Controlling Your Anger & Dealing with Conflict | Jimmy Evans
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- Опубліковано 21 сер 2022
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Do you struggle with controlling your anger? Learn how to calm down and control your anger while dealing with conflict in your marriage and other relationships. To hear more from Jimmy Evans and watch all of the XO 2021 Marriage Conference Sessions visit xonow.com/categories/xo-confe...
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Jimmy Evans changed my marriage cz i had to relearn how to communicate positively with my hubby..so much love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
Please pray for our marriage , Its very Argumenative & cussing filled etc .
Please pray for us that God can Change my heart toward my husband 😔
I hope it’s working out
Same 🙁
Nicole, I'm praying for your marriage. Try to get into marriage counseling or find a marriage mentor.
I pray youd feel a great love for eachother like never before, you would draw close to each other and feel so happy and appreciated by eachother!! 🩷🩵☀️🏝️🌸🌻
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Bro. Evans, Has a way of connecting with us. When I listen to him its like he's talking directly to me.I enjoy the way he shows his human side to others.He truly is anointed! I LOVE listening to him when I can.
Tina - your words are a blessing! Thanks for tuning in!
Hello!!! Hope everyone is having a great day! I pray for healing in your marriage
I found and have been listening to xo marriage for almost a month now and Jimmy and Karen's story is so touching. The beginning of their marriage very much sound like my first marriage, my 2nd marriage ended due to his infidelity with my sister and my current marriage has a lot of contention from both of us. We've both dealt with a lot of pain emotionally and of a physically abusive 1st marriage myself. My husband has endured alot of emotional pain and I believe physical abuse from his father and at least 1 ex. He was even sent to prison for nearly 2 years for false claims of a terrible domestic violence incident that were false. I love him and I know he loves me but we always seem to be in defensive mode often ready to "pounce" as a way of protecting ourselves from more pain(in our own minds) I was raised in a Baptist Church my whole life with a Preacher for a grandfather whom I adored. I've always believed I God and salvation is the only way into the gates of Heaven. I was saved and baptized at 14 but because of many tragic loses and bad life choices and consequences I allowed myself to believe that God exists because I've seen miracles and blessings happen to other people however I felt I wasn't worthy of the abundance of blessings I see so many others enjoying everyday because my life was full of hurt which turned to resentment which turned to anger. Anywhoooo!!! I found Jimmy Evans and for the first time since I can remember 30+years) that I truly feel inspired and I feel hope for a brighter tomorrow in my marriage and in me personally. 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you Pastor Evans. God bless you and your family.
Wow - Amazing story! If XO Marriage has impacted you, feel free to share your story with our team anytime! info@xomarriage.com
I pray God blessed you and your marriage. I pray for my own as well.
I pray for the next season of your life is filled with joy. Beautiful story. Hang in there. Nothing is impossible with God.
My goodness, did I need to hear this. I listened to it this morning and just now🙏Amen. May the Lord continue to illuminate all of our unions as one for the glory of God
This was so beautiful! Sound Godly counseling. Thank you, Pastor Evans.I'm divorced but asked God to prepare me for marriage again, and your feed showed up.
It's so hard to find good information on marriage from holy spirit filled believers I am so glad I found this
This pastor gives the BEST marital advice!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'd love to get some information on building healthy relationships when you grew up in a home with domestic violence
Listening to Jimmy Evans inspires me to be the best that expects of his children. God bless your ministry.
Please 🙏 for my Marriage of 31 years. We are struggling
Thank you for all you do to advance the Kingdom of God
Please please please do some videos about emotional abuse. We’ve been married for 42 years and he has done silent treatments for 38 years. I asked him over and over back in the day-to get help, but he was like-It’s YOU‼️Another terrible thing was that he would get mad 2-3 times a day, but I learned early on that me getting angry “wasn’t allowed!” I’ve literally probably gotten mad one hand full of times. It’s sick, but I got off his rollercoaster a couple of years ago. Now he says-you need to forgive me. I tell him-yes-I’ve done that, but I’m not getting back on your rollercoaster until you get the healing you need. How does someone keep doing silent treatments for 38 years⁉️ He killed all intimacy. It’s so sad. I’ve now reached the point of just not engaging. He still has anger brewing in that chest of his. But I no longer try to help him with his disregulation. We have the money for him to go to counseling. Something really bad happened with him when he was young, but he hid it. It got way more “infected” and made him mean. I’m so at peace since I detached, but he feels entitled to lots of things. He loves listening to you and that’s why I’m asking you to please speak on the damage that emotional abuse causes.
Iam so grateful for this teaching. I want to get anger resolved better in our home, in a healthier way, I ask the Lord to help me with this.
"KAREN" 😮....
I'm happy 😊 it worked out.
Amen!
Love this
The beat in the beginning is fire 🔥 lol I replayed it over again before letting the video play through out. Whew 🙌🏾
Hi Ps Jimmy, wow I relate so much to your message Particularly this teaching.
Wow! If she is not happy, then I am not serving Jesis properly well. Powerful Thank you for message.
I needed this message! Thanks 😊
Hello, joining from Nigeria. It's my first time.
Welcome!!!
Welcome!!
First time here. Martha Hilda from McAllen, Texas. Great advice. I'm engaged. Thank you for sharing. God Bless You
Welcome! Blessings to you!
We are Six years divorced.
Something happened I don't rightly recall why we were so angry at each other. (I'm not playing the blame game here:) but apearantly it had built up over the 13yrs of our marriage. I learned that at the end of our marriage after I already filed for Divorce.
I'll say this, When serious threats of violence are made and attempted it's time for me too go..
It was for the best?
Thank you Jimmy and Karen for sharing your story - very encouraging 😀
Where in Houston are y’all ? And are y’all still doing marriage sermons ?
Help us God!!!
Amen
🙏❤️
Kathy Morgan from New York City
Where can I see the schedule of conferences?
Hello there. Please visit xomarriage.com/conferences. Thank you!
Hi, I don't take that negative
With respected, What do mean
How do you practice this when there has been deep wounds from infidelity?
Hi maybe u should look up advice for Unfaithfulness this is on how to control anger.May God heal u and deliver and guide u and heal and deliver ur spouse.Godbless u
There's a reason that's the exit clause
Telling woman to calm down always works
I'm just joking 😂
You had to be....
That just incites more anger😆😆😆
♥️💕👩🏻🤝👨🏽♥️
I am alone and older - I never got married because I only wanted a believer in Christ as a husband..but all I met were not ...please pray for me to get a miracle-
Praying
Question why do you have the 🤟 in the back round.
It’s the English sign language for “I love you”
@@rochellewommack3227 thank you 😊
He opens with, you can't believe God to change your spouse? But you can believe God to change you? Im sorry, but I think the wisest thing to do, is to try not to change your spouse yourself, but you pray for them and let God change them. God can do anything. I disagree with this
"You may have some issues that are in your marriage, or some things that need to be overcome, and so I want you to believe God for God to change you, not your spouse. YOU CAN'T BELIEVE GOD TO CHANGE YOUR SPOUSE, but you can believe God to change you." I would kindly request that someone specifically from this ministry to please help me understand that one line, you can't believe God to change your spouse. Why is this the case?
You have to change your mental diet about your spouse. How are the conversations you have with yourself about your spouse? Are you having constant arguments about them? Are you saying they are always like this or like that? Change the conversation within yourself and your spouse will reflect it. Those mental arguments brings it out of them. Ecclesiastes 10:20.
Paul tells us to Put off anger. Col3:8 not control it.
Love Jimmy's take on marital success, but I have to offer one suggestion. NEVER let the phrase, "God I give you permission to" leave your lips. Just ask him to do the thing. I fully understand the point you are making, but we don't give the almighty permission to do anything.
God doesn't force you to do anything. He wants you to invite Him in. You need to learn this. He stands at the door and knock. He doesn't kick it in.
@@charleshunter1180
He knocks as a courtesy.
He doesn't go where he is not wanted.
Revelation 3:20 is one of my favorite verses, and I appreciate you adding it to the discussion.
My point is respect.
First analogy to come to mind, a courtroom. Everyone in the courtroom gives the judge respect and willingly let's the judge run the show. No one says, "I give you permission to decide what happens in this courtroom today"
It isn't a major issue, just a framing thing.
"God, I give you permission to take control"
Or
"God, please take control"
These are different mindsets.
Is this for Real? I am shocked? Is it even possible?
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Plain and
Simple
“But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent
beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your
minds should be corrupted from the simplicity
that is in Christ.” - 2 Corithians 11:3
Ask someone today if they are saved and
you will most likely hear responses like these:
“I have accepted Jesus into my heart.” Or “I
have made him Lord of my life.” “I’ve been
baptized.” “I said a prayer.” Sounds all good
and churchy don’t it; but it is difficult to de-termine whether or not a person actually
knows the gospel that saves them. These useless phrases don’t describe a thing about what
the gospel is and has left a devastating effect
of people not knowing what it is that they are
saved from nor how they are saved; which
leaves a more serious effect of people questioning their salvation.
Let’s not muddy the simplicity of salvation that is in Christ with vague church
sounding phrases that do not communicate
anything. But rather present God’s word with
clarity and assuredness. So here is the gospel:
plain and simple.
Sin was passed upon all men by one man
Adam, and death is a consequence of this sin
(Rom 5:12). Mankind has an eternal destiny of
condemnation and wrath - Hell - because of
this sin (Rom 6:23). No matter what good
works one might do we are still found sinners
in the sight of our Creator God. And all unrighteousness and those who follow get indignation and wrath. We cannot be found
righteous for by God’s law we are found sinners (Rom 3:19-20). If we have broken even
one law we are found guilty.
It is for this reason of not being able to
create our own righteousness and being born
in a sinful flesh that we need a savior (Titus
3:5). Christ is that Savior, God manifested in
the flesh, sinless, died in our place on a cross
2000 years ago. Taking upon him the wrath
and judgement that was intended for us sinners. And it is through his bloodshed, burial,
and resurrection on our behalf that we are
able to have peace with God and forgiveness
of our sins (1 Cor 15:1-4, Col 3:14). This good
news is unto all but only those that believe in
it are made righteous in Christ (Romans
3:22).
It is then after we have heard this good
news of Christ’s righteousness available to us freely, that we are sealed with the Holy Spirit
and we are now part of Christ’s body the
church (Eph 1:13)
There is nothing that we need to do, no
good works that are required, and no bad
works that can separate us from our new position in Christ (Romans 8:35-39).
Faith and belief in this information from
God’s word is the gospel.
The gospel is not accepting Jesus into your
heart. The gospel is not making him lord of
your life, it is not saying a prayer and it is not
being baptized with water.
So next time someone asks you if you are
saved. Give them the clear assured answer
“Yes! And let me tell you why
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AMEN & thank you! This age of what you said in beginning had been taught for a long time. It's frustrating not to have more discipleship in our so called "Christian" churches? You have to search to find one that knows what salvation really means!