Just walk away. Mixed signals early on are a clear sign of drama and a lack of strong interest. Strong interest overrides all of the BS and rationalizations made. She will choose you, text you and call you and make things easy in terms of dating and connecting with you. You have to prioritize your time and access to YOU a gold tier worth for those who respect your time. You don't reward someone treating you like a simp puppy tail wagging barking and begging for kibble dropping from her hands. Stop being manipulated. Beautiful is as beautiful does, and those are not beautiful actions.
@@Tom-cp6yj I think it’s better to just be a man and walk away after sufficient time has gone by. Doesn’t mean you necessarily walk away forever, but don’t just wait around in hopes of a change
@Tom-cp6yj No. Connection is connection. The wrong person is simply the wrong person no matter the time, right or wrong. That cliche is to provide some soft, comforting salve or consolation. Here is the truth. If she was really INTO you, she would break it off with the other man, and you would be Mr Right place and right time. That is a line we buy into to soften the blow whether she deals it or that's what you want to tell yourself to sleep better at night.The strength of the connection is fairly weak and NOT enough to override her self-doubt, doubts about you and her, anxieties, and even logistical concerns. I have met women WILLING to go into long distance relationships in the US and overseas because of the strength of connection and gut instincts overpowering ANYTHING that runs counter to it.
As others also mention. Mixed signals usually means you are wasting your time. Trying to call her out might not be a good idea. It can easily turn into a «how could you even think that I was your type» type of response. I got that twice.
No don’t call her out what I did when I got mixed signals from a woman at work is not to spend to much time with her and show her that she not the only woman at work who’s interested her attitude change quite dramatically
@@andybarboza9134Because it might not be intentional, she may be going through some things and healthy relationships are about leading by example and communicating and not getting butthurt.
I'm 60 and went MGTOW over 14 years ago and am never going to waste my time ever again. I'm FAR more content, and successful than I've ever been now that I haven't had to give half of everything I worked for away...AGAIN, and no longer have to pay child support. If it flies, floats, or f@cks, it's cheaper to rent.
@@ZacharyTaylorBaxter Yes. Thank you. It should be that simple. These mind games really screw with us men who don’t want problems…. If I have time for you, I will communicate with you. If not, be patient. If I am not into you, I will make sure to communicate that as well.
Gentlemen, just walk away. Let her figure herself out. You’re not responsible for another person’s insecurities. If enough men start doing this then they will start being more decisive. It’s not hard at all. All these “what if’s” and “what abouts “ will go away.
@@YourWingmamIt’s time to enjoy life! Anyone’s who’s still trying to figure life out and is (as you say-cray cray) is too draining in the long term. What’s pertinent is trust, respect and integrity. No reciprocity and unable to compromise and talk about feelings and articulate them? These people are rare. I don’t get paid for coaching. Rather go travel or take a fishing trip. Literally or figuratively. Anna is a city girl now. God bless ❤
@@YourWingmam I have all the awareness I need. I know where I stand and I know what would change my mind. I know it's possible to go a different direction if I so choose. But I also know that I can weed out most people in my life in a short time frame and only stay in contact with whome i wish to. That would include both possible girlfriends and regular friends male or female who just don't fit.
Just sent this to a chick I was texting for a while lol! “I wanna be clear I’m not upset or anything, but this is why I disappeared the first time lol. Your interactions seem strange to me and I simply don’t know what to make of it 😂” I got the ol I’m not interested, I’m not looking, I’m really busy. She was very nice about it. I ended it with, “actually, I was just seeing if you were being genuine in our interactions, but now I understand things better.”
@ thanks! She did say we were just friends, but she would text at the end of the day “hey text me tomorrow!” “Hey how’s your day?” I hung around longer than normal because she was dating someone that turned out to be engaged, it was all confusing so I finally said that to her.
As always, great content. Thank you for the effort that you put in. I think that many people who send mixed signals know exactly what they're doing and can see how it negatively affects someone. When a person's behavior is contradictory or simply doesn't make sense, I suggest walking away. This should not be done to get their attention. It should be done to protect yourself from emotional harm. We always have a choice and can exercise our power. We teach people how to treat us.
First, call her out, you would want the same chance, and then if she won't or can't "woman up" then move on, but yes always focus on yourself first and foremost regardless...wise words!
My advice for mixed signals and mixed messages is this: it can be found in the title of a Pink Floyd song on "The Wall." The song is called "Run like Hell."
With all due respect, if she is not sure of you for whatever reason, that only means you are not her first choice and there is no genuine burning desire. What that means is that there is a good chance you can still “obtain” this woman but it also means there is a 78% probability she will initiate break up at a later time ( 87% if she has a degree). This is because you did not trigger hypergamy where attraction towards a man is not negotiable. Attraction and biological choice are not negotiable. Smart quality guys and men will only agree to be in the other %13-22 where they choose from women that have already selected them aka triggered hypergamy. Women don’t divorce men they selected on a biological level. Very rarely. If she selects and chases ( invests) in a guy, there is no way she would dump him. Guys, date women that have genuine burning desire shown not by words but by actions only and select from women that have already chosen you. This is by far the best long term mating and dating strategy for men.
Damn well said, sir. Thank you. It’s really that simple isn’t it? People just don’t have this type of wisdom. I definitely didn’t when I married my terrible BPD wife…. Now divorced. Now I know since I am fully aware and awake, thus I have understanding. I have also seen GBD in women btw. I had two separate women in the past who literally will KILL to get me… not tooting my horn over here, but you’ll know when it’s genuine because she’ll make it SUPER obvious.
@@Mr.Lateralus agreed. You can’t confuse GBD. Attraction is not a choice. If she is free and initial attraction is there, I found saying just “hello” is enough. She will make it easy for you to continue - saying something along the lines - you have a nice voice, you have a good energy about you, I like your shoes, no one ever says hello to me etc. it takes 7 seconds for a women to determine what she needs for initial attraction, plus she looks at your shoes, nails and hair. As far as cluster B personality disorders, I hear you. It’s tough. If a woman says - I am afraid to get hurt, I need time, if she wants you to chase her - to me, it’s potential diagnose criteria or initial red flags for potential BPD, Bipolar or some other weird stuff.
Good content today, I remember a period while my late wife and I were dating when she seemed to go hot and cold. As I recall, this was about the fact that she had been hurt pretty bad by her last boyfriend, and any time I seemed to act/talk like he did, she'd pull back. It took a lot of conversation, but we got past it. You: beautiful (always) even if cold. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Both furballs are passed out on the sofa, so a raincheck on the tailwags today. Maybe some post-turkey tryptophan involved. ;)
Ah yes, so common for people who have been hurt in the past to be extra sensitive to signs of similarity. Glad you got through it together! Communication is so key yet most of us are terrible at it. Thank you for the compliment, Russ, and your prayers have really helped! PTT (post turkey trypto) for the win on a holiday Sunday afternoon! God bless you! :))
I have been working on getting out of the friend zone with someone. She has given me mixed signals but I made a significant feat recently. Someone asked her if I was her husband and I said “no I’m not her husband yet.” It could have driven her away but instead it seemed to have the opposite effect. Our hugs started lasting longer.
You're her emotional tampon, sorry man but that's the truth - she either has genuine burning desire for you or she doesn't, you can't make it happen...
I've got one. I have met an attractive woman, 5 years my junior. We had an energetic conversation, she held my arm making a point a couple of times during. She mentioned she was born and raised in Vancouver.😳 So I had an ah-ha moment and asked her if she can Ice Skate. She says yes, of course. I say"we should go Ice Skating". She says; "that would be great but I need to tell you I have a boyfriend"...I start to back pedal, she says It's OK, let me give you my number.🥴 WHAT! It feels like a big red flag but I have a notion, maybe the boyfriend part was over stated. Regardless, I now feel very dubious about follow up with her. What a cluster. Normally after these encounters I am disappointed I didn't get the number. Now I have it and it feels icky. I know the lyrics to "Run Around Sue". (add primal scream here)
Yes, go for it, cautiously. That may have been a default excuse. Before you go, however, find out if it really is the case. You can simply say something like, "I'd like to see you again but I wouldn't feel right about it if you are in a committed relationship." That tells her your values. Her response may reveal hers, whether it's "we're breaking up" "we're allowed to have friends" "we're in an open relationship"... gauge and go from there. Report back! 😁
@@x-man5056honestly, I don't think it's reasonable. My ex was very careful in listening to me and then presenting me the reality that I'd like the most. Maybe something is wrong in my way of thinking (for sure I'm still traumatized) but I would look for indirect ways of learning about her values without showing your own. Maybe you have someone who you can trust and knows her better, maybe you can simply wait and let her talk. Actually if she hast the right values then she should come to you and clarify things - I guess it's something you would do being in her place in similar situation because normal people don't want to be seen as someone who cheats on their partner. If you tell her upfront your values and she may also make up some story and lie to you to make you feel good about her.
@@Marcin-vn4kk Thank you for the reply. I agree with what you said here but the scenario wasn't quite the way you described. I really chose a bad moment to ask this of her, the environment was loud and busy with lots of people around. Not a place where I could really nail down what she was thinking. I should have been a bit more patient, asked about her availability first, but like I said, it was an autopilot moment. I think I need to have the talk with her to clarify the nature of her relationship with the "boyfriend". If they cohabitate or have been dating regular for months, it won't fly with me. But if she just used poor choice of words and really meant "I'm dating someone right now" rather than 'boyfriend', that could be different. Only one way to find out, but I'm not betting on "just dating". Regards
Thanks @yourwingmam ! This one hit home. I'm a graduate of Breakthrough for Men and have a solid self image, not a SIMP. I give women the space they want and am not needy at all. Three times in the last 2 months I've dated women who, after the second date, were definitely into me and stated strongly that they couldn't wait to see me again. Then, after a few days of quiet, they drop me. It requires everything inside of me to continue to say that it's not about me. But it does get REALLY TIRING! I keep wondering if there's a healthy woman out there. Thanks for your insight and support!
Campbell River? I’d be heading over to Cortes. The fishing is epic. Dress accordingly and let her pick the lure on a fishing date. A woman who can hang on a fishing date is a resourceful woman. Take the plunge and catch dinner! 🎣 ❤
@ Thank you Anna. I hope the island life is treating you right and Mr & Mrs Claus, you, your mom, and the fam have a great Christmas and New Year! 🎄 🎊 ⭐️
In my experience, there are always mixed signals ! You can either take it as a 'no' and retreat, or take it as a 'yes' and continue, just concentrating on the positive. If you were to treat mixed signals as something negative and a sign to avoid them, you will always be avoiding them ! It's all part of the territory.
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Its said that if you don’t know where you stand with someone, you don’t. This video just adds to the confusion of women because its 20 reasons why she acts one way.
First of all I think it is only women who used to send mixed signals not men, but some men may send mixed signals, but I never know anyone done that before. When you said that one of the reason women sends mixed signals was that because they are having other options and honestly that is not right and I understand it is before she is commited into the relationship. These mixed signals are not a good sign to be honest and men can be tested by women to know his worth, but that can't go for long. It's very hard to understand women and you are also a woman who is having good sense of humor ☺️. That location where you made this video is beautiful and I think I never told you this before Anna. I love Canada a lot. Thanks for the video Anna and it's a very good one.
Some men do send mixed signals. This most often happens in the pickup artist community when a man says the things a woman needs to hear for him to get some action but then doesn't treat her like he wants more. In this situation, the "things she wants to hear" relate to messages of long term future potential, meanwhile he really just wants sex stat potential. lol
This video serves to remind me , letting women showing an interest in me. After my initial invitation for a date. If she accepts, then it's down to her to reciprocate an interest. If that suddenly cools off, then its game over.
In my experience they do it for "ego points," it makes them feel good if they can string a man along even though they are not actually interested. Personally I don't like games or being manipulated. My rule is "three strikes your out."
@@YourWingmam Help is relative thing if womans mind is "issue" . We are handling rather personal and complicated things and still we , me and her, are here. Even hers daughters thumbs is up. And I am just trying simple good friends ship. I am strong minded person and that can be an issue......eh problem. Well - life is life.
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Distinctions without a difference? In a relationship that's understood by both parties to be serious, playing games - mixed signaling - is not cool no matter the reason(s). If the expectation is the other person is supposed to be there for you emotionally and sexually then addressing the mixed signal behaviors is warranted. But in casual relationships, whether they involve going out to have a good time and/or going out and having sex, or just having sex, mixed signals would seem to matter less.
Emotional unavailability: 100% what I deal with as I continue to meet all these women in " group activities"and " socializing" that is SO highly recommended for meeting ' the one's. And they're not changing! They love to continue the breadcrumbing. Why do you think they're out there socializing in the first place!
A lot of single people are guarded and hesitant these days and because women tend to create community more easily than men there's less internal need for them to let their guard down to men. It's a shitty situation for everyone. For your situation, the only solution is to give them a few chances then move on. Never chase. Chasing vs Pursuing: ua-cam.com/video/O6_q8VGFrtE/v-deo.html
Maybe they're actually there to do the hobby or make female friends? Maybe they don't want to meet men or have a relationship? Why do you presume they are there to find a relationship?
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600 No 1) What advice do men receive on line about finding a relationship? Get out of the house, put your self out there! Go out and socialize take on a hobby! ( I get bombarded with this advice) No.2) My Main hobby is Ballroom dancing. 4-6 times a week. That means having a DPO ( Dance Partner Only) or a Steady relationship ( marriage or years of dating) and taking dance lessons together. Then there are those who leave the hobby entirely because they met someone outside the " dance community" who showed desire for them but is not interested in dancing. The women in our group who are there to make " female friends" go through men like it's a "flavor of the month", and are afraid of commitment.
Mixed signals. Been there and experienced that many times. You are obviously not her first choice, at best a backup that probably will not materialize. It is understandable that one can be somewhat attracted to someone without actually wanting something more. However at the end of the day, this will probably end up being a waste of time. Move on and try elsewhere.
How to understand women: get yourself a female cat and raise her. The lessons learnt from that apply to most women. When women send you mixed signals, it often means they're leading you on to waste your time. Women who truly want a man don't play games - they often directly and consistenly display interest in the guy they want. No time for mindless mixed signals. Just walk away from women who do this. If she's unsure about what she wants, just imagine how unsure she often still will be after getting you. A woman who's unsure about what she wants and sends you mixed signals to tease you is often a huge red flag and signifies potential trouble in the future.
I can only ask guys here to be honest with yourself when you are getting mixed signals. Ask yourself one question, “Am I doing anything to encourage these mixed signals?” Is my lack of confidence causing some hesitancy on the woman’s part? Is my neediness by always sending long texts causing problems? If you feel you are good, then move on to other women but it always helps to do a self check. One thing that remains true is that by hanging around with mixed signals going on and things unclear is not in a man’s advantage. If I get mixed signals and I’ve not done anything to encourage them, I’d move on without any speeches or saying a word because the mixed signals mean confusion and my saying anything is not going to clear it up. If she calls and asks why I split, then maybe I could say you seem conflicted but if she doesn’t text or call and I split, good bye and on to greener pastures.
I'm 50 and I feel embarrassed just saying hello to a woman I find attractive so I couldn't even imagine trying to flint with a woman or asking for her number.
Hi Kitty, Hi Miss Anna , hmmmm , I haven't chased any woman lately, been going around getting stuff I need , keeping busy , continue on playing music , just being to myself , I know I've seen one lady which I liked alot , but I haven't seen her for a while , I've been around we're she's from , but still haven't seen her , I'll just keep on until I find her , then ask her my questions , I've listened to what you said and waiting for the next step , Thank You Miss Anna ❤and Kitty too 🌹
OK, so you’re wearing an overcoat and the guy outside reeling in a fish is in shorts and a T-shirt - so are you trying to say something?? I’m thinking it’s not as cold as your thinking - lol😂❤ Oh yeah-Loved the vid too!
Pretending to like someone romantically by stringing them along and giving the other person that false hope just to get your ego and validation boosted is just cruel!
I really need some advice since im really confused 😕 i met this girl, and on the day we met, we hung out for a while at her place until i had to head home 40 mins away to work on the weekend. And didnt have a car so i had to take the bus . But Monday comes so i get on the bus to head back to hang out. But Before i got there, we both expressed to each other that we liked each other , as i had told her that the person who introduced us thought they could set us up. And she thought that was the case.. also she had a room for rent, and i was also interested in that. So i hung out for for like aweek and half getting to know her and developing our relationship. we started getting really close . She was sleeping in her living room with to twin's beds after her ex beat her so bad she called the cops and put him in jail. But I slept on one of the twins next to her while we hung out. I also gave her normal back rubs a few times. Then one day we took a picture of us cuddling to mess with the person who set us up and we ended up cuddling the whole night while we slept. But while we cuddled i ended up kissing her on the check and she was like " ah you're so sweet and were have you been my whole life?, and the person who we sent the photos to wasnt invited to our wedding" i think she might even under her breath as she dozed off she said that she loves me, but i cant be 100% about that. And after that night she let me give her more sensual back rubs.. We went on 2 maybe 3 dates. The first 1 she took us to nickel cade with her daughter she paid. and she took a picture of me and her daughter playing on a game. The second date is, if you consider it a date Her, and her 2 year old and i passed out sack lunchs to homless People then after i think we went to her girlfriends who died grave and we visited it for a while.. The 3 date was at a Halloween party for her uncle that he was having. I meet her parants there. That night after we left we was talking to the person who introduced/set us up. First i talked to them, then she talked to that person. he asked her at one point somthing and said aren't you to dating ? She said yeah pretty much i dont see how we are not. And hung up and her and i talked about the conversation and she told me about her telling him that we was dating. So i said to her i would be interested in more if she was. And she said she was down . Which sounds like an agreement to date right? At one point she gave me a book of her poems to read that she has never let anyone else read. She seemed so nervouse about it to. But as i read them i realized that it was kind of a manual on how to lover her . Which i feel like she wanted me to know how to do. so i read alot of pages . But any ways this all happened while i was just hanging out before i had any decision to want to rent her room out. Then we had a conversation about me moving in and renting her room. I told her If i moved in right now i wont be able to give you rent money right away for a while unitll i worked made money etc. She said ok and she wasnt worried about it since i had been helping her with her kid. But i could not give her money right away Becaus of my my situation were i was living wasnt great and i had a lost my walmart job over something stupid and was working at tacobell for only 9 a hour 2 shifts a week. And couldn't find better/ enough work But atleast if i moved in i had a bouncer job at a bar that i can work anytime i want on weekends with more hours and better pay 18 /hr. And with moving in there i would have more job opportunities to. So I decided i was gonna move in just had to go get my stuff but first she asked me to help her get sober . So i helped her by taking care of her child for like 3 days strait with no help while she slept it off and got sober. Then after she was sober, I got my stuff and moved in we went to her parants for a small hallween day party and i saw her parants again and the rest of her family we trick or treated And hung out for a while. A close family friend of hers thought we were together and her dad thought we were bf/gf she told him no . But Then the next day it was her daughters birthday. And her parents had a small birthday party for her daughter. I meet her grandma, and her grandma had told me how much she likes her and told me to take care of her i smiled and said of coarse and she shook her head yes with a look like she was saying seriously .. She also been hanging out in my room alot watching tv with me. Then one day she let her freind come to stay becase he had no were to go. the first night he took it upon himself to crash in her room so she sleep i my bed with me and we shared a blanket. Then another day things feelt like it started to change like she was pulling back verly slowly. So i back off a little to avoid messing things up i thought maybe im just overthinking things. untill one day a mutual freind of ours i knew before meeting this girl was here , and i mentioned that we was dating so they asked her if we was , were she said no she has a boyfriend in jail.. then this girl im dating had to go outside to get some weed i think. So me and the mutual freind was talking about it were they told me about asking her if we was dating and what she said. So after the freind left i asked her about it and said since i kind head it but not enough. " so i head you saying something to our freind about us not dating" , and i asked her " so are we not dating?" She said nooo. So i said " i thought we was because of our conversation after your uncles Halloween Party. She said "we talked about it but thats it." She also said "My boyfreind is in jail im getting back with him and she acted like we never made that agreement to date after the party. Which is why i asked in this comment that the convo sounded like a agreement to date right?. So i just said ok just wanted to make sure. Then even just our freind ship started to not feel the same. What i dont get is she knows she cant be with him because it is to dangerous for her and her daughter which is why she called the cops on him and got him put in jail in the first place. And he hasnt even called her at all for a while since atleast when i first started hanging out with her. She has attachment issues and find it hard to let go of people. So i dont know if the chage in our relationship both romantically and friends wise is because of 1. I did something wrong and she lost interest 2. I didnt do something i should have done and she lost interest 3. she got mad because she asked for some rent money at one point and i had no way of giving her any yet she even said it was for the power bill so it didnt get shut off by a certain day. That day came , we had no money to pay it and nothing ever happened . I think she was lying because she was mad and thought maybe i was trying to take advantage of her. Which i wasnt i gave her money since , as soon and my pay check came. And since i did seems like things are getting better freindship wise 4.i dont know if she still has interest because she shows some signs. And is just hesitating because she is gaurding her heart and being careful And maybe wants me to chase her more and show more inrrest and connect with her more etc. So she feels more comfortable and willing to open her heart to me? Because all her exs ethier died or went to jail on her. Most people she tryies to help out takes advantage of her. Which i get because get taken advantage of to When i try to help people. 5. She actuly wants to be back with her ex and thinks it will happen. She even still says he is her man all the time but yet he hasnt even called her like i said so i dont see how thats even a possibility anymore. 6. Id don't know if sh3 Could have possibly just been using me the whol time? Wich i think is the less likely option since she atleast was giving just as much as i was giving her in our relationship untill our shift. So i dont know if i should just try harder and not give up and have confidence and pursue her harder and things will work out. And maybe eve have a conversation with her about my feelings and the situation . Because there are signs she might still be interested with things like she mirrors me alot. Seems like she be firting with me still. And still ask me to do things fir her that only a bf would do. Be are so similar in so many ways. Our personalitys , our inreast in things ,our birthdays are so close together and we even share signs. Our morals and views on things are the same. So we get along amazingly. I dont know if i should just give up and move on because thing are a waste of time or what but i dont feel those vibes. Maybe That is just my overthinking brain telling me things that are not so We have known each other almost 3 months now. Im honestly trying to look for anything that will give me the confidence needed to pursue her more and not give up. But i just dont know im confused and my useally never wrong. But insticts are clouded right now. I feel like i know what to do but im just not sure if my instincts are right atm. and i shouldn't give up. So any helpful advice/ insight that can help?
@04:48 I'm as overloaded as the cat with this info. I am not playing these games. As you said, show interest who shows interest in you. Guys, remember RECIPROCATION, if this is not there, NEXT!
This just means she’s not the one and I’ll move on permanently. I don’t play games and if I feel like she’s playing games or ghosting am out and I move on. I have found women that don’t play games and if they disappear it’s there running because of there emotions and feelings to collect them self BUT when she’s in person it’s clear how much you mean to her. Yes there’s a difference between ghosting and running away.
Why mixed signals? 1) she's not really listening to you, 2) by sending mixed signals, she maintains control and keeps you off balance. Yes, she's narcissistic.
In my situation she was on the fence me or this other guy (I found out eventually though I figured it was the case right away). So chalk it up to Unsure
“You’ve got a second to look at the dark side of a man” Yeah, I don’t understand any of that. I have no idea what’s going on. Thank you, my friend. “When you look over your shoulder And you see the life that you've left behind When you think it's over, do you ever wonder What it is that holds your life so close to mine? You love the thunder and you love the rain What you see revealed within the anger is worth the pain And before the lightning fades and you surrender You've got a second to look at the dark side of the man You love the thunder and you love the rain You know your hunger like you know your name I know you wonder how you ever came To be a woman in love with a man in search of the flame Draw the shade and light the fire For the night that holds you and calls your name And just like your lover, knows your desire And the crazy longing the time will never tame You love the thunder and you love the rain You know your hunger like you know your name I got your number if it's still the same And you can dream, but you can never go back the way you came You love the thunder, you love the rain You know your hunger, you know your name You love the thunder, you love the rain I got your number, you know your name” --- Jackson Browne.
And thank you for telling of your Dad or Grandad, I believe it was who taught you to be sexy as one of the guys. A girl who won't snap in two. Comfortable. At ease. Can laugh at herself. You can trust her.
12/2/24 1:44 Am 🙄 Mixed signals? EITHER it's on, or it's off. Either you're in, or you're out Yes, or no. In my opinion it's preposterous and absurd. How some women think they can just hold all the cards. Sorry if I get mixed signals with someone that would turn me off and I will move on I don't have time for any confusion open passive aggressive behavior. Some women should put themselves out there the same way men do all the time just to meet them the game of dating is rigged
Dear Anna: How are things today? Very interesting topic, thank you for answering questions we did not know we needed to ask. It is definitely hard sometimes to differentiate between games and a woman just testing the waters. I guess that is where wisdom and experience come into play. The frustration I find is that there is a certain age where game playing must stop from both men and women, and in my age range, games are unacceptable. That is just me. That is all for now. I hope you are having an amazing weekend and you have a wonderful week. Uou looked beautiful today, Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Great job on the video!!!!
Women don't like accountability. They don't want to be held to any they say, and they like to keep their options open ! I was getting mixed signals from a woman, and decided not to text her for a day, she came back with all kinds of accusing questions, and I just told her I didn't think that we were very compatible, or not on the same page , she said oh I feel the same way, I said oh good, good bye then ! It was easier than I thought it would be .
If she is sending you mixed signals then she doesn't have real desire for you, if you just want to bang her then you might want to keep dealing with that - but if you are looking for a relationship she's a _really_ bad bet...
I'm a couple minutes in. If it's this complicated, it's not for me. The women I tend to like have little interest in me. The women that are interested in me , I don't find attractive. So I guess I'll keep my money and do without the comfort and love of the woman I desire.
All seven are right on target. In a simplified definition, she hooking you enough to keep you in her orbit, but can't close in on you yet. I do this often. Flirt then pull back. Keep them interested and in my gravitation. Reel the fish in, then give it sum slack. It's still hooked...... No rush...... Old habits......
i dated a woman on and off for 3 years, she ran hot and cold, i moved out of the state for a year, she said she missed me, i ended up coming back to my state, moved in with her " saw a letter in the drawer about her wanting me to marry her, the more time we spent together the more irritated she got, going from hot to cold, from sex one night to " Jesus another is punishing her so we slept in separate rooms, she than said " she doesnt get butterflies, so i moved out, 2 months go by, she starts saying she misses me, i dont respond, we are amazing as friends but im happy sleeping alone, however shes becoming persistent, shes 50 not a child
I have spent most of my adult life dealing with this topic. I just live my Best Life. If she is interested she should and will let me know. I Move on. There are other Fish in the Sea.
@@girishthendi6815 If she ain’t even bother to answer she not interested. Just tell her “if u not really messing with me delete me”. Typically even if it’s just for attention she’ll do away with you as she’ll feel like she being stressed by someone who doesn’t care much for.
@@samxd9468 I just told her today that i was interested to build a relationship with her and I also said that she never seems to be interested at all and I promised that I will never ever phone her gain..then she replied let's be good friends, then I told her I am sorry I am not interested in getting friendzoned...what do you think about how I ended it??
Women are often not consciously aware what they're doing or why but your question wasn't wrong. It should make her pause but her level of self-awareness and emotional maturity will determine how she responds or if she does. Don't chase her, let her come to you. Recommended video: Chasing vs Pursuing: ua-cam.com/video/O6_q8VGFrtE/v-deo.html
Plain and simple, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't over invest. That should be a no-brainer any time you get mixed signals. If you aren't up for dealing with the fickleness, just drop it and move on. Otherwise you are going to be constantly frustrated.
If you have to chase a woman, she is running away from you. Chasing is predatory behavior. Ask the Gazelle why it is so relieved when it outruns the Lion. Don't pursue a woman. The law calls that "harrassment," or "stalking," or, under some conditions, "attempted SA." Your reputation and freedom are always more important than a date. If a woman is running away from you, take the hint, let her go, and move on. Your lawyer will thank you for it.
@@YourWingmam Also men should read the manipulated man by esther vilar written by a german women about female nature its a classic all men should read.
If it becomes this complicated to start a relationship than something is wrong . What’s with the cat? And what is that relationship all about? Are you working for the cat? Lol 😊
I understand that mixed signals occur because men need to be tested. This is a great way to see how a man will respond under pressure or other behavior.
The thing is if a man has got his act together testing him will drive him away. The weak needy men will "pass" this test. You will separate the good from the bad but end up with the bad.
Just walk away. Mixed signals early on are a clear sign of drama and a lack of strong interest. Strong interest overrides all of the BS and rationalizations made. She will choose you, text you and call you and make things easy in terms of dating and connecting with you. You have to prioritize your time and access to YOU a gold tier worth for those who respect your time. You don't reward someone treating you like a simp puppy tail wagging barking and begging for kibble dropping from her hands. Stop being manipulated. Beautiful is as beautiful does, and those are not beautiful actions.
Well said!
What about the right person but the wrong time?
I've been there..
@@Tom-cp6yj I think it’s better to just be a man and walk away after sufficient time has gone by. Doesn’t mean you necessarily walk away forever, but don’t just wait around in hopes of a change
@Tom-cp6yj No. Connection is connection. The wrong person is simply the wrong person no matter the time, right or wrong. That cliche is to provide some soft, comforting salve or consolation. Here is the truth. If she was really INTO you, she would break it off with the other man, and you would be Mr Right place and right time. That is a line we buy into to soften the blow whether she deals it or that's what you want to tell yourself to sleep better at night.The strength of the connection is fairly weak and NOT enough to override her self-doubt, doubts about you and her, anxieties, and even logistical concerns. I have met women WILLING to go into long distance relationships in the US and overseas because of the strength of connection and gut instincts overpowering ANYTHING that runs counter to it.
@@christopherandrews9232 Yes, i'd agree with that. Certainly i wouldn't stop looking and forming other relationships if someone else came along.
As others also mention. Mixed signals usually means you are wasting your time. Trying to call her out might not be a good idea. It can easily turn into a «how could you even think that I was your type» type of response. I got that twice.
Nonetheless, getting that clarity from the person after that coversation prevents further wasting of time.
Correct. Just say "This isn't going to work out" and leave. If you call her out, you're giving her exactly what she wants.
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No don’t call her out what I did when I got mixed signals from a woman at work is not to spend to much time with her and show her that she not the only woman at work who’s interested her attitude change quite dramatically
Ignore her, there's many others who won't play this game. Why stick around, the juice isn't worth the squeeze.
Either ignore it or call her out and then go about your life. Never reward bad behaviour. :)
Yes it is, stupid. Fat ass is better than the flat of your hand pounding on your hip bones.
Why do them a favor? :)
@@YourWingmam Why would you call her out? If she's not sure about you she'll (rightly) feel unjustly criticised.
@@andybarboza9134Because it might not be intentional, she may be going through some things and healthy relationships are about leading by example and communicating and not getting butthurt.
As an older guy who has been single for years, I am just not willing to deal with any BS
Well said mate
I'm 60 and went MGTOW over 14 years ago and am never going to waste my time ever again. I'm FAR more content, and successful than I've ever been now that I haven't had to give half of everything I worked for away...AGAIN, and no longer have to pay child support. If it flies, floats, or f@cks, it's cheaper to rent.
@@kx8960 I’m gonna have to remember your last line! I love it! 😂
@@OriginalGrasshopper LOL I can't take credit, my buddy told me that one that I think his boss told him. Words to live by though!🤣🤣
Seems like a lot of work to me, how about this instead, she's either into you or she's not.
That works!
@@ZacharyTaylorBaxter Yes. Thank you. It should be that simple. These mind games really screw with us men who don’t want problems…. If I have time for you, I will communicate with you. If not, be patient. If I am not into you, I will make sure to communicate that as well.
Gentlemen, just walk away. Let her figure herself out. You’re not responsible for another person’s insecurities. If enough men start doing this then they will start being more decisive. It’s not hard at all. All these “what if’s” and “what abouts “ will go away.
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If either person has to think about it too much. Just forget it.
Depending on how much self-awareness you have and where you are on your personal development journey, yep
@@YourWingmamIt’s time to enjoy life! Anyone’s who’s still trying to figure life out and is (as you say-cray cray) is too draining in the long term. What’s pertinent is trust, respect and integrity. No reciprocity and unable to compromise and talk about feelings and articulate them? These people are rare. I don’t get paid for coaching. Rather go travel or take a fishing trip. Literally or figuratively. Anna is a city girl now. God bless ❤
@@YourWingmam I have all the awareness I need. I know where I stand and I know what would change my mind. I know it's possible to go a different direction if I so choose. But I also know that I can weed out most people in my life in a short time frame and only stay in contact with whome i wish to. That would include both possible girlfriends and regular friends male or female who just don't fit.
Just sent this to a chick I was texting for a while lol! “I wanna be clear I’m not upset or anything, but this is why I disappeared the first time lol. Your interactions seem strange to me and I simply don’t know what to make of it 😂”
I got the ol I’m not interested, I’m not looking, I’m really busy. She was very nice about it.
I ended it with, “actually, I was just seeing if you were being genuine in our interactions, but now I understand things better.”
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
@ thanks! She did say we were just friends, but she would text at the end of the day “hey text me tomorrow!” “Hey how’s your day?” I hung around longer than normal because she was dating someone that turned out to be engaged, it was all confusing so I finally said that to her.
As always, great content. Thank you for the effort that you put in. I think that many people who send mixed signals know exactly what they're doing and can see how it negatively affects someone. When a person's behavior is contradictory or simply doesn't make sense, I suggest walking away. This should not be done to get their attention. It should be done to protect yourself from emotional harm. We always have a choice and can exercise our power. We teach people how to treat us.
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Thank you for the video ❤
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Focus on yourself and move on. You are grown up and dont play this games.
First, call her out, you would want the same chance, and then if she won't or can't "woman up" then move on, but yes always focus on yourself first and foremost regardless...wise words!
@@YourWingmamIt doesn't guarantee that same bs won't happen after marriage. Being immature after 20 is permanent.
My advice for mixed signals and mixed messages is this: it can be found in the title of a Pink Floyd song on "The Wall." The song is called "Run like Hell."
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With all due respect, if she is not sure of you for whatever reason, that only means you are not her first choice and there is no genuine burning desire. What that means is that there is a good chance you can still “obtain” this woman but it also means there is a 78% probability she will initiate break up at a later time ( 87% if she has a degree). This is because you did not trigger hypergamy where attraction towards a man is not negotiable. Attraction and biological choice are not negotiable. Smart quality guys and men will only agree to be in the other %13-22 where they choose from women that have already selected them aka triggered hypergamy. Women don’t divorce men they selected on a biological level. Very rarely. If she selects and chases ( invests) in a guy, there is no way she would dump him. Guys, date women that have genuine burning desire shown not by words but by actions only and select from women that have already chosen you. This is by far the best long term mating and dating strategy for men.
Damn well said, sir. Thank you. It’s really that simple isn’t it? People just don’t have this type of wisdom. I definitely didn’t when I married my terrible BPD wife…. Now divorced. Now I know since I am fully aware and awake, thus I have understanding.
I have also seen GBD in women btw. I had two separate women in the past who literally will KILL to get me… not tooting my horn over here, but you’ll know when it’s genuine because she’ll make it SUPER obvious.
Do you have a source for your very specific percentages?
@@Mr.Lateralus agreed. You can’t confuse GBD. Attraction is not a choice. If she is free and initial attraction is there, I found saying just “hello” is enough. She will make it easy for you to continue - saying something along the lines - you have a nice voice, you have a good energy about you, I like your shoes, no one ever says hello to me etc. it takes 7 seconds for a women to determine what she needs for initial attraction, plus she looks at your shoes, nails and hair.
As far as cluster B personality disorders, I hear you. It’s tough. If a woman says - I am afraid to get hurt, I need time, if she wants you to chase her - to me, it’s potential diagnose criteria or initial red flags for potential BPD, Bipolar or some other weird stuff.
@@ackbuilder8262 Amazing.
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Good content today, I remember a period while my late wife and I were dating when she seemed to go hot and cold. As I recall, this was about the fact that she had been hurt pretty bad by her last boyfriend, and any time I seemed to act/talk like he did, she'd pull back. It took a lot of conversation, but we got past it. You: beautiful (always) even if cold. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/Both furballs are passed out on the sofa, so a raincheck on the tailwags today. Maybe some post-turkey tryptophan involved. ;)
Ah yes, so common for people who have been hurt in the past to be extra sensitive to signs of similarity. Glad you got through it together! Communication is so key yet most of us are terrible at it. Thank you for the compliment, Russ, and your prayers have really helped! PTT (post turkey trypto) for the win on a holiday Sunday afternoon! God bless you! :))
I have been working on getting out of the friend zone with someone. She has given me mixed signals but I made a significant feat recently. Someone asked her if I was her husband and I said “no I’m not her husband yet.” It could have driven her away but instead it seemed to have the opposite effect. Our hugs started lasting longer.
You're her emotional tampon, sorry man but that's the truth - she either has genuine burning desire for you or she doesn't, you can't make it happen...
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I've got one. I have met an attractive woman, 5 years my junior. We had an energetic conversation, she held my arm making a point a couple of times during. She mentioned she was born and raised in Vancouver.😳 So I had an ah-ha moment and asked her if she can Ice Skate. She says yes, of course. I say"we should go Ice Skating". She says; "that would be great but I need to tell you I have a boyfriend"...I start to back pedal, she says It's OK, let me give you my number.🥴 WHAT!
It feels like a big red flag but I have a notion, maybe the boyfriend part was over stated. Regardless, I now feel very dubious about follow up with her. What a cluster. Normally after these encounters I am disappointed I didn't get the number. Now I have it and it feels icky. I know the lyrics to "Run Around Sue". (add primal scream here)
I would go for it, whats to lose, she might be keeper
Yes, go for it, cautiously. That may have been a default excuse. Before you go, however, find out if it really is the case. You can simply say something like, "I'd like to see you again but I wouldn't feel right about it if you are in a committed relationship." That tells her your values. Her response may reveal hers, whether it's "we're breaking up" "we're allowed to have friends" "we're in an open relationship"... gauge and go from there. Report back! 😁
@@YourWingmam OK, that sounds reasonable. The "find out first", I should have done before I asked her but things seemed to be on autopilot.
@@x-man5056honestly, I don't think it's reasonable. My ex was very careful in listening to me and then presenting me the reality that I'd like the most. Maybe something is wrong in my way of thinking (for sure I'm still traumatized) but I would look for indirect ways of learning about her values without showing your own. Maybe you have someone who you can trust and knows her better, maybe you can simply wait and let her talk. Actually if she hast the right values then she should come to you and clarify things - I guess it's something you would do being in her place in similar situation because normal people don't want to be seen as someone who cheats on their partner. If you tell her upfront your values and she may also make up some story and lie to you to make you feel good about her.
@@Marcin-vn4kk Thank you for the reply. I agree with what you said here but the scenario wasn't quite the way you described. I really chose a bad moment to ask this of her, the environment was loud and busy with lots of people around. Not a place where I could really nail down what she was thinking. I should have been a bit more patient, asked about her availability first, but like I said, it was an autopilot moment.
I think I need to have the talk with her to clarify the nature of her relationship with the "boyfriend". If they cohabitate or have been dating regular for months, it won't fly with me. But if she just used poor choice of words and really meant "I'm dating someone right now" rather than 'boyfriend', that could be different. Only one way to find out, but I'm not betting on "just dating". Regards
Thanks @yourwingmam ! This one hit home. I'm a graduate of Breakthrough for Men and have a solid self image, not a SIMP. I give women the space they want and am not needy at all. Three times in the last 2 months I've dated women who, after the second date, were definitely into me and stated strongly that they couldn't wait to see me again. Then, after a few days of quiet, they drop me. It requires everything inside of me to continue to say that it's not about me. But it does get REALLY TIRING! I keep wondering if there's a healthy woman out there. Thanks for your insight and support!
It does highlight the need to develop a skillset or group of friends to help diagnose the issues and to conduct that conversation.
I feel you, it definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
That fisherman arrived right on cue, just like this video did for me!
Thanks, Anna!
Hahaha ME too .
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Wishing You a blessed Christmas season,Anna🎄✨💐
Merry Christmas to you, too! Hope it brings you much joy and love! 🥰
Campbell River? I’d be heading over to Cortes. The fishing is epic. Dress accordingly and let her pick the lure on a fishing date. A woman who can hang on a fishing date is a resourceful woman. Take the plunge and catch dinner! 🎣 ❤
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@ Thank you Anna. I hope the island life is treating you right and Mr & Mrs Claus, you, your mom, and the fam have a great Christmas and New Year! 🎄 🎊 ⭐️
If she is unsure about you, let her remain unsure and move on.
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If it is not a 'Hell Yeah' from both parties', it's a 'No'.
Usually. Even if it could be right, the timing might be wrong.
Always great straightforward advice Anna!
💯 yes! Thank you for watching ❤
If she’s sending mixed signals she doesn’t want you enough! Walk away and find someone that does.
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Campbell River? Nice! I live nearby in Nanaimo. Vancoucer Island is beautiful.
That’s awesome! Nanaimo is such a lovely spot, and yes, Vancouver Island is absolutely stunning, so much natural beauty to enjoy! 🌊🌲
Born there. ❤
In my experience, there are always mixed signals ! You can either take it as a 'no' and retreat, or take it as a 'yes' and continue, just concentrating on the positive. If you were to treat mixed signals as something negative and a sign to avoid them, you will always be avoiding them ! It's all part of the territory.
Good advice, thank you for sharing!
The BEST advice yet (for me). Thx for your advice.
Happy to help, glad this one resonated for you!
Well timing is everything so let's have a look here.
Thank you for showing up today! Any good reminders for you in this one?
@YourWingmam need to make a fourth attempt to watch this without interruption, I'll let you know haha. 🤷🏼
Confidence, connection, and understanding-‘Magnet for Women’ by CrypticLore covers it all. This book truly delivers insights that can transform your approach to relationships
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Its said that if you don’t know where you stand with someone, you don’t. This video just adds to the confusion of women because its 20 reasons why she acts one way.
First of all I think it is only women who used to send mixed signals not men, but some men may send mixed signals, but I never know anyone done that before. When you said that one of the reason women sends mixed signals was that because they are having other options and honestly that is not right and I understand it is before she is commited into the relationship. These mixed signals are not a good sign to be honest and men can be tested by women to know his worth, but that can't go for long. It's very hard to understand women and you are also a woman who is having good sense of humor ☺️. That location where you made this video is beautiful and I think I never told you this before Anna. I love Canada a lot. Thanks for the video Anna and it's a very good one.
Some men do send mixed signals. This most often happens in the pickup artist community when a man says the things a woman needs to hear for him to get some action but then doesn't treat her like he wants more. In this situation, the "things she wants to hear" relate to messages of long term future potential, meanwhile he really just wants sex stat potential. lol
@YourWingmam I understand only the bad guys may send the mixed signals.
Excellent advice
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This video serves to remind me , letting women showing an interest in me. After my initial invitation for a date. If she accepts, then it's down to her to reciprocate an interest. If that suddenly cools off, then its game over.
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Because she's crazy! She needs a Psychiatrist.
SHE'S MUSHOOOKA !!
All women are cray cray ;)
@@YourWingmam LOL I love you ! When are you coming to Cali?
@@YourWingmam you're absolutely correct.
@@YourWingmam YOU SAID IT, SISTER !
In my experience they do it for "ego points," it makes them feel good if they can string a man along even though they are not actually interested. Personally I don't like games or being manipulated. My rule is "three strikes your out."
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I think these issues is exactly for me. And cat is here again.
Glad I could help 🙏
@@YourWingmam Help is relative thing if womans mind is "issue" . We are handling rather personal and complicated things and still we , me and her, are here. Even hers daughters thumbs is up. And I am just trying simple good friends ship. I am strong minded person and that can be an issue......eh problem. Well - life is life.
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Love the Peacoat. Look great in it. Steve from Brooklyn USA
Thanks for the compliment, Steve.
Distinctions without a difference? In a relationship that's understood by both parties to be serious, playing games - mixed signaling - is not cool no matter the reason(s). If the expectation is the other person is supposed to be there for you emotionally and sexually then addressing the mixed signal behaviors is warranted. But in casual relationships, whether they involve going out to have a good time and/or going out and having sex, or just having sex, mixed signals would seem to matter less.
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Emotional unavailability: 100% what I deal with as I continue to meet all these women in " group activities"and " socializing" that is SO highly recommended for meeting ' the one's. And they're not changing! They love to continue the breadcrumbing. Why do you think they're out there socializing in the first place!
A lot of single people are guarded and hesitant these days and because women tend to create community more easily than men there's less internal need for them to let their guard down to men. It's a shitty situation for everyone. For your situation, the only solution is to give them a few chances then move on. Never chase. Chasing vs Pursuing: ua-cam.com/video/O6_q8VGFrtE/v-deo.html
Maybe they're actually there to do the hobby or make female friends? Maybe they don't want to meet men or have a relationship? Why do you presume they are there to find a relationship?
@@cazzawazzawoowoo1600 No 1) What advice do men receive on line about finding a relationship? Get out of the house, put your self out there! Go out and socialize take on a hobby! ( I get bombarded with this advice) No.2) My Main hobby is Ballroom dancing. 4-6 times a week. That means having a DPO ( Dance Partner Only) or a Steady relationship ( marriage or years of dating) and taking dance lessons together. Then there are those who leave the hobby entirely because they met someone outside the " dance community" who showed desire for them but is not interested in dancing. The women in our group who are there to make " female friends" go through men like it's a "flavor of the month", and are afraid of commitment.
Good info young lady
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Worry about your own life. Anna, great advice.
Sometimes you're just another count. Oh well!
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Mixed signals. Been there and experienced that many times. You are obviously not her first choice, at best a backup that probably will not materialize. It is understandable that one can be somewhat attracted to someone without actually wanting something more. However at the end of the day, this will probably end up being a waste of time. Move on and try elsewhere.
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How to understand women: get yourself a female cat and raise her. The lessons learnt from that apply to most women.
When women send you mixed signals, it often means they're leading you on to waste your time.
Women who truly want a man don't play games - they often directly and consistenly display interest in the guy they want.
No time for mindless mixed signals.
Just walk away from women who do this.
If she's unsure about what she wants, just imagine how unsure she often still will be after getting you. A woman who's unsure about what she wants and sends you mixed signals to tease you is often a huge red flag and signifies potential trouble in the future.
I can only ask guys here to be honest with yourself when you are getting mixed signals. Ask yourself one question, “Am I doing anything to encourage these mixed signals?” Is my lack of confidence causing some hesitancy on the woman’s part? Is my neediness by always sending long texts causing problems? If you feel you are good, then move on to other women but it always helps to do a self check. One thing that remains true is that by hanging around with mixed signals going on and things unclear is not in a man’s advantage. If I get mixed signals and I’ve not done anything to encourage them, I’d move on without any speeches or saying a word because the mixed signals mean confusion and my saying anything is not going to clear it up. If she calls and asks why I split, then maybe I could say you seem conflicted but if she doesn’t text or call and I split, good bye and on to greener pastures.
If you have to ask all these questions, it's already over for you.
I'm 50 and I feel embarrassed just saying hello to a woman I find attractive so I couldn't even imagine trying to flint with a woman or asking for her number.
Take care Red your wonderful. Good personality and beautiful ❤🥰🙏🇺🇲💯
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Hi Kitty, Hi Miss Anna , hmmmm , I haven't chased any woman lately, been going around getting stuff I need , keeping busy , continue on playing music , just being to myself , I know I've seen one lady which I liked alot , but I haven't seen her for a while , I've been around we're she's from , but still haven't seen her , I'll just keep on until I find her , then ask her my questions , I've listened to what you said and waiting for the next step , Thank You Miss Anna ❤and Kitty too 🌹
OK, so you’re wearing an overcoat and the guy outside reeling in a fish is in shorts and a T-shirt - so are you trying to say something?? I’m thinking it’s not as cold as your thinking - lol😂❤
Oh yeah-Loved the vid too!
Keep giving people this work.
-Team Anna
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Pretending to like someone romantically by stringing them along and giving the other person that false hope just to get your ego and validation boosted is just cruel!
Most definitely!
Mixed signals have never lead anywhere go for me. Only the ones who were straightforward worked out but unfortunately, those were very few in life.
Watching this Video Anna I keep thinking “Arent you Cold?”
I really need some advice since im really confused 😕
i met this girl, and on the day we met, we hung out for a while at her place until i had to head home 40 mins away to work on the weekend. And didnt have a car so i had to take the bus .
But Monday comes so i get on the bus to head back to hang out. But Before i got there, we both expressed to each other that we liked each other , as i had told her that the person who introduced us thought they could set us up. And she thought that was the case..
also she had a room for rent, and i was also interested in that. So i hung out for for like aweek and half getting to know her and developing our relationship. we started getting really close . She was sleeping in her living room with to twin's beds after her ex beat her so bad she called the cops and put him in jail.
But I slept on one of the twins next to her while we hung out. I also gave her normal back rubs a few times. Then one day we took a picture of us cuddling to mess with the person who set us up and we ended up cuddling the whole night while we slept.
But while we cuddled i ended up kissing her on the check and she was like " ah you're so sweet and were have you been my whole life?, and the person who we sent the photos to wasnt invited to our wedding" i think she might even under her breath as she dozed off she said that she loves me, but i cant be 100% about that.
And after that night she let me give her more sensual back rubs..
We went on 2 maybe 3 dates.
The first 1 she took us to nickel cade with her daughter she paid. and she took a picture of me and her daughter playing on a game.
The second date is, if you consider it a date Her, and her 2 year old and i passed out sack lunchs to homless People then after i think we went to her girlfriends who died grave and we visited it for a while..
The 3 date was at a Halloween party for her uncle that he was having. I meet her parants there. That night after we left we was talking to the person who introduced/set us up. First i talked to them, then she talked to that person. he asked her at one point somthing and said aren't you to dating ? She said yeah pretty much i dont see how we are not. And hung up and her and i talked about the conversation and she told me about her telling him that we was dating. So i said to her i would be interested in more if she was. And she said she was down . Which sounds like an agreement to date right?
At one point she gave me a book of her poems to read that she has never let anyone else read. She seemed so nervouse about it to. But as i read them i realized that it was kind of a manual on how to lover her . Which i feel like she wanted me to know how to do. so i read alot of pages .
But any ways this all happened while i was just hanging out before i had any decision to want to rent her room out.
Then we had a conversation about me moving in and renting her room. I told her
If i moved in right now i wont be able to give you rent money right away for a while unitll i worked made money etc. She said ok and she wasnt worried about it since i had been helping her with her kid.
But i could not give her money right away Becaus of my my situation were i was living wasnt great and i had a lost my walmart job over something stupid and was working at tacobell for only 9 a hour 2 shifts a week. And couldn't find better/ enough work
But atleast if i moved in i had a bouncer job at a bar that i can work anytime i want on weekends with more hours and better pay 18 /hr. And with moving in there i would have more job opportunities to.
So I decided i was gonna move in just had to go get my stuff but first she asked me to help her get sober . So i helped her by taking care of her child for like 3 days strait with no help while she slept it off and got sober.
Then after she was sober, I got my stuff and moved in we went to her parants for a small hallween day party and i saw her parants again and the rest of her family we trick or treated And hung out for a while. A close family friend of hers thought we were together and her dad thought we were bf/gf she told him no . But
Then the next day it was her daughters birthday. And her parents had a small birthday party for her daughter. I meet her grandma, and her grandma had told me how much she likes her and told me to take care of her i smiled and said of coarse and she shook her head yes with a look like she was saying seriously ..
She also been hanging out in my room alot watching tv with me.
Then one day she let her freind come to stay becase he had no were to go. the first night he took it upon himself to crash in her room so she sleep i my bed with me and we shared a blanket.
Then another day things feelt like it started to change like she was pulling back verly slowly. So i back off a little to avoid messing things up i thought maybe im just overthinking things. untill one day a mutual freind of ours i knew before meeting this girl was here , and i mentioned that we was dating so they asked her if we was , were she said no she has a boyfriend in jail.. then this girl im dating had to go outside to get some weed i think. So me and the mutual freind was talking about it were they told me about asking her if we was dating and what she said.
So after the freind left i asked her about it and said since i kind head it but not enough. " so i head you saying something to our freind about us not dating" , and i asked her " so are we not dating?" She said nooo. So i said " i thought we was because of our conversation after your uncles Halloween Party. She said "we talked about it but thats it." She also said
"My boyfreind is in jail im getting back with him and she acted like we never made that agreement to date after the party. Which is why i asked in this comment that the convo sounded like a agreement to date right?.
So i just said ok just wanted to make sure.
Then even just our freind ship started to not feel the same.
What i dont get is she knows she cant be with him because it is to dangerous for her and her daughter which is why she called the cops on him and got him put in jail in the first place. And he hasnt even called her at all for a while since atleast when i first started hanging out with her.
She has attachment issues and find it hard to let go of people.
So i dont know if the chage in our relationship both romantically and friends wise is because of
1. I did something wrong and she lost interest
2. I didnt do something i should have done and she lost interest
3. she got mad because she asked for some rent money at one point and i had no way of giving her any yet she even said it was for the power bill so it didnt get shut off by a certain day. That day came , we had no money to pay it and nothing ever happened . I think she was lying because she was mad and thought maybe i was trying to take advantage of her. Which i wasnt i gave her money since , as soon and my pay check came.
And since i did seems like things are getting better freindship wise
4.i dont know if she still has interest because she shows some signs. And is just hesitating because she is gaurding her heart and being careful And maybe wants me to chase her more and show more inrrest and connect with her more etc. So she feels more comfortable and willing to open her heart to me?
Because all her exs ethier died or went to jail on her. Most people she tryies to help out takes advantage of her. Which i get because get taken advantage of to When i try to help people.
5. She actuly wants to be back with her ex and thinks it will happen. She even still says he is her man all the time but yet he hasnt even called her like i said so i dont see how thats even a possibility anymore.
6. Id don't know if sh3 Could have possibly just been using me the whol time? Wich i think is the less likely option since she atleast was giving just as much as i was giving her in our relationship untill our shift.
So i dont know if i should just try harder and not give up and have confidence and pursue her harder and things will work out. And maybe eve have a conversation with her about my feelings and the situation . Because there are signs she might still be interested with things like she mirrors me alot. Seems like she be firting with me still. And still ask me to do things fir her that only a bf would do.
Be are so similar in so many ways. Our personalitys , our inreast in things ,our birthdays are
so close together and we even share signs. Our morals and views on things are the same.
So we get along amazingly.
I dont know if i should just give up and move on because thing are a waste of time or what but i dont feel those vibes. Maybe That is just my overthinking brain telling me things that are not so
We have known each other almost 3 months now. Im honestly trying to look for anything that will give me the confidence needed to pursue her more and not give up. But i just dont know im confused and my useally never wrong. But insticts are clouded right now. I feel like i know what to do but im just not sure if my instincts are right atm. and i shouldn't give up.
So any helpful advice/ insight that can help?
@04:48 I'm as overloaded as the cat with this info. I am not playing these games.
As you said, show interest who shows interest in you.
Guys, remember RECIPROCATION, if this is not there, NEXT!
This just means she’s not the one and I’ll move on permanently. I don’t play games and if I feel like she’s playing games or ghosting am out and I move on. I have found women that don’t play games and if they disappear it’s there running because of there emotions and feelings to collect them self BUT when she’s in person it’s clear how much you mean to her. Yes there’s a difference between ghosting and running away.
If you have to teach her ANYTHING it just shows that she doesnt have the maturity level required for an adult no drama relationship. Walk.
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If I get mixed signals, I'm out. I'll find someone who knows who they are and what they want.
3:03 this fails with me every time because she pull back i do too... simple.
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I also send mixed signals 😅
Why mixed signals? 1) she's not really listening to you, 2) by sending mixed signals, she maintains control and keeps you off balance. Yes, she's narcissistic.
Nice location. Are you a boating enthusiast? You must be a cat person.
Hey Anna, go somewhere warm for the winter! I recommend Hot Springs Village. 🙃
0:32 Estrogen is the reason why lolol
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In my situation she was on the fence me or this other guy (I found out eventually though I figured it was the case right away). So chalk it up to
Unsure
mixed signals = look else where ..... don't waste your time
Call her out, respectfully and move on.
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💯 yes!
“You’ve got a second to look at the dark side of a man”
Yeah, I don’t understand any of that. I have no idea what’s going on.
Thank you, my friend.
“When you look over your shoulder
And you see the life that you've left behind
When you think it's over, do you ever wonder
What it is that holds your life so close to mine?
You love the thunder and you love the rain
What you see revealed within the anger is worth the pain
And before the lightning fades and you surrender
You've got a second to look at the dark side of the man
You love the thunder and you love the rain
You know your hunger like you know your name
I know you wonder how you ever came
To be a woman in love with a man in search of the flame
Draw the shade and light the fire
For the night that holds you and calls your name
And just like your lover, knows your desire
And the crazy longing the time will never tame
You love the thunder and you love the rain
You know your hunger like you know your name
I got your number if it's still the same
And you can dream, but you can never go back the way you came
You love the thunder, you love the rain
You know your hunger, you know your name
You love the thunder, you love the rain
I got your number, you know your name”
--- Jackson Browne.
Thank you for watching and sharing those song lyrics :)
And thank you for telling of your Dad or Grandad, I believe it was who taught you to be sexy as one of the guys. A girl who won't snap in two. Comfortable. At ease. Can laugh at herself. You can trust her.
Try an open forum video. For example, what do you think of Brekka's donuts? I think they are the best in the world.
I have not heard of those tasty delights
If she's sending mixed signals, you aren't her first choice. If she likes you, she will make it very easy for you. Just move on.
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Would a female friend treated to the same hot and cold treatment continue with the friendship..?..I doubt it.
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If she wants you..... she will... no other..... options..... super simple...
12/2/24
1:44 Am
🙄 Mixed signals?
EITHER it's on, or it's off.
Either you're in, or you're out
Yes, or no.
In my opinion it's preposterous and absurd. How some women think they can just hold all the cards.
Sorry if I get mixed signals with someone that would turn me off and I will move on I don't have time for any confusion open passive aggressive behavior. Some women should put themselves out there the same way men do all the time just to meet them the game of dating is rigged
Dear Anna:
How are things today? Very interesting topic, thank you for answering questions we did not know we needed to ask.
It is definitely hard sometimes to differentiate between games and a woman just testing the waters. I guess that is where wisdom and experience come into play. The frustration I find is that there is a certain age where game playing must stop from both men and women, and in my age range, games are unacceptable. That is just me.
That is all for now. I hope you are having an amazing weekend and you have a wonderful week. Uou looked beautiful today, Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Great job on the video!!!!
Women don't like accountability. They don't want to be held to any they say, and they like to keep their options open ! I was getting mixed signals from a woman, and decided not to text her for a day, she came back with all kinds of accusing questions, and I just told her I didn't think that we were very compatible, or not on the same page , she said oh I feel the same way, I said oh good, good bye then ! It was easier than I thought it would be .
You'll find my video on why women don't accept accountability interesting and informative. Check it out here 👉 ua-cam.com/video/hXvSbYpCYmM/v-deo.html
Because she wants to know if you can think on your feet!
If she is sending you mixed signals then she doesn't have real desire for you, if you just want to bang her then you might want to keep dealing with that - but if you are looking for a relationship she's a _really_ bad bet...
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Life is short. We don't have time for games. Tell her you are not a mind reader, and walk away. If she regrets it, oh well.
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@YourWingmam I appreciate your understanding of my perspective.
I'm a couple minutes in. If it's this complicated, it's not for me. The women I tend to like have little interest in me. The women that are interested in me , I don't find attractive. So I guess I'll keep my money and do without the comfort and love of the woman I desire.
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Gentlemen, just stay away from women who either don't know what they want or play games. Simple as that.
Just stay away from them, period.
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All seven are right on target. In a simplified definition, she hooking you enough to keep you in her orbit, but can't close in on you yet. I do this often. Flirt then pull back. Keep them interested and in my gravitation. Reel the fish in, then give it sum slack. It's still hooked...... No rush...... Old habits......
i dated a woman on and off for 3 years, she ran hot and cold, i moved out of the state for a year, she said she missed me, i ended up coming back to my state, moved in with her " saw a letter in the drawer about her wanting me to marry her, the more time we spent together the more irritated she got, going from hot to cold, from sex one night to " Jesus another is punishing her so we slept in separate rooms, she than said " she doesnt get butterflies, so i moved out, 2 months go by, she starts saying she misses me, i dont respond, we are amazing as friends but im happy sleeping alone, however shes becoming persistent, shes 50 not a child
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
I have spent most of my adult life dealing with this topic. I just live my Best Life. If she is interested she should and will let me know. I Move on. There are other Fish in the Sea.
I’m
Never in it for a Fling
I asked her directly, why is she sending mixed signals ?? But she didn't reply, was my question wrong ??
To keep you on the hook and in her orbit of men to give her attention and to boost her ego more
@@girishthendi6815 If she ain’t even bother to answer she not interested. Just tell her “if u not really messing with me delete me”. Typically even if it’s just for attention she’ll do away with you as she’ll feel like she being stressed by someone who doesn’t care much for.
@@samxd9468 I just told her today that i was interested to build a relationship with her and I also said that she never seems to be interested at all and I promised that I will never ever phone her gain..then she replied let's be good friends, then I told her I am sorry I am not interested in getting friendzoned...what do you think about how I ended it??
Women are often not consciously aware what they're doing or why but your question wasn't wrong. It should make her pause but her level of self-awareness and emotional maturity will determine how she responds or if she does. Don't chase her, let her come to you. Recommended video: Chasing vs Pursuing: ua-cam.com/video/O6_q8VGFrtE/v-deo.html
She's not interested, man. Just ghost.
"If she's giving you mixed signals, she may be dead." Hmm, interesting.
*takes notes*
Plain and simple, don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't over invest. That should be a no-brainer any time you get mixed signals. If you aren't up for dealing with the fickleness, just drop it and move on. Otherwise you are going to be constantly frustrated.
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99% of men literally past caring.
Either level up, or ship out.😂
If you have to chase a woman, she is running away from you.
Chasing is predatory behavior.
Ask the Gazelle why it is so relieved when it outruns the Lion.
Don't pursue a woman.
The law calls that "harrassment," or "stalking," or, under some conditions, "attempted SA."
Your reputation and freedom are always more important than a date.
If a woman is running away from you, take the hint, let her go, and move on.
Your lawyer will thank you for it.
I saw stuffy kat
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IFF
Identification...
Friend or Foe
If youv'e ever seen the movie gone girl with ben affleck that's female nature in a nutshell in that movie.
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@@YourWingmam Also men should read the manipulated man by esther vilar written by a german women about female nature its a classic all men should read.
If it becomes this complicated to start a relationship than something is wrong . What’s with the cat? And what is that relationship all about? Are you working for the cat? Lol 😊
Mixed signals=considering other option=getting the boots
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I understand that mixed signals occur because men need to be tested. This is a great way to see how a man will respond under pressure or other behavior.
It's definitely a way to see how someone will react under stress though sometimes it's more about her than him. Thank you for watching and commenting!
The thing is if a man has got his act together testing him will drive him away. The weak needy men will "pass" this test. You will separate the good from the bad but end up with the bad.
If you are trying to pass her tests, you've already failed.
That siren was the police car coming to get the evil woman who was playing mind games with some unsuspecting guy.
The only proper answer to mixed signals is distance. That's all!