Dear Michael, You have touched my soul. This film is beyond beautiful in so many ways. Your vulnerability and authenticity is🙌. Thank you. I feel like I just watched a poem in motion, so full of genuine love and kindness.
I am a nurse and work with patients who suffer from dementia. The only thing that is left when memory declines is love. People with dementia love with amazing intensity, so please do not worry, you still will be loved and you will love….you will become the essence of being - love.
Thank you for appreciating every word that Paul shared with us. It was such an honour to work on this film together with Paul. Sending best wishes. Justine and Michael. x
We will too.....seldom do we find men on earth with such Insight, foresight and Consideration....however he does NOT have a crystal ball and may progress so very slowly.........
I sincerely ❤hope his family realizes what a wonderful being this man is❤. He has stolen my heart, giving me hope for what comes next in life. Having no expectations is sound advise, just enjoy everyday we have. ❤ Love to you and yours ❤❤
you are so brave to share your story with us. before i retired, i spent ten years caring for people with dementia. i want to assure you that you will still be 'you', right up to the end. you will not be a burden to your family or your friends or your caregivers. each one of my clients was a unique blessing, never to be forgotten. you will be remembered as the kind, thoughtful, loving man that you are. blessings from my heart to yours.
My experience of people with dementia is full of love. The soul want this to happen ! To retreat from the world as one know it, to become INNOCENT AS A CHILD, with all the best qualities, to become A BLESSING, A LIGHTBEING, the ONE one really IS. So Beautiful 🌟🌠
@@zippagraphics that is a very tough situation. i have friends in their 80s who have no children or family nearby. i worry about them because i honestly don't know what may happen. this is where having a living will can be of help but even that only goes so far. unfortunately, this happens all too often and it's heartbreaking.
@@zippagraphics it will depend on the country you live in.... in New Zealand the Family Court deals with applications for Guardianship Orders. The Court can appoint a lawyer and the person will have a medical assessment. The Court will get regular reports on the person... the Guardianship Orders, cover Welfare (of the person) and Property (financial matters). The Court can make decisions about where the person lives etc informed by the Dr and lawyer. Social Workers assist with these processes.
first, my father with alzheimer's for over a dozen years (died at 92, and my mother kept him at home for as long as she could until the last 5 months of his life), and now, i have moved to live down the hall from my soon-to-be 95-y-o mother, whom i've always adored, and having my heart broken at her transition and cycling down into dementia. mr. ashton, your journey does not stop the ones who love you from loving and cherishing you. even after your mind has left you, you will still abide in their hearts; i know this from double experience. you will never be a thing but a being of love and joyous memories to them. you are kindness, love, generosity, and grace. bless you and yours.
We send you our love as you help your mother during this final phase of her journey. She is blessed to have you by her side. And thank you for these precious words of truth, about how love does always live on. We send you warm hugs. Justine and Michael x
sobbing reading all these comments... re-membering there is humaness in this world, still... even amidst all the atrocities we have and still do to each other. paul and justine and michael, and those who care for loved ones ... you are the best of us shining. deepest bow to you all.❤
Wow thank you for sharing! 🙏🦋 Firstly as you were speaking, it occurred to me that you are actually living the gift of being in this moment - no past, no future, just Now and we all need to do a lot more of that in our lives. To slow down, to enjoy the moment, to be grateful for what we have been given and the beauty that is around us. I have to write things down also - it is easier than trying to retain a whole lot of stuff in my head. Dementia isn’t all bad. My father and I never got on very well, however as dementia took over, it softened him and I began to see someone I liked a bit. One day when his dementia had progressed a lot, I took him on an outing to give Mum a break. As we got out of the car and were walking to the cafe, he put his arm around me and said “ I remember you. I love you. “ My father had never told me he loved me and I certainly hadn’t felt loved by him. It was like he had been given a brief glimmer of cognition and knew it was his last chance to let me know. The title of this video is Erased- Cancelled but I want to call it Seen and Honoured. 🙏🦋 Thank you for sharing. With Iove from Australia 💕
My Dear, you will never turn into a "thing". Who you ARE the kindness, intelligence and brillance of YOU cannot be wiped out. Your wife, your daughters, those you have touched in this lifetime WILL remember, even if you do not.❤
This has to be the most touching and beautiful film you have ever had the privilege to make. This man is a wonderful soul. Wonderful. It touched me very deeply.
Thank you so much for these kind words - it means so much to us. Paul really is a wonderful soul, and we're grateful to him for allowing us to make this film together with him! Sending our best wishes. Justine and Michael. x
This handsome, deeply thoughtful and beautifully kind soul will never be forgotten or remembered in any other way by those he loved and even those of us he will never know whom had the privilege to know him thru this video. Had myself a good cry over this one indeed. He reminds me of my own father who is also grappling with this condition. Like him, he is also physically fit. The irony of it all strikes me. I wish him all the best and moments of awe and joy to last each and every day. ❤
What an incredibly moving message. Thank you for sharing this here after watching the film. We send love to you and your dad, for what lies ahead in the unknown future of the days, months and years ahead. May your days too be filled with awe and joy. Justine and Michael 💚
When you accept what is, you free yourself from stress, and proceed to enjoy life and heal yourself.... When you deny reality and fight against your present reality....you struggle and begin a war within yourself, where you ultimately lose. My friends, live in the present moment and love everything that is going on in and around you, and there you will shine. I promise.
This is one of the most worthy of our time videos to watch here. My dad suffered from dementia due to diabetes. His started when he was 65 until his death at 76. Although it was quite challenging for all of us I cherished this time immensely because I still had my father whereas others lose them suddenly and do not get the slightest time to realize it, to share moments, to say good bye. At the end he didn't remember my name or who I was to him but the bond was always there. His last words to me, the last day I saw him , one afternoon and only ten hours before he passed, were: Nothing really matters in this world but love. Only love. I swear to God this is what he said exactly and I will remember it till the day I die. I am sure your daughters prefer you living even with dementia than dying. It's the constant reminder that they will lose you that hurts. That's all. But then again, there seems to be a price for everything in this world. They will feel great relief that you will not be in any pain or sorrow because of your condition. Life is precious. Love, even more.. and though you may not remember it you will feel it. I could see it in my dad's eyes.
What an incredibly powerful message, shared from your own personal experiences. Thank you for sharing this here with us. And may you always carry these precious memories of time with your dad, close to your heart. Justine and Michael 💚
Y a-t-il quelque chose de plus émouvant, et de plus beau, que la vulnérabilité qui s'offre ainsi, dans la dignité ? Toute ma gratitude pour le long, long parcours qui sans doute vous permet aujourd'hui de nous livrer ces moments d'humanité si bienfaisants, sans jamais esquiver la gravité. Votre chaîne est un espace miroitant, où contempler notre commune humanité, où nous souvenir que chacun à sa façon témoigne de la même quête, la seule, qui fait de nous des frères et soeurs. Merci à vous, merci à chacune des personnes qui ont accepté d'offrir leur être à la caméra.
... merci pour jolie votre commentaire humain et d'avoir ressentie la "vulnérabilité" et "dignité" dans ce document Christine ! Le faite que le sujet filmé à autorisé ( je l'espère ) que les séquences ou il pleure la perte de sa mémoire / tête est extraordinaire. C'est Michael & Justine qui lui ont donné l'espace de sécurité pour se "confesser" et laisser aller. Une "chaîne" qui permet de réfléchir et contempler des sujets intéressants mais parfois dépourvue de CONTEXTE pour favoriser l'esthétique de l'image, ce que je trouve frustrant et parfois. Le commentaire plus haut de Maike 80 console nous craintes pour le sujet ( mais qu'est ce qu'il va devenir) : "I am a nurse and work with patients who suffer from dementia.... " elle fait une projection positive malgré le drame ou quelqu'un se perdra de plus en plus. Bien à vous !
What a beautiful message - thank you. And we agree - the biggest thanks goes to every person who has opened their hearts and their homes, allowing to share a part of their story here through our films. Without them, we'd have nothing to share. Sending much love. Justine and Michael. x
Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Though wise men at their end know dark is right, Because their words had forked no lightning they Do not go gentle into that good night. Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight, And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way, Do not go gentle into that good night. Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay, Rage, rage against the dying of the light. And you, my father, there on the sad height, Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray. Do not go gentle into that good night. Rage, rage against the dying of the light - Dylan Thomas
Takes strength to open up and share your soul. Kindness and love pouring out here. Triggered and fueled by a long lifetime of experiences (both good and bad).
You dear beautiful brave & humble man, will NOT be remembered for your last days but who you are in your heart & soul. My grandmother had Alzheimer's & even though she did "forget" us she still knew how to love & my mother had 4 strokes and it was my privilege to be her caregiver & even though she was aphasic she still was able to communicate her love for me & others she loved. And I can assure you while I do remember those final months & years of these two women who shaped me, those "conditions" were NOT who they were & that is not what I focus on, only how beautiful & grateful I am that I had them in my life.
What a deeply moving message that you have shared here. Thank you for these words, and for sharing a small bit of your own experience - caring for, and loving these two special women in your life. They were blessed to have you beside them. Hugs. Justine and Michael x
Another take-my-breath-away film. I’m in awe of how articulate he is in light of this diagnosis. I’m deeply moved by this beautiful man & that you captured him as you did. Gorgeous shots & color! A true masterpiece. So often I’m at a loss for words after watching your films. When I glance at the comments, your audience says everything I want to say. Beautiful people have been drawn to you. (Of course). Thank you for this gift of a human. His insights, vulnerability & heart will live on.
Our hearts light up extra brightly when we see your name dear Linda. Thank you, for everything. Your words of kindness and support mean so much to us. 💚
I echo everyone who commented before me: You are not and will never be a burden, a thing: You are a brilliant man, shining through your intelligence and Love. Beautiful soul, thank you for your gift to us all.
I have tears falling from my face. Paul, thank you. Our body is an envelope, the soul the letter. Yours is a Poem. I would be the most blissed out daughter on this Planet if I had a dad like you, even if your mind was totally gone a heart like yours would always guide me Home. I love you. Thank you for remembering me of all the wonder...of all the beauty... Of how in order to become it All we have to become nothing first. 🤍🪻
Wow - these deeply moving words are so heartfelt. Thank you for sharing. We are hoping that Paul will be reading through these comments, and that your words will reach him. Warmest of wishes to you. Justine and Michael 💚
While not every man may express themselves in the same way, there are definitely men out there who embody the same qualities of reflection, honesty, and vulnerability. We hope more people come to recognize and appreciate the raw beauty of being truly authentic, regardless of gender. Justine and Michael x
You are such wonderful story tellers. You find people with so much soul. All I see as a viewer is a man full of curiosity for life. His sense of place and awareness is indisputable. What a wonderful life this man continues to experience and I feel all the richer for sitting here in silence for 17:51 minutes basking in his wisdom and reflection on his life. Thank you Justine and Micheal for another life affirming piece of magic. x
Thank you for these kind words of appreciation for all that Paul shared with us. It truly is our pleasure to share these stories with you, and messages like yours inspire us to keep creating! Sending our love. Justine and Michael. x
I have braindamage after accident and have this to what this kind man speaks about. I must write things down. This helps me to remember. Thats frustrating but it is what is. Love, our true nature and spirit shines limitless and with no bounderies true me, my body, my source ❤ i life in the now ❤ thats all that is and its okay ❤
I too have a brain injury, due to a work accident. I have struggled for 25 years. Don't allow others to cancel you. Do what you love. Read and enjoy even though you are not able to remember. The word and pictures your mind creates through reading are inspiring. Write your letters to your loved ones. Try not to put it off. It will nag your mind. Enjoy any beauty you encounter. Breathe deeply. ❤
This is what I believe - Each one of us has come to this earth to initiate ourselves and others. Our life initiations are brutal, wonderful, sad, inspiring…all of them with the same purpose - to ENLARGE our beings to navigate purpose and awe. This beautiful man will be offering the gift of initiations into greater compassion, grace and authenticity to his people, even after he might not be able to recognize or communicate with them. I send him blessings and deep bow, for sharing so profoundly, from his heart. ♥️
What a wonderful man. Dementia/Alzheimers is such a cruel disease that robs people of their minds and memories but the memories their families have of them will live on forever in their hearts. ❤
“..I need to say ‘I love you, before I can’t”…there it is in a nutshell. Exquisitely made with such profound sensitivity. Research is showing us that diet is central to the health of our brains; this why dementia is now referred to as Diabetes Type 3. So a good start recommended is to avoid sugar, gluten, refined carbs and alcohol…..for starters. Avoid plastics (microplastics are found in the brain of those with dementia), seek a life away from stress and be in nature and fresh air and surround yourself with loving people❤
animal protein and animal fat for muscle repair , metabolism, mental health, brain function, hormonal balance -we have been brain washed into thinking you need to prioritise, fibre, grains, and vegetables since the late seventies early eighties-now it’s all coming out-low carb is now being officially recognised in guidelines-next will be prioritising, healthy animal fats and animal protein especially beef and lamb. More and more health professionals and Doctors are catching on.
your channel is such a gift and this is one of the most beautiful films that you've created. it sparked a myriad of emotions in me - we can't appreciate death until we've lived and acknowledged life. god bless this man and hid family.
Thank you so much for these kind words about our films. But the greatest of thanks must go to each person, just like Paul, who has shared their story with us, from a place of such open authenticity. Without them, we'd have nothing to share. Sending best wishes. Justine and Michael x
My father suffered from dementia for 10 years before he passed. I could have coped with just memory loss, but what was hardest was that his whole personality changed, and for the last 5 years he was completely different. It was a hard road to walk, but the family walked it together and we did right by him. I wish this family all the strength in the world, and I treasure all the memories I have of my father and know that I will always carry him with me.
Thank you for sharing a small bit about your own personal experiences. We hope that you continue to hold those precious memories of your father, close to your heart. 💚
Ah, thank you so much for this. It means a lot to have your support - and messages just like this inspire us to keep creating. Thank you! Sending love. Justine and Michael. 💚
Sir, I can tell by your thoughts that you are a good spouse and father. You are not a burden. My father died of a rare cancer - he could have argued that was a burden. It wasn’t. As parents we teach our kids how to live and then how to exit this world. None of us know the rate of our own decline or when we will be called home to the other side. We are all in the same boat in a way. Sending love from the other side of the world. I really enjoyed your words and poetry.
It is wonderful to know that this story resonated so deeply with you. Your father was blessed to be surrounded by his family during this final phase, together in love. 💚
Thank you for such an honest moving video. I get the feeling that his life is a beautiful book and those people know they are loved. Such a thoughtful lovely man thank you for sharing
I'm deeply sorry. I understand. Your loved ones love you, no matter, and think no less of you in any state. Enjoy each moment and trust all will be well. Tenderest prayers for your peace.
I simply cannot express to you enough the gift that you bring to this world by sharing these stories. Hearing stories is one of my favorite bits of this existence as it connects us to others and it brings perspective to our own lives. Through your content we are reminded to be grateful for the seemingly mundane things we often take for granted - not only reading a book but remembering the page before it, not only knowing people but loving them deeply and feeling that love in return, not only the joy of living here and now but also that nostalgia is a priviledge. We, the viewers, remember the gift of remembering. Thank you for reminding us of some of the things that truly matter. Thank you for reminding us of each other.
Your message means so much to us. Thank you for seeing the value in each and every story that we share, for believing in the power of learning from each other and exploring our shared humanity. It is so wonderful to have you along on this journey together with us. Sending much love. Justine and Michael x
Dear Paul. Thank you for sharing a snippet of your beautiful life. I felt the love and appreciation you had for your surroundings and your family. I cried along with you as you spoke of not wanting to create pain for others. From what you said, I gathered you have had a life well lived thus far and you referenced the song "Love is all you need". I will send another Beatles song quote to you...." and in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make" . Thanks for sharing your love. Sending some back to you and your family. Keep moving, be peaceful, share love❤
Dear Paul, your heart is filled with love! You express yourself naturally and beautifully. You are courageous....tell people close to you that you love them. Blessings, Steve 💓🙏
No matter how much we may forget as we get older in life....we ALWAYS remember how good a hug or even the simple words of I love you feel. LOVE has no memory loss.
Došla sam iz šetnje u prirodi koja me opušta i raduje,tišina i mir pred kraj dana ❤poslušala sam ovu priču i upuno stvari mogu razumjet o čemu govori❤tako su posebni ljudi i njihove priče o životu hvala vam što nalazite takve ljude i darujete nam dio njihovog života u kojem se mogu i sama pronači❤neznam kako se čovjek zove ali želim mu da uživa u švakom svjesnom trenutku života,nek ne razmišlja o budučnosti koja če doči i bit če onako kako mora biti,jer kraj tj. novi početak sve nas čeka jednog dana❤puno mira,ljubavi i radosti njemu i vama Justine iMichael iz maglovitog Lovasa❤hvala iprevoditeljuDavoru❤
Thank you for seeing such beauty in this story, and for allowing Paul's words to touch your heart. It's wonderful to have you along on this journey together with us. And we too are grateful to Davor for all of his help with the translations. We send love. Justine and Michael. x
Superb - both the man and his story, told here in a very artful way. After caring for elders the last 15 years--all with dementia, the last one only recently gone--I feel grateful for what was learned and experienced. As the buddhists say, "there is no birth, there is no death": we are consciousness, embodied for a very short time in this often beautiful, sometimes terrifying place. G*d bless Mr. Ashton and his family, as we are all one.
Very moving words - thank you for sharing this message. And thank you for all of the care that you gave to those during their final phase, when they needed it most. We send you our gratitude. Justine and Michael. x
You are still very lucky, man. Not many people can live in such beautiful surroundings. Additionally you are still in a very good shape. My mom has dementia and she forgets a lot, her own children names etc but still can ejoy a lot of things. Take heart!
What a delightful man and a truthful look at what the reality of life is. No matter what, death will come to all of us and I think having the ability to accept it without fear is such a blessing.
Thank you for these kind words that you share here for Paul after watching his film. So glad to know that this one touched your heart. Justine and Michael. x
A profound film of a lucid, visionary, wise and immensely loving being who, as always, confronts us with truth and poetry at the precipice. Thank you Paul! Your life is a glorious gift... and now it is shared with many more thousands of people through this most wonderful film.
Thank you so much for your beautiful words! We’re so grateful to Paul for sharing his wisdom and heart with us all. It’s truly an honor to be able to bring his story to a wider audience. We’re glad the film resonated with you, and we’re excited to continue sharing these precious moments with everyone. Justine and Michael x
So grateful that this sweet film ended with his understanding that a book closes, "ashes to ashes". That coming to terms with the inevitable allows one to go gently into the night. Rage never helps. Not his wife, not his daughters. Thank you.
Very beautifully said - 'coming to terms with the inevitable allows one to go gently into the night.' Thanks for sharing. Sending warm hugs to you. Justine and Michael. x
What a heartbreaking story. This gentleman is going through the last stage of his life and it is, of course, painful to let go of those you love. I adore him allowing his fear, his sensitivity and all his humanity to be expressed freely. I thank him for letting us see him as he is. What a magnificent human being. However, i wouldn’t deny himself or his wife and daughters the joy of enjoying his company now. Being completely alone is what is hurting him so much. Much love and respect to him.
Thanks for this message of appreciate for all that Paul shared with us through his story. While it might look (from the visuals of this film) that Paul is all alone, he lives with his wonderful wife and rescued dog, and receives regular visits from his daughter. He is surrounded by love 💚
As an ex-South African, I must admit that I didn't realise how lovely it is around Heidelberg! I thought it was somewhere in the Cape... Mr. Ashton, nobody gets out of here alive. It's good that you are saying goodbye to your loved ones. I'm a healthy 80-year old but every day I realise that time is running out. And that's OK - I'm fine with that. Live your life as if there is no tomorrow and just BE.
Thanks for the kind words. And you are correct in your first thoughts - this was filmed in Heidelberg in the Western Cape (there is another Heidelberg in Gauteng province) 💚
I just wanted to reach out through the screen and hug you dear man. I worked in long term care for years and everyone is a special person. Prayers on your journey. ❤
My mother had a severe case of dementia. She was also a very kind, peaceful person. Please don't think that you will be a burden or a thing. Even if things get to the point where you are no longer the person you once were these qualities will remain. I had some really special times with my mom during her last year. Even though there were a few tough days the majority of the time we managed to still laugh and love right until the end. May God bless you and your family. Don't forget - you are not alone and you are loved. Please trust in this and don't worry. Take each day one at a time.
Thank you so much for sharing such a heartfelt and uplifting message. Your words are a beautiful reminder of the love and connection that can endure even in challenging times. It’s comforting to hear about the special moments you had with your mother, and your kindness means so much. We send our best wishes. Justine and Michael x
Thank you for sharing this wonderful gentleman's story with us. Usually we hear stories from the caregivers about how they are experiencing the slow loss of the person they love, but having this man tell his heartfelt story of how this is affecting him and his feelings....so powerful!
Thank you Kimberly, for seeing the beauty in all that Paul shared with us. He truly is a special man, and we're humbled that he allowed us to make this film together with him. Justine and Michael x
This was wonderful and I LOVE this man--someone who is so willing to articulate his worries, his love, and his grief at the book that will close. I have a few acquaintances with spouses on this long road of dementia and THEIR denial does not allow this type of openness on the part of the person who is actually experiencing the onset of dementia and the LOSS they feel. "Everything will be fine" could be "everything will be different but love will still be there."
sending you hugs, thoughts and prayers. You are not alone. My husband, who is nearly 80 is beginning to struggle..... with memory. Losing his train of thought and just feeling tired more and more. Cling to those who love you and be gentle with yourself.
Thank you so much for this support, which means so much to us, and helps us to continue to create and share these films. We send our love. Justine and Michael x
Thank you for sharing your story and giving me another perspective of Dementia. My mom has it. I am her caregiver. I love her very much, although I was becoming discouraged because she ofton lets me know I am not the one she would prefer. She has told me to leave twice, and at one point, I almost did, but I knew she could not live alone, so I stayed. I knew she was struggling. I want to do all I can so I can tell God, I did my best in this space and time. God bless you, Elaine
The problem of dementia is not forgetfulness but personality change, for worse, much worse sometimes. It can be a torture for a caregiver. So if you stay instead of running away that is true love. Divine love so to speak. God bless you and be strong ❤
Mum is very different. I sense little warmth and affection from her. She can be biting, rude and cruel to others who have done nothing to her. It is difficult to witness. Today, I realised that I don't appear in any of her memories. She has a private world I am not invited to. Where did the Mum I remember go?
@@mabellchurnoopay " we're dancing like flames,flickering in the night. We sway in time with the wind before melting away. You're far from my reach but not far out of sight...Where do you go when I close my eyes? What do you see looking back at me ? " Lorna Shore song
@@mabellchurnoopayA family member is in end stage Alzheimer’s. She does not know her husband who takes care of her, screams at him, is going blind, lost her ability to hold urine or feces, and spits on the floor. She is 76. It’s a terrible disease. Her husband says this is what he must do for God. The end is coming for everyone. Each day is one day less we have. Live forward. Wishing you the strength to carry on…❤️
The humanity in these series of films is truly incredible . Whenever I watch one I feel truly humbled and in awe of the human spirit because at its centre is love. How beautiful. I have such respect and admiration for everyone's contribution. Thank you.
And the greatest thanks goes to each and every person who has opened their home and hearts to us, sharing their experiences with us and allowing us to share these stories with the world. Without them, we'd have nothing to share 💚
He is a kind man. I felt his tears. I have never seen this disease from this perspective. This channel captures humanity like I've never seen before. Thank you.
Oh my goodness this really moved me. It's not often that I shed tears nowadays but I did here. My father is 91 and used to be extremely active in many similar ways. I have seen him disappear in so many ways. I constantly wonder what he thinks about in his very restricted existence now (he won't/can't talk about his emotions) but I imagine it's very similar to the wonderful way this man expresses himself. Your films are stunningly beautiful and heart rending. ❤
Thanks for opening your heart to all that Paul shared with us. And we are sorry to hear that your own father is slowing fading away - may you continue to hold precious memories of time spent together with him, close to your heart. Justine and Michael. x
Paul, thank you for sharing your story and challenges. I am probably 20 years behind you and dreading many of the things you mentioned. Stay strong. Stay positive. It sounds like you have a very supportive family to be thank for. I absolutely love where you live. It is so beautiful there. I was also quite impressed that you were able to dive into a spring on slippery rocks! :)
I love his way….❤. Thank you for sharing with us. I found when short term memory played up, I’ve had to let go and come more into the present moment. Rumi has written a beautiful text, that I wrote on the goodbye card for my dad, when he left this world: Knock and He’ll open the door. Vanish and He’ll make you shine like the sun Fall and He’ll raise you to the heavens Become nothing and He’ll turn you into everything.
Dear blessed soul , may.I say my dad had dementia and I can tell you honestly right up till his passing, he , still recognised me and was filled with so much love . And when he passed, he went so gently as if he was taken by the hand of god. Bless his soul. You are in my prayers
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Thank you. Justine & Michael 💚
Why would we want more films showing people pathetic and sad?
Hallo Justine & Michael,
gibt es eine Möglichkeit die Sendung auf Deutsch zu hören beziehungsweise zu lesen?
Liebe Grüße Edwina
@@kwimms It's not pathetic and sad, but profound and deeply moving and I, at least, feel enriched for having seen it.
A wonderful man,thank you,bless you.
Dear Michael, You have touched my soul. This film is beyond beautiful in so many ways. Your vulnerability and authenticity is🙌. Thank you.
I feel like I just watched a poem in motion, so full of genuine love and kindness.
I am a nurse and work with patients who suffer from dementia. The only thing that is left when memory declines is love. People with dementia love with amazing intensity, so please do not worry, you still will be loved and you will love….you will become the essence of being - love.
Thank you for your asertif and compasionated words ✨💛
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Amazing. I did not know that. Wow
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❤ thank you
What a wonderful human being. Not afraid to be vulnerable and show his emotions and soul. A privilege to meet him.
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yes, total privilege to meet you Paul Ashton.
This film was so touching. It's like this man reached within himself and gave us a piece of his soul.
Thank you for appreciating every word that Paul shared with us. It was such an honour to work on this film together with Paul. Sending best wishes. Justine and Michael. x
HE DID ! AND I THANK HIM AS IT WAS HARD TO DO!
I am an old man who is also starting to slip. Thanks for making a profoundly beautiful film.
That too is a brotherhood in which I am a member.
Big love to both of you beautiful men 🧡
Look for and find Jesus before your end. He promised joy for those who seek and find him. I pray that you will.
OLD WOMAN THING TOO BUT WHAT A RIDE!!!! COOLEST GENERATION EVER , AND THE BEST MUSIC!!
We send you much love and care 💚
Sir, you will NOT be “erased-cancelled.” You have touched so many lives here, with your honesty and emotion, that we will not forget it nor you.
Thank you for sharing these beautiful words of kindness. Justine and Michael 💚
You cannot be erased, we have come to know you. We will keep you relevant and aware ❤
exactly ❤
I think we can ALL agree that this man will be remembered one day as one of THE most beautiful of ALL men on earth!!!!!❤
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yes! ❤
His wife and daughters will treasure this video.
We will too.....seldom do we find men on earth with such Insight, foresight and Consideration....however he does NOT have a crystal ball and may progress so very slowly.........
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I sincerely ❤hope his family realizes what a wonderful being this man is❤. He has stolen my heart, giving me hope for what comes next in life. Having no expectations is sound advise, just enjoy everyday we have. ❤ Love to you and yours ❤❤
you are so brave to share your story with us. before i retired, i spent ten years caring for people with dementia. i want to assure you that you will still be 'you', right up to the end. you will not be a burden to your family or your friends or your caregivers. each one of my clients was a unique blessing, never to be forgotten. you will be remembered as the kind, thoughtful, loving man that you are. blessings from my heart to yours.
Mi corazón está contigo 💖 abrazos de luz
My experience of people with dementia is full of love. The soul want this to happen ! To retreat from the world as one know it, to become INNOCENT AS A CHILD, with all the best qualities, to become A BLESSING, A LIGHTBEING, the ONE one really IS. So Beautiful 🌟🌠
What if you have no family or caregivers
@@zippagraphics that is a very tough situation. i have friends in their 80s who have no children or family nearby. i worry about them because i honestly don't know what may happen. this is where having a living will can be of help but even that only goes so far. unfortunately, this happens all too often and it's heartbreaking.
@@zippagraphics it will depend on the country you live in.... in New Zealand the Family Court deals with applications for Guardianship Orders. The Court can appoint a lawyer and the person will have a medical assessment. The Court will get regular reports on the person... the Guardianship Orders, cover Welfare (of the person) and Property (financial matters). The Court can make decisions about where the person lives etc informed by the Dr and lawyer. Social Workers assist with these processes.
first, my father with alzheimer's for over a dozen years (died at 92, and my mother kept him at home for as long as she could until the last 5 months of his life), and now, i have moved to live down the hall from my soon-to-be 95-y-o mother, whom i've always adored, and having my heart broken at her transition and cycling down into dementia. mr. ashton, your journey does not stop the ones who love you from loving and cherishing you. even after your mind has left you, you will still abide in their hearts; i know this from double experience. you will never be a thing but a being of love and joyous memories to them. you are kindness, love, generosity, and grace. bless you and yours.
We send you our love as you help your mother during this final phase of her journey. She is blessed to have you by her side. And thank you for these precious words of truth, about how love does always live on. We send you warm hugs. Justine and Michael x
How very profound ❤
sobbing reading all these comments...
re-membering there is humaness in this world, still... even amidst all the atrocities we have and still do to each other.
paul and justine and michael, and those who care for loved ones ... you are the best of us shining. deepest bow to you all.❤
Wow thank you for sharing! 🙏🦋
Firstly as you were speaking, it occurred to me that you are actually living the gift of being in this moment - no past, no future, just Now and we all need to do a lot more of that in our lives. To slow down, to enjoy the moment, to be grateful for what we have been given and the beauty that is around us.
I have to write things down also - it is easier than trying to retain a whole lot of stuff in my head.
Dementia isn’t all bad. My father and I never got on very well, however as dementia took over, it softened him and I began to see someone I liked a bit. One day when his dementia had progressed a lot, I took him on an outing to give Mum a break. As we got out of the car and were walking to the cafe, he put his arm around me and said “ I remember you. I love you. “ My father had never told me he loved me and I certainly hadn’t felt loved by him. It was like he had been given a brief glimmer of cognition and knew it was his last chance to let me know.
The title of this video is Erased- Cancelled but I want to call it Seen and Honoured. 🙏🦋
Thank you for sharing.
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Thank you for sharing this beautiful experience.
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What a beautiful moment for you both 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story❤
My Dear, you will never turn into a "thing".
Who you ARE the kindness, intelligence and brillance of YOU cannot be wiped out. Your wife, your daughters, those you have touched in this lifetime WILL remember, even if you do not.❤
So beautifully said - deeply moving - thank you 💚
This has to be the most touching and beautiful film you have ever had the privilege to make. This man is a wonderful soul. Wonderful. It touched me very deeply.
Thank you so much for these kind words - it means so much to us. Paul really is a wonderful soul, and we're grateful to him for allowing us to make this film together with him! Sending our best wishes. Justine and Michael. x
His Humanity is so touching and palpable.
Thank you for appreciating this message that Paul shared, and for allowing his story to touch your heart. Justine and Michael x
Hear hear.
Gorgeous man, living in the moment, opening his heart. I don't know it, but I feel that his close bond with nature is somehow helping him.
Pretty sure, he is in his own peace.
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Man I felt so bad when he started crying. Such a great soul he is❤
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This beautiful human being is so full of wisdom. When he said I want to say I love you before I can’t. That thought alone is all there is. ❤
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I couldn't help but crying with him.
Same here 😢
Me too!😢
Thank you for opening your heart to all that Paul shared with us. Sending warm hugs. Justine and Michael. x
Nothing but love for this noble man and his family. They will remember you for your life not your end.
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Live the life that's full. You never know what is around the corner? A real gentleman.
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The reality of living is very hard as we get old. Bless this man.
So true.
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This handsome, deeply thoughtful and beautifully kind soul will never be forgotten or remembered in any other way by those he loved and even those of us he will never know whom had the privilege to know him thru this video. Had myself a good cry over this one indeed. He reminds me of my own father who is also grappling with this condition. Like him, he is also physically fit. The irony of it all strikes me. I wish him all the best and moments of awe and joy to last each and every day. ❤
What an incredibly moving message. Thank you for sharing this here after watching the film. We send love to you and your dad, for what lies ahead in the unknown future of the days, months and years ahead. May your days too be filled with awe and joy. Justine and Michael 💚
When you accept what is, you free yourself from stress, and proceed to enjoy life and heal yourself....
When you deny reality and fight against your present reality....you struggle and begin a war within yourself, where you ultimately lose.
My friends, live in the present moment and love everything that is going on in and around you, and there you will shine. I promise.
Lovely words...and so true!!!
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I hope so
I hope you don't mind I want to put this in my journal. I will note the words as quoted from you.
@AZsunflower I would be honored sweetheart...♥️
Very beautiful words of advice - thank you for sharing this with us all. x
This is one of the most worthy of our time videos to watch here.
My dad suffered from dementia due to diabetes. His started when he was 65 until his death at 76. Although it was quite challenging for all of us I cherished this time immensely because I still had my father whereas others lose them suddenly and do not get the slightest time to realize it, to share moments, to say good bye.
At the end he didn't remember my name or who I was to him but the bond was always there. His last words to me, the last day I saw him , one afternoon and only ten hours before he passed, were: Nothing really matters in this world but love. Only love.
I swear to God this is what he said exactly and I will remember it till the day I die.
I am sure your daughters prefer you living even with dementia than dying.
It's the constant reminder that they will lose you that hurts. That's all. But then again, there seems to be a price for everything in this world. They will feel great relief that you will not be in any pain or sorrow because of your condition.
Life is precious. Love, even more.. and though you may not remember it you will feel it.
I could see it in my dad's eyes.
What an incredibly powerful message, shared from your own personal experiences. Thank you for sharing this here with us. And may you always carry these precious memories of time with your dad, close to your heart. Justine and Michael 💚
@@ReflectionsofLife Thank you!! wanted to post a heart but don't know how!
Live each day and don't worry about tomorrow. There is only this moment.
Beautifully said, and your words echo the sentiments shared by Paul in this film. Sending you hugs. Justine and Michael. x
This beautiful soul is an example of what really it means to love everyone unconditionally even in the midst of his own suffering 😌
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Y a-t-il quelque chose de plus émouvant, et de plus beau, que la vulnérabilité qui s'offre ainsi, dans la dignité ? Toute ma gratitude pour le long, long parcours qui sans doute vous permet aujourd'hui de nous livrer ces moments d'humanité si bienfaisants, sans jamais esquiver la gravité. Votre chaîne est un espace miroitant, où contempler notre commune humanité, où nous souvenir que chacun à sa façon témoigne de la même quête, la seule, qui fait de nous des frères et soeurs. Merci à vous, merci à chacune des personnes qui ont accepté d'offrir leur être à la caméra.
... merci pour jolie votre commentaire humain et d'avoir ressentie la "vulnérabilité" et "dignité" dans ce document Christine ! Le faite que le sujet filmé à autorisé ( je l'espère ) que les séquences ou il pleure la perte de sa mémoire / tête est extraordinaire. C'est Michael & Justine qui lui ont donné l'espace de sécurité pour se "confesser" et laisser aller.
Une "chaîne" qui permet de réfléchir et contempler des sujets intéressants mais parfois dépourvue de CONTEXTE pour favoriser l'esthétique de l'image, ce que je trouve frustrant et parfois.
Le commentaire plus haut de Maike 80 console nous craintes pour le sujet ( mais qu'est ce qu'il va devenir) : "I am a nurse and work with patients who suffer from dementia.... " elle fait une projection positive malgré le drame ou quelqu'un se perdra de plus en plus. Bien à vous !
What a beautiful message - thank you. And we agree - the biggest thanks goes to every person who has opened their hearts and their homes, allowing to share a part of their story here through our films. Without them, we'd have nothing to share. Sending much love. Justine and Michael. x
"Do I go gently into that good night? Or do I rage, rage against the dying of the light?" - Wow 🙏🏼
Do not go gentle into that good night,
Old age should burn and rave at close of day;
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Though wise men at their end know dark is right,
Because their words had forked no lightning they
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Good men, the last wave by, crying how bright
Their frail deeds might have danced in a green bay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
Wild men who caught and sang the sun in flight,
And learn, too late, they grieved it on its way,
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Grave men, near death, who see with blinding sight
Blind eyes could blaze like meteors and be gay,
Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
And you, my father, there on the sad height,
Curse, bless, me now with your fierce tears, I pray.
Do not go gentle into that good night.
Rage, rage against the dying of the light
- Dylan Thomas
Takes strength to open up and share your soul. Kindness and love pouring out here. Triggered and fueled by a long lifetime of experiences (both good and bad).
Go gently my dear soul…go gently.
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@@FoursWithin thank you 🙏🏼
You dear beautiful brave & humble man, will NOT be remembered for your last days but who you are in your heart & soul. My grandmother had Alzheimer's & even though she did "forget" us she still knew how to love & my mother had 4 strokes and it was my privilege to be her caregiver & even though she was aphasic she still was able to communicate her love for me & others she loved. And I can assure you while I do remember those final months & years of these two women who shaped me, those "conditions" were NOT who they were & that is not what I focus on, only how beautiful & grateful I am that I had them in my life.
What a deeply moving message that you have shared here. Thank you for these words, and for sharing a small bit of your own experience - caring for, and loving these two special women in your life. They were blessed to have you beside them. Hugs. Justine and Michael x
Another take-my-breath-away film. I’m in awe of how articulate he is in light of this diagnosis. I’m deeply moved by this beautiful man & that you captured him as you did. Gorgeous shots & color! A true masterpiece. So often I’m at a loss for words after watching your films. When I glance at the comments, your audience says everything I want to say. Beautiful people have been drawn to you. (Of course). Thank you for this gift of a human. His insights, vulnerability & heart will live on.
Your comment is beautiful❤
Our hearts light up extra brightly when we see your name dear Linda. Thank you, for everything. Your words of kindness and support mean so much to us. 💚
@@lindaparisi74 Agreed! Big Time. Perfectly expressed! Thank you!
I echo everyone who commented before me: You are not and will never be a burden, a thing: You are a brilliant man, shining through your intelligence and Love. Beautiful soul, thank you for your gift to us all.
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I have tears falling from my face.
Paul, thank you.
Our body is an envelope, the soul the letter.
Yours is a Poem.
I would be the most blissed out daughter on this Planet if I had a dad like you, even if your mind was totally gone a heart like yours would always guide me Home.
I love you.
Thank you for remembering me of all the wonder...of all the beauty...
Of how in order to become it All we have to become nothing first.
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@@lilianasousa5401 Such lovely words straight from your heart! I felt their power too. Yes a truly poetic loving kind gentleman. Made me cry. 💐💕
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Wow - these deeply moving words are so heartfelt. Thank you for sharing. We are hoping that Paul will be reading through these comments, and that your words will reach him. Warmest of wishes to you. Justine and Michael 💚
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I didn’t know men like this existed. I want more men like this. Was he always so reflective, raw, honest and beautiful? Where are these men?
While not every man may express themselves in the same way, there are definitely men out there who embody the same qualities of reflection, honesty, and vulnerability. We hope more people come to recognize and appreciate the raw beauty of being truly authentic, regardless of gender. Justine and Michael x
Indeed.. where are these men. If they exist, they are far far few in number.
❤ You touched my heart and my soul. Thank you for that. Beautiful human being
And thanks to you, for appreciating all that Paul shared with us. Justine and Michael x
What a beautiful, thoughtful, kind, loving and honest man. Thank you
And thanks to you, for appreciating all that Paul shared with us. Justine and Michael x
Thank you so much for sharing this story!! His kindness, wisdom, vulnerability, and honesty touched me deeply!!
Thank you for tuning in and appreciating all that Paul shared with us. We send our love. Justine and Michael. x
You are such wonderful story tellers. You find people with so much soul. All I see as a viewer is a man full of curiosity for life. His sense of place and awareness is indisputable. What a wonderful life this man continues to experience and I feel all the richer for sitting here in silence for 17:51 minutes basking in his wisdom and reflection on his life. Thank you Justine and Micheal for another life affirming piece of magic. x
It's for me the same feeling. Thank you so much to touch the heart. O lovely man. Thanks for sharing this and filmmakers!❤
Thank you for these kind words of appreciation for all that Paul shared with us. It truly is our pleasure to share these stories with you, and messages like yours inspire us to keep creating! Sending our love. Justine and Michael. x
I have braindamage after accident and have this to what this kind man speaks about. I must write things down. This helps me to remember. Thats frustrating but it is what is. Love, our true nature and spirit shines limitless and with no bounderies true me, my body, my source ❤ i life in the now ❤ thats all that is and its okay ❤
Was this cancelled?
Absolutely beautiful and moving. ❤
❤ Yes Yes 🎉 and Thank You ❤
I too have a brain injury, due to a work accident. I have struggled for 25 years. Don't allow others to cancel you. Do what you love. Read and enjoy even though you are not able to remember. The word and pictures your mind creates through reading are inspiring. Write your letters to your loved ones. Try not to put it off. It will nag your mind. Enjoy any beauty you encounter. Breathe deeply. ❤
So beautifully said - and may you continue to be surrounded by love 💚
This is what I believe - Each one of us has come to this earth to initiate ourselves and others. Our life initiations are brutal, wonderful, sad, inspiring…all of them with the same purpose - to ENLARGE our beings to navigate purpose and awe. This beautiful man will be offering the gift of initiations into greater compassion, grace and authenticity to his people, even after he might not be able to recognize or communicate with them. I send him blessings and deep bow, for sharing so profoundly, from his heart. ♥️
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What a wonderful man.
Dementia/Alzheimers is such a cruel disease that robs people of their minds and memories but the memories their families have of them will live on forever in their hearts. ❤
So beautifully said. 💚
“..I need to say ‘I love you, before I can’t”…there it is in a nutshell. Exquisitely made with such profound sensitivity.
Research is showing us that diet is central to the health of our brains; this why dementia is now referred to as Diabetes Type 3. So a good start recommended is to avoid sugar, gluten, refined carbs and alcohol…..for starters. Avoid plastics (microplastics are found in the brain of those with dementia), seek a life away from stress and be in nature and fresh air and surround yourself with loving people❤
So true I totally agree with you
Yes, beautifully said. I agree and have experienced myself: a 100% gluten-free diet, low sugar/starch and healthy fats are so essential.
animal protein and animal fat for muscle repair , metabolism, mental health, brain function, hormonal balance -we have been brain washed into thinking you need to prioritise, fibre, grains, and vegetables since the late seventies early eighties-now it’s all coming out-low carb is now being officially recognised in guidelines-next will be prioritising, healthy animal fats and animal protein especially beef and lamb. More and more health professionals and Doctors are catching on.
So wonderful to know that this story touched your heart so deeply 💚
your channel is such a gift and this is one of the most beautiful films that you've created. it sparked a myriad of emotions in me - we can't appreciate death until we've lived and acknowledged life. god bless this man and hid family.
Thank you so much for these kind words about our films. But the greatest of thanks must go to each person, just like Paul, who has shared their story with us, from a place of such open authenticity. Without them, we'd have nothing to share. Sending best wishes. Justine and Michael x
My father suffered from dementia for 10 years before he passed. I could have coped with just memory loss, but what was hardest was that his whole personality changed, and for the last 5 years he was completely different. It was a hard road to walk, but the family walked it together and we did right by him. I wish this family all the strength in the world, and I treasure all the memories I have of my father and know that I will always carry him with me.
Thank you for sharing a small bit about your own personal experiences. We hope that you continue to hold those precious memories of your father, close to your heart. 💚
These videos fill me with such deep love. you guys are doing something really special with this channel and you hold these stories so beautifully x
Ah, thank you so much for this. It means a lot to have your support - and messages just like this inspire us to keep creating. Thank you! Sending love. Justine and Michael. 💚
Such a kind, intellegint man, beautiful inside and out, is how he'll be remembered. Thank you, Sir.
And thanks to you, for appreciating all that Paul shared with us. Justine and Michael x
Sir, I can tell by your thoughts that you are a good spouse and father. You are not a burden. My father died of a rare cancer - he could have argued that was a burden. It wasn’t. As parents we teach our kids how to live and then how to exit this world. None of us know the rate of our own decline or when we will be called home to the other side. We are all in the same boat in a way. Sending love from the other side of the world. I really enjoyed your words and poetry.
It is wonderful to know that this story resonated so deeply with you. Your father was blessed to be surrounded by his family during this final phase, together in love. 💚
God bless this beautiful human being❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
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Thank you for such an honest moving video. I get the feeling that his life is a beautiful book and those people know they are loved. Such a thoughtful lovely man thank you for sharing
And thanks to you, for taking the time to watch and appreciate all that Paul shared with us 💚
I'm deeply sorry. I understand.
Your loved ones love you, no matter, and think no less of you in any state. Enjoy each moment and trust all will be well. Tenderest prayers for your peace.
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You lovely soul...your statements touches me to tears... thanks for sharing them...❤
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I simply cannot express to you enough the gift that you bring to this world by sharing these stories. Hearing stories is one of my favorite bits of this existence as it connects us to others and it brings perspective to our own lives. Through your content we are reminded to be grateful for the seemingly mundane things we often take for granted - not only reading a book but remembering the page before it, not only knowing people but loving them deeply and feeling that love in return, not only the joy of living here and now but also that nostalgia is a priviledge. We, the viewers, remember the gift of remembering.
Thank you for reminding us of some of the things that truly matter. Thank you for reminding us of each other.
Your message means so much to us. Thank you for seeing the value in each and every story that we share, for believing in the power of learning from each other and exploring our shared humanity. It is so wonderful to have you along on this journey together with us. Sending much love. Justine and Michael x
Wowwww!!! They are located in a paradise. Gorgeous. He is a beautiful being
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Such a lovely man, I wish I could crawl through my screen and give him a hug. I wish for him to see the kindness he personifies.❤
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Dear Paul. Thank you for sharing a snippet of your beautiful life. I felt the love and appreciation you had for your surroundings and your family. I cried along with you as you spoke of not wanting to create pain for others. From what you said, I gathered you have had a life well lived thus far and you referenced the song "Love is all you need". I will send another Beatles song quote to you...." and in the end, the love you take, is equal to the love you make" . Thanks for sharing your love. Sending some back to you and your family. Keep moving, be peaceful, share love❤
What a deeply moving and heartfelt message you share here for Paul to read. Thank you 💚
Dear Paul, your heart is filled with love! You express yourself naturally and beautifully. You are courageous....tell people close to you that you love them. Blessings, Steve 💓🙏
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No matter how much we may forget as we get older in life....we ALWAYS remember how good a hug or even the simple words of I love you feel. LOVE has no memory loss.
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Thank you, kind sir. Thank you for reminding me that life is for living.
And thanks to you, for appreciating all that Paul shared with us. Justine and Michael x
Došla sam iz šetnje u prirodi koja me opušta i raduje,tišina i mir pred kraj dana ❤poslušala sam ovu priču i upuno stvari mogu razumjet o čemu govori❤tako su posebni ljudi i njihove priče o životu hvala vam što nalazite takve ljude i darujete nam dio njihovog života u kojem se mogu i sama pronači❤neznam kako se čovjek zove ali želim mu da uživa u švakom svjesnom trenutku života,nek ne razmišlja o budučnosti koja če doči i bit če onako kako mora biti,jer kraj tj. novi početak sve nas čeka jednog dana❤puno mira,ljubavi i radosti njemu i vama Justine iMichael iz maglovitog Lovasa❤hvala iprevoditeljuDavoru❤
Thank you for seeing such beauty in this story, and for allowing Paul's words to touch your heart. It's wonderful to have you along on this journey together with us. And we too are grateful to Davor for all of his help with the translations. We send love. Justine and Michael. x
Superb - both the man and his story, told here in a very artful way. After caring for elders the last 15 years--all with dementia, the last one only recently gone--I feel grateful for what was learned and experienced. As the buddhists say, "there is no birth, there is no death": we are consciousness, embodied for a very short time in this often beautiful, sometimes terrifying place. G*d bless Mr. Ashton and his family, as we are all one.
Your comment is beautifully written and true. Thank you.
Very moving words - thank you for sharing this message. And thank you for all of the care that you gave to those during their final phase, when they needed it most. We send you our gratitude. Justine and Michael. x
You are still very lucky, man. Not many people can live in such beautiful surroundings. Additionally you are still in a very good shape. My mom has dementia and she forgets a lot, her own children names etc but still can ejoy a lot of things. Take heart!
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What a delightful man and a truthful look at what the reality of life is. No matter what, death will come to all of us and I think having the ability to accept it without fear is such a blessing.
Thank you for these kind words of support after watching Paul's film. 💚
"What is coming is the end". Oh my goodness, I thought this was so incredibly beautiful in its non-clinging, matter-of-factness. Thank you (all)
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So much love and big big hugs winging your way from me…bless you…sweet sweet soul.🙏🏻🕊️♥️
Thank you for these kind words that you share here for Paul after watching his film. So glad to know that this one touched your heart. Justine and Michael. x
The rawness of his honesty was almost unbearable. I wish him and his family so much peace. Lovely, lovely man.
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This IS Love! All there is, no matter the disguise.🙏❤️
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A profound film of a lucid, visionary, wise and immensely loving being who, as always, confronts us with truth and poetry at the precipice. Thank you Paul! Your life is a glorious gift... and now it is shared with many more thousands of people through this most wonderful film.
Thank you so much for your beautiful words! We’re so grateful to Paul for sharing his wisdom and heart with us all. It’s truly an honor to be able to bring his story to a wider audience. We’re glad the film resonated with you, and we’re excited to continue sharing these precious moments with everyone. Justine and Michael x
So grateful that this sweet film ended with his understanding that a book closes, "ashes to ashes". That coming to terms with the inevitable allows one to go gently into the night. Rage never helps. Not his wife, not his daughters. Thank you.
Very beautifully said - 'coming to terms with the inevitable allows one to go gently into the night.' Thanks for sharing. Sending warm hugs to you. Justine and Michael. x
Paul you are such a lovely man, thank you for sharing your life’ s journey. Sending you healing love and many blessings ❤
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What a heartbreaking story. This gentleman is going through the last stage of his life and it is, of course, painful to let go of those you love.
I adore him allowing his fear, his sensitivity and all his humanity to be expressed freely. I thank him for letting us see him as he is. What a magnificent human being. However, i wouldn’t deny himself or his wife and daughters the joy of enjoying his company now. Being completely alone is what is hurting him so much.
Much love and respect to him.
Thanks for this message of appreciate for all that Paul shared with us through his story. While it might look (from the visuals of this film) that Paul is all alone, he lives with his wonderful wife and rescued dog, and receives regular visits from his daughter. He is surrounded by love 💚
As an ex-South African, I must admit that I didn't realise how lovely it is around Heidelberg! I thought it was somewhere in the Cape...
Mr. Ashton, nobody gets out of here alive. It's good that you are saying goodbye to your loved ones. I'm a healthy 80-year old but every day I realise that time is running out. And that's OK - I'm fine with that.
Live your life as if there is no tomorrow and just BE.
Thanks for the kind words. And you are correct in your first thoughts - this was filmed in Heidelberg in the Western Cape (there is another Heidelberg in Gauteng province) 💚
@ReflectionsofLife Ah, that explains it! Thank you.
I just wanted to reach out through the screen and hug you dear man. I worked in long term care for years and everyone is a special person. Prayers on your journey. ❤
Thank you for sharing these beautiful words of kindness. Justine and Michael x
I love this man.
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I wept with you dear man
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My mother had a severe case of dementia. She was also a very kind, peaceful person. Please don't think that you will be a burden or a thing. Even if things get to the point where you are no longer the person you once were these qualities will remain. I had some really special times with my mom during her last year. Even though there were a few tough days the majority of the time we managed to still laugh and love right until the end. May God bless you and your family. Don't forget - you are not alone and you are loved. Please trust in this and don't worry. Take each day one at a time.
Thank you so much for sharing such a heartfelt and uplifting message. Your words are a beautiful reminder of the love and connection that can endure even in challenging times. It’s comforting to hear about the special moments you had with your mother, and your kindness means so much. We send our best wishes. Justine and Michael x
This Is Love.
Thank You to Paul and the Channel.
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Please let me hug this beautiful soul. Thank you for yet another gorgeously touching piece of life that has made me cry. The world needs more of THIS.
Thanks for seeing the value in each new story that we share. It's great to have you along on this journey together with us. Justine and Michael x
Thank you for sharing this wonderful gentleman's story with us. Usually we hear stories from the caregivers about how they are experiencing the slow loss of the person they love, but having this man tell his heartfelt story of how this is affecting him and his feelings....so powerful!
Thank you Kimberly, for seeing the beauty in all that Paul shared with us. He truly is a special man, and we're humbled that he allowed us to make this film together with him. Justine and Michael x
This was wonderful and I LOVE this man--someone who is so willing to articulate his worries, his love, and his grief at the book that will close. I have a few acquaintances with spouses on this long road of dementia and THEIR denial does not allow this type of openness on the part of the person who is actually experiencing the onset of dementia and the LOSS they feel. "Everything will be fine" could be "everything will be different but love will still be there."
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Thank you. The mountains will help you and your loved ones. They always do.
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This guy broke my heart. To be what he once was is a gift so few have received; a remarkable man is very much still awake.
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sending you hugs, thoughts and prayers. You are not alone. My husband, who is nearly 80 is beginning to struggle..... with memory. Losing his train of thought and just feeling tired more and more. Cling to those who love you and be gentle with yourself.
We send you and your husband much love and care, for the journey that lies ahead for you both. We hold you in our hearts. Justine and Michael. x
@@ReflectionsofLife Thank you so very much.
Thank You Beautiful Soul for shining your light.
Love, love,love to you and yours as you continue on your journey 🙏🏼
Thank you so much for this support, which means so much to us, and helps us to continue to create and share these films. We send our love. Justine and Michael x
Thank you for sharing your story and giving me another perspective of Dementia. My mom has it. I am her caregiver. I love her very much, although I was becoming discouraged because she ofton lets me know I am not the one she would prefer. She has told me to leave twice, and at one point, I almost did, but I knew she could not live alone, so I stayed. I knew she was struggling. I want to do all I can so I can tell God, I did my best in this space and time.
God bless you,
Elaine
The problem of dementia is not forgetfulness but personality change, for worse, much worse sometimes. It can be a torture for a caregiver. So if you stay instead of running away that is true love. Divine love so to speak. God bless you and be strong ❤
Mum is very different. I sense little warmth and affection from her. She can be biting, rude and cruel to others who have done nothing to her. It is difficult to witness. Today, I realised that I don't appear in any of her memories. She has a private world I am not invited to. Where did the Mum I remember go?
@@mabellchurnoopay " we're dancing like flames,flickering in the night. We sway in time with the wind before melting away. You're far from my reach but not far out of sight...Where do you go when I close my eyes? What do you see looking back at me ? " Lorna Shore song
@@mabellchurnoopayA family member is in end stage Alzheimer’s. She does not know her husband who takes care of her, screams at him, is going blind, lost her ability to hold urine or feces, and spits on the floor. She is 76. It’s a terrible disease. Her husband says this is what he must do for God. The end is coming for everyone. Each day is one day less we have. Live forward. Wishing you the strength to carry on…❤️
God bless YOU, Elaine. You are a good daughter.
The humanity in these series of films is truly incredible . Whenever I watch one I feel truly humbled and in awe of the human spirit because at its centre is love. How beautiful. I have such respect and admiration
for everyone's contribution. Thank you.
And the greatest thanks goes to each and every person who has opened their home and hearts to us, sharing their experiences with us and allowing us to share these stories with the world. Without them, we'd have nothing to share 💚
He is a kind man. I felt his tears. I have never seen this disease from this perspective. This channel captures humanity like I've never seen before. Thank you.
We are so grateful that our channel has resonated with you so deeply. Thank you for watching! 💚
Beautiful. ❤ Write those letters and don't be scared, you will always be wrapped warmly in the beauty of Nature and the kindness of your loved ones.
Beautiful words of support and kindness - thanks for sharing 💚
Went speechless as the stars filled sky overhead , it was intense, thanks for sharing.
And thanks to you, for allowing this story to touch your heart 💚
You are a kind and full of light soul having a human experience.
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Oh my goodness this really moved me. It's not often that I shed tears nowadays but I did here. My father is 91 and used to be extremely active in many similar ways. I have seen him disappear in so many ways. I constantly wonder what he thinks about in his very restricted existence now (he won't/can't talk about his emotions) but I imagine it's very similar to the wonderful way this man expresses himself.
Your films are stunningly beautiful and heart rending. ❤
Thanks for opening your heart to all that Paul shared with us. And we are sorry to hear that your own father is slowing fading away - may you continue to hold precious memories of time spent together with him, close to your heart. Justine and Michael. x
It’s interesting that one persons story is all of our story. Thankful you shared this.
Thank you for seeing the beauty in our shared humanity. 💚
Bless everyone who can be happy despite the turmoil of this world.
And blessings to you too!
Paul, thank you for sharing your story and challenges. I am probably 20 years behind you and dreading many of the things you mentioned. Stay strong. Stay positive. It sounds like you have a very supportive family to be thank for. I absolutely love where you live. It is so beautiful there. I was also quite impressed that you were able to dive into a spring on slippery rocks! :)
We send you much love and care on your own journey, and hope that you too remain strong and positive. Sending love. Justine and Michael 💚
What a Wonderful, Wise Human Being😍!
Thank you so much Mr. Paul Ashton! Thank you❣
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I love his way….❤. Thank you for sharing with us. I found when short term memory played up, I’ve had to let go and come more into the present moment.
Rumi has written a beautiful text, that I wrote on the goodbye card for my dad, when he left this world:
Knock and He’ll open the door.
Vanish and He’ll make you shine like the sun
Fall and He’ll raise you to the heavens
Become nothing and He’ll turn you into everything.
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Thank you for your loving kindness, gentleness and everything you’ve given this fragile world. ❤
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Dear blessed soul , may.I say my dad had dementia and I can tell you honestly right up till his passing, he , still recognised me and was filled with so much love .
And when he passed, he went so gently as if he was taken by the hand of god. Bless his soul.
You are in my prayers
May you continue to hold these beautiful memories of your father close to your heart. He was lucky to have you beside him. 💚
Really Beautiful. What an honor to hear his Truth. Thank You❤
And thanks to you, for appreciating all that Paul shared with us. Justine and Michael x
What a wonderful person. I guess this film is the best memorial that anyone could imagine. Thank you for creating this video 💚
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Brave soul, thank you for sharing your story with us….❤
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Heartbreaking and heart affirming. The Human Condition is profound in its love, joy, grief and loss. What a beautiful man.
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