Ive grown up hiding my Asperger's syndrome by being 'taught' how to act so I could try and fit in with different groups I now feel as I don't know who I am and who I become for others I just want anyone with Asperger's or who has a child with Asperger's to not become someone else.
I feel you. I too am on the spectrum. Growing up was rough. I was in special ed but due to being high functioning I didn't feel I belonged there and at recess & lunch I would go over to the regular kids to try to fit in. But they didn't understand me and called me a lot of names and I was bullied almost every other day for being "different". Recently I been telling people about my diagnosis cause for a long time after I graduated high school I just wanted to be seen as a regular kid and not mention my diagnosis. But yeah since I shared it I been getting a lot of praise. I even decided to share about it on UA-cam and the web to spread awareness cause I feel that people still don't know much about the spectrum and I'm just tired of being misunderstood. Check out some of my videos on my channel I talk about my life as well as some things that helped me growing up and dreams and desires that I have and feel free to share it with others and on social media too I feel that will gain more views: ua-cam.com/channels/S3X2HJYiQJ8i_gZJurPA2A.html?view_as=subscriber
I've known how to grow up with aspergers I've always been known as that wierd quiet person(probably why I have anxiety) so I've always been told by my teachers to "speak up" but I'm always just listening and processing what's going on but I've come to accept that as a part of me so I feel you my dude.
My boyfriend has aspergers. I did noticed that at some time. Its hard have him make some eye contact at me and he already told me its a hard thing to do. Look into peoples eyes when they wanna have ur attention by talking about something. He has those typical moves with his hands and so on that can make him simple to tell he has it too. Had a hard childhood by social with people and he gets misunderstood alot, included me as his girlfriend but we work out this relationship well somehow. Despite he has aspergers. It just all about to work things out together and try solve the problems. He been showing alot of good improvement these past months since the day we dated. He is anyway perhaps the most sweeties and well behaved guy i ever met that has a good respect from me as his girlfriend.
There is a family who wants to introduce me with their Aspergers son to be in a relationship. I have never met or deal with Aspergers before. Now, I am learning about it before I get to know him. I am confuse about what to do. Should I get to know him or not? but I feel, I like him though.
I'm now 50 years old, and I was recently diagnosed for having Asperger's syndrome. Even as a child I had my difficulties and suspected something was not right about me, my family, teachers, and some of my peers never took me seriously and accused me for acting out or playing dumb. I would learn that the diagnosis for Asperger's hasn't been considered until about a few years ago. If I had the proper diagnosis, maybe my life would have been much more different today.
I hear you. I'm 42 and heading in for my assessment in a month. If I had have known it would have made a world of difference. Now, it feels that the best part of my life has passed me by and that I have missed on so much by not knowing.
It won't help to live your life in regret for what can't be changed. Identifying a problem is the first step before figuring out ways to manage, mitigate, or solve the problem.
Oh my goodness! I’m crying after reading your comment! You could be speaking my life; my life! I always knew something wasn’t right! My family would accuse me of wanting attention or putting myself down! As a female; I was punished for not taking the female roles in the family or playing dumb if I wasn’t sure what to do. I would be banished to my room for playing dumb. In second grade the school asked my mother to take me to a therapist; my mother replied I just wanted attention! Of course in 1972; they hadn’t quite decided that females could have ASD; that didn’t happen until about 1974 or so I’ve read! It would take me until I was in my middle to late 50’s to have an inkling; because I was diagnosed with bipolar & I didn’t agree so started researching & ran across ASD in reading about bipolar & did a deep dive & found Asperger’s! I fought everyone to get assessed & by 60yr had my answer: ADOS -no; RITVO/RAADS - yes) and my RITVO score was huge! Yet if I had only read the summary: I would have only seen the summary of ASD - no! I’m so glad I painstakingly read the entire 31 page report! I was really angry at the summary after that! 😂😂😂😂 Wow! I can’t astonished that our stories are nearly identical!1! Why don’t we have ASD-RITVO clubs around the world! Man; I’m still crying! Thank you so much for posting a comment! I wish I could hug you!
Same here, cos I was born in 1987,it wasn't really know about back then, as I was just seen as a bit different, and she I got older just accentric, and very direct, luckily finally now I'll soon be going for an adult assessment as all of phchiatirists, doctors, etc l agree that I'm aspergic, even once when I was a bit naughty, well I got caught with weed on serverel occasions and ended up in court, even my legal aid solicitor whom I'd never met asked me if I was aspergic and advised me to try snd make eye contact with the judge,, so,, its pretty apparent I've got it,, I've always known once I knew what it was,, having asperges is like being in a foreign country when you're in your own country,,!!
a life of peace and quiet sounds so good. I just found out about myself being an Aspie a few hours ago and it blew my mind. Everything made sense, although it is rather mild with me. I think thc and magic mushrooms might have helped or played a role. and mainly a lot of introspection, at 19 right now. Trying to figure out how to live out myself creatively in the healthiest way possible.
When I was in middle school I went to therapy and I never questioned why until a few weeks ago and I’m 17 and all I desire is a peaceful life, it’s nice to know that others want the same peaceful life
Im still undiagnosed, unless you consider self diagnosis being diagnosed. It didn't even cross my mind that I had Asperger's until someone at my college speech class talked about autism, and more recently, ran into a video about signs of autism in adult men. That's when I realized thats what have.
Lack of focus is associated more with ADD or ADHD, whereas talking to yourself or being introverted can just be your personality. I am mildly autistic and I am introverted so there may be a connection but I'm not an expert.
Don’t let the psychiatrist fuck with you introvert and extrovert is just a way of making it easy, they said I’m introverted also but it’s not true I chose to be cause it was easier to cope with the underlying problem, introvert extrovert are bs and I don’t believe in them at all in any form. Just easy way for a psychologist/psychiatrist to be lazy and move on to the next caus ether have to make that million dollars and that’s coming from a real psychiatrist they don’t know the real problem and most are only there for the money period
I talk to myself like having a Hollywood monologue, sometimes two ways. Its a great English practice. I have good focus and hate eye contact tho, but i always notice. No sounds go over my ears
Growing up was really rough for me as a kid. (I have aspergers) I still suffer with aspergers everyday. I feel like I'll never get help. My family never did much after finding out and before that. I found out in high school! I always thought i was different. Its sucks having no help and finding out late. Anyone else relates to this?
No. But just remember that we all have isolating struggles in life and you're not alone in that regard. Did you know many famous people have autism? People like Charles Darwin, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Mozart, Kinsey, Issac Newton, and many others? You're a bright star. I'm sure socializing is probably hard, but just power through your obstacles. Believe in YOU!
I once took a test that put me just a point below the threshold for Aspergers. Eye contact to me feels like staring directly at the sun. It physically burns in such an uncomfortable way I keep track mentally of how much eye contact I make. It’s like a constant ticker in my mind when someone is around.
@@TheFunFactoryChannel A point below the threshold on a DSM test means a lot more than one thing. I think you have to test high in 3 of 5 categories to receive a diagnosis, so one question misunderstood could make up the difference. Of course, I'm in a very early stage of researching this, so I could be full of shit.
Yes we don't like eye contact during conversations but we are also socially scared 2 look because apparently we give creepy looks when we are just observing a room we get accused of starring etc. So we feel uncomfortable as we feel we are gonna be told off
Year 2011: Autism affects 1 in 110 children Year 2018: Autism affects approximately 1 in 59 children (google search) Year 2100: Normal behavior affects 1 in 50 autistic children
Same here. My wife thought it was 'cute' when we were courting. But then she wanted me to 'grow up'. My bosses wanted me to pull that empathy trick, although they liked my ability to focus. Thirty years later, I found out I had Aspergers.
Not meaning to be disrespectful, but do you really think being different from others warrants a diagnosis of some kind? What about being thankful for one's strengths, while humbly admitting to have weaknesses, and making a decision to prayerfully work on them; repenting from sins and submitting to God; dying to self and taking up one's cross - following Jesus...
I really feel like I have Aspergers because I always struggled socially. I still do. I was always shy and scared to make eye contact, and had and still have difficulty acting the right way in social situations. I used to get really angry because I’d become frustrated either with myself because I didn’t understand or because people didn’t understand I was struggling. I did well in school so they thought nothing was wrong with me. Maybe it’s something else because speech for me isn’t difficult but trying to say what I’m thinking is. I feel like my speech pattern is atypical sometimes. Then again I’m not sure because in my mind, for the most part, I understand myself. I feel like a genius but when I try to explain what’s going on, I feel like an idiot.
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growing up in my situation was funny because i have aspergers, adhd, and i grew up with apraxia, so 1. i talked WAY to fast 2. it was gibberish (so i’ve been told) 3. i would mix up words. 4. i would think to fast and i couldn’t process words from my brain to my mouth quick enough, not to mention i was selectively mute for a while after sexual abuse, so i had 3 therapists not knowing how to diagnose me and because i suffered from trauma and social anxiety i’d never open up about real things that bothered me.
I have high functioning autism and aspergers. I think that I was lucky not to recieve treatment at a young age. Going through regular public school has really helped me to overcome the effects of my autism and aspergers. In four years I went from being one of the annoying kids, to being a respectable person. I'm coming up on my sophomore year and I'm currently ranked 13th in my class. If I had gone down another path, I would have never done so good.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Aspergers is a form of high functioning autism just without language delay so having both doesn't make sense 1. Because other forms of HFA have language delay and Asperger's don't 2. Because Asperger's is a form HFA so having both like they're separate conditions is impossible.
Can Asperger's be diagnosed in adult years? I can speak well and carry on conversations but deep down I know I'm socially awkward because I have no friends and I wondered if is something that can be determined even in adult life? I also had a troubled childhood.
Yes it can be diagnosed for adults. You could take an online test first to see if you are leaning towards autism or not: Answer as honest as possible if you want the proper results psychcentral.com/quizzes/autism-test/ Remember, a test is not final but a very good indication. Further tests by professional psychologists are needed in order to give you a real diagnosis. Don't self-diagnose.
Kabuki Syneri I understand the test isn’t final but I scored a 29 which is right at the borderline between no autism and possible autism. Don’t know wether to feel worried or relieved. Guess it doesn’t matter as it won’t change anything whatsoever except increase my already sky high daily stress level :/
My parents might deny it, but I know I have Asperger's. I'm a young woman with Asperger's, though, so it manifests a little differently for me as it would for the guys. All my counselors over the years said I had it and that it was I was so quirky and offbeat and why I had trouble fitting it and understanding social cues. Sometimes people who barely knew me would judge me for having odd speech patterns and mannerisms and being so intense, overly verbose and unfiltered and they said I creeped them out or I was 'sketchy', but I have honestly never, ever wanted to hurt someone or do anything sexual against their will. I was left alone and ignored a lot as a kid and my parents didn't teach me much about social skills because they figured I would pick it up from my friends, but I didn't. I've faced rejection and alienation constantly, and the people who seem to accept me at first tend to just want to take advantage of me to get what they want, whether it's money, sex, food, weed or anything else... And the people who seem nice without taking advantage of me seem to think I'm more disabled than I actually am and they just treat me with fake, sympathy kindness like I have Down's Syndrome or something because I'm awkward and they don't know what to do me, so they act nice, but they don't ever try to hang out with me. It's rare to find someone who genuinely wants to spend time with me, and when they do, it's usually someone with more severe mental dysfunctions going on and I'm the one who pities THEM, but I don't ever try to act like it because I know how bad it feels to have someone looking down on you. I'm academically very intelligent, but because I lack social skills and I'm less capable of experiencing the full range of empathy for others, they treat me like I'm stupid or mentally challenged, which I'm not. I wish more people could see what I'm good at and understand that I'm probably a lot smarter than they give me credit for.
You might benefit by listening to Diane Langberg discussing how to recover from complex trauma. Here is a link to discussion by Henry Cloud about establishing true connection with God and others: ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
I’m a guy with Asperger’s and you described the very same things I dealt with my whole life. I absolutely hate the fake kindness/sympathy, it creates a barrier between myself and the other person. They can’t see me or get to actually know me so long as the person continues carrying this pre-conceived idea that aspies/autists are mentally handicapped when we’re not. Faced so much of it in this private Adventist school I attended for a good while. Horrible combination, I didn’t do well in school partially because of that and never had a real support system growing up.
I have so much trouble focusing on things that don't interest me, I have trouble following verbal instructions, I like doing things in a certain way, I need a strict schedule to get things done, I have insomnia, I am sensitive to light and noise, I struggle with socializing, I am very excellent drawer, I talk to myself, my mind won't shut off, I have trouble adulting. Some might see aspergers and adhd as a debilitating weakness, but I would not change it for the world. It is a part of who I am.
Can identify with you, but it is not clear to me why this has to be labelled as a disorder. People have different strengths and weaknesses, and we can work to improve ourselves - enhancing our tool chest.... What is normal anyway? First time to be confronted with the term adulting 🤔 Insomnia over the long term is not good; one needs proper rest - including deep sleep - for good digestion, healing/repair and detoxification. Have you looked into ways to improve in this area? For example sun exposure during the day to establish circadian rhythm (all cells in body have melatonin receptors); sleeping in complete darkness; no emf's and devices in bedroom; no bright light and screen exposure few hours before going to bed; not dinking liquids too close to bedtime, or stimulants like caffeine - or even Vit C - later during he day. Since employing IBT (Inclined Bed Therapy) sleeping through 6-8 hours without waking. If you can afford, go for chiropractic adjustment, since if nerves are disturbed, the body remains in sympathetic dominant state. Healthy diet (including enough fat and some animal and fermented products) and enough exercise also plays a role. Dr.John Bergman D.C. has some helpful YT lectures on DEEP SLEEP; also on various other issues like DETOXIFICATION, BLOOD PRESSURE, CHOLESTEROL, etc.
my boyfriend has just revealed to me that he has mild asperger's. i used to get on him a lot because he would never take part in simple communication aspects that i would expect in a relationship. It had crossed my mind that maybe he might have it because when i talk to him/he talks about something he likes, I often feel like I'm being lectured. He has a really hard time talking about anything that goes on in his head; therefore doesn't communicate well at all (with emotions). I used to just think he didn't care and I would confront him being upset. I am the only person besides his parents and two "aspie" (idk if that's a mean slang im sorry) friends he made in elementary school. His parents always made it clear they were ashamed and never told him until high school when he was recommended to go into resource. I feel terrible now knowing that the stuff I got mad at him for was all rooted from something he can't handle and is ashamed of. He is very talkative, smart, and has heavy interests for about two weeks at a time. He is extremely sweet and I am not sure now what the best way to show appreciation would be. I'm not sure if he would pick up positive comments as much as I would. I am someone who focuses on communication a lot, so can people with asperger's pick up on affection through words? Is communication still a good way to express love or should I move towards showing it instead? I understand asperger's can hinder the ability to express through words, but does it also hinder the ability to understand and feel through words? What are good ways I can get through to him? Or ways to make him find comfort and happiness? I'm not too smart when it comes to asperger's so I definitely need some input haha.
Hi, would you say he experienced trauma of abuse/neglect during childhood? Personally believe this to be at the root of most personality disorders. Look for example into Diane Langberg's dicussions about how to heal from complex trauma, and if he would agree listen together to Clinical Psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's lectures. Here is a link to a talk by Henry Cloud about how to establish true connection: ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
In April 2014 at the age of 57 I was diagnosed on the autistic spectrum. For the last 5 years I've spent and intense study on mathematics, psychology and computer science believing that mathematical psychology spoken in computer science language would indisputably make clear and concrete the inherent abstractions found in mathematics and psychology. Nothing in my life has ever been so difficult. At the same time I've found nothing so beneficial either. You want my advise? Well here it is: Love. The autistic child needs to be shown explicitly what is love and what it is not. The autistic child needs to get it and give it and explicitly shown what results come from it. Now comes the hard part. You have to repeat these steps over and over, often repeating it for every item within visual range. The autistic mind seldom grasps the universal concept that what is learned about one thing applies to other things. Nope. To teach the autistic it is not uncommon to have to introduce universal concepts like love to every item they can see, taste, touch, smell and feel.
*advice Thank you so much for sharing this profound insight! During your research, did you come accross OXITOCIN love hormone's healing qualities; being immune-enhancing - protective against disease (previously especially applicable to women - before rebelling against their natural funtion - when they had more children)... Re-establishing connection between cells in the gutlining (our main immune defence organ) for example? The call to be constantly expressing love, is how I believe; within the context of the rising rate of Autism; God - Who is love - is working together towards the good of those who love him; the challenge to die to self, and laying down your life in service... Did you maybe also come accross INTELLIGENT DESIGN work of Stephen Meyer and others; for example Ben Stein's EXPELLED NO INTELLIGENCE ALLOWED?
I have a form of high-function autism called Asperger's. A person like me tend to look away from the eyes and focus on the mouth. I feel like I don't belong, and might as well be on another planet.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Look on the bright side you're verbal and of normal intelligence. Things could've been much harder if just a slight alteration in your genetics happened.
I am being diagnosed with asd, i am 13 and am a girl, since i was small i have not spoken clearly, i used to point at things instead of talk and also call people girl or boy instead of their names and i would sound forceful when asking to play with them, my teachers in primary school noticed things with my speech and i got into speech therapy although we never linked it to asd until i was 12 when it started to get worse (i only went to speech therapy for a couple months when i was under 9) i am also sensitive to noises, maybe light and objects, i try to listen to all the sounds i can hear even if its a slight noise, when am walking down a street id look at drains and everything, id look at the smallest rocks just anything
I was diagnosed with Asperger's in reception. I always see a thing about how they don't have speech delay, which makes me confused. I had speech delay and my English is extremely bad without auto correct but yet I have mild Asperger's. Idk why, it's just weird
I always feel awkward when making eye contact, it's hard for me to listen to others or concentrate on what I'm saying when people are glaring directly into my soul. Like, I get you think I'm being rude but you're expression is one of disgust and expectations that I can't meet and I don't wanna look at that Edit: I really get the feeling that I should clarify that I have Aspergers
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I have Aspergers. I’ve struggled with it since I was like 5. Yeah it seems like a very young age, but I was showing a lot of the symptoms back then and my Aspergers was detected easily. It’s hard for me in school. Especially because people know about it as well but they all call it Ass Burgers. So I get called “the girl with Ass Burgers,” and I’m sick of it. I’ve gotten in trouble in my classes about 14 times in the last 3 months because I was unable to listen in class. Or more commonly I got caught up in another activity that I was obsessed over. And there is a tic, I’m told it’s not as common for people like me to have a tic, but it is there. And it has caused me Depression and anxiety. I think I’ve met maybe 1 other person that has it, and they have it a lot worse then mine. But looking at some of these comments I’m surprised by the handful of people saying they have it. Well that all I have to say, and bye..
I have Aspergers Syndrome, not even I knew there was a difference between that and Autism. I might in the near future be making a video talking about these two disabilities.
i had a speech and a walking delay when i was a baby im 32 now, i was never told if it was classic autism or what. my doc is looking back through my file to see whats there. i also had lack of eye contact and did not socialize with people well, very shy in school and had my own place in the playground, i got bullied. it was a special needs school i went to, i can drive car and do most things. i have ocd, im wondering is there any brain scans i could have to detect autism?
I was adopted out of foster care when I was about 2 and a half at the most. One of the things that's always done when a kid is put into foster care or before adoption from my experience is getting checked up by your primary physician. My parent's took my twin and I in and I not too long after was diagnosed with having aspergers. My twin didn't which I am happy about because he had more of the fetal alcohol symptoms unfortunately. All 4 of my bio siblings and I had it to some degree but mostely grew out of it. But some of the symptoms that come with aspergers still affect me to this day. I still can hardly look people in the eye without looking away after a second because I feel uncomfortable. Some sentences are still hard to put together when trying to say them audibly, and emotions are still something that I might not always show other than being happy. Very seldom have I cried in my 25 years. And I do NOT do any kind of confrontation. I will shut down right away if I feel even the slightest bit of tension. I am glad my parents found out I have it when they did because they were able to figure out what to do to help make be able to talk to people comfortably enough to not feel like I'm wasting their time and be able to work without a second question of every last thing I'm supposed to do
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I’m just going through every form of autism because I think I may have some form of it because I keep saying random crap and cant stop, anyone know what this is because i really want to stop
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I fight like no over as I train my self mine its all mine, I never like fighting I got pick on but mum said never let anyone hurt you, then with ease and fear at first found every one terribly, never lost to the same person twice, I just find it easy to invent ways to beat them at the end, I never bullied, just bullied the bullys, am a geek with a gift, leg snapper anyone or size av worked u all out before we started, well my timing and no fear of be hurt is the key now, ip 1day
I understand this. It does not mean i had to like it when my Psychiatrist would use it as an Insult. Or tell me i Have to classify myself as an "Asbi" that i can not be just "Me" I'm simply saying you should not force a word on some one unless you are calling them "Human"
I got it diagnosed too and got told about 2 months ago,damn it was tough,since the way i got it told wasn’t i’d say the most appropiately,basically telling me that its just that i have the brain of another specie and shit like that. Now that im on the research of this i realize how dumb i was to believe what they said at first
Asperger's is no longer a recognized diagnosis in the DSM-5, 2013. Children previously diagnosed with Asperger's have to be re-evaluated to determine if they have autism or some other neurological or psychiatric syndrome... or if they are considered normal. A diagnosis of autism may cause their health coverage to be cancelled, as most health insurance companies exclude people with autism.
I well all psychiatrists is have spoken to says that aspergers is a high functioning autistic spectrum. It really dosent matter if you call it autism or aspergers since aspergers is under the autism spectrum an individual with aspergers is autistic. Why sugar coat things? I love being autistic errh sorry i love having aspergers since it defines my personality and gives me certain insight into areas normal people have a hard time grasping.
i have autsim, low functioning, development delay, speach delay, started talking at age 8, i struggle alot, had not much early intervention so i need alot of help , good thing i have my hubby wiht me, he has aspergers no eye contact, some other struggles but its very clear to see the difference.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I have aspergers and it's really don't that bad anymore but as a kid I was extremely naughty and used to be really fidgety and fight everyone and run round messing about and stuff I almost got expelled I am glad I got better lol
I have Asperges... and I was diagnosed a few months ago or maybe a year ago. My mum could tell because I am socially awkward and I have anxiety problems
Anxiety can be caused by a toxic, deficient diet, other toxins in the environment like in personal care and cleaning products, metal toxicity like through dental fillings, mold exposure, too much exposure to emf's & screens, lack of deep sleep, not enough deep breathing, lack of sun exposure, not being grounded, too little exercise...
Man ... I am very selfaware and I see myself as intelectual, but I have "had" asbergers, but I am trying really hard to learn how to get rid of all symptoms. Like this video says: Does not look people into the eyes and such. Been a long road, but I now look people in the eyes automaticly. I try to let go of my stubbornes and pride and watch charisma on demand daily :P Bought new fancy clothes and hairwax too so I look civilized and slowly but surely, I am getting there. The problem is though, that every social situation is so hardly thought through with every move I make and say and it is super tiring... Well, can I hear from other people. What's your stories?
You have the best attitude! Did a lot of research into this, and found the best way to address almost any health concern, is to first heal the gut (GAPS DIET), EAT REAL FOOD and additionally employ various detoxification methods - including regular fasting. (Listen to MD Nicholas Gonzales and check out SCIENCE OF FASTING documentary). Also get out often in nature, earthed/ grounded, and exposed to sunlight, deep breathing, deep sleep, regular exercise, prayer and meditation, and go for chiropractic adjustment (Dr.John Bergman D.C. explains all of these in his YT lectures). Here is a link to a lecture by Henry Cloud in connection with establishing true connection with God and others: ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html Also found much value by listening to Clinical Psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's many lectures, and Diane Langberg's discussions on how to heal from complex trauma.
@@Relikvien Which explains your attitude... With God for us, who can be against us! Renewing the mind... Neurogenesis... Neuroplasticity... Have you listened to HOW TO SWITCH ON YOUR BRAIN by Carolyn Leaf? Recently read twice through the suggested MANS SEARCH FOR MEANING - Victor Frankl; tough to digest. But even more so, busy now with Jordan's book 12 RULES ... If only he would drop the Evolution nonsense. Anyway, God can use anyone - including those who do not know Him (as it is written in Isaiah 45). Encountering Jordan was for me life-changing. Especially found much value in his Biblical lectures on Genesis; as well as the Personality series.
I can listen and conversate with people well But i hate maintaining eye contact. I just hate it, its uncomfortable. If i do eye contact, i have a sharp look. Cause i know damn well, i ain't a liar, i don't blink much
Being labeled Autistic at a young age is often no great advantage. It comes at no surprise that people that make their livelihood "caring" for Autistic kids would say that though. I think it is better to learn when one is older so neither the Autistic individual their parents friends and people around them stereotype them and have lowered and well stereotypical expectations.
My cousin has aspergers he’s 23 and me and him are really close and we have a lot of fun all the time he’s even become a mechanic and he teaches me a lot of things
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I've had Asperger's all my life the problem was I grew up in a Time before people knew it even existed. And of course a lot of people weren't very kind or understanding about the way I was like they would be on sesame Street, but then that's reality for you.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I’m highly functioning autistic, but I don’t lack eye contact, I mean I think I don’t haha. I pay attention throughly when in a conversation and make direct eye contact all the time. Only thing is I struggle in school haha
School is not a natural environment; many do not thrive there; not to say you have a disorder, could be the opposite. Also take into account that all are not equally gifted to thrive academically? Try to learn as much as you can on your own about what interest you. The biggest problem with today's children that they waste so much time infront of screens - exposed to emf's - playing useless virtual games; this instead of getting out in the sun, grounded, breathing deeply, and moving themselves.
Often people like these make me feel uncomfortable. I do not, and never have felt the need to "Fit in" as they say. "normal" is very flawed to me. But i am a very smart person, I know more about history than anyone i know... and i am not bad -not good- but not bad with art. I do not understand what has to be "Fixed" about me... but i certainly will not be letting anyone do it any time soon. I don't want to be "Fixed" i want to be "Original." i just want to be "Strange."
Exactly! This business of diagnosing everyone with having some type of disorder is nonsense. Creates a victim mentality and a market for treatment. What is normal anyway?
I have always wondered whats the different because I have both :( strange I was that 1 out of 110 children :( But I seem to have a more creative mind than others. Some how I am a lot smarter than kids in my class I still have troubles with math Lol :)
Life is awful there's no such thing as happiness in the world living with this condition I have it I've been bullied beaten called names its enough to make anyone crazy and I feel so alone I genuinely feel that I don't have anyone to rely on life is just one big joke iam that joke all I want is to be happy but to be honest I haven't been happy a single day in my life and I dont think I ever will
There is hope to find true connection with God and others: ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html Listen also to Clinical Psychologist Jordan Peterson's YT lectures, and Diane Langberg explaining how to recover from trauma. Forgiveness extended to others is the key; this after yourself receiving forgiveness from God.
Stop using aspergers as an excuse and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Everybody has problems. If no one had labeled us we wouldn't have known. We would just consider ourselves awkward. There are many awkard people and it's not a problem, but don't say: " I have such a hard time because I have aspergers... People should know and adapt to me " You make yourself weak. Aspergers is not a disability. Some people are social and some are not. Just like some people are athletic and some are not. People are different. That's life.
Yes, ideed! Attaching labels without good reason; this makes people feel like victims, and enable others to make money by treating them. Have learned much from Clinical Psychologist Jordan B.Peterson about how people differ in character traits, and how it is possible to improve in areas where one is not as strong. Most important is to realise God Created each of us as an unique individual, and He can use us as instruments to extend His kingdom if we submit to Him.
What is alarming, is how the vague classification Aspergers (seems to be inclusive of any manner of differentness and even some ways of deviancy) is now embraced and heralded by some as being a supposed advancement in 'human evolution'; with those not complying to fit into the box of being classified as such, diagnosed as NT(Neurotypical): ua-cam.com/video/vdQDvLXLqiM/v-deo.html
@@maricamaas5555 You of course never saw his video on autism, while he understands it poorly he does at least admit it exists. Yes, the autism community and many professionals think autism is a 'super power' or makes them neuro-diverse ~ wrongly but it's better than being negative about your diagnosis. But agreeing with a moron like H1007 and then lumping in your belief in Christ not only makes you look stupid but it furthers the prejudice against other christians being equally as dumb.
I lived to 29 not noing I had aspergers, I was growing more more aware and upset at 28 that no one wsd listen properly or long a nuff to what I say and geting the meening or completely the opposite I meant? AV all so got a gene thst makes muscle without working out I just think or want I get them I walked at 6month old and balanced on 1 leg at 7 month, am trying to be the greatest brawler ever live, van d cross Bruce's, 60kg but lift 130kg on bench,super fast. I punch and block just as normal people brain prosess the info so I leave a after image. By my self I never give up content evolveing my body. If had been told I had aspergers, this person wouldnt exist, not noing made be turn struggle in to a beam of white light am a pure real life sheep dog, am not a abbycas but anyone can count on me, pain nothing when there no point to anything, good mum to really perfect for me
I seem to be failing at explaining this i am sorry. As a person With Aspergers, To me, There is no difference between the things you speak of. I am sorry if this still does not make sense, I'm having trouble coming up with the Right words.
Well, people with autism can as well. It really depends on IQ and how the symptoms interact with each other. It only Aspie snobbery that says being labeled autistic is so much worse. Autism does not equal mental retardation as some seem to think.
What is confusing, is that some children are truly affected, with real disorders - including Autism (as is openly mentioned on vaccine inserts); this while others who are functional and normal, but with character traits different or viewed as difficult to control within the dysfunctional public school system, are now being classified as defective. This applies especially to boys, who in general do not do well sitting still for long periods (as is expected of them in schools). It seems those who are more intelligent; high in openness and with creative abilities - thinking outside the box - are targetted in order to be controlled, manipulated and weakened from an early age - through therapy and drugs?
Study: Children Of Pink Disease Survivors At Risk For Autism | Asian Scientist Magazine | Science, technology and medical news updates from Asia www.asianscientist.com/2011/08/health/mercury-sensitivity-pink-disease-autism-disorder/
your may have been a mild version obviously. My sons is very bad he is getting better with all the help he is receiving now. but as i said before there are many degrees of AS yours is mild.
@Levi Davis Every type of autism was combined into a new diagnosis. Autism Spectrum Disorder. Before Asperger's was removed from being a singular diagnosis, Asperger's wasn't even considered a type of autism.
@@lyndonleedalee1738 that's not true Aspergers was always considered part of the autism autism spectrum, it's just that the term 'aspergers' is no longer used
"Autism affects 1 in 110 children. The majority are boys." That's incorrect. The majority of the diagnosed population is male, but Autism affects both genders; only females have different symptoms than those commonly associated with boys (like liking trains and no eye contact); thus not getting a correct diagnosis. Female symptoms vary but are generally conformed of a high-sensitivity, artistic/linguistic abilities, easily stressed and a strong dislike for routine changes, and are highly empathetic.
They say aspergers is autism but neurotypicals sure make the distinction without even knowing. *NTs to other autistic people:* awwww let me help you with whatever you need because it will show others how much of a really great person I am. *NTs to Aspies:* Tf u eating for breakfast egg brains
Ive grown up hiding my Asperger's syndrome by being 'taught' how to act so I could try and fit in with different groups I now feel as I don't know who I am and who I become for others I just want anyone with Asperger's or who has a child with Asperger's to not become someone else.
I feel you. I too am on the spectrum. Growing up was rough. I was in special ed but due to being high functioning I didn't feel I belonged there and at recess & lunch I would go over to the regular kids to try to fit in. But they didn't understand me and called me a lot of names and I was bullied almost every other day for being "different". Recently I been telling people about my diagnosis cause for a long time after I graduated high school I just wanted to be seen as a regular kid and not mention my diagnosis. But yeah since I shared it I been getting a lot of praise. I even decided to share about it on UA-cam and the web to spread awareness cause I feel that people still don't know much about the spectrum and I'm just tired of being misunderstood. Check out some of my videos on my channel I talk about my life as well as some things that helped me growing up and dreams and desires that I have and feel free to share it with others and on social media too I feel that will gain more views: ua-cam.com/channels/S3X2HJYiQJ8i_gZJurPA2A.html?view_as=subscriber
@@lorraine331 I know what you mean but hiding it will not make you feel normal I wish it would but mabey the grass is just greener on the other side.
Same here...we all that have this can really teach kids like us to not make the same mistake
I've known how to grow up with aspergers I've always been known as that wierd quiet person(probably why I have anxiety) so I've always been told by my teachers to "speak up" but I'm always just listening and processing what's going on but I've come to accept that as a part of me so I feel you my dude.
I hided it till thet found out when i was 12 it was hard for me
I have Asperger but I didn’t lack eye contact, I was just interested in my own reflection in people’s iris and looked at it intently as a kid lol
Same
Asperger +social anxiety
Honestly I still can’t keep eye contact well lol
Same but my parents my parents wont check to see if i have aspergers
I can’t do eye contact bruh
Having asperges is like being in a foreign country, in your own country,
Not really
I like it
Honestly, most intelligent, normal, rational people with common sense - trying to hold on to traditional values - are feeling that way today!
The eye contact thing is a problem for me and once someone start trying to make eye contact with me I get pissed the fuck off
When you speak with colleagues or family, do you look them in the eyes?
My boyfriend has aspergers. I did noticed that at some time. Its hard have him make some eye contact at me and he already told me its a hard thing to do. Look into peoples eyes when they wanna have ur attention by talking about something.
He has those typical moves with his hands and so on that can make him simple to tell he has it too.
Had a hard childhood by social with people and he gets misunderstood alot, included me as his girlfriend but we work out this relationship well somehow. Despite he has aspergers. It just all about to work things out together and try solve the problems.
He been showing alot of good improvement these past months since the day we dated. He is anyway perhaps the most sweeties and well behaved guy i ever met that has a good respect from me as his girlfriend.
Wow you are legitimately a good person
Girls like you inspire parents like us.
Are you guys still dating?
There is a family who wants to introduce me with their Aspergers son to be in a relationship. I have never met or deal with Aspergers before. Now, I am learning about it before I get to know him. I am confuse about what to do. Should I get to know him or not? but I feel, I like him though.
I have aspergus
I'm now 50 years old, and I was recently diagnosed for having Asperger's syndrome. Even as a child I had my difficulties and suspected something was not right about me, my family, teachers, and some of my peers never took me seriously and accused me for acting out or playing dumb. I would learn that the diagnosis for Asperger's hasn't been considered until about a few years ago. If I had the proper diagnosis, maybe my life would have been much more different today.
Did you have children?
53?
I hear you. I'm 42 and heading in for my assessment in a month. If I had have known it would have made a world of difference. Now, it feels that the best part of my life has passed me by and that I have missed on so much by not knowing.
It won't help to live your life in regret for what can't be changed. Identifying a problem is the first step before figuring out ways to manage, mitigate, or solve the problem.
Oh my goodness! I’m crying after reading your comment! You could be speaking my life; my life! I always knew something wasn’t right! My family would accuse me of wanting attention or putting myself down! As a female; I was punished for not taking the female roles in the family or playing dumb if I wasn’t sure what to do. I would be banished to my room for playing dumb. In second grade the school asked my mother to take me to a therapist; my mother replied I just wanted attention!
Of course in 1972; they hadn’t quite decided that females could have ASD; that didn’t happen until about 1974 or so I’ve read! It would take me until I was in my middle to late 50’s to have an inkling; because I was diagnosed with bipolar & I didn’t agree so started researching & ran across ASD in reading about bipolar & did a deep dive & found Asperger’s! I fought everyone to get assessed & by 60yr had my answer: ADOS -no; RITVO/RAADS - yes) and my RITVO score was huge! Yet if I had only read the summary: I would have only seen the summary of ASD - no! I’m so glad I painstakingly read the entire 31 page report! I was really angry at the summary after that! 😂😂😂😂
Wow! I can’t astonished that our stories are nearly identical!1! Why don’t we have ASD-RITVO clubs around the world!
Man; I’m still crying! Thank you so much for posting a comment! I wish I could hug you!
I wasn't diagnosed with Asperger until my late 30's. of course back then, we did not know about it. I have chosen a life of peace and quiet.
Same here, cos I was born in 1987,it wasn't really know about back then, as I was just seen as a bit different, and she I got older just accentric, and very direct, luckily finally now I'll soon be going for an adult assessment as all of phchiatirists, doctors, etc l agree that I'm aspergic, even once when I was a bit naughty, well I got caught with weed on serverel occasions and ended up in court, even my legal aid solicitor whom I'd never met asked me if I was aspergic and advised me to try snd make eye contact with the judge,, so,, its pretty apparent I've got it,, I've always known once I knew what it was,, having asperges is like being in a foreign country when you're in your own country,,!!
a life of peace and quiet sounds so good. I just found out about myself being an Aspie a few hours ago and it blew my mind. Everything made sense, although it is rather mild with me. I think thc and magic mushrooms might have helped or played a role. and mainly a lot of introspection, at 19 right now. Trying to figure out how to live out myself creatively in the healthiest way possible.
When I was in middle school I went to therapy and I never questioned why until a few weeks ago and I’m 17 and all I desire is a peaceful life, it’s nice to know that others want the same peaceful life
Im still undiagnosed, unless you consider self diagnosis being diagnosed.
It didn't even cross my mind that I had Asperger's until someone at my college speech class talked about autism, and more recently, ran into a video about signs of autism in adult men. That's when I realized thats what have.
@@joemann7971 make you sure to get an official diagnosis. maybe you have adhd, or something else. dr wil know. good luck
I think I have autism but not sure. I'm introverted, talk to myself, think about past a lot, have trouble focusing.
Lack of focus is associated more with ADD or ADHD, whereas talking to yourself or being introverted can just be your personality. I am mildly autistic and I am introverted so there may be a connection but I'm not an expert.
Don’t let the psychiatrist fuck with you introvert and extrovert is just a way of making it easy, they said I’m introverted also but it’s not true I chose to be cause it was easier to cope with the underlying problem, introvert extrovert are bs and I don’t believe in them at all in any form. Just easy way for a psychologist/psychiatrist to be lazy and move on to the next caus ether have to make that million dollars and that’s coming from a real psychiatrist they don’t know the real problem and most are only there for the money period
What you have my friend is called Schizophrenia
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Lol you crazy
I talk to myself like having a Hollywood monologue, sometimes two ways. Its a great English practice. I have good focus and hate eye contact tho, but i always notice. No sounds go over my ears
Growing up was really rough for me as a kid. (I have aspergers) I still suffer with aspergers everyday. I feel like I'll never get help. My family never did much after finding out and before that. I found out in high school! I always thought i was different. Its sucks having no help and finding out late. Anyone else relates to this?
No. But just remember that we all have isolating struggles in life and you're not alone in that regard. Did you know many famous people have autism? People like Charles Darwin, Steve Jobs, Albert Einstein, Mozart, Kinsey, Issac Newton, and many others? You're a bright star. I'm sure socializing is probably hard, but just power through your obstacles. Believe in YOU!
Yes very relatable
Yes
i'm very socially awkward and i can't really look people in the eyes for too long, it just makes me feel weird
Same it makes me Shy and uncomfortable
Is staring not generally viewed as being rude, and unless intimate with someone, not advisable to be looking too long into someone else's eyes?
I once took a test that put me just a point below the threshold for Aspergers. Eye contact to me feels like staring directly at the sun. It physically burns in such an uncomfortable way I keep track mentally of how much eye contact I make. It’s like a constant ticker in my mind when someone is around.
Socially inept isn't autism it's a symptom but not a diagnoses
@@TheFunFactoryChannel A point below the threshold on a DSM test means a lot more than one thing. I think you have to test high in 3 of 5 categories to receive a diagnosis, so one question misunderstood could make up the difference. Of course, I'm in a very early stage of researching this, so I could be full of shit.
Yes we don't like eye contact during conversations but we are also socially scared 2 look because apparently we give creepy looks when we are just observing a room we get accused of starring etc. So we feel uncomfortable as we feel we are gonna be told off
Year 2011: Autism affects 1 in 110 children
Year 2018: Autism affects approximately 1 in 59 children (google search)
Year 2100: Normal behavior affects 1 in 50 autistic children
Same here. My wife thought it was 'cute' when we were courting. But then she wanted me to 'grow up'. My bosses wanted me to pull that empathy trick, although they liked my ability to focus. Thirty years later, I found out I had Aspergers.
Not meaning to be disrespectful, but do you really think being different from others warrants a diagnosis of some kind?
What about being thankful for one's strengths, while humbly admitting to have weaknesses, and making a decision to prayerfully work on them; repenting from sins and submitting to God; dying to self and taking up one's cross - following Jesus...
@@maricamaas5555
I really feel like I have Aspergers because I always struggled socially. I still do. I was always shy and scared to make eye contact, and had and still have difficulty acting the right way in social situations. I used to get really angry because I’d become frustrated either with myself because I didn’t understand or because people didn’t understand I was struggling. I did well in school so they thought nothing was wrong with me. Maybe it’s something else because speech for me isn’t difficult but trying to say what I’m thinking is. I feel like my speech pattern is atypical sometimes. Then again I’m not sure because in my mind, for the most part, I understand myself. I feel like a genius but when I try to explain what’s going on, I feel like an idiot.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
growing up in my situation was funny because i have aspergers, adhd, and i grew up with apraxia, so 1. i talked WAY to fast 2. it was gibberish (so i’ve been told) 3. i would mix up words. 4. i would think to fast and i couldn’t process words from my brain to my mouth quick enough, not to mention i was selectively mute for a while after sexual abuse, so i had 3 therapists not knowing how to diagnose me and because i suffered from trauma and social anxiety i’d never open up about real things that bothered me.
Where are you now
Kinda same with my brain being so fast that My mouth can’t keep up.
I have high functioning autism and aspergers. I think that I was lucky not to recieve treatment at a young age.
Going through regular public school has really helped me to overcome the effects of my autism and aspergers. In four years I went from being one of the annoying kids, to being a respectable person.
I'm coming up on my sophomore year and I'm currently ranked 13th in my class.
If I had gone down another path, I would have never done so good.
@Beatrix In Christ please stop advertising your poisonous herbs
Good for you! It sucks for me as a another aspergers/high functioning supposedly diagnosed individual being in special ed school.. and it sucks
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Aspergers is a form of high functioning autism just without language delay so having both doesn't make sense 1. Because other forms of HFA have language delay and Asperger's don't 2. Because Asperger's is a form HFA so having both like they're separate conditions is impossible.
Can Asperger's be diagnosed in adult years? I can speak well and carry on conversations but deep down I know I'm socially awkward because I have no friends and I wondered if is something that can be determined even in adult life? I also had a troubled childhood.
Yes it can be diagnosed for adults. You could take an online test first to see if you are leaning towards autism or not:
Answer as honest as possible if you want the proper results psychcentral.com/quizzes/autism-test/
Remember, a test is not final but a very good indication. Further tests by professional psychologists are needed in order to give you a real diagnosis. Don't self-diagnose.
Kabuki Syneri I understand the test isn’t final but I scored a 29 which is right at the borderline between no autism and possible autism. Don’t know wether to feel worried or relieved. Guess it doesn’t matter as it won’t change anything whatsoever except increase my already sky high daily stress level :/
Same here man.
hardrokrulzjj would it change anything?
@@hardrokrulzjj i suggest you do the raads-r test. it's what psychologists use. the cut off is 65
My parents might deny it, but I know I have Asperger's. I'm a young woman with Asperger's, though, so it manifests a little differently for me as it would for the guys. All my counselors over the years said I had it and that it was I was so quirky and offbeat and why I had trouble fitting it and understanding social cues. Sometimes people who barely knew me would judge me for having odd speech patterns and mannerisms and being so intense, overly verbose and unfiltered and they said I creeped them out or I was 'sketchy', but I have honestly never, ever wanted to hurt someone or do anything sexual against their will. I was left alone and ignored a lot as a kid and my parents didn't teach me much about social skills because they figured I would pick it up from my friends, but I didn't. I've faced rejection and alienation constantly, and the people who seem to accept me at first tend to just want to take advantage of me to get what they want, whether it's money, sex, food, weed or anything else... And the people who seem nice without taking advantage of me seem to think I'm more disabled than I actually am and they just treat me with fake, sympathy kindness like I have Down's Syndrome or something because I'm awkward and they don't know what to do me, so they act nice, but they don't ever try to hang out with me. It's rare to find someone who genuinely wants to spend time with me, and when they do, it's usually someone with more severe mental dysfunctions going on and I'm the one who pities THEM, but I don't ever try to act like it because I know how bad it feels to have someone looking down on you. I'm academically very intelligent, but because I lack social skills and I'm less capable of experiencing the full range of empathy for others, they treat me like I'm stupid or mentally challenged, which I'm not. I wish more people could see what I'm good at and understand that I'm probably a lot smarter than they give me credit for.
You might benefit by listening to Diane Langberg discussing how to recover from complex trauma.
Here is a link to discussion by Henry Cloud about establishing true connection with God and others:
ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
I’m a guy with Asperger’s and you described the very same things I dealt with my whole life. I absolutely hate the fake kindness/sympathy, it creates a barrier between myself and the other person. They can’t see me or get to actually know me so long as the person continues carrying this pre-conceived idea that aspies/autists are mentally handicapped when we’re not.
Faced so much of it in this private Adventist school I attended for a good while. Horrible combination, I didn’t do well in school partially because of that and never had a real support system growing up.
I have so much trouble focusing on things that don't interest me, I have trouble following verbal instructions, I like doing things in a certain way, I need a strict schedule to get things done, I have insomnia, I am sensitive to light and noise, I struggle with socializing, I am very excellent drawer, I talk to myself, my mind won't shut off, I have trouble adulting. Some might see aspergers and adhd as a debilitating weakness, but I would not change it for the world. It is a part of who I am.
Can identify with you, but it is not clear to me why this has to be labelled as a disorder. People have different strengths and weaknesses, and we can work to improve ourselves - enhancing our tool chest.... What is normal anyway?
First time to be confronted with the term adulting 🤔
Insomnia over the long term is not good; one needs proper rest - including deep sleep - for good digestion, healing/repair and detoxification. Have you looked into ways to improve in this area?
For example sun exposure during the day to establish circadian rhythm (all cells in body have melatonin receptors); sleeping in complete darkness; no emf's and devices in bedroom; no bright light and screen exposure few hours before going to bed; not dinking liquids too close to bedtime, or stimulants like caffeine - or even Vit C - later during he day. Since employing IBT (Inclined Bed Therapy) sleeping through 6-8 hours without waking.
If you can afford, go for chiropractic adjustment, since if nerves are disturbed, the body remains in sympathetic dominant state. Healthy diet (including enough fat and some animal and fermented products) and enough exercise also plays a role. Dr.John Bergman D.C. has some helpful YT lectures on DEEP SLEEP; also on various other issues like DETOXIFICATION, BLOOD PRESSURE, CHOLESTEROL, etc.
why aren't bullies labelled as having a 'social disorder'?
Previously that was the case when Common Sense was in charge...
innerstrength.zone/life/the-best-obituary-ever-written-in-a-newspaper-this-is-genius/?
my boyfriend has just revealed to me that he has mild asperger's. i used to get on him a lot because he would never take part in simple communication aspects that i would expect in a relationship. It had crossed my mind that maybe he might have it because when i talk to him/he talks about something he likes, I often feel like I'm being lectured. He has a really hard time talking about anything that goes on in his head; therefore doesn't communicate well at all (with emotions). I used to just think he didn't care and I would confront him being upset. I am the only person besides his parents and two "aspie" (idk if that's a mean slang im sorry) friends he made in elementary school. His parents always made it clear they were ashamed and never told him until high school when he was recommended to go into resource. I feel terrible now knowing that the stuff I got mad at him for was all rooted from something he can't handle and is ashamed of. He is very talkative, smart, and has heavy interests for about two weeks at a time. He is extremely sweet and I am not sure now what the best way to show appreciation would be. I'm not sure if he would pick up positive comments as much as I would. I am someone who focuses on communication a lot, so can people with asperger's pick up on affection through words? Is communication still a good way to express love or should I move towards showing it instead? I understand asperger's can hinder the ability to express through words, but does it also hinder the ability to understand and feel through words? What are good ways I can get through to him? Or ways to make him find comfort and happiness? I'm not too smart when it comes to asperger's so I definitely need some input haha.
Hi, would you say he experienced trauma of abuse/neglect during childhood? Personally believe this to be at the root of most personality disorders. Look for example into Diane Langberg's dicussions about how to heal from complex trauma, and if he would agree listen together to Clinical Psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's lectures. Here is a link to a talk by Henry Cloud about how to establish true connection:
ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
In April 2014 at the age of 57 I was diagnosed on the autistic spectrum. For the last 5 years I've spent and intense study on mathematics, psychology and computer science believing that mathematical psychology spoken in computer science language would indisputably make clear and concrete the inherent abstractions found in mathematics and psychology. Nothing in my life has ever been so difficult. At the same time I've found nothing so beneficial either. You want my advise? Well here it is: Love. The autistic child needs to be shown explicitly what is love and what it is not. The autistic child needs to get it and give it and explicitly shown what results come from it. Now comes the hard part. You have to repeat these steps over and over, often repeating it for every item within visual range. The autistic mind seldom grasps the universal concept that what is learned about one thing applies to other things. Nope. To teach the autistic it is not uncommon to have to introduce universal concepts like love to every item they can see, taste, touch, smell and feel.
*advice
Thank you so much for sharing this profound insight! During your research, did you come accross OXITOCIN love hormone's healing qualities; being immune-enhancing - protective against disease (previously especially applicable to women - before rebelling against their natural funtion - when they had more children)... Re-establishing connection between cells in the gutlining (our main immune defence organ) for example?
The call to be constantly expressing love, is how I believe; within the context of the rising rate of Autism; God - Who is love - is working together towards the good of those who love him; the challenge to die to self, and laying down your life in service...
Did you maybe also come accross INTELLIGENT DESIGN work of Stephen Meyer and others; for example Ben Stein's EXPELLED NO INTELLIGENCE ALLOWED?
I have a form of high-function autism called Asperger's. A person like me tend to look away from the eyes and focus on the mouth. I feel like I don't belong, and might as well be on another planet.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
Look on the bright side you're verbal and of normal intelligence. Things could've been much harder if just a slight alteration in your genetics happened.
@@RodMigz08 Thanks.
Too many people want labels. The kids I know that have been diagnosed are all absolutely spoilt and they're mothers are demics
Many thanks and very good, as I have my son with autism. Don't block our son from people and let them socialize with their friends.
They have thought about that, but we Aspergers operate the internet and computers. They've got to be nice to us.
I am being diagnosed with asd, i am 13 and am a girl, since i was small i have not spoken clearly, i used to point at things instead of talk and also call people girl or boy instead of their names and i would sound forceful when asking to play with them, my teachers in primary school noticed things with my speech and i got into speech therapy although we never linked it to asd until i was 12 when it started to get worse (i only went to speech therapy for a couple months when i was under 9) i am also sensitive to noises, maybe light and objects, i try to listen to all the sounds i can hear even if its a slight noise, when am walking down a street id look at drains and everything, id look at the smallest rocks just anything
Look into GAPS diet of Natasha C.McBride to heal the gut, and into various detoxification methods.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's in reception. I always see a thing about how they don't have speech delay, which makes me confused. I had speech delay and my English is extremely bad without auto correct but yet I have mild Asperger's. Idk why, it's just weird
Look into GAPS diet, and employ various detoxification methods.
I always feel awkward when making eye contact, it's hard for me to listen to others or concentrate on what I'm saying when people are glaring directly into my soul. Like, I get you think I'm being rude but you're expression is one of disgust and expectations that I can't meet and I don't wanna look at that
Edit: I really get the feeling that I should clarify that I have Aspergers
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I got my Asperger's dianogsis at 56. It answered so many questions
I have Aspergers. I’ve struggled with it since I was like 5. Yeah it seems like a very young age, but I was showing a lot of the symptoms back then and my Aspergers was detected easily. It’s hard for me in school. Especially because people know about it as well but they all call it Ass Burgers. So I get called “the girl with Ass Burgers,” and I’m sick of it. I’ve gotten in trouble in my classes about 14 times in the last 3 months because I was unable to listen in class. Or more commonly I got caught up in another activity that I was obsessed over. And there is a tic, I’m told it’s not as common for people like me to have a tic, but it is there. And it has caused me Depression and anxiety. I think I’ve met maybe 1 other person that has it, and they have it a lot worse then mine. But looking at some of these comments I’m surprised by the handful of people saying they have it. Well that all I have to say, and bye..
Look into healing the gut (GAPS DIET) and various methods of detoxification.
I have Aspergers and I was't diagnosed until I was 13, after extensive testing.
Elianna Stevens I was diagnosed at the age of 9 years old
I was diagnosed when I was 8 now I’m 13 it’s taken a toll
I have Aspergers Syndrome, not even I knew there was a difference between that and Autism. I might in the near future be making a video talking about these two disabilities.
i had a speech and a walking delay when i was a baby im 32 now, i was never told if it was classic autism or what. my doc is looking back through my file to see whats there. i also had lack of eye contact and did not socialize with people well, very shy in school and had my own place in the playground, i got bullied. it was a special needs school i went to, i can drive car and do most things. i have ocd, im wondering is there any brain scans i could have to detect autism?
I was adopted out of foster care when I was about 2 and a half at the most. One of the things that's always done when a kid is put into foster care or before adoption from my experience is getting checked up by your primary physician. My parent's took my twin and I in and I not too long after was diagnosed with having aspergers. My twin didn't which I am happy about because he had more of the fetal alcohol symptoms unfortunately. All 4 of my bio siblings and I had it to some degree but mostely grew out of it. But some of the symptoms that come with aspergers still affect me to this day. I still can hardly look people in the eye without looking away after a second because I feel uncomfortable. Some sentences are still hard to put together when trying to say them audibly, and emotions are still something that I might not always show other than being happy. Very seldom have I cried in my 25 years. And I do NOT do any kind of confrontation. I will shut down right away if I feel even the slightest bit of tension. I am glad my parents found out I have it when they did because they were able to figure out what to do to help make be able to talk to people comfortably enough to not feel like I'm wasting their time and be able to work without a second question of every last thing I'm supposed to do
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I’m just going through every form of autism because I think I may have some form of it because I keep saying random crap and cant stop, anyone know what this is because i really want to stop
You say random stuff? Like words or sounds or swearing? That’s Tourette’s
Alexander_Cdn yes, thank you, but is it when you select a word that you think is funny and keep saying it, is that it?
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I’m diagnosed with autism but I didn’t have speech delay. I started to speak early. How come I didn´t get diagnosed with asperger?
In some areas, Asperger's syndrome isn't a diagnosis anymore since the DSM-5 came out.
Why did you receive a diagnosis; what type of symptoms do you have?
I fight like no over as I train my self mine its all mine, I never like fighting I got pick on but mum said never let anyone hurt you, then with ease and fear at first found every one terribly, never lost to the same person twice, I just find it easy to invent ways to beat them at the end, I never bullied, just bullied the bullys, am a geek with a gift, leg snapper anyone or size av worked u all out before we started, well my timing and no fear of be hurt is the key now, ip 1day
I understand this. It does not mean i had to like it when my Psychiatrist would use it as an Insult. Or tell me i Have to classify myself as an "Asbi" that i can not be just "Me" I'm simply saying you should not force a word on some one unless you are calling them "Human"
I have ... Asperger’s syndrome and I’m a girl, I was diagnosed last year
* Golden Quartz * Also a female diagnosed about two months ago
I'm alsp a gal but waiting 16 months for diagnosis
I got it diagnosed too and got told about 2 months ago,damn it was tough,since the way i got it told wasn’t i’d say the most appropiately,basically telling me that its just that i have the brain of another specie and shit like that. Now that im on the research of this i realize how dumb i was to believe what they said at first
Asperger's is no longer a recognized diagnosis in the DSM-5, 2013.
Children previously diagnosed with Asperger's have to be re-evaluated to determine if they have autism or some other neurological or psychiatric syndrome... or if they are considered normal.
A diagnosis of autism may cause their health coverage to be cancelled, as most health insurance companies exclude people with autism.
Mike Polidori that’s absolute nonsense.
I have aspergers but I also have a stage 3 underbite which make speaking harder for me and I did not speak much as a kid. I was to lazy to even try
I well all psychiatrists is have spoken to says that aspergers is a high functioning autistic spectrum. It really dosent matter if you call it autism or aspergers since aspergers is under the autism spectrum an individual with aspergers is autistic. Why sugar coat things? I love being autistic errh sorry i love having aspergers since it defines my personality and gives me certain insight into areas normal people have a hard time grasping.
One thing that gets me. There is no such thing as high functioning. We all have issues, many aren't obvious.
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ASD can coexist or overlap with other disorders.
When I was in 7th grade, every kid in school hated me. I’ve been diagnosed with Asperger’s syndrome and I have it mildly
I can relate, because I only have few Friend at middle school
My friend just got diagnosed with Aspergers and he’s a freshman in hs
i have autsim, low functioning, development delay, speach delay, started talking at age 8, i struggle alot, had not much early intervention so i need alot of help , good thing i have my hubby wiht me, he has aspergers no eye contact, some other struggles but its very clear to see the difference.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
The vast majority is a 21-year-old boy and I who study 33 or the elderly who are lost cases and here in Puerto Rico?
I have aspergers and it's really don't that bad anymore but as a kid I was extremely naughty and used to be really fidgety and fight everyone and run round messing about and stuff I almost got expelled I am glad I got better lol
Next up: America and the USA, what’s the difference?
I have Asperges... and I was diagnosed a few months ago or maybe a year ago. My mum could tell because I am socially awkward and I have anxiety problems
Anxiety can be caused by a toxic, deficient diet, other toxins in the environment like in personal care and cleaning products, metal toxicity like through dental fillings, mold exposure, too much exposure to emf's & screens, lack of deep sleep, not enough deep breathing, lack of sun exposure, not being grounded, too little exercise...
I show symptoms of asperger's syndrome although I've never been diagnosed. Life makes sense after doing autism tests online
Does aren't vary accurate since they often don't take account higher-functioning/milder conditions on the spectrum like Aspergers
i wasn’t diagnosed with aspergers until 7th grade
I'm similar to asperger and my Wecshler Intelligence index is higher than 130. I'm graduate student in major chemistry and my performance is not bad.
I was diagnosed with PDD-NOS back in '97 and now I have AS.
I didnt find out I had it untill inward 36 now I find it hard to fit in
Man ... I am very selfaware and I see myself as intelectual, but I have "had" asbergers, but I am trying really hard to learn how to get rid of all symptoms.
Like this video says: Does not look people into the eyes and such. Been a long road, but I now look people in the eyes automaticly.
I try to let go of my stubbornes and pride and watch charisma on demand daily :P
Bought new fancy clothes and hairwax too so I look civilized and slowly but surely, I am getting there.
The problem is though, that every social situation is so hardly thought through with every move I make and say and it is super tiring...
Well, can I hear from other people. What's your stories?
You have the best attitude!
Did a lot of research into this, and found the best way to address almost any health concern, is to first heal the gut (GAPS DIET), EAT REAL FOOD and additionally employ various detoxification methods - including regular fasting. (Listen to MD Nicholas Gonzales and check out SCIENCE OF FASTING documentary).
Also get out often in nature, earthed/ grounded, and exposed to sunlight, deep breathing, deep sleep, regular exercise, prayer and meditation, and go for chiropractic adjustment (Dr.John Bergman D.C. explains all of these in his YT lectures).
Here is a link to a lecture by Henry Cloud in connection with establishing true connection with God and others:
ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
Also found much value by listening to Clinical Psychologist Jordan B. Peterson's many lectures, and Diane Langberg's discussions on how to heal from complex trauma.
@@maricamaas5555 Thank you! I actualy do listen a lot to Jordan Peterson and I am also in a personal relationship with God!
@@Relikvien
Which explains your attitude... With God for us, who can be against us! Renewing the mind... Neurogenesis... Neuroplasticity... Have you listened to HOW TO SWITCH ON YOUR BRAIN by Carolyn Leaf?
Recently read twice through the suggested MANS SEARCH FOR MEANING - Victor Frankl; tough to digest. But even more so, busy now with Jordan's book 12 RULES ... If only he would drop the Evolution nonsense.
Anyway, God can use anyone - including those who do not know Him (as it is written in Isaiah 45). Encountering Jordan was for me life-changing. Especially found much value in his Biblical lectures on Genesis; as well as the Personality series.
Saying Asperger’s is something you have to deal with is like saying you were a WW2 veteran while in reality you were hiding in the middle of the US
i forgot to add it could also reduce the chance of that child being bullied.
hi do you know someone with aspergers?
I can listen and conversate with people well
But i hate maintaining eye contact. I just hate it, its uncomfortable. If i do eye contact, i have a sharp look. Cause i know damn well, i ain't a liar, i don't blink much
Excellent information. Although the talking is a little to fast for me to take in at times.
When i look people in the eye i feel like the world is floating
When I look people in the eye, time goes slow.
I'M 50+ and still haven't been diagnosed.
im 42 and just realizing i have asperger's. i always felt alien my whole life
Analyze your children for all difficulty as they might be experiencing an illness so don't let that go by.
Be blessed with God,
Gustavo Ceja
I am autistic and none of my friends had any idea that I was untill I told them myself
Why do you think you have it if no one else even notice it?
Being labeled Autistic at a young age is often no great advantage. It comes at no surprise that people that make their livelihood "caring" for Autistic kids would say that though. I think it is better to learn when one is older so neither the Autistic individual their parents friends and people around them stereotype them and have lowered and well stereotypical expectations.
My cousin has aspergers he’s 23 and me and him are really close and we have a lot of fun all the time he’s even become a mechanic and he teaches me a lot of things
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
I've had Asperger's all my life the problem was I grew up in a Time before people knew it even existed.
And of course a lot of people weren't very kind or understanding about the way I was like they would be on sesame Street, but then that's reality for you.
There is permanent herbs to improve autism. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills
One of the greatest disservices to children with these problems is the rush to medicate after diagnosis.
That’s the entire pt
Point
That's strange, it's the opposite for me. Eye contact is a major thing for me.
I’m highly functioning autistic, but I don’t lack eye contact, I mean I think I don’t haha. I pay attention throughly when in a conversation and make direct eye contact all the time. Only thing is I struggle in school haha
Same
School is not a natural environment; many do not thrive there; not to say you have a disorder, could be the opposite. Also take into account that all are not equally gifted to thrive academically?
Try to learn as much as you can on your own about what interest you. The biggest problem with today's children that they waste so much time infront of screens - exposed to emf's - playing useless virtual games; this instead of getting out in the sun, grounded, breathing deeply, and moving themselves.
Some one tell me what’s difference between asp ,mild, adhd autism? Witch one is worse please
All 4 of them are bad what you mean
Terrius Thomas i mean witch level or tipe never can treat like normal?
@@rezhinfaraj4540 Oh, Asp is the worse
Terrius Thomas thank you for ur information can you tell me what is the signes for asp
Please
Real Autism is the worst. Listen to lectures given at Autism One conferences, and VAXXED testimonies of parents with Autistic children.
Often people like these make me feel uncomfortable. I do not, and never have felt the need to "Fit in" as they say. "normal" is very flawed to me. But i am a very smart person, I know more about history than anyone i know... and i am not bad -not good- but not bad with art. I do not understand what has to be "Fixed" about me... but i certainly will not be letting anyone do it any time soon. I don't want to be "Fixed" i want to be "Original." i just want to be "Strange."
Exactly! This business of diagnosing everyone with having some type of disorder is nonsense. Creates a victim mentality and a market for treatment. What is normal anyway?
I have always wondered whats the different because I have both :( strange I was that 1 out of 110 children :( But I seem to have a more creative mind than others. Some how I am a lot smarter than kids in my class I still have troubles with math Lol :)
Same we have the same mind
Life is awful there's no such thing as happiness in the world living with this condition I have it I've been bullied beaten called names its enough to make anyone crazy and I feel so alone I genuinely feel that I don't have anyone to rely on life is just one big joke iam that joke all I want is to be happy but to be honest I haven't been happy a single day in my life and I dont think I ever will
i can relate
Hopefully the future will be better if not I'm better just locked up
@@LordDeBahs thanks for replying tho
There is hope to find true connection with God and others:
ua-cam.com/video/98aHt42SLoo/v-deo.html
Listen also to Clinical Psychologist Jordan Peterson's YT lectures, and Diane Langberg explaining how to recover from trauma. Forgiveness extended to others is the key; this after yourself receiving forgiveness from God.
Why does it bother you if homosexuals hit on you? I would just take it as a good sign that they like my looks or my personality.
Depends HOW they do it. Like some heterosexuals, some homosexuals are creeps.
I have aspbergers but also stuttering in speech. Besides that, I have no autism effects, just aspbergers.
I wasn’t diagnosed until I was in college.
I have pdd nos which is on the autism spectrum umbrella
My brother Has both - we only have problems with the normals - my Rottweilers are great at working out who is an Azzhat
Aspergers also tend to respond when you call their name.
Stop using aspergers as an excuse and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Everybody has problems.
If no one had labeled us we wouldn't have known. We would just consider ourselves awkward.
There are many awkard people and it's not a problem, but don't say: " I have such a hard time because I have aspergers... People should know and adapt to me "
You make yourself weak. Aspergers is not a disability. Some people are social and some are not. Just like some people are athletic and some are not. People are different. That's life.
Agreed
Yes, ideed! Attaching labels without good reason; this makes people feel like victims, and enable others to make money by treating them.
Have learned much from Clinical Psychologist Jordan B.Peterson about how people differ in character traits, and how it is possible to improve in areas where one is not as strong.
Most important is to realise God Created each of us as an unique individual, and He can use us as instruments to extend His kingdom if we submit to Him.
What is alarming, is how the vague classification Aspergers (seems to be inclusive of any manner of differentness and even some ways of deviancy) is now embraced and heralded by some as being a supposed advancement in 'human evolution'; with those not complying to fit into the box of being classified as such, diagnosed as NT(Neurotypical):
ua-cam.com/video/vdQDvLXLqiM/v-deo.html
We deal with people like you alllllllll the time mr' cromag. Psssst, guess what the world is round.
@@maricamaas5555 You of course never saw his video on autism, while he understands it poorly he does at least admit it exists. Yes, the autism community and many professionals think autism is a 'super power' or makes them neuro-diverse ~ wrongly but it's better than being negative about your diagnosis. But agreeing with a moron like H1007 and then lumping in your belief in Christ not only makes you look stupid but it furthers the prejudice against other christians being equally as dumb.
Video title is incorrect
Not really.
I didn't get diagnosed until 36.
and Oddly enough most people wit Aspergers do not like Psychiatrists telling us how we are 'Aloud' to talk about are selfs
Call me Twisted this is dead
I lived to 29 not noing I had aspergers, I was growing more more aware and upset at 28 that no one wsd listen properly or long a nuff to what I say and geting the meening or completely the opposite I meant? AV all so got a gene thst makes muscle without working out I just think or want I get them I walked at 6month old and balanced on 1 leg at 7 month, am trying to be the greatest brawler ever live, van d cross Bruce's, 60kg but lift 130kg on bench,super fast. I punch and block just as normal people brain prosess the info so I leave a after image. By my self I never give up content evolveing my body. If had been told I had aspergers, this person wouldnt exist, not noing made be turn struggle in to a beam of white light am a pure real life sheep dog, am not a abbycas but anyone can count on me, pain nothing when there no point to anything, good mum to really perfect for me
I seem to be failing at explaining this i am sorry. As a person With Aspergers, To me, There is no difference between the things you speak of. I am sorry if this still does not make sense, I'm having trouble coming up with the Right words.
Well, people with autism can as well. It really depends on IQ and how the symptoms interact with each other. It only Aspie snobbery that says being labeled autistic is so much worse. Autism does not equal mental retardation as some seem to think.
What is confusing, is that some children are truly affected, with real disorders - including Autism (as is openly mentioned on vaccine inserts); this while others who are functional and normal, but with character traits different or viewed as difficult to control within the dysfunctional public school system, are now being classified as defective. This applies especially to boys, who in general do not do well sitting still for long periods (as is expected of them in schools).
It seems those who are more intelligent; high in openness and with creative abilities - thinking outside the box - are targetted in order to be controlled, manipulated and weakened from an early age - through therapy and drugs?
Study: Children Of Pink Disease Survivors At Risk For Autism | Asian Scientist Magazine | Science, technology and medical news updates from Asia
www.asianscientist.com/2011/08/health/mercury-sensitivity-pink-disease-autism-disorder/
I thought I was spelled ass burger syndrome...
Fuck it is you can't stop me
1 in every 110 ?? that doesn't sound right
Not that low anymore.
your may have been a mild version obviously. My sons is very bad he is getting better with all the help he is receiving now. but as i said before there are many degrees of AS yours is mild.
Technically, as Dr. Sanjay Gupta says, Asperger's Syndrome does not exist as it's folded in DSM-V.
One in 42 boys have ASD.
1 in 189 girls have ASD.
@Levi Davis Every type of autism was combined into a new diagnosis. Autism Spectrum Disorder. Before Asperger's was removed from being a singular diagnosis, Asperger's wasn't even considered a type of autism.
Who cares what the DSM says. It’s garbage “science”.
@@lyndonleedalee1738 that's not true
Aspergers was always considered part of the autism autism spectrum, it's just that the term 'aspergers' is no longer used
Yeti I disagree. From what I saw, autism and aspergers were treated very differently and thought of as completely different disorders
That's funny. I have all of the symptoms, didn't speak til I was five. All my children have autism yet doctors play dumb when I ask for a diagnosis.
At the start about boys this happens
Me: *I have both and I’m a GiRl*
"Autism affects 1 in 110 children. The majority are boys." That's incorrect. The majority of the diagnosed population is male, but Autism affects both genders; only females have different symptoms than those commonly associated with boys (like liking trains and no eye contact); thus not getting a correct diagnosis. Female symptoms vary but are generally conformed of a high-sensitivity, artistic/linguistic abilities, easily stressed and a strong dislike for routine changes, and are highly empathetic.
*A S P E R G E R *
They say aspergers is autism but neurotypicals sure make the distinction without even knowing.
*NTs to other autistic people:*
awwww let me help you with whatever you need because it will show others how much of a really great person I am.
*NTs to Aspies:*
Tf u eating for breakfast egg brains
Aspergers is basically just when you seem normal enough so people expect you to be able to do everything a NT can😂