I absolutely love how real you are with us and how graciously you discuss mental health and self care. Take time, lean on your support systems, and know that your braidaholic family is always here. Thank you for all that you do. Your honesty and realistic positivity 😊 have helped some of us out here struggling with mental health as well.
Literally got the alert for this video while lying in bed in a low moment… i cried towards the end for feeling understood and acknowledged… you are seriously an angel for making this video Kayley, thank you so much, been following you for nearly 15 years and thank you for being there! ❤❤❤ lots of love!
My favs and go-to's: rope braids for nightly protection, because it rewards you in the morning with pretty waves. Hair masks can help you detangle if it's really knotted. And only washing my bangs/front pieces in the sink when I cant handle a full shower
lol you're better than I! When my bangs look greasy, I spray my hair brush bristles with dry hair shampoo and just brush my bangs until they don't look gross anymore 😅
just an added tip for those who struggle with their mental health and find it hard to take care of their hair (hi! it’s me!😂) if your hair is extra dirty and you don’t have the time/energy to wash it just put it up in a slicked back pony or bun! add a little product and it’ll look intentional🤍
KC Davis talks about this in her book: How to Keep House While Drowning! She mentions how to deal when your overwhelmed with keeping up with the EVERYTHING, that sometimes its possible to get to the point where even brushing your hair is a struggle. She specifically mentions tying your hair up like you do, but also mentions silk sleep bonnets (which I'm obsessed with, so comfy!). I can't believe how long your hair is now! Lucious! 😍 Also, I'm so happy you're not ignoring/pretending about the mental health. So many of us are struggling right now, and seeing someone in real time deal with it can feel really comforting that we're not the only ones that are hanging by our fingernails
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm so impressed by your compassion and preemtiveness. Because hair does matter to self-esteem. And, at least for me, when I came out of a depressive rut, this little bit of self-esteem can go a long way. you're an angel Kayley! ❤
A tip of mine that I think would count is an oil mist (drugstore!! Ogx makes one but i like herbal essences better). If you get a lightweight one and mist it over your lengths before bed I’ve found less tangles and breakage in the mornings, and it’s a little lighter than reapplying leave in conditioners! Love the video Kayley, we missed you so much!
I rarely feel moved to comment on UA-cam, but was so pleasantly surprised by your focus on mental illness and self care along with practical solutions that I felt that I must. Kayley, you totally nailed it. You made me-and clearly many others-feel seen and understood. Thank you so much and keep up the good work. God bless you.
This is such a great video Kayley. I’m neurodivergent and there are so many burnout or shutdown days where it’s so hard to get myself in the shower, let alone to wash my hair. A huge help has been to start wearing a silk bonnet. I also got my kids silk pillow cases and we’re now waking up tangle free with our hair shiny. My daughter’s natural curls look fresh for days too. I love how easy it makes our mornings.
If you can braid, I like putting my hair in two french braids when I'm not doing well. It helps me feel put together, it's a nice repetitive task for a few minutes, and my hair is out of the way for the rest of the day. That way, it doesn't bother me, and if I don't touch it as much it can go longer between washes (and also, the braids hide greasy roots really well so they're a great option on days where i didn't manage to get a shower). And if you make them loose enough, you can just go to bed with them in and have nice contained hair in the morning!
Things that helped me as someone who has spent time in bed due to mental and physical health: - Have hair stuff (brush, scrunchies) in my nightstand. - accepting that sometimes things have got to give (temporarily) so shorter hair (but still able to put it up) and growing out my bangs but having cute clips when I do go out or have an online appointment. - I love my wet brush, it detangles so well - doing things where I’m more comfortable, I always have to blow dry my hair but I can do it in bed! -when blow drying hair it really helps to do it in sections. I divide it in 4, put it in clips and suddenly it’s way less overwhelming.
The rinse and repeat method has been such a game changer for me!! It helps my hair stay cleaner for longer so I’m not having to deal with it as often. Started doing it like a year ago and I haven’t gone back!!
added tip for anybody who gets annoyed with washing their hair, whenever my hair gets a little bit dirty I use this Raw Sugar Rosemary Vinegar Hair Rinse. You put it on wet hair (roots and ends), massage it in, and let it sit for like 3 minutes then rinse it out. Keeps my hair clean and soft!
This is so good! Whenever I feel like I’m slipping into a physical or mental downturn, I always use that last bit of energy to wash and blow dry my hair to keep it low maintenance for a few days. Also, I finally just got a microfiber hair towel at 33! WOW what a game changer! SO happy to see your face Kayley ❤
Ive been sleeping for years with a loose bun. My 6 years old kept on waking with tangled hair and didnt liked me trying ro brush it for school . Now its the loose bun for her too 😅👌
Yes please! So nice to see you share what helped you during tough times, so that we all can have more ideas what to try and have a better chance to find what works for us. Thanks 💜
A tip I learned from having allergies: if your hair is getting a bit dirty but you can't wash it for whatever reason, wrap it up before bed. A hair scarf, cap, whatever works for you. This keeps any grease/dirt/product/etc that's on your hair from getting all over your pillow and then all over your face as you sleep.
This video was absolutely fantastic and, as a chronically ill person who spends a lot of time in bed, I really appreciate the empathy you included here. My situation isn't mentioned a lot in these kinds of things and it felt wonderful to feel so seen.
I definitely needed this today, like my mental health has been taking another dip and I find washing my hair and showering to be a really high effort task even when my mental health is good and so this video was exactly what I needed. I have been watching you since I was in middle school in like 2011 and I am glad that I have been able to grow with you!
you recommended the loose bun that I live in basically whenever I'm home - literally I stared at the screen as a mirror, identical buns being sported, and I CACKLED. I paused it to show to my partner and he also laughed aloud because it's so exactly how I wear my hair all the time lmao
Kayley, thank you so much for this video! It truly meant a lot to me to hear you talk about these things. I've been quite sick for over 10 years, and figuring out how to care for my hair and not hate how it looks has been a journey for me! I really like the tips that you shared, and I want to look into getting some soft hair ties! Some other things that have been helpful for me personally are: 1) having shorter hair so that I'm not as self-conscious about how thin it is, 2) working to believe my husband when he tells me that my hair is beautiful, and 3) having realistic expectations for what I'm able to do for my hair. Recently I got a shower stool, as standing up in the shower can be pretty exhausting for me, especially when I wash my hair. Being able to sit has been such a help for me, and I don't feel as anxious or tired about washing my hair now. Again, thank you so much for this video! It helps some very tender parts of my heart feel seen. ❤️❤️
Tip for mental health and physical health reasons you're in bed...if you have to wear headgear of any sort (like with a CPAP) containing your hair in a satin bonnet helps protect it from the friction of the headgear too.
Thank you Kayley!!! Great topic! Almost everyone has gone through a phase like this, but sadly we don't talk about (and thus accept / embrace) these moments enough. But you also offered tips with respect and even more compassion❤️
I’m actually on holiday atm and stuck in bed with back pain. My hair is always the last thought on my mind and when I do have time I clarify and then Olaplex and air dry. I like the Function of Beauty leave in conditioner and use half a pump (I tied a clear elastic to the pump as I knew a full pump would be too much even when I had waist length hair) When I really want to make myself feel better I put on makeup. Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks and welcome back. Love the longer hair too ❤️
I love my microfibre towel! It makes such a difference as my hair holds a lot of water. I put my hair in two loose dutch braids to sleep, which I find most comfortable as I find a low braid doesn’t hold my hair enough and a bun pulls on my hair too much. Thank you for these tips!! I’m so excited to try them!
I love this! What a beautiful way to use a hard time in your life to share wisdom with others. These tips are also super helpful for neurodivergent people as well. Adhd brain here and one thing i know for me and many in the ND community struggle with is self care. I can tend to go days without brushing or washing my hair and it just stays in the same tight messy bun. My quick tips to add for more textured babes. I have super thick wavy/curly hair so it adds a lil more trouble to doing easy maintenance. The claw clip is a great tip. I use the ones that look like an octopus bc it helps holding all my hair. Dark colored dry shampoo for refreshing between washes makes a big difference. And just learning really easy braids to make the hair feel styled without much effort goes a long way. The braiding can also really help with lessening how tangled textured hair gets overnight, especially if like me you can't do bonnets or silk pillowcases bc the texture just bothers me while im trying to sleep.
french pins/fair forks have changed my hair game!! i feel like my hair looks pretty when i take it out as opposed to claw clips which make my wavy hair look crunchy hehe!
Thank you, this is exactly what I need right now. I have anxiety, chronic pain and I'm currently dealing with an injury too and sometimes it's just too much and I find myself really struggling and just throwing my hair into a high ponytail or bun. These are great tips and I love the way you spoke about health and self care ❤️
This is such a great video! So many times when people talk about low maintenance hair it is like here is a quick 15 minute routine involving several heat tools and that is just not realistic (for me at least) when I am looking for basic. On the other hand, brush and put up in clamp-- that seems a bit more feasible. I also really appreciate how you address physical and mental health as barriers, we don't see that brought up enough.
I love seeing this type of content ❤ totally agree that something as simple as sleeping with my hair in a braid helps me feel good about my hair the next day and helps me go longer between washes
Thank you so much for this video!! I have been watching you for so long. I got this notification after taking care of my 2mo all day. When you said that these tips could be used for busy new mom's I almost cried. I felt so seen. I've really been needing a new low maintenance hair routine. My hair has been suffering a bit from being pregnant and having no energy to being a new mom with no time. I just watched this soaking up it all up. Thank you. I really appreciate it.
Thank you so much for coming back you add so much to my life and your content is amazing. Congratulations on overcoming your OCD. as a new mom who had an emergency c section… recovery was awful and self care went away and depression set in… quick tips use a curl band at night so you wake up at least to pretty waves. I love cozy confidence bands or effortless muse. They’re amazing products
Thank you Hair Queen! These tips are so good and your compassionate comments are such a breath of fresh air. You are a brave soul for sharing. Much love from Spain
Hi Kayley, thank you for talking about mental health, and also talking about mental health while - during - being in a healthy relationship. After 6 months of being with my boyfriend (now husband) I started with anxiety attacks, crying non-stop, to the point that I needed professional help. This happened during uni days, so my, no-so-close, friends, thought I was crying because of my relationship... but actually my partner loved - loves - me so much that THAT started shaking my toxic held beliefs; to the point that I had an identity crisis because my internal image did not correlate the loving and kind image that my partner reflected back to me. After years of therapy, I'm kinder to myself :) Xxx
LOVE the message behind this video ❤ whenever I know I’m going to have a long stretch when I can’t take the time to do my hair (working 12hr o/n shifts) I put my hair in French rope braids and the curls/waves last for DAYS!!! And then I can leave it down or do updos with it 😊
I've also found with shampooing, that if I have a little condiment bottle thing (clean of course) and I put some shampoo and water in that and shake it up, then I can get the shampoo directly on my scalp and my hair feels so much cleaner with less effort.
I use Pantene Miracle Rescue 10 in 1 for my two young daughters and it works WONDERS on their super knotty hair. I’ve used low to high end leave-ins on them and this one provides some of the best slip when brushing.
Welcome back, love all your advice. Ended cutting my hair because I never know what to do and always put it up on the same way ; yes with those hair ties 🤦🏽♀️🙃 same spot all the time ... thank you 🙏 😊
Appreciate this so much thank you, as someone with chronic fatigue too and other disabilities it means so much you talk about this stuff with no judgement and so much love 🥺🥺 as well as it being legit helpful lol I rarely actually try the hairstyles you show but so often pick up such great tips as well as loving your creativity, passion and kindness, so easy to watch and have done for so so many years 🥰 No pressure to be consistent with videos but proud of you for posting these 💜💜💜
I know you said in your last video that when you made this one at the time you didn't know if you would ever post it to UA-cam but I am so glad you did. It had so many helpful tips and was very informative while also keeping my interest.
I have microfiber towel scrunchies that I use on vacation. Really helps sucking up the water in a decent time! I have insanely thick hair & I put it up for about 30 minutes & my hair is decently dry!
OMG thank you for creating this. I have spent the last 3 years in bed due to chronic illness and cannot shower regularly anymore, let alone wash my own hair as often as I need to. I resorted to having extremely short hair to cope. I am so heartened to have seen this on your channel. It will really help me, and it validates the steps I have already taken. I have heard from other friends with chronic illness that in addition to using leave-in conditioner, they also use leave-in shampoo. Have you heard of this? I haven’t personally tried it yet but have heard it’s useful when you have to go a long time without washing your hair. Thank you also for sharing your story in your previous video and alluding to it again here. I am sorry for what you have had to go through, and might be still going through. Your bravery in sharing what has happened to you makes me feel really seen. I have never before encountered a hair stylist who accounted for the full human experience beyond looking cute or stylish. We need help to look after our hair in times when we are genuinely not well - and you are amazing for finally fulfilling that need. Much love to you, and thank you!
Ugh! My girl I'm so glad you're back in my feed ❤ and this video is so necessary for so many of us. Bonnets and hair clips are my best friend, especially when I have zero mental capacity for hair maintenance. 🥰 And so proud of you
The part about making sure not to skip leave-in conditioner/detangler is a lesson I recently learned! I was too tired to do that extra step and holy cow what a difference. My hair was constantly tangling over the next couple days which hadn't happened before- those products really make a difference!
Love this!! If you need a good drugstore leave in conditioner, I love the not your mother's all eyes on me and a wet brush to detangle. Detangle, heat protectant, etc.
when life is too much i often put some leave in conditioner in and just french braid it relatively tight and let it be like that for like a day or 2 (if i dont need to go to the office or smth). itll be tangly but not terrible when i take it out and its still the leave in conditioner helps. and its out of my face for a bit
One thing I’ve found helpful is, if I have the bandwidth, I take the time to heat style my hair into curls once a week. I love wearing my hair natural when I can, but it takes a lot more effort to maintain/style and I can’t quickly brush it like that. If it’s heat styled then it takes little/no effort the rest of the week, and if I do the curls tight on the first day then they slowly fall throughout the week. I miss my natural hair, but you gotta do what you gotta do!
You are such a bright light. This popped up on my tablet and I was so happy to see you. To educate us with your extensive knowledge and personal experience of haircare while sharing your personal struggles of mental health is not only brave, it's BRILLIANT! .
This is such a great and practical video! Thank you so much for sharing and helping others with a stigmatized topic. Something I've found helpful during challenging times was to use a bonnet to protect my hair around the clock. When I was bedridden from pregnancy sickness or had small kids pulling on my hair constantly, being able to contain my hair in something easy was a lifesaver.
If you have greasy roots with ends that are dry, fragile, or frizzy, but all you can manage that day is dry shampoo, try a dry oil spray for the ends of your hair. I sometimes put a bit on before I get in there with the dry shampoo, for a bit of protection when I'm brushing that out, but mostly, I use it to calm down frizz afterwards. It doesn't need to be an expensive one - mine is made by Schwarzkopf in their got2b range. It doesn't leave the ends of my fine, thin hair stringy like a leave in conditioner, serum or hair oil can. Also, if you can manage it, take the time to give yourself a head massage while you're rubbing the dry shampoo into your roots. It makes it feel more like a self-care step, and less like something you're only doing because you can't manage a shower.
Can I adopt you as a sister? you are such a genuine, bright person and your videos make me so happy. I love how really and honest you are, making your page informative and a safe space for people struggling with something anywhere from how to get the hair/styles they want to mental health
In my experience, changing the brush so it fits the type of hair helps tremendously fx bigger brush head for longer hair, brushing from the ends and up towards the scalp with conditioner. If it get's stuck, don't force it, add a bit more conditioner and spread out the tangle then brush. If I'm not feeling well, I'll brush my hair before heading into the shower because it helps with the tangles afterwards. Not rubbing the hair dry with a towel, but padding/scrunching it prevents tangles. Removing the hair on the brush every time you are done really helps with my hair not getting oily because of all the dust and stuff gathered on the brush and occasionally washing it as well. Either way, hope this might help someone out there and have as wonderful day
I love this video so much!! I know it’s not the greatest but dry shampoo is a huge saver for me when I’m not feeling the effort of washing my hair. I’ve really loved the Dae fairy duster powder! It smells amazing and works so well and makes me feel confident in my hair!
New mom here and I highly appreciate this video!! 💖 Also: Welcome back! Glad to see that you're feeling better. I've been a part of the braidaholic family for over a decade ❤
Great tips Kayley! The video reminded me of the hairstylist that brushes out giant knots on people's hair & all of them say they stop brushing because they were depressed 😢💔
I love this! Incredibly relatable. I have always loved your content and especially love the realist views about life you are sharing. I actually learned to French braid (and all sorts of other braids) my hair from your old braid encyclopedia days. Thank you for being so brave and sharing snippets of your life. ❤
I feel like I go through waves of neglecting my hair because I cannot bear to sit and detangle it at the end of the day when I have zero energy left so thank you for such a realistic video ❤
I’m so excited to hear you talk about this! One, your dedication to transparency and grace around mental health is great. Two, I love hearing about how I can help my hair go longer and be healthier!
This is an excellent video idea!!! ❤ when I’m getting overwhelmed in life, I definitely transition to a “benign neglect” model of hair care (and all beauty related self care really) just going as simple as possible, but trying to keep the “routine” because my ADHD brain likes that. (i.e. in AM brush teeth, splash face, moisturizing face sunscreen, brush and braid hair. PM wash face, moisturize)
Kayley, what a beautiful video! I can see how much time and care you took on the filming and editing, and the content is real, relatable, and helpful. Thank you for your vulnerability with your heart to help others! Hair hack add on - I love the braid like you showed in the video for comfortable hair sick in bed, but I take it up a notch. No hair tie! I have curly hair. So I’ve found that when I get to the end of the braid, I pull the three strands together into one stand, and then separate out curls mixing the 3 strands of the braid into a lot of different stands on the end. This way I don’t have to tease my ends or wear a hair tie. I can be comfortable and protect my hair. This wouldn’t work for a pull out fluffed up braid, but if you’re keeping it simple for bed it stays in place! Love you, Kayley!
I absolutely love how real you are with us and how graciously you discuss mental health and self care. Take time, lean on your support systems, and know that your braidaholic family is always here. Thank you for all that you do. Your honesty and realistic positivity 😊 have helped some of us out here struggling with mental health as well.
I need advice how to have my hair stop being frizzy and breaking 😢
As a therapist, I’m definitely recommending these tips to clients (and taking notes myself)! Love you, Kayley! ❤
Literally got the alert for this video while lying in bed in a low moment… i cried towards the end for feeling understood and acknowledged… you are seriously an angel for making this video Kayley, thank you so much, been following you for nearly 15 years and thank you for being there! ❤❤❤ lots of love!
My favs and go-to's: rope braids for nightly protection, because it rewards you in the morning with pretty waves. Hair masks can help you detangle if it's really knotted. And only washing my bangs/front pieces in the sink when I cant handle a full shower
lol you're better than I! When my bangs look greasy, I spray my hair brush bristles with dry hair shampoo and just brush my bangs until they don't look gross anymore 😅
just an added tip for those who struggle with their mental health and find it hard to take care of their hair (hi! it’s me!😂) if your hair is extra dirty and you don’t have the time/energy to wash it just put it up in a slicked back pony or bun! add a little product and it’ll look intentional🤍
Hard agree!! The slick back hair trend came just in time for us 😂
You can also put a scarf or a turban over it even at home, so the oils don't touch your skin and it doesn't break out.
Greasy hair also goes really well into braids, I do 2 Dutch braids or Dutch rope braids and they look better with greasy hair.
@@loonybinrejectoooh I’m going to try that. I just don’t suit slicked back hair at all so this might be a good alternative!
Yes! I have also recently discovered Hats...they cover up all sorts and makes me feel comfy/blocks out big lights
KC Davis talks about this in her book: How to Keep House While Drowning! She mentions how to deal when your overwhelmed with keeping up with the EVERYTHING, that sometimes its possible to get to the point where even brushing your hair is a struggle. She specifically mentions tying your hair up like you do, but also mentions silk sleep bonnets (which I'm obsessed with, so comfy!). I can't believe how long your hair is now! Lucious! 😍 Also, I'm so happy you're not ignoring/pretending about the mental health. So many of us are struggling right now, and seeing someone in real time deal with it can feel really comforting that we're not the only ones that are hanging by our fingernails
Those jaw clips are the most fun and pretty hair accessories I've seen in a long time! Totally bookmarking that store for future considerations :D
You hit the nail on the head with this one. I'm so impressed by your compassion and preemtiveness. Because hair does matter to self-esteem. And, at least for me, when I came out of a depressive rut, this little bit of self-esteem can go a long way.
you're an angel Kayley! ❤
If this isn't absolutely perfect for me right now. Sometimes it's hard enough to just brush it and keep it clean. But this could really help. ❤
Been there! I hope it helps - I used a lot of these when I was in that time.
A tip of mine that I think would count is an oil mist (drugstore!! Ogx makes one but i like herbal essences better). If you get a lightweight one and mist it over your lengths before bed I’ve found less tangles and breakage in the mornings, and it’s a little lighter than reapplying leave in conditioners! Love the video Kayley, we missed you so much!
Oh so cool! I may need to try that 💕
I rarely feel moved to comment on UA-cam, but was so pleasantly surprised by your focus on mental illness and self care along with practical solutions that I felt that I must. Kayley, you totally nailed it. You made me-and clearly many others-feel seen and understood. Thank you so much and keep up the good work. God bless you.
This is such a great video Kayley. I’m neurodivergent and there are so many burnout or shutdown days where it’s so hard to get myself in the shower, let alone to wash my hair. A huge help has been to start wearing a silk bonnet. I also got my kids silk pillow cases and we’re now waking up tangle free with our hair shiny. My daughter’s natural curls look fresh for days too. I love how easy it makes our mornings.
If you can braid, I like putting my hair in two french braids when I'm not doing well. It helps me feel put together, it's a nice repetitive task for a few minutes, and my hair is out of the way for the rest of the day. That way, it doesn't bother me, and if I don't touch it as much it can go longer between washes (and also, the braids hide greasy roots really well so they're a great option on days where i didn't manage to get a shower). And if you make them loose enough, you can just go to bed with them in and have nice contained hair in the morning!
Totally here for the victory dance at the end ❤😂
The goal dance at the end is the real winner! So glad you’re posting again, we missed you ❤
Things that helped me as someone who has spent time in bed due to mental and physical health:
- Have hair stuff (brush, scrunchies) in my nightstand.
- accepting that sometimes things have got to give (temporarily) so shorter hair (but still able to put it up) and growing out my bangs but having cute clips when I do go out or have an online appointment.
- I love my wet brush, it detangles so well
- doing things where I’m more comfortable, I always have to blow dry my hair but I can do it in bed!
-when blow drying hair it really helps to do it in sections. I divide it in 4, put it in clips and suddenly it’s way less overwhelming.
As a nee mum with PPD this had truly made my day ❤ thank you
The rinse and repeat method has been such a game changer for me!! It helps my hair stay cleaner for longer so I’m not having to deal with it as often. Started doing it like a year ago and I haven’t gone back!!
i’ve missed you kayley! take your time of course, but i’m so excited to see your comeback🔥
Ha! The shrimp clip!
This is so helpful! And so amazing to have you back girly! 💜
Cantu Leave-in conditioner was AMAZING. Even for my fine,wavy hair
added tip for anybody who gets annoyed with washing their hair, whenever my hair gets a little bit dirty I use this Raw Sugar Rosemary Vinegar Hair Rinse. You put it on wet hair (roots and ends), massage it in, and let it sit for like 3 minutes then rinse it out. Keeps my hair clean and soft!
This is so good! Whenever I feel like I’m slipping into a physical or mental downturn, I always use that last bit of energy to wash and blow dry my hair to keep it low maintenance for a few days. Also, I finally just got a microfiber hair towel at 33! WOW what a game changer! SO happy to see your face Kayley ❤
Ive been sleeping for years with a loose bun. My 6 years old kept on waking with tangled hair and didnt liked me trying ro brush it for school . Now its the loose bun for her too 😅👌
Yes please! So nice to see you share what helped you during tough times, so that we all can have more ideas what to try and have a better chance to find what works for us. Thanks 💜
A tip I learned from having allergies: if your hair is getting a bit dirty but you can't wash it for whatever reason, wrap it up before bed. A hair scarf, cap, whatever works for you. This keeps any grease/dirt/product/etc that's on your hair from getting all over your pillow and then all over your face as you sleep.
This video was absolutely fantastic and, as a chronically ill person who spends a lot of time in bed, I really appreciate the empathy you included here. My situation isn't mentioned a lot in these kinds of things and it felt wonderful to feel so seen.
So happy to have new videos coming
Another tip I would add: satin pillowcase or satin bonnet to sleep
Thank you for this content. As a chronically ill person, I greatly appreciate feeling seen and cared for.
Thank you for this beautiful video. Currently watching from bed with multiple chronic illnesses.
I definitely needed this today, like my mental health has been taking another dip and I find washing my hair and showering to be a really high effort task even when my mental health is good and so this video was exactly what I needed. I have been watching you since I was in middle school in like 2011 and I am glad that I have been able to grow with you!
you recommended the loose bun that I live in basically whenever I'm home - literally I stared at the screen as a mirror, identical buns being sported, and I CACKLED. I paused it to show to my partner and he also laughed aloud because it's so exactly how I wear my hair all the time lmao
A dose of your friendly neighbourhood hairstylist videos never fails to bring sunshine into your day! Hugs from Jakarta
Kayley, thank you so much for this video! It truly meant a lot to me to hear you talk about these things. I've been quite sick for over 10 years, and figuring out how to care for my hair and not hate how it looks has been a journey for me! I really like the tips that you shared, and I want to look into getting some soft hair ties! Some other things that have been helpful for me personally are: 1) having shorter hair so that I'm not as self-conscious about how thin it is, 2) working to believe my husband when he tells me that my hair is beautiful, and 3) having realistic expectations for what I'm able to do for my hair. Recently I got a shower stool, as standing up in the shower can be pretty exhausting for me, especially when I wash my hair. Being able to sit has been such a help for me, and I don't feel as anxious or tired about washing my hair now.
Again, thank you so much for this video! It helps some very tender parts of my heart feel seen. ❤️❤️
Tip for mental health and physical health reasons you're in bed...if you have to wear headgear of any sort (like with a CPAP) containing your hair in a satin bonnet helps protect it from the friction of the headgear too.
What an absolutely practical, compassionate video. Thank you for sharing yourself with the Internet, Kayley. You bring so much to this space.
New mom over here, sometimes I barely wash my hair... 😅
Thank you so much! ❤
I really love the Eva NYC magic 10 in 1 detangler!
I also love the Quai Detox Shampoo weekly it makes a huge difference for me.
Thank you Kayley!!! Great topic! Almost everyone has gone through a phase like this, but sadly we don't talk about (and thus accept / embrace) these moments enough. But you also offered tips with respect and even more compassion❤️
I’m actually on holiday atm and stuck in bed with back pain. My hair is always the last thought on my mind and when I do have time I clarify and then Olaplex and air dry. I like the Function of Beauty leave in conditioner and use half a pump (I tied a clear elastic to the pump as I knew a full pump would be too much even when I had waist length hair) When I really want to make myself feel better I put on makeup. Thank you for sharing your tips and tricks and welcome back. Love the longer hair too ❤️
I love my microfibre towel! It makes such a difference as my hair holds a lot of water. I put my hair in two loose dutch braids to sleep, which I find most comfortable as I find a low braid doesn’t hold my hair enough and a bun pulls on my hair too much. Thank you for these tips!! I’m so excited to try them!
I have never needed a video more than this😅
I love this! What a beautiful way to use a hard time in your life to share wisdom with others.
These tips are also super helpful for neurodivergent people as well. Adhd brain here and one thing i know for me and many in the ND community struggle with is self care. I can tend to go days without brushing or washing my hair and it just stays in the same tight messy bun.
My quick tips to add for more textured babes. I have super thick wavy/curly hair so it adds a lil more trouble to doing easy maintenance. The claw clip is a great tip. I use the ones that look like an octopus bc it helps holding all my hair. Dark colored dry shampoo for refreshing between washes makes a big difference. And just learning really easy braids to make the hair feel styled without much effort goes a long way. The braiding can also really help with lessening how tangled textured hair gets overnight, especially if like me you can't do bonnets or silk pillowcases bc the texture just bothers me while im trying to sleep.
french pins/fair forks have changed my hair game!! i feel like my hair looks pretty when i take it out as opposed to claw clips which make my wavy hair look crunchy hehe!
I love Davines Oi oil and leave in conditioner. I also use their shampoo and liquid luster. Love the scent and it makes my hair so soft and shiny.
Doing a loose bun for bed right now after watching this. Thank you, Kayley! Hope you’re doing well. ❤
Thank you, this is exactly what I need right now. I have anxiety, chronic pain and I'm currently dealing with an injury too and sometimes it's just too much and I find myself really struggling and just throwing my hair into a high ponytail or bun. These are great tips and I love the way you spoke about health and self care ❤️
This is such a great video! So many times when people talk about low maintenance hair it is like here is a quick 15 minute routine involving several heat tools and that is just not realistic (for me at least) when I am looking for basic. On the other hand, brush and put up in clamp-- that seems a bit more feasible. I also really appreciate how you address physical and mental health as barriers, we don't see that brought up enough.
Thank you Kaylee! You are such a wonderful voice for practical self care that is so needed. You’re awesome 💕
i love the garnier leave in conditioner!
I love seeing this type of content ❤ totally agree that something as simple as sleeping with my hair in a braid helps me feel good about my hair the next day and helps me go longer between washes
I love this video ❤❤❤ self care when you're living with mental illness can feel like running a marathon. These tips are very helpful❤
Thank you so much for this video!! I have been watching you for so long. I got this notification after taking care of my 2mo all day. When you said that these tips could be used for busy new mom's I almost cried. I felt so seen. I've really been needing a new low maintenance hair routine. My hair has been suffering a bit from being pregnant and having no energy to being a new mom with no time. I just watched this soaking up it all up. Thank you. I really appreciate it.
Thank you so much for coming back you add so much to my life and your content is amazing. Congratulations on overcoming your OCD.
as a new mom who had an emergency c section… recovery was awful and self care went away and depression set in… quick tips use a curl band at night so you wake up at least to pretty waves.
I love cozy confidence bands or effortless muse. They’re amazing products
Thank you Hair Queen! These tips are so good and your compassionate comments are such a breath of fresh air. You are a brave soul for sharing. Much love from Spain
Hi Kayley, thank you for talking about mental health, and also talking about mental health while - during - being in a healthy relationship. After 6 months of being with my boyfriend (now husband) I started with anxiety attacks, crying non-stop, to the point that I needed professional help. This happened during uni days, so my, no-so-close, friends, thought I was crying because of my relationship... but actually my partner loved - loves - me so much that THAT started shaking my toxic held beliefs; to the point that I had an identity crisis because my internal image did not correlate the loving and kind image that my partner reflected back to me. After years of therapy, I'm kinder to myself :) Xxx
LOVE the message behind this video ❤ whenever I know I’m going to have a long stretch when I can’t take the time to do my hair (working 12hr o/n shifts) I put my hair in French rope braids and the curls/waves last for DAYS!!! And then I can leave it down or do updos with it 😊
This is exactly what I need right now. Thank you for your great tips.
Sooo happy to have you back here!! I hope you’re giving yourself some grace too!!
I've also found with shampooing, that if I have a little condiment bottle thing (clean of course) and I put some shampoo and water in that and shake it up, then I can get the shampoo directly on my scalp and my hair feels so much cleaner with less effort.
Thank you so so much for sharing this with us!!! I did a happy dance when I saw you had uploaded this! It’s amazing to see your videos again ❤
Thank you, you are so adorable. I love seeing you back.
Verb oil is my absolute favorite 😍
As a young mom with four kids I needed this!
I use Pantene Miracle Rescue 10 in 1 for my two young daughters and it works WONDERS on their super knotty hair. I’ve used low to high end leave-ins on them and this one provides some of the best slip when brushing.
Welcome back, love all your advice. Ended cutting my hair because I never know what to do and always put it up on the same way ; yes with those hair ties 🤦🏽♀️🙃 same spot all the time ...
thank you 🙏 😊
Appreciate this so much thank you, as someone with chronic fatigue too and other disabilities it means so much you talk about this stuff with no judgement and so much love 🥺🥺 as well as it being legit helpful lol I rarely actually try the hairstyles you show but so often pick up such great tips as well as loving your creativity, passion and kindness, so easy to watch and have done for so so many years 🥰 No pressure to be consistent with videos but proud of you for posting these 💜💜💜
I know you said in your last video that when you made this one at the time you didn't know if you would ever post it to UA-cam but I am so glad you did. It had so many helpful tips and was very informative while also keeping my interest.
I have microfiber towel scrunchies that I use on vacation. Really helps sucking up the water in a decent time! I have insanely thick hair & I put it up for about 30 minutes & my hair is decently dry!
OMG thank you for creating this. I have spent the last 3 years in bed due to chronic illness and cannot shower regularly anymore, let alone wash my own hair as often as I need to. I resorted to having extremely short hair to cope. I am so heartened to have seen this on your channel. It will really help me, and it validates the steps I have already taken. I have heard from other friends with chronic illness that in addition to using leave-in conditioner, they also use leave-in shampoo. Have you heard of this? I haven’t personally tried it yet but have heard it’s useful when you have to go a long time without washing your hair.
Thank you also for sharing your story in your previous video and alluding to it again here. I am sorry for what you have had to go through, and might be still going through. Your bravery in sharing what has happened to you makes me feel really seen. I have never before encountered a hair stylist who accounted for the full human experience beyond looking cute or stylish. We need help to look after our hair in times when we are genuinely not well - and you are amazing for finally fulfilling that need.
Much love to you, and thank you!
Ugh! My girl I'm so glad you're back in my feed ❤ and this video is so necessary for so many of us. Bonnets and hair clips are my best friend, especially when I have zero mental capacity for hair maintenance. 🥰 And so proud of you
The part about making sure not to skip leave-in conditioner/detangler is a lesson I recently learned! I was too tired to do that extra step and holy cow what a difference. My hair was constantly tangling over the next couple days which hadn't happened before- those products really make a difference!
Love this!!
If you need a good drugstore leave in conditioner, I love the not your mother's all eyes on me and a wet brush to detangle. Detangle, heat protectant, etc.
when life is too much i often put some leave in conditioner in and just french braid it relatively tight and let it be like that for like a day or 2 (if i dont need to go to the office or smth). itll be tangly but not terrible when i take it out and its still the leave in conditioner helps. and its out of my face for a bit
One thing I’ve found helpful is, if I have the bandwidth, I take the time to heat style my hair into curls once a week. I love wearing my hair natural when I can, but it takes a lot more effort to maintain/style and I can’t quickly brush it like that. If it’s heat styled then it takes little/no effort the rest of the week, and if I do the curls tight on the first day then they slowly fall throughout the week. I miss my natural hair, but you gotta do what you gotta do!
Yay!! Seeing you post Kayley just made my day so much better. I only just put my hair up in a ponytail lol 😂 I need some hairinspo ❤
You are such a bright light. This popped up on my tablet and I was so happy to see you. To educate us with your extensive knowledge and personal experience of haircare while sharing your personal struggles of mental health is not only brave, it's BRILLIANT!
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This is such a great and practical video! Thank you so much for sharing and helping others with a stigmatized topic.
Something I've found helpful during challenging times was to use a bonnet to protect my hair around the clock. When I was bedridden from pregnancy sickness or had small kids pulling on my hair constantly, being able to contain my hair in something easy was a lifesaver.
So excited and happy to have you back on UA-cam. Missed your tips and tricks and just your joyful vibe.
I genuinely love the suave kids silly apple detangler-it’s cheap, it works well for me, and the smell is a little hit of nostalgia
I like the Aussie scrunch leave in conditioner mousse.
If you have greasy roots with ends that are dry, fragile, or frizzy, but all you can manage that day is dry shampoo, try a dry oil spray for the ends of your hair. I sometimes put a bit on before I get in there with the dry shampoo, for a bit of protection when I'm brushing that out, but mostly, I use it to calm down frizz afterwards. It doesn't need to be an expensive one - mine is made by Schwarzkopf in their got2b range. It doesn't leave the ends of my fine, thin hair stringy like a leave in conditioner, serum or hair oil can.
Also, if you can manage it, take the time to give yourself a head massage while you're rubbing the dry shampoo into your roots. It makes it feel more like a self-care step, and less like something you're only doing because you can't manage a shower.
Can I adopt you as a sister? you are such a genuine, bright person and your videos make me so happy. I love how really and honest you are, making your page informative and a safe space for people struggling with something anywhere from how to get the hair/styles they want to mental health
In my experience, changing the brush so it fits the type of hair helps tremendously fx bigger brush head for longer hair, brushing from the ends and up towards the scalp with conditioner. If it get's stuck, don't force it, add a bit more conditioner and spread out the tangle then brush.
If I'm not feeling well, I'll brush my hair before heading into the shower because it helps with the tangles afterwards. Not rubbing the hair dry with a towel, but padding/scrunching it prevents tangles.
Removing the hair on the brush every time you are done really helps with my hair not getting oily because of all the dust and stuff gathered on the brush and occasionally washing it as well.
Either way, hope this might help someone out there and have as wonderful day
I love this video so much!! I know it’s not the greatest but dry shampoo is a huge saver for me when I’m not feeling the effort of washing my hair. I’ve really loved the Dae fairy duster powder! It smells amazing and works so well and makes me feel confident in my hair!
Love this video, Kayley! I’m really struggling with self care at the moment and this was honestly just what I needed. So glad to see you back 🥰
So proud of you, Kayley!
New mom here and I highly appreciate this video!! 💖
Also: Welcome back! Glad to see that you're feeling better. I've been a part of the braidaholic family for over a decade ❤
Great tips Kayley! The video reminded me of the hairstylist that brushes out giant knots on people's hair & all of them say they stop brushing because they were depressed 😢💔
I love this! Incredibly relatable. I have always loved your content and especially love the realist views about life you are sharing. I actually learned to French braid (and all sorts of other braids) my hair from your old braid encyclopedia days. Thank you for being so brave and sharing snippets of your life. ❤
I feel like I go through waves of neglecting my hair because I cannot bear to sit and detangle it at the end of the day when I have zero energy left so thank you for such a realistic video ❤
Love this so much. Thank you Kayley 🙏🏼 So glad to hear you’re doing better. Sending a huge hug 🤗🧡
Kayley, you are a breath of fresh air!
Thank you for this video! You have such a warm and welcoming heart that shines through your videos ❤
It’s so nice to have you back on UA-cam Kayley! Very glad that you’re doing better
I’m so excited to hear you talk about this! One, your dedication to transparency and grace around mental health is great. Two, I love hearing about how I can help my hair go longer and be healthier!
Love this so much! Will be currently adopting these habits after getting through an illness.
This is an excellent video idea!!! ❤ when I’m getting overwhelmed in life, I definitely transition to a “benign neglect” model of hair care (and all beauty related self care really) just going as simple as possible, but trying to keep the “routine” because my ADHD brain likes that. (i.e. in AM brush teeth, splash face, moisturizing face sunscreen, brush and braid hair. PM wash face, moisturize)
Kayley, what a beautiful video! I can see how much time and care you took on the filming and editing, and the content is real, relatable, and helpful. Thank you for your vulnerability with your heart to help others!
Hair hack add on - I love the braid like you showed in the video for comfortable hair sick in bed, but I take it up a notch. No hair tie! I have curly hair. So I’ve found that when I get to the end of the braid, I pull the three strands together into one stand, and then separate out curls mixing the 3 strands of the braid into a lot of different stands on the end. This way I don’t have to tease my ends or wear a hair tie. I can be comfortable and protect my hair. This wouldn’t work for a pull out fluffed up braid, but if you’re keeping it simple for bed it stays in place!
Love you, Kayley!