12-Year-Old is Looking at Porn (What Should We Do?)
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- 12-Year-Old is Looking at Porn (What Should We Do?)
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This is much more common than anyone knows I bet
Yup, I started when I was 12
Yeah im pretty sure age isnt the problem here its childhood trauma. As far as I know most guys start masturbating and watching porn at 12 or 13 years old. I started both at 12 and ive never had a problem with it.
I think it's common for teens to be curious about sex. However, adult videos set up extremely unrealistic expectations and misogynistic views.
@@KatieDeGo Most certainly, the videos ive seen look like it would hurt not to mention what I've heard of some of them glorizing topics like SA or r*pe. The whole industry of that is messed up because a lot of the women you see in those videos don't want to be in that industry but were dragged into it regardless.
yeah its normal bc i started to feel this urge at the same age..
Can we focus on how amazing this man and his wife are? They did not have to do that. Parenting is hard work! Kudos to them for stepping up for these kids!
Gen Z, Gen Alpha. That's our life. We all started real early. Teach them to be responsible, they're gonna get access to it somehow.
Amen.
As an 18 year old girl very true! Even if you didn’t find it yourself/hear about it at home you will definitely hear it at school. I heard kids talking about it in my middle school library so I got on my phone and searched it up at home. Got kinda addicted to it for years but luckily I haven’t touched that stuff in years. It’s proven to be very damaging so I understand why people try to keep it away. Honestly parents shouldn’t be giving their kids electronics. Have a house computer for the family & homework and when they are old enough to pay for it themselves they can get a phone/laptop of their own. If you see that they’ve found it educate them but before they can go ahead and block the sites. You can block them on your phone and computer so theres no reason they should be able to find it in the house. Outside of the house though you’re screwed. They will find it one way or another so educate, educate, educate!
The reason kids lie, and ALL of us lie, is because we’ve learned that there’s usually NO REWARD for telling the truth. If you lie, you might get away with it, but if you tell the truth you’re guaranteed to be exposed & probably punished. So if you want people to tell the truth you have to make it SAFE TO DO SO.
I don't have a teen yet but I don't believe in taking away electronics completely. When I was younger that was just overkill with my parents, too controlling when they didn't know when to give it back.
@k-mart7475 game boy advance 🫡 I had good grades to earn it first.
How old are you
I don't plan to have kids if anything I'll adopt, and I hate the idea of taking electronics purely because the internet is my only outlet for my good and my bad emotions and I contact the suicide hotline every so often so without it it's like breaking a bone and trying to heal without help from a professional
@@DownBadAutisticI'm not trying to invalidate your feelings and your methods to regulate them but people only being able to find certain emotional outlets through the Internet is part of the problem with it, as someone who was chronically online a few years ago when I was in an awful place, because I hadn't learnt better ways to or alternatives should I say to better my mental state, I held on to this online connection and it was very unhealthy, took me a long time to fix it.
They didn't have to. Thats the point.
My ex partner was abused as a child and started watching porn at 10.
He became a porn addict and went on to do something illegal because of it.
It messed him up so so much. I can’t begin to go into how harmful this is.
I’m still receiving therapy for what he did whilst we were together. He destroyed our family.
I'm so sorry 🙏🏿 ❤
Damn hope you’re ok and he gravely needs help and theraoy
@@jaryncoleman208 He did get some help, if it was enough I don’t know. Thankyou for your comment.
These sex perverts are a menace to the safety of bedrooms everywhere. You have to constantly be on the lookout for this dangerous stuff. Call your best friends and warn them that you just encountered this awful stuff on a website called - - - - -
pron screws people up. So glad I quit
The children are mourning. They need grief counseling. They have had a lot of loss.
I think they gotten taken at 5 he said he’s 7 years in and the boy is 12
I can't help but wonder if perhaps they got hurt from because of their parents behavior
I'm surprised that there was no connection made with the timing of the boys difficulties in school with the return of his biological father in his life. It has to have opened up some old wounds and he has no coping mechanisms for the feelings/memories that are coming up.
I was exposed when I was 8 and it slowly became an addiction. I fought it for 6 years. I'm 15 now, almost 16. It has ruined my ability to have healthy connections and relationships with the opposite sex. I've been fighting relapse for a long time but it's getting better now. It is a lot bigger problem than people realize. Nowadays, this things are already in our homes. All we have to do is tap a button. I have personally seen in myself and my friends that the internet and the people on it are attacking us kids with porn online. I know that it's a real war. Parents need to be completely open and aware with their kids about these things.
Your self awareness and willingness to be forthright about your experience and observations are very admirable! I'm impressed, and as an adult I appreciate your insight. This has been something I feared for my daughter but also all of your geneeration. I claim the victory over your continued deliverance in the name of Jesus Christ!
exposed somewhere in kinder and i have no clue how because i have an amazing homelife i dont get it and now im 13 and ive failed to stop it now, idk where to start fighting it
💯
What do you mean by exposed?
@@user-bq3iy8yv6k i just kinda found it 😔
A man with a heart of gold calling a wise man. A truly character building conversation.
Kudos to William for stepping up, and taking care of family when he didn't have to.
Absolutely. That's a fine man. And the same can be said about his wife.
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
As someone that grew up (now 27) with a parent that is an addict, I wish my mother (single mother with her own struggles) had this advice… this is powerful… please keep doing what you’re doing. I’m not sure where you got your wisdom but I’m glad you’re spreading/sharing it with others!!
We walked this route as well. Unfortunately, it wad more of a struggle than we could bare. Trauma in children raised in these addictive parents behaviors is hard. Especially if you get them later. We did all the therapy and treatments for our oldest nephew and it ended bad anyways. I'm praying for you and your family!
I'm 26 and most of the people in school started at 12-13. I've recently decided to go cold turkey
Was exposed at 11 when puberty started in me and have struggled with it ever since. If I knew the struggles I'd have from it I never would of done it. Struggle with social interactions with the opposite gender and no matter how normal I act women act with borderline disgust, especially the women near my age. Friendships I have are detached and even with Family Members.
Are you neuro divergent?
Just you bro😂😂😂😂😂😂
This is not due to pron
I see you have the addicts on your comment trying to make you as a liar. I believe you!
@@AlexSmith-xk8tz you can have perfect social skills even if u watch adult content
We had two foster children of heroin addicts in our home when I was fourteen. It was a mess led by misjudgement of youth welfare and my mum. She could't integrate them into a functioning daily routine. They were seeking drama every day. I was so glad that we had to moove and that there was a date when they had to leave us. Never again!
Most likely because of the chaos of their early life. If your baseline is chaos, your brain cannot process calm well.
"Help! My 12 year old boy is doing what 95% of 12 year old boys do!!!!"
John you didn't discuss the porn. I would have liked you to tell this father that he needs to tell this boy in a nonjudgemental way that porn degrades women and you'd like to teach the boy to respect women. I wouldn't remove all electronics from the home because most jobs involve being very good at and up-to-date about all things computer and social media eetc. He will have trouble finding a decent job without those skills. Plus in school as he gets older they will be told to submit papers electronically. Also it's shaming him. He shouldn't be shamed. He needs to know that wanting to see porn in normal but porn is fake, it's a lie and can be very distructive in relationships when he starts to date. I became an adult in the 1980's I can't tell you how many young men thought regular young women would behave like porn actresses. They would wan't me to do things I'd never even heard of. When I didn't want a threesome or didn't want to video it or didin't want to do an activity they thought I had sexual problems. They thought porn was real and the norm. It's so bad now that men think sending a picture of their p*nis to a woman they just met is flirting. John you never got around to talking about the actual porn and how to steer a normal young boy to more positive ideas of sex and and relationships. If you remove all electronics from the home it will shame him.
I would love to see a deeper dive into that topic as well.
@@Luxx24Same.
Well then ig im not the problem lol i just use it sometimes it doesnt affect me much
One way to have internet control, is put the router and modem in you bedroom, so you can turn them off at night.
You can also get a smart router that automatically blocks different devices at certain times
Nice!
My sister does just that. Also limited on total access time per day and internet history is tracked thru a VPN function and can't be tampered with.
Thank you!
Oh thank you for this.
Sometimes the neurology of the children of drug addicts can be affected . Seemingly nuerotypical , even smart cookies can be prone to things like less impulse control etc . Everyones heard of fetal alcohol syndrome, well theres a spectrum of extra stuff that can present for kids of drug users , few people talk about that . Hope this family is doing well and they have great supports . Definately its gotta be hard on the kids subconciously though , knowing they were basically abandned. they ought to have greif counceling . Could be that too.
You need to challenge a habitual liar not to lie for 24 hours.
It will take a few attempts.
It is VERY hard to stop.
Remind them how tiring it is to have to remember all those lies, all the time.
Point out how good it feels not to have to, after he does his first 24 hrs.
You tell them to instantly correct themselves if they do.
If you think they are lying, ask: Do you have a better answer ?
Good luck, and don’t get angry. Be patient and loving.
Keep it simple.. ☮️
What’s crazy William. Is still you continue to give. You keep doing what you need to do as parents! Their parents. I honor yall!!!!
I wish I had of had you to listen to when my son was really young.
I did, so did all my friends. I'm 31 years old now. 🎉
This is an incredible episode!
i was showed it at 8 and watched it for like 2 months and then quit til i was 13
Same
Who the heck is showing it to 8 yr olds 😢
I showed myself
Wow. Such good advice.
The worst thing for kids to experience is neglect...no eye contact.
Great episode.
Children start younger and younger. Really sad. My little sister started at 8 years old. The internet wants your children! Think about how much innuendo and temptation you see just browsing. An innocent childs curiosity doesnt stand a chance. The only solution is to keep them away from unsupervised internet. No one needs internet. Password, password, PASSWORD
Problem is porn not internet you can easily block certain sites without being controlling
@changingslow yeah, it's not just porn. If you think just blocking sites keep your kids safe, your wrong. I've never heard a good reason that a child needs a screen. We survived thousands of years without it, your kid can wait until they're old enough to handle kt
@@ghostophelia2245 Teaching your kids basic things like enjoying time outside and that people are weird alone will protect your kids the problem is nobody wants to parent anymore. Internet is how i found so much of my taste of music when i was younger and the stuff brings me nostalgia now. Internet never was the problem its ppl not parenting anymore it’s sad.
@changingslow I envy your ignorance. If you knew the level of pedophilia and hackers, i don't think you'd be saying that. Guess what? A library has music. You don't need internet for that. Just the same as I wouldn't allow my kid to go wander the streets alone, I wouldn't let my kids visit the internet alone. It's not something kids or parents can control. It's everyone else. Kids are very impressionable. It's a very scary world we live in, unfortunately and people want to force their kids to grow up instead of just being kids. NO KID NEEDS INTERNET UNSUPERVISED PERIOD
@@sufferyetgainNot anymore?🤔 It's more like society has changed and is seemingly more complex.
Hyper alert for the bad stuff, its like we are in WAR. 😢
Lmao how does any of what this is relate to war😂
@@dreck250 read between lines, its a metaphor, like we are in War. How you are in war, you need to be hyper alert on the battlefield.
@@NiKi-ij2ln lmao ok then😂
People shooting stuff at you from all over.
12 yr old boy will look if they come across it use internet/phone filters!!!!!!
12 year old girls too. I most definitely would have at that age. But i was 12 in 1992, so old school vhs back then. 😂🤣
Really? Great way how to learn to be a prostituted at 12 , kids should be protected at 12
But there is something called a vpn, if they find out what a VPN is then they can use it to watch porn. The parents would also need to block access to VPNs too.
@@laurent.9968 im not teck saavy 🫠
@@laurent.9968not possible, just dont let em spend money online
What a great call!
I think teaching kids their choices affects their lives. Not someone withholding something is so huge! I do it with my littles all the time.
This is such an awkward topic I think most parents just don’t know. What happens when kids hit puberty and experiment? How can they “learn themselves” in a safe and legal way or what do people tell their kids?
What a rockstar dad! So much to learn from this call for all of us!
Wow some amazing and great advice and I wish I had this as a kid❤
there are no benefits of pornography. no words can truly convey how i feel about pornography. I hate it. pornography destroys relationships, creates unrealistic expectations, but most of all, it ruins your brain, its like a drug. it causes violence against women, vulnerable people and children. mentally ill people watch these videos, and genuinely think that they can do those sick and perverted things to people because they cannot comprehend why it is not okay and it has become so normalised everywhere. young people are being exposed to it at a young age in some shape or form, and it is ruining their lives. ban pornography.
Big fan of Dr. John. But isn’t this thing of “you opted out” a form of weaponizing one’s connection? It may not be the intention, but the result is that the child gets less time with their family. Are we saying that kids have to earn time with their parents?
I understand what you’re saying and perhaps there’s a fine line with this, but I feel like the consequence is not losing normal interaction but “extra” interactions- fun interactions. His example was going fishing. If you don’t do your homework by the time we leave for fishing, we just can’t go fishing. We can go fishing in the future, but tonight we’ll just wait until you finish your homework and watch a movie or something rather than the fun thing we were going to do instead. You still eat dinner as a family, do your normal nightly routine, you’re still interacting as a family unit. They may choose to sit in their rooms instead because they’re disappointed. That’s okay too. You’re just holding them accountable.
It's not advice I can give but at 16 i was drinking beer smoking pot having a good time at 30 all i had left was rehab and jail I'm now 54 and still useing no one gets it first time . As long as you have the will you're made the first step good luck
Here are my suggestions:
1. Keep the internet router in the bedroom and turn it off at night.
2. No I pad access for the 12 year old instead one family computer In the living room with limited access (internet blockers)
3. Keep your I pad, smart phone in your bedroom or in a drawer that is locked by key literally.
That's terrible advice
I am a addict at 16 I saw it when I was 12 and became addicted I still struggle with relapse I will be clean for a long time and then one day one mess up and I’m back to square one does anybody have any advice on what to do
Find a trusted friend to confide in, and have them hold you accountable. Reach out to your parents (if you trust them) and express that you are struggling with this - they may be able to get you counseling, or help you place certain restrictions (that only they know the passwords to) on your devices.
People will tell you that it is normal, and that everyone does it. I want to stress that s** is not shameful. However, like other vices (drugs, alcohol, etc), watching p***ography can lead you down a dangerous rabbit hole.
P***ography is really not good for your brain or your future relationships, and it could potentially lead you to impotence.
It’s okay to admit that you would like help to a trusted adult - there’s no shame in needing help or assistance in getting through this.
You can do it.
It's like half of the comments here forgot they were 12-year- boys at one point . Everything about this call was normal and had a good response . Don't project your experiences from grown men addicted to porn with a kid that is seeking something that most boys do out of curiosity
The problem is the horrible stuff that is out there that they can see. And Instagram and Snap are mostly only used for Porn by kids now. It's the extremeness of what they are able to access that makes me so sad.
@@alaska49girl agreed. The threshold for "normal porn" has been raised extremely
You simply don't understand. All of us that started viewing porn at 12 got addicted. You're insane if you think otherwise. That kind of dopaminergic brain bath for grown men and their cave man brains is too much. Imagine a child. It screwed me up and a lot of my friends too and took years to finally quit.
How extreme have you found it to be? Can you give us an example?
@@Chartlaub5 It's true. Nowadays, one trend that has become very popular is called a "three-way," in which three different people take their clothe off in front of each other and proceed to get romantic. It's quite unusual to watch. Another big trend is for a group of people, or two, to get in a room and strip off their clothes and sit down and do what pre-pube boys do so well, when they can find an alone moment to practice. Except now, a bunch of people will practice in front of each other at the same time. It's pretty wild.
Great advice for all parents
This is super common. I'm only 20, I remember classmates at school talking about having seen pornography at that age. The Internet makes it so insanely easy to access that a massive percentage of young people are addicted to some degree. Like, it's in your pocket, by your bed, all day, every day, just a few clicks away. This sounds dramatic, but internet porn is one of the worst things to ever happen to people my age. It just destroys people
You truly are a model William!
Punishing and shaming your kid for natural self exploration is a fantastic way to create a complex about sex and to destroy his sense of connection with his family. By all means have frank discussions about moderation and fantasy vs. reality but there are serious dangers to overreacting that aren't being discussed here.
P@rn is not realistic, and is full of violent acts. And leads to more perverse acting out. He is not wrong to set boundaries and redirect this kids to more worthwhile things.
This could be a very bad situation because of what he is watching. There is some bad stuff on the web. This is not just girlie magazines.
Porn is trash mastrubation is okay but it leads to other things....I rather teach my son to put in work and have a lady for yourself
Sexual exploration is for marriage only.
A lot of porn is rough and can teach him to be that way with women. And going through puberty? He'll likely become a predator.
Im hoping he puts together that the boys behavior became negative when his biological father started coming around.
Something I will say is that the kid is 12 and is going to need access to the internet whether they like it or not. He'll need it for school, and he'll need it if he doesn't want to be left behind socially.
Cutting it off completely isn't the way, you have to teach moderation. Which I understand is probably difficult for older parents like this, because they're not going to understand how to use content controls or set time limits or anything. Maybe reaching out to some younger parents to learn might be a good idea
EXACTLY.
We know that the trauma caused from age 1-7 are with you forever.
And what if seeing naked people exercising their freedoms isn't a trauma? What if it's like banana pudding?
@JackMason-oq8lf if all you eat is banana pudding you're likely to become diabetic.
@JackMason-oq8lf The trauma from age 1-7 wasn't caused by watching porn. You think people in porn are free? Most are high on drugs.
Great episode
You’re kidding right? If kids didn’t try looking at porn I’d be concerned.
I love that journal idea.
As a teenager, having that line of communication to my mom would have been amazing, because some things are easier to say in text than in words.
The best approach for raising a child is to simply not introduce the electronics in the first place. Therefore the child won't know the difference between having them, and not. And no, keeping them away from the internet and electronics is not "isolating" them at all. Parents need to step up and parent, not go by what everyone else is doing. Your child doesn't need a phone and tablet at a young age just because that's what other parents are doing.
Depends on what ayoung age means. Your kid probably needs electronics by the time they're a teenager, a tablet or a laptop at least. And they need to understand how tech works, they need to learn to navigate social media at some point, because that's just a part of life now. We live in a digital world.
A person who can't use technology at all, is nearly useless in the modern workplace.
At 12 you will need electronics for school
@@Bringon-dw8dx They are supplied by the school
@@MrBurns0618 wow, you went to a fancy school. I’ve never heard of this?
@@Bringon-dw8dx When did you last attend high school? A lot has changed even in the past 5-10 years, and most schools do supply base level Chromebook’s now. I graduated in 2019.
I love EVERYTHING about this call and advise ❤🙏🏾
Ok teabag
Has no one thought of using a password?
it's actually the systems fault for allowing access to people under 18. The people who sanction it happening should all be put into prison for allowing access to minors
Its impossible to completely firewall the internet or make sure that everyone that goes on to those websites are 18. They tried to make a fire wall in the CCP But it failed as it is very easy to get around. Even in my school they Have firewall witch can be circumvented by just using a different browser or a VPN. Nobody "sanctions it" The Internet will never be uncontrollable as there are to many people on there to monitor
You will not stop your child at looking at porn
This podcast has giving so so so many valuable life tools that I could have never figured out on my own. Especially from someone who didn't have any parents
Literally every 12 year old watches porn. It’s crazy how outta touch older people are. I’m 25, when I was 12 in middle school, all anyone talked about was porn😂
I don't think it's out of touch. I think parents are waking up to the reality that societally, relational, and personally porn is harmful and if they don't pay attention to what their children due on the internet, they could be exposed to a lot of junk that effects how their brains develop.
Just because it’s normalized doesn’t make it ok
Tell him to wait and get the real thing
Can't get an std from watching porn....and your wallet and life won't get raped in family, divorce, or alimony court by the literally plethora of porn our there that is free of charge.
It's images on a damn screen...get over it.
Kids are going to be curious. Just bam them from devices that connect to the internet until he's 18 then
Teen pregnancy?
@@cooliipie this guy hasnt learned about rubbers lmao
You might never get it
@@mackymac3479 Who you talking about? He might never get any or you?
I wish my parents had done the journal thing with me… gracious, that hit me hard.
My brother is 13 and the ides of him watching porn is insane I don’t get how a 12 could be watching that 😭😭😭😭😭
My daughter came home and told me a girl in her class watches prn at her home. There was another girl at the school who actually got in legal trouble for sending out illicit photos of herself.
My daughter is 10….these are elementary school kids. Practically toddlers still.
My daughter has requested to be taken out of public school, the kids are out of control. She will be doing virtual instead.
@@Art_thecl0wnplease homeschool them because some of these kids at school come from broken homes and expose things to other kids.
I did at 10. You get hard and start to figure things out.
you're clearly not a male.
Most do
Love it
I started at watching at 13 as a boy. Porn is boring nowadays I don’t like it much. But hey I found out I was gay by watching
As a 13 yr old this is way too common. Personally I avoid it because of my belief in god and I see other kids my age watching that crap even in school and it consumes their personality. It is way too easy for kids my age to watch porn and it honestly disgusts me.
Good for you kid honestly. I wish I would have gone down that route however I did later in life..
You're on a good road keep it
Even if you do control what is in your home, these kids are showing each other what is on their phones at school.
That’s why homeschooling needs to be more common and accessible
@@beckee6282 - then men are going to have to start earning more money. No more 50/50.
Just creating a bunch of little socially inept weirdos @@beckee6282
@beckee6282 This is still coming at a later time.Home school can be a tool but this is coming in thier life at some point
@@garyaanderson214 - yes, even if you homeschool, they still have brothers, cousins, neighbours etc.
I remember starting looking at risky stuff right when I got unsupervised access to the internet which was when i was 13 😂
As a kid growing up with no signs of intimacy between my parents, divorce, and having no experience, internet was the only place where it existed yet I was shamed for it. I’m grateful it was around
Same
porn is false intimacy... there is nothing healthy about believing thats what it really is.
Youre grateful you could watch p0rn as a minor? Yikes.
Pornography is not intimacy, it’s sexual exploitation.
P@rn will ruin your life.
The caller sounds like Dennis Prager from PragerU LOL.
Dont know why he's laughing. This is serious business.
why?
@@bballjulien you don't belong here.
that's a great explanation of why a 12 year old watching porn is serious business. I can tell you're a very thoughtful and articulate person@@Theaddora
No it’s not. He’s a normal kid. He’s just curious.
If you don’t know what to do in this situation you should not be a parent.
🤨
Damn I love these parents and how proactive they are...atleast he can escape the porn addiction hopefully
12 year old boys watch - Wether it’s on their device or through someone else’s.
As a sexually actively adult who is Gen Z (just) I’ve seen the consequences of porn at a young age, and parents that didn’t make the effort to ensure their children understood the fantasy aspect of porn. Very violent sex is seen a minimum, what women are expected to do as ‘standard’ has dramatically changed when I’ve spoken to older aunts.
And what if i understand that? Bc i think the pron isnt exactly my problem ive quit for 2 weeks i didnt get better, i still think woman irl look 10000 times better than these pron models, i think/hope im ok
@@Miner_20 it subconsciously warps you expectation and understanding of sex over years of exposure. Quitting for 2 weeks is good, but realistically quitting until you’ve gained enough real life sex experience to counteract the damage porn has done is ideal
@@Bringon-dw8dx i understand
It's self soothing behavior.
9:30 this is beautiful.
I always want updates on how these families are going. God bless them and God bless Delony for sharing his experience and knowledge.
Do the changes in behavior started when the biological father came back in their lives??😮
Great advice and great dad
I did when I was 12 it's not that supring relly
These people are being too hard on these kids. It could backfire if they continue to be so strict.
i think its normal for kids to start whatching it at 12-13
Man it sounds like a prison in this household.. poor kid..
This is just sad:(
A 12 yr old boy looking at porn with an 8 yr old girl in the house. Guard the girl. Learned this from a girl I worked with who grew up with two older brothers. Good Utahans.
All boys look at porn. Most girls do too whether they admit it or not.
Hey Dr D I know this is a very private set of rules you set up together with your family.
But to me it would be super helpful to get a guideline about how to procede, how many values you chose etc.
I can imagine that going overboard and writing down too many of them can overwhelm children. Or do you think it should be a distinct number so that it really shows the values from a deeper perspective?
Thanks a lot in advance for your opinion on it 😉
Somatics therapy, they should go to a somatics therapist so they can work on their nervous systems
Can you blame the kids for not trusting you? Their parents are addicts he likely didn’t have parents he could trust so you need to give them a reason to trust you
Man I can’t think of one boy from school growing up that didn’t 😂
Imagine your parents call a radio show because they found out you watched porn
As a younger person, I can say I was exposed and began watching it at 13. It was pretty normal at the time that just about every male in my middle school was. It was the summer after my 6th grade year.
Same in my middle school every one was watching it i was only introduced to it by someone 😂
I'm glad William called to start this conversation! I spoke to a friend a couple years ago about this similar situation. I told her that kids are watching things you don't know about. They know more then what you think they do. They are starting earlier because older kids tell them. As parents it better to be aware and have conversations with them. Have simple and direct conversations. Kids are growing up faster then you think. This is a Great show, John has some really good advice!
They are not growing up fast, they are just being exposed to inappropriate things and losing their innocence but they are still immature.
10:00 that’s powerful
The caller has a cape hidden somewhere. Many blessings to him, his wife, and family, and much deliverance and growth for this confused, scared kid.
Porn is poisonous
Do you think John that we should stop our stubborn nature and just accept that by getting the World together 2 times every other year - we are doing ourselves a Favor. Winter / Summer. Year off - Winter / Summer - I feel it is going to happen soon enough anyway. By the way - God will show you that actually Porn does have an educational value. oh how I wish Dr. Ruth Westheimer were around right now. Yes I listened to her on South Valley FM 104.
The porn Dr Ruth referenced was generic. The internet has made it easy to access some dark stuff.
A Playboy is a bit different to online porn !
You cannot live without the internet in this era. Just put parental locks on websites with pornography. Video games are harmless.
All this talk would be unnecessary if our society had never left God. It seems to me that human beings got hold of something very tempting and they decide to give up on God to fulfill their desires. And even then, we are never satisfied!! What a cruel joke.
Starting at 13 my dad started throwing his last months playboy into my bedroom once a month. . No words ever said. Not sure if that was good or bad ?
Showing a child porn is a crime. A child should not be given that content by an adult.
@@Hilary945 Could be why I have had several marriages , infidelity on my part and find myself objectifying woman. Currently married 20 years but even though I try not to. I find myself judging her aging and looks. My wife is a saint by the way and could have done better. Also I did grow up watching my parents cheat on each other.
No good. But probably better than porn
Not just bad its a crime
its weird
Dame y’all had a really bad relationship with porn, I like most people I know started watching around 10 and it was very clearly explained that it’s like iron man obviously not real. Like all things you just have to learn to use it in moderation