How Migration affects Children left behind || The Buss Earz Podcast Episode 24
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- Опубліковано 6 вер 2022
- Parents that leave Jamaica for a better life often do so by themselves, leaving behind children. This can have psychological effects on the child when growing up. I will discuss this thoroughly. Follow my socials
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I remember my mother’s husband filed for her in Canada and her papers came through and mine didn’t but she was determined to not leave without me so we ended up staying in Jamaica. Years later I ended up applying for college in Canada and now we both are able to be in Canada and travel back and forth.
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I love this so much proud of you🙏🏾♥️
This is truly LOVE!
I agree 100% because my mom went to the US when I was 15. Haven’t seen her since and I’m 30 now. The multiple new school shoes, bags, clothes, name brand things felt like nothing compared to a simple hug. I would have traded everything to have her in person. He’s right! The thrill of migrating and leaving your children comes at a cost and very hefty price too! People need to understand that children don’t spell ‘love’ the way adults do. They spell it “T-I-M-E”
Migrating for “a better life” as a child away from your primary parent (mother) hits just as hard 😢 Sending your child to foreign don’t always go as the parents expect! I came to foreign at 11 and I was 23 years old when I first saw my mom again. I could not help but cry the ENTIRE first day I was back in JA with her. Tears just flowing! I mean crying while eating, crying while sitting down just trying to talk to her, rough! I went through a lot but thankfully things didn’t go south for me either 🙌🏾🙏🏽
Oh wow, this is so similar to my story. I left jamaica at 11 to live with my fathers side haven’t seen my mother in 10 years, I’m now 21, suffer from depression and anxiety, don’t talk to my father, and I don’t have that love for his family because they sat and watched as I got mentally and physically abused.
I migrated at 7 and saw my mom after 8 years and I had the same experience as you it goes both way as you said it’s not only the parents leaving. Yes it’s a better opportunity but you are the best option for your child to stay around if you are a parent that loves and cares for your child.
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I left when I was 15 and I feel like I had nobody. I am 24 now and still, not able to see my parents and all my true friends are in Jamaica.
Every podcast gets deeper and deeper. As the saying goes 'who feels it knows it", and I felt this one to my core. This migration thing plays havoc ALL THE WAY ROUND. So many of us are walking around with wounds that never seen to heal because I cried the whole time listening to this. There are no winners in this because someone is always left behind. Keep this going Dale because you are pulling us together even though it's painful. 😞😢🥺
This is exactly what I'm going through. My dad left when I was 8 and didn't come back until I was 14. Been on filing how long now until I have 3 kids of my own. Him leaving me caused a lot of things to happen in my life. Up to now I'm still depressed about it. OMG! I'M IN TEARS BECAUSE I CAN RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH!😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 AND NOW I'M FACING THIS WITH MY PARTNER😭😭😭😭😭 SWEAR THIS HURTS SO MUCH
Hugs 🤗
My aunty when me did a live with her a bare “When u fada a come fi u? U need fi hurry up and move out man”. Like seh me nav feelings to dawg 😪
You poor thing. I pray that it worked out for you.
@@beverleyreid7572 several cups been overflowed with blessing since then mon 💯 but thanks for your comment 🙏🏽
Rare when tears will come to MY eyes, but this cut into the depths of my soul. Was 1978 when my family split. All these years I suppressed all the darkness…the losses and damages. I’m still cold as ice, but chose to focus on my health and wellnes so as to not dwell on the emptiness I still carry. I hit the gym hard to cope all these years and bcz of that I remain youthful in appearance, but it burns my soul when people hate on me so hard, not knowing that its daily damage control for me, so I can live in this world the rest of my days with a sane mind. This shit is destructive to the spirit but everybody like to brush it off and tell you to toughen up and smile bcz tomorrow will be a brighter day. Total BS!!! Don’t even know if healing at this age is even possible with soooo much time already gone and the parents dead and gone from the stress of pursuing “the dream” with the intent to come back for me. All kinds of evil happened in their absence. I missed out on them and they missed out on me. Everybody’s dream turn nightmare😣😣. I needed this deep dive discussion bcz I doubt any therapist have any solutions for my broken soul, but THIS listen can be considered a start for me. I’ll start with this right here!!!…every little bit help, so thank you young man🙏🏽🙂❤️
It’s so hard for us who were left behind. If you connect with the right therapist, things can get lighter. Continue to work on yourself and give yourself self-compassion and grace. You are worthy of living a life at ease.
Oh Sundiana, my heart goes out to you. I can only imagine what you went through. I am glad inspite of everything, you are channeling this pain into something positive and not self destruction. You can only pray to the Lord to help you overcome these emotions and you continue to do the best you can for the things you do have control over 🫂.
Oh sorry that your parents wasnt there for you especially when you need them most but you can still heal sometimes when you meet the right People meaning loving and caring People there is still People out there that are helpful dont ever give up, just for example Dale is loving and caring enough to talk about these things, and dont forget the creator is always there (universe) continue to take care of yourself ❤
Hate mothers and Father’s Day to this day. People just don’t get it so I just go ghost on those days. Only who feels it knows it
This is a topic that needs to be addressed on so many levels. I personally had some of these experiences. Children are always on the losing end of the spectrum.
A lot of this resonates with me. My dad did file for me, but when I came overseas to him and his new family, it was hard for me to have a bond with them. I love my sisters but I don’t have that “bond”. I focus on my career and my money and I feel isolated from my family home and abroad because I have very little bond with both ends. Friends are my family 👍
i had a friend come from Jamaica 🇯🇲 and the SAME SITUATION! new family her father created here wasnt good to her and she had siblings left a jamaica not close!! She came working at my job and she became my “sister/friend “ ! i taught her everything American 🇺🇸 and took her to My family Events and she became my family
As a barrel pickney miself, this hit home yf. My parents always tried their best but to this day I always feel alone, its hard to ask for help, always feel like an outsider even with the people i was staying with. Now when i have a child me ago make sure say me nuh in a situation where me so busy trying to provide for my child that I'm not around to actually parent my child.
This is a big big topic that needs to be discussed continuously. Thank you for taking it up and for being so vulnerable in sharing your story. I’m an adult now and I always reflect on the PTA situation and how my heart sank every time no parent showed up for me. I felt unimportant and less than the children whose parents were always there (their parents and the teachers had a relationship and that benefited those children in school too.) Thats support. Thanks for touching this topic. We miss out on sex education, having physical protection from predators and from having that support we needed to step out boldly into the world. This is soul deep! Keep talking about it. It’s necessary because the pain from our parent’s migration is real! It affects everything. Thank you! Thank you so much, Dale. We needed this.
A lot of parents don’t understand they just think is about money
Or you ungrateful if you speak of it.
This hits really close to home, because I am one of those children that was left in Jamaica while my mother migrated, I was at a very young age to even remember her. I did not meet my mother until I was 13 years old, when she finally came to visit. She sent for us when we were in our very late teens and one us was in our twenties. We do not really have a bond with our mother, we talk, but it is very surface level conversations. We cannot discuss with her how her migrating, not really communicating and not supporting us in the way she should have and how it affected us. These discussions would have helped, but she does not want to talk about it.
I had the greatest upbringing in Jamaica with my grandparents. Some things such as where we went to school were affected, because of the times we kept hearing that we were being filed for to be migrated. When I migrated and saw the reason we were left in Jamaica for such a long time, I realized that it was a blessing in disguise that we had not migrated earlier. If I had to do it all over again, I would have stayed in Jamaica much longer, finished college and migrated at a later age and on my own terms. I had to let go of resentment, forgive and knowing that us being left in Jamaica worked in our favor.
You may consider going to therapy for healing.
I remembered my grandmother saying that clothes and toys are not love. This really takes an emotional toll on everyone, especially the kids. Later on in life I see the relationship that most kids have with their parents and it is not the same for some of us because we were raised by grandparents. I really felt every point made in this video. But for anyone else watching you will learn from this, you will not do the same with your kids. Create the life you want for you and your kids.
This is an excellent topic. Mother's and father's needs to understand that children aren't little cats they can just leave. Thanks God for grandparents.
Very touchy topic indeed. Some of them not even try fi mek the child get a visitors visa fi come spend di 2 months summer break with them while dem sort out dem papers or til the filing come through
The most selfish thing is when a parent run off leave their child, and when the child grows up, trying to do their best but can't get a visa because of their parents status
Trudy- we have the same name. Mine is Trudy-Ann E for the last name as well. Dat a true weh yuh seh because many people I know can’t get visa because of their parents status
when you say "status" wym? like overstay or illegally there?
@@norrisw789- yes that’s she meant
@@msblessalkalinemix7834 thanks, that means I'm in the same spot 😂 dang.. we have we own way yah
You can seek visa for somewhere else that your family have not over stay them visit.
I was overseas work in the bvi British Virgin Islands my daughter's seeing her period for the first time and she call me and said daddy am becoming a woman and you're not here I pack my shit up and come home me and my girls talk about very thing when came back she said dad you're going to leave me again I said KNOW not going leave them go no where
Can more than relate pon different levels, life always find away fi ruff. Have mi nephew a grow from mi inna sixth form. Now me deh a UWI and Jah know bro double time fi get him ready fi high school and fi finish UWI. Have all the financial support from foreign enno. But me know it ruff pon him
Dale it hurts the mother too Because when that mother has to give that child 😢 it's the hardest thing 😢💔 it's never easy seeing a next person raised your child as well smh facts 😪
Just know when mi start my own podcast it's down to your inspiration, nuff respect 💯💯💯
This is a topic so many 3rd world families can relate, this is the first time I have heard this being discuss by any one. This is a pain that cannot be described. I was taken from my grandparents (mother's parents) at the age of 9 years to live with my father and stepmother. These were 2 strangers to me. I cried for one week straight. I am crying right now writing this. I was lucky to have a good father, . If he was a different type of man, most likely I would be dead with abuse from my stepmother. People make these decision to send away their kids from Jamaica and do not understand the consequence for the child. I am now 44 years old, and 1 of my daughter is 9 years old, when I look at her I can't imagine her going through what I went through.
It's so funny how various people can havr various experiences because when I was a child I wished I had a parent abroad because we were so broke and so hungry. I had one pair of jeans 2 blouses and 1 shoes to go out with to the point where people made fun of me. Got gastroenteritis because parebt cudnt afford to give me enough money for me to eat properly. Its so weird hearing it from this side when I wished one of my parents had that opportunity....
It’s because you didn’t have the experience so it’s just you IMAGINING. I’m so sorry you went through that though.
I was this child, my dad left when I was 3 yrs old, and my mother though she never migrated was never in my life as a child. This really hit a nerve, I don’t see how they do it. I don’t think these parents truly love the children they leave behind. Notice how they support and cling to the children they actually raise. If the child left behind unite with them in that foreign country, notice how it takes nothing for them to put you out, or tell you it’s time to go on your own.
This is something I've always said.. I rather be in a box with my children than leave them behind
This needs to go viral
Mi did fraid fi listen this. Right now mi grow up without mi parents fi the same. Hence the reason why mi always return home to mi yutes. Caz to how Jamaica a run, the easiest option a fi stay here. But mi haffi think bout mi yute dem.
Truth! It was 2-1/2 years my parents were gone. From my age of 11-14. You didn't utter a word that was not true. 4 children in pre teens to mid teens. I focused on the blessing and stuffed all the real truth you just shared. I'm almost 70 years old and has had a terrific life and career. But yes, emotional scars remain. Thank you for saying the quiet parts loud. It's a necessary conversation for us to have. God bless you son.
I can relate to this, my mother left me when I was just 12, and believe, I was moving around and wasn't treated well by one person, and right now I can't bring myself to talk to her. I resented my mother for a long time and bottled everything up inside. When I saw my mother again I was 24 when I saw my mother again, and that is when I told her what happened to me. I love the fact that u spoke about this cause like u said this is a topic that is hardly talked about... so Nuff respects you.
Yes this needs to be discussed.
The parents cheering on their kids hit another nail bro. Right now, I am looking forward to go my graduation ceremony at Uwi and once again no parent to attend my graduation. It truly hurts.
I feel your pain..I wasn't able to attend my son's high-school graduation and it hurts!. I bought my mom ticket to represent me with his aunt, though that could not satisfy me altogether, i took the day off from work to see him ready and all, I was clued to my screen watching the whole ceremony and getting all pics from family and friends who were in attendance.
Just keep your mind focus on your education, who to tell in a few years , the table mite turn around, they are they ones to need you.
@@dawntalburt6890 I love my mom regardless of her not being physically here. It's us against the world. I just feel away not having those moments that a child and parent should have.
A lot of us are dealing with abandonment issues. Not to mention the physical, sexual, mental and emotional abuse that take place as well.
wow, this video is real as hell. I have first hand experience of everything you talk about and everything is true. I have other siblings but no bond with them at all.
My mother's family came to the US in pieces. There were 7 born in Jamaica and 1 born in the US. What added to the challenge was because the kids were gifted and skipped in school so to try and navigate a new place and to be much younger than their peers was a challenge. It did help to a certain degree that they came to live with family and some siblings had each other. The arrangement can breed resentment for various reasons. To add to the situation the family learned that their was another family of woman and kids as grand pappa had an "entaglement"!!! As a social worker I also see how the emotional neglect impacts kids just as bad as other forms of neglect. My suggestion is to write a letter to your younger self and express your feelings. Tell yourself what you need and express to that younger you that you love that child and you visualize yourself protecting and showing that child what you feel that child needed. Release the child from feeling anyway about what they should have done. Lastly, you are doing really well Dale. Talking about things helps to release things that are bottled up and can cause "diss ease" disease....You are taking care of your mental and physical by talking. Keep it up and you are not alone!! You have a community. Sending you light and love!
Similar situation with parents leaving southern states in the US and leaving the child in the south as they move North to work. This topic definitely needs to be discussed for healing.
I don’t know how you did this podcast and not she a tear. Jah know, it’s funny how a person can lock certain feelings and emotions away until. 😢
Affi accept things an move on after a certain age
A just the fact most ppl get over it like myself
As a counsellor, it’s hard to relate to many podcasts let alone appreciate the outline reasonings. The reasoning here is indeed real and raw. I appreciate it. Very timely message.
Bro mi deh a foreign on nuh see my 2 kids awhile maybe 5yrs and that give me a terrible side effects right now I working on getfing them here with me. Jah know mi ago through this exact same situation right now the feeling is fucked up. Affi get mi youth a mi foot asap. Everybody mi meet mi tell bout mi 2 kids a jamaica on a them a my focus not the foreign lifestyle. Everyone knows my kids and their not here as yet that's how much I preach about them and even if mi get a next youth a foreign mi affi get my 2 from jamaica first! That is a must otherwise mi nuh want no kids a foreign more than the 2 I have already. Jah know mi never post like this but youth this slap mi hard.
Thank you for your vulnerability and bring awareness to this.
Karmic cycles repeating and intergenerational karma. Speak on it! Very good content bigup from AstroDK. Much Respect
you need to do one with a call-in so people can be able to share their story of how do you get to the United States mine was basically my mom take me up at 14 and told me I was supposed to be traveling back and forth I came never went back at the age of 22 or 21 I end up getting married and end up trying to get my papers together because I wasn’t gonna be able to survive in this country without paperwork so I feel like I’m married to soon but I was blessed with a good guy and I know it’s God that send him in my life.
Deh one ya hit home fi real family both my parents left me in Jamaica when I was 5 for a “ better life “ and I never needed anything but I’d rather have my parents I had to see a therapist because I had issues worse when I had my own kids.
I can relate. Therapy is what we’ll have to turn to for healing.
😢 the reasoning was quite raw, thank you for covering this topic. 33 minutes in when you had the point of the ripple effect, mi feel it to mi heart bredda. i have a hard time with relationships because of the pain of loving someone close to you that you don't get to see face to face for years, or knowing that they will leave and that you may never see them. you look at where your parents are, and see relationships break down around you so often that you can't even find yourself a role model, much less some to even love.
"at any given time, whoeva dem deh roun'; it deven mek nuh sense dem try care bout' nubody too tough becau' dem might get up an leave." I've forgiven my mom for leaving when she did, but i don't want to repeat this cycle because it truly broke my heart.
If God was able to give you the strength to forgive your parents for doing this to help you, and did help you; it seriously means that you have to do your best to not repeat the cycle..
This was a topic long needed to be talked about. What about the kids who never hear from their parents again. Then they reappear well into adulthood
Someone had to say it and as candidly as you did. Big up yourselfa
This hit home for me, I was lucky to join my mother after 13 years, but my cousin mother migrated when she was three months old, with little to no communication for all her life. They met for the first time when she had 5 children and almost 40 years old. Some of the real issue is, when they migrate, they lie on the immigration form, stating they have no children. By doing so, at no point can they sponsor you.
Great topic! A lot of parents are in denial about the deep feelings and resentment that the children harbours.
Dale, you knocked this subject out the park. No truer words have ever been spoken. I can relate to every thing you said. Like you, my mother left when I was 5, I was raised by my grandma, attended Pembroke Hall primary then Meadowbrook high 😊😉. Thanks for covering this topic bc no one truly understands the residual impact on the child.. Keep up the good job! Thank you!
Bless up 🙏🏿
This one hit a nerve 👍. Plenty of us all grown up now can't call them own mother "mommy" or say I love you. Myself included. Left at 5 years old and came to US at 10. Big man at 30 never call him mother mommy or even say I love you....it fucking sad but it was the hand that was dealt.
Myself and all of my friends who come foreign is the same thing.
This hit home for me but I give thanks every day for my grandparents,don’t think I would have a better life with my parents. Wasn’t missing my parents as a child and my experience make me always want to be there for my child
This is absolutely true. My son father mom, left her 4 kids amd created a new family of 4. The psychological impact is hard. My mother and father migrated and left us with our grandparents, and it was absolutely horrible. Mentally and emotionally scared me.
This is so real! My mom left Jamaica when I was 8 years old, and even though I was living with my grandmother at the time, it hurts so badly when I saw her again at around 16 years old. I did not have pictures of her during that time so when I saw her again I could have literally passed her and not know it her. I’m grateful to her for getting me to the United States, but to this day we have a different type of relationship than she has with by siblings who grew with her. I too am glad that I did not leave anyone in Jamaica, because I don’t think I could have done what she did even though I know her intentions were the best for me.
This topic hurts my heart. My husband was from the island, and his Mom left him with the Dad at an early age and never came back. I can’t imagine how difficult that was for him. This is a mechanism that creates broken people…
This happened in my family. My brother took it very hard to this day and he’s in his 40’s. He was taken care of financially but it affected him that his parents had to leave him in Jamaica for years.
Dale, thank you for being so transparent. Everything you spoke on is "Facts!!💯" Hopefully this will make a strong impact on parents who have left their children behind or planning on leaving their children behind not just in jamaica but all parts of the world. The mind is so powerful which needs to be fed lovingly & positively. The brain is the most complex part of the human body. This three-pound organ is the seat of intelligence, interpreter of the senses, initiator of body movement, and controller of behavior. Lying in its bony shell and washed by protective fluid, the brain is the source of all the qualities that define our humanity. So parents think before you act.
John Bolby talks about attachment theory so technically your grandmother is your mom. My mom lived in Jamaica and i still lived with my grandmother.. However we as a community need healing and we have to forgive our parents ( they did the best they could)
This video has been trending on tiktok recently and everytime I listen to it, I cry to the point that I'm annoyed. Why? This is my reality. The reality that I've ignored for years but deep down it hurts like shit. So much that sometimes I don't understand why I can't get over it but I guess it's the child in me waiting for the attention I yearned for as a child by their parent. I really HATE the fact that I'm confronted with this feeling. Going on 30 with so many open wounds, it sucks.
My brother and I migrated with my father and his family when I was 8 and him 6. I didn’t know them and him well . Didn’t see our mother until 14 years after and then when I went down as a married woman. My father was emotionally unavailable so we felt alone. No one to collect report cards etc. We struggled and needed therapy to this day mentally we are in pain. It’s such a serious topic because many don’t understand that the US also has poor unsafe places and it’s not what it is presented as.
Dale Elliot .. thanks to this padcast .. I'm here stressing as I type ..cuz my son filed for by his father to live in Canada and I'm telling you I'm not hearing from my child ... When I ask for pics he says a picture not important.. he then tell me that Canada law is dat no children is not allowed wit a cell phone till them 13 years old ..my son is 9 ..also the father gf been texting and very disrespectful and they both have been telling my son things and turning his mind from me ....... I email Canada high commission n dem say dem can't interfare mi must get lawyer ... And I'm telling u these days I go by prayer ... N my blood pressure is so low .. but I'm tierd of crying ...
I hope you get a chance to share in your child's love again.
I never experienced my parents migrating, and I'm grateful, but I’ve seen some instances with other people. I was in labor with my son in 2019, and the only thing I remember outside of the pain is the piercing screaming of an 11 year old girl. "You neva believe me!" over and over again. Her parents migrated within 6 months of each other, and she was left with an aunt. The aunt's husband SA that child and nothing was said to either parent. They monitored her calls to ensure she didn't say anything.
I feel it so til, I hollered and I screamed. The pain of the contractions was nothing compared to how that affected me emotionally. If I'm leaving the country, my child is coming with me, and if I can't go, mi will banga with him until it's possible.
Daleelliottjr dem never ready! Dem nuh ready fi dis raw truth. I listened the entire podcast and all I could say "a who tell dis boy mi whole life" 🤣. Mi a watch you from you just buss and this is the best video hands down! You spoke 1000000mil facts right trrrruuuuuuuuu. And yes dem start seh mi ungrateful already because "dem don't want to get the point you're trying to say" GUILT a kill dem
My mother left me when I was 11 and I’m glad she was conscious to wait because she said she could’ve left when I was younger but I was too young for her to leave. At least the children after my generation get to talk to their parents, in my time we couldn’t afford or have access to phone
Some children have been abused when parents leave. I grew up with my grandparents my father lived abroad and my mother lived around 3 miles away. Not close to my mom, my dad is deceased. I don’t have no attachment to no one in life, except my child
FACTS! it's the same effect when the mum send the child away at a young age to foreign, separating that child from other siblings. The bond is broken and cannot mend. Lots of resentment from all angles.
Real thing mon who feels it know stillz. Nuff mi survive without parental guidance. Stronger now 🙌⚖
I can definitely relate still dealing with the affects of this and it’s only hurting my current family
Me bring mine them.. couldn’t leave them but some people nuh have any choice.
I am a born Canadian & I truly appreciate you touching on this serious topic. Not every opportunity is the best opportunity 💯
So true...Remember the Randall Dooley story?
REAL TALK mi here storys after story's of ABUSE CHILDREN . Perants leave them with family or friends and the children them damage fi LIFE. Big up keep TALKING TRUTH FACTS
This broke my heart 😣💔.... God bless all who are or have been suffering from these issues.
I love this,keep talking about these things,thank you🙏👍👍👍
Thank you so much for this topic of the podcast Dale. You hit the nail on the head. Is like I told u my whole life story.
Both my mom and dad were in America so I lived with my grandma. I honestly loved her more than my actual parents to the point where I don’t even use mom or dad
Thank God for grannies who are loving and nurturing.
Very good topics. I looked forward since week to be able to sit down and watch this. Great topic. Points on point. Great going Dale talk the truth as it is.
Do you have me in tears right now I feel like I’m one of them kids but went through that and come here to the United States and you all alone in this country but with the kids that I created is really hard I don’t wanna cry no more
Subscribed! I can relate 100%... being a barrel child nuh nice, it's not about the financial support. But nurturing the emotional and psychological aspect of a child 😢
Great topic 👏 great reasoning 👍
This is such an important topic. My heart goes out to you and everyone who felt abandoned by their parent(s). I hope you explore this even further at some point, especially the propensity for men to just up and migrate, abandoning their entire families.
Wow I learn so much since you start this podcast...continue to inform and inspire human beings,big up bro.
This topic hit so many issues on the nail. As one of those child who had both parents migrated everything you said was the truth.
Best podcast! Keep it up you’re going to be great !
Dale , first time watching or listening to your Podcast. You are talking truth. Most Jamaican came just the way you explained, but not everyone experienced the same outcome. Very informative 👏 ❤🙏🏾
Well done Dale !!!
Keep up the excellent work🎉🎉🎉🎉❤
Thank you for sharing from you’re heart. I was raised by grandma, aunt and uncle while my mom was in the US and my dad in JA. I had some much love from my grandma and aunt that it helped prevent the damage that could have happened - feeling - abandoned from both mom and dad. I had to deal with rejection issues but when I gave my life to Christ, I was healed. I am now a wife and mom of two, and I had to work outside the home for a few years, but it was it was always the goal from us for me to be in the home. And we did everything we could to make sure that could happen. I’m grateful to God that I’m home raising and educating my kids, at home. This morning my 13 year old son and 11 year daughter was in bed laughing just enjoying each and I can’t imagine being separated from them. My grandmother was my mom and my aunt was my bonus mom and I’m grateful for them. I understand what my mom had to do and I’m grateful for her sacrifice. I see now, if she didn’t do what she did, I would have the life I have now. I’m on the other end now. Again, thank you. You clearly thought about this topic and missed nothing. God bless
Jah knw mi ah watch dis wid tears inna mi eye 😔
Breda keep talk di tings dem. We can relate more than you know and can seek clarity, a better understanding or whatever help that's necessary. 👊
This is so real sometimes I would have wonder if I was the only one in the world feels this way my parents wasn’t at foreign but still living in Jamaica but in different parish it was very hard for me growing up I told myself at age 18 fuck that whenever I have my children I will be there for them spoil them no matter what anyone say love them with all the love I can give do anything for them no Matter if it cost my life or freedom I now have a son I be there for him since he was born I leave a house a big house fully furnish everything King Size in Montego Bay for 6 years now no one live in it for 6 years just to make sure my son have what I never had in my life he just turn 5 on the 29 of October I love him so much love you NOEL JR.
Being a parent financially is not the end all be all... So to speak. Being there physically is sometimes more important than just send money back and the occasional phone conversation.
I never grew up like this but i feel every word you say cause i coulndt imagine living apart from my kids. Big up yuh selh ellie di viner love the grow mr Elliott
great topic bro, the people need to know. its raw but good
Wow. This one was real. Had to hit the subscribe. This video should have a million hits.
Especially the ones them that have legal status they should be charge for war crimes against children and child support should not have any legal boundaries nor borders
My father left when I was around five or six. He came back about two times. I feel as though the worse part is the fact that my basic needs were not met lot of hardship. He filed for me and I cam to US when I was twenty. My father did not even come to my graduation. The relationship between both parents was unpleasant long story. My father is gone now but we did not have any bond.
I enjoy watching you on Instagram but today I ran into your podcast, but this one right here made me hit that subscribe button.
So true it's a different day due to social media. The children can find out a lot of things about the parents.
I can relate to everything you said in this podcast... Thanks be to God, me never come out too bad..
Met my father for the first time at the age of 16, the day before I migrated and you're right.
Excellent topic and content in this discussion.