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- 5 Types Of Indian Mother In Laws & How To Deal With Them
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Always my MIL is trying to seperate us(me and my husband).
I have a question? If MIL'S ARE thinking like this then why her son need a marriage? Just keep it with her. Don't spoil our life.
Thats so true..
This kind of mother in laws never want to break the marriage completely... They just want to end the influence and importance of the wife in their son's life... They think their son needs a male progeny to continue the family line and a person who will always cook for them... Only that's why their son should get married... Otherwise why should the wife get so much love and attention????? .... That's luxury !!!!....
Right right right
So true. 🙄🙄🙄
I told that to my mother in law directly. Because of her greediness I tried to commit suicide once!!
How stupid was I?
Trust God!
My mother in law is Dracula.... Always try to make my life hell..
Mine too
@Leviosa Lavenderhoney we get married to live with husband but unfortunately she always comes in between.
😅😅😅
Same here ...
same
The moment I say my opinion she starts crying... Tears are her greatest weapon!😀
My mil is the same.
Haha
🤪same here
@Adrian D'Costa If you don't like her, just tell her the truth in a respectful way without hurting her. Tell her that she will find a good guy but u feel both of u r not compatible.
Even my also same yrr😐
Do any positive and kind mother-in-laws exist in India? I wouldn’t have married an Indian if I knew how much drama will come my way.
I can’t stop laughing...
There r some. Now a days time have changed
These days yes, because women of our moms' generation are more secure, and women of ours are more empowered. Also, men make more chilled out husbands in general. However it might take another generation for the hypocrisy to end.
You would think I'm praising my own mom however, my mom and her DIL (my bro' wife) get along fabulously. They are even of different nationalities but full of respect for their differences. Each tries to accomodate the other's food choices, both ask my brother to take good care of the other. They cry when they bid farewell to each other after trips. So there's hope...
Yes they do...
you are right every day when i get up i feel pata nai aaj kaunsa naya drama karne wali hai
Holy hell, the comments section has lot of confessions and reality. Damn, poor Indian bahu's are supposed to be stronger and wiser.
A. P. Very sad
I'm tired of getting insulted and hiding all my pain inside me as depression 😐
I can't even cry
lots of love to you my dear..
MOVE OUT
I found that being direct and honest about your feelings is such a HUGE relief. Better now than later when you're too emotional and upset to coherently express yourself
Loads of love ur way ❤️
Move out if possible, why do you spoil your rest of life. It's ok if you can't make your career after kids. Peace matters a lot, because Everyone have only one life.
Toxic mother in laws are a very serious health risk. And her son is the first victim. A bad mother in law is first a bad mother. You were not born to be abused by her or anyone else.
My mother in law compares me with her younger daughter in law and indirectly insults me . I'm the elder one and we all stay together but she hardly speaks to me, and other one stay separate even then my in law is very polite and sweet to her. These actions makes me feel low
Woaw
My case .but I'm youngest and gettting insulted and they compare me to the elder one
Take your husband and move out. My husband and i rent an apartment from day one. No meddling from anyone i dont take crap from anyone .
she is comparing because she doesnt want u and her younger DIL to be together. What u should do is ignore her words.
Listen I'm younger DIL and her elder DIL is out of caste like we don't make her feel akward anyway even we don't remember that topic too
My MIL relatives only insult her because of her elder DIL
But still she always insult me in sweet manner like she is 4th pass elder DIL was home nurse and i was lecturer and msc graduate
You know what she says education don't give someone brains 😆 what could I say nothing because if I react I'm that someone if I don't react it haunts me months 🤨
Today she was saying no one gives her money if her sons wants to give too some people put their nose not to give what will tell 🧐
Like mine..so depressed..
Same goes with me..my Mother in law has got all 5 qualities...I don't feel like to stay with her..I hate her
Same here
Mee too..🙁
Me toooo😢😢😢😢😢
Same here
Same here dear. I don't know bcoz of her I shud I ruin my life, she is becoming the decision factor in my marriage. I have a baby n I don't know .. neither I can cope up with her nor I step out of my house. It's horrible
Ignoring ,adjusting and accepting as they are..Some days somebody inside me ask me to run away😣...
Me I’m literally asking my husband for divorce right now I’m soooo tired , I’m it used to this really plus my husband can’t be fair and say one word for good and protect I found my self alone in every situation I go trough
Truee
Thats the same with me. My MIL has spoiled my health n my relationship with my husband.
@@sihamsfamily8132 I can understand your problem. My husband is too coward to take a stand for me and shameless enough to make fun of me in front of his mother n sister
@@sihamsfamily8132 I too feel sad for not only your situation mine is same as well
I feel i have the most unreasonable mother in law you cannot have a conversation with her and reason with her
she will be offended and a scene will be created
Dont be afraid and keep confronting softly
humera shaikh just ignore..think she does not exist
I have the same type. sick.
I too have one of d worst lady as my mil.
d only way to handle such people is to stop talking to them
I hv the same problem. She has big ego. Whatever I say is taken in a wrong way. Moreover she will continuously talk bad about me with my father in law. And if I confront both the in-laws get excited to quarrel with me. I hv completely stopped talking with my sick in-laws.
I am not married yet! but seriously, I will not be able to handle all these things. u r a gem. u handled ur mother in law easily.
Who said i handled easily :P
Poulomi Mondal pls don’t get married I bet you you will be happy forever
Don't marry. Its not easy. Single life is a happy life.
You're telling as if it's very easy to deal with mother-in-laws. You have not addressed the points and cases wherein some mother-in-laws go to the extent of complaining about her daughter-in-law to her parents, threaten to spoil her image in society and even do so by badmouthing her in front of her dil's relatives and her relatives and friends, complaining to her son and then making son and dil fight. In many cases husband fights and even hit his wife on hearing his mother and even threaten to divorce or kicks her out. What about such cases? And what if mil shouts, fight loudly, verbally abuses, etc and dil have to deal with that because divorce is a taboo?
Most mils are like that but if you raise your voice after years of abuse, the whole clan will start blaming you and saying that no matter how she is, she's your husband's mother and has done a lot for her son, this that blah blah, yes I agree, my husband can can never repay what she has done for him and he should respect, love and take care for her but why is she allowed to mentally and emotionally abuse us? She didn't raise us and we're not responsible for her in anyway.
Sadly true. The two roots of all evil in India 1. Rapists get away as they do not fear law. Because people blame victims and put men on pedestal. 2. Mothers in law get away as they do not fear social boycott. Because people blame daughters in law and put MILs on pedestal.
@@shubhajaggi5487 that is so true. A girl in here needs to put up such a big effort just to be safe and have some peace of mind. I would prefer never marrying instead for the second case but sadly I really do not know how to deal with the first one except take revenge maybe if possible?
@@shraddhadoshi1306 Hi Shraddha. I do think these days lawmakers are more sensitive. It's not an easy path but I would say, hope this doesn't happen tO anyone however mentioning recourse... 1. Strengthen yourself 2. Confide in someone you trust plus someone strong n able 3. Lodge FIR. Lawmakers are more sensitive now 4. Take ur family into confidence. 5. RELEASE SHAME else none of this would be feasible for you. 6. Use social media. 7. Remember you WILL win in court because you have truth behind you... N r reporting for stopping abusers from repeating offense as well as standing up fr urself. The best revenge is you living a happy and safe life whereas they would be running from law n thinking of bails n money n spending sleepless nights. Lastly.. do it all ensuring you are safe. Ask for police protection, reach out to NGOs n lastly... Take counselling. You don't need to carry the burden alone n you are more than what happened to u. God bless all
N reach out. If you or anyone needs a listening ear.. shubhajaggi567 at gmail dot com
The best way to deal with the drama is to freaking move out of the inlawz house. Peace!! 😶
Yes .. I really wish to
Bestest solution
I don't wanted to do it, but that's what I did now.
Things definately improve but don't stop completely... My MIL tries to manipulate my husband on phone calls as well..... She is such a pain in the a**...
And the best part is she says me to my face... I am such a caring, loving and nice MIL.... I never discriminate between you and my daughter 😂😂
@@manasimirajkar6644 true but atleast some peace is better than nothing 😂😂
I don't want tips on how to impress mil but I want how i can make her jealous bcs my my mil is just evil
Being Girl wait till u meet mine ! Eviler
you are funny 😂😂😂
Being Girl same here looool
Hahahahah
Lol. Mine is a bit of a few of those examples, but you forgot to mention ignorant, uneducated, petulant, entitled snob. That’s my MIL. Caste conscious delusions of grandeur who every time she opens her mouth says something stupid, ignorant and embarrassing. She tries to keep up with all her Doctor Aunty friends, thinks she is worthy because her husband is a successful businessman, but hasn’t got the brain cells or etiquette to keep up with them.
I was at the front of the queue when God was giving away husbands, but at the back of the queue when he was handing out MILs. God gives and takes away as they say. 😝 It doesn’t help that I’m a Gaura . I often wonder what life must be like for brides with mils like mine in non love arranged marriages. Hell I imagine
what if a mother in law has all these 5 qualities?? her bahu will be suffer for whole life
I have such a MIL😑😑😑😑😑😑
I have all the 5 types in one mother in law as she hasn't perfectionist I would say but she expect me to be a perfectionist.. Damn!!
@@SJain101 then how u deal with it..?please share with me my sister is going through same
Just say how to deal with such woman?
My mother in law is a mixture of all the five types... Sometimes I tolerate and keep quiet and sometimes I just burst out replying her rudely... I feel good when I ignore her... But.. I think.. When would I find a final solution for this.. If this continues for years and years... Sorry I can't compromise more and more... She's more possessive with her son... And my husband is a mumma's boy... That's actually painful...
My mother in law has all the qualities except the fourth one ( the perfectionist. I instead find her her very unhygienic and messy)
my MIL is all of those types and it is so difficult dealing with such a evil miserable witch 😅😭
Then you get smarter :D
dealing wid d same , its combination of all, its damb difficult to even breathe infront of her
sal mo u know my all and every in laws hates me coz I'm smarter than them ......
sal mo just ignore her and take all power from her by tricks
Same here also
My MIL has all the five qualities...and I am tolerating her for the past 10 yeara
Barnali Basu You are a rare gem amongst stones. That is a lot of patience.
God bless you.
Lol
Same is mine
My mil has more than all this five qualities,and I am adjusting , suffering for last 21 years,iam really fed up,
My mother in law dont fight openly she says bad things to my husband especially when he is angry on me. . .basically she takes mine and my husbands misunderstandings advantage to create fights between us. . . .she have the ego bigger than mount everest
Same here😞
Same here
How to deal with mummas boy,, plz is topic pr video bnaye
No way to deal with it. Either sit her where she is supposed to sit or tell your husband to put a stop to it. Don't ever give her any space out of politeness. She will ruin your marriage.
Haan. Please make a video in mumma s boy also
Please tell me what should i do..
My parents treats my husband so nicely like their son but my husband's mother just treats me in a worst way.
If i tell this to my husband he says that by saying this i am insulting his mom
Same here...
It's the situation of almost every Indian houses
Leave him if you don't have kids, don't give a birth to a child, my mom was like you.... She use to suffer now because of her "log kya kahenge thought" we (me and my brother) suffering too..
Please I beg you don't spoil life of your children, I'm 26Years old with phobia of love and marriage because of I grow up seeing my mom crying...
Honesty I don't have guts to fall in love, I got panic attack even if I get attracted by someone, my mind start remaining me how my parents use to fight, how she use to get beaten up by my dad because of my granny,
That's why I'm still alone, lonely, having fear of getting treated same so No to love Big no to marriage stuff.
@@dipmalaahir9803 m so sorry for u ..May almighty give u strength..
Just remember , whatever happens most imp thing is that u r living ..with each moment passing we r losing our life , and we will lose it one day for sure..
Absolutely correct
I found talking to MIL about why she does this or that to me is unreasonable - because you don’t do this and that right, because you don’t eat my food (even my husband struggles with her spice levels) and cook your own, because you spend money on yourself, not buying me more gold or new house etc etc
The only way to mentally divorce them and just to say and do bare minimum and not involve with heart.
My mil insulted me after I lost a baby and was demonstratively treating another neighbour pregnant girl with such care I was not aware she is capable of. To me only rude comments and psychopatoc looks like she wishes me dead. She kind of died to me and I have peace now. Don’t wait for her love, don’t try to earn it. She either gives it or not. If not - move on and just tolerate her when you can’t avoid. Never live with in laws. Never girls, it will age you, it will slowly kill you!
I really don't know why my mil hates me... She is narcissist ( after 17 years I come to know) and always tries to show me bad in front of my husband.
My MIL is a dominating one, thinks herself as she knows everything, gets jeleous, tries to make me n my husband apart., makes rules and breaks down the rules herself, always points out the mistakes, never praise others good work.,bossy character, thinks she is always right. She has multiple face...like multiple personality disorder. She is as changeable as chemelion, changes her colour frequently, good infront of my husband and treats very rudely when I am alone. Very greedy and says that her son is her ATM. Although her son n I give her costly gifts and money she never gets satisfied easily. I respect her but She never respects me, keeps gossiping with her daughter secretly.
When I go to my parents house nd come back I see that my mom in law has rearranged my entire wardrobe. She tells me happily that she has cleaned it up for me and I tried to take it positive until I found many of my things were missing. She feels like her son bought those things so she has a right to use even without asking me.
Just lock and take the keys with you girll✌
I just ignore ignore and ignore her.........but for how many days....?? I'm preparing for competitive exam and also did household work.....(she just sit and look how I do my all work) and whenever we visits our relative...they feel proud about me but my MIL interrupt them & started talking about me how I went to library all day and don't take care of them.....all shit....I fill tired after study but she will never ask me even for a cup of coffee...just sitting at home all day(she even didn't miss the repeat telecast of serials )....I'm missing my mom lot...
Plz give sol to me....
मै अपने खुद के दम पर अपनी तैयारी भी कर सकती हुं...I don't need her help...but atleast taunting to n kre bhai
Tell ur hus all your feelings....
If possible move from there
Honestly, I ignore her but at times there is a saturation point. At times while I'm working (currently from home) I'm depressed with the nonsense (drama) put up. My mother-in-law is evil. Watching serials and doing gossip is her best TP. But I always think some or the other day she will get punished hard for her KARMA. I've stopped talking to both my inlaws, I believe If I cannot do good to anyone, I also don't want to do bad. One needs lots of patience and self-control while doing this especially when you're staying in the same house. Do your best in exams and let your success talk. All the best
hope you made it my dear...lots of blessing to you
I have all the 5 types in one mother in law as she isn't perfectionist I would say but she expect me to be a perfectionist.. Damn!!
Thank you so much, my Indian mother in law is so difficult with me and this helped so so so much. Keep making inspiring videos to keep going 👍🏽
Good Work !! Helping the ladies out there who struggle daily with their MIL's. Some of them all alone.
I am glad..after all we are in the same boat.
I faces this whole thing every day.. n I m now losing my mind she always try throw me out from her son's life.. she is also very gamer minded person she always mentally torture me I m try n every time morning to night she always shouting on everyone... except her son n daughter..i m tired of it..
Why hell you all married top Indians?? Many in laws like this too...
Leave him if you don't have kids, don't give a birth to a child, my mom was like you.... She use to suffer now because of her "log kya kahenge thought" we (me and my brother) suffering too..
Please I beg you don't spoil life of your children, I'm 26Years old with phobia of love and marriage because of I grow up seeing my mom crying...
Honesty I don't have guts to fall in love, I got panic attack even if I get attracted by someone, my mind start remaining me how my parents use to fight, how she use to get beaten up by my dad because of my granny,
That's why I'm still alone, lonely, having fear of getting treated same so No to love Big no to marriage stuff.
Same is happening with me I m tired of my life .I don't want to live
Same😭
How to deal with your emotionally abusive MIL that gets into your marriage?
LEAVE HER AND SET BOUNDARIES.
Being family is not an excuse for withstanding abuse. You shall not feel guilty to decide to ask your husband to move to another place. You also moved away from your family to be an ADULT and start a relationship with your husband.
You can still take care of parents in law (both sides of the family), but they appreciate you a more and in a more healthy way when you are out of their home.
For me the moving away did not solve the problem
My mil called and broke up all my husband's side relatives. Now no one calls us, if we call they speak like formality. Mil even still calls us to do family responsibility, which is fine, we also want to do it. But she does it more like an order, esp to me. Like last minute she will call, she will hide many things, either we come to know from outside people or we discover then she will tell us. Some things if we don't find out she has kept hidden. Some things that are not even to be hidden.
My mother in law is bossy as well as perfectionist. Problem is this that she feel jealous how her son my husband take care of me. We love and live happily. We go outside for having dinner. She think that i have stolen her son from her. According to her whatever i tell to my hubby he listen to me follow my words. She think that whatever fight is happening between both brothers or between anybody in the family. She tell that after the daughterin law came all the problems started. Is her son my hubby is a kid. Who would follow my words blindly?? Please i request to all the mother in laws that your son is not kid. He know whats going on? Nobody can teach him any patti. Please leave us alone. Dont torcher us. We are not demons.
she always planned how to make me hurt..what should I do
My mil is also same like urs..now she is affected with cancer..
@@Haari_Prasad I bet you are delighted!
@@imnotgayyy8489 noo... one month back she expired.
@@Haari_Prasad what u think about her now ..do u miss any of her good qualities or u r glad that chapter is over .. just asking ..?
I would say b bold and say it on her face wat u feel when she hurts u .. b daring dear
i enjoyed this video so much ...my mil is a mixture of type 1&5 😄...yes ignore ignore ignore is the only way u can maintain peace at home...😂
Yes but ignore intelligently.
Yeah but ignore is not always possible...
We too are human beings na... How can we bear when they constantly pester upon us....
Looking into these commments i felt soo relaxed thinking i am not only the one who is facing domestic psychological violence. My mother has 2 daughter in laws and she treats them soo well. RIP to all mother in laws
My boyfriend is indian and I'm not. Although we're not married yet, I can feel the high expectation his mom has for me. Sometimes she will point out my shortcomings (physically and socially) to him asks him to rethink about choosing me. She expects me to learn hindi and be familiar with the culture. I feel stressed out. What can I do?
+jan fsco you should talk this out with your boyfriend I believe
jan fsco don't marry an Indian guy u will lose all your freedom and would be forced to live a pathetic life
jan fsco. Don't marry that guy...only Indian DIL can tolerate all these things...😅😆😆😆
Leave the guy bcuz all may seem rosy now but a man's nature is the reflection of his mother. He cant b different n it will b too late if u realise that after marriage. The lady is not bold enough to renect u totally bcuz shes ready to bear anything to impress her son n later get her expectations from u fulfilled through him. He will make u feel that u r always lucky that she accepted u.
I been in the same situation but ive never submitted to her weird ways i told her and my ex husband that i am not indian and dont even follow my own culture why should i follow yours ? I was always fighting and kicking my husband to the curve for it and now i dumped him and we divorced and made them know i deserve 10 times better
Meri mil.. Kya bolu..agr kch glt bole or beta bs ye bol de ki glt h to bahu ne sikhaya h beta bdl gya.. Agr khud ki stand low to badtamiz h agr rona aye tonotanki krti h agr pati ko share kro to bhadkati h or prnts ko kch btao to chugli krti h... Kya kru main
Watching this is part therapuetic and part traumatic. Gives me a feeling I am not alone, at the same time reinforces reality which I cannot change :D
How to deal with your emotionally abusive MIL that gets into your marriage?
LEAVE HER AND SET BOUNDARIES.
Being family is not an excuse for withstanding abuse. You shall not feel guilty to decide to ask your husband to move to another place. You also moved away from your family to be an ADULT and start a relationship with your husband.
You can still take care of parents in law (both sides of the family), but they appreciate you a more and in a more healthy way when you are out of their home.
My husband and me always having some fight when someone interrupting into my life ...I don't know how to stop them ...my in laws are really disturbing me..it make me Soo depressed and frustrated ...manytimes I am crying because my husband not taking my stand
Same situation dear I'm feeling like 100 cc tv cameras r watching me I'm unable to move normally and peacefully i don't want to leave my husband that's is d only reason I'm bearing all this nonsense
M mother in law as 3,4 n 5 qualities. I hate her but baring because of m lovely father in law
Nice one .. I have combination of 2,3,4 .. I have started meditation 🤣🤣
A typical mother in law has all the five qualities like mine. But my in law has all additional quality... How to deal if she is so spreading rumours on me with her daughter, sisters...? This in difficult for me to digest... Very hurting
We usually can't because even if her children know what she is like, they are scared or loyal to her (as happens in abusive dysfunctional relationships). The key is to be strong and successful within yourself and your life. Know that even Priyanka Chopra and Narendra Modi have haters. Haters hate potatoes potate haha. Be friends with your husband. Hope that time heals, when nonsense occurs stand up for yourself and assert yourself, but keep saying 'you are free to believe what you wish but this doesn't change my truth'
Thq ...so much for the tips ..bcz im still facing all kind of wat u told in ur vedio ..my mother in law always like to talking about my brother in law he is busnss men n rich ..my husband busnss men too but middle class ...not tht rich person ..keep on hurting me..see how he grow his life how u living now ..
I find these videos of yours so entertaining to watch.. i loved the whole series u did.. u missed the 6th kind.. the mother in laws who are very sweet and understanding.. ☺ seriously after this video i feel blessed tht i have such a sweet mother in law.. sometimes i wish ki woh thoda aisi hoti.. kuch toh bolti.. but nahin.. she has just left everything to me.. ki itne saal maine kiya ab tum sambhal lo types...
kya baat hai! please meri taraf se unko bada wala huggg de dena
Antariksha Phadnis mere sath bhi yehi tha, unhone kabhi kisi kaam ya baat me interfere nahi kiya, bahut sweet thi 😍😍
credit goes to you guys also....when you love back then the relationship turns out great
Antariksha Phadnis I have the same mother in-law 😊😊😊..she just leaves everything on me that sometimes it feels so annoying ki kuch to aap bhi bolo😄😄😄😄..kya khana bnwana hai,kitna bnwana hai god..and not to mention "Tum pehle Khao,mai bad me khaungi"""😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤
Anita Singh Nice Anita Ji ki aap bhi lucky rahi.. 😊
My mother in law created so much difference between me and my husband , she always say something to him about me and he doesn't talk to me from last 6 months , he is not talking to me , he always spend time in my mother in law room or in drying room , he also sleeps in drawing room . My mother in law is very swt towards me , she is having good relationship with me , but keeps her son to herself , doesn't let him to talk to me , even he doesn't talk to me or spend time with me in her absence
If you don’t have kids and working and financially fit.
Dump him right away before it’s too late!
Don’t listen to people who say after child he ll be good!
That’s a universal lie!
After baby you are stuck not your husband!
Indian fucking laws make you keel yourself
My MIL keeps looking for my mistake and she tries to show tht she is the best. Even if itx nt needed
I am taking divorce because of my in laws... It's a joint family.... My marriage is love marriage.... It's been 4 years I have a daughter and now I'm pregnant with 2nd one.... Can't stay in this house..... Tried suicide attempt... Now just taking divorce..... Don't know how to be single parent of two but can't live here
Stay strong! 🖤
I suffer frm low line placenta.. Doc ne kaha bed rest or move ni krne ko bt m in my sasural... Its shameful ki sasural me bahu rest kre... To kya kru main apne ghr. Ni ja skti bcz its my 5th mnth niw or strting me maa ko bola tha ki thik hu sasural me.. Ni bta skti apni taklif kisi ko.. Socha yaha bol deti hu thoda acha feel ho
My mother-in-law is a combo pack she comes with all five qualities. Though I have changed my religion, food, cooking style, name, everything she is still the one whom we can say 'ye tho rare piece hai jo itni asaani se khush nahi hogi'. What is killing me internally is her taunts. She taunt for the size of potatoes the shape of chopped vegetables for forgetting to keep the jar in its place for placing spoon in different position than the usual, she makes sure whatever work I do she instantly comes and spoils it like whenever I go for our traditional kapda sukhana I do it very neatly and she instantly follows me and keeps pulling off the cloth that I just clipped like literally I will be clipping clothes she will be ripping my hardwork instantly and clip it her way and when I say mom let me do then hogaya bhai mera kaam she stops talking to me.
I seriously have no problem in sacrificing everything for my love my husband but there she comes with her favourite punch line 'kya Aisa kardiya humare liye-what the hell did you do for us?'
See making her love or treat me as her daughter is not possible but I just pray she stops poking into my smooth life.
I don't know how to deal with her it's actually killing me mentally. I can't tell my husband that lets live seperately because she is already that women who wants him with her all the time and I am already a witch in her mind who casted a magic spell on his boy. I have no contact with my family since the day I got married I have no good friends to rely on.. simply I am all fu**ed up!
fuhar choudhury solution is to get any job and go out have fun work and come back home and ur mother in law will not get chance to torture you. That's the only solution!!
Don't worry. The day will come when she will be lonely n she too will be f***** up.
I have been through all these things. N now my mother in law is suffering for what she did in past
fuhar choudhury please try and ignore her and keep your mind busy . I know its not easy to ignore but stop paying much attention to her. Let her do whatever she wants to , you keep doing your bit .Things will get better with time Much love and courage to you ❤
fuhar choudhury Try to talk with your husband and you two move into your own home so she doesn't have control of you. Contact your family and go out and try to meet some friends. Hope things work out well.
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Mine is depressed and doesn't talk. She's always invading my space but SO passive. We can't find common ground because shes so quiet. Passive aggressive who holds in the anger and lies about it. I am autistic and super honest so this drives me insane worrying about what she thinks. She's awesome, I know it's mostly me. I just can't get her and my girl to set boundaries. This video sorta helped, #5, but you can hear how odd this is. Ty! She does housework so she's not super depressed, but has 0 friends and does not go out. I would love a video on how to talk emotionally with a closed off mother. What do we do if she's in denial? Therapy? I come off as angry when I'm not. I'm supposed to have talks with her about it but I can't even get to normal talking. She forgets selectively on purpose when stressed which makes me want to tell at her. Unfortunately raising my voice gets more of a reaction. I feel like she enabling my anger because she expects male dominance abuse, which makes me sick and more upset. I have yelled at her for being passive about this and I get the irony. So that why I'm asking you... I suck at this. The reason I care is... She is getting ill, smokes, needs physical therapy. I want to encourage her so she lives longer and happier. Instead she feels i am always complaining, which I am, but I don't know how to get her psyched. I have an autoimmune disease and I do a lot of work to stay healthy. When someone is outright slowly killing themselves it's insulting to all the work I have to do. But she's depressed and doesn't get that. She was cheated on 30 years ago and never recovered. Now she just sits and watches TV or plate video games all day in what was my home office. I can't get work done anymore I'm so anxious. 6 months of waking up at 5 am to do work, her still up all night playing games! I've inherited a mother-in-law that lives like a teenager dropout. She surrounds herself with piles of junk on the couch that she doesn't need and spends her retirement on knickknacks instead of planning for the health crisis this lifestyle will inevitably cause. I am disabled at home so I feel like all my boundaries have been destroyed. How do I reestablish my home business work ethic with someone sleeping on the couch beside me? Like I mentioned, I'm severely autistic and don't like people as it is. This would be an issue with anyone, or my own family. So I know it's me and not her. I just want to function and do something useful for society even though I'm down. She has given up completely and I typically dislike people like this. Now I have to live with one. Help.
Before marriage I thought my mother in law will be my mother but now she is the one who is creating problems in my life, she acts so innocent but she is not at all innocent , indirectly she will talk a lot I am just ignoring everything, don't want any problems to create 😢
I have learnt how to deal with the special human being of my life..
she is super jealous about my every upgradation... she doesn't like when I n my husband go out for we-time... 🤐🤐🤐 but I learnt to deal with all of this things...
Yayyy first... loved it... n u helped everyone to deal with their mother in law... ♥♥:-)
My mother in law is having all these bad qualities and adding to this worst nature, she lies alot & pretends to b the most innocent one. And everytime my husband & me tries to talk and comfort her, she started crying and make us feel guilty. She compares me and my bhabi ji with her daughter and has a complaing nature. Its really a horrible experiences m dealing with..just in a 7 months of marriage by now..
Even she check my bedroom whenever I am not at home.. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
😂😂😂😂give me a hifi
This is the worst. Even my mil does that. My wardrobe with lingeries and drawers with Condoms. Everything. 😂😂😂
I’m sure your father in law is not alive?
My sister is law is the one who spoiled my life ..I still regret getting married now
My mom in law is good.. but she sometimes behaves strangely without any reason.. while i thought him just like my own mum but she wants to treat me as a daught in law.. i alwys dreamt to hv a family with them as i had in my father house.. but she just dnt want it she has her own world made of her sister and all not cool at all.. can u suggst wht can i do ......
My mother in law is a combination of bossy and perfectionist. This is hell of a combination 😟
Women need to take a stand for yourself as not all husbands stand up for wife. Tell your husband you need to stay seperate . From my personal experience living seperateky is a most . It’s okay if it’s same building but atleast your home need to be seperate
My Girl can do job,she will have Maid but I will not leave my parents this is how marriage works will it be ok if your brother also live separate from your parents if your answer is yes then I would adopt a child rather than marrying you
M pregnant and i came to mil for baby shower... I m having hunger issues due to the pregnancy... But whenever I eat something she strats taunting me and it make me feel very uncomfortable... I really try to ignor her but it's very tough, she just don't understand my situation dont have any love for the baby in my womb.... I don't know what is my fault I never try to fight with her I don't know why she is making my life so difficult that sometimes I just want to die
My mother in law is the not only a good MIL but also a good person. She is one of a kind. I am so lucky to have her. The thing is I genuinely love her. First because she is my husbands mother who has made my husband who he is. And secondly because she is now my family. So I started with genuine love and got a great person nevertheless.
Is it not a good option to escape from them or to stay out of them in another house ?
😃😃😃😃😃 Thank god, mere sath aisi koi dikkat nahi hui, meri sasural wale bahut acche thy 😊
sonia panchal oh, kya kar saktey hain, life me sab kuch accept karna hota hai. warm hug from my side 🤗🤗
Anita ji lucky you...
They were the same. You must have been good and understood your responsibilities early on & took care of your responsibilities. That's why you feel they were good.
What about the ones that favor their daughters more than the son and the daughter in law ???
True! missed those as well..lots of variation are there :P
True :) but very much enjoyed the video
Fazu Moh What? Does that type REALLY exist or is she being cunning and manipulative? She sounds like she knows how to get what she wants by making you believe that. In reality, she’s just playing you. Trust me.
All these 5 types are in ‘one’ women, who is making our life hell
I don't like to stay with my mother-in-law and father in law. Everyday she hurted me lot. I am Living in joint family I don't want living with them. I want to live with separate. Plz help
I am not married but I am prepare on prior😂
My boyfriend is Indian, I am not. He have been living in the USA where we met. I dont speak their language. Right now they are visiting, for 6 months, this is toi much. Good Help Me! It is overwhemlming to be crosing with people 100% of the time. My boyfriend has a condo in India, I bedroom and his parents live there, with his brother and wife that now has a todler. How they do that.
Like I said I dont u derstand the language, but the feeling I have is not good. Mom has something to say everytime Im talking with him, she will not wait for any pause, she just interrupts. If she goes to bed he will tell me, lets go sleep (what?) & a couple days ago she even call him in the morning (we were awake, still in bed) to tell him it was 7:30am and he needed to start getti g ready for work. He is 45... is this normal. This is driving me crazu little by little. I dont want to offend anyone amd correct me if I am wrong, but I feel there os a lot of toxixity in indian families interactions. Why?
How to seprate from them monster please please help me anyone... Give some ideas
My mother in law is like 5 in 1 she always trying to throw me out from her son's life.. because mine is love marriage she always keep crying for small small issues and always keep blaming me like (she did that and she did this) like she always keep trying to throw me out 😭😭😭😭😭
My MIL is all of these and life is like, really , really,miserable living with her.
What if she is 5 in 1 combo pack with special offer of 50% discounts in complaints she is doing to her son about you.
Meri dadi chudail hai, usne meri mummy ke shadi ke din se hi papa se mar khilvana suru kiya even meri chachi ko b bahot pareshan kiya, I'm 26YO and I have fear of getting treated as my mother, so I'm not going to marry in my life, even i do have phobia of love, so don't even have BF in real life at all... Still meri dadi meri Maa ko satati hai but luckily now we grown-up and papa be samaj gaye ke unki Maa toxic hai... But still we take caring of her after all she's mother of my father but because of her I see all old person as toxic and fake as her, even i lost interest in love and marriage stuff... Sometimes I feel alone but loneliness is not bigger than phobia I have...
no get married but make sure u have your secured job. And try to have your own house. And settle away from inlaws
My Mother in law is very abusive with me and my kid. She is just evil. She keeps creating negative environment always. Not sure how to handle the situation. Unable to bare it anymore. From 6 years suffering the same. 🙏🙏
Its also the control factor and clash of generation based principles. You do not need moral policing for adults.
I just feel to low when they use my kids against me always try to over rule me slams door on my face i have attempted suicide four years back unable to bear the torcher they behaved quiet well for some time but now again they are changing
My MIL says that she did all the household work even if she was sick and I too should follow that. She treats her own son like a prince and me a maid. I would only get to eat when i do work. She is a discriminating lady. She has all preconceived notions about girl. She threatens to send me to my mother's house and says that she didn't allow her son to marry me. Another day she says that only because of her , her son married me. She says I m ugly .
meri mother in law in paancho types ko suit krti hai
If u want the in laws like u ..do the things inside the house like ur servant to them
phir bhi khush nai hote. Try it.
I have mix of all 5 types, except the perfectionist type. But she behaves like she is a perfect person
Same here dear. 🙂
My mother-in-law is all of the above +++
Lucky
i had all these qualities in my mother in law..she had left no stone unturned to mske my life miserable..in d past 4 yrs..we hd lots of fights..confrontations...adjustments from both our ends i wud say aling WITH A BIG SUPPORT FROM MY HUBBY..without which it was not possble..nw more or less our relationship is 80-90% fine..though i dont like her still in many n most ways bt cant help it as i hv to see her 24x7..so hv to deal wit it sum way or other
My mother in law is a witch. She even turned her son against me as well as the entire family and I wish if we could live in our own house. My husband do not want to get our own house and my mother in law got an attitude to barge into our room whenever she feels like. She makes my life hell and it's so uncomfortable to live with her.
stay strong my girl ..lots of love
Thank you 🤗
My mil is more like all of the above and mostly the fifth one. I am a earning member of the family still I cannot shop online or spend a little on myself. She keeps her nose in each and everthing. How much water I need to pour in the milk . What to talk and what not with the baby caretaker ...list goes on. She has ruined my life. And I cannot speak about his to my husband as he strictly says you are no one to speak anything about or against my mother. At present I do not stay with them from last 1 year and my parents are taking care of my kid and I am doing my job. He has filed for a case to get me back to his matrimonial home. But I am too afraid and not ready to do the same . I feel like a shiver going down my body , as soon as I think of staying with his mother. Any suggestions anyone..?? Would be great if you can share your views...
Go to police and tell everything about your husband and mother in law,and don't make your life hell.
Nice to see this but what about brother in law and his wife?if they r really not nice just bullying some one who is not even in their fight I mean family fight..what we can do?
You are telling it very easily - in reality if we tell them like you are saying it will lead to a huge argument and drama. Especially in type 3.
My MIL is having all the 5 qualities and some extra also.She expects sorry by touching her feet for silly reasons almost daily just to take me under her control ( without doing any mistake, simply she says that I felt uncomfortable so you have to say sorry).My hubby also tried to support me but my situation became more worse.I hate hate . hate........her .Now we are separated but my husband is the only son,so I am unable to escape.please suggeste me.
Hi mam. I am very worried since so many years. My mother in law has all these types in her alone. Now, please guide how should I handle her? Because of her nature, my husband and I are not on talking terms with her. We live under one roof and my husband is not willing to get separated from that house as we cannot afford purchasing a new house. She manipulated since so many years in front of my husband and it took more than 6 years for me to convince my husband of this harsh reality. Please guide I am suffering a harsh time right now. My husband sometimes favors her side and gets biased even though he knows his mother is wrong, I am frustrated of reconvincing the same thing over and over again to him each time. Although he's not on talking terms with her he still is her son. I cannot tolerate her presence near me at all, I get completely insecure because of her behavior.
My mother in-law is the most evil person on this planet...
It is good to speak out.
People want to silence you because men, women of India want to maintain the status quo. The exploitation, abuse and loss of human rights of women has to stop.
And these girls who suffer must not become pariahs themselves. End this vicious cycle.
My mother-in-law has all 5 in one.. Imagine my life 😶
My mother in law is fifth type! She will involve in private things too. I hate her so much and she want me to live how she wish.
I think my mom in law is combination of all these🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 hahaha
Dey rr sso insecure den y d hell make her son getting married..let dem b free.. still dese women r never ever happy whatsoever howsoever one takes effort to gel in deir family n their maamas boys make their wives miserable... der s no solutions to some ppl.. too tough to handle...
I am not even married.. I clicked on this post just out of pure curiousity..
My mom passed away 6 years ago.. my father said when i get married , I will get another mother.. but seeing how rare it is to find a good husband and a good MIL.. makes me feel so hopeless.. our indian marriages happen for 2 reasons .. 1) money 2) status... And the odds of finding someone who loved u heart soul is rare.. and finding a inviting family .. that's rarer .. like will that ever happen to me 😭😞💔
Swwet heart! i am the person who made this video and i can assure you that i have encountered many many motherly MILs .its just that when things are good people don't talk about them so those women don't make videos either...i myself find my MIL very good and have created a nice bond with her .. am sure if you will love her like you moved your mom or little more as she is someone else mom , love will be resiprocated..lots of love
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what is your lipstick shade?
My mother is so much dominating and controlling she find fault in everything and keep on creating drama i lost my self esteem and become depressed in life
Sometime even doter in law r bad as mother inlaw. My sister inlaw r so so so bad leaving in one house they would not help my mum for house chores. They r so strict thy get away wd evrything still my mom doesn't say anything she tolorate evrything. She just want happy life for her son. If I tell them this is wrong they wod com n hit me n my brother wod say who r u to talk. Som doter inlaw r so bad as devil talking wd my experience.