I made a wedding cake for a friend and charged her reduced rate. She gave me an envelope with the money and she had paid me twice what I asked for as she felt it was worth more than I asked. I tried to give her the extra back but she refused to take it. This is how real friends behave, they appreciate you.
Exactly! I never ask from discounts from my friend and tip extra heavy if I was gonna put that money in the hands of a stranger then I’m definitely gonna hook my friends up with the same plus some! I do expect good service though because I did have one friend that gave me shoddy handiwork and thought I wouldn’t complain because I’m their friend. Nope! Treat me just like your other customers.
Dear Shallow People: A beautiful and aesthetically pleasing wedding refers to the decor, attire, and ambiance of the venue - in other words, the material things - not people! People are not props. Please stop treating people like objects. Thank you.
When my husband and I got married we were young and poor and just starting a new business. I found a delightful tulle knee-length dress off the rack for $30. My mother made my veil from tulle and lace. My husband found a classy suit from a thrift store for $2. My co-workers at a time-share donated lots of bottles of pink champagne from guests who declined to accept theirs and left them behind after checking out. We bought our own keg of beer and supermarket wedding cake and flowers. The wedding was held in a local public park for free, and the reception was in the big backroom of our new business. Our mothers made the food. It was a wonderful day and everyone had a great time. What's with the entitled freaks who think they are Princess Diana and demand a day that costs tens of thousands of dollars?? Are you in love with your man or yourself???
I think a lot of it is Pinterest and other social media perpetuating the ideas of these lavish weddings and bridal showers making feel like that’s what’s expected. I’ve recently been to two bridal showers - one was simple and sweet and one was more lavish. And both were beautiful and amazing because it’s about the bride and groom and those who love and support them! But I totally feel bad for brides today because there’s a weird social pressure that’s hard to navigate - I have a friend whose friends were all getting married around the same time and trying to top each other. So you go to weddings like that and people talk and then have unrealistic expectations.
I altered my mom's wedding dress. Found a church for my venue, which was the second most expensive thing, a friend-set gave me photography videography discount, and I tipped them (that's where i spent the most money), I would have had a thousand dollars-ish in catering, but my parents covered it (I was ready to pay for that though). I had about 250 people at my wedding and it was great. People have gone out of their way to tell me how nice it was and how much fun they had. And yeah, all without spending thousands of dollars total. Maybe 1500 altogether, not sure now. The marriage is infinitely more important than the wedding day; if you love each other, so many things do not matter.
I had two photographers in my wedding, both my friends. The first one was a professional photographer and she herself said that she would give us a discount because we were friends. I wouldn't have dreamt to ask her to do it for free. My other friend asked if he could take pictures too, he said he would do it for free because he wasn't a professional. We said yes of course and decided that we could still give him some sort of payment anyway after receiving the pictures. Few months after our wedding he died unexpectedly... His friend managed to find the pictures from his computer and sent them to us. They were beautiful ❤ They mean so much to us and we'll now always have a piece of him through these photos 😭 We ended up sending the money to his mother.
The Thing with Discounts, a favor for a favor, working for expoisure, or a Service AS a Wedding Gift IS, that the offer Always has to come from the one providing the Service!!! They all can absolutely BE viable Options AS Long as one does Not feel entitled to them! Also, that IS heartbreaking, I am very glad, that you got the Pictures AS a very Special token of remembrence to them!
I think people drastically overestimate how much other people want to attend their wedding. An ESSAY, I would write “Thanks for the out, I hate weddings.”
I got kicked out of a wedding party about 9 months prior to wedding because I didn't respond to the bride when she wanted me to. My 2 year old son was sick. This was a 10 year friendship and honestly I'm glad that the wedding brought out who she truly was. I'm better off without that nonsense.
What on earth? That's ridiculous. It's honestly crazy to me how so many women go power mad because of one single event in their lives. At least you were able to see her true colours once and for all.
When my best friend got married she wanted herself and all of her bridesmaids to look fantastic while walking down the aisle. After other weddings that I have been in where the bride’s seriously wanted the bridesmaids to look like crap, it showed me the difference between confidence and insecurity. The confident bride’s wedding was so much more fun, she even had a bounce house that corresponded with the colors of our dresses.
When I got married I wanted my bridesmaids to look THEIR BEST!! If I'm looking my best they must as well!! That was my motto! I'm getting MARRIED not going competing on America's Next Top Model...
I chose a colour and fabric on this dress website but the style is entirely up to my bridesmaids. I want them to pick a style that makes them feel their best. I’m also covering the cost of hair and makeup for all of them because I chose a pricey makeup artist and that’s not something that should impact them because it was my decision.
One of my best friends was the same. She told us to wear the dress we're comfortable in and feel beautiful in. 😌 So, without her knowledge, we colour coordinated and she loved it. The pictures came out bomb.
I'm sorry - I'm calling b.s. on the first one. I don't think the bride chose that dress. Really? She is concerned about being outshined at her wedding yet she chooses a low-cut, strapless, bodycon dress for her model friend? Also, if this woman is a model, are you really telling me she had no other fancy dresses available? I was a model/performer for decades, and if someone told me last minute that they wanted me in another dress, I would have had over a dozen to choose from. Nope. Bride invited friend to wedding, probably asked her to keep it low key, friend shows up in that dress, bride doesn't approve, friend uses situation for Internet clout.
i think the dress is hideous so maybe the bride didn't think she could look good but the friend got the body for literally any clothes so it backfire maybe.
I agree. NO WAY a bride would chose a dress with tatas hanging out for a dress that is completely inappropriate for any wedding. This woman is looking for internet exposure.
@@cloudstalker8956 That says a lot about you. Who would tell a friend to wear something they think looks ugly on them? On the other hand, I also think that model is lying.
For my wedding 5 yrs ago . I took all my girls to try on dresses and made sure they looked good and were comfy in the dress I picked. I let them wear their hair however they wanted and told them just wear silver shoes don't care if they are the same. I did moon and star theme. Dresses were navy blue . I bought each their star constellation zodiac signs necklaces as a gift and let each of them keep a center piece which was a lantern with moon and star lights. We had a great time. I wanted it to be a good time . We just had it small with sit down dinner after church service. Good times for everyone
When I got married I took the girls shopping at a department store that had gowns. I let them choose because I wanted something they'd like & could maybe wear again, nothing too fancy. They chose a silvery blue & I told them silver shoes any kind they want. The dresses were on sale for $119, but my cousin who lived in a nearby city an hour away, bought the exact same dress for $59, it was part of last year's stock for the store in her city (guess more advanced in fashion than my city lol). It was a perfect excuse to go on a day trip with the girls to that mall so we could be sure they get the right size. We had a small wedding of 40, but that cost a few thousand, mostly for the venue, but primarily did it because I was moving overseas within the month, and it was time to party with friends & family closest to me before moving.
My now-Ex wife & I have always laughed at bridezilla stories because we'd never put up with that crap & made our own wedding (way back in the 90s) as chill/relaxed as possible....but now we fear our son's fiance will turn in to one & honestly I'm afraid I'll not be able to hold my tongue about it if she does. NO REGERTS! 😂
The dress is undoubtedly a stunning dress and the model is just as stunning. However, I would never look at that dress as being appropriate to wear to a wedding. If the bride really did pick that dress for her friend (ex-friend?) to wear, she made a very poor choice. The dress would be a knockout on the runway or in a beauty pageant, but no way would I consider having someone wear it to a wedding. I think maybe there is part of this story that we are not being told. Sorry, but that's just my humble opinion. I think this COULD be a made-up story so the model could say "Look how beautiful I am" without saying "Look how beautiful I am". The groom with the "homely" friend who is going to mess up the bride's aesthetically pleasing photos if he acts as best man, is being given a clear-cut warning signal that this woman is extremely shallow and is NOT someone he needs to marry. I predict if he goes ahead and marries her, he will live to regret it and within five years or less he will be divorced.
Honestly, I don't believe that story from the model who got uninvited. No bride would ever pick such a dress for a guest, because its completely unsuitable for a wedding. I think that is a lie to get photos, exposure and support from followers.
Maryann Anderson, I totally agree with you, that story is so fake, & the shallow bride will never be able to hold on to any man for very long because of her off-putting personality.
You are single handedly keeping me going through a particularly arduous hospital visit. The patient opposite me wanted to know what I was watching that amused me so much. 😊
My friend was recently married in September and she is the opposite of a bridezilla. She was so worried about all the guests having a good time and politely asked for anything, while refusing freebies. I spent weeks making a lace bolero to match her dress and had to literally force it on her as a gift be wise she wanted to pay. She looked absolutely stunning!!! Best wedding I ever went to!
See...that is the thing. People who have wonderful and generous in the past and who truly care about their friends and guests often WILL get large effort items donated to them for free, as a gift.
@@ladygrndr9424 yeah, but rather have good friends then good items. Craving fancy things is f****** stupid. Wanting nice things is okay. But it's certainly shouldn't come at the cost of your friend's happiness.
Years ago, my best friend since high school was my MOH. She was an accomplished seamstress, so she made her MOH dress for my wedding as her gift to me. I purchased the material. I was going to pay for her dress but we didnt really find anything we liked. The dress was more beautiful than anything we had looked at. My new husband's cousin was newly engaged and loved the dress so much she hired her to make her wedding dress, her MOH dress and all 4 of her bridesmaids dresses. My friend was thrilled.
As an experienced seamstress I was blown away by a friend who asked me to make a bridesmaid dress. It was a bit of a pain as it had 24 fabric roses all along the neckline & spaghetti straps. She paid me very well and to my surprise, she gifted the dress to my 5-year-old daughter after the wedding for playing dress up. I was blown away, my daughter was over the moon & friend was happy that she didn’t have a dress she would never wear again taking up space in her closet. Kinda makes up for all the other “friends” & family who have burned me. Even my own daughter didn’t speak to me for years because the quilt I made for my great niece was better than the one for my grandson. I don’t make quilts for family anymore for the simple fact that NO ONE has ever sent me a thank you. I don’t think that a thank you note is too much to ask, is it? Edit: thanks so much for all of your lovely & kind comments. Wow
For a quilt I’d send a flower arrangement, a thank you card and pay you!! It’s a difficult skill that requires time and patience. Quilts are history and should be treasured and handed down. Sorry no one you sent them to realized that. 💕
I'm truly sorry that no one appreciated the effort, at least, that it takes to create a quilt. It should be treasured even more for being made by a beloved family member, and never taken for granted. It breaks my heart, as I'd love to have something my grandmother made for me!
No it's not! Just goes to show where people's values are. Whatever happened to the days when people just appreciated whatever someone gifted them. Used to be it was the thought that counted.
It never ceases to amaze me that brides think people care SO MUCH about attending their weddings. I always think of them as a "pleasant chore". Happy to go if invited, no big deal if I'm not.
Yup. My cousin is getting married and I'm not invited (we love each other, we're just not close). Technically, my brothers and several other people aren't either but Mom is upset on my behalf, since several of our mutual female cousins ARE invited. I'm just like "But people would want me to socialize!! And what am I going to do when I'm done with that? I can't say what I usually do which is "Well, I'm done talking." And walk away!" But I will back up my mom if I see more family members than strange people in the pictures. My argument might be, You can invite all these people who will probably move away and you'll never hear from them again except for occasionally on FB or Instagram, but not your own Family?! Let's nevermind about the fact that we aren't even FB friends ourselves lol
Luckily, my friends are (so far) of a different kind. Two years ago, one of them got married. Her fiancé is pretty well off and the wedding would be quite posh. Sadly, I got into an accident weeks before the wedding, and I ended up with a broken foot. I called her to tell her I might not come to the wedding since I thought I would look ridiculous with the crutches. I loved her when she told me to just show up, she didn't care about the crutches, she wanted me to be there. The wedding was beautiful and I had a great time. The bride made sure I had a good place to sit if I wanted a rest and that the caterers would bring food and drinks to me. That's what really good friends are like.
Hope the foot has healed well, and so glad your friend was a true class act, a type of honest lifelong class that money just can not buy. Hugs from a fellow Tater Tot from New York. Oh, you too, to have had the kindness and class to make the offer esp while injured (been through a lot of surgeries on hips and legs).
I love that you were as speechless as I was at that deeply shallow bridezilla who didn't want the 'homely' best man. What a horrid woman. I hope the groom (and his best man / friend) escaped safely away from her.
I had a woman contact me about making a wedding dress. The woman pulled an antique, vintage dress out of a bag and wanted me to remove the center front lace panel, and use it to design a new, custom made dress for her *pregnant* niece. I said it would be a lot of work, and she mentioned she was on a budget. I said the best budget option would be to go to local chain bridal store and purchase a sale dress from the $99 rack or a white prom dress. "Oh" she said, "I didn't have any intention of spending that much."
As someone who has been sewing and making costumes for nearly 30 years, I would be appalled if a friend asked me to make a wedding gown for free! I once rushed a Renaissance gown for a "friend" who said she needed it quickly. She sent most of the fabric (I had to buy the rest) and paid me $400. It took me over 17 straight hours of work and I had to call in a friend to help just to get it done in time. It was finished and shipped in time, but when she got it she claimed it didn't fit (it was made to her measurements she sent me) and that the sleeves were sewn on backwards (no, that was just how they looked when it wasn't actually on the person..it was a Renaissance fashion thing), and refused to pay me the rest of the money she owed me. I was so done by that point (she actually wanted a refund!) and I told her that as far as I was concerned, I had gone far above and beyond and that if her measurements were wrong that wasn't my fault. She would need to find someone close to her who could fit it to her, but we were done. NEVER AGAIN!
But.... the exposure. People would see your work and come to you to do more work for exposure. Because we all know that "exposure" pays bills. Banks LOVE when people pay their mortgages with "exposure".
I agree my sister is good at making clothes and I wanted to help her make myself a dress based on my favorite book series. I told her I would pay for everything
I have an alterations shop and even total strangers ask me for discounts for no reason at all. Had a lady in yesterday with three small things. Her total was like $42 and she wanted a discount. Ugh.
I hella lucked out for my wedding dress! My aunt's neighbor was a seamstress, little old lady named Betty! My dress was pearls head to toe. She took in the waist and hips for me but wouldn't take more the $50. She was a doll! Of course Betty had a couple hundred dollars left on her kitchen table (unknown to her) as I left with my perfect dress. I still don't feel it was enough but I wanted her to accept it and not argue. She was beaming at me at the wedding so I think I did well.😉
That shows true appreciation for her and her special talent/skills. That was beautiful! I still don't understand those asking for freebies, I mean do any of them work for free? I think not!
In my experience, lavish, expensive weddings often aren't that fun to attend. They tend to be long, draining, and stressful, because it's usually really obvious how fanatical one or both parties are about making everything "perfect." They don't want guests, they want props.
I had a small wedding of 40 people. I had a blast because I had time to spend with each of those guests who were very special to me. We lit 3 candles, not part of the ceremony, but my brother had died 6 years before and my Uncle 2 years, the other was for all those who died on 9/11 because my wedding was 4 days after. It was just little things we did that made it more personal and fun for all. My niece who was 15 y/o, said it was the most fun wedding she had ever been to. Hearing others say how much they enjoyed it all was all I needed, especially as within the month I was moving overseas so it was a farewell party in a way, time to party down with loved ones.
You are correct. I don't even care for wedding parties who have some silly skit/dance to do that nobody else thinks is entertaining. We are all sitting on tables enjoying conversation. Enjoying our food and drink. Nobody cares what the wedding party is doing. They should be doing what the rest of us are trying to do.... Enjoy themselves.
Yeah, the Most expensive was the least fun Wedding I went to . . . My best friend only really Cares for the food being great, has ordered a Special dish Just for me, cause I am allergic to a Lot, everything Else IS optional . . . .she Just wants to get married and everyone have a good time . . . Like her reaction to me probably being sick for the Wedding was, she makes Sure I have a place to Rest and will Bring a hot water bottles . . . .I could faint during the ceremony and her reaction would BE sprinting to Catch me, Not getting Mad . . . . .IT IS so wild, that so many couples Care more about a Look and Idea, then Sharing happieness with the people they Love . . . Yeah, my best friend IS an absolut Catch that goes above and beyond but some human decency should BE expected! (I have Endometriosis and the Wedding IS likely to Fall into my Periode, thats why I can somewhat Tell ITS likely I will BE under the weather at that date)
I don't sew, but I know people that do, and they have told me how complex wedding dresses are. Even if you are just doing alterations, it takes time. That's why alterations are over $100.
Guess we all have different priorities. I got married last month at the court house. My husband spent our money on our new house, and got me an almost new truck. We asked no one for a single cent and saved for 13 years(things kept financially coming up) We invited only 4 guest and ate like kings and queens. Best day ever next to having my kids!
11:15 I feel bad for the groom, too. I get the feeling the ONLY part of this wedding he had ANY say in was his own best man, and then bc he actually put his foot down and refused to change his best man (I can't even believe she asked him to), she calls off the wedding. This guy dodged a bullet.
That guy needs to learn to pick better partners & have a spine a loot sooner I sincerely hope he does not encounter the same bullet twice, as next time he may not dodge it 😅
I have very OFTEN made wedding dresses for friends for the cost of the material in exchange for great photos. Each time they all say "you will be the first to get the photos", still waiting. I have a faded polaroid somewhere and another bride asked me if I realised how much photos were and could she just email me them so I could print them out myself. I no longer know how to sew.
Honestly I would take the cost of the material multiply by 2 then still add the 600 to it and say that's how much the material cost. I will refuse to do the dress if she doesn't pay me for material and buys it herself.
Oh, that's a shame. Don't let others take you down. You seem to have some great talent!!!! I envy everybody capable of making their own wardrobe!!!! Much ❤️ from Austria 🇦🇹 and happy New Year 🍀
Jeeze! It's not expensive for YOU to make a detailed wedding dress but suddenly its so expensive for HER to have photos made for you? I understand why you stopped sewing!
I once accidentally attended a wedding. My band had a gig at a bar in a small town and we got there the night before. So a couple of us went to the bar to get a lay of the land and were a little freaked out at how dressed to the nines the bouncers were. We told them why we were there and they said to go on in. The bouncers were the groom and the best man. Had a great time, and we are still friends after 16 years.
We once went to the wrong memorial service! We were there for the right funeral, but after what was supposed to be a small luncheon... we were there for 30-40 minutes before we realized it was the wrong one. I felt bad for our friend's wife, the widow who wondered why we only came to the funeral! The wrong wedding sounds more fun!
This is a very underestimated comment. Celebrating your friendship! 🎉 Do you have any single friends for me who need a date at the next wedding in your friend group? 😂
I'm so glad the 5'3" lad and his bestie put 10k into spending a great time together and not on the wedding or gifts for the couple/bride! Hopefully the wedding did indeed get cancelled 🙏🍀
I love that one of the bridezillas wanted someone who was too attractive to not be there, and another didn't want someone who didn't look good enough xD Guess there is no winning with monsters :/
I did much of my wedding decor on my own and the things I couldn’t do, I was blessed to have friends talented in that area. (Musician, baker, hair and makeup stylist) It made us so happy to have them part of our day and because I appreciate and VALUE them, we paid their full price. Because friends support each other.
We gave our daughter $10,000 for her wedding, spend it as she please. She spent $3,500 total, the $6,500 remainder and $$ gifts went towards the down payment on their house. Neither the parents nor in-laws raised foolish kids. Their house is worth double what they bought it for.
You are awesome parents! That’s exactly what my parents did for me and my hubby years ago. They gave us the choice of a huge paid for wedding or take the money and be smart with it! We had a very small, intimate wedding with family and close friends. We bought a condo and within five years, the market exploded and we sold at a huge profit and currently live in our dream home for less than our friends pay for rent in an apartment!!
This is exactly what my daughter and her fiancé are doing. She is still having the big white wedding she has always wanted, but cut corners, bought her dress in a sale etc. so they can have an amazing honeymoon and still have money towards their down payment.
@@diva70smusic We'll admit to decent parents and smart, well manner kids. We raised them to thrive on little money because, for years, the only thing we could afford for presents were free appliance boxes (from overs, washers/dryers, fridges) made forts/play houses for them. They had a blast and to this day never expect anything other than love. We'll do the same for our grandchildren, but they do get toys. Legos (and off brand stuff) are the way to go. The grand kids will play with the Legos their parents got from grandparents for gifts. Then their kids get them afterwards. Legos can last for several generations.
I don't get what the obsession is with having an "aesthetically pleasing" wedding? Like, why does that matter? Me and my bf have agreed on what's basically a registry office "wedding". It's just to get the paperwork signed with our witnesses there (parents and siblings). After that we're just gonna rent a bar and have a big party to celebrate. All that matters is being together. If being legally married didn't have any advantages we probably wouldn't even bother. It's about being in love not about everyone and everything in a 30ft radius looking like a movie... People like that last one really baffle me.
> I don't get what the obsession is with having an "aesthetically pleasing" wedding? Like, why does that matter? Why do people get married? 1) Because of convenience. 2) Because of love. 3) For the attention. Guess which one 9:25 is.
Right on. My husband and I had a "surprise wedding". We had a JP show up at our annual huge family BBQ. The "stranger" drove up, I ran inside and came out in a white dress, it was lovely.
Seriously, the last thing I thought about when I planned my wedding was "aesthetics". I just wanted my family there to support me, not once did I think about who "looked good enough" to be up there. Some people just want the wedding for the attention, they don't care who they step on to get their "vision".
@@MrMartinSchou Exactly! The only explanation that makes sense to me is: She's only marrying for the Instagram likes. If the photos aren't pretty, might as well not have a wedding. Sigh...
I was going to make a joke about being kicked out of weddings for being too handsome. But then that last one .... The amount of money the friend spent is only relevant in that it may signify how close the groom is to him. The wedding parties I have been in were for close friends and in each case included hours and hours or pre-planning and coordination. In every case family, bachelor party group, and groomsmen lived in multiple states. To have done all this then be dropped by a friend that close ..... Charlotte your 1st reaction said it all ...... There are no Words
My bestie and I had both been with our men for awhile. We got the wild idea for a double wedding at the courthouse. None of us had much money so we dressed to the hilt, and it was surprisingly festive as we saw brides in full wedding attire and it was fun. Afterwards a week later we asked our friends to celebrate with us at the local bar we brought snack food and it was a celebration of joy. These people live in la la land and I don't think they know what they missed by being d bags. Love u Charlotte!
Interesting at how history changes everything. Originally, the bridesmaids had to wear identical dresses to the bride so that any opposing tribe would not know who to capture for ransom.
Happy New Year, Everyone! The seamstress story really burned my biscuits!! I hate when people want free services under the guise of "friendship!" A friend started selling merchandise promoting her small business. I asked her the price of five tshirts and when she told me I said told her to send me the CashApp request...to which she hesitated for a long time. The reason for the hesitation... ...was she was waiting for me to ask her for a discount like everyone else had done. Nope. Whatever the price is ....is whatever the damn price is!!!
I freaking agree with you. I never discuss the price, especially when it's 2nd hand or handmade by a relative. Anyway, I don't buy things that are overpriced. But I have zero issue spending on something worth the money. People are ridiculous with money, they act like junkies, they don't want to separate from it even if they can 🙄
Truth! If I like something a friend of mine is making, I expect to pay the full price because I value the work they've put into it, no questions asked. I mean, I wouldn't even think of asking for a friend discount.
A friend recently asked to buy a print of one of my designs. I offered to give it to her for free and she flat out refused, even sent me more money than I asked for because she thought I wasn't charging enough. This is how true friends support each other and I would do the same for her in s heartbeat.
During Shakespeare times, weddings would be for anyone in the town to attend and the bride and guests could wear whatever they want as long as it’s respectful. It was a celebration of marriage and pretty chill. Some weddings should meet that except have guests and all that for safety reasons 😂
In my wedding invite, Im gonna put look your best!!! I’m a libra so love everyone looking good. Cause honestly, if you look good, you feel good and confident and that’s the energy I want. Everyone to look fly 😍
The main thing people need to realize about their weddings is yes it’s “once in a lifetime” (hopefully) for them because they are the ones getting married, but for their guest it will not be because we all attend multiple weddings during our lifetimes your wedding won’t be the only one I’ll be attending.
@@rileigh5642 I would love to see an update on that one to find out if ANYONE sent in an essay. I seriously doubt that anyone would want to go to a wedding that badly.
Exactlyy. It sounds harsh to hear, but it seems some brides need to hear it, that no one really cares about your wedding as much as you do. This is just a fact. You need your guests more than they need you lol so why on earth would you treat them that way? So ridiculous
@@rileigh5642: I could see that, sort of, if it was a royal wedding, or something similar, but I doubt if they even go that far for a royal, or even a celebrity wedding, but if you're a relative nobody, then it is far beyond the pale.
Just a thought for all the other friends who said the designer was being a bad friend; why didn't they all chip in for that 600 pounds then? As a collective wedding gift? Or better yet why didn't they make one themselves for the entitled bride? I know the bride is the main problem but I can't stand people who enable selfish entitlement because *insert stupid reasons* then gaslight and pressure the victim to either give in or make them feel like the villain.
Well said, I couldn’t agree more! Entitled people get that way and stay that way when they are enabled and never suffer consequences. Really pisses me off 🤬👏🏼
My “best friend” didn’t ask me to be in her wedding. I was devastated. I later heard from one of the girls who WAS in it that it was because I was overweight and wouldn’t look good in the slinky bridesmaid dresses she chose. That was devastating to me. She DID ask me to stand up with her at her 2nd wedding more than 10 years later. Can you tell I am still a bit sore over that?
(5:00) - 2 Essays : Both my essays would have the words "Im Not Coming" over and over and over for 500 words each (yes even though it is supposed to be only 250 words) thank goodness for 'cut and paste'!
Nah, that Bride asking for essays is a genius. Absolutely brilliant idea for pairing down the guest list. Especially if she's trying to chase people away. She's having people cut themselves from the list rather than having to figure out who to cut herself. Absolutely brilliant. I might steal the idea. Also, that sounds like some neurodivergent shit. I can see how someone with Autism would think that was logical. I have Autism and my criteria for who should be on the guest list is at quite at odds with mother-in-law to be 😅 Also, also, 500 words between 2 questions are barely a paragraph each. It would take 5 minutes. Especially if you have a strong relationship with either the bride or groom. You never know; she may have been planning to put all the responses in a scrapbook that she shared at the wedding.
The girl with the "short, homely" best man just about made my head explode. i will never, never understand when and why weddings became a beauty pageant! And it's so horrible for the people that don't fit that disgusting person's standard. If my SO told me my best friend couldn't be in OUR wedding because of how they looked, well, we certainly wouldn't be married now.
For real! The only aesthetic issue I can see is the unibrow, which can literally be fixed in two seconds with an eyebrow razor. I'm sure he wouldn't mind doing that. You don't need to kick him out of the freaking wedding just for body hair!
Our middle brother's first wife did that when they got married. He wanted our oldest brother to be his best man but his wife got upset because our oldest bro is only about 5'1" and her maid of honor was tall so she said they would look ridiculous and told our middle brother no the day before the wedding! They divorced a year and a half later. He later married his second wife who is amazing and our oldest brother was his best man and my husband was also a groomsman. They've been married for 16 years now. ❤
Same here! It’s about who is in the party and what they mean to you…My man’s having a best woman…she is his best friend and I’m so excited to have her up there next to my fiancé!
I was so angry. I get that he’s not the most attractive, but he’s your husband’s best friend! And he went above and beyond for his bachelor party. Sounds like an awesome friend I’m betting she didn’t want him in her Insta pics
I commissioned a painting from my best friend. She asked me how much I am willing to pay and I told her I whatever you would ask a stranger to pay. Paid full price and couldn't be happier. Money well spent on the time and effort she put in.
Thank you, Charlotte for posting this video. I'm am so glad my ex didn't listen to his friends when they said don't invite you ex to your wedding! I enjoyed seeing those peoples faces when they realized I was there. It was a great wedding, and everyone was happy at the end of the night!
I was straight booted from a wedding party 1 day after trying on bridesmaids dresses. Was told by our mutual friend that was also in the party that is was bc of my hourglass shape & I was too pretty. So I showed up to the wedding in a better dress. It was petty of her so I matched her petty. I was truly hurt at 1st but as time went by I just find it funny.
When I got married, many moons ago, I was just focused on getting to the church on time, in my borrowed dress, and not making a fool of myself by tripping and falling down. The people that attended were welcome, and we were grateful that they took precious time out of their day to attend. What ever happened to being thankful to the people that showed up? Getting married is not about "what are you going to give me", it is about sharing the love with friends and family. I did not care what they wore, or what they looked like. A nice time was had by all.
I’m 6’8”, and when my best friend (not even a close 2nd) got married, he initially asked me to be his best man. Fiancée didn’t want me ruining the pictures, and asked if they could take pics without me in them. Then asked if I would just be an usher, and not stand/sit/pose with the wedding party. I probably didn’t handle it well, because I told them I would be unable to attend. Oh well. We haven’t really spoken in 25 years. (They are still married).
Wow...no offense, but if your "best friend" was that shallow, sounds like he got the bride he deserved. You, on the other hand, hopefully got better friends in the future. As far as you "not handling it too well"...they straight up insulted you, I'm sure you handled it appropriately with anger and hurt and disavowing any shred of "friendship"... B*TCH!!🤬
I miss the good old days, when you got an invitation to a wedding, brought a gift that you could afford, and didn't have to jump through hoops to get an invitation.
Since my friends have different figures, are varied ages, taste in clothing etc...I just picked the fabric I liked for bridesmaids dresses, then worked with a seamstress and selected 3 different dress patterns, that way each woman could pick they style of dress she preferred but they all matched, coordinated due to fabric , plus matched accessories and matched dyed shoes, ended up lovely and everyone had a dress they felt good about....
I know I wasn't a Bridezilla, I even let my bridesmaids pick out their own gowns so they were happy with them. BUT my GODMOTHER, who I love to death and is still absolutely stunning 30 years later (I was married in 1992), showed up in a bright red, low cut, very short, skin-tight dress. MY GODMOTHER! I wasn't angry - I was upset. She looked stunning, but I was in my Disney Princess 90's white wedding gown and more people did mention how amazing she looked and not a word about me or, more importantly to me, how MY MOM looked. It really hurt my mom.... which I think bothered me more than anything. If anyone could have looked better than me. My Godmother and I are just naturally built small and my Mom fought with her weight her whole life. She looked stunning, but no one said anything about how amazing she looked. She lost over 50 pounds just for my wedding. The person who deserved it was my Mom. I was hurt for her.
That was definitely a selfish choice by your godmother to show up to your wedding looking like that. Every guest at a wedding should realize they are there to support the bride and groom and their families. Choosing an appropriate outfit is just part of being a good guest.
I've been to multiple weddings where I didn't know the bridal party and I couldn't pick them out of a lineup and they were not who I was paying attention to coming down the aisle. These bridezillas have 0 chill. If the bride actually calls off the wedding the fiance dodged a speeding train. He deserves better. $10K isn't about him buying placement, it's him showing he clearly loves his BEST FRIEND and wanted to celebrate with him and it's an amazing gesture. Something I don't know a BEST MAN would do!!?!
You can tell Charlotte is a good person, she believes people where I think "Bovine excrement." I don’t think that first model was uninvited from any wedding, she just wanted to brag about her looks. My wife tried to get rid of a really unattractive man from our wedding, then she realised it was her groom.
Hopefully your wife managed to crop him out of all the photos so they looked "aesthetically pleaseing" ;) Lol I snort laughed at your comment. Have a lovely day! :D
Same, I don't believe that model was doing anything other than bragging. Also, I love your use of the words "bovine excrement " definitely adding that to my vocabulary
Given how vomitous her personality is, I'd be surprised if she's invited go anywhere; weddings, funerals, parties, bar mitzvahs, etcetera. Perhaps if she promised not to speak and just smile and look pretty, particularly if wearing that dress - well then she would be an asset indeed. Can she sing or do party tricks? Turn your napkin into a swan?
I never ever gave a thought about what any person in or attending my wedding was wearing. I only had a matron of honor. Just to demonstrate how much I did not stress over her dress. I told her she could pick out her dress as long as the color was some shade of white. Yes, my matron of honor wore white at my wedding.
The last one made me livid. I think it’s totally ok to want a “beautiful and aesthetically pleasing wedding,” but aesthetics are about the venue, the decorations, the food, and the clothes. NOT the people. People are not valuable for how they look, they should be loved for who they are, and the bride should be thankful her fiancé has a friend that kind, to spend that much money on him, like that’s CRAZY. I don’t love the fiancé’s reasoning for keeping him as the best man only being how much money he spent though, because even though that is how some people show they love their friends, the amount of money spent should not take precedence over how good a friend they are. Ugh, just all of that post is a mess.
With the last one... I can't believe there were people who defended her train wreck of thought processing. Also, guarantee if that were the groom saying that about the maid of honor, the villagers would have stormed the castle and he never be heard of again.
Wouldn't it be cool to flip this around, though? Send an "essay" with each wedding invitation, letting that guest know why you specifically want them at your ceremony?
@@mariontheantiquarian7849 : When my youngest aunt married her older sister's widower, they specifically wrote on the invitations that they were requesting no gifts. They did, however receive some heartfelt gifts of minor monetary value, but they were all quite useful in various ways.
When did an "aesthetically pleasing wedding" extend from suits, dresses, and some flowers to the PEOPLE?! This isn't the first Bridezilla to question the wedding party because of their looks, either. What happened to friends and family to being with you on your happy day? My mom will be in a wheelchair, and I'm just glad to have her. There are more important things, you crazy ladies!
Social media happened. Lmao. Even so, it takes a good human being to know better. Just show how some people in this generation has bad judgment. They’ll find out life pretty soon.
It amazes me people who treat their beloved friends and family as mere objects of decor for their wedding day. I mean... WTF? How shallow can someone be? In what world are they living and who raised these people????
I agree! Like... There are so many things more important than looks... I get if you try to get a nice general aesthetic, e.g. a theme or a theme color, and you want the bridal party to match that theme (color). But the people themselves!? When I rea "wheelchair" I had to think of the fact that there are a lot of people with red hair in my partner's family and how that is kind of "a big no" for many. No idea what the dislike is about, because I really hope to see some recessive genes (if we have kids :D), because red hair is damn cool imo. And even if I didn't like red hair and it wouldn't fit "my aesthetic", I would never exclude anyone for something that does not even bother themselves (if that makes sense).
@@shitlista4283 i think that's something many actually do, so everybody wears matching outfits or even the same. Not sure though. A big bridal party is not that common where I am from 🤔
One of my friends asked me to make a cute cake for her wedding. I chose to make a companion cube cake. The companion cube is from the game, Portal, if you wondered. She and her husband enjoyed it, and she gave me 100 bucks for it. She thought the design was really cool, and she saw I put a lot of effort into it. Her son told her what the cake was supposed to resemble, and she liked it even more.
Charlotte, if you don't do anything else in your life, know this: your channel has been the one bright spot for me since the pandemic hit the globe! 🙂 From your comments on the vids you show, to your great voice, and my personal favorite: Your absolute fantastic comedic timing.😄 So,thank you for everything. Oh, FYI: Your father is a hoot. Loved his interaction with you. I saw him one day over the holidays. He was cooking I think 😄
Stuffed cabbage was what he was cooking, iirc. He seemed to be very supportive of Charlotte, and even tried to avoid "invading her space" while she recorded her video. And her mother, standing outside for all that time, in a snowstorm, so she wouldn't intrude on the video. Not many parents would be that supportive of their children. Charlotte, hold them close, and appreciate them, for as long as they continue to live.
The brides that are so focused on this being perfect on their wedding day seem to have forgotten that getting married is not about having a beautiful wedding day, it's about building a beautiful relationship with the person you just can't live without, and celebrating that love with those that care most about you. To put conditions on the day as these brides have shows how needy, selfish and insecure these women are. I would love a follow up on some of these to see how long the marriage lasted. My sympathies to the grooms.
I would love to write two 250 word essays, I like essays and being able to tell someone how disinterested I am in their wedding in response to that particular demand would be deeply enjoyable. I’d even include citations.
I hate writing essays but I would absolutely be down to write two 250 word essays to completely Fuck with the bridezilla and to tell her I’m not interested in attending her wedding
Brides in these posts: "You should be grateful to attend my wedding, it's such an honor for you." Me getting married in April a few thousand miles from the bulk of my family and friends: "I'll be absolutely grateful and overjoyed if anyone of you can manage the trip south for my wedding." Having the people I love be there in a mile stone of my life is an honor and I'll be happy just having them there, nevermind gifts or spending limits etc I don't understand people who put monetary conditions on love like that. And an essay? Competing for placeholders? Just nah.
My two bridezillas story: I have two elder cousins sister who are daughters of my uncle (papa's elder brother). As uncle's situation was not that good where papa helped all the wedding finances of both. One got married when I was in 3rd grade and 2nd one when I was in 10th grade...its a tradition that B4 marriage we celebrate "haldi festival" where ladies from close relatives circle only are invited eg: bride's mother and father's side ladies...but they never invited me and my mother but invited many close ones...we literally felt humilated and on top of that my father was the one who was handling every expenses of their wedding. But still for papa's self-respect we went to their wedding even though they didn't invited us to any of the tradition b4 marriage. Now I really think that I shouldn't have even gone to their marriage and should've fought with my papa that..they insulted me and my mum's self-respect by not inviting to pre-marriage traditions. But dw I am going to be an ahole by not inviting any of them to my marriage...I won't be giving a daam if they came my not. But I'm surely not going to invite them to any of my functions both the cousin and her mother. These 3 ladies who didn't wanted my papa to get married bc all his property will go to his child and wife (ik this wft thing)..they are like that only even my grandpa was fed up of their behaviour which ssly cause my papa to marry late. They still find petty ways to loote my papa..n my papa who's blinded by love is failing to see how narcissist they are.
Bridezillas continue to amaze me. I was once asked to put together a band to play at a wedding and requested specific musicians. The wedding was 6 months away and I told her I’d get back to her in a few days as I had to find out the availability of the people she had requested. I phoned her 2 days later and told her we could do it and quoted her a price of $1000. Cue the entitled begging: i was charging too much money. We needed to dress a certain way. (she wanted all of us to wear blue shirts with white jackets and white dress pants including the girl who played fiddle and sang). We had to set up the day before the wedding. (Leaving thousands of dollars worth of equipment in the hall overnight) The kicker was telling me that $200 was more than fair and that we should do it for free as a wedding gift. I’ve met this woman maybe 6 times beforehand. She also said that because she had once went to club where we had played that we “owed” her for her attendance at club we played. Needless to say, we passed on her kind offer
The bride who didn't like the best man's looks was rediculous. My husband and I only had 2 people stand up with us at our wedding my 2 girls were about the same size and similar in size to me and my husband's best man is similar build to him. When he found out his really good friend who was supposed to stand up as well couldn't come we were super upset that he couldn't be there, he was a bigger guy so my husband joked that his cousin would fit better with the asthetic anyway 🤣 I cannot even imagine actually feeling that way or caring at all. I would much rather have all the people I care about supporting me than everyone to look perfect
Reading about Bridezillas makes my brain hurt. I WAS a bride at one time. My entire wedding cost $4,000. And that was only because my parents wanted a special kind of wine for the toast. They paid for it. My dress literally cost $107.00. That's ONE HUNDRED AND SEVEN DOLLARS. And it was gorgeous. I had 2 bridesmaids (1 maid of honor, 1 bridesmaid). I showed them the dress I liked for them to wear....out of the Chadwick's of Boston catalog. 1 dress cost $60.00 and the other $70.00. No demands, no outrageous criteria, NOTHING. I don't know about the rest of you, but doesn't striving to obtain the most absolute perfect wedding, (at the cost of your friends, family, and sanity) sound ridiculously stressful? I don't understand this type of mentality and I probably never will. LOVE YOU CHARLOTTE!
I handmade two flower girl dresses for one of my best friends weddings a few years ago, one of the dresses was for my daughter, I offered to do it for her, she paid for all the supplies and I made the dresses, it took me f*cking HOURS lol but it was not demanded of me! This should NEVER be asked or demanded of someone!
I had a friend who was a photographer and did my daughters senior photos for us. I know she charged me less, and she didn't have to, and I was happy to pay her. I can't even imagine expecting it for free.
I have never seen my Grandmother ever be aggressive in any way but if I told her she had to write an essay to go to my wedding I would expect violence. 🤣🤣🤣
Why do people think wedding dresses are expensive????? Sewing something like that is intricate and takes HOURS to complete. She already discounted it...
yeah like I make my own stuff for cosplay and I’m also trying to sew a dress and cloak. You know how much wool or any fabric for a warm garment is alone??? It’s like almost $100 just for one cloak. Not to mention it takes hours and hours to make ANYTHING. There are even books from the early 20th century that is all about how to fix your clothes because if a garment is ruined you had to make a brand new one or commission a dress maker which is expensive. Even for a rich person new dresses are pricy.
Same reason that people tell artist that all we do is click a button or put something into the oven they never think about the amount of time it takes to make something part of the reason why if I ever get married I'm going to make sure that I find vendors that are within my budget and if I can't afford them I'm going to tell them thank you for their time but they are out of my budget and not ask for a discount because their time is worth the money
Srsly. Took us 2 days to make my very simple wedding dress and materials cost $300. I can’t fathom the time and expense for a more detailed complex dress.
@@pablodelsegundo9502 Exactly! She's literally asking for a custom made wedding dress. She's commissioning a dress lol out in real world bridal stores, these sorts of things costs *thousands* , sometimes tens of, of dollars to make.
For the girl who had everyone write an essay, i dont think she’s going to read them. I mean she had to make wedding cuts, and this is probably her way to get less people to RSVP without telling anyone they’re uninvited 😂
Of all that’s ways UA-camrs ask for subscribers I like yours best. Just shouting ‘subscribe!’ at the end of the vid 😂 straight to the point and I appreciate it!
These have to be my favorite videos, I absolutely love them! These women are ridiculously entertaining. Thank you, Charlotte! I've been married for 30 years and had a never ending list of things that went wrong at my wedding and none of them bothered me at all. I was just happy to be getting married to my husband! The only "rule" I had was absolutely NO cake smashing, other than that, I just didn't care...it's about the marriage not the wedding...
The essay one always makes me laugh. I attended several weddings while working full-time AND attending college full-time. Any extra 'assignments' would have ended in me laughing my butt off and no wedding gifts at all. It's really disrespectful to people's time to request this. You have to be really full of yourself.
I love Charlotte’s attitude…” I thought we were friends, yea I thought we were friends …”!!! Exactly!! Don’t put people in that position especially good friends
I had a similar situation at my ‘best friends’ wedding. She excluded me from all pictures and then said “well you’ll be in the joint one” She literally said “you just don’t really fit in with the rest of the people here” Meaning I wasn’t under a size 12 We had been friends since we were 10 years old and I watched literally everyone take pictures with her, most of them she had completely slagged off (should’ve seen the red flags!) The thing is I would’ve paid for my own F’in picture! ….desperate but I was so happy for her, her and her partner had been together since she was 18 and I hadn’t seen a better relationship apart from my grandparents. When it came to the reception I was sat on a table with people she had invited so last minute that they had to just eat what the person who couldn’t come had ordered. My breaking point was when I uploaded the picture of her and I together at the reception that I had taken. She reported it as basically an image I’d stolen!! My sister didn’t want any of her wedding pictures on social media which is absolutely fine by me but in the case of my ‘best friend’ she had her top league friends who had uploaded bloody videos of the ceremony plus a plethora of images. She couldn’t see the issue at all, the bigger picture of the whole day plus the aftermath of her reporting an image as her property and getting me bloody blocked from Facebook. It’s funny when these things happen because you realise where you stand in peoples lives. I’ve never been so hurt by a friend.
I can't tell you how much these videos have helped me with my sense of self-worth as an artist. I have diagnosed anxiety and depression and have always been creatively inclined, but never really been able to convince myself that my art was worth anything. Even if I was happy with the result, I would find it very hard to try and put a price on it because I was always - and still am - concerned that it's just not good enough to be worth money. Hearing other artists standing up for their time and work and really taking a moment to consider how much of my own time and money I put into mine is helping me to become more confident in appraising my work with fresh eyes - in fact recently I entered into an art competition that allowed artists that entered to also submit arts and crafts pieces to an artist's shop that would be open for a weekend festival. I didn't place in the competition, but I entered several hand-made wirecraft tiaras and crowns into the shop and got a call at 2pm of the first day of the festival asking me to bring in more stock because they were almost out. I got some really good feedback, sold almost all of the tiaras I had made and it felt really good to earn some money for my craft. I know other creatives that struggle with the same self worth issues and I think it's really important that more people come to realise that art and creative careers are worth paying for - and with money, rather than empty promises to promote their work to other people that don't value the time, skill and money that has been put into the amazing art that is out there.
For the last story. Not only was I the Best man, (didn't feel like changing the name) meaning I was the only female on the grooms side. I am also only 5'0 and everyone else was at least 5"7. So by that brides logic I would have ruined her wedding photos.
@@xo2quilt Yeah, know the bride and groom of that wedding and she was happy that I was there. I even got to wear a tux. I used this an example of a normal bride/groom.
£600 for a custom wedding dress is a steal! How could you be upset about that?! I'd be so thrilled & even offer her more for the dress because she was my friend!
Wait, even the SIBLING has to write an essay to be chosen to go to the destination wedding?! The essays are bad enough but you make your sibling compete too? UGH! I am also of the opinion that in general if you are doing a destination wedding and everyone is paying their own way, them coming IS their gift. I went to my cousin's destination wedding, I did not get them a gift and don't really remember seeing any gifts, I think they may have even said your attendance is your gift or something (it was years ago), and certainly no one said boo about me not giving a gift. I was happy to go as I was viewing it as a chance to see family I hadn't seen in years and an excuse to be in Punta Cana for a week over my birthday. They actually got married on my birthday and the bride found out at the reception (I got a card from my mom and uncle, that was plenty for me I didn't want to steal attention from the wedding) and later that night the bride and her friends came round to where I was hanging out with other members of the family and they brought me a little cake and wished me happy birthday. It was an all inclusive resort and little cakes from the buffet but I thought it was really sweet of her to take a moment to wish me happy birthday like that on her wedding day.
At one time I had just the opposite problem as these greedy bastards. I lived next door to a man that had worked on "Big Blue" this was a major computer company, and then he wanted to relax and so he started his own business and was very successful. Because we were neighbors and friends I wanted to support his business so I would take my computer in for them to fix...he never wanted any money from us because we are "neighbors". I told him this is your business and your livelihood, I expect to pay, it has nothing to do with our friendship. I know that he only charged me for parts, so it least they got some money. Used to doggy sit for them so that saved them kennel fees. Now, I would imagine a lot of people think I was dumb to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I am not an entitled person and believe that people deserve to be paid for their work!
A true friend offers to pay full price because they value their friend and their time and talents. When I have a friend do something for me that they charge others for, I pay full price and then give them a big tip. That's a friend. Expecting and/or demanding a discount is not a friend.
Bride: Write me a 500 word application essay on why you should attend my wedding. Sister: Oh,I’ll do you one better. I’ll write you 500 complete sentences. ~sends application essay with the word “No!” written 500 times~
I subbed for your double chin, LOL, quite some time ago! You're too funny sometimes girl! :) I did finally get to instagram and I'm following you there now, I hope that works out. Some of these brides just blow my mind!! It's hard to believe that they are actually real people, especially the ones that try to get other people to pay for their weddings!! Definitely over the top!!!
One of my closest friend's offered to take my small registry photos. It was literally just family there and she wanted to practice her photography. I offered to pay but she insisted she just wanted to take the photos and will give them to us digitally. I was happy for her to take the photos and also over the moon that she would also be there for the ceremony. I bought her a £100 voucher and gave it to her after the ceremony as a thank you. She was so surprised. I couldn't not give her anything especially as she is such a good friend and was doing a 100 mile round trip for the event!
Just listening to these bridezilla stories blows my mind. As for the bride who wants two 250 word essays to help her decide who will be allowed to attend her wedding - I sincerely hope no one completed those essays. The nerve to expect potential guests to write essays as if they were filling out a college application is unbelieveable.Not to mention that she’s planning a destination wedding during a pandemic that will cost her guests a lot of money, not to mention the time quarantining. The bridezilla who wants her husband‘s best man to be cropped out of the photos - shame on her! If all she’s worrying about is that her photos are aesthetically pleasing then I feel sorry for the groom. He needs to run, and run fast and far while he can. My husband and I have been married 31 years, was everyone in our bridal party model gorgeous? No! Did that matter to us? No! We asked people that were important to us, who meant the world to us, to take part in our bridal party. As the years go by, what your wedding pictures look like doesn’t matter. What matters is that those important people in your life were there to share your special day. Obviously, that’s something these Bridezillas are absolutely not aware of.
I like the fact our wedding was a gift from our family and friends. The ladies from our church gave us our reception. My mother in law made my dress and wedding cake. She and my sister in laws did our flowers and my bouquet. One of my brothers in law drove me to the church. My parents gave us our honeymoon, which was flying us to the US from Australia so my husband could meet my family and celebrate my grandmother's 90th birthday.
A wedding should have only one concern.. Everyone having fun. Ours was at our small church. Our entire bible study group showed up- from five different churches. We knew they'd be there, so that wasn't a problem. My mom, my daughter and I made my dress. My husband found a Perry Ellis suit that matched our colors perfectly for 16.00 at a thrift store. All the table decor was disopsable. The centerpieces went home to the person who had a number on their chair at the table. We made the cupcakes. No cake. And the dinner? Potluck. Insisted on by everyone! The gifts were perfect. Even our honeymoon was a gift. It was incredible!
I am so sick of people assuming that artists of all kinds will work for free, listen very carefully WE WORK HARD TO LEARN OUR CRAFT AND WE NEVER STOP LEARNING AND HONING OUR CRAFT, WHETHER ITS ART, ACTING, SEWING, WHATEVER WE WORK OUR ASSES OFF TO GET WHERE WE'RE AT "ExpOsURe" DOES NOT PAY THE BILLS. STOP ASKING US TO WORK FOR FREE.
I made a wedding cake for a friend and charged her reduced rate. She gave me an envelope with the money and she had paid me twice what I asked for as she felt it was worth more than I asked. I tried to give her the extra back but she refused to take it. This is how real friends behave, they appreciate you.
Exactly! I never ask from discounts from my friend and tip extra heavy if I was gonna put that money in the hands of a stranger then I’m definitely gonna hook my friends up with the same plus some! I do expect good service though because I did have one friend that gave me shoddy handiwork and thought I wouldn’t complain because I’m their friend. Nope! Treat me just like your other customers.
Real friends ask their friends their price and then tip extra.
Well thanks..... now I want cake for breakfast.
THIS 100,000% 600 is NOTHING for a custom wedding dress
This! ❤
Dear Shallow People: A beautiful and aesthetically pleasing wedding refers to the decor, attire, and ambiance of the venue - in other words, the material things - not people! People are not props. Please stop treating people like objects. Thank you.
LOUDER!!!!!
Well said!
Yes, this!!!!
Truth
Tell that to Billy Idol and his White Wedding.
When my husband and I got married we were young and poor and just starting a new business. I found a delightful tulle knee-length dress off the rack for $30. My mother made my veil from tulle and lace. My husband found a classy suit from a thrift store for $2. My co-workers at a time-share donated lots of bottles of pink champagne from guests who declined to accept theirs and left them behind after checking out. We bought our own keg of beer and supermarket wedding cake and flowers. The wedding was held in a local public park for free, and the reception was in the big backroom of our new business. Our mothers made the food. It was a wonderful day and everyone had a great time. What's with the entitled freaks who think they are Princess Diana and demand a day that costs tens of thousands of dollars?? Are you in love with your man or yourself???
Agree...mine cost more than yours, but still less than $1000 TOTAL, including EVERYTHING. No one knows what a wedding is truly about anymore.
I couldn’t agree more! So many people are so focused on the wedding instead of being focused on the marriage.
Exactly, the highlight I remember about my wedding day was the fact that I Marry To The Right Person, nothing else.
I think a lot of it is Pinterest and other social media perpetuating the ideas of these lavish weddings and bridal showers making feel like that’s what’s expected. I’ve recently been to two bridal showers - one was simple and sweet and one was more lavish. And both were beautiful and amazing because it’s about the bride and groom and those who love and support them! But I totally feel bad for brides today because there’s a weird social pressure that’s hard to navigate - I have a friend whose friends were all getting married around the same time and trying to top each other. So you go to weddings like that and people talk and then have unrealistic expectations.
I altered my mom's wedding dress. Found a church for my venue, which was the second most expensive thing, a friend-set gave me photography videography discount, and I tipped them (that's where i spent the most money), I would have had a thousand dollars-ish in catering, but my parents covered it (I was ready to pay for that though). I had about 250 people at my wedding and it was great. People have gone out of their way to tell me how nice it was and how much fun they had. And yeah, all without spending thousands of dollars total. Maybe 1500 altogether, not sure now. The marriage is infinitely more important than the wedding day; if you love each other, so many things do not matter.
I had two photographers in my wedding, both my friends. The first one was a professional photographer and she herself said that she would give us a discount because we were friends. I wouldn't have dreamt to ask her to do it for free. My other friend asked if he could take pictures too, he said he would do it for free because he wasn't a professional. We said yes of course and decided that we could still give him some sort of payment anyway after receiving the pictures. Few months after our wedding he died unexpectedly... His friend managed to find the pictures from his computer and sent them to us. They were beautiful ❤ They mean so much to us and we'll now always have a piece of him through these photos 😭 We ended up sending the money to his mother.
Beautiful story. My condolences. I’m sure the mother appreciated your thoughtfulness.
Awe tell his mom I'm so sorry about her son. 😢
You’re a really good person, and I’m sorry for your loss.
Sending the money to his mother was a very classy move! Just beautiful…❤
The Thing with Discounts, a favor for a favor, working for expoisure, or a Service AS a Wedding Gift IS, that the offer Always has to come from the one providing the Service!!! They all can absolutely BE viable Options AS Long as one does Not feel entitled to them!
Also, that IS heartbreaking, I am very glad, that you got the Pictures AS a very Special token of remembrence to them!
I think people drastically overestimate how much other people want to attend their wedding. An ESSAY, I would write “Thanks for the out, I hate weddings.”
I got kicked out of a wedding party about 9 months prior to wedding because I didn't respond to the bride when she wanted me to. My 2 year old son was sick. This was a 10 year friendship and honestly I'm glad that the wedding brought out who she truly was. I'm better off without that nonsense.
Wow, so sorry you had to go through that!
Hope your son is feeling better, and in hope that "friend" is divorced now.
What on earth? That's ridiculous. It's honestly crazy to me how so many women go power mad because of one single event in their lives. At least you were able to see her true colours once and for all.
Something very similar just happened to me
Dang... it’s cliche but very true that if people show you who they really are, believe them. You got lucky.
When my best friend got married she wanted herself and all of her bridesmaids to look fantastic while walking down the aisle. After other weddings that I have been in where the bride’s seriously wanted the bridesmaids to look like crap, it showed me the difference between confidence and insecurity. The confident bride’s wedding was so much more fun, she even had a bounce house that corresponded with the colors of our dresses.
OMG, who would want to make their bridesmaids look crappy on purpose?
When I got married I wanted my bridesmaids to look THEIR BEST!! If I'm looking my best they must as well!! That was my motto! I'm getting MARRIED not going competing on America's Next Top Model...
I chose a colour and fabric on this dress website but the style is entirely up to my bridesmaids. I want them to pick a style that makes them feel their best. I’m also covering the cost of hair and makeup for all of them because I chose a pricey makeup artist and that’s not something that should impact them because it was my decision.
One of my best friends was the same. She told us to wear the dress we're comfortable in and feel beautiful in. 😌 So, without her knowledge, we colour coordinated and she loved it. The pictures came out bomb.
I was my cousin’s brides maid and she even went as far as paying for facial treatments and nails done.
I'm sorry - I'm calling b.s. on the first one. I don't think the bride chose that dress. Really? She is concerned about being outshined at her wedding yet she chooses a low-cut, strapless, bodycon dress for her model friend? Also, if this woman is a model, are you really telling me she had no other fancy dresses available? I was a model/performer for decades, and if someone told me last minute that they wanted me in another dress, I would have had over a dozen to choose from. Nope. Bride invited friend to wedding, probably asked her to keep it low key, friend shows up in that dress, bride doesn't approve, friend uses situation for Internet clout.
Now THAT is some tea! I like your version better. Seems legit.
i think the dress is hideous so maybe the bride didn't think she could look good but the friend got the body for literally any clothes so it backfire maybe.
Yeah I thought the dress looked way too good
I agree. NO WAY a bride would chose a dress with tatas hanging out for a dress that is completely inappropriate for any wedding. This woman is looking for internet exposure.
@@cloudstalker8956 That says a lot about you. Who would tell a friend to wear something they think looks ugly on them? On the other hand, I also think that model is lying.
For my wedding 5 yrs ago . I took all my girls to try on dresses and made sure they looked good and were comfy in the dress I picked. I let them wear their hair however they wanted and told them just wear silver shoes don't care if they are the same. I did moon and star theme. Dresses were navy blue . I bought each their star constellation zodiac signs necklaces as a gift and let each of them keep a center piece which was a lantern with moon and star lights. We had a great time. I wanted it to be a good time . We just had it small with sit down dinner after church service. Good times for everyone
When I got married I took the girls shopping at a department store that had gowns. I let them choose because I wanted something they'd like & could maybe wear again, nothing too fancy. They chose a silvery blue & I told them silver shoes any kind they want. The dresses were on sale for $119, but my cousin who lived in a nearby city an hour away, bought the exact same dress for $59, it was part of last year's stock for the store in her city (guess more advanced in fashion than my city lol). It was a perfect excuse to go on a day trip with the girls to that mall so we could be sure they get the right size. We had a small wedding of 40, but that cost a few thousand, mostly for the venue, but primarily did it because I was moving overseas within the month, and it was time to party with friends & family closest to me before moving.
My now-Ex wife & I have always laughed at bridezilla stories because we'd never put up with that crap & made our own wedding (way back in the 90s) as chill/relaxed as possible....but now we fear our son's fiance will turn in to one & honestly I'm afraid I'll not be able to hold my tongue about it if she does. NO REGERTS! 😂
The dress is undoubtedly a stunning dress and the model is just as stunning. However, I would never look at that dress as being appropriate to wear to a wedding. If the bride really did pick that dress for her friend (ex-friend?) to wear, she made a very poor choice. The dress would be a knockout on the runway or in a beauty pageant, but no way would I consider having someone wear it to a wedding. I think maybe there is part of this story that we are not being told. Sorry, but that's just my humble opinion. I think this COULD be a made-up story so the model could say "Look how beautiful I am" without saying "Look how beautiful I am".
The groom with the "homely" friend who is going to mess up the bride's aesthetically pleasing photos if he acts as best man, is being given a clear-cut warning signal that this woman is extremely shallow and is NOT someone he needs to marry. I predict if he goes ahead and marries her, he will live to regret it and within five years or less he will be divorced.
I’m convinced it’s made up for clout
Totally agree, looks like a pageant gown
That's a reasonable point of view.
Honestly, I don't believe that story from the model who got uninvited. No bride would ever pick such a dress for a guest, because its completely unsuitable for a wedding. I think that is a lie to get photos, exposure and support from followers.
Maryann Anderson, I totally agree with you, that story is so fake, & the shallow bride will never be able to hold on to any man for very long because of her off-putting personality.
You are single handedly keeping me going through a particularly arduous hospital visit. The patient opposite me wanted to know what I was watching that amused me so much. 😊
I hope you have a fast recovery!!!
Wishing you the best!
Get Well Soon!!!!🥰
@@kaleywarner7615 Thanks sweets. ❤️
Sending you love 💕
My friend was recently married in September and she is the opposite of a bridezilla. She was so worried about all the guests having a good time and politely asked for anything, while refusing freebies. I spent weeks making a lace bolero to match her dress and had to literally force it on her as a gift be wise she wanted to pay. She looked absolutely stunning!!! Best wedding I ever went to!
See...that is the thing. People who have wonderful and generous in the past and who truly care about their friends and guests often WILL get large effort items donated to them for free, as a gift.
@@ladygrndr9424 yeah, but rather have good friends then good items.
Craving fancy things is f****** stupid.
Wanting nice things is okay. But it's certainly shouldn't come at the cost of your friend's happiness.
I feel attacked lol, I was leaving my house when Charlotte said to take out the trash.😂😂
Years ago, my best friend since high school was my MOH. She was an accomplished seamstress, so she made her MOH dress for my wedding as her gift to me. I purchased the material. I was going to pay for her dress but we didnt really find anything we liked. The dress was more beautiful than anything we had looked at. My new husband's cousin was newly engaged and loved the dress so much she hired her to make her wedding dress, her MOH dress and all 4 of her bridesmaids dresses. My friend was thrilled.
As an experienced seamstress I was blown away by a friend who asked me to make a bridesmaid dress. It was a bit of a pain as it had 24 fabric roses all along the neckline & spaghetti straps. She paid me very well and to my surprise, she gifted the dress to my 5-year-old daughter after the wedding for playing dress up. I was blown away, my daughter was over the moon & friend was happy that she didn’t have a dress she would never wear again taking up space in her closet.
Kinda makes up for all the other “friends” & family who have burned me. Even my own daughter didn’t speak to me for years because the quilt I made for my great niece was better than the one for my grandson. I don’t make quilts for family anymore for the simple fact that NO ONE has ever sent me a thank you. I don’t think that a thank you note is too much to ask, is it?
Edit: thanks so much for all of your lovely & kind comments. Wow
For a quilt I’d send a flower arrangement, a thank you card and pay you!! It’s a difficult skill that requires time and patience. Quilts are history and should be treasured and handed down. Sorry no one you sent them to realized that. 💕
I'm truly sorry that no one appreciated the effort, at least, that it takes to create a quilt. It should be treasured even more for being made by a beloved family member, and never taken for granted. It breaks my heart, as I'd love to have something my grandmother made for me!
@@nee_username871 Yeah. I destroyed the baby blanket my grandmother made for me. I know, but I was still little. But, I regret it to this day.
No it's not! Just goes to show where people's values are. Whatever happened to the days when people just appreciated whatever someone gifted them. Used to be it was the thought that counted.
@@meredithgregory4982 people got greedy over time sadly
It never ceases to amaze me that brides think people care SO MUCH about attending their weddings. I always think of them as a "pleasant chore". Happy to go if invited, no big deal if I'm not.
And sometimes happier if not invited!
@@adinal1958 ooh! Yes. You mean I can just stay home and not have to actually be sociable? Yasssss!
Yup. My cousin is getting married and I'm not invited (we love each other, we're just not close). Technically, my brothers and several other people aren't either but Mom is upset on my behalf, since several of our mutual female cousins ARE invited.
I'm just like "But people would want me to socialize!! And what am I going to do when I'm done with that? I can't say what I usually do which is "Well, I'm done talking." And walk away!"
But I will back up my mom if I see more family members than strange people in the pictures. My argument might be, You can invite all these people who will probably move away and you'll never hear from them again except for occasionally on FB or Instagram, but not your own Family?!
Let's nevermind about the fact that we aren't even FB friends ourselves lol
Luckily, my friends are (so far) of a different kind. Two years ago, one of them got married. Her fiancé is pretty well off and the wedding would be quite posh. Sadly, I got into an accident weeks before the wedding, and I ended up with a broken foot. I called her to tell her I might not come to the wedding since I thought I would look ridiculous with the crutches.
I loved her when she told me to just show up, she didn't care about the crutches, she wanted me to be there. The wedding was beautiful and I had a great time. The bride made sure I had a good place to sit if I wanted a rest and that the caterers would bring food and drinks to me.
That's what really good friends are like.
Hope the foot has healed well, and so glad your friend was a true class act, a type of honest lifelong class that money just can not buy. Hugs from a fellow Tater Tot from New York. Oh, you too, to have had the kindness and class to make the offer esp while injured (been through a lot of surgeries on hips and legs).
I love that you were as speechless as I was at that deeply shallow bridezilla who didn't want the 'homely' best man. What a horrid woman. I hope the groom (and his best man / friend) escaped safely away from her.
I had a woman contact me about making a wedding dress. The woman pulled an antique, vintage dress out of a bag and wanted me to remove the center front lace panel, and use it to design a new, custom made dress for her *pregnant* niece. I said it would be a lot of work, and she mentioned she was on a budget. I said the best budget option would be to go to local chain bridal store and purchase a sale dress from the $99 rack or a white prom dress. "Oh" she said, "I didn't have any intention of spending that much."
I'm speechless.
@@salkur3654me too!
Wow. What a brass neck😮
She thought $99 was a lot for that ????
As someone who has been sewing and making costumes for nearly 30 years, I would be appalled if a friend asked me to make a wedding gown for free! I once rushed a Renaissance gown for a "friend" who said she needed it quickly. She sent most of the fabric (I had to buy the rest) and paid me $400. It took me over 17 straight hours of work and I had to call in a friend to help just to get it done in time. It was finished and shipped in time, but when she got it she claimed it didn't fit (it was made to her measurements she sent me) and that the sleeves were sewn on backwards (no, that was just how they looked when it wasn't actually on the person..it was a Renaissance fashion thing), and refused to pay me the rest of the money she owed me. I was so done by that point (she actually wanted a refund!) and I told her that as far as I was concerned, I had gone far above and beyond and that if her measurements were wrong that wasn't my fault. She would need to find someone close to her who could fit it to her, but we were done. NEVER AGAIN!
But.... the exposure. People would see your work and come to you to do more work for exposure. Because we all know that "exposure" pays bills. Banks LOVE when people pay their mortgages with "exposure".
I agree my sister is good at making clothes and I wanted to help her make myself a dress based on my favorite book series. I told her I would pay for everything
I have an alterations shop and even total strangers ask me for discounts for no reason at all. Had a lady in yesterday with three small things. Her total was like $42 and she wanted a discount. Ugh.
This is why you never mix business with family and friends
That’s just wrong. They have no clue how much time, talent & skill it takes. I’d be done with her as well.
I hella lucked out for my wedding dress! My aunt's neighbor was a seamstress, little old lady named Betty! My dress was pearls head to toe. She took in the waist and hips for me but wouldn't take more the $50. She was a doll! Of course Betty had a couple hundred dollars left on her kitchen table (unknown to her) as I left with my perfect dress. I still don't feel it was enough but I wanted her to accept it and not argue. She was beaming at me at the wedding so I think I did well.😉
That’s so sweet 🥰🥰🥰
Indeed you did!!! We need more like you!
Ok it is sweet, etc, but I am literally desperate to see the dress made of pearls, it sounds glorious
That shows true appreciation for her and her special talent/skills. That was beautiful! I still don't understand those asking for freebies, I mean do any of them work for free? I think not!
Can we see a picture? Maybe post it to your FB? Leave a link? Then tag us who are interested so we know when it goes up? Thanka
In my experience, lavish, expensive weddings often aren't that fun to attend. They tend to be long, draining, and stressful, because it's usually really obvious how fanatical one or both parties are about making everything "perfect." They don't want guests, they want props.
Yesss!! Exactly!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I had a small wedding of 40 people. I had a blast because I had time to spend with each of those guests who were very special to me. We lit 3 candles, not part of the ceremony, but my brother had died 6 years before and my Uncle 2 years, the other was for all those who died on 9/11 because my wedding was 4 days after. It was just little things we did that made it more personal and fun for all. My niece who was 15 y/o, said it was the most fun wedding she had ever been to. Hearing others say how much they enjoyed it all was all I needed, especially as within the month I was moving overseas so it was a farewell party in a way, time to party down with loved ones.
Omg well said! 👏
You are correct.
I don't even care for wedding parties who have some silly skit/dance to do that nobody else thinks is entertaining.
We are all sitting on tables enjoying conversation. Enjoying our food and drink.
Nobody cares what the wedding party is doing. They should be doing what the rest of us are trying to do.... Enjoy themselves.
Yeah, the Most expensive was the least fun Wedding I went to . . .
My best friend only really Cares for the food being great, has ordered a Special dish Just for me, cause I am allergic to a Lot, everything Else IS optional . . . .she Just wants to get married and everyone have a good time . . .
Like her reaction to me probably being sick for the Wedding was, she makes Sure I have a place to Rest and will Bring a hot water bottles . . . .I could faint during the ceremony and her reaction would BE sprinting to Catch me, Not getting Mad . . . . .IT IS so wild, that so many couples Care more about a Look and Idea, then Sharing happieness with the people they Love . . .
Yeah, my best friend IS an absolut Catch that goes above and beyond but some human decency should BE expected!
(I have Endometriosis and the Wedding IS likely to Fall into my Periode, thats why I can somewhat Tell ITS likely I will BE under the weather at that date)
I don't sew, but I know people that do, and they have told me how complex wedding dresses are. Even if you are just doing alterations, it takes time. That's why alterations are over $100.
Guess we all have different priorities. I got married last month at the court house. My husband spent our money on our new house, and got me an almost new truck. We asked no one for a single cent and saved for 13 years(things kept financially coming up) We invited only 4 guest and ate like kings and queens. Best day ever next to having my kids!
Ahhhh. You have real priorities that are actually logical and worthwhile. 😁
11:15 I feel bad for the groom, too. I get the feeling the ONLY part of this wedding he had ANY say in was his own best man, and then bc he actually put his foot down and refused to change his best man (I can't even believe she asked him to), she calls off the wedding.
This guy dodged a bullet.
Nay: a bazooka!
What if this bride ever becomes a mom and her child just so happens to be ugly?
Nah man he dodged a nuclear bomb.
@Mona Lisa Vito yeah well not everyone shows their true colors the day you meet them. Some people are fake liars. It's her fault, not his.
That guy needs to learn to pick better partners & have a spine a loot sooner
I sincerely hope he does not encounter the same bullet twice, as next time he may not dodge it 😅
I have very OFTEN made wedding dresses for friends for the cost of the material in exchange for great photos. Each time they all say "you will be the first to get the photos", still waiting. I have a faded polaroid somewhere and another bride asked me if I realised how much photos were and could she just email me them so I could print them out myself. I no longer know how to sew.
Honestly I would take the cost of the material multiply by 2 then still add the 600 to it and say that's how much the material cost. I will refuse to do the dress if she doesn't pay me for material and buys it herself.
Oh, that's a shame. Don't let others take you down. You seem to have some great talent!!!! I envy everybody capable of making their own wardrobe!!!!
Much ❤️ from Austria 🇦🇹
and happy New Year 🍀
Jeeze! It's not expensive for YOU to make a detailed wedding dress but suddenly its so expensive for HER to have photos made for you? I understand why you stopped sewing!
You can keep doing it but not for free.
Your first mistake was doing it. Your second was doing it often lol.
I once accidentally attended a wedding.
My band had a gig at a bar in a small town and we got there the night before. So a couple of us went to the bar to get a lay of the land and were a little freaked out at how dressed to the nines the bouncers were. We told them why we were there and they said to go on in.
The bouncers were the groom and the best man. Had a great time, and we are still friends after 16 years.
We once went to the wrong memorial service! We were there for the right funeral, but after what was supposed to be a small luncheon... we were there for 30-40 minutes before we realized it was the wrong one. I felt bad for our friend's wife, the widow who wondered why we only came to the funeral! The wrong wedding sounds more fun!
This is a very underestimated comment. Celebrating your friendship! 🎉 Do you have any single friends for me who need a date at the next wedding in your friend group? 😂
I'm so glad the 5'3" lad and his bestie put 10k into spending a great time together and not on the wedding or gifts for the couple/bride! Hopefully the wedding did indeed get cancelled 🙏🍀
I love that one of the bridezillas wanted someone who was too attractive to not be there, and another didn't want someone who didn't look good enough xD Guess there is no winning with monsters :/
I did much of my wedding decor on my own and the things I couldn’t do, I was blessed to have friends talented in that area. (Musician, baker, hair and makeup stylist) It made us so happy to have them part of our day and because I appreciate and VALUE them, we paid their full price. Because friends support each other.
We gave our daughter $10,000 for her wedding, spend it as she please.
She spent $3,500 total, the $6,500 remainder and $$ gifts went towards the down payment on their house.
Neither the parents nor in-laws raised foolish kids.
Their house is worth double what they bought it for.
Brava!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🥂
You are awesome parents! That’s exactly what my parents did for me and my hubby years ago. They gave us the choice of a huge paid for wedding or take the money and be smart with it! We had a very small, intimate wedding with family and close friends. We bought a condo and within five years, the market exploded and we sold at a huge profit and currently live in our dream home for less than our friends pay for rent in an apartment!!
Sounds like you are smart parents who raised a smart daughter 👍🏽!
This is exactly what my daughter and her fiancé are doing. She is still having the big white wedding she has always wanted, but cut corners, bought her dress in a sale etc. so they can have an amazing honeymoon and still have money towards their down payment.
@@diva70smusic We'll admit to decent parents and smart, well manner kids.
We raised them to thrive on little money because, for years, the only thing we could afford for presents were free appliance boxes (from overs, washers/dryers, fridges) made forts/play houses for them.
They had a blast and to this day never expect anything other than love.
We'll do the same for our grandchildren, but they do get toys. Legos (and off brand stuff) are the way to go. The grand kids will play with the Legos their parents got from grandparents for gifts. Then their kids get them afterwards. Legos can last for several generations.
I don't get what the obsession is with having an "aesthetically pleasing" wedding? Like, why does that matter? Me and my bf have agreed on what's basically a registry office "wedding". It's just to get the paperwork signed with our witnesses there (parents and siblings). After that we're just gonna rent a bar and have a big party to celebrate. All that matters is being together. If being legally married didn't have any advantages we probably wouldn't even bother. It's about being in love not about everyone and everything in a 30ft radius looking like a movie... People like that last one really baffle me.
> I don't get what the obsession is with having an "aesthetically pleasing" wedding? Like, why does that matter?
Why do people get married?
1) Because of convenience.
2) Because of love.
3) For the attention.
Guess which one 9:25 is.
Right on. My husband and I had a "surprise wedding". We had a JP show up at our annual huge family BBQ. The "stranger" drove up, I ran inside and came out in a white dress, it was lovely.
Seriously, the last thing I thought about when I planned my wedding was "aesthetics". I just wanted my family there to support me, not once did I think about who "looked good enough" to be up there. Some people just want the wedding for the attention, they don't care who they step on to get their "vision".
@@MrMartinSchou Exactly! The only explanation that makes sense to me is: She's only marrying for the Instagram likes. If the photos aren't pretty, might as well not have a wedding. Sigh...
@@Dove96 OMG that's awesome! Hahaha I love that! XD
I was going to make a joke about being kicked out of weddings for being too handsome. But then that last one .... The amount of money the friend spent is only relevant in that it may signify how close the groom is to him. The wedding parties I have been in were for close friends and in each case included hours and hours or pre-planning and coordination. In every case family, bachelor party group, and groomsmen lived in multiple states. To have done all this then be dropped by a friend that close ..... Charlotte your 1st reaction said it all ...... There are no Words
My bestie and I had both been with our men for awhile. We got the wild idea for a double wedding at the courthouse. None of us had much money so we dressed to the hilt, and it was surprisingly festive as we saw brides in full wedding attire and it was fun. Afterwards a week later we asked our friends to celebrate with us at the local bar we brought snack food and it was a celebration of joy. These people live in la la land and I don't think they know what they missed by being d bags. Love u Charlotte!
Interesting at how history changes everything. Originally, the bridesmaids had to wear identical dresses to the bride so that any opposing tribe would not know who to capture for ransom.
Oh wow. Taugh me something new. Thanks.
Also helps if they look like the bride, hence sisters.
@@arianebolt1575 also, the best man was the best man for the job of marriage should the groom decide to not appear.
@@rbrooks2007 😱
@@rbrooks2007 the fuck
Just want to give props to Charlotte's editors. They are hilarious and make her already funny personality shine even brighter.
Happy New Year, Everyone!
The seamstress story really burned my biscuits!! I hate when people want free services under the guise of "friendship!"
A friend started selling merchandise promoting her small business. I asked her the price of five tshirts and when she told me I said told her to send me the CashApp request...to which she hesitated for a long time.
The reason for the hesitation...
...was she was waiting for me to ask her for a discount like everyone else had done.
Nope.
Whatever the price is ....is whatever the damn price is!!!
Now you're a good friend!
I freaking agree with you. I never discuss the price, especially when it's 2nd hand or handmade by a relative. Anyway, I don't buy things that are overpriced. But I have zero issue spending on something worth the money. People are ridiculous with money, they act like junkies, they don't want to separate from it even if they can 🙄
Truth! If I like something a friend of mine is making, I expect to pay the full price because I value the work they've put into it, no questions asked. I mean, I wouldn't even think of asking for a friend discount.
This! I have an artist friend who drew my daughter's name. I paid her extra and posted everything with credit to her. Support your friends!
A friend recently asked to buy a print of one of my designs. I offered to give it to her for free and she flat out refused, even sent me more money than I asked for because she thought I wasn't charging enough. This is how true friends support each other and I would do the same for her in s heartbeat.
During Shakespeare times, weddings would be for anyone in the town to attend and the bride and guests could wear whatever they want as long as it’s respectful. It was a celebration of marriage and pretty chill. Some weddings should meet that except have guests and all that for safety reasons 😂
True but back then towns where remote everyone knew each other
In my wedding invite, Im gonna put look your best!!! I’m a libra so love everyone looking good. Cause honestly, if you look good, you feel good and confident and that’s the energy I want. Everyone to look fly 😍
The main thing people need to realize about their weddings is yes it’s “once in a lifetime” (hopefully) for them because they are the ones getting married, but for their guest it will not be because we all attend multiple weddings during our lifetimes your wedding won’t be the only one I’ll be attending.
The wedding couple who asked for essays needs to see this comment
AMEN
@@rileigh5642 I would love to see an update on that one to find out if ANYONE sent in an essay. I seriously doubt that anyone would want to go to a wedding that badly.
Exactlyy. It sounds harsh to hear, but it seems some brides need to hear it, that no one really cares about your wedding as much as you do. This is just a fact. You need your guests more than they need you lol so why on earth would you treat them that way? So ridiculous
@@rileigh5642: I could see that, sort of, if it was a royal wedding, or something similar, but I doubt if they even go that far for a royal, or even a celebrity wedding, but if you're a relative nobody, then it is far beyond the pale.
Just a thought for all the other friends who said the designer was being a bad friend; why didn't they all chip in for that 600 pounds then? As a collective wedding gift? Or better yet why didn't they make one themselves for the entitled bride? I know the bride is the main problem but I can't stand people who enable selfish entitlement because *insert stupid reasons* then gaslight and pressure the victim to either give in or make them feel like the villain.
🙌🙌🙌
Well said, I couldn’t agree more! Entitled people get that way and stay that way when they are enabled and never suffer consequences. Really pisses me off 🤬👏🏼
Yes indeed.
I hate how everyone tip toes around entitled people and jumps on the one person who calls them out on their bullshit!
Pulling a pregnancy pity card to manipulate and take advantage of a friend. Ah, true love 💕
Bc bridezilla would still expect another present 🤷🏾♀️
My “best friend” didn’t ask me to be in her wedding. I was devastated. I later heard from one of the girls who WAS in it that it was because I was overweight and wouldn’t look good in the slinky bridesmaid dresses she chose.
That was devastating to me.
She DID ask me to stand up with her at her 2nd wedding more than 10 years later.
Can you tell I am still a bit sore over that?
I hope you told her to f*** off....
That's absolutely disgusting. In the bin with her!
Hopefully you declined the second offer because compared to the first dress, the second dress was just not up to your standards.
I'm sure you'll get over it by her 3rd.
Why are you still friends
(5:00) - 2 Essays : Both my essays would have the words "Im Not Coming" over and over and over for 500 words each (yes even though it is supposed to be only 250 words) thank goodness for 'cut and paste'!
Nah, that Bride asking for essays is a genius. Absolutely brilliant idea for pairing down the guest list. Especially if she's trying to chase people away. She's having people cut themselves from the list rather than having to figure out who to cut herself. Absolutely brilliant. I might steal the idea.
Also, that sounds like some neurodivergent shit. I can see how someone with Autism would think that was logical. I have Autism and my criteria for who should be on the guest list is at quite at odds with mother-in-law to be 😅
Also, also, 500 words between 2 questions are barely a paragraph each. It would take 5 minutes. Especially if you have a strong relationship with either the bride or groom. You never know; she may have been planning to put all the responses in a scrapbook that she shared at the wedding.
The girl with the "short, homely" best man just about made my head explode. i will never, never understand when and why weddings became a beauty pageant! And it's so horrible for the people that don't fit that disgusting person's standard. If my SO told me my best friend couldn't be in OUR wedding because of how they looked, well, we certainly wouldn't be married now.
For real! The only aesthetic issue I can see is the unibrow, which can literally be fixed in two seconds with an eyebrow razor. I'm sure he wouldn't mind doing that. You don't need to kick him out of the freaking wedding just for body hair!
Such a mean,shallow woman. I’m appalled
Our middle brother's first wife did that when they got married. He wanted our oldest brother to be his best man but his wife got upset because our oldest bro is only about 5'1" and her maid of honor was tall so she said they would look ridiculous and told our middle brother no the day before the wedding! They divorced a year and a half later. He later married his second wife who is amazing and our oldest brother was his best man and my husband was also a groomsman. They've been married for 16 years now. ❤
Same here! It’s about who is in the party and what they mean to you…My man’s having a best woman…she is his best friend and I’m so excited to have her up there next to my fiancé!
I was so angry. I get that he’s not the most attractive, but he’s your husband’s best friend! And he went above and beyond for his bachelor party. Sounds like an awesome friend
I’m betting she didn’t want him in her Insta pics
Once upon a long ago, getting married was about love and not what you can scrounge off people smh keep sticking it to 'em Charlotte lol
I commissioned a painting from my best friend. She asked me how much I am willing to pay and I told her I whatever you would ask a stranger to pay. Paid full price and couldn't be happier. Money well spent on the time and effort she put in.
Thank you, Charlotte for posting this video. I'm am so glad my ex didn't listen to his friends when they said don't invite you ex to your wedding! I enjoyed seeing those peoples faces when they realized I was there. It was a great wedding, and everyone was happy at the end of the night!
Who the hell actually wants to go to a wedding. They’re obligations that most people would gladly skip.
I was straight booted from a wedding party 1 day after trying on bridesmaids dresses. Was told by our mutual friend that was also in the party that is was bc of my hourglass shape & I was too pretty. So I showed up to the wedding in a better dress. It was petty of her so I matched her petty. I was truly hurt at 1st but as time went by I just find it funny.
And had no bridesmaid obligations or stress! Just look good, eat, drink, dance, go home, feel smug. Excellent.
@@melissablackwood I certainly did all that!!
When I got married, many moons ago, I was just focused on getting to the church on time, in my borrowed dress, and not making a fool of myself by tripping and falling down. The people that attended were welcome, and we were grateful that they took precious time out of their day to attend. What ever happened to being thankful to the people that showed up? Getting married is not about "what are you going to give me", it is about sharing the love with friends and family. I did not care what they wore, or what they looked like. A nice time was had by all.
I’m 6’8”, and when my best friend (not even a close 2nd) got married, he initially asked me to be his best man. Fiancée didn’t want me ruining the pictures, and asked if they could take pics without me in them. Then asked if I would just be an usher, and not stand/sit/pose with the wedding party. I probably didn’t handle it well, because I told them I would be unable to attend. Oh well. We haven’t really spoken in 25 years. (They are still married).
Wow...no offense, but if your "best friend" was that shallow, sounds like he got the bride he deserved. You, on the other hand, hopefully got better friends in the future. As far as you "not handling it too well"...they straight up insulted you, I'm sure you handled it appropriately with anger and hurt and disavowing any shred of "friendship"... B*TCH!!🤬
Sounds like you handled it with grace and maturity.
I'm 6'4, stuff those short arse people. 🇭🇲👍
I miss the good old days, when you got an invitation to a wedding, brought a gift that you could afford, and didn't have to jump through hoops to get an invitation.
Since my friends have different figures, are varied ages, taste in clothing etc...I just picked the fabric I liked for bridesmaids dresses, then worked with a seamstress and selected 3 different dress patterns, that way each woman could pick they style of dress she preferred but they all matched, coordinated due to fabric , plus matched accessories and matched dyed shoes, ended up lovely and everyone had a dress they felt good about....
I know I wasn't a Bridezilla, I even let my bridesmaids pick out their own gowns so they were happy with them. BUT my GODMOTHER, who I love to death and is still absolutely stunning 30 years later (I was married in 1992), showed up in a bright red, low cut, very short, skin-tight dress. MY GODMOTHER! I wasn't angry - I was upset. She looked stunning, but I was in my Disney Princess 90's white wedding gown and more people did mention how amazing she looked and not a word about me or, more importantly to me, how MY MOM looked. It really hurt my mom.... which I think bothered me more than anything. If anyone could have looked better than me. My Godmother and I are just naturally built small and my Mom fought with her weight her whole life. She looked stunning, but no one said anything about how amazing she looked. She lost over 50 pounds just for my wedding. The person who deserved it was my Mom. I was hurt for her.
That was definitely a selfish choice by your godmother to show up to your wedding looking like that. Every guest at a wedding should realize they are there to support the bride and groom and their families. Choosing an appropriate outfit is just part of being a good guest.
I've been to multiple weddings where I didn't know the bridal party and I couldn't pick them out of a lineup and they were not who I was paying attention to coming down the aisle. These bridezillas have 0 chill. If the bride actually calls off the wedding the fiance dodged a speeding train. He deserves better.
$10K isn't about him buying placement, it's him showing he clearly loves his BEST FRIEND and wanted to celebrate with him and it's an amazing gesture. Something I don't know a BEST MAN would do!!?!
You can tell Charlotte is a good person, she believes people where I think "Bovine excrement." I don’t think that first model was uninvited from any wedding, she just wanted to brag about her looks.
My wife tried to get rid of a really unattractive man from our wedding, then she realised it was her groom.
Hopefully your wife managed to crop him out of all the photos so they looked "aesthetically pleaseing" ;) Lol I snort laughed at your comment. Have a lovely day! :D
Same, I don't believe that model was doing anything other than bragging. Also, I love your use of the words "bovine excrement " definitely adding that to my vocabulary
My man has your same sense of humor, so I dare to say your wife is lucky, despite the wedding photos 😉
Given how vomitous her personality is, I'd be surprised if she's invited go anywhere; weddings, funerals, parties, bar mitzvahs, etcetera. Perhaps if she promised not to speak and just smile and look pretty, particularly if wearing that dress - well then she would be an asset indeed. Can she sing or do party tricks? Turn your napkin into a swan?
She must like you for that excellent sense of humor then 🤣🤣
I never ever gave a thought about what any person in or attending my wedding was wearing. I only had a matron of honor. Just to demonstrate how much I did not stress over her dress. I told her she could pick out her dress as long as the color was some shade of white. Yes, my matron of honor wore white at my wedding.
The last one made me livid. I think it’s totally ok to want a “beautiful and aesthetically pleasing wedding,” but aesthetics are about the venue, the decorations, the food, and the clothes. NOT the people. People are not valuable for how they look, they should be loved for who they are, and the bride should be thankful her fiancé has a friend that kind, to spend that much money on him, like that’s CRAZY. I don’t love the fiancé’s reasoning for keeping him as the best man only being how much money he spent though, because even though that is how some people show they love their friends, the amount of money spent should not take precedence over how good a friend they are. Ugh, just all of that post is a mess.
Yeah, IT IS so messed Up, when they treat their Loved ones Like props
With the last one... I can't believe there were people who defended her train wreck of thought processing. Also, guarantee if that were the groom saying that about the maid of honor, the villagers would have stormed the castle and he never be heard of again.
Wouldn't it be cool to flip this around, though? Send an "essay" with each wedding invitation, letting that guest know why you specifically want them at your ceremony?
Cosigned.
Brilliant! Most would read “We want a gift”
That is a fantastic idea. It would be so cool to get an invite with a heartfelt note about why they wanted you to come.
@@mariontheantiquarian7849 : When my youngest aunt married her older sister's widower, they specifically wrote on the invitations that they were requesting no gifts. They did, however receive some heartfelt gifts of minor monetary value, but they were all quite useful in various ways.
@@jacklow9611 I love that. I would do something like that
When did an "aesthetically pleasing wedding" extend from suits, dresses, and some flowers to the PEOPLE?! This isn't the first Bridezilla to question the wedding party because of their looks, either. What happened to friends and family to being with you on your happy day? My mom will be in a wheelchair, and I'm just glad to have her. There are more important things, you crazy ladies!
Exactly ❤
Social media happened. Lmao. Even so, it takes a good human being to know better. Just show how some people in this generation has bad judgment. They’ll find out life pretty soon.
It amazes me people who treat their beloved friends and family as mere objects of decor for their wedding day. I mean... WTF? How shallow can someone be? In what world are they living and who raised these people????
I agree! Like... There are so many things more important than looks... I get if you try to get a nice general aesthetic, e.g. a theme or a theme color, and you want the bridal party to match that theme (color). But the people themselves!?
When I rea "wheelchair" I had to think of the fact that there are a lot of people with red hair in my partner's family and how that is kind of "a big no" for many. No idea what the dislike is about, because I really hope to see some recessive genes (if we have kids :D), because red hair is damn cool imo. And even if I didn't like red hair and it wouldn't fit "my aesthetic", I would never exclude anyone for something that does not even bother themselves (if that makes sense).
@@shitlista4283 i think that's something many actually do, so everybody wears matching outfits or even the same. Not sure though. A big bridal party is not that common where I am from 🤔
I swear, Charlotte, you are the elite moral compass for all mankind. You inspire me to be a better person every day.
One of my friends asked me to make a cute cake for her wedding. I chose to make a companion cube cake. The companion cube is from the game, Portal, if you wondered. She and her husband enjoyed it, and she gave me 100 bucks for it. She thought the design was really cool, and she saw I put a lot of effort into it. Her son told her what the cake was supposed to resemble, and she liked it even more.
Charlotte, if you don't do anything else in your life, know this: your channel has been the one bright spot for me since the pandemic hit the globe! 🙂
From your comments on the vids you show, to your great voice, and my personal favorite: Your absolute fantastic comedic timing.😄
So,thank you for everything. Oh, FYI: Your father is a hoot. Loved his interaction with you. I saw him one day over the holidays. He was cooking I think 😄
Stuffed cabbage was what he was cooking, iirc. He seemed to be very supportive of Charlotte, and even tried to avoid "invading her space" while she recorded her video. And her mother, standing outside for all that time, in a snowstorm, so she wouldn't intrude on the video. Not many parents would be that supportive of their children. Charlotte, hold them close, and appreciate them, for as long as they continue to live.
@@jacklow9611 yes, that's the one, because I remember her saying her mom was outside in the snow!👍
The brides that are so focused on this being perfect on their wedding day seem to have forgotten that getting married is not about having a beautiful wedding day, it's about building a beautiful relationship with the person you just can't live without, and celebrating that love with those that care most about you. To put conditions on the day as these brides have shows how needy, selfish and insecure these women are. I would love a follow up on some of these to see how long the marriage lasted. My sympathies to the grooms.
I would love to write two 250 word essays, I like essays and being able to tell someone how disinterested I am in their wedding in response to that particular demand would be deeply enjoyable. I’d even include citations.
Right! The petty Bish in me would ABSOLUTELY write the essay and cite my sources! All the graphs and charts too🤣🤣
I love essays too lol
Using 250 words to fuck with a bride would be fun lol
I hate writing essays but I would absolutely be down to write two 250 word essays to completely Fuck with the bridezilla and to tell her I’m not interested in attending her wedding
Brides in these posts: "You should be grateful to attend my wedding, it's such an honor for you."
Me getting married in April a few thousand miles from the bulk of my family and friends: "I'll be absolutely grateful and overjoyed if anyone of you can manage the trip south for my wedding."
Having the people I love be there in a mile stone of my life is an honor and I'll be happy just having them there, nevermind gifts or spending limits etc I don't understand people who put monetary conditions on love like that. And an essay? Competing for placeholders? Just nah.
My two bridezillas story: I have two elder cousins sister who are daughters of my uncle (papa's elder brother). As uncle's situation was not that good where papa helped all the wedding finances of both. One got married when I was in 3rd grade and 2nd one when I was in 10th grade...its a tradition that B4 marriage we celebrate "haldi festival" where ladies from close relatives circle only are invited eg: bride's mother and father's side ladies...but they never invited me and my mother but invited many close ones...we literally felt humilated and on top of that my father was the one who was handling every expenses of their wedding. But still for papa's self-respect we went to their wedding even though they didn't invited us to any of the tradition b4 marriage. Now I really think that I shouldn't have even gone to their marriage and should've fought with my papa that..they insulted me and my mum's self-respect by not inviting to pre-marriage traditions. But dw I am going to be an ahole by not inviting any of them to my marriage...I won't be giving a daam if they came my not. But I'm surely not going to invite them to any of my functions both the cousin and her mother. These 3 ladies who didn't wanted my papa to get married bc all his property will go to his child and wife (ik this wft thing)..they are like that only even my grandpa was fed up of their behaviour which ssly cause my papa to marry late. They still find petty ways to loote my papa..n my papa who's blinded by love is failing to see how narcissist they are.
Bridezillas continue to amaze me. I was once asked to put together a band to play at a wedding and requested specific musicians. The wedding was 6 months away and I told her I’d get back to her in a few days as I had to find out the availability of the people she had requested. I phoned her 2 days later and told her we could do it and quoted her a price of $1000. Cue the entitled begging: i was charging too much money. We needed to dress a certain way. (she wanted all of us to wear blue shirts with white jackets and white dress pants including the girl who played fiddle and sang). We had to set up the day before the wedding. (Leaving thousands of dollars worth of equipment in the hall overnight) The kicker was telling me that $200 was more than fair and that we should do it for free as a wedding gift. I’ve met this woman maybe 6 times beforehand. She also said that because she had once went to club where we had played that we “owed” her for her attendance at club we played. Needless to say, we passed on her kind offer
The bride who didn't like the best man's looks was rediculous. My husband and I only had 2 people stand up with us at our wedding my 2 girls were about the same size and similar in size to me and my husband's best man is similar build to him. When he found out his really good friend who was supposed to stand up as well couldn't come we were super upset that he couldn't be there, he was a bigger guy so my husband joked that his cousin would fit better with the asthetic anyway 🤣 I cannot even imagine actually feeling that way or caring at all. I would much rather have all the people I care about supporting me than everyone to look perfect
Reading about Bridezillas makes my brain hurt. I WAS a bride at one time. My entire wedding cost $4,000. And that was only because my parents wanted a special kind of wine for the toast. They paid for it. My dress literally cost $107.00. That's ONE HUNDRED AND SEVEN DOLLARS. And it was gorgeous. I had 2 bridesmaids (1 maid of honor, 1 bridesmaid). I showed them the dress I liked for them to wear....out of the Chadwick's of Boston catalog. 1 dress cost $60.00 and the other $70.00. No demands, no outrageous criteria, NOTHING.
I don't know about the rest of you, but doesn't striving to obtain the most absolute perfect wedding, (at the cost of your friends, family, and sanity) sound ridiculously stressful? I don't understand this type of mentality and I probably never will. LOVE YOU CHARLOTTE!
I completely agree. My ideal wedding is low key with my nearest & dearest just having a good time.
I handmade two flower girl dresses for one of my best friends weddings a few years ago, one of the dresses was for my daughter, I offered to do it for her, she paid for all the supplies and I made the dresses, it took me f*cking HOURS lol but it was not demanded of me! This should NEVER be asked or demanded of someone!
I had a friend who was a photographer and did my daughters senior photos for us. I know she charged me less, and she didn't have to, and I was happy to pay her. I can't even imagine expecting it for free.
I have never seen my Grandmother ever be aggressive in any way but if I told her she had to write an essay to go to my wedding I would expect violence. 🤣🤣🤣
Love the color coordination you have going on with the room today!
Why do people think wedding dresses are expensive????? Sewing something like that is intricate and takes HOURS to complete. She already discounted it...
No kidding, 600 pounds for a hand tailored dress is a HELL of a steal.
yeah like I make my own stuff for cosplay and I’m also trying to sew a dress and cloak. You know how much wool or any fabric for a warm garment is alone??? It’s like almost $100 just for one cloak. Not to mention it takes hours and hours to make ANYTHING. There are even books from the early 20th century that is all about how to fix your clothes because if a garment is ruined you had to make a brand new one or commission a dress maker which is expensive. Even for a rich person new dresses are pricy.
Same reason that people tell artist that all we do is click a button or put something into the oven they never think about the amount of time it takes to make something part of the reason why if I ever get married I'm going to make sure that I find vendors that are within my budget and if I can't afford them I'm going to tell them thank you for their time but they are out of my budget and not ask for a discount because their time is worth the money
Srsly. Took us 2 days to make my very simple wedding dress and materials cost $300. I can’t fathom the time and expense for a more detailed complex dress.
@@pablodelsegundo9502 Exactly! She's literally asking for a custom made wedding dress. She's commissioning a dress lol out in real world bridal stores, these sorts of things costs *thousands* , sometimes tens of, of dollars to make.
For the girl who had everyone write an essay, i dont think she’s going to read them. I mean she had to make wedding cuts, and this is probably her way to get less people to RSVP without telling anyone they’re uninvited 😂
Of all that’s ways UA-camrs ask for subscribers I like yours best. Just shouting ‘subscribe!’ at the end of the vid 😂 straight to the point and I appreciate it!
These have to be my favorite videos, I absolutely love them! These women are ridiculously entertaining. Thank you, Charlotte! I've been married for 30 years and had a never ending list of things that went wrong at my wedding and none of them bothered me at all. I was just happy to be getting married to my husband! The only "rule" I had was absolutely NO cake smashing, other than that, I just didn't care...it's about the marriage not the wedding...
Charlotte always makes "bridezilla" stories entertaining. I'm curious to know how these marriages work out when the wedding is over.
The essay one always makes me laugh. I attended several weddings while working full-time AND attending college full-time. Any extra 'assignments' would have ended in me laughing my butt off and no wedding gifts at all.
It's really disrespectful to people's time to request this. You have to be really full of yourself.
Love you’re videos!! Always makes the start of my crazy day better 😀 these bridezillas are bonkers lol 😂
I love Charlotte’s attitude…” I thought we were friends, yea I thought we were friends …”!!! Exactly!! Don’t put people in that position especially good friends
I had a similar situation at my ‘best friends’ wedding.
She excluded me from all pictures and then said “well you’ll be in the joint one”
She literally said
“you just don’t really fit in with the rest of the people here”
Meaning I wasn’t under a size 12
We had been friends since we were 10 years old and I watched literally everyone take pictures with her, most of them she had completely slagged off (should’ve seen the red flags!)
The thing is I would’ve paid for my own F’in picture! ….desperate but
I was so happy for her, her and her partner had been together since she was 18 and I hadn’t seen a better relationship apart from my grandparents.
When it came to the reception I was sat on a table with people she had invited so last minute that they had to just eat what the person who couldn’t come had ordered.
My breaking point was when I uploaded the picture of her and I together at the reception that I had taken.
She reported it as basically an image I’d stolen!!
My sister didn’t want any of her wedding pictures on social media which is absolutely fine by me but in the case of my ‘best friend’ she had her top league friends who had uploaded bloody videos of the ceremony plus a plethora of images.
She couldn’t see the issue at all, the bigger picture of the whole day plus the aftermath of her reporting an image as her property and getting me bloody blocked from Facebook.
It’s funny when these things happen because you realise where you stand in peoples lives.
I’ve never been so hurt by a friend.
Better to learn who these people are and move on, it still hurts a lot to learn that about a friend.
I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hope you rid yourself of that kind of toxicity and are surrounded by better people now.
She sounds absolutely vile.
I’m so sorry that happened to you ❤
She sounds like a horrible person. Their relationship probably wasn’t as good behind closed doors as you’d thought.
I can't tell you how much these videos have helped me with my sense of self-worth as an artist. I have diagnosed anxiety and depression and have always been creatively inclined, but never really been able to convince myself that my art was worth anything. Even if I was happy with the result, I would find it very hard to try and put a price on it because I was always - and still am - concerned that it's just not good enough to be worth money. Hearing other artists standing up for their time and work and really taking a moment to consider how much of my own time and money I put into mine is helping me to become more confident in appraising my work with fresh eyes - in fact recently I entered into an art competition that allowed artists that entered to also submit arts and crafts pieces to an artist's shop that would be open for a weekend festival. I didn't place in the competition, but I entered several hand-made wirecraft tiaras and crowns into the shop and got a call at 2pm of the first day of the festival asking me to bring in more stock because they were almost out. I got some really good feedback, sold almost all of the tiaras I had made and it felt really good to earn some money for my craft.
I know other creatives that struggle with the same self worth issues and I think it's really important that more people come to realise that art and creative careers are worth paying for - and with money, rather than empty promises to promote their work to other people that don't value the time, skill and money that has been put into the amazing art that is out there.
For the last story. Not only was I the Best man, (didn't feel like changing the name) meaning I was the only female on the grooms side. I am also only 5'0 and everyone else was at least 5"7. So by that brides logic I would have ruined her wedding photos.
So, did/will the wedding actually happen?
@@xo2quilt Yeah, know the bride and groom of that wedding and she was happy that I was there. I even got to wear a tux. I used this an example of a normal bride/groom.
£600 for a custom wedding dress is a steal! How could you be upset about that?! I'd be so thrilled & even offer her more for the dress because she was my friend!
Wait, even the SIBLING has to write an essay to be chosen to go to the destination wedding?! The essays are bad enough but you make your sibling compete too? UGH! I am also of the opinion that in general if you are doing a destination wedding and everyone is paying their own way, them coming IS their gift.
I went to my cousin's destination wedding, I did not get them a gift and don't really remember seeing any gifts, I think they may have even said your attendance is your gift or something (it was years ago), and certainly no one said boo about me not giving a gift. I was happy to go as I was viewing it as a chance to see family I hadn't seen in years and an excuse to be in Punta Cana for a week over my birthday. They actually got married on my birthday and the bride found out at the reception (I got a card from my mom and uncle, that was plenty for me I didn't want to steal attention from the wedding) and later that night the bride and her friends came round to where I was hanging out with other members of the family and they brought me a little cake and wished me happy birthday. It was an all inclusive resort and little cakes from the buffet but I thought it was really sweet of her to take a moment to wish me happy birthday like that on her wedding day.
Charlotte is always so good at turning my frown upside down. Love you Charlotte!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
At one time I had just the opposite problem as these greedy bastards. I lived next door to a man that had worked on "Big Blue" this was a major computer company, and then he wanted to relax and so he started his own business and was very successful. Because we were neighbors and friends I wanted to support his business so I would take my computer in for them to fix...he never wanted any money from us because we are "neighbors". I told him this is your business and your livelihood, I expect to pay, it has nothing to do with our friendship. I know that he only charged me for parts, so it least they got some money. Used to doggy sit for them so that saved them kennel fees. Now, I would imagine a lot of people think I was dumb to look a gift horse in the mouth, but I am not an entitled person and believe that people deserve to be paid for their work!
Yes, old IBM. Then again, he got great value from YOU because someone you can trust with your four-legged kids is worth his/her weight in gold!
@@carolr7333 I thought it was a pretty fair trade, and so did they.
This part
A true friend offers to pay full price because they value their friend and their time and talents. When I have a friend do something for me that they charge others for, I pay full price and then give them a big tip. That's a friend. Expecting and/or demanding a discount is not a friend.
Bride: Write me a 500 word application essay on why you should attend my wedding.
Sister: Oh,I’ll do you one better. I’ll write you 500 complete sentences. ~sends application essay with the word “No!” written 500 times~
I subbed for your double chin, LOL, quite some time ago! You're too funny sometimes girl! :) I did finally get to instagram and I'm following you there now, I hope that works out. Some of these brides just blow my mind!! It's hard to believe that they are actually real people, especially the ones that try to get other people to pay for their weddings!! Definitely over the top!!!
One of my closest friend's offered to take my small registry photos. It was literally just family there and she wanted to practice her photography. I offered to pay but she insisted she just wanted to take the photos and will give them to us digitally. I was happy for her to take the photos and also over the moon that she would also be there for the ceremony. I bought her a £100 voucher and gave it to her after the ceremony as a thank you. She was so surprised. I couldn't not give her anything especially as she is such a good friend and was doing a 100 mile round trip for the event!
Just listening to these bridezilla stories blows my mind. As for the bride who wants two 250 word essays to help her decide who will be allowed to attend her wedding - I sincerely hope no one completed those essays. The nerve to expect potential guests to write essays as if they were filling out a college application is unbelieveable.Not to mention that she’s planning a destination wedding during a pandemic that will cost her guests a lot of money, not to mention the time quarantining.
The bridezilla who wants her husband‘s best man to be cropped out of the photos - shame on her! If all she’s worrying about is that her photos are aesthetically pleasing then I feel sorry for the groom. He needs to run, and run fast and far while he can. My husband and I have been married 31 years, was everyone in our bridal party model gorgeous? No! Did that matter to us? No! We asked people that were important to us, who meant the world to us, to take part in our bridal party. As the years go by, what your wedding pictures look like doesn’t matter. What matters is that those important people in your life were there to share your special day. Obviously, that’s something these Bridezillas are absolutely not aware of.
My essay would be 2 words boldly printed FU#K OFF
@@danielbarber8387 You read my mind! 😄
I like the fact our wedding was a gift from our family and friends. The ladies from our church gave us our reception. My mother in law made my dress and wedding cake. She and my sister in laws did our flowers and my bouquet. One of my brothers in law drove me to the church. My parents gave us our honeymoon, which was flying us to the US from Australia so my husband could meet my family and celebrate my grandmother's 90th birthday.
A wedding should have only one concern.. Everyone having fun. Ours was at our small church. Our entire bible study group showed up- from five different churches. We knew they'd be there, so that wasn't a problem. My mom, my daughter and I made my dress. My husband found a Perry Ellis suit that matched our colors perfectly for 16.00 at a thrift store. All the table decor was disopsable. The centerpieces went home to the person who had a number on their chair at the table. We made the cupcakes. No cake. And the dinner? Potluck. Insisted on by everyone! The gifts were perfect. Even our honeymoon was a gift. It was incredible!
I am so sick of people assuming that artists of all kinds will work for free, listen very carefully WE WORK HARD TO LEARN OUR CRAFT AND WE NEVER STOP LEARNING AND HONING OUR CRAFT, WHETHER ITS ART, ACTING, SEWING, WHATEVER WE WORK OUR ASSES OFF TO GET WHERE WE'RE AT "ExpOsURe" DOES NOT PAY THE BILLS. STOP ASKING US TO WORK FOR FREE.