I used to have no tolerance for anything and would break down so easily and quickly… but after learning and healing from my past I’ve been able to be angry 2 times in the last 5 years… and never staying in negative emotions, I still get sad, annoyed and frustrated but I never stay there for a prolonged period of time 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
2:45 is a HUGE point: Being tired or hungry narrowing your window...which is why I refer to the bottom of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs when it comes to my tolerance with being able to deal with 3rd party things and figuring out ‘At the core of it, is it them being ultra annoying or is it me not catering to my base level needs?’ Some people who don’t self reflect may label the world as combative or of problem or issue, completely skipping over that their homeostasis plate is not balanced or clean, which is solely their responsibility. 😂 Great topic! And loved the topic of mandalas, as they remind me of a habit I developed as a child where I would draw the shape of the number 8 overlapping again and again and then color the shapes in. It was calming.
Ah, yes, HYPOarousal. I remember the anxiety consumed me so thoroughly, I felt I had no choice but to lay in bed and let the pain course through me. It physically hurt to exist and I wished to die. I was stressing over course work that I couldn't figure out how to complete. Looking back on it now, I can't believe how much pain my anxiety could physically cause me. It felt like a jagged long sword stabbing through my heart and down the rest of my body.
Me too! After a year and a half, $4000, 9 doctors and 2 chiropractors we figured out the reason for my debilitating pain was stress😕 So so painful..without meditation I simply would not be able to manage the pain all over my body I was experiencing.
I’ve definitely noticed this. Larger stresses drive me into the hypo-stressed window. More minor annoyances (especially when I’m hungry or tired) trip the hyper side. Great video!
My window of tolerance has historically been quite wide; probably because of childhood abuse & learning quickly that ‘reacting’ isn’t safe or productive. Of course holding the anger in wasn’t healthy either as ‘shutting down’ was the coping response. Thankfully, things are well balanced with adequate sleep/insight/age/maturity; things that need to be addressed are done so thoughtfully & immediately. Suspect the focus needed to color the mandalas is what helps more than the free drawing. ✍🏻 Art has been transformational for me in many ways. BTW: Began using the canna butter 🧈 regularly for insomnia & it has helped immensely! Additionally, had eye exam yesterday for the first time in 6 years; 20/20 vision, no glaucoma, previously diagnosed bilateral cataracts have remain unchanged. Am off ALL prescription & psychiatric meds > 2 years; it was great to update previous health history reporting that: “No, I’m no longer on this, or that or that. I’ve actually gotten better as I’ve grown older!” 😊😊😊 Sleep is a wonderful thing. 😆
Anyone who hasn't experienced something cannot understand how something feels. People can artificially convince you with words that they get it, but personally that does nothing for me. It isn't about people understanding what you experience. It is about people being there in any way to support in whatever it is that can help you.
@@longbow857 Pff similar situations are enough to understand those things. We don't need to share all the possible traumatic stuff to be able to talk with different people about their stuff. I mean, it would be ridiculous "lemme just real quick gettin involved with sexual abuse, then i can talk to ya. See ya next week"🙄 The worst case would be that you would need to listen to a lot of people about the same issues to get a picture of it. But still, you wouldnt need the actual experience. I'm reacting, because my brother comes up with that all the time when he's talking about his NDE-like experience or how it is to have had psychosis. That's just a crap way of thinking and more of an issue of his side. If he's less capable of encrypting other peoples emotions so what?! That doesnt mean that that'll be the status quo for anybody. Empathy is a thing and some dudes and girls are really good at it
@@longbow857 and yeah i can also understand how frustrating it can be to open up to someone about for example your specific type of depression and then they'll start with "i can understand ya" but several sentences later they're completely off track with common or even clichee-ish thoughts. Like when they're talking about sadness and emptyness and isolation, although it's more about for example appetite loss and the fucking constant urge to either wanna get involved with people and activities but simultaniously seeing no way to get there and at least seeing no way to get there while being capable of enjoying and - afterwards - remembering it properly OR wanting to hurt and harm myself, because i couldnt stand the gap between basic wishes and reality, because i can't reject them for an eternity without consequences. And the depression lies right there, where i'm getting those anxieties and anger and see that it actually was my fault, but there was no other way than for example choosing the right way and amount of pain to regain control without causing too much harm. Depression is crazy and lets you straight-up think about how it could be made okay to hurt people (yourself is a people)! So yeah, i can relate to when people are just "artificially getting it"
@@randomvicky939 I gave you my personal reasoning for why you feel like not many people understand how it feels. You can agree or disagree with me, but at least I keep my comments about myself instead of accusing others for being hearthless.
I didn't know those designs had a specific name (mandalas). I work at a hospital, and each unit has a distressing board where the nurses display their patients colored mandala artwork. The board also has blank mandalas stapled to it and a cup of colored pencils available for anyone who cares to just walk up and start coloring. So cool.Thanks for sharing! 😊
Thank you so much for the coloring pages, for this video (which was helpful to me and my husband, too!), and for being here for all of us. Your work settles, educates, and lifts me. So grateful for you!
Wonderful information. I can have a mixture of both from narrow window. If I head out the narrow window I need help to be brought back. I can easily get overwhelmed and over stimulated. Took me a long time (with help of others) to be able to pull myself out of the window I fell from. Still if it hits too fast I need help and guidance to at least reach the window. Maybe it harder for those who are ASD. I don't know. But I do know for me it's very hard to pull myself out once I am out the window. Again, great information and tips for those who want to learn. Hope it helps many people.
powerful video!! 🙏 perfect for helping people to cope with the mental health impact of Covid in our lives -- especially after well over 2 years of this life-changing event!!
My tolerance has definitely reduced during the pandemic. I teach college and the extra stress of teaching students lots of personal issues and not always prepared for college, politics, the adminstration to piling on more duties, not supporting us, and not acknowledging we are still in a pandemic have pushed me out of my window.
I just found this video and I felt when you were talking about hypoarousal, you were speaking directly to me, it was so accurate. I really like your approach and the way you explain things. You have a generosity of spirit that's evident in the way you teach. Thank you Dr. Marks.
I know you always encourage seeking out professionals, but your videos have saved my life on more than a few occasions. I wish you could be my psychiatrist, but I can't afford one. Thank you for doing this
Thank you for this video! It helped me understand and realize that I have a narrow window of tolerance and need to implement your suggestive tools to better manage my emotional reactions to stress. Very useful!!
I think I've experienced both hyperarousal and hypoarousal, just didn't know there were names for those states. Can vouch for coloring being an effective method for relaxing and fostering a peaceful environment where your mind can untangle itself.
This is so informative I've never understood the window of tolerance being in the middle of hyper or hypo arousal and never heard about which things are helpful for hypo arousal as opposed to hyper arousal I think this is going to give me a very useful tool to use
Dr. Marks, Love your videos, so relevant. Wish parents would explain tolerance to their children and foster it in their lives. The world would have better people. Thank you for your work.
Thankyou for the video! :) This is something I’ve been struggling with lately, namely, having a narrow window of tolerance a lot of the time and becoming hyperaroused. I hope gaining more of an understanding will help me handle stress better and my emotions.
Yes Ethan, it's interesting what awareness and understanding can do. You take the information and make a few steps forward and a few steps backward. Ultimately as long as you net forward movement, you're good.
I would love to watch a video showing all the physical symptoms that are able to manifest through anxiety and when to differentiate them from something more serious. As someone who has health anxiety, it is hard for me to believe this headache is only because of my anxiety even after my doctors telling me it is. I also think having a video showing all these symptoms is able to show just how powerful our minds can be.
Thank you so much Dr Marks. I think I am in the hypoarousal state for a long time. Even though I walk every day and do creative things I still feel that I don't have the motivation to do anything. If it weren't for my antidepressants I think I would be in the other side of the window.
So thankful for this video. It helped me identify and put a lable on where I'm at in the window of tolerance. The symptoms of hypoarousal is what resonated for me. I have shut down and have no desire to connect with the outside world, family and friends. I didn't even care to figure out what was going on with me. Now that know what I'm dealing with, I am encouraged to work it out. Thank you Dr. Marks for the beautiful job you are doing to help who are in need. Your sessions help those you may not have access to affordable mental health care treatment.
This was perfectly timely! As soon as I watched this I went out to my local printers to print a bunch of Mandalas. Creative work has indeed been very helpful. My outlet so far has been piano and music composition. But I get mentally exhausted after such work, so I end up playing video games to keep myself calm. *Do you think the video games have been my brain's way of seeking structural entertainment?* I'm hoping the mandelas will give me a new outlet so I can reduce my screentime overall, as screens keep me up at night. Thanks a bunch Dr Marks! 🙌 I feel seen . 😊
Thank you for this video. It's timely for me as I can recognize that I was recently in a hypo-arousal state for several days, and I could have coped using my usual strategies of exercise and art.
As always Doc, you're right on time! Thank you very much for this video. I've been there and it seems as if you're in a dream state, life is going on around you, but you're trapped within a stillness. Very unsure and insecure.
Ha! You know John I have to admit I don't pay attention to the designs in my clothes. I know that's not good. I could wear something with an offensive meaning and not be aware. If the colors are nice that's all I see. 😀 Now I'll have to pay more attention.
Thank U very much Dr Marks for this useful video which also suggest ways to manage emotions. Happy to know about Mandalas - I've been looking for such creative activity (Thanks for providing templates =).
I have 3 daughter's, two toddler's & a teenager. I'm a single mother, without any help. My tolerance level has drastically depreciated because everyday is chaotic with my children. I'm not going to blame myself for reacting in a manner that most would react in when you're surrounded by constant chaos & no resolution. All I can do is accept that I am in a constant mix of hypoarousal & at times numbness. I've tried self help exercises but it never lasts long because my time alone is so limited. I'm now on auto pilot & everyday feels like ground hog day
Honestly feel like I'm hypoaroused nearly 24/7 it is so hard to think straight and I feel very numb and tired most of the time. 😕 How can you tell if these feelings are stress related / situation related or medication symptoms / symptoms of other underlying problems? Seems like it could be hard to tell the difference in some situations? 😬 Thank you for this though. Trying to work through some issues and trying to figure out how to "expand my window" in relation to those issues.
Can you do a video about ADHD meds? Just explaining, talking about Whats first, second, third choice. Interested things you know that arent talked about. I love how you explain things
I have tolerance for everything thrown at me. I can't find the emotion to defend myself. I had been diagnosed with ADHD in December 2020 at 52 years old. I'm tired and frustrated with my easy going past and future. I'm like a Duck underwater a pleasant appearance but I'm very troubled inside.
I love the mandala idea! I do have a question about being hyperaroused: it seems like some people do things to intentionally keep themselves in a hyperaroused state (extreme sports, keeping busy with multiple tasks at the same time, constantly engaging in conflicts, etc.) - why would someone do this? are some people 'addicted' to being hyperaroused?
When I was younger I suffered from Central serous choriopathy due to repressed stress according to ophthalmologist. The Doctor told me to find way to deal with the stress .
Great info‼️Thanks so much. COVID has pushed the best of us off our game. I’ll speak to myself… it’s pushed me off my game. I have started to play games like Wordle to help with the stress.❤️
This was really interesting and informative. It's helpful to be able to match what I'm feeling to the actual term or idea. I have a lot of trouble with getting stuck in the hyperarousal state (I especially have very intense snap reactions to certain things). Now at least I can practice working through/managing it and researching this concept further. Thank you!💛
I was using the Window of Tolerance concept in 1994; years before Seigal wrote his book. How? It was first proposed by an occupational therapist named Pat Wilbarger as a theory to treat neurological self-regulation. You can ask him yourself. He admits that he didn't invent it. He refined it for psychotherapy.
My window is very small, I have very little tolerance for things, your hyper arousal state describes me to a tee, it’s like me at work every night, I come across as a real asshole at times when people aren’t working as I expect them to. I am so pent up by the end of my shift comes I’m exhausted, physically and emotionally.
First of all thanks a lot for sharing this and educating us. Well, in a Gestalt, here and now, in the hierarchy of dominance and self-actualization tendencies one see and feel his or her extended psyche limits the threshold of tolerance as per mentioned in the video window of tolerance true in a great extent but what about I see around my living place, in my society, in my neighborhood setting I feel in the game of power of abuse when I hit by peoples cognitive inadequacy and their projected reality onto me; this is due to their education, in social comparison, with socio-economic factor and others factors also play the role for such thrown projection on to one. This is to say social comparison who do so is a sign of low self esteem and one is prone to depression what I feel in my hypothetical assumption anout my country, (hidden name) is high on mental disorders also observed and stated by WHO world-wide a couple of years ago. Well, long story in short how to deal with mass madness / or abuser in large population as I see and observed that most of the narcissistic around us especially here. In an existential approach one is quite and calm or if I say to understand an INTJ is tough indeed, perhaps this is the issue found. Finally, I am trying for my best way to building a good affrimation in a social constructionism. Once again Thanks for sharing! and providing a new insight and discernment for betterment for psyche need. Regards! SANJEEV (An aspirant for PhD in psychology.)
Wow Sanjeev. I've got to really zone in and pay attention when you speak. 😊 You'll do well pursuing a doctorate in psychology. The world needs you. Enjoy the journey.
Odd this, my therapist use to talk about this quiet abit. I personally have a tendency to become hypoaroused which I think has made me look indifferent to upsetting situations like watching my grandmother die, everyone around me was crying but I just sat and stared.
I'm so easely in that arousal state while the whole time i'm on the other side of the window. That's hard to deal with to be honest especially when i get trigger to get hyper angry for just one sentence or something 😓 i'm working alone to improve on my emotions.
Hello Dr. Marks! Thank you for another video, as usual. I really appreciate your approach, info is always clear. If you happen to see my comment, can you please share some thoughts or tips on how to adapt to life in war situation, when you can't help but have high levels of stress daily? I understand this is a huge and complex topic to cover, but maybe you could advice some authors or give some directions on where to seek for such info, sure if it's not too much to ask. Thanks :)
If I don't exercise enough I can't tolerate the radio not working right. When I exercise enough I feel like I can handle almost anything (not literally but it's night/day). But my ideal for mental health also requires some creatine with the exercise. Taken years to find what works best
I used to have no tolerance for anything and would break down so easily and quickly… but after learning and healing from my past I’ve been able to be angry 2 times in the last 5 years… and never staying in negative emotions, I still get sad, annoyed and frustrated but I never stay there for a prolonged period of time 🙏🏽🙏🏽❤️❤️
That's great, good for you Max! Thanks for sharing 😊
Amen!! 🙏🏾 🙏🏾 To everyone reading this, Jesus loves you. ❤
@maxhindle did you go to therapy? What helped you?
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2:45 is a HUGE point: Being tired or hungry narrowing your window...which is why I refer to the bottom of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs when it comes to my tolerance with being able to deal with 3rd party things and figuring out ‘At the core of it, is it them being ultra annoying or is it me not catering to my base level needs?’ Some people who don’t self reflect may label the world as combative or of problem or issue, completely skipping over that their homeostasis plate is not balanced or clean, which is solely their responsibility. 😂 Great topic!
And loved the topic of mandalas, as they remind me of a habit I developed as a child where I would draw the shape of the number 8 overlapping again and again and then color the shapes in. It was calming.
Ah, yes, HYPOarousal. I remember the anxiety consumed me so thoroughly, I felt I had no choice but to lay in bed and let the pain course through me. It physically hurt to exist and I wished to die. I was stressing over course work that I couldn't figure out how to complete. Looking back on it now, I can't believe how much pain my anxiety could physically cause me. It felt like a jagged long sword stabbing through my heart and down the rest of my body.
Me too! After a year and a half, $4000, 9 doctors and 2 chiropractors we figured out the reason for my debilitating pain was stress😕
So so painful..without meditation I simply would not be able to manage the pain all over my body I was experiencing.
I’ve definitely noticed this. Larger stresses drive me into the hypo-stressed window. More minor annoyances (especially when I’m hungry or tired) trip the hyper side. Great video!
Thanks Allthat Remains 😊
My window of tolerance has historically been quite wide; probably because of childhood abuse & learning quickly that ‘reacting’ isn’t safe or productive. Of course holding the anger in wasn’t healthy either as ‘shutting down’ was the coping response. Thankfully, things are well balanced with adequate sleep/insight/age/maturity; things that need to be addressed are done so thoughtfully & immediately.
Suspect the focus needed to color the mandalas is what helps more than the free drawing. ✍🏻 Art has been transformational for me in many ways.
BTW: Began using the canna butter 🧈 regularly for insomnia & it has helped immensely! Additionally, had eye exam yesterday for the first time in 6 years; 20/20 vision, no glaucoma, previously diagnosed bilateral cataracts have remain unchanged. Am off ALL prescription & psychiatric meds > 2 years; it was great to update previous health history reporting that: “No, I’m no longer on this, or that or that. I’ve actually gotten better as I’ve grown older!” 😊😊😊 Sleep is a wonderful thing. 😆
Thank you dr. Tracey … I’ve just had a out break . I have BPD and PTSD many people don’t understand how painful it is .
Anyone who hasn't experienced something cannot understand how something feels. People can artificially convince you with words that they get it, but personally that does nothing for me. It isn't about people understanding what you experience. It is about people being there in any way to support in whatever it is that can help you.
@@longbow857 Pff similar situations are enough to understand those things. We don't need to share all the possible traumatic stuff to be able to talk with different people about their stuff.
I mean, it would be ridiculous "lemme just real quick gettin involved with sexual abuse, then i can talk to ya. See ya next week"🙄
The worst case would be that you would need to listen to a lot of people about the same issues to get a picture of it. But still, you wouldnt need the actual experience.
I'm reacting, because my brother comes up with that all the time when he's talking about his NDE-like experience or how it is to have had psychosis. That's just a crap way of thinking and more of an issue of his side. If he's less capable of encrypting other peoples emotions so what?! That doesnt mean that that'll be the status quo for anybody.
Empathy is a thing and some dudes and girls are really good at it
@@longbow857 and yeah i can also understand how frustrating it can be to open up to someone about for example your specific type of depression and then they'll start with "i can understand ya" but several sentences later they're completely off track with common or even clichee-ish thoughts.
Like when they're talking about sadness and emptyness and isolation, although it's more about for example appetite loss and the fucking constant urge to either wanna get involved with people and activities but simultaniously seeing no way to get there and at least seeing no way to get there while being capable of enjoying and - afterwards - remembering it properly OR wanting to hurt and harm myself, because i couldnt stand the gap between basic wishes and reality, because i can't reject them for an eternity without consequences. And the depression lies right there, where i'm getting those anxieties and anger and see that it actually was my fault, but there was no other way than for example choosing the right way and amount of pain to regain control without causing too much harm. Depression is crazy and lets you straight-up think about how it could be made okay to hurt people (yourself is a people)!
So yeah, i can relate to when people are just "artificially getting it"
@@longbow857 Like you said …. “ It does nothing for me “ then why coming here making this comment ?
@@randomvicky939 I gave you my personal reasoning for why you feel like not many people understand how it feels. You can agree or disagree with me, but at least I keep my comments about myself instead of accusing others for being hearthless.
Wow, did I need to hear about this concept at this point in my life. I've been struggling with this and didn't have the words for it. Thank you
I didn't know those designs had a specific name (mandalas). I work at a hospital, and each unit has a distressing board where the nurses display their patients colored mandala artwork.
The board also has blank mandalas stapled to it and a cup of colored pencils available for anyone who cares to just walk up and start coloring.
So cool.Thanks for sharing! 😊
Thank you so much for the coloring pages, for this video (which was helpful to me and my husband, too!), and for being here for all of us. Your work settles, educates, and lifts me. So grateful for you!
Oh that’s so awesome. It’s an honor to be that much help.
Can you make a video on when its time to find a new therapist?
I love colouring and art therapy
Wonderful information. I can have a mixture of both from narrow window. If I head out the narrow window I need help to be brought back. I can easily get overwhelmed and over stimulated. Took me a long time (with help of others) to be able to pull myself out of the window I fell from. Still if it hits too fast I need help and guidance to at least reach the window. Maybe it harder for those who are ASD. I don't know. But I do know for me it's very hard to pull myself out once I am out the window. Again, great information and tips for those who want to learn. Hope it helps many people.
powerful video!! 🙏 perfect for helping people to cope with the mental health impact of Covid in our lives -- especially after well over 2 years of this life-changing event!!
Thanks Dr. Justin. Great to see you. Yes the last 2 years have had a huge effect on all of us - more than I think some people realize.
My tolerance has definitely reduced during the pandemic. I teach college and the extra stress of teaching students lots of personal issues and not always prepared for college, politics, the adminstration to piling on more duties, not supporting us, and not acknowledging we are still in a pandemic have pushed me out of my window.
I just found this video and I felt when you were talking about hypoarousal, you were speaking directly to me, it was so accurate. I really like your approach and the way you explain things. You have a generosity of spirit that's evident in the way you teach. Thank you Dr. Marks.
I know you always encourage seeking out professionals, but your videos have saved my life on more than a few occasions. I wish you could be my psychiatrist, but I can't afford one. Thank you for doing this
Thank you for this video! It helped me understand and realize that I have a narrow window of tolerance and need to implement your suggestive tools to better manage my emotional reactions to stress. Very useful!!
Thank you, Dr. Marks.
Wonderful video!
Creating mandalas is an ancient Buddhist practice.
I think I've experienced both hyperarousal and hypoarousal, just didn't know there were names for those states. Can vouch for coloring being an effective method for relaxing and fostering a peaceful environment where your mind can untangle itself.
Nice Video Madam, Increase the window of tolerance, nice summary & lesson in your video for us viewers......Thank You for making this Great Video ....
This is so informative
I've never understood the window of tolerance being in the middle of hyper or hypo arousal and never heard about which things are helpful for hypo arousal as opposed to hyper arousal
I think this is going to give me a very useful tool to use
Dr Tracey is the only UA-cam creator I need to have a note pad with me to remember all the important points
Dr. Marks,
Love your videos, so relevant. Wish parents would explain tolerance to their children and foster it in their lives. The world would have better people. Thank you for your work.
This was right on time. I will be sharing this with my sorority this month!
Dr. Tracey, Happy Mother's Day! You help so many of us. Couldn't help but stop by to say, Thanks again.
Thankyou for the video! :) This is something I’ve been struggling with lately, namely, having a narrow window of tolerance a lot of the time and becoming hyperaroused. I hope gaining more of an understanding will help me handle stress better and my emotions.
Yes Ethan, it's interesting what awareness and understanding can do. You take the information and make a few steps forward and a few steps backward. Ultimately as long as you net forward movement, you're good.
Brilliant video and this couldn’t have come at a more appropriate time. Thank you!
I would love to watch a video showing all the physical symptoms that are able to manifest through anxiety and when to differentiate them from something more serious. As someone who has health anxiety, it is hard for me to believe this headache is only because of my anxiety even after my doctors telling me it is. I also think having a video showing all these symptoms is able to show just how powerful our minds can be.
Thank you so much Dr Marks. I think I am in the hypoarousal state for a long time. Even though I walk every day and do creative things I still feel that I don't have the motivation to do anything. If it weren't for my antidepressants I think I would be in the other side of the window.
Hi Dr. Marks, Happy Mothers Day, Good to hear a new video, Thank you
Stay Safe
God Bless
Dr. Tracey you're doing the lords work. hard to find such solid therapeutic channels like yours.
So thankful for this video. It helped me identify and put a lable on where I'm at in the window of tolerance. The symptoms of hypoarousal is what resonated for me. I have shut down and have no desire to connect with the outside world, family and friends. I didn't even care to figure out what was going on with me. Now that know what I'm dealing with, I am encouraged to work it out. Thank you Dr. Marks for the beautiful job you are doing to help who are in need. Your sessions help those
you may not have access to affordable mental health care treatment.
Thank you for this doc. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦
You're welcome Alice 👍🏽
This was perfectly timely! As soon as I watched this I went out to my local printers to print a bunch of Mandalas. Creative work has indeed been very helpful. My outlet so far has been piano and music composition. But I get mentally exhausted after such work, so I end up playing video games to keep myself calm.
*Do you think the video games have been my brain's way of seeking structural entertainment?* I'm hoping the mandelas will give me a new outlet so I can reduce my screentime overall, as screens keep me up at night.
Thanks a bunch Dr Marks! 🙌 I feel seen . 😊
Thanks Dr. Tracey this is so useful for me as I am starting to understand all the many different triggers I have due to childhood trauma and BPD.
This makes so much sense! I have been in so many situations where I'm pushing my windows!
Thank you for this video. It's timely for me as I can recognize that I was recently in a hypo-arousal state for several days, and I could have coped using my usual strategies of exercise and art.
As always Doc, you're right on time! Thank you very much for this video. I've been there and it seems as if you're in a dream state, life is going on around you, but you're trapped within a stillness. Very unsure and insecure.
I love you Dr. Tracey, thank you for all your awesome videos xo
You are so welcome! ❤️❤️
The spring semester just ended but I'm still watching. Your videos helped with my assignments and gave me clarity - (with my lectures).
With the lighting and camera you guys have It would be really good to upload in 4K. It will also push the video more with the new youtube algorithm!
I shoot in 4k but edit down to HD. I didn’t know it made a difference with the algorithm. Good to know thanks
Very professional, concise and quality advices, thumbs up ...
Always learn something from you Dr.Tracy, God bless you.
Good useful information for me how find and maintain balanced state .this is one of best mental health video of urs . Thank a lot Dr Tracy marks 🙂🙂
Thank you
I'm going to download those coloring sheets
Tracy can you make a video about extreme apathy , lethargy and neglectful parents
Doc, this is a must see again 👍 By the way Your blouse has some very interesting designs and depictions.
Thanks for the coloring book!
Ha! You know John I have to admit I don't pay attention to the designs in my clothes. I know that's not good. I could wear something with an offensive meaning and not be aware. If the colors are nice that's all I see. 😀 Now I'll have to pay more attention.
Thank U very much Dr Marks for this useful video which also suggest ways to manage emotions. Happy to know about Mandalas - I've been looking for such creative activity (Thanks for providing templates =).
Thank you Dr. Marks. very helpful and actionable video in putting pieces together for managing stress.
I have 3 daughter's, two toddler's & a teenager. I'm a single mother, without any help. My tolerance level has drastically depreciated because everyday is chaotic with my children. I'm not going to blame myself for reacting in a manner that most would react in when you're surrounded by constant chaos & no resolution. All I can do is accept that I am in a constant mix of hypoarousal & at times numbness. I've tried self help exercises but it never lasts long because my time alone is so limited. I'm now on auto pilot & everyday feels like ground hog day
You are The One! Thank you Dr. Tracey
Hi Dr. You’re the best. Thanks bye.
Agreed
Thanks so much Peter!
Do you have videos on agoraphobia? I like your videos very much. They're short but packed with useful information. Thank you! 🌹
Thank you for creating this, Dr. Marks!
Man..you are dead on and named everything I experience day in and out😪
I'm going to start DBT therapy for the 3rd time..hoping it sticks this time.
Honestly feel like I'm hypoaroused nearly 24/7 it is so hard to think straight and I feel very numb and tired most of the time. 😕 How can you tell if these feelings are stress related / situation related or medication symptoms / symptoms of other underlying problems? Seems like it could be hard to tell the difference in some situations? 😬 Thank you for this though. Trying to work through some issues and trying to figure out how to "expand my window" in relation to those issues.
Currently talking about this and working on it in therapy !!! Thank you !
Thank you! L❤️ve your videos!!!
Can you do a video about ADHD meds? Just explaining, talking about Whats first, second, third choice. Interested things you know that arent talked about. I love how you explain things
I have tolerance for everything thrown at me.
I can't find the emotion to defend myself.
I had been diagnosed with ADHD in December 2020 at 52 years old.
I'm tired and frustrated with my easy going past and future.
I'm like a Duck underwater a pleasant appearance but I'm very troubled inside.
Incredibly helpful video
Please do a video on PSSD! It is vital that patients are aware of this condition as doctors seem to have their head in the sand over it.
I love the mandala idea! I do have a question about being hyperaroused: it seems like some people do things to intentionally keep themselves in a hyperaroused state (extreme sports, keeping busy with multiple tasks at the same time, constantly engaging in conflicts, etc.) - why would someone do this? are some people 'addicted' to being hyperaroused?
Thank you so much for these videos.
😂Thank you Dr.Marks this video is helping me tremendously.👍🏼👍🏼
we need videos linking heat advisory with psychotropic medication. The threats and dangers from the heat.
When I was younger I suffered from Central serous choriopathy due to repressed stress according to ophthalmologist. The Doctor told me to find way to deal with the stress .
Very helpful video. Thank you.
Thank you. This is very helpful.
Video are brilliant with practical information ❤
We learn about this is in DBT class ♥️
This is excellent analysis and advice, and very much relevant to my life. Thank you!
I be calm and acting normal but really. Inside I'm completely overwhelmed.
It's been 20 years of being in the window.
Can you make a video about mandalas? This is fascinating!
For men Journaling how to talk to women. And what works and what doesn't work talking to women yet still getting desired outcome
You are awesome! Thanks again.
Great info‼️Thanks so much. COVID has pushed the best of us off our game. I’ll speak to myself… it’s pushed me off my game. I have started to play games like Wordle to help with the stress.❤️
This was really interesting and informative. It's helpful to be able to match what I'm feeling to the actual term or idea. I have a lot of trouble with getting stuck in the hyperarousal state (I especially have very intense snap reactions to certain things). Now at least I can practice working through/managing it and researching this concept further. Thank you!💛
Glad it was helpful! All the best to you!
Thank you for the informative videos, they are such a big help to me.
This is so helpful. Thank you for your work
No it is very good to not tolerate anything , never cross the line that I will show you !!!
Excellent explanation. Thank you!
I was using the Window of Tolerance concept in 1994; years before Seigal wrote his book. How? It was first proposed by an occupational therapist named Pat Wilbarger as a theory to treat neurological self-regulation. You can ask him yourself. He admits that he didn't invent it. He refined it for psychotherapy.
Super good advice! Thank you doc ♡
Thank you, Dr. Marks! 💕
My window is very small, I have very little tolerance for things, your hyper arousal state describes me to a tee, it’s like me at work every night, I come across as a real asshole at times when people aren’t working as I expect them to. I am so pent up by the end of my shift comes I’m exhausted, physically and emotionally.
Very clear 👌 much gratitude dr
First of all thanks a lot for sharing this and educating us.
Well, in a Gestalt, here and now, in the hierarchy of dominance and self-actualization tendencies one see and feel his or her extended psyche limits the threshold of tolerance as per mentioned in the video window of tolerance true in a great extent but what about I see around my living place, in my society, in my neighborhood setting I feel in the game of power of abuse when I hit by peoples cognitive inadequacy and their projected reality onto me; this is due to their education, in social comparison, with socio-economic factor and others factors also play the role for such thrown projection on to one. This is to say social comparison who do so is a sign of low self esteem and one is prone to depression what I feel in my hypothetical assumption anout my country, (hidden name) is high on mental disorders also observed and stated by WHO world-wide a couple of years ago.
Well, long story in short how to deal with mass madness / or abuser in large population as I see and observed that most of the narcissistic around us especially here.
In an existential approach one is quite and calm or if I say to understand an INTJ is tough indeed, perhaps this is the issue found.
Finally, I am trying for my best way to building a good affrimation in a social constructionism.
Once again Thanks for sharing! and providing a new insight and discernment for betterment for psyche need.
Regards!
SANJEEV
(An aspirant for PhD in psychology.)
Wow Sanjeev. I've got to really zone in and pay attention when you speak. 😊 You'll do well pursuing a doctorate in psychology. The world needs you. Enjoy the journey.
@@DrTraceyMarks Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks. With Regards! 🙏
Thank you mrs Tracy
Odd this, my therapist use to talk about this quiet abit. I personally have a tendency to become hypoaroused which I think has made me look indifferent to upsetting situations like watching my grandmother die, everyone around me was crying but I just sat and stared.
Thanks Dr Tracey!
You are so welcome!
I'm so easely in that arousal state while the whole time i'm on the other side of the window. That's hard to deal with to be honest especially when i get trigger to get hyper angry for just one sentence or something 😓 i'm working alone to improve on my emotions.
I have to stay in my window of tolerance otherwise to much stress or overwhelm pushes me into mania but ay least I know the symptons
Time for school ❣️
I have been in fight or flight many times... I usually choose flight..
Thanks Doc
Hello Dr. Marks! Thank you for another video, as usual. I really appreciate your approach, info is always clear. If you happen to see my comment, can you please share some thoughts or tips on how to adapt to life in war situation, when you can't help but have high levels of stress daily? I understand this is a huge and complex topic to cover, but maybe you could advice some authors or give some directions on where to seek for such info, sure if it's not too much to ask. Thanks :)
Thank you so much.
My mental health is terrible at the moment so I am just switching from one to the other extreme. There is basically no window of tolerance. :(
If I don't exercise enough I can't tolerate the radio not working right. When I exercise enough I feel like I can handle almost anything (not literally but it's night/day). But my ideal for mental health also requires some creatine with the exercise. Taken years to find what works best