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Thank you so much I'm going to move out too
I moved out to go to trade school to be a welder and a wildland firefighter. The most terrifying experience so far was flying to the DIA, navigating the Denver International Airport all by myself, missing my flight, and having to book another flight to get to Rapid City. It is absolutely stressful and insane. The DIA is the closest thing to hell I've ever experienced. Im doing great at welding. Almost certified. I got deployed as an fft2 and have great friends. Even greening out on an edible is less terrifying than that. If I wasn't able to reschedule my flight, I would probably have to stay the night at the DIA and have security kick me out and then sleep on the streets. Like a homeless person. DIA=EVIL. Not only that the underground railway system that gets you to the 3 terminals is always insanely crowded and I had to force my way in or my head would be chopped off by the doors. So the moral of the story is to always navigate the DIA with a friend or family and never by yourself, and life isn't that terrifying if your able to navigate it. Also this is supposed to be taken light hearted. It's a joke.
ReggieBryant U gave me great advice maybe I'll have a chance to move out at 22 😊❤❤ I finally made my decision about dis.😊
Appreciate u sir u just gave me a wake up call , u just helped me realize I'm not a kid anymore. 😊❤❤❤
Because you get to live by your own rules and do what you want. Don't rush it but once you're on your own you'll likely never go back.
Facts
That’s what we want though lol
I know damn well I won’t 🤣🤣🤣 my dad feels like it . I hate being home . My parents are so toxic
Even when in their house, u can do what u want. Fuck what they say
@@kkikkei2828 did you not watch the video? All that is minor compared to the mental growth you have.
honestly in tears right now. my parents have no respect for me, but the only reason i stay with them is because i have no one else.
facts
Bruh💔
You have yourself. If you move out, take on the world, and begin the adventure of your life you will become much more proud of yourself and grow tremendously. As a result, you'll start being your own friend. Once you're proud of yourself and shoulder some responsibility, you will attract others. You have the ability to venture out, find people, and build the life you want and need. It's within your reach, and there is hope. It's up to you to cease that opportunity. Hope this helps, and I sincerely wish you the best in your endeavor.
Do u respect ur parents?
My parents respect me but I have no where to go sadly
I need to move out because when I look around no one is bettering their life or striving for new goals.
You got this!!!
You can do it I did but it want be easy
Bruh thats literally how i feel rn
Same
My dad used to tell me that you're not fully grown until you can turn your own key, in your own lock. That's a difficult reality; but the truth is whenever you are utilizing the resources of another person, you need them. Needing someone requires you to meet their expectations. It doesn't have to be a bad thing; but it is a real thing. Great video.
Thank you!
This the one right here ! I’m literally 20 😭
@JustYaniii You got this! Moving is freeing; but when you're ready. In the meantime, prepare to the best of your ability and focus on the positive.
Except it's not your key or your lock. It's your landlords, and you're just been financially dominated and cucked to pay their mortgage.
How@@PowerofRock24
I'd say that one of the problems is that some parents cling on too heavily on traditional collectivist ideals (especially immigrant parents of colour), that they will discourage independence, insist that it's "selfish" to choose individual happiness over collective family obligation and that it's "evil" to have any freedom of bodily autonomy without your parents having the ability to punish you.
Exactly!!!!
and it worked ! only thing giving me doubts about moving out is how "selfish" itis even though all my goals in life start with me moving out.
💯💯💯
LITERALLY MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. The abuse is REAL
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I moved out when I was 25 years old and never lived with them again or asked for a dime from them. Later in life I was able to relocate and help my parents purchase their retirement home. My siblings, who left much sooner; never stopped mooching and have moved back home several times with their families. Point is; it is best to leave when you are prepared to never be a burden to your parents again.
I’m 25 and still seem like a baby. I help out with groceries and bills but I’m far from independent
Which country?@@denisn8336
I’m 25 and I feel like I have reacted that point. I’m really hungry for my own success in life. Even though it will be a struggle.
@@denisn8336 at least you are honest much respect
Exactly. It depends a lot on everyone's situation and on your relationship with your parents. You can be living with them a bit longer while helping them financially, some parents need that help too.
Don’t leave until you get your money right. Pride will keep you poor
Fr
Naw get tf out
I agree with you to a point. I feel like I won’t be motivated enough unless the stakes are higher for me. I’m far too comfortable and undisciplined at home, and I’d rather move out and fail than not leave at this point 👌🏻🩵
👏🏻 I helped my parents financially (they needed it) while living with them. There were "no rules" for me, I worked and studied at the same time and did whatever I wanted on my free time. OH! And saved A LOT of money.
You’re right. For those who can tolerate their parents it’s the best thing to do.
Actually some parents thrive off the codependency you have on them bc lets admit there are toxic families, which I do have. It took me years to see what has been happening to me & now I'm moving out in the next few months
Definitely some toxic families out there. Unfortunately being blood-related doesn’t erase that. I’m happy that you’ve made the decision to do what’s best for you and move out 💪🏾
Same here ! At 32 years old im finally making that move, my whole life my mom never let me have my own identity and as for my father every time I make my own decision he gets mad at me like I did something wrong. On top of that everything I do my mom makes me feel stupid, she belittles everything I do, so I always feel like I have to super prove myself to people. I also feel mentally behind than people my age. At 32 it finally took me this long. It took me being a parent myself to realize this.
Very true! Unfortunately my younger brother is stuck there because, my parents manipulate him so much. They depend on him so much financially. It’s sad .. I wish he’d move out & live his life
How’s your move out
@@kakaishi7210 moved out last June and I'm happy now. I get along with my family more than ever. Distance strengthens a relationship I believe
Moved out at 17.
I wasn't cast out. Just needed to see the world myself. My mom was upset, my Dad was proud.
I retired happily at 40.
So you decided to work from 20 to 40 and enjoy your life after 40?
@@zoro-juroo lol
Let him answer 😅
That’s a W
@@zoro-juroo lowkey kinda fire
@@christhechilled nah working a slave job not a flex
You get to invite company on your own terms instead of having to accept whoever comes, which includes people you don’t prefer to see. It’s really terrible living without total control .
I feel that
bro, you said it ! totally agree with you man
I’m the baby of a Jamaican family, single, with no kids. So when I decided to move out, I was automatically persuaded not to. Then when I decided to move back home after my rent increased, I become stagnant again. Don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful I have parents who are willing to let me stay for as long as I needed. But that was a blessing and a curse. I was comfortable and not growing as a person. Now that I have a plan, I’m moving out indefinitely.
I'm almost 20 and I live with my Parents. Because I couldn't make it out of here.
Dont move out until you can buy property
@@paulolelewe2330are you okay now
I just turned 26 and I'm still living with my parents 😬. I feel exactly how you feel I feel like when I'm at my parents house somehow my mentality is stagnant because I'm so comfortable and there's a level of codependency too. It's like I can't fully develop into an adult mentally when there are people that I can fall back on. Secondly I'm a very sheltered person which was really beneficial early on because it protected me from the wiles of the world, but like you said it's a curse to because it almost feels like a form of arrested development when I just cant snap into adulthood in my mind, just like that. I can definitely pay bills and everything but while I'm at my parents house I don't have the driver's seat in my life and I still have to ask for permission for quite a few things. I'm pretty much still a child and I'm kind of treated like it too. My parents or even my sister don't really take me seriously. I know how you feel.
I’m 28 and unfortunately still here. I started saving to move out then lost my job . It’s hard especially with rent being so high but I can’t continue 😭. Wish me luck
I really needed this advise. Moving out is my new number one goal. Looking at my life I have indeed gotten too comfortable at my parents place killing my self drive and I am now seeing how that is making me miss out on real world experiences at 23. Thanks a lot man, you just helped a brother out. My next comment here will be me having moved out. and I am holding myself accountable to that.
You got this bro!! 💪🏾 I’m rooting for you
Wow very mature words at 23, I don't think you will have a hard time.
it is also now my number one goal and I am 28.
Feel the same way wise words
Update bro?
Thank you for this. I am 32 years old. I have moved out when I was 22 and I lasted 4 years out on my own when I had to shamefully moved back in with my parents. I shaped up, I went back to college, finished my bachelor's, paid off my student loans, got myself a really good job, and I have been at my job for 3 years now. I worked on my credit, it is nice and sparkly, saved up a good savings, and now I applied for a home loan and got a good deal on it. Closing date is one month from now ^^ I am nervous since I did this all by myself as a single woman, but I feel like it is the right time and also I want to build equity and invest in a good house. I have been having a lot of doubts on moving and my mother isnt too fond on the idea, but I know that I can do it and I know that in the end I will be proud of myself. Thank you for this video. I just have to be positive and know that things will be okay!
u get it
Congratulations
Living with your parents as an adult shouldn't be shameful! You save a lot of money doing it. Get a job and put a bit of your salary in a savings account.
@@DEATHCHICKEN1337 Thank you Very much for the comment ^^ Yes, I would not be where I am now without the help of my family and giving me the opportunity to save up. I and very blessed and thankful for them.
Learn from me. I didn't move out and now I have very severe depression and anxiety (which I wouldn't have had I moved out)
What caused it? Were your parents abusive?
@@DEATHCHICKEN1337Even if you don't have abusive parents
It will still be going to affect you
Living with loving parents also brings anxiety and depression
Because they won't let you go anywhere because they are too caring
And that's why people suffer more
Imagine you are a young 21 year old adult and suddenly your mother or father got a chronic illness
In that case you will become depressed as hell because you never knew world and life experience and it will surely affect your studies and you
As someone who was forced to stay at parents until 30 (she had chronic illness) and was a sole provider for her i have lost my young adult life and will never get it back. Never dated because work and her. I had become very depressed because of it and had no social skills/life and don't have time for a gf
I’m gonna move out soon and the thought terrifies me to the point where i am experiencing physical symptoms of anxiety! I’m 22 and my parents had instilled sm fear in me from a young age about how the world out there is very cruel yet they have no respect for me when i stay with them! I made the decision to move out soon and im extremely terrified but i guess its for the best
I dealt with the same thing at 23, I hesitated on moving out but took a chance. Once I did it wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be. Did I have hard times? Yes. But also good times. My family were gaslighting me when I didn’t chose the career path they wanted for me. Since I’ve been on my own I live by own rules and mental health has improved tremendously. Live within your means, pay your bills on time if you can and everything will be ok. I hope whatever you choose works out for you I’m rooting for you! You got this!
I moved when I was 26 and absolutely terrified. Definitely had anxiety. I moved back in with my mom and my anxiety is better. The world is definitely hard out there but we must fight and never give up.
Im 22 almost 23. Ive realized i ve wasted my time on things that dont matter. Im gonna work hard in orde to move out. Im am an adult and can do whatever i put my mind on
I'm 22 and I'm in the process. I had to because of domestic toxicity. I'm terrified but I'm doing it. Sink or swim lol
You have to remember that you didn't moved out just because you dislike living with your parents. You moved out to better yourself and learn things on your own and maybe you'll understand a lil of their perspective.
Bro honestly… I am 24 right now. I went to college at 18 and I made the wrong decisions and I ended up flunking out in my freshman year. I ended up coming back home and I’ve been with my parents for awhile and I have had enough. Ever since I’ve gotten back home, they’ve really been dogging me out for a long time now. I never ask them for anything and they always pressure on me over little things like a piece of paper on the floor. After listening to what you’ve been saying, my man…. it’s time to get out on my own because I have become to comfortable
Sty strong brother
Yes I'm very familiar with that. And know just where you're coming from. If it was turbulent before. Its likely going to be like that when you move back in.
How has it been? Im in this situation rn
@@ninafrederick6048shi I’m in it to amd I’m 19
We have the same exact story bruhh… but mine is I also smoke weed which makes it worst
My parents didn’t support me much outside of making food and cleaning the house they also live in. I’ve been planning my own hospital visits since 12 and had to remind my mom to bring me until I was old enough to go alone. My parents didn’t pay attention to how I was doing in school at all until they seen a bad grade then they all of a sudden cared. I’ve been working since 14 years old so I can pay a phone bill, buy clothes, pay for transportation because if I didn’t pay for it I wouldn’t have had it. I’ve been independent long before I was an adult and all I ask for is for my boundaries to be respected but I’m told I’m disrespectful and ungrateful by my parents and older siblings because they had it harder 😂.
Was the job okay with you working at that age
There’s a lot of benefits to moving out and a lot of benefits to staying . Depends on your situation. But eventually you need to.
If you live in California, the age expectancy to move out from your parents is looking more closer to 30 than 20 now
I’m on pace then lol
Expectancy? From whom? Who is this person and why should I do what he wants? I'll move out when I want.
Pre watch: I rather struggle financially on my own because at least I’ll have my peace of mind.. money challenges ain’t nothing new to me. But having CONSISTENT peace in my home environment …. Unheard of.
Exactly some people can’t stay at their parents anymore because it’s a constant battle for peace and respect.
no fr bro im so ready to have my own studio apartment there may be some momemts where ill struggle but i want to still go through with it
@@thehoodpharmacist7618 Let me tell you. Since I’ve made this post, I’ve moved into my own place in a new state. I have no furniture outside of 4 bar stools and my bed. I don’t have any of the kitchen gadgets that I would like to have and I don’t even have a tv. I could give TWO F*** because I have PEACE. I’m in such a weird place when it comes to anxiety and healing but it feels much better being able to go through it alone!
I haven’t struggled nearly as much as I thought I was going to and I just got a small raise at my job. I will be alright at the end of the day. Just gotta believe in myself.
@thehoodpharmacist7618 I’m nervous but I hope I can get this studio apartment. Hoping for the best 🙏🏾
I'm of the opposite mindset. I'd rather get the money first, then move out later, hopefully with a deposit and not end up another financially dominated rent cuck living in an overpriced box and paying some landlords mortgage. Living on the street or burning 2/3 of your income is preferable to renting.
I'm in my early 20s and want to leave them badly.
Taking college classes online.
A full time minimum wage job is not even enough to move out only own. I will probably have to work two jobs to get out this jail.
Are you in an expensive state
Same
Been living on my own for 11 years, the independence and freedom I have is unparalleled.
I’ve learned responsibility, accountability, self sufficiency and more during this time. It’s not for everybody, some ppl have a dependent nature or just feel more comfortable around others. I get anxiety and annoyed around most ppl, and feel most peace in my own company. I love connecting with people but the ppl I truly vibe with are far and few between…and they’re def not in my born family.
Living in your parents house doesn’t mean your parents have to live their also
I'm listening to this while I'm on the motorway fully packed driving 200 miles away from my parents home. Finally decided to move out. Hope it works out🙏🏾
how are you?
Doing very well, found a flat and job settled in nicely. Honestly best choice I made. But the key is saving enough money to cover unexpected things that will happen (my van got stolen me being reckless😂!)
@@kungfukenny8256 what kind of job u find?
@@samethsendsthanks delivery driver for Amazon
@@kungfukenny8256Hello! I wish you the best. What’s a good amount to have saved?
You can save money, but also your mental health can decline easily if your parents are not so supportive of your goals. I can't never focus on my studies, self-study skills, and certification preparation due to the constant noise in my environment. Parents are also narcissists, so I endured mental abuse for a long time and now as an adult it is worse because they always bring up that I am adult still living for free and mentally abuse me due to having failed in my university and not getting a good-paying job afterwards which led me to stay at home. They had it easier than me because they bought their home a long time ago before inflation.
Same
this video literally put words that I thought in my head but couldn’t say to my parents on paper. Thank you so much. Your hard work on these videos will pay off, please don’t quit
Thank you so much! I will definitely keep going and bring as much value to you guys as possible 💯
dude thank you for this! you really gave me that one push. i just got a salary increase from a new job but i am afraid of paying the bills etc. but you pointed out that the responsibility is what makes men level up n grow
Damn bro, thank you for this video. I graduate highschool in 9 days, and just yesterday my mom told me I have to move out on that 9th day. Lately my parents have yelled and lectured me a lot because I kind of am lazy, but I just don't understand where my life is going, or the steps needed to get somewhere good. I feel you have taught me more in this video than they ever have, truths about life and independence I need to know.
I’m sorry this is happening to you
join the army
Hey how are things going now? I have a highschool son who also is kind of lazy and doesn’t know what he wants to do either 😅 BUT I love him & I would never kick him out unprepared or financially unstable, out there in the world! That’s messed up & im sorry your parents did that to you. I hope your ok!! I’m teaching my son how to be independent. We’re teaching him life skills like cooking, driving, learning to save money & pay bills. He will
Be volunteering at jobs to figure out what he does and doesn’t like. Then he’ll be going to trade school because that’s what he wants! Good luck to you though. We may be strangers but i believe in you ❤
@@prettyllady Awww. How nice of a mom u are🫂😊🤧
It depends every culture is different to the moving out approach I’m Canadian with a Jamaican background . My parents looked at me like I’m crazy when I said I’m planning on moving out. Them and my younger brother were like no waaay, your gonna abonden your family . Im like no it’s part of growing up. But by next year I’ll be moving out.
Very good perspective, thank you! I wish you the best with moving out next year!!
Sounds like you have a kind and supporting family, so what is your reason for leaving them?
Don’t move out until you have the money folks. If your parents are giving you somewhere free to live then take it. While everyone else is renting you’ll be saving up for a down payment on a home
You are absolutely right.
alot of people are broke af bc they dont think about the long term. Renting is for broke people thats why most renters will have nothing to show@@patnabuu6072
That's the thing, tho.... I'm not staying here for free.
@@darrenlobban9865 Paying $500/mo to your parents is far more preferable to paying $2,500/mo to your landlord.
@@darrenlobban9865how
I need to get the heck out of my parents house immediately. It's no joke.
I just moved back with my parents after 2 years of my own and I feel absolutely awful. Granted, I got a job in my home state that is paying more than double what I was making at my previous job so I can start paying down my debts. I 27 y/o single male. I know I am responsible for my decisions, and now I can’t help but think I made the wrong decision moving back home. Just have to be responsible and take this in stride.
You may feel regret now but you’re in a position to build yourself up now. Only forward from here bro 😎
@@ReggieBryant when are u ganna drop another video ?
@@rallyjays coming soon 😎. Got some 🔥 for you guys.
I know just how you feel. It's very easy for it to go back to how it was when you were still there.
Look man, you gotta do what you gotta do. Nobody else is responsible for paying off your debts except you. If it takes moving back to do that, then it is what it is. People can say what they want, but no one else will be there to help you when you can't afford to live & pay off debt...except maybe your family. So hey, look at it as a blessing. Not many people have that backup plan
I’m from a Guyanese, Indo-Carribbean background. My parents expect me to stay home and take care of them, but once I get my career together by next year when I’m around 28 years old I’m planning on moving out. They expect me to leave my job if it needs me to relocate but I will not leave my job, once everything is together for me I will be moving out.
Awesome 👏🏻
Guyanese woman here. I can’t just sleep In for one day because I’m expected to cook or clean and mind everybody. If I don’t I get cursed out for it. But who is minding me? Who’s making sure I’m alright? That’s the key right there and I’m moving. I want to be treated like a person not an inconvenience. Like a scapegoat or something. Idk.
I have an amazing relationship with my parents. They are truly amazing people. I wish more people had parents like mine. I remember sitting down to eat a few days after my husband and I moved out of their house and into our first purchased home. I realized they weren’t upstairs and I couldn’t just go have dinner with them and play cards even though they were only 20 minutes away. I started crying. It was a bittersweet time in my life.
Respect to you for putting out this video. I needed to hear that my parents will only respect me when I demonstrate my ability to them.
im 15 and i have made it my mission for the next 3 years to save every penny, so that when i turn 18, ill be ready to move out.
@@JESUS_LOVER456 put in the work, and you can get whatever you want in life 🫡
Thanks man. You've articulated perfectly what I've been feeling but can't quite put into words. I'm moving out this week.
Do what you gotta do bro! 💪🏾
Best wishes ❤️
Move out of the house is a choice, not mandatory.
I'm 26 and still living with my parents because I don't have nothing to find out there.
Plus is difficult to buy a house these days.
If I have a real reason on why, then yes I would do it.
It’s not a chive for everyone
We need to be responsible for our actions and stop blaming other people. Do introspection. Repent and practice good decision making.
This is what I learnt as someone who is currently living alone, in another city far away from parents.
God can become your parent.
I want to move out really bad. But I also help out a lot financially. Bills cars clothes foods shoes you name it. However I still get treated like a kid. I want to do things on my own terms. I don’t feel respected as an adult. But I feel like it’s cause she doesn’t trust I’ll be ok without her. Micromanaging kills my confidence. I put my future on the back burner to help life passing me by now I have a kid. I try not to fall into depression
Hope you're doing good, I guess everyone who's here feels the same way
Well in my case I lived with parents even after 18 but because they relationship was toxic I been doing things on my own since 18. Paid the bills there, paid for food, paid for my university and all that but they still disrespected me, and the reason why it was difficult to leave is because I got sick . So like the cooking, doctor appointments and being responsible was already there for me.
I’m 26 and have a bachelors degree and been home for almost 3 years but it feels like 6 years. I couldn’t find a cooperate job like all some of my friends so rn I’m working for my grandma cleaning business after not being able to find a job in cooperate America. I feel so uncomfortable in my dads hom. Idk how im going to move out but i do know I’m making a way for myself by putting myself online and trying to create different opportunities for myself. So when I do start prepping to move I have money saved and different streams of income. Thank you for you wisdom
Thank you so much man, i can't wait to finally leave my parents house and finally be free from all the toxicity.
Thank you so much for posting this. It really helped me clarify my thoughts and understand how this move would help my personal growth. I'd love to see you make some more videos on moving out
New videos on moving out are coming soon!
When the money is right… then moving makes me feel more secure. It has weighed on me and I have been so stressed. I do need my own place. ❣️
@@malstarrainbow you got this!
Moving out this Saturday, @24 years old. My hyper independence and trauma from my childhood has allowed me to prepare ahead of time with this. I’ve been gainfully employed through the years and haven’t had one unemployment year before I got my first job. It’s a freeing feeling of going to the beach late at night (almost 12 AM) to my mum’s house and knowing I won’t have to worry much longer.
Thank you for this I been living at my parents all my life and it done pull me down I have miss out on a lot of life experiences, at 38 I made up in mind to quit my full time job and get a part time job enroll in community college to study construction technology to get a full time job as a carpenter I am on my last semester I will be finishing in Dec. My goals are to fix my credit, get out debt, and build a place of my own.
How you doing so far?
@@m.-9615 Doing okay.
You got it bro! Keep going!
@@charlesjacksoniii8787are you still studying
I’m really impressed. And after this I’m 100% moving out no doubt. No one has ever had me subscribe before finishing watching their first video like you did. Can’t wait. 2 more weeks.
Thanks for subscribing and I’m glad I could help!
Did yu move out how are yu holding up
In my opinion in this video 'living with your parents' is confused with 'hotel mother'. In the 'hotel mother' parents never stop caring about you and do all the things you should do alone. 'Living with your parents' is just that you live in the same house but do all the things by yourself.
Eg. Asking to adjust the thermostat is never something I did. Doing the choirs they want you to do is nothing I was ever asked to do (except things my parents couldn't do anymore like heavy work in the garden or fixing the roof. I also could have said no there with no problem)
You’re just confirming what I have been thinking. The way I see it, I am a plant in a pot, the pot being my parents house. I can’t grow bigger until I get put into a bigger pot (my own apartment.)
I love what you said about how when you prove you can take care of yourself, your parents will respect you. I’m 21 and my parents treat me like I’m still 17.
Same
I’m glad you enjoyed!
Your are the reason I'm moving out of my parents house next month 🙏
I appreciate that! I’m hoping for the best for you!
I made the decision to move out thanks to you as well... I am Armenian, and Armenians are used to their daughters living with them traditionally, but everything you said applied to me 100%.
Just stumbled upon this video and am glad I did. Pretty much affirmed what I've been suspecting myself as a 20 y/o male living with my parents still. Thanks for giving me something to think about.
I moved out at 17 now 27 I’m moving back with my mom but before you judge. It’s the apartment above hers (3rd floor). In the 10 years I’ve lived away from my parents the biggest lesson I’ve learned is no one cares about you but why should they? They have their own lives to worry about. So with that being said I stopped caring so much about other people. I’m not saying to become an a-hole but I stopped going the extra mile for everyone & started doing it for myself. With that mindset I’ve accomplished so many goals & I don’t really fear challenges anymore. Put an obstacle in front of me & I’ll ram through it. Now I’m helping my gf develop that mindset & her life is literally changing right before our eyes.
Long story short- if you have fears don’t ignore them, figure out why you’re scared & prepare yourself.
Use the internet to make money the internet is a literally a tool to becoming a millionaire it’s easy all it takes is consistency
Great advice, I have been definitely running from some fears but I am doing better now.
To each their own, you can still have goals and be disciplined living at home. I pretty much have 90% of the freedom I have living by myself with 80% less costs.
Building up a nest egg to have the chance of being able to retire is much more important to me than keeping up with the Joneses or caring about someone else's preconceived judgements.
This was literally me, still disciplined and taking care of my responsibilities.
You're speaking my language. Renting is the WORST financial thing a person can do to himself. Being bled 2/3 of their salary towards paying some other guys mortgage? It's like cuckholdery, but financially. At least a mortgage is an investment.
I'd rather be a rich loser that live with his mum than a 'cool' loser that is in debt and being unwittingly bled of his financial future.
I longed to move out because its quite turbulent. I got along much better with my parents so much better when I moved out. But thanks to covid I got made redundant and had to move back. And they were happy to have me there. But guess what it quickly went back to where it was before.
That's what happens. Any problems you had when you lived there. It all comes back.
I can’t wait to get out because then I’ll be able to cook my food without my mom watching me all the time and correcting me on how to do it. I like to cook my shit my own way. 🙄
Good video… I’m 24 and hope I haven’t wasted too much time already living with my parents still. I got hit with a massive bout of depression and anxiety at an early age from a skin disease and I’m just getting out if it now at 24.
Yeah when u are all under one roof, the respect is lacking and the micromanagement starts. Also for some immigrants families they turn you into their provider but still wanna control you 😂. I’m like nope! You ain’t running things and you ain’t runnin no game on me
Yes and sometimes a parent can’t drive and you gotta take them every where cause they don’t wanna take Uber
@@dianamanriquez9200 yessssss! 😂 they get boogie like that 🤣
It’s hard. I’m literally stuck. My mom had a new baby when I turned 19, and I am 21 now. I have no choice but to care for him almost everyday. My mom and dad work long hours and they don’t have much time to care for him. I am unable to get a job because I’m the one who watches the baby. I’ve been so depressed for so long, I’m truly stuck.
I can’t wait to move out fr. I feel like I need my own space to level up spiritually, physically, etc. ❤
I'm 15 years old, and I know it may seem a little early for me to be already looking and planning everything to move out of home but I really feel it's something necessary to get to know myself and grow as a person. My home is a mentally exhausting environment, not to mention highly dysfunctional and does not provide any of the comfort or security that a family environment should. A few years ago my dad told me what I am going to do with the rest of my life, where I am going to study, what I am going to study, where I will live, what I will work and what I will be in my future; every time he talked about it I ended up crying horribly because it is not what I want to do with my life and honestly as he painted it seemed like a real hell. Since that day I have been forced to prepare myself for such a blissful future, where what terrified me the most was that I never seemed to get away from them. In my country things are a little different, at 16 years old you have to take the entrance exams and at my early 17 years old I should already enter the university, from that moment the path of my life begins. The truth is that I don't know what I am doing and if I will be able to escape from that imposed future, but somehow watching these videos and reading the comments give me some comfort and hope that if I try hard enough to build my own life I will be able to guide myself in a more pleasant future for me.
What country is that and can you dorm at the college
Not too young at all. The fact that you are already thinking like this is great so you can grow into your plans and materialize them. I moved out at 23, would have moved out earlier if I wasn’t in college. I’m now 36 and I’ve never moved back home nor have I ever had a roommate. If course there were times in my 20’s where I couldn’t make rent, but I’ve never been evicted. If I can do it, so can you!
I never thought of it like this until now maybe my dad was the way he was just to make me tougher I'm just scared to let my mom down because she my everything I just don't want to fail her
Thank u brother im a 24 yr old trying 2 move out rite now working hard and getting there
Keep up the work! You got this
I’m 24 too I’m in the same boat hope we both get it 💯💪🏾🖤
Fuck I am too
My mother give me money to not to get out, but I refused, and still working on my own.
Those reminders you mentioned I don’t even get those so I don’t think being on my own would as challenging honestly than it is being here I already feel alone tbh
I live in Pakistan, where most people live with their parents because usually we need to combine our income and productivity to survive. I don't get lectured at home. We work together and there is compromise but everyone's healthy and gives each other space. I am independent (i pay the bills and buy the food with my sibling 50-50) but sometimes I have to do my stuff+their stuff as well. Which is annoying because I only have 24 hours in a day. Parents mostly depend on us now, not the other way around. Also, we siblings have ownership of assets now and are responsible for maintaining and upgrading them.
I speak 4 languages, I am self-taught and earn the same or more than someone who works full time in my country but I work from home part-time.
What languages do you know
The respect for you from them plummets yes you are absolutely right.
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I was told that it's going to be amazing and awesome when I move out living on my own. I moved out a few months after I got a steady job. Nothing changed, except my living standards lowered since I had to use my salary to pay rent, bills etc. Now I'm 40, both my parents are dead. I'm still working in the same IT company. I've waited for 20 years for this "living on my own" thing to become amazing and awesome. Yet, it's still the same. Most of my time I'm at computer, otherwise I eat or sleep. Just like before moving out.
Did you not branch out and socialise with other peeps?
@@DaRaZiO98 I still have mostly the same friends and I still occasionally visit them for a cup of coffee, just like I did before I moved out. Nothing changed.
This. Everyone acts like moving out and becoming a "Rent-tard" is some grand moment in your life that will forever change you. It's not. You just lower your own quality of life and handicap yourself with more bills and financial stress. What's so glamorous about that? At least with my parents I can have savings and better standard of living...
Most cultures, families don't disband. It makes no sense to do that to them and yourself.
I do want to say that every situation is different. I grew up in a toxic house. My father left, was raised by a single mother and we were constantly on survival mode. When I got my first part job, I became man of the house and started helping with bills. My paycheck was exactly $144 every week and didn’t know anything about money/ my mom taught me how to budget but nothing about being a functioning adult In the real world. I didn’t have a bank account, I didn’t have credit card or a credit score, I didn’t know how to get a job and KEEP one, so when she decided to say “I want you out of my house” I had to rush and find any apartment regardless of the kind of roommate I’d be living with.
I understand parents don’t want to live with their kids forever (kids don’t want to either) but parents should also build their kids up for success and teach them how to be independent
I'n 25 and I still live with my parents. Our cohabitation is barely a problem. I have a bachelor's degree, an E*trade account, and my summer job starts on July 2nd.
I am looking forward to weeks this dummer when I can stay home alone. My parent's will be living in our vacation home and I have to stay behind for work.
I'm in a similar position. I see no benefit in moving out as it will just eat into my savings. Renting is the equivalent to setting money on fire. A mortgage is an investment, so I'll move out when I can afford a decent mortgage.
RESPECT!!!! Most important…. Everyone, especially women will respect you…
Facts
Just graduated high school. Moving out in the fall. This channel is gold thank you Reggie.
Have you started yet
anyone past 18 should move out. No matter how hard it'll be. Go get a little job & rent a room somewhere. Save yourself the trouble,Them parents get crazy after one isn't considered a kid anymore. moved out my moms long ago. Never living with my mother ever gain. I wen't through hell with that.
Worst advice ever. You should only move out if you're starting your own family. Otherwise you're just shooting yourself in the foot and paying 2/3 of your income to some landlords mortgage, effectively you're been financially dominated and burning your hard-earned money.
You say it like it's easy these days. For a lot of people, even those who want to move out more than anything - it really isn't.
@@wolfyboi28 Renting is just burning most of your hard-earned capital. If you REALLY need to move out, invest in a tent or an RV until you can afford a mortgage.
Not all parents are the same. Trust me.
Mine want me to be independent. Another person in my life their parents enable and baby and caudle him and love it.
Absolutely! Everyone is different
Being Independent is better you will learn so much in life
I disagree completely, I'm 23 with a networth of 93k, turning 24 in 2.5 months, I don't plan on moving out till i'm about 30. I want to but a house when i move out.
To each’s own. Good job on being smart with your money 💪🏾
L0l, all the smart rich people are disagreeing with this guy. Renting is stupid. It's STUPID.
_I'm 39 & stay with momma dukes ion see an issue with it. I don't gotta pay bills or buy food & I got free internet? Shooot... I'm str8 where I'm at lmao._ 🗣💯
This video is so amazing. Thank you so much
@@damaris7687 I’m glad you enjoyed. You’re very welcome 🤝
I’m currently in my small cabin at a ski resort working, first time away from my parents house even though it’s temporary and I will probably go back every 2nd week but I have such high anxiety and feel so bad but I know this is the step I have to take, I have to feels this way and push through cause otherwise I might never be able too move out for real when I get older.
As of now it’s my first night and I begin working tomorrow. I’m hoping I’ll settle in and have fun either way and hopefully make some new friends even though I struggle with that and that is probably what causes the most anxiety to be alone for 5months.
This was too good brother! Thank you for the confirmation, perfect timing. Wow!
Glad you enjoyed!
I’m sure everyone wants to move out but now it’s far too expensive to move out.
I graduated in college this year. also i got my full time Job. im planning to move out to live on my own and to carry my own responsibility. may God help me to build myself and become successful in life 😇
What did you study
Its one of the only things im thinking of right now. I love my parents, but they always have "advice" to give me, that they would never follow themselves. Im 21, and tired of being lectured about how i should live my own life, just because they arent fulfilled with theirs
I don’t live with my family anymore and haven’t for about a decade now, but my older brother and younger sister still do even though they’re in their late 20s early 30s. I’ve been trying for years to convince them to move out on their own but they won’t really listen, so I’ve been trying to find a good video that will help and I really like this one! I’ll send it to them 😃
Your older brother is smart. He is probably squirreling money away for a deposit instead of becoming a rent cuck. Renting is equivalent to burning your money. At least a mortgage is a capital investment into yourself. And it's not easy to rent and save for a deposit simultaneously.
Thank you for the inspiration. Nobody around me seems to understand how bad the situation at home really is. I definitely needed to hear this.
You are very welcome 🤝 you got this! 💪🏾
my dad got mad at me for no reason, I was behind him and he was walking torwards me and almost slip, he blamed on me and got mad at me, I tried to explain but he talked over me and said he doesn’t want me to talk to him. So basically it’s his fault
Before I graduated I was thinking about everything I'd do in the summer and how much fun I'd have then start college classes, the second I graduated I realised that I didn't have anything to look forward to and no one is here to protect me anymore, and my whole world is going to change, I am genuinely worried but I know I got this and this video is very helpful, thank you so much for posting this ❤
I’m 22 I told my mum moving out it’s my own choices she said I’m 22 I’m waiting for a shared house as soon as I’m out my family house they said I can do what I want
This was very helpful to me, I’m going through a lot of the same struggles, but it was hard to find a video that exemplified my personal struggle. Really appreciate this.
Blame school. They hardly prepare you for real life.
And on top of it we talk about bs that has nothing to do with the world and society
the thing is... my mom is moving out of the house we live in and it's gonna be just me and my brother living here but we're probably gonna have other people living and paying part of the bills, i'm honestly just terrified of the thought of moving from that point of my mom being there every day to her living in an entirely different state. it's a lot more responsibility too. why tf does growing up have to be so hard
Have you gone to visit her
Young man your parents should know that they have raised you right.What a mature young man you became.😊
Thank you 🙏🏾
These past 2 years have been the best of my life. At one point I was actually good at getting women but then I remembered I'm still at my parents house🙃. Finally graduated college and now I'm out in 2 months
2 More years of being yelled at, cussed at, judged, If I respond it counts as talking back, telling me I can't comprehend and don't deserve to be great.
I moved out and my mom wasn't happy, but back home they showed no respect to me, authoritative parenting habits, everything I did was going so fucken slow 😞, I had to move out silently, paid my rent, got everything I needed into the hse, I actually rent a single room for a start saving up for lifestyle upgrade. I am 24 now and I graduated and never went back home... First thing first save some cash, get a place to pay your rent for a year or 6 months, keep some cash for feeding for at least 2 months, get a Job, don't spend recklessly save 80% of your money use 20% there's time for everything... I wish you good luck
Do you get work life balance
My father kicked me out and I’ve been homeless ever since if anybody got any tips it would be greatly appreciated
I'm 26 yrs old, unemployed recently. I resign to my job in software development to pursue my dream job as a content creator. Right now I lived on my parent house temporarily. Because I just started my career in content creation and I'm lucky because my parent is very kind and very supportive. But soon when I get monetize and earn money I will buy property first to move out to my parents house.
Great video ...I've had challenges doing this due to health issues as a young man...but I'm learning it can't be a reason and a crutch....
Just landed a full time job for the first time in my life. I didn’t go to college so I’ve been working odd jobs since high school but now that I’m making a respectable income with a government job I feel like I’m ready. I’m 21 and I’m ready to see the world through my own eyes and have my own experiences but most of all have real responsibility so I can grow as a person. Thanks for confirming my feelings my man!