Ikr. Sometimes people asking like "are you sure" question. I mean, this is really offending, like we don't have equality as lgbtqa. Non-lgbtqa will not receive question "are you sure you are hetero"?
Yes of course guys can be asexual too...but I think they are more apprehensive about coming out...bcoz people might just brush them off saying that men can't be asexual, they are just impotent.
I am a boy with very less sexual attraction...i liked one girl in my college..and no body i liked in entire life...from school onwards I was labelled as Gay...Napunsak...etc etc comments...i was bullied a lot in school
there seems to extra "be macho man" type of pressure and bullying in men groups, it can even become abuse so men tend to hide behind a facade of standard men behaviour for longer time.
I am so happy that there are Indian Aces coming out. As a fellow Indian Aro Ace girl I really appreciate this video. And yeah cake is better than sex. [Update Edit: I am also Agender and use They/She pronouns 😁.]
I have friends but zero sexual relationships. I hate any sexual contact. I don’t even masterbate. I have zero sexual feelings every normal way. The world is consumed with sex and I don’t understand why. Imagine the world being obsessed with a lawn mower or a couch. That’s how I feel.
Well we do need sex to reproduce the population... but other than for that it is useless. I personally believe I am aromantic asexual, however, I do engage in masturbation... so yeah.
I am a computer scientist,who is taking a break and working on creating a dating site for Aces!!!...Not just Aces ,but also for orientation specific dating!!!....The gender fluid heuristics are a bit of a problem,but we will work it out!!!!!!...
I am asexual but I really don’t want to explain to people what is asexual because it’s weird explaining people that I am not turned on by sex that is why I really haven’t come out as ace
I am indian asexual and I recently realised it , I tried to tell it to my best friend , and she scolded me ☹️ Seeing this video really helped me and I am soo relieved that it's made by indian people .
DAMN I love asexual people SO MUCH! These kind of media pieces did not exist when I was growing up, and now I find reflections of my own personal truth like this all over the internet. Thank you people for being here! You are so adored. Keep being your beautiful selves.
"It's so personal to you and it's so non-apparent that you can easily get through your entire life without having to tell anyone except your partners. And it doesn't change a thing." This is so true in my case.
I don't understand why people think they have to let everyone else know their sexuality. Nobody asks me stupid questions, because I don't tell anyone that I'm ace. It's the least important aspect of who I am. It means almost nothing to me, and it shouldn't mean anything to anyone else either, because it's no one's business but mine. The only people who seem to care about everyone else's sexuality are those who insist on defining themselves with it as well. They have a compulsive need to classify and label every little thing around them. It's infuriating.
I think it has to do with a sex obsession hiding in the unconscious mind in which surfaces and or manifests in a way in which people fight it so hard. Kind of like the stereotypical over the top straight dude who's tring to mask his homosexuality and or bisexual nature that may be within him. In short people are afraid of being human and driven by sexual instinct.
Right.. People are always talking about dating, sex, and other things and I feel so uncomfortable every single time. I don’t want to know about your sexuality because I don’t give af.
I just came out to my friends recently about being asexual, and lmaoo I can’t blame them if they responded to me that “oh, we need to cure you” and “you haven’t met the right person yet”, but I got annoyed to my other friend who keeps saying we need TO GET U CURED!! I kept saying stop formally and explaining but he did not listen and kept saying we NEE TO CURE HER! I- ._.
Some asexuals DO have and ENJOY sex so it's important to state that as well. Asexuality relates to not experiencing sexual attraction...it's not only related to not enjoying/having sex, although there are some asexuals that are sex repulsed (they do not engage in or desire sex). I enjoyed the video, but there are many more categories that fall under ace umbrella, we don't want to leave them out.
I don't understand why people who enjoy having sex want to identify as asexuals. Ok so you don't experience sexual attraction in general, but is this lack of attraction posing any problem in your life if you are fine with having sex and even claim to enjoy it? Like what's the point of trying to identify as an asexual?
@@prarthanasinha5826 "I don't understand why people who enjoy having sex want to identify as asexuals."They identify as asexual because they still dont find people sexually attractive. Just because a person is asexual doesnt mean they dont have a libido. All the plumbing still works.
@@prarthanasinha5826 Its like telling a bisexual person in a hetero relationship, "Why call yourself bi if you are in a straight relationship. Your attraction isn't posing any problem in your life if you are fine with having sex with your partner and even claim to enjoy it" A lot of the times people don't realize that they are spouting the same arguments people had against LGBT and its really harmful to the community. P.S. If the question was asked from a place of pure curiosity then sorry but it really does more harm than you think. Read up more. Its all about validation and realizing you are not broken,
I do have a question. Why in the name of all that is Holy would I even care? in my experience, it's family, parents and grandparents who asked the younger generation when they're getting married and having kids. It's your older relatives who want to make sure they're taken care of; it's selfish, or jealousy, because you chose a different life over spawning, but they'll use the excuse that they just care about your happiness. Anyone else who asks is just rude; it's not their business, and you are within your rights to tell them so. I'm hetero, into sex, but it doesn't matter. What you do or not do with your own body is nobody else's damn business. I chose not to breed. My reasons are my own. I'm not in a relationship right now. My reasons are my own. As it's been put, tradition is peer pressure by dead people, but World culture is changing with the availability of Information online. People the world over are discovering ways other than their own, and it's allowing us all to realize that there's no such thing as normal. We as a species are far too diverse.
Oh God this is the video i wanted to see. I also dont get turned on by my partners. They told me that i have some kind of problem inside. But i felt no need to do sex neither it disguised me. So i wasn't aware of being asexual.
If there are asexual guys. I wanna meet them for sure. Because i like boys only for cuddles and kisses (if i come to intimacy) i am more romantic but not sexual
then its sexual do you kiss you parents or any one with any other intension of kiss for example just by seeing someone lips you want kiss them is sexual asexual are people who don't watch any movie scene also.
@@dmeditz8100 asexuality is a spectrum actually, it’s not so back and white, there’s also greysexuals who can feel sexual attraction occasionally plus more
Asexual people need to come out because here in India arrange marriage is prevalent , imagine getting married to a asexual person, how will be possible to live without sex (in this case you being a sexual person).
More importantly imagine how hard it would be for the asexual person, like people can live without intercourse but having to be forced or pressured into it especially when you're repulsed by it would be horrible.
As someone who is dating an asexual, this video was a great way to know some certain things. I love her and personality I feel like love is more than sexual intimacy and ofc I have my desires but I will not do anything because she told me before we start dating. Tbh, it is like a relationship just nothing sexual. One tip in my opinion is that self control.
The first girl is hilarious, would love to be friends with her And yep, cake is definitely better than sex. Make it an ice cream cake and you've made our lives.
Exactly. My family, ever since I told them that I don't get attracted to anyone, any sex, and that I don't want to get marriage, they treat me like some kind of a freak. They told me to try to change it, I mean how come? I will hurt a person with it. I don't want to have sex, have no desire to get a partner even though I enjoy romantic movies/dramas, have no plan to get married and start a family. However, my family is a religious one. And that they believe every people need to get married and reproduce. Do any of you have solution for it? I already told them my psychological report but they still ignore it.
@@rehanjoes8093 um,brother chill-just wait till the quarantine is over and go socialize ,u gotta find someONE.Your not gonna find a girlfriend so easily in the internet-,---u sound desperate..
@@rehanjoes8093 im pansexual,i love all humans.No,im not asexual ,i want $ex in the future.Im here bc theres a girl im thinking of dating but idk if i can :/ bcs shes asexual and at one point i would like to have sex...so im trying to get over it all.
I am boy, but in heart i always felt as girl, i always attracted towards a boy. I felt strange and sinful about how my body and mind works, But only now i could accept it. But really, i am not even able to imagine how an asexuals thought would work. Really, the GOD must be fine artist showing his stuff on us.
I am ace.When I told my parents I don't need marriage,they called me names.I paid them 3/4 th of my salary for 10 yrs & 10 months,out of which 9 months is when I was in that crazy Woman's womb then got out of their life.I purchased a flat & living happily last 28 yrs
yeah, i myself am an ace but i would never have the gut of telling my parents. the fear of being disowned is just to much for me, especially when i have social anxiety. i am proud of you for having the courage of coming out to your parents
Well my parents are kind of traditional, so they were like if you don't get married you are gonna suffer alone and mommy would be sad. Well for me it's not like I don't want to love or date, I just don't want to hangout in bed( if you know what I mean) if I ever want children, I would rather have foster children rather than having my own. But my parents are like not into the idea of that. Well thank you for reading my confession I hope who ever read this have a great day ✌😊✌
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As a asexual girl l can relate l am 20 and some people tell me you're young to understand all this intimacy.. like dude l am not too young to know who l am..
As a panromantic hetero-demisexual, I can relate to it. As a teenager I never had crushes. Later, as a college student, a young adult, when I failed to like people back or accept that it's normal for them to randomly approach me, my friends labeled me as a lesbian. Why people can't understand there are these "QIAA" after "LGBT".
Do whatever the fucc you want, just be honest if you are getting into a relationship. Don't betray them. AND explore everything before getting into a relationship, after letting him/her invest so much emotions and feelings into the relationship, one day if you drop the bomb saying "hey, YK what? I don't want to have segss with you throughout my life" they'll get fuckin shattered.
I felt some kind of unnecessary seriousness on this video. An asexual person is someone that does not feel sexual arousal, and that's it, nothing special about it. If you find a person, and start dating that person, and somewhere along the road you want to have sex with that person, and that person says: "sorry, but, i don't like sexual intercourse" or something like that, you just have to decide if you want to have a sexless relationship or not. But, i think that an asexual person should put the question of sex in the table during the first date, to avoid future lacks of understanding.
Ummm asexuals can still be open to sex tho??? Lack of sexual attraction is different than doing it. Its serious because people usually get the "You will find the right person" card anytime they want to come out and people just dont believe them. Atleast with this people are educated enough.
@@nadlax5920 hedonism? naa man we were quite liberal about sex but not realy sex crazed bitches other wise we would not have books on medicine, maths, astrology women were never treated as spoils of war or sex slaves we had many temples dedicated to women...we had the concept of brahmacharya(celebasy also)..one of the greatest warriors in mahabharatha was sikhandi a trans... i think you should read more books and yeah when british translated our scriptures they did it half hazzardly and on purpose
Actually i don't know if I am asexual . Kissing and hugging doesn't bother me even I watch adult drama that makes me feel good but i dont like sex .it's really bothers me if someone touch me .it doesn't make me feel good .i read get attracted to boys but i dont have any intention to have sex even i don't like sex that's bother me .i want to know myself better but i dont know whom to share . I have no courage to say this to my family . they might think i must be joking and they will laugh at me that makes me feel disgusting.maybe i am not asexual but i really don't like sex that's why i am virgin till now and i don't have any desire to do sex in future .i just want a peaceful life
you do sound like asexual to me. Why do you think you may not be? Asexuals do not feel sexual attraction but many of them feel sensual attraction like the desire to hug, kiss, cuddle etc.
@@rahul28ish I wish I knew the answer. But as it seems, there's absolutely nothing that can give away who's asexual and who's not. Even many asexuals themselves aren't sure about it, so many of them are still questioning like the original commenter here. I guess homosexuals are much more sure about themselves than asexuals. But I always find it intriguing how gay/lesbians recognise each other. How this gaydar thing works is really a mystery to me. I mean it certainly isn't as simple as masculine women = lesbian or feminine men = gay.
Is being asexual a mental illness? I really do not have a desire to have sex with anyone male or female. Asexual people need some sort of support group. I wish there was a dating site for asexual people.
Cake ain't better than sex....massage is...took me 10 years of sexual activity to realise why i didn't enjoy sex as to why i just did it. I enjoyed hugs cuddle holding hands..but not the intercourse..now it makes sense...i used to love the massage that used to come as a complement from my ex girlfriends..i am an asexual.. -from an indian man
3:17 hreat advice, i am not sure about my being asexual but yes i can understand. Lot of people are not aware of this and might get in romantic relationships due to peer pressure but not have those urges.
It is much easier this way I guess. You don't need to drool for every beautiful person you meet in school everyday and knowing you won't get it but still trying 😭
not to attack you or anything but sometimes it's really confusing... you don't even know what kind of attraction you are feeling towards a person... is it aesthetic or emotional or platonic or sensual... and because world around us is so hyper sexualised that it makes you feel broken and feel like something is wrong with you... but there is nothing wrong... we are still people. we still want to fall in love .. we still want to be in a relationship and find that special someone but without feeling like we owe our partners sex in return for that.
Recently discovered that I am Asexual. I found the folks in this video so relatable, and I could not stop laughing. I am also Grey Ace, and married. For me, sexual attraction did occur after marriage, although sex is not a motivating factor in our relationship. For you, this might not be the case.
Are there any heteroromantic asexual women here who live in Bangalore, and are open to dating? I’ve looked on every dating app out there, and could find nothing. :(
Tell me when you find a good and safe dating app for us. Heteroromantic asexual here. I'd like to meet you but sorry I'm in West Bengal and will soon move to vizag.
@@gitanjalisingh2216 No I meant immaturity level. What we consider as fine in the area of immaturity. Like I have seen late 20 year olds consider the immaturity of playing in aggressive waves fine. But late 30 year olds don’t.
The more i explain aro/ace stuff to people.. The more private.. Ridiculous their questions gets.. A lot of guys will bully.. So i don't even try explaining anymore.
"If you're having cofee with a person en the first date, nothing changes about the date if the person is asexual." I'm sorry, but this is totally false. The expectatives and feelings of both participants are equally valuable: if one of them need sex and the other don't, the experience changes globally. You can't invisibilize asexual people, and you can't invisibilize allosexual people either. You have to recognize both, with equal honesty and respect.
Being an Indian if you go to your parents and tell them that your asexual then they be like '' oh great then we don't have to worry about you being late at night cause you don't feel any sexual attraction to anyone.'' Me: fuck man🤯 that's not what I wanted to say
People look at me like an 👽 and awkward silence. Long stare, very long silence. I dont even get comments just 👁👄👁. I am a girl and was called a eunuch. Really? Really?
Well if u dont mind may I know why ur here sir? U know anyone like this or ur just trying to understand these terms? And congratulations on ur ph.d sir.
@@Naam_name yes, there 2 reasons, I came here. One of my friend recently confessed that he is grey-asexual. And secondly, I was curious about these spectrums!!
There's alot. We have just been force fed the idea that there's only "straight and gay", for DECADES. That's why it seems confusing, but I hope you're willing to learn about all of LGBT+.
Maim kya hum ek badi raili nahi kar sakte kyoki smaz mansik taiur pe partadit karta hai apke beta ya beti ki abhi shadi nhi huyi to smaz se bolna chahungi ye question puchna bund karo full stop lgau kyoki wo ASEXUAL bhi ho sakta hai jise Sanbhog ki zrurat nhi lgti to wo kyo karga shadi 😡😡😡
In hetero family also , though they called father mother sister and brother......they having sexual touches on their organs when they are in mood......( If we not engaging with them sexually). Then they treating us as slaves....😳😲😰😓. Same in relatives & work location too... I'm frustrated to live 😭😭😭😭😭
Yes they can But if they want to have sex then it depends whether the asexual person is sex repulsed , neutral or is comfortable An asexual person can have sex to satisfy their libido but they just don't have sexual attraction towards any gender Asexuality is a huge spectrum so yeah
Being an asexual I've received pretty much all the comments that they mentioned! Finally a video that feels relatable!
Ikr. Sometimes people asking like "are you sure" question. I mean, this is really offending, like we don't have equality as lgbtqa. Non-lgbtqa will not receive question "are you sure you are hetero"?
Hii ashwini so would you stay single forever?
Ashwini i hope abb sab thik ho gaya hoga
Being an asexual man i just wanna say that,we don't crave for sex but we need to be loved we deserve to be loved.
yeah romcoms are nightmares for me lmao
One thing that I noticed is that there are no boys. They can also be asexuals.
Yes of course guys can be asexual too...but I think they are more apprehensive about coming out...bcoz people might just brush them off saying that men can't be asexual, they are just impotent.
I am a boy with very less sexual attraction...i liked one girl in my college..and no body i liked in entire life...from school onwards I was labelled as Gay...Napunsak...etc etc comments...i was bullied a lot in school
Former ace boy here. Thanks! I've since realized I'm actually an ace girl, but ace boys are hella valid
I am an asexual male
there seems to extra "be macho man" type of pressure and bullying in men groups, it can even become abuse so men tend to hide behind a facade of standard men behaviour for longer time.
I am so happy that there are Indian Aces coming out. As a fellow Indian Aro Ace girl I really appreciate this video. And yeah cake is better than sex.
[Update Edit: I am also Agender and use They/She pronouns 😁.]
@@rehanjoes8093 hello,how are u feeling??
haloo shalini
😄 Yes I'm an aroace too
Yes very true 👍
Hello Shalini I m also an Asexual.....and looking for an Asexual life partner
I have friends but zero sexual relationships. I hate any sexual contact. I don’t even masterbate. I have zero sexual feelings every normal way. The world is consumed with sex and I don’t understand why. Imagine the world being obsessed with a lawn mower or a couch. That’s how I feel.
Well we do need sex to reproduce the population... but other than for that it is useless. I personally believe I am aromantic asexual, however, I do engage in masturbation... so yeah.
This is so accurate
It's biology. What's so difficult to understand? Humans are wired that way. Food and sex makes us drool
We need male asexual perspective too.If they are not comfortable showing their faces..blur it out..let all gender voices be heard
Are you an ace too ? I haven't really heard Indian guys being aces
What's an ace?
@@varshakashyap6415 An ace is an asexual person. It's the short form.😉
Yes! 💜
@@varshakashyap6415 apki problem solve nahi hui abhi tak
*MaYbE YoU hAvEn’T fOunD tHe RiGhT pErSon yeT*
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Face palm
Heh, eyy I came out recently and they responded to me like this-
I am a computer scientist,who is taking a break and working on creating a dating site for Aces!!!...Not just Aces ,but also for orientation specific dating!!!....The gender fluid heuristics are a bit of a problem,but we will work it out!!!!!!...
👍
that's very good work!
Thats great.
that will be awesome. imagine connecting with other aces. please let us all know when you do so 💜🖤
Me thinking the same
Lucky are those who are asexual and have a partner who's also asexual and they understand each other's situation
Aap bhi asexual ho?
@@sonipal6270 yes
Hum log ek dusre ko dhunde kaise 😩
@@muskanaulakh4528 U never felt urge to hv sex? (I can't imagine this, I wish I was u)
Hello Indian friends let's meet on fb
"cake is better than sex" LOVE IT! :D
I totally agree
Cake is better than hetero-sex😋
Rowdog Does Politics! She’s a classic liberal air head. LESBIAN
Cake ace or dragon ace lol
Only people who'd say that haven't had corndogs. Now corndogs are better than sex.
I am asexual but I really don’t want to explain to people what is asexual because it’s weird explaining people that I am not turned on by sex that is why I really haven’t come out as ace
Netherlands but why
We need an asexual international cruise ship. I'm so for it.
Won't have to worry about sexual assault, which happens on almost every "ordinary" cruise.
I am indian asexual and I recently realised it , I tried to tell it to my best friend , and she scolded me ☹️
Seeing this video really helped me and I am soo relieved that it's made by indian people .
You are so lucky do you know !!! I am straight and sexual and I also want to be a asexual . . You are the one of luckiest man/women on planet ❤ .
@@indrajeetsingh-ev3ig so I'm not the only one who is straight/sexual and wants to be an asexual....yes ,asexuals are really lucky.
well you'll can choose to be celibate anytime 😂
@@yorichitsugikuni8414 How do you guys mean? Please explain.
Eyeless abb apki problem solve ho gayi
DAMN I love asexual people SO MUCH! These kind of media pieces did not exist when I was growing up, and now I find reflections of my own personal truth like this all over the internet.
Thank you people for being here! You are so adored. Keep being your beautiful selves.
"It's so personal to you and it's so non-apparent that you can easily get through your entire life without having to tell anyone except your partners. And it doesn't change a thing." This is so true in my case.
Sumagya abhi bhi sab wesa hai?
1:29 this girl is really funny.subtitles r not doing justice(throughout the video)😁
I don't understand why people think they have to let everyone else know their sexuality. Nobody asks me stupid questions, because I don't tell anyone that I'm ace. It's the least important aspect of who I am. It means almost nothing to me, and it shouldn't mean anything to anyone else either, because it's no one's business but mine.
The only people who seem to care about everyone else's sexuality are those who insist on defining themselves with it as well. They have a compulsive need to classify and label every little thing around them. It's infuriating.
I think it has to do with a sex obsession hiding in the unconscious mind in which surfaces and or manifests in a way in which people fight it so hard. Kind of like the stereotypical over the top straight dude who's tring to mask his homosexuality and or bisexual nature that may be within him. In short people are afraid of being human and driven by sexual instinct.
Well I believe in India this is still a big problem for many people, so visibility is important.
This!!
@@nadlax5920 You have any arguments for this?
Right.. People are always talking about dating, sex, and other things and I feel so uncomfortable every single time. I don’t want to know about your sexuality because I don’t give af.
I just came out to my friends recently about being asexual, and lmaoo I can’t blame them if they responded to me that “oh, we need to cure you” and “you haven’t met the right person yet”, but I got annoyed to my other friend who keeps saying we need TO GET U CURED!! I kept saying stop formally and explaining but he did not listen and kept saying we NEE TO CURE HER! I- ._.
If anyone said to me that they will/wanna cure me, that would be the last time I will have spoken to that person.
Hazel so sad
Same
I wish there was some kind of annual Summit for us that was free to attend or something 😆🤣😭🌼🌼🌼🥺
Couldn't agree more💯💫
Some asexuals DO have and ENJOY sex so it's important to state that as well. Asexuality relates to not experiencing sexual attraction...it's not only related to not enjoying/having sex, although there are some asexuals that are sex repulsed (they do not engage in or desire sex). I enjoyed the video, but there are many more categories that fall under ace umbrella, we don't want to leave them out.
I agree there is alot more to asexuality. But it's a new community in india after LGBTQIA+ community got accepted
I don't understand why people who enjoy having sex want to identify as asexuals. Ok so you don't experience sexual attraction in general, but is this lack of attraction posing any problem in your life if you are fine with having sex and even claim to enjoy it? Like what's the point of trying to identify as an asexual?
@@prarthanasinha5826 "I don't understand why people who enjoy having sex want to identify as asexuals."They identify as asexual because they still dont find people sexually attractive. Just because a person is asexual doesnt mean they dont have a libido. All the plumbing still works.
@@prarthanasinha5826 Its like telling a bisexual person in a hetero relationship, "Why call yourself bi if you are in a straight relationship. Your attraction isn't posing any problem in your life if you are fine with having sex with your partner and even claim to enjoy it" A lot of the times people don't realize that they are spouting the same arguments people had against LGBT and its really harmful to the community.
P.S. If the question was asked from a place of pure curiosity then sorry but it really does more harm than you think. Read up more. Its all about validation and realizing you are not broken,
@@prarthanasinha5826 Right!😊
I do have a question. Why in the name of all that is Holy would I even care? in my experience, it's family, parents and grandparents who asked the younger generation when they're getting married and having kids. It's your older relatives who want to make sure they're taken care of; it's selfish, or jealousy, because you chose a different life over spawning, but they'll use the excuse that they just care about your happiness. Anyone else who asks is just rude; it's not their business, and you are within your rights to tell them so. I'm hetero, into sex, but it doesn't matter. What you do or not do with your own body is nobody else's damn business. I chose not to breed. My reasons are my own. I'm not in a relationship right now. My reasons are my own. As it's been put, tradition is peer pressure by dead people, but World culture is changing with the availability of Information online. People the world over are discovering ways other than their own, and it's allowing us all to realize that there's no such thing as normal. We as a species are far too diverse.
" Would I even care? "
Ah!, Acephobia is reeking here.
Oh God this is the video i wanted to see. I also dont get turned on by my partners. They told me that i have some kind of problem inside. But i felt no need to do sex neither it disguised me. So i wasn't aware of being asexual.
U never felt urge to hv sex? (I can't imagine this, I wish I was u)
Oh afreen good👍nice through. Abb apko koi problem to nahi hoti
If there are asexual guys. I wanna meet them for sure. Because i like boys only for cuddles and kisses (if i come to intimacy) i am more romantic but not sexual
Hello Afreen I m from India
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then its sexual do you kiss you parents or any one with any other intension of kiss for example just by seeing someone lips you want kiss them is sexual asexual are people who don't watch any movie scene also.
@@dmeditz8100 asexuality is a spectrum actually, it’s not so back and white, there’s also greysexuals who can feel sexual attraction occasionally plus more
it's me, i don't like sex too
Asexual people need to come out because here in India arrange marriage is prevalent , imagine getting married to a asexual person, how will be possible to live without sex (in this case you being a sexual person).
It is possible to live without sex but you won't understand it
More importantly imagine how hard it would be for the asexual person, like people can live without intercourse but having to be forced or pressured into it especially when you're repulsed by it would be horrible.
As someone who is dating an asexual, this video was a great way to know some certain things.
I love her and personality I feel like love is more than sexual intimacy and ofc I have my desires but I will not do anything because she told me before we start dating. Tbh, it is like a relationship just nothing sexual.
One tip in my opinion is that self control.
The first girl is hilarious, would love to be friends with her
And yep, cake is definitely better than sex.
Make it an ice cream cake and you've made our lives.
Salad😁
Exactly. My family, ever since I told them that I don't get attracted to anyone, any sex, and that I don't want to get marriage, they treat me like some kind of a freak.
They told me to try to change it, I mean how come? I will hurt a person with it.
I don't want to have sex, have no desire to get a partner even though I enjoy romantic movies/dramas, have no plan to get married and start a family.
However, my family is a religious one. And that they believe every people need to get married and reproduce.
Do any of you have solution for it? I already told them my psychological report but they still ignore it.
@@rehanjoes8093 dude you did the same thing with @Far Syedand you sound really hopeless there.
@@rehanjoes8093 are u lookin for a relationship?just asking.
@@rehanjoes8093 um,brother chill-just wait till the quarantine is over and go socialize ,u gotta find someONE.Your not gonna find a girlfriend so easily in the internet-,---u sound desperate..
@@rehanjoes8093 im a girl,dont think about it im GAY
@@rehanjoes8093 im pansexual,i love all humans.No,im not asexual ,i want $ex in the future.Im here bc theres a girl im thinking of dating but idk if i can :/ bcs shes asexual and at one point i would like to have sex...so im trying to get over it all.
I am boy, but in heart i always felt as girl, i always attracted towards a boy. I felt strange and sinful about how my body and mind works, But only now i could accept it. But really, i am not even able to imagine how an asexuals thought would work. Really, the GOD must be fine artist showing his stuff on us.
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I cried because I love this so much
Even I am ASEXUAL
THANK YOU :)
I am ace.When I told my parents I don't need marriage,they called me names.I paid them 3/4 th of my salary for 10 yrs & 10 months,out of which 9 months is when I was in that crazy Woman's womb then got out of their life.I purchased a flat & living happily last 28 yrs
Wow. It's amazing to know that you showed so much courage 28 years ago!
yeah, i myself am an ace but i would never have the gut of telling my parents. the fear of being disowned is just to much for me, especially when i have social anxiety. i am proud of you for having the courage of coming out to your parents
If we don't tell,we suffer.If we marry,we will be doing great injustice.I don't think aces are disliked as gays or transgenders.Pl come out of closet
Well my parents are kind of traditional, so they were like if you don't get married you are gonna suffer alone and mommy would be sad. Well for me it's not like I don't want to love or date, I just don't want to hangout in bed( if you know what I mean) if I ever want children, I would rather have foster children rather than having my own. But my parents are like not into the idea of that. Well thank you for reading my confession I hope who ever read this have a great day ✌😊✌
I don't think I'll ever be able to come out to my parents. I'll be honest about it to my potential partners.
Now I know the meaning of asexual but I’m an open minded Indian so this doesn’t bother me because we should do what we want , sooooo #itscool
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@Aamna Chahal u can be one of them :)
@Aamna Chahal no i am telling that u can also be a kind person like him :)
@Aamna Chahal I am questioning . I think I might be
Asexual pansexual .:)
As a asexual girl l can relate l am 20 and some people tell me you're young to understand all this intimacy.. like dude l am not too young to know who l am..
Where r u from. I m asseuxal male 26 punjb
As a panromantic hetero-demisexual, I can relate to it. As a teenager I never had crushes. Later, as a college student, a young adult, when I failed to like people back or accept that it's normal for them to randomly approach me, my friends labeled me as a lesbian. Why people can't understand there are these "QIAA" after "LGBT".
I like how the first DO is a DON'T
I'm not a avatar of Hanuman lol
When she talk about " mahapurush...to cure!!! LOL
I think you people are really cool
Just found out my girlfriend is asexual thank 🙏 you this video helps a lot.
Bro will you still continue the relationship with her
Do whatever the fucc you want, just be honest if you are getting into a relationship. Don't betray them. AND explore everything before getting into a relationship, after letting him/her invest so much emotions and feelings into the relationship, one day if you drop the bomb saying "hey, YK what? I don't want to have segss with you throughout my life" they'll get fuckin shattered.
I felt some kind of unnecessary seriousness on this video. An asexual person is someone that does not feel sexual arousal, and that's it, nothing special about it. If you find a person, and start dating that person, and somewhere along the road you want to have sex with that person, and that person says: "sorry, but, i don't like sexual intercourse" or something like that, you just have to decide if you want to have a sexless relationship or not. But, i think that an asexual person should put the question of sex in the table during the first date, to avoid future lacks of understanding.
Might be the case if you live with a very understanding family and community. There's a lot of stigma around this especially in india
Actually that’s not true. An asexual person is someone that doesn’t feel sexual ATTRACTION.
Ummm asexuals can still be open to sex tho??? Lack of sexual attraction is different than doing it. Its serious because people usually get the "You will find the right person" card anytime they want to come out and people just dont believe them. Atleast with this people are educated enough.
I laughed hard when ...that part came... asexuals have sex with asexuals😂😂😂
Man! That girl who said not to associate asexuality with Hanuman nailed it! I ROFL! LOL
as per kamasutra india was once a land where lgbtq thing was not frowned upon
@@nadlax5920 it fell as a civilization due to successive invations by outter forces
@@nadlax5920 hedonism? naa man we were quite liberal about sex but not realy sex crazed bitches other wise we would not have books on medicine, maths, astrology women were never treated as spoils of war or sex slaves we had many temples dedicated to women...we had the concept of brahmacharya(celebasy also)..one of the greatest warriors in mahabharatha was sikhandi a trans... i think you should read more books and yeah when british translated our scriptures they did it half hazzardly and on purpose
This is something that Indian TV never going to show in their news channel or any other Channels😐
Actually i don't know if I am asexual . Kissing and hugging doesn't bother me even I watch adult drama that makes me feel good but i dont like sex .it's really bothers me if someone touch me .it doesn't make me feel good .i read get attracted to boys but i dont have any intention to have sex even i don't like sex that's bother me .i want to know myself better but i dont know whom to share . I have no courage to say this to my family . they might think i must be joking and they will laugh at me that makes me feel disgusting.maybe i am not asexual but i really don't like sex that's why i am virgin till now and i don't have any desire to do sex in future .i just want a peaceful life
you do sound like asexual to me. Why do you think you may not be? Asexuals do not feel sexual attraction but many of them feel sensual attraction like the desire to hug, kiss, cuddle etc.
@@rahul28ish hi. You can ask me here. I'll try my best to help.
@@rahul28ish I wish I knew the answer. But as it seems, there's absolutely nothing that can give away who's asexual and who's not. Even many asexuals themselves aren't sure about it, so many of them are still questioning like the original commenter here.
I guess homosexuals are much more sure about themselves than asexuals. But I always find it intriguing how gay/lesbians recognise each other. How this gaydar thing works is really a mystery to me. I mean it certainly isn't as simple as masculine women = lesbian or feminine men = gay.
Hello Maya can we talk ?
I also feeling same but iam sure about my asexuality
Is being asexual a mental illness? I really do not have a desire to have sex with anyone male or female. Asexual people need some sort of support group. I wish there was a dating site for asexual people.
There are websites.
Acespace is a good website.
Its a good thing that there are also many asexuals in india to reduce overpopulation hahahaha
@@nadlax5920 what....? WDYM
@@nadlax5920 😂😂 I was so confused when I read that
We are wired so as to check population Explosion.LOL
haha ill take it as joke otherwise you were dead xd
My friend is also an asexual....she wants to marry an asexual....if anyone is there plz reply.
Cake ain't better than sex....massage is...took me 10 years of sexual activity to realise why i didn't enjoy sex as to why i just did it. I enjoyed hugs cuddle holding hands..but not the intercourse..now it makes sense...i used to love the massage that used to come as a complement from my ex girlfriends..i am an asexual..
-from an indian man
i feel all the girls telling their coming out stories.
Ye to Bhoot hi vdiya gal h sadi k baad ho jana h " MAKES ME FEEL TO MURDER PEOPLE"
3:17 hreat advice, i am not sure about my being asexual but yes i can understand. Lot of people are not aware of this and might get in romantic relationships due to peer pressure but not have those urges.
i cracked on i'm not an amoeba i'm not a plant 😂😂😂
thats the thing i can relate
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I am a asextual girl but I dont tell it to my family because they didn't understand it..any one herr like me?
hi there fellow bengali ace
Here
@@prarthanasinha5826 Amrao achi tahole ekhane
Yooo
@@sallyg1995 ekdom🤘🏻
Why is there no boy.Or only girls are asexual.🙄
maybe they couldn't find anyone for the interview but their are asexual people of all genders
Men r scared to open so much ,it's a fact and I'm a boy
Males have more testosterone and that gives you higher sex drive. It is natural that there will be fewer male asexuals
Maybe all I need is a cake 🍰
On a serious note, great video. People in India really need to learn alot more about sexuality and topics like this one!
i found my gf is asexual 😶
What type?
@@chelseashamim9148 hetero
It is much easier this way I guess. You don't need to drool for every beautiful person you meet in school everyday and knowing you won't get it but still trying 😭
not to attack you or anything but sometimes it's really confusing... you don't even know what kind of attraction you are feeling towards a person... is it aesthetic or emotional or platonic or sensual... and because world around us is so hyper sexualised that it makes you feel broken and feel like something is wrong with you... but there is nothing wrong... we are still people. we still want to fall in love .. we still want to be in a relationship and find that special someone but without feeling like we owe our partners sex in return for that.
@@sleepyheadjoon366 Exactly my thoughts💜
Recently discovered that I am Asexual. I found the folks in this video so relatable, and I could not stop laughing.
I am also Grey Ace, and married. For me, sexual attraction did occur after marriage, although sex is not a motivating factor in our relationship. For you, this might not be the case.
Are there any heteroromantic asexual women here who live in Bangalore, and are open to dating? I’ve looked on every dating app out there, and could find nothing. :(
Tell me when you find a good and safe dating app for us. Heteroromantic asexual here. I'd like to meet you but sorry I'm in West Bengal and will soon move to vizag.
@@sallyg1995 Appreciate the support, Sally. I will let you know for sure if an asexual friendly dating app comes along. :)
@@davesanders5426 Thanks Dave
R u a guy ??
@@amykj Yes I am a guy - 28 year old male.
I'm 27 year old asexual guy, i just wanna live alone with happiness without sex and i just wanna enjoy life.
Asexual female here
Where do you live? Asexual male.
@@gitanjalisingh2216 How old are you? I am 28.
@@gitanjalisingh2216 Wow that’s a big age gap. Our immaturity levels would be quite different.
@@gitanjalisingh2216 No I meant immaturity level. What we consider as fine in the area of immaturity. Like I have seen late 20 year olds consider the immaturity of playing in aggressive waves fine. But late 30 year olds don’t.
@@gitanjalisingh2216 I work as a copyeditor.
I know how to treat ace people, like everyone else, if you treat everyone exactly the same, then your good
I'm an attack helicopter.
I'm a plane from 9/11
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If an asexual person could date someone, does the asexual person get married...?? 🤔
Why not buddy.. Yes it's possible 😅💜
Yup .
@@minajqueen2139 hy
0:26 EYYY the black ring on the right middle finger ;D
The more i explain aro/ace stuff to people.. The more private.. Ridiculous their questions gets.. A lot of guys will bully.. So i don't even try explaining anymore.
I am 30 year old,single wants to marry a asexual girl...
Man orr women
@@sonipal6270 man..
There are plenty of us.
@@sallyg1995I wanna marry asexual girl
@@Naam_name 29 years
You have just labelled everything but there’s no answers. Clickbait
Like if cake is life 😍😍😍
My wife is an asexual, i was not sure how to treat her and was dirfiting since some days.. i am trying to find that way now
"If you're having cofee with a person en the first date, nothing changes about the date if the person is asexual."
I'm sorry, but this is totally false. The expectatives and feelings of both participants are equally valuable: if one of them need sex and the other don't, the experience changes globally. You can't invisibilize asexual people, and you can't invisibilize allosexual people either. You have to recognize both, with equal honesty and respect.
Being an Indian if you go to your parents and tell them that your asexual then they be like '' oh great then we don't have to worry about you being late at night cause you don't feel any sexual attraction to anyone.''
Me: fuck man🤯 that's not what I wanted to say
What's the soundtrack 2:15?
People look at me like an 👽 and awkward silence. Long stare, very long silence. I dont even get comments just 👁👄👁. I am a girl and was called a eunuch. Really? Really?
probably the great people like Modi ji , kalam ji, and atal ji were asexuals.
Thanks for letting us know a new dimension of sexuality !!
Well if u dont mind may I know why ur here sir?
U know anyone like this or ur just trying to understand these terms?
And congratulations on ur ph.d sir.
@@Naam_name yes, there 2 reasons, I came here. One of my friend recently confessed that he is grey-asexual. And secondly, I was curious about these spectrums!!
Its not new, it's just poorly explored
@@ravikgpiit oh....I thought I found one
ill treat everyone the same
"Cake is Better than Sex"
Well I only know what cake tastes like.
@@chelseashamim9148 🤣 thats sad
@@RoceanSharma Nah I could have a tinder hookup and time. But i prefer chocolate cake🎂
@@chelseashamim9148 indeed it is the best. Cake > Love hope you always find cake every where you go 🌻🌻
@@RoceanSharma Cake = Love thankyou!
wtf i dont know how many more sexual orientation are there in thw world
@@rehanjoes8093 hahahahaha that's hilarious. Sorry I'm already engaged.
it's just because of lack of education 🙂
Totally 70
There's alot. We have just been force fed the idea that there's only "straight and gay", for DECADES. That's why it seems confusing, but I hope you're willing to learn about all of LGBT+.
@@sathidevi6657 😮
Maim kya hum ek badi raili nahi kar sakte kyoki smaz mansik taiur pe partadit karta hai apke beta ya beti ki abhi shadi nhi huyi to smaz se bolna chahungi ye question puchna bund karo full stop lgau kyoki wo ASEXUAL bhi ho sakta hai jise Sanbhog ki zrurat nhi lgti to wo kyo karga shadi 😡😡😡
In hetero family also , though they called father mother sister and brother......they having sexual touches on their organs when they are in mood......( If we not engaging with them sexually). Then they treating us as slaves....😳😲😰😓. Same in relatives & work location too... I'm frustrated to live 😭😭😭😭😭
Asexual ppl are broken hearts. 😢❤
Nope, asexual can people still date and have romantic relationships
I need asseuxal girl as life partner
Where on earth do you find such logic?
I need to be asexual like asap
@V Agnihotri too late bruh, I’m bisexual now
hi im demi lovato. if u don't know what im talking about i hope u open ur fridge wuth ur left hand...
hey a question here, it sounds dumb i think, sorry im just curious.. can a complete allosexual date a complete asexual?
Yes they can
But if they want to have sex then it depends whether the asexual person is sex repulsed , neutral or is comfortable
An asexual person can have sex to satisfy their libido but they just don't have sexual attraction towards any gender
Asexuality is a huge spectrum so yeah
Also if the person is aromantic asexual then I don't think they would date
Indian ace.
Same
@@_KUSH1_ :)
And...CAKES!
Same💜😁
I m Punjabi indian 26 boy. Need a assexual girl for life partner
Hope they accept us😶 as we are
Sweets of all kinds are better than sex 😏
Cake is hands down better than sex!!
Well I've only know what cake tastes like.
I'm not amiba I'm not plant😃😃😃😃🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I am a demi homoromantic asexual cisgender woman
I need a male asexual for life partner
Asexual lady can give birth a baby?
YOU HAVE BRAIN ?
She can replicate herself and give you her clone.
Yea of course
@@_KUSH1_ hy khushi
Asexual is bad thing or not
aarti dhalange no, it’s not a bad thing
Thank you 😅😙
@l No it’s not bad at all
No. It's normal
How to become axesual
the absolute state
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My mom once told me you’ll never know until and unless you get married!!!!!!!...🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄OH!
This video In the World best video 😘😘😘😄😄😄sex se acha to cake hai😁😁😁😁☺☺☺☺