Some people (like introverts) don't like Smalltalk. They want to have deep conversations with interesting topics. They rather don't talk at all instead of talking about nonsense
@jupamoers there are plenty of introverts who are chaps, gentlemen who love their families, are great human beings and have a select few friends. These people, like myself, may struggle to make small talk, and may be referred to as "boring". That may be the view of someone who had the misfortune not to know them personally. I'm happy to be an introvert...the black sheep of my family..but a very deep and sensitive gentleman
Nice observations Ash. I fid it difficult to maintain small talk and generalities. Instead of boring people with my conversation I bore people with my inability to talk at all.
It can be difficult. Being polite is one thing but suffering these types can be a challenge. I’m not a small talk person - happier to have interesting chats. I think I’m a good listener but this can make you a target for these people. Sound advice, Ash.
Great advice Ash. Always handle the situation as a gentleman. It is true that sometimes people don't have the opportunity to talk to anyone. Always use discretion and be tactful and polite. Excusing yourself is a good way to end an otherwise uncomfortable situation. Cheers Ron
The term "boring" is one that intrigues me. There are some people whilist appearing boring to some, may be interesting to others...its really down to the individual personalities. The tips here are great for breaking down awkwardness...
Good day sir ! Thanks for the tips in today's video .I'm expecting to have to "implement "some if not all of them as we embark on our cruise tomorrow .We sadly found on a previous one the odd bore and one notable mega bore ! Upon reading some of the earlier comments, I see some admit to a lack of conversational skills That's fine as I'm sure we all have something that must interest others ??? May I take this opportunity to wish your good self and family a Merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year 😮
Oh yes, I have had my share! A horrible golfer neighbor described his round hole by hole. If he scored 125 for 18 holes that would be a good day! An old movie I recall depicts a guest describing his route to his British host: "I took the A35 to the B60, traffic was light, and then we took the A-25 for a few miles, jolly good, got up to 35 (mph)." You get the idea. Great advice, Ash.
Good advice. Good gentleness and loving kindness. It reminds me of one item in the Desiderata (Max Ehrmann, 1927): "Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story."
I get crippling anxiety when meeting new people and I rarely make a good first impression, always regarded as a bit boring and contribute very little to the conversation its like I get a complete block. All I ask, give me a chance, I soon come out of my shell once i'm comfortable with a person or if you mention something, I all of a sudden remember I'm interested in. I then become the preverbal tube of Pringles. You won't be able to shut me up, which might be even worse.. LOL
1. "Good God, is that the time? I really must be going." 2. Don false nose and beard then continue with the event under an assumed name. 3. If the bore follows you then emigration to the colonies is the only remaining option.
@TheChapsGuide Thank you Ash sir. Indeed, warm in Europe for sure... Here in Canada is getting warmer every year but still , Canada's prairies and NWT gets pretty cold. Oh , sorry , i don't want to be..that boring guy... Happy Christmas
Nice tactics Ash, although I must say - most of these solutions only work in a typically English environment. Some or most of these tips when employed in other cultural circumstances could result in detrimental loss of face, even if done with the highest of precariousness :/ You Brits are a funny bunch to be sure :))
I rarely find fault with your approach but I spent much of the video thinking, "OK, but what if I'm the poor sod who's boring the pants off everyone". Personally, I'm very comfortable with presenting and being in front of an "audience" but often find social situations tricky. I think it would have been more helpful to present the "tips to be a better conversationalist" video first. I suspect many in your audience fear being the bore more than being bored by someone else.
Some people (like introverts) don't like Smalltalk. They want to have deep conversations with interesting topics. They rather don't talk at all instead of talking about nonsense
Define an interesting topic!
@jupamoers there are plenty of introverts who are chaps, gentlemen who love their families, are great human beings and have a select few friends. These people, like myself, may struggle to make small talk, and may be referred to as "boring". That may be the view of someone who had the misfortune not to know them personally. I'm happy to be an introvert...the black sheep of my family..but a very deep and sensitive gentleman
Nice observations Ash. I fid it difficult to maintain small talk and generalities. Instead of boring people with my conversation I bore people with my inability to talk at all.
My biggest concern now is that I'm going to observe these techniques applied on me now
I think we've both learned the same lesson today my friend!
It can be difficult. Being polite is one thing but suffering these types can be a challenge. I’m not a small talk person - happier to have interesting chats. I think I’m a good listener but this can make you a target for these people. Sound advice, Ash.
#3 is the best advice. Pit a boring extrovert against another extrovert. Then slip away unharmed.
Listen actively & be kind - you can always learn something
Great advice Ash. Always handle the situation as a gentleman. It is true that sometimes people don't have the opportunity to talk to anyone. Always use discretion and be tactful and polite. Excusing yourself is a good way to end an otherwise uncomfortable situation. Cheers Ron
Great punchline Ash !
The term "boring" is one that intrigues me. There are some people whilist appearing boring to some, may be interesting to others...its really down to the individual personalities. The tips here are great for breaking down awkwardness...
Good day sir !
Thanks for the tips in today's video .I'm expecting to have to "implement "some if not all of them as we embark on our cruise tomorrow .We sadly found on a previous one the odd bore and one notable mega bore !
Upon reading some of the earlier comments, I see some admit to a lack of conversational skills That's fine as I'm sure we all have something that must interest others ???
May I take this opportunity to wish your good self and family a Merry Christmas and a happy and healthy new year 😮
I'd love to hear Ash's advice on this - How to say no to houseguests, those who invite themselves to stay.
Health and Hobbies yes. POLITICS? I'm giving that person another drink.
slightly concerning that Ash decided to publish this video a couple of days after we met up!
No comment!
If they're jabbering then I don't have to.
Oh yes, I have had my share! A horrible golfer neighbor described his round hole by hole. If he scored 125 for 18 holes that would be a good day!
An old movie I recall depicts a guest describing his route to his British host: "I took the A35 to the B60, traffic was light, and then we took the A-25 for a few miles, jolly good, got up to 35 (mph)." You get the idea. Great advice, Ash.
Good advice. Good gentleness and loving kindness. It reminds me of one item in the Desiderata (Max Ehrmann, 1927): "Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story."
Very, very true - although there does sometimes come a point where it becomes intolerable!
Nice jacket ❤
Purchased this week from Vinted for £20
@@TheChapsGuide I've got an almost identical Daks one in the post now. Purchased yesterday from Vinted for £21 :)
@@TheChapsGuide I've got an almost identical Daks one in the post now. Purchased yesterday from Vinted for £21 :)
I get crippling anxiety when meeting new people and I rarely make a good first impression, always regarded as a bit boring and contribute very little to the conversation its like I get a complete block. All I ask, give me a chance, I soon come out of my shell once i'm comfortable with a person or if you mention something, I all of a sudden remember I'm interested in. I then become the preverbal tube of Pringles. You won't be able to shut me up, which might be even worse.. LOL
1. "Good God, is that the time? I really must be going."
2. Don false nose and beard then continue with the event under an assumed name.
3. If the bore follows you then emigration to the colonies is the only remaining option.
Many people under 40 cannot carry on a conversation anyhow, they are too busy staring at their phones.
I usually excuse myself by saying I've got a dicky stomach....
🙂
How do you know, that you aren’t one of these people? I think we all have these attributes!!
Is a trench coat still fashionable? I bought a 1990’s vintage on eBay- beautiful condition-
A trench coat id still extremely tasteful sir. Particularly the traditional varieties.
First comment, first like!
Thank you sir.
Boring people are not worth bothering with! Move on and find someone interesting! Least that's what I do!
Looks like spring there.
This video was filmed on Monday 16th December 2024 - the weather you can blame on global warming!
@TheChapsGuide Thank you Ash sir. Indeed, warm in Europe for sure... Here in Canada is getting warmer every year but still , Canada's prairies and NWT gets pretty cold. Oh , sorry , i don't want to be..that boring guy...
Happy Christmas
Nice tactics Ash, although I must say - most of these solutions only work in a typically English environment. Some or most of these tips when employed in other cultural circumstances could result in detrimental loss of face, even if done with the highest of precariousness :/ You Brits are a funny bunch to be sure :))
I rarely find fault with your approach but I spent much of the video thinking, "OK, but what if I'm the poor sod who's boring the pants off everyone".
Personally, I'm very comfortable with presenting and being in front of an "audience" but often find social situations tricky. I think it would have been more helpful to present the "tips to be a better conversationalist" video first.
I suspect many in your audience fear being the bore more than being bored by someone else.