235: 7 Steps To Healing The Mother Wound With Bethany Webster (HIGHLIGHTS)

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    ‘A good mother puts her own needs last.’
    ‘You should enjoy every moment of motherhood.’
    ‘It’s important to get your pre-baby body back, fast.’
    … This is just a handful of the limiting beliefs people can hold about motherhood.
    Sometimes we inherit these beliefs from our own mothers, sometimes they’re fed to us from society, and sometimes they get embedded in our brains without us even knowing. Today’s podcast guest, Bethany Webster, says this way of thinking stems from the ‘Mother Wound’ - the inherited pain of being a woman in a patriarchal culture. And in today’s episode, she’s guiding us through the process of healing this wound, ditching our dysfunctional coping mechanisms, and expanding our idea of what it means to be a mama.
    Known as a ‘midwife of the heart’, Bethany Webster is a writer, transformational coach and international speaker. Her work has filled a crucial gap in our understanding of women’s lives by blending cutting-edge research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology to comprehensively define the Mother Wound.
    Bethany’s insights in this conversation blew me away. I was nodding along like crazy, as she described so perfectly what it’s like to be a woman in this world and how many damaging beliefs we can absorb without even realising. Whether you are a mama, want to be a mama, have a mama, or just want to understand yourself and the women in your life better, you’ll find veins of gold throughout this podcast, and I can’t wait for you to listen.
    So if you want to heal your ancestral wounds, actualize your full potential, and redefine your own relationship with motherhood, this conversation is for you.
    In this episode we chat about:
    •Her story from being the ‘mother figure’ as a child, to falling pregnant at 19, to healing her Mother Wound and her spiritual awakening to where she is today (00:48)
    •What is the Mother Wound? (04:54)
    •The truth about why people get defensive (06:53)
    •Why we need to stay open in all our relationships and the power of CCC (08:14)
    •7 steps to heal your Mother Wound (and how this process can transform your own life, as well as your relationship with your mother) (09:53)
    •What if you already have children - is it too late to heal your Mother Wound? (14:52)
    •Why you need to get support on your healing journey (15:43)
    •How to apply this work to your Father Wound (16:26)
    •What she is working on within herself at the moment (17:45)
    •How to care for the inner child and heal Mother Wounds as a couple (18:46)
    •Plus so much more!
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  • @thecollectivemessenger303
    @thecollectivemessenger303 2 роки тому +38

    I didn’t even realize how my mother wounds made me feel like I didn’t want children because of how scared I was of being just like her and my grandmother (her mom). I’m healing generations of mother wounds and it’s really making sense on how it’s affected me my whole life. Thank you for these prompts to dive deeper into self . 💓

    • @mentoring42
      @mentoring42 Рік тому

      I was brave enough to be honest with myself to decide to not have children. I loved them souch that I chose "not" to give birth to them.

  • @ladyvirgo9514
    @ladyvirgo9514 2 роки тому +11

    I tried the heart talk with my Mom, Not a good, healthy result. Her reactions were very telling. I'm not making excuses for her anymore

  • @happinessandmoney4842
    @happinessandmoney4842 4 роки тому +32

    I’ve also been doing this work and it is very freeing. I wish more men did the work!

  • @Val-zx7ro
    @Val-zx7ro 3 роки тому +24

    Heck. Being the emotional support animal for my mom wasn't easy. And I hardly ever got what I needed either

  • @Mixedandfine
    @Mixedandfine 2 роки тому +8

    I was doing this same thing! being my mother’s everything!!

  • @courtneybrubaker9738
    @courtneybrubaker9738 3 роки тому +7

    I'm in her class... Brilliant and healing.

  • @CherylMuir
    @CherylMuir 3 роки тому +1

    Such an important topic ❤️

  • @christinecardoza7253
    @christinecardoza7253 2 роки тому +2

    Excellent topic 🙏✨❤️ thank you. Great insights

  • @Val-zx7ro
    @Val-zx7ro 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for the video!

  • @poppyflower7873
    @poppyflower7873 3 роки тому +3

    Could you please leave all links to Bethany's on-line help, because I am desperately trying to help my adult daughter with her Mother Wound. She is in a psychotic state at the moment, hearing threatening, hateful voices, along with the fixed delusion that the voices are real. Her adult daughter is overwhelmed, trying to help her at the moment, but there are long waiting lists for treatment. She is not that open to treatment, because she truly believes her delusion. She is able to function, despite this, as she is very intelligent, but this is an emergency. At present, she only has her methadone counselor and her psych meds, she says do not help. Can you send any info that she can interact with on-line. Thank you. Your videos are helping me, also, and I am glad you relate to Eckhart Tolle.

  • @wolfy1612
    @wolfy1612 4 роки тому +1

    thanks

  • @GraciaInspired
    @GraciaInspired 3 роки тому +6

    Listening for the second time in order to take notes.... is it just me or did she skip a step? It seems she went from step 3 to 5. This was so helpful, I'd love to know what step 4 is! :)

    • @saintpam
      @saintpam 3 роки тому +5

      step 4 is The mother impossible dream : dream created that there is something wrong with me. Dream that one day, whenever i’m what she wants me to be, everything will be alright, i’ll get loved. Then, i’m gonna be happy, get what i need. “Had to be superhuman to be deserving”

    • @freesoul3982
      @freesoul3982 3 роки тому +2

      @@saintpam thank you!

    • @amittiwari-zu2lv
      @amittiwari-zu2lv 2 роки тому +2

      Share your notes
      Would you like to?

  • @mairigreenwood6363
    @mairigreenwood6363 3 роки тому +5

    We’re missing step 4 yo!

  • @pallavidixit7269
    @pallavidixit7269 2 роки тому

    Should I buy the book?
    It's way too costly in India!

  • @jeffreybensley5790
    @jeffreybensley5790 3 роки тому +3

    You said you were pregnant at 19, what happened to your child?

    • @Earl_E_Burd
      @Earl_E_Burd 3 роки тому +5

      The answer is in Bethany Webster's book, which I am listening to on audible for a second time now and will likely order the hardback because there are so many quotes in there that I want to capture and review. It is a long book and I absolutely loved it, even though it doesn't 100% apply to me as a 40-yr old male. Currently on my own healing journey after a divorce led me to finally realize I come from a family recipe of covert narcissism & abuse that I had hidden deep away in the shadows and thought I was past it. Currently on a path of deep introspection for self-awareness, mindfulness, gratitude, empathy, self-compassion, boundaries, and all that emotional stuff that was inconvenient for my family and wasn't gonna make me money, or so I thought. Now I realize I'm an idiot and so here we go for another growth cycle until the next realization hits me. Answer is in her book.

  • @LilYeti420
    @LilYeti420 4 роки тому +5

    I wish this was less cis gender focused but that aside some really good wisdom in here

    • @ErinThePsychicWitch
      @ErinThePsychicWitch 4 роки тому +16

      How is a cis woman, talking about her journey and her life's work that she created from her journey, supposed to include and speak to an experience that isn't hers? If you want something else, go seek a gender-fluid/ gender non conforming / trans teacher around the mother wound. Which might be about cis women... since it's called the mother wound... and most mothers of the world are cis.

    • @mariastefanie5835
      @mariastefanie5835 3 роки тому +1

      @Aloria Banks agreed this is absurd

    • @Val-zx7ro
      @Val-zx7ro 3 роки тому

      I'd like to hear your perspective on the mother wound from the non-cisgender angle. Would you mind sharing?

    • @Val-zx7ro
      @Val-zx7ro 3 роки тому

      @Aloria Banks Can you explain how this is against women?

    • @iambloopy
      @iambloopy 2 роки тому

      P

  • @victoriaarcturus203
    @victoriaarcturus203 2 роки тому +1

    I don’t see your mother reading a journal as being invasive or a predator at all, It’s wanting to protect and prevent the child from experiencing or making the mistakes that she made

    • @iambloopy
      @iambloopy 2 роки тому +9

      No. It's wrong especially if your child clearly communicated to you that it's their boundary that you shouldn't cross.

    • @ImTash
      @ImTash 2 роки тому

      It’s absolutely invasive.

    • @Sunny-se2nu
      @Sunny-se2nu 2 роки тому

      Privacy is a basic human right.

  • @momasb4583
    @momasb4583 2 роки тому

    Relationship with mom is due to patriarchy?

  • @donnadonna6170
    @donnadonna6170 3 роки тому +3

    You need to just get straight to the point

  • @givorget9658
    @givorget9658 3 роки тому +4

    So your mom gave you this trauma but it's man's fault - you need to do more work

    • @Val-zx7ro
      @Val-zx7ro 3 роки тому +3

      And where do you think her mom's trauma came from?

    • @givorget9658
      @givorget9658 3 роки тому

      @@Val-zx7ro Her mom's mom

    • @letylifecoach3681
      @letylifecoach3681 3 роки тому +13

      It's a transgenerational trauma transmitted through maternal lineage due to patriarchal society

    • @melaniedotson3572
      @melaniedotson3572 Рік тому

      That's what I'm saying...I thought this was going to be helpful.