Something that helped me be more unbothered in life was the idea that "the character others cast me as in their story says more about them than it does about me" if that helps anyone reading here
wait i literally love this, i always say that if someone is judging me especially without knowing me well they are weird because personally i never judge anyone especially if i don’t know them well!!
But try being more compassionate in your approach. Showing care and grace and communicating with the other person may be returned in kind! Remember not everyone’s love language is the same. Before acting, perhaps review and always act with love in mind!
I am so delusional. I bought an iPhone with one terabyte and ignore my coworkers and think about being a millionaire from my digital products to get through the day. After work I record Asmr content
I've found that a healthy detachment from people who aren't important to me really helps, along with a solid foundation for confidence being knowing who I am as a person, regardless of other people's opinions and points of view. An example of this is me minding my business and seeing neigbbors as just neighbors, and coworkers as just coworkers. I know who my friends are, and who my good friends are, so I'm good! Happy Holidays, everyone!
yes agreed! having mental boundaries on how much you emotionally invest into different relationships is important and that doesn't mean you stop being kind just because you aren't 'close'. other people, including people you might consider close friends will always experience you from their own POV and i think its so interesting how many different versions of you (and each person) exist in other people's minds, but also not something to fixate on >_< happy holidays!! xx
Was hesitant to click at first because I don’t want to resonate with insane…. But stepping out of my comfort zone and so glad I did, you are so wise and funny!!! Thank you for being you beautiful SOUL ✨🌹✨🌹✨🌹❤️
hehehe its just me offering a different/language perspective to self-growth (satire and irony)! imo the pursuit of a better and more authentic self is one of the most sane things you can do in a world that wants to keep you small and easy to manipulate mwa xx
I am going to be really honest with you here. This is the first video I have seen from you and I usually cannot sit through podcasts or such videos, but this is the first time that everything that you have said has made sense to me, and I have actually sat and watched the entire thing. safe to say I’m gonna be tuning in more now!
love love love this video! the way you talk about discipline is so healthy while also firm. finding that balance in self-improvement content is rare to find. i'm genuinely inspired so thank you 💋
the universe is extremely funny because i decided to delete social media and focus on my mental health. i was spiraling into a place i was incapable of getting myself out of and i was not sure what to do outside of just deleting social media. this video was extremely helpful and provided a comfort to myself that i’ve been needing for some time. thank you for sharing this with the world
Love this. You're so fun and insightful. I resonate with all this, but I'm struggling with part 1, because I've recently become disabled by worsening flare-ups of my chronic illness. I went from having a full and fulfilling life (great part time job, friends, hobbies, lots of good time alone introspecting) to being mostly housebound for the last 2 months. It sucks so much to lose my job and hobbies and coping mechanisms (like exercise) and social energy and capacity for even things like art or writing. I'm dealing with a lot of resentment and jealousy qnd grief. I desperately want to feel good about myself and my life again but it's so, so hard wothout the capacity to rebuild my life into what feels meaningful again.
i'm so sorry to hear you are going through this ~ i don't know if this is going to help because i can acknowledge the impersonal nature of written comments about serious issues - sometimes its about accepting the circumstances and feelings while looking for new perspectives - its awful to feel powerless but there is opportunity for you to start from a blank canvas and work with new limitations. it doesn't mean this has to 'feel' good though. your feelings are valid and rather than shaming yourself for them, expanding your awareness to the space and potential to feel good again - find practices that allow you to zero in on the present moment to a place of neutrality and brick by brick you can and will re-build and re-define your life. start small! you don't always need to know what the next version of you will look like, but you can experiment and explore the space and journey. small joys will present themselves along the way. its not going to be easy and your anxiety is valid - your willingness and determination to navigate and overcome this is what carries you through. sending love and slay your way xxxxxx
@amberakilla I really appreciate the kindness and thoughtfulness of your reply. It's comforting to know you were sitting in your own corner of the world, thinking through my comment, and taking the time to write out your thoughts. I've read through it a few times and have been focusing on some statements that sparked a glimmer of resonance and hope: The opportunity to work from a blank canvas. Not expecting things to feel good (this is a huge relief / reframe). Finding neutrality. These feel like important touchstones. Your reply also helped me confront the fact that I've been fighting against accepting my current state *while* condemning myself to my suffering, which is a silly paradox. Finding new perspectives seems like one of the keys to being able to solve this struggle, so I can accept my current state without getting stuck in it, and make the space for a path forward. I'm going to have to think about this more and know it'll be a struggle to integrate, but at the very least I feel some comfort from your insights. Thank you 🖤
listened to this yesterday and today while working on my art hobby and it’s helped me so much already! thank you for sharing these honest thoughts and advice with us 💝 let’s continue staying hot and having fun~
Girl, thanks for the video! I felt like you were talking to me personally, like a friend... keep up with the videos, you’re amazing and so motivating! I’m oscillating between several ideas to create my own content some day and you’ve given me a sincere sense of hope 😌(P.S.: If you’re reading this, I believe in you. We’ll make it
this video articulates something that's missing in other videos about the same topic; I'm not sure what it is but this advice feels more applicable and relatable. subscribed!
amber you have no idea how much i adore your videos you give interesting tips i was offline these days and saved many of your videos to watch i'm always inspired after i listen to your podcast keep being inspiring and you deserve 100 k
omg tysm for supporting and leaving this lovely comment!! sending love and slay your way mimy!!!!! :') wishing you a happy holidays and slay new year!! xxx
i am a huge fan of your lives, your podcast and now of your UA-cam videos ahh🌹 you have helped me so much in feeling better and finding peace being myself.
New sub here and this is my first video, found u on Spotify too. U feel like a big sis, giving me the advice I need rn. Thank u😘😘. Ur also so smart it’s so hot.
its on spotify and should be on apple (have had people mention issues w region availability), there is also a playlist on my channel that has audio also! xxx
to me that means you're not working hard enough to stay entertained/engaged and/or the things you use to entertain yourself are too surface level and not enough of a challenge. you've underestimated yourself and you're smarter than you think/have more mental capacity than you give yourself credit for. xx
@@amberakilla i know some people in life they work really hard and they still dont get anything out of it due to favourism or just having better luck/good fate. Offcourse i guess it doesn't hurt to try or put effort into things especially if one is living through survival mode
are you from Queensland? Like Miami area? i ask bc i’m i’m the US and the only time i’ve heard an australian accent like yours (i don’t listen to many lol) was Amanda Ware for cycle 6 of australias next top model and that’s where she grew up
😂😂😂 I grew up in Perth and learnt English from an elderly Australian nanny. Now I live in Shanghai, China … I think bc ppl in China couldn’t understand my Australian accent I ended up modifying it to be more American😅😅
Where is your mic from? Hearing that you make vídeos for enjoyment and breaking out of the framework of capitalism is so inspiring to me :) hoping to do the same in 2025
not everything requires a diagnosis tbh, you don't have to be a narcissist to not be happy with where you're at in life. its part of the human experience and having compassion for yourself and others makes it easier to navigate imo
( 2:11 ) *1. you are bored*
( 3:30 ) 1.1 get a life
( 4:22 ) 1.2 find purpose
( 6:50 ) 1.3 80/20 rule
( 7:36 ) 1.4 exercise your free will
( 9:32 ) 1.5 get a hobby
( 12:56 ) 1.6 enjoy your life
( 16:05 ) *2. you are a hater*
( 16:32 ) 2.1 judging others and yourself
( 20:07 ) 2.2 growth mindset/work with what you got
( 23:40 ) 2.3 managing your emotions and insecurity
( 25:40 ) 2.3.1 positive affirmations and journaling
( 26:58 ) 2.3.2 personal jokes
( 28:34 ) 2.3.3 #bereal
( 29:27 ) 2.4 encourage others
( 30:47 ) 2.5 redefine success
( 35:04 ) 2.6 limit exposure to negativity
37:25 bonus: people pleasing
39:32 finale: we’re all gonna die
tysm for this bb!!! xxxx
Thank you for this video seriously.Your attitude is just so uplifting and honestly a lot of us need to hear this@amberakilla
@psychedlicsouljam1995
“Consumption is not a hobby” ugh I needed that reminder.
Something that helped me be more unbothered in life was the idea that "the character others cast me as in their story says more about them than it does about me" if that helps anyone reading here
wait i literally love this, i always say that if someone is judging me especially without knowing me well they are weird because personally i never judge anyone especially if i don’t know them well!!
But try being more compassionate in your approach. Showing care and grace and communicating with the other person may be returned in kind! Remember not everyone’s love language is the same. Before acting, perhaps review and always act with love in mind!
the internet has mastered turning you into a hater over things you don't even want its actually crazy, the other day I was envious of law students
babes i graduated from law school - nothing envious about that experience, let me tell YOUUUUU xxxx
I am so delusional. I bought an iPhone with one terabyte and ignore my coworkers and think about being a millionaire from my digital products to get through the day. After work I record Asmr content
Go girl🙌🙌🙌
I love this so much for you 💞
the way i literally just recorded my first ASMR video last night pleaseeee i love this energy and I love you
@@almonddgames aww thank you! I can’t wait to start and I’ll check yours out too!
Okay, no lie, I am going to use this as my 2025 wallpaper as a constant reminder! Thank you!
i don’t think a title has ever spoken to me more
My life theme/motto is: make beautiful things, see beautiful things, and be a beautiful thing ✨ (inside and out)
Thats a lovely motto. Thanks for sharing!
love this!!! xx
Can I respectfully also adopt this? 😭♥️ that is so wonderful!
@@liapaulageduspan256 of courseee 💖
"There is no 'should'". That is huge when you let it sink in. Hit me like a ton of bricks.
I've found that a healthy detachment from people who aren't important to me really helps, along with a solid foundation for confidence being knowing who I am as a person, regardless of other people's opinions and points of view.
An example of this is me minding my business and seeing neigbbors as just neighbors, and coworkers as just coworkers. I know who my friends are, and who my good friends are, so I'm good!
Happy Holidays, everyone!
yes agreed! having mental boundaries on how much you emotionally invest into different relationships is important and that doesn't mean you stop being kind just because you aren't 'close'. other people, including people you might consider close friends will always experience you from their own POV and i think its so interesting how many different versions of you (and each person) exist in other people's minds, but also not something to fixate on >_<
happy holidays!! xx
I’m so glad you stated that confidence isn’t just self-serving, we should always bring others up with us.
Was hesitant to click at first because I don’t want to resonate with insane…. But stepping out of my comfort zone and so glad I did, you are so wise and funny!!! Thank you for being you beautiful SOUL ✨🌹✨🌹✨🌹❤️
hehehe its just me offering a different/language perspective to self-growth (satire and irony)! imo the pursuit of a better and more authentic self is one of the most sane things you can do in a world that wants to keep you small and easy to manipulate mwa xx
This title really spoke to me 🤣
😂🫶💅🏼🩷
Dear Amber, please never stop this! Your work is important for so many of us! I genuinely thank you for your contribution🎉
:') thank u so much for this lovely commmennttt
you’re like a breathe of fresh air. thank you for being here
thank you for joining babe!!! xx
I am going to be really honest with you here. This is the first video I have seen from you and I usually cannot sit through podcasts or such videos, but this is the first time that everything that you have said has made sense to me, and I have actually sat and watched the entire thing. safe to say I’m gonna be tuning in more now!
tysm for tuning in bb!! Love to see a Tomie stan too hehehe xxx
you are literally changing my life with these videos
I love the internet because it introduces me to so many truly beautiful people who manage to consitently say exactly what I need to hear. :-)
listening to this crocheting 🧶
we love a HOBBYY and SKILL !!! xx
omg same!!
love love love this video! the way you talk about discipline is so healthy while also firm. finding that balance in self-improvement content is rare to find. i'm genuinely inspired so thank you 💋
yayy sending love and slay your way xx
the universe is extremely funny because i decided to delete social media and focus on my mental health. i was spiraling into a place i was incapable of getting myself out of and i was not sure what to do outside of just deleting social media.
this video was extremely helpful and provided a comfort to myself that i’ve been needing for some time. thank you for sharing this with the world
this intro was such a vibe like yass gurl that's what we're all about
MWA !! xxx
20 minutes into the video and I’m already loving you girl
i’ve been searching youtube high and low for a video like this for months!!! thank you my queen
YOU'VE ARRIVEDDD!!! yay!! sending love and slay your way xxx
watching this at 2:30am. really needed to hear this ❤ watching your content inspires me so much to have the courage to do the best i can for me
bless u bb!!! u deserve the hottest and funnest life!!! don’t forget thatttt 💖💖💖💖
Love this. You're so fun and insightful. I resonate with all this, but I'm struggling with part 1, because I've recently become disabled by worsening flare-ups of my chronic illness. I went from having a full and fulfilling life (great part time job, friends, hobbies, lots of good time alone introspecting) to being mostly housebound for the last 2 months. It sucks so much to lose my job and hobbies and coping mechanisms (like exercise) and social energy and capacity for even things like art or writing. I'm dealing with a lot of resentment and jealousy qnd grief. I desperately want to feel good about myself and my life again but it's so, so hard wothout the capacity to rebuild my life into what feels meaningful again.
i'm so sorry to hear you are going through this ~ i don't know if this is going to help because i can acknowledge the impersonal nature of written comments about serious issues - sometimes its about accepting the circumstances and feelings while looking for new perspectives - its awful to feel powerless but there is opportunity for you to start from a blank canvas and work with new limitations. it doesn't mean this has to 'feel' good though. your feelings are valid and rather than shaming yourself for them, expanding your awareness to the space and potential to feel good again - find practices that allow you to zero in on the present moment to a place of neutrality and brick by brick you can and will re-build and re-define your life. start small! you don't always need to know what the next version of you will look like, but you can experiment and explore the space and journey. small joys will present themselves along the way. its not going to be easy and your anxiety is valid - your willingness and determination to navigate and overcome this is what carries you through. sending love and slay your way xxxxxx
@amberakilla I really appreciate the kindness and thoughtfulness of your reply. It's comforting to know you were sitting in your own corner of the world, thinking through my comment, and taking the time to write out your thoughts. I've read through it a few times and have been focusing on some statements that sparked a glimmer of resonance and hope: The opportunity to work from a blank canvas. Not expecting things to feel good (this is a huge relief / reframe). Finding neutrality. These feel like important touchstones. Your reply also helped me confront the fact that I've been fighting against accepting my current state *while* condemning myself to my suffering, which is a silly paradox. Finding new perspectives seems like one of the keys to being able to solve this struggle, so I can accept my current state without getting stuck in it, and make the space for a path forward. I'm going to have to think about this more and know it'll be a struggle to integrate, but at the very least I feel some comfort from your insights. Thank you 🖤
listened to this yesterday and today while working on my art hobby and it’s helped me so much already! thank you for sharing these honest thoughts and advice with us 💝 let’s continue staying hot and having fun~
periodddd!!! i love this
i am glad this isn’t me, i love myself, feel confident in my skin, who i am, and dont feel the need to compare or measure up to anyone else but myself
good for u gurl xx
@@amberakilla tysm!!
Girl, thanks for the video! I felt like you were talking to me personally, like a friend... keep up with the videos, you’re amazing and so motivating! I’m oscillating between several ideas to create my own content some day and you’ve given me a sincere sense of hope 😌(P.S.: If you’re reading this, I believe in you. We’ll make it
thank you so much for tuning in!!! excited for you to create!! xxx
Ohhhh the title got me. Spoke directly to me and told me I need to watch this.
hehe thank you for tuning in xx
wow. .. this is perfect. exactly what I needed. thank you Amber
you're very welcome!!! xx
this video articulates something that's missing in other videos about the same topic; I'm not sure what it is but this advice feels more applicable and relatable. subscribed!
tysm bbb xx
obsessed this is the video I needed today!! I am determined to grow as a person this year
You got me at you’re bored and a hater. I’m locked in. We dealing with things this year
PERIODDD!!! proud of uuuu xx
oh you you ate me up... a lot of inner work is needed
self-awareness is the first step bb xxx
amber you have no idea how much i adore your videos you give interesting tips i was offline these days and saved many of your videos to watch i'm always inspired after i listen to your podcast keep being inspiring and you deserve 100 k
omg tysm for supporting and leaving this lovely comment!! sending love and slay your way mimy!!!!! :') wishing you a happy holidays and slay new year!! xxx
Wow my ADHD has me setting up new videos to watch, but I'm so engaged I keep not leaving 😮
i needed to hear this and you are so real and intelligent and wise and funny i’m so glad this came up during my doom scrolling
bless u bb!! xx
the title got me, i am inssane
Thank you soooo much for this video girl!!
I needed something like this to help me clear my mind 💕
bless u bb!! 💖💖💖
immediately wishing we could be best friends
your voice is so beautiful 😭
:') tysm xxx
amazing video ; haven’t resonated with the majority of what someone is saying in forever lol! subscribed! x
yayy thank you so much for supportinggg!!
my algorithm did me a solid by showing putting ur vids on my homepage 😭 'get a life' obsessed needed that
your life can and will be so fun !!!! xx
I feel more confident when I'm with friends, I carry one with me always haha😂❤ I gotta change it
so needed this video, thanks diva ✨❈
ily xx
Thank you for sharing this!! Love your advices🤍
We're all mad here! 🤗 Spill the tea, girl! I hear you! ❤️🔥🫖👂
I loved this podcast so much. It was amazing. Thank you so much ! You have a new subscriber!
thank you so much for your support bbbb!! xxxx
You’re my new favorite UA-camr ❤ keep up the amazing uploads
thank you so muchhh
First video, subscribed immediately!! Needed to hear this today 🙏
thank you so much bb happy new year!! xx
I saved this video so I could come back to it and IM SO GLAD that I did.
bless uuu xxx
The title 😂 I love you already
wait i love this sm
The title drew me in, thank u
i love your voice so much it tickles my brain in the right way LMAO
heheh tysm - i get very mixed reviews hahahaha xxx
I loved hearing this- thank you for helping me to break some of those bad brain habits:-)
This video is everything to me
This is my first time seeing your videos and omg I love your energy ✨
tysm bb happy holidays!!! xx
i am a huge fan of your lives, your podcast and now of your UA-cam videos ahh🌹 you have helped me so much in feeling better and finding peace being myself.
omgg tysm for supporting :') sending love and slay your wayy !!!! xxx
I needed this girl! You have a new follower 🎉
tysm for supporting bb!! xx
when people say that consumption isn't a hobby does that include reading books because that's one of my only hobbies
What an honest video, thanks for this!
Needed this
I love this
Bruh 4 minutes in and my life has changed
The title made me click on it, because gurll I'm fugging insaneeee😭🌸🎀💅✨️
puuurrrrr xxxx
Can’t let the opps see me watching this 😈
they probably wouldn't get it anyway ;-) heheheh
love u thanks for always reminding me to be hot and have fun
of course!!!!!! xxx
LOVVVEEE YOUUU
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I need a life motto/theme so bad!!
being hot and having fun is mine!!!
This vid just earned you a subscriber
thank u for supporting!! xx
New sub here and this is my first video, found u on Spotify too. U feel like a big sis, giving me the advice I need rn. Thank u😘😘. Ur also so smart it’s so hot.
this is such an uplifting, real, careful, free and intelligent video; thank you for this 💖
thank youuu :') xxx
ur perfect x
game recognise game x
you better GO OFF
purrrr xx
Cuz i swear you BLANKED right here yes miss gurl
unrelated but i love ur voice
You remind me so much of manifestelle. I could fully believe that you both are sisters ❤
love her work and i think she included one of my tiktoks in her videos!! xx
this title spoke to me on a psychological level
Luv it
mwa mwaaa xxx
Love you
i luv this!!!! i wish u were my sister
I love this video so much🩷
tysm bbbb ٩(๑> ₃
Do you have an apple podcast?
its on spotify and should be on apple (have had people mention issues w region availability), there is also a playlist on my channel that has audio also! xxx
FO REEAL!!!
the thing is i get bored easily
to me that means you're not working hard enough to stay entertained/engaged and/or the things you use to entertain yourself are too surface level and not enough of a challenge. you've underestimated yourself and you're smarter than you think/have more mental capacity than you give yourself credit for. xx
@@amberakilla i know some people in life they work really hard and they still dont get anything out of it due to favourism or just having better luck/good fate. Offcourse i guess it doesn't hurt to try or put effort into things especially if one is living through survival mode
K, I adore you.
are you from Queensland? Like Miami area? i ask bc i’m i’m the US and the only time i’ve heard an australian accent like yours (i don’t listen to many lol) was Amanda Ware for cycle 6 of australias next top model and that’s where she grew up
😂😂😂 I grew up in Perth and learnt English from an elderly Australian nanny. Now I live in Shanghai, China … I think bc ppl in China couldn’t understand my Australian accent I ended up modifying it to be more American😅😅
@ omg me guessing queensland and u being on the opposite coast 😭😭😭
Ok so, I got the insane part down. Now onto the second part 💅
I always believe it’s important to be clear about the starting point so you can map the journey accordingly 😌😆💅🏼💖
I have to remember I'm not perfect😮
Where is your mic from? Hearing that you make vídeos for enjoyment and breaking out of the framework of capitalism is so inspiring to me :) hoping to do the same in 2025
the brand is called BOYA ! xxx
@ thank you
god ii love you
LOVE YA
Bored + a hater = narcissist . They thrive in chaos. Theyre comfortable when everyone is uncomfortable. Sorry just my 2 cents.
not everything requires a diagnosis tbh, you don't have to be a narcissist to not be happy with where you're at in life. its part of the human experience and having compassion for yourself and others makes it easier to navigate imo
ho is you reading my mind
😆💖🎀
you remind me of that boujee girl on hannah montana ❤️ xo
HHAHahaha xxx
but like what is this pink hair clip/crown!??!?!?
its supposed to lift your roots but idk if it did anything/if i even used it correctly hahahah
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You’re my Andrew Tate
i'm GAGGED LOL xxx
This came up on my feed and immediately sucked me. Instant follow!!
tysmmm!!
great video!! i've been really in my element these last couple of months but this advice is excellent. +1 sub from me
yayy so glad to hear!! thank you for subscribinggg xx