Hi Everyone, I just got a message from Kelly, one of my subscribers, and she said that she got a message from me to send money with a number from Italy. This is a SCAM and if you receive such a message from me, please report it to UA-cam. Thanks!!💕
Thank you for this video Sandra. It made my day. It helped me connect with myself and think about these important questions you raised. Not only who am I but how can I be the best person I can be .❤
Hi Sandra, you look absolutely beautiful. I love your hair and your skin is just glowing. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder as far as the outside appearance goes, but if you are beautiful on the inside, people notice. As we age, the outside beauty can fade and dull, Inside glows brighter than ever and gets more beautiful with each passing year as we grow in our character, compassion, kindness, etc.. I know who I am, and I am very secure in who I am. Some people may not want to ask the question “ Who am I?”. They may not want to face their behaviors, but fortunately, those behaviors can change the moment they choose to do so. Thank you for this great topic and conversation! Love, Sheila.
Now, I might just face that topic. I'm trying to be a better, kinder person but some times I fall back, I've always depended on my looks when I was growing up as I wasn't really able to cultivate much else.
@@patsy6589 Don’t be discouraged Patsy, we can all fall back but the fact that you recognize that tells me that you will truly blossom. You already have what you need inside of you so you will have complete victory.
It’s also true, isn’t it? Sometimes it takes longer for us than others to realize that. When the lightbulb turns on, that’s when we begin to love ourselves and our unique qualities that only we have.
You are beautiful as you are 🩷🌸🩷 I love the message, but I would add one thing. Don’t wait until you have passed from this world to share that information with your children. Let them read it now and understand you and let them know your inner thoughts about them so that you can share it and they can ask you questions.🦋🦋🦋. my mother left me a beautiful letter after she had passed and I wished we could’ve discussed it when she was here in this world.🩷🦋🩷
I needed to hear this today! My 44 yr old son has no time for me, even for HIS birthday😔. I will refocus after hearing this and be thankful for the caring people and doggies that are in my life. TU
I understand as my son will be 43 soon and I rarely see him or hear from him and his family. I am involved in various activities spending time with others who are interested in doing so. Prayers for you as you refocus ❤ We have much to be thankful for 😊
For the first part of my life, I was the sister of two brothers in wheelchairs. I became the wife of an abuser. I proudly became a mother, a role I love. I am a writer now. Being on my own after two divorces and a long term relationship break- up, I find it hard to just be me. It is lonely for me. I miss being part of a family. My daughter moved far away. My grandchild is barely in touch. I am visiting my best friend soon. I will at least have two days of happiness. I wish I could meet a nice man who will love who I really am. In the meantime, I have to learn to enjoy my own company.
I don’t know you but felt compelled to reply to your story. You seem very sad. I can understand from your life experiences. You seem to have led a well traveled life. you will see signs with when the right time will be to finally be free from any pain and you will begin to love yourself. I have a feeling that your energy will be shining bright and good things will appear. Believe in the power of love. And each day, the glass should be half full, not empty. XO ❤️ You’ve got this!
NOT knowing yourself and who YOU are is dangerous stuff! You end up living a life that's not yours. In relationships, if you don't know who you are/what you want, how unfair is it to expect someone else to know? This is a very important, even necessary question to ask ourselves. Thank you, Sandra, for bringing this forward! 🧡🎊🌼
Hello Sandra, Actually you are speaking about the same type of person that I am. My parents were physically and mentally abusive which has really affected my life. I may not know who I really am at 72 years old, but I definitely know who I am not, either of my parents! It’s taken me years to come out of depression and self hatred, and I have come to know that I am loved by God and that’s all that matters now.
Sister I am just like that. I have had to fight for everything. My parents were not kind. Now I am not aggressive per se rather I have been a door mat and I have been the recipient of the bullying but the point is who cares where we have been? And do we even care. God bless
@@DianneKenny hugs to you as well and how very kind. Just came in from doing barn chores, and I saw your comment and what a wonderful message to come into. Actually, I’ve been kind of contemplating starting a UA-cam channel of my own. My entire life has been a living testimony to God starting from a child with kidney problems and then moving onto prescription diet pills from four up until my early 20s. Well, when Dexter came out when I was about 13 I made the switch then. I am a writer and used to have a blog in addition to writing for the horse magazines. But people just don’t want to read anymore so I gave that up. But anyway, thank you so much. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day, hugs back to you
Gayle, thanks so very much for sharing your story with all of us. I know it will help others who have gone through the same thing you have. We are all children of God and his handiwork is always beautiful.
I absolutely love the idea of writing a note to my son to have him truly know who I was and how much I love him, and having him open it after I’m gone. You are truly a blessing to each of us, Sandra. ❤️
Wow. This is moving. Your sister-in-law did a good thing. She stood up for herself and others without name calling or such. She asked a question (even if it was with a bit of attitude). Brava to the formerly rude woman for using that moment to grow. I think she should be highly commended for admitting her mistakes and being thankful for the wake-up call. Just think how better her life could have been up to now. "Better late than never".
I love this🧡 I asked myself this a few years ago and I loved my answer to myself. I live each day very differently now. I know each day is a gift. I love to help others, I love to walk on the beach, I love to be me! I remind me, that I am Worthy, I am beautiful, I am a wonderful mom and wife and friend. Love this Sandra🙌🏻🧡🍑Lisa
You are beautiful ❤I think the same way, my kids don't really know who I am, they are so focused on their lives. I was the same with my mom until I got laid off from work due to the pandemic and spent 3 years closer to my mom (because I had the time and she needed me). We talked a lot and I really got to know her and it was amazing listening to her stories, she passed away over a year ago and I'm so glad I had this time with her.
Thank you for an impactful and meaningful conversation today, Madame! And Brava to your sister-in-law for having the courage to ask that question of the woman in her book club. We can hold the mirror up to one another to illustrate how each of us are behaving; I'm glad there was a positive outcome in the other woman's awareness because of what your sister-in-law asked. If she had not, maybe the other woman would have isolated more people in her life and not ever known the real reason. We can honor each other by communicating if we are being degraded, bullied or disrespected and we have a right to stand up for ourselves and others. A great lesson today and I so appreciate your sharing it with our amazing community! 🌸🌹🌻
A very good question to ask oneself, and regularly. One way my writing group and I expressed this is by writing our own obituaries. When done, we each realized it was what we wished we were. The next question: am I living this way - do my actions reflect my description - what is really important to me? Reflection is an important tool to remain authentic, true to ourselves, and grounded in our values. 😊💕
Good morning Sandra. As a child my brother and I, especially my dear Mother, went through serious difficulties after a divorce and two children. Times had changed and fortunately everything has recovered with much work. I never heard my Mother say that I was beautiful or that I had a special gift and I grew up without ever looking in the mirror thinking that I was a normal person with no special attractions. Today at 75 year old and seeing some photos of children and young women I think that I was very beautiful. The fact that I thought I wasn’t pretty or that I was an ordinary person never meant that I didn’t smile at everyone and wasn’t kind, on the contrary I was and I am always careful not to hurt anyone with words or actions,and to help as much as possible people in need. Aggressive and always bad-tempered people scares me. That’s why I think it’s a question of character and education and not exactly a problem of lack or knowing whether we are beautiful or ugly. There are very ugly people who have fantastic inner beauty in such a way that they seem beautiful to us. Thank you Sandra for another great video. Love you.
Beautifully stated, Sandra!❤ We are All magnificent!.⭐ We are the Creator's spectacular artwork!💫 Uniquely and Individually made. We are all a Masterpiece! God's majestic handiwork.🔥 I am forever grateful, indeed.🌹 AND, I Honor God for His Agape Love.❤❤❤
You are amazing! I will start to write about this. Today I am feeling a bit down today and that is ok. Tomorrow is another day. Thanks for posting that. I need to hear this today.
It's very unique to leave a final thought to your loved ones. If I were on the receiving end, I'd want my mum to feel I 100% know who she is and wouldn't have to explain herself. I'd be looking for ways to communicate with her on the other side, so would hope for guidance in the final letter. I've read out my comment to my mum and approves of this as I want to check I haven't said anything that could be offensive. ❤
Dearest Sandra, You painted a picture of truths similar to that of the Mona Lisa. Admired yes, but full of mystery and awe all at once. But life is different, more like a recipe. What you put into it can vary the quality of the outcome of its flavor. This process requires patience as well as versatility...when you don't have what you want...make sure you have what you need...also known as heart. It takes you far and keeps you close to your best self!
Thank you Sandra for being a beam of light for us women 😊😊😊...we are blessed for having someone like you in our PATH. LOVE the Verse GROW WHERE YOU'RE PLANTED " and that's what I'm learning Thank you 😊
What a beautiful message Sandra, coming from a beautiful person. Thank you for being who you are and allowing yourself and all of us to shine! Much love to you.
I wrote a letter to each of my two children a few years ago (and gave them their letters) as it was not about me but how they've impacted my life as their mother, how proud I am of them in what they've accomplished, who've they've become as adults and encouraged them to follow their own path to happiness and fulfillment. I let them know I think of them each and every day even if we don't text, talk or write. It was a powerful lesson for me as like so many others, I never heard any of those words from my own parents and have felt my own lack of self confidence for decades! That poor lady who's bitterness and self doubt showed through with anger and aggression - I'm sure she's so grateful to your SIL and will turn her life around for a more fulfilling and happy life. Thank you Sandra for these lessons.
@@patsy6589 - my suggestion would be to write what you plan to say in a letter so she has it for her lifetime to reread when needed - a conversation is lovely but then it's over and some of the message may be forgotten.
@@louiseparisotto3630 Guess I could do both. But they might get a letter after you're gone and wish so much that they could ask questions about what you'd written.
Hi Sandra I have experienced a sad break up with a lifetime friend who has progressively become that angry woman in the book group. I know my friend had a childhood exactly like the angry woman in the book club. Outwardly she appeared to overcome her childhood traumas- but it always was there- and now that we are in our 70s she has become so angry and sarcastic she deliberately picked a fight to push me out of her life. Those first reflections to us about who we are do inform our sense of self in those formative years. I count myself very lucky that my mom often asked me “how does it feel to be so young and beautiful?” I poo pooed this at the time- now I am grateful for those words. And she always insisted I try on new school clothes for my dad- the one I’ve mentioned here because he too was from the Bronx. He would always smile and say just one word: “ Sharp!” I’m going to do the assignment you gave us tonight ❤
Me too. I am to attend my nieces wedding on Saturday night out of town, and driving home that same night, for fear that if I stay in a hotel like most guests out of town will be doing, that something I misunderstand, regarding shuttle transportation to and from the wedding site, a different area for the cocktail location, and a different location for another activity. that I might flub up, leaving myself to feel embarrassed.
Wow Sandra. It's a struggle to find the words to let you know how deeply l appreciate you. Your choice of subject always reflects the life that we have. You endlessly encourage and support the lives we have. I've loved all the various contributions from this community of ladies. It is so meaningful to read of different experiences. Am just enriched beyond words by you all ❤
Hi Sandra,I just wanted to let you know that I really connect with what you said in this video.I love the way you explain your view and you're able to give me calmness through tour comforting voice!I really think that knowing who we are and embrace that is a fundamental part in our life to live at our best,so thank you for spreading this beautiful message🌱🧡
I love you Dear Maam for your beautiful thoughts. you always inspired me in my saddest moments. I feel immense Respect for you. May you and your Children be blessed always, Ameen ❤
Thank you so verymuch for this Sandra I was beating myself up because I wasn't able to answer this,still.I am gonna try doing what you suggested about doing a list.Thank you always for ALL of your amazing messages.Keep shining your beautiful wonderful light Sandra!
We know who you are, as the reason we follow you ritually. I can relate, I know that I have been underestimated by my entire family as well. I do feel bad about it, but my friends, like yours, stick by us!
Very beautiful message you recorded today. I wrote a letter for my son just in case my time comes sooner than I expected. You are looking radiant Sandra. I love your cute puppy. You be well....hugs and blessings......MINDY
Thank you beautiful inside and out Sandra! Much appreciated! You are a wonderful warm and loving human being that is helping all of us navigate through the later chapters of our lives! Happy Spring, too! Hugs~♥♥
I think that's wonderful that the aggressive woman was willing to change her ways. That is difficult. Often our initial reaction to being confronted is to be defensive or rationalize our own behavior, but she did the work to change.
Sometime ago I spoke with my niece about her relationships and how I felt about her. I told her that outer beauty is skin deep but inner beauty is much deeper. Inner beauty goes to your soul. Work on your inner beauty and you will be much happier and a pleasure to know.
I felt this. I was never considered to be pretty let alone beautiful. Never got compliments. Never had a relationship. Then i had surgeries that changed my face and i am still getting used to the new one ten years later. It's hard.
Hi from Annie I really liked the message in the story today and so glad your sister in law spoke up to that lady. It is amazing what a few words can do. Yes it is a puzzle sometimes as to who we really are even some of us do not know the answer to that at times. There are times that I feel I know myself and other times I feel like a lost stranger, it is funny when you think of it. I would say if we don't know who we are how can anyone else? I do feel that over the years it does change the "who are we" time changes us all to some degree. Hopefully for the better. God bless.
Wonderful video today,thankyou,its hard when you get to that season in your life and can no longer be geographically near your children or grandchildren and when your whole purpose and life as been in these roles and not now have friends or purpose but maybe at 67 I can find new beginings,friends amd purpose ,even if I cant see my family very often,we do talk on the phone but its not qite the same as being able to see them often but God is my strength and joy and hope,love your video today thankyouxx
Thank you Sandra for that wonderful video. I hope this is not judging, but I know a few women who cannot wait for the next lunch, the next sale, the next holiday, the next dinner, the next party, and on it goes! Good luck to them and all that, but where is their contentment? Those people can never answer the question "Who Am I". They will never know, shallow people, to be pitied I suppose. Thank you Sandra!
In essence, we are all “Spiritual Beings having human experiences”, as Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (French Jesuit philosopher and mystic, 1881-1955) stated it and that feels so true and uplifting to me. Although I understand that’s not how children can see their mother 😉😍💖
Sandra thank you for this wonderful reminder and opportunity for us to share our past experiences and let it go in order for us to Free ourselves and enjoy our remaining days. I believe that you are a child only 12 years of your life and then we turn 18 years old and physically leave our parents homes , however very few of us leave our emotional experiences and trauma on that day as well . We tend to carry the childhood trauma with us through our lives into our relationships with our spouse , children , in-laws, bosses, friends, and the list goes on . One day we wake up and realize what we have wasted our energy and our life on . Today i hope this is a wake up call for some of your viewers to let go and heal that inner child that needs to know she is loved and she is precious. Thank you .
This question is really hard to distinguish in ourselves especially when we have been deeply drowned with our own mental health stuffs and circumstances in life.
Wonderful message my dear Sandra, what I found out is that people who are very mean and critical of others have some self esteem issues and are not comfortable with themselves, I'm so glad your sister in law spoke up so at least that woman got to look into her behavior, at least she has insight so that's good maybe she will adopt and change her attitude knowing that she is wonderfully made and beautiful in the sight of God the creator, it doesn't matter how others see you,it's how you see yourself on the inside will project on the outside.
The issue you have spoken about is a very pertinent one. And it has left most of us stumped! Thank you very much for talking about this very important subject.
He Sandra I love this thought provoking topic. It’s so true isn’t it. How can anyone else know who we are if we don’t know who we are. What do we project if we don’t know. No wonder there are insecurities anger and low confidence. My parents didn’t tell me either. I think they thought it would make me conceited or some such thing. I think many of us try hard or fixate not to be a certain way instead of exploring and learning our unique beautiful selves . I appreciate you bringing this to our attention and helping us to introduce us to ourselves ❤️
Beautiful Sandra you are a delightful blessings to your children, grandchildren, personal friends and we UA-camrs! Love your sister in laws courage to speak up and it bought awareness and change to the hurting woman, good for her, letters to children to read after passings is the best loving goodbye gift, thank you dear and have a wonderful week. ♥️💐🙏🏻
Hermoso mensaje Sandra!!! Gracias sus consejos y vivencias nos ayudan a seguir adelante, feliz domingo y nos vemos pronto, esperando el proximo domingo 🥰
I was just pondering the same thoughts about my kids and how in general people don't really know us deeply. And really, it's not their responsibility to know us and figure us out. It's only our responsibility to know and understand ourselves. In a way it's a bit sad to me to know this especially as a mother. But it also supports the idea that we can only be reponsible for our own paths and our own growth.
Thank you so much dear Sandra, for this wonderful video! You are such a treasure: beautiful, wise and so kind! I agree : each person has a secret garden, precious and unique! 🌅🌹🙏🌹
Spot on Sandra as always. Your messages keep getting better and better. I like you have done this in writing as I came to a moment where I felt time was fleeing and the busy life was keeping not all but some from knowing who I was.
Hi Sandra! Another great message AND really good lesson. Your SIL did an important thing. I understand what you mean about your children not really knowing who you are. They each think differently. Do they realize how much you help us every day? Love the letters idea.❤ You look beautiful today!! Thank you for WHO YOU ARE!!! 💖
Sandra, I don’t think my daughter really knows who I am either. I just hope she knows how much I love her. MANY times, we make think we know who someone really is and yet be entirely wrong. I seriously think that asking someone who they are is never a bad thing!!! I know for a fact that children learn what they live and when they become adults it’s never easy regardless of how good or bad they had it or think they had it during their adolescence. I am so happy your sister-in-law had the courage to speak up to the abusive woman in her book club while everyone else felt they had to just tolerate her behavior-she really did this woman a favor by challenging her to look at herself,perhaps for the first time ever. I fervently hope that this woman will become a more likable person because of your sister-in-law’s actions. 💝💝💝
I so enjoy spending time with you as I watch your videos. Each of them feels like a gift as you share your wisdom and perspectives gained from your life experiences, and I hope as I put more decades behind me that I am as classy, graceful, and wise as you are!
Thank you Sandra, you are always so inspirational and insightful. Love that scarf you're wearing, just the right touch for your outfit. I will be thinking of who I am this beautiful Sunday. Hugs from Texas. 😊
💭💭 I love 🤍 all your video’s Sandra 🤍 there’s NEVER 👎🏻 nothing to run out of talking about❕ 💭💭 even if YOU repeat a topic YOU talked/covered about before it’s good to relisten 👂🏻 to continue talking about it❕ 💭💭 I love 🤍 your channel SO much before it’s real life 👍🏻 💭💭 real thoughts 💭 feelings that YOU don’t 👎🏻 get on UA-cam 👎🏻 💭💭 YOU are special Sandra for all these amazing video’s talking about things WE need to hear 👂🏻 as I said before I rewatch your video’s over/over again 🤍 even share your video’s to people I KNOW will appreciate the message that’s being said 🤍 💭💭 thank YOU Sandra 💋
When I was in my early 20's, I had a neighbor who would stop by to visit. She would take little jabs at me, and at my appearance. I honestly did not want her for a friend and wondered why she even came over. Then one day she told me about a time that she had wanted to participate in a pageant. But her mother said "Now you know you're not as good as those other little girls. " I could not believe her mother would say such a thing! I wondered what type of person would say that to her daughter. But now I understand...she was a person who probably was spoken to that way, and passed on that same behavior. It probably shaped this young woman's life.
It's really beautiful and welcoming, I needed that. My name is kammilly, I like to be called kammis, because I think it's cute and I feel loved, which may seem weird since this nickname was given by someone who is no longer present in my life. I really like bathing and spending hours in the shower, I like the rain, the sunset, cold and silent nights or when I share them with people I love, I like flowers, animals, reading about life and especially philosophy, I like seeing new places and other people, I feel like I'm a very melancholic, poetic, empathetic and kind person. I always feel very alone, sometimes it suffocates me, and sometimes it comforts me, I've already adapted to that. I have several other good things to say, but I'll stop here, with even more things to discover
Hi Everyone, I just got a message from Kelly, one of my subscribers, and she said that she got a message from me to send money with a number from Italy. This is a SCAM and if you receive such a message from me, please report it to UA-cam. Thanks!!💕
Thanks for the headsup,Sandra
Thank you for this video Sandra. It made my day. It helped me connect with myself and think about these important questions you raised. Not only who am I but how can I be the best person I can be .❤
I am that younger man that only date wemen 65to85 my lady i date now is 86 i lov aery thing about her not just r great lov life older wemen r sexy
Hi Sandra, you look absolutely beautiful. I love your hair and your skin is just glowing. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder as far as the outside appearance goes, but if you are beautiful on the inside, people notice. As we age, the outside beauty can fade and dull, Inside glows brighter than ever and gets more beautiful with each passing year as we grow in our character, compassion, kindness, etc.. I know who I am, and I am very secure in who I am. Some people may not want to ask the question “ Who am I?”. They may not want to face their behaviors, but fortunately, those behaviors can change the moment they choose to do so. Thank you for this great topic and conversation! Love, Sheila.
So inspiring ❤
Now, I might just face that topic. I'm trying to be a better, kinder person but some times I fall back, I've always depended on my looks when I was growing up as I wasn't really able to cultivate much else.
@@AyaSmith-rb2hp Thank you for your kindness.
@@patsy6589 Don’t be discouraged Patsy, we can all fall back but the fact that you recognize that tells me that you will truly blossom. You already have what you need inside of you so you will have complete victory.
It’s also true, isn’t it? Sometimes it takes longer for us than others to realize that. When the lightbulb turns on, that’s when we begin to love ourselves and our unique qualities that only we have.
You are beautiful as you are 🩷🌸🩷 I love the message, but I would add one thing. Don’t wait until you have passed from this world to share that information with your children. Let them read it now and understand you and let them know your inner thoughts about them so that you can share it and they can ask you questions.🦋🦋🦋. my mother left me a beautiful letter after she had passed and I wished we could’ve discussed it when she was here in this world.🩷🦋🩷
Great tip!
I needed to hear this today! My 44 yr old son has no time for me, even for HIS birthday😔. I will refocus after hearing this and be thankful for the caring people and doggies that are in my life. TU
I understand as my son will be 43 soon and I rarely see him or hear from him and his family. I am involved in various activities spending time with others who are interested in doing so. Prayers for you as you refocus ❤ We have much to be thankful for 😊
For the first part of my life, I was the sister of two brothers in wheelchairs.
I became the wife of an abuser.
I proudly became a mother, a role I love.
I am a writer now.
Being on my own after two divorces and a long term relationship break- up, I find it hard to just be me.
It is lonely for me. I miss being part of a family. My daughter moved far away. My grandchild is barely in touch.
I am visiting my best friend soon. I will at least have two days of happiness.
I wish I could meet a nice man who will love who I really am.
In the meantime, I have to learn to enjoy my own company.
I don’t know you but felt compelled to reply to your story. You seem very sad. I can understand from your life experiences. You seem to have led a well traveled life. you will see signs with when the right time will be to finally be free from any pain and you will begin to love yourself. I have a feeling that your energy will be shining bright and good things will appear. Believe in the power of love. And each day, the glass should be half full, not empty. XO ❤️ You’ve got this!
Lisa gave you beautiful advice. I couldn’t have said it better myself.
I hope that you find peace in your life. God Bless you and He will always love you just the way you are ✝️😇♥️🤗
We must look inward as to who we are to make progress in our lives
Exactly. That’s how it works.
NOT knowing yourself and who YOU are is dangerous stuff! You end up living a life that's not yours. In relationships, if you don't know who you are/what you want, how unfair is it to expect someone else to know? This is a very important, even necessary question to ask ourselves. Thank you, Sandra, for bringing this forward! 🧡🎊🌼
So true.
Hello Sandra, Actually you are speaking about the same type of person that I am. My parents were physically and mentally abusive which has really affected my life. I may not know who I really am at 72 years old, but I definitely know who I am not, either of my parents! It’s taken me years to come out of depression and self hatred, and I have come to know that I am loved by God and that’s all that matters now.
Sister I am just like that. I have had to fight for everything. My parents were not kind. Now I am not aggressive per se rather I have been a door mat and I have been the recipient of the bullying but the point is who cares where we have been? And do we even care. God bless
Hi Tracy, I was just watching Sandra and came across your comment. I hope you are feeing better. HUGS! @tracysteward604
@@DianneKenny hugs to you as well and how very kind. Just came in from doing barn chores, and I saw your comment and what a wonderful message to come into. Actually, I’ve been kind of contemplating starting a UA-cam channel of my own. My entire life has been a living testimony to God starting from a child with kidney problems and then moving onto prescription diet pills from four up until my early 20s. Well, when Dexter came out when I was about 13 I made the switch then. I am a writer and used to have a blog in addition to writing for the horse magazines. But people just don’t want to read anymore so I gave that up. But anyway, thank you so much. I hope you have a wonderful rest of your day, hugs back to you
Gayle, thanks so very much for sharing your story with all of us. I know it will help others who have gone through the same thing you have. We are all children of God and his handiwork is always beautiful.
I absolutely love the idea of writing a note to my son to have him truly know who I was and how much I love him, and having him open it after I’m gone.
You are truly a blessing to each of us, Sandra. ❤️
Thank you and it is a great idea
Wow. This is moving. Your sister-in-law did a good thing. She stood up for herself and others without name calling or such. She asked a question (even if it was with a bit of attitude). Brava to the formerly rude woman for using that moment to grow. I think she should be highly commended for admitting her mistakes and being thankful for the wake-up call. Just think how better her life could have been up to now. "Better late than never".
Beautiful message Sandra! Yes, it is very important to know who we are! Because nobody knows you as much as you know yourself. Love❤️
Isn’t it so true?
@@lifewithsandrahart Yes, it is! Truly and indeed😍
I love this🧡
I asked myself this a few years ago and I loved my answer to myself. I live each day very differently now. I know each day is a gift. I love to help others, I love to walk on the beach, I love to be me! I remind me, that I am
Worthy, I am beautiful, I am a wonderful mom and wife and friend.
Love this Sandra🙌🏻🧡🍑Lisa
I have no doubt that you are all of these Lisa. You radiate love and there’s a certain peace about you that is contagious. 💕
You are beautiful ❤I think the same way, my kids don't really know who I am, they are so focused on their lives. I was the same with my mom until I got laid off from work due to the pandemic and spent 3 years closer to my mom (because I had the time and she needed me). We talked a lot and I really got to know her and it was amazing listening to her stories, she passed away over a year ago and I'm so glad I had this time with her.
Thank you for an impactful and meaningful conversation today, Madame! And Brava to your sister-in-law for having the courage to ask that question of the woman in her book club. We can hold the mirror up to one another to illustrate how each of us are behaving; I'm glad there was a positive outcome in the other woman's awareness because of what your sister-in-law asked. If she had not, maybe the other woman would have isolated more people in her life and not ever known the real reason. We can honor each other by communicating if we are being degraded, bullied or disrespected and we have a right to stand up for ourselves and others. A great lesson today and I so appreciate your sharing it with our amazing community! 🌸🌹🌻
A very good question to ask oneself, and regularly. One way my writing group and I expressed this is by writing our own obituaries. When done, we each realized it was what we wished we were. The next question: am I living this way - do my actions reflect my description - what is really important to me? Reflection is an important tool to remain authentic, true to ourselves, and grounded in our values. 😊💕
What wise words…❤
Excellent!! Thanks for sharing that.
Good morning Sandra. As a child my brother and I, especially my dear Mother, went through serious difficulties after a divorce and two children. Times had changed and fortunately everything has recovered with much work. I never heard my Mother say that I was beautiful or that I had a special gift and I grew up without ever looking in the mirror thinking that I was a normal person with no special attractions. Today at 75 year old and seeing some photos of children and young women I think that I was very beautiful. The fact that I thought I wasn’t pretty or that I was an ordinary person never meant that I didn’t smile at everyone and wasn’t kind, on the contrary I was and I am always careful not to hurt anyone with words or actions,and to help as much as possible people in need. Aggressive and always bad-tempered people scares me. That’s why I think it’s a question of character and education and not exactly a problem of lack or knowing whether we are beautiful or ugly. There are very ugly people who have fantastic inner beauty in such a way that they seem beautiful to us. Thank you Sandra for another great video. Love you.
Beautifully stated, Sandra!❤
We are All magnificent!.⭐ We are the Creator's spectacular artwork!💫 Uniquely and Individually made. We are all a Masterpiece! God's majestic handiwork.🔥 I am forever grateful, indeed.🌹 AND, I Honor God for His Agape Love.❤❤❤
Amen.
You are amazing! I will start to write about this. Today I am feeling a bit down today and that is ok. Tomorrow is another day. Thanks for posting that. I need to hear this today.
Please do! Thanks for being here
I'm always tearing up listening to your beautiful words. Thanks for sharing your gifts with us❤️🙏🏾
Thanks for listening and being here.
It's very unique to leave a final thought to your loved ones. If I were on the receiving end, I'd want my mum to feel I 100% know who she is and wouldn't have to explain herself. I'd be looking for ways to communicate with her on the other side, so would hope for guidance in the final letter. I've read out my comment to my mum and approves of this as I want to check I haven't said anything that could be offensive. ❤
Dearest Sandra, You painted a picture of truths similar to that of the Mona Lisa. Admired yes, but full of mystery and awe all at once.
But life is different, more like a recipe. What you put into it can vary the quality of the outcome of its flavor. This process requires patience as well as versatility...when you don't have what you want...make sure you have what you need...also known as heart. It takes you far and keeps you close to your best self!
So well expressed. Thank you.
I've had low self esteem since I was 43 years old I'm 60 now gone through chemo I'm trying my best to recover I'm just glad God healed me
Thank you Sandra for being a beam of light for us women 😊😊😊...we are blessed for having someone like you in our PATH. LOVE the Verse GROW WHERE YOU'RE PLANTED " and that's what I'm learning Thank you 😊
What a beautiful message Sandra, coming from a beautiful person. Thank you for being who you are and allowing yourself and all of us to shine! Much love to you.
It's true, you can find beauty in everyone.
I wrote a letter to each of my two children a few years ago (and gave them their letters) as it was not about me but how they've impacted my life as their mother, how proud I am of them in what they've accomplished, who've they've become as adults and encouraged them to follow their own path to happiness and fulfillment. I let them know I think of them each and every day even if we don't text, talk or write. It was a powerful lesson for me as like so many others, I never heard any of those words from my own parents and have felt my own lack of self confidence for decades! That poor lady who's bitterness and self doubt showed through with anger and aggression - I'm sure she's so grateful to your SIL and will turn her life around for a more fulfilling and happy life. Thank you Sandra for these lessons.
I will visit my daughter soon in a different state. Rather than writing a letter to her I will think about and tell her these things in person.
@@patsy6589 - my suggestion would be to write what you plan to say in a letter so she has it for her lifetime to reread when needed - a conversation is lovely but then it's over and some of the message may be forgotten.
@@louiseparisotto3630 I see your point.
@@louiseparisotto3630 Guess I could do both. But they might get a letter after you're gone and wish so much that they could ask questions about what you'd written.
Hi Sandra I have experienced a sad break up with a lifetime friend who has progressively become that angry woman in the book group. I know my friend had a childhood exactly like the angry woman in the book club. Outwardly she appeared to overcome her childhood traumas- but it always was there- and now that we are in our 70s she has become so angry and sarcastic she deliberately picked a fight to push me out of her life.
Those first reflections to us about who we are do inform our sense of self in those formative years. I count myself very lucky that my mom often asked me “how does it feel to be so young and beautiful?” I poo pooed this at the time- now I am grateful for those words. And she always insisted I try on new school clothes for my dad- the one I’ve mentioned here because he too was from the Bronx. He would always smile and say just one word: “ Sharp!” I’m going to do the assignment you gave us tonight ❤
Wonderful memories! Thanks so much for sharing
SO GLAD YOU CAME UP...LOVE YOU❤❤❤ I HAVE TO GO TO AN EVENT SO MUCH ANZIETY BEING AROUND FAMILY.
Me too. I am to attend my nieces wedding on Saturday night out of town, and driving home that same night, for fear that if I stay in a hotel like most guests out of town will be doing, that something I misunderstand, regarding shuttle transportation to and from the wedding site, a different area for the cocktail location, and a different location for another activity. that I might flub up, leaving myself to feel embarrassed.
Stay centered!😍👍
@@lifewithsandrahart Thank you, Sandra.
Dear Sandra, thank you as always for your wonderful inspiration. You are a beautiful treasure.
Thank you so much!
Wow Sandra. It's a struggle to find the words to let you know how deeply l appreciate you. Your choice of subject always reflects the life that we have. You endlessly encourage and support the lives we have.
I've loved all the various contributions from this community of ladies. It is so meaningful to read of different experiences. Am just enriched beyond words by you all ❤
Hi Sandra,I just wanted to let you know that I really connect with what you said in this video.I love the way you explain your view and you're able to give me calmness through tour comforting voice!I really think that knowing who we are and embrace that is a fundamental part in our life to live at our best,so thank you for spreading this beautiful message🌱🧡
I love you Dear Maam for your beautiful thoughts. you always inspired me in my saddest moments. I feel immense Respect for you. May you and your Children be blessed always, Ameen ❤
Thank you so verymuch for this Sandra I was beating myself up because I wasn't able to answer this,still.I am gonna try doing what you suggested about doing a list.Thank you always for ALL of your amazing messages.Keep shining your beautiful wonderful light Sandra!
Thank you for being here!
We know who you are, as the reason we follow you ritually. I can relate, I know that I have been underestimated by my entire family as well. I do feel bad about it, but my friends, like yours, stick by us!
Love that! Well said!! thanks so much for being here Wendy
@@lifewithsandrahart I'm sentimental. This feels like an adult "Romper Room"!
Very beautiful message you recorded today. I wrote a letter for my son just in case my time comes sooner than I expected. You are looking radiant Sandra. I love your cute puppy. You be well....hugs and blessings......MINDY
Hi Mindy!!! It’s always great to hear from you!!
Your children are very lucky to have all of these wonderful videos to remember you with. They are very encouraging and motivational. ❤
Thank you so much!
I do think of that.
Thank you beautiful inside and out Sandra! Much appreciated! You are a wonderful warm and loving human being that is helping all of us navigate through the later chapters of our lives! Happy Spring, too! Hugs~♥♥
I think that's wonderful that the aggressive woman was willing to change her ways. That is difficult. Often our initial reaction to being confronted is to be defensive or rationalize our own behavior, but she did the work to change.
Sometime ago I spoke with my niece about her relationships and how I felt about her. I told her that outer beauty is skin deep but inner beauty is much deeper. Inner beauty goes to your soul. Work on your inner beauty and you will be much happier and a pleasure to know.
❤Miss you, Sandra!❤
I felt this. I was never considered to be pretty let alone beautiful. Never got compliments. Never had a relationship. Then i had surgeries that changed my face and i am still getting used to the new one ten years later. It's hard.
Hi from Annie I really liked the message in the story today and so glad your sister in law spoke up to that lady. It is amazing what a few words can do. Yes it is a puzzle sometimes as to who we really are even some of us do not know the answer to that at times. There are times that I feel I know myself and other times I feel like a lost stranger, it is funny when you think of it. I would say if we don't know who we are how can anyone else? I do feel that over the years it does change the "who are we" time changes us all to some degree. Hopefully for the better. God bless.
Very true. Blessings your way.
Absolutely beautiful message Sandra .Blessings 💐❤
Lovely video on Who am I. Like you I don't think any of my children really know me. Sometimes I feel like a cardboard cut out when I see them.❤
Wonderful video today,thankyou,its hard when you get to that season in your life and can no longer be geographically near your children or grandchildren and when your whole purpose and life as been in these roles and not now have friends or purpose but maybe at 67 I can find new beginings,friends amd purpose ,even if I cant see my family very often,we do talk on the phone but its not qite the same as being able to see them often but God is my strength and joy and hope,love your video today thankyouxx
Thank you Sandra for that wonderful video. I hope this is not judging, but I know a few women who cannot wait for the next lunch, the next sale, the next holiday, the next dinner, the next party, and on it goes! Good luck to them and all that, but where is their contentment? Those people can never answer the question "Who Am I". They will never know, shallow people, to be pitied I suppose. Thank you Sandra!
In essence, we are all “Spiritual Beings having human experiences”, as Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (French Jesuit philosopher and mystic, 1881-1955) stated it and that feels so true and uplifting to me. Although I understand that’s not how children can see their mother 😉😍💖
You look lovely - I think it's the white that suits you! Thank you for your kindness.
Sandra thank you for this wonderful reminder and opportunity for us to share our past experiences and let it go in order for us to Free ourselves and enjoy our remaining days. I believe that you are a child only 12 years of your life and then we turn 18 years old and physically leave our parents homes , however very few of us leave our emotional experiences and trauma on that day as well . We tend to carry the childhood trauma with us through our lives into our relationships with our spouse , children , in-laws, bosses, friends, and the list goes on . One day we wake up and realize what we have wasted our energy and our life on . Today i hope this is a wake up call for some of your viewers to let go and heal that inner child that needs to know she is loved and she is precious. Thank you .
This question is really hard to distinguish in ourselves especially when we have been deeply drowned with our own mental health stuffs and circumstances in life.
Wonderful message my dear Sandra, what I found out is that people who are very mean and critical of others have some self esteem issues and are not comfortable with themselves, I'm so glad your sister in law spoke up so at least that woman got to look into her behavior, at least she has insight so that's good maybe she will adopt and change her attitude knowing that she is wonderfully made and beautiful in the sight of God the creator, it doesn't matter how others see you,it's how you see yourself on the inside will project on the outside.
So well expressed! Thank you.
Thankful & grateful for all the beautiful people in my life. 💕💕💕 Have a beautiful week ahead to you and everyone. 😘
You too!!
You have such a calming presence, you radiate such good karma 🥰
The issue you have spoken about is a very pertinent one. And it has left most of us stumped! Thank you very much for talking about this very important subject.
He Sandra I love this thought provoking topic. It’s so true isn’t it. How can anyone else know who we are if we don’t know who we are. What do we project if we don’t know. No wonder there are insecurities anger and low confidence. My parents didn’t tell me either. I think they thought it would make me conceited or some such thing. I think many of us try hard or fixate not to be a certain way instead of exploring and learning our unique beautiful selves . I appreciate you bringing this to our attention and helping us to introduce us to ourselves ❤️
Thank you so much for being here
Ms. Hart! Every Sunday, I eagerly look forward to your video. For you inspire me to live my life with hopes and aspirations.
Take ❤
Sunday blessings to you beautiful lady 🥰
Beautiful Sandra you are a delightful blessings to your children, grandchildren, personal friends and we UA-camrs! Love your sister in laws courage to speak up and it bought awareness and change to the hurting woman, good for her, letters to children to read after passings is the best loving goodbye gift, thank you dear and have a wonderful week. ♥️💐🙏🏻
❤You are a lady with a beautiful soul,God Bless.
Thank Yoy Beautiful Sandra, much❤ from another Beautiful Girl 🌹
I accept that compliment!! Right back to you as well!!
OMG I have worked with someone like this for 12 years!!!! I have tried to be so kind and praying for her!! Nothing has worked 😢
Hermoso mensaje Sandra!!! Gracias sus consejos y vivencias nos ayudan a seguir adelante, feliz domingo y nos vemos pronto, esperando el proximo domingo 🥰
Dear Sandra,such a deep soulful conversation! Thank you❤
Glad you enjoyed it!
Thank you for another inspiring story and advice! Sandra, you’re one of the wisest people, I know! 🦋
i'd love Sandra podcast..... she's a beautiful woman inside and out and that's the kind of women I'm looking to know and connect with❤
I was just pondering the same thoughts about my kids and how in general people don't really know us deeply. And really, it's not their responsibility to know us and figure us out. It's only our responsibility to know and understand ourselves. In a way it's a bit sad to me to know this especially as a mother. But it also supports the idea that we can only be reponsible for our own paths and our own growth.
Thank you so much dear Sandra, for this wonderful video! You are such a treasure: beautiful, wise and so kind! I agree : each person has a secret garden, precious and unique! 🌅🌹🙏🌹
Spot on Sandra as always. Your messages keep getting better and better. I like you have done this in writing as I came to a moment where I felt time was fleeing and the busy life was keeping not all but some from knowing who I was.
Thank you for that! I’m happy to have you here!
What a beautiful lady you are, Sandra, so kind and caring ❤
Once again thank you for a much needed video that spoke right to my heart. You are a very beautiful and wise woman.
Sandra, a letter to our children, such a beautiful idea!
We are fearfully and wonderfully made
When I was 13, I used to ask this question to my self and now I'm still finding out who I am
We are BEAUTIFUL !!!
Hi Sandra! Another great message AND really good lesson. Your SIL did an important thing.
I understand what you mean about your children not really knowing who you are. They each think differently. Do they realize how much you help us every day?
Love the letters idea.❤
You look beautiful today!! Thank you for WHO YOU ARE!!! 💖
Thank you so much too
Sandra, that was great again. You are an extraordinary woman. Thank you for your contribution today. ❤
Thank you
Sandra, I don’t think my daughter really knows who I am either. I just hope she knows how much I love her. MANY times, we make think we know who someone really is and yet be entirely wrong. I seriously think that asking someone who they are is never a bad thing!!! I know for a fact that children learn what they live and when they become adults it’s never easy regardless of how good or bad they had it or think they had it during their adolescence. I am so happy your sister-in-law had the courage to speak up to the abusive woman in her book club while everyone else felt they had to just tolerate her behavior-she really did this woman a favor by challenging her to look at herself,perhaps for the first time ever. I fervently hope that this woman will become a more likable person because of your sister-in-law’s actions. 💝💝💝
Thank you for your thoughts! She said the woman has changed for the better.
I so enjoy spending time with you as I watch your videos. Each of them feels like a gift as you share your wisdom and perspectives gained from your life experiences, and I hope as I put more decades behind me that I am as classy, graceful, and wise as you are!
You are so king, thank you!
Beautiful, beautiful, beautiful ❤️❤️❤️.
Im convinced that Sandra is an angel an classic beauty
Thank you Sandra, you are always so inspirational and insightful. Love that scarf you're wearing, just the right touch for your outfit. I will be thinking of who I am this beautiful Sunday. Hugs from Texas. 😊
Thank you so much!
That is so beautiful what you are doing for your children!❤
Yes I was thinking that's what she felt. You are right on the money
💭💭 I love 🤍 all your video’s Sandra 🤍 there’s NEVER 👎🏻 nothing to run out of talking about❕
💭💭 even if YOU repeat a topic YOU talked/covered about before it’s good to relisten 👂🏻 to continue talking about it❕
💭💭 I love 🤍 your channel SO much before it’s real life 👍🏻
💭💭 real thoughts 💭 feelings that YOU don’t 👎🏻 get on UA-cam 👎🏻
💭💭 YOU are special Sandra for all these amazing video’s talking about things WE need to hear 👂🏻 as I said before I rewatch your video’s over/over again 🤍 even share your video’s to people I KNOW will appreciate the message that’s being said 🤍
💭💭 thank YOU Sandra 💋
You are an angel of kindness. Thank you,ever so much.
@@lifewithsandrahart 💭💭 you’re welcome 🤍 plus you’re amazing❕enjoy your week 🤍
such a beautiful woman
When I was in my early 20's, I had a neighbor who would stop by to visit. She would take little jabs at me, and at my appearance. I honestly did not want her for a friend and wondered why she even came over.
Then one day she told me about a time that she had wanted to participate in a pageant. But her mother said "Now you know you're not as good as those other little girls. " I could not believe her mother would say such a thing! I wondered what type of person would say that to her daughter. But now I understand...she was a person who probably was spoken to that way, and passed on that same behavior. It probably shaped this young woman's life.
God is really the only one who knows who we are he made us❤
Thank you beautiful, Sandra 🌷🩷
Thank you Sandra, it’s my birthday today, 46years young 😍.
Happy Birthday!!!🎂
Thanks 👑
Thank you Sandra ❤
You truly are an inspiration to all of us ! 💕
#WhoAmI? I am who I am & that's all that I am
Beauty is as beauty does.
Always boosting from GA 💚
What a beautiful and inspiring video. I needed it this week more than I realised. Thank you for sharing and posting it
You are Amazing and beautiful. Thank you so much for this message.❤
Sandra you are also beautiful just as you are !❤
It's really beautiful and welcoming, I needed that. My name is kammilly, I like to be called kammis, because I think it's cute and I feel loved, which may seem weird since this nickname was given by someone who is no longer present in my life. I really like bathing and spending hours in the shower, I like the rain, the sunset, cold and silent nights or when I share them with people I love, I like flowers, animals, reading about life and especially philosophy, I like seeing new places and other people, I feel like I'm a very melancholic, poetic, empathetic and kind person. I always feel very alone, sometimes it suffocates me, and sometimes it comforts me, I've already adapted to that. I have several other good things to say, but I'll stop here, with even more things to discover
You're glowing and extra radiant
Love you, beautiful lady! So calming and absolutely gorgeous ❤❤❤❤ Greetings from Australia 🦘
It's a beautiful speech. Thanks a lot.