A genius who has inspired me since 1980, when I read my first book - I AM OK, YOU ARE OK. This lead me to another book - Games People Play by Eric Berne himself. My salute to this gem in the field of psychoanalysis.
Wow! This is my parents' era. I love the way men wore suits and the accent was mild, speech was clear, manners were so good. I bet there were many fewer cars on the roads, as well.
Thank you for this series. It has helped me see all my games for what they really are. I’m trying to play so many all at the same time. Some of them contradictory. No wonder my life feels like chaos!
11:02 "- What contributes to real love between a man and a woman ? - Well, that we don't pretend to know, because usually people who are capable of real love don't seem to end up coming to psychiatrists..."
@יהוחנן לואיס I saw other psychologist who just said exact the same thing but about people on psychologist forum. Its not like they are bad but healthy person wouldn't be interested in psychology enough to come on forum its too specific
Interesting. My only concern would be that they might too readily try to assimilate the clients experience into the structure of their chosen narrative?
Exactly, what if the therapy session is just another game where the patient has to guess what the therapist wants them to say or do and then do/say exactly that? Like a silent agreement that doesn't help the patient, but boosts the therapist's ego!
A lot of these stories are similar like the big bad wolf sounds similar to rapunzel to me. Like you could swap one for the other and get the same idea.
who are the most important people in Rapunzel life? Is Rapunzel getting her needs met? And what are peoples needs? Is Rapunzel doing the best she can do in the moment? Can Rapunzel find what fits in her world?
@@nancyallen628I see that with other people in the real world. A girl may invite you into her tower but when the fun ends she will say “gee you sure are lighter than the prince that sees me everyday” to grandmother. Grandmother takes the cue to get rid of the prince. If the girl wanted to keep seeing you she wouldn’t of told grandmother.
Anyone here think we're on the cusp of building that third story he was talking about? With the stupidity that is Trump and the degradation of our politics down to the level of a bunch of kids insulting one another, it looks to me that as a nation we need to heal our inner-child! I've been watching a lot of John Bradshaw to learn about this. That's actually what brought me here lol
I think we have a way to go if we misunderstand what has become of are politics and calling actually very intelligent people “stupid” because it’s out of our scope of understanding (very rarely is a person actually stupid). It’s deeper than “everyone heal your inner child” it’s actually about choosing intimacy against those who refuse it. But the problem with it, is that there are motives that are beyond the human condition that make us fight for things we deem right in our own eyes. Ultimately it’s not an attachment issue as to more of people having other causes and beliefs that they’re willing to cheat and sacrifice everything at any cost. Lies and regurgitation are a whole other beast on their own that even the healthiest of individuals can still fall victim to it.
@@jojochara6352take a look at the latest Tucker Carlson interview with Mike Benz listen it’s high level “games”… then dive into how and what psychology has become’ what’s been introduced into their schooling. Years ago they knew that trauma therapy and transactional therapy were needed and instead they made a model based in a ton of pills so they could make money off of a person especially if they could prescribe for life
@@wonka4sounds broken English but the idea is people are made up of different people (Parent, Adult, Child) and games showcase the fact that people can fluctuate between ego states beautifully. Even though one country going to war with another may be considered a game by Bernes view, the consequences of the game are very real. But in any given moment like when a country declares war the ego state that is active is taken at face value and is the real self at that point in time. The ego state may change later and the country could declare peace or they could just keep spinning their wheels.
Why did rapunzel tell grandmother she was sleeping with a boy when she knew wouldn’t allow it? Sounds like she set it up herself. Yeah she did Berne confirms this. The girl says I’m tired of him and signals this to grandmother. So grandmother says I’ll get rid of him for you.
A genius who has inspired me since 1980, when I read my first book - I AM OK, YOU ARE OK. This lead me to another book - Games People Play by Eric Berne himself. My salute to this gem in the field of psychoanalysis.
Wow! This is my parents' era. I love the way men wore suits and the accent was mild, speech was clear, manners were so good. I bet there were many fewer cars on the roads, as well.
Seeing him at the party with the students and colleagues is awesome!
Thank you for this series. It has helped me see all my games for what they really are. I’m trying to play so many all at the same time. Some of them contradictory. No wonder my life feels like chaos!
Highly previlized to hear Eric Berne.
11:02 "- What contributes to real love between a man and a woman ? - Well, that we don't pretend to know, because usually people who are capable of real love don't seem to end up coming to psychiatrists..."
@יהוחנן לואיס I saw other psychologist who just said exact the same thing but about people on psychologist forum. Its not like they are bad but healthy person wouldn't be interested in psychology enough to come on forum its too specific
Hahaha 😀😀
Incredibly astute observation!
If interested in the fairy tale angle, Von Franz's _The Feminine in Fairy Tales_ is brilliant.
I wonder how many of them died of smoking related illnesses
Maybe the same amount who currently die from prescription drugs lol
Psychiatrists who numb themselves via an addiction... There's some irony to it!
Read pg 35 of sex in human loving then you will see why Dr Eric berne smoked himself to death
@@Analysis_Paralysisbut to be fair everyone died from cigarettes who lived in the 60s.
you watch this and you worry about the other ppl & cigarettes instead of your life lol
Good old times
You can understand human behavior if you are familiar with TA, Reality Therapy , Sigmund Freud"s Theory and Spirituality of humans!
Interesting. My only concern would be that they might too readily try to assimilate the clients experience into the structure of their chosen narrative?
Exactly, what if the therapy session is just another game where the patient has to guess what the therapist wants them to say or do and then do/say exactly that? Like a silent agreement that doesn't help the patient, but boosts the therapist's ego!
A lot of these stories are similar like the big bad wolf sounds similar to rapunzel to me. Like you could swap one for the other and get the same idea.
who are the most important people in Rapunzel life? Is Rapunzel getting her needs met? And what are peoples needs? Is Rapunzel doing the best she can do in the moment? Can Rapunzel find what fits in her world?
+Carrol Andre She deliberately ruins relationships to stay with Grandmother/Witch
Carrol Andre wonderful. how long have you the game in practice, being aware?
@@nancyallen628I see that with other people in the real world. A girl may invite you into her tower but when the fun ends she will say “gee you sure are lighter than the prince that sees me everyday” to grandmother. Grandmother takes the cue to get rid of the prince. If the girl wanted to keep seeing you she wouldn’t of told grandmother.
Look at that smoke going on ... !
Anyone here think we're on the cusp of building that third story he was talking about? With the stupidity that is Trump and the degradation of our politics down to the level of a bunch of kids insulting one another, it looks to me that as a nation we need to heal our inner-child! I've been watching a lot of John Bradshaw to learn about this. That's actually what brought me here lol
I think we have a way to go if we misunderstand what has become of are politics and calling actually very intelligent people “stupid” because it’s out of our scope of understanding (very rarely is a person actually stupid).
It’s deeper than “everyone heal your inner child” it’s actually about choosing intimacy against those who refuse it. But the problem with it, is that there are motives that are beyond the human condition that make us fight for things we deem right in our own eyes. Ultimately it’s not an attachment issue as to more of people having other causes and beliefs that they’re willing to cheat and sacrifice everything at any cost. Lies and regurgitation are a whole other beast on their own that even the healthiest of individuals can still fall victim to it.
@@jojochara6352take a look at the latest Tucker Carlson interview with Mike Benz listen it’s high level “games”… then dive into how and what psychology has become’ what’s been introduced into their schooling. Years ago they knew that trauma therapy and transactional therapy were needed and instead they made a model based in a ton of pills so they could make money off of a person especially if they could prescribe for life
Those dance moves lol
what the fuck is going on lol
❤️❤️❤️
best of us, little mentiones if people play something, they get habits from some coming packing in head thought of individual who them aren't self.
What
@@wonka4sounds broken English but the idea is people are made up of different people (Parent, Adult, Child) and games showcase the fact that people can fluctuate between ego states beautifully. Even though one country going to war with another may be considered a game by Bernes view, the consequences of the game are very real. But in any given moment like when a country declares war the ego state that is active is taken at face value and is the real self at that point in time. The ego state may change later and the country could declare peace or they could just keep spinning their wheels.
If you ever want to torture a psychiatrist or psychologist, give them an authentic story of mutual love 💞💞
Berne even said himself that people in healthy relationships they have no idea about because they don’t go to see psychiatrists.
Why did rapunzel tell grandmother she was sleeping with a boy when she knew wouldn’t allow it? Sounds like she set it up herself. Yeah she did Berne confirms this. The girl says I’m tired of him and signals this to grandmother. So grandmother says I’ll get rid of him for you.
A lot of smokers.
Matt Damon smoking a pipe
All of these fairy tales sound similar. The big bad wolf getting butchered. Rapunzel’s prince getting his eyes put out.