The guy is very brave for admitting what he did, but I think enjoying the child free time is a much more common feeling than most people will willingly admit. I was a single mom to a now adult son, and he saw his father every other weekend. I loved those few days a month when I didn’t have all the responsibility.
Most definately! I'm a stay at home dad, and it's not healthy to always cater to the kids 24/7 7 days of the week. You sometimes need a few hours to be yourself and it's OK to look forward to that. You're your own person and wanting kids doesn't mean you want them around you all day long. I think we should be a lot more open to the negatives about parenthood, without getting shamed or shaming others who're open about it. Being a parent is hard and not all roses and sunshine. Keeping everything inside only leads to unhappiness and unhealthy situations.
100% agree with this. I love my twins more than anyone and anything in this world and I enjoy being with them and spending time with them but they can be A LOT. Even though they are twins (one boy one girl not identical) they still both want 100% of my attention and I also have to cater to my husband, pets ect. I can't give 400% of myself so I truly enjoy the time when the kids are at school and husband is at work and I am able to just work or clean the house or just be. Often times I just sit in silence and enjoy the peace.
My parents spent years raising me and my two older siblings and now that I'm on my own now. They've been going on vacation and having an amazing time now that they're child free. But we all get to spend holidays together and have a family group chat
I'm a divorced mom, speaking for my kids, who are now adults, they stated I've been a much more present mom since my divorce. They have zero contact with their father and this is their choice, solely on his behavior during and after the marriage.
First story... I think the mom should put food in the crock pot so when she gets home from work it's ready for her and the kids to eat so they will be eating something somewhat healthy.
You beat me to it lol. And the crock pot food lasts a while if you make enough of it. Me, my brother with a hollow leg, mom, and dad (both have big appetites) would use a 7 quart (massive) crock pot for things like corned beef, pot roast, and chilli. Those meals would last a week if we ate it for dinner every single day.
that first guy isn't just NOT the AH...but he has the law on his side. alienation of affection is actual legal grounds for divorce. he's still catering to his ex too much. she needs to roll out of bed and be a better mother. keeping your house clean and cooking for your kids is part of being a Mom!!!
my parents divorced when i was 9 years old, and i still to this day believe it was one of their best decisions. it made them happier, and my home felt much safer. also moving between two houses isnt that bad, just make sure that there is a proper system and that the childs things exist in both houses, like i had clothes in both houses etc
@@Local_Koala please don’t ever have kids if you’re not going to cook for for them. Please consider looking into how unhealthy fast food is…and how mentally unhealthy it is to live in a nasty home. I’m a liberal, sweetheart. But I’m a good Mom with a good marriage. You could learn something from people with successful kids and a successful relationship …in 2023🤷♀️
I think you're blaming the mom too much when he litterally let his s*xual frustrations be his number one priority instead of his own wife and kids. Both parents are in the picture, so both should be putting in equal effort in taking care of the kids. I'm tired of mothers being blamed when they are the ones putting in the most effort to take care of kids but still somehow arnt doing enough imo 🤷♂️
i'm blaming the Mom for laying on her butt in her nasty house while she feeds her kids McDonalds because she won't cook for her kids. he clearly states that he cooks and even cooks and sends prepared foods over to her house. and he picks the kids up and takes them to school for her even on days when he doesn't have the kids. if you think that a mother should lay on her ass instead of getting up and taking her kids to school and stuffing them full of fast food, you don't ever need to have kids. that's not what normal Moms do to raise normal, healthy kids. maybe rewatch the video because it sounds exactly like you didn't hear a word of it.@@Poitostain
That first story, if the ex gets courts involved and it gets contentious, there is 100% cleanliness level expectations and expectations on how the kids are fed, especially if there’s any health issues which we obviously don’t know from the story but it’s there. My mother was the one who walked out and tried using the courts to ‘get back’ at my dad but due to her hoarding and refusal to acknowledge my health issues, she did not get what she wanted.
A friend of mine separated recentlu, 3 kids are 6,4 and 2. You can explain them why daddy has to move out, when the kids ask why he can’t stay she explains them that they had so many fights and now they are fighting less so it’s better also for the kids and they understand that
Idk which story number this applies too, they tend to run together sometimes. The one with the OP dad happily divorced and shows his childless gf "just how much he loves her", if he had expressed that to his wife, things may have been different. 3 kids can wear on you, if you're dealing with them all day everyday. They weren't all school age, so mom didn't get the break away like he did going to work. When he comes home, expects everything to be wonderful and excited to bow to his wants, that's not reality. Nobody lives happy like the Clevers.
Story 2: i would advise OP to pass over the car and see if there are any tracking devices on it, i suspect her and her friend's encounter at the grocery store was far less circumstancial than she thinks.
I have full custody, after 2 years I got baby daddy to do every other weekend. It was life changing to sit at home for even a day to catch up in being human not just a mom.
“I’m TiReD tOo”. This shows that he doesn’t help at all around the house or with the children, so what would make him attractive for her to want to sleep with him when she’s taking care of everything and all he’s doing is going to work. She’s stuck at home raising three small children. He gets to socialize and meet other adults while she does not. He literally is mad he didn’t get sex and of course he’d be happy 100% of the time bc he’s not watching the children always like he wasn’t before and gets sex whenever he wants. I don’t know if this is actual love with the new Gf. He loves the freedom he has These Men literally wonder why their wives have no sex drive, and literally are too stupid to equate that It’s usually their fault.
Ohmygod! THANK YOU!!! I know you wrote this comment awhile ago but this was making me so mad! I heard a story about a man who abandoned his wife after she birthed 3 of his children! He barely mentioned how she might have been feeling in his description of things. Even the stuff about the messy house, not cooking, etc sounds like she might be depressed and not just lazy as he presented it. And I don't believe that a 1 night stand became "the love of his life" either. He is definitely just in love with his freedom. They should consider bringing a mom on this show from time to time. We never get that perspective and I've seen a lot of comments from mom's that watch the show but they're not being represented. Love this show though! Just might need that perspective on some of these stories.
A bachelor doesn’t drop off home cooked meals and dress and drive kids to school each morning. He is literally present on his weeks off and it still isn’t enough???
The first story just makes my blood boil- Those poor kids are being used as a pawn for their mother's happiness. The mom could have easily gone out and tried dating again just like OP did, and the fact that she called OP's girlfriend to guilt trip her for dating OP is just so manipulative. Not to mention the video of the kids getting excited over their parents being back together. The way they're using the kids in this story is just so childish and immature.
Alimony is for her only. He doesn’t get to tell her how to spend it. Child support is to HELP with the children’s expenses only. As long as it’s spent on his kids he no right to even have a opinion. He can’t legally tell her what to cook in her own home. He can’t demand how clean her house is. As long as it’s not hoarder messy he has no right to even have a opinion. It’s her house. They aren’t married anymore. He has no control over it. His opinion or wants in her house doesn’t matter. Weird how he doesn’t want her but is still trying to act like he did when they where married. No wonder she thought they might get back together. The fact you think this man let alone any man has a right to control his ex so much is abusive and psychotic.
For everyone saying "call CPS" on the ex wife. Youd be surprised how much filth you can get away with even with multiple welfare checks. He would have to take her to court and it sounds like he doesn't want full custody so 🤷🏽♀️
I get that. Somehow my mother in law still has custody of my husband’s minor siblings despite her being a known hoarder who doesn’t clean up pet waste and lets the dishes collect mold in the sink for months. She’s also extremely abusive but that’s another story. My heart goes out to any kid that has a mom that unclean.
The system in place when it comes to where kids are placed is corrupt and very biased towards moms regardless of what they're like. My own mom was a drug addict and the courts pushed visits with her and even tried to have us placed in her care despite her not having anywhere to live or her own income without my dad. It's ridiculous. It sounds like OP is still in the kids lives and they do every other week- Like- that arrangement could work so well if the mom just tried to put herself out there and find other ways to make herself happy without OP. Clearly the relationship didn't work out and won't work out now that OP moved on, the ex should move on too.
Story 1: isn't it funny how the wife didn't want him before the divorce but once he is happy and has someone else she wants him back. I hate pick me girls! Edit: the update OMG! The wife is terrible. Not cleaning, not waking up early to get them ready for school, the cooking....now he is paying for a cleaning service. Just wow
I'm so angry for the children and girlfriend in story 1. My childhood bff's mom had convinced her that the divorce was her fault and that her grandma had died because she didn't visit her enough. It destroyed her sense of self worth as an adult. She felt like she didn't deserve good things and was self destructive.
For the first story it’s funny how everyone doesn’t even ask if she was a stay at home mom or if she was watching the kids the most. Sounds like he could’ve solved that silly little problem by pitching in for daycare or stepping up more. He left because he didn’t have enough sex from her? Weak asf. His story is very one sided, gotta hear the whole story imo
So I'm a single mom with shared custody and I agree with OP in the first story that having kid free time is great and doesn't mean I love my kids less. Its great not having to deal with my kids fighting all the time and I can actually decompress and be in a better head space when they come back. My kids have never felt like they are missing out on anything by not having mom and dad together and they are used to the arrangement because they have been doing it since they were little.
As a child of divorce, let me say that guy in the first story was right. It easier to be a good parent when you have breaks and rest. My parents weren't great, but they were always nicer and more calm after I came back from the other's house. I also babysat a lot and I saw how much money helps you be a parent. Many of the parents I worked for were able to hire me to watch their 2-4 times a month. Compared to the kids I worked with at the preschool, the rich kids were often better behaved and more self confident. This is because their parents could take brakes and out source interest to camps and after school programs. Being a person's one stop shop for basic needs, entertainment, and love is hard as fuck. Parents are humans and they need rest just like the rest of us.
I’m a single mom who works 40+ hours a week I don’t have my sons dad helping out much, if any ($15 here and there for snacks at the store cashapped to me) but no ME time at all. I love my son with everything I am, but I 100% know and agree with OP on story 1! He gets to be happy too. You should never stay together “for the kids” because you eventually end up hurting the kids if you do. He should be able to be happy and still love and support his kids. His ex is just wanting it easier for her no matter OP’s happiness or her kids (because chances are if they got back together then it would, at some point, go back to miserable land) I fully support the OP and hope he can get 50:50 custody of his kids and gets to keep the love of his life
First Story: Based on everything OP said, ESH, yes, even OP. His wife told him he was tired from having 3 small kids and he later admitted he prefers being a part-time parent. So my question is how involved was he with the kids in his marriage? Was he carrying his parental weight? Because his comments and the ex-wife’s original complaints indicate he probably wasn’t.
I have been divorced for five years now. Co parenting was the best decision ever. The mental break and ability to deep clean my house and go to the gym on days I don’t have my kid is a godsend and he actually stepped up to the plate and takes on 50% of the parenting work which was not the case when we lived together. Before he was very absent and let me shoulder all of the responsibilities. We have open communication and we even have family meetings when we are concerned about school work etc. I highly recommend divorce
Honestly when he says part time parent I don’t think he means “I only have to be a dad sometimes” it sounds to me. More so that his role as a father is no longer the only role he feels he has in life. In life you’re gonna find you have certain roles in different aspects. The role of a daughter or son, the role of a spouse, the role of a parent, a friend, your job, maybe even in hobby communities you find you have a special role. If one role takes over every other role in your life, it feels like you’ve lost who you are to this one part of it. Wanting to be able to balance your life roles is normal and 100% valid
Honestly OP of story one did everything right- people on reddit talk all the time about how unhappy people just end up cheating and they're shitty for it but this guy actually realized there was a problem and did the right thing for himself and his kids- And yet his family still gives him flack :/
I enjoy my child free time now that my son is a bit older. When he was little, i hated it but i feel like my own person again. When i was together with his dad i was responsible for everything. Now if he wants to see his son, he has to do the parent stuff too and i think they have a better relationship now.
It always irritates me when people say they're child free, but get into serious relationships with parents. You could very well have to be a parental figure bc the other parent dies. Even if the child is an adult if I were CF I'd only date someone with one adult child bc if it's more than one it's more likely one of them will come live with you. It's just weird to me to be CHILD free and date someone with children. But, for this OP is NTA. The wife couldn't change while they were together . This is giving misery loves company
There are a lot of people that choose not to have kids for sooooo many reasons. It doesn’t mean they can’t or won’t be a great STEP PARENT. Your choice is super valid and you do you, but I don’t see the problem with them being a step parent if they have the kids best interests at heart.
First story, I’ve had my daughter live with my ex and she regretted it and wanted to come home for two years but he refused to let me see her. We’re happily together again, I would not change being a mother for my beautiful children.
I’m confused, you’re saying you ex did his best to alienate you from your child against your child’s will and then you got back together with this ex?? I’m genuinely asking because this makes no sense 😢
Story 1: I understand where OP comes from. My ex asked me once if I would get back together with him. I believe that it was a test to prove to his wife that I had some weird feelings of animosity towards her. I proceeded to tell him that my mental health stability and my conscience couldn't ever forgive him for every abuse he and his family did to me and the children. I don't want my children to endure it, let alone myself and I would not accept them or him. He acted like he had no idea what I meant. My ex suffers from PTSD and for him a lot of things he "conveniently" blacks out until it replays in his mind and he suffers from night terrors. I also explained that his wife has done him a solid by trying to limit their exposure to his toxic family, and while I believe he does well as a father to his children it doesn't change my opinion that I think he is a misogynist and abusive and no amount of years will ever change his thinking or actions he has displayed toward me or his wife. I also told him if he started to put his toxic way of thinking toward his children that I would do everything in my power to remove my children from residing with him. While yes he is misogynistic toward his partners, he isn't toward our daughter. He treats her like a princess. Our other child is neurodivergent and has said in the past that he doesn't like how his dad behaves toward me or his stepmother so thank goodness for that. Within the last 5 years, the friendship with my ex's wife and myself has gotten stronger. She had many realizations over the years from being in her marriage with my ex. She is one of the few women I actually consider a friend (all of my friends have always been men because I play video games and like sports, something my ex I believe has always hated). My ex used to be a friend but we aren't anymore and I could never go back to being friends with him either. I am just nice to him because we have children. After they both turn 18 I will be free of having to pretend to be nice.
My mother in law also had 2 sons. She criticised the one with her while praising the other one. Since we lived 2 hours away from her, and the older brother 12 hours away, my husband was put down most. She did not like me and tried to tell my own mother how bad I am. I was never good enough for my husband and she made sure to tell it to me when my husband was out. She talked to the other grandchildren wih friendly loving tone and told me how cute they were. One day while I we visited her and she thought that I was sleeping ( after breastfeeding).. I heard her talking to some children outside asif it was my brother in law's. When I stealthily peaked through the curtain whom she was talk8ng to, I almost fainted when it was mine. Luckily shortly before her passing she told me that my sister in law was such a good wife, teacher, mother and housewife. At this point I was like an angry dog with neckhairs raising. Then she said BUT your children can do more than my sister in law's children. Only I barked angrily "Who says so" She said shocked by her compliment "I have eyes in my head. "
5:16 doesnt the mom also get to act like a kid free bachelorette over other week? Like i dont see what the issue is if it was working for a year or two then i domt see why they are messing with it
Story2 The knowledge that Bestie is an immigrant with no family to turn to makes the ex so much worse. He knew she was isoloted. He knew exactly what he was doing to her. 😡
I hate when people use the excuse that they need to stay together for the kids... no you don't. Your too weak to leave an unhappy marriage, that's why they stay together. I was a child of this predicament, and my parents were miserable and faught all the time, and made me and my sisters miserable. When they finally split everyone was happy....
As far as the McDonald’s issue- OP could demand that she take the kids to healthier places such as SUBWAY and other places that are upgrading from McDonald’s
A question for John and Sam (if they see this): My friend wants to call in with a story but has crazy work hours. She wanted me to ask if anyone can call in at any hour and leave a story on your voicemail?
Yes! How it works is that they call in and leave a voicemail. Then Sam, John, I'm sure Producer Riley and others review them and select who to call back!
The marriage might not work. Things just happened that way. Ex-wife is an AH to call your GF. Your mother using the grand kids to force you back with your ex-wife is an AH move. But to say out loud that being a part-time dad is better than a full-time dad also makes you an AH.
Story 1:Wow his ex-wife is butt hurt that he is happier and a better parent than her! Mad respect on him for re-building his life! His mum is a whole other subject and I feel for him and his dad...😢
I can’t help feel that OP relationship with his gf is not going to last if she actually childfree. What happens if the childcare agreement changes? What happens when the relationship eventually moves forward? Like is she planning to just never see the kids on his weeks. Or never progress to the point she moves in. This just seems like a relationship that’s going no where, as this man has FOUR kids and she wants none. They are just building an relationship to cause hurt.
I wish my kids dad could get his shit together so I can have every other week off. I’ve been doing it by myself always. My son is 13 and daughter 9. Parents need breaks.
They are still the same people, nothing has changed. If it didn't work before it won't now. There is zero reason to think that things would change if they tried again. He's doing the right thing. I hope he can convince his current girlfriend of this and how much she means to him.
Story 1: At least he didn't cheat, but a lot of people need to think about their safety first in a relationship before they get in bed with their first, second, and so on. Use protection or men, get a vasectomy, it will save your wallet, and its reversable!
When op first began his story, it sounded typical of a family with 3 young kids. The mom is tired from taking care of the kids all day and dad is tired from work, both thinking theyre pulling the majority of the weight and neither talking about it. The more the story winds on and questions are answered, it seems more and more like the mom only puts in minimum effort required for any given task, including her relationship with her husband. *Bearing in mind that we only have one side of the story.
It looks like this man (with the updates) took more of the childcare than the ex did. Come HE woke up early to go to HER house to get the kid ready for school, cleaned her house, and he was even sending cooked for the famiy while while we're divorced. At this point dude can get full child custody because even working and living apart is the main children care. When op didn't have a partner ex thought he will still do things for her, now he has a girlfriend she knows he start pulling away from her so she will have to do more child care. Why she kicked up a fush about ghe change. Only reason she trying to get back with him so he keeps being a doormat and maid for her.
"Cut it off" 🤬😭😭🤣😂😂 okay honestly I can't I feel for ppl Who are lacking intimacy in their marriages. I'm grateful that me and my husband do not have issues in that department ever. We are always super excited to sleep with each other lol 😅 like teenagers. But unfortunately that does not Soli uphold a marriage and we failed and so many other ways. I haven't spoke to him in weeks but that's normal.
First story…I have to say ETA, mother for obvious reasons, but OP sounds like therapy only became an option just now for the kids. Why didn’t OP suggest therapy after the third child was born, and I’m sorry but three kids that close in age, there are going to be a lot of hormonal changes in wife…she may not even be aware, and it doesn’t have anything to do with postpartum.
For the second story, the dad could probably call in a welfare check on the ex-wife if he believes she isn’t providing a safe/healthy/sanitary life for their children.
Eating junk food all week is going to affect the kid's health and it's teaching them the wrong skills to become a healthy adult. So I'd say yes, OP in story 1 is entitled to demand a healthier diet at his ex' place. But there's probably laws to defend the mum's actions, cuz body autonomy blabla, and it's probably not bad enough for CPS or a legal route to go through. I guess the best OP can do is to teach the kids about a healthy diet and clean home on the days they're with him and teach them to speak up for themselves when mum wants to go to MC Donalds for the 7th day in a row.
This makes me wonder why they bothered having kids. They didn't plan and just had three babies. And now it's like they are some burden to both of them. That's terrible for the kids.
I lived with parents that were never happy together. It was better when they broke up XD when you are a child you think that mommy and daddy together is the best but it's not. Both parents being miserable and volatile around each other is not worth it and it also sends a negative message to the children. They will understand that they have to stay in hurtful relationships to keep others happy.
First story, op should be able to enforce a certain level of cleanliness but we hear all the horror stories of kids eating junk or not getting food at all and the system doesnt fix it so not sure op can enforce a better menu than mcd’s. Best option is to teach the kids how to make certain things and send them home the meal kits to put it together like crockpot chili, etc etc. also educating the children on why mcd’s is bad if they keep telling mom this is not best for our growth she may get sick of it and start doing better even if its just hot soup and a sandwich. I dont think op was the ah at any time. The ex wife is manipulative and apathetic. Better off away from her and showing the kids what happy looks like. When they are grown up they could very well not want anything to do with their mother and its no ones fault but the ex wife.
Maybe she wanted that to happen or maybe she was taking care of everything with no breaks. That is a different level of tired and breeds seething resentment. He could really appreciate the child free time because he has to actually take care of his kids, when he has them. It would be interesting to hear both sides. They both(and grandma) suck hard. All he is talking about is how great it is for HIM to be a pt parent. It isn't for the kids. They are all selfish af. He will do whatever he has to, to protecf his kids, except raise them FT!
why was the first one start by stating he doesnt want to be with his kids? he seems to be doing a beter job of caring for and being in their lives. and oof comeing in to your ex house everymorning and see the messy home situation on top how is he handeling that without there being conflict?
I’m gonna be honest. It sounds like OP was a shit husband and didn’t put in the work the first time around. Of course it’s “better” now. Mom should also go have fun and get her spark back
The guy is the AH... No parents shouldn't stay together for the kids. But how is it fair that he gets to live is life and proud of being a part time dad. A part time dad is a baby-sitter, not a father. Being a parent is a FULL TIME JOB, not half the time. Most mothers don't have kids to be away from the half the time either. Don't have kids if you don't want what's best for them... FIRST. Human or not. When you have kids your free time is over.
Yes, you are a "lesser parent" for thinking that being a part-time parent is better. I would hate to be away from my children every other week. I want nothing more than to have them here all the time, which is how most parents feel. If he doesn't want to be with the ex because he doesn't love her, that's fine. But saying that you really enjoy being a part-time parent and don't want to give that up is gross. It's also gross to have 3 kids with a woman and complain she doesn't fuck you enough, then compare her to a childless woman. Having and caring for kids is hard and will always slow down your sex life. It comes with parenting. It's hard to know what was really going on in their marriage without hearing both sides. People tend to paint themselves in the best light possible.
Bro I understand ya freedom every other week but you should be the full time parent passing them back off to mom is going to ruin all that hard work you’re doing as they get older . Your ex wife will only get more bitter especially cause it’s how you want it not her
It sounds like they both should've poured more into their marriage when they were together. Especially the wife. She should've definitely made time for her husband's needs. It's too bad she didn't see his needs as her needs aswell. I also wish he would've been more patient before resulting to divorce because although I don't like how he was treated in the marriage being neglected sexually I do agree that it's selfish to raise your kids in different homes for the sake of your happiness.
It's not though? Because when someone is unhappy in a relationship it shows. Did you not hear how the children were upset by watching their parents be unhappy? It's better for children to grow up in separate homes than for the parents to stay together and foster a bad home environment. Its not selfish at all.
Story 1. Sorry but celebrating being a part-time parent is pathetic and very selfish. Kids didn't sign up to be part-time kids for part-time parents. They are your responsibility you have them you take care of them
My husband and I had 4 kids, and have been married for 22 years. We are still intimate at least 3 times per week. Is that not the norm? (I’m being sincere, that’s just not a topic my friend’s group talks about.)
I’m a firm disbeliever in divorce. I think marriage should only be for two individuals who know there is no undoing the union and understand the seriousness of the act. Marriage needs to mean more to a couple than a piece of paper, otherwise there would literally be no point. If you do believe in divorce, it needs to be called something else.
“I don’t know what power held me from committing a felony” probably because you’re probably like a girl realizing you probably don’t stand a chance against a man who probably outweighs you by 60+ lbs at minimum. P.S. oh look, OP’s sense of intelligence and survival kicked in and she realized she’s probably massively smaller than the guy. Like I don’t condone what the freak is doing, but OP should’ve recognized earlier on that when you’re the smaller and weaker person, you’re literally just egging the guy on. Have some sense of basic survival instincts and realize when you’re in danger instead of acting tough.
First story only thing I don’t agree with is I don’t think it should be looked as “fun” w/o your kids. Why would you be happy to not have your babies around 24/7? Yes I know it’s stressful. I am a single mom & I do it by myself but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would HATE if my daughter left me for 2 weeks out of the month!!
And that’s fine if that’s what you want, but people shouldn’t be shamed or looked at as lesser parents because they enjoy things outside of parenthood. In fact, having a life outside of the kids is very healthy, especially as they start to get older and to need their own independence.
The guy is very brave for admitting what he did, but I think enjoying the child free time is a much more common feeling than most people will willingly admit. I was a single mom to a now adult son, and he saw his father every other weekend. I loved those few days a month when I didn’t have all the responsibility.
Most definately! I'm a stay at home dad, and it's not healthy to always cater to the kids 24/7 7 days of the week. You sometimes need a few hours to be yourself and it's OK to look forward to that. You're your own person and wanting kids doesn't mean you want them around you all day long. I think we should be a lot more open to the negatives about parenthood, without getting shamed or shaming others who're open about it. Being a parent is hard and not all roses and sunshine. Keeping everything inside only leads to unhappiness and unhealthy situations.
100% agree with this. I love my twins more than anyone and anything in this world and I enjoy being with them and spending time with them but they can be A LOT. Even though they are twins (one boy one girl not identical) they still both want 100% of my attention and I also have to cater to my husband, pets ect. I can't give 400% of myself so I truly enjoy the time when the kids are at school and husband is at work and I am able to just work or clean the house or just be. Often times I just sit in silence and enjoy the peace.
My parents spent years raising me and my two older siblings and now that I'm on my own now. They've been going on vacation and having an amazing time now that they're child free. But we all get to spend holidays together and have a family group chat
I'm a divorced mom, speaking for my kids, who are now adults, they stated I've been a much more present mom since my divorce. They have zero contact with their father and this is their choice, solely on his behavior during and after the marriage.
First story... I think the mom should put food in the crock pot so when she gets home from work it's ready for her and the kids to eat so they will be eating something somewhat healthy.
You beat me to it lol. And the crock pot food lasts a while if you make enough of it.
Me, my brother with a hollow leg, mom, and dad (both have big appetites) would use a 7 quart (massive) crock pot for things like corned beef, pot roast, and chilli. Those meals would last a week if we ate it for dinner every single day.
@@MsMaryPatricianew girlfriend, is that you? You're only getting his side of the story. For all we know, he's greatly exaggerated her behavior.
that first guy isn't just NOT the AH...but he has the law on his side. alienation of affection is actual legal grounds for divorce.
he's still catering to his ex too much. she needs to roll out of bed and be a better mother. keeping your house clean and cooking for your kids is part of being a Mom!!!
🙄 jeez Karen it’s 2023, stick the traditional housewife philosophy in the past.
my parents divorced when i was 9 years old, and i still to this day believe it was one of their best decisions. it made them happier, and my home felt much safer. also moving between two houses isnt that bad, just make sure that there is a proper system and that the childs things exist in both houses, like i had clothes in both houses etc
@@Local_Koala please don’t ever have kids if you’re not going to cook for for them. Please consider looking into how unhealthy fast food is…and how mentally unhealthy it is to live in a nasty home. I’m a liberal, sweetheart. But I’m a good Mom with a good marriage. You could learn something from people with successful kids and a successful relationship …in 2023🤷♀️
I think you're blaming the mom too much when he litterally let his s*xual frustrations be his number one priority instead of his own wife and kids. Both parents are in the picture, so both should be putting in equal effort in taking care of the kids.
I'm tired of mothers being blamed when they are the ones putting in the most effort to take care of kids but still somehow arnt doing enough imo 🤷♂️
i'm blaming the Mom for laying on her butt in her nasty house while she feeds her kids McDonalds because she won't cook for her kids. he clearly states that he cooks and even cooks and sends prepared foods over to her house. and he picks the kids up and takes them to school for her even on days when he doesn't have the kids. if you think that a mother should lay on her ass instead of getting up and taking her kids to school and stuffing them full of fast food, you don't ever need to have kids. that's not what normal Moms do to raise normal, healthy kids. maybe rewatch the video because it sounds exactly like you didn't hear a word of it.@@Poitostain
That first story, if the ex gets courts involved and it gets contentious, there is 100% cleanliness level expectations and expectations on how the kids are fed, especially if there’s any health issues which we obviously don’t know from the story but it’s there. My mother was the one who walked out and tried using the courts to ‘get back’ at my dad but due to her hoarding and refusal to acknowledge my health issues, she did not get what she wanted.
My mom did something similar to get my brothers and I taken out of the home. It's messed up. I hope you're doing well now
A friend of mine separated recentlu, 3 kids are 6,4 and 2. You can explain them why daddy has to move out, when the kids ask why he can’t stay she explains them that they had so many fights and now they are fighting less so it’s better also for the kids and they understand that
Idk which story number this applies too, they tend to run together sometimes. The one with the OP dad happily divorced and shows his childless gf "just how much he loves her", if he had expressed that to his wife, things may have been different. 3 kids can wear on you, if you're dealing with them all day everyday. They weren't all school age, so mom didn't get the break away like he did going to work. When he comes home, expects everything to be wonderful and excited to bow to his wants, that's not reality. Nobody lives happy like the Clevers.
Story 2: i would advise OP to pass over the car and see if there are any tracking devices on it, i suspect her and her friend's encounter at the grocery store was far less circumstancial than she thinks.
They found an AirTag on the car according to another update
I have full custody, after 2 years I got baby daddy to do every other weekend. It was life changing to sit at home for even a day to catch up in being human not just a mom.
Imagine being so entilted, lazy, and crazy that you would go claim your ex property as your own.
“I’m TiReD tOo”. This shows that he doesn’t help at all around the house or with the children, so what would make him attractive for her to want to sleep with him when she’s taking care of everything and all he’s doing is going to work. She’s stuck at home raising three small children. He gets to socialize and meet other adults while she does not. He literally is mad he didn’t get sex and of course he’d be happy 100% of the time bc he’s not watching the children always like he wasn’t before and gets sex whenever he wants. I don’t know if this is actual love with the new Gf. He loves the freedom he has
These Men literally wonder why their wives have no sex drive, and literally are too stupid to equate that It’s usually their fault.
Ohmygod! THANK YOU!!! I know you wrote this comment awhile ago but this was making me so mad! I heard a story about a man who abandoned his wife after she birthed 3 of his children! He barely mentioned how she might have been feeling in his description of things. Even the stuff about the messy house, not cooking, etc sounds like she might be depressed and not just lazy as he presented it. And I don't believe that a 1 night stand became "the love of his life" either. He is definitely just in love with his freedom. They should consider bringing a mom on this show from time to time. We never get that perspective and I've seen a lot of comments from mom's that watch the show but they're not being represented. Love this show though! Just might need that perspective on some of these stories.
A bachelor doesn’t drop off home cooked meals and dress and drive kids to school each morning. He is literally present on his weeks off and it still isn’t enough???
The first story just makes my blood boil- Those poor kids are being used as a pawn for their mother's happiness. The mom could have easily gone out and tried dating again just like OP did, and the fact that she called OP's girlfriend to guilt trip her for dating OP is just so manipulative. Not to mention the video of the kids getting excited over their parents being back together.
The way they're using the kids in this story is just so childish and immature.
Alimony is for her only. He doesn’t get to tell her how to spend it. Child support is to HELP with the children’s expenses only. As long as it’s spent on his kids he no right to even have a opinion. He can’t legally tell her what to cook in her own home. He can’t demand how clean her house is. As long as it’s not hoarder messy he has no right to even have a opinion. It’s her house. They aren’t married anymore. He has no control over it. His opinion or wants in her house doesn’t matter. Weird how he doesn’t want her but is still trying to act like he did when they where married. No wonder she thought they might get back together. The fact you think this man let alone any man has a right to control his ex so much is abusive and psychotic.
For everyone saying "call CPS" on the ex wife. Youd be surprised how much filth you can get away with even with multiple welfare checks. He would have to take her to court and it sounds like he doesn't want full custody so 🤷🏽♀️
I get that. Somehow my mother in law still has custody of my husband’s minor siblings despite her being a known hoarder who doesn’t clean up pet waste and lets the dishes collect mold in the sink for months. She’s also extremely abusive but that’s another story. My heart goes out to any kid that has a mom that unclean.
The system in place when it comes to where kids are placed is corrupt and very biased towards moms regardless of what they're like. My own mom was a drug addict and the courts pushed visits with her and even tried to have us placed in her care despite her not having anywhere to live or her own income without my dad. It's ridiculous.
It sounds like OP is still in the kids lives and they do every other week- Like- that arrangement could work so well if the mom just tried to put herself out there and find other ways to make herself happy without OP. Clearly the relationship didn't work out and won't work out now that OP moved on, the ex should move on too.
Story 1: isn't it funny how the wife didn't want him before the divorce but once he is happy and has someone else she wants him back. I hate pick me girls!
Edit: the update OMG! The wife is terrible. Not cleaning, not waking up early to get them ready for school, the cooking....now he is paying for a cleaning service. Just wow
I'm so angry for the children and girlfriend in story 1. My childhood bff's mom had convinced her that the divorce was her fault and that her grandma had died because she didn't visit her enough. It destroyed her sense of self worth as an adult. She felt like she didn't deserve good things and was self destructive.
Oh my god what a monster- I hope your friend is doing well now-
For the first story it’s funny how everyone doesn’t even ask if she was a stay at home mom or if she was watching the kids the most. Sounds like he could’ve solved that silly little problem by pitching in for daycare or stepping up more. He left because he didn’t have enough sex from her? Weak asf.
His story is very one sided, gotta hear the whole story imo
So I'm a single mom with shared custody and I agree with OP in the first story that having kid free time is great and doesn't mean I love my kids less. Its great not having to deal with my kids fighting all the time and I can actually decompress and be in a better head space when they come back. My kids have never felt like they are missing out on anything by not having mom and dad together and they are used to the arrangement because they have been doing it since they were little.
Ex manipulating and using others to help her is sickening
Yes OP is handling the whole thing AMAZINGLY
As a child of divorce, let me say that guy in the first story was right. It easier to be a good parent when you have breaks and rest. My parents weren't great, but they were always nicer and more calm after I came back from the other's house. I also babysat a lot and I saw how much money helps you be a parent. Many of the parents I worked for were able to hire me to watch their 2-4 times a month. Compared to the kids I worked with at the preschool, the rich kids were often better behaved and more self confident. This is because their parents could take brakes and out source interest to camps and after school programs. Being a person's one stop shop for basic needs, entertainment, and love is hard as fuck. Parents are humans and they need rest just like the rest of us.
I love the consistency. Every day a video 🫶🏻
I’m a single mom who works 40+ hours a week I don’t have my sons dad helping out much, if any ($15 here and there for snacks at the store cashapped to me) but no ME time at all. I love my son with everything I am, but I 100% know and agree with OP on story 1! He gets to be happy too. You should never stay together “for the kids” because you eventually end up hurting the kids if you do. He should be able to be happy and still love and support his kids. His ex is just wanting it easier for her no matter OP’s happiness or her kids (because chances are if they got back together then it would, at some point, go back to miserable land) I fully support the OP and hope he can get 50:50 custody of his kids and gets to keep the love of his life
First Story: Based on everything OP said, ESH, yes, even OP. His wife told him he was tired from having 3 small kids and he later admitted he prefers being a part-time parent. So my question is how involved was he with the kids in his marriage? Was he carrying his parental weight? Because his comments and the ex-wife’s original complaints indicate he probably wasn’t.
I have been divorced for five years now. Co parenting was the best decision ever. The mental break and ability to deep clean my house and go to the gym on days I don’t have my kid is a godsend and he actually stepped up to the plate and takes on 50% of the parenting work which was not the case when we lived together. Before he was very absent and let me shoulder all of the responsibilities. We have open communication and we even have family meetings when we are concerned about school work etc.
I highly recommend divorce
Judging purely from what we have here, it sounds like Op handled every step of the situation maturely and fairly.
How was she complaining to him to stop his little part time bachelor life, when she doesn't even do HALF the shit that most moms do?
Honestly when he says part time parent I don’t think he means “I only have to be a dad sometimes” it sounds to me. More so that his role as a father is no longer the only role he feels he has in life.
In life you’re gonna find you have certain roles in different aspects. The role of a daughter or son, the role of a spouse, the role of a parent, a friend, your job, maybe even in hobby communities you find you have a special role. If one role takes over every other role in your life, it feels like you’ve lost who you are to this one part of it.
Wanting to be able to balance your life roles is normal and 100% valid
Honestly OP of story one did everything right- people on reddit talk all the time about how unhappy people just end up cheating and they're shitty for it but this guy actually realized there was a problem and did the right thing for himself and his kids-
And yet his family still gives him flack :/
I enjoy my child free time now that my son is a bit older. When he was little, i hated it but i feel like my own person again. When i was together with his dad i was responsible for everything. Now if he wants to see his son, he has to do the parent stuff too and i think they have a better relationship now.
It always irritates me when people say they're child free, but get into serious relationships with parents. You could very well have to be a parental figure bc the other parent dies. Even if the child is an adult if I were CF I'd only date someone with one adult child bc if it's more than one it's more likely one of them will come live with you. It's just weird to me to be CHILD free and date someone with children.
But, for this OP is NTA. The wife couldn't change while they were together . This is giving misery loves company
There are a lot of people that choose not to have kids for sooooo many reasons. It doesn’t mean they can’t or won’t be a great STEP PARENT.
Your choice is super valid and you do you, but I don’t see the problem with them being a step parent if they have the kids best interests at heart.
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Vq
The basement is as batty as the attic! 😂
“She works full time as a therapist…kinda like us.” Hahahahaha 😆😆😂😂 Inlove how far the joke has gone
Depending how old the oldest is Dad should have hello fresh delivered so they can cook or just bring healthy snacks and food she's able to cook
First story, I’ve had my daughter live with my ex and she regretted it and wanted to come home for two years but he refused to let me see her. We’re happily together again, I would not change being a mother for my beautiful children.
I’m confused, you’re saying you ex did his best to alienate you from your child against your child’s will and then you got back together with this ex?? I’m genuinely asking because this makes no sense 😢
Story 1: I understand where OP comes from. My ex asked me once if I would get back together with him. I believe that it was a test to prove to his wife that I had some weird feelings of animosity towards her. I proceeded to tell him that my mental health stability and my conscience couldn't ever forgive him for every abuse he and his family did to me and the children. I don't want my children to endure it, let alone myself and I would not accept them or him. He acted like he had no idea what I meant. My ex suffers from PTSD and for him a lot of things he "conveniently" blacks out until it replays in his mind and he suffers from night terrors. I also explained that his wife has done him a solid by trying to limit their exposure to his toxic family, and while I believe he does well as a father to his children it doesn't change my opinion that I think he is a misogynist and abusive and no amount of years will ever change his thinking or actions he has displayed toward me or his wife. I also told him if he started to put his toxic way of thinking toward his children that I would do everything in my power to remove my children from residing with him. While yes he is misogynistic toward his partners, he isn't toward our daughter. He treats her like a princess. Our other child is neurodivergent and has said in the past that he doesn't like how his dad behaves toward me or his stepmother so thank goodness for that. Within the last 5 years, the friendship with my ex's wife and myself has gotten stronger. She had many realizations over the years from being in her marriage with my ex. She is one of the few women I actually consider a friend (all of my friends have always been men because I play video games and like sports, something my ex I believe has always hated). My ex used to be a friend but we aren't anymore and I could never go back to being friends with him either. I am just nice to him because we have children. After they both turn 18 I will be free of having to pretend to be nice.
My mother in law also had 2 sons. She criticised the one with her while praising the other one. Since we lived 2 hours away from her, and the older brother 12 hours away, my husband was put down most.
She did not like me and tried to tell my own mother how bad I am.
I was never good enough for my husband and she made sure to tell it to me when my husband was out. She talked to the other grandchildren wih friendly loving tone and told me how cute they were. One day while I we visited her and she thought that I was sleeping ( after breastfeeding).. I heard her talking to some children outside asif it was my brother in law's. When I stealthily peaked through the curtain whom she was talk8ng to, I almost fainted when it was mine.
Luckily shortly before her passing she told me that my sister in law was such a good wife, teacher, mother and housewife. At this point I was like an angry dog with neckhairs raising. Then she said BUT your children can do more than my sister in law's children. Only I barked angrily "Who says so" She said shocked by her compliment "I have eyes in my head. "
5:16 doesnt the mom also get to act like a kid free bachelorette over other week? Like i dont see what the issue is if it was working for a year or two then i domt see why they are messing with it
First story....At first, I was sympathising with the ex-wife. But that went away quickly.
Story2 The knowledge that Bestie is an immigrant with no family to turn to makes the ex so much worse. He knew she was isoloted. He knew exactly what he was doing to her. 😡
I hate when people use the excuse that they need to stay together for the kids... no you don't. Your too weak to leave an unhappy marriage, that's why they stay together. I was a child of this predicament, and my parents were miserable and faught all the time, and made me and my sisters miserable. When they finally split everyone was happy....
If the kids are in an unsafe environment or are missing any meals, then OP is the AH for not reporting it.
As far as the McDonald’s issue- OP could demand that she take the kids to healthier places such as SUBWAY and other places that are upgrading from McDonald’s
A question for John and Sam (if they see this): My friend wants to call in with a story but has crazy work hours. She wanted me to ask if anyone can call in at any hour and leave a story on your voicemail?
Yes! How it works is that they call in and leave a voicemail. Then Sam, John, I'm sure Producer Riley and others review them and select who to call back!
Yeah of course!
Great! I’ll pass the word on to my friend, she’ll be thrilled! She’s got a whopper of a story!
The marriage might not work. Things just happened that way. Ex-wife is an AH to call your GF. Your mother using the grand kids to force you back with your ex-wife is an AH move. But to say out loud that being a part-time dad is better than a full-time dad also makes you an AH.
Story 1:Wow his ex-wife is butt hurt that he is happier and a better parent than her! Mad respect on him for re-building his life! His mum is a whole other subject and I feel for him and his dad...😢
Idk why I was expecting Sam’s Artist story to end with the Bobs Burgers butthole thing. Hahaha.
I can’t help feel that OP relationship with his gf is not going to last if she actually childfree. What happens if the childcare agreement changes? What happens when the relationship eventually moves forward? Like is she planning to just never see the kids on his weeks. Or never progress to the point she moves in. This just seems like a relationship that’s going no where, as this man has FOUR kids and she wants none. They are just building an relationship to cause hurt.
"I've never seen anything" - John 2023
“This is accurate” - John
We need more Sam stories lmao
Hahaha that one was crazy
I wish my kids dad could get his shit together so I can have every other week off. I’ve been doing it by myself always. My son is 13 and daughter 9. Parents need breaks.
They are still the same people, nothing has changed. If it didn't work before it won't now. There is zero reason to think that things would change if they tried again. He's doing the right thing. I hope he can convince his current girlfriend of this and how much she means to him.
Story 1: At least he didn't cheat, but a lot of people need to think about their safety first in a relationship before they get in bed with their first, second, and so on.
Use protection or men, get a vasectomy, it will save your wallet, and its reversable!
When op first began his story, it sounded typical of a family with 3 young kids. The mom is tired from taking care of the kids all day and dad is tired from work, both thinking theyre pulling the majority of the weight and neither talking about it. The more the story winds on and questions are answered, it seems more and more like the mom only puts in minimum effort required for any given task, including her relationship with her husband.
*Bearing in mind that we only have one side of the story.
It looks like this man (with the updates) took more of the childcare than the ex did. Come HE woke up early to go to HER house to get the kid ready for school, cleaned her house, and he was even sending cooked for the famiy while while we're divorced. At this point dude can get full child custody because even working and living apart is the main children care. When op didn't have a partner ex thought he will still do things for her, now he has a girlfriend she knows he start pulling away from her so she will have to do more child care. Why she kicked up a fush about ghe change. Only reason she trying to get back with him so he keeps being a doormat and maid for her.
"Cut it off" 🤬😭😭🤣😂😂 okay honestly I can't I feel for ppl Who are lacking intimacy in their marriages. I'm grateful that me and my husband do not have issues in that department ever. We are always super excited to sleep with each other lol 😅 like teenagers. But unfortunately that does not Soli uphold a marriage and we failed and so many other ways. I haven't spoke to him in weeks but that's normal.
First story…I have to say ETA, mother for obvious reasons, but OP sounds like therapy only became an option just now for the kids. Why didn’t OP suggest therapy after the third child was born, and I’m sorry but three kids that close in age, there are going to be a lot of hormonal changes in wife…she may not even be aware, and it doesn’t have anything to do with postpartum.
Honestly, i would lawyer up for the first story and take the kids full time. That is NOT good for their mental wellbeing
For the second story, the dad could probably call in a welfare check on the ex-wife if he believes she isn’t providing a safe/healthy/sanitary life for their children.
Eating junk food all week is going to affect the kid's health and it's teaching them the wrong skills to become a healthy adult. So I'd say yes, OP in story 1 is entitled to demand a healthier diet at his ex' place. But there's probably laws to defend the mum's actions, cuz body autonomy blabla, and it's probably not bad enough for CPS or a legal route to go through. I guess the best OP can do is to teach the kids about a healthy diet and clean home on the days they're with him and teach them to speak up for themselves when mum wants to go to MC Donalds for the 7th day in a row.
This makes me wonder why they bothered having kids. They didn't plan and just had three babies. And now it's like they are some burden to both of them. That's terrible for the kids.
I lived with parents that were never happy together. It was better when they broke up XD when you are a child you think that mommy and daddy together is the best but it's not. Both parents being miserable and volatile around each other is not worth it and it also sends a negative message to the children. They will understand that they have to stay in hurtful relationships to keep others happy.
I was confused about the "scolded for parkinglot confrontation" by who? By the police?
I’d like to volunteer for Sam’s love island experience 🙋🏼♀️
The ex manipulating the kids like that is Parental Manipulation. I'd get my divorce lawyer on that, stat. and get the kids therapy.
First story, op should be able to enforce a certain level of cleanliness but we hear all the horror stories of kids eating junk or not getting food at all and the system doesnt fix it so not sure op can enforce a better menu than mcd’s. Best option is to teach the kids how to make certain things and send them home the meal kits to put it together like crockpot chili, etc etc. also educating the children on why mcd’s is bad if they keep telling mom this is not best for our growth she may get sick of it and start doing better even if its just hot soup and a sandwich. I dont think op was the ah at any time. The ex wife is manipulative and apathetic. Better off away from her and showing the kids what happy looks like. When they are grown up they could very well not want anything to do with their mother and its no ones fault but the ex wife.
Maybe she wanted that to happen or maybe she was taking care of everything with no breaks. That is a different level of tired and breeds seething resentment. He could really appreciate the child free time because he has to actually take care of his kids, when he has them.
It would be interesting to hear both sides. They both(and grandma) suck hard. All he is talking about is how great it is for HIM to be a pt parent. It isn't for the kids. They are all selfish af. He will do whatever he has to, to protecf his kids, except raise them FT!
Raising kids part time is way easier for sure.
Sam, there was probably something bad in the cake
Every other week we is not part time. That some time. He’s a some time parent
why was the first one start by stating he doesnt want to be with his kids? he seems to be doing a beter job of caring for and being in their lives. and oof comeing in to your ex house everymorning and see the messy home situation on top how is he handeling that without there being conflict?
I’m gonna be honest. It sounds like OP was a shit husband and didn’t put in the work the first time around. Of course it’s “better” now. Mom should also go have fun and get her spark back
Story 1 that ex wife is lazy and very unstable
I wish yall would tell me how to raise my kids. I got 2 no law can tell me how to raise my damn kids.
The guy is the AH... No parents shouldn't stay together for the kids. But how is it fair that he gets to live is life and proud of being a part time dad. A part time dad is a baby-sitter, not a father. Being a parent is a FULL TIME JOB, not half the time. Most mothers don't have kids to be away from the half the time either. Don't have kids if you don't want what's best for them... FIRST. Human or not. When you have kids your free time is over.
Yes, you are a "lesser parent" for thinking that being a part-time parent is better. I would hate to be away from my children every other week. I want nothing more than to have them here all the time, which is how most parents feel. If he doesn't want to be with the ex because he doesn't love her, that's fine. But saying that you really enjoy being a part-time parent and don't want to give that up is gross.
It's also gross to have 3 kids with a woman and complain she doesn't fuck you enough, then compare her to a childless woman. Having and caring for kids is hard and will always slow down your sex life. It comes with parenting. It's hard to know what was really going on in their marriage without hearing both sides. People tend to paint themselves in the best light possible.
Lol, part-time dad. Good. Thing he got vasectomy.
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Bro I understand ya freedom every other week but you should be the full time parent passing them back off to mom is going to ruin all that hard work you’re doing as they get older . Your ex wife will only get more bitter especially cause it’s how you want it not her
It sounds like they both should've poured more into their marriage when they were together. Especially the wife. She should've definitely made time for her husband's needs. It's too bad she didn't see his needs as her needs aswell. I also wish he would've been more patient before resulting to divorce because although I don't like how he was treated in the marriage being neglected sexually I do agree that it's selfish to raise your kids in different homes for the sake of your happiness.
It's not though? Because when someone is unhappy in a relationship it shows. Did you not hear how the children were upset by watching their parents be unhappy? It's better for children to grow up in separate homes than for the parents to stay together and foster a bad home environment. Its not selfish at all.
I'm tempted to call but only story o have is just a am i the asshole story ive always Wonder since i was 17
Story 1. Sorry but celebrating being a part-time parent is pathetic and very selfish.
Kids didn't sign up to be part-time kids for part-time parents.
They are your responsibility you have them you take care of them
Sam's voice is like hot chocolate.
THIRD COMMENT!!!!!
My husband and I had 4 kids, and have been married for 22 years. We are still intimate at least 3 times per week. Is that not the norm? (I’m being sincere, that’s just not a topic my friend’s group talks about.)
I’m a firm disbeliever in divorce. I think marriage should only be for two individuals who know there is no undoing the union and understand the seriousness of the act. Marriage needs to mean more to a couple than a piece of paper, otherwise there would literally be no point. If you do believe in divorce, it needs to be called something else.
“I don’t know what power held me from committing a felony” probably because you’re probably like a girl realizing you probably don’t stand a chance against a man who probably outweighs you by 60+ lbs at minimum.
P.S. oh look, OP’s sense of intelligence and survival kicked in and she realized she’s probably massively smaller than the guy. Like I don’t condone what the freak is doing, but OP should’ve recognized earlier on that when you’re the smaller and weaker person, you’re literally just egging the guy on. Have some sense of basic survival instincts and realize when you’re in danger instead of acting tough.
First story only thing I don’t agree with is I don’t think it should be looked as “fun” w/o your kids. Why would you be happy to not have your babies around 24/7? Yes I know it’s stressful. I am a single mom & I do it by myself but I wouldn’t have it any other way. I would HATE if my daughter left me for 2 weeks out of the month!!
And that’s fine if that’s what you want, but people shouldn’t be shamed or looked at as lesser parents because they enjoy things outside of parenthood. In fact, having a life outside of the kids is very healthy, especially as they start to get older and to need their own independence.