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  • @FumiDesaluVold
    @FumiDesaluVold  2 роки тому +354

    So sorry guys! I DID tell my friend, not initially b’cos she was pregnant at the time but I went to see her with a gift 💝 for the baby and she said I was lying. It’s what ended our friendship. 💞💞💔

    • @EddyJSmith
      @EddyJSmith 2 роки тому +60

      Not surprised. That's how it goes

    • @isabellamomodu1812
      @isabellamomodu1812 2 роки тому +29

      So he had a baby with both of your friends??

    • @justcomfeee
      @justcomfeee 2 роки тому +10

      Ohhh Wow but I'm sure she knows know 👀🧐 You wasn't lying. ? Fumi do you think that people can get married too young and survive?🌊🚣‍♀️🚣‍♂️🌊🌊🌊

    • @carolyndye2615
      @carolyndye2615 2 роки тому +48

      This Sister to sister was everything I always say that the Wife shouldn't be totally upset with the side chick be upset with your man. I totally understand Fumi your decision not to be apart of that situation.

    • @v.a.l.5165
      @v.a.l.5165 2 роки тому +50

      You can't always save people from themselves. It sounds like she already knew what he was doing because cutting off two good friend of hers that spoke truth seems like a strong case of stubborn denial. She didn't want to have what she already knew confirmed by anyone. She'd rather lose friends. It's something I don't understand.

  • @janett390
    @janett390 2 роки тому +502

    You siad it Fumi, 'If a man cheats, a man cheats, its not about you'. Women get so upset with the side chick and not the husband whose betrayal is greater...at least in my mind

    • @gigilamoore2656
      @gigilamoore2656 2 роки тому +36

      Exactly. A strange woman doesn't owe me any loyalty. However, the man who vowed to be loyal, but is showing up to my house lying to me each day, spending money meant for my family and endangering my health is 100% responsible. Couldn't be no side chick if a man was doing what he is supposed to be doing. Now, if the woman was a friend or relative, it would be a different story.

    • @leeprice9442
      @leeprice9442 2 роки тому +24

      Change the title to Married Men with side chicks😡 He’s the one who made commitments to wife and family. It is HE is who MOST responsible for the destruction. He is the home wreaker. 🥺

    • @christinabalofin2644
      @christinabalofin2644 2 роки тому

      I know.lol

    • @Mirrynaks-Ke.
      @Mirrynaks-Ke. 2 роки тому +14

      True why get mad at a stranger while your husband is the one who took an oath with you at the altar...?? Hilarious😂

    • @julierogers8114
      @julierogers8114 2 роки тому +1

      Yes be that as it may but there will alwsys be those who encourage it and just doesnt care. Its a sad story and regrettably no winners after the damage is done. Just dont find yourself in that situation and if you the side chick is in the know, once you know, walk away as its just not worth it at the end of the day.

  • @ladyshakari
    @ladyshakari 2 роки тому +109

    Love the makeup tutorial. You are so correct about cheating men, a side chick was the cause of my divorce after 32 years of marriage. She was well aware he was married with children and grandchildren and opened her bedroom to him anyway. He cheated on her also after 8 yrs together and now they are no longer together either. A cheater is just that, a cheater.

  • @Mygirllifestyle
    @Mygirllifestyle 2 роки тому +182

    ”We are powerful when we stand together ”.

    • @GiselleHeart
      @GiselleHeart 2 роки тому

      Facts !! 🙏🏽❤️

    • @lasonyawalker3401
      @lasonyawalker3401 2 роки тому +3

      Thank u 4 sharing. I just don’t get it. I have 3 sisters & all 3 of them are sleeping with married men😔. I have told each of them that it is morally wrong & how u (my sisters) are so much more than having a married “part time” grown boy who doesn’t value marriage or woman. Woman know your worth! If u accept it, u encourage it. Yes, beautiful woman, we a powerful when we stand together 🙌🏾

    • @ladydignity
      @ladydignity 2 роки тому

      That part!

    • @enchantingnaturals866
      @enchantingnaturals866 2 роки тому

      They may just be catching cruise its easier to get good money money married men to some women which is not true

  • @Jujulocs88
    @Jujulocs88 2 роки тому +65

    Always hold the man accountable while silently thanking the side chick for helping you to take out the trash

  • @berje4775
    @berje4775 2 роки тому +92

    Finally someone who thinks like me. The man is the problem. Not the side chick

    • @cherylleech785
      @cherylleech785 2 роки тому +1

      Amen.

    • @God.sDaughter
      @God.sDaughter 2 роки тому +8

      But when you find the side chick, slap her face. Next time she’ll think thrice.

    • @samantacool152
      @samantacool152 2 роки тому +9

      @@God.sDaughter lol 😆 😂 🤣 Agreed** especially if she knows he's married. Beat his ass too.

    • @sade_8637
      @sade_8637 2 роки тому +1

      @@God.sDaughter love this!!🤣❤️

    • @sade_8637
      @sade_8637 2 роки тому

      @@samantacool152 yeeesssd!👊🏾

  • @Blessed_Beyond_Belief
    @Blessed_Beyond_Belief 2 роки тому +234

    The best part of this message was you mentioning the BIG PRICE 💰💰 a side chick pays and that’s missing her own moment of meeting her Mr right , and she looks up years later and time has passed !!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽❤️❤️❤️❤️ Such beautiful advice as always 💋💋💋

    • @faisaahmed2312
      @faisaahmed2312 2 роки тому +1

      As divorce single mother .. I don't want remarry or relationship .. Side chick give me what i want no responsibility but booty call.. He take his drama to his first wife not me ... As Muslim we have marry but his crazy want me to be second wife okay as booty call at hote
      .my kids will never meet n i will never meet his first wife ... he become crazy and try to control me and that's why it's over .. No way u can't have your cake eat too .. I believe woman power i can't never hurt the sis I would deny everything ... We first meet he tell me his divorce man but he lie , I continue the relationship but one condition that his wife will never find about me hahaha

    • @faisaahmed2312
      @faisaahmed2312 2 роки тому +1

      He started want to stay overnight with me n spending more time with me n that's no no i tell him go home with your wife. .. Now he want pay my bill i tell him no n go give your wife she deserved that because she cook for you and clean ... Man always cheat so my x husband but side chick need to encourage him to go home to his family where he belong too.. after she good massage to release his stress .. I'm here to replace other woman place but somehow your man want play n i want play sorry sis ... I hate to be wife again because wife too much while he play good with other woman hahaha

    • @sashaeltekeh2618
      @sashaeltekeh2618 Рік тому +2

      @@faisaahmed2312 billions of men in the world and you choose to be with someone's husband. I guess you can't get one for yourself that you don't have to share. Sad.

  • @finewine6659
    @finewine6659 2 роки тому +84

    If we women had more self love we would not allow men to treat us this way. Why would you want to be a 'side-chick'? I really don't get it. And as you said in the beginning we are more invested in hating the side-chick than dealing with the man that brought her into the relationship. I just can't...

    • @vichgold384
      @vichgold384 2 роки тому +2

      Yes, it looks an approval to women to be side chicks. how do you will want to be a friend of this kind of person who probably knows you like the wife of her " man"? But attention: you don't need to go to make a mess with her. ask the divorce to your husband and present the crime's evidence

    • @alkahinat4558
      @alkahinat4558 Рік тому +3

      I’ve always been highly offended whenever a guy who clearly has a partner makes a pass...sharing a man and helping him disrespect his partner has never been my thing...if he liked me THAT much, he’d leave his partner first, then make a move
      But no, they want you to be cool with being strung along like a dirty little secret, couldn’t be me

    • @patriciamharris5664
      @patriciamharris5664 Рік тому +1

      @Finewine..
      Low self esteem, no self love/value.😢

  • @BuffyunaTV
    @BuffyunaTV 2 роки тому +171

    "I danced with Brad Pitt, HA!" Periodt queen!💅🏾

  • @FumiDesaluVold
    @FumiDesaluVold  2 роки тому +77

    Sister 2 sister officially starts at 7:49 into the video! 😊 🎥 🎞 💃

    • @preciousolibe
      @preciousolibe 2 роки тому +1

      Yes mummy

    • @preciousolibe
      @preciousolibe 2 роки тому +3

      Is your laughter for me

    • @preciousolibe
      @preciousolibe 2 роки тому +1

      Mama, please any talk on getting my confident back... Am no longer the confident lady😩

  • @jackiepadin3629
    @jackiepadin3629 2 роки тому +150

    My mother that I had to live myself, before I could live and depend on a man. Having been married for over 30 years I agree with you. Many women find out that their husband, lover is cheating and they go after the side chick. When in fact he’s the one orchestrating and manipulating and using them. Another wise trout from my mother. Men are not the air we breathe. They complement our life’s, they are not our life’s. Self respect and value your self worth 😃

  • @nekeshadunlap77
    @nekeshadunlap77 2 роки тому +136

    I have said it before and I'll say it again, "It is not her responsibility to care anything about me, it is his. I can't be get mad at her if he doesn't care."
    As women, we determine our own self worth, no one will respect you if you don't respect yourself first. Madam Fumi, you were spot on with this message and your make-up... Absolutely Beautiful Queen!

  • @caramelandchocolate5195
    @caramelandchocolate5195 2 роки тому +156

    I love how you tell stories Fumi. Leaves me wanting more. You should do a series on just telling stories.

  • @Vamparellame
    @Vamparellame 2 роки тому +11

    You did the right thing Fumi not saying anything because the friend will cut you off if you tell her and believe him anyway. I'm a couple yrs younger than you but I too learned the hard way that saying anything to your friend only cuts them off from you. They have to do it themselves because they don't want to know the truth. And yes if a man has another woman he isn't treating either one of the women right. He is the one with the problem not the side chick. Women need to put the blame where it belongs onto the man who is supposed to LOVE them not the other woman 💯

  • @elizabethekanem9883
    @elizabethekanem9883 2 роки тому +101

    I loved it when you said....."How dear him...." It really shows how much you valued the friendship with "Monica" (not to say you loved Sheree less though). This story is filled with so much nuggets of wisdom as to how you handled the situation, I am glad to be part of the Fumi-nation. Love you loads ma'am!

  • @heartdesire7438
    @heartdesire7438 2 роки тому +49

    I love your videos, I am a guy but the wisdom breaks barriers. Thank you Ma’am.

  • @dreamichele2323
    @dreamichele2323 2 роки тому +18

    I’ve never heard a story time told so elegantly! But there are some real gems in this story bc most women would have stayed friends with the side chick🤦🏾‍♀️ This makes me want to get back into color eyeshadows💜🤍

  • @CommonSenseSisters
    @CommonSenseSisters 2 роки тому +127

    "When we tolerate, we encourage that kind of bad behavior "cheating" " very well said. Fumi you look fabulous😍 in your makeup 💄 . Thanks for sharing this story, we hope people learn some wisdom✅ & make common sense✅ decisions about their choice of friendship & love partners. "Though the players may change, the game remains the same" "Look to your man first" 🤓

  • @moniquechats5323
    @moniquechats5323 2 роки тому +80

    I love her literally could watch all day so much grace and wisdom!

  • @patriciamoulds1247
    @patriciamoulds1247 2 роки тому +8

    I will never forget having a conversation with a guy and he said that women were the problem when it comes to a man cheating because if they didn’t tolerate it, it wouldn’t happen!😳🤨🤬But he was 100% correct! Once you find out he’s a cheater walk away! Your worth is to valuable to be discounted!!!

  • @AstroMartine
    @AstroMartine 2 роки тому +92

    This was quite the story, and I wish more women had the sense of self-respect and dignity that you hold on to, very true words on we are powerful when we stand united. Honestly, I often thought that women think too highly of men(especially the wrong ones), and are ready to excuse their behavior. The truth is men will go as low as women allow them to.
    P.S. Stunning look.

  • @jeanettebyrd8710
    @jeanettebyrd8710 2 роки тому +49

    Fumi,you are so right about the chick on the side! I often wonder why the wife would only go after the chick,& never address the man for his actions! For the man is truly the one, who brought that side chick into both of the couple lives! In order words,the man never care about either one of the women! Fumi,I do agree with you about the cheater! I,too was dealt with an similar sit nation with an very close friend! She was pregnant by him with their first child,& he also hitted on me at the same time! Needlessly to stay,I just couldn't tell my best girl friend to this day that her man was absolutely an"dog"!And,I too stopped going a round them until she as well later divorced the dog, not (1x) time,but twice as well???My girlfriend,& I are still best friends,inspite of me never telling her anything.She is no longer married to the ex"dog"!

  • @annkdrama-queen1254
    @annkdrama-queen1254 2 роки тому +44

    I could listen to your story telling all day. You’re a great friend Fumi for not wanting to hurt your friend. I agree, women should look towards their husbands and not the side chick bcos it’s about that mans morality and respect for his wife...luv you Fumi💕💞

  • @vibesthatheal
    @vibesthatheal 2 роки тому +20

    What you tolerate you indirectly encourage ❤️🙏 Thanks for this! FACTS!

  • @TheGoodLifeStarterPack
    @TheGoodLifeStarterPack Рік тому +3

    Fumi is THEE best storyteller!!! Love your channel with all of my heart. You are preparing me to go back out into the dating world confidently and in my power after a divorce. Thank you!

  • @omoyelejanet8034
    @omoyelejanet8034 2 роки тому +6

    I love it when people value friendships aunt Funmi you’re the best

  • @SuggyChi
    @SuggyChi 2 роки тому +70

    Fumi I'm 27, never been in a relationship, I do want to open up to dating but I feel strongly about saving myself for marriage, and I feel like there's so much pressure to give it up in the current dating atmosphere. Any tips?

    • @aeiou0123
      @aeiou0123 2 роки тому +63

      Dont give it up. Its a waste of time cos they will leave whether you give it up or not. So save it for the person who is worth it. The person who stays to the end (marriage). There r many many women sliding into men’s dms nowadays offering themselves so what makes you different? Wait for a man who needs more than that

    • @enchantingnaturals866
      @enchantingnaturals866 2 роки тому +6

      Watch shera seven on UA-cam learn a few things form her and take it from there. Not every thing she says is correct but she really understands the male mind

    • @adedoyinodedina1539
      @adedoyinodedina1539 2 роки тому +18

      @SuggyChi great decision Darling.
      I'm 32 and waiting for marriage too.
      Don't give up, don't give in, don't settle for less.
      You deserve the best.

    • @malieka6458
      @malieka6458 2 роки тому +10

      Honestly, it was one of the best things I did. I waited until marriage too. I did it for me and because I love the Almighty too. And even though it didn't work out(I'm divorced), I don't regret waiting. I value my chastity

    • @mpumitwala2614
      @mpumitwala2614 2 роки тому +1

      I encourage you to date. Don't take/date/marry the first guy you see Value yourself.

  • @HeidiSvenson
    @HeidiSvenson 2 роки тому +13

    I love watching you and listening to you and I strongly agree with everything you were saying here...but I am also heartbroken inside because of how royally I screwed up my entire life. I am fifty-one so I relate to you, but I managed to do everything backwards. I have so much regret because I had everything going for me - just like you - the parties and the nightlife and popularity, modeling, and career - when I was in my 20's, 30's, etc. with a million friends in every walk of life. I never "needed" a man. They were a nice addition to my life not the center of it. And just like you said, the time lose as a "side chick" is the price you pay. And even though I was never the type of woman that dreamt of her wedding day and never chased after men (I always put my career first) I have never had self-love. No one would believe me when I would try to tell them about my insecurities, Men always chased me. Anyway, I ended up losing all my friends, alienating my family and completely destroying everything I had going for myself at this late stage in life...when all my friends have long since been married and have children. I have no partner in life or support system and at this age now, I never will. And all I am left with is the very distinct message that it is 100% my fault and I deserve every single second of this loneliness. I will not and cannot expect any empathy. If I could give 20-somethings advice so they don't end up like me I would say to never listen to people who shame you for even thinking you are beautiful, because I never thought I was, but looking back now I see clearly that I was stunning beyond words - hard for me to admit even now, and it hurts so much because now I have been reduced to looking like an ogre. I was taught growing up that to even THINK you looked good for a second was akin to the most heinous horrible, selfish ugly evil and now it is too late for me because I am old and ugly. and will never be beautiful again. . I would tell them to follow THEIR dreams and not the expectations of others' because guess what? No matter what you will never make some people proud of you no matter how hard you try or how successful you are. And when you realize that they don't even care that you gave up and compromised your dreams for theirs, it will be too late to pursue yours. And I would warn them about competitive women and not to let it get to them. To keep their head held high and not let it them down. Above all else, support other women, but don't tear yourself down all the time just to make them feel more at ease around you. Let them deal with their own jealousy issues. It is not your job to soothe them, and it makes you look weak. And besides, if the situation were reversed, they would not do the same for you! Just BE beautiful, woman and strut your stuff, because all of that will be gone like a whisper in the wind. So, what would I say to twenty somethings or any woman? I would recommend they listen to you and watch your channel and learn a little SELF LOVE. I know I need it, so I know there's GOT to be one or two others out there who might need it too, amiiright? So , I thank you and thank God, Ms. Fumi, for the beauty and inspiration you spread like sparkling moondust upon us all….😊

    • @belinda6533
      @belinda6533 Рік тому

      Be encouraged Sis. I can relate in a different manner. I did marry and have kids. I poured my all into the family. I am loyal and devoted. I knew something was off. I asked and asked. Finally my friends husband said hire a investigator. And there was the truth. It's not green grass on the other side. We are all just doing the best we can with our experiences at the time. I pray for courage and active faith and self love 💕

  • @JaneLawrence
    @JaneLawrence 2 роки тому +45

    I haven’t never been captivated by anyone as much as you have captivated me with your story telling and your voice. You are a actress and you need to be on Hollywood ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @edevbieblessing6594
    @edevbieblessing6594 2 роки тому +8

    The way she laughs gives me goose bumps....powerful woman

  • @berje4775
    @berje4775 2 роки тому +23

    I just love her accent, and energy

  • @vanessawalton76
    @vanessawalton76 2 роки тому +42

    Fumi Darling, keep sharing the wisdom! Ladies, take her life lessons to heart, as you will be better for it! As she stated, we are stronger together!❤.Love, love, love the makeup tutorial! Absolutely beautiful!

  • @KickinItWithTea1111
    @KickinItWithTea1111 2 роки тому +41

    I agree when you tolerate it’s the moment you encourage that behavior! I personally stay out of domestic affairs..I’ve had opportunities to air out other people dirty laundry!..but I stayed in my own lane 💁🏾‍♀️

    • @brooklynforever1990
      @brooklynforever1990 2 роки тому +3

      Best course of action because folks are going to do what they want ultimately 🤷🏻‍♀️

  • @eunicelampley1576
    @eunicelampley1576 2 роки тому +6

    Ah Fumi , well said. I hope many young women watch this. I could not have said it better myself. Many of them would save themselves from heartache if they just have more self respect and confidence in themselves. I love your videos. Very practical, realistic and true.

  • @sunshinemcdowell3111
    @sunshinemcdowell3111 2 роки тому +17

    TT FUMI!!!!! I so so so so love you and literally just play you on my smart TV all day since you came into my life!!!! This topic hit home!!! I've been in both positions and YESSSSSS!!!! KARMA .... THAT THERE!!!! Let's just say she came back and got me for EVERYTHING I DID AND DIDN'T IMAGINE DOING... Needless to say I have lived,learned, and grown. I tolerated a lot in my marriage because I felt I deserved what Karma was throwing back at me from how I was before I got married... then I began praying and God brought me you. I know I have a long way to go but you, Juvia's place, and Jacklyn Carr are helping me find my self love again. Thank you and if you ever have the time please please please send up a special thought for me as I continue to watch and understand from your wisdom that I deserve the best.💜💞💜

  • @born_confused
    @born_confused 2 роки тому +10

    I don't care if he lies about it my friend comes first. I'm a girls girl. A similar thing happened me. I lost my best friend over it but I had to tell her I couldn't live with myself if she found out I knew. I saw my best friends other close friends boyfriend cheating with another girl. I told her and he denied and came outside shouting. He threatened my partner too. It was a big thing. Anyway my best friend took her side and drifted away so I cut ties. I called to her house one day and she was inside with that friend and purposely didn't answer. I walked away with my head high knowing I was honest and loyal. I have one best friend now who I know would believe me no matter what.

  • @GinaCriv
    @GinaCriv 2 роки тому +36

    When you were putting on all of those colored eyeshadows, I must admit I went omg, and had my doubts. You proved me most wrong...it and you are beautiful. I just found your channel...you have a beautiful spirit and joie de vivre. P.S. you were speaking pearls of wisdom in this video.

    • @deedrawelcome-mariette7984
      @deedrawelcome-mariette7984 2 роки тому +2

      That’s so funny bc I said the same thing…oh my gosh she’s going to look like a clown 🤡. But GF look fabulous 🥰…..Fumi, u are beautiful!

  • @iopakayalo3459
    @iopakayalo3459 Рік тому +1

    I am 50 and I have seen the energy of betrayal in my home. It is painful and I don't ever wish it on any sister. I am seperated 2 years and finding my new sense of freedom and happiness now. I am living and loving my new space. Thank you, Fumi for bringing such vibrant energy into my home. I love you! Greetings to Adrian and Ula. YOU ALL ROCK💕.

  • @debzuba93
    @debzuba93 2 роки тому +47

    Hello Aunty! I adore your energy, and your honesty! your advice is well needed, and balanced! KEEP GOING QUEEN, AND TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF!!!

  • @triciasamuels6372
    @triciasamuels6372 2 роки тому +16

    More story times please ....I was on the edge of my seat all the way through..the tea!!No wonder you're an actress your story telling skills damn girl!! Anywho love the eye look and sending positive vibes just like you do through your 📹

  • @nayelizyanya2659
    @nayelizyanya2659 2 роки тому +7

    I am bingeing on these sister to sister story times. I love your story time... and packed with wisdom. I love you!

  • @larenese9417
    @larenese9417 2 роки тому +23

    Hello, Fumi. You are so wise and gorgeous! Peace and Blessings!

  • @ilpibadan2363
    @ilpibadan2363 2 роки тому +4

    For the first time I will comment on sister to sister. I have sworn never to blame a woman in a cheating saga,for this reason:there is never a game without a player, rarely ever are men the game they usually are the player and the women thinking they are a special game

  • @reneemosley8363
    @reneemosley8363 2 роки тому +7

    I ADORE you Fumi!!! 15 years ago I told my girlfriend and she didn't believe me though SHE told me, if I ever found out anything, to tell her. I never told her anything again though I knew nor anyone else because they do blame you...it comes back to bite you. Love you dear and God bless!!!

  • @johnarhodes3748
    @johnarhodes3748 2 роки тому +2

    You need a television show. You have so many bits of wisdom. Your delivery is so natural.

  • @Rona_actually
    @Rona_actually 2 роки тому +8

    Aunt Fumi danced with Brad Pitt 😲,you have lived auntie 👏🏾❣️
    Love from Zambia 🇿🇲

  • @rhondawilliams451
    @rhondawilliams451 2 роки тому +4

    You are exactly right. Whatever we let them get away with, is what they will do.
    It's also sad how women will get mad at each other instead of dealing with who they're actually dating

  • @stacybarb
    @stacybarb 2 роки тому +10

    This sister to sister is something I've never experienced. The real life story and the way u shared it with so much sincerity while applying ur make up gives me beautiful chills. Love you Aunty Funmi

  • @jojoamiegbeyoung
    @jojoamiegbeyoung 2 роки тому +1

    There’s just something about how you say, ‘I was living in New York…’
    It’s elegant. 🥰🥰

  • @dmc5163
    @dmc5163 2 роки тому +5

    Loved this "makeup and tea" and the periwinkle eyeshadow is Everything!! Fumi, you are spot on about him and Monica. He didn't like or respect women and she didn't love and respect herself. Unfortunately, this is so often the case with many young women in their 20s and beyond. Remember ladies - You Are Worthy!!

  • @kima.8315
    @kima.8315 2 роки тому +20

    Fumi, you had me at ‘why we’re quick to get mad at the side chick/mistress INSTEAD of being Furious at your husband who has stepped out on the marriage’. I agree with you 💯 %. What an experience you shared. You’re right…’The GAME never changes…JUST THE PLAYERS!
    Women must STAND TOGETHER!! Until we do, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE A SIDE CHICK🤦🏾‍♀️
    Beautiful makeup tutorial, amazing color palette 😘
    Great video!

    • @thelookout5802
      @thelookout5802 2 роки тому +1

      You see, women cannot stand together. It's not possible, even men can't do it. If not the side chick, he could go to strippers, prostitutes, sugar babies, your family, even fellow men, children aarrggghhh..he can even rape🙄you name it. If he wants to step out, he will find somebody....

  • @roni-yah9342
    @roni-yah9342 2 роки тому +2

    Yes Fumi I am 52 and lived in Manhattan (actually I worked at Harlem Hospital) in my late 20s. I remember the club. Back to the story.

  • @carolynololade4126
    @carolynololade4126 2 роки тому +26

    I was so bored in my room when I saw your video notification …the joy I felt ehhhhnnnn! I love to watch you. I even go back to your old videos when I’m free or don’t have any activities to attend to😍😍😍😍😍 much love from Nigeria 🇳🇬

  • @whateverrr3893
    @whateverrr3893 2 роки тому +2

    Wow I have never heard anyone speaks about this from the same mindset as me. To me, once a man cheats on me I’m no better than the other woman. We’re both side chicks to him. That man isn’t ready to commit to one woman nor hes just not a one woman man. When a man disrespect you just know that hes going to disrespect other women too. Love yourself first and never tolerate disrespect from any man.

  • @selomegirma3838
    @selomegirma3838 2 роки тому +2

    “Life” was an amazing chic, fun spot! New York in the 90’s was edgy, funky, daring, bold, eccentric and thrilling.

  • @gennyvievethomas
    @gennyvievethomas 2 роки тому +5

    Fumi, I'd love to learn makeup from you... When you were doing the entire white thing then the blue, I was scared like it's a lot but the entire look is so beautiful!
    You're 52 and I'm 21 and I can't even draw a line on my face by myself. 😪😪😪

  • @JaciraDeMatos
    @JaciraDeMatos 2 роки тому +5

    Another gem dropped! Love love you Fumi, you’re a force to be reckoned with!
    It bothers me sometimes how we women choose to go against each other instead of uniting.
    You inspired me to push myself and grow here on UA-cam.

  • @sabinedouble07
    @sabinedouble07 Рік тому +3

    Dear Fumi, I love your vibe, your beauty, your great personality, your great storytelling skills and your laughter makes me want to laugh too😄. You are like that big sister with whom one can talk and be sure to get the truth with a huge dose of good common sense. One thing I have enjoyed learning from you is that, we've got to keep our Self Respect, No man is worth losing it for. I just enjoy listening to you while I am curled up in bed. Bless you, and keep being your authentic self😘

  • @bettydavis7904
    @bettydavis7904 2 роки тому +2

    I'm older and you taught me some lessons along with make up tricks and lessons.
    I so thankful for you being you ! Awesome, amazing, and so blessed! 💋

  • @brennavasquez5106
    @brennavasquez5106 2 роки тому +21

    Yep never tell the wife, it back fires on you every time. And they stay with the man.

  • @NYMahogany
    @NYMahogany 2 роки тому +6

    Wonderful story time, makeup & message. Some women will deny the truth & shoot the messenger just to stay w/a man. UR so right Fumi, we should stand together. Karma is truly a B & she never forgets who she has to visit for payback.

  • @v.a.l.5165
    @v.a.l.5165 2 роки тому +4

    I enjoyed the way you addressed this immensely. You didn't shame anyone or take sides. We are so qhick to blame women while treating the men in these situations with compassion and leniency.

  • @memotoself1967
    @memotoself1967 2 роки тому +24

    Thanks Aunty Fumi, This video can change lives. im 26 and I experienced a similar situation this time it is a family member. I made the right decision to keep quiet. ❤️❤️

  • @leticiachiok8057
    @leticiachiok8057 2 роки тому +3

    Fumi, you are gorgeous! Love the nugget of wisdom you shared about your then girlfriends in New York decades ago who were embroiled in a love triangle (as the husband had a side chick). You are perfectly right to say that once a man cheats, it has tendency to cheat again. It happened.

  • @nkolemwaba2526
    @nkolemwaba2526 2 роки тому +1

    I wish there was a way for these cheaters to be more discreet. No one wants to be a part of their mess. And the people who are cheated on can be the worst sometimes. If you don't tell them they get mad at you for not telling them like you betrayed or something, if you tell them they get mad at you for not minding your own business or because they think you're jealous (like don't nobody want your trifling partner). It's like they would rather lash out at the friend than face the problem until it is so big that the relationship ends. It's all just nonsense.

  • @melodypaid5149
    @melodypaid5149 2 роки тому +10

    Wow you looking fabulously beautiful 😍 a definite model ❤️ what I took from this is you lived a jovial free spirited youth and this gave me an even more reason to continue living my life to the fullest cause here you are today full of wisdom due to the experiences of life ❤️❤️❤️

  • @pinkcadillacz
    @pinkcadillacz 2 роки тому +8

    She is giving us GRWM & Sister 2 Sister!!!!! ❤️ #DoubleLoving ❤️❤️❤️ #DoWeLove #WeLove (in my Fumi Voice) the Brad Pitt comment had me screaming! The Story had my edges. And the tea and the lesson of loyalty and self-love/ respect is powerful. Ty Fumi #FumiNation

  • @jenniferomo-olaye1614
    @jenniferomo-olaye1614 2 роки тому +5

    I love your style, your authenticity and self love stance if only women can truly understand this. Men wouldn't get away with half the crap they get away with, if our sisters can understand they have the power to not tolerate bullshit from men. Having enough self esteem to not let a man treat u as a side chuck becos to be honest he has no respect for you if you are his side chick...love you xxx

  • @ortheeimpossible3387
    @ortheeimpossible3387 2 роки тому +75

    Here comes today's delight,climaxes with a good laugh,that's so contagious. AM HERE FOR IT!!!

  • @nischellekhuba1481
    @nischellekhuba1481 2 роки тому +2

    Came across Fumi yesterday for the first time and I INSTANTLY fell in love!!! There is just something about her laugh though!!! Also the way she speaks on those crazy topics like body odor etc is beyond crazy. Where have you been all my life lol!!!
    Love you all the way from Malawi!!!

  • @ms.ppettigrew3167
    @ms.ppettigrew3167 2 роки тому +1

    Your beauty is impeccable. It is not just your color, but your bone structure, as well. And, yes I am biased. I am dark skin and have always loved being glamorous. ❤💚💙🤎💫🔥🔥🔥

  • @ladyred8948
    @ladyred8948 2 роки тому +6

    I'm so jealous I don't have my Fumi cup while getting all the tea. Yor stories always keep me engaged.

  • @tiffster80
    @tiffster80 2 роки тому +26

    This S2S was the best one yet… my pearls i clutched through the entire tutorial! She gives and hasn’t disappointed us yet. Juvai’s Place, I live, I Love 🥂 🌸💖

  • @lindaloving8383
    @lindaloving8383 2 роки тому +7

    Women should take your advice and remember we are Queens that have high standards.

  • @tanishapetertv2298
    @tanishapetertv2298 2 роки тому +5

    You are so gorgeous, I love your energy. I just wanna thank you for your sister to sister videos they all have inspired me to follow my passion and I did it, I gain the courage and started my UA-cam channel, keep on touching lives

  • @wilderaingraham6446
    @wilderaingraham6446 2 роки тому +4

    I live for it and I love it. We must stop allowing utter non-sense, build our self esteem and move on. This is how you end the evening. Love you Fumi

  • @marcelleharris8715
    @marcelleharris8715 2 роки тому +2

    1000% Agreed, Look to your man. It is crazy to me when you tell a friend and the friend tend to not believe you because you must be "jealous".

  • @hattiecolley54
    @hattiecolley54 2 роки тому +1

    And There it Is! U have been so Wise, hence ur Success today. Yeah, I remember those days. It is incredible how some of us want to Attack the woman and leave the Man standing, allowing by Tolerating the Behavior. I just luv u Fumi. We r from the same Arena. I have done the Movies, working as an Extra for TV, Runway, had incredible times. I have seen and heard it All. Being older I can truly say, the Wisdom I have, like then. I thank my Mother for being as strict as she was on me. But my Father was the greatest influence. He was a talker, she was Not. Keep up the great work. I do hope that one day, I will See U In the Wind. U r from Greatness. It makes such a Difference. Thank u so much, I enjoy the time spent on this Forum with u. Do Not Stop, as one day maybe we will Rise Up and take a Stand for being the Beautiful Beings that we were meant to be. With luv and Respect, Let's Continue. Btw, the Make Up in so Gorgeous, just 🔥!

  • @jackiegaston7859
    @jackiegaston7859 2 роки тому +1

    Thank You for sharing your story and advice. Many women unknowingly get involved and are hurt but by men who intentionally set out to cheat on spouses and being dishonest to their new victim. Love the selves enough to end the truth is the greatest victory for a healthy and whole lifestyle 💛

  • @dianaprince9311
    @dianaprince9311 2 роки тому +3

    Love your stories. There’s always something new to learn when listening to you because you have a lot of wisdom and perspective that others don’t have. You are a great friend on how you handled things.💖

  • @melvaspence17862
    @melvaspence17862 2 роки тому +3

    Very well taught Fumi, I've very proud of how you handled the situation with your friends and moved on. I'm so much in tune with your morals. Thanks for sharing

  • @garywright4495
    @garywright4495 2 роки тому +2

    You such a real woman and true friend! I have so much respect you, and if any man or woman who is close to you, You are a God given friend. But! believe what go around comes around. Trust me, its Gods timing not ours. Its KARMA! Thank you Queen, for your story and your heart. Spread the LOVE!

  • @ja.6203
    @ja.6203 2 роки тому +1

    Her laughter and the way she says "my darling" makes me smile

  • @nadinenugent-grant4158
    @nadinenugent-grant4158 2 роки тому +4

    Fumi the story you told is a story of many women and you are right, the players of the game changes but the game is the same, the issue is the man but when the side chick refuses to let go knowing full well that he is more committed to another they facilitate the game, they allow the game to be played. Im married and seperated and getting a divorce for the same things you've describe and the side chick knew that he is a married man with home and family but she still went and got pregnant and had a child with him. But the way he speak of her tells that he does not value her as a woman and the way she speak of him show that she know he is a cheater. The man she know is a stranger to me but that didnt matter I recognised that he was the problem and while I felt that she facilitate all this because she knew of wife, home and family I was done. No need to hear nothing I was done, and It does take a minute to really move on but the instant I knew all that was going on I was done. For all our sisters, you are worth more than that, If a man is not willing to give you all then move on. Love yourselves Sisters.

  • @Nahnie-jb8wo
    @Nahnie-jb8wo 2 роки тому +4

    I love all of your Sister to Sister talks! Please give us weekly talks. We're listening. Love you, Fumi ❤

  • @lesliejohnson1549
    @lesliejohnson1549 Рік тому +2

    Her laugh is everything! I love Fumi!

  • @serious7179
    @serious7179 2 роки тому +1

    I love that you put the focus on the MAN. I am not sure why so many women focus on the side chick instead of the person that makes the commitment to them

  • @carlotta8891
    @carlotta8891 2 роки тому

    That story, that message without being judgemental but still loving... landed!!

  • @nycgirl6978
    @nycgirl6978 Рік тому

    You are absolutely correct on all fronts Fumi. I’m a New Yorker born and bread. The 70’s was my time in the city and I modeled also. I got chills hearing you reminisce about your time in NY. I always say if we would act like sisters and not allow a married man in our bed they would have no one to “sidechick” and stay put or divorce and move on. Love you, you’re FABULOUS my daughter. 💋

  • @renatacortopassi4661
    @renatacortopassi4661 2 роки тому

    You are so fabulous. What a life you’ve lived. Nobody tells stories like you do. I love that makeup tutorial. I can never put makeup like you don’t have that talent don’t even know where to start. You are a star. Much love from 🇨🇦

  • @consciousluv
    @consciousluv 2 роки тому +5

    You have women knowing a man is married he tells her he's married he consistently rejects her and she still pursues him and this happens more than the man actually lying saying he is not married women cause their own danm problems with men... I know because my husband literally records these desperates begging for him while he clearly telling he is married...And the men that actually does proceed to have an affair with them she ends up feeling as though he should leave his wife and get all caught up in feelings and talk about how men aint shit...so women most of the times know or find out and they still stay...so women need to stop with the nonsense too!

    • @Sunshine4
      @Sunshine4 2 роки тому

      Nothing happens as long as your man (or woman) stays true. People will always be trying something whether is getting with your dude or trying to get your job. He needs to block them and know that he is doing something right.

    • @SayItKey
      @SayItKey 2 роки тому

      So your husband records, them begging for him, what kind of settings he is in?..

    • @consciousluv
      @consciousluv 2 роки тому

      @@SayItKey He is a electrician and works as an independent contractor so yes these desperates do that...and he has to record them because they will try and lie and say he tried to come at them its for his protection with the desperates!!!

    • @consciousluv
      @consciousluv 2 роки тому

      @@Sunshine4 The point of my comment is women boohoo about men treating them like crap and how he held em down knowing he was taken and told her he is not leaving his woman...luckily that wasn't my case but I know many women who knows the man is taken and still gets involved with him like a d***y

  • @lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663
    @lyndoraburroughs-robinson5663 2 роки тому +12

    Hey there Fumi 👋🏼. Tell it like it is. Each one Teach one 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽💯

  • @MJ-hd7nr
    @MJ-hd7nr 2 роки тому +1

    My first time seeing and listening to you, you’ve won my heart! I love this story time, tea time, makeup tutorials, auntie gems all in one! I’m also dark skin, who used to be afraid of color. Thanks for the reassurance! You’re beauty inside is showing out! New subscribers here…

  • @bfeltonwilson1
    @bfeltonwilson1 2 роки тому +1

    Loving the "I live I love Juvia's place Holiday makeup. So pretty! You are so right about who to blame if there's a cheating situation going on--HIM!!! They will take advantage if you let them.

  • @ilpibadan2363
    @ilpibadan2363 2 роки тому +4

    The one women never never want to hear " your husband is the situation"🤣🤣🤣😩🤡😄😥. I wish us smarter hearts

  • @sonyaestis-bohanan6989
    @sonyaestis-bohanan6989 2 роки тому

    Hi Fumi, you are a beautiful woman & person . I first saw you on a night my marriage wasn’t doing well again, but your word & smile help me so much! I wish I really know you & we were friends. Thanks & keep giving us your knowledge & love!

  • @Oliana2012
    @Oliana2012 2 роки тому +1

    I'm subscribing to this wisdom. What a woman you are! God Bless you

  • @gdubbz78
    @gdubbz78 2 роки тому +5

    Hey Fumi and FumiNation! Love you and your videos. Many thanks!

  • @sweetestscooby
    @sweetestscooby 2 роки тому +8

    Once again Aunty Fumi another amazing video. First of all I was here for the tea but WOW! The look turned out absolutely gorgeous! You look absolutely amazing I wasn't initially sure where you were going with the frosty look but it turned out great.
    I really hope that one day ladies will realise that these men are not worth the heartache and distress. It makes no sense to be a side chick. Even if you've eventually got the guy, remember, how you get them is how you lose them.

  • @jacquelinersprings9153
    @jacquelinersprings9153 Рік тому

    I agree, whole heartedly with you Fumi. I would not want to be a part of that shenanigans knowingly, knowing that she knew that he was married I just don’t entertain Miss like that even if he was with someone or living with someone, he’s not married but with seeing knowingly seeing someone, I just don’t get down like that and I don’t want to be around anyone like that either I don’t even want that energy around me I had to cut off a couple of people that I knew all knew that they were seeing someone that was mayor at all with someone I just don’t wanna associate myself with a person that has that low self-esteem about themselves