We Find Out Where We Stand On These Relationship Debates • Ladylike
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"We know what we know, and we want what we want"
i need that on a shirt asap lmao
@@synapatel4126 MERCH!
Jayla Buchanan lol yh
That should get it on Their merch!
That quote won't last very long considering it's still 2018.
“I know what I know, and I want what I want”
That’s gonna be a shirt. Calling it
Thats what I said!
💯💯
Lol.. When i saw ur comment she said that
I'd probably buy it!
MERCH!
I stopped breathing at that intro 😂😂😂 FREDDIE YOU QUEEN YOU DESERVE BETTER ANYWAYS
me too I actually had to pause the video lmao
yes 100th comment #loveyall
Jeesus Freddie is either a savage or deserves better.
I think Chantel did too😂
lmaooo, lowkey same thooo
I got engaged within 2 weeks
Moved in within 2 months..
Married at 8 months...
6 years later it’s still great!!!
Omg sending love your way this is so sweet❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yeah I say there's a lot of questions surrounding that particular question... It's not as cut and dry as "Wait X amount of time." It completely depends on the people, how they feel about each other, etc. There's A LOT that goes into it and it definitely can work out. I've seen people get married within a couple of months of meeting and last years.
Congrats! I feel happy to read this!
Woooow
Congrats!
I strongly feel that love starts off as a feeling and becomes a choice. I’m a psychology major, and so I know that passion fades fast. If you were to limit yourself to loving someone only when the passion is there, you’ll never find someone to be with long term. You have to make the choice to continue to love someone after the passions subsides. And it’s proven, if you want to love someone more, then act like you love them and you eventually will.
Sydney Tonkin Love this
This. When she said 70% feeling, 30% choice, I was thinking the numbers needed to be switched for long term. 70% wakes up and commits through the rollercoaster of feelings. Feelings are so fickle day to day.
I agree. I think you can love someone and it's involuntary, I suppose, but it's a choice to continue and deepen that love.
Sounds more like lust
Sydney Tonkin absolutely agree with you!
"Post-Therapy Me"
Yeah as a kid she went through a lot of therapy. Mostly because of how her parents are extremely religious, and she was brought up that way. Being "not straight" (as she calls it), it was especially hard on her. It's pretty sad seeing how many people end up in therapy over religion...
C. J. Aston also should be Merch 😂
100% Love is a choice. Attraction is a feeling. I can't choose who I am attracted to but I do choose who I let in and love. And once in a relationship you can't rely on feelings to carry you 50 years. Some days you'll have choose to love that person in the hard times or not and leave them. Feelings come and go and are unreliable. Love is different. Love is a decision..... I think I'm taking this quiz too seriously.
EurekaKat,That’s What I was thinking! Also I’m totally thinking way to far into this...
I love many people and things without choosing to do so but I think love isn’t as simple as a yes or no thing, it’s deeper than a feeling or a choice imo.
I agree to a point! To me it’s so much deeper than ether. You have to choice to work hard to make a relationship work but it all starts with some form of attraction. BUT! After that spark fades the hard work comes of speaking someone’s love language and abs so on. So I think it’s more of a choice than a feeling at the end of the day but I guess it depends on how long the attraction/spark lasts?
My brother says he loves Kristen and that he knows it's love because she's cute and real. I get that because who wants fake? I don't.
I think it's mostly a choice, because feelings and looks fade. And living together with a new person is not an easy thing to do. They'll do things that'll make you question your feeling of love. That's when you have to come back down to Earth and realize they're human too and love them anyway.
"Whatchoo mean, 'moderate'?! NEXT!"
The inclusive left for you, folks!
It means I can empathize with a lot of people and believe in the power of collaboration over stubbornness competitions.
Yes, girls. Yesss.
Wild by Nature The non-sensitive snowflake right for you, folks!
moderate used to be actually moderate. nowadays moderate is just conservative lol
0:01 Freddie you deserve BETTER
I felt that
I died at Chantels reaction
Heyyy iconic!!! 😂😂😂
I almost choked on my water when she said that
Why did I read that in Shane's voice also love the profile photo
"Would you get back together with an ex?"
...Would you like to take the trash out twice?
yeah i wouldn't want to go through the heartbreak twice that's for sure
Here's the thing about political beliefs in a relationship; at the end of the day, your political beliefs are your beliefs. Like, they tell you what a person's morals & priorities are. If someone doesn't care about helping people in need, or is careless about finances, that's reflected in their political ideology. If you're a selfish, controlling person, that influences who you vote for. I don't get people who say that a person's politics don't matter to them. Your politics are part of who you are, & they're not only gonna' be showing up if you're talking about the election.
I agree politics can be a reflection on the person. I was "it depends" because i don't have a set party i vote for. i do some research and vote for who lines up the most with my current principles and needs. the parties focus and behaviours do change a little depending on whoever is the figurehead at the time, so i try not to hard line myself. my SO and I quite often vote for different parties to each other because our needs are different.
the last time we voted mostly the same because one party here (australia) in particular put very little information out about what they planned to do and what they stood for and just slammed the opponent and most of it was personal.
Yes and for most people, politics are very personal. Everything from healthcare to systemic racism and immigration are incredibly personal and rely on basic ethic and morality.
AdraicStarks that’s booshit. You only feel people of a certain party are moral and care about helping people? That’s very close minded.
@@voxtur7465 It's not bullshit at all. Your personal values and needs define your personal politics. The line isn't necessarily drawn between parties - a Republican and a Democrat can have very similar values and needs, especially if they're both closer to center. But someone who really wanted to vote Bernie and someone who voted Trump are likely going to have very different values and needs. That difference could make a really rocky relationship.
AdraicStarks agreed
The question is what do we have to do to get some “i know what i know. I want what i want.” Merch???
Karyn McCarty YAAAASSSS
We *know* what we *know*
And *want* what we *want*
My parents got engaged after not even a month. My dad saw her and said, "lets get married now and date for the rest of our lives." Not too long after that they got married.
My parents got engaged after 3 months and they've been married for 18 years.
Grace Giveans mine moved in together one month after dating and got engaged the second month. Still going strong 20 years later
Grace Giveans some people just click
My parents dated for 9 years oof
But they're happily married with 3 kids :) 💗
My parents got engaged after 6 months. (They met and dating within that time frame) and got married 2 months after end they’ve been married for 29 years
#1: Were Ross and Rachel on a break/ would you forgive Ross?😂
Christinanna Ramey yes I would 😬 I think I’m on the unpopular opinion side of the debate but...they were on a break 🤷🏽♀️ a break is a temporary end where things aren’t off limits unless established before
Ross and Rachel were one a break. As an outsider, I forgive Ross. But if I were Rachel, i don’t know if Id forgive him.
They were on a break so he wasn't cheating, imo. But relationships are more complex than that, wether it was cheating or not, I would be hurt if my boyfriend-on-a-break ran to another girl right away. That break would became a break up just like that for me lol
Rachel said go and Ross went, don't get mad because he slept someone. I remember that 100 page letter she wrote him, girl bye!
Christinanna Ramey Hell no. He’s also just an asshole in general
She really jumped into it huh 0:01 😂
6:21 Freddie “Whatchu mean moderate!?!”
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Teagan Finley I was lol
Teagan Finley dude you’re actually a lifesaver!
I’m going to comment this on everything
I have been in a long-distance relationship for over 5 years. It is not for the weak of heart it was very difficult the first couple years but after about the 3-year it just got little easier. Our story is kind of a sad one I've been in and out of surgery this entire year so I haven't been able to visit him but I hope to be able to visit him soon. If you care about the person enough a long distance relationship won't matter but they're not for everybody like I said.
Chantel and Freddie, I really enjoy when you guys do polls and quizzes! Your personalities are so much fun to watch!
"Depends who broke up with who" is more realistic than you think. Maybe it means "I broke up with them, why would I get back together with them". Or "They broke up with me, I didn't want it to end. I'm still willing to try if they are"
I DON'T CELEBRATE CHRISTMAS BUT WHOEVER DUMPED HER *_IS COLD_* ! I MEAN, HOW COULD YOU DUMP A QUEEN LIKE FREDDIE!?!!?
Insecurities? Maybe they were a peasant compared to her
My best friend's cousin's bf for four years broke up with her right after her mother was laid to rest... Some people are just really heartless.
@@calle3193 BRUH THATS HORRIBLE OH MY GOD!
Calle Cambiado omg that is just wrong like omg nooo
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Violets are blue
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So are you
How did you know?😲😲😲
I'm magical 🤣✨
@@noraaaaa nice!!
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Nora The Potterhead it should be
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So you are too
Ilysm Ladylike
I think to truly love someone is a choice because once you strip away all the romance and things that one enjoys you either have nothing or you have love.
"Flirtatious AND petty queens all over this poll" 😂
ahh love this !! please make more videos about relationship and crushes!!
Honestly I'm going through a breakup now and hearing these lovely ladies being so casual and open about their past and thoughts gives me hope that one day things will be better for me
I'm in a long distance relationship! I obviously hate that I haven't seen him but I wouldn't change anything for the world. I love him.
Great video guys!
i liked this video, you two have some really great insights and it’s nice that you had an opportunity to talk about these semi-serious topics in a lighthearted way :)
I love you ladies
You always come up with the best video ideas and display them perfectly
You are so inspirational to all of the young woman and girls who watch you
Keep doing what your doing
LOVE YOU GUYS!
This set is so aesthetically pleasing, I love the greens and pinks and blues!
The "is flirty texting cheating" question is only so cut and dry when you're in a monogamous relationship--if you're poly, things are more open depending on your rules and communication. To me personally, cheating is marked by the deceit and secrecy. If my partner is flirting with someone and I know and I'm chill with it? Not cheating. If they're flirting with someone and I don't know??? That's cheating.
i agree sometimes context is needed like what constitutes a flirt text and what is the context as well. if you can't or won't be okay with your s.o seeing them then that is a red flag and then some.
i mean my best friend and i sometimes send "i love you, i miss you" texts. if anyone other than my best friend or s.o (he knows we're close and that we say love you) saw those they may assume there is something going on. but we're not flirting. we do love each other (we consider each other family) and we don't get to see each other much as we now live in different states.
I agree completely with you. I don't mind my SO being flirtatious with other people. I don't even really mind if they're with someone else sexually as long as it's not deceitful or in secret. Like seriously if they just tell me about it, I'm perfectly fine with it. I don't mean they have to like announce that they're going to be flirting with someone, but that they shouldn't hide it either. I think people put WAY too much pressure on relationships... acting like once you're with someone you're supposed to only be with that person for the rest of your life. Or acting like you're never allowed to even look at another human being suddenly. I think a lot of it comes from a lack of communication and predetermined rules though. People seem to just assume or think their SO is a mind reader...
also there can be some really young teens or clueless young adults who have no idea anything about relationships who honestly wouldn't know due to no experience
@@Sorrelpaw Yeah that's why they said they want to know the age groups that were polled, since that makes a huge difference. A lot of younger people don't know anything about relationships, or even love, but what they do know is what's drilled into them by their parents... So typically they're in a rush to experience it as fast as possible either because the parents push them to do it or because they hold them back from doing it...
@@Eventide215 yea, but with her reaction, it seemed almost like she forgot younger people who have 0 idea about relationships could be answering them is all
I did the thing with starting a relationship with long distance and we are still together now.
My boyfriend and I knew each other from a boarding school, but didn't become boyfriend and girlfriend until several months after we graduated. So we started out with a long distance relationship, almost 2 hours with train is long distance in Denmark. But we met about 2 times a month, sometimes less. And that lasted for 3 years, and know we finally live together, and have been for the last 1,5 year. Even my dad didn't think it would last this long because of the distance between and our age, started when I was 18 and he was 17.
I would not trade it for anything. I think the distance between made us appreciate the time together a lot more and made us grow as persons and made our relationship grow even more. When we were long distance we spend more quality time together than we do know, both at University so not much time to quality time.
I love them so much 💞 they always make me laugh 😆
I met my boyfriend 5 months ago and he asked me to be his girlfriend 4 days before he left to Australia for a year. We’ve been dating for 4 months and it’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done but it’s pushed me to grow and I’ve learned so much about myself and trust. TRUE LOVE PREVAILS no matter what the situation is.
2 OF MY FAVOURITE QUEENS
“We know what we know, and we want what we want” for some reason reminded me a lot of Eugene’s mom saying “I’m right, you’re wrong, *shut up* “
Moved in with my bf after 6 weeks, still together 4 years later, when you know you know🤷♀️
My husband and I met at a summer camp when I was 15. When we started dating he lived far away and would travel to see me every other weekend. Long distance relationships can really work depending on the person you're dating and how invested they are in making it work.
'We know what we know, we want what we want.'
this was a lot better than I was expecting. most of the answers made sense and it was super mature
LOVE IS A CHEMICAL IN YOUR BRAIN THAT PERSUADES YOU TO MATE.
Haven't even watched yet, bit I'm still excited 🤣🤣🤣
I laughed so hard when Freddie said we know what we know and want what we want..
I loved this video so much thanks for always making videos luv u guys😘
That intro had me dying lol keep up the great work girlz!
That intro tho
Love you guys!!! ❤️❤️
Love you guyssss
"We know what we know. We want what we want." New mantra.
Also the idea that love can be a choice and a feeling...never thought about that before.
I agreed with you girls on everything! Love you both so much!!!
Cool video guys!! ❤️🙌
Loved this video!! i love when you girlas do these types of videos. love from PUERTO RICO. XOXO, Liza
love you guys
I really liked this!
Hiii lady like I would just like to say that I love u guys so much and I hope u have a great day♥️💕💙💖❤️💞😍😘
You guys make such good videos!!!
*We know what we know,*
*we want what we want.*
long distance is hard but not impossible. ive been with my boyfriend for three years now, this most recent being long distance. i think if there is good communication and understanding, relationships can work and still grow.
Funny video as always 😂
Loveya girls. This quote most likely will stick with me for a while. Some answers are great as we know that some can be a bit debatable yet we can share our thoughts and knowing what we want in life etc. Thanks for sharing this.
ilysm LadyLike you guys are my favorite UA-cam channel
I absolutely agree about the feeling vs. choice. Attraction and falling in love is 100% feeling, but once you are in love and in an established relationship, you have to choose to love that person every day. Obviously the feeling is still there, but some days are harder than others. Every couple goes through hard times and rough patches, and when you get to those moments you have to consciously fight for your relationship. It doesn't matter how much you love your partner, if you choose to stop fighting for them, you will not last.
Saying yes to being in a long distance relationship is one of the best decisions I’ve ever made! It definitely was difficult to be apart so much, but when it’s the right person, it’s so worth it. We were apart for a little over a year (we are from different countries & I needed to get a visa, which took a while to get) but later this month we are celebrating our 1 year wedding anniversary ❤️ so don’t be afraid to be with someone just because of distance, they may absolutely be worth every mile between you!
No the middle ground is non-existent in California!
I love this
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She said “next” like bretman rock 😂😂
Ilysm Ladylike!❤️
Fred! Where’d you get that shirt?! 😇😇
Even the discussion of getting back with an ex depends on what we broke up over. There are 3 things that I can’t forgive. You can’t cheat on me, you can’t hit me/ emotionally abuse me, and you can’t have no ambition. All of those things say that you don’t love me enough to treat me right or set us up for a good life, and I can’t forgive that even if I still love you.
I'm currently dating someone with polar opposite political beliefs than me and it is a challenge for sure but we're making it work. It honestly could be the thing that ends us though...
I loved this ❤️
This is completely random but when Cha fella mentioned he bird saying I immediately started crying. Lol my grandad alwayssssss said that saying, he’s passed in 2016 but I’ve never really heard anyone else say that saying since then and it brought back nice memories! Loved this video, as I always do❤️
Moved in after two months
Got engaged after four months
We were married after one year
When you know, you just know. There are no rules, go with your gut ;)
Love your videos ladies!!! Freddie shout out from the sky 😝 I was the flight attendant you had going to Brussels! So nice to meet you, I feel like I was more excited about you being on my flight than when I had Alicia keys and her fam 🤣 keep up the amazing videos I appreciate all the life advice and laughs 💕
love you guys soooo much
The first thing Fred said in the whole video really hit home. My first relationship ended on Christmas Eve of 2017....
This video genuinely made me laugh. And that doesn’t happen often on a UA-cam video!
I just love your videos❤️
I also was in a long distance relationship in college and was broken up with around Christmas. It was a mess and I learned that most of my "friends" weren't really my friends...
Now I'm in a phenomenally better relationship. It gets better eventually. 🧡
Hilarious as always
Yess 💙💙
I think in the beginning, love is a feeling and the longer you’re with someone the more it becomes a choice
This video was awesome 😂
Yea we love you
“Watchoo mean moderate? NEXT!” I’m happy they recognize that the country is becoming more and more polarized each day but that polarization is a huge problem. It’s so dangerous how divided our country has become and we really do need to reign it back in to the middle and stop all this senseless fighting that is fueled very much by pride. I’ve been making a conscious effort to move towards a more moderate position and listen to more perspectives. So to just disregard anyone who considers themselves moderate or on the other end of the spectrum is very much exasperating the division of our country.
Love yall
I was in a long distance relationship in college. My ex broke up with me right before I was came home to see him for Christmas. So almost right there with Freddie.
Can't wait for the wedding guys 😂👌
"We know what we know, and we want what we want." My new quote to live by
First sentence: ME TOO!!! Only in my senior year of high school. On Christmas ON THE PHONE. Worst Christmas EVER.
“Watchu mean, moderate? NEXT”
Same
WHAT A DUO
I feel ya freddie. I was broken up with on X-mas too. And he didn't even do it, his friend did it for him. And I agreed with most of your answers and your quote "We know what we know and we want what we want!"
I always love Freddie's NEXT!!! THAT VOICE THOUGH😂😂😂😂
6:22 my mood 24/7 😂
they are my FAVORITE ONES! and I see why now.. I agree with what they both said hahah and I see how they are similar and how they vibe so well
Oh ma gawd on Chrysler