Becoming Unstoppable: Control Your Reactions, Achieve More ❤️
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I once learned to write down everything I felt about a situation, before speaking my mind, while I was still angry or upset. Then I use a highlighter or underline ONLY the sentences or thoughts I could prove or absolutely knew to be factual. The rest of the words were only the story I was telling myself. Your video was good food for thought. Thanks Lisa!
I don't understand why some women are mean to their boyfriend or spouse...is it a power thing?....I don't get it. I don't think that makes for a good relationship at all, especially for the man. He may be too harassed and emotionally afraid to leave, the same as a woman would feel.
You are on point about quality and joy of life being the primary focus and priority. I've learned to use the "Let them" philosophy. Someone cancels the plans - "Let them", Someone has different taste in clothes or home decor - "Let them", Someone likes to stir trouble and drama - "Remove myself and "Let them" do whatever it is they do", another couple has problems in their relationship - "Let them" work it out, Someone has a different political preference - "Let them", Someone thinks groceries are the cheapest they've ever been - "Let them". I just focus my thoughts around what brings me quality of life and peace.
PERFECT! Agree, as soon as I learned we can both "be right" it was easier to let it go and not worry about proving a point~Thank you!! ☺Lisa
Omgoodness, great food for thought! I loved this!❤
Loved this. Thank you for your positive motivation.
Well well said!
I love this! thank you
Great advice Lisa! I always say “protect your peace!” I quietly walk away from negative people or negative relationships! 😊❤
Yes, so much more valuable! 🩷 Lisa
Yasssss! Especially narcissists. Distance e no contact sometimes has to happen.
Wow Lisa thank you. Such great advice. Your daughter is so very lucky to have you as a mom.
Thank you so much!! 💖 Lisa
Proverbs 19:11 The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger, And his glory is to overlook a transgression.🥰
I love it, thank you so much!!! 🩷 Lisa
Amen!!❤🙌🏻
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Good information. It's about not spending time brewing and stewing negative energy.
Yes---it's not good for us in any way, mentally and physically! Thank you for watching!! 🥰 Lisa
I love hearing your thoughts on these things. We all may not agree on everything and may handle some things differently, but that’s ok because we can always take away any little nuggets of information that may resonate with us and apply that. Thank you Lisa!💗
Absolutely!!! I always think that when I watch a video, read a book etc~I don't have to agree with the entirety of it, just take what I can use and be thankful! Thank YOU, Holly! 💖 Lisa
I have learned that with age I am more chilled out. I don’t take offense at much.. water off a ducks back… if I think I offended someone by chance I will make a point to reach out to apologize and more often than not the person took no offense whatsoever.. but for peace of spirit and clarity it’s important to admit that and make sure that a mistake or misspoken words don’t hurt others.
Oh wow Lisa! I was just talking to God about some of these things! ❤ Spirit of offense, bitterness, judgment, gossiping is running rampant.
Yes, I do pray for strength and guidance---it's tough to be strong alone!! Thank YOU for your support!! 🥰 Lisa
Please never stop making these videos!
Thank you so much, I appreciate these comments more than you could ever imagine! They keep me going -- thanks again 💞💞 Lisa 🥰
Loved this so much! Thank you!❤
Thank you so much! ☺Lisa
Yes girl . I don't tell friends anything anymore about make up hair home decor what i purchase or anything anymore people get a attitude and jealous . We all have things we like to spend our money on ... i am a home body and spend my money on my home . Yep same thing about the friend thing with me
Don’t take things personally.
My husband and I are truly being stalked by a man we have never met and it is so bad that we must carry our weapons when going our of our home and I TAKE CARE OF OUR 2 GRANDBABIES DURING THE WEEK!!!! We are teriified and there is 0 we can do about it! Tell me how to get back to our normal joy filled lives? Tell me how to not shake in fear while he is holding me? This is something we must go through and the only control I have of this insane person is my faith in Jesus Christ!
What you are describing is emotional maturity.
This is exactly why you have an amazing life, a loving family and a successful career...because of who you are, this right here. When you put out good, you get good back! ♥
Thank you so much!! ☺Lisa
God is talking to me today. This is the third time I’ve heard this similar message.
Love that!! 🥰 Lisa
This is so great. In today’s culture where everyone seems to be “cocked and primed”, an old phrase of my sweet Daddy’s, this was a breath of fresh air. People are so ready these days to just go off on anyone who they feel has offended them. Maybe it’s age, but I’ve learned that I never feel guilty about taking the high road but I’ve definitely felt terrible when in the past my anger got the best of me. Recently in a convenience store the young lady at the counter was being so rude and ugly to all the customers for absolutely no reason. When it was my turn to check out, I quietly said hey you seem like you are having a bad day. I’m so sorry and I’m going to say a little prayer for you. I told her I hoped her day got better. She put her head down and then looked up and said thank you. Now in her head she may have wanted to strangle me but at least it diffused the situation! And she knew I was sincere. In my younger years, I wouldn’t have handled it the same way. God is never the author of confusion. That one sentence keeps me grounded and helps guide my actions. Most of the time. I’m still a work in progress! Thank you Lisa for videos that make us think and grow as women💞
I just love all of this! It's all in your perspective and what you allow to affect you. I wish more people had your view on all of these things! I tell my adult kids all the time that you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea, but as long as you stay true to yourself and respect others, you don't need to be everyone's cup of tea. And the part about having surface-level relationships with some people... oh boy! That is SO true! There are people who are comfortable being uncomfortable. They'd rather complain and defend themselves, than learn and grow. That's just where they are and where they feel comfortable, and until they are willing to change, you need to just keep it all surface-level because nothing you say will help. You have to set boundaries. Whenever anyone asks me for my opinion, I ask them to think about that first. I challenge them by saying, "Do you want me to tell you what you want to hear, or do you want me to tell you what I think?" Sometimes it'll make people think about what and why they're asking your opinion in the first place. I particularly love how you self-reflect. That is such a valuable habit and skill, but it's so crucial to growth! Beautiful!
I love your fashion and makeup videos, but I love these just as much! You are such a treasure...beautiful inside and out!
Thank you so much!! Wise words!! 💖 Lisa
homerun video! As believers in Christ we need to walk in humility and grace and not walk around offended. Give grace away. It's contagious!
Good old girl talk!!!!
Thank you, my friend!! 💖 Lisa
What you need to understand is that yes we need to not react and lose it but sympathy needs to come in to play that man at the airport could be on a time scale he could have a close family memeber dying or could lose his job his reaction could be plausable in context, might have nothing to do with you slaging him off. That woman driving was a weird comment, too. I don't think you should be giving advice. i would leave that to the experts 😢
I love you and everything you said. Your family is super lucky to have you. I would love for you to make a video on female friendships, which i don't have many. Why do we struggle with them? Men seem to be better at friendships. Anywho, you look amazing and can't wait until the next video. ❤
Your hair looks so beautiful and healthy
Thank you so much!!! ❤ Lisa
Wonderful topic, Lisa! Well-spoken. Resonated with me a lot as since I turned 30 I've been consciously maturing into taking this approach and PEOPLE NOTICE 😂 It's been really interesting to notice that some people in my life almost like you MORE when you're easily triggered because it creates some kind of excitement or entertainment in a bizarre way. Anyway, feeling way happier now I am not so 'bothered' by everything. It's nice to hear you put this approach to life into simple language. God bless you and keep on sharing what's on your heart! 🥰
A lot of this does come with age. As we age we realize what’s really important !I love Midlife Magic❤️
EXACTLY!! It's awesome, magic for sure!! 💖 Thank you!! Lisa
I love it, Midlife Magic!🩷
This was great vlog, i enjoyed e could relate…but seriously, WOW! your makeup looks SICK (gorj)! And you look great in red! Lolo! Hope all is well! ❤❤❤❤❤
I remember many years ago you said in one of your videos that everything that people say about us says nothing about us but everything about them. These words have stuck me since then. Thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤ As one of my friends said - you’re the only person with whom you’re going to live till the end of your life, so you’d better like yourself 😊 Have a lovely week, much love, Olga
Thank you, Olga!! Great advice!! 🩷 Lisa
Great video Lisa...I agree 100%...for years I let other people get to me..then one day I realized that some of those people were really just trying to make me miserable because they felt miserable about themselves. I felt so much better to let alot of those triggers go...My health is so much more important to me. Thanks again Lisa..great topic!❤🌹
Yes, it is still a daily thing with me, but I am proud of how far I have come~ Thank you, Lisa! 💗 Lisa
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You are so right about deep anger! The older I get the less things trigger me. It’s taken many years to get here. It sure does take time and thoughtfulness.
Yes!! I wish I would have been better about this earlier, but sometimes we have to learn the hard way!! Thank you!! 😊Lisa
“Giving away my positive energy” is what I think of if I react to someone else’s choices or opinions. I want to act rather than give my mental and emotional energy away.
SO GOOD!! Thank you, Heather!! ❤ Lisa
So well said Lisa. I only wish I had control of my health and energy. I do however, keep a very positive attitude no matter what comes my way.
I agree controlling emotions is the key
Yes, I let loose a few too many times when I was younger, it never went well, lol! Thank goodness I have learned and I try to get better every day! Thank you! 😊 Lisa
Yes. Regulating your nervous system is a very complicated and sophisticated ability, and in my field of mental health Care it is a science of it’s own.
Lisa, just wanted to say how gorgeous you look! Your nails, tan, lips are just stunning. 💘
Thank you!! ❤ Lisa
Lisa,
I view the world, life, and relationships so differently now that I’m older and more experienced.
Yes, mid-life IS magical! THANK YOU for sharing this video!
(I’m even thinking of changing my handle on my social media platforms because I don’t want to be viewed that way).
Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💗
@AngryLola - 🤣 You should change it. How about GratefulLola? 😊
This was such a great video Lisa and great advice! Btw I’m 37 and just had my first child at 36, a baby girl. I don’t think your channel is for those only over 50. These are wonderful life lessons for anyone at any age. Also really loved your video about you and your daughter’s relationship ❤️
I loved this!!! I agree with you, pick your battles basically. We are all allowed to feel how we feel. I mentioned to you in one of your post on IG how you are so motivating to me! I love listening to you. I was raised by my dad and didnt have a mom or sisters growing up. No females in my life to really talk to and learn from. You have helped me tremendously with that. I feel like you're a friend, especially bc we like so many of the same things and have so many of the same ideas and way of thinking. Im even carnivore too! Lol. I started out as keto for the last 13 years but have now been carnivore for the last 9 months or so. Please never stop connecting with us, I know I always look forward to it! ❤
Thank you SO MUCH!! ☺Lisa
Breathe first and don't take the bait. ❤
Ooooo! How many times have I had to say "Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?" to MYSELF. 😂 It has drastically improved my level of peace and happiness. Much love, Lisa. 😘
Great advice! I always say this to people who get angry about something a celebrity says. If celeb is clueless or dumb, why give them control of your emotions? If in a movie you love, why let them take that love away from you? Of course, it can be hard with some of the silly things people say 😅
I know!!! I refuse to give my power over to someone I don't even know~and I wish the celebrities wouldn't go into all of that, I love the fantasy, LOL! Thank you, Lisa!! 💖 Lisa
This made me think of one my favorite quotes - Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way. - Victor Frankl
Take care Lisa! ❤
Lisa I agree but think about the time you were emotional about your hair! People do not even have common courtesy any longer. You are blessed to have your husband and family as support.
I was emotional, we can feel our sadness, but I did not ACT on those emotions, I have been patient, doing what it takes to bring it back to health and staying with Morgan~I had to remain calm and not do anything that would sabotage it 🩷 that is a great example 💖Thank you! Lisa
Hello :) Dealing with family members who do not have your best interest in mind? Thank You, love the content.
Great video, Lisa! I do have two follow-up questions. How do you control your emotions in the moment when dealing with something or someone offensive? Also, the friends that you may only have a few things in common with, do you consider them friends? How do you maintain those relationships?
Hey!! First one, self control that comes through confidence, second there are different "types" of friends--so yes, and I maintain them by keeping that in mind and manage my expectations ❤ Quick answers, I can go deeper 🥰 Lisa
Great video... truth.
Are you sure you're not a psychologist Lisa? Because you advice and insight are pure gold!
Thank you!! 💖Lisa
❤Love this Lisa! I wish we could sit down and have a diet coke and chat 🙂
Loved this video Lisa! Everything you said is right on point! If we all just took a moment, how much more kindness would be in the world ❤️
I know!! I love being around happy, kind people--it is the best! Thank you! 😊Lisa
@@LisaLisaD1 Absolutely! ❤️
Would love to know what you would do when you work with a BULLY! I don't know how much more I can take, ugh.
This was super helpful and great video I l always love your advice
Loved this video! ❤ I’d love to learn more on how you trained yourself to control your emotions. Especially within your relationship when you feel hurt or slighted by a comment or are not aligned on a topic!
I was missing you (waiting for your next video 😘) and realized you have a bunch of past videos I haven't seen. This is a good one! ❤ Good stuff.
Lisa, thank you so much for your bravery and posting this. I must say I really took some time to reflect on your words. Then I went back and watched this video again. And I can honestly say he brought me to tears. Not all the time, but sometimes, I can be that person. I seem to think my opinion is so valuable and so important that I put it out there when no one‘s really asked me for it. There’s a part of me that cringed inside, listening to you. However, you are right and this world would be a better place if people just kept their opinions to themselves unless they were asked that is having proper manners.. I’m driving to do better but it is going to take a lot of mindfulness to get there. Thank you, and please keep it coming.!!!!!
Great video, Lisa, and please make more like this! I wish we had all this wisdom when we were younger, especially doing the years when raising kids. And yes, I would LOVE to hear you talk more on how to have the BEST relationship with one's partner as you seem to have a very solid marriage, and also how to have the best relationship with grown kids.
The way I look at it is this wear your poker face .. have your reactions and emotions but dont reveal your hand
This was really wonderful, Lisa. I am a no-drama person, and I avoid conflict as much as possible because, like you said, we say things we don't mean in the heat of an argument. I am the type of person that needs to take a few days to process and absorb the problem. I find this is the best thing to do, because when I get so upset, I get to the point of tears, and I have to calm myself down. It's better to take a step back, and assess the situation, and then after you've had a few days to think about it, you are better able to communicate how you feel and reach an understanding and resolution. I have become more mindful of my emotions as I have matured. I am 56 years-old, and I feel more comfortable with myself and have more confidence now than I did 20-years ago. I read that anger comes from love, because without love, there can be no anger. We get upset with family and friends sometimes, because we genuinely love them & care about them. ❤
Thank you, so true!! 💗 Lisa
So many good points!
Would love to know your morning routine :)
Also: you look like a Baywatch Bombshell in this video 😍
Woman, you are such a fabulous creature!
I hope you read my comment a few days back... keep going!! Surround yourself with women who want to see you succeed. Those on the same train as you, will support you.
You're a force of nature and that triggers people who are not standing strong in their own light. I'm so impressed by how you've handled yourself since "the conference" - Absolute QUEEN! You walk your talk and that's impressive! Blessings for all your future endeavors, Lisa. I can't wait to see (and support) whatever you do next. 🤗
Thank you SO MUCH!!! I appreciate your support!! 😘🥰 Lisa
Agreed.
This was a vlog that you put a lot of thought into. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. ✨🌼
I tell the staff I manage and my kids, “be unoffendable” I heard that somewhere. I also always remember the other person most likely has best intentions they just have had a different life experience.
Wow I needed this today! Such a rough day at work. Thanks for helping me put things into perspective Lisa! ❤️
You are a treasure. Lucky are all of those in your life.
Yes I have the right to feel this way and I'm leaving my comment. I so enjoy visiting with you here. You make me smile!
I feel like many many people comment and direct and critique so much because they see the creators of online videos almost as Sims characters they can control and make do what they want them to. 😂😂At least that's how I think of them.
Choose your friends wisely; and don’t feel obligated to ‘love’ your family just because they’re family
Hi Lisa, I enjoyed your video. Have a beautiful day!!!🩷
Thank you, Angela! 💗 Lisa
Rocked this look and Hair is amazing
Thank you, My friends!! 🐶🥰 Lisa
Grace, grace grace 🙏...we need to give it to ourselves & others ...
Congratulation on the vídeo👏🏻 and I wish you a great day 🌞
Good video. We are made up of our upbringing, beliefs, preferences and surroundings. Having an appreciation for our own differences is for me a cornerstone. I believe Perception is also key.
Absolutely! I remember a staff meeting at the restaurant I worked in for years, our Mgr was explaining a person's perception was their reality--and it stuck with me!! Thank you! 😊Lisa
great!!! advice
Thank you! I needed to hear this ❤️ this was truly a confirmation to me.
Thank you!!! 🥰 Lisa
Love this video Lisa. Understanding and working through my triggers are the best thing I’ve ever done for my mental health.
Yes!!! Me, too!! It gets to be almost fun and so rewarding when you do it a few times and it pays off~ peace is so much sweeter!! 💖 Lisa
I SOOOO needed this today! Thank you, Lisa
I am so glad you talked about this. I think I have become that "victim" and I need to work on myself. Thank God I have been learning to step back from my emotions and sleep on it. That alone has improved my life. I think I need to watch the video again!
Take back your power, never give anything or anyone else your power to live your most fabulous life!! 💖 Lisa
I thank the Lord so much for you. I hope that’s not weird to say. You really are such an amazing influence in my life. I’m grateful for you. I feel like you’re one of my friends and definitely a role model for me going forward. I’m 41 & figuring out my perimenopause as well as an adrenal fatigue situation, and the fact that you call this time in your life “mid life magic” is just everything for me. I’ve had a very blessed life with loving family & now living husband (I had a first marriage that reminds me of yours so I feel even more connected), but to think that my days ahead are the best days of my life…..it really breathes life into my mindframe right now. Thank you thank you thank you. I hope for all the blessings of heaven to be yours 💝
Thank you so much!!! 🩷 Lisa
Lisa I already posted some thoughts, but wanted to add. This actually comes at a good time in my life and it’s something I’m constantly working on to keep the peace, mostly with family right now. My father has been in the hospital/rehab/hospital since the end of last year and it’s been a long stressful year so far for our family, so these things really apply in these types of situations with everyone being on edge. Thank you again, love your talks, you’re the sweetest 💗
Oh my goodness, absolutely~ we have to "look past" a lot, for the great good!!! ❤ Lisa
I know first hand what you are going thru, lost both parents and a brother all in same year. It was very stressful with siblings fighting over the will. A year and a half has passed now and all is peaceful. Keep your spirits up as this too shall pass for you.
@@LisaLisaD1 We truly do!❤️
@@elaineheim6477 Thank you! It’s never an easy time in life with aging parents. I’m very sorry for all you went through with the loss of your parents and brother. I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been.❤️
What a GREAT message!! Good job pretty lady!💜
Hey Claire!! Thank you!! 😊Lisa
Society has lost the art of civility.
Really good video talk ………. Deb
I love that you did this more of us need these reminders beautiful Lisa!
Me, too!! Thank you for watching!! 💗Lisa
This is a tough job, I would be hurt often
Thank you for watching!! 🥰 Lisa
Hello Lisa, Thanks for such a wonderful video
Thank you!! 😊 Lisa
Omg Lisa I love you so much!! This video was exactly what I needed to watch and hear today. I just ended a 10 year relationship and I'm literally starting from scratch at 56 years old. Today was my last breakdown over it and I refuse to let anyone make me feel less than or unworthy.
I refuse to hold onto anger, hurt or resentment any longer. It was a blessing that I was freed from that person and now I'm open to all the possibilities. Thank you for sharing your experiences and for giving us a place to share ours. I can't wait to see what the future holds for me 🤗
Hey Steph!! Yes, look forward to the future, when I was getting divorced, even when I was heart broken and sad, I thought "I will never have to go through "that" or feel like "that" again" and it pulled me through--that quote from the Movie Waiting To Exhale, "I can do bad all by myself"---it's true!! 😘 Lisa
Let go and let God lead you to happiness. You are his child and you are blessed. I lift you up in prayer to be guided in your physical, spiritual, professional and personal relationships. All of your desires already exist so claim them. You are on your way Sister. GOD BLESS YOU from California.
Very well said sister!💝
Needed this today Lisa ❤
😂 defensive and triggered - that is my husband. Trying to have a coversation with him...trying to have a deeper connection...it always ends up me talking Venus and him talking Mars. We both have a good point, but to create that emotional connection is very difficult.
This is a really good video! I don't think I know anyone who has all those goals achieved....you're very lucky. It's hard in an argument to take the time to really think about the situation, unless you try to just get off the subject and come back to it with your ideas....maybe leading to another argument, but at least you'll have your feelings in check.
Beautiful video! totally agree with everything you've said! Wishing more videos like that - you really give very good advise ! Thank you Lisa! Highly appreciated 🙏
I love this so much ~❤️
Love you Lovely Lisa
Love this video! More! ❤
You are spot on Lisa!!
That was a very profound video. Very wise lessons to be learned. Especially the taking the time to sleep on a situation before reacting or over reacting. And realizing not everyone is into what you are into. And being able to drop it and let it go. Knowing how different we all are. And the best advice for your marriage. Is knowing you don't have to be right. And by taking that path there can be tremendous peace. between the two of you.
Definitely would love to know more about healing after divorce. Even though I wanted it, it’s hard figuring out who I am again.
I loved the book "The Dance of Anger" which helped me a lot with thinking through reactions, and how to work though some emotions. It made a huge difference in how I carry myself in my work and my life.
My friends will say, what would you do? I always say, what I would do and you would do are 2 different things, because we are 2 different people. I'll tell them how I would handle it, sometimes they take my advice, sometimes they don't.
Hi Lisa, retired a couple of years ago, adjusting to a new life and feel it took me a couple of years to adjust to not working everyday. Research and searching for betterment everyday is the best way to center myself. I am wearing lipstick again thanks to you ha! Also I have neck issues you mentioned in a past video John has neck issues the best thing is an invert table at about 85 degrees once or twice a day, its been life changing.
Thank you, Debbie! That makes me happy! 💋 He has one of those!! lol, I will tell him this, he was trying for his back, not sure he has thought of his neck 🥰 Lisa