Honestly the first story is absolutely apalling, as somebody who also has autism and in some ways also has issues with certain textures I think the behaviour if this uncle is absolutely disgusting, he knew fully of the problem but didn't care, and the fact that the family is finding excuses for the brother and are shaming OP for standing up fod his son for it is just maddening. The father is the hero here, he had every single right to say what he said, and honestly if the family is always this awful and insensitive, I'd really consider if I'd not rather spend time with the in laws.
My son has autism and if someone did this I’d react the same way-actually probably much worse lol. Wtf is wrong with people? “Oh everyone has things they don’t like, everyone has sensory problems, he will eat when he is hungry enough.” Like the things my family has said to me (albeit mostly innocent and well intended) blows my mind. Sorry to those that have to deal with stupid minded people ♥️
I'd cut them out of my life until they either get over themselves, act like adults and punish their "Adult Son", or read the Reddit post and see how many comments are calling them the A-Holes. But either way, cutting them out of mine and the young son's lives is WAY better than "allowing" the Entitled Parents and Bully Brother to act like that and disrespect and degrade the young son as if they can wave this entire sh*tstorm off.
I'm a hairdresser and do a lot of weddings. I turned up to this bride's home and found her in tears... I asked her what's wrong (thinking nerves or maybe for example the flowers were running late as often trivial stuff will set off tears on the morning of a wedding) and she explained that her mum had just told her that she had cancer and it was terminal. I couldn't believe that she chose the morning of her daughter's wedding to drop this bombshell. Anyway I was there for a hours as I was doing the bride, 4 bridesmaids and the 'terminally ill' mother of the bride. The discussions were all about the Mum and her tragic diagnosis. The make up artist and I were in shock that she didn't delay telling everyone til after the wedding day. Then the sister and sister in law (2 of the bridesmaids) come into where the makeup artist and I were working and announced that it was all a lie! Apparently this Mum was a massive hypochondriac but had NEVER pulled a stunt like this before.... They started asking questions about what kind of cancer she had? What the Dr had said? What specialists/oncologists she'd seen? Etc. It turned out that she'd had a mild headache and went on to Dr Google and had self diagnosed terminal brain cancer! There were a lot more tears, not for the Mum being healthy but for the bride having her Mum do that to her daughter on the day of her wedding. I've seen some absolute doozies of bridezillas/bridesmaids and mothers of bride's over the years but this tops all the others combined. Saying that, the vast majority of weddings I do are so much fun, everyone is in an awesome mood and ready to celebrate love. I'm personally quite a Tomboy yet I absolutely adore doing super pretty feminine brides/bridesmaids. My job is awesome!
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 That's not just narcissism. That's narcissism mixed with a (un)healthy dose of "I don't like who you married & will never have any respect for him or your decision, & I'm going to take every opportunity to 'subtlety' remind you that." Sounds like she did that to f@ck with him specifically & is the worst kinda in-law.
My step-daughter's bio mom told her she had stage 4 breast cancer. Understandably, my 16yr old SD freaked out, almost hysterical. Now, her mom has been an addict her whole life & not known for keeping promises or telling the truth b/c, well, addicts lie. When we got more details from SD, we found out her mom said she was diagnosed while inpatient at the local Psych hospital. We're very familiar w/the place & they are a separate facility, not attached to a medical one. The only medical care they give is for psychiatric conditions. They certainly don't have diagnostic equipment. But her mom insisted they diagnosed her there. I didn't want to believe any mother would lie to her daughter about something like that, but turns out that's exactly what she had done. Mom later admitted after SD started hard questioning her about it that she'd made it up in a last ditch attempt to get her then-husband to take her back. He'd finally gotten sick of her drug use after a decade or so of marriage & threw her out. Mom had never worked, always stayed at home despite not having a child in the house (lost all legal custody when SD was 2) & had nowhere to go. It's one thing to lie to your husband in a pathetic attempt to get him back. Crappy, yes, but to your daughter?? SD cut contact off completely for the next few years & it's now very minimal
Gonna have to disagree with literally everyone about the mom getting "shitty comments". Your 2 year old Ashworth should not have the ability to "knock a tent down" then "run in the street laughing" and "partake in other shenanigans", nor does he brother owe her a babysitter for any length of time. Everything about this woman is screaming that she's letting him do whatever tf he wants. I have 4 kids, and at 2, yeah, it's a bit hard, you come for maybe an hour, or less. You keep him with you, or get a babysitter if it's a big thing. I can't explain it but I'm telling you she's one of those moms who let her kid do whatever they want and people are trying to tell her to tighten up without SAYING it.
Almost every comment on this thread is saying the same thing you are. So who are these “literally everyone” that’s agreeing with the mother? Cause I’d like to see their explanation as to how it’s the other ppl causing drama and not her and her kid. 😅 It was obvious to everyone that she can’t parent the child well enough, so he has no concept of what’s allowed and what’s not allowed. And that was with what little info she actually gave about the child. You know she downplayed that! 😂 I’m a mom…became a mom two months before my 20th bday. And even though I was young, my son knew that he wasn’t permitted to touch anything that wasn’t his or that he had permission to touch. He learned “no-no, don’t touch” my the time he was 2 yrs old. This kid sounds like he’s a little heathen just running around all Willy-nilly because Mom doesn’t parent him properly.
@@melissadunton3534 he comment was 2 months before yours. It was probably that way at the start. UA-cam tends to push the most liked at the top. So those "literally everyone" probably got dropped to the end.
@@toothless3835 oh wow! I wasn’t aware of that. Thank you for explaining, because a lot of times I’ll see responses to people that aren’t even in the comments on my end. I always wondered why I couldn’t see some comments and others I could. Seriously, thank you for taking the time to explain this to me, most ppl just scroll past or say something nasty rather than understanding that maybe the person commenting isn’t aware of all the little idiosyncrasies of UA-cam. ✌🏻🥰😊
Totally agree with you. There’s a reason EVERYONE is feeling some type of way about her kid. And honestly it’s stupid to get so offended for people having discussions about not wanting kids in front of you just because you have one. So what, because I’m child free people with kids can’t talk about how awesome it is to have kids in front of me? There’s huge double standards for parents vs child free people, and sounds like this woman is sensitive to the fact not everyone is saddled with a tiny terror. Her own brother doesn’t even want to help? It pulled down a tent?? Where was mom?? Yeah don’t feel bad for her at all
I felt bad for OP on the basis of people repeatedly remarking on how they do not want kids when they have to interact with hers. As someone who doesn’t want kids, I’ve mentioned it to my friends who are parents maybe once or twice in casual conversation about life plans, but not each time I encounter their kids. Parents don’t need to feel belittled or like they are less for wanting kids or being busy as parents, just as childless folks don’t need the reverse treatment. However, I agree with your point that no one else is obligated to help OP parent the child if they don’t want to. It can be a nice “takes a village” approach, but it’s not their responsibility either.
As someone who has had to bite my tongue at a few too many family obligations... erm.. I mean gatherings, I suspect the woman hearing so many comments from others about not wanting kids is experiencing this because she has a terror of a child. I'd be inclined to think that a few people have approached her about this in a more polite way, but she can't be bothered to correct her little snowflake's behavior. Everyone has a breaking point and I think her family has reached it.
i have a kid like this in my friend circle and everyone cringes as soon as he enters a place. hes terrible and thats because he was never parented at all. he always ran the family. je once tried to beat another kid with a stone cause he wanted a toy and the parents did not bat an eye.
@@christinepyfrom6373 Maybe, but most two year olds don't terrorize adults. They are easily distracted and can be occupied with some sweet words. Provided they are parented properly.
I kinda thought the same thing after the running in the street statement. I have 3 children, and that made my heart sink. "Running into the street" like that's just kids for ya, 😮🫣😬.
That story with the kid who makes everyone else want to never have kids... I'm getting some serious vibes that this kid has never been parented a day in his life. Probably never even heard the word no, or worse, was told no only to immediately get what he wanted. (I've witnessed my childhood best friend thoroughly ruin her own life that way) Glad to see I'm not alone in the comments.
It’s hard to parent with intent (or recognize that you’re not) when you’re drowning emotionally. This mom was clearly struggling and her family only contributed to her “make it through” parenting mindset , when she needed help changing it to a “make it thorough” parenting style.
@@therockbottom5256 what do YOU mean? So many people parent by themselves and don’t use it as an excuse to not actually parent their kid properly. My mum was a single mother, with only one income and getting her education but didn’t be lazy with her parenting. She certainly wasn’t perfect but didn’t raise an entitled brat either.
Third story: I'm going on a limb here, but if several different people on several different occasions have come to the conclusion that they don't want to have kids after interacting with your kid, I think there's a pretty good chance you're not doing that great a parenting job and your kid is, shall we say, not well kept busy and calm. Granted, a two-year-old is a chaotic force by default, but there are ways to keep them from wreaking havoc. The only one that makes me frown a little is the unsupportive brother (but then again, it truly wasn't his responsibility, and grandaddy dearest could have volunteered himself to keep the baby while OP had dinner, rather than "gently suggesting" others do it), but if things escalated to the point of him knocking down a tent and getting to the street, it's safe to say not much had been done to reign in the inherent chaoticness of the toddler, and that could be a little exhasperating for the others. Also, if OP treats having to physically carry her two-year-old so they don't get in trouble at her friends' place as such a chore rather than the default way to keep a toddler in an unfamiliar place, I think THAT ATTITUDE might be why they've reconsidered parenting, rather than the kid itself. Again, not everybody likes children, but usually one tends to show lenience, and it feels a tad unrealistic that SO MANY people in SO MANY circumstances don't. I think the common denominator here is OP and her kid, so perhaps the kid really is very misbehaved and OP struggles to reign them in.
I think your first paragraph is completely off-base. Little kids are little kids. I have known people who made comments against having children when they saw a baby spit-up or drool. Is that bad-parenting or is that something which...ummm...100% of babies do? There are some who choose to not have children because they have attachment issues or they feel that there is some genetic problem they do not wish to pass on. And those, to me, are some legitimate explanations. But, many people who choose to not have children often do so for many reasons, often selfish reasons. "I don't want to deal with those things," "I don't want to give up my time," etc. It is bullshit. (like the story of the grandmother who faked the heart attack because others were getting the attention. It seems she had children because she wanted the attention that people often give to a baby or new mother. Once that faded she likely punished the kids because she was not getting the attention any longer, hence the heart attack at the daughter's birthday) And don't blame a parents for the normal behavior of a 2 year old who is exploring their world. Of course they touch everything. It is all new to them and they don't understand boundaries yet. The rare 2 year-old who does understand boundaries does so out of fear (meaning abusive parents) not repect. So it is nice to know that you support child abuse. Good job!
@@lelandd.295 people like you are insufferable. Have kids if you like, raise them how you like, but maybe don't judge people who don't agree with that. And yes, 2yo tend to be a lot and chaotic, but it's why their parents should, in fact, keep a tighter leash (figurative) on them until they can learn boundaries. If your kid's too young to respect boundaries, don't bring him around. Don't tell me he can. Don't say he's calm and able to keep his hands to himself. That's not being pro-child abuse, it's not hating kids, it's wanting to keep my space mine. Christ.
I agree with you as Charlotte read the post it struck me the a lot of people were saying the same thing and my experience (as a teacher) is that when multiple people say the same thing (it shouldn't have been said in front of her) something is up. I feel that the mom didn't have much control over her child.
My thoughts exactly. The tent story seems a bit concerning and makes me think OP might want to pay more attention to what her kid is doing. I mean, I know stuff happens and you can't always prevent it, but it looks like "stuff" might be happening a little too often to be just happenchance. There's a reason people say that kids are a full-time job - it's true!
That toddler story sounds VERY one-sided. On 4 seperate occasions, several of her own friends, her partner's friends and her entire family (over 40 people in total) all had the same reaction to her child. That is probably not a coincidence...
Thats what i was thinking... If my math is correct, he was about 5 and ran around, made a tent collabse, touched everything (including the dog) in a strangers (for him) house and probably did a lot more to trigger these reactions... Don't get me wrong... I'm most certainly not on board how the friends and family reacted and what they said... but it sounds like this child is just behaving terribly! Of course he is 'only' 5, but he defentitly should understand the meaning of the word 'no' and being able to follow certain rules! (Sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language)
Yeah, he sounds very ill-behaved; I don't really like people professing they won't have children after seeing other people's (as Charlotte said, it's different when it's yours). I understand not wanting to have children because of overpopulation, etc. but it seems to me many people just don't want to be bothered and only see children as a burden (hence the "childfree" instead of "childless" fad, as if children were some kind of punishment). It's quite selfish. I even was told by one of those "childfree" people that "childless" should be reserved for people who CAN'T have children! That'd be so cruel! If you don't want to have children, then be my guest: it's not for everyone, and it's difficult. But don't pretend like you're more free than me or something. Children are not a burden, they are a responsibility but also a great joy.
It stated that he is 2 years old. So child between 2-3 years - they run, they touch everything and they want to do a lot. Also they scream when they want something and become upset easily when they hungry. This is really usual behavior. At this age children do not follow the rules and some of them cannot even talk properly so they can express all their needs. I mum of 3 and when asked the most difficult age I always says 2-3 years. She obviously was busy talking to friends and family member so child run wild as he would want to be occupied all the time with games, learning and playing. All really standard to me nothing unusual here.
I know of ONE time when my kids behaved badly like that and they got consequences for it. I’ve always been an “hands on” parent and very pedagogical and that have served me and the kids very well. I became a single parent of two when they were 4 and 5 years old and I always got so many compliments for my kids’ behaviors. I even traveled alone with them two the other side of the world (twice!) and I felt completely safe doing so because I knew I could trust them to behave. It’s completely possible to raise well behaved kids, you just need to actual parent them and not blame bad behavior on them “being just kids”.
I’m curious as to a few things. First, the kid seems to have a habit of running around uncontrolled and doing damage. Second, if dad wanted the OP to eat in peace, he should have watched his grandchild instead of trying to pawn it off on somebody else (who didn’t have the fun of making the kid). Finally , OP seems to not be learning anything. I’d cut contact with people who like to get in their little digs.
I‘m trying to wrap my head around how you would let your child „collapse a tent people where standing under“ and run into the street without putting them into timeout to cool off a bit… I‘m all for gentle parenting but some really young parents don’t seem to parent at all and it shows.
Where do you get the impression she did nothing about it? As the parent of a 2 year old, and someone who works with kids under 5, the number of times you have to discipline them to get a rule to stick can be in the 100s. It's not as simple as people make it out to be. Some kids get it on the 3rd time, some take much longer. Yes, lack of parenting can be the culprit a lot of the time, but I also know amazing parents who have their kids misbehave over and over despite very good discipline. Having a toddler is an exhausting experience.
Also the whole "he pulled a tent down???" I keep seeing... We don't know the context. Could be as simple as the tent was poorly put up and he was spinning around a pole or pulled the wrong rope once and a corner fell down a bit. Things can happen in an instant. Often kids laugh and run away when they know they've done something wrong out of nerves. Not out of malice.
@@TaraLeeGee if a 2yo can pull a large tent down, then its a deathtrap and its good they found out! And a 2yo have no sense of consequenses for actions, their think before act does not even kick in until 5-6yo and its not fully developed until 20+yo 🙃 so yeah, i wonder what they will do in a couple of years when he probably calm down and they have treated him like shit.. or he gets his diagnosis and they mistreated him bc hes not neurotypical and their treatment probably made him act out more.. they know when someone dont like them you know
Your kid collapsed the party tent, ran around in the street all the day so you couldn't even eat and you wonder why your friends and family are enjoyed because you can't parent your child. I bet she is one of those "i woud never say no to my little precious angel" moms.
Exactly. I have two kids one with ADHD but I know if they misbehave it’s my problem and shouldn’t be anyone else’s. Once the child knocked over the tent she should have left with him.
Yeah I kinda think there’s a reason people say that. I’m also willing to bet they don’t even mean it in a malicious way (except the stents saying she shouldn’t have gotten married). But like if all her kid is doing is causing chaos I wouldn’t want kids either lmao. Reminds me of my cousin’s kids. Definitely made me not want to have kids
I caught my ex-mother-in-law sticking her fingers down her throat to make herself sick, just after my now ex-husband had told her we were going on a trip. Made me realize her getting sick EVERY TIME we tried to go on a holiday was fake to stop us leaving. Ex-husband was her eldest, cherished son she called and needed to come around to her house 4 or 5 times a week to do chores, even though she had another adult son living with her. It was all about control.
The story about the cabin and the man wanting the GF he wants to spend his life with to pay, after insisting she pay I don't think the feeling is mutual any longer. He should start looking for another woman, probably a submissive woman with very little brains.
Ya if multiple people say things like "we decided not to have kids for another 10 years after watching you deal with your child" or "I don't want kids of my own now" that might be a sign to look at how your child is behaving & look into why people feel that strongly about your child's behavior. She's for sure downplaying the behavior & wanting affirmation that she's in the right & other people are just over reacting. I noticed sometimes parents are bias & blind to how badly their kids act, they want to believe their kids don't do anything wrong or that the behavior isn't that bad but if you don't teach your kid how to act in public or how to treat others with respect they'll never learn, toddlers can be mischievous but there's a limit from what's normal toddler behavior and what's spoiled brat behavior. She also said she didn't understand why they were saying those things in front of her when her kid is the one who made them feel that way like wtf? You as a parent are responsible for how your kid acts & treats people it's not the child's fault its yours for not treating the issues correctly when they happen. Idk it just seemed like she was trying to blame everyone else because they brought the bad behavior to her attention & started playing victim instead of trying to handle the situation like a parent should.
Oh yeah!! Making the entire tent fall down, is not something cute, quite concerning. I am assuming her brother had to sacrifice his food, and fix it up again. That snarky comment is not a nice one, and could have a little less salt.
@@nerdybunny2367 I'm sure her family has had a lot of moments when they had to give something up to help clean up after her kid, which is probably why her brother said "why? it's not my kid I should be able to relax" hopefully that kid doesn't go his whole life getting away with things like that. I honestly don't think anyone was trying to hurt her feelings maybe they just had enough and were trying every which way to bring her kids behavior to her attention?
The first story is just wow. The brother is a grown ass man. The dad is unbelievable, he doesn't deserve a father's Day. The mom as usual, resort to crying as emotional blackmail.
@@Jermbot15 is the guy not the father of his child? the uncle ruined HIS fathers day... noone seemed worried about that did they? in his own house no less. id make the uncle pay to have a new pizza delivered or say well.... uncle karen fucked up, parties over
If this would happened to a child without autism, inspite off uncle being an grown up as-ole, mom could give him something else to eat, but for an autistic child who is so sensitive to change texture or anything that a child without this issue would react and make a tantrum (with reason), to do that to this child not only your the worst uncle but you don't even understand how the world is for your nephew, you're a stup.... 🐴 a...
Wow that first one. As an autistic person who was a kid with a lot of food issues, thinking that I had a safe food to eat and seeing someone deliberately snatch that away from me would be soul crushing. I feel so bad for that kid, having THAT as an uncle and grandparents that clearly don't care about his wellbeing if they're blaming the mother for being appropriately furious and protective.
I think if she ever hosts anything again for the family, everything she serves should be something her child can eat. If they don’t like it, they can bring their own. I mean who takes food from a kid? And who eats 6 slices of pizza?
the last one reminds me of a friend who, when she was working as an aupair in the US, was expected to cook food for the entire family but she had to pay a fee to use their kitchen... crazy how some people think
My husband and I met in June 2010. Moved in together (my place) in July, found out I was pregnant in August. Married in March of 2011. My weird uncle was “trying” to explain to my cousin how we go married without a “wedding.” We eloped because at that point in our lives we saw who our family members really were and also didn’t have the money to throw a huge party. It was great, just the two of us and my big pregnant belly at the courthouse then Olive garden after. Needless to say for the 12 years we have been married and have added two more kids to our bunch, plus I’m pregnant with baby 4, we still hear that “something could happen because we got married so quickly.” It’s been 12 year, when will it end??? I think we are more committed to each other than ever before. We went through a lot to get to where we are now. We are happy and the kids are blossoming. Family sucks sometimes.
My wife and I got married five months after we started dating and were told by a lot of people we used to call friends that it wouldn’t last…that was 27 years and two kids ago and we’re still going strong. We were told repeatedly we married too young (I was 22, she was 18), married too quickly after our first date (five months), and/or had kids too early (our son was born three years into our marriage, our daughter was born nine years into our marriage). Every family member and friend who repeatedly told us all of that have all had multiple failed marriages/relationships. It’s sad to see them fail, but it’s laughable at the same time. My wife and I had to move to a different state to get away from the toxicity. The past four years have been the best in our marriage to date.
For that 2 year old one: if you meet one person who doesn't like your kid...it's probably just that person. But if everyone is upset after they meet your kid...you might just be the problem.
I agree, I have never made such comments when someone with children was visiting, despite me not liking children much, but hey, they can be cute and for a few hours, it is fun somewhat. But there was one exception: A colleague with her 3-4 year old son visited us. He ran around the house screeming, ran away when his mom wanted to take of his shoes, he ran with same shoes over our cremewhite couch until we could him and he fought tooth and nails when in mom took of his shoes (replacing them with house shoes. We had a bowl with pears and apples standing in the dining room. He bit in all fruits, just once and put them back into the bowl for us to find. He didn't want his pie....so he threw the hole plate on the floor.Oh,and he was calling his mom dumb cow often. He ran after our cats, despite beeing told numerous times to leave them alone. Cought one on her tail and pulled her trough the room. That was the point when I put my foot down. I told her that either she manages to get her son to sit down and be quiet right now, or it would be better if she left; that I like her very much, but her son would not be welcome anymore until he gets some manners. So if so many people tell a mother, that her son is a therapy to heal people from wanting children, I think said child might be a menace.
I have children on the spectrum and this has happened to me by horrible disgusting family members! Now I ALWAYS make sure that my kids food is taken first… secretly… in the kitchen! That way no one can make an issue about food for my kids - because you see if you make things an issue, they will be an issue!!! Eating can be a real issue for children on the spectrum and eating disorders are common! Don’t f*ck with childrens food!!!!! 🤬🤬🤬
Good on ya mom! If there is a reason to put your hands on a family member, it is when that grown @$$ family member is passive aggressive towards my child! On the spectrum or not, don’t mess with my kids! I was never a picker eater myself but all of my kids have some form of food preference that I will absolutely go to the mat for!
@@yriel2 the brother in this story is lucky it didn’t occur at one of my family functions. I’m the middle of seven siblings and we would’ve all escorted him out and the six brothers beat the 💩 out of him while our sister held open the car door. Inexcusable!
It's great that you do - but you shouldn't have to. That man-child knew what he was doing. It's not as if it was a mistake. I'd do the same as OP - never host a family event at my house again. If I had a child, especially one with special needs, and you'd disrespect my child, you'd be uninvited indefinitely. We may talk about it again once you're grown up mentally.
My half-sister's dad was getting re-married (for the third time). When asked if she wanted to come to the wedding the grooms own mother said, "No, I'm going to have a heart attack that Wednesday." Everything thought she was being an ass. Then she had a heart attack on the exact day of the wedding. People still talk about the time Granny Gail stuck it to the entire gossipy family by planning a heart attack not just to prove them wrong but also to actually get out of going to the wedding. This woman is some kind of legend or some kind of demon, not sure.
Also if a woman thinks she is having a heart attack she needs to go to the ER NO MATTER WHAT heart attacks in women are so much more subtle so people shouldn't fake them but if a woman is confident she is having one that's an incredibly bad thing
You can teach your child not to touch what is not theirs. I did, my other sisters did not .my parents made note of this to me. Yes, teach your children well
If a lot of loved ones in unrelated situations are saying your kid is a good reason for them to not wanting to have kids, perhaps you're not doing a good job parenting and your kid is a nightmare. For the few bits she let drip, this kid sounds like someone I wouldn't want near me.
I once knew a couple that would sleep in separate rooms and the girlfriend would be required to pay the boyfriend a significant percentage of her paycheck despite him earning at least 5 times more than her. He basically had the master bedroom with full furnishings including a king size bed. She had a small guest room with a twin sized bed and limited furnishings. They justified this by saying his work schedule required it. They were together for about 10-15 years. Eventually, she left citing their lack of equality and him never encouraging her to accomplish more. She felt he kept her down. Anyway, he is exactly the type of person that would require payment from someone in a relationship. The last story reminded me of him.
That last story seems more like him not wanting to pay his part or as much. You don’t invite someone then tell them to pay. I could see if they had been together for a few years or engaged but they’re newly dating.
@@ViolosD2I Frankly, I don't recall how the relationship started. Her prior roommate was his brother. Regardless, the power dynamic was very one-sided. She could not afford much and he dictated almost everything. It's not really about covering rent or buying furniture. It was about being in a partnership or an equal relationship. She never felt equal because she wasn't. Even his brother would encourage her to leave. After a while, we stopped telling her to leave because we felt she would never do it.
My 65 yr old childless aunt asked out loud in mixed company if my 3 yr old child had an off button...we were outside and she wasn't bothering anyone...just chasing lightning bugs. Lost a ton of love and all respect for her. I realized she probably said things like that about us when we were kids, too. Another childless aunt of mine (now in her 70s) loves my kids and treats them like they are her grandchildren.
The story at 3:30 - Having kids around people that don't want any is obnoxious already. Having kids that are constantly getting into things and needing constant supervision is even more so and is not anyone else's problem but the parents who CHOSE to have them (and no, "as kids do" is not an excuse). Your kid took down an entire tent with people under it. Why does someone else have to clean up that mess, family or not? I'm sick of people who choose to have kids and can't control them, then blame everyone else who is annoyed by them because they think everyone should just be "accepting & accommodating." Nope, doesn't work that way. Your kids, your problem. Society (even family & friends) do not owe you anything.
My mother also said she had missed periods, said she was nauseous, and began regularly taking pregnancy tests, while she was over fifty years of age and coinincidentally this all started when my three sisters in law all announced they were all pregnant. Turns out mom was in Menopause of course.. The absolute insanity. My little sister, the youngest was 17
I think it's so sad & petty for mothers to be jealous of their own daughters. It's like those mothers or MIL's who show up at their daughter's or future DIL's weddings in a literal WEDDING DRESS!!!
Ah right , I have a juicy one too. So my aunt at one family gathering said very loudly that I've been LAZY cause I havent had children. So I went and said " I mean, im graduating my second career and going for a magister, I didn't marry into money with a cheating old guy cause I didn't finish highschool, but I guess old people like you can't know better so oh well" When they tried to use my mom as an insult "Oh you're just like your mom" I went "Of course im like her! She's educated and she graduated!" Never ever was I invited to that shit again and im glad xD
Good! Why are so many people hung up about women not having kids or being in a relationship? I'm childless, not married, & don't even have a boyfriend. However, I have a good career & I'm happy with my life.
On the 2year old case....Im getting bad parenting vibes. Im getting I dont teach and discipline. Yes kids are kids, and yes there are entitled selfish adults BUT the fact that every single person that comes in contact with your child has something so negative and to so publically say is raising red flags. All this people she mentions are from different families, backgrounds, ages, social groups etc yet they all have the same opinion about your child? 🤔
This could've maybe been in a video about entitled parents if written from the perspective of the family and friends. Perspective is key and (most) people can't really describe situations like that subjectively or empathetically towards others' perspectives
When my son was around two we rented a vacation house with family. The day we drove up we forgot milk. It was evening and stores were closed so we couldn't get any until morning. My son threw a tantrum and cried for over an hour. It was terrible, but he finally settled down. He had been calm for maybe a half hour when his uncle walked up to him and asked him if he wanted any milk. His face lit up and he excitedly said yes. Then his uncle said, "Too bad we don't have any." That started another tantrum and crying jag of over an hour. Thank god they are now divorced and I nor my kids will ever see that "uncle" again.
Sounds like any one of my uncles. (My aunts had terrible taste in men.) I was in my mid-thirties before I realized that some people feel affection for their uncles.
For the grandma heart attack one. Mine did a simular thing when my family went to Niagara falls with my whole family (6 members from out of town as well). We didn't even make it to the falls when she "started to feel faint" after 45 minutes she drove herself to the hospital convinced she was about to have heat stroke. She was discharged almost as soon as she got in and was told to just drink water.
I know the mom came to vent but....maybe she's doing a bad job. I had my kids about the same age and none of my friends (even very vocal plan to be childfree friends) did not react that way but also my kids didn't pull down a literal tent and run into the street laughing or have to be carried around people's houses to limit destruction. Being around bad kids can definitely make a bad impression for people....
I agree. My husband and I decided to be child-free, we like children, but we just don't want to have them. My brother-in-law has 3 amazing kids, they are very well-behaved and sweet. I remember thinking when I met them years ago that If I ever had children, I wished they were like them. My sister-in-law has also 3 children and it's not a pleasant experience to be around them, however, I don't blame the children because their mother and their father are not the best role models.
It also made me wonder tone, some of the comments could be a bit joke-y depending on tone, and this person could still be taking it personally. I do have follow up questions about this kids actions though. I do not have kids, but my brother threw a rock at my head when he was 2, not take out a tent and maniacally run into the street.
i have to agree with this take! a little discipline goes a long way.. a bit rude for everyone to point it out in the manner with which they did, but i think they're just trying to tell the mom that her kid is a little turd ball lol
I was the "black sheep" of the family and I was told my life would be shite. My husband and I got married when I was 19 and we were told we married too young and would end up divorced within 5 years. 33 years later, we are still married and the most stable of all my siblings. I love my husband and my life. I have purple hair and tattoos and now my parents have learned that despite that, I am a better person than the rest of my siblings.
I'm glad your marriage was successful. Most people base these comments on statistics. In general, young marriages no longer succeed like they did a couple of generations ago. My brother graduated in 1975 and out of the 35 couples who married within a couple of years of graduation, only he and my late SIL were still married 30 years later.
OMG I have purple hair and tattoos! I met my hubby at 19 and we’ve been married 27 years and we too were told we would never last!!!! I’m the only one still married among my close friends as the rest are divorced 🤦🏻♀️ I have two amazing kids too (nearly killed me but I didn’t realise that until I got pregnant) Sooooo many people told hubby to ‘run the f*ck away’ I was told he was far too old for me (gap of 9 years) and it would never last as we were far too different!!! God I love throwing it back in their faces! Especially the awesome tat I got for him this year 😂
My catty MIL strongly suggested (and directly told her other son the day after his wedding!) That she just didn't see either of her son's marriages lasting. Both of them were getting married as adults to women they had been with for several years. On the first mother's day after BIL got married, we all took her out for breakfast, and as soon as we were comfortably seated, she let our a long siiigh, looked off with ennui,and announced to the table her astonishment that night of her son's had married the girl she had chosen for one of them to marry (a somewhat catty single mother whom neither of them had anything in common with and did not even come close to dating) Imagine the tone at the table? Ultimately she and FIL became SO abusive after we had kids that we went no contact. Sadly, BIL remained very close to them, and was divorced in under five years.
Had this too. My family may have thought me the lowest form of life, and my abusive mother told me I was a guttersnipe. But I had the last laugh as they died without knowing that due to my actions in an accident in Australia, a few people think and treat me as a hero having saved a girl's life, even though I was seriously injured myself. The girl now has two children, so I guess that I have changed history down there, regardless of what they thought of me.
My brother in law injected himself into a conversation i was having with one of my guests at my new years Party and then changed the topic onto me and how I did not attend family events.. I was never invited to because I have a disability and could not go visit family.. He made a scene and stormed off dragging my sister with him.. My mom took his side.. and when I called to ask her for a recipe she said I will not get it because I didn't come see her.. I AM DISABLED! She would come to town to see my sister but not me. We live 3 blocks away.. this happened since 2010.. this is a petty and an entitled story all in one.. I cut those family members out of my life. Since built a new relationship with my biological father.. and my sisters kids who apologized for their parents behavior 🙄
I am glad for you, that you cut out those family members. It's a difficult decision you had to make, but it was the right one! I wish you all the happiness in live.
@@reberi Thank you! I forgot to mention.. my brother in law, before he married my sister lived with us and was behind on rent.. he received $7500 from his dad to pay bills.. he did not.. he said now it is his money and he can do what he wants with it.. never caught up on rent and his dog chewed up my $200 boots.. would not reimburse me for them.. so many more stories.. but, yes, I made a hard but good decision
The story from the mother with a two-year-old brought to mind one of my favorite Graham Norton quotes: "Children are like farts. No one is ever quite as offended by their own."
I think the story with the 2 yr old where she felt everyone making comments about not wanting kids was a hint and “nice” way of saying your kid is a menace do something about him before he destroys something else.
When I was 19 my father had just bought a used Lincoln Towncar from an auction that he insisted that I drive while he drove my grandmother's car. Later that day I got pulled over because the car tag had been expired for three years. Long story short, he decided that I should pay the $1600 ticket so he wouldn't have to pay the $1100 tag fee. He resold the car not long after (for a profit!) and I got stuck with paying the ticket. And no, at that age I didn't think I needed to double check the tag because I was naive and assumed I could trust my father.
i bought a car from my mother, when i was 17. made payments on it for 9 months prior to her finally letting me have and drive it. id paid 900 of 1500 off. the day she gave me the keys, the clutch went out. it cost me 900 sollars to fix. when she asked me for the next payment, which came due about 3 weeks after, btw i lived with her so she KNEW the car broke down and i had to pay that repair bill! when she asked where the next payment was, i slapped the repair bill down on the table and said, its right there. you owe ME 300 dollars, because 900 is what i paid to have it repaired, and i owed you 600 hundred left in payment, and i ended up paying more so, wheres my 300 dollars? ill expect it by end of day tomorrow. i had already transferred the title to my name so she couldnt take the car back. she tried to fight me and called the cops saying id stolen her car. when the cops arrived, they looked up title info and LOW AND BEHOLD its in MY name. they told her, she was SOL. she was so mad, but so was i and i refused to give her another cent on that car. eventually, she accepted it. the sticking pioint was that she KNEW the cars clutch was going out and let me buy it from her without A) informing me that it was failing and B)didnt offer to help me get it repaired or care that the clutch went out after midnight on a deserted road and i had to walk home alone and scared. this was before cell phones, couldnt just call from the car for help. so, i refused to back down that she would endanger her own child for money that way. i never got the 300 hundred from her. but she learned that day not to try and screw me over, i also learned my mom is willing to let me be in danger and have not trusted that she will ever have my back since. im 50 now and still to this day, i cant call her to ask for help in anyway without getting a bunch of shit from her, so i just dont rely on her for anything. she is only 67 now, so its not like she cant hop in her car to rescue me if something happens, like, i locked my keys in my car a few times and she has a spare and wouldnt come help me, said it was too cold for her to go out, while i was standing in the freezing cold at 2 am ( i worked swing shifts at a gas station at the time, hence being out at 2 am). i walked home. this is how selfish she is.
What sucks is you don't get to dump your father and try dating a new one. Thank goodness that for POS boyfriends/girlfriends/etc... you can do exactly that.
My step dad did a similar thing to me when I was 16. Tires were crap, I got into a bit of a wreck, he got full profit from insurance company, and still made me pay for the car. I got screwed paying that for 2 years. I found out he got reimbursed only accidentally finding records of it while moving my stuff out of the house 2 years after accident. Family can suck sometimes. Mine just does all the time.
Everyone has pretty much covered the first story! I'm going to question the last story about the cabin....just how much money does the "Uncle" rake in every year? Even at just 20 people, that's around $4-8000 dollars annually! Has anyone ever asked for receipts? Any type of accounting for the money? So many questions! One major comment though, that girlfriend needs to run! Run far, run fast....just saying....
@@jimmymckay73 You obviously missed the part where the GRANDPARENTS own the cabin!! The "fees" collected are for the maintenance and upkeep ONLY! Still LMAO and SMDH
I absolutely thought the same. I've always told my kids, husband & friends....if you go different places & its always your children (or a specific child) it might be you!😂
Oh man, that cabin one. Yikes forever! When my parents invited my boyfriend now husband to Spain for two weeks, the only thing we asked him to pay for was his plane ticket and some of the food costs while there. We ended up paying more than that for him though because an ATM machine ate his card. Literally, he had just put it in and than we saw the blue screen of death before windows XP loaded up and we both went "Oh no.", so yeah, not his fault.
Omg the level my stomach would drop to if that happened to me...I'd already be feeling anxious about having all that money spent on me. I mean I'd appreciate it and try to keep my mouth shut to not make awkwardness lol, I'm just awkward and weird about stuff like that...but to then not be able to pay for anything and still go. I'd have the anxiety and stress upset stomach the whole time I was abroad lol! Glad you all enjoyed a great trip together and it wasn't a big deal and didn't turn out poorly
The First one of this video really got me. She is not the asshole. I am high functioning autistic and I went to a school dedicated for special needs kids. And what the mother did was right. I don't know anyone who would do that to a kid. A lot of people would usually let this go. But what she did is what I wished a lot people do. What really get me on this post is how everyone was only thinking about the brother and father day being ruined and not thinking about anyone else.
The guy was an a-hole even if the kid wasn’t autistic! You just don’t do that to family let alone kids in the family. I’m all for a good ribbing, sarcasm, or rough housing to “toughen up” a kid but making it so the kid can’t eat is next level a-hole ish!!! Where I’m from (and given how much I can eat), a grown man makes up the end of the chow line.
yeah what kind of father defends his adult son picking on any child. And OPs father gets to "enjoy" father's day defending his son's immature behavior, but that child's father has to watch his child get bullied by family?
As a guest... you don't make them pay. My family have never had issues with doing things. One year, my sisters long-time family friend said she would pay for the house meals over the weekend. Then at the end of the weekend, they tallied up the cost and told us the cost per person except themselves since they went to the store, bought it (which we were now supposed to cover), & she made it. She offered. We didn't ask. Now, we were going to stop and get groceries on the way. They did that before us. I helped make breakfast every morning. We only had BBQ one night and sandwiches (which I couldn't eat) the next afternoon. We took them to lunch and dinner the other days and then had bought a big final breakfast. But my dad and I and my brother were offended. We paid for the cabin, the float trip, the zip line. We didn't offer to get the house food...she did. It caused some uncomfortable feelings between us all after 30 years of friendship between us all. Sometimes you have to be careful about how you word the way you talk. Also, when you marry into the family, you are no longer a guest, or are there for all the family functions, otherwise, you pay the way for your guests accommodations for YOUR family gathering. Anything else is just bad manners. This was our first family trip after my mom's passing. She offered to get the house food. Then hit us at the end of the trip, as we're about to go to breakfast, that her boyfriend expects to be paid back for the groceries. It was fckd. She knew it as she was asking for it. We've taken her on plenty of trips and she has never had to pay for anything with us because that's how we were raised.
I feel like the woman and her son is suspicious…. Like it sounds like her kid is ill-mannered and not well behaved because aside from that there’s honestly no reason for any of those comments and the comments seem to always follow an incident the way OP described it. I think seeing bad kids always makes people feel indifferent about children.
That's what i though too! We're only getting her side of the vent after all and the part where she said he pulled down the tent pole so that it collapsed on people and then ran out on to the street laughing, sounds like a ill-mannered child to me! (and i have 3 kids for anyone about to say anything;) ).
I feel the same. This kid seems awful. Yes it is a toddler, but I know very few toddler who could destroy a whole pavilion. Also those toddler in my family don't touch stuff they're not supposed to. I always say, you can train a gold fish, you can train a toddler (without hitting).
Indifferent sure but to make a statement that you don’t want kids is a little passive aggressive. I used to say that babysitting my nephews was the best form of birth control and as a result I didn’t have kids until I was 27. 😉
The pizza story reminded of one from over a decade ago. We had just had a funeral and a planting of the ashes for my dad. We were going to order takeout from my dad’s favourite Chinese restaurant to feed 4 kids 10 and up, (3 of them mine, and all kids somewhat picky eaters) and 7 adults. They asked me what my kids would eat, and I told the person doing the ordering, although I don’t know why they bothered asking because the only thing that they ordered that my kids would eat was a container of noodles that was designed to have 5-6 very small servings (makes sense because it was a side to go along with the rest of the food which my kids absolutely would not eat). As I commenced scooping noodles, I was told to put most of it back since it had to serve everybody. I’ve only seen those bitches for 1 wedding and a few funerals since. The last time I’ll probably see them again is when the last 2 elderly relatives (now in their 90s) cast off their mortal coils and I attend those funerals.
"Cast of their mortal coils" what an epic way to say someone died! I always said " ( person's name) has joined the ranks of Valhalla/ descended to the depths of Helheim" but yours is cooler.
We have several family memebers with dietary restrictions including 2 sisters who are gluten free, and my vegan son. When we are planning on eating together/ordering food we ALWAYS accommedate these family members. I can't fathom family doing this to each other!!! My son, who is vegan, is also extremely picky, (he is 18 now) and on the Autism spectrum. We make sure there is something for him, or he plans accordingly if accomidations cant be met.
WTF????? Sometimes family doesn't deserve the name... Two of my nephews have girlfriends that have dietary restrictions due to certain food in tolerances. They are always accommodated as much as possible and we will even prepare their portions separately to avoid any cross contamination. It's just what ya do for your loved ones 😍😍
As a mother of an child with autism, this first story makes my blood BOIL!. My daughter has ARFID (avoidant and restrictive food intake disorder) and literally will only eat about 10 things. If this happened around me I think him getting kicked out would have been the least of the worries for the family. If they had a problem they could all leave! FFS ! And a 45 year old man at that!... Now to continue watching the video!
whether the kid had autism or not or even if he was an adult just waiting his turn......who the heck does that?.....an adult man licked 6 slices of pizza... Yeah i would toss him too...after he paid for the pizza...dont be messing with my food....i am a big girl and i will sit on your butt and pry the money out of you.
If you know your kid is like this - then why would you agree to order shared food and then dictate to others what food they can eat and how much of it just so your kid can have what they want. He was over the top for licking the pizza BUT he wasnt wrong for taking the pizza. As a parent you'd either say "look, my kid is really picky so i will order and pay for a separate pizza" --- or youd put some to one side as soon as it arrived. You may understand your kids issues because you live with it...arguably some of the traits linked with autism are exaggerated by the parent being overprotective or just giving in to make it easier than working with the kid to encourage eating other food (after all, you wont always be there to look after them) - granted, this does depend on age and how extreme their condition is. Adam was definitely in the wrong BUT the whole situation could easily have been avoided had the mother not just assumed the rest of the family understood that they weren't allowed the cheese pizza
@@paul28177 No, Paul, the uncle ORDERED A MEAT LOVER'S PIZZA BUT DECIDED TO LICK THE BOY'S PIZZA PIECES. Yes, he was wrong for not just taking HIS pizza order. Also, the parents were paying for everything. Everyone in the family KNEW the boy ate just the cheese pizza. They probably thought the boy was just being a spoiled brat, and the uncle decided to "teach him a lesson", to "prove" he can eat anything if he doesn't have a choice. It's not about being "picky". It's about being so sensitive that some flavors, textures, and sensations of food make the food inedible. I mean, you probably wouldn't eat eggs with shells, fish with bones, food that smells spoiled, or something that feels like eating frog eggs. Think about the worst thing to eat, I don't know what you eat, but for example insects. The sensation is like that. You don't have the same experience, but I'm Autistic, and that is the experience. It's not about "encouraging the kid to eat other food". I'm sure one can "encourage" you to eat shit as much as they want, and you still wouldn't eat it.
They cabin story is so crazy. It's like saying let's go visit my parents for the weekend and hey... you're gonna need to give them $200 towards their monthy HOA fee. 😆
That kid sounds like he has no boundaries. I wouldn't wanna help with him either. No that's not as children do. Clearly they've seen this kids antics and are not having it. You don't have to wrangle other ppls kids. I have six niblings while being child free. I have every right to say no I'm not watching ur kid when I don't wanna.
I don't have kids either but the kid is a toddler. This behavior is normal for a toddler, and its a nice gesture to help your sister out when she visits so she can maybe have a little bit of a break and enjoy her time too. Besides the way her family behaves and talks about her makes her feel ostacized which is messed up. Is she owed help? No. Should her brother have helped her? Yes. Its what nice and considerate people do, they try to make life a little bit easier for people around them when they see a need.
@@cultmecca i feel like we only got one side of the story. Sounds like they are sick of helping with the kid. If they weren't they probably would have helped. But it seems like it was the last straw.
@@cultmecca it’s her job to parent her kid. She’s not entitled to other people doing it for her. She had the kid. She gets to parent the thing and she’s not
As someone with a lot of eating issues based on sensory sensitivities I AM DISGUSTED by the first one. "They'll eat when they're hungry" DOES NOT WORK with autistic people or those with eating disorders. That behaviour would send me into "no contact" mode. That person would not be allowed in my home again.
Yeah, as a person w. Ana; when I've relapsed, if none of _my_ "safe" foods are available when I get hungry, I just chug a litre of water & go to bed w. a sleeping pill. That story broke my heart, that poor child.
Even if it was a child who was “just picky,” who goes into another person’s home as a guest and tries to “correct” the behavior of the host’s child? It was a total non-issue until the uncle stirred the figurative pot: the parents provided food their kid would eat AND food that the uncle specifically requested for himself! I mean, what the heck?!
With the whole family being jealous of getting all the attention, any time my husband and I post ANY picture of our two girls in the family chat, my one brother-in-law has to post pictures of the "horrible thing that happened to his son" to divert attention to him and his family. Recently, We posted pictures of when we went to the shore, within 3 minutes, my brother-in-law was capitalizing on my nephew's pain by sending pictures of the gash my nephew got when he fell off his bike. When my youngest was born, he posted within 10 minutes that something "bad" happened to his son (a skinned knee, literally). It's gotten SO old, I'm convinced that he enjoys his kids' pain just so he can get attention. When called out, he claims that he's not doing it for attention, he's doing it to update the family. Kinda funny how it's timed.
This is literally my uncle and aunt. I hardly ever post in our family whatsapp chat but when I do, it's because of something cool that happened to me or I am traveling and want to share pictures. Same with my brother and sister actually. Without fail, any time one of us posts something, he posts about his children and something bad or good that happened to them. I am in America on holiday, posting pictures of the Empire State Building? "Oh look at my son who just got his first grade certificate 3 days ago and how good it is." I am in Scotland, having just hiked up a mountain for the first time in my life (I am fat, this was a HUGE feat for me!) and posting pictures of the incredible views and how I am feeling? Not even a reaction! "My daughter went to the pool today!" Bruh.
Next time you have something important to say, write: Hey, BIL: I have great news, so start first talking about what happened to your son before, please. 🤣
Ok, so the one complaining about her childfree relatives and friends. At first when I read the title I was like "ok no one should judge you for your decision to have or not have children." (I say this as someone who is childree and will never have kids per my own choice). If you want kids, great. It sounds like maybe at the time of the pregnancy things weren't "perfect" for them, but heck, no one and nothing will ever be "perfect" and at leat per the post, sounds like they are stable now with him working as a full-fledged doctor. I will never judge someone for choosing to have kids. Some people really, really want a family with kids, etc. And that is great. BUT it is YOUR responsibility to raise YOUR child that YOU chose to have. It isn't anyone else's responsibility to chase after your 4-year old, but your's and your husband's. Where was dad during this family reunion? Why couldn't he watch the kid while mom ate? Why is it everyone else's responsibility to chase around your child at a reunion? Also the kid is 4 (per information in the post), not 1.5-2 years old. He is basically pre-school age and should darn well know how to follow verbal commands with fairly limited need to get up and physically reprimand. And if you do need to get up an physically reprimand put him in a timeout nearby and sit/eat-- or put him down for a nap. And why is your dad suggesting your brother help-- why dosen't your dad get off his butt and chase around the 4-year old-- why is he volunterring someone else to help, if he feels you need assitance, he can do it himself. Also every "example" she gave in this post involves her kid running around, touching things, knocking things down, misbehaving and overall causing trouble and then she scratches her head and wonders why no one is overjoyed and excited to deal with that. My guess is they are giving this kid zero direction and zero discipline and this kid is an absolute brat and half everywhere he goes so of course she gets those comments. Kid running into the street and what is she doing? My parents would never allowed us to do half of what she mentioned in that first paragraph that she seems to think is no big deal for her 4 year old to be doing. Discipline your kid and teach him to behave and the comments will change. Edit: I see she says the kid is 2 years old now. Ok, that math really doesn't quite work. If she married at 23, fell pregnant a few months later, let's say she did turn 24 before getting pregnant, 9 months later, she would still be 24 when the kid is born. She is now 27 years old. So kid has to be at least 3 years old or very, very close to it at the youngest. And honestly that is worse as you can easily pitch up a playpen for a 2 year old so that you can sit, eat and chat with family for a little while.
I'm very glad I found this comment. I was quite surprised that reddit dubbed this person not the ahole and not an ESH, seeing how brutal people on reddit are. And reading the story gave me so much anxiety because there's an exact same specimen in my family as well. The kind of kid that will make you rethink your stance on parenthood. He screams bloody murder, throws food if he's told ''no''. His parents dont teach him any sort of discipline. When his grandparents try, the mother starts insulting them for ''abusing'' her precious angel. We also have definitely passed some comments like the ones mentioned here, just not in front of them. I personally try my best to avoid any family gatherings if I find out they'll be attending.
@@meghaghosh2545 So I searched for that post on reddit and the OP posted it in a parents reddit thread, so she simply got the echo chamber that she was searching for. That she is amazing and wonderful and everyone else is an asshole and don't deserve to be around her percious little son. I would never allow a kid to injure themselves or put themselves in danger, however, if I am having to intervene to keep someone's child from potentially dying because they won't intervene themselves. They are REALLY not going to like my intervention because child is losing the privilege to participate, is 100% getting disciplined in a way that is age appropriate for them and mother (or father) (or both) are getting one heck of a scolding from me. And I don't care who I piss off. I am sure if she had posted this in the /amitheasshole reddit thread she would have been chewed up and spit back out, but she didn't so she got her ego-inflating "you are a good mom, ignore the haters" echo chamber.
2nd story with the mom who delayed heart surgery; Honestly I would have faked my own death and make my dad bring her an urn with ashes saying "our child didn't survive surgery. The doctor's said it had been too long. The surgery should have been performed before... I'm sorry. Here they wanted to to have this. I'm sorry I can't handle seeing you now you remind me too much of (our child) goodbye." And both child and dad go zero contact forever!
i once faked needing eye glasses when i was little and pretended i couldn't see anything without them. The Doctor handed me some glasses and i pretended i could suddenly see everything clearly. then he handed me a book, and it turned out they were 3d glasses for this storybook 🙈
My mother took me to the doctor to see if I had a brain tumor because of all my headaches. He told her to switch from yummy children's aspirin to half an adult aspirin. It was a miracle cure!
I was 15 when I called out my Great Aunt on her rude entitled ass. 15!! No other family members never dared (they were scared to) She lost her shit and she ‘banished me’ I still laugh thinking about it.
@@felinemoonchild yeah, so basically she called my mum and said “she no longer exists” she had that side of the family against me. She was going to everyone talking shit behind my back. I nicknamed her cruella de ville And a year later I saw her in the shops and I started singing ‘cruella De ville’ just loud enough so she could hear me 😂
@@thomasjoseph5876 , I'm not saying this is the reason why this woman was on the pill, but the birth control pill was developed to help regulate women's menstrual cycle. It was discovered after the fact, that it also prevented pregnancy. Many women take the pill for help with period issues. I did.
I broke up with a cheap dude. That wasn’t necessarily the reason, but it helped towards the end. He was staying with his mom, and never paid for groceries while living with her. I went out with him, his family, and a couple friends of his. As I was looking at the menu he gave me two choices to pick from. His friend asked if he was telling me what to order, and offered to pay for my meal. He said I could order whatever I wanted. Love him for that. I have kids with a previous partner, and he never bought a gift for them until I told him it was over. I had given him reasons like the fact he liked to remind me he wasn’t picking up their dads slack. My kids dad is in a very controlling relationship, so didn’t help out much, or attend school, and sporting events. Dad, and stepmom were delusional, and thought inviting them meant I was trying to be with him. I would want to be there for kids who had an absent parent. Kids should feel important, worthy, and loved.
@@ViolosD2I him asking her to pay for a family thing when she's just meeting the family for the first time is really not fair at all by what you said. He clearly needs a discussion with his family about this deal and explaining how she's a guest and that he shouldn't be paying for both because honestly both him and his family were being rude about it.
All the other arguments are valid, but I think the most important thing ppl are forgetting is that he INVITED her to go and meet his family. Since when does one pay for accommodation when invited to stay somewhere???? That is insane. If the gf wanted to offer to bring along food, drinks or anything else that would be nice, but also not an obligation when invited.
former pre k teacher here: In 15 years work in wealthy privé schools I can confirm that many parents have kids for the social status among their Friends and co workers, to hold on to a man for a prenup clause etc all very selfish reasons. more ppl have kids for their own gratification (someone to love me no matter what) than you think. it is terrifying.
i get shit for my reason i might want to get kids a lot, but i think its a better reason than most people have: i think i would be a good parent, able to raise a functioning and kind adult that makes the world better and i wanne prove that to myself.
Yup. Or people making babies just to "save" their failed marriage. Or just to give a sense of fullfilment to their empty lives. Or to play with their baby like a doll. Or to control and mold another human being. To get the children allocations. To have a free caregiver when they're old. Most people have kids for bad or selfish reasons
Some poor kids are deemed a welfare/SNAP benefit, tax write off or an earned income credit. Anytime you try to shop after the first part of the month, there's a ton of screaming kids following their parents around spending the welfare and SNAP. You always see people at tax time spending their "kids'" money and quite a few of them around the 15th of every month during the pandemic walking out of Walmart with TVs, etc. Works on both ends.
The first story is so common, many parents give the problem child a pass and expect the responsible one to be the bigger person at all times and because that dynamic has been raised for decades they get upset when the responsible child had enough and "upsets the natural family order".
I have a son with autism as well and for some reason family members have it in their minds that they can just “get over” their OCD, obversion, fixations or even their focus of stemming. It does not work that way. It takes YEARS of behavior conditioning, and help, and even after that, they may be fixated on that one thing again after some traumatic event. Saying this, my older sister does EXACTLY, the same thing. She will lick his pizza, mix up his food ( He will EVER eat any food mixed together, it has to all be separated in its own section), put raisins or olives in things…he will take an extra hour picking that crap out. He also separates vegetables when they have been stir fried, which is okay with me, but my sister will add insult to injury and mix the rice, veggies, meat, and everything else together, just to mess with him and laugh about it. I told her, you just don’t know how infuriating this is for him. He is absolutely too kind hearted to say anything to you, but this is cruel on the highest level. She laughs it off. Still does it, and still doesn’t care. He does tell her, “your not my favorite Auntie.” HAHAHAHAHA Which kills her.
I can understand if your sister didn't know, but that's just bullying. Whenever I make food for someone I've never made food for, I ALWAYS ask about allergies, food sensitivities, & even if what I plan to make is good with them.
"Behavior conditioning" and "help" = force us to mask constantly, to the point of losing who we truly are, to be deemed "normal enough" for everyone else. Eventually leading to burnout, many times SH/suicide. Just let us be ourselves. We're wired differently; we're going to act differently, which is natural.
That's absolutely horrible. She's going out of her way to be an absolute dick to someone just because of certain food issues. That's so childish and literally bully mentality, there is not reason at ALL for people to take that stuff so personally and torment hothers because of these things, that really don't take much effort to heed to. In fact she's going more out of her way to be horrible. Gross
When my Mom got older and could really afford the cottage herself (and do all the work), we shifted some of the cost to us as kids. We also did a bit of selective logging, and paid for repairs etc. We did actually charge friends to stay there. Like, they rented it for the weekend, without us. My best friends brother and his friends went up there for his bachelor party, gave us a little bit of cash and cut a PILE of firewood. They had to put in a bit of work (help with sweeping up before we left, etc), but we never charged anyone for being a guest.
I went to an extended family birthday party. The birthday boy, was 8 I think. The mom's boyfriend smashed the kid's face into the cake. I couldn't believe how horrible it was for the kid. What kind of creep does that stuff to kids? I am child free by choice and have heard it all, including someone telling me, in front of my husband, you will want them when you meet the right man. Uggg
wow! ive never understood that. i saw a video once where someone did that, and a support had been placed in the cake, a wooden dowel, and it went right into the persons eyeball. NEVER shoved shit into someones face. its so vile. even at my wedding, i told my husband we will not be doing that as its wasteful and abusive to be honest. i said, if we wanna smear a little with a fork on each other ok, like, be sensible, but that whole cake in the face is just UGH. plus i have a fear of having my face covered so, maybe its just me.
I was lucky I guess. When I decided to have a hysterectomy at 35, without having had children, something that my partner and I had agreed to, only one person raised an eyebrow. My cousin didn't want me to do anything that I might regret. She had good intentions, and after hearing what I had to say, she accepted my reasons for making this decision. Firstly, we were 35(me) and 40(him) so not youngsters, we were struggling financially for various reasons, I was raised with physical, emotional, and verbal abuse, and I had some emotional and patience issues, and I was frightened that I wouldn't be a good parent. It's not that I don't love children, I adore them, which is why I couldn't risk being in any kind of way, abusive. Given all that, and that the pain and everything else horrible surrounding my periods was getting worse, and disrupting about 3 weeks out of every 4, the hysterectomy was a good choice for me. Actually, most of my childhood friends chose not to have kids, mostly because they didn't want to be parents, not for any of the reasons that applied to me. Why anyone thinks this is the business of any one other than the couple themselves, is so bloody bizarre to me. Mind your own shit Auntie Karen and Uncle Kevin!
Yeah... This kid sounds pretty annoying tbh. I have a friend with such a kid and honestly I'm done to be always the babysitter every time we meet up. I honestly prefer not to meet up at all at this point because it is absolutely exhausting every single time. I rather call or chat then. May be rude to say it, but doesn't change it. Her kid is super annoying.
I wondered about that story, too. It sounded to me like the woman was oblivious to her out-of-control toddler and became offended by others who did not appreciate having to be around such a child.
That wasn't the complaint. They all called her out on it and it felt like raining insults. It's a 2year old child you can't 'reason' or train the child in a few months really. It takes time. But them bringing her down now when he's just two? How will they do when he's 7 then? Yes she needs to train her kids better. But that doesn't warrant them acting like he's disgusting. He's 2. If you've been around children you'd understand.
10:20 Why does anyone in the family thinks she - as an outsider - should pay for their family cabin!?? Make it make sense. This rule should naturally apply to family only
Charlotte smacking the names out of the air at 1:58-2:00 is *chef’s kiss*!! This channel is SO fun with Charlotte, the awesome editing, and the good times-keep up the great work!!!
The fake heart attack reminded of a person I met in college. She was a middle child in a family with nine children living at or below poverty level. Parents struggled with the whole situation and the older kids were expected to care for the younger kids. She learned that the best way to get attention was to be sick...or fake it. Any gathering that included her broke up early when she began to feel ignored and her "headaches" and "upset stomach" made an appearance.
These people remind me of two characters on a couple of older TV shows; Bewitched (Darren Stephens) and Andy Griffith (Howard Sprage). The mother was a snooty woman and she was played by the SAME ACTRESS!!! She was always coming down with something when the attention wasn't on her, especially having a "sick headache". I don't know if you watched them but she was so pathetic for attention.
My brother did this last year 😩he insists on visiting everyone and their mama and then coming home with it i don't kiss him anymore when he comes home i was so pissed
I got right after Halloween last year because my mom went to a party, that was indoors, no masks, in very close quarters with someone who very casually said “i just tested positive for covid.” Of course, a few days later my mom gets sick, and she never gets sick. Because me and my son live with her, and the “just tested positive” woman slipped her mind, she was less than careful until she started to lose her sense of smell and taste. She tested positive later than week, and me and my tested positive the week after.
I got it when it was brand new and no one knew what it was. It's how I got it! My late best friend was going to Florida and my dad sent me with her because she had pancreatic cancer and didn't want her traveling alone. We were there for a week and the day we were coming home she made us go to the airport 5 1/2 hours before our flight. Two days after I got home I was horribly sick. The hospital said it was the flu and I'll be fine in 7 - 10 days. 5 weeks later I was finally better.. I hated flying before but that was literally my last time ever.
I seriously wish people could be charged and given a hefty fine for giving what could be a death sentence to someone just because they are assholes who don't like to be inconvenienced by safety measures, and very obviously don't give a shit about anyone else but themselves. Sorry you have to deal with that. I'd be way more than a bit pissed; I'd be furious. Sending well wishes your way.
For the first story and as an autism mama, good for that dad for standing up to his POS family! That 45yo brother is literally the worst and I would have to control myself to not want to claw his face
For the cabin story I think the $200-$400 fee was per person, not divided up by number of people. So he expected a few hundred dollars from her (not $50).
@@reberi A leaky, overcrowded and run down cabin... She should go, but get a room for that 400 dollars (a real nice one) and join them during the day if they want to meet her so bad. Until she has a wedding ring on her finger, she is an invited guest, invited guests don't pay. Charlottes right, would she be allowed to use the cabin after paying her share for a weekend getaway with just her girlfriends? I'm guessing the family would have a problem with that.
As someone on the spectrum, 1st story; Well done for being a great father! It would have been horrid for a non Autistic kid too, but us? Texture/taste is VERY important. Well done Mr Dad! Brilliant.
I would have kicked them out then and there One thing tho autist to autist, when refering to people with or without autism/aspergers its important to remember to say person with//without autism, people love to define us by our neurodivergence and that's part of why we are so widely demonised
I feel kind of mehh about the lady with the kid. Because like yeah, they shouldn't be saying those things to her face, but it's clear that she has no control over her kid. I mean, he brought down a tent on everyone and then ran into the street laughing about it? Like that's not normal toddler behavior. I work with 4 year olds, if a child had done something like that and people were upset, most of them will apologize or start crying. And if your kid is 2, then I feel like they are even likelier to cry, and also what were they doing unsupervised for so long that the tent came down on everyone? And then if everyone in her life is saying that they don't want kids (because of her kid), then yeah, your kid--or rather, how you handle your kid--is a problem.
Yup. They could have more tact but also they aren't outright saying she needs to be a better parent which is probably the case. Though to be honest I kinda get ADHD vibes.
I'm wondered where the "doctor" hubby she had to mention,is. The rest of the complaints were all about her and how the kid acts. If the kid had issues, would the doctor husband see the signs or gave a colleague check him over?
I have a story for the most WTF thing a member of the family has done. My dad's MIL, my grandmother from my mums side, is probably the cruelest person I know and most likely a psychopath. Even before I was born she was cruel and uninterested in her daughter, my mum, and her SIL's life and the treatment towards her in her childhood, by today's standards, is downright abusive. My brother and I are her oldest grandchildren and even when we were born, would miss birthdays, holidays or life events which pissed my dad off to no end. By my 10th birthday, she didn't show up despite promising, my parents had had enough and cut contact. 3 years later, my dad's parents had passed away within a few weeks of each other and this was tough on the family including my mum, who thought of her MIL and FIL as her own parents. At the funerals, while my brother and I were bawling our eyes out in grief, my Dad's MIL showed up, walked past us and proceeded to say to my aunt and say "Oh you must be so heartbroken, I'm so sorry!" ect. She had the absolute audacity to show up to their funerals, when she didn't even speak to them once and didn't even as much as glance at her grandchildren, her daughter or SIL. Needless to say, my parents were not happy with her appearance there and since then, I have no qualms about the depths she will stoop to, in order to make any occasion about her so she can gain something. When I found this out, I have felt nothing but hatred for this woman and if she were to ever see me or speak to me, I will not even do that, she doesn't deserve my attention after pulling such a stunt.
I had an aunt tell me my blended family was "too much" we haave 7 between us, they are super well behaved (in public lol) I said why, and she said "you have to mother 7 children" with a look of distaste, I quickly retorted, "I know, they are so lucky, their dad could have met you" and I walked away. 😂 I have NEVER had negative comments about thier behavior. That child is feral, and mum needs to get off her arse and parent.
I have a strange feeling that the story about the chick who is the only one she knows with kids is leaving out the fact that she has a bad ass kid that she refuses to chastise to a point where the kid goes around breaking everyone's things and constantly putting itself in harms way like tearing down a whole tent then running in traffic bc it thinks its funny call me an ah all u want but if your child is a like that i can see why people would be turned off with u bringing them to events where there are only adults tryna relax 🤔🤷♀️
I have looked after kids like this and had to personally teach them boundaries myself. I can almost guarantee that the behaviour is 90% the parents fault. Honestly the kid is the one that is suffering from this situation
@@ladyj.9350 I absolutely agree most of them refuse to teach boundaries to the children and get offended when others attempt to do so which leads to them playing victim when people decide they don't wanna be around them with their kid behaving like that
So that one mom pulled a "Fred Sanford"! It's the big one, 'Lizabeth, I'm coming to join you! Sadly, when Redd Foxx really did die from a heart attack on the set of his last show people around him thought he was kidding at first because he pulled that gag a lot.
For the second one, I concede that maybe all of her friends and family are jerks. However just maybe their parenting needs a little re-examining. Don’t get me wrong: Parenting is super hard and kids are little chaos monsters. However, I have just had to care for so many kids that I had to properly teach the concept of “boundaries” to. Usually the parents are seriously exhausted and only have the energy to do “clean up” work so I empathize. According to OP, the people in their life aren’t exactly super supportive so I’m guessing that’s the case. I’ve just seen a lot of situations where a wild energetic child was just lacking certain behavioural concepts. In my experience, it might take months or more to fully ingrain an idea into a child but afterwards, they’ll probably be the one reminding you how to behave.
Maybe that 2year old is a little devil and everyone hates him, that's why they start talking like that. Not all children are like that, there are some sweet little ones, that make everyone wanting to have one, too.
If tons of friends and family are seeing what a hellion your kid is to the point that they are CONSTANTLY saying stuff like that though, the mother needs to rethink her parenting and discipline her friggin child.
Yea I think that it’s strange that every adult they know literally saw their kid and went “thank god I don’t have those l” or their friend that’s rethinking kids for the next TEN YEARS?!? Yea I get the vibe that maybe their don’t act shitty because they don’t like kids it’s that they don’t like HER kid because she’s a little shit
right? the 2 year ..collapsed an entire tent and then ran into the street laughing. And this woman didnt feel the least bit apologetic or remorseful for the kid's behavior ??? She wrote that like...no big deal...everybody hates kids.
He's 2 not 5? You might not know what being a parent is but it's not exactly easy to ingrave behavioural patterns in them. Especially when they don't understand a thing and you just went from treating your child like a king to actually telling him what to do. It's not easy and that's the exact reason why she's angry. As much as she is trying what she can and she might be trying new methods to keep her child at bay, that doesn't warrant the haul of insults she has to face.
“What’s the most WTF thing a family member has done?” When I finally cut my toxic dad out of my life, he blackmailed me 🙃 my life insurance was under his control, and he demanded I either pay him the $1100 cash out he’’d get from dissolving it and he would have it switched to my name, or I would lose the policy. (My parents had gotten it when I was a newborn in case of SIDS. I still have it! $15/month for a CAD$50,000 policy. And since I was less than a year old, nothing I have qualifies as a “pre-existing condition”) My mom paid (I was barely 20) and I got my life insurance moved to me. My fathers done a lot of shitty things but I think that takes the cake. He recently tried to add me on Snapchat and was immediately blocked.
The toddler one, that kid must be a REAL undisciplined nightmare. Collapsing a tent, if OP was just generally talking to her kid, what must her kid have been doing for anyone to say out loud 'thank God I didn't have kids'? At your friends house OPs kid must have been allowed to run riot again, for OP to have to keep hold of him all the time. OP's kid sounds like the best advert for abstinence/birth control/sterilisation. OP really does need to start parenting that kid properly.
Wow, the first story was stangely similar to something I had to deal with this Mother's Day (minus the autistic son), and my brother is also 45, and does stupid childish things like he's 9. In this, case, screaming at the top of his lungs telling me to "shut up" because I didn't agree with something he said (which turned out to be a misunderstanding really) and throwing silverware at me. I left crying right there and then. Because my brother essentially has a permanent case of depression since he's a teenager and will often make threats of unaliving himself, my parents have become enablers and will absolutely not tell him when he's out of place out of fear of vexing him, it has become extremely toxic and unfair to me, and so I've decided to cut him out of my life. Of course, I've been made to be the bad guy, event though I've had to endure pretty sh"tty stuff from my brother through my whole life, and no longer want to "forgive and forget", as is always expected of me. Not to mention pretty sh*tty comments like how he can't be "proud" of me because I'm 40, single and childless (I'm aromatic asexual and never wanted children, but he doesn't know that as he has pretty sh*tty takes on LGBT subjects) even though he himself is 45, single and childless. IRONY. The difference is I don't care what he does with his life, but apparently my life his is business...
@@tallapartment6776 Yeah, it sucks that my hurt feelings always have to take a backseat whenever he's concerned, his feelings being WAY more important because of his mental state. And yeah, I get it, I've be through depression as well and pretty severe social anxiety on top of that, so I'm not trying to be ununderstading, but he doesn't help himself, he does everything not to - even stopping taking his meds - and will not look at the root of the problem, blaming the entire world (but mostly my mother) for his every failures. There's a point where I think you just can't do anything anymore, and it just really becomes toxic for everyone involved. I'm thinking the less I see of him and risks incidents like these, the less it will tarnish my relationship with my parents, which is fine normally when he's not involved. I've been pretty open about my feelings with my mom and while she understands and acknowledges some of my points, it's also apparent the statu quo will remain. I don't think she or my dad would know how to do otherwise at this point, anyway.
A family member bought a wreath to put on my aunt's grave at the funeral. My cousin from another aunt heard about it and demanded to be one to place the wreath. She was told to just buy one herself. Instead, she didn't go to the funeral and didn't talk to the family for months.
When I told my grandmother I wasn’t planning on kids she said “good I think you would be a terrible mother.” As I’ve helped her more and more with her medicine changes, cooking, driving her around, I’ve realized that she is just an awful person who will never truly appreciate all that we do to help her. Jokes on her, I’m the best auntie in the world and I think I would be a great mother.
At first I thought the cabin story wasn’t too bad, you will have costs for water and electricity etc. and if everyone chips in then it’s all fair - but not when you‘re invited to a family gathering and are expected to pay the “annual fee”.
@@morganablackwater2017 if he sees his future with her, she'll need to start paying if they get married. I doubt this fee is just for family exclusively. It could extend to guests as well but he didn't put it in the post. Even if she did something else for the cabin, she would still be spending that amount of money in the end. It's easier to just pay the fee.
Speaking of family.... apparently the reverse cowgirl is banned in Alabama....cos you never turn your back on family 😂 sorry it was a joke my son told me lol 😂
"My brother grabbed the last 6 pieces of cheese pizza and LICKED THEM IN FRONT OF MY SON, WHO'S AUTISTIC AND HAS FOOD TEXTURE ISSUES! Meanwhile, my parents are DEFENDING the brother and are telling me I'm OVERREACTING!" Uh, no. If anyone's overreacting, it's OP's so called "Parents". Are they ableists and don't care if their own grandson has autism and their son is basically bullying him? Or are they SO entitled, they don't care about scolding their own 45 year old adult son for pulling a disgusting stunt like that to a 14 year old kid with autism!? As someone who HAS autism, I can say that my Mom would NOT put up with this kind of sh*t! Also, Adam's acting like a teen bully man-child, who teases/bullies a 14 year old with autism! I'd cut ties with those Three Stooges if I was OP! Like COME ON! Three Stooges is right for these people, except the ACTUAL Three Stooges are well mannered actors and not two parents that enables their adult 45 year old bastard of a son who bullies a 14 year old minor with autism! F*** those three!
Your my idol- Your making so much sense with this, Being autistic myself im appalled a 45 year olds parents would enable that behavior, I would have smacked the brother
03:00 Wowwww, that mother is a monster. My mom did something similar when I started having seizures from late adolescent epilepsy and she said, "Just stop having them, we can't afford to go to the Dr all the time."
That first story with the pizza does not surprise me at all. I’m 43 but I have similar issues to the boy in the story with food. Growing up with food issues was horrible, no one knew I was neurodiverse and just complain I was “picky” since things like autism were not well known, especially in girls where it isn’t extremely obvious. My family hated having to get cheese pizza for me and so would only get half a pizza with cheese. They would all complain. Then, when the pizzas would arrive people would take the cheese slices and often I only got one or half a slice because I had to share. Everyone else could have as much of all the other pizzas as they wanted. When I was older and was able to buy my own pizza for the first time, I actually cried.
That did not surprise me either. Because I think people do that out of resentfulness since they are usually not sensible enough to understand that some people can eat a few things only ( due to certain physical conditions) so they actually consider it a drama. And a lot of people also do not like when a person gets extra care like parents order or cook for them separately so they do actually get offended and develop certain feelings of hatred just because of that.A close family member of mine can not eat a lots of regular stuff because they have a few allergies and they actually had to deal with abusive behavior. Like being invited to a family gathering and not being able to eat anything there since the host did not respect that they have allergies.And relatives in such gatherings telling them to their face that Its nothing other than attention seeking etc. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope you get to enjoy lots of cheese pizzas through out your life.
Family members can be the worst! When my hubs, and I met, we immediately fell for one another! We were both divorced (and had been for some time) from very bad marriages. We fell hard! Having dated others since our divorces, we both knew what we wanted, and we didn’t really need a lot of time to figure it out. We got engaged a month in, and his family was all “You’re moving too fast!” “You’re gonna go down in flames” blah, blah, blah, blah. 16 years later, and some of them STILL can’t let it go! We have so much fun together, and are still so in love with each other! It sounds super cliché and I thought I would never say this in my life, but we really were made for each other, and we are each other’s missing puzzle piece. I know you’re vomiting now, but we’re super cuddly, and totally ridiculous! I love it! And every year on our anniversary, I love pointing out how wrong everyone was. 😆
6:50, reminds me of someone that I had the displeasure or working with in the military. I was on a liaison visit to an Australian Navy ship and as we were going on board the gangway collapsed. Myself and two others fell 30 feet into the harbour, and we were all broken pretty badly. I broke both ankles the left tibia and fibular, a dislocated fracture of the head of the femur as I put it through the hip socket broke the pelvis in 5 places broke two ribs punctured and collapsed a lung, among various other injuries Even with all these I was able to save one girl who was in and out of consciousness. The person who I was working with on the squadron said, 'Just think, if I had gone on that detachment, that would have been me.' Luckily he had been posted by the time I eventually got back to the squadron, so I never saw him again, but it was typical of the entitlement to take anything away from me on that squadron. It was a visit that I arranged with the Australian Navy, as a friend of mine sails catamarans and this was one of the huge cross channel type, and I wanted to get her some photos, so he wouldn't have been on the visit even if he had been there.
most wtf thing a parent ever did to me: when i was 15 i was officially diagnosed with scoliosis, and went to a spine surgeon for an x-ray and consulation to see if i needed surgery. i was kind of on the border of not needing it/needing it, but the doctor did recommend that it would be beneficial for me in the long run. my sperm donor said it was too expensive and unnecessary, never got it. two years later he built a $700,00 house. he now owns a lake house.
Honestly the first story is absolutely apalling, as somebody who also has autism and in some ways also has issues with certain textures I think the behaviour if this uncle is absolutely disgusting, he knew fully of the problem but didn't care, and the fact that the family is finding excuses for the brother and are shaming OP for standing up fod his son for it is just maddening. The father is the hero here, he had every single right to say what he said, and honestly if the family is always this awful and insensitive, I'd really consider if I'd not rather spend time with the in laws.
He's 100% bullying his 14 year old nephew and the extended family is enabling that shameful behavior.
My son has autism and if someone did this I’d react the same way-actually probably much worse lol. Wtf is wrong with people? “Oh everyone has things they don’t like, everyone has sensory problems, he will eat when he is hungry enough.” Like the things my family has said to me (albeit mostly innocent and well intended) blows my mind. Sorry to those that have to deal with stupid minded people ♥️
I'd cut them out of my life until they either get over themselves, act like adults and punish their "Adult Son", or read the Reddit post and see how many comments are calling them the A-Holes.
But either way, cutting them out of mine and the young son's lives is WAY better than "allowing" the Entitled Parents and Bully Brother to act like that and disrespect and degrade the young son as if they can wave this entire sh*tstorm off.
Honestly though! Like what kind of person tries to maliciously take food from a child!?
Unless Adam was worst with his own mental disabilities
I'm a hairdresser and do a lot of weddings. I turned up to this bride's home and found her in tears... I asked her what's wrong (thinking nerves or maybe for example the flowers were running late as often trivial stuff will set off tears on the morning of a wedding) and she explained that her mum had just told her that she had cancer and it was terminal. I couldn't believe that she chose the morning of her daughter's wedding to drop this bombshell. Anyway I was there for a hours as I was doing the bride, 4 bridesmaids and the 'terminally ill' mother of the bride. The discussions were all about the Mum and her tragic diagnosis. The make up artist and I were in shock that she didn't delay telling everyone til after the wedding day. Then the sister and sister in law (2 of the bridesmaids) come into where the makeup artist and I were working and announced that it was all a lie! Apparently this Mum was a massive hypochondriac but had NEVER pulled a stunt like this before.... They started asking questions about what kind of cancer she had? What the Dr had said? What specialists/oncologists she'd seen? Etc. It turned out that she'd had a mild headache and went on to Dr Google and had self diagnosed terminal brain cancer! There were a lot more tears, not for the Mum being healthy but for the bride having her Mum do that to her daughter on the day of her wedding. I've seen some absolute doozies of bridezillas/bridesmaids and mothers of bride's over the years but this tops all the others combined. Saying that, the vast majority of weddings I do are so much fun, everyone is in an awesome mood and ready to celebrate love. I'm personally quite a Tomboy yet I absolutely adore doing super pretty feminine brides/bridesmaids. My job is awesome!
Wow!! This screams narcissistic!! One MIL I know of announced she had cancer on her son-in-law's birthday.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 That's not just narcissism. That's narcissism mixed with a (un)healthy dose of "I don't like who you married & will never have any respect for him or your decision, & I'm going to take every opportunity to 'subtlety' remind you that." Sounds like she did that to f@ck with him specifically & is the worst kinda in-law.
Wtf, I’d kick her out of the wedding right away and ask the venue securities to keep her away 😮
My step-daughter's bio mom told her she had stage 4 breast cancer. Understandably, my 16yr old SD freaked out, almost hysterical. Now, her mom has been an addict her whole life & not known for keeping promises or telling the truth b/c, well, addicts lie. When we got more details from SD, we found out her mom said she was diagnosed while inpatient at the local Psych hospital. We're very familiar w/the place & they are a separate facility, not attached to a medical one. The only medical care they give is for psychiatric conditions. They certainly don't have diagnostic equipment. But her mom insisted they diagnosed her there. I didn't want to believe any mother would lie to her daughter about something like that, but turns out that's exactly what she had done. Mom later admitted after SD started hard questioning her about it that she'd made it up in a last ditch attempt to get her then-husband to take her back. He'd finally gotten sick of her drug use after a decade or so of marriage & threw her out. Mom had never worked, always stayed at home despite not having a child in the house (lost all legal custody when SD was 2) & had nowhere to go. It's one thing to lie to your husband in a pathetic attempt to get him back. Crappy, yes, but to your daughter?? SD cut contact off completely for the next few years & it's now very minimal
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Gonna have to disagree with literally everyone about the mom getting "shitty comments". Your 2 year old Ashworth should not have the ability to "knock a tent down" then "run in the street laughing" and "partake in other shenanigans", nor does he brother owe her a babysitter for any length of time.
Everything about this woman is screaming that she's letting him do whatever tf he wants. I have 4 kids, and at 2, yeah, it's a bit hard, you come for maybe an hour, or less. You keep him with you, or get a babysitter if it's a big thing. I can't explain it but I'm telling you she's one of those moms who let her kid do whatever they want and people are trying to tell her to tighten up without SAYING it.
Almost every comment on this thread is saying the same thing you are. So who are these “literally everyone” that’s agreeing with the mother?
Cause I’d like to see their explanation as to how it’s the other ppl causing drama and not her and her kid. 😅
It was obvious to everyone that she can’t parent the child well enough, so he has no concept of what’s allowed and what’s not allowed. And that was with what little info she actually gave about the child.
You know she downplayed that! 😂
I’m a mom…became a mom two months before my 20th bday. And even though I was young, my son knew that he wasn’t permitted to touch anything that wasn’t his or that he had permission to touch. He learned “no-no, don’t touch” my the time he was 2 yrs old. This kid sounds like he’s a little heathen just running around all Willy-nilly because Mom doesn’t parent him properly.
@@melissadunton3534 he comment was 2 months before yours. It was probably that way at the start. UA-cam tends to push the most liked at the top. So those "literally everyone" probably got dropped to the end.
@@toothless3835 oh wow! I wasn’t aware of that. Thank you for explaining, because a lot of times I’ll see responses to people that aren’t even in the comments on my end. I always wondered why I couldn’t see some comments and others I could.
Seriously, thank you for taking the time to explain this to me, most ppl just scroll past or say something nasty rather than understanding that maybe the person commenting isn’t aware of all the little idiosyncrasies of UA-cam. ✌🏻🥰😊
Totally agree with you. There’s a reason EVERYONE is feeling some type of way about her kid. And honestly it’s stupid to get so offended for people having discussions about not wanting kids in front of you just because you have one. So what, because I’m child free people with kids can’t talk about how awesome it is to have kids in front of me? There’s huge double standards for parents vs child free people, and sounds like this woman is sensitive to the fact not everyone is saddled with a tiny terror. Her own brother doesn’t even want to help? It pulled down a tent?? Where was mom?? Yeah don’t feel bad for her at all
I felt bad for OP on the basis of people repeatedly remarking on how they do not want kids when they have to interact with hers. As someone who doesn’t want kids, I’ve mentioned it to my friends who are parents maybe once or twice in casual conversation about life plans, but not each time I encounter their kids. Parents don’t need to feel belittled or like they are less for wanting kids or being busy as parents, just as childless folks don’t need the reverse treatment.
However, I agree with your point that no one else is obligated to help OP parent the child if they don’t want to. It can be a nice “takes a village” approach, but it’s not their responsibility either.
As someone who has had to bite my tongue at a few too many family obligations... erm.. I mean gatherings, I suspect the woman hearing so many comments from others about not wanting kids is experiencing this because she has a terror of a child. I'd be inclined to think that a few people have approached her about this in a more polite way, but she can't be bothered to correct her little snowflake's behavior. Everyone has a breaking point and I think her family has reached it.
i have a kid like this in my friend circle and everyone cringes as soon as he enters a place. hes terrible and thats because he was never parented at all. he always ran the family. je once tried to beat another kid with a stone cause he wanted a toy and the parents did not bat an eye.
They probably did try to help, but she seem to be the type to not take anyone help, and that it’s the same thing as her.
The child is TWO!!! You know “terrible twos”. It is a rough age, for any parent!!!
@@christinepyfrom6373 Maybe, but most two year olds don't terrorize adults. They are easily distracted and can be occupied with some sweet words. Provided they are parented properly.
I kinda thought the same thing after the running in the street statement. I have 3 children, and that made my heart sink. "Running into the street" like that's just kids for ya, 😮🫣😬.
That story with the kid who makes everyone else want to never have kids... I'm getting some serious vibes that this kid has never been parented a day in his life. Probably never even heard the word no, or worse, was told no only to immediately get what he wanted. (I've witnessed my childhood best friend thoroughly ruin her own life that way) Glad to see I'm not alone in the comments.
It’s hard to parent with intent (or recognize that you’re not) when you’re drowning emotionally. This mom was clearly struggling and her family only contributed to her “make it through” parenting mindset , when she needed help changing it to a “make it thorough” parenting style.
@@therockbottom5256and yet everyone else in the world can.
@@itsjustmaddisen who is “everyone else”? Parenting is hard
@@therockbottom5256 what do YOU mean? So many people parent by themselves and don’t use it as an excuse to not actually parent their kid properly. My mum was a single mother, with only one income and getting her education but didn’t be lazy with her parenting. She certainly wasn’t perfect but didn’t raise an entitled brat either.
Third story: I'm going on a limb here, but if several different people on several different occasions have come to the conclusion that they don't want to have kids after interacting with your kid, I think there's a pretty good chance you're not doing that great a parenting job and your kid is, shall we say, not well kept busy and calm. Granted, a two-year-old is a chaotic force by default, but there are ways to keep them from wreaking havoc.
The only one that makes me frown a little is the unsupportive brother (but then again, it truly wasn't his responsibility, and grandaddy dearest could have volunteered himself to keep the baby while OP had dinner, rather than "gently suggesting" others do it), but if things escalated to the point of him knocking down a tent and getting to the street, it's safe to say not much had been done to reign in the inherent chaoticness of the toddler, and that could be a little exhasperating for the others.
Also, if OP treats having to physically carry her two-year-old so they don't get in trouble at her friends' place as such a chore rather than the default way to keep a toddler in an unfamiliar place, I think THAT ATTITUDE might be why they've reconsidered parenting, rather than the kid itself.
Again, not everybody likes children, but usually one tends to show lenience, and it feels a tad unrealistic that SO MANY people in SO MANY circumstances don't. I think the common denominator here is OP and her kid, so perhaps the kid really is very misbehaved and OP struggles to reign them in.
I think your first paragraph is completely off-base. Little kids are little kids. I have known people who made comments against having children when they saw a baby spit-up or drool. Is that bad-parenting or is that something which...ummm...100% of babies do? There are some who choose to not have children because they have attachment issues or they feel that there is some genetic problem they do not wish to pass on. And those, to me, are some legitimate explanations. But, many people who choose to not have children often do so for many reasons, often selfish reasons. "I don't want to deal with those things," "I don't want to give up my time," etc. It is bullshit. (like the story of the grandmother who faked the heart attack because others were getting the attention. It seems she had children because she wanted the attention that people often give to a baby or new mother. Once that faded she likely punished the kids because she was not getting the attention any longer, hence the heart attack at the daughter's birthday) And don't blame a parents for the normal behavior of a 2 year old who is exploring their world. Of course they touch everything. It is all new to them and they don't understand boundaries yet. The rare 2 year-old who does understand boundaries does so out of fear (meaning abusive parents) not repect. So it is nice to know that you support child abuse. Good job!
@@lelandd.295 people like you are insufferable. Have kids if you like, raise them how you like, but maybe don't judge people who don't agree with that. And yes, 2yo tend to be a lot and chaotic, but it's why their parents should, in fact, keep a tighter leash (figurative) on them until they can learn boundaries. If your kid's too young to respect boundaries, don't bring him around. Don't tell me he can. Don't say he's calm and able to keep his hands to himself. That's not being pro-child abuse, it's not hating kids, it's wanting to keep my space mine. Christ.
I agree with you as Charlotte read the post it struck me the a lot of people were saying the same thing and my experience (as a teacher) is that when multiple people say the same thing (it shouldn't have been said in front of her) something is up. I feel that the mom didn't have much control over her child.
I had the same thought. Kid sounds like a little devil and she’s taking a very laissez faire attitude about it
My thoughts exactly. The tent story seems a bit concerning and makes me think OP might want to pay more attention to what her kid is doing. I mean, I know stuff happens and you can't always prevent it, but it looks like "stuff" might be happening a little too often to be just happenchance. There's a reason people say that kids are a full-time job - it's true!
That toddler story sounds VERY one-sided. On 4 seperate occasions, several of her own friends, her partner's friends and her entire family (over 40 people in total) all had the same reaction to her child. That is probably not a coincidence...
Thats what i was thinking...
If my math is correct, he was about 5 and ran around, made a tent collabse, touched everything (including the dog) in a strangers (for him) house and probably did a lot more to trigger these reactions...
Don't get me wrong... I'm most certainly not on board how the friends and family reacted and what they said... but it sounds like this child is just behaving terribly!
Of course he is 'only' 5, but he defentitly should understand the meaning of the word 'no' and being able to follow certain rules!
(Sorry for my bad english, it's not my first language)
Yeah, he sounds very ill-behaved; I don't really like people professing they won't have children after seeing other people's (as Charlotte said, it's different when it's yours). I understand not wanting to have children because of overpopulation, etc. but it seems to me many people just don't want to be bothered and only see children as a burden (hence the "childfree" instead of "childless" fad, as if children were some kind of punishment). It's quite selfish. I even was told by one of those "childfree" people that "childless" should be reserved for people who CAN'T have children! That'd be so cruel!
If you don't want to have children, then be my guest: it's not for everyone, and it's difficult. But don't pretend like you're more free than me or something. Children are not a burden, they are a responsibility but also a great joy.
It stated that he is 2 years old. So child between 2-3 years - they run, they touch everything and they want to do a lot. Also they scream when they want something and become upset easily when they hungry. This is really usual behavior. At this age children do not follow the rules and some of them cannot even talk properly so they can express all their needs. I mum of 3 and when asked the most difficult age I always says 2-3 years. She obviously was busy talking to friends and family member so child run wild as he would want to be occupied all the time with games, learning and playing. All really standard to me nothing unusual here.
I know of ONE time when my kids behaved badly like that and they got consequences for it.
I’ve always been an “hands on” parent and very pedagogical and that have served me and the kids very well. I became a single parent of two when they were 4 and 5 years old and I always got so many compliments for my kids’ behaviors. I even traveled alone with them two the other side of the world (twice!) and I felt completely safe doing so because I knew I could trust them to behave.
It’s completely possible to raise well behaved kids, you just need to actual parent them and not blame bad behavior on them “being just kids”.
I’m curious as to a few things. First, the kid seems to have a habit of running around uncontrolled and doing damage. Second, if dad wanted the OP to eat in peace, he should have watched his grandchild instead of trying to pawn it off on somebody else (who didn’t have the fun of making the kid). Finally , OP seems to not be learning anything. I’d cut contact with people who like to get in their little digs.
I‘m trying to wrap my head around how you would let your child „collapse a tent people where standing under“ and run into the street without putting them into timeout to cool off a bit… I‘m all for gentle parenting but some really young parents don’t seem to parent at all and it shows.
Nothing to do with the age of the parents.
Where does it say "let him" or not doing something about it? 🤔 its a 2yo, not a 12yo 🙄
Where do you get the impression she did nothing about it?
As the parent of a 2 year old, and someone who works with kids under 5, the number of times you have to discipline them to get a rule to stick can be in the 100s. It's not as simple as people make it out to be. Some kids get it on the 3rd time, some take much longer.
Yes, lack of parenting can be the culprit a lot of the time, but I also know amazing parents who have their kids misbehave over and over despite very good discipline. Having a toddler is an exhausting experience.
Also the whole "he pulled a tent down???" I keep seeing... We don't know the context. Could be as simple as the tent was poorly put up and he was spinning around a pole or pulled the wrong rope once and a corner fell down a bit. Things can happen in an instant. Often kids laugh and run away when they know they've done something wrong out of nerves. Not out of malice.
@@TaraLeeGee if a 2yo can pull a large tent down, then its a deathtrap and its good they found out! And a 2yo have no sense of consequenses for actions, their think before act does not even kick in until 5-6yo and its not fully developed until 20+yo 🙃 so yeah, i wonder what they will do in a couple of years when he probably calm down and they have treated him like shit.. or he gets his diagnosis and they mistreated him bc hes not neurotypical and their treatment probably made him act out more.. they know when someone dont like them you know
Your kid collapsed the party tent, ran around in the street all the day so you couldn't even eat and you wonder why your friends and family are enjoyed because you can't parent your child. I bet she is one of those "i woud never say no to my little precious angel" moms.
Exactly. I have two kids one with ADHD but I know if they misbehave it’s my problem and shouldn’t be anyone else’s. Once the child knocked over the tent she should have left with him.
Yeah I kinda think there’s a reason people say that. I’m also willing to bet they don’t even mean it in a malicious way (except the stents saying she shouldn’t have gotten married). But like if all her kid is doing is causing chaos I wouldn’t want kids either lmao. Reminds me of my cousin’s kids. Definitely made me not want to have kids
I caught my ex-mother-in-law sticking her fingers down her throat to make herself sick, just after my now ex-husband had told her we were going on a trip. Made me realize her getting sick EVERY TIME we tried to go on a holiday was fake to stop us leaving. Ex-husband was her eldest, cherished son she called and needed to come around to her house 4 or 5 times a week to do chores, even though she had another adult son living with her. It was all about control.
The story about the cabin and the man wanting the GF he wants to spend his life with to pay, after insisting she pay I don't think the feeling is mutual any longer. He should start looking for another woman, probably a submissive woman with very little brains.
The story about the people who decided not to have kids based on the behavior of her child makes me seriously wonder if she underplayed his behavior.
I also think it's weird so many people around her say the same thing.
Ya if multiple people say things like "we decided not to have kids for another 10 years after watching you deal with your child" or "I don't want kids of my own now" that might be a sign to look at how your child is behaving & look into why people feel that strongly about your child's behavior. She's for sure downplaying the behavior & wanting affirmation that she's in the right & other people are just over reacting. I noticed sometimes parents are bias & blind to how badly their kids act, they want to believe their kids don't do anything wrong or that the behavior isn't that bad but if you don't teach your kid how to act in public or how to treat others with respect they'll never learn, toddlers can be mischievous but there's a limit from what's normal toddler behavior and what's spoiled brat behavior. She also said she didn't understand why they were saying those things in front of her when her kid is the one who made them feel that way like wtf? You as a parent are responsible for how your kid acts & treats people it's not the child's fault its yours for not treating the issues correctly when they happen. Idk it just seemed like she was trying to blame everyone else because they brought the bad behavior to her attention & started playing victim instead of trying to handle the situation like a parent should.
Oh yeah!! Making the entire tent fall down, is not something cute, quite concerning. I am assuming her brother had to sacrifice his food, and fix it up again. That snarky comment is not a nice one, and could have a little less salt.
@@nerdybunny2367 I'm sure her family has had a lot of moments when they had to give something up to help clean up after her kid, which is probably why her brother said "why? it's not my kid I should be able to relax" hopefully that kid doesn't go his whole life getting away with things like that. I honestly don't think anyone was trying to hurt her feelings maybe they just had enough and were trying every which way to bring her kids behavior to her attention?
Of course she did. Bad parents always downplay their part and their kids behavior instead of being honest and responsible
The first story is just wow. The brother is a grown ass man. The dad is unbelievable, he doesn't deserve a father's Day. The mom as usual, resort to crying as emotional blackmail.
Did they even mention how the dad actually responded? Because I spent that entire story imagining him stony faced and annoyed.
@@Jermbot15 is the guy not the father of his child? the uncle ruined HIS fathers day... noone seemed worried about that did they? in his own house no less. id make the uncle pay to have a new pizza delivered or say well.... uncle karen fucked up, parties over
If this would happened to a child without autism, inspite off uncle being an grown up as-ole, mom could give him something else to eat, but for an autistic child who is so sensitive to change texture or anything that a child without this issue would react and make a tantrum (with reason), to do that to this child not only your the worst uncle but you don't even understand how the world is for your nephew, you're a stup.... 🐴 a...
That sounded like a family who hates the fact their grandchild/nephew is autistic.
What do you mean "as usual"? Do you know this lady? Or do you think all moms are like that?
Wow that first one. As an autistic person who was a kid with a lot of food issues, thinking that I had a safe food to eat and seeing someone deliberately snatch that away from me would be soul crushing.
I feel so bad for that kid, having THAT as an uncle and grandparents that clearly don't care about his wellbeing if they're blaming the mother for being appropriately furious and protective.
I think if she ever hosts anything again for the family, everything she serves should be something her child can eat. If they don’t like it, they can bring their own. I mean who takes food from a kid? And who eats 6 slices of pizza?
@@marke7441 why should she host them at all when they clearly show neither appriciation, nor respect or any sympathy towords her or her child?
It reminded me of Home Alone 2 where Buzz ate Kevin's cheese pizza!!!
@@SingingSealRiana Absolutely. I’m just saying if she did.
Even if he wasn't autistic, especially with Covid now almost anyone would be bothered by that, and what kind of person does that anyway?
the last one reminds me of a friend who, when she was working as an aupair in the US, was expected to cook food for the entire family but she had to pay a fee to use their kitchen... crazy how some people think
I don’t think that’s family, n she probably should stop cooking because of the weird kitchen usage fee
My husband and I met in June 2010. Moved in together (my place) in July, found out I was pregnant in August. Married in March of 2011. My weird uncle was “trying” to explain to my cousin how we go married without a “wedding.” We eloped because at that point in our lives we saw who our family members really were and also didn’t have the money to throw a huge party. It was great, just the two of us and my big pregnant belly at the courthouse then Olive garden after. Needless to say for the 12 years we have been married and have added two more kids to our bunch, plus I’m pregnant with baby 4, we still hear that “something could happen because we got married so quickly.” It’s been 12 year, when will it end??? I think we are more committed to each other than ever before. We went through a lot to get to where we are now. We are happy and the kids are blossoming. Family sucks sometimes.
My wife and I got married five months after we started dating and were told by a lot of people we used to call friends that it wouldn’t last…that was 27 years and two kids ago and we’re still going strong.
We were told repeatedly we married too young (I was 22, she was 18), married too quickly after our first date (five months), and/or had kids too early (our son was born three years into our marriage, our daughter was born nine years into our marriage).
Every family member and friend who repeatedly told us all of that have all had multiple failed marriages/relationships. It’s sad to see them fail, but it’s laughable at the same time. My wife and I had to move to a different state to get away from the toxicity. The past four years have been the best in our marriage to date.
For that 2 year old one: if you meet one person who doesn't like your kid...it's probably just that person. But if everyone is upset after they meet your kid...you might just be the problem.
Yup
sounds like a misbehaved kid with a doting mom
Nailed it.
Yup… this is just bad parenting
I agree, I have never made such comments when someone with children was visiting, despite me not liking children much, but hey, they can be cute and for a few hours, it is fun somewhat. But there was one exception: A colleague with her 3-4 year old son visited us. He ran around the house screeming, ran away when his mom wanted to take of his shoes, he ran with same shoes over our cremewhite couch until we could him and he fought tooth and nails when in mom took of his shoes (replacing them with house shoes. We had a bowl with pears and apples standing in the dining room. He bit in all fruits, just once and put them back into the bowl for us to find. He didn't want his pie....so he threw the hole plate on the floor.Oh,and he was calling his mom dumb cow often. He ran after our cats, despite beeing told numerous times to leave them alone. Cought one on her tail and pulled her trough the room. That was the point when I put my foot down. I told her that either she manages to get her son to sit down and be quiet right now, or it would be better if she left; that I like her very much, but her son would not be welcome anymore until he gets some manners. So if so many people tell a mother, that her son is a therapy to heal people from wanting children, I think said child might be a menace.
I have children on the spectrum and this has happened to me by horrible disgusting family members!
Now I ALWAYS make sure that my kids food is taken first… secretly… in the kitchen!
That way no one can make an issue about food for my kids - because you see if you make things an issue, they will be an issue!!!
Eating can be a real issue for children on the spectrum and eating disorders are common!
Don’t f*ck with childrens food!!!!! 🤬🤬🤬
Good on ya mom! If there is a reason to put your hands on a family member, it is when that grown @$$ family member is passive aggressive towards my child! On the spectrum or not, don’t mess with my kids!
I was never a picker eater myself but all of my kids have some form of food preference that I will absolutely go to the mat for!
@@davidguidry657 that's what i was thinking. An adult should not be excused when bullying any child
@@yriel2 the brother in this story is lucky it didn’t occur at one of my family functions. I’m the middle of seven siblings and we would’ve all escorted him out and the six brothers beat the 💩 out of him while our sister held open the car door. Inexcusable!
It's great that you do - but you shouldn't have to.
That man-child knew what he was doing. It's not as if it was a mistake.
I'd do the same as OP - never host a family event at my house again. If I had a child, especially one with special needs, and you'd disrespect my child, you'd be uninvited indefinitely. We may talk about it again once you're grown up mentally.
As someone who's parents were not supportive, this is encouraging to hear. Thank you.
My half-sister's dad was getting re-married (for the third time). When asked if she wanted to come to the wedding the grooms own mother said, "No, I'm going to have a heart attack that Wednesday." Everything thought she was being an ass. Then she had a heart attack on the exact day of the wedding. People still talk about the time Granny Gail stuck it to the entire gossipy family by planning a heart attack not just to prove them wrong but also to actually get out of going to the wedding. This woman is some kind of legend or some kind of demon, not sure.
Also if a woman thinks she is having a heart attack she needs to go to the ER NO MATTER WHAT heart attacks in women are so much more subtle so people shouldn't fake them but if a woman is confident she is having one that's an incredibly bad thing
For whatever reason, this woman was stressed out about this wedding. She was probably having symptoms and the whole affair put her over the edge.
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You can teach your child not to touch what is not theirs. I did, my other sisters did not .my parents made note of this to me. Yes, teach your children well
If a lot of loved ones in unrelated situations are saying your kid is a good reason for them to not wanting to have kids, perhaps you're not doing a good job parenting and your kid is a nightmare. For the few bits she let drip, this kid sounds like someone I wouldn't want near me.
I once knew a couple that would sleep in separate rooms and the girlfriend would be required to pay the boyfriend a significant percentage of her paycheck despite him earning at least 5 times more than her. He basically had the master bedroom with full furnishings including a king size bed. She had a small guest room with a twin sized bed and limited furnishings. They justified this by saying his work schedule required it. They were together for about 10-15 years. Eventually, she left citing their lack of equality and him never encouraging her to accomplish more. She felt he kept her down. Anyway, he is exactly the type of person that would require payment from someone in a relationship. The last story reminded me of him.
So he was extremely abusive 👁👄👁
I’m glad she got out, my word.
That last story seems more like him not wanting to pay his part or as much. You don’t invite someone then tell them to pay. I could see if they had been together for a few years or engaged but they’re newly dating.
@@thevice521 It was definitely not a healthy relationship.
Sounds like he was a real prize. Douchebaggery at it's finest
@@ViolosD2I Frankly, I don't recall how the relationship started. Her prior roommate was his brother. Regardless, the power dynamic was very one-sided. She could not afford much and he dictated almost everything. It's not really about covering rent or buying furniture. It was about being in a partnership or an equal relationship. She never felt equal because she wasn't. Even his brother would encourage her to leave. After a while, we stopped telling her to leave because we felt she would never do it.
My 65 yr old childless aunt asked out loud in mixed company if my 3 yr old child had an off button...we were outside and she wasn't bothering anyone...just chasing lightning bugs. Lost a ton of love and all respect for her. I realized she probably said things like that about us when we were kids, too. Another childless aunt of mine (now in her 70s) loves my kids and treats them like they are her grandchildren.
Ah that's actually funny, we make the same joke about the kids in our family all the time. It's not that serious lol
You should have said, “No, it's a kid, not your Uterus.”
That's unbelievable, what a shit.
I'm not personally into kids, but it's really not that hard as an adult to just mind your own ps & qs. She sucks.
OR you child was actually not so well behaved.
The story at 3:30 - Having kids around people that don't want any is obnoxious already. Having kids that are constantly getting into things and needing constant supervision is even more so and is not anyone else's problem but the parents who CHOSE to have them (and no, "as kids do" is not an excuse). Your kid took down an entire tent with people under it. Why does someone else have to clean up that mess, family or not? I'm sick of people who choose to have kids and can't control them, then blame everyone else who is annoyed by them because they think everyone should just be "accepting & accommodating." Nope, doesn't work that way. Your kids, your problem. Society (even family & friends) do not owe you anything.
My mother also said she had missed periods, said she was nauseous, and began regularly taking pregnancy tests, while she was over fifty years of age and coinincidentally this all started when my three sisters in law all announced they were all pregnant.
Turns out mom was in Menopause of course..
The absolute insanity. My little sister, the youngest was 17
My great great grandma had her last baby at age 48. It's unusual but not impossible
I think it's so sad & petty for mothers to be jealous of their own daughters. It's like those mothers or MIL's who show up at their daughter's or future DIL's weddings in a literal WEDDING DRESS!!!
As a southerner, whenever Charlotte does her southern accent I love it!!!
Ah right , I have a juicy one too. So my aunt at one family gathering said very loudly that I've been LAZY cause I havent had children. So I went and said " I mean, im graduating my second career and going for a magister, I didn't marry into money with a cheating old guy cause I didn't finish highschool, but I guess old people like you can't know better so oh well"
When they tried to use my mom as an insult "Oh you're just like your mom" I went "Of course im like her! She's educated and she graduated!" Never ever was I invited to that shit again and im glad xD
Good! Why are so many people hung up about women not having kids or being in a relationship? I'm childless, not married, & don't even have a boyfriend. However, I have a good career & I'm happy with my life.
On the 2year old case....Im getting bad parenting vibes. Im getting I dont teach and discipline. Yes kids are kids, and yes there are entitled selfish adults BUT the fact that every single person that comes in contact with your child has something so negative and to so publically say is raising red flags. All this people she mentions are from different families, backgrounds, ages, social groups etc yet they all have the same opinion about your child? 🤔
Yes, especially with comment "my son collapsed the tent everyone was under and ran into the street laughing" just getting a bit glossed over...
Agreed
This could've maybe been in a video about entitled parents if written from the perspective of the family and friends. Perspective is key and (most) people can't really describe situations like that subjectively or empathetically towards others' perspectives
I totally agree! That kid sounds like a nightmare.
@@bluedragonfly623 yeah that was a bit much hey... Also thought something was off...
When my son was around two we rented a vacation house with family. The day we drove up we forgot milk. It was evening and stores were closed so we couldn't get any until morning. My son threw a tantrum and cried for over an hour. It was terrible, but he finally settled down. He had been calm for maybe a half hour when his uncle walked up to him and asked him if he wanted any milk. His face lit up and he excitedly said yes. Then his uncle said, "Too bad we don't have any." That started another tantrum and crying jag of over an hour. Thank god they are now divorced and I nor my kids will ever see that "uncle" again.
What a jerk.
Dear lord 😑
Why do some people think its funny to bully children?
Sounds like any one of my uncles. (My aunts had terrible taste in men.) I was in my mid-thirties before I realized that some people feel affection for their uncles.
Why did you let him cry for over an hour over not having milk?
I'm just at the beginning, but already loved the *slap slap slap* "the lot of them" 😂 the edits and you together make my day.
For the grandma heart attack one. Mine did a simular thing when my family went to Niagara falls with my whole family (6 members from out of town as well). We didn't even make it to the falls when she "started to feel faint" after 45 minutes she drove herself to the hospital convinced she was about to have heat stroke. She was discharged almost as soon as she got in and was told to just drink water.
I know the mom came to vent but....maybe she's doing a bad job. I had my kids about the same age and none of my friends (even very vocal plan to be childfree friends) did not react that way but also my kids didn't pull down a literal tent and run into the street laughing or have to be carried around people's houses to limit destruction. Being around bad kids can definitely make a bad impression for people....
I agree. My husband and I decided to be child-free, we like children, but we just don't want to have them. My brother-in-law has 3 amazing kids, they are very well-behaved and sweet. I remember thinking when I met them years ago that If I ever had children, I wished they were like them. My sister-in-law has also 3 children and it's not a pleasant experience to be around them, however, I don't blame the children because their mother and their father are not the best role models.
It also made me wonder tone, some of the comments could be a bit joke-y depending on tone, and this person could still be taking it personally. I do have follow up questions about this kids actions though. I do not have kids, but my brother threw a rock at my head when he was 2, not take out a tent and maniacally run into the street.
i have to agree with this take! a little discipline goes a long way.. a bit rude for everyone to point it out in the manner with which they did, but i think they're just trying to tell the mom that her kid is a little turd ball lol
Agreed
Yes, it sounded like bad parenting to me too.
I was the "black sheep" of the family and I was told my life would be shite. My husband and I got married when I was 19 and we were told we married too young and would end up divorced within 5 years. 33 years later, we are still married and the most stable of all my siblings. I love my husband and my life. I have purple hair and tattoos and now my parents have learned that despite that, I am a better person than the rest of my siblings.
I'm glad your marriage was successful. Most people base these comments on statistics. In general, young marriages no longer succeed like they did a couple of generations ago. My brother graduated in 1975 and out of the 35 couples who married within a couple of years of graduation, only he and my late SIL were still married 30 years later.
Good for you! 👍👏
OMG I have purple hair and tattoos!
I met my hubby at 19 and we’ve been married 27 years and we too were told we would never last!!!!
I’m the only one still married among my close friends as the rest are divorced 🤦🏻♀️
I have two amazing kids too (nearly killed me but I didn’t realise that until I got pregnant)
Sooooo many people told hubby to ‘run the f*ck away’
I was told he was far too old for me (gap of 9 years) and it would never last as we were far too different!!!
God I love throwing it back in their faces! Especially the awesome tat I got for him this year 😂
My catty MIL strongly suggested (and directly told her other son the day after his wedding!)
That she just didn't see either of her son's marriages lasting.
Both of them were getting married as adults to women they had been with for several years.
On the first mother's day after BIL got married, we all took her out for breakfast, and as soon as we were comfortably seated, she let our a long siiigh, looked off with ennui,and announced to the table her astonishment that night of her son's had married the girl she had chosen for one of them to marry (a somewhat catty single mother whom neither of them had anything in common with and did not even come close to dating)
Imagine the tone at the table?
Ultimately she and FIL became SO abusive after we had kids that we went no contact.
Sadly, BIL remained very close to them, and was divorced in under five years.
Had this too. My family may have thought me the lowest form of life, and my abusive mother told me I was a guttersnipe. But I had the last laugh as they died without knowing that due to my actions in an accident in Australia, a few people think and treat me as a hero having saved a girl's life, even though I was seriously injured myself. The girl now has two children, so I guess that I have changed history down there, regardless of what they thought of me.
My brother in law injected himself into a conversation i was having with one of my guests at my new years Party and then changed the topic onto me and how I did not attend family events.. I was never invited to because I have a disability and could not go visit family.. He made a scene and stormed off dragging my sister with him.. My mom took his side.. and when I called to ask her for a recipe she said I will not get it because I didn't come see her.. I AM DISABLED! She would come to town to see my sister but not me. We live 3 blocks away.. this happened since 2010.. this is a petty and an entitled story all in one.. I cut those family members out of my life. Since built a new relationship with my biological father.. and my sisters kids who apologized for their parents behavior 🙄
I am glad for you, that you cut out those family members. It's a difficult decision you had to make, but it was the right one! I wish you all the happiness in live.
@@reberi Thank you!
I forgot to mention.. my brother in law, before he married my sister lived with us and was behind on rent.. he received $7500 from his dad to pay bills.. he did not.. he said now it is his money and he can do what he wants with it.. never caught up on rent and his dog chewed up my $200 boots.. would not reimburse me for them.. so many more stories.. but, yes, I made a hard but good decision
You know it's bad when an entitled person's child(den) have to apologize for their PARENTS' behavior.
@@addie-eileenpaige6460 Yeah..
The story from the mother with a two-year-old brought to mind one of my favorite Graham Norton quotes: "Children are like farts. No one is ever quite as offended by their own."
I think the story with the 2 yr old where she felt everyone making comments about not wanting kids was a hint and “nice” way of saying your kid is a menace do something about him before he destroys something else.
That last story OMG, can you imagine being asked to pay 400 bucks to fix the roof of a cabin you've never once stayed in yet? LOL
When I was 19 my father had just bought a used Lincoln Towncar from an auction that he insisted that I drive while he drove my grandmother's car. Later that day I got pulled over because the car tag had been expired for three years. Long story short, he decided that I should pay the $1600 ticket so he wouldn't have to pay the $1100 tag fee. He resold the car not long after (for a profit!) and I got stuck with paying the ticket. And no, at that age I didn't think I needed to double check the tag because I was naive and assumed I could trust my father.
That is outrageous.
i bought a car from my mother, when i was 17. made payments on it for 9 months prior to her finally letting me have and drive it. id paid 900 of 1500 off. the day she gave me the keys, the clutch went out. it cost me 900 sollars to fix. when she asked me for the next payment, which came due about 3 weeks after, btw i lived with her so she KNEW the car broke down and i had to pay that repair bill! when she asked where the next payment was, i slapped the repair bill down on the table and said, its right there. you owe ME 300 dollars, because 900 is what i paid to have it repaired, and i owed you 600 hundred left in payment, and i ended up paying more so, wheres my 300 dollars? ill expect it by end of day tomorrow. i had already transferred the title to my name so she couldnt take the car back. she tried to fight me and called the cops saying id stolen her car. when the cops arrived, they looked up title info and LOW AND BEHOLD its in MY name. they told her, she was SOL. she was so mad, but so was i and i refused to give her another cent on that car. eventually, she accepted it. the sticking pioint was that she KNEW the cars clutch was going out and let me buy it from her without A) informing me that it was failing and B)didnt offer to help me get it repaired or care that the clutch went out after midnight on a deserted road and i had to walk home alone and scared. this was before cell phones, couldnt just call from the car for help. so, i refused to back down that she would endanger her own child for money that way. i never got the 300 hundred from her. but she learned that day not to try and screw me over, i also learned my mom is willing to let me be in danger and have not trusted that she will ever have my back since. im 50 now and still to this day, i cant call her to ask for help in anyway without getting a bunch of shit from her, so i just dont rely on her for anything. she is only 67 now, so its not like she cant hop in her car to rescue me if something happens, like, i locked my keys in my car a few times and she has a spare and wouldnt come help me, said it was too cold for her to go out, while i was standing in the freezing cold at 2 am ( i worked swing shifts at a gas station at the time, hence being out at 2 am). i walked home. this is how selfish she is.
What sucks is you don't get to dump your father and try dating a new one. Thank goodness that for POS boyfriends/girlfriends/etc... you can do exactly that.
My step dad did a similar thing to me when I was 16. Tires were crap, I got into a bit of a wreck, he got full profit from insurance company, and still made me pay for the car. I got screwed paying that for 2 years. I found out he got reimbursed only accidentally finding records of it while moving my stuff out of the house 2 years after accident. Family can suck sometimes. Mine just does all the time.
and I thought living in Russia is tough
Everyone has pretty much covered the first story! I'm going to question the last story about the cabin....just how much money does the "Uncle" rake in every year? Even at just 20 people, that's around $4-8000 dollars annually! Has anyone ever asked for receipts? Any type of accounting for the money? So many questions! One major comment though, that girlfriend needs to run! Run far, run fast....just saying....
Ha ha, yeah how many people are paying this fee? How can it be that expensive between so many people? They definitely need to ask for the receipts.
I would say that is a lot of money considering things like TAXES ! And upkeep can be very spendy .
@@jimmymckay73 You really think that Uncle pays taxes on cash collected from relatives?!? LMAO and SMDH
@@oldschooldiy3240 on the land and cabin . Smh
@@jimmymckay73 You obviously missed the part where the GRANDPARENTS own the cabin!! The "fees" collected are for the maintenance and upkeep ONLY! Still LMAO and SMDH
I absolutely thought the same. I've always told my kids, husband & friends....if you go different places & its always your children (or a specific child) it might be you!😂
Oh man, that cabin one. Yikes forever! When my parents invited my boyfriend now husband to Spain for two weeks, the only thing we asked him to pay for was his plane ticket and some of the food costs while there. We ended up paying more than that for him though because an ATM machine ate his card. Literally, he had just put it in and than we saw the blue screen of death before windows XP loaded up and we both went "Oh no.", so yeah, not his fault.
Omg the level my stomach would drop to if that happened to me...I'd already be feeling anxious about having all that money spent on me. I mean I'd appreciate it and try to keep my mouth shut to not make awkwardness lol, I'm just awkward and weird about stuff like that...but to then not be able to pay for anything and still go. I'd have the anxiety and stress upset stomach the whole time I was abroad lol! Glad you all enjoyed a great trip together and it wasn't a big deal and didn't turn out poorly
The First one of this video really got me.
She is not the asshole.
I am high functioning autistic and I went to a school dedicated for special needs kids. And what the mother did was right. I don't know anyone who would do that to a kid. A lot of people would usually let this go. But what she did is what I wished a lot people do.
What really get me on this post is how everyone was only thinking about the brother and father day being ruined and not thinking about anyone else.
The guy was an a-hole even if the kid wasn’t autistic! You just don’t do that to family let alone kids in the family.
I’m all for a good ribbing, sarcasm, or rough housing to “toughen up” a kid but making it so the kid can’t eat is next level a-hole ish!!! Where I’m from (and given how much I can eat), a grown man makes up the end of the chow line.
yeah what kind of father defends his adult son picking on any child. And OPs father gets to "enjoy" father's day defending his son's immature behavior, but that child's father has to watch his child get bullied by family?
Yeah that made me really mad. Like yeah you so deserve Father's Day not! I have older sisters and even they wouldn't do this.
The story about kids at 3:51 has me wondering what kind of demon spawn OP's son is because he is scaring everyone away from having kids. WOW!
0:00 That guy was lucky he left the house conscious instead of knocked the F out.
I was mentally channeling Homer Simpson
0:49 that was a great interruption gosh Charlottes editor is great 😂
As a guest... you don't make them pay. My family have never had issues with doing things. One year, my sisters long-time family friend said she would pay for the house meals over the weekend. Then at the end of the weekend, they tallied up the cost and told us the cost per person except themselves since they went to the store, bought it (which we were now supposed to cover), & she made it. She offered. We didn't ask. Now, we were going to stop and get groceries on the way. They did that before us. I helped make breakfast every morning. We only had BBQ one night and sandwiches (which I couldn't eat) the next afternoon. We took them to lunch and dinner the other days and then had bought a big final breakfast. But my dad and I and my brother were offended. We paid for the cabin, the float trip, the zip line. We didn't offer to get the house food...she did. It caused some uncomfortable feelings between us all after 30 years of friendship between us all. Sometimes you have to be careful about how you word the way you talk. Also, when you marry into the family, you are no longer a guest, or are there for all the family functions, otherwise, you pay the way for your guests accommodations for YOUR family gathering. Anything else is just bad manners.
This was our first family trip after my mom's passing. She offered to get the house food. Then hit us at the end of the trip, as we're about to go to breakfast, that her boyfriend expects to be paid back for the groceries. It was fckd. She knew it as she was asking for it. We've taken her on plenty of trips and she has never had to pay for anything with us because that's how we were raised.
I feel like the woman and her son is suspicious…. Like it sounds like her kid is ill-mannered and not well behaved because aside from that there’s honestly no reason for any of those comments and the comments seem to always follow an incident the way OP described it. I think seeing bad kids always makes people feel indifferent about children.
Oooh I came here to see if anyone else had that suspicion!
That's what i though too! We're only getting her side of the vent after all and the part where she said he pulled down the tent pole so that it collapsed on people and then ran out on to the street laughing, sounds like a ill-mannered child to me! (and i have 3 kids for anyone about to say anything;) ).
Yeah. He collapsed the tent for the food and ran out into the road. I have six niblings. They can be heathens but not to that level.
I feel the same. This kid seems awful. Yes it is a toddler, but I know very few toddler who could destroy a whole pavilion. Also those toddler in my family don't touch stuff they're not supposed to. I always say, you can train a gold fish, you can train a toddler (without hitting).
Indifferent sure but to make a statement that you don’t want kids is a little passive aggressive. I used to say that babysitting my nephews was the best form of birth control and as a result I didn’t have kids until I was 27. 😉
The pizza story reminded of one from over a decade ago. We had just had a funeral and a planting of the ashes for my dad. We were going to order takeout from my dad’s favourite Chinese restaurant to feed 4 kids 10 and up, (3 of them mine, and all kids somewhat picky eaters) and 7 adults. They asked me what my kids would eat, and I told the person doing the ordering, although I don’t know why they bothered asking because the only thing that they ordered that my kids would eat was a container of noodles that was designed to have 5-6 very small servings (makes sense because it was a side to go along with the rest of the food which my kids absolutely would not eat). As I commenced scooping noodles, I was told to put most of it back since it had to serve everybody. I’ve only seen those bitches for 1 wedding and a few funerals since. The last time I’ll probably see them again is when the last 2 elderly relatives (now in their 90s) cast off their mortal coils and I attend those funerals.
"Cast of their mortal coils" what an epic way to say someone died! I always said " ( person's name) has joined the ranks of Valhalla/ descended to the depths of Helheim" but yours is cooler.
We have several family memebers with dietary restrictions including 2 sisters who are gluten free, and my vegan son. When we are planning on eating together/ordering food we ALWAYS accommedate these family members. I can't fathom family doing this to each other!!! My son, who is vegan, is also extremely picky, (he is 18 now) and on the Autism spectrum. We make sure there is something for him, or he plans accordingly if accomidations cant be met.
@@staceyoverley6148
My 4 sisters are awful people.
@@lonelyronin2428
Thanks for the compliment. I’m going to try to work the Valhalla comment into my convos when and where appropriate. I love that one.
WTF?????
Sometimes family doesn't deserve the name... Two of my nephews have girlfriends that have dietary restrictions due to certain food in tolerances. They are always accommodated as much as possible and we will even prepare their portions separately to avoid any cross contamination. It's just what ya do for your loved ones 😍😍
As a mother of an child with autism, this first story makes my blood BOIL!. My daughter has ARFID (avoidant and restrictive food intake disorder) and literally will only eat about 10 things. If this happened around me I think him getting kicked out would have been the least of the worries for the family. If they had a problem they could all leave! FFS ! And a 45 year old man at that!... Now to continue watching the video!
whether the kid had autism or not or even if he was an adult just waiting his turn......who the heck does that?.....an adult man licked 6 slices of pizza... Yeah i would toss him too...after he paid for the pizza...dont be messing with my food....i am a big girl and i will sit on your butt and pry the money out of you.
Yeah honestly the cruelty of the act is just appalling. Like what do they gain from tormenting a child?
If you know your kid is like this - then why would you agree to order shared food and then dictate to others what food they can eat and how much of it just so your kid can have what they want. He was over the top for licking the pizza BUT he wasnt wrong for taking the pizza.
As a parent you'd either say "look, my kid is really picky so i will order and pay for a separate pizza" --- or youd put some to one side as soon as it arrived.
You may understand your kids issues because you live with it...arguably some of the traits linked with autism are exaggerated by the parent being overprotective or just giving in to make it easier than working with the kid to encourage eating other food (after all, you wont always be there to look after them) - granted, this does depend on age and how extreme their condition is.
Adam was definitely in the wrong BUT the whole situation could easily have been avoided had the mother not just assumed the rest of the family understood that they weren't allowed the cheese pizza
@@paul28177 No, Paul, the uncle ORDERED A MEAT LOVER'S PIZZA BUT DECIDED TO LICK THE BOY'S PIZZA PIECES. Yes, he was wrong for not just taking HIS pizza order. Also, the parents were paying for everything. Everyone in the family KNEW the boy ate just the cheese pizza. They probably thought the boy was just being a spoiled brat, and the uncle decided to "teach him a lesson", to "prove" he can eat anything if he doesn't have a choice.
It's not about being "picky". It's about being so sensitive that some flavors, textures, and sensations of food make the food inedible. I mean, you probably wouldn't eat eggs with shells, fish with bones, food that smells spoiled, or something that feels like eating frog eggs. Think about the worst thing to eat, I don't know what you eat, but for example insects. The sensation is like that. You don't have the same experience, but I'm Autistic, and that is the experience. It's not about "encouraging the kid to eat other food". I'm sure one can "encourage" you to eat shit as much as they want, and you still wouldn't eat it.
I mean... autism or not you don't behave like this towards other people period.
They cabin story is so crazy. It's like saying let's go visit my parents for the weekend and hey... you're gonna need to give them $200 towards their monthy HOA fee. 😆
Want more family drama videos because I feel like Charlotte has STRONG opinions about family dynamics & I’m here for it
That kid sounds like he has no boundaries. I wouldn't wanna help with him either. No that's not as children do. Clearly they've seen this kids antics and are not having it. You don't have to wrangle other ppls kids. I have six niblings while being child free. I have every right to say no I'm not watching ur kid when I don't wanna.
But of course they posted it on Parenting and everyone there is so sympathetic and not acknowledging that this kid sounds like a holy terror
I don't have kids either but the kid is a toddler. This behavior is normal for a toddler, and its a nice gesture to help your sister out when she visits so she can maybe have a little bit of a break and enjoy her time too. Besides the way her family behaves and talks about her makes her feel ostacized which is messed up. Is she owed help? No. Should her brother have helped her? Yes. Its what nice and considerate people do, they try to make life a little bit easier for people around them when they see a need.
@@cultmecca i feel like we only got one side of the story. Sounds like they are sick of helping with the kid. If they weren't they probably would have helped. But it seems like it was the last straw.
@@cultmecca it’s her job to parent her kid. She’s not entitled to other people doing it for her. She had the kid. She gets to parent the thing and she’s not
I'm *really* hoping that nibling is a word and not a typo.🤩
As someone with a lot of eating issues based on sensory sensitivities I AM DISGUSTED by the first one. "They'll eat when they're hungry" DOES NOT WORK with autistic people or those with eating disorders. That behaviour would send me into "no contact" mode. That person would not be allowed in my home again.
Yeah, as a person w. Ana; when I've relapsed, if none of _my_ "safe" foods are available when I get hungry, I just chug a litre of water & go to bed w. a sleeping pill.
That story broke my heart, that poor child.
Even if it was a child who was “just picky,” who goes into another person’s home as a guest and tries to “correct” the behavior of the host’s child? It was a total non-issue until the uncle stirred the figurative pot: the parents provided food their kid would eat AND food that the uncle specifically requested for himself! I mean, what the heck?!
Destroying food to spite people is messed up. Someone should have stopped him after licking one. Physically stopped him.
With the whole family being jealous of getting all the attention, any time my husband and I post ANY picture of our two girls in the family chat, my one brother-in-law has to post pictures of the "horrible thing that happened to his son" to divert attention to him and his family. Recently, We posted pictures of when we went to the shore, within 3 minutes, my brother-in-law was capitalizing on my nephew's pain by sending pictures of the gash my nephew got when he fell off his bike. When my youngest was born, he posted within 10 minutes that something "bad" happened to his son (a skinned knee, literally). It's gotten SO old, I'm convinced that he enjoys his kids' pain just so he can get attention. When called out, he claims that he's not doing it for attention, he's doing it to update the family. Kinda funny how it's timed.
Sounds like it could morph into a case of Munchausen by proxy. A scary thought.
This is literally my uncle and aunt. I hardly ever post in our family whatsapp chat but when I do, it's because of something cool that happened to me or I am traveling and want to share pictures. Same with my brother and sister actually. Without fail, any time one of us posts something, he posts about his children and something bad or good that happened to them.
I am in America on holiday, posting pictures of the Empire State Building? "Oh look at my son who just got his first grade certificate 3 days ago and how good it is."
I am in Scotland, having just hiked up a mountain for the first time in my life (I am fat, this was a HUGE feat for me!) and posting pictures of the incredible views and how I am feeling? Not even a reaction! "My daughter went to the pool today!"
Bruh.
Next time you have something important to say, write: Hey, BIL: I have great news, so start first talking about what happened to your son before, please. 🤣
That's creepy. You can't diagnose someone via internet, but that sounds a bit like it could develop into a munchausen syndrome on proxy.
@@Jane-yg3vz my thought exactly ...
Ok, so the one complaining about her childfree relatives and friends. At first when I read the title I was like "ok no one should judge you for your decision to have or not have children." (I say this as someone who is childree and will never have kids per my own choice). If you want kids, great. It sounds like maybe at the time of the pregnancy things weren't "perfect" for them, but heck, no one and nothing will ever be "perfect" and at leat per the post, sounds like they are stable now with him working as a full-fledged doctor.
I will never judge someone for choosing to have kids. Some people really, really want a family with kids, etc. And that is great. BUT it is YOUR responsibility to raise YOUR child that YOU chose to have. It isn't anyone else's responsibility to chase after your 4-year old, but your's and your husband's. Where was dad during this family reunion? Why couldn't he watch the kid while mom ate? Why is it everyone else's responsibility to chase around your child at a reunion? Also the kid is 4 (per information in the post), not 1.5-2 years old. He is basically pre-school age and should darn well know how to follow verbal commands with fairly limited need to get up and physically reprimand. And if you do need to get up an physically reprimand put him in a timeout nearby and sit/eat-- or put him down for a nap. And why is your dad suggesting your brother help-- why dosen't your dad get off his butt and chase around the 4-year old-- why is he volunterring someone else to help, if he feels you need assitance, he can do it himself.
Also every "example" she gave in this post involves her kid running around, touching things, knocking things down, misbehaving and overall causing trouble and then she scratches her head and wonders why no one is overjoyed and excited to deal with that.
My guess is they are giving this kid zero direction and zero discipline and this kid is an absolute brat and half everywhere he goes so of course she gets those comments.
Kid running into the street and what is she doing? My parents would never allowed us to do half of what she mentioned in that first paragraph that she seems to think is no big deal for her 4 year old to be doing. Discipline your kid and teach him to behave and the comments will change.
Edit: I see she says the kid is 2 years old now. Ok, that math really doesn't quite work. If she married at 23, fell pregnant a few months later, let's say she did turn 24 before getting pregnant, 9 months later, she would still be 24 when the kid is born. She is now 27 years old. So kid has to be at least 3 years old or very, very close to it at the youngest. And honestly that is worse as you can easily pitch up a playpen for a 2 year old so that you can sit, eat and chat with family for a little while.
I'm very glad I found this comment. I was quite surprised that reddit dubbed this person not the ahole and not an ESH, seeing how brutal people on reddit are. And reading the story gave me so much anxiety because there's an exact same specimen in my family as well. The kind of kid that will make you rethink your stance on parenthood. He screams bloody murder, throws food if he's told ''no''. His parents dont teach him any sort of discipline. When his grandparents try, the mother starts insulting them for ''abusing'' her precious angel. We also have definitely passed some comments like the ones mentioned here, just not in front of them. I personally try my best to avoid any family gatherings if I find out they'll be attending.
@@meghaghosh2545 So I searched for that post on reddit and the OP posted it in a parents reddit thread, so she simply got the echo chamber that she was searching for. That she is amazing and wonderful and everyone else is an asshole and don't deserve to be around her percious little son.
I would never allow a kid to injure themselves or put themselves in danger, however, if I am having to intervene to keep someone's child from potentially dying because they won't intervene themselves. They are REALLY not going to like my intervention because child is losing the privilege to participate, is 100% getting disciplined in a way that is age appropriate for them and mother (or father) (or both) are getting one heck of a scolding from me. And I don't care who I piss off.
I am sure if she had posted this in the /amitheasshole reddit thread she would have been chewed up and spit back out, but she didn't so she got her ego-inflating "you are a good mom, ignore the haters" echo chamber.
I am partially deaf in my left ear, I feel you woman!!! Love you 💗
2nd story with the mom who delayed heart surgery; Honestly I would have faked my own death and make my dad bring her an urn with ashes saying "our child didn't survive surgery. The doctor's said it had been too long. The surgery should have been performed before... I'm sorry. Here they wanted to to have this. I'm sorry I can't handle seeing you now you remind me too much of (our child) goodbye." And both child and dad go zero contact forever!
i once faked needing eye glasses when i was little and pretended i couldn't see anything without them. The Doctor handed me some glasses and i pretended i could suddenly see everything clearly. then he handed me a book, and it turned out they were 3d glasses for this storybook 🙈
My mother took me to the doctor to see if I had a brain tumor because of all my headaches. He told her to switch from yummy children's aspirin to half an adult aspirin. It was a miracle cure!
That’s honestly so cute? Haha kids and their shenanigans 😂
Haha, busted!
I was 15 when I called out my Great Aunt on her rude entitled ass. 15!! No other family members never dared (they were scared to)
She lost her shit and she ‘banished me’ I still laugh thinking about it.
@@memawknowsbest4978 YESS BABE! Also it feels so liberating & hilarious that teenagers can call up grown ups on their BS!
PERIOD! I too am that person. I don't care WHO you are, I will tell you about yourself! LOL
@@felinemoonchild yeah, so basically she called my mum and said “she no longer exists” she had that side of the family against me. She was going to everyone talking shit behind my back.
I nicknamed her cruella de ville
And a year later I saw her in the shops and I started singing ‘cruella De ville’ just loud enough so she could hear me 😂
@@thomasjoseph5876 you know thats sexual battery right? you can have her arrested for that
@@thomasjoseph5876 , I'm not saying this is the reason why this woman was on the pill, but the birth control pill was developed to help regulate women's menstrual cycle. It was discovered after the fact, that it also prevented pregnancy. Many women take the pill for help with period issues. I did.
I broke up with a cheap dude. That wasn’t necessarily the reason, but it helped towards the end. He was staying with his mom, and never paid for groceries while living with her. I went out with him, his family, and a couple friends of his. As I was looking at the menu he gave me two choices to pick from. His friend asked if he was telling me what to order, and offered to pay for my meal. He said I could order whatever I wanted. Love him for that. I have kids with a previous partner, and he never bought a gift for them until I told him it was over. I had given him reasons like the fact he liked to remind me he wasn’t picking up their dads slack. My kids dad is in a very controlling relationship, so didn’t help out much, or attend school, and sporting events. Dad, and stepmom were delusional, and thought inviting them meant I was trying to be with him. I would want to be there for kids who had an absent parent. Kids should feel important, worthy, and loved.
Just cuz they're blood doesn't mean you have to associate with them. I don't in my life is so much more peaceful!
The family pays for cabin maintenance and it's their inheritance, so they'll get it back.
200-400 for ONE WEEKEND is ridiculous.
The fee is for the year, but the GF would not be able to use it for the whole year.
@@ViolosD2I him asking her to pay for a family thing when she's just meeting the family for the first time is really not fair at all by what you said. He clearly needs a discussion with his family about this deal and explaining how she's a guest and that he shouldn't be paying for both because honestly both him and his family were being rude about it.
All the other arguments are valid, but I think the most important thing ppl are forgetting is that he INVITED her to go and meet his family. Since when does one pay for accommodation when invited to stay somewhere???? That is insane.
If the gf wanted to offer to bring along food, drinks or anything else that would be nice, but also not an obligation when invited.
former pre k teacher here: In 15 years work in wealthy privé schools I can confirm that many parents have kids for the social status among their Friends and co workers, to hold on to a man for a prenup clause etc all very selfish reasons. more ppl have kids for their own gratification (someone to love me no matter what) than you think. it is terrifying.
Yup. Agreed.
i get shit for my reason i might want to get kids a lot, but i think its a better reason than most people have: i think i would be a good parent, able to raise a functioning and kind adult that makes the world better and i wanne prove that to myself.
I’m a counselor and the number of people I see doing that is appalling.
Yup. Or people making babies just to "save" their failed marriage. Or just to give a sense of fullfilment to their empty lives. Or to play with their baby like a doll. Or to control and mold another human being. To get the children allocations. To have a free caregiver when they're old. Most people have kids for bad or selfish reasons
Some poor kids are deemed a welfare/SNAP benefit, tax write off or an earned income credit. Anytime you try to shop after the first part of the month, there's a ton of screaming kids following their parents around spending the welfare and SNAP. You always see people at tax time spending their "kids'" money and quite a few of them around the 15th of every month during the pandemic walking out of Walmart with TVs, etc. Works on both ends.
The first story is so common, many parents give the problem child a pass and expect the responsible one to be the bigger person at all times and because that dynamic has been raised for decades they get upset when the responsible child had enough and "upsets the natural family order".
I have a son with autism as well and for some reason family members have it in their minds that they can just “get over” their OCD, obversion, fixations or even their focus of stemming. It does not work that way. It takes YEARS of behavior conditioning, and help, and even after that, they may be fixated on that one thing again after some traumatic event. Saying this, my older sister does EXACTLY, the same thing. She will lick his pizza, mix up his food ( He will EVER eat any food mixed together, it has to all be separated in its own section), put raisins or olives in things…he will take an extra hour picking that crap out. He also separates vegetables when they have been stir fried, which is okay with me, but my sister will add insult to injury and mix the rice, veggies, meat, and everything else together, just to mess with him and laugh about it.
I told her, you just don’t know how infuriating this is for him. He is absolutely too kind hearted to say anything to you, but this is cruel on the highest level. She laughs it off. Still does it, and still doesn’t care.
He does tell her, “your not my favorite Auntie.” HAHAHAHAHA Which kills her.
I can understand if your sister didn't know, but that's just bullying. Whenever I make food for someone I've never made food for, I ALWAYS ask about allergies, food sensitivities, & even if what I plan to make is good with them.
She would only have done that ONCE. Then I would have cut off contact.
"Behavior conditioning" and "help" = force us to mask constantly, to the point of losing who we truly are, to be deemed "normal enough" for everyone else. Eventually leading to burnout, many times SH/suicide.
Just let us be ourselves. We're wired differently; we're going to act differently, which is natural.
That's absolutely horrible. She's going out of her way to be an absolute dick to someone just because of certain food issues. That's so childish and literally bully mentality, there is not reason at ALL for people to take that stuff so personally and torment hothers because of these things, that really don't take much effort to heed to. In fact she's going more out of her way to be horrible. Gross
Perhaps you should start licking her food before giving it to her? Mix up her food inappropriately? Barbecue ribs and custard, apple pie with gravy...
When my Mom got older and could really afford the cottage herself (and do all the work), we shifted some of the cost to us as kids. We also did a bit of selective logging, and paid for repairs etc. We did actually charge friends to stay there. Like, they rented it for the weekend, without us. My best friends brother and his friends went up there for his bachelor party, gave us a little bit of cash and cut a PILE of firewood. They had to put in a bit of work (help with sweeping up before we left, etc), but we never charged anyone for being a guest.
love your videos! the animation of your hand slapping away the family members had me laughing so hard🤣
I went to an extended family birthday party. The birthday boy, was 8 I think. The mom's boyfriend smashed the kid's face into the cake. I couldn't believe how horrible it was for the kid. What kind of creep does that stuff to kids? I am child free by choice and have heard it all, including someone telling me, in front of my husband, you will want them when you meet the right man. Uggg
I would keep my ear to the ground about that boy'd treatment, seriously.
I'm also childfree and honestly I'm so done with comments like that. I resort to pettiness to fight back now, bahahahah
wow! ive never understood that. i saw a video once where someone did that, and a support had been placed in the cake, a wooden dowel, and it went right into the persons eyeball. NEVER shoved shit into someones face. its so vile. even at my wedding, i told my husband we will not be doing that as its wasteful and abusive to be honest. i said, if we wanna smear a little with a fork on each other ok, like, be sensible, but that whole cake in the face is just UGH. plus i have a fear of having my face covered so, maybe its just me.
I was lucky I guess. When I decided to have a hysterectomy at 35, without having had children, something that my partner and I had agreed to, only one person raised an eyebrow. My cousin didn't want me to do anything that I might regret. She had good intentions, and after hearing what I had to say, she accepted my reasons for making this decision. Firstly, we were 35(me) and 40(him) so not youngsters, we were struggling financially for various reasons, I was raised with physical, emotional, and verbal abuse, and I had some emotional and patience issues, and I was frightened that I wouldn't be a good parent. It's not that I don't love children, I adore them, which is why I couldn't risk being in any kind of way, abusive. Given all that, and that the pain and everything else horrible surrounding my periods was getting worse, and disrupting about 3 weeks out of every 4, the hysterectomy was a good choice for me. Actually, most of my childhood friends chose not to have kids, mostly because they didn't want to be parents, not for any of the reasons that applied to me. Why anyone thinks this is the business of any one other than the couple themselves, is so bloody bizarre to me. Mind your own shit Auntie Karen and Uncle Kevin!
I'm sorry you had to hear that. I've heard it all as well. Now that I'm with the right man, we REALLY don't want kids even more😂
Imagine your kid running rampant and creating chaos then complaining that it's hard to make friends. It's everyone else's fault of course 🙄
Yeah... This kid sounds pretty annoying tbh. I have a friend with such a kid and honestly I'm done to be always the babysitter every time we meet up. I honestly prefer not to meet up at all at this point because it is absolutely exhausting every single time. I rather call or chat then. May be rude to say it, but doesn't change it. Her kid is super annoying.
I wondered about that story, too. It sounded to me like the woman was oblivious to her out-of-control toddler and became offended by others who did not appreciate having to be around such a child.
I was thinking the same. Just her describing her son's behaviour gave me anxiety 😂
@@thomasjoseph5876 the child sound like he has ADHD and/or Autism 🙄 no where does it say that she does nothing about it..
That wasn't the complaint. They all called her out on it and it felt like raining insults. It's a 2year old child you can't 'reason' or train the child in a few months really. It takes time. But them bringing her down now when he's just two? How will they do when he's 7 then?
Yes she needs to train her kids better. But that doesn't warrant them acting like he's disgusting. He's 2. If you've been around children you'd understand.
10:20 Why does anyone in the family thinks she - as an outsider - should pay for their family cabin!?? Make it make sense. This rule should naturally apply to family only
“The lot of them!…” *smack smack smack* “Go away!”
That took me by surprise! 🤣🤣 Loved it and I’m stealing it.
Charlotte smacking the names out of the air at 1:58-2:00 is *chef’s kiss*!! This channel is SO fun with Charlotte, the awesome editing, and the good times-keep up the great work!!!
The fake heart attack reminded of a person I met in college. She was a middle child in a family with nine children living at or below poverty level. Parents struggled with the whole situation and the older kids were expected to care for the younger kids. She learned that the best way to get attention was to be sick...or fake it.
Any gathering that included her broke up early when she began to feel ignored and her "headaches" and "upset stomach" made an appearance.
These people remind me of two characters on a couple of older TV shows; Bewitched (Darren Stephens) and Andy Griffith (Howard Sprage). The mother was a snooty woman and she was played by the SAME ACTRESS!!! She was always coming down with something when the attention wasn't on her, especially having a "sick headache". I don't know if you watched them but she was so pathetic for attention.
My mother in law gave me rona last week.
She knew she had it and still chose to be around people.
I'm a bit pissed.
I'd be more than just a bit pissed. I hope you get better really soon 🙏❤
My brother did this last year 😩he insists on visiting everyone and their mama and then coming home with it i don't kiss him anymore when he comes home i was so pissed
I got right after Halloween last year because my mom went to a party, that was indoors, no masks, in very close quarters with someone who very casually said “i just tested positive for covid.” Of course, a few days later my mom gets sick, and she never gets sick. Because me and my son live with her, and the “just tested positive” woman slipped her mind, she was less than careful until she started to lose her sense of smell and taste. She tested positive later than week, and me and my tested positive the week after.
I got it when it was brand new and no one knew what it was. It's how I got it! My late best friend was going to Florida and my dad sent me with her because she had pancreatic cancer and didn't want her traveling alone. We were there for a week and the day we were coming home she made us go to the airport 5 1/2 hours before our flight. Two days after I got home I was horribly sick. The hospital said it was the flu and I'll be fine in 7 - 10 days. 5 weeks later I was finally better.. I hated flying before but that was literally my last time ever.
I seriously wish people could be charged and given a hefty fine for giving what could be a death sentence to someone just because they are assholes who don't like to be inconvenienced by safety measures, and very obviously don't give a shit about anyone else but themselves.
Sorry you have to deal with that. I'd be way more than a bit pissed; I'd be furious. Sending well wishes your way.
I love the first mom, she stood up for her son.
For the first story and as an autism mama, good for that dad for standing up to his POS family! That 45yo brother is literally the worst and I would have to control myself to not want to claw his face
For the cabin story I think the $200-$400 fee was per person, not divided up by number of people. So he expected a few hundred dollars from her (not $50).
Yup 400 dollars for a weekend in a overcrowded cabin. that sounds like fun!
Yes, per year, so she did a rough estimate for just the summer
and that's for an ENTIRE YEAR for the family. he wanted her to pay that for what a weekend????? insane
@@reberi A leaky, overcrowded and run down cabin... She should go, but get a room for that 400 dollars (a real nice one) and join them during the day if they want to meet her so bad. Until she has a wedding ring on her finger, she is an invited guest, invited guests don't pay. Charlottes right, would she be allowed to use the cabin after paying her share for a weekend getaway with just her girlfriends? I'm guessing the family would have a problem with that.
Yes exactly I just commented this too LOL. If I were her I'd spend 400 on my own vacation away from this dummy
As someone on the spectrum, 1st story; Well done for being a great father! It would have been horrid for a non Autistic kid too, but us? Texture/taste is VERY important. Well done Mr Dad! Brilliant.
I would have kicked them out then and there
One thing tho autist to autist, when refering to people with or without autism/aspergers its important to remember to say person with//without autism, people love to define us by our neurodivergence and that's part of why we are so widely demonised
I feel kind of mehh about the lady with the kid. Because like yeah, they shouldn't be saying those things to her face, but it's clear that she has no control over her kid. I mean, he brought down a tent on everyone and then ran into the street laughing about it? Like that's not normal toddler behavior. I work with 4 year olds, if a child had done something like that and people were upset, most of them will apologize or start crying. And if your kid is 2, then I feel like they are even likelier to cry, and also what were they doing unsupervised for so long that the tent came down on everyone? And then if everyone in her life is saying that they don't want kids (because of her kid), then yeah, your kid--or rather, how you handle your kid--is a problem.
Yup. They could have more tact but also they aren't outright saying she needs to be a better parent which is probably the case. Though to be honest I kinda get ADHD vibes.
I'm wondered where the "doctor" hubby she had to mention,is. The rest of the complaints were all about her and how the kid acts. If the kid had issues, would the doctor husband see the signs or gave a colleague check him over?
I have a story for the most WTF thing a member of the family has done. My dad's MIL, my grandmother from my mums side, is probably the cruelest person I know and most likely a psychopath. Even before I was born she was cruel and uninterested in her daughter, my mum, and her SIL's life and the treatment towards her in her childhood, by today's standards, is downright abusive.
My brother and I are her oldest grandchildren and even when we were born, would miss birthdays, holidays or life events which pissed my dad off to no end. By my 10th birthday, she didn't show up despite promising, my parents had had enough and cut contact.
3 years later, my dad's parents had passed away within a few weeks of each other and this was tough on the family including my mum, who thought of her MIL and FIL as her own parents. At the funerals, while my brother and I were bawling our eyes out in grief, my Dad's MIL showed up, walked past us and proceeded to say to my aunt and say "Oh you must be so heartbroken, I'm so sorry!" ect. She had the absolute audacity to show up to their funerals, when she didn't even speak to them once and didn't even as much as glance at her grandchildren, her daughter or SIL.
Needless to say, my parents were not happy with her appearance there and since then, I have no qualms about the depths she will stoop to, in order to make any occasion about her so she can gain something. When I found this out, I have felt nothing but hatred for this woman and if she were to ever see me or speak to me, I will not even do that, she doesn't deserve my attention after pulling such a stunt.
I had an aunt tell me my blended family was "too much" we haave 7 between us, they are super well behaved (in public lol) I said why, and she said "you have to mother 7 children" with a look of distaste, I quickly retorted, "I know, they are so lucky, their dad could have met you" and I walked away. 😂
I have NEVER had negative comments about thier behavior. That child is feral, and mum needs to get off her arse and parent.
I have a strange feeling that the story about the chick who is the only one she knows with kids is leaving out the fact that she has a bad ass kid that she refuses to chastise to a point where the kid goes around breaking everyone's things and constantly putting itself in harms way like tearing down a whole tent then running in traffic bc it thinks its funny call me an ah all u want but if your child is a like that i can see why people would be turned off with u bringing them to events where there are only adults tryna relax 🤔🤷♀️
Bad ass means something totally different. It’s just bad.
@@roygbiv9038 its a figure of speech dont tell me how to talk seems like u have a bad ass habit of doing that
I have looked after kids like this and had to personally teach them boundaries myself. I can almost guarantee that the behaviour is 90% the parents fault. Honestly the kid is the one that is suffering from this situation
I got the distinct impression the child was not well behaved and probably undisciplined.
@@ladyj.9350 I absolutely agree most of them refuse to teach boundaries to the children and get offended when others attempt to do so which leads to them playing victim when people decide they don't wanna be around them with their kid behaving like that
So that one mom pulled a "Fred Sanford"! It's the big one, 'Lizabeth, I'm coming to join you!
Sadly, when Redd Foxx really did die from a heart attack on the set of his last show people around him thought he was kidding at first because he pulled that gag a lot.
At least once per episode as I recall it. 😉
For the second one, I concede that maybe all of her friends and family are jerks. However just maybe their parenting needs a little re-examining.
Don’t get me wrong: Parenting is super hard and kids are little chaos monsters. However, I have just had to care for so many kids that I had to properly teach the concept of “boundaries” to. Usually the parents are seriously exhausted and only have the energy to do “clean up” work so I empathize. According to OP, the people in their life aren’t exactly super supportive so I’m guessing that’s the case.
I’ve just seen a lot of situations where a wild energetic child was just lacking certain behavioural concepts. In my experience, it might take months or more to fully ingrain an idea into a child but afterwards, they’ll probably be the one reminding you how to behave.
Maybe that 2year old is a little devil and everyone hates him, that's why they start talking like that.
Not all children are like that, there are some sweet little ones, that make everyone wanting to have one, too.
If tons of friends and family are seeing what a hellion your kid is to the point that they are CONSTANTLY saying stuff like that though, the mother needs to rethink her parenting and discipline her friggin child.
Yea I think that it’s strange that every adult they know literally saw their kid and went “thank god I don’t have those l” or their friend that’s rethinking kids for the next TEN YEARS?!? Yea I get the vibe that maybe their don’t act shitty because they don’t like kids it’s that they don’t like HER kid because she’s a little shit
right? the 2 year ..collapsed an entire tent and then ran into the street laughing. And this woman didnt feel the least bit apologetic or remorseful for the kid's behavior ??? She wrote that like...no big deal...everybody hates kids.
He's 2 not 5? You might not know what being a parent is but it's not exactly easy to ingrave behavioural patterns in them. Especially when they don't understand a thing and you just went from treating your child like a king to actually telling him what to do. It's not easy and that's the exact reason why she's angry. As much as she is trying what she can and she might be trying new methods to keep her child at bay, that doesn't warrant the haul of insults she has to face.
“What’s the most WTF thing a family member has done?”
When I finally cut my toxic dad out of my life, he blackmailed me 🙃 my life insurance was under his control, and he demanded I either pay him the $1100 cash out he’’d get from dissolving it and he would have it switched to my name, or I would lose the policy. (My parents had gotten it when I was a newborn in case of SIDS. I still have it! $15/month for a CAD$50,000 policy. And since I was less than a year old, nothing I have qualifies as a “pre-existing condition”) My mom paid (I was barely 20) and I got my life insurance moved to me. My fathers done a lot of shitty things but I think that takes the cake. He recently tried to add me on Snapchat and was immediately blocked.
Good riddance.
The toddler one, that kid must be a REAL undisciplined nightmare. Collapsing a tent, if OP was just generally talking to her kid, what must her kid have been doing for anyone to say out loud 'thank God I didn't have kids'? At your friends house OPs kid must have been allowed to run riot again, for OP to have to keep hold of him all the time. OP's kid sounds like the best advert for abstinence/birth control/sterilisation. OP really does need to start parenting that kid properly.
As much opportunity as my family has, I am so relieved that I don’t have to deal with entitlement on top of it all. Love y’all!
Wow, the first story was stangely similar to something I had to deal with this Mother's Day (minus the autistic son), and my brother is also 45, and does stupid childish things like he's 9. In this, case, screaming at the top of his lungs telling me to "shut up" because I didn't agree with something he said (which turned out to be a misunderstanding really) and throwing silverware at me. I left crying right there and then. Because my brother essentially has a permanent case of depression since he's a teenager and will often make threats of unaliving himself, my parents have become enablers and will absolutely not tell him when he's out of place out of fear of vexing him, it has become extremely toxic and unfair to me, and so I've decided to cut him out of my life. Of course, I've been made to be the bad guy, event though I've had to endure pretty sh"tty stuff from my brother through my whole life, and no longer want to "forgive and forget", as is always expected of me. Not to mention pretty sh*tty comments like how he can't be "proud" of me because I'm 40, single and childless (I'm aromatic asexual and never wanted children, but he doesn't know that as he has pretty sh*tty takes on LGBT subjects) even though he himself is 45, single and childless. IRONY. The difference is I don't care what he does with his life, but apparently my life his is business...
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I am sorry your family seems to have little regard for your feelings as it pertains to your brother. I hope you are doing better now.
@@tallapartment6776 Yeah, it sucks that my hurt feelings always have to take a backseat whenever he's concerned, his feelings being WAY more important because of his mental state. And yeah, I get it, I've be through depression as well and pretty severe social anxiety on top of that, so I'm not trying to be ununderstading, but he doesn't help himself, he does everything not to - even stopping taking his meds - and will not look at the root of the problem, blaming the entire world (but mostly my mother) for his every failures. There's a point where I think you just can't do anything anymore, and it just really becomes toxic for everyone involved. I'm thinking the less I see of him and risks incidents like these, the less it will tarnish my relationship with my parents, which is fine normally when he's not involved. I've been pretty open about my feelings with my mom and while she understands and acknowledges some of my points, it's also apparent the statu quo will remain. I don't think she or my dad would know how to do otherwise at this point, anyway.
Good for you for having those boundaries. It's hard to cut family out of your life, but oh so necessary sometimes.
A family member bought a wreath to put on my aunt's grave at the funeral. My cousin from another aunt heard about it and demanded to be one to place the wreath. She was told to just buy one herself. Instead, she didn't go to the funeral and didn't talk to the family for months.
I can't decide if this is more entitled or petty. 🤔
Oh darn!
Good grief, cousin could ballast a schooner with those stones.
Some mothers really do have them, don't they?
When I told my grandmother I wasn’t planning on kids she said “good I think you would be a terrible mother.” As I’ve helped her more and more with her medicine changes, cooking, driving her around, I’ve realized that she is just an awful person who will never truly appreciate all that we do to help her. Jokes on her, I’m the best auntie in the world and I think I would be a great mother.
At first I thought the cabin story wasn’t too bad, you will have costs for water and electricity etc. and if everyone chips in then it’s all fair - but not when you‘re invited to a family gathering and are expected to pay the “annual fee”.
I don't see why a guest should invest into his family cabin... The audacity of him telling her to pay its just gross...
This dude is pathetic 😮
@@morganablackwater2017 if he sees his future with her, she'll need to start paying if they get married. I doubt this fee is just for family exclusively. It could extend to guests as well but he didn't put it in the post. Even if she did something else for the cabin, she would still be spending that amount of money in the end. It's easier to just pay the fee.
Speaking of family.... apparently the reverse cowgirl is banned in Alabama....cos you never turn your back on family 😂 sorry it was a joke my son told me lol 😂
"My brother grabbed the last 6 pieces of cheese pizza and LICKED THEM IN FRONT OF MY SON, WHO'S AUTISTIC AND HAS FOOD TEXTURE ISSUES! Meanwhile, my parents are DEFENDING the brother and are telling me I'm OVERREACTING!"
Uh, no. If anyone's overreacting, it's OP's so called "Parents".
Are they ableists and don't care if their own grandson has autism and their son is basically bullying him?
Or are they SO entitled, they don't care about scolding their own 45 year old adult son for pulling a disgusting stunt like that to a 14 year old kid with autism!?
As someone who HAS autism, I can say that my Mom would NOT put up with this kind of sh*t!
Also, Adam's acting like a teen bully man-child, who teases/bullies a 14 year old with autism! I'd cut ties with those Three Stooges if I was OP! Like COME ON!
Three Stooges is right for these people, except the ACTUAL Three Stooges are well mannered actors and not two parents that enables their adult 45 year old bastard of a son who bullies a 14 year old minor with autism! F*** those three!
i think any sane mom would defend their child in this scenario. Like come on an adult bullying a child is not defendable.
Your my idol- Your making so much sense with this, Being autistic myself im appalled a 45 year olds parents would enable that behavior, I would have smacked the brother
totally agree! i think the parents just always excuse the older brothers behavior... so sad for the child on the spectrum
Imagine being the kind of person who thinks it's funny to take food out of the mouth of a fragile child, I could never
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Wowwww, that mother is a monster.
My mom did something similar when I started having seizures from late adolescent epilepsy and she said, "Just stop having them, we can't afford to go to the Dr all the time."
I'm absolutely shocked by what your mom said ! wtf !? does she even realise how stupid that is ?
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“Grade-A+ teeeEEERRRRIBLE ADVICE!”
That first story with the pizza does not surprise me at all. I’m 43 but I have similar issues to the boy in the story with food. Growing up with food issues was horrible, no one knew I was neurodiverse and just complain I was “picky” since things like autism were not well known, especially in girls where it isn’t extremely obvious. My family hated having to get cheese pizza for me and so would only get half a pizza with cheese. They would all complain. Then, when the pizzas would arrive people would take the cheese slices and often I only got one or half a slice because I had to share. Everyone else could have as much of all the other pizzas as they wanted. When I was older and was able to buy my own pizza for the first time, I actually cried.
That did not surprise me either. Because I think people do that out of resentfulness since they are usually not sensible enough to understand that some people can eat a few things only ( due to certain physical conditions) so they actually consider it a drama. And a lot of people also do not like when a person gets extra care like parents order or cook for them separately so they do actually get offended and develop certain feelings of hatred just because of that.A close family member of mine can not eat a lots of regular stuff because they have a few allergies and they actually had to deal with abusive behavior. Like being invited to a family gathering and not being able to eat anything there since the host did not respect that they have allergies.And relatives in such gatherings telling them to their face that Its nothing other than attention seeking etc. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. I hope you get to enjoy lots of cheese pizzas through out your life.
Family members can be the worst! When my hubs, and I met, we immediately fell for one another! We were both divorced (and had been for some time) from very bad marriages. We fell hard! Having dated others since our divorces, we both knew what we wanted, and we didn’t really need a lot of time to figure it out. We got engaged a month in, and his family was all “You’re moving too fast!” “You’re gonna go down in flames” blah, blah, blah, blah. 16 years later, and some of them STILL can’t let it go!
We have so much fun together, and are still so in love with each other! It sounds super cliché and I thought I would never say this in my life, but we really were made for each other, and we are each other’s missing puzzle piece. I know you’re vomiting now, but we’re super cuddly, and totally ridiculous! I love it! And every year on our anniversary, I love pointing out how wrong everyone was. 😆
good for you I like hearing about successful marriages, there are so few of them these days.
6:50, reminds me of someone that I had the displeasure or working with in the military. I was on a liaison visit to an Australian Navy ship and as we were going on board the gangway collapsed. Myself and two others fell 30 feet into the harbour, and we were all broken pretty badly. I broke both ankles the left tibia and fibular, a dislocated fracture of the head of the femur as I put it through the hip socket broke the pelvis in 5 places broke two ribs punctured and collapsed a lung, among various other injuries Even with all these I was able to save one girl who was in and out of consciousness. The person who I was working with on the squadron said, 'Just think, if I had gone on that detachment, that would have been me.' Luckily he had been posted by the time I eventually got back to the squadron, so I never saw him again, but it was typical of the entitlement to take anything away from me on that squadron. It was a visit that I arranged with the Australian Navy, as a friend of mine sails catamarans and this was one of the huge cross channel type, and I wanted to get her some photos, so he wouldn't have been on the visit even if he had been there.
I think what the guy did could be called trying to steal sympathy for himself. I am sorry you were hurt so badly, I hope you are doing much better.
Just finished my workout routine and found this on my YT feed
What a lovely way to relax ☺️ with the queen of petty herself
Be sure to “subscrahb!” 😉 She does this daily!
most wtf thing a parent ever did to me: when i was 15 i was officially diagnosed with scoliosis, and went to a spine surgeon for an x-ray and consulation to see if i needed surgery. i was kind of on the border of not needing it/needing it, but the doctor did recommend that it would be beneficial for me in the long run. my sperm donor said it was too expensive and unnecessary, never got it.
two years later he built a $700,00 house.
he now owns a lake house.
family members are so special, they need to be left alone.
I love all the protective parents/aunts/uncles from the first story y’all rock fr 😌