If i was her all the stress an anger I've been putting up with would have manifested into a damn back hand slap. I would not be able to hold myself back from that. Some people deserve to be slapped around. She is definitely one of them.
1st story. not a jerk. I would have done THE EXACT SAME THING to them. I respect this lady. 2nd story. not a jerk. Just the mere fact that the boyfriend didn't say a word to his mother in his girlfriend's defense who more than likely did nothing to her just shows that he encourages his mother's behavior. She's a smart one for backing out and breaking up with him because if he's doing that now, There's no way he'll ever come to her aid in any other instance. 3rd story. the husband is definitely cheating.
@@1mol831 it was an either either but the fact is. The daughter is a mature women now, has a house, and a decent job. She even has a bf and best friends. The dad was married and has someone new to take care of and couldn't just abandon them. But the dad seems like he still wants to be in his daughter's life. Idk.
@@1mol831 Either way, she's right. The dad is a grown man and is able to make his own decisions whether it be the right or wrong one. The dad is well off and is able to buy his own home if need be. However, the reason i think the father made the wrong decision is quite linear. He's blinded by the fact that his new wife is his old highschool/college crush or w.e and the fact that he has 2 kids with her and no house for them. Now, had he put all 3 of the ladies in their place. Maybe they could have stayed with the OP longer albeit with a bit of attitude. But it would have been better than not having a home at all or having to go spend more money elsewhere. So, yes. Dumb decision on his end but as a man. He should live with it.
In the second story the flight attendant was super sweet, not many people would listen to someone’s problems, comfort them and give them advice. I wish there were more people like her
Story 3:The husband is definitely hiding something could be cheating or something or in massive debt because he was unemployed for a year It's very suspicious 🤨🤔
@@1mol831 Well she said she always do this before doing laundry. It's weird if that's the first time he saw her doing it when they were married at least 1 year.
My husband and I allowed his father and new wife to move onto our property. While the arrangement started off well enough soon the wife started verbally attacking our children, lying and making up stories to her husband about our family, and all around acting very badly. As nice as you were to allow your father's new family to have a roof over their heads and then to be so disrespected by that new family is something that you DO NOT have to put up with. Period! You are totally in the right to remove them from your home and do not ever look back and feel regret!!!! It will only get worse. Good Luck in your future☺️
Story 2: As someone who worked in travel agency before, you wouldn't believe how many dramas we've witnessed when people are traveling. That's why my coworkers and I believe that it is important to travel with big groups before you take your relationship further. Drama is always guaranteed, you'll be able to see your partner's true color and how the act/react.
Hubby gets to do ALL of his own laundry from now on so as not to “disrespect his privacy”! Also, I would be snooping around in everything; he is definitely up to something!
Story #3 - That man is cheating. (I wish I could make that period bigger!!) Without a doubt. You don't put locks on your closet to teach a lesson. You do it because you have secrets that you need to hide. That woman needs to have a locksmith and an attorney go through that closet the next time she gets the chance. If he can't trust her, how can she trust him? A relationship without trust is not a relationship.
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Yeah get a locksmith and pack all his crap in bags and put them on the lawn put their front. There should be trust and openness between a husband and wife he is definitely cheating. The marriage is over
You do realize that cheaters aren't the only people who put locks on their stuff right? Some people don't like their personal things being fucked around with by people who don't have permission snooping in them, but nevertheless, her hubby did some crazy shit and for him to blow up like that... He's got something to hide. The teaching lesson could be multiple lessons such as not invading personal space. However, in this case you are absolutely correct as one wouldn't lock up their closet to teach some shitty lesson that is really pointless and stupid.
In story 3, mom and I always check Dad's pockets because he never does. He often just let coins hurt the machine or leaves dirty tissues all over the place. We check to protect the machine. One time I did accidentally set down and forgot where I put a flash drive that did held important documents for his job. We had search the house but we found it. And as upset as he was we told him to leave his flash drives not in the pockets he just toss aside but in the drawer that is for his personal belongings. When he calm down he saw we had a point. I also pointed out I was checking his pockets because he washed a flash drive that he browed from me and forgot it in his pockets. That had my homework in it. I just didn't want the same mistake repeated twice. Op doing that is very natural and your husband is lying to on something serious and gaslighting you for it.
Story 1: OP did them a favor letting them move in and they clearly did not deserve it. Come into my house, disrespect my mother, and act like you're in charge and you get to make rules that I have to follow when I'm the owner of the house? No, not happening .
Exactly. I’d tell them that I own the floors they walk on, I own the roof they live under, and that if I make ground rules you will follow them in my household. As long as your in my house if I said “Jump”, you’d say “How high?” Cuz this is MY house and as long as you live in my house, you will follow MY rules. Or else pack your thousand bags and get the hell out of my family house.
in regards to story three, i had a good friend who had similar reactions to perceived privacy. we each rented a room in a third person's multi bedroom home and she would use a camera in her room to record if anyone went in there, and checked it daily. I only noticed it because she had two kittens and we had the back door open for several minutes and i was just trying to ensure that they were in the house or if i had to start calling for them in the neighborhood. I was up front with her about the incident, and thankfully, her kittens never left the house, but she admitted to being confused when she saw me enter her room multiple times. This behavior is explained by my friend's emotionally and verbally abusive mother, who regularly snooped through her things, stole property from her daughter and repeatedly lied about doing so, and manipulated her son and daughter to try and get them to move back in with her so they could take care of her and she could order them around and control their lives. Her mother repeatedly tried to get into locked closets that my friend installed hasp locks on, to which my friend has the video evidence of, and tricked her son into breaking into his sister's closets under the excuse of the locked doors being a fire hazard. Which is ironic as F*** because my friend LITERALLY works as a firefighter, knows the regulations, and repeatedly told her mother she was full of it, and NO she had no permission to access her grown daughter's closet contents even if they were in her own house. Finally, she had to buy a rolling security cage to keep some of her things in after the incident so her mother could SEE the things that her daughter was keeping, but had no access to them. She is currently attempting to amass enough money to get her own place where she can get her own things out of her mother's house, and finally cut contact with the woman. TL:DR, it might not have anything to do with the spouse. perhaps OP's husband repeatedly had to deal with a 'snooper' as he was growing up and now reacts strongly to triggers, even unintentional ones.
NTA, anyone who has ever proficiently done laundry knows you check the pockets before you put them in wash. I think this would be a great opportunity for some malicious compliance, if the wife can't check his pockets then she can't wash his pants.
I have never done laundry, and I know that everything get removed from my pockets, meanwhile my mother... who does the laundry (I was 12 at the time she did this) left a whole hand warmer in the pocket, further more the piece of clothing that she was putting into the washing machine has the warning lable "ONLY HAND WASH, WITH COLD WATER"...
calling it, the husband is cheating, if i was in OP's position, all the alarms would go off, and i would go malitious complience, first by saying "fine, i will respect your "privacy", but you don't get to complain" and if the partner did, then i would be like "fine, you get to wash your own clothes then"
Story 3: Very suspicious. 1) get a 2nd laundry hamper and tell husband that in order to protect his privacy, you won't be doing his laundry any more. 2) Hire a private detective to look into his activities. Have a lawyer on standby. 3) Prepare an exit strategy, just in case.
1st story: GOOD! Because from the way the story sounds, that single mom, sounds fat and lazy to teach her daughters respect. For the pa, WTH? Way to show loyalty, he outright betrayed her. 2nd Story: Respect is a must. If one side shows but the other refuses, leave and never look back. 3rd Story: Bro, what's your major malfunction? You sound like a guy whose cheating on his wife. Not cool
@@stefanbosiljcic236 I disagree with your comment. Not 100% of it, just the betrayal part. While it's not really betrayal (which you and I both already know) she had a reason to cut ties with him. He attempted to defend his new family several times when they were clearly in the wrong. When you know someone did something wrong, especially disrespecting your child's deceased wife, then you immediately cut all ties with them and you leave them to bite the dust. Not only did they disrespect OP's mother, they also disrespected OP. I'm terrified I'll end up going through a similar situation, without the new family part. Imagine you brother dying from cancer, giving you his house and all his great stuff, making sure you had a roof above your head and money to help you live your life, and your parents' "new family" tried to destroy and undo all of that. Trashing the house, going through your shit, and worst of all, talking crap about your dead brother, mocking him. None of this happened to me, but I'm making a point. You don't associate yourself with bad people, you associate yourself with good people. If OP's dad wants to hang around with his new family, then he can go too since he wants to choose them over his flesh and blood. If OP's dad changed his mind and took OP's side instead, then it's pretty obvious her dad knew she wasn't fucking around. You don't turn your back on your own flesh and blood. My grandmother's father made that mistake, and she barely ever talks to him because of it. Ol' granddad was cool to me, but I found out the harsh truth myself, that he abandoned her like my parents did me. I could cut all ties with my bio mom and dad. My dad I already cut all ties with because of what he did to me, and the fact he didn't even bother calling me. My mother I'm quite unfortunate to be around because I despise her just as much, but have to be around her because my grandmother (my gramma is her mom) can't bring herself to let my bio mom go. I don't hate my mother because in my honest opinion she's better than my father and her sister. But I wish she listened to her grandmother before she got pregnant with me. tl:dr: OP has every right to cut ties with her dad, but he did change his mind and choose to take OP's side and not his new family's side so he earned respect from OP.
Judging the consistency of statements about a person using formal logic is useless, since human values are gray-scaled. Hitler and Mussolini supporters spent their time extolling their good qualities, while detractors of good-to-great men snipe at their sometimes minor flaws.
One can be a decent person while also being a bit snobbish, the key is just not to be a jerk about it, father doesn't seem to forbid or sabotage the relationship. The family is loaded, especially on deceased wife's side (and through her, the daughter's), some caution about potential gold-diggers trying to marry into it just for money is justified.
The husband is cheating on the wife that was doing his laundry, no question. The response from her should've been "show me what's on the paper now, or I'm filing for divorce."
There must be more for her to excuse his behavior and think she is the one at fault. If my hisband did that I would hire a PI as well as my own snooping. WTFHTHTT? WTFDIM? And does he remember who he married? Ok baby. You do your own laundry. I'll certainly be doing mine.
3rd story, definately suspect for me. About 30 years ago, I was doing as she did, cleaning out my husbands pockets to do laundry as they were always loaded with stuff, and found a note from another woman, trying to end an affair he was having with her. We split up. Fast forward about 15 years and we reconnected and became friends again, living in different states, and eventually decided to reconcile. After he moved out here, I was doing the same thing, his laundry, cleaning out pockets that still were loaded down with stuff. This time, no note from a mistress. No, this time, I find out he had a CHILD with another woman he NEVER told me about. A child that was conceived AFTER we had reconciled, he just wasn't out here yet. So yeah, my personal experience says not a jerk. He's definately hiding something, even if it not an affair. If you are that determined to hide stuff from your spouse, especially for a prolonged time....... it's unlikely it's anything good.
*Story 1:* Not a jerk. His new wife and her daughters were *guests* in her house. They embarrassed, inconvenienced and disrespected the OP. Insulting her mother in her childhood home was crossing a line. They have no rights to choose how anything is done in her private property, and after such a foul insult, they lost the privilege of staying. I support her decision of kicking out such a toxic group. The father should have drawn a clear line of respecting his daughter when the signs started appearing, his passivity was a choice and the consequences were inevitable.
My mother passed away about a year ago, and if my father ever found himself a new partner and she said something even close to that...I don't think he's say another word to her. Like, I was gonna say that I'd have to bail him out or jail or something but honestly, he'd probably just go insta divorce. No explanation, not ultimatum, just strait up cut her out like an unwanted growth.
You know what, both account holders would straight up give them a taste of their own medicine and make a extremely mean spirited insult about their own mothers and tell them to “shove that type of attitude where the sun doesn’t shine and show some respect to me or get the f**k lost!”
Reminds me of another story where a mom tried to give OPs house to his sister. Then there was another time where an OP's brother said "mom said you're giving me your house". There's quite a few of these stories. All of them are anger inducing lol.
Story 3: do you have any idea what happens if you leave a tissue in a pocket in the wash? That shit gets EVERYWHERE! Checking pockets before the wash isn't snooping, it's just smart.
I can't help but think this story was some sort of alternate universe of a Cinderella scenario. Lonely dad remarries a wicked stepmother and evil step sisters, trying to muscle their way into OP's ancestral home and take it.
He could also make his own food, clean up after himself and go to hell if that's what he wanted to do, because hell would freeze before I ever lifted a hand to do anything for him.
First OP, you did the right thing. My own father chose the family of my step mother that abuse him and me. It's not on the same level but we can see some similarity between her and what we now know of Amber. There for the cash.
Story 1: seven bedrooms and she wants yours for her stuff? Just transform the smallest bedroom into a walk in closet. And have locks in the doors u don't want people to enter
@@tyrionas wish it was that easy for me. Going on 5 years and still can't get my crackhead siblings off my property. Tried to evict but they said they can't do anything if they haven't signed a tenant form, which is bulls#!t.
@@lisacartwright2402 I mean, if they're not tenants, and you're not willing to have them on your property, doesn't it count as tresspassing and squatting?
The third one is called gaslighting. The OP is being perfectly reasonable, but have been made to question that. For the first one, I think I would have glowed red and physically removed them from the property if they made a comment like that. They're not paying tenants, no notice should be needed.
@@RabblesTheBinx Not "always" but in a situation where people have been living there for two months it generally is, since that could be considered a kind of tenancy under oral agreement. "Always" would be unreasonable though, ex. if you invited someone over for drinks and they refused to leave you wouldn't need to allow them to stay in hour house for a month, that would be insane. You only need to give notice to tenants (i.e. people who have a reasonable expectation of living there).
Story 3. The husband have something to hide, that much should be clear to anyone. Aside from that, malicious compliance is is order here. Dont move his clothes, dont do anything but sorting it out of the laundry and leave it for him to deal with. When he have no clean clothes left he might get the hint. (Assuming you do most or all the laundry.)
Bro everyone knows going after a dead family member is the lowest blow possible and a easy way to get beat, going to that extent in a argument mean you already lost.
there's no in hell that I'm going to get yelled at for cleaning my spouses pants OP's husband was WAY OUT OF LINE and just off an what was on that paper she's his wife not some stranger his reaction just raises to many red flags
The dad handled his new family and keeping his daughter in the dark like a coward. He sided with them as they were literally the worst people. And cherry on top he doesn't approve of the boyfriend because he is "middle class". Op's dad is not a good man.
1st Story . Not the jerk . Wo the Hell did that Other woman " Steph " think she was ? HOUSE GUEST not behaving like a Guest ? GET OUT NOW ! There was some obvious History to that story . Probably Steph had sour grapes about the Mother winning out in the beginning . 2nd Story . Dumping him , and Ergo THEM , was the right move . Plain and simple . 3rd Story . That sounds like an Imminent Divorce , for cause , to me . He IS playing up .
If you ever, EVER end up in a situation where the "new" parent is in YOUR house, and they immediately start saying that it's their house, unless your biological parent is willing to make the step parent say unequivocally that they understand that it is YOUR house, you need to kick them out on the spot. That is not going to get better, that is a very aggressive sign of things to come.
You HAVE to empty the pockets to wash them, unless you want things in the pocket ruined. The husband is obviously hiding something! Let husband do his own wash and see how he feels about it. After all, she wouldn't want to ruin his privacy by CLEANING his clothes now, would she?
For story 1, I would’ve lost my shit with that woman no one disrespects someone’s mother in their face like that, that is the most disrespectful thing anyone can ever do
Story 1 makes me think the mom knew something like this could happen and her way of protecting OP was to make her inherited the house and make both OP and the dad signed the document
Story 1: While I agree with almost everything she did. The only thing I would say is I think its slightly unfair for her to try and make her dad choose. At the end of the day he does need to move on with his life and he got remarried. She does not need to like her new step family, but that is no reason not to talk to her dad.
Agreed doesn’t look like the dad did anything terrible siding with his wife I’m guessing in his head was thinking it’s not as bad as your saying and looking at the wife with rose tinted glasses.
I think the dad was unfair to her when he went and got married without telling her anything. He certainly didn't need his daughter's permission to have a new life, but the fact that she didn't know about it and wasn't even invited to the wedding shows a complete disregard for her as an existing part of his life. It seemed like other than living in her house, he only saw his daughter as part of the past and not part of his continuing life.
#1: She had every right to do what she did. Her dad not telling her was wrong. Him choosing them over his own flesh and blood? True colors revealed. #2: The boyfriend was a jerk. His mother wouldn't ever approve of her, best to get away now! #3: Something is wrong! Call a lawyer and file for divorce. He is hiding something and being a narcissist.
the first time. "Love makes one blind." indeed. just kick these golddiggers out because it is extacly what they are. they are just using the father as a piggy bank damnit.
Story 1: I feel sorry for the OP, her father forever destroyed his relationship with his child for people who clearly don't respect his child, and explicitly disrespect the dead mother/wife. OP's continued contact with him however is bad idea, he probably thinks this is just a hiccup in his relationship with his child...but if the father can side against OP here, then when will he back OP. Story 2: Yeah, that's the right move to not get on the plane, and since the boyfriend didn't see anything wrong with what his mother had done, then breaking up is inevitable, doing it publicly and shaming the mother is just a bonus. Story 3: Depending on the laws where OP lives, either hire a Private Investigator, or file directly for divorce. OP doesn't need that stress, and whatever trust might have existed was broken in that moment.
No your mom would understand you didn’t let her down or fail her the way they treated you and tried to take advantage of you none of this is your fault
If I was the boyfriend of the girl in the second story, I would have just given my first-class seat to her then taken the coach seat and scold my mother, for some reason If my GF would have said that she didn't want to go, I would have stayed with her and keep her company.
That’s your mother though. A better way would be to not go to the vacation and stay with the girlfriend in the country instead and apologies to the mum.
@@AlesxSandri Don't know, maybe the girlfriend might break up if he decides to not go to the vacation and suggests doing other activities while his family goes on vacation because she believes his mother isn't to her liking and she doesn't care whether or not he respects her. There are many possibilities.
Story 1. Yes you made the right choice. Story 2, I would have gone and been happy for coach. Be humble. Prove to them otherwise but obviously he didnt mean that much to her and vice versa cause the bf should have found out exactly what was happening and why.
@@CidVeldoril facts, and this is just ONE story about OP and her boyfriend's family, I feel like if she had gone on the flight it would have signaled to the boyfriend's family that she's fine with being walked all over
Laundry - OP is not the jerk there. The fact that the husband made a big deal out of her emptying the pockets means that something is going on. Now, it could be a Good Something, like the dude found out that he's in line for a promotion, or that he wants to surprise her with a night out on the town, or it could be an Innocent Something - just a co-worker's phone number not yet in the cellphone. Or, of course, something very serious.
The reason that in the first story, the twin disrespected the OP’s mom is because they thought that their Dad owned the house and they could do/say whatever they felt like… Not the Jerk
I'm only 2.5 minutes into this story an can already say, without a doubt, no the gal who provided this story is OBVIOUSLY not the jerk here. She could have drugged all these people and planted them neck deep in the back yard garden and fed them nothing but ex lax for fertilize the roses and STILL not be the jerk in this story!! I think I'd have been asking them ALL to find other accommodations after at most 2 weeks, and if they argued I'd have happily handed them all written 30 day notices to vacate.
1st story: genuinely proud on how OP handled this. Not a jerk 2nd: OP made the right choices even tho I would have loved at least a attempted explanation about why the Bfs Mother doesn't like her - also the Bf is a walking L but ig that runs in the family. 3rd: another episode of "how tf did you even start a relationship with them"
In the first story, I would've kicked them out no matter how hard they would persuade me. The OP is certainly in the right to do so and I'd also be annoyed if I was in her position.
HELL NAW you’re NOT WRONG!!! she’s lucky she didn’t get slapped for saying that about your deceased mother!! You did the RIGHT thing cuz they just tried to take over YOUR house and was disrespectful!!! Dad sounds lonely so happy to have someone that he will just put up with the nonsense just so he’ll have someone that’s sad… I would NEVER PUT ANYONE before my kids especially if they’re being disrespectful to my kids… I rather be alone!! …. You did good and SO GLAD you got the legal paperwork straight
Disrespecting somebody's dead mother? Yep, that's definitely going to persuade them.
Jerks. OP should've gone Jango Fett should take her and her terrible twins out. Unforgivable.
If i was her all the stress an anger I've been putting up with would have manifested into a damn back hand slap. I would not be able to hold myself back from that. Some people deserve to be slapped around. She is definitely one of them.
They're out, then and there. Every single one of them!!!
bro if i was the person they would propably be dead by this point
I'd kill them
"Steph and her evil spawns" one of the best insults for a mother.😂
Kinda get the feeling that Dad was cheating with the ex/current wife. Wouldn't be surprised if the evil spawns are his.
cinderella's step mom and her daughters.
1st story. not a jerk. I would have done THE EXACT SAME THING to them. I respect this lady.
2nd story. not a jerk. Just the mere fact that the boyfriend didn't say a word to his mother in his girlfriend's defense who more than likely did nothing to her just shows that he encourages his mother's behavior. She's a smart one for backing out and breaking up with him because if he's doing that now, There's no way he'll ever come to her aid in any other instance.
3rd story. the husband is definitely cheating.
3rd story dude was definitely cheating I guarantee you that was a girls number.
I think the dad should choose the daughter’s side for a the first story.
@@1mol831 it was an either either but the fact is. The daughter is a mature women now, has a house, and a decent job. She even has a bf and best friends. The dad was married and has someone new to take care of and couldn't just abandon them. But the dad seems like he still wants to be in his daughter's life. Idk.
@@1mol831 Either way, she's right. The dad is a grown man and is able to make his own decisions whether it be the right or wrong one. The dad is well off and is able to buy his own home if need be. However, the reason i think the father made the wrong decision is quite linear. He's blinded by the fact that his new wife is his old highschool/college crush or w.e and the fact that he has 2 kids with her and no house for them. Now, had he put all 3 of the ladies in their place. Maybe they could have stayed with the OP longer albeit with a bit of attitude. But it would have been better than not having a home at all or having to go spend more money elsewhere. So, yes. Dumb decision on his end but as a man. He should live with it.
Either cheating or his “new job” is not entirely above board.
In the second story the flight attendant was super sweet, not many people would listen to someone’s problems, comfort them and give them advice. I wish there were more people like her
Story 3:The husband is definitely hiding something could be cheating or something or in massive debt because he was unemployed for a year It's very suspicious 🤨🤔
He could also be a major suspicious guy.
@@1mol831 Well she said she always do this before doing laundry.
It's weird if that's the first time he saw her doing it when they were married at least 1 year.
Now that he has a lock on his closet, he should also be doing his own laundry.
i thought they were going to pull out drugs when i saw the title
I'm quite sure it's not cheating, but some money-related problem and it must be very big.
Mad respect to that check-in attendant. Provides solid emotional and mental support for a total stranger.
My husband and I allowed his father and new wife to move onto our property. While the arrangement started off well enough soon the wife started verbally attacking our children, lying and making up stories to her husband about our family, and all around acting very badly.
As nice as you were to allow your father's new family to have a roof over their heads and then to be so disrespected by that new family is something that you DO NOT have to put up with. Period! You are totally in the right to remove them from your home and do not ever look back and feel regret!!!! It will only get worse. Good Luck in your future☺️
So where does your husband's dad and his new wife live now
@@AdityaSubandh why would she care?
@@Др.АндиМед idk
well if it was me then immediate expulsion and cutting ties lol
Story 2: As someone who worked in travel agency before, you wouldn't believe how many dramas we've witnessed when people are traveling. That's why my coworkers and I believe that it is important to travel with big groups before you take your relationship further. Drama is always guaranteed, you'll be able to see your partner's true color and how the act/react.
there's no way the dude would have made that big of a deal over a receipt in his pocket if it wasn't something bad
I would be looking for an exit strategy because the last one was obviously cheating or doing something shady
Definitely cheating!!! Don't need to ask!
Hubby gets to do ALL of his own laundry from now on so as not to “disrespect his privacy”! Also, I would be snooping around in everything; he is definitely up to something!
Agreed. Extreme overreaction. Idgf, he's cheating and you can't change my mind. Time to move on.
It could be something like a racetrack sheet that shows he lost a ton of money. But other than that, yeah, he's probably cheating
Steph literally can't just say "You can't kick us out" is crazy cuz she literally can
Story #3 - That man is cheating. (I wish I could make that period bigger!!) Without a doubt. You don't put locks on your closet to teach a lesson. You do it because you have secrets that you need to hide. That woman needs to have a locksmith and an attorney go through that closet the next time she gets the chance.
If he can't trust her, how can she trust him? A relationship without trust is not a relationship.
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That a big enough period
Either he's cheating or his new job is sus, whatever it was, is no good
Yeah get a locksmith and pack all his crap in bags and put them on the lawn put their front. There should be trust and openness between a husband and wife he is definitely cheating. The marriage is over
You do realize that cheaters aren't the only people who put locks on their stuff right? Some people don't like their personal things being fucked around with by people who don't have permission snooping in them, but nevertheless, her hubby did some crazy shit and for him to blow up like that... He's got something to hide. The teaching lesson could be multiple lessons such as not invading personal space. However, in this case you are absolutely correct as one wouldn't lock up their closet to teach some shitty lesson that is really pointless and stupid.
That man is cheating● (made that period bigger 😂 ).
I felt that. My step mother did kick me out when i was young. I was couch surfing for a while until I made a life for myself.
As someone who's mother is dying from cancer this struck a nerve. If i was in her position, I would have done the same thing.
I probably would have gotten violent with them. Also best wishes for you and your mother.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Wishing you all find peace in your hearts.
I’m sorry you’re going through this keep strong❤
They would have been on the ground if they pulled that shit on me also I am very sorry about your mother I hope she beats it cancer is a nightmare
Stay strong champion 💪💪
In story 3, mom and I always check Dad's pockets because he never does. He often just let coins hurt the machine or leaves dirty tissues all over the place. We check to protect the machine. One time I did accidentally set down and forgot where I put a flash drive that did held important documents for his job. We had search the house but we found it. And as upset as he was we told him to leave his flash drives not in the pockets he just toss aside but in the drawer that is for his personal belongings. When he calm down he saw we had a point. I also pointed out I was checking his pockets because he washed a flash drive that he browed from me and forgot it in his pockets. That had my homework in it. I just didn't want the same mistake repeated twice. Op doing that is very natural and your husband is lying to on something serious and gaslighting you for it.
Story 1: OP did them a favor letting them move in and they clearly did not deserve it. Come into my house, disrespect my mother, and act like you're in charge and you get to make rules that I have to follow when I'm the owner of the house? No, not happening .
Exactly. I’d tell them that I own the floors they walk on, I own the roof they live under, and that if I make ground rules you will follow them in my household. As long as your in my house if I said “Jump”, you’d say “How high?” Cuz this is MY house and as long as you live in my house, you will follow MY rules. Or else pack your thousand bags and get the hell out of my family house.
in regards to story three, i had a good friend who had similar reactions to perceived privacy. we each rented a room in a third person's multi bedroom home and she would use a camera in her room to record if anyone went in there, and checked it daily. I only noticed it because she had two kittens and we had the back door open for several minutes and i was just trying to ensure that they were in the house or if i had to start calling for them in the neighborhood. I was up front with her about the incident, and thankfully, her kittens never left the house, but she admitted to being confused when she saw me enter her room multiple times.
This behavior is explained by my friend's emotionally and verbally abusive mother, who regularly snooped through her things, stole property from her daughter and repeatedly lied about doing so, and manipulated her son and daughter to try and get them to move back in with her so they could take care of her and she could order them around and control their lives. Her mother repeatedly tried to get into locked closets that my friend installed hasp locks on, to which my friend has the video evidence of, and tricked her son into breaking into his sister's closets under the excuse of the locked doors being a fire hazard. Which is ironic as F*** because my friend LITERALLY works as a firefighter, knows the regulations, and repeatedly told her mother she was full of it, and NO she had no permission to access her grown daughter's closet contents even if they were in her own house. Finally, she had to buy a rolling security cage to keep some of her things in after the incident so her mother could SEE the things that her daughter was keeping, but had no access to them. She is currently attempting to amass enough money to get her own place where she can get her own things out of her mother's house, and finally cut contact with the woman.
TL:DR, it might not have anything to do with the spouse. perhaps OP's husband repeatedly had to deal with a 'snooper' as he was growing up and now reacts strongly to triggers, even unintentional ones.
NTA, anyone who has ever proficiently done laundry knows you check the pockets before you put them in wash. I think this would be a great opportunity for some malicious compliance, if the wife can't check his pockets then she can't wash his pants.
I have never done laundry, and I know that everything get removed from my pockets, meanwhile my mother... who does the laundry (I was 12 at the time she did this) left a whole hand warmer in the pocket, further more the piece of clothing that she was putting into the washing machine has the warning lable "ONLY HAND WASH, WITH COLD WATER"...
calling it, the husband is cheating, if i was in OP's position, all the alarms would go off, and i would go malitious complience, first by saying "fine, i will respect your "privacy", but you don't get to complain" and if the partner did, then i would be like "fine, you get to wash your own clothes then"
Story 3: Very suspicious. 1) get a 2nd laundry hamper and tell husband that in order to protect his privacy, you won't be doing his laundry any more. 2) Hire a private detective to look into his activities. Have a lawyer on standby. 3) Prepare an exit strategy, just in case.
1st story: GOOD! Because from the way the story sounds, that single mom, sounds fat and lazy to teach her daughters respect. For the pa, WTH? Way to show loyalty, he outright betrayed her.
2nd Story: Respect is a must. If one side shows but the other refuses, leave and never look back.
3rd Story: Bro, what's your major malfunction? You sound like a guy whose cheating on his wife. Not cool
I disagre on the betrayl part he was kinda in a tight spot and while he should have chose the daughter i dont think she should just cut ties with him
@@stefanbosiljcic236 he’s probably gonna get ruined with alimony until he dies if he divorces the wife and choose the daughter.
@@stefanbosiljcic236 I disagree with your comment. Not 100% of it, just the betrayal part. While it's not really betrayal (which you and I both already know) she had a reason to cut ties with him. He attempted to defend his new family several times when they were clearly in the wrong. When you know someone did something wrong, especially disrespecting your child's deceased wife, then you immediately cut all ties with them and you leave them to bite the dust. Not only did they disrespect OP's mother, they also disrespected OP. I'm terrified I'll end up going through a similar situation, without the new family part. Imagine you brother dying from cancer, giving you his house and all his great stuff, making sure you had a roof above your head and money to help you live your life, and your parents' "new family" tried to destroy and undo all of that. Trashing the house, going through your shit, and worst of all, talking crap about your dead brother, mocking him. None of this happened to me, but I'm making a point. You don't associate yourself with bad people, you associate yourself with good people. If OP's dad wants to hang around with his new family, then he can go too since he wants to choose them over his flesh and blood. If OP's dad changed his mind and took OP's side instead, then it's pretty obvious her dad knew she wasn't fucking around. You don't turn your back on your own flesh and blood. My grandmother's father made that mistake, and she barely ever talks to him because of it. Ol' granddad was cool to me, but I found out the harsh truth myself, that he abandoned her like my parents did me. I could cut all ties with my bio mom and dad. My dad I already cut all ties with because of what he did to me, and the fact he didn't even bother calling me. My mother I'm quite unfortunate to be around because I despise her just as much, but have to be around her because my grandmother (my gramma is her mom) can't bring herself to let my bio mom go. I don't hate my mother because in my honest opinion she's better than my father and her sister. But I wish she listened to her grandmother before she got pregnant with me.
tl:dr: OP has every right to cut ties with her dad, but he did change his mind and choose to take OP's side and not his new family's side so he earned respect from OP.
"My Dad is nice"
"My dad doesn't like my boyfriend because he's middle class"
These are contradictory statements
Ehhh just because your parents don’t like someone in particular doesn’t meant they arn’t nice
Judging the consistency of statements about a person using formal logic is useless, since human values are gray-scaled. Hitler and Mussolini supporters spent their time extolling their good qualities, while detractors of good-to-great men snipe at their sometimes minor flaws.
One can be a decent person while also being a bit snobbish, the key is just not to be a jerk about it, father doesn't seem to forbid or sabotage the relationship.
The family is loaded, especially on deceased wife's side (and through her, the daughter's), some caution about potential gold-diggers trying to marry into it just for money is justified.
The husband is cheating on the wife that was doing his laundry, no question. The response from her should've been "show me what's on the paper now, or I'm filing for divorce."
There must be more for her to excuse his behavior and think she is the one at fault. If my hisband did that I would hire a PI as well as my own snooping. WTFHTHTT? WTFDIM? And does he remember who he married?
Ok baby. You do your own laundry. I'll certainly be doing mine.
3rd story, definately suspect for me. About 30 years ago, I was doing as she did, cleaning out my husbands pockets to do laundry as they were always loaded with stuff, and found a note from another woman, trying to end an affair he was having with her. We split up. Fast forward about 15 years and we reconnected and became friends again, living in different states, and eventually decided to reconcile. After he moved out here, I was doing the same thing, his laundry, cleaning out pockets that still were loaded down with stuff. This time, no note from a mistress. No, this time, I find out he had a CHILD with another woman he NEVER told me about. A child that was conceived AFTER we had reconciled, he just wasn't out here yet. So yeah, my personal experience says not a jerk. He's definately hiding something, even if it not an affair. If you are that determined to hide stuff from your spouse, especially for a prolonged time....... it's unlikely it's anything good.
*Story 1:* Not a jerk. His new wife and her daughters were *guests* in her house. They embarrassed, inconvenienced and disrespected the OP. Insulting her mother in her childhood home was crossing a line. They have no rights to choose how anything is done in her private property, and after such a foul insult, they lost the privilege of staying. I support her decision of kicking out such a toxic group. The father should have drawn a clear line of respecting his daughter when the signs started appearing, his passivity was a choice and the consequences were inevitable.
My mother passed away about a year ago, and if my father ever found himself a new partner and she said something even close to that...I don't think he's say another word to her. Like, I was gonna say that I'd have to bail him out or jail or something but honestly, he'd probably just go insta divorce. No explanation, not ultimatum, just strait up cut her out like an unwanted growth.
I feel her pain. My dad chose his new family over me.
I would kick them out right away if they said something bad about my mom.
i would as well
this only ending in a blind rage ass beating from me. she got off with just getting kicked out.
Definatly
You know what, both account holders would straight up give them a taste of their own medicine and make a extremely mean spirited insult about their own mothers and tell them to “shove that type of attitude where the sun doesn’t shine and show some respect to me or get the f**k lost!”
The second story’s attendant is super nice, hope they get a raise or somethin’. They are a champ!
Is this a runner up to the story where the Karen’s non existent water heater broke and tried to steal their house
This isn't the same story but it is similar
The runner up is “male Karen runs scam to get free house.”
No but that's a good story
Reminds me of another story where a mom tried to give OPs house to his sister. Then there was another time where an OP's brother said "mom said you're giving me your house". There's quite a few of these stories. All of them are anger inducing lol.
@@bgcorporation I remember that one
story 2 BIG W for attendant saying " dont go with that family sweetie they dont appreciate you"
Story 3: do you have any idea what happens if you leave a tissue in a pocket in the wash?
That shit gets EVERYWHERE!
Checking pockets before the wash isn't snooping, it's just smart.
He’s either double the mattress dance with some other chick or is a gambling addict
I can't help but think this story was some sort of alternate universe of a Cinderella scenario.
Lonely dad remarries a wicked stepmother and evil step sisters, trying to muscle their way into OP's ancestral home and take it.
the dad can’t just expect her to not be mad after his wife insulted his kids dead mother
the last one incredibly suspicious, i would have asked who the hell is he hiding from me
For the third story if this happened to me I would say “have fun doing your own laundry, since you clearly don’t think I’m in a position to do so.”
He could also make his own food, clean up after himself and go to hell if that's what he wanted to do, because hell would freeze before I ever lifted a hand to do anything for him.
First OP, you did the right thing. My own father chose the family of my step mother that abuse him and me. It's not on the same level but we can see some similarity between her and what we now know of Amber. There for the cash.
Story 1: seven bedrooms and she wants yours for her stuff? Just transform the smallest bedroom into a walk in closet.
And have locks in the doors u don't want people to enter
Yeah or remove the people that can't respect basic rules from your home, that solve this problem and all the future ones.
Or remove the people who are assholes to you. Fuck them.
@@tyrionas wish it was that easy for me. Going on 5 years and still can't get my crackhead siblings off my property. Tried to evict but they said they can't do anything if they haven't signed a tenant form, which is bulls#!t.
@@lisacartwright2402 I don't know which country you are from or the laws regarding evicting work there. But have you tried consulting a lawyer there ?
@@lisacartwright2402 I mean, if they're not tenants, and you're not willing to have them on your property, doesn't it count as tresspassing and squatting?
3:29 I would have said "You are a tenant, and I am your landlord. You are officially evicted from this property."
12:59 no you’re not the jerk you’ll never be the jerk you’re an amazing person
Disrespecting someone’s mother is one of the worst thing you can
The third one is called gaslighting. The OP is being perfectly reasonable, but have been made to question that.
For the first one, I think I would have glowed red and physically removed them from the property if they made a comment like that. They're not paying tenants, no notice should be needed.
notice is always required, regardless of whether or not they're paying rent.
@@RabblesTheBinx Not "always" but in a situation where people have been living there for two months it generally is, since that could be considered a kind of tenancy under oral agreement. "Always" would be unreasonable though, ex. if you invited someone over for drinks and they refused to leave you wouldn't need to allow them to stay in hour house for a month, that would be insane. You only need to give notice to tenants (i.e. people who have a reasonable expectation of living there).
Story about privacy issue, hubby would be his own laundry somewhere else.
Story 3. The husband have something to hide, that much should be clear to anyone. Aside from that, malicious compliance is is order here. Dont move his clothes, dont do anything but sorting it out of the laundry and leave it for him to deal with. When he have no clean clothes left he might get the hint. (Assuming you do most or all the laundry.)
YO JANGO FETT IN THE BACKGROUND GETTING LIT.
But actually, who knew he was so good at speeder boarding
Bro everyone knows going after a dead family member is the lowest blow possible and a easy way to get beat, going to that extent in a argument mean you already lost.
For the last story: that sounds to me like a good opportunity to stop doing his laundry and see how fast he turns around XD
there's no in hell that I'm going to get yelled at for cleaning my spouses pants
OP's husband was WAY OUT OF LINE and just off an what was on that paper she's his wife not some stranger his reaction just raises to many red flags
If it's that important better start washing his own clothes oh mr super secret agent.
I'd be getting a divorce so fucking fast barry allen would be speechless.
first story, when the stepmom said her mother was bad and useless, my jaw physically dropped.
Story one sounds like a case of “witch taking advantage of overly nice guy” and “mentally abusive wife”
Nice guy but that's a woman
The game: Skateboarding
My brain: porkour? hmmmmmeh i due gnat goot it
The dad handled his new family and keeping his daughter in the dark like a coward. He sided with them as they were literally the worst people. And cherry on top he doesn't approve of the boyfriend because he is "middle class". Op's dad is not a good man.
OP's boyfriend is a pediatrician resident if I read that right. How is that not good enough?
Referring to someones house as your house
Perfect way to treat a hotel owner
Story One….. You’re an amazing, respectful person, making sure that your mother’s memory is not disrespected in her own home :)
When u said if they run out of money ,they can sell their luxury bags .That got me 😂😂😂
1st story YOU ARE NOT THE JERK KICK THEM OUT INSTANTLY
I just did a assessment last minute and I cant go to sleep now so I am just binging your videos
1st Story . Not the jerk . Wo the Hell did that Other woman " Steph " think she was ? HOUSE GUEST not behaving like a Guest ? GET OUT NOW !
There was some obvious History to that story . Probably Steph had sour grapes about the Mother winning out in the beginning .
2nd Story . Dumping him , and Ergo THEM , was the right move . Plain and simple .
3rd Story . That sounds like an Imminent Divorce , for cause , to me . He IS playing up .
If you ever, EVER end up in a situation where the "new" parent is in YOUR house, and they immediately start saying that it's their house, unless your biological parent is willing to make the step parent say unequivocally that they understand that it is YOUR house, you need to kick them out on the spot. That is not going to get better, that is a very aggressive sign of things to come.
She absolutely did the right thing. Kick them all out.
You HAVE to empty the pockets to wash them, unless you want things in the pocket ruined. The husband is obviously hiding something! Let husband do his own wash and see how he feels about it. After all, she wouldn't want to ruin his privacy by CLEANING his clothes now, would she?
Nothing worse than papers disintegrating and ruining your whole load. If I was OP, I would never do his laundry again.
For story 1, I would’ve lost my shit with that woman no one disrespects someone’s mother in their face like that, that is the most disrespectful thing anyone can ever do
this is like the seventh video i have watched from this channel and i love these stories please keep making more of them they are entertaining
I love the way you tell the stories
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I tried to picture the whole thing in my head
Story 1: Are they trying to make the OP into cinderella?
Story 3: Make him do his own laundry then!
Story 1 makes me think the mom knew something like this could happen and her way of protecting OP was to make her inherited the house and make both OP and the dad signed the document
Story 1: While I agree with almost everything she did. The only thing I would say is I think its slightly unfair for her to try and make her dad choose. At the end of the day he does need to move on with his life and he got remarried. She does not need to like her new step family, but that is no reason not to talk to her dad.
Agreed doesn’t look like the dad did anything terrible siding with his wife I’m guessing in his head was thinking it’s not as bad as your saying and looking at the wife with rose tinted glasses.
I think the dad was unfair to her when he went and got married without telling her anything. He certainly didn't need his daughter's permission to have a new life, but the fact that she didn't know about it and wasn't even invited to the wedding shows a complete disregard for her as an existing part of his life. It seemed like other than living in her house, he only saw his daughter as part of the past and not part of his continuing life.
Story 3: he can do his own laundry now
Yay! I finally made it to the live chat premiere!!!! Love it!!!! ❤️
#1: She had every right to do what she did. Her dad not telling her was wrong. Him choosing them over his own flesh and blood? True colors revealed.
#2: The boyfriend was a jerk. His mother wouldn't ever approve of her, best to get away now!
#3: Something is wrong! Call a lawyer and file for divorce. He is hiding something and being a narcissist.
the first time. "Love makes one blind." indeed. just kick these golddiggers out because it is extacly what they are. they are just using the father as a piggy bank damnit.
The moment OP talked about gucci bags i knew where this was going, seriously this happens too often.
Story 1: I feel sorry for the OP, her father forever destroyed his relationship with his child for people who clearly don't respect his child, and explicitly disrespect the dead mother/wife. OP's continued contact with him however is bad idea, he probably thinks this is just a hiccup in his relationship with his child...but if the father can side against OP here, then when will he back OP. Story 2: Yeah, that's the right move to not get on the plane, and since the boyfriend didn't see anything wrong with what his mother had done, then breaking up is inevitable, doing it publicly and shaming the mother is just a bonus. Story 3: Depending on the laws where OP lives, either hire a Private Investigator, or file directly for divorce. OP doesn't need that stress, and whatever trust might have existed was broken in that moment.
I can’t tell what to watch. The text or boba fett absolutely ballin in the background
Haven't even finished the premiere and I know the op isn't the jerk
Who thought of the "me or the ps5"
In the very start
But here it is "me or the family"
No your mom would understand you didn’t let her down or fail her the way they treated you and tried to take advantage of you none of this is your fault
Story 3. Let him do his own dam laundry
If I was the boyfriend of the girl in the second story, I would have just given my first-class seat to her then taken the coach seat and scold my mother, for some reason If my GF would have said that she didn't want to go, I would have stayed with her and keep her company.
That’s your mother though. A better way would be to not go to the vacation and stay with the girlfriend in the country instead and apologies to the mum.
@@1mol831 The mother sounded entitled... so I don't think it will end easily with that.
@@AlesxSandri Don't know, maybe the girlfriend might break up if he decides to not go to the vacation and suggests doing other activities while his family goes on vacation because she believes his mother isn't to her liking and she doesn't care whether or not he respects her. There are many possibilities.
his voice fits every video i watched its amazing and i always love his karen voice it is so funny
For the last story, I would simply stop washing their clothes and say “Fine, do your own laundry if you don’t want me InVaDiNg YoUr PrIvAcY”
Then she could put a lock on her own closet and get grumpy about her own stuff and see how creepy it looks.
Stepmom trying to literally pull a Cinderella is a huge red flag.
Husband hiding something
I don't think the narrator has had a difficult life more or less been pampered throughout his entire life
Story 1. Yes you made the right choice. Story 2, I would have gone and been happy for coach. Be humble. Prove to them otherwise but obviously he didnt mean that much to her and vice versa cause the bf should have found out exactly what was happening and why.
There is being humble and there is taking shit from your bfs mother with him not defending you. This is the latter.
@@CidVeldoril facts, and this is just ONE story about OP and her boyfriend's family, I feel like if she had gone on the flight it would have signaled to the boyfriend's family that she's fine with being walked all over
Laundry - OP is not the jerk there. The fact that the husband made a big deal out of her emptying the pockets means that something is going on. Now, it could be a Good Something, like the dude found out that he's in line for a promotion, or that he wants to surprise her with a night out on the town, or it could be an Innocent Something - just a co-worker's phone number not yet in the cellphone. Or, of course, something very serious.
Amazed she put up with it for so long !
Story one: no you're not the jerk you are making the right decision
Lol Jango Fett is playing with a skateboard
The reason that in the first story, the twin disrespected the OP’s mom is because they thought that their Dad owned the house and they could do/say whatever they felt like… Not the Jerk
Story 1's Op made all the right decisions except waiting long to kick then out
Story one. You did the right thing.
This story is very sad especially the fact that they disrespected her dead mother
Kick them out of your house !!! You are not a jerk. You are 100% right.
I'm only 2.5 minutes into this story an can already say, without a doubt, no the gal who provided this story is OBVIOUSLY not the jerk here. She could have drugged all these people and planted them neck deep in the back yard garden and fed them nothing but ex lax for fertilize the roses and STILL not be the jerk in this story!! I think I'd have been asking them ALL to find other accommodations after at most 2 weeks, and if they argued I'd have happily handed them all written 30 day notices to vacate.
Good line about planting them neck deep in the garden........it gave me a good laugh, thanks for that.
Part of me is thinking OP's dad left Steph for OP's mom, and Steph still had somewhat of a torch for him
1st story: genuinely proud on how OP handled this. Not a jerk
2nd: OP made the right choices even tho I would have loved at least a attempted explanation about why the Bfs Mother doesn't like her - also the Bf is a walking L but ig that runs in the family.
3rd: another episode of "how tf did you even start a relationship with them"
2nd story, it really doesn't matter, someone would hate you for no reason. You are right about the ex-bf, he is a big loser.
In the first story, I would've kicked them out no matter how hard they would persuade me. The OP is certainly in the right to do so and I'd also be annoyed if I was in her position.
My dads sister disrespected my mother weeks after she passed. Needless to say that woman is no longer in our lives.
She is to kind. Paying the down payment show her big heart. Wish her a happy marriage. Hope he is as good hearted as she is.
HELL NAW you’re NOT WRONG!!! she’s lucky she didn’t get slapped for saying that about your deceased mother!! You did the RIGHT thing cuz they just tried to take over YOUR house and was disrespectful!!! Dad sounds lonely so happy to have someone that he will just put up with the nonsense just so he’ll have someone that’s sad… I would NEVER PUT ANYONE before my kids especially if they’re being disrespectful to my kids… I rather be alone!! …. You did good and SO GLAD you got the legal paperwork straight