Please LEAVE YOUR HOME!

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  • Опубліковано 30 чер 2024
  • Leaving your home is very important if you want to learn how the world actually works. Get out of the golden shackles being put upon you by your parents and learn how things are in the real life.

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  • @VarunMayya
    @VarunMayya  2 роки тому +143

    Don't forget to subscribe!

    • @TOP-G-Records
      @TOP-G-Records 2 роки тому +1

      Ok 🔥

    • @deepalibhandari8948
      @deepalibhandari8948 2 роки тому

      At the age of 25 I want to go outside and explore new things but thoughts come in my mind that I am late so plz tell me I am late or not?

    • @TOP-G-Records
      @TOP-G-Records 2 роки тому

      You are late bro!
      Saty in your home 👍🏻

    • @deepalibhandari8948
      @deepalibhandari8948 2 роки тому

      @@TOP-G-Records but why I am late?

    • @TOP-G-Records
      @TOP-G-Records 2 роки тому

      @@deepalibhandari8948 bcz you are 25 and still asking these type of questions in Comment Section 😆

  • @YuvrajWithAGuitar
    @YuvrajWithAGuitar 2 роки тому +295

    One thing I have learnt in 22 years of my life is... Stop taking permissions for everything... After a certain age we have brains enough to think and analyse stuff through our own heads... Think something out well... Make a list of pros and cons and just do... Maybe it doesn't go well and things turn upside down... But thats what experience is... You will learn!

    • @dramaworld4u879
      @dramaworld4u879 Рік тому +2

      And the only think that stay with us are memories we made from our desicion that it

    • @iconic622
      @iconic622 Рік тому +1

      My mouth words right

    • @cam0987
      @cam0987 Рік тому +5

      But then i get shouting when I dont take permission, I'm 23

    • @YuvrajWithAGuitar
      @YuvrajWithAGuitar Рік тому +5

      @@cam0987 my technique for dealing with shouting is giving logical replies in a composed manner... You need to have a strong gut and take the shouting... If it becomes unbearable leave the room and stay inside your room for a few hours.
      Trust me first they'll say, " badtameez hai" later they'll accept it and understand when their heads cool down. Afterall all they want is your well-being only!

    • @YuvrajWithAGuitar
      @YuvrajWithAGuitar Рік тому +4

      @@cam0987 also make this point very clear that you thought it out well... and you are up for constructive suggestions but are no more asking for permissions. Also trust me parents can give wonderful suggestions, if they believe in you! If they think something is not good then ask the reason, maybe you'll get a different perspective which you didn't thought about. But if they can't provide a legit reason, then you need to make your own call!

  • @vedantsingla1721
    @vedantsingla1721 2 роки тому +754

    You have mentioned me to a T. I left home around 18, I Just turned 28 last month. After living 10 years away from my parents and seeing enough of the world all I want to do is live with them again. I feel much more confident to run the family.

    • @samersajjad8476
      @samersajjad8476 2 роки тому

      I just want to ask some questions ... Can u share ur Instagram or email ....

    • @naveenm9269
      @naveenm9269 2 роки тому +15

      You got it... :)

    • @kishenrai3724
      @kishenrai3724 2 роки тому +8

      How you leave ? How you manage finances to own a roof over your head and food in your stomach and do whatcu want to do

    • @naveenm9269
      @naveenm9269 2 роки тому +14

      @@kishenrai3724 You need to learn a lot buddy

    • @Hustlercobra2.O
      @Hustlercobra2.O 2 роки тому +4

      Both phases are important in life.

  • @adusparx
    @adusparx 2 роки тому +119

    As a 25 year old who missed out on this, I regret not having done this.
    Great video.

  • @abhijitbhandarkar458
    @abhijitbhandarkar458 2 роки тому +314

    Absolutely spot on Varun. Moving out of home for a few years has changed my life. No pampering, listening to different perspectives from people at hostel, growing as a person, breaking boundaries (in a positive way), taking decisions yourself. Your video aptly sums up my experience of moving out of home.

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому +4

      From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru.
      More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges.
      Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic.
      So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct.
      Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way.
      One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things.
      Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life.
      The others who showed restrain are doing better.
      This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low.
      Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things.
      In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life.
      For everything you gain, you loose something.
      Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical.
      I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing.
      Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right.
      The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite

    • @sudhatririshi9841
      @sudhatririshi9841 2 роки тому

      @@pritech8302 your email?

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      @@sudhatririshi9841 why??

  • @novamanik1214
    @novamanik1214 2 роки тому +68

    22 this side!
    An eye opening video for me!
    Till 4 months ago ( before my result came and couldnt clear ) i was okay,
    But now, its different!
    Not tired of them but tired of not doing enough for them!
    But now for about 1 month, i am open to work from anywhere, anytime for them and for me too!
    ❤️
    Lots of things to say but thank you 🙏

  • @akshayspeaking
    @akshayspeaking 2 роки тому +133

    Never been able to make my grandparents understand this. My mom gets it though. It is unfortunate that my father passed away when I was very young, but my grandparents have sort of used it as an excuse to do everything for me. I am extremely grateful and a tad bit pissed that they did it. I am not joking when I say that my comfort zone was so damn great that I did not have the intellect to fill a cheque for some folks when I was 21. I feel the pain now. I tried explaining it and they understood like 20%. The rest just went over their head. They use emotional blackmail. Like Seriously! Now, I'm 27 and planning for my Master's and now, they're like how will you take care of things when you move to the States. Well, geez, I wouldn't be doing this if only you'd let me try stuff on my own for at least 2 years. Surely, I will make some mistakes, but isn't that how you learn and grow up? If you shield a person from experiences then, you're just paving way for a hard downfall at a later point in life. At that point, getting back up or knowing how to do so will also be very difficult.

    • @anilarora4143
      @anilarora4143 2 роки тому +1

      Yeah sir i am going out to bangalore this year most probably, and i will be 18 this year in july ,what should i do even i am very irresponsible🤔and i don't know much about these things deeply, i just understand them on a basic level.
      Any advice

    • @akshayspeaking
      @akshayspeaking 2 роки тому +7

      @@anilarora4143 First thing, take some time to settle into your new environment. Enjoy it. Try to develop monetizable skills. Programming in any language, graphic design, photography, content creation, etc. It will be hard initially, but you will get there. One key suggestion is to spend at least a 4-6 months in areas that you have an interest in. Learn as much as you can about each of your interest in those 6 months and then see what you like the most. If you enjoy it, find a way to monetize it. Once you start making money, don't buy Apple products or any fancy stuff. Learn to invest in the stock markets, ETFs, mutual funds, etc. Diversify it. Start a SIP, if that works. Now, you may not have heard about some or most of these, but fret not, start learning from resources online and in college you will meet at least one person who is interested in each of the things mentioned above. Learn from friends and remember, "You are always the average of the 5 people that you surround yourself with". So, choose wisely.

    • @zaidosman37
      @zaidosman37 2 роки тому

      What a deep advice ....Thank you

    • @zaidosman37
      @zaidosman37 2 роки тому

      @Study Hub Welcome brother and really when u survive on your own ,,, you become stronger...
      That is very important in life to grow...Have a good day

    • @YuvrajWithAGuitar
      @YuvrajWithAGuitar 2 роки тому

      I get you bro... But all you got to do is say to them that this is your life... You will be doing your own mistakes and learning your own lessons... But be whatever now you want to be independent... And it's not a permission..
      It's a statement.

  • @rahul_bid
    @rahul_bid 2 роки тому +760

    2-3 years earlier this video would have helped

    • @technoholic2299
      @technoholic2299 2 роки тому +68

      It's never too late brother.

    • @bhavikjain6017
      @bhavikjain6017 2 роки тому +24

      Haha, same. But yeah it's never too late. Let's do it !!

    • @nishittomar4770
      @nishittomar4770 2 роки тому +18

      Nah.... It's not this video that has helped it's the mindset....a lot of life is left to live...never late.

    • @batmandude7358
      @batmandude7358 2 роки тому +30

      @@technoholic2299 you are 35 with a wife and a kid now do it

    • @AMANSINGH-xj2vw
      @AMANSINGH-xj2vw 2 роки тому +16

      @@batmandude7358 😂😂😅 sometimes it's late

  • @justgonnataketime
    @justgonnataketime 2 роки тому +65

    This video was eye opening - gave me so much clarity,
    thank you!

  • @shivangiroy1955
    @shivangiroy1955 2 роки тому +127

    I was literally soo nervous about leaving home and goin to college this year.... Like living alone with no common guardian there... But this video truly puts my thoughts into perspective... I'll just focus on building skills all 4 years... Gonna try to make the most out of these years

    • @neerajkabirsharma
      @neerajkabirsharma 2 роки тому

      Explore the ground reality of the world

    • @anshXR
      @anshXR 2 роки тому +8

      I'm in 10th grade rn and going to move out next month for entrance exam preparation. I'm an introvert still I'm excited to face the challenges life will present to me in this journey.

    • @Indian2.5
      @Indian2.5 2 роки тому

      @@anshXR Best of luck

    • @ojhakehustlers3634
      @ojhakehustlers3634 2 роки тому

      Jee 2024 aspirant / Neet 2024 aspirant ?

    • @V.E.D.A.N.G
      @V.E.D.A.N.G 2 роки тому

      What are you pursuing ?

  • @madhurrathore2940
    @madhurrathore2940 2 роки тому +3

    This video was the need at the moment in my life.
    Thank you so much for this piece of wisdom.

  • @user-tr5jp5tu8w
    @user-tr5jp5tu8w 4 місяці тому +5

    I am 19 and thanks god i watched this video last year , i was about to go to a college near my house then i talk to my parents about moving out they hated it first after a ton of arguments i end up in a hostel

  • @bhawnasaini5796
    @bhawnasaini5796 2 роки тому +22

    This is so true living in a different city with different people changes so much can definitely tell from the experience.I was the first person( also a female) in my village and in my family who have studied outside of the city or even studied that much.

    • @anangamoon5247
      @anangamoon5247 2 роки тому +1

      Kudos dear !!!!

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому +1

      From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru.
      More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges.
      Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic.
      So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct.
      Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way.
      One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things.
      Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life.
      The others who showed restrain are doing better.
      This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low.
      Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things.
      In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life.
      For everything you gain, you loose something.
      Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical.
      I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing.
      Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right.
      The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite

  • @adityarajkumar8020
    @adityarajkumar8020 2 роки тому +4

    Thank GOD for finally getting the most waited video from your side, Sir.
    A most helpful video for me.

  • @baslatz_
    @baslatz_ 2 роки тому +4

    I agree with you more than anything.
    Also makes you humble and more friendly, you learn to adjust.

  • @shakshimalik8699
    @shakshimalik8699 2 роки тому +4

    25 this side , cant tell you how much I have evolved ever since I left home , been 1 year. Thank you for making this video

  • @vedantgaikwad6356
    @vedantgaikwad6356 2 роки тому +6

    Man, I loved everything about you, your knowledge, experience, way of talking, the point you are trying to convey with backing from holy texts. ❤❤ would like to hear more from you about living life... Best wishes to you 👍👍

  • @bhavikjain6017
    @bhavikjain6017 2 роки тому +14

    Love your thought process man.. Been thinking about moving since a long time. Hope to do it by the end of the year :) thank you

  • @zippytyro
    @zippytyro 2 роки тому +40

    The thing I love about Varun is connecting the dots from all disciplines that exist throughout and being able to concisely denote and comprehend all of it at once with logic.

  • @darkrabbit6721
    @darkrabbit6721 2 роки тому

    The way you delivered this topic is so great. Absolutely love it.

  • @nayanahirwar4194
    @nayanahirwar4194 2 роки тому +3

    i like your content so much, thank you for raising this issue. love you bro.
    currently im 20 now i go out and explore .

  • @harivenkat1021
    @harivenkat1021 2 роки тому +83

    Reference to ancient scriptures is a bang at the end!!!!!

    • @mohitsain0706
      @mohitsain0706 2 роки тому +1

      But thing is everyone do not get opportunities to go out and stay at high expenses

    • @thinkingaloud7925
      @thinkingaloud7925 2 роки тому +1

      parents don't want us to be a Buddha they just want us to make money

    • @kaiserbala7419
      @kaiserbala7419 2 роки тому

      @@thinkingaloud7925 you should know that,there's a possibility that our parents can't be right everytime .

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      this video is full of garbage..

    • @subamnabensa5794
      @subamnabensa5794 6 днів тому

      ​@@kaiserbala7419 They are not right if they are not teaching you about spirituality..if they only teach you about how to earn money by becoming doctor engineer..than they have lost their intelligence

  • @rish8357
    @rish8357 2 роки тому +5

    Completely agree with everything, I’m on the same path and follow the same mindset but 3-5 years is not enough bro

  • @koyeldas156
    @koyeldas156 Рік тому

    This is so true living in a different city with different people changes so much can definitely tell from the experience

  • @ramachandranbaskaran8022
    @ramachandranbaskaran8022 2 роки тому +11

    Thanks varun for making myself clear! I have been planning over for months that I should leave my hostel and live on my own without depending on my parents. It will be financially hard for me, but I just want the freedom and the hardship that can be push me to gain my financial freedom. I will get you know when I start living on my own!!

  • @Mahii35
    @Mahii35 2 роки тому +13

    Yes its Right
    One & half Year ago I was decided to go out from home
    And i goes .
    And after one & half year i come back my home
    I see that my thoughts are changed and i am now more matured than before
    Now i am going to be 22 i believe that
    Its works properply if want to do something good on your life ✨
    Thankx @Varun Mayya

  • @TusharJade101
    @TusharJade101 2 роки тому

    Your right man saying right word with right motive 🔥

  • @adarshkaran6611
    @adarshkaran6611 26 днів тому

    Thank you for making this. It exactly relates to the situation I am in and helps me make a better choice!

  • @manaspatni3906
    @manaspatni3906 2 роки тому +139

    1:24 : I thought he was gonna say "Then I learnt how to wash utensils, how to cook food" But my man is the Sigma 😂

  • @harshsrivastava2588
    @harshsrivastava2588 2 роки тому +4

    Affirmative, an 19 yr old this . Left my home around 6 months ago and i think it is one the best decision of my life till now. The best and worst part of moving out is you and responsible for everything and always be on verge of bankruptcy for first few months because everything is new for you and I'm my case i didn't manage my money properly

  • @ahmed6472
    @ahmed6472 Рік тому +1

    absolutely solid video and well thought out. I've had similar views as you and with the independence mindset you become such a better version of yourself, like becoming a more responsible and decisive person etc. good video!

  • @getsetlaugh8085
    @getsetlaugh8085 2 роки тому +1

    True man 19 yrs and literally feeling the same sitting in home that outside world is developing very fast and I am not able to digest this literally I am out of my mind😔😔😔

  • @VidvathamaR
    @VidvathamaR Рік тому +4

    I left it. Now I am learning more about the real world.But before that I spent my core years finding out what kind of a person I truely was and who I truely am ,and what are the things I want in life in that safe haven called 'home' and now I am ready to take my life in the direction that I want.

  • @raman_grover09
    @raman_grover09 2 роки тому +158

    I am almost 26 now, still dependent on my parents. Collected degrees and diplomas from my hometown. My Parents just didn’t want me to leave even when I was able to get some good colleges and voila, I regret that decision.
    Currently, Living a decent life but consumption is anyways surpassing production. Unable to visualise my mission. Although, I feed myself well bodily, mentally, emotionally but still just don’t feel satiated. I am an introvert but can talk to anyone and quickly make some good connections but unable to keep as I live a rhythmic life.
    I want to go out now, but I don’t know what will I be doing by going out, secondly I am a single child and parents are at their sensitive age.
    The only time I feel like going out is when sometimes homely quarrels makes me feel shit about not being independent but on the counter side wisdom keeps my haste in check.
    Anyone’s opinion/perspective is welcome.
    How should I view my life ahead ?

    • @technoholic2299
      @technoholic2299 2 роки тому +7

      Bro as you told, if your parents are in critical age and if you don't want to leave then you can do something remotely. I have seen enough opportunities by doing this. And if you feel that you can go out then don't think about the time you wasted in past. Just go out, it's never too late.

    • @akashkalra5148
      @akashkalra5148 2 роки тому +21

      I can't give you any advice as I am going through a similar situation myself, even though soon I will be shifting to hostel or rented apartment to pursue my mba, I feel we introverts should come together and form clubs, find a common ground to interact with different people
      I so wanna develop an app towards the same or if one already exists then would love to join one

    • @madhav1
      @madhav1 2 роки тому +1

      Hope you find your way

    • @joshansharma4244
      @joshansharma4244 2 роки тому +1

      Unfortunately this video by Varun Mayya is fuckall. He's assuming stuff. He's speaking from his own experiences that his parents shut the lights at 10 o clock. Even my parents did. But one who wants to stay awake will do it anyway. He can't take it that some of us actually haven't had major arguments, that we're friends first. He's GUARANTEEING that I boast about my house chores and I bluff about them to look cool. Balls. Apart from my work, I cook dinner for two nights and help my mother during lunches. Whatever they say, for a period of time I'm fully available for house chores. Why? Because it's on my priority list. Simple. I don't work while cooking and dont cook while I'm working. One just needs will. I go out and return back around 3-4 am. Drink and party with buddies on weekends. When my sister is working I even do her share of the house chores. There's mutual respect here and my parents take my opinion before making 90% of the house decisions and listen to me as I listen to them. Every house is different but point is.. Agar parents ko dikhe ki baccha mature hai toh they will include you and let you do whatever you want. But as a kid you also gotta have an attitude and not crush under their scoldings and give it back when needed which most of Indian kids lack. They're all basically wimps and that's why they all try to run from their own parents. Take care of yourself and parents. Chill out.

    • @prasadbhadane608
      @prasadbhadane608 2 роки тому +17

      Leave the home. The homely quarrels will be over one day.. Your productive age won't come back. Take the hard decision. The more you think and discuss the more perspectives you will get. Right now you don't need perspectives.. You need action and independence and a taste of life.

  • @mr.billionaire_76
    @mr.billionaire_76 Рік тому +1

    I can totally relate with your words..I became much mature in my life and most importantly intelligent,smarter,responsible when I moved out from my house to living in a hostel of college

  • @auroprasaddas6335
    @auroprasaddas6335 2 роки тому +8

    Varun ji. That clarified me. I am showing this to my parents now

  • @dt_99
    @dt_99 2 роки тому +3

    I want love button on UA-cam for such videos. I couldn't go outside my hometown after 12th standard and lost 4 years while doing bachelor's degree in engineering. Now, I'll soon move out for masters degree. I hope I haven't lost much in these 4 years. Thanks for this video. 💯💯

  • @yashtv555
    @yashtv555 2 роки тому +31

    awesome content. Truly an eye opener👍😀

  • @karthikjoshi6386
    @karthikjoshi6386 2 роки тому

    Totally agree leaving away from home and parents will puts into out of comfort zone and which is very much necessary to grow as person it gives a raw life lessons but I personally could not do that because till now my life not given that chance and I am eagerly waiting for that phase of my life

  • @sai-codes
    @sai-codes 2 роки тому +1

    Bro this is absolutely spot on

  • @ritubiswasz
    @ritubiswasz 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much for this video. Tackling this "moving out" thing from an Indian perspective was very well depicted in this video. Almost all the questions that one might have, being an Indian and moving out has been answered here. Cheers to you👍🏻

  • @Kpop_and_pro
    @Kpop_and_pro 2 роки тому +6

    I smash hit button for you. And subscribed to your channel. You answered lots of my questions. I'm 29, working professional, running the household, imagine your parents stopping you from doing whatever you want, asking you not to move in a different city, not traveling with your friends, not letting to cook your favourite food coz you might make the kitchen dirty which might not be true, imagine a bullshit father coming to abuse you and slap you after eating on your money...All the behaviour which parents do to a class 7 kid, they are doing to 29 year old lady. My mother still interrupts and stops me doing things which are very normal in other households. I have no good emotion left for my parents. I just do my basic duty to them. I want to leave them, I want to see and explore the world, I want to cook myself n burn my hands, I want to learn the shitty world outside n get lost - but alas they still treat me like a kid. It boils my blood. I hate my parents. They did waste a lot of my time, they have no intention of my better future, and used my money. I lost my health due to them. And at the end of the day what will they do ? They will put all the blames on me, make me feel guilty and at the end of the conversation to show themselves clean they will 'we want your good, but everything is your fault '. I mean which parent does that to their adult daughter. You said it right about putting a hand cuff. I'm that Rich Siddhartha who is supposed to work late at night and give money to my parents, but not allowed to leave the castle and see the world myself as I am a woman.

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому +1

      dont spoil ur life with such nonsence..u can also exlore the world staying with family

    • @braveimposter
      @braveimposter Рік тому +1

      If the family is abusive, none should stay

  • @aakashchheda8688
    @aakashchheda8688 Рік тому +2

    You mentioned everything about myself about why we should leave our home for some years & so it's the only thing and way for Self development, exploring the world, knowing the good & bad, learning to be independent, managing all our daily stuffs, developing new ideas of life & most importantly...u have to be Alone for some period of time to discover your true potentials... As I do... 😊

  • @rahulshendre7089
    @rahulshendre7089 Рік тому +1

    Agreed bro !!
    and coming back was the most important part

  • @mayajondhale7307
    @mayajondhale7307 2 роки тому +3

    Every word and word true 💯
    #Yes everyone leave your home at least one time to live yourself 😃

  • @somethingnew9689
    @somethingnew9689 Рік тому +4

    i always wanted to run away from home not because I hate my parents but because I wanted to explore the world. Finally I'm 18 and moving out this month

  • @iPranjalDas
    @iPranjalDas 2 роки тому

    Glad at least someone spoke about this!

  • @indra3821
    @indra3821 Рік тому +1

    Agree 💯. I'm 24 Dad is self employed so I'm one of the main helping hand for bed ridden Grandfather since I wfh. Well not completely happy with it but I'm proud of it.

  • @CrazyCircle
    @CrazyCircle 2 роки тому +6

    It may be helpful for the people who are always kept beneath the hands of their parents but not everyone is privileged enough to do so. For example, I'm a college student and i am not able to leave home and go for a hostel just because my parents can't afford it but it just because my parents are not that educated, i take almost all the decision of my life on my own. Everyone's life is different, we should develop these qualities that is the point, no matter at home or by leave home.

  • @TruthTriumphs786
    @TruthTriumphs786 2 роки тому +7

    I never left my parents. I'm 45 now. I get homesick whenever I go out for months. I wish I left them at an early age. At this age when even my parents are old it's a bit hard.

  • @YuvrajWithAGuitar
    @YuvrajWithAGuitar 2 роки тому +2

    Trust me I moved out at the age of 18... Got admission in du and lived in a shared flats with co students ... Thought I was out only for 2 years (until corona happend) but it changed my whole life... how I viewed things, how I solved problems and how I dealt with people... Above all I made tones and tones of memories!

  • @manish-mk
    @manish-mk Рік тому

    Thank You for making my head clear.

  • @marki6880
    @marki6880 2 роки тому +7

    Whoa..... the massive amount of knowlege you have! I love that you relate everything in this video with ancient texts, vedas, Buddha, gurukul...... PLEASE make more of these videos. 💌

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru.
      More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges.
      Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic.
      So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct.
      Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way.
      One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things.
      Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life.
      The others who showed restrain are doing better.
      This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low.
      Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things.
      In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life.
      For everything you gain, you loose something.
      Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical.
      I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing.
      Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right.
      The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite

  • @subhradeepkundu1373
    @subhradeepkundu1373 2 роки тому +7

    Yes there are always prons and cons living alone .I have also lived alone but for like several months but living alone like that is exactly not necessary .There is always a different culture other than solely english in our country .See after and during covid ,many have changed ,started and got many got remote jobs that is also a point.(Leaving out any business or studies here..)They did not need to move out.
    See always a change is not necessary to bring your success that's my point.
    See you can always be independent but ,what I feel if you dont have clarity in your head ,nothing works just being independent !!
    I have seen many people in late 40's and 50's staying bachelor in PG and hostel and life did not work for them.
    But I would recommend live healthy,stay fit and dont get succumbed to too many unnecessary things going on.
    Many dont know how to earn money ,so tha has nothing to do with living alone and having some friends.
    I have also seen many people not from village delivery foods at night coming from different city.That could be done on our own city also.This just makes you a freedom wanderer with some money and making your financial way out ,but wont serve you good for a long term purpose living outside.

  • @KirtiDohre12
    @KirtiDohre12 2 роки тому

    This was so needed

  • @prisha7298
    @prisha7298 Рік тому

    I always thought of leaving home going to college once i turn 18 and i think your video is gonna change my life !!

  • @aryansarc
    @aryansarc 2 роки тому +5

    18. I definitely wanna move out after all these entrance exams get over and I finally get into a college.

  • @tanmayarora6659
    @tanmayarora6659 2 роки тому +7

    Absolutely loved it ❤ I was thinking yhe same a month ago to move out to my hostel to explore the world, as there are so many restrictions at home.. Thanks for this video 🙌🏻

  • @sparemoments1198
    @sparemoments1198 Рік тому +1

    Came here after AEVY channel n I'm more than happy I watched your video
    Also roadrash and Dave were my favorites too...

  • @meetisarani
    @meetisarani Рік тому +1

    By watching your videos, I am feeling what a great change happens when I be with a person like you...♥

  • @KM-ne1ft
    @KM-ne1ft 2 роки тому +3

    Move out when you are comfortable. Don't feel pressured. It is not all sunshine and rainbows when you live on your own so think about it clearly.

  • @randoanon
    @randoanon 2 роки тому +60

    Him: When you move out you will become independent.
    Also him: I learnt how to hire a maid and a cook to keep myself functioning :P

    • @gxoxgirl
      @gxoxgirl 2 роки тому +4

      Bruh hiring a cook and maid is very common in metropolitan cities where one has to work their asses off for what they desire. Due to time constraints and physical toll, it’s impossible for anyone to cook and clean your house every day. Having house help doesn’t mean he’s not independent. Being independent doesn’t mean t do every work on your own. Simply delegating that task will do too. But living alone made him realise the importance of trust and how he couldn’t blindly put his faith into people he doesn’t know. To hire a house help, you need to be very vigilant with them as some of them can con you or steal from you. All these are a part of life experiences that he’s sharing which doesn’t contravene his point!

    • @randoanon
      @randoanon 2 роки тому +1

      @@gxoxgirl Bhai main bhi metro mein rehta hu. It's just that I don't consider this as being truly independent (in the literal sense).
      Just making an observation. It's my personal opinion. You may or may not concur with me and I understand it. Have a great day!

  • @SaranshSagar999
    @SaranshSagar999 2 роки тому

    This is much needed video for all teens,parents and all students

  • @10XAchievers
    @10XAchievers 2 роки тому

    Love this video, agree with all the points

  • @rnjnmhta.catomato
    @rnjnmhta.catomato 2 роки тому +13

    So I will share my experience
    Studied 7 year in hostels (jnv, gov funded )
    Class 6 to 12
    Now I am at home with my family since 2 years ,I enjoy here but there are some moments which make me remember hostel days every day ,made my mind to move out next sem. Comfort se dur hi manzil h

    • @anandayush4338
      @anandayush4338 2 роки тому

      Comfort se dur hi manzil hai ❤️

    • @shivaighulaxe278
      @shivaighulaxe278 Рік тому

      I am exactly in the same situation you are in bro....
      I am a navodayan too 🎊

    • @growthmagnet
      @growthmagnet Рік тому

      same situation bro i m also a navodayan❤️

  • @aditya.tanniru
    @aditya.tanniru 2 роки тому +3

    A good friend of mine recommended your channel to me,OMG I STRUCK GOLD WITH YOUR CONTENT.You are simply amazing Varun,Keep Growing and Glowing.

  • @Hecker-wb8bx
    @Hecker-wb8bx 26 днів тому +1

    I just realised i can don nothing in the street without my father i couldn't even talk to strangers,ig i really need yo grow

  • @bhawnasharma8173
    @bhawnasharma8173 2 роки тому +16

    My mom is old and I cannot move out even when I want to. I do everything at home for my mom as she unable to work she is so old that she argue all the time but I am always patient I have left opportunities /jobs because I cannot move away from my mom and I do not earn that much to take my parents with me and then live in a rented apartment . My life-6:30 in evening to 4:30 in morning I work in night shift Sleep till 10 morning Study , prepare food , do all the household chores then work on my dream I study , go to library . I take care of my mom her medicines and everything . I don’t think everyone has a choice . I cannot be selfish And choose me.

    • @braveimposter
      @braveimposter Рік тому +1

      You should be proud of yourself. You're doing great in this kind of struggling situation. You inspired me by this comment

    • @Moonlight_light111
      @Moonlight_light111 Місяць тому

      Please leave her. She's a narcissist

    • @tixtoe
      @tixtoe 14 днів тому

      how are you doing?

    • @cbazxy2697
      @cbazxy2697 11 днів тому

      this is when parents should themselves ask to go for assisted living and let kids live their lives

  • @manjulag.m142
    @manjulag.m142 2 роки тому +3

    Right video at right video, I was thinking about this topic from past 1 week just got it cleared... Thank you Varun

  • @tarunkumar9331
    @tarunkumar9331 2 роки тому

    Much needed video for everyone.🔥

  • @parasxgupta
    @parasxgupta 2 роки тому +2

    I have no words how much you help me!

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      idiot.. dont spoil ur life with such nonsence

  • @medicostudy101
    @medicostudy101 2 роки тому +4

    At first I thought this would be on moving out like totally... even being financially responsible for yourself. But this made me very nostalgic. For someone who's stayed in boarding schools sincr 1st grade. I've stayed at home & been a dayscholar only for 10th, 11th & 12th grade (& now during my Med PG prep year); I'd say every word in this video is a must apply.
    And even more so because it can genuinely close the gender roles gap as well apart from teaching you how to fend for yourself. This video's like the 1st step to Adulting 101. Very essential.

  • @emz8949
    @emz8949 2 роки тому +15

    staying in hostel changed my life forever...u r true about joining clubs..doing events..more than anything else...if u see ppl in college who are hustling..u feel like if he can do so can I..plus u learn soooo much

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      how much innocent are you..he's leftsist whose trying to destabliize india breaking families

    • @emz8949
      @emz8949 2 роки тому +1

      I managed to score 99.6+ in CAT(only because I met a senior in my hostel who went to IIM A and he motivated me to prepare for CAT) :). Pretty sure if I would have stayed at home I would have never even got to know what 'CAT' was tbh

    • @vinaymahato6344
      @vinaymahato6344 2 роки тому

      @@emz8949 Wow that's great. Which college did you end up in?

  • @ThePoonamYaduvanshi
    @ThePoonamYaduvanshi 2 роки тому

    Hey..! I really like the way you delivering your messages ( points ).

  • @govindsingh3593
    @govindsingh3593 2 роки тому

    Thank you for this video

  • @Anuj-nq2ul
    @Anuj-nq2ul 2 роки тому +4

    I am 22 and the same I am a single child but I want to move to another place because my growth just stopped here. Right now my family can't afford it but this year I will complete my course and try to search for a job of any kind.

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru.
      More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges.
      Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic.
      So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct.
      Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way.
      One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things.
      Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life.
      The others who showed restrain are doing better.
      This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low.
      Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things.
      In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life.
      For everything you gain, you loose something.
      Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical.
      I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing.
      Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right.
      The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite.

  • @ashwathikaaramanujam3142
    @ashwathikaaramanujam3142 2 роки тому +9

    You know I'm going to turn 18 this may month
    And I'm preparing for my competitive exams
    Hopefully I go to a good college which is out of my hometown ☺️
    The facts you've said in this video was 💯% correct
    5:45 is the point I've always been worried
    What would happen to my parents if i leave ? So many doubts
    But..
    the points u said that part was just eye opening for me .... I'm so happy that your video was such an eye opener for me
    I'm always protected in my home , but i just wanna explore all good and bad stuffs in this outside world
    Hopefully I want everything going fine😄😄😄💫💫💫💜💜✨✨✨

  • @vaibhavsharma9293
    @vaibhavsharma9293 2 роки тому

    That last point about scriptures just beauty.

  • @me-wp7tx
    @me-wp7tx 2 роки тому +2

    I want to like this video a 100 times 😧
    I am really really feeling this from 3,4weeks ,my condition is soo bad inside 🥺🥺🥺

  • @JTDM
    @JTDM 2 роки тому +3

    Seeing this first hand in my life..
    Thanq for the video

  • @rohit.reflects
    @rohit.reflects 2 роки тому +3

    Must watch video for the younger generation.
    Agree with all the points, Varun.

  • @rahulisgreat4911
    @rahulisgreat4911 11 місяців тому

    I watched this, a year ago
    Now I am going to college and now I am gonna live in a hostel/pg
    Even though in the same city, still will make a world of difference in me
    I am nervous and excited

  • @twinklesharma8600
    @twinklesharma8600 2 роки тому

    This video makes me feel proud of myself!🙌

  • @Brindapr
    @Brindapr Рік тому +3

    I'm living with my parents in my 30s. I spent my entire life away from them in hostels since the age of 7. Life is good here. I'm happy and and content like I was never before, but the only drawback is that they settled in a small town where there are no opportunities. I wish my parents had settled in Bangalore or atleast a Tier 2 city. I am here to quench my thirst for love from parents, which I have missed for 23 years, eventually I would have to move out again for better opportunities, hopefully I can convince them to come with me to live in the cities.

    • @bluexwave5930
      @bluexwave5930 Рік тому

      Why you think about competetion , in this internet era if child is away from social media then there are lot of things to learn here itself .

  • @its.smruti
    @its.smruti 2 роки тому +3

    Hey Varun ! just wanted to tell you that I just got to know about your channel a week ago and now you are my one of the favourite youtuber . Genuinely....Keep Sharing and Keep Exploring

  • @PragyaSatwika
    @PragyaSatwika 23 дні тому

    Eye opening one❤ with brave facts!

  • @scalingeveryday7560
    @scalingeveryday7560 2 роки тому

    Great perspective on the leaving your home topic . And honestly Varun u have woken up many blinded people who are just trying to carry forward the culture by staying with their parents . Sometimes things are like just in front of u but u do not have the eye to look for it . I have seen all the indian mythologies and have seen this brhamacharya system in especially mahabharat but still was of the belief of the contrary . Thank u for this video .

  • @prasanna3483
    @prasanna3483 2 роки тому +3

    I'm in 12th, gonna send this video to my parents now

  • @anushkumar9848
    @anushkumar9848 2 роки тому +9

    I guess this was one of the reason that i moved out of my family, wanted to be independent , and now i kno i can be better on my own . Learnt a lot of things about life which i wouldn't have if i had stayed at home.

  • @dramaworld4u879
    @dramaworld4u879 Рік тому

    Im 21 i do feel that i changed my thinking drastically in increase of time i realise their much more to do so, i figured out by getting a job i can move out , then i can start exploring ,right then i saw your vedio and the funny thing i was having the same thoughts u mentioned in the vedio i thought i was crazy for a minutes and days , ur vedio did clarify that a lot , thanks to u i think im not crazy , i just want to level up

  • @ikhtiar2806
    @ikhtiar2806 2 роки тому +1

    This is an eye opening video

  • @sureshnishtala2887
    @sureshnishtala2887 2 роки тому +3

    its awesome to quote the ancient scripts...loved it Varun

  • @Raja-db6wt
    @Raja-db6wt 2 роки тому +4

    These type of contents:- just love it👍

  • @adbhuthareddy
    @adbhuthareddy 2 роки тому

    Pure, Raw, Clear piece of content 🔥🥲

  • @kangtheconqueror2540
    @kangtheconqueror2540 2 роки тому +2

    Thank u for this video bhiya cauz i was homesick person but after watching this i am more confident

  • @rashmilamitra2535
    @rashmilamitra2535 2 роки тому +3

    This is why I follow you! You’re for the youth!

    • @pritech8302
      @pritech8302 2 роки тому

      From what I learner in the Upanishads, the Father would give sole responsibility of their child to the guru.
      More importantly in this case the guru would act like a father, so the kids were supervised very strictly, much more than the University and Colleges.
      Even more important point is that the studies of Vedas under a guru include knowledge of proper conduct, moral, social etc. while the study system in colleges do not consider that, unless you are studying social science or similar topic.
      So you trying to use Vedas to back up your point is not correct.
      Coming back to the current scenario, a good number of children in the age of 17+ who leave home do get derailed and some in a pretty bad way.
      One of my friend died in a train accident, during college, some were saying he was under influence of Alcohol, some were saying other things.
      Talking about the kids who lived in college hostel, I have seen few of my own batch mates who got derailed, some wasted a good part of their college life just chasing girls; as they were very much influences by the movies, very few went into alcohol, most of them are now doing sub par jobs and just making by in life.
      The others who showed restrain are doing better.
      This does not mean that people who live at home with parents can not get into such habits, but in general the chances are a bit low.
      Anyways I do believe that being on your own is important but what is more important is that you learn the skills to be on your own, so that when the need arises you can handle things.
      In a way what I'm saying is that you can learn the skills that are required to pursue a certain job or business using the free time you have, as a result of staying with family by doing many online courses and have a bigger headstart in life.
      For everything you gain, you loose something.
      Everyone's situation in life is different, just coming down here and making a bold statement is good for views but not practical.
      I would advice readers to analyse thier own situation in life rather then simply get influenced by someone else's views, also since the target audience of this video is 15-20 from what I understand, presenting only a strong one sided bias is not a good thing.
      Listen everyone's views guys and girls, but decide your path on your own, based on what you think is right.
      The universe is big and there is no 1 path to success but infinite

  • @pallabadityamohanty7917
    @pallabadityamohanty7917 2 роки тому +7

    Well, if you are the only child leaving home for independent living, it's like throwing a weakling into a war, learn from the mistakes your parents already made when they were young instead of making them on your own, this way you save time and also because at the end family is all you truly got(Vin D). So have the guts to take responsibility of a family. That will make you tougher and stronger than independent living.Peace!

  • @badrinathillur6037
    @badrinathillur6037 2 роки тому

    Absolutely spot on

  • @heyiamjeet
    @heyiamjeet Рік тому

    Wonderfully explained!

  • @dhanrajpd5274
    @dhanrajpd5274 2 роки тому +5

    Thank You for the Video Varun Bro.
    This video came to me at the right time when I was just planning to leave after my college this month.
    Thank you so much for bringing such deep values🤗