absolutely appreciate your perspective on this!
I agree, if you as the parent are angry when doing the disciplining, there should be a pause or maybe a different parent to give the spanking. You guys are doing great! Your kids will be grateful for the way you raised them when they are adults
That was my mom’s rule as well. She never spanked out of anger. She only sparked out of correction.
@@carter2671 that’s still abuse. If an adult hits you it’s assault but not hitting a kid somehow?
No they are not good parents
There is never ever a reason to be violent towards kids and u shouldn't be supporting this
It's 2023
Get with the times
Violence towards kids is wrong, whether it's a spanking or a belt beating, it's wrong
@@Error_-ct2vp the conservatives ruined america. The laws must be changed to be in line with the United Nations recommendations when it comes to children's rights
Not being angry does not justify the wrong doing. Protect your kids don’t be the the one they need protection from
After the pop didnt hurt… momma would twist our 6’1 ear down to her level. Worked haha!
All I am going to say is 1. fall launch is making me broke; 2. gorgeous sunset; 3. Mavvy may be a 1yo but that boy needs some shoes on his feet out there on those rocks.
I love that jacket!!!!
I agree,I survived being hit with a belt,and I’m sure i deserved it every time! But when I had my own children I made a Pat with myself I would never hit with a belt,and I didn’t ,I didn’t have to spank my kids very often,I was more of a Yeller,and it usually got across to them,moms yelling I better stop or run,because I know what’s coming next,a child should be disciplined
This is a hard question. I have read both sides of the story.
As a child I was spanked and usually I deserved some discipline. USUALLY.
There were other ways my mother could have dealt with me. And most of us can as well.
My nephew was naughty 1 day. He found himself eating a bowl of cold baked beans for lunch. (If you didn't guess he HATED baked beans warm, but cold 🤢)
I gave my nieces the horrible torture of making them watch an old, boring, black and white movie. (The way the reacted you'd think I was torturing them.)
Showing up at your child's school and embarrassing them, that's a good one.
Get creative.
No kids should not be spanked. All it does is teach them violence is OK when your upset with someone. Not rocket science people.
I'm sorry but wrong ..but each to their own opinion..it doesn't teach violence..it can save their soul ,the Bible says..
@@kc5gos11 the Bible teaches plenty of violence.
It only took one time when my kids were little. After a talk, and they didn't listen, knowing what they did was wrong or especially hurtful to someone else, then came the licken. When I was little, my dad would say " go pick a switch!" And you got your hind end whooped. Didn't happen very often though. Two of my brothers seemed like got it a couple times a week. 🤭. There were six of us so it was hard to get everyone ready for anything. Like church or school. I was the oldest so I'd help get the younger ones ready. But it seemed like those two brothers wouldn't be anywhere to be found. Always made us late. My Mama hated to be late for things. So they'd have to go get a switch after church or whatever. One's passed now, God bless him and the other is doing great. God bless him as well. Love all the new "Yee Yee" apparel! I saw at least 3-4 items I want! Probably more! LoL. Maverick is so adorable! " Ranger Rides!"!! LoL. All of the kids are adorable actually!! LoL. You two sure make cuties!! God bless always 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏.
I remember years ago our pastor, in a sermon, said that God made butts for spanking. It is a padded area. I did spank, sad to say at first in anger but i learned to cool down first. Our youth were more polite and better behaved but also going to church helped them to be better adults. I was always afraid that God would see me doing wrong so i tried to not do wrong. I did, God saw me🙏, but God forgave me.
Yes ! I was !
Like you said, there is a big difference in a smack on the butt and a beating.
Parents shouldn’t spank there kids
And if I could add one more comment, If you're consistent at discipline from 2-5, I can almost guarantee you won't have major problem teens.
What'd she say for vet school? 😆 she said it so fast
We saved spankings for moments where the kids did something that wasn’t safe for them only. For instance, running into the street. But it needs to stop when they reach the age where talking and reasoning works. My husband spanked our son bare butt when he was 12. I told him never again. But spankings were rare in our house. I believe they can get over used and make the kids feel it is ok to hit back.
If they didn't know they shouldn't run into the street, why on earth would you spank them? That's preposterous.
what was the bare one at 12 for?
Whoop ‘em. Couldn’t agree more. Love your explanation of when to do it. Anger spanking is usually a bad thing.
Yeah how about whooping your wife when she's playing up ? Let me guess I'm a monster . No your the monster child abuser . Only adults should be physically attacked for bad things no-one else . No adult should be able to live with our the same consequences.
No, fuck that.
I feel sick.
Not sure about whoop ‘em. Lol it just sounds harsh. I’m not a fan of spanking, but sometimes I feel it’s necessary.
@MsSocial very effective when your kids thinks it's okay to hit others.
I don't agree with "spanking" there has to be other options.I'm shocked and disappointed to hear this.
I completely agree, this will be the last video of theirs I will watch.
In the Bible it says if you spare the rod you spoil the child if the child doses something that deserved a spanking then it is up to you to give it to them, that doesn’t mean you give them a beating, do obey God or not?
The blue yee yee shirt needs a pocket for us working people for pens notepad, tabacco 😊
The word of God speaks about correcting children..
Was such a beautiful sunset how special sharing with your gorgeous family much love and God bless always from Cyprus x
Nah dawg make em hold there arms out Straight put 1-3 good sized books on there arms and make an hold it for how even old they are like a 7yo would get 7mins. That's how I was punished lol
I am now 23 years of age and diagnosed with several harsh mental illnesses that stem from my upbringing.
The simple fact that i was taught to fear violence as punishment for minute and even irrelevant details as a child that could not defend itself makes me want to throw up. Doesnt help that it was a conservative religious household which views i really did not agree with.
I wasnt beaten continuously but frequently enough to fear my family for the rest of my life. The psychotic breaking point for me was when my father went off on my mother and swapped to me when i tried to stop him. At 13 years old.
They are still married, and i contact them every quarter year if i really have to.
They are trying to build a relationship with me now that im in my 20s and i think i'd rather kiss the wall at 300 km/h than have a conversation that goes deeper than "good weather" with them.
A parent that uses corporal punishment of any kind, no matter how harsh or not, is an adult thats out of control.
"Its not a beating its just a little spank", where does the spanking end? How hard do you have to hit a child for it to become a beating? Why do you stop hitting children when they can fight back?
So help me if i found out that any of the kids i care about were being beaten, i wouldnt shy away to show their parents "dicipline" the same way. They acted out, they used violence, they have to learn. Might aswell use their own methods.
They have royally fucked up my life and by doing so, earned their ticket to the "i miss my kids" club.
Plz shut up
We would get sent to the bathroom had to sit on the side of the tub with my dads belt draped over our lap and had to think about what we did wrong, then was asked if we deserved a spanking, if we said yes we would not get a spanking, but if we said no we would get the spanking, we would have rather got the spanking
Wow, never heard of that approach, but I like it a lot. Sounds very effective.
I support a good ole whooping! Spare the rod, spoil the child. Ya'll are blessed to have each other.
As my son reached his teenage years my Pops would hear about the spanking and would tell me to take it easy on him. I couldn't help but laugh and say spare me, you didn't take it easy on me haha.
I'm sorry, but I don't believe you should be a parent. That's pure abuse and I sincerely hope your son sees this and cuts you off.
@@RenaissanceEarCandy right on. My son is pretty respectful now. Have a good one Karen.
@@RenaissanceEarCandy thanks for editing your comment to leave out most of the stuff I don't care about. 👍🏻