Dealing with breakups 💔ft. Sharifa Namusisi | The Unpopular Opinion UG
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- Опубліковано 11 вер 2024
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Sharifa Namusisi, CBT & sex therapist & life coach joins us once again this week for chat on breakups and how to deal
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Forgiving and letting go is the best decision after a breakup
Yes to dating yourself and spending quality time with yourself. The next person you meet is just a compliment. It also helps one to heal fully. Quickly jumping into relationships after a break up interrupts the healing process and you end up taking your wounded self into a new relationship.
This particular episode spoke to me so deeply! Eh break up pain is an actual thorn in the flesh oh my God! Thank you for this one ladies! I hope to heal! 🥺😊
Such a beautiful conversation. Prim’s experience with her mum. Beautiful lessons for all of us. Trauma does have a hold on us, but we can move past it!
Hmmm, sensitive topic...well handled.
Kemi dear stop apologising for your Christian values. Your life is inspiring many out there, so stay sure and bold.
ALSO, bambi producer put in a budget for a mic stand for mukyaala KEMI's mic .... i feel like she needs one on the side to help her handle that RODE {PODCAST style}
Man, we're working on it :)
Beauty in being single, that is power. Thanks, Claire. I am living this testimony
Awesome one...The saddest thing is all these phases I have been through and I sat in that space for sooooo long it was unnecessary. Breakups are really painful. I thank God I did not have anything tangible with the person. That part of the silent treatment, I know this too well. I would see even people banging plates and pans in the kitchen so mad at the maid for this one time they were a little late than usual. The thing we fail to understand is these are our personal non-negotiables, not the world so they should not have to tell us what to tolerate.
I wish all microphones were as loud as Kemi's
it is a $1200 mic
I thought it was my device
I think the ladies should each get the small microphones. It would save us from thinking our devices are the problem.
I thought I was the only one .. most times your microphones are not loud enough ladies and it's so annoying 😢
Break ups are an opportunity the universe offers you so that you can meet somebody better tomorrow.
Until this happens to you, you won't believe it but it's true. Granted they hurt, no doubt. They hurt at that moment because we do not see a better person that can surpass them at that time.
God offer you 🙏🏾
The universe is a creation, it doesn't offer anyone anything. God does.
The universe is everything around us. God created the universe, it doesnt mean He is not part of it. Surely you are not telling me God is not part of the universe?
Anyway, what I meant is regardless of how the breakup happens, the reasons, circumstances and person involved give you a chance to be better as well, to learn and to grow.
Prim is actually so funny and sarcastic omG! I love it !
Social media has been helpful to me all thru. I just make decisions myself and accept.
My relationship of 5 and half years ended when I was pregnant but it wasn't easy for me to cope. I forgave him and we only discuss about the boy. Forgiving is relief.
Sorry love, there is light at the end of the tunnel
I love the way Prim is always very very attentive with ya , yes oh yess hihi... Thnx for the episode.
U people acceptance is hard,like really hard. Naye @sharifah was speaking on a low tone. Thank u ladies
This has been so orderly , everyone gets to talk, a little banter here and there. obugalo for growth👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Host Sharifah one more time
Prim, your level of healing, learning, unlearning and emotional growth is commendable. I am here for it.
All these tips are very helpful but y'allllll it's all easier said than done so you have to keep trying, learning and re-learning. My biggest is not looking for closure, not only in romantic relationships but all kinds of break ups.
The way I love you prim,my dear ❤️❤️
By the way Prim’s jokes play a big role in these discussions, they sink the point in the head😂
She's a gem 💎
True ❤️
True 😄
I love the consistence, I love all your contents these are the conversations I love listening in my own company. Much love ladies ❤️
Awesome conversation ladies, sharifa's Mic is too low struggling to hear her, please check on sound. Lots of love ❤️
Such a great episode. But have been dying to say this. I am not a troll, just an observation. Sherifah the guest speaker had a very low microphone and she didn't get to be heard clearly for the advice and wisdom we know she has to share. Also ladies with a guest like shariah plz do give her the space to express her points because they r gold but were missed alot because she was spoken over and the problem of a low mike didn't help either. Thanks for the show. Love u guys.
I like when Prim touched the issue of abandonment. It's important that women deal with that by looking closely into themselves.
Ladies, you're really awesome to listen to and double check our selves . Please keep the good sessions coming 🙏🏻
we need to have a REAL conversation about being willing to remain single. A lot of people don't enforce boundaries because the alternative is being a single parent or just being single. Goes back to how comfortable are we with being alone
I really enjoyed watching this. Always always a pleasure seeing Sharifa here. Please come again. Banange Kemi's hair💕...Prim's jokes😂
I kindly request that you please do an episode discussing whether it's possible to eventually love someone we aren't physically attracted to... was nice hearing from Sharifa again.
The way I was waiting for this episode God knows
Awwwww Claire said it all on Revenge part of it....if your a good person and do revenge you will forever regret
Sharifah's skin!!
@@melisajoyce hihihi yasss
Nice one , thanks ladies and i love the part of going back for the puff holder and ending up with a child...
Exactly, it took me many years to realise that, EVRYTHNG that we are experingin now was manifested when growing up. No wonder, I kept on attracting toxic partner because that was how I was raised by thinking that was love.
Dating myself is key coz wen u r through u know a guy won't take u for granted in anyway u know exactly wat to do n how to go about a heart break or any toxic relationship I have gone through so much heart breaks n this touched mi so much Thx
Wow… interesting just fell in love with this
Thanks lovely ladies
But am suggesting you give us a session about how to go about fears in relationships like coming to that point of freely speaking to your partner when something ain’t right
This has been my hardest thing in relationships😭😭failed to speak up
I literally find it so difficult
Personally, I know that disaster always happens when physiologically we always expect transfer of blames. We always feel that satisfaction always comes when the other person was the reason why it happened. It takes another level of maturity to decern that you had a role to play in that relationship that you are not in now. Remember it takes two to name it a relationship. So my point is, it all begins with you. Self reflection in most cases gets you to that level after a breakup, it makes you appreciate the journey and also gets you to the point where you have to make the decision of whether you get yourself back up or you remain drowned in that breakup bed.
I feel like. If you really loved someone when you let them go. Because things ain't working out. Wish them the best after. There is some peace you get. From that.
You know @Phiona and friends, I commend what you guys do here. Because in one way or the other it affects people in different ways. Like the back track topic of attaching your actions to something that has been happening to you or something in the past. That always has a way of coming in on the present. And not only in relationships but also in life as general. Many will silently come here for just that particular point to bring them back from where they were to the best position.
You guys are heaven sent
Prim I like your sense of humour 😀
This episode all points of the therapist are all valid but the other episode some were lol🤦♀️.#Ladies thank you for this,I love it!💯
I love all ur outfits especially Prim’s 👌🏽👏🏽
I put up with soo much to an extent that if I leave you, I am done. I can’t go back. It’s like vomit that I can’t go back to. That broken road will lead you to your person.
Such a useful episode, I hope she does online therapy/coaching ❤️
You guys make my day....life definitely feels even much better
Great episode 👏 👌. Sharifa should become a regular, we need this therapy 😀
Mbagala nyoo
This is so important to me
Thank you ladies
Thank you guys so much ❤🙏🏾
Understand the love of God for you deeply. You will be amazed at how you relate with people.
How I love Prim 🥰🥰🥰
I was today years old when I discovered this channel , UA-cam algorithm needs to be reset . Prim is an old soul…very wise. Claire is highly opinionated but needs to think before speaking. Kemi is just the pretty little girl, hope you find love.
Eish. Pretty harsh coming from someone that has only watched one episode.
@@joyk4408 also …first impressions. However, I fell deep into the YT rabbit hole and wound up binge watching ( read listing ) to the podcasts as I burned the midnight oil into the wee hours . To put is correctly , they caught my attention n not in a bad way…they are interesting
First time here and am resonating with everything
#doingthework
the "TOLI WAKITaLo nGA BWOLOWOOZA PART"
This is powerful. Thank you
It's not easy to forgive or forget. Regardless one can still move on without doing any of those.....
But being alone can cause alot of trouble tho it's the best way one can actually move on. One can be able to think thru things and make decisions
No one talks about how traumatic breaking up really is 🥺
Been waiting.....finally
You should fix very well the sound!! Because in every episode there is someone that we don't hear very well
The look Prim puts on when Fiona talks about the holy spirit😂😂
Finally.💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Sharifa is a vibe
"Weyeluse!!" Kyoka Prim
Wow I needed this.thx ladies for sharing😘😘😘
Minwhyl on the point of texting n calling an ex after the breakup.......if its the guy who ended it chances are that he is already seeing someone else nga for u yo glued on him so if u over glue best thing to do will be to use u hence a rebound
Always looking forward to your vlogs, this was so profound🥰🥰🥰 thanks guys...much luv from Nairobi.
Nice episode but sharifas voice not clear and her shades bitutama
Eeeeh
Thank you guys
This is so helpful 🙏
I really want to see Sharifa's eyes. I have tried looking for her video on instagram, tiktok without shades but waaaaaaaaa
Councilor forgot to mention the eneshment attachment style in relationships. That one can cause a lot of trauma.
I love the liberal minds here.... Women reasoning on both ends the boy child and the girl child.... I will keep watching and learning
Idek why but after prim talked about toxic parents I realised I definitely have some work to do. I always go to the emotionally unavailable man and now I wonder how far back that is coming from
That puff holder joke🤣🤣🤣
Deep conversations❤️❤️
The topic was fantastic 👏
Now looking decent 🙌🏽👍🏾🤝🏾
I can’t wait for the episode on toxic parenting because I really need to hear more about it, I could really relate to prim talking about her mom
Prim’s effortless jokes mash me up😂 what do you mean weyeluse??😂😂😂😂😂 for why?? for whom???
This silent treatment has been my thing so much and its Still me until now it actually makes me feel bad about myself because i know i am angry about something But i cant speak out!! u actually end up hurting urself Instead without the other person even knowing...banange i can even go silent when i want to end things hmmm i really need to heal about this
Baby crying is the other option to completely relieve n let go off pain!! Try it thank me later... its very okay to cry!!
@@rinahope i completely agree with you crying is therapy and probably you may feel ok after but imagine yourself in your bedroom alone upset and crying while your partner has no idea of whats happening to you, so sometimes not talking is a weakness and can somehow hinder your progress of healing after the breakup
I want to be honest I needed the break up. Because I wouldn’t even date myself then
Prim's responses though 🤣🤣🤣 Why is that me?
Prim, you are so smart honey.
Thanks alot for sharing . Learnt alot .moving on.
Let's improve in sound.. otherwise we'll done
My mama til date is passive aggressive i experienced silent treatment from her not even understanding the mistake that i had done. sorry to say but i find it very toxic.I have tried talking to her about it but it's like a reflex for her.
Volume please please please.Not hearing most of what Sherifa is saying
I broke up with him but I am feeling the most pain I think 😩 but I think this thing of looking for closure is a bad idea and keep ur phone away when drunk 🙄😩😩
IT ISNT PAINful for those who are emotionally immature
Prim realist 😍😍
sharifa's mic......is not clear
Thanks ladies
Sharifah is so beautiful damn😍
Prime’s mum!! We’re we all raised by the same woman 😂😂😂?
Banaye sibyangu. But time heals wounds.
Serious point on setting non negotiablesssss........
Please do toxic parenthood bambi please
i hear "WEYELUSE" HA HA HA naye banange PULIIIIIIIMU
We are baaaaaaccckkk
Next time let all the ladies be loud like Kemie
dating a single mum/dad,what does it take to win her/him over,i wish u could discuss about that
Thanks Frank. This is actually on our agenda this year. We just want to make sure we also have the right guest(s) for a meaningful discussion
@@fionakemi thanks for the shows u give alot of inspiration to alot of people out here many going through difficult reships
Am nolonger getting breakups... I just simply walk away!! It doesn't take me too long to forget completely and to sum it up am simply left with humanity not that genuine love that could hurt so deep after someone's departure 😏😏😏😏😏
Amina...I have self control and anger management is just my new lesson ....am happy once he chooses to leave or stay
@@ritahnyangoma285 exactly how it should be... sometimes it only takes nothing to understand that anyone deserves better... n it is okay!! I mean I always come to terms with myself n completely accept that may be they were the right people for the wrong me😂😂😂
NAYE PRIM
The microphones😥😥
I was struggling to hear y'all
So interesting thanks girls