I cut three people out of my life last year. Two were extreme takers: one wanted free multi-stop rides (no gas $ given), and one wanted free meals as often as possible (no wine, coffee, side dishes ever contributed). It feels sooo good to let go of takers! It's a matter of self-respect.
yes, but as he is talking about, WE GIVERS need to realize OUR lacks too and what we need which is to be...cut OF, too. Takes humility. cutting people out is fine but focusing on yourself as the problem with problems as well, is important. I literally died, saving peoples' lives, and when I miraculously came to and survived? Everyone was gone. But this wasn't the first time, it was a lifetime, lifestyle. And yes indeed, this man is dead on. We all have to be honest with ourselves
@@Jennifer-gr7hn Oh yes! Great point. I resented the hell out of my own self for being such a pushover, and THAT was the biggest problem of all for me. "Make yourselves as sheep and the wolves will eat you." YOUR story sounds powerful and interesting. If it's online, I'd love a link.
I used to give rides, one time a car hit us at a traffic light on the way to the gas station. My passenger wasn’t injured but I got some whiplash. Well the passenger decided they wanted to collect from my insurance and ended up getting a settlement for 2k. As a result of that claim my insurance dropped me for having a 3rd accident in 18months. Lesson learned, no more rides in the future. 😅
*I STOPPED OVER GIVING* I give my energy to God, myself, my family and a couple of friends who are pure only. I’m in this process/ now and it’s a new relaxing territory like no other. Very peaceful.
I have been overgiving my ENTIRE life. You end up drained, self-neglected, abused and taken for granted of😢❤...crazy how I'm entering this weird reinvention of self "season", basically my glow up, this vid was on my feed. Energy is so beautiful...it doesnt lie❤...100% relatable.
I used to think like this but then I realized it can be a sign of an over giver too. If you're chronically giving to people that aren't reciprocating that means you're in an imbalanced relationship and there's something unhealthy you're accepting
@@Lady.Luck. Agree, this doesnt exist in nature. Any organ or cell in organism gives and receives. It is like liver said, I dont care if heart gives me blood, i still going to give out and will never be disappointed
I spent a long time giving more than was given to me in my marriage, friendships, and church, in the belief that eventually, over time, my sacrifice would be seen and acknowledged and would inspire others not necessarily to give to me but to give to others. Thanks to you and a lot of meditation, I now understand how precious my energy is, and I give back to myself and my projects, I couldn't be happier. I only give to those who themselves contribute an equal amount of effort and energy. Same problem in a Band I was in, I was the one carrying the group while everybody else used practice to fool around, showed up not knowing the songs, wasting everybody's time, and always did the bare minimum and you could tell from their sound. And now I'm out, working on my own music. I couldn't be happier. Thank you for all your work, you'll never know how many people it's been a blessing to. I see a lot of blessings coming your way.
I have a friend that I always call the "One Upper" and being around him is an energy drain. I've been trying to distance myself from him lately but it's obvious he needs me a lot more than I need him.
get to healing because you are still calling them "friend," which means there is something you need to work on as well as you'd not tolerate such 'friendship'....trauma bond. Maybe you need him to need you, on a deep level you're recognizing yet.
in a healthy dynamic between two people, there are 2 givers and 2 takers... trust, communication and patience is medicine that helps things stay balanced. givers attract takers, takers attract givers, it's up to us to speak up and also be generous with our listening ⚖
This is why it's always so much more rewarding to give to people who aren't connected to you or you never meet. It gives me so much joy to give to miniseries in need or spoil an angel tree child at Christmas. I made a decision last year. No more spoiling my friends during the holidays because I definitely don't give to get and I'm very open about my feelings and loving, but I'll be d... if I'll give and then be treated bad. I found myself getting ticked off when mistreated and really having to control myself not to completely flip out on them. It feels good though to vent it. If you can't be a positive in my life it's time to remove that negativity. Life is too short for drains. Thanks for the lesson in balancing. So true!
Thank you Aaron. For me one of the most informative videos I’ve watched. I was the over giver. Attracted the over taker. What can I say. Match made in hell. I recognise my previous self in this video. The people pleaser manipulator who had lack in their life and tried to get her needs met by over giving. I’m living proof it doesn’t work. Big Lessons learnt. During healing from this I’ve learnt self love, self belief, self worth and independence. Validating myself instead of relying on Others for that validation. It’s all within. It always was. I just had to dig real deep to find it. 🙏
Resonate so deeply with your note. You just summarised my entire life and this video. I’m finding my way back to myself. Thank you and I wish you all the best.
The worst part is when someone doesn’t reply and you don’t get the same reaction, you beat yourself up and find all the faults in yourself and blaming yourself
Nice is needy and dangerous Be a kind asshole The day I switched from nice and getting walked all over in life to being kind my life completely changed and people respected me more
Being married to a narcissist taught me this lesson HARD. My ex took all my life savings, the equity out of my house, plus he left me with a $300k debt AND his two children from a previous relationship with no support. I really wish I had learned this lesson BEFORE I met him, not BECAUSE I met him.
More power to you and best wishes for this new year. As well, did you notice a common, disturbing trend in such scenarios? A situation which really should make us wonder: who or what, obstructs us from acquiring much needed knowledge early enough in life? All too often, it seems like too little, too late. The pattern repeats so regularly, it cannot possibly be random.
@@tomparker5934 yes. Even when you know right from wrong... you can tell a friend what they are doing wrong without seeing that you're doing the exact same thing!
Without this information about narcs, i am not sure i would be alive or be sane at very least. It must be first pages on the news, support for survivors and taught at school. All debts are also upper narc's frauds.
Pray for ordering your life. Stop taking care of his children. IT is not your responsibility. It a hard choice. Free yourself financially from him. His children are the connection he needs to continue the pattern of abuse. Break free.
Thank you. This is so timely. I'm seeing this play out in my life and walking away from the patterns so I can regroup and handle more authentically. By the way, I have seen your videos for years, and I am amazed at your growth and ability to change. It is inspiring.
Thank You for sharing your knowledge. It has allowed me to see my relationship dynamics in an authentic way and I see the truth of them and I have realised my true value.
I have had pretty balanced relationships in general in recent years but this pattern came up for me with a new person in my life, and I am realizing it is a ding ding ding, warning that I need to listen to. Thank you for this video.
2:03 boundaries came naturally for me when I truly began to love myself and connect to my higher self. Like seriously - my relationship dynamics with even family has changed dramatically 💯❤️🔥❤️🔥
This is so accurate for me, need to see it again after few days to completely take it in, but it's so eye opening. I was not realizing this. Thank you Aaron ❤️
Gotta pause for a second,i read all about "one upping" years ago when i was reading about abusive relationships,and I remember this like it was yesterday,the book,(was great btw) said the whole world is " one up mentality" we as a people,a society,have always had the one up mentality,think about wars,if our country wasnt one up,look what has happened or hasnt.a lot to think about,lots of examples you can come up with im sure.i have wondered for years,if there is ever a relationship out there that doesnt have a one up in it between two people? If you arw vulnerable,you get walked on,i know you all have heard the "oh well he/ she wears the pants in the family"
Funny that this comes up. I’m just now avoiding an overtaker because I felt sorry for her and started giving her too much. Now I’m ignoring her calls and text. Hope she gets the point. Ex Giver, ex people pleaser. Learned how to have boundaries. I love myself now. I also have a one upper in my life…like he will even one up me on the time I got up! lol 😅 Love your content! Thank you!
Those husbands are properly people pleaser as well and unhappy in their marriage it’s not about treating people like (s…) it’s about setting boundaries in your life if you see red flags in the first place you walked away or you set a boundary with the people and if they choose to ignore it’s then that you walk away with your head high and you don’t feel guilty treating people badly is really not a nice kind person don’t change yourself to be like that I was like that for so many years and I would end up making my partners have no self esteem and feel insecure you want a healthy relationship with others build your self esteem and learn to like who you are and if you give and somebody abuses that you learn to talk to them or you walk away ❤
Relationships created while in this mindset, if not cut off, will wither away because they were only set in a base of taking, if there is nothing to take then they usually get upset and move on.
Just be yourself, if you're a nice and kind person, why change that? You're exactly how you are meant to be to navigate life, and it always evolve organically
This is so true! Like I am realizing I have some friends and family members who are just straight over-takers. And I am a people pleaser, lacking boundaries and codependent. I am tired of the dynamics it has placed me in with relationships with friends, romance, family, work relations, etc. The over takers are always needy and wanting something or asking you to do something for them. It really makes it to the point where I am shutting down and just isolating myself bc I do not want to help anymore and I do not care lmao......I need a break!
I used to overgive more than I do now. Now, I mostly "over-tolerate" abusive rudeness. Ya know, "because hurting people hurt people" blah blah blah. I like to think it's a step but see that I still have further to go to stop abandoning myself.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
This is soooo good. Been going through CBT, and had huge realizations about negative core beliefs I learned as a child to be a giver. I was parentified and I have a total lack of boundaries lol but this is 100% reaffirming CBT concepts rewriting those core beliefs is so essential. I feel it so deep, glad I clicked on this.
Oh boy 🤦🏼 thank you for examples becouse those light up my "way of being and past". I even apologize for having emotions. It's clear cut with lot of examples and so simple and helpfull. Thank you much.
I'm an over giver but i think that the overgiver also do that to feel superior and don't understand when things don't come back to them or when under giver get more or as much 😅 those 2 tendencies are falacious . Let's recalibrate asap !
This is really good, I realize I have done this. I have been the doer and did not realize why I over give but I get it I wanted to get validation and connection so it became codependent and abandoned myself for the other to be better and take the place I need to "BE IN". Thank You
I admit this is a hard thing to deal with, I’m having a hard time but it’s not that I’m broken or it’s not that I’m trying to be controlling either, I think it’s just a cultural difference that I have to adjust
7:02 we all have a desire to or feel special. It’s weird because it’s a normal feeling that should remind us to seek our higher selves - what is more special than realizing your source energy or god having a human experience - yet it gets twisted into something else where we behave in ways we feel will make others see us a special 🤦🏻♀️💯💯❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
12:48 you know what is sad, everyone just wants to been seen for who they truly are yet everyone is so afraid of not being accepted for their authentic identity they keep acting out schemas they know and feel comfortable with. Everyone wants the same thing and yet everyone is too programmed to see it.
Thank u for also speaking about ur own journey where you yourself had some. Of these behaviours in past... It's allows me to be kinder to myself re my past when I did this and wanst as aware of my motives or what lackwas driving... ❤
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
It’s also worth noting that if someone states “I love deeply” it could also be a “misuse of words” or they just haven’t explained what they mean. When people go deep with each other, when people go deep they open up and something embracive and expansive happens. At least it can happen. Something similar to love where what’s deep is literally absorbed into it (so to say) whats deep is seen without judgement. I hope you understand what I mean if not let me know. Thank you
Today I received 3 extra strawberry pound cake candles from the body shop by couier. Normally I would feel guilty and think were do i send them back. But today I was happy to receive the gift. It was like a reward. ❤️
I know I give my husband lots of "Shit" that he almost quit but found the courage to say to me, "I'm not gonna take shit from you!" and that is a POWERFUL MAN. People should know their own BOUNDARIES when it comes to OVERGIVERS like me.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
Me too I just never saw that as giving but with dogs and cats I got in the position everyone wanting to sit around me and they fight eachother.thats something I didnt expect
I cut three people out of my life last year. Two were extreme takers: one wanted free multi-stop rides (no gas $ given), and one wanted free meals as often as possible (no wine, coffee, side dishes ever contributed). It feels sooo good to let go of takers! It's a matter of self-respect.
yes, but as he is talking about, WE GIVERS need to realize OUR lacks too and what we need which is to be...cut OF, too. Takes humility. cutting people out is fine but focusing on yourself as the problem with problems as well, is important. I literally died, saving peoples' lives, and when I miraculously came to and survived? Everyone was gone. But this wasn't the first time, it was a lifetime, lifestyle. And yes indeed, this man is dead on. We all have to be honest with ourselves
@@Jennifer-gr7hn Oh yes! Great point. I resented the hell out of my own self for being such a pushover, and THAT was the biggest problem of all for me. "Make yourselves as sheep and the wolves will eat you."
YOUR story sounds powerful and interesting. If it's online, I'd love a link.
I used to give rides, one time a car hit us at a traffic light on the way to the gas station. My passenger wasn’t injured but I got some whiplash. Well the passenger decided they wanted to collect from my insurance and ended up getting a settlement for 2k. As a result of that claim my insurance dropped me for having a 3rd accident in 18months. Lesson learned, no more rides in the future. 😅
@@natedavidoff668 My god, that's unfortunate!!! Very painful lesson learned, and I hope you've found a friendlier insurance company!
@@christinaanne9382 and a more honest friend
*I STOPPED OVER GIVING*
I give my energy to God, myself, my family and a couple of friends who are pure only.
I’m in this process/ now and it’s a new relaxing territory like no other. Very peaceful.
The most important topic.! Stop bein nice stop feeling bad for being not nice.!
Yes!
being a recovering non-overgiver, doesn't means you're "not being nice"...it means you're working through your wounds and insecurities, healing.
I have been overgiving my ENTIRE life. You end up drained, self-neglected, abused and taken for granted of😢❤...crazy how I'm entering this weird reinvention of self "season", basically my glow up, this vid was on my feed. Energy is so beautiful...it doesnt lie❤...100% relatable.
I feel You. You are me..!
I give without expecting anything in return, then I'm never disappointed.
Exactly. Giving is just who I am. I don't expect anything in return, if you do, are you really giving out of your own kindness?
@@matts7048 I did that too... until I realized some people will keep taking when you're no longer comfortable giving.
I used to think like this but then I realized it can be a sign of an over giver too. If you're chronically giving to people that aren't reciprocating that means you're in an imbalanced relationship and there's something unhealthy you're accepting
@@Lady.Luck. Agree, this doesnt exist in nature. Any organ or cell in organism gives and receives. It is like liver said, I dont care if heart gives me blood, i still going to give out and will never be disappointed
Very true, I think the difference is being an overgiver to a giver. There are a lot of leaches out there 🙂
I spent a long time giving more than was given to me in my marriage, friendships, and church, in the belief that eventually, over time, my sacrifice would be seen and acknowledged and would inspire others not necessarily to give to me but to give to others. Thanks to you and a lot of meditation, I now understand how precious my energy is, and I give back to myself and my projects, I couldn't be happier. I only give to those who themselves contribute an equal amount of effort and energy. Same problem in a Band I was in, I was the one carrying the group while everybody else used practice to fool around, showed up not knowing the songs, wasting everybody's time, and always did the bare minimum and you could tell from their sound. And now I'm out, working on my own music. I couldn't be happier. Thank you for all your work, you'll never know how many people it's been a blessing to. I see a lot of blessings coming your way.
"You don't need to do anything for me to love you" 🙏
I have a friend that I always call the "One Upper" and being around him is an energy drain. I've been trying to distance myself from him lately but it's obvious he needs me a lot more than I need him.
One Uppers Drains and Angers me- whole time they were only around to compete to feel alive- GTFOH!
get to healing because you are still calling them "friend," which means there is something you need to work on as well as you'd not tolerate such 'friendship'....trauma bond. Maybe you need him to need you, on a deep level you're recognizing yet.
'Because your value is rooted in doing ' wow wow my mind and heart exploded , thank you for this insight!
I have attracted so many takers into my life its hilarious and now I know why! Thank You Aaron
Releasing this is a journey but so liberating…self-work is not for the weak! Facing your authentic self and loving every aspect of you🐦🔥
I need to do this so bad.. I hate being this kind of person.
Your not alone😊
in a healthy dynamic between two people, there are 2 givers and 2 takers... trust, communication and patience is medicine that helps things stay balanced. givers attract takers, takers attract givers, it's up to us to speak up and also be generous with our listening ⚖
This is why it's always so much more rewarding to give to people who aren't connected to you or you never meet. It gives me so much joy to give to miniseries in need or spoil an angel tree child at Christmas. I made a decision last year. No more spoiling my friends during the holidays because I definitely don't give to get and I'm very open about my feelings and loving, but I'll be d... if I'll give and then be treated bad. I found myself getting ticked off when mistreated and really having to control myself not to completely flip out on them. It feels good though to vent it. If you can't be a positive in my life it's time to remove that negativity. Life is too short for drains. Thanks for the lesson in balancing. So true!
So true 😅I was overgiving the whole year 2024 and now I'm burnt out. Now I see clear. And I am greatful.
Thank you for explaining, Aaron 🤝
Thank you Aaron. For me one of the most informative videos I’ve watched. I was the over giver. Attracted the over taker. What can I say. Match made in hell. I recognise my previous self in this video. The people pleaser manipulator who had lack in their life and tried to get her needs met by over giving. I’m living proof it doesn’t work. Big Lessons learnt. During healing from this I’ve learnt self love, self belief, self worth and independence. Validating myself instead of relying on Others for that validation. It’s all within. It always was. I just had to dig real deep to find it. 🙏
Resonate so deeply with your note. You just summarised my entire life and this video. I’m finding my way back to myself.
Thank you and I wish you all the best.
reading banned books on fathomora about the law of attraction is like unlocking a hidden side of manifesting
I don’t know what that is. Do you have a link to it?
Why is it banned?
The worst part is when someone doesn’t reply and you don’t get the same reaction, you beat yourself up and find all the faults in yourself and blaming yourself
Nice is needy and dangerous
Be a kind asshole
The day I switched from nice and getting walked all over in life to being kind my life completely changed and people respected me more
NO. Nice is nice. Needy is needy.
People pleasers like this make me nervous and give me trust issues. I was one of them but loyal,...but not to myself.
The four steps in this process:
1) Awareness
2) Reclaim your energy
3) set your boundaries
4) receive without guilt
Boundaries are SOOOO important! It took me SO many years to learn that!!! ❤
Being married to a narcissist taught me this lesson HARD. My ex took all my life savings, the equity out of my house, plus he left me with a $300k debt AND his two children from a previous relationship with no support. I really wish I had learned this lesson BEFORE I met him, not BECAUSE I met him.
More power to you and best wishes for this new year. As well, did you notice a common, disturbing trend in such scenarios? A situation which really should make us wonder: who or what, obstructs us from acquiring much needed knowledge early enough in life? All too often, it seems like too little, too late. The pattern repeats so regularly, it cannot possibly be random.
Omg, NIGHTMARE
@@tomparker5934 yes. Even when you know right from wrong... you can tell a friend what they are doing wrong without seeing that you're doing the exact same thing!
Without this information about narcs, i am not sure i would be alive or be sane at very least.
It must be first pages on the news, support for survivors and taught at school. All debts are also upper narc's frauds.
Pray for ordering your life. Stop taking care of his children. IT is not your responsibility. It a hard choice. Free yourself financially from him. His children are the connection he needs to continue the pattern of abuse. Break free.
Thank you. This is so timely. I'm seeing this play out in my life and walking away from the patterns so I can regroup and handle more authentically. By the way, I have seen your videos for years, and I am amazed at your growth and ability to change. It is inspiring.
You are the best teacher , I've been watching you since 2021❤
My advice: *HELP THOSE YOU NEED HELP THAT HAVE NOONE TO HELP THEM*
Always smile… creates the most godly energy and always be grateful.
Dude listening to you has changed mi life. I couldn’t understand this before.
This guy seems spot on, glad I found this channel
Amen🎉🎉 Brother. Ppl really be thriving off you being a overgiver
Thank You for sharing your knowledge. It has allowed me to see my relationship dynamics in an authentic way and I see the truth of them and I have realised my true value.
I have had pretty balanced relationships in general in recent years but this pattern came up for me with a new person in my life, and I am realizing it is a ding ding ding, warning that I need to listen to. Thank you for this video.
I love the "red rose" vs "red flag" analogy. Good luck with your hightened awareness.
2:03 boundaries came naturally for me when I truly began to love myself and connect to my higher self. Like seriously - my relationship dynamics with even family has changed dramatically 💯❤️🔥❤️🔥
2024 was a messy year where I overgave and lost myself and got burned out. 2025 is the year of overeceiving, I swear!
This is so accurate for me, need to see it again after few days to completely take it in, but it's so eye opening. I was not realizing this. Thank you Aaron ❤️
Immense relief seeing this video.. u solved my whole life .. more strength to you ❤❤❤
Your videos changed my life path and then I'm going to the gym
That's wonderful. Yes I think the gym and exercise in general really helps you and your confidence.
I'm literally going to watch this 10 times..and take notes. This is Great inner work
Yes. Only those with humility, will 'get it' and realize WE have work to do and it's not just us sitting in victimhood like the takers :)
Gotta pause for a second,i read all about "one upping" years ago when i was reading about abusive relationships,and I remember this like it was yesterday,the book,(was great btw) said the whole world is " one up mentality" we as a people,a society,have always had the one up mentality,think about wars,if our country wasnt one up,look what has happened or hasnt.a lot to think about,lots of examples you can come up with im sure.i have wondered for years,if there is ever a relationship out there that doesnt have a one up in it between two people? If you arw vulnerable,you get walked on,i know you all have heard the "oh well he/ she wears the pants in the family"
Funny that this comes up. I’m just now avoiding an overtaker because I felt sorry for her and started giving her too much. Now I’m ignoring her calls and text. Hope she gets the point. Ex Giver, ex people pleaser. Learned how to have boundaries. I love myself now. I also have a one upper in my life…like he will even one up me on the time I got up! lol 😅 Love your content! Thank you!
I always said, dont focus more energy into her than she is into you. Thanks for another great video with the music too
This explains why my girl friends (who treat their husbands like sh*t) have all been married 30+ years, but I (people-pleaser) am always abandoned.
Those husbands are properly people pleaser as well and unhappy in their marriage it’s not about treating people like (s…) it’s about setting boundaries in your life if you see red flags in the first place you walked away or you set a boundary with the people and if they choose to ignore it’s then that you walk away with your head high and you don’t feel guilty treating people badly is really not a nice kind person don’t change yourself to be like that I was like that for so many years and I would end up making my partners have no self esteem and feel insecure you want a healthy relationship with others build your self esteem and learn to like who you are and if you give and somebody abuses that you learn to talk to them or you walk away ❤
When the student is ready the guide is revealed. Thank you. You make it so easy to understand.
Relationships created while in this mindset, if not cut off, will wither away because they were only set in a base of taking, if there is nothing to take then they usually get upset and move on.
Just be yourself, if you're a nice and kind person, why change that?
You're exactly how you are meant to be to navigate life, and it always evolve organically
This is so true! Like I am realizing I have some friends and family members who are just straight over-takers. And I am a people pleaser, lacking boundaries and codependent. I am tired of the dynamics it has placed me in with relationships with friends, romance, family, work relations, etc. The over takers are always needy and wanting something or asking you to do something for them. It really makes it to the point where I am shutting down and just isolating myself bc I do not want to help anymore and I do not care lmao......I need a break!
TY for teaching this in such great detail. I am so tired of being nice,all my life.
Thank you, this touches on some things I need to work on. Blessings and have a great day!
I used to overgive more than I do now. Now, I mostly "over-tolerate" abusive rudeness. Ya know, "because hurting people hurt people" blah blah blah. I like to think it's a step but see that I still have further to go to stop abandoning myself.
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Oh yeah! I DO NOT want to be my parents… I am so grateful for psychologists like you who have helped me avoid being my parents…
I often feel these talks are therapeutic, Aaron sessions.
You are enough!
Dude I came across you about 7 years ago and I just found myself back to you. Thank you for this. 🙏❤️ I am enough just as I am. Yes!
Such a good video to remind us not to give too much of ourselves all the time to others. Energy is precious ❤.
This is soooo good. Been going through CBT, and had huge realizations about negative core beliefs I learned as a child to be a giver. I was parentified and I have a total lack of boundaries lol but this is 100% reaffirming CBT concepts rewriting those core beliefs is so essential. I feel it so deep, glad I clicked on this.
Oh boy 🤦🏼 thank you for examples becouse those light up my "way of being and past". I even apologize for having emotions. It's clear cut with lot of examples and so simple and helpfull. Thank you much.
I'm an over giver but i think that the overgiver also do that to feel superior and don't understand when things don't come back to them or when under giver get more or as much 😅 those 2 tendencies are falacious . Let's recalibrate asap !
Mad respect, Aaron. Thank you for warming my own light through a proper filter.
This blows my mind how true this is 😮💯
This is really good, I realize I have done this. I have been the doer and did not realize why I over give but I get it I wanted to get validation and connection so it became codependent and abandoned myself for the other to be better and take the place I need to "BE IN". Thank You
Thank you, there are so many layers to this and you have been helping me untangle them for a long time. ❤
Great video. Wish they would teach this in high school or any school as we were growing up, we would be so further ahead of the game
Job Negotiations would be on completely different level.
I had this for so long. Finally broke the cycle.
Your videos and concept are getting stronger Aaron. I hear your message!
Enabling the takers. Who'd have thought...
I admit this is a hard thing to deal with, I’m having a hard time but it’s not that I’m broken or it’s not that I’m trying to be controlling either, I think it’s just a cultural difference that I have to adjust
Thank you Asron! 🙏🏼❤️ Spot on, what an important great video again 🙏🏼 love Paul
7:02 we all have a desire to or feel special. It’s weird because it’s a normal feeling that should remind us to seek our higher selves - what is more special than realizing your source energy or god having a human experience - yet it gets twisted into something else where we behave in ways we feel will make others see us a special 🤦🏻♀️💯💯❤️🔥❤️🔥❤️🔥
RECIPROCITY is key. Dont expect respect from others if YOU dont respect YOU
My take away of the first minute is, it’s more important for me to be authentic than to give in every situation as a default.
You definitely deserve equal and abundant compensation for your unyielding service, thank you. Your channel was recommended very recently
Man, I have so much work to do on myself. Good stuff, aaron. God bless you.
❤❤❤ thanks! I’m applying this!
You have become a powerful master. I've seen you grow and I am so very proud of you! Thank you so much! 🙏
I dont need your videos but i do enjoy them and have been with you since the start its been a great journey as we are connected in so many ways ❤
This is massive ❤thank you ❤
Aaron I love you. You’re so authentic ✨♥️
I needed to hear this to break a pattern of distance and busy working.
12:48 you know what is sad, everyone just wants to been seen for who they truly are yet everyone is so afraid of not being accepted for their authentic identity they keep acting out schemas they know and feel comfortable with. Everyone wants the same thing and yet everyone is too programmed to see it.
❤ You & your work, Thank you!
Thank u for also speaking about ur own journey where you yourself had some. Of these behaviours in past... It's allows me to be kinder to myself re my past when I did this and wanst as aware of my motives or what lackwas driving... ❤
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
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It’s also worth noting that if someone states “I love deeply” it could also be a “misuse of words” or they just haven’t explained what they mean. When people go deep with each other, when people go deep they open up and something embracive and expansive happens. At least it can happen. Something similar to love where what’s deep is literally absorbed into it (so to say) whats deep is seen without judgement.
I hope you understand what I mean if not let me know.
Thank you
the stuff on fathomora dives deeper into law of attraction it’s just crazy
Today I received 3 extra strawberry pound cake candles from the body shop by couier. Normally I would feel guilty and think were do i send them back. But today I was happy to receive the gift. It was like a reward. ❤️
Thank you
Much Love and Light
“Receive more” 🌟
THIS one blew my mind! Such clarity! Thanks so much, I appreciate your content.
Thanks for keeping it real.
I hope you, your loved ones and your stuff are OK in those wildfires, Aaron. Stay safe. 🙏
Nice really means "ignorance". So yes, you are right, folks need to stop saying the word nice. 😊
RECIPROCITY is key. Dont expect respect if YOU dont respect YOU
This is a real gem 💎 of a video. Thank you 🙏
Brilliant video on this theme thank u ❤🎉
Excellent lecture, thank you!
Thank you so much for this message , every word resonates … we are here to remember who we are , a gift from god ❤🙏
I know I give my husband lots of "Shit" that he almost quit but found the courage to say to me, "I'm not gonna take shit from you!" and that is a POWERFUL MAN.
People should know their own BOUNDARIES when it comes to OVERGIVERS like me.
Oof!! This really hit home. Thanks Aaron for explaining it so clearly. The healing never stops!
Just SOOO good!! ❤
Thank you for your knowledge. This has opened my eyes.
I appreciated your vulnerability and personal shares :) Great video and will share with clients!
Thank you for this very valuable video. Now I understand what’s the root of my problems. Thank you.
there was a time when i kept wondering why some people seemed to naturally draw others in while i was just…there. no matter what i tried, i couldn’t figure out how they did it. then someone mentioned the book Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and i decided to check it out. the way it explains how your aura affects everything around you? it blew me away. it’s like having a secret code to unlock your magnetic energy. this book is a game-changer.
Me too I just never saw that as giving but with dogs and cats I got in the position everyone wanting to sit around me and they fight eachother.thats something I didnt expect
Research Narcissistic Abuse! I think this is the kind of person who just takes and takes