I thought you had decided not to transform, but I am still happy that you made the decision to do so. You are very beautiful and hope your transition is smooth and safe.
I'm a crossdresser and while I feel that I have a very strong feminine side and I have a woman hidden within me, I have no intention, whatsoever to transition into a woman..... I enjoy only being a crossdresser and being able to quickly and easily remove my feminine things. I honestly think that it depends on the person, if he or she wants to transition into the opposite gender that was assigned to them at birth. I also think that yes, CD'ing CAN lead to transitioning, but again, it just also depends on the individual and what they feel they need to do with themselves, but transitioning isn't for me. So, I do not believe that EVERY CD'er is trans, nor do I believe that every CD'er eventually becomes trans.
You're incredible. I struggled with self-discovery for many years. I assumed that I, too, was just a crossdresser until one day I came across your channel years ago. It was then that I started questioning my need to live my truth. You helped me when I needed guidance, and now I am returning the kindness you showed all of us by reciprocating the advice and supporting you in your transition. I don't think I would have had the courage to pursue my truth without your videos. Thank you so very much. 💜
Hi Paola, I agree with everything you say and you express yourself so well. I am over twice your age and I think that if I had been born 35 years later I would have transitioned as well. However I am still content to be able to pass myself off as an attractive older woman. I have noticed over the last year that instead of dressing in gorgeous costumes you have instead gone for dressing as a cute and sassy woman in every day clothes. I am so happy that you have found your true self.
That's fantastic . I'm really happy for you . This video in my opinion is the best one yet . You are happier , much more relaxed not stiff at all as you tended to be in the past . Accepting who you are and what your about has led to the real you to shine through and it's very obvious you are much more comfortable in your own skin . I subscribed to Chelsea's channel and will be interested to watch you become the amazing woman I know you to be . Take care , stay safe and good luck . x
Ah yes, seeing the Christmas decorations are out. :) Also, love the nail color hun! Also, agree with what you said. Many have started off as crossdressers for sure. It's definitely the start for me.
Hello Paola, I am watching your videos from a long time, about the way you have transformed, it's amazing and fabulous. Believe me, you're an inspiration for those who are really suppressing their real Inner Self behind this shallow appearance. But you have shown the courage to express your thoughts on this. Also made aware everyone around. I think you're the right person to ask a favor for. I am an astrologer, doing some research on something related to the LGBT community. Like research on the charts of these people. I do have a chart of a crossdresser, gay, bisexual woman. But I didn't have a chart of Transsexual- M2F & F2M, transgender, and Androgynous people. I am working on it, because I have never seen any astrologers who have done any sort of research why I am saying this is I went through so many groups no one talked about these people's charts or astrological combinations which show that this sort of huge transformation will arrive in transsexuals, and androgynous. That's why I am sharing my experience of astrology where I went through the chart where there is a very supportive partner, some went through a traumatic past. Thank you so much.
I’ve complimented you on your presentation skills before, but I just have to throw out a prediction of you one day giving a TED Talk presentation. Your delivery is excellent and you explain complex/sensitive topics extremely well.
I'm glad you're being your true self I know when I crossdress I feel so relaxed and totally comfortable with it. I just wish I could do it all the time. I don't feel like I want to transition but would definitely like to have my own breast and hips and facial features like a female. I love my family but would not do anything to jeopardize losing them they are more important to me than myself. At times I resent the fact I was born a male and yet I'm glad I was because I would have missed out on the things that a male experiences. But like they say do you girl I'm totally happy for you. ❤️
I’ve been crossdressing for over 20 years . I go out about once a month . I go shopping for makeup , dresses and lingerie. I get my nails done and other girly things . I’m lucky I live near Palm Springs . I’ve even had job interviews at a women’s lingerie store . I pass but I’m super tall so it gives me away sometimes
What a great video! At first based on the title alone I was hesitant to watch this video, but after hearing your viewpoint I loved it! Of course this question might not be universally agreed upon w/others, but for those who also agree with you thats ok too. Plus after following both crossdressers and transgender people both online and IRL the latter community still accepts anyone who identifies as trans regardless if they've started HRT, or not. As for crossdressing itself, yes there is a big sexual reference behind it, but there is also something said about presenting as a female all of the time regardless of the clothes/hair/makeup your wearing. Basically if you are obsessed with presenting/living authentically as a woman 24/7/365 then yes its more than a fetish. Also TBH transitioning via HRT & all other applicable surgeries (if you choose to) is very expensive.
LoL, I remember your early video's where you said you wouldn't transition... I knew someone that looked as good as you do in a dress just can't settle for part time cross dressing! You didn't see it back then, but trust me, as someone much older, I know how long it takes to recognize the writing on the wall. Good for you! Embrace your inner feelings! It's time to match the outside with the inside!
All your videos are excellent. I have followed you for close to 2 years now and you are very informative. I started as.a crossdresser and after much thought and speaking with friends and a gender therapist I have discovered my true self. Next step with be getting HRT. I also have to follow some guidelines to get surgeries covered by my health insurance. Take it one day at a time.
Very, Very sage, honest and informative share - you ARE helping many people with your own experience - and YES.......I have noticed a change in you since your visitation to you Therapist and the ensuing discussion. Kudos!!!
Thank you honey, I have always thought about this topic and what it boils down to with myself is I like dressing when I can and feel great about myself, I came to the conclusion that I do this for me and my piece of mind, been a CD since I was a kid and like that I can put that side of my life away and become Stacy when I feel like it... I thank you for all your insightful vids you show, keep up the great job... lov ya.
First the exploration stage, then the realization stage, hard one is the implementation phase. I’ve done two of the three, you’re starting the third. Congratulations! All my love.
Thank you very much for all of this marvelous content. It helps me a lot with my recent self-descovery about who I am in reality. I began being a crossdresser in part thanks to my fetish for female boots, and with each experience and understanding of myself, I kept updating my wardrobe with female clothing and releasing my divine feminine being inside me. Now that I finally understood what was my true self, I hope to become the trans woman of my dreams. The information here is really helpful and I wish you the best 😍😉😉😉
I certainly agree that being a crossdresser can lead to discovering other aspects about yourself, I am right now considering if I am really just a crossdresser or if I actually want to transition, but the key part here is to never feel pressured by others, be true to yourself. I truly am happy that Paola has found the best version of herself, but her best version, may or may not be your best version.
I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much. I had a journey similar to this, started out crossdressing at home, and eventually it lead me to the realization that I'm trans. Theres still things I want to do to my image to make me feel like who i am, and I'm still finding things that look good on me. But it's a process and it feels good. At the moment I feel good in women's pants in public, but I'm hoping one day soon I can go out like how I want to 100% Recently discovered your channel and cant wait to dive into some videos.
I'm Black Plus Size Transgender Woman. I started as Crossdresser then i transition into Transgender Woman. Oct 28, 2021 it been three years i living as Transwoman. I'm Happy now since came out. Congratulate Paola for coming out Transgender.
Thanks, I've enjoyed your videos for awhile, I'm happy that you see your path forward. You are beautiful and so very positive in your outlook. Your sharing of your new-found happiness gives me hope! ❤️
This is an interesting topic, and I appreciate you sharing your honest perspective on the subject. I have a somewhat sorta similar experience in that I did try cross-dressing a bit before finally coming to the realization I was non-binary. Now, I sometimes present & identify as female, sometimes as male. The interesting thing is that, probably due to my accepting that both my male & female sides are 100% me & 100% valid over the past 8 years, even when I wear some of my "guy" clothes as part of my ensemble when I'm girl mode or wear some of my "women's" clothes when I'm in guy mode (I have some "women's" sweaters that look stylish as hell on a guy), I don't consider it to be cross-dressing, but rather just wearing what I think looks good with a particular ensemble & I've been slowly learning to ignore the whole "men's clothes" and "women's clothes" labels, aside from, of course, keeping size differences in mind. Hell, I'll be so happy to see the day that it's as acceptable for men to wear skirts & dresses as it is for women to wear pants & suits.
@@girltimewithpaola9251 Exactly! I just wish it hadn't taken me so long to get to where I'm at now, but I guess better late than never, right? Also on a side, sorta related note, how's your growing out your hair going? It took me almost an entire year to grow my hair out to a length I was happy with (both as a guy and girl) after I got out of the Navy, so hopefully that provides some encouragement if it seems to be going slower than you'd like....
I agree with you %200. Crossdressing in my early years made me realize that I was more than a crossdresser because I felt that I really wanted everyone to see me as a woman all the time and I wanted yo go to work as a woman and I wanted to be a woman all the time not just part time. It absolutely sucked every time I took off my girl clothes and it made me sad and sometimes I even cried when I put my boy clothes back on. Furthermore I actually wanted to have a woman's figure with large well defined curves, breasts and even vagina. And I hated my facial hair and I hated having a guy body and I just git tired if being a guy and I wanted to be happy and be a girl forever and never be a guy again. I love you and thank you for everything you shared. Congratulations and you have ny 100% support 💃♀️🦋🦄🏳️⚧️🌹🥰💙🌸💙🌸💙🌸💙🌸💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Hi Chelsea, I finally gave in, to my true self. After many years of denial, I now work at Sephora, and present as the woman I am. It was hard to overcome the self doubt, and embrace the life that I have so long denied. I am so happy. Chelsea, you are so perfect girl. Follow your heart, and be your best you. Keep inspiring. Peace, Sheila.
Dear Paula. I'm going through trans as well. This video was what I needed. Thanks and Happy New Year Merry Christmas, and any other holidays for the two of you.love Josie
Great video friend. What is your other channel I can't seem to find it. And all the luck in the world to you. I've had several friends transition and EVERYTIME it's been a good experience for them. Be safe and keep on keeping on
I'm trying to understand it all (cries). I'm all for your kink is different from my kink...but as the person on the other side of it (like your wife/ex?), it's hurting me while trying to be supportive, because they still want the relationship; as do I, but this "other"side...I'm hurt & confused. So much more to the story on both sides I suppose but in the end I'm happy for you, whomever else on here that went or going through it...& my person. I am a subscriber & will keep being so. Sending blessings & positive vibes. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💞💞💞
Excellent I'm happy for you .I hope that you have the full support from your wife and family, I will follow your transition on your other channel , love you.
So glad that you decided to be yourself. Your comments and advice has helped me a lot with my coming out. I would like to be able to to see your other channel but don’t know what it is could you let me know.
I hope you had a good holiday also. I am glad you have seen a therapist and I have also. I am glad your mom is with you and as for others I learned to be true to myself. Be the person you want to be and you will find others that are with you. I am with you.
Glad u r being so open about transitioning would like to know what is ur other channel ? Self discovery and identity are so important to great mental health and well being :) Glad you have found your true self x By the way Paola thank you so much for helping me fully accept that i am a crossdresser i.e. no guilt or shame!
I discovered myself since age 13. Could not do any about it then due to family views and pressure to be that man. I'm 70 now, married and still crossdress privately. I cannot do anything about my gender disphoria due to loosing my wife and family. They will not understand. I've had discussions with them that I've known crossdressors and tg people and that they're incredible people and my best friend is one. My family had a meltdown just talking about it. So I can only dream of it but relate so well.I want to be a woman in the most way possible. Anyways, you look amazing and I appreciate being here for us. What you've said is so true. Have a good week.
Cross dressing is something I had an interest in from an early age. I was caught and sternly told that it was wrong. Society reinforced what my mother told me, it was something to be ashamed of. Over the years I had fantasies of being free to be feminine but the world demanded the opposite. Now in my 50s and single again I have limited freedom to cross dress. Two years into it, I wish so badly that I could overcome the fear of being judged by neighbors, family, and co-workers and admit to everyone what I know myself; I should have been born in a girls body.
Thanks my friend you hit the nail on the head in In transition now it’s going slowly but I have a lot of support and I thank you for your commitment Please continue with the good advice and please be safe god bless you and thanks 🙏
Paola congratulations on your decision to transition into becoming a full time woman and not a crossdresser. I hope your journey through this process is not just a success but smooth and easy as possible. I myself have no desire to transition into becoming a woman other than just dressing as a woman from time to time. You're eyes are just a GORGEOUS shade today! Are they contacts or natural? Love, Nicky
Loved this video. I like when Caitlyn Jenner said, if you've met one cross dresser, you've met 1 cross dresser. I understand that we are all so different. However, you and I have a lot in common. Unfortunately for me, I came to the realizations that you were talking about at an older age. I did start out thinking that I was just a cross dresser. And like you, now believe that I am transgender. Also like you, I do not expect to take my transition any farther than having the opportunity to cross dress 2 or 3 times a week. I follow Kimberly Beregrove. Her channel has helped because my lifelong Christian beliefs have always conflicted heavily with my desire to be enfemme. I am not trying to push a particular topic here. Just an example of how friendships and openness can help us through our daily lives.
Great vid. I can see why crossdressing can open the door to people who have a strong feminine side and as time goes some discover that they are in fact transgender as the happiness they feel in girl mode is so great.
Paola how are you working this out with your wife now that you have come to the realization that you are transgender? A video on this subject would likely be of interest!
I used to wear lingerie and b forms it was a huge turn on just fantasizing obout being female.but also Something I was incredibly ashamed! my bigest fear was my family finding out! The irony is now that ive been on hrt nearly 3 years and had ffs I dont find any of it arousing anymore I am to the point of. Complete apathy when it comes to sex and libido is zero! Like feeling my now very femenine 38b-24-40 body but that is the end of that! I still present male as I find the voice part impossible! My end up getting voice feminization surgery .. but for now I stuck ... your face and voice are simply angelic!! 😍 chrers from SLC
Alguna vez creí que era un hombre travesti heterosexual. Ahora se que soy una chica trans lesbiana. Lo descubrí cuando hubo más información y grupos en redes. Me sentí de inmediato identificada con las chicas trans. Nunca congenié con los travestis, pero si tenía confusión
I am not transgender, I crossdress because I think men got the short end of the stick when it comes to clothes, both in design and colour. Why would I want to pass in this case? I want to pass so as not to cause problems when out in public.
Even though I'm non-binary, I agree 100%: I feel that if women can wear pants & suits without anyone getting their panties in a twist, then men should be allowed to wear skirts & dresses without causing a fuss, too.
This is a great topic I waa a crossdresser. And know a proud Transgender Women. I had my Gender Confirmation Surgery I hope you keep going you are a beautiful woman.
As you mature more through crossdressing you start to merge into the next phase of life and then you step into the realm of a new journey of life and then sooner or later you will find yourself.. You are perfect whoever you become. Your voice is perfect.❤😄😁👍😍
Dear Paola, What if my soul is dual-gendered? By that, I mean, I LIKE being a guy! I love working in a hardware store with other guys (and a few women), but when I get home I love to let my female side run free? She's fun, and comforting, and honestly? It's not SEXUAL. That is, I get no sexual gratification from it. It just feels RIGHT, and somehow, it 'balances' my soul. It's been that way for 3 decades. I've had mostly straight female besties in my life, and all have been accepting. They've supported and even ENCOURAGED my 'other half'. My issue is, they all tend to find someone they're interested in romantically, and then fade from my life - "Oh, we'll still be friends", and then they call and chat less & less until they're gone. I've now gone NUMB to the process. Do I let myself just accept the fact that we're one, or do I keep looking for the next FRIEND? UGH!!!
there are older cultures who have a term for this, that term being two spirit. i am also one of those who, like you, has a certain, duality, so to speak. There are many forms of life, and not all life travels upon a certain trajectory, to reach a pre determined destiny. i have found that it is more common than i would have imagined, that one may start a life as one thing, and evolve into something completely unexpected, and just as beautiful, if not more beautiful, in my opinion, than the traditional understanding of evolution. does this make sense? i could go on and on, but to try and type out such a deep concept of reality in a yt comment section does not give such a concept any where near the respect and attention it deserves. perhaps i should try to give my perspective on this in a format that would explain better, as more people become aware of this complex growth of the human experience begins to manifest itself.
@@gothgurlshaman4636 There is a friend of my late moms who I'm still in touch with - wonderfully sweet and caring woman, who converted to Hindu several years back. When I told her what I told YOU, she explained that the 'soul' is a whole, and that there IS no division - that there is only how you 'feel'. I don't want to disagree with her out of respect, but I don't 'feel' that to be the case. And YES, what you said is crystal clear to me. And I would LOVE for you to go on! I TRULY want to hear more...! I've been through so-called 'support groups', I've been through 'therapy' - I just haven't figured out how to "make it all fit", if that makes sense. Sometimes, I want to deliver the news of feeling relief, and others (like the old 80's song goes) "Hush... keep it down now... voices carry".
Perhaps a bit late, but you could be bi-gender, like me. I sometimes feel more female & others more male (but I have the same mix of masculine & feminine interests in both "modes"), and both are me and both genders are valid (although again, I usually flip between one or the other, but there are some days when I fell like I'm both & some where I don't feel like I'm either, but those androgynous/agender days are the minority). And being non-binary (whether it's genderfluid, bi-gender, genderqueer or agender) is completely valid & just as real as being of a binary gender identity (whether cisgender or transgender). I hope that helped, and I'd be willing to chat more about this if you're interested.
@@DJ_Bonebraker extremely valid point, I wonder how many people in the community there is, I’ve felt so alone at times, and seeing your comment and our other sisters comment really was comforting, Thanks for commenting, no doubt others may see this and feel not so alone🥰🌹
I don't think it's always an either/or thing, especially for those who are or can be genderfluid. I used to think I just enjoyed the dressing-up. It's be something I'd do for a few hours. Yet as I later learned to pass, and had opportunity to spend longer and longer times as a woman when visiting friends, to go out, socialise, eat out, do tourist stuff etc, I realised that beyond the "fun" I simply felt more *comfortable* in that identity. That although I had no discernible dysphoria, there was a euphoria that came with just dressing and living as a woman. Four years ago I came out as trans at work and switched to a female identity there. So now maybe 9 days out of 10 I'm in full female identity. More if I have acrylic nails fitted at which point it is often then several months full-time as a woman! Could someone truly be happy doing that if they weren't transgender? I wouldn't have thought so. So I'd say the boundary is that degree of immersion. If you can and want to live for days, weeks or months at a time as a woman, then you've gone past crossdressing, regardless whether your transition is social, legal, medical and/or fluid.
How can I subscribe to your onefan channerl as I don't have a phone that scans QR coded? Good luck as well I've followed your videos etc for years and this latest video as set me thinking about am I a trans woman xx
Hi Paola, Yes, most definitely. Like you say, everyone is different for sure, but so many do transition. By the way I finally got rid of my B. Hope YT ;) Thanks so much. XOXO
The way I feel about it, in my own words. I love all of who I am. To place any part of me above all else is to watch other aspects starve. A few examples. Let's say I liked beer and spent all my time drinking. The cost is that the part of me who loves and is proud of holding down a job, decays. I love my feminine and my masculine side. With all I am, I find my greatest peace when I hold the balance. I take care of that and their is a harmony to my life. Homeostasis is what best describes it. That is what I have found that works for me. It's allowing myself too let go but being mindful of holding on to all else which also matters to me. I know the power of burning the bridge. And the insight of leaving the shore. But not everything need be a crisis. Being who we are is meant to be enjoyed and celebrated. Maybe it's just something you feel. If we wake up and the whirring between our ears screams hot pink lace panties today, why argue? Also the dark hair looks great on you sweetheart.
Thanks again, well explain, I kind of suspect that ,but you clear all once and for all; I'm a straight guy but I do like trans women very much, and also you talk about that topic once ( I remember that ) that if you like trans women the guys were " gay" and you said no it's not thanks for that too. And by the way you look more beautiful every time you came out to speak. Take care sweetie. 🌷🌹🌷🌹And thank you .
Excellent video, what does your wife think about the transition? Mine would leave me. She caught me one time wearing just panties under my sweats 5 years ago and almost left then. Our marriage hasn't really been the same since. Anyways, Be the woman you always wanted to be, especially while you're still young. Thank you once again for ideas that I have felt and thought for many years. Have a good week.
Thank you for another great video, though crossdressing I now know I am trans, I’m now 55 but still stuck in male, due to life and personal problems. But I know I am a trans woman. I’m having to look at being more gender fluid to give me that female feel I myself.
Paola how did you get so smart? I loved what you just said about who we are it was so simple and accurate . You amaze me all the time not just with your beauty but with your discussions , you tell it so simply anyone could understand it . When you talk about making decisions it really is like that . I totally agree with all of what you say . I really want to follow you on your other page could you send it to me? Also where are you one Facebook? I would love to chat more ,by the way i am prep mtf and loving it . Night hugs Jenny
Good luck in your journey! Your videos have helped me when I first came out! If u have any questions about your next step on your journey please feel free to reach out to me
You make me feel not alone when it comes to this topic I really feel that I want to transition but am scared due to the thing I read about the people that are against this community since I live in a red state like your self a Texas girl would love to talk to you more but don’t know your Facebook or others yt channel💖🙏
I always thought you would/should transition. Unlike a lot of crossdressers who seem to try too hard to be all 'girly' you have a far more natural femininity about you.
There is a thin line between a cross dresser and a trans crossdressers do it for fun once in a while and trans women they do it as a lifestyle as well as it leads to full transition in the end or depending on the individuals personal
Can you please advise on new wheel rims I’m looking at bigger rims and tyres but I’m confused about the offset choice I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic
@@girltimewithpaola9251 I’ve got a 2019 Suzuki Jimny I want to go to 16x 8 rims with 235 all terrain tyres but do I risk a negative offset or go wider tyres
Good to see u and looking good and not all do the transition that I know some do just dress n make lovely girls but I know some are self conscious and or worried of other things even mental state. But love u n happy holidays dear 😋💕🌲
Cross dressing helps you explore your gender. If you were born male, after cross dressing you may start to understand your desire to be a woman. You may not have sensed gender dysphoria before, but it can emerge as you begin wanting a woman's body and are unhappy with your male body. If those feelings engulf you, you are transgender. You may look back at your life and see evidence of these feelings, but they were repressed because of your family or social transphobia. You may come to understand your cross dressing was driven by wanting to be a woman in all its aspects. All these things happened to me. I decided to transition and now live a happier, better life. Everyone's journey is different. I think the key thing if you are MtoF transgender is to want to be a woman and live as one all the time. You then look to change your appearance and how you relate to other people. If you cross dress exclusively and find that enjoyable and psychologically pleasing, but are comfortable with your body, you are probably not transgender. That is quite OK. Your dressing as other than your birth gender probably will be periodic, though perhaps frequent. Other times, when you dress consistent with your birth gender, you probably are comfortable with that. I think it important to recognize cross dressing is quite valid. As a cross dresser you are no better or worse than a transgender person. In some ways, you may be better off because you do not have to deal with all the difficulties associated with medical and social transition that many trans people are compelled to do.
I repressed my true self for 60 years, I was never a cross dresser! I came out to my wife and the next day I went shopping for dressed. that was just under six years ago, I have not looked back once!!
I don't believe I'll ever fully transition i think crossdress is completely fine, I don't think I could do full switch, but never say anything..baby steps I'm fine w being general neutral or feminine
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I think it isn't so much that CD leads to transition, as much as CD'ing can be trans feelings coming out sideways, for some people if that makes sense. I can only speak for myself, but people have the ability to suppress things, bury it. When you are born male and have feelings that are different, it can be a scary world and you bury it..and then it comes out later,often sideways. Some trans people of course know from the time they are very young and it stays all along and they progress along that path, but it is quite common for people to suppress it. A long time ago they used to use the term type 1 transsexual and type 2 transsexual to differentiate, type 1 are like the young people you see here on You Tube who seem to know , have this burning desire, and transition as soon as they can. Type 2 were 'later onset', where something precipitates them to question themselves and the rest kind of falls into place. Of course it is different for everyone. One of the things I could never understand about viewing myself as a CD is that it was so hard to come down from it, and after I did, I often wouldn't do it for a long time. It was only later when I was in therapy that i realized why, that after dressing/presenting as Lauren, that when I 'reverted back", it felt wrong, I wasn't looking to 'dress up as Lauren', I was trying to be her, even though I didn't have the words for it at the time.I became depressed after reverting and as a survival mechanism, I didn't want to go through that again When I was in transition, as 'becoming Lauren' wasn't all that much different than presenting as my supposed male self, when I could flip over without a lot of effort, how much more natural it felt and in a sense my supposed male self was so close to my Lauren self I didn't get depressed, because I felt enough like myself to be okay. That doesn't mean that every crossdresser is a trans woman waiting to emerge, that is a specious as those who think trans women are simply men getting off on a fantasy dressing as women. There are plenty of CD's who are into the illusion, who enjoy it, who love being able to present feminine, and yet when they revert they are happy, too. There is a crossdresser I follow here on you tube who is stunning as a woman, as Paola is, but they also are very happy after time as their femme self reverting back to being their male self, that they like having both. This person would make one hell of a woman, has a very fit, toned body, has incredible presentation when dressed as her femme self, but is happy with that and likes the male side. There are CD's who are into it sexually, who enjoy getting dolled up and having sex with guys, but equally happy in their male self having sex (Usually with women, maybe another CD), and none of them are transgender per se. Some CD groups sadly were really paranoid about the myth that somehow being CD was the 'gateway drug' to being transgender and transitioning. Many CD groups were so paranoid about that , that if a member said they were questioning or had decided they were trans, they were shown the door (the worst was the old Tri Ess, I truly hope they are gone, sorry, I found them vile and obnoxious and quite honestly, also bigoted in more than one way). It was sad because back then in a lot of places CD groups were really the only thing around where they could safely be themselves, yet if they were honest they would be told to go away. With these groups it was because they were terrified a trans identified person would somehow cause others in the group to transition, as if it were a disease. A lot of this was because many of the members were married and their wives were very, very paranoid about their CD partner deciding to transition, be influenced to to do it (while I have met some transgender women who would stupidly tell CD's they were really trans, which is pretty stupid and arrogant to do, but in reality very few transgender women would want to convince someone who is happy as a CD to transition, knowing how hard it is). In the end if someone is transgender it likely will come out, and the way to figure that out is to embrace the idea of exploration and see where that takes you. As Paola found out, you can't listen to anyone else, even a therapist cannot tell you whether you are transgender or not, and certainly other people , trans or otherwise, cannot tell you that. When you read the comment section for CD videos on here, including Paolas videos, you see people saying "you are so beautiful, of course you are trans, of course you want to be a woman, look at the way you present, you are beautiful (often horny men, quite honestly, figuring the person will be so grateful to them, well, you get the drift). On the other hand there are still CD's out there who view being transgender as wrong, that all a transwoman is is a deluded CD who has been 'converted' by a therapist or other members of the 'trans mafia' (a term I actually have heard used), and there is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser, you don't need to transition to express yourself, etc, and they are as bad as those pressuring someone to admit they are trans. I suspect many of them have feelings that they might be trans, and are convincing themselves as much as the person they are commenting on, but that is another story.... in the end, what you are comes out of not being afraid to explore it, don't worry about the outcome as much as get everything out of the path of exploration you can:).
Hi Paola, I've been following along for a couple of years now. I am a closet crossdresser thinking about coming out to my wife. I'm just wondering, is your wife still supporting you now that you're transitioning?
If I would have been crossdressing at an earlier age, I would have done the transition. At my age now, I don't think it's vacgoid idea. But I really enjoy feminization of my crossdressing.
Just be who you feel you are if you are a woman then be a woman hopefully you will be who you want to be if you are a woman I will always support you in whatever decision you make love and kind regards always
I thought you had decided not to transform, but I am still happy that you made the decision to do so. You are very beautiful and hope your transition is smooth and safe.
I'm a crossdresser and while I feel that I have a very strong feminine side and I have a woman hidden within me, I have no intention, whatsoever to transition into a woman..... I enjoy only being a crossdresser and being able to quickly and easily remove my feminine things. I honestly think that it depends on the person, if he or she wants to transition into the opposite gender that was assigned to them at birth. I also think that yes, CD'ing CAN lead to transitioning, but again, it just also depends on the individual and what they feel they need to do with themselves, but transitioning isn't for me. So, I do not believe that EVERY CD'er is trans, nor do I believe that every CD'er eventually becomes trans.
I absolutely agree. Love being a man and doing manly things. Also love cross dressing. Never want to be a woman all the time.
You're incredible. I struggled with self-discovery for many years. I assumed that I, too, was just a crossdresser until one day I came across your channel years ago. It was then that I started questioning my need to live my truth. You helped me when I needed guidance, and now I am returning the kindness you showed all of us by reciprocating the advice and supporting you in your transition. I don't think I would have had the courage to pursue my truth without your videos. Thank you so very much. 💜
Hi Paola,
I agree with everything you say and you express yourself so well. I am over twice your age and I think that if I had been born 35 years later I would have transitioned as well. However I am still content to be able to pass myself off as an attractive older woman.
I have noticed over the last year that instead of dressing in gorgeous costumes you have instead gone for dressing as a cute and sassy woman in every day clothes. I am so happy that you have found your true self.
That's fantastic . I'm really happy for you . This video in my opinion is the best one yet . You are happier , much more relaxed not stiff at all as you tended to be in the past . Accepting who you are and what your about has led to the real you to shine through and it's very obvious you are much more comfortable in your own skin . I subscribed to Chelsea's channel and will be interested to watch you become the amazing woman I know you to be . Take care , stay safe and good luck . x
Ah yes, seeing the Christmas decorations are out. :)
Also, love the nail color hun!
Also, agree with what you said. Many have started off as crossdressers for sure.
It's definitely the start for me.
@@girltimewithpaola9251 Thanks girl! I am now probably going to buy this Carribean cool. First time hearing Sinful Colors. I will look into it. :D
Hello Paola,
I am watching your videos from a long time, about the way you have transformed, it's amazing and fabulous. Believe me, you're an inspiration for those who are really suppressing their real Inner Self behind this shallow appearance. But you have shown the courage to express your thoughts on this. Also made aware everyone around.
I think you're the right person to ask a favor for. I am an astrologer, doing some research on something related to the LGBT community. Like research on the charts of these people. I do have a chart of a crossdresser, gay, bisexual woman. But I didn't have a chart of Transsexual- M2F & F2M, transgender, and Androgynous people. I am working on it, because I have never seen any astrologers who have done any sort of research why I am saying this is I went through so many groups no one talked about these people's charts or astrological combinations which show that this sort of huge transformation will arrive in transsexuals, and androgynous. That's why I am sharing my experience of astrology where I went through the chart where there is a very supportive partner, some went through a traumatic past.
Thank you so much.
I’ve complimented you on your presentation skills before, but I just have to throw out a prediction of you one day giving a TED Talk presentation. Your delivery is excellent and you explain complex/sensitive topics extremely well.
Agreed
I'm glad you're being your true self I know when I crossdress I feel so relaxed and totally comfortable with it. I just wish I could do it all the time. I don't feel like I want to transition but would definitely like to have my own breast and hips and facial features like a female. I love my family but would not do anything to jeopardize losing them they are more important to me than myself. At times I resent the fact I was born a male and yet I'm glad I was because I would have missed out on the things that a male experiences. But like they say do you girl I'm totally happy for you. ❤️
I’ve been crossdressing for over 20 years . I go out about once a month . I go shopping for makeup , dresses and lingerie. I get my nails done and other girly things . I’m lucky I live near Palm Springs . I’ve even had job interviews at a women’s lingerie store . I pass but I’m super tall so it gives me away sometimes
What a great video! At first based on the title alone I was hesitant to watch this video, but after hearing your viewpoint I loved it! Of course this question might not be universally agreed upon w/others, but for those who also agree with you thats ok too. Plus after following both crossdressers and transgender people both online and IRL the latter community still accepts anyone who identifies as trans regardless if they've started HRT, or not.
As for crossdressing itself, yes there is a big sexual reference behind it, but there is also something said about presenting as a female all of the time regardless of the clothes/hair/makeup your wearing. Basically if you are obsessed with presenting/living authentically as a woman 24/7/365 then yes its more than a fetish. Also TBH transitioning via HRT & all other applicable surgeries (if you choose to) is very expensive.
LoL, I remember your early video's where you said you wouldn't transition... I knew someone that looked as good as you do in a dress just can't settle for part time cross dressing! You didn't see it back then, but trust me, as someone much older, I know how long it takes to recognize the writing on the wall. Good for you! Embrace your inner feelings! It's time to match the outside with the inside!
All your videos are excellent. I have followed you for close to 2 years now and you are very informative. I started as.a crossdresser and after much thought and speaking with friends and a gender therapist I have discovered my true self. Next step with be getting HRT. I also have to follow some guidelines to get surgeries covered by my health insurance. Take it one day at a time.
Very, Very sage, honest and informative share - you ARE helping many people with your own experience - and YES.......I have noticed a change in you since your visitation to you Therapist and the ensuing discussion. Kudos!!!
Thank you honey, I have always thought about this topic and what it boils down to with myself is I like dressing when I can and feel great about myself, I came to the conclusion that I do this for me and my piece of mind, been a CD since I was a kid and like that I can put that side of my life away and become Stacy when I feel like it... I thank you for all your insightful vids you show, keep up the great job... lov ya.
First the exploration stage, then the realization stage, hard one is the implementation phase. I’ve done two of the three, you’re starting the third. Congratulations! All my love.
Thank you very much for all of this marvelous content. It helps me a lot with my recent self-descovery about who I am in reality. I began being a crossdresser in part thanks to my fetish for female boots, and with each experience and understanding of myself, I kept updating my wardrobe with female clothing and releasing my divine feminine being inside me. Now that I finally understood what was my true self, I hope to become the trans woman of my dreams.
The information here is really helpful and I wish you the best 😍😉😉😉
I certainly agree that being a crossdresser can lead to discovering other aspects about yourself, I am right now considering if I am really just a crossdresser or if I actually want to transition, but the key part here is to never feel pressured by others, be true to yourself. I truly am happy that Paola has found the best version of herself, but her best version, may or may not be your best version.
I really appreciate this video. Thank you so much. I had a journey similar to this, started out crossdressing at home, and eventually it lead me to the realization that I'm trans. Theres still things I want to do to my image to make me feel like who i am, and I'm still finding things that look good on me. But it's a process and it feels good. At the moment I feel good in women's pants in public, but I'm hoping one day soon I can go out like how I want to 100% Recently discovered your channel and cant wait to dive into some videos.
I'm Black Plus Size Transgender Woman. I started as Crossdresser then i transition into Transgender Woman. Oct 28, 2021 it been three years i living as Transwoman. I'm Happy now since came out. Congratulate Paola for coming out Transgender.
Thanks, I've enjoyed your videos for awhile, I'm happy that you see your path forward. You are beautiful and so very positive in your outlook. Your sharing of your new-found happiness gives me hope! ❤️
You're so confident Paola, I'm proud of you and thank for sharing, I appreciated, take care
This is an interesting topic, and I appreciate you sharing your honest perspective on the subject.
I have a somewhat sorta similar experience in that I did try cross-dressing a bit before finally coming to the realization I was non-binary. Now, I sometimes present & identify as female, sometimes as male. The interesting thing is that, probably due to my accepting that both my male & female sides are 100% me & 100% valid over the past 8 years, even when I wear some of my "guy" clothes as part of my ensemble when I'm girl mode or wear some of my "women's" clothes when I'm in guy mode (I have some "women's" sweaters that look stylish as hell on a guy), I don't consider it to be cross-dressing, but rather just wearing what I think looks good with a particular ensemble & I've been slowly learning to ignore the whole "men's clothes" and "women's clothes" labels, aside from, of course, keeping size differences in mind.
Hell, I'll be so happy to see the day that it's as acceptable for men to wear skirts & dresses as it is for women to wear pants & suits.
@@girltimewithpaola9251 Exactly! I just wish it hadn't taken me so long to get to where I'm at now, but I guess better late than never, right?
Also on a side, sorta related note, how's your growing out your hair going? It took me almost an entire year to grow my hair out to a length I was happy with (both as a guy and girl) after I got out of the Navy, so hopefully that provides some encouragement if it seems to be going slower than you'd like....
I agree with you %200. Crossdressing in my early years made me realize that I was more than a crossdresser because I felt that I really wanted everyone to see me as a woman all the time and I wanted yo go to work as a woman and I wanted to be a woman all the time not just part time. It absolutely sucked every time I took off my girl clothes and it made me sad and sometimes I even cried when I put my boy clothes back on. Furthermore I actually wanted to have a woman's figure with large well defined curves, breasts and even vagina. And I hated my facial hair and I hated having a guy body and I just git tired if being a guy and I wanted to be happy and be a girl forever and never be a guy again.
I love you and thank you for everything you shared. Congratulations and you have ny 100% support 💃♀️🦋🦄🏳️⚧️🌹🥰💙🌸💙🌸💙🌸💙🌸💙🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️
Absolutely same feeling here...ditto & it hurts really bad ! 😞😑
I am so happy that you decided to be who really are I wish you the best sending love❤️
Hi Chelsea, I finally gave in, to my true self. After many years of denial, I now work at Sephora, and present as the woman I am. It was hard to overcome the self doubt, and embrace the life that I have so long denied. I am so happy. Chelsea, you are so perfect girl. Follow your heart, and be your best you. Keep inspiring. Peace, Sheila.
Dear Paula. I'm going through trans as well. This video was what I needed. Thanks and Happy New Year Merry Christmas, and any other holidays for the two of you.love Josie
Great video friend. What is your other channel I can't seem to find it. And all the luck in the world to you. I've had several friends transition and EVERYTIME it's been a good experience for them. Be safe and keep on keeping on
I'm trying to understand it all (cries).
I'm all for your kink is different from my kink...but as the person on the other side of it (like your wife/ex?), it's hurting me while trying to be supportive, because they still want the relationship; as do I, but this "other"side...I'm hurt & confused. So much more to the story on both sides I suppose but in the end I'm happy for you, whomever else on here that went or going through it...& my person. I am a subscriber & will keep being so. Sending blessings & positive vibes. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼💞💞💞
Great video Paola, so happy for you and you say such true words,
I love all your videos and all you do. Again thank you so much. We are all blessed with you. You go girl.
Excellent I'm happy for you .I hope that you have the full support from your wife and family, I will follow your transition on your other channel , love you.
So glad that you decided to be yourself. Your comments and advice has helped me a lot with my coming out. I would like to be able to to see your other channel but don’t know what it is could you let me know.
I hope you had a good holiday also. I am glad you have seen a therapist and I have also. I am glad your mom is with you and as for others I learned to be true to myself. Be the person you want to be and you will find others that are with you. I am with you.
Glad u r being so open about transitioning would like to know what is ur other channel ? Self discovery and identity are so important to great mental health and well being :) Glad you have found your true self x By the way Paola thank you so much for helping me fully accept that i am a crossdresser i.e. no guilt or shame!
I discovered myself since age 13. Could not do any about it then due to family views and pressure to be that man. I'm 70 now, married and still crossdress privately. I cannot do anything about my gender disphoria due to loosing my wife and family. They will not understand. I've had discussions with them that I've known crossdressors and tg people and that they're incredible people and my best friend is one. My family had a meltdown just talking about it. So I can only dream of it but relate so well.I want to be a woman in the most way possible. Anyways, you look amazing and I appreciate being here for us. What you've said is so true. Have a good week.
You must have been through a lot! More power to you
@@parikhan6599 thank you. It is a challenge though.
Cross dressing is something I had an interest in from an early age. I was caught and sternly told that it was wrong. Society reinforced what my mother told me, it was something to be ashamed of. Over the years I had fantasies of being free to be feminine but the world demanded the opposite. Now in my 50s and single again I have limited freedom to cross dress. Two years into it, I wish so badly that I could overcome the fear of being judged by neighbors, family, and co-workers and admit to everyone what I know myself; I should have been born in a girls body.
wow I'm glad you said this this is the way I was thinking I just wasn't sure Thanks
Thanks my friend you hit the nail on the head in In transition now it’s going slowly but I have a lot of support and I thank you for your commitment
Please continue with the good advice and please be safe god bless you and thanks 🙏
Paola congratulations on your decision to transition into becoming a full time woman and not a crossdresser. I hope your journey through this process is not just a success but smooth and easy as possible. I myself have no desire to transition into becoming a woman other than just dressing as a woman from time to time. You're eyes are just a GORGEOUS shade today! Are they contacts or natural? Love, Nicky
Please keep us updated.
I like what you're saying. It's like, how do you know if you like swimming if you don't ever get in the water? Some of us love to swim.
Loved this video. I like when Caitlyn Jenner said, if you've met one cross dresser, you've met 1 cross dresser. I understand that we are all so different. However, you and I have a lot in common. Unfortunately for me, I came to the realizations that you were talking about at an older age. I did start out thinking that I was just a cross dresser. And like you, now believe that I am transgender. Also like you, I do not expect to take my transition any farther than having the opportunity to cross dress 2 or 3 times a week.
I follow Kimberly Beregrove. Her channel has helped because my lifelong Christian beliefs have always conflicted heavily with my desire to be enfemme. I am not trying to push a particular topic here. Just an example of how friendships and openness can help us through our daily lives.
Great vid. I can see why crossdressing can open the door to people who have a strong feminine side and as time goes some discover that they are in fact transgender as the happiness they feel in girl mode is so great.
Paola how are you working this out with your wife now that you have come to the realization that you are transgender? A video on this subject would likely be of interest!
@@girltimewithpaola9251 Pity I can't get on your other channel!
I used to wear lingerie and b forms it was a huge turn on just fantasizing obout being female.but also Something I was incredibly ashamed! my bigest fear was my family finding out! The irony is now that ive been on hrt nearly 3 years and had ffs I dont find any of it arousing anymore I am to the point of. Complete apathy when it comes to sex and libido is zero! Like feeling my now very femenine 38b-24-40 body but that is the end of that! I still present male as I find the voice part impossible! My end up getting voice feminization surgery .. but for now I stuck ... your face and voice are simply angelic!! 😍 chrers from SLC
Alguna vez creí que era un hombre travesti heterosexual. Ahora se que soy una chica trans lesbiana. Lo descubrí cuando hubo más información y grupos en redes. Me sentí de inmediato identificada con las chicas trans. Nunca congenié con los travestis, pero si tenía confusión
Great video! Spot on. It gave me a lot to think about.
Good thoughts and insights. Bravo
I am not transgender, I crossdress because I think men got the short end of the stick when it comes to clothes, both in design and colour. Why would I want to pass in this case? I want to pass so as not to cause problems when out in public.
I agree 100% Ted I have always loved women’s clothes colors cuts and styles I remember being in elementary school liking girls outfits and clothes 😊
Even though I'm non-binary, I agree 100%: I feel that if women can wear pants & suits without anyone getting their panties in a twist, then men should be allowed to wear skirts & dresses without causing a fuss, too.
Great video, well said, self-discovery is huge, by the way you look fabulous, Love the hair
This is a great topic I waa a crossdresser. And know a proud Transgender Women.
I had my Gender Confirmation Surgery
I hope you keep going you are a beautiful woman.
I find this very helpful because I used to crossdress, but I kinda want to start doing it again.
As you mature more through crossdressing you start to merge into the next phase of life and then you step into the realm of a new journey of life and then sooner or later you will find yourself..
You are perfect whoever you become. Your voice is perfect.❤😄😁👍😍
Paola, can you post the link to your other channel in a reply to this? I can’t find it.
you are Chelsey Jean now I love the new name happy for you
Dear Paola,
What if my soul is dual-gendered?
By that, I mean, I LIKE being a guy! I love working in a hardware store with other guys (and a few women), but when I get home I love to let my female side run free? She's fun, and comforting, and honestly? It's not SEXUAL. That is, I get no sexual gratification from it. It just feels RIGHT, and somehow, it 'balances' my soul. It's been that way for 3 decades.
I've had mostly straight female besties in my life, and all have been accepting. They've supported and even ENCOURAGED my 'other half'.
My issue is, they all tend to find someone they're interested in romantically, and then fade from my life - "Oh, we'll still be friends", and then they call and chat less & less until they're gone.
I've now gone NUMB to the process.
Do I let myself just accept the fact that we're one, or do I keep looking for the next FRIEND?
UGH!!!
there are older cultures who have a term for this, that term being two spirit. i am also one of those who, like you, has a certain, duality, so to speak. There are many forms of life, and not all life travels upon a certain trajectory, to reach a pre determined destiny. i have found that it is more common than i would have imagined, that one may start a life as one thing, and evolve into something completely unexpected, and just as beautiful, if not more beautiful, in my opinion, than the traditional understanding of evolution. does this make sense? i could go on and on, but to try and type out such a deep concept of reality in a yt comment section does not give such a concept any where near the respect and attention it deserves. perhaps i should try to give my perspective on this in a format that would explain better, as more people become aware of this complex growth of the human experience begins to manifest itself.
@@gothgurlshaman4636 There is a friend of my late moms who I'm still in touch with - wonderfully sweet and caring woman, who converted to Hindu several years back.
When I told her what I told YOU, she explained that the 'soul' is a whole, and that there IS no division - that there is only how you 'feel'.
I don't want to disagree with her out of respect, but I don't 'feel' that to be the case.
And YES, what you said is crystal clear to me. And I would LOVE for you to go on! I TRULY want to hear more...! I've been through so-called 'support groups', I've been through 'therapy' - I just haven't figured out how to "make it all fit", if that makes sense.
Sometimes, I want to deliver the news of feeling relief, and others (like the old 80's song goes) "Hush... keep it down now... voices carry".
Perhaps a bit late, but you could be bi-gender, like me. I sometimes feel more female & others more male (but I have the same mix of masculine & feminine interests in both "modes"), and both are me and both genders are valid (although again, I usually flip between one or the other, but there are some days when I fell like I'm both & some where I don't feel like I'm either, but those androgynous/agender days are the minority).
And being non-binary (whether it's genderfluid, bi-gender, genderqueer or agender) is completely valid & just as real as being of a binary gender identity (whether cisgender or transgender).
I hope that helped, and I'd be willing to chat more about this if you're interested.
@@DJ_Bonebraker extremely valid point, I wonder how many people in the community there is, I’ve felt so alone at times, and seeing your comment and our other sisters comment really was comforting, Thanks for commenting, no doubt others may see this and feel not so alone🥰🌹
Congratulations for you beautiful life and change! I'm in discover journey myself too and it's just amazing. Thanks!
I don't think it's always an either/or thing, especially for those who are or can be genderfluid. I used to think I just enjoyed the dressing-up. It's be something I'd do for a few hours. Yet as I later learned to pass, and had opportunity to spend longer and longer times as a woman when visiting friends, to go out, socialise, eat out, do tourist stuff etc, I realised that beyond the "fun" I simply felt more *comfortable* in that identity. That although I had no discernible dysphoria, there was a euphoria that came with just dressing and living as a woman.
Four years ago I came out as trans at work and switched to a female identity there. So now maybe 9 days out of 10 I'm in full female identity. More if I have acrylic nails fitted at which point it is often then several months full-time as a woman! Could someone truly be happy doing that if they weren't transgender? I wouldn't have thought so.
So I'd say the boundary is that degree of immersion. If you can and want to live for days, weeks or months at a time as a woman, then you've gone past crossdressing, regardless whether your transition is social, legal, medical and/or fluid.
How can I subscribe to your onefan channerl as I don't have a phone that scans QR coded? Good luck as well I've followed your videos etc for years and this latest video as set me thinking about am I a trans woman xx
Hi Paola,
Yes, most definitely.
Like you say, everyone is different for sure, but so many do transition.
By the way I finally got rid of my
B. Hope YT ;)
Thanks so much. XOXO
Omg your so pretty and what a beautiful soothing voice!!
The way I feel about it, in my own words. I love all of who I am. To place any part of me above all else is to watch other aspects starve. A few examples. Let's say I liked beer and spent all my time drinking. The cost is that the part of me who loves and is proud of holding down a job, decays. I love my feminine and my masculine side. With all I am, I find my greatest peace when I hold the balance. I take care of that and their is a harmony to my life. Homeostasis is what best describes it. That is what I have found that works for me. It's allowing myself too let go but being mindful of holding on to all else which also matters to me. I know the power of burning the bridge. And the insight of leaving the shore. But not everything need be a crisis. Being who we are is meant to be enjoyed and celebrated. Maybe it's just something you feel. If we wake up and the whirring between our ears screams hot pink lace panties today, why argue? Also the dark hair looks great on you sweetheart.
What is your other channel? Can you post a link to it.
Thanks again, well explain, I kind of suspect that ,but you clear all once and for all; I'm a straight guy but I do like trans women very much, and also you talk about that topic once ( I remember that ) that if you like trans women the guys were " gay" and you said no it's not thanks for that too. And by the way you look more beautiful every time you came out to speak. Take care sweetie. 🌷🌹🌷🌹And thank you .
Excellent video, what does your wife think about the transition? Mine would leave me. She caught me one time wearing just panties under my sweats 5 years ago and almost left then. Our marriage hasn't really been the same since. Anyways, Be the woman you always wanted to be, especially while you're still young. Thank you once again for ideas that I have felt and thought for many years. Have a good week.
Thank you for another great video, though crossdressing I now know I am trans, I’m now 55 but still stuck in male, due to life and personal problems. But I know I am a trans woman. I’m having to look at being more gender fluid to give me that female feel I myself.
Paola how did you get so smart? I loved what you just said about who we are it was so simple and accurate . You amaze me all the time not just with your beauty but with your discussions , you tell it so simply anyone could understand it . When you talk about making decisions it really is like that . I totally agree with all of what you say . I really want to follow you on your other page could you send it to me? Also where are you one Facebook? I would love to chat more ,by the way i am prep mtf and loving it . Night hugs Jenny
Good luck in your journey! Your videos have helped me when I first came out! If u have any questions about your next step on your journey please feel free to reach out to me
You make me feel not alone when it comes to this topic I really feel that I want to transition but am scared due to the thing I read about the people that are against this community since I live in a red state like your self a Texas girl would love to talk to you more but don’t know your Facebook or others yt channel💖🙏
Do what what makes you happy ,it's a new path your life is heading you have to walk it
can you add a link to your other channel?
I always knew i was a 'she' and have called that crossdressing but now as i transition and hormones change my body i am so content 😊
I liked your thoughts on this.
I always thought you would/should transition. Unlike a lot of crossdressers who seem to try too hard to be all 'girly' you have a far more natural femininity about you.
There is a thin line between a cross dresser and a trans crossdressers do it for fun once in a while and trans women they do it as a lifestyle as well as it leads to full transition in the end or depending on the individuals personal
Can you please advise on new wheel rims I’m looking at bigger rims and tyres but I’m confused about the offset choice I would love to hear your thoughts on the topic
@@girltimewithpaola9251 I’ve got a 2019 Suzuki Jimny I want to go to 16x 8 rims with 235 all terrain tyres but do I risk a negative offset or go wider tyres
Ah cool thanks for your advice I guess a 225 might be a good compromise- so I should go for a the zero offset?
Yep that’s what I thought too - I’m going for the American Racing 16 x 8’s AR 23 rims on 225 BFG rubber
Thanks for your advice- I can buy with some confidence now !
Totally agree with your comments.
Good to see u and looking good and not all do the transition that I know some do just dress n make lovely girls but I know some are self conscious and or worried of other things even mental state. But love u n happy holidays dear 😋💕🌲
Cross dressing helps you explore your gender. If you were born male, after cross dressing you may start to understand your desire to be a woman. You may not have sensed gender dysphoria before, but it can emerge as you begin wanting a woman's body and are unhappy with your male body. If those feelings engulf you, you are transgender.
You may look back at your life and see evidence of these feelings, but they were repressed because of your family or social transphobia. You may come to understand your cross dressing was driven by wanting to be a woman in all its aspects. All these things happened to me. I decided to transition and now live a happier, better life.
Everyone's journey is different. I think the key thing if you are MtoF transgender is to want to be a woman and live as one all the time. You then look to change your appearance and how you relate to other people.
If you cross dress exclusively and find that enjoyable and psychologically pleasing, but are comfortable with your body, you are probably not transgender. That is quite OK. Your dressing as other than your birth gender probably will be periodic, though perhaps frequent. Other times, when you dress consistent with your birth gender, you probably are comfortable with that.
I think it important to recognize cross dressing is quite valid. As a cross dresser you are no better or worse than a transgender person. In some ways, you may be better off because you do not have to deal with all the difficulties associated with medical and social transition that many trans people are compelled to do.
Love you honey. You are so perfect the way you are. You are improving so fast. Best wishes
I love ❤️ you and your wife Paula! You guys remind me a lot of me and my wife ❤
I repressed my true self for 60 years, I was never a cross dresser! I came out to my wife and the next day I went shopping for dressed. that was just under six years ago, I have not looked back once!!
I don't believe I'll ever fully transition i think crossdress is completely fine, I don't think I could do full switch, but never say anything..baby steps I'm fine w being general neutral or feminine
Looking good and an interesting topic!
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So gorgeous in this video!!
I think it isn't so much that CD leads to transition, as much as CD'ing can be trans feelings coming out sideways, for some people if that makes sense. I can only speak for myself, but people have the ability to suppress things, bury it. When you are born male and have feelings that are different, it can be a scary world and you bury it..and then it comes out later,often sideways. Some trans people of course know from the time they are very young and it stays all along and they progress along that path, but it is quite common for people to suppress it. A long time ago they used to use the term type 1 transsexual and type 2 transsexual to differentiate, type 1 are like the young people you see here on You Tube who seem to know , have this burning desire, and transition as soon as they can. Type 2 were 'later onset', where something precipitates them to question themselves and the rest kind of falls into place. Of course it is different for everyone.
One of the things I could never understand about viewing myself as a CD is that it was so hard to come down from it, and after I did, I often wouldn't do it for a long time. It was only later when I was in therapy that i realized why, that after dressing/presenting as Lauren, that when I 'reverted back", it felt wrong, I wasn't looking to 'dress up as Lauren', I was trying to be her, even though I didn't have the words for it at the time.I became depressed after reverting and as a survival mechanism, I didn't want to go through that again When I was in transition, as 'becoming Lauren' wasn't all that much different than presenting as my supposed male self, when I could flip over without a lot of effort, how much more natural it felt and in a sense my supposed male self was so close to my Lauren self I didn't get depressed, because I felt enough like myself to be okay.
That doesn't mean that every crossdresser is a trans woman waiting to emerge, that is a specious as those who think trans women are simply men getting off on a fantasy dressing as women. There are plenty of CD's who are into the illusion, who enjoy it, who love being able to present feminine, and yet when they revert they are happy, too. There is a crossdresser I follow here on you tube who is stunning as a woman, as Paola is, but they also are very happy after time as their femme self reverting back to being their male self, that they like having both. This person would make one hell of a woman, has a very fit, toned body, has incredible presentation when dressed as her femme self, but is happy with that and likes the male side. There are CD's who are into it sexually, who enjoy getting dolled up and having sex with guys, but equally happy in their male self having sex (Usually with women, maybe another CD), and none of them are transgender per se.
Some CD groups sadly were really paranoid about the myth that somehow being CD was the 'gateway drug' to being transgender and transitioning. Many CD groups were so paranoid about that , that if a member said they were questioning or had decided they were trans, they were shown the door (the worst was the old Tri Ess, I truly hope they are gone, sorry, I found them vile and obnoxious and quite honestly, also bigoted in more than one way). It was sad because back then in a lot of places CD groups were really the only thing around where they could safely be themselves, yet if they were honest they would be told to go away.
With these groups it was because they were terrified a trans identified person would somehow cause others in the group to transition, as if it were a disease. A lot of this was because many of the members were married and their wives were very, very paranoid about their CD partner deciding to transition, be influenced to to do it (while I have met some transgender women who would stupidly tell CD's they were really trans, which is pretty stupid and arrogant to do, but in reality very few transgender women would want to convince someone who is happy as a CD to transition, knowing how hard it is).
In the end if someone is transgender it likely will come out, and the way to figure that out is to embrace the idea of exploration and see where that takes you. As Paola found out, you can't listen to anyone else, even a therapist cannot tell you whether you are transgender or not, and certainly other people , trans or otherwise, cannot tell you that. When you read the comment section for CD videos on here, including Paolas videos, you see people saying "you are so beautiful, of course you are trans, of course you want to be a woman, look at the way you present, you are beautiful (often horny men, quite honestly, figuring the person will be so grateful to them, well, you get the drift). On the other hand there are still CD's out there who view being transgender as wrong, that all a transwoman is is a deluded CD who has been 'converted' by a therapist or other members of the 'trans mafia' (a term I actually have heard used), and there is nothing wrong with being a crossdresser, you don't need to transition to express yourself, etc, and they are as bad as those pressuring someone to admit they are trans. I suspect many of them have feelings that they might be trans, and are convincing themselves as much as the person they are commenting on, but that is another story.... in the end, what you are comes out of not being afraid to explore it, don't worry about the outcome as much as get everything out of the path of exploration you can:).
We are all. Different sometimes. Yes. Sometimes no it. Is. Confusing
I am a straight man and I love to crossdress. My cis gender wife is also starting to support me
Happy holidays sweetie
Hi Paola, I've been following along for a couple of years now. I am a closet crossdresser thinking about coming out to my wife. I'm just wondering, is your wife still supporting you now that you're transitioning?
What’s your other channel?
what is her other channel??
I am supporter of LGBT 👍🏻
If I would have been crossdressing at an earlier age, I would have done the transition. At my age now, I don't think it's vacgoid idea. But I really enjoy feminization of my crossdressing.
What is your other channel
Just be who you feel you are if you are a woman then be a woman hopefully you will be who you want to be if you are a woman I will always support you in whatever decision you make love and kind regards always
More amazing advice for the ladies.
Your so beautyfull in meny ways Paola ♥️🌻