Why 31-Year-Old Who Is Supported By Parents Says They Should Be Doing More For Him
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- Опубліковано 11 бер 2018
- A 31-year-old who hasn't moved out of his parents’ house and is supported by them says they should be doing more to help him become independent.
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You're not a child. You're a damn adult. Smh
THANK YOU! I was legit about to comment that when I heard it! I am 27 years old and live with my mom but I pay rent, haft of the utilities, do all chores, help her carry in groceries, mow the lawn, all while having a job. People who use excuses that they have depression and such, so do I. Not an excuse.
@@marshmellow1912people have worse depression than you
How does a 31 yo think of himself as a 'child' wtf?!
@A Z wtf u mean by that?
@A Z nah definitely seems to be a more republican/trump thing, y’all cry about everything
@Himanshu Gupta I agree. Doctor Phil seems to have a lot of bias here. But I only saw a clip.
@Himanshu Gupta no, I don't think so. This guy is smart enough to become a nurse by the time he was 24. So he obviously had a normal functioning brain. He clearly has issues with accountability. He's blaming everything on his parents. Even him losing his nursing license was blamed on them. He's a lazy person that needs to accept his responsibility for his own actions.
@A Z you mean that snowflake rioter who stormed the capital. and needed mommy to bring him organic food to prison LMAO!! Ok
This is a man I would never co-sign for either. You could kiss your credit goodbye.
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He openly identified himself as a child. This full 3 decade old man thinks his parents still need to clothe feed and shelter him. Amazing.
Physically he is a man. However he proves himself mentally and intellectually stunted. As a consequence, he perceives his world as a child does. So sad.
I’m 19. I buy my own shoes, clothing, gas, food, and I also pay for my haircuts.
Emotional trauma stunts our growth and keeps us locked in our childhood trauma. Abuse and narcissistic control can cause great damage to the fragile psyche of our childlike selves. I had severe abuse and torture and developed dissociative symptoms as a way to cope with the intolerable brutality of my childhood. As a result-- it lead to a host of mental illness, addictions, self harm, and even almost suicide before I found safety away from my abusers in order to start healing. I have done extensive healing work and made much progress- but the brain trauma I experienced altered my ability to properly develop so I have the emotional capacity of a 3 year old at times, some cognitive dysfunction, and slight autism. I am very highly functional and I have fought hard to survive and heal- and I continue to do so.
This is very common with trauma survivers- we get stuck as children. We can heal though- and we deserve to. We are all worth it.
Thanks.
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I was thinking the same thing, he mentions all the things parents are supposed to give a child, A CHILD!
Yes- trauma keeps us stuck in childhood. God bless anyone who has been through a traumatic childhood. It's hard to be a child in an adult body and deal with all the corruption, evil, ignorance, and cruelty from some of you and in this world. May God have mercy on your souls. Amen.
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Imagine marrying this man. Oh god.
If he marry any woman he wants her as a mother not wife.
That ain’t *ever* gunna happen!
No one is going to marry this man. He is a man baby. Perhaps an older woman who wants to take care of a younger man will marry him.
No thank you
No way
"He said ood shelter etc should be provided for a child"....he's NOT a child
I cringe soo hard😆🤦🏿♂️
Well he is acting like one
I think he’s developmentally delayed that makes him think and act like a child.
Wasn't able to work as a nurse. Get a serving job or any kind of service job
getting a job is not an easy thing to do nowadays, you need to send out like mybe 200 applications mybe 1 will accept you.
@@steve00alt70 I agree. People seem to say ‘get a job’ like ANY job whatsoever solves the problem.
This dude could NOT hack it as a server. Maybe BOH as it’s less customer service-oriented but I don’t think he’d be able to swing that either
@@jeffreese5977 Any job is better than no job.
All I have to say is.....can you imagine this guy as your nurse?!?!?! Not taking accountability can make things go quite bad in the medical world.
I can't imagine this guy as My Gardner..
Glad he’s never been my nurse.
This is what happens when you babysit your kids instead of raise them. These parents always act like they are innocent. They teach the kids the same thing. So the kids dont take responsibility and the parents dont take a accountability.
Yup
I’m 17 and I don’t bug my parents to provide things for me anymore but I have a job and I can buy my own things.
He looks 42.
Definitely has some sort of drinking problem
Exactly
@@Laok252 Alcohol is a drug. Prob one of the worst ones.
@@Laok252 and tbh it LOOKS like alcoholism. The dude is def kinda red tinged and just has the look of an alcoholic. he also acts like one. I've been around them before, it's a specific set of traits.
Your parents don't owe you for life just because they had you. Once you're an adult, you're on your own, anything they do for you after that, be grateful!
EXACTLY!!!
Well said
He didn't ask to be born....
@@davidgraham8507 and yet, once
born you're on your own
@@sixkintnts haha I know... I was taking the piss mate
There is nothing wrong with living with your parents at 31, you are just a group of adults living together. There are many families out there that buy big houses for all of them to live in. What is wrong is not helping around and contributing to the household.
@@CedarMountainsnow yes i agree;
@@user-gk6xh5dv6t Indian as well
@@animalloverjulian8243 he also beats his mother
That is 100% normal everywhere except for the US, Canada, Australia, New Zealand, the UK and northern and Western Europe. Throughout Asia, Latin America, Africa, the Middle East and Southern Europe it is normal for unmarried adults to live at home *but* they are expected to work and contribute and do chores.
Exactly
This 31 year old is blaming everyone except himself for his own actions. Pisses me off. He is full of excuses and reasons and finger pointing
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
The problem isn't just living with your parents when you are an adult.
The problem is when the adult child has no ambition to make a life for themselves in their own place.
The problem is when the adult child feels entitled to cohabitate with a mate, and start a family on their parents resources just because the parent has resources.
The problem is the negative and hostile excuses the adult child expresses when the parent even asks about what their adult child is doing to get their life together, and move into their own place.
The problem is also when the adult child has issues, but won't be consistent with getting the proper medical care that they seriously need; nor, will they let anyone else help them get that urgently needed care. Instead, they self-medicate...which is another problem all by itself.
They just keep taking, sucking, and draining the life out of their parents. And the one time the parent says "no" to the adult child, their nasty and ungrateful attitude is projected at the one person who has struggled, and been patient with all of the adult child's stubbornly self-inflicted screw ups as an adult.
A parent has no choice but to put their adult child out legally, when they deal with selfish drama on a daily basis.
Agreed but they didn't need to sell his car or say they should have had an abortion come on that's too far. But he needs to get his life together
@@sweetpee8991 I'd want to know the details of both those complaints, if they are true before saying they went too far.
damn you're right made me think about myself
Some parents emotionally cripple their children to satisfy their own needs.
Maybe he was so used to getting coddled.
And he mentioned he was in jail: is that the REAL reason his car is gone? He was in jail, which made him stop making payments.... is that a possibility?
I myself have been considered disabled since 2004. And yet I live by myself in the studio apartment I feed myself I take care of myself I maintain a part-time job. What excuse does this guy have to continue living with his parents? Also living on your own means your parents aren't watching your every move and you don't have to worry if you are making out.
"I had a nursing licence and got in a probationary period for that" he can't even admit he did anything wrong 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
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Can you imagine what a horrible nurse he would be???
The fact he graduated, probably means we should call schooling requirements into question on how he passed. 🤔
I had stroke trying to comprehend what he was trying to say there
Emotional trauma stunts our growth and keeps us locked in our childhood trauma. Abuse and narcissistic control can cause great damage to the fragile psyche of our childlike selves. I had severe abuse and torture and developed dissociative symptoms as a way to cope with the intolerable brutality of my childhood. As a result-- it lead to a host of mental illness, addictions, self harm, and even almost suicide before I found safety away from my abusers in order to start healing. I have done extensive healing work and made much progress- but the brain trauma I experienced altered my ability to properly develop so I have the emotional capacity of a 3 year old at times, some cognitive dysfunction, and slight autism. I am very highly functional and I have fought hard to survive and heal- and I continue to do so.
This is very common with trauma survivers- we get stuck as children. We can heal though- and we deserve to. We are all worth it.
Thanks.
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Happy yo hear you overcome
This is true. We never hear the full story. It seems that his parents were narcissists and undermined him and stunted him developmentally so that he can still depend on them. Narcissists want their children to depend on them and to be powerless in making decisions. I also went through this and I agree with. You begin to retrogress.
Apparently it’s always someone else’s fault for this guy.
Yeah, it's called being a covert narcissist
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
We were always reminded during childhood that at age 18... it was time to go live our own lives.
At age 18... I was shown the door... living in a converted car... camping out in the dead of winter snow ❄... this was one of the best learning Independence skills and experience.
Parents are responsible for enabling and empowering their children's sense of autonomy, Independence, responsibility, and accountability for themselves in life!!!
One of the better learning experiences!
Seems a little cold though to just throw you out of they're house at age 18.
I told my kids, ‘The life I provide for you after high school graduation is SUPPOSED to be not good enough… not exciting enough… not comfortable enough… just simply not enough… so you will want more from life and figure out how to go out and get it for yourself. I’m not here to entertain you. You SHOULD want better for yourself. Just don’t look at me to provide it.’
Wow that is good advice
Why did you give birth to them, if you are that bad?
I see your point.
...um your not a child your a 31 yr old man..if u don't like your living situation..leave.its their house not yours...plus u know..your 31.
He seems confused about that..like hes acting like hes a 12 yr old and his folks are still responsible for his f**k ups..uh no dude..no.
@John Cameron
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Stories like this make me not want to live at home anymore.
If an adult ..u shouldn't be
@Mo Neta I'm nothing like him
@SupremeEgyptianGodsman I used to have a job working at a dairy plant until Covid-19 happened. I was so close to saving up enough money to move out.
@Mo Neta I am actually working towards independence, unlike him.
run while you can.
comfort kills.
To anyone who has gone through this---
Emotional neglect and childhood trauma leads to grown adults that have the emotional and mental capacity of a child. (This is me. I experienced severe emotional, mental, physical torture and trauma which led to severe CPTSD and dissociative trauma. I had to get away and get support to learn how to care for myself and heal. ) My question is- what happened to you during your childhood that stunted emotional growth? The responsibility is on the parents for raising a codependent child and never teaching him how to fly. The responsibility is now on you to break away from the abusive narcissistic patterns, move out, get outside support to heal the family trauma, forgive them, and learn how to provide for yourself. They may never change or meet your needs and you have a choice now to walk away . I'm sorry that they never could be the parents you needed and wanted- they may never be there for you the way your little child needs- but you can learn to parent yourself. You can heal regardless of them. No one else has to change in order for us to heal and find peace. Only you can change for You. You always have the power to change yourself and your reality.... You can do it!
We are all here to-
Break the cycle of narcissistic abuse, trauma, addiction, and codependency. A better life is waiting for you- believe you are worth it!!!
I believe in you. Believe in yourself.
Thanks for sharing your story
I wonder what sort of an upbringing his parents gave him that he failed to grow up? They Do have some Responsibility for how their
Son turned out. But none of this was shown to be the case in this part of the program.
Sad thing is these situations happens to folks that are elderly. And biggest concern is those adult children are going to hurt their parents. I hope someone helps this couple get him out. Because he wouldn't be living with me
He wants to be treated as a little kid, and he wants them to take care of him for the rest of their lives. Not fair ro them, he's a grown man! Especially at 31 yrs old! Sickeningly. Uhh get your life!
More common with sons than with daughters.
Boys are hella infantilized. The mama’s boy trope holds true.
Yes. Women are privileged in our society.
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 women’s bodies are the ones being controlled by the government, not cisgender men.
@@joyasaxena9976 What?
@@ceooflonelinessinc.267 Supreme Court overturning Roe V Wade
Bruh, you have 10 years after you graduate to adjust to your life and PROVIDE BACK to your parents on the effort to raise you, but its like you want to make them take care of you until they die!?
I get taken advantage of in this way. They know that they are smart enough to do it on their own but will ask someone to help so they can blame me when it goes wrong or their items break
Just tell him to leave or evict him legally
He's a narcissistic psychopath, his parents should be careful. He's very passive aggressive.
He's holding them hostage, by guilting them
Stop having a one track mind and learn to look at the other side of the story
His Parents should try to solve this matter in their home. There is no need to advertise this matter on Internet...
This guy is 31. He is so far from childhood it’s not even funny.
legally, he's 13 years from legal childhood and he's 19 years from actual childhood.
He's 13-19 years past childhood.
I'll just say it; all I first the first minute and a half was "woe is me" on repeat. I understand tough circumstances all too well unfortunately, but you can play the victim only so much.
Do the adult thing and either own up and/ or do something about it. Ideally both.
His parents were right by wanting to move and they should have and left him there and not give him the address.
“[basic needs] should be provided for a child” yes but dude you’re a grown as man, you should be providing those things for yourself at your fossil age 😭
I believe his parents wasn’t doing their job right raising him.
My mom supported my adult brother till one of them passed away
One of your brothers or parents
@@lunakane8887 I only had one useless lazy bum brother.. who was financially supported by parents
Mom specially
@@upkarjaiswal4524 so the mom passed if so sorry to hear that
im using this as motivation because i got myself in a privileged/suffering/depression the last 3 days, thank you Dr. Phil for your work
I'm sure he could of found an apartment for under 600$ and be fine. I was on my own when I was 17 and didnt ask my parents for anything and now they throw money at me 🤣
An apartment for 600? Can’t even find a basement for 1200
@@mrmiagi6052 in 2012 they were available on my town. But maybe 700-800 for him. Rent has gone up 600% the last 20 years it's sickening. Minimum wage hasn't raised since 2009
Right my parents throw food and money at me like mad since I moved out. In fact I don't even buy my own clothes anymore because my mum is so excited to see me anytime I come home that she does shopping sprees for me.😂
Wow this breaks my heart. The parents looked so sad. This is the age they should be retired and going on vacation and instead they’re dealing with their ungrateful son. Shameful. I live with my parents at 21 and I’m forever grateful that they let me stay with them, still I help with the finances because it’s my job as a guest, think of it as rent. His parents are doing him a favour.
I'm 26 years old and I still live with my parents and yet I help with em around the house alot, also I pay for my gas as well.
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
21 is a whole different story. If you live there at that age AND are supportive of your parents, one could understand that situation.
The only comment I have on this video is at 1:49 honestly why does it matter if someone still lives with their parents as an adult? What’s the shame in it? People feel ashamed to live with their loved ones because society shames them for it personally I don’t live at home but as long as the adult child is independent and takes care of themselves why is their residence a big deal? With this guy though I understand it being different because he’s not independent and is still living the life of a 10 year old I was just speaking on this topic as a whole
I have a relative that works for a homeless shelter. A lot of the people that live there are Haitian migrants who illegally entered the US. We, the taxpayer, provide them with everything! Housing, healthcare, dental, spending money, finding jobs, filling out job applications, childcare vouchers, food stamps, transportation, translation services, even legal services. The state was willing to provide this one Haitian guy an apartment all paid for with utilities for a year as well as retention of homeless benefits if he and his family would move out of the shelter. He then asks "What's going to happen after a year?". When he was told he would need to work and support his family, he decided to just stay at the shelter. Entitlement is out of control!
And there are tens of millions of these adult individuals in America who simply refuse to leave their parent's homes and refuse to go out and get a full time job. We need to end all tax breaks related to household dependents and-- dramatically reduce taxes-- on people who actually get off their asses and go to work.
What a deadbeat. His parents deserve to enjoy their lives years after he became an adult. He is 'trapped' in the bedroom that they provide? They are trapped by their son in his 30's. Get a job, move out. Immediately. Stop blaming others for your failures.
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
These people have hurt this person's ability to function. It is quite common. He is paralyzed by anger.
My husband died aged 30. At 17 he joined the Royal Navy, he spent his entire life serving his country before tragically dying in service. He got married at 22 to me, bought a house at 25 years old and became a father, sadly our daughter decided she was going to be like this jerk on Dr Phil, expecting me to support her despite giving her every opportunity like paying for her Uni education, encouraging her until after Uni she decided she was going to stay at home all day and be a parasite while I went out to work. The parents should have done what I did, tell her to get a job and pay her way at home or leave, she decided to leave rather than work and soon realised life isn't one long freebie. She stopped speaking to me when the bank of Mum dried up, fine by me, I did my bit.
This is the problem with Millennials and Gen Z and X, we treat them like kids far longer than our parents did for us. I started working at 14, when I was legally old enough, it was a Saturday job in a local store. Best way to make him independent, kick him out.
Different times. There were jobs, apartments and homes were cheaper, university tuition was cheaper, there was a recession as well that affected the millennial generation. The government created this mess by never solving the housing crisis, creating jobs, and not regulating home sales and rent and university tuition.
No one ever taught this man that if you act like a child, you get treated like a child. If you act like an adult, you get treated like an adult.
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
I gave my daughter a serious distaste for living with us as an adult just like my parents did for me. I never went back and never asked them for a single penny. I'm not obligated to support another adult.
Yeah. But your daughter was raised correctly. This dude is a lazy bum.
You sound like a treat.
My parents would laugh at me if I talked like that !
You're an adult, stop expecting people to do more and more things for you.
They can do an interstate probation if they have to move and he can apply for a work only permit to get back to work but be required to have a monitor system to monitor rest of time on probation too and it would allow him to save the money for getting on his feet as far as parents are concerned having the courage to explain things differently to each other so that neither riddles away each other's self worth is really really crucial to future success and again more details to what happen helps bc there are some crooked people out there that have contributed to reasons why he may be on probation not by his own fault bc of others trying to get away with things too that were beyond his control so having that understanding is also crucial too! Complete details of understanding things and fighting the good Godly fight to get that better understanding is crucial too!
Sad reality..
He's not a loser. His parents are the losers. Total failures.
One of my favorite guests. Dude has an excuse for everything!
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be complimented when i did something for him and told i wont be able to do it when id do something for me. These are controlling narcissistic parents, they are the reason hes in this position. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
Sounds like entitlement to me
Sorry to hear this, but you are right. I also went through this abuse as a child that it paralyzed my will. As an adult, I had setbacks and that just worsened their narcissistic abuse. I got ill when I graduated from college and was going to become a teacher, but this time my parents just went on a psychotic narcissistic phase and they tried to undermine me and sicken me more with their toxicity and their way of not giving me time to recover and to think and to apply for jobs. They literally obstructed me to be an adult and put me behind years, I also did not have luck in getting jobs but I was also self-sabotaging myself. The depression and the paralysis of narcissistic abuse made me waste my 20s. I am in my 30s and I don't feel like a normal adult. I have retrogressed emotionally, physically and I cannot speak. They literally want me to sound like a kid because if I sound to much of a man they just put me down and say that you cannot be adult if you still depend on your parents. The housing crisis and my luck in not getting jobs despite my qualification fed their narcissistic abuse more.
“I was the one being assaulted” this made me laugh so hard
Anger issues
@A Z
Are you okay?
@A Z Im not American, I watched Fox and CNN, watched Trump and Biden’s interviews, and without being biased i would say, fox is Fake and Trump is crazy.
@A Z stfu
Parents are Parents not a thing
Humans are humans
nothing wrong with living at home at that age. it is normal is some countries, i actually find it pretty "cute", eventually you will be the one taking care of your parents. Like a switch.
I graduated High school on a Thursday night, and went to a party until 5.00AM Friday morning. Had an interview at 1.00 PM that day, got the job, and stayed 18 years I left the family home at age 20, after paying half my dad's house payment until I left. That was in 1962, and that was common, for the times....
The economy was different back then. There were less people, less competition. The US population doubled compared to 1962 population.
@@jacqueslee2592 NO but people were not coddled all thier lives , like you were...PS you wen't even alive in 1962...LOL
The father sat in the parking lot all day everyday whilst his son was in school? WTF......
Dude, grow a pair. Get a job. Get a place of your own. Don't pass out invitations to a pity party, because no one wants to attend.
I just got mine in the mail . . . I jcan't go though . . . Pity Parties get sooooo icky and sticky. Blahhhhhh!
yeah he shouldn't think this way.
but you don't understand.
they raised him to be depentant.
father didn't do his job.
kicking him out of the nest, and teaching him to be a man.
and mother was too caring.
Should be provided for a child 🤣 lmfao we're is the child
Parents probably treated him like a child, then got surprised why he didn’t magically learn to think like an adult
I have a 50 year old brother like that and he says that nobody gives him a job. Has been looking since he was 25, worked in my mother business and the store closed, my mom put him a business and closed, since 2019 doesn’t work at all, sometimes makes 🖼️ . No girlfriend since 1996 and he is bitter about life, blames the city, women, and economy everyday like a recording song.
I am in my 30s. I also blame the recession that ruined my career and job prospects. I blamed the women recruiters who were looking for men with looks to hire rather than skills. The women concept of alpha and beta that they frame their judgment on men are the cause of why millions of men do not get to live their potential.
Dude just cuz you're an adult it doesn't mean you deserve to be abused and neglected.
My mother said no adult kids living in her house unless they were I'll or in school. When I came home from college for the summer I worked 2 jobs. When I chose to quit college I was to,d you're not living here. I love to travel and and loved kids and immediately got a job as a nanny and got to see a part of the country I never saw before. I learned to always have a job and take care of myself. I never would have learned that if my parents allowed me to mooch off them. This guy is just like the idiot I saw on the news whose parents got a court order to get him out of their house. A grown man with 2 kids he lost custody of!
I worked since I was 14 y/o. I supported myself and saved for my college education.
I rest my case.
P s. Oh ..by the way, I've never gotten in trouble with the police either. My record is clean.
So baby boy.... you have NO excuse.
If I could do it.....so can you.
Grow up!
This Is my older brothers life he has the audacity to judge his younger siblings use my car and expect me to treat him sweet after he yells at me and throws things at me
This is why I pray for a daughter
I would never attack my mom "with a hammer." Hmm..
I talk with my hands? You expect someone to believe that?
I moved out of my parents home at the age of 19 and never looked back! GROW UP!!!!!!
I left home at 17...never went back.
He’s got one thing going for him....he just managed to scare off ALL AND ANY potential friends or significant other for LIFE!!! And it only took him 4:31 😂😂😂
I hate him 😂
In Asia ,Children live with their parents even after marriage,the father the mother the son the daughter in law the grandkids all stay together with deep bonding,and the least a child could do is look after their parents in old age.
The issue here is underlying causes from the parent side and the man side.The man looks like he is too lazy he shouod be contributing to family and behave nicely with parents and the same goes for the parents.
Why is the pillow censored? 0:41
Dukes of Hazard sheets
Failed parenting!
Why does a 24-year-old man CARE where his parents move? If you have other commitments and your parents move, you bid them a fond farewell and you stay put. It is NOT the responsibility of your parents to support you for all the years of your adulthood! This guy is like the 30-year-old whose parents had to sue to get him out of their house. Grown men who are this childish and worthless, just flat disgust me!
I've got a 36 yo male unemployed drunk still living here. Have to hire a lawyer to have him evicted then the restraining order to keep him away
My lease is up VERY soon. He will never find me
@@ryandixon3252 Yup!! That's how they're dealing with the homeless situation, FORCING you to support anyone that you invite into your home can just say, They're NOT leaving, damn police says it's a Civil matter. 🐂💩 Told my SIL that if he tries to throw him out, HE'D be arrested.
He looks like Tobey Maguire
It's always the nursing majors that have the most mental problems. They also have a lot of financial problems. What's the connection between all those things????
let it go man. There is no winning this. Society will never support children over parents. it is just the way it is.
This man needs to grow tf up! Me on the other hand 32 yrs old, just paid off 2 car payments, no co-signer, going to school WHILE working a full 3rd shift 10 to 11hrs shifts working 4 to 6 nights….tf?
Im the victim of narcissistic abuse and infantilization. The parents make you believe you cant do things on your own, tell you that its too hard for you, they’ll do it for you. And usually one or more of the parents puts you down as a child and reminds you how you fail at things, how you aren’t capable to do what other kids can do. They psychologically keep you crippled. This is infantilization, he’s right. This is the parents fault but now its up to him to change it. His father not helping him cosign a car is a clear sign that he is a infantilizing narcissist and wants him to stay there and control him. My father for example would put me down and tell me how i cant do anything right, and “stop put that down you failed you’re not going to get it right trust me. Now, come do this application for me, good job see you are smart. Wow you are very smart” I would be told these things when i did something for him. Eventually you have to say, enough is enough, part ways and live your life. Dont let your parents or other ppl make you feel bad for not doing things for them. You did that for 20 something years, they tried to take your life from you. Focus on you and only you at this point. I wish this guy the best.
There needs to be a family therapy or estrangement, likely the latter. The parents have raised him this way and at some point decided they didn't like the product. Instead of re-parenting somehow, they decided to not be parents any more. Yet, when it came time to show off at Dr Phil and play the role of saintly parents, they could not refuse the clarion call of potential validation.
Thanks mr Phil You didn’t Count in the fact that we’re going through a Covid crisis I’m 31 and shits hard for young people like us
This aired before covid but I agree. Alot of people still live at home, it sucks but it happens. With the cost of everything going up and wages staying the same what choice do some people have?
31 is not a "young person". Perfect example of this mentally defunct generation.
Well usually it's better than homelessness. I met ppl in their 40s and 50s living at home.
I don’t think the guy was right in his actions; he was a criminal, he stole from his parents, and more. However, Dr. Phil tells guests ‘nice to meet you.’ I’d like a guest, every now and then, to say something like ‘You don’t mean that. You’re about to grill me and lecture me, and you don’t do that to someone if it’s nice for you to meet them. Wait, I remember; you’re glad to meet me because your uncalled for rudeness makes you money.’
I was out of my house at seventeen
Maybe Michael Rotondo should be on that show
I'm so proud I'm independent
Dr. Phil is just an actor playing a role!
i am SO glad he is not a nurse!
WOW 😣😳 I KNOW THE FEELING IM 32 ABOUT TO MOVE TO DIFFERENT STATE
Your not a child and u should be out of their house not yours it's their house.
He knows he’s an actual adult right?
He looks way older than 31
this sounds like me!
Please no.
+jnie swartz 😂
Why do the parents need legal process to get adult child out?