God put this video on the explore page randomly for me, honestly too precise, thank you God :( I’ve felt sad in my heart for a long time because of all this and Gods healing me at the root🥺 thank you
Found your channel looking up “condemnation”. I was exhausted from the mean self talk and constantly repenting for old sins. Thank you so much for showing all of us that there is an entirely new way of thinking. I am practicing everything I am learning. Life changing. Thank you again !
Just wow. Hallelujah… Mr. & Mrs. DeJesus, thank you so much for, by the rich mercies and graces of God, pressing on with what, sadly, you’ve been through, what you’re going through, (as we’re not finished yet), and what you’ve done to help others out of God’s powerful Agape! Praise God for how He’s used what you’ve been through to truly help and heal others in Him! Praying for you, your beautiful family, and those being healed and seeking it. Thank you! 🙏🏻 Praise God for the gift of Him and the gospel of His beautiful Son! May we graciously share what we’ve been so freely given.
My wife grew up in a "Christian" family where there was, "Always money for the missionaries, but NEVER money for me..." , and this was for the most basic of a child's needs, whether it be clothes, health issues or anything related to her education and development. (Message to your child: The missionaries are of VALUE to God, but YOU'RE not!!")
I just have to tell you how grateful I am for finding your channel. So far everything that I've watched has hit home for me. I've struggled to find a local Christian therapist who actually addresses these issues -- especially the emotional neglect and trauma aspects. I am working with someone now and am building up to EMDR with her, and these videos will be such a great complement to working with her. God bless you, Mark.
What the Church has done to peoples well being, is as bad as child abuse. I refuse to attend their so called services anymore. But I can listen to this.
This helped me! I had very harsh life threatening consequences for mistakes as a child, Especially for things not my fault. It makes sense why I am a perfectionist and it steals my joy! Wow such profound statements! It can be hard to believe “There is No failure, only learning!” When your life was threatened. EMDR has helped me a lot. Good reminder that Gods yoke is light. I will try your suggested self talk: . “I get to do this and enjoy this. Im grateful and I choose to enjoy”
@18:00 that tangent.....hit home for me.....my super christian ex sister in law use to go on these big mission trips. They had 3 young children at home. I know her husband was drinking terribly. His brother, my ex, cheated on me since day 1 for 37 years. Their son OD'd at age 17. I saw it coming....ignoring your children is not ok with me....she is still with the guy...acts like they are still christian and what happened was an accident (her son dying). they pushed him into that grave I tell ya. Keep up your enlightening modern WORK Mark. You are a hero.
It’s so so good Un revealing truth about our personality brokenness,I am gonna listen and study and make sure I got healed from God never neglect me and already provide and satisfied my soul...
Hey Mark do you have a video about how to Minister to your loved ones (wife, kids etc.)? It would be very interesting for me to watch and very helpful because I would like to learn that.
Me! I remember being a young girl that saw her mom going to work at a waitress job after working at home and having a big garden, driving a school bus, and having to sleep at some point. Dad worked a lot. I remember waiting for them to have some kind of relationship. I got into my teen years and rebelled. I got into a lot of wrong things because it was a way of finding acceptance. I got saved when I was 22. I didn't get married until I was 26. I didn't realize when I married him, that I was going to face the same neglect I lived when I was a child. It has been horrible. He doesn't want to go to an unbiased qualified counselor for help. I want to leave because our 3 children are now adults and I don't see a reason to be here. He's controlling. He can't see what he does nor does he want to change.
You really have a video on everything, Mark! Speaking to so much (or ALL) of the healing journey I’m on and just when I think “nothing’s going to be out there on this” “no one else is dealing with this” I’m proven wrong by your videos! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing ALL of this! Your ministry is so needed!
I agree. I feel like a bad Christian, daughter, gf, sister, friend, everything. Like I'm a freak. It is bittersweet knowing others understand what even I struggle to. I pray we are moved into Healing and freedom deeper and deeper in Christ. ✝️🙏💜
Omigosh, my parents were also missionaries and we lived in the insurance capital as well! Great video! This helped me as I'm writing a blog post about my experiences. Thank you!
Yes, pressure is what I've been feeling. Pressure to be this way, do it that way, why did I say This or that. Your teachings are really starting to help me relax. I am realizing I can't really live like that, like really live.
so glad a friend of mine recommended you !! in 2021, i figured out i had ocpd (went 10 years thinking i had ocd, it always felt slightly off, but i was obsessive compulsive enough that i kept the label) and its been such a struggle trying to figure where it ends and i begin. your vids are soothing to the soul !!
God loves where you are at.. One thing l l find so hard is to trust. Jesus l trust in you. You are my beloved . Some times repeating it helps .Say it as though you really mean don't hold back. Yes l have been through all sorts with my scrupulosity. One thing l come back to is jesus l trust in you. I even talk to god . Read out my poems to him. He really likes that. Trust Trust Trust.
I didn’t ask the question but my upbringing was literally exactly the same except we lost our dad to a sickness, the neglect is so real and this video explained everything really well. Thank you Mark.
Thank you for making this content! Praise God, I just found your channel and am feeling so blessed. Really looking forward to diving in to many more videos. Bless you and yours.
Wow! This whole video has been just what I need to hear today! Thank you, Mark, for your videos! I just found you on UA-cam a week ago! Praise God for His love & how He’s using you to spread His love!
❤ I’ve been watching your channel for quite some times and It finally made me realise that I hated my mistakes and that’s why the ocd or perfectionism stays for such a long time. So right if I’m kind to mistake and less pressurised but enjoy I learn better. ❤
Wow all this makes sense,one church i attended every three months i had to have sum time out just a few weeks to have x rest..i wasnt sinning or back slidden or out of kilter with anyone,i just needed a rest... .😊
You're right, and I accept this is HARD. I cannot imagine living like this a minute more so here I am. God get "enough on time " glory out of me, someone who woke up at 58. I've got these internal polaroids of life sorta lived & sorta not...and it has frustrated me but I get it now. No, I do. Suffering is not my Calling, nor is it my portion and Jesus is in sight. I pray for God to get what HE wants out of my life and I'm sure He will, as I receive His ample COMPASSION & SELF FORGIVENESS BY GRACE FROM JESUS. This isnt my perfected answer either.
I bind to hell one to wear the scars and consequences of emotional neglect in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to process and verbalize one's emotions correctly, binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with those who carry the scars and consequences of emotional neglect while lacking to verbalize and process one's emotions correctly, in accordance with this word and jeremiah 6:14, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I’m autistic and I have trouble understanding emotions and feelings, how might I go about healing if it’s hard to recognize love and acceptance and things like that?
I have started endr....I feel with my church friends do not let me say I an having a bad time or day they say you gotta make a choice to not be joyful don't let the devil steal your joy. I want a relationship with God but don't know how.
Wow…I had no idea that’s how we learned about Murphy’s law. My dad was a self taught draftsman. I would joke that I’m Murphy’s daughter and if it can go wrong , it will. So unhealthy. Lol
The Pastors and families are suffering cause Pastors, well meaning as it may seem, is trying to build the Church...forgetting that Jesus said : " I will build my Church..." For the most part we mostly interfere rather than allow the Holy Spirit to work through us and getting results based on His power and strength. We get drained quick when we just DO DO DO, with very little results.
Mark I don't know how to be loves I've been perfectionist I've been a jerk I don't understand how to just be. I think my ex husband was narcissistic....I just want Jesus I feel too sad or numb or a little resentful or angry and anxious.
just got out of a 37 year marriage (34 married) where he cheated from day 1. My mom died when I was 9. New mom neglected us for kids hardcore. Just found out my daughter was molested by the neighbor when she was 4 (she is 28) Had I been parented a little better, I could have prevented all of this mess.
Your words are a soothing balm for my weary Soul!
Thank 🙏🏼 You
God put this video on the explore page randomly for me, honestly too precise, thank you God :( I’ve felt sad in my heart for a long time because of all this and Gods healing me at the root🥺 thank you
Yep. Our God is so kind 💙
You have no idea how much your content has helped my life and relationship with God I would be lost without this material thank you brother!
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Same!
Same. New here. Wow. 😮
We need, Lord willing and the creek don't rise merch lol. As always, excellent content!
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22.38 I literally thought "ThAt Is SoMeThInG i WoUlD sAy" before he said "that is such a perfectionist statement" 🥶D:
It feels like my whole life has been waiting for this video…
Same
Found your channel looking up “condemnation”.
I was exhausted from the mean self talk and constantly repenting for old sins.
Thank you so much for showing all of us that there is an entirely new way of thinking. I am practicing everything I am learning. Life changing. Thank you again !
His content helped me so much I do appreciate him
Isnt it a wonderful gift of discovery!! 😃👍
Emotions what are those? Yup I had no clue how to handle anything in my youth. Finding it difficult as an adult in handling emotions as a mom now.
Just wow. Hallelujah… Mr. & Mrs. DeJesus, thank you so much for, by the rich mercies and graces of God, pressing on with what, sadly, you’ve been through, what you’re going through, (as we’re not finished yet), and what you’ve done to help others out of God’s powerful Agape! Praise God for how He’s used what you’ve been through to truly help and heal others in Him! Praying for you, your beautiful family, and those being healed and seeking it. Thank you! 🙏🏻 Praise God for the gift of Him and the gospel of His beautiful Son! May we graciously share what we’ve been so freely given.
Thank you so much for sharing your personal story and helping us other broken people from your journey!
My wife grew up in a "Christian" family where there was, "Always money for the missionaries, but NEVER money for me..." , and this was for the most basic of a child's needs, whether it be clothes, health issues or anything related to her education and development. (Message to your child: The missionaries are of VALUE to God, but YOU'RE not!!")
I just have to tell you how grateful I am for finding your channel. So far everything that I've watched has hit home for me. I've struggled to find a local Christian therapist who actually addresses these issues -- especially the emotional neglect and trauma aspects. I am working with someone now and am building up to EMDR with her, and these videos will be such a great complement to working with her. God bless you, Mark.
I am so glad to hear this.
What the Church has done to peoples well being, is as bad as child abuse. I refuse to attend their so called services anymore. But I can listen to this.
You’re funny “heavens of a day” I’m gonna use this but I will tell them who I got it from 💯😂
Two things can be true at the same time. You can have both loving AND neglectful parents.
This helped me! I had very harsh life threatening consequences for mistakes as a child, Especially for things not my fault. It makes sense why I am a perfectionist and it steals my joy! Wow such profound statements! It can be hard to believe “There is No failure, only learning!” When your life was threatened. EMDR has helped me a lot. Good reminder that Gods yoke is light. I will try your suggested self talk: . “I get to do this and enjoy this. Im grateful and I choose to enjoy”
@18:00 that tangent.....hit home for me.....my super christian ex sister in law use to go on these big mission trips. They had 3 young children at home. I know her husband was drinking terribly. His brother, my ex, cheated on me since day 1 for 37 years. Their son OD'd at age 17. I saw it coming....ignoring your children is not ok with me....she is still with the guy...acts like they are still christian and what happened was an accident (her son dying). they pushed him into that grave I tell ya. Keep up your enlightening modern WORK Mark. You are a hero.
Just come across Mark for the first time today. Not only is what he says really helpful, he makes me laugh! 😄Love the info, love Mark.❤
Always so refreshing to listen to your teachings! God bless you Mark
Mark you are talking about me. Thank you so much for being such a blessing to me and to the world
God speed on the book!!! 🙏🏼 your content is SOOO HELPFUL! God bless you and your family ♥️
Thanks for your help
I am always checking if you have posted another video🤣🤣 I have never been disappointed with my brother from another mother.💕💕
Wow... the feeling of being unkown... that's been me for the past 6 months causing perfectionism.
So looking forward to your next book! I have read everyone of your books and they have brought so much healing to my life and heart!!
very Good ! thank you....very blessed !
That inner critic is called, “the Judge.” It’s one of the six shadows of shame.
Is that a book?
Just discovered your channel! So thankful for your content while I'm on this journey of emotional healing.
It’s so so good Un revealing truth about our personality brokenness,I am gonna listen and study and make sure I got healed from God never neglect me and already provide and satisfied my soul...
Bro this was a blessing, thank you for sharing this!! 💙🙏🏾👍🏾
So glad it was a blessing.
Bib blessing ❤letting my 12yr old listen to you. She’s in therapy and maybe beloved in God.
Wow!!! This is sooooo good!!!!!! Thank you for your wisdom spoken with so much honor!!! God bless you!!!
I hear you Mark. I grew up something like you and now I am healing from all that plus anxiety.
Hey Mark do you have a video about how to Minister to your loved ones (wife, kids etc.)? It would be very interesting for me to watch and very helpful because I would like to learn that.
Thank you 🇿🇦
Me! I remember being a young girl that saw her mom going to work at a waitress job after working at home and having a big garden, driving a school bus, and having to sleep at some point. Dad worked a lot. I remember waiting for them to have some kind of relationship. I got into my teen years and rebelled. I got into a lot of wrong things because it was a way of finding acceptance. I got saved when I was 22. I didn't get married until I was 26. I didn't realize when I married him, that I was going to face the same neglect I lived when I was a child. It has been horrible. He doesn't want to go to an unbiased qualified counselor for help. I want to leave because our 3 children are now adults and I don't see a reason to be here. He's controlling. He can't see what he does nor does he want to change.
this was super helpful bc I'm a moral perfectionist and it grates at my mind every day. Thank you
You really have a video on everything, Mark! Speaking to so much (or ALL) of the healing journey I’m on and just when I think “nothing’s going to be out there on this” “no one else is dealing with this” I’m proven wrong by your videos! Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing ALL of this! Your ministry is so needed!
I agree. I feel like a bad Christian, daughter, gf, sister, friend, everything. Like I'm a freak. It is bittersweet knowing others understand what even I struggle to. I pray we are moved into Healing and freedom deeper and deeper in Christ. ✝️🙏💜
@@Angelssing2heryes and amen!!❤️
Omigosh, my parents were also missionaries and we lived in the insurance capital as well! Great video! This helped me as I'm writing a blog post about my experiences. Thank you!
Yes, pressure is what I've been feeling. Pressure to be this way, do it that way, why did I say This or that. Your teachings are really starting to help me relax. I am realizing I can't really live like that, like really live.
so glad a friend of mine recommended you !! in 2021, i figured out i had ocpd (went 10 years thinking i had ocd, it always felt slightly off, but i was obsessive compulsive enough that i kept the label) and its been such a struggle trying to figure where it ends and i begin.
your vids are soothing to the soul !!
hey, i suspect i have OCPD too! finally, someone to relate to 😭😭😭😭
God loves where you are at.. One thing l l find so hard is to trust. Jesus l trust in you. You are my beloved . Some times repeating it helps .Say it as though you really mean don't hold back. Yes l have been through all sorts with my scrupulosity. One thing l come back to is jesus l trust in you. I even talk to god . Read out my poems to him. He really likes that. Trust Trust Trust.
Spot on!!!
I didn’t ask the question but my upbringing was literally exactly the same except we lost our dad to a sickness, the neglect is so real and this video explained everything really well. Thank you Mark.
I’d like to read your potential book on perfectionism! ;)
Excellent explanations and clarifications on this topic!
Thank you for making this content! Praise God, I just found your channel and am feeling so blessed. Really looking forward to diving in to many more videos. Bless you and yours.
Wow! This whole video has been just what I need to hear today! Thank you, Mark, for your videos! I just found you on UA-cam a week ago! Praise God for His love & how He’s using you to spread His love!
❤ I’ve been watching your channel for quite some times and It finally made me realise that I hated my mistakes and that’s why the ocd or perfectionism stays for such a long time. So right if I’m kind to mistake and less pressurised but enjoy I learn better. ❤
Im so glad I came across this channel. How can I put this into practice? I feel bitter. The pressure is real
Wow all this makes sense,one church i attended every three months i had to have sum time out just a few weeks to have x rest..i wasnt sinning or back slidden or out of kilter with anyone,i just needed a rest... .😊
Intresting perspectives! Thank you.
Excellent thanks very much 🙏💜
I love your videos! Their really helping me
Brilliant ❤
You're right, and I accept this is HARD. I cannot imagine living like this a minute more so here I am.
God get "enough on time " glory out of me, someone who woke up at 58. I've got these internal polaroids of life sorta lived & sorta not...and it has frustrated me but I get it now. No, I do. Suffering is not my Calling, nor is it my portion and Jesus is in sight. I pray for God to get what HE wants out of my life and I'm sure He will, as I receive His ample COMPASSION & SELF FORGIVENESS BY GRACE FROM JESUS. This isnt my perfected answer either.
I bind to hell one to wear the scars and consequences of emotional neglect in my life, the lives of my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquitances, opponents and the body of Christ while binding one to process and verbalize one's emotions correctly, binding to hell being unequally yoked and having any common share with those who carry the scars and consequences of emotional neglect while lacking to verbalize and process one's emotions correctly, in accordance with this word and jeremiah 6:14, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
I’m autistic and I have trouble understanding emotions and feelings, how might I go about healing if it’s hard to recognize love and acceptance and things like that?
That’s a really good question I hope he sees this
Hi Mark, what resource do you recommend to heal perfectionism?
Amazing
Great stuff! ❤
I have started endr....I feel with my church friends do not let me say I an having a bad time or day they say you gotta make a choice to not be joyful don't let the devil steal your joy. I want a relationship with God but don't know how.
Going through hell right now...This segment was 100% spot on...
🏃🏼💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨💨🔥
great video
I'm reading the book of Leviticus and am regretting it 🙈😭
This is soo soo good
Friends have claimed the anxiety and depression is from the enemy. ......man I just want peace of mind i want to know Jesus and myself
Wow…I had no idea that’s how we learned about Murphy’s law. My dad was a self taught draftsman. I would joke that I’m Murphy’s daughter and if it can go wrong , it will. So unhealthy. Lol
I have Christian friends who always blame the struggle on the enemy lately its starting to make me feel a little angry
The Pastors and families are suffering cause Pastors, well meaning as it may seem, is trying to build the Church...forgetting that Jesus said : " I will build my Church..." For the most part we mostly interfere rather than allow the Holy Spirit to work through us and getting results based on His power and strength. We get drained quick when we just DO DO DO, with very little results.
I hate to admit i would sometimes insist i was right but emotional neglect and insecurities and shame ruined relationships 😔
Mark I don't know how to be loves I've been perfectionist I've been a jerk I don't understand how to just be. I think my ex husband was narcissistic....I just want Jesus I feel too sad or numb or a little resentful or angry and anxious.
just got out of a 37 year marriage (34 married) where he cheated from day 1. My mom died when I was 9. New mom neglected us for kids hardcore. Just found out my daughter was molested by the neighbor when she was 4 (she is 28) Had I been parented a little better, I could have prevented all of this mess.
The other way they can look at it is this:
GOD: I've entrusted my children with you. Take care of them.
Are we the same person? 😅