I do t have support my mom will literally buy my brother beer but if I drinkb1 glass of wine I'm wrong because 3 yrs ago I tryd to get help so that made me an alcoholic. I'm hiding it because I moved back to my mother's and it drives me insane every night around 130 I wake up in anxiety
As a Muslim I never drink alcohol so I don't know how it tastes nor do I miss it but on the other hand I've avoided all it's problems so I feel lucky 😊
@@Millier-g2j Don't give up my friend! Quitting bad habits is always tough but the reward is great. I pray to God to give you a strong will and a happy blessed life
Today is the day I say goodbye for good to the deadly hold and destruction alcohol has wreaked in my life for 45+ years. Send good vibes my way. I’m determined to do this. No turning back.
I'm 4 days sober. I haven't sought any medical attention, haven't gone to any meetings or rehab, and I haven't done any detoxes. I drank a bottle almost every day for 6 years. It's been difficult, but I'm fine. I almost went to a restaurant to have 1 drink earlier, but remembered how well I've been doing these past few days. My body is responding quite well. Not feeling ill or anything. So I'm here to encourage everyone else here and to say that it is still possible to do it without any intervention. I know all of our bodies are different, but don't be afraid. Just try to do it on your own and see. If your body does start to act up, then seek medical attention, but I think many of us can still do it without serious help. Just try. This is the second time I have stopped. The last time was in 2020. I was sober for 6 months. After 2 weeks I wasn't even thinking about alcohol anymore. I had actually forgotten about it. It's possible!
Hello. Happy for u and wish u well. But just we me its my anxiety I get scared thinking I'm going to have a panic attack. I'm a binge drinker. Can stop we out intervention. But was u like that. Is it the drink what makes me feel that way
How safe is it? I went one day sober lol and I’m terrified to see if withdrawals kick in later because everywhere I read and see that it’s dangerous/ can even be deadly. After a whole day I haven’t had symptoms really
@@mariajones1982 Hi there! Thanks very much, and same to you! I know it's difficult, but just try anyway. You don't actually know if you will have a panic attack or not. You may very well surprise yourself. Don't let your mind play scary tricks on you and talk you out of it. I have found that a big part of our addiction is psychological. We need to command and strengthen our minds to think differently, because our minds also control our bodies. Wishing you all the best❤️
@@SadMach1n3 It's generally quite safe, but depends on your body, how long you've been drinking, and how much. How has it been going so far? If you have survived one day, then you are good to go. Don't think you have much to worry about. Best of luck!
I did it on my own now I'm 18 months sober and I feel like a new human being. Never thought this could happen but God got me through this. It's a struggle sometimes but I'm pushing my was through. Love your videos they are very helpful!!!
Trying to "Manage" your drinking DOES NOT WORK! Trust me. I'll be 60 soon. 4 long decades of heavy drinking. I tried the "I'll just drink on Tuesday's and Friday's" or, the weekends only, just to only end back up at 7 days a week! It just does not work. To quit, is to quit. Period! -Bob
I halfheartedly tried to quit several times. I read books , went to meetings , learned things . But I didn’t “want” to quit. Not completely. I wanted the consequences of my drinking to stop and I wanted to be able to drink like I used to. I had zero coping mechanisms and was using alcohol to numb many things. I didn’t have a final giant a-ha moment. I had the accumulated knowledge of all my repeated attempts. I gained some maturity and some perspective and I quit. For good. I don’t want it anymore and it’s been 12 years . I don’t miss it, I don’t need it and I will never drink again. It absolutely can be done on one’s own , but I do think the vast majority of people benefit from accountability and a program.
I am founding the same thing…still battling to stop for good but I totally see what you mean. Every time I try to stop (and fail) I learn something about myself.
I’m 41 and have been struggling with alcohol and drugs since I’ve been a teenager. I have a good career and an awesome family and alcohol takes the biggest toll on it. I’ve quit many times just to start again. I’ve had medical problems because of it and still battle with this addiction. Today is the day I fully hand this over to the lord and step away. Please pray for me. Thank you all.
Same here, I'm also 41 and alcohol has destroyed relationships and wrecked my finances. I want to take back my life and I'm tired of blaming others for the decisions I've made to drink and hurting the people that love me. I hope you beat it and take back your life
6days without alcohol… really sick of the money i was spending to just poison myself and make myself depressed for just a few hours of drunken happiness. feeling good… body feels healthier already… exercise helps .. Godspeed to all trying to better themselves!
It’s fantastic that you’ve done that. And many people certainly can. However, there’s a collective of people who can’t stop drinking or taking drugs through the power of the mind. Some have a chemical and neurological disorder. This is something they’re born with, and things like alcohol are the perfect combination for these people. It’s not even about alcohol, it can be anything that’s even remotely addictive. These people need a lot more than mental perseverance and toughness.
Took me a hundred times to quit smoking but when I was ready and had enough I did. Smoking I read was as hard as heroin to quit. Perhaps alcohol is like that and it takes many times before we had it and then we can do it.
This is my 8th day sober. I don't miss the drink as I was fed up with it. I've been experiencing the detox side of no alcohol but the thought that I'm healing excites me and spurs me on.
Firstly I’d like to thank you for your kindness and care for your fellow Homo sapiens. You are completely right, most people can stop drinking alcohol with the correct motivation, however I found it hard to find the motivation. I finally got it at the age of 71. I’ve been free of alcohol for more than 420 days. If a foolish old man like me can kick the alcohol habit anyone can. Good luck to all trying this path, it’s not easy but so worthwhile.
I stopped alcohol cocaine and cigarettes on the same day 3 year 5 months 5 days ago and did it by myself at one point I drunk a 1L of vodka per day and held down a job in construction as a plasterer I've have never looked back
I am curious, did you also pursue higher education and start making money after quitting? I hear a lot of people do an entire 180 and look better, feel better but also make more money lol! Also saving because you're not spending on garbage!
its just better to drink a little. not just quit 4ever if i feel like drinking a beer i drinking period and dont try to get wasted if you get wasted than you have another problem
'Thinking you can drink differently'. Yeah that's what always creeps up on me. I think that thought is powerful because most adults drink and we want to be 'normal', not be someone with a drinking issue. So I'm trying to reframe it to myself and others, 'That I used to drink, but I've gone off it. And actually, I found life is more enjoyable without it.'
This is so helpful and definitely helping me get my family back on track without the toxin!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 weeks cold turkey and counting!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for posting this video!!!
KAVA ROOT helped me. I was a handle of rum and a case of beer every two days. I was on probation in Key West for a year of all places. Kava root is good for you and healthy. I'm a U.S. ARMY Veteran (Delta 1/46 4th platoon 1997) and suffer from PTSD, BPD, and depression.
I am only 24, I don’t think I’m an alcoholic but seems to be when I drink I can’t stop. I black out everytime and the next day is the worst wondering how I act when I’m blacked out or the hang over anxiety is killing me. I tried and tried to cut back but I now think I want to commit to being sober. Today is day one!
When you said that modifying our drinking habits won't help, it struck a chord with me. Every week, even when I stick to beer and wine, I end up over-drinking at least once and it screws with my sleep. Just tonight, I was restless and I was having repeat anxiety attacks when I was ripped from my dreams. Not quite as harsh as a full-blown hangover, but I'm tired of doing this to myself. I've resolved to quit a dozen times now, at least; it's an easy thing to say when you're hugging a toilet bowl or sandwiching your head between two pillows to fruitlessly dull the pounding in my head, but I really struggle to resist when I'm feeling fine or even good. I get that urge, I crave the taste. And I end up back where I started. I think the longest I've made it is a week. Someone else in the comments said that they didn't want to stop drinking, they just didn't want the consequences that come from drinking, and they're exactly right. That's where I'm at. What I don't hear discussed enough is how media influences alcoholism. Like, everywhere I look, I see characters drinking. It makes me want to drink; to partake and be part of the moment. If I'm not, then I must be missing out. It's like a reminder: "Hey, you could be drinking, too!" Anyways, I'm rambling. With this insight, I will try again and hope my willpower is stronger this time. Thank you.
I don’t want to stop drinking either. I know I need to. Its been 2 weeks since my last drink. I take supplements. D3, B complex, L-Glutamine, Magnesium citrate, fish oil. Work out. It really helps. I work at a restaurant with a bar and the temptation is always in my face. The liquor store is around the corner. But after 90 days it gets so much easier. I quit once for a year. Never should have went back. I hope to stay sober forever this time. Good luck!
I started drinking in college and did everyday until 3 years ago. I desperately wanted to quit drinking for almost 2 years while waiting to have hernia surgery. My anesthesiologist also is a good personal friend and said he would not put me under if I was still drinking because it could kill me. I ended up falling and ended up in the hospital and started having severe withdrawal symptoms. They asked if I wanted to quit drinking and I said "yes", June 18, 2020. I have not had a drink since. I wanted to quit but was so physically addicted I needed detox, after that my desire to quit was easier, not easy...but easier than I thought it would be. Forgot to mention, I am now in my 50s, so I basically drank everyday for 30 years.
My doctor said gradually slow down I had 4 less drinks yesterday than my normal 10 ish. Woke up soaking wet with sweat shaking at 4am. This was helpful thanks.
This is so good. I am lucky. I do not need to detox. I am a weekend binger and everything she says is so true. I am determined to stop by myself. Just 10 days clean but I am not going back. Had enough booze for 3 life times. No more depression, anxiety, hangovers, feeling guilty and stupid for doing something I knew what the consequences would be. Great nights sleep and I feel sharp. Alcohol is a lie. I love tequila, but it's just a yummy way of self medicating. It's drug, a dangerous one. So many more benefits from not drinking then a 1 hour buzz. I found a non alcoholic substitute that is really helping. Light ginger beer. It's spicy and it's so delicious to me. Right after the first swig all my cravings vanish. I look forward to it at 6PM just like I did with booze. Also keeping busy during the times you would normally grab a drink. Like cooking, cleaning, exercising, working on a project. Also, watching videos about the damage alcohol does to your body is eye opening and really helpful. Wish me luck! You can do it.
You're not getting younger ,as we age we have to let go of certain things. After buzz of first drink it's all downhill. Moderation don't work . She's right. Stop drinking and watch your life improve and a lot of problems go away .
Any alcoholic can stop drinking the issue is staying stopped. This requires a complete psychological change and then continued work. What’s cunning about this disease is after a period of time of not drinking the obsession to drink overpowers the alcoholic to remember with sufficient force the consequences of drinking. Recovery programs and a support network is vital and rehab is a great start! Recovery is a life long process
I found dealing with it one day at a time very good. I also kept telling myself I no longer drank (rather than thinking of it as trying to stop) and actively taking notice of how much better I felt in the morning. Telling other people helped, but obviously I didn't tell anyone who was going to use it against me!
I told all me friends I was done drinking but then went back on it many times. But still worth doing if only to help you stop even temporarily. It's a process towards the light
3 days ago I started randomly having uncontrollable shakes and realised I have a real problem, and I am mortal. It's scary and I'm waiting for a call-back for the help I need.
Nice video! I’ve been alcohol-free my entire life and I like to call myself an anti-alcoholic for it. I remember as a little girl I used to play a lot of rated m games involving alcohol drinking. I know many people say little children should never play rated m games, but I gotta say those alcohol drinking games had quite a positive effect on me. I always thought it was very funny seeing all those people in those games go drunk and yet I thought to myself, I don’t want to end up like those people at all and as I got older and learned about how alcohol really effects the brain, the liver, and some other body parts, I really thought to myself, I sure am glad I’m staying away from those beverages. I’m grown up now and I still haven’t had any alcohol at all.
I'm really struggling with quitting. I'm 30 and I'm overweight and I feel like I'm wasting my life. I want to quit and I am able to go a week without it every now and then. But it has become just part of my routine. Breaking the habit is the biggest part of it for me. Thank you for making these videos. I have tried AA and I feel like it works for some people. It worked for my husband. But whenever it's not an option for me, it's not a problem. When I'm bored at home, that's the issue.
Hi Ashely, I'm impressed with your insight and willingness! Here's a link to get FREE access to my 30 Day Jump Start series. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start
The beauty is the realisation that you CAN do something about it. When u are sober then you ARE MORE AWAKE more aware of what's happening around you. People get - kidnapped- burgled-abused anything can happen--- people's drink gets spiked by women aswell. Throw alcohol down the drain NOW---- save your LIFE--- you are the biggest investment you will ever make.... - take up Art Journalling- collage- YOU MATTER I care even though I didn't give birth to you . STILL I CARE - be the superhuman you are meant to be, who helps people. Help yourself first your life is going to change- you can make a huge difference- you can achieve anything Positive NOW NOW NOW. Make an Instagram account and start posting ART/ doodles -
You need to join a CrossFit box, or a gym that has classes, or climbing gym. If you have kids and you need to stay at home, then buy some equipment and workout at home. There are tons of FREE workout programs and videos...if cost is an issue. Start slow, and just do something every day. If working out is new to you, then maybe start out with yoga/power walking/boot camp, etc. I can help you if you want!
I am so tired of telling myself “you can do it on occasion” or “I’ll only have 3-4 shots not anymore” then I’ll be on my 9th shot without me knowing. I am tired of me buying a bottle to bring home. Alcohol was never my DOC but it became my DOC when I stopped smoking marijuana. I now recognize I have a problem. Being 24 years old, 10 years of smoking weed, and 5 of drinking alcohol. I need to do better for myself. My daughter and my loved ones. I have a much more clear train of thought when I’m not under the influence but I’m so used to coping and coping w bordem by doing these bad habits
navigating through life not knowing what’s going on with self has affects on where your drinking stems from and for me it was abandonment issues with my family. i did not realize that what was happening was i actually abandoned myself in trying to outrun my abandonment issues i thought will never go away. learning self acceptance self forgiveness and reparenting yourself can really help with whatever issues your having especially with something like alcohol. this is my second time quitting and hopefully the last time. this is my day one. i’m quitting again to start a new chapter for myself as a non alcohol. i binged while hanging out with i had not seen for many years and i was super anxious but the hangover was from hell and i thanked god while i was suffering through the hangover because i can’t do it anymore and not have to beat myself up anymore. i was wondering how my visit would’ve gone if i had been sober i may have made a better first impression so i do regret that but i’m learning to embrace myself and self forgiveness so if i don’t get to see this friend again sober it’s probably not the friendship i should be in. 😢
5 years sober after 60 years, yep sixty years. The last 40 odd years, drunk every day. Then suddenly, I said to my wife who had decided to stop herself, that I'd stop for a few months to support her. No problem !!! The only downside is that I fervently wish I had had done it years ago, it was so easy. So, the only advice I can give is just stop, cold turkey, walk away, if I can do it ANYBODY CAN.
I like this video. I only drink once a week but makes me feel guilty because the next day I feel so sick always throwing up and if I have an appointment or something important to do I have to cancel it. I’m tired of doing that and yes I’m still doing it thinking I will drink different but doesn’t happen I need to not drink at all. One thing I’m doing is I stopped hanging out with friends cause they drink all the time and it doesn’t help me. But I need to totally stop. I’ve lost friends, partners and jobs because of it. I hate it 🥺😟
I had a drinking problem and quit for a few months. I decided to start drinking again to see what would happen if I cut back or only had certain types of alcohol, would I be able to “drink differently”. It didn’t work at first and I found myself slipping into my old ways and habits over and over. I thought there was no hope and that I would have to give up drinking forever (which was probably the best thing for me at that point). Then one day something clicked and I decided that I wasn’t going to let alcohol run my life. I should be able to drink in moderation and not get carried away. What worked for me is mindfulness. When I feel myself getting to a certain level of intoxication, I am now acutely aware that I need to slow down and stop. I have zoned in on how I’m feeling in that moment and that has made the biggest difference in the world. It’s been well over a year and I have not had any slip ups and feel very much in control. I have a much healthier relationship with alcohol and it is no longer effecting my life in a negative way. I don’t know if this method has worked for anyone else and I don’t know if it will continue to work for me, but right now I’m in a good place.
Thank you for the information about Soberlink. I had no idea something like that existed. My daughter who is an alcoholic who is often home alone for weeks at a time when her husband travels for work actually agreed to get Soberlink.Hopefully it will save the family a lot of worry about whether she is drinking with the kids and whether they are safe. Thank you for everything you do Amber!
I used to never drink until I was 23 years old and even when I did start, I never had cravings or looked forward to it whatsoever. It wasn't until after a huge breakup a few years ago where I started drinking as an attempt to numb everything and maybe (how I was feeling at the time) die. I was kinda hoping I would drink so much that I would make myself sick or get so bad that I never wanted to drink again... But nope...I became addicted. Extremely bad. I haven't been sober more than 3 days total in the past 3 years. I'm functional and some days are less than others, but I seriously hate myself for being so weak-minded and unable to just say no like all the years prior. I fucking hate it. It drains my wallet, I've become dependent on it to fall asleep, and I've begun relying on it to get me through dates and social interactions. I know what I gotta do, but I'm struggling. Hard.
YES, I can attest to stopping on my own (cold turkey) 18 months ago with no withdrawal or treatment. It did take time to get used to it and my brain definitely needed to reset itself to something it hadn't experienced since my teens (I'm 55 now). I can still go to a bar or party to be with friends and not dread any craving or relapse. The 'secret' being (and it may sound like a platitude): JUST DON'T DRINK.
I am drinking now because i live with constant high anxiety and panic. Its the only relief i get but its only minimal relief and of course very temporary then the rebound anxiety is worse. But im already so ill with anxiety. I drank nothing for months but the panic drove me bac to it.
I got off it when I found this wonderful Oriental Tea House called the Tea Shrine. Just like going to a pub, only traded in the extremely dangerous unhealthy beverage for the Best Green, White, Black, Oolong teas around. Also when I do go to pubs and Christmas time for Christmas functions there something called really good 0.0 beers around.
You still need that support and someone to talk to once or twice a week! It’s not easy! 72 days sober and I still to with my support worker from ARC!!!
Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Control Alcohol saved my life. It’s an eye opening book not just on alcoholism but on social conditioning and escaping ‘the matrix’ of propaganda and ideologies. He uses very useful analogies and psychology tactics that help you gain control of your life.
Great video! I used the system of testing regularly and I knew that I'd get caught if I used, so I never started. It was great to do that especially in the beginning of my recovery. It is the small things like that, that build to bigger and better things! Thanks, this was awesome!
My 75 yr old uncle use to drink 8/10 cans beer daily after work all thru most of life, as he got 70ish he started slowing down to 6 then 5 than 4 , 3, n now 2 at 75 no meds. He eats healthier home made food 3x day pretty much n some take outs. He now got old fashion lung cancer n doing good after his radiation treatment.
I tuned into this video to see your take on it coz I've been able to change my habits lately. Great information in the video. I was making excuses for drinking most nights of the week. At first I was doing it because I hated my work and it was a bad shift. Before long I was looking for excuses for the shift to be bad so I could have that drink. It was pathetic. I still have the voice in my head when I finish, "Wouldn't a couple of cans go down well after that shift"? I now recognise this as the enemy it is and mentally tell it to shut up (seriously... It works), buy a protein shake and the voice is gone as soon as I'm drinking that. It's a day by day effort and I have combined it with daily exercise but I feel like a different person and never drink by myself anymore. Full disclosure: I still drink with friends about once a week but this isn't anywhere near as destructive as the lifestyle I had been living. I've had five cans of beer in the house for a while and haven't even thought about touching them. One thing I'd add to #2 "Tell Everyone You're Not Drinking" is "Sling Anyone Who Doesn't Encourage You". There's a lot of toxic people who don't want to see you get better at the expense of a drinking buddy. Best of luck to anyone who's battling the Habit Demon. You can smash it.
Our stories are all different - but here's mine. Used to, as they say, enjoy a beer. A very long story short - I had psychological issues. I was self-medicating. I finally got into a deep depression, saw a doctor, got some anti-depressants, and once my depression was under control, I lost the urge to drink. It's never quite as easy as that, of course, but what I'm saying is - you've got to figure out WHY you are drinking. Find out, deal with it. I wish you all luck.
The best advice is take it one day at a time. Say to yourself just not today. we don’t know what the world will look like 6 months even five years down the road. Starting today 5/19/2023 I will not drink today. I’ll let you know what a month will bring me. Again just not for today.
The only hardest part of quitting alcohol for me is the emotional dependence. Nothing seems to help with the severe depression that's left behind and it's _bad_ for me ...
I’m 23 I just lost my pops over a year ago over alcohol when I lost him I started drinking more and literally on Saturday I fucked up my daughters 1st birthday by getting into a fight at her bday party and I’ve never cared about changing my alcoholism until this day and I know it’s gonna take time but ima going to do it
I was functional alcoholic and I quit 20 plus years ago and not a day goes by I don't want a beer our a few shots . I have a very old 6pack in the fridge in my shop and I have 2 very old bottles of whiskey in my house . I have friends that have a drink or two when they come to visit but they never touch my stash. I am not bragging it's just what worked for me.when I first quit I knew I always had my life savers.
Interesting comments. I been drinking since I was in 7th grade. At first it was weekends than became daily. Liquor is what makes me sick or hung over but beers as long as I eat food I don’t get sick and if I do I’ll be better by 12 … it’s a destructive cycle
Is very safe to stop drinking you need will power and you can do it I myself try and think positive every day and talk to your family about if you start getting depressed about it you have only one life so live it with out the drink I have been sober for going on 6 years Bill
Keep at it the biggest achievement is you’ve recognised you have a problem and more importantly you want to change. To create peace in life you have to make peace. The pure guilt of drinking the next day just think of that as worse than the drink. Guilt is terrible it eats up inside you know you’re not living the life you deserve. I write a daily plan on my phone every night one of the notes to do’s is no drink. And I tick it off. Get up early , exercise etc literal list it all tiny things like brush your teeth write every step of the day it feels like a huge achievement when can tick them all off end of the day. Hope that helps.
I'm only one day sober and feel like hammered dog poop!! Have been through the spin dry once. AA doesn't work for. So hopefully these videos will help.
For me I couldn't of done it alone as I believe addiction is at its strongest when your on your own and isolated alcohol completely took over my life to the point were I was drinking even when it was physically dangerous for me to do so. I got sober by taking my recovery seriously and by fully accepting my illness. That's what I choose to call it but I understand everyone is different. Fellowship and the 12 step program is how I manage to stay sober being around other alcoholics and addicts who can understand me. I'm 10 months sober now and I haven't looked back since. I'm not saying this way is wrong but I know it wouldn't work for me.
the comments make me feel seen; wanting the consequences of drinking to go away without the drinking going away, i think that's where i'm at right now. i feel like i need the sedation to deal with day to day situations but i always drink too much, i cant moderate my drinking while im drunk. i was sober for almost a year. hopefully i get there again someday soon
That was very useful.Having said that,when your boss recognise you and your team efforts, when he/she throws a party ,may I ask what cocktail do you drink? I still like the info,thx God bless...
The best option would be to say, thanks but I'm not drinking tonight. You can make up whatever reason you want! You can also get a drink that looks like an alcoholic drink. Then if someone asks you if you want something, you can say "thanks, I've already got one" Take a look at this video, it's about talking to alcohol during special occassions/social events.
Please anyone and everyone that can help me, I beg of you to do so. I have a son that I love very much peace my only son and he’s going to be 47. He’s drinking a lot and it’s a problem. He’s married with two kids, and his wife says, the drinking is getting worse and the name-calling is continuing and now he’s turning into a main drunk. His father and I are so worried about him and we’ve talked to him and his wife has talked to him and stop being drinking is nonnegotiable for him. Is there anything anyonecan tell me yes to how I might help him in some weight to realize what he’s doing to himself and his family. Please pray that a miracle happens and God helps him to see the light out of this dark tunnel called addiction to alcohol.
Thank you , very good information. I do not recommend going cold turkey if you're a heavy daily drinker like I was. Take 3-5 days and taper off until you have 1 or 2 drinks on the last day. Then flood your body with fresh green juice (the expensive, bitter stuff 3 per day) and exercise/sweat for the remainder until the anxiety ceases. Eat tons of protein, sweet potatoes and rice. Absolutely no fast food or junk. It will dramatically reduce the discomfort of withdrawal.
Yes, that can definitely be part of withdrawal. Some people might need medical detox. here's a video that explains that: ua-cam.com/video/hTBrDNwL54o/v-deo.html
Awesome video, as are all your videos. I am in the medical field with a previous medical assisted treatment and counseling clinic. I am re-opening the clinic in a few months and will be strongly recommending to subscribe to your channel.
I quit drink 26 yrs ago,,,thank god the most high,,, for giving me the Will power to say,,No,,and I done it with help of my brother,,and I thank him, peace 💚
I suspect I'm ADHD and anxiety/depression meds haven't been successful and I kept reaching for alcohol which worsened my focus and mood. I'm getting weaned off this poison and as give myself a few months of healthy eating and go see a professional who can assess my possible ADHD and hopefully remedy my situation because my focus is terrible, I procrastinate almost everything and have no motivation. I can't even hardly sit through a movie and retain much of what I saw.
For me, and maybe for others, when I've tried to "manage" my drinking, I've found that the slippery slope of drinking differently isn't a slope at all, it's a cliff of absolute failure.
My partner has stopped after near death liver disease collapse. 12 weeks in hospital taught her to change. So hard to stop . But you need mental health help. Best of lucķ.
When I was in my 20's I was a occasional power drinker trying to impress women but not an alcoholic because I never needed a drink. By my mid 30's I only had alcohol socially and mostly beer. My uncle was an alcoholic, my dads father was an alcoholic, my dads brother was an alcoholic, and my brother was an alcoholic. I'm so glad and thankful I didn't become one.
I think I’ve heard before that sending these videos to the person struggling in our life is not a good idea. I wish I could though. This explains it so well. I’m afraid they think it’s not a big deal or it can be managed by just the weekend drinking or switching to wine vs brandy. I don’t know that I can keep dealing with it 🙃. I really appreciate your videos though, so thank you 😊
It's all about timing, DJ. If the person is in a stage where they're talking about wanting to stop, then I'd definitely send this video. if they're don't think their drinking is an issue, then I wouldn't.
Today is my second day of not drinking after drinking almost every weekend for almost a decade and now throughout the week for some time now. I get bored, I get sad, I get mad and I’m just tired of this. It’s hard to admit, no one in my life knows the full extent. Let’s see how this goes.
Is it like, one can only take it before drinking? Or can we take it daily basis cause, For me i usually don't drink atall for 3-4 months bt when I do i drink it for continue 2weeks atleast.
I'm 5 years sober, after 40 years of dependency. I gave up in 1 week with the Allen Carr method: Easy way to stop drinking. Cost me £5, I found it in a charity shop, its also in libraries. My story is on yt, An Artist's Journey to Alcohol Free.
My son is an alcoholic at 24 years old. He also has issues with hoarding. Does one of these issues affect the other? Did one create the other? These behaviors seem to coincide about 4 years ago. Nothing I say or do seems to help, as he also refuses to seek treatment. I'm frustrated, as I'm sure he is too. Besides these issues we have a very good relationship. But I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice?
Hi William, if your son lives with you (or you have regular contact), the Invisible Intervention might be a good option for this situation. Also, here's a video workshop that might be helpful: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivational-interviewing-session
What is he hiding from you? What is he running away from? Can you write down on paper / what has bothered him? - has he broken up with somebody? Has somebody hurt him?
🩺🩺Is it safe to stop drinking, or do I need medical detox? 👉🏻👉🏻ua-cam.com/video/hTBrDNwL54o/v-deo.html
I drink lots of vodka every single night. I try to not drink before 5pm. I'm type 1 diabetic.. I need to stop... I need help.
I do t have support my mom will literally buy my brother beer but if I drinkb1 glass of wine I'm wrong because 3 yrs ago I tryd to get help so that made me an alcoholic. I'm hiding it because I moved back to my mother's and it drives me insane every night around 130 I wake up in anxiety
As a Muslim I never drink alcohol so I don't know how it tastes nor do I miss it but on the other hand I've avoided all it's problems so I feel lucky 😊
@@Planet_Xplorer God knows I want to quit drinking
@@Millier-g2j Don't give up my friend! Quitting bad habits is always tough but the reward is great. I pray to God to give you a strong will and a happy blessed life
Today is the day I say goodbye for good to the deadly hold and destruction alcohol has wreaked in my life for 45+ years. Send good vibes my way. I’m determined to do this. No turning back.
You got this… rooting for you 💪🏾💪🏾
Sending you love and light and strength ❤
You can do this! Me, too. I’m excited to know what being sober all the time will feel like. Hang in there, you’re worth it 🩵
I wanna quit too 😢
How’s it going?
I'm 4 days sober. I haven't sought any medical attention, haven't gone to any meetings or rehab, and I haven't done any detoxes. I drank a bottle almost every day for 6 years. It's been difficult, but I'm fine. I almost went to a restaurant to have 1 drink earlier, but remembered how well I've been doing these past few days. My body is responding quite well. Not feeling ill or anything. So I'm here to encourage everyone else here and to say that it is still possible to do it without any intervention. I know all of our bodies are different, but don't be afraid. Just try to do it on your own and see. If your body does start to act up, then seek medical attention, but I think many of us can still do it without serious help. Just try. This is the second time I have stopped. The last time was in 2020. I was sober for 6 months. After 2 weeks I wasn't even thinking about alcohol anymore. I had actually forgotten about it. It's possible!
Hello. Happy for u and wish u well. But just we me its my anxiety I get scared thinking I'm going to have a panic attack. I'm a binge drinker. Can stop we out intervention. But was u like that. Is it the drink what makes me feel that way
How safe is it? I went one day sober lol and I’m terrified to see if withdrawals kick in later because everywhere I read and see that it’s dangerous/ can even be deadly. After a whole day I haven’t had symptoms really
@@mariajones1982 Hi there! Thanks very much, and same to you! I know it's difficult, but just try anyway. You don't actually know if you will have a panic attack or not. You may very well surprise yourself. Don't let your mind play scary tricks on you and talk you out of it. I have found that a big part of our addiction is psychological. We need to command and strengthen our minds to think differently, because our minds also control our bodies. Wishing you all the best❤️
@@SadMach1n3 It's generally quite safe, but depends on your body, how long you've been drinking, and how much. How has it been going so far? If you have survived one day, then you are good to go. Don't think you have much to worry about. Best of luck!
How are you doing one month in ?
34 days sober today, i feel great!
Congrats 🎊
@@bevlove2765 thank you!
Congrats! Day 19 here. Healthy eating, vitamins and exercise.
@@gil3424 that's awesome
Around 61 days now, Nelson? Checking in. How you doing, man?
I did it on my own now I'm 18 months sober and I feel like a new human being. Never thought this could happen but God got me through this. It's a struggle sometimes but I'm pushing my was through. Love your videos they are very helpful!!!
Very Impressive, Kevin! 💖thank you for sharing that!
GREAT human WELL DONE congratulations for waking up
God and You, that is amazing. Great job
Going on 3 years. So empowering! Such a mind game
@@user-tv4hg4vm6x 😪
Trying to "Manage" your drinking DOES NOT WORK! Trust me. I'll be 60 soon. 4 long decades of heavy drinking. I tried the "I'll just drink on Tuesday's and Friday's" or, the weekends only, just to only end back up at 7 days a week! It just does not work. To quit, is to quit. Period! -Bob
You're 1000000% right Bob!
Thank you for that needed that
Been off and on trying to manage
Exactly, same here. I have stop, period. No “only on weekends” because there is where I fall back
Yes it does!!! Most if not all things are a MIND THING!!! The human mind is capable of doing way more than you think!
Christmas 1980 finding yourself face down in a bush at 2 am being sick, one tends to reassess one's priorities and I have been sober ever since.
Wow that’s the exact day and year I was born.
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I halfheartedly tried to quit several times. I read books , went to meetings , learned things . But I didn’t “want” to quit. Not completely. I wanted the consequences of my drinking to stop and I wanted to be able to drink like I used to. I had zero coping mechanisms and was using alcohol to numb many things.
I didn’t have a final giant a-ha moment. I had the accumulated knowledge of all my repeated attempts. I gained some maturity and some perspective and I quit. For good. I don’t want it anymore and it’s been 12 years . I don’t miss it, I don’t need it and I will never drink again. It absolutely can be done on one’s own , but I do think the vast majority of people benefit from accountability and a program.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Ayela! For most people stopping is a process (not an event). Just like you described.
I am founding the same thing…still battling to stop for good but I totally see what you mean. Every time I try to stop (and fail) I learn something about myself.
This gives me so much hope
I’m 41 and have been struggling with alcohol and drugs since I’ve been a teenager. I have a good career and an awesome family and alcohol takes the biggest toll on it. I’ve quit many times just to start again. I’ve had medical problems because of it and still battle with this addiction. Today is the day I fully hand this over to the lord and step away. Please pray for me. Thank you all.
Same here, I'm also 41 and alcohol has destroyed relationships and wrecked my finances. I want to take back my life and I'm tired of blaming others for the decisions I've made to drink and hurting the people that love me. I hope you beat it and take back your life
6days without alcohol… really sick of the money i was spending to just poison myself and make myself depressed for just a few hours of drunken happiness. feeling good… body feels healthier already… exercise helps .. Godspeed to all trying to better themselves!
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I got up one morning and said mission over, that was 10 years ago, I felt reborn after a couple of weeks, of no booze, best choice I ever made.
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As a long time alcoholic I can tell you this lady knows a lot
Wow, thanks!
I quit smoking using nothing and quit drinking using nothing because it's all in your mind if you have the will its easy
I'm glad you're not whining and saying you can't help it like so called addicted people want to claim
It’s fantastic that you’ve done that. And many people certainly can. However, there’s a collective of people who can’t stop drinking or taking drugs through the power of the mind. Some have a chemical and neurological disorder. This is something they’re born with, and things like alcohol are the perfect combination for these people. It’s not even about alcohol, it can be anything that’s even remotely addictive. These people need a lot more than mental perseverance and toughness.
Took me a hundred times to quit smoking but when I was ready and had enough I did. Smoking I read was as hard as heroin to quit. Perhaps alcohol is like that and it takes many times before we had it and then we can do it.
I'm more than thirty years sober. Best thing I ever did. Quit smoking about then too.
This is my 8th day sober. I don't miss the drink as I was fed up with it.
I've been experiencing the detox side of no alcohol but the thought that I'm healing excites me and spurs me on.
Firstly I’d like to thank you for your kindness and care for your fellow Homo sapiens. You are completely right, most people can stop drinking alcohol with the correct motivation, however I found it hard to find the motivation. I finally got it at the age of 71. I’ve been free of alcohol for more than 420 days. If a foolish old man like me can kick the alcohol habit anyone can. Good luck to all trying this path, it’s not easy but so worthwhile.
Much respect to you Patrick! That's very impressive ⭐⭐⭐⭐
Your never too old. Well done!
I stopped alcohol cocaine and cigarettes on the same day 3 year 5 months 5 days ago and did it by myself at one point I drunk a 1L of vodka per day and held down a job in construction as a plasterer I've have never looked back
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Congratulations legend 💪💪 I am day 3 from alcohol. The headache and insomnia is annoying me but I will get through it
How bro
I am curious, did you also pursue higher education and start making money after quitting? I hear a lot of people do an entire 180 and look better, feel better but also make more money lol! Also saving because you're not spending on garbage!
That’s awesome 👏🏽 🥳❤️
98 days of no alcohol for me
Hope your still doing well
@@darrelltregear756 I only drink on New year day
Quitter
@@Robertkitchens-gw7wt lol
its just better to drink a little. not just quit 4ever if i feel like drinking a beer i drinking period and dont try to get wasted if you get wasted than you have another problem
'Thinking you can drink differently'. Yeah that's what always creeps up on me. I think that thought is powerful because most adults drink and we want to be 'normal', not be someone with a drinking issue. So I'm trying to reframe it to myself and others, 'That I used to drink, but I've gone off it. And actually, I found life is more enjoyable without it.'
It's bigger that stopping alcohol.. break through the tension and fear in the body and reveal the real you... keep it moving ❤
This is so helpful and definitely helping me get my family back on track without the toxin!!!!!!!!!!!! 2 weeks cold turkey and counting!!!!!!!!!!!! Thank you for posting this video!!!
KAVA ROOT helped me. I was a handle of rum and a case of beer every two days. I was on probation in Key West for a year of all places. Kava root is good for you and healthy. I'm a U.S. ARMY Veteran (Delta 1/46 4th platoon 1997) and suffer from PTSD, BPD, and depression.
Kava root cannot be taken with alcohol. Put me in the hospital
Kava root also causes liver damage and is in no way good for you
I am only 24, I don’t think I’m an alcoholic but seems to be when I drink I can’t stop. I black out everytime and the next day is the worst wondering how I act when I’m blacked out or the hang over anxiety is killing me. I tried and tried to cut back but I now think I want to commit to being sober. Today is day one!
Pray for me. I need help. Not sure what to do. I feel sick about it. I’m so sick of drinkin
When you said that modifying our drinking habits won't help, it struck a chord with me. Every week, even when I stick to beer and wine, I end up over-drinking at least once and it screws with my sleep. Just tonight, I was restless and I was having repeat anxiety attacks when I was ripped from my dreams. Not quite as harsh as a full-blown hangover, but I'm tired of doing this to myself. I've resolved to quit a dozen times now, at least; it's an easy thing to say when you're hugging a toilet bowl or sandwiching your head between two pillows to fruitlessly dull the pounding in my head, but I really struggle to resist when I'm feeling fine or even good. I get that urge, I crave the taste. And I end up back where I started. I think the longest I've made it is a week. Someone else in the comments said that they didn't want to stop drinking, they just didn't want the consequences that come from drinking, and they're exactly right. That's where I'm at.
What I don't hear discussed enough is how media influences alcoholism. Like, everywhere I look, I see characters drinking. It makes me want to drink; to partake and be part of the moment. If I'm not, then I must be missing out. It's like a reminder: "Hey, you could be drinking, too!" Anyways, I'm rambling. With this insight, I will try again and hope my willpower is stronger this time. Thank you.
I don’t want to stop drinking either. I know I need to. Its been 2 weeks since my last drink. I take supplements. D3, B complex, L-Glutamine, Magnesium citrate, fish oil. Work out. It really helps. I work at a restaurant with a bar and the temptation is always in my face. The liquor store is around the corner. But after 90 days it gets so much easier. I quit once for a year. Never should have went back. I hope to stay sober forever this time. Good luck!
How are you doing now?
I started drinking in college and did everyday until 3 years ago. I desperately wanted to quit drinking for almost 2 years while waiting to have hernia surgery. My anesthesiologist also is a good personal friend and said he would not put me under if I was still drinking because it could kill me. I ended up falling and ended up in the hospital and started having severe withdrawal symptoms. They asked if I wanted to quit drinking and I said "yes", June 18, 2020. I have not had a drink since. I wanted to quit but was so physically addicted I needed detox, after that my desire to quit was easier, not easy...but easier than I thought it would be. Forgot to mention, I am now in my 50s, so I basically drank everyday for 30 years.
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My doctor said gradually slow down I had 4 less drinks yesterday than my normal 10 ish. Woke up soaking wet with sweat shaking at 4am. This was helpful thanks.
i really like this womans approach - no bs but real & kind
Thanks 😀
This is so good. I am lucky. I do not need to detox. I am a weekend binger and everything she says is so true. I am determined to stop by myself. Just 10 days clean but I am not going back. Had enough booze for 3 life times. No more depression, anxiety, hangovers, feeling guilty and stupid for doing something I knew what the consequences would be. Great nights sleep and I feel sharp. Alcohol is a lie. I love tequila, but it's just a yummy way of self medicating. It's drug, a dangerous one. So many more benefits from not drinking then a 1 hour buzz. I found a non alcoholic substitute that is really helping. Light ginger beer. It's spicy and it's so delicious to me. Right after the first swig all my cravings vanish. I look forward to it at 6PM just like I did with booze. Also keeping busy during the times you would normally grab a drink. Like cooking, cleaning, exercising, working on a project. Also, watching videos about the damage alcohol does to your body is eye opening and really helpful. Wish me luck! You can do it.
Great insight and a fantastic attitude! Very impressive 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩
You could be an alcoholic who quit early. All alcoholics could drink responsibly at one point.
You're not getting younger ,as we age we have to let go of certain things. After buzz of first drink it's all downhill. Moderation don't work . She's right. Stop drinking and watch your life improve and a lot of problems go away .
You’re the best exactly how I feel
Well done good for you wishing you well bless you 🙏🤝🙏✌️
Thanks!
Thank you so much, Argusnorman8417! 😀😀💖💖
Any alcoholic can stop drinking the issue is staying stopped. This requires a complete psychological change and then continued work. What’s cunning about this disease is after a period of time of not drinking the obsession to drink overpowers the alcoholic to remember with sufficient force the consequences of drinking. Recovery programs and a support network is vital and rehab is a great start! Recovery is a life long process
For most yes, the fact you think you speak for all is disturbing tho.
@@TheGreyGhost_of43rd lol that’s what you gathered from my opinion on a UA-cam video about quitting drinking?
I found dealing with it one day at a time very good. I also kept telling myself I no longer drank (rather than thinking of it as trying to stop) and actively taking notice of how much better I felt in the morning. Telling other people helped, but obviously I didn't tell anyone who was going to use it against me!
I told all me friends I was done drinking but then went back on it many times. But still worth doing if only to help you stop even temporarily. It's a process towards the light
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@@PutTheShovelDown Thanks for the video
That’s helpful because I have stopped many times, once for four months but eventually I go back and feel rotten for it.
I love myself, my parents and my family. That is the reason I stopped drinking.
Thanks!
Wow! Thank you so much!!! 💓💓💓
3 days ago I started randomly having uncontrollable shakes and realised I have a real problem, and I am mortal. It's scary and I'm waiting for a call-back for the help I need.
Nice video! I’ve been alcohol-free my entire life and I like to call myself an anti-alcoholic for it. I remember as a little girl I used to play a lot of rated m games involving alcohol drinking. I know many people say little children should never play rated m games, but I gotta say those alcohol drinking games had quite a positive effect on me. I always thought it was very funny seeing all those people in those games go drunk and yet I thought to myself, I don’t want to end up like those people at all and as I got older and learned about how alcohol really effects the brain, the liver, and some other body parts, I really thought to myself, I sure am glad I’m staying away from those beverages. I’m grown up now and I still haven’t had any alcohol at all.
I'm really struggling with quitting. I'm 30 and I'm overweight and I feel like I'm wasting my life. I want to quit and I am able to go a week without it every now and then. But it has become just part of my routine. Breaking the habit is the biggest part of it for me. Thank you for making these videos. I have tried AA and I feel like it works for some people. It worked for my husband. But whenever it's not an option for me, it's not a problem. When I'm bored at home, that's the issue.
Hi Ashely, I'm impressed with your insight and willingness! Here's a link to get FREE access to my 30 Day Jump Start series. www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/30-day-jump-start
The beauty is the realisation that you CAN do something about it.
When u are sober then you ARE MORE AWAKE more aware of what's happening around you.
People get - kidnapped- burgled-abused anything can happen--- people's drink gets spiked by women aswell. Throw alcohol down the drain NOW---- save your LIFE--- you are the biggest investment you will ever make.... - take up Art Journalling- collage-
YOU MATTER I care even though I didn't give birth to you . STILL I CARE
- be the superhuman you are meant to be, who helps people. Help yourself first your life is going to change- you can make a huge difference- you can achieve anything Positive NOW NOW NOW. Make an Instagram account and start posting ART/ doodles -
Get RID of boredom by - being service to others. Help people do this garden/ shopping/ - TRUST YOUR INSTINCS PLEASE they are from our Guardians
You need to join a CrossFit box, or a gym that has classes, or climbing gym. If you have kids and you need to stay at home, then buy some equipment and workout at home. There are tons of FREE workout programs and videos...if cost is an issue. Start slow, and just do something every day. If working out is new to you, then maybe start out with yoga/power walking/boot camp, etc. I can help you if you want!
I am so tired of telling myself “you can do it on occasion” or “I’ll only have 3-4 shots not anymore” then I’ll be on my 9th shot without me knowing. I am tired of me buying a bottle to bring home. Alcohol was never my DOC but it became my DOC when I stopped smoking marijuana. I now recognize I have a problem. Being 24 years old, 10 years of smoking weed, and 5 of drinking alcohol. I need to do better for myself. My daughter and my loved ones. I have a much more clear train of thought when I’m not under the influence but I’m so used to coping and coping w bordem by doing these bad habits
I can absolutely relate to that , thanks for sharing 👍🏻
I totally relate
navigating through life not knowing what’s going on with self has affects on where your drinking stems from and for me it was abandonment issues with my family. i did not realize that what was happening was i actually abandoned myself in trying to outrun my abandonment issues i thought will never go away. learning self acceptance self forgiveness and reparenting yourself can really help with whatever issues your having especially with something like alcohol. this is my second time quitting and hopefully the last time. this is my day one. i’m quitting again to start a new chapter for myself as a non alcohol. i binged while hanging out with i had not seen for many years and i was super anxious but the hangover was from hell and i thanked god while i was suffering through the hangover because i can’t do it anymore and not have to beat myself up anymore. i was wondering how my visit would’ve gone if i had been sober i may have made a better first impression so i do regret that but i’m learning to embrace myself and self forgiveness so if i don’t get to see this friend again sober it’s probably not the friendship i should be in. 😢
5 years sober after 60 years, yep sixty years. The last 40 odd years, drunk every day. Then suddenly, I said to my wife who had decided to stop herself, that I'd stop for a few months to support her. No problem !!! The only downside is that I fervently wish I had had done it years ago, it was so easy. So, the only advice I can give is just stop, cold turkey, walk away, if I can do it ANYBODY CAN.
So many positive comments here and good stories. I’m here because my family is on the line.
I like this video. I only drink once a week but makes me feel guilty because the next day I feel so sick always throwing up and if I have an appointment or something important to do I have to cancel it. I’m tired of doing that and yes I’m still doing it thinking I will drink different but doesn’t happen I need to not drink at all. One thing I’m doing is I stopped hanging out with friends cause they drink all the time and it doesn’t help me. But I need to totally stop. I’ve lost friends, partners and jobs because of it. I hate it 🥺😟
I was 30 years sober, thought I could manage it, now I’m starting over
I wish you well. Don’t be hard on yourself ❤️🇨🇦👍🙏
Are u saying that you threw away 30 yrs of sobriety? More fool you.
@@Stappit That is very unkind.
I always drink on my own, so it stands to reason I'll stop on my own
I love this !Very sensible and supportive and from a woman whose advice I’d far rather listen to.
I had a drinking problem and quit for a few months. I decided to start drinking again to see what would happen if I cut back or only had certain types of alcohol, would I be able to “drink differently”. It didn’t work at first and I found myself slipping into my old ways and habits over and over. I thought there was no hope and that I would have to give up drinking forever (which was probably the best thing for me at that point). Then one day something clicked and I decided that I wasn’t going to let alcohol run my life. I should be able to drink in moderation and not get carried away. What worked for me is mindfulness. When I feel myself getting to a certain level of intoxication, I am now acutely aware that I need to slow down and stop. I have zoned in on how I’m feeling in that moment and that has made the biggest difference in the world. It’s been well over a year and I have not had any slip ups and feel very much in control. I have a much healthier relationship with alcohol and it is no longer effecting my life in a negative way. I don’t know if this method has worked for anyone else and I don’t know if it will continue to work for me, but right now I’m in a good place.
Sure... 🤦♀️
My husband and I have a couple of drinks between 5 and 7. 7 is dinner time and after dinner we have coffee, chat and then it bed.
A healthy relationship with alcohol is a divorce. It's a poison.
You should cut down, it will catch up with you, if not already taken over you
Once the taste is there, my brain would be looking for more, more, more. If I don’t have the first, I won have the second
Thank you for your great advise! I’m going on 3 weeks strong! 💪🏻 I know it’s a long road but I’m feeling great!
@@lookingattheman that’s fantastic!! 🤩🤩🤩🤩
@ Thank you! I know that’s not very long but it’s been amazing so far. I’m feeling so great! Mind and Body!
Thank you for the information about Soberlink. I had no idea something like that existed. My daughter who is an alcoholic who is often home alone for weeks at a time when her husband travels for work actually agreed to get Soberlink.Hopefully it will save the family a lot of worry about whether she is drinking with the kids and whether they are safe. Thank you for everything you do Amber!
I've been using Soberlink for years, and it's been super helpful for MANY of my clients.
Didn’t know it exist either
All you say is so true and direct, I love it. I am trying to stop drinking and those things you say happen truly do happen in the mind of a drinker.
Thank you so much for the positive feedback! 😀😀😀
Darn , i felt like you were talking to ME!! Lol and the back of my mind right now says “ let’s start this sobriety tomorrow and have some fun today”
I used to never drink until I was 23 years old and even when I did start, I never had cravings or looked forward to it whatsoever. It wasn't until after a huge breakup a few years ago where I started drinking as an attempt to numb everything and maybe (how I was feeling at the time) die. I was kinda hoping I would drink so much that I would make myself sick or get so bad that I never wanted to drink again... But nope...I became addicted. Extremely bad. I haven't been sober more than 3 days total in the past 3 years. I'm functional and some days are less than others, but I seriously hate myself for being so weak-minded and unable to just say no like all the years prior. I fucking hate it. It drains my wallet, I've become dependent on it to fall asleep, and I've begun relying on it to get me through dates and social interactions. I know what I gotta do, but I'm struggling. Hard.
My heart goes out to you
🙏🏼 going out for you Jody
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YES, I can attest to stopping on my own (cold turkey) 18 months ago with no withdrawal or treatment. It did take time to get used to it and my brain definitely needed to reset itself to something it hadn't experienced since my teens (I'm 55 now). I can still go to a bar or party to be with friends and not dread any craving or relapse. The 'secret' being (and it may sound like a platitude): JUST DON'T DRINK.
I am drinking now because i live with constant high anxiety and panic. Its the only relief i get but its only minimal relief and of course very temporary then the rebound anxiety is worse. But im already so ill with anxiety. I drank nothing for months but the panic drove me bac to it.
I got off it when I found this wonderful Oriental Tea House called the Tea Shrine.
Just like going to a pub, only traded in the extremely dangerous unhealthy beverage for the Best Green, White, Black, Oolong teas around.
Also when I do go to pubs and Christmas time for Christmas functions there something called really good 0.0 beers around.
You still need that support and someone to talk to once or twice a week! It’s not easy! 72 days sober and I still to with my support worker from ARC!!!
Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Control Alcohol saved my life. It’s an eye opening book not just on alcoholism but on social conditioning and escaping ‘the matrix’ of propaganda and ideologies. He uses very useful analogies and psychology tactics that help you gain control of your life.
Great video! I used the system of testing regularly and I knew that I'd get caught if I used, so I never started. It was great to do that especially in the beginning of my recovery. It is the small things like that, that build to bigger and better things! Thanks, this was awesome!
Very smart Anthony! Accountability is very important in early recovery. It helps us get through the days when we're low on willpower.
Embrace exercise and a healthy diet as well as being sober. You will get twice the healthy buzz and sense of achievement. 👍
My 75 yr old uncle use to drink 8/10 cans beer daily after work all thru most of life, as he got 70ish he started slowing down to 6 then 5 than 4 , 3, n now 2 at 75 no meds. He eats healthier home made food 3x day pretty much n some take outs. He now got old fashion lung cancer n doing good after his radiation treatment.
I tuned into this video to see your take on it coz I've been able to change my habits lately. Great information in the video. I was making excuses for drinking most nights of the week. At first I was doing it because I hated my work and it was a bad shift. Before long I was looking for excuses for the shift to be bad so I could have that drink. It was pathetic. I still have the voice in my head when I finish,
"Wouldn't a couple of cans go down well after that shift"?
I now recognise this as the enemy it is and mentally tell it to shut up (seriously... It works), buy a protein shake and the voice is gone as soon as I'm drinking that. It's a day by day effort and I have combined it with daily exercise but I feel like a different person and never drink by myself anymore.
Full disclosure: I still drink with friends about once a week but this isn't anywhere near as destructive as the lifestyle I had been living. I've had five cans of beer in the house for a while and haven't even thought about touching them.
One thing I'd add to #2 "Tell Everyone You're Not Drinking" is "Sling Anyone Who Doesn't Encourage You". There's a lot of toxic people who don't want to see you get better at the expense of a drinking buddy.
Best of luck to anyone who's battling the Habit Demon. You can smash it.
Very insightful!
Amazing video. Great tips. May purchase this link. It can show proof how long i went without drinking
Yes 100%
Our stories are all different - but here's mine. Used to, as they say, enjoy a beer. A very long story short - I had psychological issues. I was self-medicating. I finally got into a deep depression, saw a doctor, got some anti-depressants, and once my depression was under control, I lost the urge to drink. It's never quite as easy as that, of course, but what I'm saying is - you've got to figure out WHY you are drinking. Find out, deal with it.
I wish you all luck.
The best advice is take it one day at a time. Say to yourself just not today. we don’t know what the world will look like 6 months even five years down the road. Starting today 5/19/2023 I will not drink today. I’ll let you know what a month will bring me. Again just not for today.
The only hardest part of quitting alcohol for me is the emotional dependence. Nothing seems to help with the severe depression that's left behind and it's _bad_ for me ...
Yes she’s on point about the creates habits
I'm so happy I found your channel...again. You have so much great information. You've helped me a lot ❤❤❤
I’m 23 I just lost my pops over a year ago over alcohol when I lost him I started drinking more and literally on Saturday I fucked up my daughters 1st birthday by getting into a fight at her bday party and I’ve never cared about changing my alcoholism until this day and I know it’s gonna take time but ima going to do it
Good for you! I'm impressed with your insight!
I was functional alcoholic and I quit 20 plus years ago and not a day goes by I don't want a beer our a few shots . I have a very old 6pack in the fridge in my shop and I have 2 very old bottles of whiskey in my house . I have friends that have a drink or two when they come to visit but they never touch my stash. I am not bragging it's just what worked for me.when I first quit I knew I always had my life savers.
Interesting comments. I been drinking since I was in 7th grade. At first it was weekends than became daily. Liquor is what makes me sick or hung over but beers as long as I eat food I don’t get sick and if I do I’ll be better by 12 … it’s a destructive cycle
Is very safe to stop drinking you need will power and you can do it I myself try and think positive every day and talk to your family about if you start getting depressed about it you have only one life so live it with out the drink I have been sober for going on 6 years Bill
O my definitely ive been their its like thats me this time 2 months down the line just one glass then 2months after im back to the start
Keep at it the biggest achievement is you’ve recognised you have a problem and more importantly you want to change. To create peace in life you have to make peace. The pure guilt of drinking the next day just think of that as worse than the drink. Guilt is terrible it eats up inside you know you’re not living the life you deserve. I write a daily plan on my phone every night one of the notes to do’s is no drink. And I tick it off. Get up early , exercise etc literal list it all tiny things like brush your teeth write every step of the day it feels like a huge achievement when can tick them all off end of the day. Hope that helps.
I'm only one day sober and feel like hammered dog poop!! Have been through the spin dry once. AA doesn't work for. So hopefully these videos will help.
Hang in there Mary ! I'm about to start my 1st day of recovery .
How come AA didn't work for you? Just curious...I never did go and I am 7 years sober, but my dad swore by it. Thanks
I got up one morning still, drunk like many times before finding myself battling to get ready for work ,and last month I just gave up totally
For me I couldn't of done it alone as I believe addiction is at its strongest when your on your own and isolated alcohol completely took over my life to the point were I was drinking even when it was physically dangerous for me to do so. I got sober by taking my recovery seriously and by fully accepting my illness. That's what I choose to call it but I understand everyone is different. Fellowship and the 12 step program is how I manage to stay sober being around other alcoholics and addicts who can understand me. I'm 10 months sober now and I haven't looked back since. I'm not saying this way is wrong but I know it wouldn't work for me.
Awesome, James!
Howzit going?
@@reddiver7293 I'm good thank you for asking 😊 still going strong I'm 15 months sober now hope you are well 🙏💙
Thanks for helping out babe
I'm going to subscribe and try to watch and listen to you're videos. Thank you.
Welcome aboard!
What do people do to feel a sense of escape?
Gummies?
the comments make me feel seen; wanting the consequences of drinking to go away without the drinking going away, i think that's where i'm at right now. i feel like i need the sedation to deal with day to day situations but i always drink too much, i cant moderate my drinking while im drunk. i was sober for almost a year. hopefully i get there again someday soon
That was very useful.Having said that,when your boss recognise you and your team efforts, when he/she throws a party ,may I ask what cocktail do you drink? I still like the info,thx God bless...
The best option would be to say, thanks but I'm not drinking tonight. You can make up whatever reason you want! You can also get a drink that looks like an alcoholic drink. Then if someone asks you if you want something, you can say "thanks, I've already got one" Take a look at this video, it's about talking to alcohol during special occassions/social events.
Please anyone and everyone that can help me, I beg of you to do so. I have a son that I love very much peace my only son and he’s going to be 47. He’s drinking a lot and it’s a problem. He’s married with two kids, and his wife says, the drinking is getting worse and the name-calling is continuing and now he’s turning into a main drunk. His father and I are so worried about him and we’ve talked to him and his wife has talked to him and stop being drinking is nonnegotiable for him. Is there anything anyonecan tell me yes to how I might help him in some weight to realize what he’s doing to himself and his family. Please pray that a miracle happens and God helps him to see the light out of this dark tunnel called addiction to alcohol.
Hey 2501Grace! I'm so sorry you're going through that. If you go to the main channel, you'll find a playlist of videos on Dealing With Denial!
Thank you , very good information. I do not recommend going cold turkey if you're a heavy daily drinker like I was. Take 3-5 days and taper off until you have 1 or 2 drinks on the last day. Then flood your body with fresh green juice (the expensive, bitter stuff 3 per day) and exercise/sweat for the remainder until the anxiety ceases. Eat tons of protein, sweet potatoes and rice. Absolutely no fast food or junk. It will dramatically reduce the discomfort of withdrawal.
Was excited to try sober link until i saw the price. Its a great concept though
is having crazy anxiety and feeling horrible a part of withdrawal? and what to do when this happens ?
Yes, that can definitely be part of withdrawal. Some people might need medical detox. here's a video that explains that: ua-cam.com/video/hTBrDNwL54o/v-deo.html
Yes , drink lots of water . Take magnesium , CBD and vitamins
Awesome video, as are all your videos.
I am in the medical field with a previous medical assisted treatment and counseling clinic. I am re-opening the clinic in a few months and will be strongly recommending to subscribe to your channel.
Wow, thanks Shawn that would be awesome! And, thanks for being another solider out there fighting against addiction 🪖🪖🪖🪖
I need help quitting. Idk where to turn I don’t trust AA
I quit drink 26 yrs ago,,,thank god the most high,,, for giving me the Will power to say,,No,,and I done it with help of my brother,,and I thank him, peace 💚
I suspect I'm ADHD and anxiety/depression meds haven't been successful and I kept reaching for alcohol which worsened my focus and mood. I'm getting weaned off this poison and as give myself a few months of healthy eating and go see a professional who can assess my possible ADHD and hopefully remedy my situation because my focus is terrible, I procrastinate almost everything and have no motivation. I can't even hardly sit through a movie and retain much of what I saw.
For me, and maybe for others, when I've tried to "manage" my drinking, I've found that the slippery slope of drinking differently isn't a slope at all, it's a cliff of absolute failure.
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My partner has stopped after near death liver disease collapse. 12 weeks in hospital taught her to change. So hard to stop . But you need mental health help. Best of lucķ.
Ive done it by myself no drink for 4 months !!
I’ve been sober for 1 year today and I feel great...
Now I just need to stop smoking and this will be more difficult... 👍
When I was in my 20's I was a occasional power drinker trying to impress women but not an alcoholic because I never needed a drink. By my mid 30's I only had alcohol socially and mostly beer. My uncle was an alcoholic, my dads father was an alcoholic, my dads brother was an alcoholic, and my brother was an alcoholic. I'm so glad and thankful I didn't become one.
I think I’ve heard before that sending these videos to the person struggling in our life is not a good idea. I wish I could though. This explains it so well. I’m afraid they think it’s not a big deal or it can be managed by just the weekend drinking or switching to wine vs brandy. I don’t know that I can keep dealing with it 🙃. I really appreciate your videos though, so thank you 😊
It's all about timing, DJ. If the person is in a stage where they're talking about wanting to stop, then I'd definitely send this video. if they're don't think their drinking is an issue, then I wouldn't.
@@PutTheShovelDown thank you!!
@@PutTheShovelDown what if they have both thoughts back and forth?what state are they in?
Today is my second day of not drinking after drinking almost every weekend for almost a decade and now throughout the week for some time now. I get bored, I get sad, I get mad and I’m just tired of this. It’s hard to admit, no one in my life knows the full extent. Let’s see how this goes.
Good for you Pricilla! Very impressive 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
Is it like, one can only take it before drinking? Or can we take it daily basis cause, For me i usually don't drink atall for 3-4 months bt when I do i drink it for continue 2weeks atleast.
I'm 5 years sober, after 40 years of dependency. I gave up in 1 week with the Allen Carr method: Easy way to stop drinking. Cost me £5, I found it in a charity shop, its also in libraries. My story is on yt, An Artist's Journey to Alcohol Free.
My son is an alcoholic at 24 years old. He also has issues with hoarding. Does one of these issues affect the other? Did one create the other? These behaviors seem to coincide about 4 years ago. Nothing I say or do seems to help, as he also refuses to seek treatment. I'm frustrated, as I'm sure he is too. Besides these issues we have a very good relationship. But I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice?
Hi William, if your son lives with you (or you have regular contact), the Invisible Intervention might be a good option for this situation. Also, here's a video workshop that might be helpful: www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/motivational-interviewing-session
What is he hiding from you?
What is he running away from?
Can you write down on paper / what has bothered him?
- has he broken up with somebody?
Has somebody hurt him?