Why I’m Fighting For Change In The Care System
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- Jamie spent 21 years of his life in care and overcame adversity to make it to university.
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I know he's considered "grown" but I just want to hold him & rock him like a baby 💙🙌 over here bawling like a baby myself 😩
MEanME
That’s a girl I’m pretty sure
Me too xx.
I was called an evil little girl when I was infant age. I still hear that voice and now...I'm 36. It doesn't get easier but you get stronger and learn they were the evil one. Hold your head high fella.
Wishing you happiness and peace
That young man is a treasure, and it is a shame nobody around him, entrusted with his care, could see that. After all he endured, his motivation is to help others. We need more people like that. And the fact that many must fight and work twice as hard to succeed because they have so much trauma and pain to carry around, and yet still stretch their own boundaries for the sake of others. I would be proud to call him my son.
Amy Kline Your comment is gold! 🌟
I'm sorry but I think his father and his grandparents should feel shame for the way they have behaved towards this gentleman. I hope he finds the love, peace and happiness that he so much deserves. I was once told family is not always genetic it is the people who are there for you and love you no matter what.b
I 2nd that I pick my family
I can see the pain he suffered. As a Foster/Adoptive Mom, I can say that these kids are Not being cared for nor understood in the current system. There are so many problems that can never be properly analyzed in the current state. Everyone wants Babies and it’s so hard to place older kids. Thank you for your story and I’m praying for you.
What a strong courageous man he has become despite the trauma he has experienced in his life. My heart goes out to him and all the kids in the care system. With his will and determination he will be able to help others in his situation.
I cried while watching this. And my heart aches for this lad. 😔
Stay strong laddie.
If you ever read my comment. I'm sorry Jamie for everything you've been through and every emotional hardship you've had. I'm sorry if my English is bad or wrong but I tried hard.
Dr.Sun.Q.89 your English is spot on! Well done!
@@cookiecream3248 Thank you for your encouragement to push me to keep learning
Jamie you're a survivor, and a great person. Keep spreading your message, keep pushing for change. You make the world a better place.
Jamie I’m sorry you went through such hell.
As former foster care child myself
The foster care system is fucked up
No child deserves that treatment. But I am so glad that he found the strength to rise above the trauma and be a voice for the voiceless. 🙏💜 I wish him much success, peace and happiness in his future.
Amazing, absolutely amazing! Using his pain for something good! Well done 👏🏽 👏🏽
you either let your past break you or let it make you.
You're one amazing guy, like you I was fostered at 12 but still with my wonderful foster parents at 47, I can't imagine what you went through been with so many foster parents, I wouldn't have coped,you're a really strong and wonderful person keep going ❤
I wish I could’ve looked after him and nurtured him through his childhood. It’s ridiculous he was shunted round 15 different foster families and the abuse in the last one makes me so angry! He’s a fantastic young man and an asset to this world xx
I can kinda relate I’m 17 this December and have been in care since I was 8 years old next January will be 9 years.
Im 18 in November and am being moved out of my care home because after your 16 they no longer gain money from you so yea im moving into a shared flat and im pissed cause apart from the fact ive been in care since birth im being kicked out because after all these year was just a item to make money from and to be menatlly and physically abused, also because of the kid in care stereotype i was recently falsely accused of kidnapping and raping a woman i fell out with and after a year long court case amd facing 12 years i was found NOT guilty,and all that really menatlly fucked me.
smith hi I'm sorry I'm. stranger to you .but dont worry about it too much now . please focus on yourself ,you have s potential and work towards life goals.. I know people who have been similar situations and today they are doing really well. I'm.not kidding. you're stronger than you know. take a good care of yourself and good luck
smith happy early birthday in November ,have wonderful day
Grateful I had my mom for 16 years but my dad was a narcissist alcoholic who was addicted to drugs who was in and out of prison, I foolishly waited for him everyday hoping that I’d see him when he came out of prison, I gave up hope and thought he was dead then I remember seeing him in a restaurant with a heavily pregnant woman and 4 other kids and found out they’d had a child together and had another one on the way and he became the dad to a 16 year old, 14 year old, 10 year old and a 6 year old😩😩
King it’s well odd that I had a similar experience with my dad
You are lucky in the long run can you think of the mess he would have made of your life if he had stayed?. It might have been hard at the time but he did you a blessing at the end of the day. Do you really think he is still with the same family I don't know the man from what you have said I wouldn't really think he would be.
Aliyah Amir small world eh
William Haddon I understand completely what your saying but it hurt me in so many ways, he messed my life up so much and I’m not ashamed to say it still affects me to this day, stuff like that it never goes away.
@@aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa333 Hi. It will do we are all products of are environments. Emotional and physical scars sometimes take a long time to heal and sometimes they never do. Your father has lost more than he will ever again. Do I think he should be pitied or forgiven no I am lots of things but not a saint isn't one of them and I don't believe and forgiving and forgetting. Your father lost out on what a incredible person you have turned into. The best revenge you can possibly have is to live your best Life.
All my love to this guy.
I rate him so much it takes guts to get up back on your feet when you have been knocked now. Respect..
So glad to see him doing so well in his life, I wish him well..
The world is a better place because you’re in it. You are a gem. Thank you for sharing your life.
Jamie, I don't know you but I'm very proud of you.
As a person who has just left care I feel you. You are just tick boxes for local authorities and they just care about doing the right thing on paper not for our own benefit.
I am so sorry for you, i understand been through it myself. I hope u find peace and live a good future
I just want to hug him. He's an awesome guy who didn't deserve any of the misfortunes that he's endured. I wish him all the very best.
Dear Jamie, I genuinely hope you'll find a heartwarming, welcoming and golden family. You deserve the best. I am so sorry for what you've been through. Stay strong. Better times are coming ♥️.
Bless this guy.....imma give him a hug
Honesty let me tell you sth, despite I had both mother and father it was hell. Today I am 35 years old and still all I hear (and my own children) that we are stupid, disappointment, failure, everyone is better than us. It’s heartbreaking. Since I was a child I felt like an orphan despite having both parents. I was completely neglected, overlooked, invisible. Few days ago I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder. They really destroyed my life. They gave me life and then they took it all away.
Congratulations on speaking up what a man.
Omg these situations make me sooo mad & sad 😞 the fact most of the temp foster homes are only taking in these kids for $ and usually are very abusive ! Theres no words to describe how heart breaking these situations & the system is
@Nicole Llih you should report her then.
The kids can't help themselves. And won't be listened to, if they try.
Nicole Llih please report her then, even if it is anonymously, don’t endanger other children if you can prevent it.
What a strong human being he is. I couldn't imagine where I would be without the support of my family. His struggle breaks my heart.
Stay strong, i believe in you ❤️
I feel for you Jamie I really do, I was tricked into the care system by my parents who abandoned me at 6 years old with nothing more than a couple of black bags as my belongings, I changed families regularly and it was a very depressing experience as a kid feeling unwanted and dreaming of having a family, I was so jealous of the other kids at school and I was treated like I was nothing throughout my childhood similarly to you, after many very very bad experiences I was taken in by a family when I was 13 who I truly loved but was only to be abandoned by them when I was 15, my parents took me back then abandoned me again when I was 16 …. I never did get over it and still think about it all often, but to hear your story and your success of entry into university truly is beautiful to hear, I really wish you all the luck in the world and I am glad you could get to the next area of improving your life to the point that I could never pass mentally, physically I seem fine but I always keep it in the back of my mind everyday, it has never been forgotten nor will it ever be healed.
Childhood abandonment, especially in the way that you've experienced it, is one, if not the hardest thing a person can ever go through. Wake up everyday and know that you're so so strong!
@@1saramak I have my own business now in a foreign country and no longer live in the UK due to those bad memories, I am strong and very independent, but mentally will never get over those horrible years and the damage it caused, it is impossible to repair and something that us the victims have to keep with us, I am in my 40’s and I know exactly how this lad feels … it is not possible to forget despite moving on, the anger is always there and the hate I have will never die, thanks you for your kind words and the very best to you always
Omg he is so clever and has so much to give back. It's like he was placed on this Earth to go through what he did to inspire thousands of others. You will receive blessings in life I'm so sure of that. God bless you. He's very very good looking by the way!
Strong lad I wish you well
Please parents don't leave your children. They need you very much. Bless you my son you stood strong. Live for them not for the world. They just need your hand to keep them safe from world. You are doing good job. Some times sharing will make other kids strong and takes out your agony.
Hey! I am also from the Foster Care System here in the US. I dislike the system that's been slow to change and fragmented many families with young kids having little hope to navigate their way out. I would love to collaborate and share my ideas via my Podcast!
I was abused in the system. I'm trying to do some activism on this in Denmark. What's your podcast? I'm interested.
@@doggytheanarchist7876 that's awesome, I'd love to know more. My Podcast is Tony Da Realest show, I'm starting to record my second season but I'll be launching it next week on Spotify, ITunes, Sound Cloud, Apple Music, and here on UA-cam by the end of the month.
Aww my heart hurts for this young wise soul his been through some much ❤️😭😭😭
Your such a fine young man your mum would be so proud my dear, don’t let this cruel world break you, you have so much to give, when you look back over your shoulder take pride in who you’ve become against the odds your making decisions to make positive difference, this life is just a test may God guide you and grant you ease and a beautiful family to call your own one day 🤲
Wow what an amazing young man . Proud of you. Will be praying for children in the care system. 🙏🏾
I want to console him ... Also the parents who were so insensitive to tell their kids to be friends with him were very cruel ... You didn't deserve that kind of treatment ... hearing your story I really feel for you ... Also I assure you if I find a kid like you in my kids school I would definitely tell my kids to be friends with that kids and make strong friendship with that kid also I would always welcome that kid to my home ... Although I really wish their should be no kid who has to go through such situations in their life . .. have a beautiful life ahead ... I really hope for your wounds to heal and I really wish for you to move forward from all that you have been through ... May God bless you with lots of love that you forget your painful past
The government should be ashamed of their lack of concern and support for vulnerable children in the care system.
What a lovely young man. I wish I could tell him how proud I would be of him to be brave and go on this program. He must have seen the dark side of life and now doing something positive.
You are AMAZING 🤩
Jamie, I wish you all the very best for the future. I am sorry this happened to you.
Jamie Dalgoutte was in my year at school in my Maths and Geography class that's all I can remember the olden days.
i am a single parent dear and can see the same pain my daughter going through .i will call you dear son .i saw your old pics with mother reminds me of me and my daughter...plz dont cry just pray to the almighty may he remove all the pain and suffering you are going through.and all the kids around the world....ameen...
I have 3 children who are teenagers now,my home has always been open to other kids,they usually followed my kids home or I found out their parents were shit,you dont have to be a foster carer to care for others there are kids on every street you don't have to go far to find them,I could see what the issue's were but was just kind to them,we are not rich but we are stable it is something all children need.My neighbours would look down on me but I knew I was doing the right thing for the kids,adults fight about their pride yet shut the door on other people's kids saying there not my problem people have become very selfish.
Heartbreaking. A very difficult clip to watch. Sadly there are many more going through the same at this very moment. 😔
So much more than commendable that he is choosing to be a force for good and change. A positive response to a messed up, horribly unfair life.
Side note... I had such a hard time making out what he was saying through the accent, but kept at it and I did it!
What an amazing young man X❣️❣️❣️❣️❣️
You’re amazing and have done incredibly well. Great respect for you. Inspirational young man
Sad to say this is an altogether familiar situation, I was a back up foster parent to a former neighbour. The foster parent hated the child on account of race so she was removed without notice forced into multiple foster homes before being put into a children's home then after a breakdown put in a secure unit for seven months. I promised the child I would always look for her despite a court order banning contact and when she turned 18 my family would be waiting for her and we would give her a home. The child is now an adult aged 18 and an uneducated, alcoholic, drug addict as a result of her experiences. Last week we made contact, I had given her a necklace with two hearts entwinned the day she left us aged 14 and i gave her my phone number and told her to find me when she turned 18. She turned 18 last month and 6 days later my family went to her current transitioning hostel where they refused to let us near her, we were forced to turn away. We didn't take that, we took legal advice, the next week we marched back into that hostel and let them call the police on us. The result? We now have a new daughter, she's here, she's safe, she's loved and now the work to repair the damage done by the "care system" begins. All we ever did was love her for who she is but we were never the foster parents - we were banned from fostering by her agency after we stood up for the child. If we could see the potential of the 14 year old child why can't the so called professionals? She will always have a home a mum, a dad and two brothers now and we will fight for her ever second of every day to show how the care system doesn't care.
so beautiful, i'm training to be a social worker this autumn and want to be a foster parent and adopt, you're truly an amazing person and i hope it worked out. all the love, i hope you are doing well :)
I’ve been through the exact same thing mom died when I was 11 dad unknown I felt unwanted brother I feel your pain truly do
Hopefully, his life will get better now. Wish for him to find a good woman he can get married to and have a family - very soon !
This girl is processing her trauma at 18 years old which is massive, it's absolutely critical to do this as soon as possible, not for status and riches, but for true wealth which is a healthy mind, the true currency of our existence. This is something I haven't done and still struggling with it to this very day.
I went into care at 6 years old, I'm now 41. I have a Degree, a good job, a great woman I've been with for 23 years, 2 beautiful children at 5 and 9 however there is something missing in my memory and soul, literally,
I cannot remember anything from my childhood from the age of 6 to the age of 12 years old.
I now know my mind has blanked things out to keep me from breaking down with trauma but It's like an itch I have to scratch.
My file is there to take and read from the social services whenever I want but I'm literally shit scared to read that file. How strange to know that I need to know my history to better myself but cannot bring myself to do it. My mind is literally fractured with a personality desperately trying to protect me from my past.
This is the rantings, and true face of childhood trauma and this is my story for anyone who cares to know it.
My biggest thing is when people complain about their mums or families and I'm here without a conventional family or a mum.
I am so sorry for what you have been through, thank God you made it through.
I wish you well and happy.
I hope you will find a good person to have a family .🌹
Heart goes out to you, your going to go on to do amazing things!
Poor guy, you can hear it in his voice just how hurt he is 😥
What a great guy
I can relate to this chap so much he reminds of how the system turned there back on me and how I was brought up.. keep your held high and stay strong bro 👍
I want to know what Jamie would like the so-called 'care' system to be like. Has he published anything yet? Meanwhile, best of luck with his studies!
If I had the room I'd be a foster carer it must be a hard but rewarding if done from the heart.
We are the same age but I want to hug and comfort him like a small child.
He's super cute ^.^
Best of luck to him :)
Bless you jamie you are very strong.
I feel your pain man. I'm 14 and was put into fostercare when i was 7, living with my mum who couldn't cope without my dad, who was in hospital because of his mental health problems. My mum also had mental health problems (OCD, paranoia and bad anxiety) I was then put into care after moving to different restbite homes and family members from 3-6 years. Then when i did get put in care, i was abused for 6 years, and then found out about my dad being part of a gang murder (im in uk not america btw) and being in prison for 15 years. I attempted suicide when i was 11 years old, then i was moved after telling my friends not to tell anyone that my carers burst my nose. They told the school and i was moved that day, to the place where I'm in now which is much nicer. I think about what would have happened if my friends had listened to me.
Dear Young Person, I am very sorry that this has been your experience thus far. Young person, you can and will shape your future into something that brings you peace, joy, happiness, and success. Stick with your education for as long as you can. Engage with services and positive activities. Surround yourself with right-minded positive people as you grow and watch yourself reach stratospheric heights. And when (if) you create your own family, you will love them like no other.
Your past does not have to dictate your future, no matter what the statistics say. You sound smart and full of optimism and promise.
Dont be afraid to speak out or ask for help. Go out there Young Person, and take your life by the horns.
I sincerely wish you all the very best for your future. With love ❤️
Peace ✌🏽
@@k_j_n1242 i appreciate this message. I found out I had a talent for running, and I have a very realistic chance of becoming one of the best runners in human history (unofficially broke the world record for the under 16's one mile, 3:58 on track) and I have also turned to God. I'm not gonna say too much, as I don't want to blow my own trumpet, all I know is that I will succeed. God bless to you ❤
@@k_j_n1242 i appreciate this message. I found out I had a talent for running, and I have a very realistic chance of becoming one of the best runners in human history (unofficially broke the world record for the under 16's one mile, 3:58 on track) and I have also turned to God. I'm not gonna say too much, as I don't want to blow my own trumpet, all I know is that I will succeed. God bless to you ❤
You are an amazing young man. You deserve nothing but the best going forward.
If children don’t feel unconditional love consistently as they’re growing up, it can have a huge negative impact on those children who will carry that for the rest of their life.
This broke my heart 😔💕
I sometimes feel like running away from everyone because my whole family is dysfunctional in alot of ways, hard to trust any of them.
My Heart is Broken,hearing your story 💔😭
Jamie 🙏🏼💝 so sorry- way too many children have to go through this😡 But now you are a stronger individual- burn all those Foster files- Don’t look back- move on to new life with JESUS in your ❤️🎁
I hope you heal and have a great life. You deserve it 💫
Hello beautiful person scrolling through the comments Sending you positive and healing vibes and a huge virtual hug ❤
Thank you 🤗
Jamie will do well. It's very much about one's attitude to themselves then the environment around them that get's these children through. Also if you have one or two role models in your life, in particular a Male role model if you are a boy, is very important. From the start of the clip I knew he would be doing well. Still challenges lie ahead.
Said those mans words today ‘ a product not a person’ feel his pain, pain brings success, so haters bringing us upwards
Best of luck with that
So sad that Jamie's mum died feel sorry for him.
Your amazing young man 👍💙
How would it be made better ??? I totally feel for you and I work with young people in care . How can we make it better .Please help us to help you.😊
Bless him what amazing man x x
Yah even when someone says that they lost there dad im like well at least they can say they had 1, i barely had one because he was hardly ever around, off dealing with his own problems, i of course had stepdads, but well all of them were horribly abusive 😢
Wow what an amazing, amazing young man!
life is a test and this is your test....
well done lad.
Such a lovely man!
I was in care and I feel for this guy so much, my mum recently died as well my heart is so broken :(
i am so sorry😢😢😢😢
Sending you love ands much more
Your a HERO💗💪🏻
Brilliant 👏👏👏
ace accent
but i didn't understand a word lol
Lol??? He is telling a very painful story about foster care why would it be lol??
💓
I don’t know if this is insulting please forgive my ignorance but I feel the likes of “Tracy Beaker” glamourises care, I remember growing up watching and thinking I would live to be in care thinking it was similar to tracy beaker (I was only a child I was 8/9) I didn’t understand. Forgive me again but are care homes like the way the show portraits them to be?
no far from it
Well I always say I have parents instead of a parent because it would make me feel left out.
*turns captions on*
I had a shitty childhood and was with both parents and got seriously abused, I always wished I'd been an orphan
lovely lad x
I wish I knew you i would remind you everyday that you matter.
Awww 😪