Why You Need To Put Yourself First And How To Get Started

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  • Опубліковано 4 тра 2021
  • Why You Need To Put Yourself First And How To Get Started | Femininity & Elegance
    In this video we will talk about the importance of putting yourself first when you are leveling up your life. We will also look at 15 different ways that you can put yourself first. At the end I will share three affirmations that can motivate you when needed. Enjoy the video and much love Urania.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 150

  • @katara4955
    @katara4955 3 роки тому +295

    Not in order but...THINGS THAT FILL YOUR CUP:
    1. Sleep
    2. Beautify yourself
    3. Exercise
    4. Learn new things
    5. Faith
    6. Gratitude
    7. Do something that makes you happy
    8. Setting personal boundaries/ Say no to things you don't like
    9. Spend time with people that inspire and energize you
    10. Journal, especially when we feel overwhelmed
    11. Breathe
    12. Nutrition

  • @mayahkennedy8986
    @mayahkennedy8986 3 роки тому +219

    I've been looking through the comments and I feel as though I am one of the youngest here! (I'm 16) and I am so truly and utterly grateful to be learning these lessons and understanding how to put myself first and care for myself, so that one day I could pass this on to the younger generation so that they can learn at an even younger age. Thank you so much for this wisdom🌱

    • @amie8339
      @amie8339 3 роки тому +11

      I am 16 too. And learn this at a younger age has proved itself worth it .

    • @1antiquejunkietc355
      @1antiquejunkietc355 2 роки тому +3

      That's cool 💕

    • @NilaOdiVaa
      @NilaOdiVaa 2 роки тому +11

      I am happy that you are starting young! You are going to be the most amazing woman when you get to your woman stage! I pray that you take these tips seriously and really gain your true value little queen! Keep working on you baby girl! Congratulations on your journey!

    • @choccococo7224
      @choccococo7224 2 роки тому +2

      Not really I'm 15 so no need to brag

    • @jfedma8012
      @jfedma8012 2 роки тому +3

      We're the same age. 😍😍😍😍 We got this. I'm glad I'm not the only one ❤️❤️❤️

  • @shamzunique7013
    @shamzunique7013 3 роки тому +112

    "Not selfish, but necessary" 🤞🏽🌸

  • @bulletjiso4620
    @bulletjiso4620 2 роки тому +50

    "When I serve myself, I have more energy to serve others"
    "I nurture myself because I deserve it"
    "I am worthy of self-love and serving my needs"
    Thank you so much for this🥰

  • @chantellewilson9497
    @chantellewilson9497 2 роки тому +13

    It’s sad that we are not taught these things as young ladies we have to search for information. I am loving these videos 💕

  • @scarlettkhan9667
    @scarlettkhan9667 3 роки тому +25

    This girl is amazing...

  • @mesiassefa3806
    @mesiassefa3806 3 роки тому +53

    I grew up learning that putting others first was being good, I am thirty eight now and it is so hard to change myself. I tried to put myself once and it felt so strange and I felt so selfish and after sometime I find myself in the same track again. My marriage failed because I put myself in a continues stressful work environment because I didn’t know how to say no, I had no time for myself; to do the things I like and to beautify myself. My ex started to loose interest in me, and that escalated things to divorce. I blamed everything on my ex before but now I understand that it was all me. I didn’t teach myself to say no, to take care of myself and to put myself first. Thank you so much you are an angle 😘😘😘😘😘

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +7

      Hi Mesi, thank you for sharing this. I’m sorry you had to go through that😔. However it does sound that you have grown a lot and I truly hope that you are in a better place now. I’m sending you much love, strength and luck ♥️♥️.

    • @naomiri3837
      @naomiri3837 3 роки тому +11

      No please dont say it was just all you.. Forgive him and forgive yourself and find your peace. I hope you will work hard on YOU now more than on and the job. Its never to late for anything i wish you from all my heard all the best darling❤

    • @papiliopurpuro
      @papiliopurpuro 2 роки тому +2

      A good partner encourages you to put yourself first x

    • @sarakurd3061
      @sarakurd3061 Рік тому

      You are still young Mesi . Never is too late to change . Send you love darling ❤️💋

  • @elegancaesthetic
    @elegancaesthetic 6 місяців тому

    When I serve myself I have more energy to serve others!!!!!❤❤❤❤

  • @channelchanel123
    @channelchanel123 3 роки тому +13

    I'm now able to see I'm not exactly putting myself first and therefore I'm not living my singleness to the fullest
    As a service to both myself and my future husband and kids, I need to put myself first today. So in the future, I'm sure of who I'm and able to provide them in what they need

  • @SosoModels
    @SosoModels 2 роки тому +3

    I’m learning to stop feeling guilty about putting my first self. It’s not an option it’s a necessity. Un-learning old habits of putting others before me.

    • @SosoModels
      @SosoModels 2 роки тому

      @Dameka Woodley yessssssssss

  • @AllAnimalsCount
    @AllAnimalsCount Рік тому

    Aloha, much gratitude 🙏 my entire life 3 decades rescuing homeless animals and its really hard to care for myself but now I have to because so drained, thankyou ❤

  • @PinkYellowGreen2023
    @PinkYellowGreen2023 Рік тому

    Yes...your needs come first!

  • @childrenshine152
    @childrenshine152 2 роки тому +11

    Thank you very much. I admire your beautiful lesson. This is truly uplifting and a blessing. I'm 48 years old and wish I had known and been taught this earlier during my younger years! Well, now this is my time and I am incorporating "Self-love" after over-giving to others! I never realised how much over-giving I was doing until I began to truly be kind to myself. I'm loving it😃
    It's never to late to learn!🥰💓

  • @mileegrace6564
    @mileegrace6564 3 роки тому +8

    Filipina here and I love how you used our own Heart Evangelista in your thumbnail. Great content as always, God bless!

  • @curatedbynazina
    @curatedbynazina 3 роки тому +107

    This is so important. So many of us neglect ourselves and serve everyone else even if it's painful. When our cups are empty we cannot truly pour into anyone.
    Self-love is what many of us need to work on. When you love yourself, you set time aside to take care of yourself.

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +1

      Self love is so important on this journey, thank you for sharing this 💕💕.

  • @miriam8026
    @miriam8026 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this wonderful video! Many of us were indeed brought up thinking that putting others first was the right thing to do if you wanted to be a good person. I tried is so hard and ended up in a dark place mentally. I really thought I could take care of others first and after that of myself, but of course there was always something else that needed my attention. It's been now 14 years that I've been recovering and even though I still stumble here and there I feel very strongly I am progressing, and I have progressed so much that it feels like a miracle.

  • @AnAngolanGirlAbroad
    @AnAngolanGirlAbroad Рік тому

    Society makes like it's mandatory to put others first so when we put ourselves we feel as if we are being selfish. But it's like you said: "we can't save anyone if we don't save ourselves"

  • @rinarelax9978
    @rinarelax9978 2 роки тому +9

    When I was teen, I tried to do more for myself, but over time, people have made me feel like I was being selfish and evil for doing so, so I started feeling Guilty and felt like I didn’t deserve good thing, started doing more for everyone and not my self, I’m drained now, I’m a mother, one 8 month old and another on the way😔

    • @dikagibson87
      @dikagibson87 Рік тому +2

      That’s ok keep your head high baby girl. You are still high value.

  • @thereshegrows113
    @thereshegrows113 3 роки тому +46

    Hello ladies! Putting yourself first is not selfish but necessary! shots fired in that introduction. There old you needs to serve the new you Queens, happy level up journey ladies. thank you beautiful Uriana for this video...loved it!

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +2

      You are very welcome, wishing you all the luck on your journey♥️.

    • @kerethajackson2435
      @kerethajackson2435 2 роки тому +1

      👏👏👏👏 you have said it all , beautiful 😍❤♥💖💕

    • @kerethajackson2435
      @kerethajackson2435 2 роки тому +1

      🥰🥰🥰 I'm so happy to have spent this time with you , God bless you always 🙏❤ , live love laugh a lotttttt

    • @kerethajackson2435
      @kerethajackson2435 2 роки тому

      I love how you have that beautiful flowers 💐 nearby ,

  • @Sweets0727
    @Sweets0727 3 роки тому +30

    I really enjoyed watching this video. So often, we neglect ourselves and tend to the needs of others. I now am taking care of me first - and then every one else. Self love and self care is everything. ✨✨.

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +3

      I’m glad you enjoyed it! Thank you for sharing this💕💕.

  • @idamalcom6285
    @idamalcom6285 3 роки тому +6

    My reason is the distructive education I received since I was a child. I had to consider what other would have thinked about my choices and actions. I had to give care to others and to respect them even when they didn't care about me. And I had to respect men, to forgive them, etc, etc.
    Urania, please make more videos about this topic.

  • @strawberryjpeg6000
    @strawberryjpeg6000 3 роки тому +26

    He's come back, so now imma make him beg for my attention because i have like 10 other guys asking me out out of the blue

    • @khadijatkasse
      @khadijatkasse 3 роки тому +2

      story of my life lmao

    • @naomiri3837
      @naomiri3837 3 роки тому +5

      Yeeeees!!!!! Proud of you❤ dont let him think he can come back anytime and you are there just waiting for him..🙄

  • @Jade-gf3ox
    @Jade-gf3ox 3 роки тому +6

    Great tips! I always put myself first❤️I love self care 💆🏾‍♀️

  • @lorrainebazydola816
    @lorrainebazydola816 2 роки тому +1

    Thinking of your mind as a garden of flowers with a fence around it!
    Beautiful and I shall.
    Thank you Urania !💕

  • @On_Point10
    @On_Point10 3 роки тому +11

    Your tips are always beneficial. Absolutely inspiring. Thank you so much!

  • @hph9614
    @hph9614 Рік тому

    There's a difference in not taking the time yourself due to guilt, and not having access to the time or able to pursue it because of other outside sources or priorities... that don't alot the time or want to share the load. This is usually due to either kids, your job, or lack of support from other adults willing to allow the pursuit of yourself.
    A person usually feels guilty because someone made you feel that way

  • @1antiquejunkietc355
    @1antiquejunkietc355 2 роки тому

    Exactly I did put myself first. Then at 27I had my Son in . Other good Real friends had children out of school. But that is when I Sacrificed my life for my child to Single Mom to remarrying but always a goal getter achiever !! Always helping those in need. Family 1st .Yes!! But become a Sacrifice of to long 33 yrs. Back to SELF 1ST!! Volunteering to Gardening EXACTLY as I've done since loss of Mom. Trying to move on now. LOve journaling to my book dreams n Goals Goals don't stop. I love dancing and you are a beautiful Lady. I love to celebration of others.Most Grateful Thankful n Bleseed yes. Thank You God 💕

  • @MissFayeCBL
    @MissFayeCBL 3 роки тому +20

    OMG! When I saw the Heart Evangelista thumbnail I clicked IMMEDIATELY!!! I love the topic too

    • @yasmino323
      @yasmino323 3 роки тому

      Sameee😂

    • @invadingminds
      @invadingminds 3 роки тому +1

      Me too!! I love, love, love Heart!

    • @aleeza3001
      @aleeza3001 3 роки тому +1

      I reallyyyy love her too. From philippines here☺

  • @luviamartinez7195
    @luviamartinez7195 3 роки тому +25

    You have a big heart! You are so beautiful!

  • @anuradhaperera866
    @anuradhaperera866 Рік тому

    I’m grateful for you my sister

  • @seniiisastunner1149
    @seniiisastunner1149 2 роки тому +2

    Growing up I had to always prove myself to people in my family which in many ways I became neglected my wants my needs my priorities and myself
    Relationship wise I'd put the nigga first but realized only later bout how being too caring especially in moments you never needed to care about others but yourself people will take advantage of you

  • @inkeoy7144
    @inkeoy7144 3 роки тому +6

    6:12 The reason I am not putting myself first is because I don't want to lose the people... thank you

    • @leanaaymorejacob1211
      @leanaaymorejacob1211 2 роки тому +2

      I could say I'm the same...but I've been learning that this is a big cultural brainwash 😉, really.
      Trust me, loving yourself and recognizing your own needs and desires will NOT 😉 make you lose anybody, quite the opposite: you'll attract the right people to your life. 😊🌹

  • @aaliyahs9594
    @aaliyahs9594 2 роки тому +1

    I definitely had to relearn to put myself first , I tended to put others and things before myself . Thank you for this video.

  • @Herspecialty11
    @Herspecialty11 2 роки тому +1

    Currently practicing to put myself first.

  • @friimunya8488
    @friimunya8488 3 роки тому +14

    You look STUNNING

  • @preeyalachmansingh3883
    @preeyalachmansingh3883 2 роки тому +1

    so nice video
    perhaps universe sends me this at right time
    am a full time housewife since years

  • @nehemilia5033
    @nehemilia5033 2 роки тому +1

    You really inspiré me urania

  • @dainnapamisa3069
    @dainnapamisa3069 2 роки тому +3

    I felt weak and hopeless hearing all these while realizing im a breadwinner 😢

  • @DivineFeminie_8
    @DivineFeminie_8 2 роки тому +1

    You are so amazing god bless you

  • @L3t1t8e
    @L3t1t8e Рік тому

    I haven't always put myself first because I had the worst self concept. I didnt believe that i was worth anything cause all my traumatic interactions with ppl kept playing like a movie (which i didnt like). Its now in a better place but I still struggle; it was like self-care was foreign and really taking care of myself wasn't my language.

  • @channelchanel123
    @channelchanel123 3 роки тому

    True!
    We are our best and serve others better by putting ourselves first

  • @lunasky39
    @lunasky39 3 роки тому +2

    My father drummed it in to me that putting myself first was selfish and I was punished and it was bad and the west Indian side of my family took his lead and even my mother was left feeling empty as. I intern do .

  • @leanaaymorejacob1211
    @leanaaymorejacob1211 2 роки тому +1

    I loved the "cup of abundance vs. cup of lack" metaphor! 👏😍🌹

  • @shirleymanson3173
    @shirleymanson3173 2 роки тому

    Wowww... Time to reflextion if your beliefs still serve you.... That's a hit straight to the forehead!!!!.....

  • @sofeeak8604
    @sofeeak8604 3 роки тому +3

    This is a great video Urania - thank you for this.
    Beautifully spoken 🙏

  • @gloriabrown478
    @gloriabrown478 3 роки тому +1

    Great video....thanks for sharing

  • @prudencesyaminwe9670
    @prudencesyaminwe9670 Рік тому

    Thank you very much for the beautiful message

  • @ashantiberenice5798
    @ashantiberenice5798 3 роки тому +4

    i clicked because of the thumbnail ✨🤧

  • @LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau
    @LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you for this great video. Yes, it's good that we can share the number 1 place with our loved once.

  • @lylianramirez5557
    @lylianramirez5557 2 роки тому

    Such a nice and useful talk! It was great Urania, thank you so much 💗

  • @rachelmaxwell5953
    @rachelmaxwell5953 3 роки тому

    You are a tremendous force for good! 🙏💞

  • @danachua5181
    @danachua5181 2 роки тому

    Wow, thank you for this video! I really needed this :')

  • @marathearoldan320
    @marathearoldan320 3 роки тому +1

    Wow thank you for using Heart Evangelista’s photo on the thumbnail. She’s the perfect epitome of elegance and class ✨❤️

  • @anonymousbee
    @anonymousbee 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you love. The timing is immaculate.❤️

  • @mondeliyungu5711
    @mondeliyungu5711 3 роки тому +5

    Ohh my goodness seems im the first one and was waiting for this video,
    I needed this video im about to make a serious move that will help me in my level up jouney. 🥰🥰🥰thank you

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +1

      I’m glad that this video came just on time for you! Enjoy it and I’m wishing you good luck with your next big step. Much love Urania 💕💕

    • @mondeliyungu5711
      @mondeliyungu5711 3 роки тому

      @@Myfemmedaily thank you,im greatful 💕

  • @gloriajkamarajones1988
    @gloriajkamarajones1988 3 роки тому +1

    Excellent

  • @magdalena3746
    @magdalena3746 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful video's with us!!
    Real women support other women😊👸🏿💕

  • @agreatday9566
    @agreatday9566 3 роки тому

    I loved this video. Thank you 🙏🏽

  • @nehemilia5033
    @nehemilia5033 2 роки тому

    Focus on thé necessities

  • @Caitlyn532
    @Caitlyn532 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much!!!!✨✨✨💕

  • @monikaleszko5343
    @monikaleszko5343 2 роки тому

    I LOVE THIS video ❤️❤️❤️🙋🏼‍♀️🙋🏼‍♀️🎉🎉🎉
    Thank you

  • @dianacosgrove691
    @dianacosgrove691 2 роки тому

    Wonderful video from such a beautiful and graceful woman. 💕 Thank you - perfect timing for me also.

  • @ZoeysMusings
    @ZoeysMusings 3 роки тому +1

    This is golden 👏🏽

  • @velvetiron7435
    @velvetiron7435 Рік тому

    Thank you so much ❤

  • @vallydin7269
    @vallydin7269 3 роки тому

    Love all your video's.

  • @QueenJuliana89
    @QueenJuliana89 3 роки тому

    ❤️ Thank you for this 🌸

  • @fatemehshahmohammad8191
    @fatemehshahmohammad8191 2 роки тому

    i needed and enjoyed that very much! thank you

  • @anastasijapilnikova5732
    @anastasijapilnikova5732 2 роки тому

    Thank You 💗

  • @briamonyae1396
    @briamonyae1396 2 роки тому

    I needed this , I feel so down.

  • @ametrineambrosia4929
    @ametrineambrosia4929 2 роки тому

    A soothing voice.

  • @soniapollock1417
    @soniapollock1417 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you really needed this today.👍

  • @mrs.mcginnis2987
    @mrs.mcginnis2987 2 роки тому

    This was helpful thank you ❤️

  • @brittanypowell1022
    @brittanypowell1022 Рік тому

    The fair of being called selfish

  • @juliesuwed101
    @juliesuwed101 3 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @vk3980
    @vk3980 2 роки тому

    Love your videos and your wisdom. And you look so pretty in red. :)

  • @armela6840
    @armela6840 3 роки тому +2

    I still miss the intro I am your level up journey sister 💕

  • @shugastyles2346
    @shugastyles2346 2 роки тому

    U look so beautiful and calm, I wish I knew this 5yrs bck

  • @keertigupta926
    @keertigupta926 3 роки тому

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @xoxo.laurel7480
    @xoxo.laurel7480 2 роки тому +3

    I'm 16 trying to get off my bed a improve my life
    .
    .
    I actually prefer K-pop dances even though they aren't really feminine I hope that's still okay

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  2 роки тому +1

      Proud of you for that! And yes that is 100% okay❤️! You do whatever feels good to you and makes you happy. And dancing is feminine, I have seen some great feminine K-pop artists. Have a lovely day Laurel😊.

    • @xoxo.laurel7480
      @xoxo.laurel7480 2 роки тому

      @@Myfemmedaily oh my gosh
      .
      Your reply made my Day
      I love your videos
      God bless you 😊

  • @trinidadlynn3482
    @trinidadlynn3482 2 роки тому +1

    Urania u inspire me every day

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  2 роки тому

      Thank you for sharing that with me. And it’s this amazing community of women like yourself that keep inspiring me, so thank you for being here❤️🤗.

  • @jasminangus4075
    @jasminangus4075 2 роки тому

    ♥️♥️

  • @cherrY28201
    @cherrY28201 3 роки тому +17

    This is what I needed🙊🌷

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому

      Glad to hear that. I hope you liked the video 💕😊

    • @cherrY28201
      @cherrY28201 3 роки тому

      Yes.. I love it
      🌸 greetings from germany🌸

  • @marleneyearwood3139
    @marleneyearwood3139 3 роки тому +10

    Enjoyed this video. Everything was on point.

  • @Maria_Svetlana8847
    @Maria_Svetlana8847 2 роки тому

    I am learning to put myself first yet im being forced to do things by my parents even if im busy or need time on me mostly on things they can do themselves yet threaten me to do it ......its exsausting and hurts

  • @ml5034
    @ml5034 Рік тому

    Im 24 i waste 5 years of my life since I friend my mum cuz I moved away from my friends cuz I had HSC then Uni but now Im choosing my self

  • @lisadupree9289
    @lisadupree9289 2 роки тому

    Your a flower girl like me!🌻

  • @MadamRosalie
    @MadamRosalie 3 роки тому +4

    I‘ve started today to watch your videos and I really like them! Have you Made some video of “nice homewear”? Clothes/slippers

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +1

      I’m glad you enjoy the videos♥️. No, I have not made a video like that, but I will write it down as a new video idea, thank you Hela. You might like this video of mine too: ua-cam.com/video/Cji4E5uees8/v-deo.html

  • @kristineausan6591
    @kristineausan6591 2 роки тому

    🥰💖

  • @ashantiberenice5798
    @ashantiberenice5798 3 роки тому +6

    omg the thumbnail is Heart Evangelista!! She is the Darling Princess here in Philippines 💖💖💖

  • @chhetansubba8421
    @chhetansubba8421 3 роки тому

    ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @nmernst
    @nmernst 3 роки тому +1

    Great video as usual. If you are into dancing you can try social/ballroom dancing as well.

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +2

      Ballroom is such an amazing idea. Thank you for sharing Nicole💕💕.

  • @faizanawyar7672
    @faizanawyar7672 3 роки тому +1

    I am a regular viewer of your channel from Bangladesh 🇧🇩.i love your content.if you put some elegant ladies picture in your video,it will be a lot easier for us to understand. Hope your channel grow more and more by the time goes.

  • @afiab32
    @afiab32 3 роки тому

    Your videos are amazing! But I also recommend to have pictures every now and then in the video, to keep us entertained 💖

  • @agreatday9566
    @agreatday9566 3 роки тому +1

    To answer your question, I am currently living with my mother. In her house she is first. I am attempting to balance that during this time, but my self-care is often seen as disrespectful or lazy. I’d love to hear you speak on balancing our beliefs while respecting the culture we came from. Living authentically and setting boundaries without disrespecting elders.

    • @radiantly_fatime
      @radiantly_fatime 3 роки тому +1

      Speaking from experience, some elders feel disrespected however if you put yourself first. And I've realised that it's their broken/fragile inner child that usually causes this.
      My point is, you may try to stand up for yourself in the most respectful manner and still be termed "disrespectful" because you dared to not cater to their ego. Do you anyways. So long as you try to stay respectful as possible, be okay with being misunderstood and you'll be at peace.

  • @okitopie
    @okitopie 3 роки тому

    💜💜💜🇧🇷

  • @salonika101
    @salonika101 2 роки тому

    Video starts at 9:20

  • @Sparker222
    @Sparker222 2 роки тому

    Where have you been all my life, my lady?

  • @philissimbwae6607
    @philissimbwae6607 3 роки тому +2

    I missed you sweetheart

  • @hanan7el
    @hanan7el 3 роки тому

    You're beautiful❤ Are you from The Netherlands?

    • @Myfemmedaily
      @Myfemmedaily  3 роки тому +1

      Thank you! And yes I am from The Netherlands💕.

    • @hanan7el
      @hanan7el 3 роки тому

      @@Myfemmedaily ik ook! Herken het accent 🙂

  • @sandrineingabire3418
    @sandrineingabire3418 2 роки тому

    Can you please get up at the end of the video so we get to see your outfit of the day .pl plzz .I looooove you