Bella Poarch Speaks Traumatic Childhood Experience

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  • @Rose07242
    @Rose07242 Рік тому +15949

    Just because you think she has it easier than other abused kids doesn’t mean she wasn’t abused
    How about everyone watches the full vid…

    • @quit74653
      @quit74653 Рік тому +112

      couldn’t have said it better!!❤

    • @thomaspeters5889
      @thomaspeters5889 Рік тому +105

      OK, so which was the part describing abuse?

    • @orangefruit12
      @orangefruit12 Рік тому +266

      @@thomaspeters5889 look it up on her other interviews. On One interview she mentioned that she was nicknamed as "bitch" By her parents and she would be called that at home when her parents would demand her to do something such as a household chore. She mentioned in this video that they would cut grass bare hands but why? Because her parents think it's more fun that way but they don't consider about risking their children having grass cuts/bitten by crawling insects without grass cutter and gloves? Take into consideration that she is adopted and that her parents stopped treating her normally when she hit the age of 7. If that does not make you question their parenting then you don't know how to identify toxic parenting and child neglect/abuse REGARDLESS of the level of abuse.

    • @thomaspeters5889
      @thomaspeters5889 Рік тому +40

      @@orangefruit12 My opinions are based on my own experiences and my reaction to my experiences. I wouldn't venture to judge another's despair but I will say I heard nothing that I personally would consider abuse.

    • @yqi7somabf827
      @yqi7somabf827 Рік тому +71

      @@thomaspeters5889 theres no way lol

  • @roxanahernandez5157
    @roxanahernandez5157 Рік тому +4963

    Guys this part of the clip just shows a glimpse of what her adopted parents did to her. They did way worse than just not letting her shower in the morning, like calling her “bitch” instead of her actual name and hitting her to the point where she couldn’t write in class. There’s obviously more but it was to the point where she felt more FREE in the military.

    • @lizlaksh8579
      @lizlaksh8579 Рік тому +10

      Omg

    • @theicecreamguy8290
      @theicecreamguy8290 Рік тому +4

      ​@@thewayteacher get some help dude.

    • @tisa6193
      @tisa6193 Рік тому +28

      This one really shouldn't be a short

    • @LassieSgr
      @LassieSgr Рік тому +16

      My adopted parents knew my name, but named me the same way they did a stray dog. They also did my housebreaking as they did those dogs.

    • @yanirisencarnacion04
      @yanirisencarnacion04 Рік тому +6

      @@LassieSgrI’m sorry this happen to you. No child deserve that.

  • @Ydce1891
    @Ydce1891 11 місяців тому +293

    I know this only talks about one part of her abuse but I give her so much credit and respect for being open about the abuse she endured. She is so young and I’m sure she has young fans in abusive homes, I hope they see that there is hope and they will get out. You aren’t alone ❤

    • @A.HoneyBear277
      @A.HoneyBear277 6 місяців тому

      I hope she one day comes out with a book. I would def read it

    • @WittyFlush
      @WittyFlush 5 місяців тому +1

      Not abuse, you need helps and still living in the bubble

  • @mioakisan
    @mioakisan 7 місяців тому +377

    Shes so strong, she turned into a good person despite those abuse and neglect. Shes so mature as well!

    • @thaimayoree1494
      @thaimayoree1494 7 місяців тому

      Have you watched the full intereview?

    • @XxxXxx-fm3wo
      @XxxXxx-fm3wo 7 місяців тому +3

      Hard work in washing up at night isn't abuse at all.

    • @sashimi879
      @sashimi879 6 місяців тому

      How is doing chores and showering at night abuse? You and her are a disgrace to real abuse victims. Disgusting.

    • @dantekole6742
      @dantekole6742 6 місяців тому

      Your ignorance is going to ruin you

    • @owenforrand6807
      @owenforrand6807 5 місяців тому +2

      @@XxxXxx-fm3wothat’s not all they did💀this clip shows a little bit of her talking abt what they did

  • @abrianaramirez3491
    @abrianaramirez3491 Рік тому +2159

    People It’s ok if y’all don’t shower in the mornings. She wanted to shower in the mornings because she was doing farm chores before school and didn’t want to smell like a farm.

    • @Kayla-dr2zg
      @Kayla-dr2zg Рік тому +81

      ⁠@@ballerinadragaMaybe? I think it's a bit weird he wouldn't let them smell decent to school. That probably caused bullying. Comparing it to other trauma it might not seem heavy but it was abuse to her

    • @Nikki-cm2dp
      @Nikki-cm2dp Рік тому +11

      ​@Ballerina Draga I'm sorry and who are you? Nobody? 😂😂

    • @SunshinesART
      @SunshinesART Рік тому +61

      As a former teacher, children who come to school after feeding up, tend to get bullied bc of the smells. I think that is what she is saying here.

    • @nazyriantecartwright7810
      @nazyriantecartwright7810 Рік тому +15

      ​@Ballerina Draga well I mean imagine forced to litteraly not shower and go to school stinking like animals and there shit then thats like the worst for of torture for a kid because you will be bullied and made fun of

    • @nazyriantecartwright7810
      @nazyriantecartwright7810 Рік тому +2

      ​@@Kayla-dr2zg I think maybe he did that because he dident have the time for each of them to take showers or maybe bills

  • @ScreamingAtTheTopOfMyLungs
    @ScreamingAtTheTopOfMyLungs Рік тому +2363

    She sounded like she was about to cry, it makes me greatful for my mom even if she can make me angry sometimes...

    • @tia9331
      @tia9331 Рік тому +5

      girl things like this always count your blessings and always love your parent figure too

    • @thuyyouto
      @thuyyouto Рік тому +2

      Acting; these people good at it

    • @Ejacunathan
      @Ejacunathan Рік тому +5

      She doesnt make you angry. You make yourself angry. Grow up.

    • @ScreamingAtTheTopOfMyLungs
      @ScreamingAtTheTopOfMyLungs Рік тому

      @@Ejacunathan who are you to tell me how MY mother is. You're a complete stranger on the internet. You have no idea how living with my mother is like. As soon as you live with my mother for a day, then you can talk.

    • @ThatgirlAminor
      @ThatgirlAminor 11 місяців тому

      ​@@Ejacunathan?

  • @p.s.e.778
    @p.s.e.778 Рік тому +59

    I'm so glad my Aunt and Uncle don't treat me any different from their own children, I'm basically the baby of the family and I once met someone with the same situation like me (living under other relatives homes) and was so shock on how different they treated her. She's always late for school cause she fed the pigs and chickens, clean their pens and do other chores before going to school. My Aunt and Uncle wouldn't even let me do chores as long as I'm studying or just reading for leisure. My tasks are limited to house chores and I barely go near our farm animals. They treat me so well, they're like real parents to me, they even support my reading addiction lol. It's just so sad not everyone can be lucky to have good people taking care of them.

  • @ktrb90
    @ktrb90 7 місяців тому +6

    Baby girl,I am so sorry.My heart goes out to all the kids who were treated bad.

  • @GiovannaFlammia
    @GiovannaFlammia Рік тому +1220

    I was placed in relative foster care with my aunt and uncle. They treated me and my twin sister well for a short time. They lived on a farm as well 80 Acres to be exactly. It was my twin and I responsibilities to take care of all the chores in the house and on the land. Given that the fact that we were in elementary school is when it started. We would be allowed to shower once a week and would be Sunday. I lived with them for close to eight years. That was just the surface of the abuse too. I can look back and say I'm both an abused child but I'm also a survivor of it.

    • @Pinkgangsters
      @Pinkgangsters Рік тому +21

      Aw I’m so sorry to hear this. Hope your okay. Even the smallest things can ruin a child’s memories of things. Sending lots of love and virtual hugs ❤

    • @tinafrompasadena3192
      @tinafrompasadena3192 Рік тому +5

      They did nothing and you twins did everything?
      Like what?
      I mean seriously when would you have time?
      Maybe it kept you out of trouble.
      It kept you from getting knocked up as a teenager.
      Maybe you were on well water and taking a shower everyday would have been a burden to the water source.
      Now I would not have liked that either, but maybe their ignorance overpowered them.
      And where were You raised?

    • @mariavinalallave6104
      @mariavinalallave6104 Рік тому

    • @lornakurien7962
      @lornakurien7962 Рік тому

      ​@@tinafrompasadena3192what crap are you spewing?

    • @thomaspeters5889
      @thomaspeters5889 Рік тому +9

      Abuse is having to shower once a week? I think if they ask you to shower 6 times a day might be considered a little abusive but honestly having to shower once a week...abusive? I initially lived on a farm where there was a pump in the kitchen but taking a shower required filling a bucket in the kitchen or the well and hauling it about 30 yards to a wooden stall where you undressed and poured the water into a drain that in turn showered your body. We rarely took showers in the winter and when I was 6 or 7 we got a tub but still had to heat the water first. The outside stall off the back porch was pitch black at night so we only used it during the day. When I got older I showered at the high school in town, Clarksburg, CA. When I was "bad" my mom (who wasn't quite right I discovered) would hold my hand over the open flame of a gas stove and it was my teachers at school told me this wasn't "normal". I'm 65 now and still have the scars on my arms and hands but faded some. I was taken from home, put into foster homes, spent years incarcerated in the Hall and Youth Authority and behavioral modification camps just packed full of horror stories you'd probably considered abuse but to me it was a minor inconvenience. The US army was worse, discharged in 76. I've been married three times, divorced twice and still married 25 years with kids and grandchildren and I love them all. Sometimes things need to be put into perspective and one man's treasure is another man's trash.
      I didn't know it was considered foster care when its your own family. You should probably be grateful it wasn't a foster home. Kids and foster parents can be quite cruel but I'd still stop short of calling it abuse.

  • @thatBoyzer0
    @thatBoyzer0 Рік тому +2694

    me watching when i dont shower in the morning 😔
    thx for the likes

  • @jonathanhall1278
    @jonathanhall1278 6 місяців тому +12

    I was homeless off and on from 13-17, when my coach adopted me. I had no idea what I was doing; I definitely slept on peoples’ property though on multiple occasions. Thinking back now, it’s wild that my parents (well, my mother - my father did) didn’t ever get arrested or anything, and I didn’t reach out to like CPS or something. But that’s what happens, I was conditioned into thinking the police or any other authority was worse or more menacing than my parents at the time. The only thing left about it now is in my head though. Like fighting against me, deep in my sub-conscience. Almost like I “identify” (would be the term used nowadays I think) as that homeless poor kid still, which is tough here in med school. And the guilt of seeing my siblings not thrive - actually they fell into the generational cycle that seems to have come upon the family - it eats at me. We’re all making it though, on our own journey. It’s tough, but resiliency gets people out of tough situations. I also joined the military, then got my BS in Chemistry and am in medical school. The only thing missing is the happiness I used to have in middle school or the beginning of high school. Like I’ve been consistently saying “I’ll be happy/proud if I get into college… no… if I graduate… no… if I get into medical school? Not really. Still working on it. Can’t let them keep stealing from me. Anyway, thank you for reading my vent.

    • @khadijahellaoui7496
      @khadijahellaoui7496 6 місяців тому +1

      Good luck 🙏🏻🌸im sorry you had to go through all of this , i hope you achieve whatever you want

    • @noraniali2093
      @noraniali2093 6 місяців тому +1

      Life is about choices. No matter what is your predicament you still have choices ie to thrive or succumbs. You've come this far, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger n wiser. There's always a silver lining in every cloud. When life throw lemons, make lemonade. I wish you happiness, you are in control.

    • @siya.kotiouu
      @siya.kotiouu 5 місяців тому

      why’d they kick you out ?

    • @tinaallenjohnson4070
      @tinaallenjohnson4070 5 місяців тому

      😢😢❤❤

  • @b1naryt001z
    @b1naryt001z 6 місяців тому +13

    The reason why I taught my kids to shower at night was so that they didn't sleep in their beds dirty. Sleeping in a dirty bed is disgusting!

    • @philippe146
      @philippe146 5 місяців тому +4

      It’s different in her case she want shower in morning because she was shovelling animal shit in the morning and she doesn’t want smell bad in school.

    • @chief8879
      @chief8879 4 місяці тому +1

      @@philippe146should have showered at night then lol ffs whats the damn point? I shoveled shit as a kid! Shower go to bed wake up. Unless she is acting up trying not to shower at night and try showering the morning. Making the bed smell like shit. She needs a sad story to keep making money and content.

  • @Jovi0559
    @Jovi0559 Рік тому +939

    I’m okay with showering at night before I sleep. Keeps my bed clean instead of sleeping with an all day germs and bacteria and bad hygiene.

    • @btkenobi2
      @btkenobi2 Рік тому +64

      Its the only way to go. i can't understand
      doing it any other way

    • @A.hmdl.
      @A.hmdl. Рік тому +19

      Same! ♥️, I get sick when I shower in the morning and go out in the winter.. and that’s almost 10 month where I come from

    • @albertoolarte206
      @albertoolarte206 Рік тому +112

      They’re cleaning the farm and animals poop. Everyone wants a shower in the morning before going to school… it’s a different story showering at night and have a good sleep…

    • @chocolatecat5004
      @chocolatecat5004 Рік тому +60

      Before school she would tend to the farm animals. Cleaning up their poop etc, she wanted to shower before school so she didn’t smell bad to other kids

    • @pingyu5141
      @pingyu5141 Рік тому +22

      In the Philippines most people would take a bath in the morning, and before going to bed at night. Though normally taking a bath is always in the morning here.

  • @iloveegnocchi
    @iloveegnocchi Рік тому +41

    my heart breaks for her :( at least she’s happier now and free from those awful people

  • @stevelux9854
    @stevelux9854 5 місяців тому +29

    Being required to work is not abuse. If you're working outside and around animals you need to shower at night and not go to bed dirty.

    • @piellamp
      @piellamp 4 місяці тому +2

      Yea I don't really see the abuse either?

    • @silklavender
      @silklavender 4 місяці тому +2

      Watch the full thing omfg

    • @user-fe8ir2gs8f
      @user-fe8ir2gs8f 2 місяці тому

      Nope he was actually abusing her​@@piellamp

  • @Starlight06
    @Starlight06 Рік тому +634

    The comments here are not it 💀

    • @Sickoganyu_Priyangel
      @Sickoganyu_Priyangel Рік тому

      Asian peoples in nutshell 😂😂

    • @chelseafuller8412
      @chelseafuller8412 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂

    • @tarasteele278
      @tarasteele278 Рік тому +11

      Like no one even actually listened to her.

    • @SarahSobieski
      @SarahSobieski Рік тому +10

      That's why abusers get away with abuse. So many people support them. It's important to seek help from trained professionals that know you have been abused so that your feelings are validated. That's the only way you can truly heal. 💯

    • @absentwig9492
      @absentwig9492 Рік тому +2

      Thanks for your service. I won't bother to read them then🎉

  • @Ulove619
    @Ulove619 Рік тому +62

    I’m so happy that she made it through. She’s the victor now. I just pray her brother made it out too.

    • @leroyfaka
      @leroyfaka 10 місяців тому

      She made it ? What is your definition of making it ?😂
      You also think she is rich now, right?
      Define your riches please !😅

    • @Liam_Prince_of_Jebels
      @Liam_Prince_of_Jebels 7 місяців тому

      but then, we didn’t HEAR YET THE SIDE OF HER PARENTS STORY 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @lifeofbean3332
    @lifeofbean3332 Рік тому +1

    It's hilarious how some kids here treat being a part of farmers family like it's the saddest thing that happens in life. I grew up on a farm doing a lot of manual labour etc and even though now I say F them potatoes I'll rather but than grow mine it was still a great way to grow up and connect with nature. It's still blows my mind some people don't know how food is grown or never saw a duckling in their life.

  • @addysweety
    @addysweety Рік тому +1

    There's a lot of us abused kids. We hug each other 😊❤ #hugs

  • @dorismay8383
    @dorismay8383 Рік тому +4

    There are so many problems in this world like famine, killer heatwave, earthquake,Yolanda typhoon victims,Turkiye earthquake,etc.

  • @mrs_xgaming
    @mrs_xgaming Рік тому +202

    I know how she feels, being abused by my step father didnt feel right.
    It happened when i was 7 my step father married my mother due to an agreement.
    He needed papers but he never told her that, mother thought it was love, since my biological father left due to my mother wasnt providing much so he didnt have to work. My step father would tell me to wear clothes that was revealing, and such at a young age. When i was 9, i started my monthlys. Thats when he started molesting me, eventually raping me.
    I thought that was okay, i didnt tell anyone till one day i missed a whole 2 months. Nurse did a test, and said positive. They brought me to the hospital, and called my mother. They found out that i wasnt pregnant, i had a tumor. But, had truma down there. They suspected my step father, i never saw him ever since he ran and lives out of the country. Mother and i have restraining orders, and he has a warrant for arrest once he comes back to the states.
    Im now 26. And yes i have Aspergers Autism, my husband loves me for me, protects me from night terrors of my step father. Unfortunately i cannot have children 😕.

    • @girleyreds11-11
      @girleyreds11-11 Рік тому +7

      Trust me you do not want to feel bad about not being able to have children her world is right now bringing a child into it would be considered cruel and unusual punishment to them. I mean think about it things are only going to get worse so by the time their teenagers are in their twenties if you had a child now imagine how bad the world's going to be and it's going to be because you brought them here so trust me not having a child you're doing that little soul he favor by letting it stay in heaven

    • @proanimaluver6487
      @proanimaluver6487 Рік тому +1

      ​@Girleyreds as hopeless as you made it sound , it's just true.
      I've seen alot so...

    • @proanimaluver6487
      @proanimaluver6487 Рік тому

      ❤️ ❤

    • @proanimaluver6487
      @proanimaluver6487 Рік тому +1

      My gbaby is autistic. She's an absolute joy

    • @sexybraintv
      @sexybraintv Рік тому +7

      WOW, prayers up for your healing. May God bless you.

  • @jacobeparsels9251
    @jacobeparsels9251 4 місяці тому +1

    OMG she's so strong I couldn't imagine having to take one shower a day instead of two

  • @tygrant9910
    @tygrant9910 6 місяців тому +15

    She wasn't abused... she had chores...

    • @michaelprudhomme4986
      @michaelprudhomme4986 4 місяці тому

      Thank you... like holy fuck I did 10× the shit she's whining about and more as a kid.

    • @joelsmith2125
      @joelsmith2125 4 місяці тому

      Amen

    • @ameliah3496
      @ameliah3496 4 місяці тому +2

      I watched the full podcast and this isn't the full extent of it. Her adoptive father would slap her and her parents would never use her real name so they would just called her "bitch" all the time, so it's safe to say that she was abused

    • @ronmorris956
      @ronmorris956 4 місяці тому

      Exactly...... 😂

    • @WayneNonaRyder143
      @WayneNonaRyder143 4 місяці тому

      You Brainless. Chores for a 6years old. Stupiiiddddd

  • @ziajang8812
    @ziajang8812 Рік тому +425

    Maybe it's just me but as Filipino who grew up in the Philippines, this was normal. Because my parents were not around and my grandparents were the one raising us, my siblings and I helped around the house. We cooked, we cleaned, we helped in the garden, the harvest, we raised farm animals. During summer, I had to fetch water at the bottom of a hill where we lived. We walked three miles to school, three miles back. I'm 32 now so that was over twenty years ago. Our chores were hard but it taught us discipline and perseverance. We were humbled by it. Now that I'm living in the US, I don't resent my grandparents for what my siblings and I had to go through. My grandpa was disabled and as the only male figure in the family, we understood he couldn't do much for us. We lived simply. No power, no running water. So yeah, life is hard sometimes and I understood early that each family member sometimes have to pull their own weight. I was not forced, I helped.

    • @teresaacevedo1731
      @teresaacevedo1731 Рік тому +40

      Beautiful up bringing ! We also had to do work to help. I didn’t feel it was abuse.

    • @DexterReyes-fl7lx
      @DexterReyes-fl7lx Рік тому +12

      This shits real

    • @boobear0467
      @boobear0467 Рік тому +63

      Yeah you were not forced but im pretty sure Bella was

    • @MaddieSprings
      @MaddieSprings Рік тому +88

      If you listen to her whole story this clip makes more sense as to why she claims to be abused. It’s not about just working on a farm or living in poverty. The farm was just the catalyst that jump started their abusive habits. They were terrible to her.

    • @meli1872
      @meli1872 Рік тому +25

      no no watch the whole interview. that was abus

  • @myerofficial
    @myerofficial Рік тому +19

    I love how so many people in the replies say she wasn’t abused because she didn’t talk about it in this video. Lol.

    • @Ima_meangirl
      @Ima_meangirl Рік тому +3

      Nothing she described was abuse. The fact that her idea of abuse was doing cares just makes her sound like a spoiled brat.

    • @myerofficial
      @myerofficial Рік тому +4

      @@Ima_meangirl apart from this video, she has talked about it. Obviously you haven’t seen it

    • @tonatiuhgonzalez9426
      @tonatiuhgonzalez9426 Рік тому

      In fairness this edit is very misleading.

  • @roylamcdaniel7451
    @roylamcdaniel7451 Рік тому +1

    True fact: I was actually adopted myself but my mom would NEVER abuse me, and she never have and never will, I always have these moments when I get mad at her tho. This makes me realize on how lucky I am. 🍀❤
    I'm really sorry for Bella and what you had to go through! ❤

  • @WharGhoul_
    @WharGhoul_ 11 місяців тому +2

    Sounds like my life too:
    Everything was good for me up until 6 years old; I had always been fed and housed, I was also the baby of the family.
    Then at seven my little sister was born, I also was Givin chores to do around the house, and told to eat all my dinner and only take short showers at night😢.
    I bid my time, knowing that I must make a move to better my situation, but I need to be prepared to leave, I waited and I watched for the right time to get out from under the Thumb of my ruthless parents and at 17
    I made my move!

    • @zkring6450
      @zkring6450 9 місяців тому

      Are you serious? or joking

  • @sliverhalo9286
    @sliverhalo9286 Рік тому +88

    Its hard seeing her back track and gaslight herself abuse is abuse and it breaks people

    • @_.Madison._
      @_.Madison._ Рік тому

      ?

    • @tiffanydelgado342
      @tiffanydelgado342 Рік тому +11

      Doing basic chores isn’t abuse. My 8 year old mows grass and rakes leaves and feeds the animals.

    • @jms6833
      @jms6833 Рік тому +2

      How was she abused?

    • @sienta414
      @sienta414 Рік тому +11

      ​@@tiffanydelgado342 You make them cut the grass by hand? 😐

    • @LadyDazzleDance
      @LadyDazzleDance Рік тому

      ​@@sienta414By hand with a lawn mower...duh lmfao 😂

  • @Elena_aiha
    @Elena_aiha Рік тому +183

    She couldn't explain it it right..
    But i watched some other interview and it was disheartening..

  • @lindsaywhitney6305
    @lindsaywhitney6305 9 місяців тому +35

    I dont feel like chores are abuse at 7 years old.

    • @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531
      @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531 6 місяців тому +3

      That’s not really the part that was abuse if you go and watch the actual video it was more than just chores.

    • @cforte0423
      @cforte0423 6 місяців тому +1

      @@nixthebigscarychickennugge5531 then what was it?

    • @aaliyahx1634
      @aaliyahx1634 6 місяців тому

      ​@@cforte0423she got beaten up

    • @lindsaywhitney6305
      @lindsaywhitney6305 6 місяців тому +1

      @@cforte0423 teaching kids that we all help keep up the space we share, and that other people don´t exist just to clean up after their messes.

    • @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531
      @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531 6 місяців тому

      @@cforte0423 when she was younger her parents would call her bitch instead of her name. They would also hit Bella, yell and some other stuff. Like I said though you can watch the original video or look up different ones where she talks about the situation.

  • @ricebroooooo
    @ricebroooooo Рік тому +1

    To the people who think“ *oh it’s not as bad as what I had to endure so she’s just being a dramatic* ” please have a bit of empathy and stop think about yourself.
    if anyone had a a worse childhood then her they would think maybe even wish the had her childhood and that’s normal, let’s say your dirt poor when you were a child you then hear about someone complaining how poor they were when they were a kid and you think I had it worse so it probably wasn’t that bad
    what your doing is *invalidating* there experience because you had it worse and I’m not comparing abuse to being poor
    I’m just saying it’s the same mindset someone can experience abuse and it might not be as bad as yours but they still went through abuse and if we use that same logic someone could have had an even worse experience with abuse then you but that doesn’t mean you didn’t go through abuse.
    I went through $exual trauma but thankfully it didn’t go far but unfortunately some people weren’t as lucky but that doesn’t mean my experience doesn’t count you *can not* compare abuse of any kind if it was physically emotionally or any type of abuse because it wrong and it *could* lead to you abusing others and thinking “it’s not as bad as what I had to go through so it’s fine” and that’s what’s called *generation trauma*

  • @atifahkhan
    @atifahkhan Рік тому +4

    What does she mean 'of course I'm gonna smell"
    Use water when you use the washroom. This is literally something that should be normal.

  • @AfzamStories
    @AfzamStories Рік тому +505

    My eyes didn't shed tears but my heart definitely cried inside my chest while Listening her

    • @lilyr6755
      @lilyr6755 Рік тому +2

      Me too.

    • @tashaox
      @tashaox Рік тому +7

      yeah i can’t believe it 💔💔💔 she couldn’t shower in the morning

    • @sharicawint7399
      @sharicawint7399 Рік тому +2

      Please that is crazy. Get over it. I use to cry my mom had .e taking showers twice a day. That was trauma.

    • @munlioka428
      @munlioka428 Рік тому

      @@tashaox hahahahhaa

    • @FLeXN
      @FLeXN Рік тому

      She complains about laughable shit
      Ppl only listen because she a female
      If it was a man I bet ya would be laughing

  • @jimmysobrino9677
    @jimmysobrino9677 Рік тому +1

    I'm filipino, and I guess I was abused too. My parents made me wax and buff the hardwood floor when I was 8 and sometimes cook rice for dinner and pick-up dog poop. They made me clear the dining table after we ate and sweep the kitchen floor.

  • @pashumie
    @pashumie Рік тому +183

    yall gotta watch her whole story, theres definitely more to this

    • @XxcheyaxX
      @XxcheyaxX Рік тому +2

      Where can I watch it?

    • @nicholestroup1770
      @nicholestroup1770 Рік тому

      Where can we find it at

    • @epictetushasepictiddiez2615
      @epictetushasepictiddiez2615 Рік тому +10

      It better be cuz in this clip all she's complaining about is cutting grass and picking up poop 🙄

    • @twit9129
      @twit9129 Рік тому +16

      ​@@epictetushasepictiddiez2615you do realize, she had to pick up poop by many farm animals in the morning then wasn't allowed to wash up so she'll stink the entire day and get picked on right? Idk refusing her personal hygiene seems pretty abusive.

    • @bradjensen2342
      @bradjensen2342 Рік тому

      Well that's dumb

  • @olivest509
    @olivest509 Рік тому +186

    The abuse started for me around 4th grade. I was always emotionally neglected, which is a form of abuse, but the antagonistic abuse and scapegoating started later. Before that, I was mostly left alone.

    • @comfortzone2517
      @comfortzone2517 Рік тому +7

      Sending you a hug ❤ youre not alone

    • @saiyyrra8351
      @saiyyrra8351 Рік тому +5

      Do u need a friend

    • @Overthemoon1111
      @Overthemoon1111 Рік тому +3

      God bless u❤️ sorry about that:(

    • @ambriaashley3383
      @ambriaashley3383 Рік тому +2

      I’m really sorry that happened to you ❤ you did not deserve any of that.

    • @justno702
      @justno702 11 місяців тому

      ​@@whoeverwhatever9279Imagine downplaying emotional abuse💀

  • @gregmiller9466
    @gregmiller9466 9 місяців тому +1

    That's not abuse. That's time management as far as the showers. Lots of kid cut grass or yardwork.

  • @Callietorres6503
    @Callietorres6503 Рік тому +558

    Everyone needs to watch the whole story not just judge from one little clip.

    • @lolumad1369
      @lolumad1369 Рік тому +7

      Funny how that works eh, it’s almost like people are blinded to the only path they follow…

    • @Kt-cn2rq
      @Kt-cn2rq Рік тому +4

      Well were is the rest?

    • @Callietorres6503
      @Callietorres6503 Рік тому

      @@Kt-cn2rq ua-cam.com/video/2jFIQr_cVz4/v-deo.html

    • @JohnSmith-ie9qo
      @JohnSmith-ie9qo 10 місяців тому +2

      She's a no talent 'influencer'

    • @christopherc5570
      @christopherc5570 10 місяців тому

      i have no idea who she is? what happened? if u commented “watch the whole story” then please link

  • @Jillberto
    @Jillberto 11 місяців тому +1

    Yall PLEASE watch the whole Interview before you call her privilliged. She isnt complaining about having to do chores nor does she say chores are abuse. Its all the things she mentions after, like being beaten until she wasnt able to do school work anymore among other things.

  • @maryaparici1476
    @maryaparici1476 Рік тому +8

    Lol
    Tough filo life .
    Many have it worse in the Philippines but in America this sounds harsh .

  • @ladelnorte4707
    @ladelnorte4707 Рік тому +18

    I feel so bad for her! She’s so sweet! God please protect her at all costs 🥺❤️🙏

  • @michaeltruong6886
    @michaeltruong6886 Рік тому +1

    ...she was resilient enough, joined the Navyand served well... kudos to her 😢❤

  • @cristi2832
    @cristi2832 Рік тому

    Poor girl, couldn t shower in the morning... God have some mercy on this pure soul

  • @veronicajina6780
    @veronicajina6780 Рік тому +62

    Eyes never lie>>

  • @JenniferO2323
    @JenniferO2323 Рік тому +44

    I'm so sorry, I don't know what's wrong with people , we need to love all the kids and treat them well. I did foster care and loved all my kids. I'm so sorry you had to go through the abuse.

  • @kingschen1394
    @kingschen1394 7 місяців тому +10

    Omg, She had to do chores and called it abuse 😂

    • @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531
      @nixthebigscarychickennugge5531 6 місяців тому +3

      Watch the actual video 🤷‍♀️, it was more than doing farm chores.

    • @josephinelibedmacuha3938
      @josephinelibedmacuha3938 6 місяців тому

      We were raised on a farm but my parents didn't let us do chores at that age 7y.o. cutting grass and cleaning after animals is already abuse to me.

  • @user-wb9le8qx6j
    @user-wb9le8qx6j Рік тому +27

    I’m so sorry no person deserves a traumatic childhood

  • @AT-jf7up
    @AT-jf7up Рік тому +12

    Wait??? Was she abused because she had to help on their farm or was she physically or mentally abused?? I’m missing the whole story.

    • @marias5230
      @marias5230 Рік тому +4

      Both. She didnt just "help on the farm" it was actual child labor

    • @tararainyday703
      @tararainyday703 Рік тому

      She was also beaten til she couldn't write with her hands if the chores weren't done perfectly.

  • @STEVOLOVESTHAILAND
    @STEVOLOVESTHAILAND 11 місяців тому

    I was abused, I was told that I was a mistake, I was stupid, my mother later on killed herself, my father was always gone. I don’t like it when others say they had it worse,,,, we all can say; it was really bad😞

  • @mrZAM2054
    @mrZAM2054 6 місяців тому +1

    Yup doing the chores around the house is so abusive 🥱👎👎 woke the f up 😭

  • @brendar-b310
    @brendar-b310 Рік тому +54

    That’s how you know times have changed!
    Now doing chores is abuse!
    When I was growing up, it was building character, learning responsibility contributing to the household!
    Helping take care of your siblings,
    Clean for and take care of grandparents,
    Feeding the animals,
    Making your bed before school,
    Helping with the dishes,
    Help prepare meals,
    Take out the trash,
    Weeding the garden,
    Cutting lawns,
    Delivering newspapers,
    Help your neighbors ect…
    Was a normal childhood for me!
    It is crazy what some people call abuse.
    When is it going to stop?

    • @Gramcracker72
      @Gramcracker72 Рік тому +2

      You don’t cut the grass by your hands ?

    • @bubblegumnnebula
      @bubblegumnnebula Рік тому +5

      If you watched the actual interview, you’d know that she was actually abused. Her dad used to beat her, made her sleep in the chicken coop during winter, and used to call her st**id b**ch instead of her actual name

    • @brendar-b310
      @brendar-b310 Рік тому +1

      @@Gramcracker72
      My siblings and I weeded the garden and the entire yard by hand and we mowed our lawn with a push mower not a gas mower.

    • @ylvao
      @ylvao Рік тому +2

      ​@@brendar-b310 maybe u were abused too but think u deserved it because that were the times

    • @elainecastelluccio1056
      @elainecastelluccio1056 Рік тому +2

      Your a little too quick to judge

  • @parisdaisy632
    @parisdaisy632 Рік тому +49

    I was abused as a child myself.. definitely missed a lot of having a childhood and being a child. But you’ve come so far Bella and you should be proud of who you are ❤❤

  • @nishthagupta1357
    @nishthagupta1357 Рік тому +4

    Exactly I've been abused the same by my parents too

  • @liliavalin2200
    @liliavalin2200 Рік тому +5

    There was no real love in her Foster home. I heard her entire story! And you don’t treat your adopted children like slaves! That’s why she left to go to the Military! She felt much happier. And God gave her a much better life now,for God saw how much she suffered! God sees all!
    She was not loved in that foster home. God Bless you & your brother Bella! We love you! God loves you!🙏🏼❣️💕

  • @Bobasquad860
    @Bobasquad860 19 днів тому

    I’m so sad for Bella that she had that feeling😢😢😢😢😢

  • @komingschannel
    @komingschannel 7 місяців тому

    I feel so bad for Bella, I can't imagine a family like hers, she's amazing ❤❤❤😢

  • @LyricJohnson-xe6jh
    @LyricJohnson-xe6jh Рік тому +16

    Damn that's so traumatic

  • @casualcrybaby
    @casualcrybaby Рік тому +5

    I have always, ALWAYS showered at night. I don’t sweat much at all when I sleep

  • @scarface3693
    @scarface3693 11 місяців тому

    any weather it is Filipinos always take a bath before going to school or work. that's how conscious Filipinos are.

  • @thangchung8594
    @thangchung8594 7 місяців тому +2

    Sounds like they just made her do work. It doesn't sound like abuse at all

  • @dravinbarnyard1325
    @dravinbarnyard1325 Рік тому +465

    Please tell me she didn’t say she doing chores was traumatic for her…

    • @chocolatecat5004
      @chocolatecat5004 Рік тому +66

      Watch the interview if you rlly wanna know

    • @kashafoster161
      @kashafoster161 Рік тому +73

      Cutting grass by hand is not a chore

    • @sandradee8880
      @sandradee8880 Рік тому +23

      Yup what sounds like being on a farm.

    • @paigeangeljones
      @paigeangeljones Рік тому +51

      @@kashafoster161 my dad cut grass by hand as a kid for his parents and neighbors for money because they couldn’t afford a lawnmower. Cutting grass by hand is not abuse.

    • @YG2ENT
      @YG2ENT Рік тому +16

      Watch the interview before you say anything u dont know anything else she said that was heart breaking

  • @clairedelune6482
    @clairedelune6482 Рік тому +42

    Wow there is a whole "who was abused more" competition going on in the comment section.

    • @lorigasper9656
      @lorigasper9656 Рік тому +2

      I know right? It’s sad no one is empathetic anymore. It’s all about one upping the one before you!! SMH

  • @stick9758
    @stick9758 5 місяців тому +1

    What people are calling abuse today is absurd to me!!! I was abused and these kids have no clue

    • @nena.swritings
      @nena.swritings 5 місяців тому

      They put only this part on purpose i think... She also said she was hit until she couldn't even write when she didn't do a great job (in their opinion), also her nickname was bitch and they weren't allowed to sit at the table, they were obliged to sit and eat on the floor, and were basically treated like dogs.
      So that + giving to a 7y.o kid role as cleaning the poop of animals, cutting grass then not letting him shower before going to school (not because they didn't have money, just because they decided so), which causes bullying at school, lack of self esteem and you can't feel good smelling like poop. You'd be disgusted of yourself...
      So... All of that isn't abuse ?

    • @stick9758
      @stick9758 5 місяців тому

      @@nena.swritings it is abuse but cleaning up the poop and cutting the grass isn’t. Why would they smell like poop? I did those things at that young of an age just for something to do and not be in the house.

    • @rykerhippen9983
      @rykerhippen9983 4 місяці тому

      ​@@stick9758 I can tell you've never been around farm animals.

  • @avelinofigueroa8636
    @avelinofigueroa8636 8 місяців тому

    🙁😢😢 we love you Ms.Bella , keep on shinning 🙏🏻😊👌🏻💪🏻🤟🏻💯👑⭐🔥⚡🎯🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🇵🇭

  • @gvr80
    @gvr80 Рік тому +146

    Bro your dad telling you that he wanted you to shower at night is not abuse

    • @btsjkvjrjsj
      @btsjkvjrjsj Рік тому +7

      Bro her dad told her took a shower at night when she was just 7. Night shower for a 7 years old girl when she didn't want to it is a abuse

    • @btsjkvjrjsj
      @btsjkvjrjsj Рік тому

      Also cleaning up a poop when she was 7 oh my god bloody fucking people

    • @nenod7151
      @nenod7151 Рік тому +29

      @@btsjkvjrjsj what?

    • @btsjkvjrjsj
      @btsjkvjrjsj Рік тому

      @@nenod7151 what what?

    • @joliviaajevaa
      @joliviaajevaa Рік тому +31

      @@btsjkvjrjsj are you serious 😂😂😂. so if your mom told you to take a shower before bed and not after and you don’t want to it’s abuse ? shut up please

  • @euthania5783
    @euthania5783 10 місяців тому

    This is so sad. It sounds like her parents were some of those who treat the kids like adults once they are mostly functional. It's so sad. Everyone has different struggles but struggles, no less. I hope she can heal from all of that.

  • @uncensoredcornishgirl87l16
    @uncensoredcornishgirl87l16 6 місяців тому

    😭 This made me cry. We don't wanna be statistics so we try to get through it. I was 6 when my abuse started by my stepdad, my mother did nothing to protect me. I've never had help and I'm a mother of 4.the only way ik how to was don't do the things that were done to me. Treat others with kindness, empathy and support. Don't judge us because we seem ok. We get days when we can't do anything because our memory will cripple us. I don't drink, go out, get hair or nails done..... Nothing. I've never done drugs, always kept a roof over mine and my kids heads. I mat not be perfect but I've broke the abuse that's generational in my family. They're all horrible, I'm the odd one and there's over 150 of my family both sides. I have psychosis and psychotic depression. My health has got really bad over the years. The effect trauma has on us throughout like, without knowing is insidious and dangerous.

  • @celiacruzazucar6630
    @celiacruzazucar6630 Рік тому +8

    I was just cutting the grass by hand yesterday. I'm so soar but tomorrow I must resume & finish the job.

  • @vandaahll
    @vandaahll Рік тому +57

    She does not mention abuse once.

    • @davisoketch7035
      @davisoketch7035 Рік тому +6

      For ffs she was 7😢

    • @meganmxox
      @meganmxox Рік тому +6

      Thank you! Just seeing this clip alone all she said was she had to cut grass and had to bath at night instead of morning…where is the abuse from that.

    • @jae_03_
      @jae_03_ Рік тому +2

      ​@@meganmxox then watch thr wholr clip? Tf

    • @relevancy1123
      @relevancy1123 Рік тому

      @@meganmxoxI wasn’t aware abuse came in obvious formats? I wasn’t aware that people were so universally the same that trauma has to be understood to be empathetic. If you don’t understand, that’s fine. I’m sure plenty people would feel your trauma was insignificant as well. That doesn’t make it true, though.

  • @ninapilcik2467
    @ninapilcik2467 Рік тому

    Only people battling their own demons would torture others...🙏

  • @Nowandthen5737
    @Nowandthen5737 9 місяців тому

    We were never allowed to bath in the AM before School. No big deal. We washed ourselves in the bath Rm sink, before getting ready for School and Breakfast. Always made our beds. Never thought that was abuse🙀

  • @fa_tyh
    @fa_tyh Рік тому +89

    Wow, I'm sorry to sound like a douchebag, but that's literally my childhood and my whole life like that and I don't feel abused at all. I mean, come on! Life is just like that.

    • @jennyjuarez1137
      @jennyjuarez1137 Рік тому +17

      Well maybe go to therapy and find some things about yourself

    • @flamingomingo9810
      @flamingomingo9810 Рік тому +15

      Your parents starve you if you don’t clean poop well enough? They keep you from taking showers? I get growing up on a farm and doing yard work (which I don’t agree you should put 9 year through TOO much because it affects their development), but the amount of rules, additional abuse and lack of support can’t be good for anybody. If this happens to you, I can only hope that you have a peaceful life and work through those things because even though life is hard, this isn’t something a child should be going through.

    • @tarasteele278
      @tarasteele278 Рік тому

      Were you allowed to shower when you smell like literal 💩?

    • @mariahgrigsby1916
      @mariahgrigsby1916 Рік тому +4

      you had to cut grass by hand at 7 years old? 😐 buddy it sounds like you need to touch grass

    • @isabelstewart5363
      @isabelstewart5363 Рік тому +3

      This is just a clip - a short snippet - she suffered physical abuse and wasn’t allowed to sit on the sofa with her adopted family and had to sit on the floor like a dog - she also was given scraps. That is abuse - I’m so sorry you think it wasn’t abuse what happened to you .

  • @australianskinscienceaesth2501

    OMG sis.. look at the world with the 3rd world country before they have a child labour.
    Each kids needs to get the hard way! Look at the most successful billionaires!
    We’re not 2 sided of that it’s just sometimes you took a shower in the evening because you take too long to go school if you shower in the morning! So be kind! Some step dad deserve a tap they trying to be in to your family.

  • @Rectified.1
    @Rectified.1 20 днів тому

    Tbh Same here I lived with two alcoholic while my mom was still young and getting high I was stuck there getting yelled at hearing them to beat each other in there I would try to stop em and get in the middle of them but one time my grandma was beating my grandpa with a brick and I got in the middle of it and got smacked with the brick and then they started kicking me because I got in the middle of it I had to cook my own food they didn’t cook my food I did it would be lil heat up meals I only new how to make and like noodles around 9 or ten my mom started coming back around on a common basis but by then I was not a kid I was a like full teen that has watched people beat each other in hope they kill each other and I used to beat them to and tell them how much I wanted to kill them but now there dead and no one can heal that hole but them I’m not a normal boy my eyes will always look empty I’ve realized after watching my grandma drop dead because of a heart attack I got the 1000 yard stare I’m calm in situations like if there’s a murder that I witnessed I would probably laugh it off and be just fine but tbh lately I’ve realized even if I can feel anything over time it’s eating me up on the inside without me even noticing it’s eating my whole soul to nothing but a black sheep in a white sheep’s farm

  • @julieholien3681
    @julieholien3681 8 місяців тому

    When we talk about it frees us.

  • @MikeHoncho1975
    @MikeHoncho1975 Рік тому +18

    I had to mow my grass, that doesn’t mean that I was abused. I also had to wash the dishes, clean my room, take out the trash feed the cats, that’s called chores, not abuse.

    • @babyree2901
      @babyree2901 Рік тому +4

      Being forced to go to school smelling like crap ain’t it.

    • @kathleensaenz4717
      @kathleensaenz4717 Рік тому +3

      @MikeHoncho1975. You misunderstood...the grass was TALLER than her and they had to do it by hand at age 7. Not a mower. They cleaned up pooped and were not allowed to shower before going to school. That is abusive. Child labor.

    • @katella
      @katella Рік тому +2

      If you live in the country with animals there is always work to do and, yes, a lot of it is messy and hard work. That isn't abuse, it is work that has to be done. What a nightmare to have a kid who grows up claiming to have been abused because they had to help out with the chores.

  • @zuzanabutterfly5754
    @zuzanabutterfly5754 Рік тому +15

    Everything she's describing here has nothing to do with abuse.
    I never showered in the morning as a child . You should shower before bedtime to wash your day off of you.
    You wake up clean to start your new day.
    Having some duties around the farm and helping is fine too. I did it as a kid and it helped me to be more appreciative person. Nothing just fall from the sky on our table, you have to work for it.
    This new generation is ridiculous, especially in the US

    • @daisymarie5974
      @daisymarie5974 Рік тому +3

      Bella poarch lived in the Philippines, you don't know how hot Philippines is.

    • @chronicallykelly7193
      @chronicallykelly7193 Рік тому +2

      Watch the entire podcast; what she's saying in this clip is the least of it.

    • @lilithyolanda9851
      @lilithyolanda9851 Рік тому

      No, YOU know NOTHING abt abuse.
      Forcing a child to do ALL the manual labor at a FARM is very much illegal because that’s child labour and considered abusive in many standards.
      Also theres a DIFFERENCE with your story and hers. The attitude is different in your environment. Because you had a family that helped you and still gave you love even when you had to help out do work, but Bella didn’t. She was not appreciated, loved, nor cared for by her own adoptive parents. She was not taught to work as a family bit on her OWN, she was FORCED at a young age to do EVERYTHING at the farm.
      Its sad how you try to justify abuse by saying its just a normal thing but its not. Abuse doesn’t just come from hitting a fucking kid. It can be where you FORCE them to work when they’re extremely exhausted or fucking hitting a wall until your kid gets panic attacks every time a wall is hit.
      Abuse varies and FORCED CHILD LABOR is ABUSE and can be seen as another form of Modern Slavery…
      You may be a parent or someone that grew up in a poor environment where at a you g age you had to help out financially, but what you NOT is a child psychologist so dont act like one.
      Your ignorance is the sane type of ignorance which caused mental health and domestic abuse to not be as known back then, forcing those to endure, seek medicine outside of the country, or kill themselves.

    • @tararainyday703
      @tararainyday703 Рік тому +2

      She was also called bitch instead of her name, not allowed to sleep in her bed, forced to go to school smelling like shit to be bullied (this is the shower part), and beaten til she couldn't write with her hands if she missed one thing when doing her chores, I think that's the part that people are considering abuse. Honestly I can see why people might think it's abuse.. Even as someone who's pretty desensitised from personal experiences.

  • @tamikacasey
    @tamikacasey Рік тому +1

    Omg no lie you guys I really thought the Dad was gonna take the plate away! I had no idea the kid was gonna choke.😐

  • @rey3019
    @rey3019 11 місяців тому +1

    Not being allowed to shower in the morning isn't abuse.

    • @erikarnesen6052
      @erikarnesen6052 4 місяці тому

      Learn to watch stuff through and not judge without context. She wanted to shower because they cleaned up animal shit in the morning before school.

  • @chelseafricke2068
    @chelseafricke2068 Рік тому +4

    She says she was abused because she had to cut grass by hand and shower at night? Tf?!

  • @firstlast8252
    @firstlast8252 11 місяців тому +2

    there's no abuse here. showering at night isn't abuse.

  • @dananmckie9253
    @dananmckie9253 Рік тому +11

    When you get older you are given chores to do
    As you get older your parents age
    How you grow up and mature
    Is what moulds you into the beautiful person that you are
    Many cultures children have chores as a soon as they walk
    Be proud of what you have become

    • @darkcanary
      @darkcanary Рік тому +1

      Cutting grass by hand is painful. I do my edges with scissors and i always get blisters after doing it. On little 7yr old hands that would be torture to do a garden of long grass by hand!
      Remember, this is just a short.... it isnt going into everything she went through.

    • @dananmckie9253
      @dananmckie9253 Рік тому

      @@darkcanary remember though our lives are moulded by how strong we are as we grow up
      Parents can be cruel
      Some of us turn out good some of us turn out rotten
      And some of us disappear never to be seen again
      This young lady has shown us that her harsh life never beat her
      And how she lives it will define the beautiful woman that she has become

    • @darkcanary
      @darkcanary Рік тому

      @@dananmckie9253 I know this only too well.... But Yes, I am the strong, compassionate woman I am today because of my childhood and adolescent traumas. xx

  • @beastly.warner
    @beastly.warner 11 місяців тому

    That showering thing hit me. I don't think about those things these days...at least I try not to that is. My mom's boyfriend abused my sister and I in many ways. I started wetting the bed every night. He demanded that my doctor fix me. When they couldn't find any medical reason...he thought punishment would work so it got worse. That mattress was rotting underneath me to where I was sleeping on bars. Wasn't allowed to get up and shower or change my sheets. He would wake me at 3 am and I could shower then. Then he made me wear pull-ups to school as punishment in the 5th grade.
    It finally stopped when my school counselor called the police and they forced my mom to leave him. Never wet the bed again.

  • @solvated_photon
    @solvated_photon Рік тому

    When I was around 10 or so my older brother went to live with our mom. I was left behind with an even older step brother that would beat me up, and over time I became the primary person responsible for cleaning the house. And when I say cleaning, I’m talking about scrubbing toilets with a toothbrushes and white glove tests, etc.

  • @markkrilljr9033
    @markkrilljr9033 Рік тому +23

    Showering at night is ideal morning shower is pointless

    • @btkenobi2
      @btkenobi2 Рік тому

      We need to spread this gospel. Why jump in bed with every bathroom break and everything in your day still stuck to you

    • @yuixan763
      @yuixan763 Рік тому +5

      Not ideal if you have to clean shit in the morning tho, I don’t want to go to school smelling like shit either

    • @angelaltheaexplorer9508
      @angelaltheaexplorer9508 Рік тому

      Normally filipina shower 2 times a day, before go to bed and morning before start the day. I think she just culture shocked in her younger age but base on her story she is more emotionally abused.

    • @markkrilljr9033
      @markkrilljr9033 Рік тому +1

      @@angelaltheaexplorer9508 I wouldn't say making a child work on a farm cause that's what her family does for a living is abuse? Plenty of farm raised kids in the states and none of them would say they were abused

    • @stinky9703
      @stinky9703 Рік тому +1

      ​@@markkrilljr9033that isn't abuse, but what she went through is abuse. The abuse part isn't actually mentioned on this clip. The person you replied to doesn't mean that working on a farm is abuse

  • @PrincessNana08
    @PrincessNana08 Рік тому +37

    For context, her parents made her clean a barn. So yeah, i don’t shower in the morning either, but I didn’t definitely didn’t need to go to school smelling like animals and poop. Also i betcha only privileged ass ppl would choose to judge her before listening to her story.

    • @nnggghhaa3709
      @nnggghhaa3709 Рік тому +2

      she said they were told to shower at night after doing barn work not to go smelly to sleep then stink their room up and then shower

    • @sarlandobriseno3894
      @sarlandobriseno3894 Рік тому +5

      No it’s the privilege people who assume certain people are victims automatically without questioning. Normal people would question what actually happened because honestly if you don’t listen carefully it sounds like she complaining about chores.

    • @BernadetteEnsinger-ew8mt
      @BernadetteEnsinger-ew8mt Рік тому +1

      I'm far from privileged. I grew up on a big farm with 9 siblings. We ALL had to do work like that at a young age as well. Its teaches ,self discipline, perseverance, good work habit. Young people these days are too damn soft n they don't know what work is. And no, I'm not amish

  • @jilyyyyy.
    @jilyyyyy. Рік тому

    "Respond to Understand, Not to Reply."

  • @maidaobrien-xu5mk
    @maidaobrien-xu5mk 9 місяців тому

    Blessed are those who walk in truth ❤❤❤ sorry for all your pain ❤❤❤

  • @drskeetenstein
    @drskeetenstein Рік тому +44

    Bro, being told to take your shower at night and do chores doesn't sound like abuse.

    • @sleepysenpai3885
      @sleepysenpai3885 Рік тому +6

      So insensitive goodness

    • @PrettyImpressiveNails
      @PrettyImpressiveNails Рік тому +16

      You need tonkisten to the whole onterview. This clip messes up the whole point of the interview. She was made to do farm chores in the morning before school and then weren't allowed to clean up, starting at 7. Its not just chores when you have small chikdren doing manual labor for 6+ hrs a day, plus school, withholding showers, food, clothes, etc. Beating her, calling her "bitch" instead of ever using her name, witholding rhe ability to sleep until chores were dont so they were up until 3am and back up at 6am. All while the other 2 bio children didnt have to do anything.

    • @williamcarlin9030
      @williamcarlin9030 8 місяців тому

      People are fucking ridiculous anymore.

    • @Feelsbylex
      @Feelsbylex 8 місяців тому

      Bro going to school smelling like anamil farm shit, intentionally is a form of abuse, that looks and smells like it regardless of what it may “sound” like to you, unless you’ve personally experienced it, you have no opinion about it

    • @Amila-ym7ny
      @Amila-ym7ny 8 місяців тому +4

      She was talking about how she had to clean the farm (if i remember) in the morning before school hence smelling like shit

  • @jasonmorosan9472
    @jasonmorosan9472 Рік тому +76

    Bro that’s not abuse that’s just hard work

    • @FN-zg8lj
      @FN-zg8lj Рік тому +22

      It’s obvious the people adopted her to use as free labor. It’s why they switched up their behavior once it was official.

    • @vridhi2345
      @vridhi2345 Рік тому +5

      Bro this is just a little part of what actually happened to her ,so like stfu and do your research?

    • @zzroroxzz
      @zzroroxzz Рік тому +1

      its child labour

    • @MrStoudemire11
      @MrStoudemire11 8 місяців тому +1

      Yeah, unfortunately we live in a society where people love to say how they were abused for sympathy. It's a big, big problem that goes hand in hand with the mental health issues of today

  • @VinylToVideo
    @VinylToVideo 11 місяців тому +2

    He probably wanted you to shower at night so that in the morning there'd be hot water. "zOmG aBuSe!?"

    • @minyoonji2229
      @minyoonji2229 11 місяців тому

      Bro this is a short clip about some of the mild things- look more into it

  • @CrystalChicken-jp4gn
    @CrystalChicken-jp4gn 11 місяців тому

    That breaks my heart 💔😭 it’s so sad

  • @User..370
    @User..370 Рік тому +128

    Showering at night and cutting grass isn’t abuse that’s called being privileged😭

    • @jadedphenix
      @jadedphenix Рік тому +28

      Cutting grass with scissors is being privileged?? Damn what kinda childhood did you experience 😮

    • @tarasteele278
      @tarasteele278 Рік тому +25

      Showering after you've shoveled shit isn't privilege. Tell me you didn't listen, without telling me you didn't listen.

    • @audreywright1101
      @audreywright1101 Рік тому +8

      Wow, privilege??!!You are crazy or your childhood was horrific. That's abuse!Smh🤨🐺🐯

    • @ashash1338
      @ashash1338 Рік тому +6

      Are you slow?? Also those two things aren't the only things

    • @ihateallyall
      @ihateallyall Рік тому +1

      tall grass with snakes and handpicked by 7 year old children? no

  • @timothyruggles3031
    @timothyruggles3031 Рік тому +85

    If you feel down you have more friends that you can talk to keep your head up and be proud of yourself.....

    • @kpopfan11337
      @kpopfan11337 Рік тому

      Back then all the kids would laugh at her because of the hand me downs

    • @timothyruggles3031
      @timothyruggles3031 Рік тому +1

      @@kpopfan11337 little boys and little girls are different I was a hand me down kid one of my friends was a mom made it kid
      I didn't like negative kridasisoum of my friends

    • @kpopfan11337
      @kpopfan11337 Рік тому

      @@timothyruggles3031 Different culture...

  • @mishacoins7361
    @mishacoins7361 7 місяців тому

    Seeing her speak openly about abuse irl is touching

  • @JerseyBhad93
    @JerseyBhad93 Рік тому

    I wish I could give her the biggest hug!!!!!! I love u girl

  • @kzlblue4097
    @kzlblue4097 Рік тому +5

    Wth dude whatever she’s saying it’s islander style. Not abuse at all. If you’re from the Philippines you know you have to save water. Back then you drink water from plastic bags/ziplock and shower from the 🪣 shower at night you don’t need to shower the next day to go to school. You know why? Cuz kids back then don’t like to shower in the morning 🤦🏻‍♀️ Cutting grass by hand? She meant picking weed that’s a chore back in the day for kids.

  • @cyndire
    @cyndire Рік тому +21

    Things were different before (I'm gen x). Parents were more strict. I had a very strict grandfather and we would also have to do farm chores as well with manual tools and there were also snakes and other wild animals in the bean and corn fields. I personally hated it it was horrible especially working under the sun but as I said back then it was considered normal for kids to help out. My siblings and cousins and I tried to just have fun while working hard.

    • @iceicebebe8299
      @iceicebebe8299 Рік тому

      Is it normal to be called stupid bitch all the time? Is it normal that she's sleeping in a chicken coop during WINTER? Is it just normal if the two of them are tasked to work but the othet two won't be asked for assistance? That their foster parents beat them till they can't write at school? It's ABSOLUTELY NORMAL, RIGHT?????

    • @koo-core7274
      @koo-core7274 9 місяців тому +1

      this isnt the full thing, they also used to beat her to the point where she wasn’t able to use her hands at school.

  • @whatsnack8835
    @whatsnack8835 5 місяців тому

    I have an uncle who was adopted for the sole reason of being a farm hand for his adoptive parents. Lots of trauma there

  • @chaynessatham1191
    @chaynessatham1191 10 місяців тому

    I always don't shower before school😂😂😂