@@thomaspeters5889 look it up on her other interviews. On One interview she mentioned that she was nicknamed as "bitch" By her parents and she would be called that at home when her parents would demand her to do something such as a household chore. She mentioned in this video that they would cut grass bare hands but why? Because her parents think it's more fun that way but they don't consider about risking their children having grass cuts/bitten by crawling insects without grass cutter and gloves? Take into consideration that she is adopted and that her parents stopped treating her normally when she hit the age of 7. If that does not make you question their parenting then you don't know how to identify toxic parenting and child neglect/abuse REGARDLESS of the level of abuse.
@@orangefruit12 My opinions are based on my own experiences and my reaction to my experiences. I wouldn't venture to judge another's despair but I will say I heard nothing that I personally would consider abuse.
Guys this part of the clip just shows a glimpse of what her adopted parents did to her. They did way worse than just not letting her shower in the morning, like calling her “bitch” instead of her actual name and hitting her to the point where she couldn’t write in class. There’s obviously more but it was to the point where she felt more FREE in the military.
I know this only talks about one part of her abuse but I give her so much credit and respect for being open about the abuse she endured. She is so young and I’m sure she has young fans in abusive homes, I hope they see that there is hope and they will get out. You aren’t alone ❤
People It’s ok if y’all don’t shower in the mornings. She wanted to shower in the mornings because she was doing farm chores before school and didn’t want to smell like a farm.
@@ballerinadragaMaybe? I think it's a bit weird he wouldn't let them smell decent to school. That probably caused bullying. Comparing it to other trauma it might not seem heavy but it was abuse to her
@Ballerina Draga well I mean imagine forced to litteraly not shower and go to school stinking like animals and there shit then thats like the worst for of torture for a kid because you will be bullied and made fun of
@@Ejacunathan who are you to tell me how MY mother is. You're a complete stranger on the internet. You have no idea how living with my mother is like. As soon as you live with my mother for a day, then you can talk.
I'm so glad my Aunt and Uncle don't treat me any different from their own children, I'm basically the baby of the family and I once met someone with the same situation like me (living under other relatives homes) and was so shock on how different they treated her. She's always late for school cause she fed the pigs and chickens, clean their pens and do other chores before going to school. My Aunt and Uncle wouldn't even let me do chores as long as I'm studying or just reading for leisure. My tasks are limited to house chores and I barely go near our farm animals. They treat me so well, they're like real parents to me, they even support my reading addiction lol. It's just so sad not everyone can be lucky to have good people taking care of them.
I was placed in relative foster care with my aunt and uncle. They treated me and my twin sister well for a short time. They lived on a farm as well 80 Acres to be exactly. It was my twin and I responsibilities to take care of all the chores in the house and on the land. Given that the fact that we were in elementary school is when it started. We would be allowed to shower once a week and would be Sunday. I lived with them for close to eight years. That was just the surface of the abuse too. I can look back and say I'm both an abused child but I'm also a survivor of it.
They did nothing and you twins did everything? Like what? I mean seriously when would you have time? Maybe it kept you out of trouble. It kept you from getting knocked up as a teenager. Maybe you were on well water and taking a shower everyday would have been a burden to the water source. Now I would not have liked that either, but maybe their ignorance overpowered them. And where were You raised?
Abuse is having to shower once a week? I think if they ask you to shower 6 times a day might be considered a little abusive but honestly having to shower once a week...abusive? I initially lived on a farm where there was a pump in the kitchen but taking a shower required filling a bucket in the kitchen or the well and hauling it about 30 yards to a wooden stall where you undressed and poured the water into a drain that in turn showered your body. We rarely took showers in the winter and when I was 6 or 7 we got a tub but still had to heat the water first. The outside stall off the back porch was pitch black at night so we only used it during the day. When I got older I showered at the high school in town, Clarksburg, CA. When I was "bad" my mom (who wasn't quite right I discovered) would hold my hand over the open flame of a gas stove and it was my teachers at school told me this wasn't "normal". I'm 65 now and still have the scars on my arms and hands but faded some. I was taken from home, put into foster homes, spent years incarcerated in the Hall and Youth Authority and behavioral modification camps just packed full of horror stories you'd probably considered abuse but to me it was a minor inconvenience. The US army was worse, discharged in 76. I've been married three times, divorced twice and still married 25 years with kids and grandchildren and I love them all. Sometimes things need to be put into perspective and one man's treasure is another man's trash. I didn't know it was considered foster care when its your own family. You should probably be grateful it wasn't a foster home. Kids and foster parents can be quite cruel but I'd still stop short of calling it abuse.
They’re cleaning the farm and animals poop. Everyone wants a shower in the morning before going to school… it’s a different story showering at night and have a good sleep…
In the Philippines most people would take a bath in the morning, and before going to bed at night. Though normally taking a bath is always in the morning here.
@@philippe146should have showered at night then lol ffs whats the damn point? I shoveled shit as a kid! Shower go to bed wake up. Unless she is acting up trying not to shower at night and try showering the morning. Making the bed smell like shit. She needs a sad story to keep making money and content.
I was homeless off and on from 13-17, when my coach adopted me. I had no idea what I was doing; I definitely slept on peoples’ property though on multiple occasions. Thinking back now, it’s wild that my parents (well, my mother - my father did) didn’t ever get arrested or anything, and I didn’t reach out to like CPS or something. But that’s what happens, I was conditioned into thinking the police or any other authority was worse or more menacing than my parents at the time. The only thing left about it now is in my head though. Like fighting against me, deep in my sub-conscience. Almost like I “identify” (would be the term used nowadays I think) as that homeless poor kid still, which is tough here in med school. And the guilt of seeing my siblings not thrive - actually they fell into the generational cycle that seems to have come upon the family - it eats at me. We’re all making it though, on our own journey. It’s tough, but resiliency gets people out of tough situations. I also joined the military, then got my BS in Chemistry and am in medical school. The only thing missing is the happiness I used to have in middle school or the beginning of high school. Like I’ve been consistently saying “I’ll be happy/proud if I get into college… no… if I graduate… no… if I get into medical school? Not really. Still working on it. Can’t let them keep stealing from me. Anyway, thank you for reading my vent.
Life is about choices. No matter what is your predicament you still have choices ie to thrive or succumbs. You've come this far, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger n wiser. There's always a silver lining in every cloud. When life throw lemons, make lemonade. I wish you happiness, you are in control.
It's hilarious how some kids here treat being a part of farmers family like it's the saddest thing that happens in life. I grew up on a farm doing a lot of manual labour etc and even though now I say F them potatoes I'll rather but than grow mine it was still a great way to grow up and connect with nature. It's still blows my mind some people don't know how food is grown or never saw a duckling in their life.
Maybe it's just me but as Filipino who grew up in the Philippines, this was normal. Because my parents were not around and my grandparents were the one raising us, my siblings and I helped around the house. We cooked, we cleaned, we helped in the garden, the harvest, we raised farm animals. During summer, I had to fetch water at the bottom of a hill where we lived. We walked three miles to school, three miles back. I'm 32 now so that was over twenty years ago. Our chores were hard but it taught us discipline and perseverance. We were humbled by it. Now that I'm living in the US, I don't resent my grandparents for what my siblings and I had to go through. My grandpa was disabled and as the only male figure in the family, we understood he couldn't do much for us. We lived simply. No power, no running water. So yeah, life is hard sometimes and I understood early that each family member sometimes have to pull their own weight. I was not forced, I helped.
If you listen to her whole story this clip makes more sense as to why she claims to be abused. It’s not about just working on a farm or living in poverty. The farm was just the catalyst that jump started their abusive habits. They were terrible to her.
That's why abusers get away with abuse. So many people support them. It's important to seek help from trained professionals that know you have been abused so that your feelings are validated. That's the only way you can truly heal. 💯
I know how she feels, being abused by my step father didnt feel right. It happened when i was 7 my step father married my mother due to an agreement. He needed papers but he never told her that, mother thought it was love, since my biological father left due to my mother wasnt providing much so he didnt have to work. My step father would tell me to wear clothes that was revealing, and such at a young age. When i was 9, i started my monthlys. Thats when he started molesting me, eventually raping me. I thought that was okay, i didnt tell anyone till one day i missed a whole 2 months. Nurse did a test, and said positive. They brought me to the hospital, and called my mother. They found out that i wasnt pregnant, i had a tumor. But, had truma down there. They suspected my step father, i never saw him ever since he ran and lives out of the country. Mother and i have restraining orders, and he has a warrant for arrest once he comes back to the states. Im now 26. And yes i have Aspergers Autism, my husband loves me for me, protects me from night terrors of my step father. Unfortunately i cannot have children 😕.
Trust me you do not want to feel bad about not being able to have children her world is right now bringing a child into it would be considered cruel and unusual punishment to them. I mean think about it things are only going to get worse so by the time their teenagers are in their twenties if you had a child now imagine how bad the world's going to be and it's going to be because you brought them here so trust me not having a child you're doing that little soul he favor by letting it stay in heaven
I watched the full podcast and this isn't the full extent of it. Her adoptive father would slap her and her parents would never use her real name so they would just called her "bitch" all the time, so it's safe to say that she was abused
True fact: I was actually adopted myself but my mom would NEVER abuse me, and she never have and never will, I always have these moments when I get mad at her tho. This makes me realize on how lucky I am. 🍀❤ I'm really sorry for Bella and what you had to go through! ❤
Yall PLEASE watch the whole Interview before you call her privilliged. She isnt complaining about having to do chores nor does she say chores are abuse. Its all the things she mentions after, like being beaten until she wasnt able to do school work anymore among other things.
The abuse started for me around 4th grade. I was always emotionally neglected, which is a form of abuse, but the antagonistic abuse and scapegoating started later. Before that, I was mostly left alone.
@@cforte0423 when she was younger her parents would call her bitch instead of her name. They would also hit Bella, yell and some other stuff. Like I said though you can watch the original video or look up different ones where she talks about the situation.
To the people who think“ *oh it’s not as bad as what I had to endure so she’s just being a dramatic* ” please have a bit of empathy and stop think about yourself. if anyone had a a worse childhood then her they would think maybe even wish the had her childhood and that’s normal, let’s say your dirt poor when you were a child you then hear about someone complaining how poor they were when they were a kid and you think I had it worse so it probably wasn’t that bad what your doing is *invalidating* there experience because you had it worse and I’m not comparing abuse to being poor I’m just saying it’s the same mindset someone can experience abuse and it might not be as bad as yours but they still went through abuse and if we use that same logic someone could have had an even worse experience with abuse then you but that doesn’t mean you didn’t go through abuse. I went through $exual trauma but thankfully it didn’t go far but unfortunately some people weren’t as lucky but that doesn’t mean my experience doesn’t count you *can not* compare abuse of any kind if it was physically emotionally or any type of abuse because it wrong and it *could* lead to you abusing others and thinking “it’s not as bad as what I had to go through so it’s fine” and that’s what’s called *generation trauma*
@@epictetushasepictiddiez2615you do realize, she had to pick up poop by many farm animals in the morning then wasn't allowed to wash up so she'll stink the entire day and get picked on right? Idk refusing her personal hygiene seems pretty abusive.
That’s how you know times have changed! Now doing chores is abuse! When I was growing up, it was building character, learning responsibility contributing to the household! Helping take care of your siblings, Clean for and take care of grandparents, Feeding the animals, Making your bed before school, Helping with the dishes, Help prepare meals, Take out the trash, Weeding the garden, Cutting lawns, Delivering newspapers, Help your neighbors ect… Was a normal childhood for me! It is crazy what some people call abuse. When is it going to stop?
If you watched the actual interview, you’d know that she was actually abused. Her dad used to beat her, made her sleep in the chicken coop during winter, and used to call her st**id b**ch instead of her actual name
I was abused, I was told that I was a mistake, I was stupid, my mother later on killed herself, my father was always gone. I don’t like it when others say they had it worse,,,, we all can say; it was really bad😞
I had to mow my grass, that doesn’t mean that I was abused. I also had to wash the dishes, clean my room, take out the trash feed the cats, that’s called chores, not abuse.
@MikeHoncho1975. You misunderstood...the grass was TALLER than her and they had to do it by hand at age 7. Not a mower. They cleaned up pooped and were not allowed to shower before going to school. That is abusive. Child labor.
If you live in the country with animals there is always work to do and, yes, a lot of it is messy and hard work. That isn't abuse, it is work that has to be done. What a nightmare to have a kid who grows up claiming to have been abused because they had to help out with the chores.
Wth dude whatever she’s saying it’s islander style. Not abuse at all. If you’re from the Philippines you know you have to save water. Back then you drink water from plastic bags/ziplock and shower from the 🪣 shower at night you don’t need to shower the next day to go to school. You know why? Cuz kids back then don’t like to shower in the morning 🤦🏻♀️ Cutting grass by hand? She meant picking weed that’s a chore back in the day for kids.
Sounds like my life too: Everything was good for me up until 6 years old; I had always been fed and housed, I was also the baby of the family. Then at seven my little sister was born, I also was Givin chores to do around the house, and told to eat all my dinner and only take short showers at night😢. I bid my time, knowing that I must make a move to better my situation, but I need to be prepared to leave, I waited and I watched for the right time to get out from under the Thumb of my ruthless parents and at 17 I made my move!
I'm so sorry, I don't know what's wrong with people , we need to love all the kids and treat them well. I did foster care and loved all my kids. I'm so sorry you had to go through the abuse.
I'm filipino, and I guess I was abused too. My parents made me wax and buff the hardwood floor when I was 8 and sometimes cook rice for dinner and pick-up dog poop. They made me clear the dining table after we ate and sweep the kitchen floor.
I was abused as a child myself.. definitely missed a lot of having a childhood and being a child. But you’ve come so far Bella and you should be proud of who you are ❤❤
@@meganmxoxI wasn’t aware abuse came in obvious formats? I wasn’t aware that people were so universally the same that trauma has to be understood to be empathetic. If you don’t understand, that’s fine. I’m sure plenty people would feel your trauma was insignificant as well. That doesn’t make it true, though.
There was no real love in her Foster home. I heard her entire story! And you don’t treat your adopted children like slaves! That’s why she left to go to the Military! She felt much happier. And God gave her a much better life now,for God saw how much she suffered! God sees all! She was not loved in that foster home. God Bless you & your brother Bella! We love you! God loves you!🙏🏼❣️💕
When you get older you are given chores to do As you get older your parents age How you grow up and mature Is what moulds you into the beautiful person that you are Many cultures children have chores as a soon as they walk Be proud of what you have become
Cutting grass by hand is painful. I do my edges with scissors and i always get blisters after doing it. On little 7yr old hands that would be torture to do a garden of long grass by hand! Remember, this is just a short.... it isnt going into everything she went through.
@@darkcanary remember though our lives are moulded by how strong we are as we grow up Parents can be cruel Some of us turn out good some of us turn out rotten And some of us disappear never to be seen again This young lady has shown us that her harsh life never beat her And how she lives it will define the beautiful woman that she has become
@@dananmckie9253 I know this only too well.... But Yes, I am the strong, compassionate woman I am today because of my childhood and adolescent traumas. xx
This is so sad. It sounds like her parents were some of those who treat the kids like adults once they are mostly functional. It's so sad. Everyone has different struggles but struggles, no less. I hope she can heal from all of that.
Everything she's describing here has nothing to do with abuse. I never showered in the morning as a child . You should shower before bedtime to wash your day off of you. You wake up clean to start your new day. Having some duties around the farm and helping is fine too. I did it as a kid and it helped me to be more appreciative person. Nothing just fall from the sky on our table, you have to work for it. This new generation is ridiculous, especially in the US
No, YOU know NOTHING abt abuse. Forcing a child to do ALL the manual labor at a FARM is very much illegal because that’s child labour and considered abusive in many standards. Also theres a DIFFERENCE with your story and hers. The attitude is different in your environment. Because you had a family that helped you and still gave you love even when you had to help out do work, but Bella didn’t. She was not appreciated, loved, nor cared for by her own adoptive parents. She was not taught to work as a family bit on her OWN, she was FORCED at a young age to do EVERYTHING at the farm. Its sad how you try to justify abuse by saying its just a normal thing but its not. Abuse doesn’t just come from hitting a fucking kid. It can be where you FORCE them to work when they’re extremely exhausted or fucking hitting a wall until your kid gets panic attacks every time a wall is hit. Abuse varies and FORCED CHILD LABOR is ABUSE and can be seen as another form of Modern Slavery… You may be a parent or someone that grew up in a poor environment where at a you g age you had to help out financially, but what you NOT is a child psychologist so dont act like one. Your ignorance is the sane type of ignorance which caused mental health and domestic abuse to not be as known back then, forcing those to endure, seek medicine outside of the country, or kill themselves.
She was also called bitch instead of her name, not allowed to sleep in her bed, forced to go to school smelling like shit to be bullied (this is the shower part), and beaten til she couldn't write with her hands if she missed one thing when doing her chores, I think that's the part that people are considering abuse. Honestly I can see why people might think it's abuse.. Even as someone who's pretty desensitised from personal experiences.
I could never understand how anyone could abuse a child that depends on them for love and security,it’s heartbreaking to know that even children have to be afraid in this world we live in 💔
Normally filipina shower 2 times a day, before go to bed and morning before start the day. I think she just culture shocked in her younger age but base on her story she is more emotionally abused.
@@angelaltheaexplorer9508 I wouldn't say making a child work on a farm cause that's what her family does for a living is abuse? Plenty of farm raised kids in the states and none of them would say they were abused
@@markkrilljr9033that isn't abuse, but what she went through is abuse. The abuse part isn't actually mentioned on this clip. The person you replied to doesn't mean that working on a farm is abuse
@@kashafoster161 my dad cut grass by hand as a kid for his parents and neighbors for money because they couldn’t afford a lawnmower. Cutting grass by hand is not abuse.
OMG sis.. look at the world with the 3rd world country before they have a child labour. Each kids needs to get the hard way! Look at the most successful billionaires! We’re not 2 sided of that it’s just sometimes you took a shower in the evening because you take too long to go school if you shower in the morning! So be kind! Some step dad deserve a tap they trying to be in to your family.
It's not abuse. We were only allowed to have one bath a week, when I was young in the 80's we just had a quick flick around with a flannel. There are many very poor children out there, who really are victims. It was probably easier, quicker for your parents, for you to shower at night.
Just so ppl know.. in other places that’s how you raise kids.. you teach them to work and no be lazy. Bella is fine but she lies waaaay tooo much. She’s getting known for lying so I really think she’s exaggerating things. I worked since I was 6, not because I had to but because it builds character.
Uhuh child labor is normal now? I get that it's how you're raised and for the most part it's fine but refusing to allow her personal hygiene? Really? Even from context outside this clip its well known that her father literally won't let her drink water without asking for permission and physically beat her multiple times and refusing to let her eat until she gets her labor done. That sounds like bordering abuse to me
@@twit9129 its not abuse… like I started my comment.. “in other places, that’s how you raise a kids” that’s just how it is.. ppl do that, just like your kid eat tie pods here, in other places that can be seen as very stupid
Yeah i did the same things ... I did house chores and clean cow dungs.. weeding grass in field cos that's how we helped at home and my mother wud cook and my father wud be out of town on his job ... We got educated doing those stuffs... And now we are well off... Those things are called chores that one has to do coz our parents are trying hard to put food on table and money for our studies... that's how most countries people do to live... The more privileged you are the more you will complain..
@@riogc3257 so is it also normal in other places to beat a kid until it leaves bruises and scars? I mean you cannot judge people just because you also have experienced that. You might also been abused but don't know that it is abuse. Besides people who do like what she said like cutting grass, cleaning farm animals poops aren't treated badly. I'm asian and my parents are very strict and they do hit us when we do bad things or being lazy but they don't do it to the point that it will bruise and scar. What Bella experienced was not a definition of just strict parents who wanted their kids to know how to do chores.
@@wren2975 it is normal in other places to hit your kids. I got my ass kick by my mom many times, even leaving the belt buckle print on my forearm, had me looking like popeye lol so yes it is normal in other places, maybe that’s why ppl in other places are more respectful, responsible and overall, smarter than ppl in the US.. also, did you know that Bella porch was married? This entire time she was married and her dude has some dirt lol not just that but Bella is now known for lying her ass off just for views.. wtf do you expect from someone without a talent and just make videos of her face lol she most likely lying and was never abused
They put only this part on purpose i think... She also said she was hit until she couldn't even write when she didn't do a great job (in their opinion), also her nickname was bitch and they weren't allowed to sit at the table, they were obliged to sit and eat on the floor, and were basically treated like dogs. So that + giving to a 7y.o kid role as cleaning the poop of animals, cutting grass then not letting him shower before going to school (not because they didn't have money, just because they decided so), which causes bullying at school, lack of self esteem and you can't feel good smelling like poop. You'd be disgusted of yourself... So... All of that isn't abuse ?
@@nena.swritings it is abuse but cleaning up the poop and cutting the grass isn’t. Why would they smell like poop? I did those things at that young of an age just for something to do and not be in the house.
😭 This made me cry. We don't wanna be statistics so we try to get through it. I was 6 when my abuse started by my stepdad, my mother did nothing to protect me. I've never had help and I'm a mother of 4.the only way ik how to was don't do the things that were done to me. Treat others with kindness, empathy and support. Don't judge us because we seem ok. We get days when we can't do anything because our memory will cripple us. I don't drink, go out, get hair or nails done..... Nothing. I've never done drugs, always kept a roof over mine and my kids heads. I mat not be perfect but I've broke the abuse that's generational in my family. They're all horrible, I'm the odd one and there's over 150 of my family both sides. I have psychosis and psychotic depression. My health has got really bad over the years. The effect trauma has on us throughout like, without knowing is insidious and dangerous.
For context, her parents made her clean a barn. So yeah, i don’t shower in the morning either, but I didn’t definitely didn’t need to go to school smelling like animals and poop. Also i betcha only privileged ass ppl would choose to judge her before listening to her story.
No it’s the privilege people who assume certain people are victims automatically without questioning. Normal people would question what actually happened because honestly if you don’t listen carefully it sounds like she complaining about chores.
I'm far from privileged. I grew up on a big farm with 9 siblings. We ALL had to do work like that at a young age as well. Its teaches ,self discipline, perseverance, good work habit. Young people these days are too damn soft n they don't know what work is. And no, I'm not amish
The interview was cut off here. A 7 year old really shouldn't be called "bitch" as a nickname and given the responsibility of caring for all the animals on the property, then sent to school covered in animal feces. Its also not normal to forbid your children sit on the couch or to keep them from bathing when they're dirty...
That showering thing hit me. I don't think about those things these days...at least I try not to that is. My mom's boyfriend abused my sister and I in many ways. I started wetting the bed every night. He demanded that my doctor fix me. When they couldn't find any medical reason...he thought punishment would work so it got worse. That mattress was rotting underneath me to where I was sleeping on bars. Wasn't allowed to get up and shower or change my sheets. He would wake me at 3 am and I could shower then. Then he made me wear pull-ups to school as punishment in the 5th grade. It finally stopped when my school counselor called the police and they forced my mom to leave him. Never wet the bed again.
Just because you think she has it easier than other abused kids doesn’t mean she wasn’t abused
How about everyone watches the full vid…
couldn’t have said it better!!❤
OK, so which was the part describing abuse?
@@thomaspeters5889 look it up on her other interviews. On One interview she mentioned that she was nicknamed as "bitch" By her parents and she would be called that at home when her parents would demand her to do something such as a household chore. She mentioned in this video that they would cut grass bare hands but why? Because her parents think it's more fun that way but they don't consider about risking their children having grass cuts/bitten by crawling insects without grass cutter and gloves? Take into consideration that she is adopted and that her parents stopped treating her normally when she hit the age of 7. If that does not make you question their parenting then you don't know how to identify toxic parenting and child neglect/abuse REGARDLESS of the level of abuse.
@@orangefruit12 My opinions are based on my own experiences and my reaction to my experiences. I wouldn't venture to judge another's despair but I will say I heard nothing that I personally would consider abuse.
@@thomaspeters5889 theres no way lol
Guys this part of the clip just shows a glimpse of what her adopted parents did to her. They did way worse than just not letting her shower in the morning, like calling her “bitch” instead of her actual name and hitting her to the point where she couldn’t write in class. There’s obviously more but it was to the point where she felt more FREE in the military.
Omg
@@thewayteacher get some help dude.
This one really shouldn't be a short
My adopted parents knew my name, but named me the same way they did a stray dog. They also did my housebreaking as they did those dogs.
@@LassieSgrI’m sorry this happen to you. No child deserve that.
Shes so strong, she turned into a good person despite those abuse and neglect. Shes so mature as well!
Have you watched the full intereview?
Hard work in washing up at night isn't abuse at all.
How is doing chores and showering at night abuse? You and her are a disgrace to real abuse victims. Disgusting.
Your ignorance is going to ruin you
@@XxxXxx-fm3wothat’s not all they did💀this clip shows a little bit of her talking abt what they did
I know this only talks about one part of her abuse but I give her so much credit and respect for being open about the abuse she endured. She is so young and I’m sure she has young fans in abusive homes, I hope they see that there is hope and they will get out. You aren’t alone ❤
I hope she one day comes out with a book. I would def read it
Not abuse, you need helps and still living in the bubble
People It’s ok if y’all don’t shower in the mornings. She wanted to shower in the mornings because she was doing farm chores before school and didn’t want to smell like a farm.
@@ballerinadragaMaybe? I think it's a bit weird he wouldn't let them smell decent to school. That probably caused bullying. Comparing it to other trauma it might not seem heavy but it was abuse to her
@Ballerina Draga I'm sorry and who are you? Nobody? 😂😂
As a former teacher, children who come to school after feeding up, tend to get bullied bc of the smells. I think that is what she is saying here.
@Ballerina Draga well I mean imagine forced to litteraly not shower and go to school stinking like animals and there shit then thats like the worst for of torture for a kid because you will be bullied and made fun of
@@Kayla-dr2zg I think maybe he did that because he dident have the time for each of them to take showers or maybe bills
She sounded like she was about to cry, it makes me greatful for my mom even if she can make me angry sometimes...
girl things like this always count your blessings and always love your parent figure too
Acting; these people good at it
She doesnt make you angry. You make yourself angry. Grow up.
@@Ejacunathan who are you to tell me how MY mother is. You're a complete stranger on the internet. You have no idea how living with my mother is like. As soon as you live with my mother for a day, then you can talk.
@@Ejacunathan?
I'm so glad my Aunt and Uncle don't treat me any different from their own children, I'm basically the baby of the family and I once met someone with the same situation like me (living under other relatives homes) and was so shock on how different they treated her. She's always late for school cause she fed the pigs and chickens, clean their pens and do other chores before going to school. My Aunt and Uncle wouldn't even let me do chores as long as I'm studying or just reading for leisure. My tasks are limited to house chores and I barely go near our farm animals. They treat me so well, they're like real parents to me, they even support my reading addiction lol. It's just so sad not everyone can be lucky to have good people taking care of them.
That's not abuse. That's time management as far as the showers. Lots of kid cut grass or yardwork.
I was placed in relative foster care with my aunt and uncle. They treated me and my twin sister well for a short time. They lived on a farm as well 80 Acres to be exactly. It was my twin and I responsibilities to take care of all the chores in the house and on the land. Given that the fact that we were in elementary school is when it started. We would be allowed to shower once a week and would be Sunday. I lived with them for close to eight years. That was just the surface of the abuse too. I can look back and say I'm both an abused child but I'm also a survivor of it.
Aw I’m so sorry to hear this. Hope your okay. Even the smallest things can ruin a child’s memories of things. Sending lots of love and virtual hugs ❤
They did nothing and you twins did everything?
Like what?
I mean seriously when would you have time?
Maybe it kept you out of trouble.
It kept you from getting knocked up as a teenager.
Maybe you were on well water and taking a shower everyday would have been a burden to the water source.
Now I would not have liked that either, but maybe their ignorance overpowered them.
And where were You raised?
@@tinafrompasadena3192what crap are you spewing?
Abuse is having to shower once a week? I think if they ask you to shower 6 times a day might be considered a little abusive but honestly having to shower once a week...abusive? I initially lived on a farm where there was a pump in the kitchen but taking a shower required filling a bucket in the kitchen or the well and hauling it about 30 yards to a wooden stall where you undressed and poured the water into a drain that in turn showered your body. We rarely took showers in the winter and when I was 6 or 7 we got a tub but still had to heat the water first. The outside stall off the back porch was pitch black at night so we only used it during the day. When I got older I showered at the high school in town, Clarksburg, CA. When I was "bad" my mom (who wasn't quite right I discovered) would hold my hand over the open flame of a gas stove and it was my teachers at school told me this wasn't "normal". I'm 65 now and still have the scars on my arms and hands but faded some. I was taken from home, put into foster homes, spent years incarcerated in the Hall and Youth Authority and behavioral modification camps just packed full of horror stories you'd probably considered abuse but to me it was a minor inconvenience. The US army was worse, discharged in 76. I've been married three times, divorced twice and still married 25 years with kids and grandchildren and I love them all. Sometimes things need to be put into perspective and one man's treasure is another man's trash.
I didn't know it was considered foster care when its your own family. You should probably be grateful it wasn't a foster home. Kids and foster parents can be quite cruel but I'd still stop short of calling it abuse.
me watching when i dont shower in the morning 😔
thx for the likes
By choice😂
Real
yeah
Nasty mf
Nah Fr 😂
Baby girl,I am so sorry.My heart goes out to all the kids who were treated bad.
Being required to work is not abuse. If you're working outside and around animals you need to shower at night and not go to bed dirty.
Yea I don't really see the abuse either?
Watch the full thing omfg
Nope he was actually abusing her@@piellamp
I’m okay with showering at night before I sleep. Keeps my bed clean instead of sleeping with an all day germs and bacteria and bad hygiene.
Its the only way to go. i can't understand
doing it any other way
Same! ♥️, I get sick when I shower in the morning and go out in the winter.. and that’s almost 10 month where I come from
They’re cleaning the farm and animals poop. Everyone wants a shower in the morning before going to school… it’s a different story showering at night and have a good sleep…
Before school she would tend to the farm animals. Cleaning up their poop etc, she wanted to shower before school so she didn’t smell bad to other kids
In the Philippines most people would take a bath in the morning, and before going to bed at night. Though normally taking a bath is always in the morning here.
There are so many problems in this world like famine, killer heatwave, earthquake,Yolanda typhoon victims,Turkiye earthquake,etc.
The reason why I taught my kids to shower at night was so that they didn't sleep in their beds dirty. Sleeping in a dirty bed is disgusting!
It’s different in her case she want shower in morning because she was shovelling animal shit in the morning and she doesn’t want smell bad in school.
@@philippe146should have showered at night then lol ffs whats the damn point? I shoveled shit as a kid! Shower go to bed wake up. Unless she is acting up trying not to shower at night and try showering the morning. Making the bed smell like shit. She needs a sad story to keep making money and content.
my heart breaks for her :( at least she’s happier now and free from those awful people
What does she mean 'of course I'm gonna smell"
Use water when you use the washroom. This is literally something that should be normal.
I was homeless off and on from 13-17, when my coach adopted me. I had no idea what I was doing; I definitely slept on peoples’ property though on multiple occasions. Thinking back now, it’s wild that my parents (well, my mother - my father did) didn’t ever get arrested or anything, and I didn’t reach out to like CPS or something. But that’s what happens, I was conditioned into thinking the police or any other authority was worse or more menacing than my parents at the time. The only thing left about it now is in my head though. Like fighting against me, deep in my sub-conscience. Almost like I “identify” (would be the term used nowadays I think) as that homeless poor kid still, which is tough here in med school. And the guilt of seeing my siblings not thrive - actually they fell into the generational cycle that seems to have come upon the family - it eats at me. We’re all making it though, on our own journey. It’s tough, but resiliency gets people out of tough situations. I also joined the military, then got my BS in Chemistry and am in medical school. The only thing missing is the happiness I used to have in middle school or the beginning of high school. Like I’ve been consistently saying “I’ll be happy/proud if I get into college… no… if I graduate… no… if I get into medical school? Not really. Still working on it. Can’t let them keep stealing from me. Anyway, thank you for reading my vent.
Good luck 🙏🏻🌸im sorry you had to go through all of this , i hope you achieve whatever you want
Life is about choices. No matter what is your predicament you still have choices ie to thrive or succumbs. You've come this far, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger n wiser. There's always a silver lining in every cloud. When life throw lemons, make lemonade. I wish you happiness, you are in control.
why’d they kick you out ?
😢😢❤❤
It's hilarious how some kids here treat being a part of farmers family like it's the saddest thing that happens in life. I grew up on a farm doing a lot of manual labour etc and even though now I say F them potatoes I'll rather but than grow mine it was still a great way to grow up and connect with nature. It's still blows my mind some people don't know how food is grown or never saw a duckling in their life.
Maybe it's just me but as Filipino who grew up in the Philippines, this was normal. Because my parents were not around and my grandparents were the one raising us, my siblings and I helped around the house. We cooked, we cleaned, we helped in the garden, the harvest, we raised farm animals. During summer, I had to fetch water at the bottom of a hill where we lived. We walked three miles to school, three miles back. I'm 32 now so that was over twenty years ago. Our chores were hard but it taught us discipline and perseverance. We were humbled by it. Now that I'm living in the US, I don't resent my grandparents for what my siblings and I had to go through. My grandpa was disabled and as the only male figure in the family, we understood he couldn't do much for us. We lived simply. No power, no running water. So yeah, life is hard sometimes and I understood early that each family member sometimes have to pull their own weight. I was not forced, I helped.
Beautiful up bringing ! We also had to do work to help. I didn’t feel it was abuse.
This shits real
Yeah you were not forced but im pretty sure Bella was
If you listen to her whole story this clip makes more sense as to why she claims to be abused. It’s not about just working on a farm or living in poverty. The farm was just the catalyst that jump started their abusive habits. They were terrible to her.
no no watch the whole interview. that was abus
The comments here are not it 💀
Asian peoples in nutshell 😂😂
😂😂😂
Like no one even actually listened to her.
That's why abusers get away with abuse. So many people support them. It's important to seek help from trained professionals that know you have been abused so that your feelings are validated. That's the only way you can truly heal. 💯
Thanks for your service. I won't bother to read them then🎉
There's a lot of us abused kids. We hug each other 😊❤ #hugs
OMG she's so strong I couldn't imagine having to take one shower a day instead of two
I’m so happy that she made it through. She’s the victor now. I just pray her brother made it out too.
She made it ? What is your definition of making it ?😂
You also think she is rich now, right?
Define your riches please !😅
but then, we didn’t HEAR YET THE SIDE OF HER PARENTS STORY 🤷🏻♂️
I know how she feels, being abused by my step father didnt feel right.
It happened when i was 7 my step father married my mother due to an agreement.
He needed papers but he never told her that, mother thought it was love, since my biological father left due to my mother wasnt providing much so he didnt have to work. My step father would tell me to wear clothes that was revealing, and such at a young age. When i was 9, i started my monthlys. Thats when he started molesting me, eventually raping me.
I thought that was okay, i didnt tell anyone till one day i missed a whole 2 months. Nurse did a test, and said positive. They brought me to the hospital, and called my mother. They found out that i wasnt pregnant, i had a tumor. But, had truma down there. They suspected my step father, i never saw him ever since he ran and lives out of the country. Mother and i have restraining orders, and he has a warrant for arrest once he comes back to the states.
Im now 26. And yes i have Aspergers Autism, my husband loves me for me, protects me from night terrors of my step father. Unfortunately i cannot have children 😕.
Trust me you do not want to feel bad about not being able to have children her world is right now bringing a child into it would be considered cruel and unusual punishment to them. I mean think about it things are only going to get worse so by the time their teenagers are in their twenties if you had a child now imagine how bad the world's going to be and it's going to be because you brought them here so trust me not having a child you're doing that little soul he favor by letting it stay in heaven
@Girleyreds as hopeless as you made it sound , it's just true.
I've seen alot so...
❤️ ❤
My gbaby is autistic. She's an absolute joy
WOW, prayers up for your healing. May God bless you.
She wasn't abused... she had chores...
Thank you... like holy fuck I did 10× the shit she's whining about and more as a kid.
Amen
I watched the full podcast and this isn't the full extent of it. Her adoptive father would slap her and her parents would never use her real name so they would just called her "bitch" all the time, so it's safe to say that she was abused
Exactly...... 😂
You Brainless. Chores for a 6years old. Stupiiiddddd
Poor girl, couldn t shower in the morning... God have some mercy on this pure soul
Its hard seeing her back track and gaslight herself abuse is abuse and it breaks people
?
Doing basic chores isn’t abuse. My 8 year old mows grass and rakes leaves and feeds the animals.
How was she abused?
@@tiffanydelgado342 You make them cut the grass by hand? 😐
@@sienta414By hand with a lawn mower...duh lmfao 😂
I love how so many people in the replies say she wasn’t abused because she didn’t talk about it in this video. Lol.
Nothing she described was abuse. The fact that her idea of abuse was doing cares just makes her sound like a spoiled brat.
@@Ima_meangirl apart from this video, she has talked about it. Obviously you haven’t seen it
In fairness this edit is very misleading.
True fact: I was actually adopted myself but my mom would NEVER abuse me, and she never have and never will, I always have these moments when I get mad at her tho. This makes me realize on how lucky I am. 🍀❤
I'm really sorry for Bella and what you had to go through! ❤
Lol
Tough filo life .
Many have it worse in the Philippines but in America this sounds harsh .
😂
She couldn't explain it it right..
But i watched some other interview and it was disheartening..
Yall PLEASE watch the whole Interview before you call her privilliged. She isnt complaining about having to do chores nor does she say chores are abuse. Its all the things she mentions after, like being beaten until she wasnt able to do school work anymore among other things.
My eyes didn't shed tears but my heart definitely cried inside my chest while Listening her
Me too.
yeah i can’t believe it 💔💔💔 she couldn’t shower in the morning
Please that is crazy. Get over it. I use to cry my mom had .e taking showers twice a day. That was trauma.
@@tashaox hahahahhaa
She complains about laughable shit
Ppl only listen because she a female
If it was a man I bet ya would be laughing
The abuse started for me around 4th grade. I was always emotionally neglected, which is a form of abuse, but the antagonistic abuse and scapegoating started later. Before that, I was mostly left alone.
Sending you a hug ❤ youre not alone
Do u need a friend
God bless u❤️ sorry about that:(
I’m really sorry that happened to you ❤ you did not deserve any of that.
@@whoeverwhatever9279Imagine downplaying emotional abuse💀
I dont feel like chores are abuse at 7 years old.
That’s not really the part that was abuse if you go and watch the actual video it was more than just chores.
@@nixthebigscarychickennugge5531 then what was it?
@@cforte0423she got beaten up
@@cforte0423 teaching kids that we all help keep up the space we share, and that other people don´t exist just to clean up after their messes.
@@cforte0423 when she was younger her parents would call her bitch instead of her name. They would also hit Bella, yell and some other stuff. Like I said though you can watch the original video or look up different ones where she talks about the situation.
To the people who think“ *oh it’s not as bad as what I had to endure so she’s just being a dramatic* ” please have a bit of empathy and stop think about yourself.
if anyone had a a worse childhood then her they would think maybe even wish the had her childhood and that’s normal, let’s say your dirt poor when you were a child you then hear about someone complaining how poor they were when they were a kid and you think I had it worse so it probably wasn’t that bad
what your doing is *invalidating* there experience because you had it worse and I’m not comparing abuse to being poor
I’m just saying it’s the same mindset someone can experience abuse and it might not be as bad as yours but they still went through abuse and if we use that same logic someone could have had an even worse experience with abuse then you but that doesn’t mean you didn’t go through abuse.
I went through $exual trauma but thankfully it didn’t go far but unfortunately some people weren’t as lucky but that doesn’t mean my experience doesn’t count you *can not* compare abuse of any kind if it was physically emotionally or any type of abuse because it wrong and it *could* lead to you abusing others and thinking “it’s not as bad as what I had to go through so it’s fine” and that’s what’s called *generation trauma*
yall gotta watch her whole story, theres definitely more to this
Where can I watch it?
Where can we find it at
It better be cuz in this clip all she's complaining about is cutting grass and picking up poop 🙄
@@epictetushasepictiddiez2615you do realize, she had to pick up poop by many farm animals in the morning then wasn't allowed to wash up so she'll stink the entire day and get picked on right? Idk refusing her personal hygiene seems pretty abusive.
Well that's dumb
That’s how you know times have changed!
Now doing chores is abuse!
When I was growing up, it was building character, learning responsibility contributing to the household!
Helping take care of your siblings,
Clean for and take care of grandparents,
Feeding the animals,
Making your bed before school,
Helping with the dishes,
Help prepare meals,
Take out the trash,
Weeding the garden,
Cutting lawns,
Delivering newspapers,
Help your neighbors ect…
Was a normal childhood for me!
It is crazy what some people call abuse.
When is it going to stop?
You don’t cut the grass by your hands ?
If you watched the actual interview, you’d know that she was actually abused. Her dad used to beat her, made her sleep in the chicken coop during winter, and used to call her st**id b**ch instead of her actual name
@@Gramcracker72
My siblings and I weeded the garden and the entire yard by hand and we mowed our lawn with a push mower not a gas mower.
@@brendar-b310 maybe u were abused too but think u deserved it because that were the times
Your a little too quick to judge
Omg, She had to do chores and called it abuse 😂
Watch the actual video 🤷♀️, it was more than doing farm chores.
We were raised on a farm but my parents didn't let us do chores at that age 7y.o. cutting grass and cleaning after animals is already abuse to me.
I was abused, I was told that I was a mistake, I was stupid, my mother later on killed herself, my father was always gone. I don’t like it when others say they had it worse,,,, we all can say; it was really bad😞
I feel so bad for her! She’s so sweet! God please protect her at all costs 🥺❤️🙏
Protect her from what?
I had to mow my grass, that doesn’t mean that I was abused. I also had to wash the dishes, clean my room, take out the trash feed the cats, that’s called chores, not abuse.
Being forced to go to school smelling like crap ain’t it.
@MikeHoncho1975. You misunderstood...the grass was TALLER than her and they had to do it by hand at age 7. Not a mower. They cleaned up pooped and were not allowed to shower before going to school. That is abusive. Child labor.
If you live in the country with animals there is always work to do and, yes, a lot of it is messy and hard work. That isn't abuse, it is work that has to be done. What a nightmare to have a kid who grows up claiming to have been abused because they had to help out with the chores.
...she was resilient enough, joined the Navyand served well... kudos to her 😢❤
She says she was abused because she had to cut grass by hand and shower at night? Tf?!
Exactly!
Wth dude whatever she’s saying it’s islander style. Not abuse at all. If you’re from the Philippines you know you have to save water. Back then you drink water from plastic bags/ziplock and shower from the 🪣 shower at night you don’t need to shower the next day to go to school. You know why? Cuz kids back then don’t like to shower in the morning 🤦🏻♀️ Cutting grass by hand? She meant picking weed that’s a chore back in the day for kids.
Sounds like my life too:
Everything was good for me up until 6 years old; I had always been fed and housed, I was also the baby of the family.
Then at seven my little sister was born, I also was Givin chores to do around the house, and told to eat all my dinner and only take short showers at night😢.
I bid my time, knowing that I must make a move to better my situation, but I need to be prepared to leave, I waited and I watched for the right time to get out from under the Thumb of my ruthless parents and at 17
I made my move!
Are you serious? or joking
Everyone needs to watch the whole story not just judge from one little clip.
Funny how that works eh, it’s almost like people are blinded to the only path they follow…
Well were is the rest?
@@Kt-cn2rq ua-cam.com/video/2jFIQr_cVz4/v-deo.html
She's a no talent 'influencer'
i have no idea who she is? what happened? if u commented “watch the whole story” then please link
I'm so sorry, I don't know what's wrong with people , we need to love all the kids and treat them well. I did foster care and loved all my kids. I'm so sorry you had to go through the abuse.
I'm filipino, and I guess I was abused too. My parents made me wax and buff the hardwood floor when I was 8 and sometimes cook rice for dinner and pick-up dog poop. They made me clear the dining table after we ate and sweep the kitchen floor.
Seeing her speak openly about abuse irl is touching
I was abused as a child myself.. definitely missed a lot of having a childhood and being a child. But you’ve come so far Bella and you should be proud of who you are ❤❤
Exactly I've been abused the same by my parents too
I feel so bad for Bella, I can't imagine a family like hers, she's amazing ❤❤❤😢
I’m so sad for Bella that she had that feeling😢😢😢😢😢
I’m so sorry no person deserves a traumatic childhood
She does not mention abuse once.
For ffs she was 7😢
Thank you! Just seeing this clip alone all she said was she had to cut grass and had to bath at night instead of morning…where is the abuse from that.
@@meganmxox then watch thr wholr clip? Tf
@@meganmxoxI wasn’t aware abuse came in obvious formats? I wasn’t aware that people were so universally the same that trauma has to be understood to be empathetic. If you don’t understand, that’s fine. I’m sure plenty people would feel your trauma was insignificant as well. That doesn’t make it true, though.
I used to have to cut the grass by hand,wash dishes by hand,clean the kitchen tile by hand,clean the bathroom by hand, damn I was “abused” also
Oh were you also beaten by ypur fatherM
@@nskdhekahgfd father beat my mother when she was pregnant and then left so I never met him. I was abused by other family members though
@@Bacchibeatzdam you should make a video
@@Bacchibeatz well if you know how it feels why are you being a dick about it? what is wrong with u?
Blessed are those who walk in truth ❤❤❤ sorry for all your pain ❤❤❤
There was no real love in her Foster home. I heard her entire story! And you don’t treat your adopted children like slaves! That’s why she left to go to the Military! She felt much happier. And God gave her a much better life now,for God saw how much she suffered! God sees all!
She was not loved in that foster home. God Bless you & your brother Bella! We love you! God loves you!🙏🏼❣️💕
Wow there is a whole "who was abused more" competition going on in the comment section.
I know right? It’s sad no one is empathetic anymore. It’s all about one upping the one before you!! SMH
"Respond to Understand, Not to Reply."
Not being allowed to shower in the morning isn't abuse.
Learn to watch stuff through and not judge without context. She wanted to shower because they cleaned up animal shit in the morning before school.
When you get older you are given chores to do
As you get older your parents age
How you grow up and mature
Is what moulds you into the beautiful person that you are
Many cultures children have chores as a soon as they walk
Be proud of what you have become
Cutting grass by hand is painful. I do my edges with scissors and i always get blisters after doing it. On little 7yr old hands that would be torture to do a garden of long grass by hand!
Remember, this is just a short.... it isnt going into everything she went through.
@@darkcanary remember though our lives are moulded by how strong we are as we grow up
Parents can be cruel
Some of us turn out good some of us turn out rotten
And some of us disappear never to be seen again
This young lady has shown us that her harsh life never beat her
And how she lives it will define the beautiful woman that she has become
@@dananmckie9253 I know this only too well.... But Yes, I am the strong, compassionate woman I am today because of my childhood and adolescent traumas. xx
Bro your dad telling you that he wanted you to shower at night is not abuse
Bro her dad told her took a shower at night when she was just 7. Night shower for a 7 years old girl when she didn't want to it is a abuse
Also cleaning up a poop when she was 7 oh my god bloody fucking people
@@btsjkvjrjsj what?
@@nenod7151 what what?
@@btsjkvjrjsj are you serious 😂😂😂. so if your mom told you to take a shower before bed and not after and you don’t want to it’s abuse ? shut up please
I wish I could give her the biggest hug!!!!!! I love u girl
This is so sad. It sounds like her parents were some of those who treat the kids like adults once they are mostly functional. It's so sad. Everyone has different struggles but struggles, no less. I hope she can heal from all of that.
I was just cutting the grass by hand yesterday. I'm so soar but tomorrow I must resume & finish the job.
Everything she's describing here has nothing to do with abuse.
I never showered in the morning as a child . You should shower before bedtime to wash your day off of you.
You wake up clean to start your new day.
Having some duties around the farm and helping is fine too. I did it as a kid and it helped me to be more appreciative person. Nothing just fall from the sky on our table, you have to work for it.
This new generation is ridiculous, especially in the US
Bella poarch lived in the Philippines, you don't know how hot Philippines is.
Watch the entire podcast; what she's saying in this clip is the least of it.
No, YOU know NOTHING abt abuse.
Forcing a child to do ALL the manual labor at a FARM is very much illegal because that’s child labour and considered abusive in many standards.
Also theres a DIFFERENCE with your story and hers. The attitude is different in your environment. Because you had a family that helped you and still gave you love even when you had to help out do work, but Bella didn’t. She was not appreciated, loved, nor cared for by her own adoptive parents. She was not taught to work as a family bit on her OWN, she was FORCED at a young age to do EVERYTHING at the farm.
Its sad how you try to justify abuse by saying its just a normal thing but its not. Abuse doesn’t just come from hitting a fucking kid. It can be where you FORCE them to work when they’re extremely exhausted or fucking hitting a wall until your kid gets panic attacks every time a wall is hit.
Abuse varies and FORCED CHILD LABOR is ABUSE and can be seen as another form of Modern Slavery…
You may be a parent or someone that grew up in a poor environment where at a you g age you had to help out financially, but what you NOT is a child psychologist so dont act like one.
Your ignorance is the sane type of ignorance which caused mental health and domestic abuse to not be as known back then, forcing those to endure, seek medicine outside of the country, or kill themselves.
She was also called bitch instead of her name, not allowed to sleep in her bed, forced to go to school smelling like shit to be bullied (this is the shower part), and beaten til she couldn't write with her hands if she missed one thing when doing her chores, I think that's the part that people are considering abuse. Honestly I can see why people might think it's abuse.. Even as someone who's pretty desensitised from personal experiences.
Teaching a kid responsibility is not abuse
🙁😢😢 we love you Ms.Bella , keep on shinning 🙏🏻😊👌🏻💪🏻🤟🏻💯👑⭐🔥⚡🎯🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🇵🇭
Wait??? Was she abused because she had to help on their farm or was she physically or mentally abused?? I’m missing the whole story.
Both. She didnt just "help on the farm" it was actual child labor
She was also beaten til she couldn't write with her hands if the chores weren't done perfectly.
I could never understand how anyone could abuse a child that depends on them for love and security,it’s heartbreaking to know that even children have to be afraid in this world we live in 💔
So it was good till you were a baby and once they started giving you responsibility that became abuse... 😮
whatever everyone has a sad story. most just keep it inside and dont share it with strangers on a platform.
any weather it is Filipinos always take a bath before going to school or work. that's how conscious Filipinos are.
Me watching this and cutting grass taller than me and not even complaining about it
By a sickel?
😂😂😂😂
Showering at night is ideal morning shower is pointless
We need to spread this gospel. Why jump in bed with every bathroom break and everything in your day still stuck to you
Not ideal if you have to clean shit in the morning tho, I don’t want to go to school smelling like shit either
Normally filipina shower 2 times a day, before go to bed and morning before start the day. I think she just culture shocked in her younger age but base on her story she is more emotionally abused.
@@angelaltheaexplorer9508 I wouldn't say making a child work on a farm cause that's what her family does for a living is abuse? Plenty of farm raised kids in the states and none of them would say they were abused
@@markkrilljr9033that isn't abuse, but what she went through is abuse. The abuse part isn't actually mentioned on this clip. The person you replied to doesn't mean that working on a farm is abuse
Sounds like they just made her do work. It doesn't sound like abuse at all
That breaks my heart 💔😭 it’s so sad
Eyes never lie>>
Real eyes realize real lies 👀 😂
Please tell me she didn’t say she doing chores was traumatic for her…
Watch the interview if you rlly wanna know
Cutting grass by hand is not a chore
Yup what sounds like being on a farm.
@@kashafoster161 my dad cut grass by hand as a kid for his parents and neighbors for money because they couldn’t afford a lawnmower. Cutting grass by hand is not abuse.
Watch the interview before you say anything u dont know anything else she said that was heart breaking
Yup doing the chores around the house is so abusive 🥱👎👎 woke the f up 😭
Shes so beautiful and so.sorry she had to go through that. May she find piece and comfort and not.living life with resentment towards her step-father.
When we talk about it frees us.
OMG sis.. look at the world with the 3rd world country before they have a child labour.
Each kids needs to get the hard way! Look at the most successful billionaires!
We’re not 2 sided of that it’s just sometimes you took a shower in the evening because you take too long to go school if you shower in the morning! So be kind! Some step dad deserve a tap they trying to be in to your family.
My thought exactly
Bruh Bella is from the Philippines. Ya know, a third world country
It's not abuse. We were only allowed to have one bath a week, when I was young in the 80's we just had a quick flick around with a flannel. There are many very poor children out there, who really are victims. It was probably easier, quicker for your parents, for you to shower at night.
One bath a week. One inch of water.
Only people battling their own demons would torture others...🙏
Praying for you. You can make your future anything you want. You are Beautiful and Smart❤️🥰🙏🏻
Yes, because cutting grass is VERY abusive 🙄
Just so ppl know.. in other places that’s how you raise kids.. you teach them to work and no be lazy. Bella is fine but she lies waaaay tooo much. She’s getting known for lying so I really think she’s exaggerating things. I worked since I was 6, not because I had to but because it builds character.
Uhuh child labor is normal now? I get that it's how you're raised and for the most part it's fine but refusing to allow her personal hygiene? Really?
Even from context outside this clip its well known that her father literally won't let her drink water without asking for permission and physically beat her multiple times and refusing to let her eat until she gets her labor done.
That sounds like bordering abuse to me
@@twit9129 its not abuse… like I started my comment.. “in other places, that’s how you raise a kids” that’s just how it is.. ppl do that, just like your kid eat tie pods here, in other places that can be seen as very stupid
Yeah i did the same things ... I did house chores and clean cow dungs.. weeding grass in field cos that's how we helped at home and my mother wud cook and my father wud be out of town on his job ... We got educated doing those stuffs... And now we are well off... Those things are called chores that one has to do coz our parents are trying hard to put food on table and money for our studies... that's how most countries people do to live... The more privileged you are the more you will complain..
@@riogc3257 so is it also normal in other places to beat a kid until it leaves bruises and scars? I mean you cannot judge people just because you also have experienced that. You might also been abused but don't know that it is abuse. Besides people who do like what she said like cutting grass, cleaning farm animals poops aren't treated badly. I'm asian and my parents are very strict and they do hit us when we do bad things or being lazy but they don't do it to the point that it will bruise and scar. What Bella experienced was not a definition of just strict parents who wanted their kids to know how to do chores.
@@wren2975 it is normal in other places to hit your kids. I got my ass kick by my mom many times, even leaving the belt buckle print on my forearm, had me looking like popeye lol so yes it is normal in other places, maybe that’s why ppl in other places are more respectful, responsible and overall, smarter than ppl in the US.. also, did you know that Bella porch was married? This entire time she was married and her dude has some dirt lol not just that but Bella is now known for lying her ass off just for views.. wtf do you expect from someone without a talent and just make videos of her face lol she most likely lying and was never abused
What people are calling abuse today is absurd to me!!! I was abused and these kids have no clue
They put only this part on purpose i think... She also said she was hit until she couldn't even write when she didn't do a great job (in their opinion), also her nickname was bitch and they weren't allowed to sit at the table, they were obliged to sit and eat on the floor, and were basically treated like dogs.
So that + giving to a 7y.o kid role as cleaning the poop of animals, cutting grass then not letting him shower before going to school (not because they didn't have money, just because they decided so), which causes bullying at school, lack of self esteem and you can't feel good smelling like poop. You'd be disgusted of yourself...
So... All of that isn't abuse ?
@@nena.swritings it is abuse but cleaning up the poop and cutting the grass isn’t. Why would they smell like poop? I did those things at that young of an age just for something to do and not be in the house.
@@stick9758 I can tell you've never been around farm animals.
😭 This made me cry. We don't wanna be statistics so we try to get through it. I was 6 when my abuse started by my stepdad, my mother did nothing to protect me. I've never had help and I'm a mother of 4.the only way ik how to was don't do the things that were done to me. Treat others with kindness, empathy and support. Don't judge us because we seem ok. We get days when we can't do anything because our memory will cripple us. I don't drink, go out, get hair or nails done..... Nothing. I've never done drugs, always kept a roof over mine and my kids heads. I mat not be perfect but I've broke the abuse that's generational in my family. They're all horrible, I'm the odd one and there's over 150 of my family both sides. I have psychosis and psychotic depression. My health has got really bad over the years. The effect trauma has on us throughout like, without knowing is insidious and dangerous.
I was 6 my mother told me wash dishes, I could barely stand at that point. 😢
😅😅😅
For context, her parents made her clean a barn. So yeah, i don’t shower in the morning either, but I didn’t definitely didn’t need to go to school smelling like animals and poop. Also i betcha only privileged ass ppl would choose to judge her before listening to her story.
she said they were told to shower at night after doing barn work not to go smelly to sleep then stink their room up and then shower
No it’s the privilege people who assume certain people are victims automatically without questioning. Normal people would question what actually happened because honestly if you don’t listen carefully it sounds like she complaining about chores.
I'm far from privileged. I grew up on a big farm with 9 siblings. We ALL had to do work like that at a young age as well. Its teaches ,self discipline, perseverance, good work habit. Young people these days are too damn soft n they don't know what work is. And no, I'm not amish
SORRY LITTLE SISTER I FEEL YOUR PAIN I LOVE YOU LITTLE SISTER I AM PROUD OF YOU HANG IN THERE WE NEED YOU
I'm still waiting for the traumatic part. Doing chores teaches you responsibility. It's like boot camp to become a purposeful adult human.
Exactly. I’m confused on what she’s talking about. I bet everyone here is abused then. People are so soft haha
The interview was cut off here. A 7 year old really shouldn't be called "bitch" as a nickname and given the responsibility of caring for all the animals on the property, then sent to school covered in animal feces. Its also not normal to forbid your children sit on the couch or to keep them from bathing when they're dirty...
@@rexene So she was told to do chores. That’s not abuse. Y’all cry abuse for the littlest things.
@@sarahelizabeth778 gaga! Did you just skippped the other parts while reading?
Damn that's so traumatic
Me too lol
Can someone tell me where can I watch the full video ???
That showering thing hit me. I don't think about those things these days...at least I try not to that is. My mom's boyfriend abused my sister and I in many ways. I started wetting the bed every night. He demanded that my doctor fix me. When they couldn't find any medical reason...he thought punishment would work so it got worse. That mattress was rotting underneath me to where I was sleeping on bars. Wasn't allowed to get up and shower or change my sheets. He would wake me at 3 am and I could shower then. Then he made me wear pull-ups to school as punishment in the 5th grade.
It finally stopped when my school counselor called the police and they forced my mom to leave him. Never wet the bed again.