The Thought Process That Solved My Fear & Anxiety for Good

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  • Опубліковано 18 гру 2024

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  • @AstridPerellon
    @AstridPerellon 2 місяці тому +2

    I found this reassuring. I am aware of my fear of non existence and the anxiety dissolves with this light

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  2 місяці тому +2

      I’m very glad Astrid! Thank you for sharing this :)

  • @brycek2033
    @brycek2033 4 місяці тому +2

    I have had the fear of infinite non-existence for around 20 years. I spent a lot of time focused on Existential OCD therapy which was mildly helpful. This was very helpful.

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому +1

      If you want further help feel free to join the free community I can help you personally :) thanks for the comment in glad the video has brought you at some peace 🙏

  • @Ethanbull35
    @Ethanbull35 4 місяці тому +3

    Really good brother! Thankyou for sharing 🙏

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому

      Thank you brother glad you liked it 🙏

  • @tabletop9258
    @tabletop9258 4 місяці тому +1

    Very solid explanation! Thank you!!!👏👏👏

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому

      I appreciate the comment thank you my friend 🙏

  • @kidub3145
    @kidub3145 4 місяці тому +1

    I like what you said. I am looking forward to go with you 👍

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому

      In glad you resonated my friend. Likewise 🙏🌅

  • @SCgroove
    @SCgroove 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you. Great talk. What can we do to confront fears of losing the certain aspects of our current life experience that we enjoy which won’t come along with us when we transition back to non physical awareness? I don’t spend much time fearing death … in fact there’s been times when it seemed more like I was welcoming it … but I struggle with the idea of not being able to physically play my guitar, experience the breeze of a spring day, take a walk around my town late at night, etc.

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  Місяць тому +1

      Hey my friend!
      So the thing to notice is that there is only a fear of losing certain aspects of your current life when you are dependent on those things for happiness.
      I know it doesn’t sound like it but actually your fear of not doing those things is the fear of non existence.
      The separate self builds its identity on seeking. It creates an illusory self based on certain activities from which we derive our sense of happiness and therefore lives in the perpetual seeking of those things.
      When people say they don’t fear death, death isn’t the fear. We all fear non existence.
      So if you identify with those things and fear losing them, you can bet it’s because you believe they are fundamentally a part of your identity.
      That’s why you fear losing them.
      And to lose our identity, if we fundamentally believe we are that identity, we will fear losing it.
      So your fear is the same as everyone else’s. The fear of non existence. There is no other fear than that.
      If you want more understanding on this, watch this video where I dive deeper. Hope it helps 🙏
      ua-cam.com/video/RVAuNbuwmBg/v-deo.htmlsi=uXtByMsoKtjwoJ1I

    • @SCgroove
      @SCgroove Місяць тому +1

      Beautiful response. Thanks so much. Blessings to you and your community.

  • @twistedbydsign99
    @twistedbydsign99 4 місяці тому +2

    I found that I was afraid of suffering which was not fear of death which would actually be a relief. So I had to ask what is suffering and why is there suffering. As they say there are many ways to the mountain top.

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому

      Same same but different

  • @maha77
    @maha77 3 місяці тому

    Everyone says all fear traces back to 'fear of death' but I totally disagree, I do not fear death, I fear suffering, physical or mental. I don't have anxiety of death, I have anxiety of 'the future' of having enough money or well being. I do not fear death in the same way I do not fear sleep. I've also had a 'near-death' experience' where I left my body several times and know I am not the body, but while in the body we can be tied to it's sufferings and that is my fear

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  3 місяці тому +1

      You’re absolutely right. How can something that knows nothing of death fear it?
      The separate self doesn’t fear death. It fears non existence.
      That non existence take the shape of the fear of suffering, the fear of not having done enough before we die, the fear of not leaving enough for our kids, etc etc. they are all identity based. That’s why it all leads back to the fear of non existence which I state in this video.
      I made a new video on this which will be uploaded soon because everything you mentioned is all the fear of non-existence which is itself the experience of fear and that’s where the ego hides.

    • @maha77
      @maha77 3 місяці тому +1

      @@sajafendel that clarification makes total sense, looking forward to your new video on this subject. Just discovered your channel a few days ago and really enjoying it, would love to hear your thoughts and analysis on *'regret'* and *'certainty'* if you are so inclined to do a video on such a topic - I find myself suffering so much recently with regret, decisions I made in the past has changed the outcome of 'the future' and I feel this tremendous sense of pain and regret every-time I think about it, and I feel like my only way out of the pain is to 'fix the future' I find myself wanting 'certainty' about the future, specifically years from now, and yet part of me finds it so ludicrous to be hoisting my happiness to a future that doesn't even exist right now and is so far away, it's like a trap, a trick question that my mind creates to keep suffering present. It's a fear of a possible future, and it's agonizing when it arises. It's not a fear of death, the though of death brings peace!

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  3 місяці тому +1

      @@maha77 I have already recorded the video, it will be uploaded tomorrow about fear.
      In terms of regret, I host meditations weekly in the free community where I help with this.
      I will also create a video soon on the path to overcome regret, blame and shame.
      Thanks for the idea 💡
      I hope it helps.

  • @noemibartley6648
    @noemibartley6648 4 місяці тому +1

    What if awareness is also regenerating with the body and the mind? I’m not in any way trying to negate your perspective. I also try to align with the same perspective because nothing else makes sense, but I do still have questions. Thank you for sharing. ❤

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому

      Yeah you’re right, what if awareness is generated by the body and mind?
      If it was, awareness would have to be an illusion. In other words, awareness would have to be false, unreal, and therefore awareness would not exist at all.
      But actually, contrary to that, we know for absolutely certainty that awareness does exist, because it is self evident.
      If something exists, it has to be real. Awareness can not be proven nonexistent, because it would take something aware of that non existent reality to render it nonexistent, and that would be awareness itself. Therefore awareness is real, existent, and true.
      So, for it to be dependent on the body and mind, the body and mind would have to have its own ultimate existence that is somehow greater than awareness.
      But when we check in our experience, the body and mind are completely fleeting. They arise as a sensation and perception.
      Consciousness however, is ever present, and never stops, starts, or ends.
      The body and mind consistently start or end.
      So the question that plagued my mind was, how on earth could it be possible for something that I know is always present, infinitely consistent, be created by something that I know is completely limited and intermittent?
      That which starts and end is non existent and has to be contained within a greater, truer, ultimate reality.
      Put these things side by side and ask yourself how something fundamentally non existent (meaning that it doesn’t have its own existence, such as last nights dream, or a passing thought)
      Create that which we know is absolutely and fundamentally real?
      It’s not possible. At all. Consciousness is fundamental, and the substratum for all experience to take place, that includes the entire experience of the body and the world.
      For more, be sure to join my free community, this is what it’s there for 💚
      Thanks for the honest and polite comment, I’m glad to help in anyway I can in your exploration 🙏

  • @nareshs8764
    @nareshs8764 2 місяці тому

    If all fear boils down to fear of death, why do some ppl suicide? How is social anxiety linked to fear of death?

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  2 місяці тому

      Like i mentioned, it's not the fear of death. It's the fear of non existence. And fear is the experience of none existence. the experience of non existence is create by the belief that what we are is not real and does not exist. this belief is created by the belief that we are the body/mind.
      This happens because the body and mind are not fundamentally real and do not exist. This creates suffering. Suicide is the attempt to remove th body mind to therefore remove the belief in our own nonexistence.
      It's our deep intuition that the death of the body will bring about freedom. but a misguided one. Because ultimately it is not the body that creates limitation.
      Hope this clarifies a bit, have a beautiful day my friend 🙏
      See this video for more: ua-cam.com/video/RVAuNbuwmBg/v-deo.htmlsi=KLfkbcCAFXQWuFL0

  • @SK-id9tt
    @SK-id9tt 4 місяці тому

    Someone had a psychedelic experience

    • @sajafendel
      @sajafendel  4 місяці тому +1

      Yeah that’s what caused the severe anxiety, panic attacks and psychosis 🤣