My SIL did the same thing. For my birthday, I had ordered hundreds of dollars of Chinese food for 9 people. My idea was to order a bunch of different dishes that no one had ever tried before so we could discover new dishes. I had about 25 bowls of Chinese food, plus egg rolls, soups, etc. I wanted everyone to try something new. After we finished eating less than half of what I had ordered, my SIL asked if she could take some home. I said to her “Help yourself.” She literally packed up everything. EVERYTHING! Nothing was left. She walked out with three bags of food. I didn’t notice until I went to clean up. From that point forward, I immediately put everything away once we are done eating. I offer nothing to her. I give to others, but never to her.
I would have gone to her house, and told her that she couldn't have EVERYTHING like a greedy pig and them immediately grabbed everything, told her that unless she want to pay for the food she doesn't get ALL of the leftovers like that and left. You could have been nice and left her a small plate, but remember by saying "help yourself" are the magic words to "take everything for yourself" and greedy entitled people will do just that.
@@lindajacobs1487why, to avoid offending the obnoxious, greedy asshole who decided she was entitled to the food her sister purchased rather than her? Oh God no, we wouldn’t want to offend dear sis🙄🙄🙄🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
This is why it's important for the host to dish out leftovers themselves for anyone who wants to take leftovers home. I'm honestly not surprised her brother brought back the food in that condition. He did it on purpose to spite her for demanding her food back. Family or not, people can be very selfish and extremely mean. That man had the mentality of, "If I can't have the leftovers, then no one can." Never, and I mean never, leave people to help themselves to the leftovers of a party you're hosting. Always take the time to make the plates or containers for them yourself. Not everyone has respect for other's homes and food. And even if he didn't mix everything together the way he did, he more than likely would've done something else to the food that could've been way worse. At least this way, you have evidence for the entire family to see what he did. That is as long as you took pictures.
He showed them exactly who he was when he returned the food back. He would have never set foot in my home again…That could have fed so many people and he deliberately wasted it…
I couldn’t agree with you more. I think the husband is an as*hole he needs to give us head a shake and rattle everything back in the place and realize when you do a family function like that it’s for everybody to take not just one person’s family. I’m glad my family don’t act like that. I cook and bring the turkey devilled eggs, pie, butter tarts and cookies and I still would never think of taking everything home. It’s just disrespectful. It would be different if that family member and his family didn’t have food and you knew that they were gonna get by on making all different types of meals with that stuff but that’s not the case here. What they did here was just ignorant.
Joe is so uncouth. He did that on purpose because she told him to bring the food back. This man has NO shame There is one in every group. He probably brought the bare minimum for the Thxgiving meal like drinks or paper plates.
Definitely not the ahole. But since the husband blew her off, I think she needs to throw him out of the house and not let him back until he has all the ingredients to cook the feast over again. And make him cook. Then eat a meal and THROW THE REST AWAY. I bet he'd take her side from then on!!
Would anyone really want the food back?!? Come on, If he was ignorant enough to take all of the food, Do you really trust him to bring it back (especially after being confronted and embarrassed) untouched?
i wouldn't have called and confronted joe, he's not worth it. i would have just gone over to his house for leftovers, ate, and brought them back myself
I used to host Thanksgiving for 40 or so of my ex's family and they would bring their own to go containers and take everything. Ticked me off since I had cooked for days and I had no leftovers for my family to have over the weekend and I had to cook again.
That was a horrible ending. There needed to be a family post or something where they all hear about the crimes Joe committed and agree he is banned from all family holiday gatherings from then on.
Freeze that slop up into serving size portions for joe and his family and do host the next meal but guess what they get served infront of everyone and definately tell the reason and that this is what they will be served until it is gone..".nope, you dont get xmas duck or easter ham you wanted this food this badly, you can eat it till it is all gone...i dont waste food" ....if other family protests..they can eat it too.....bonus is you wont have to host again....dont even bother defrosting.
It’s not just that he took some food. It’s that he took all the food. It sounds like a large gathering and no one else got any of the leftovers. Not the parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and certainly not the hosts. If you still want to host Christmas don’t invite him and his family and tell the rest why.
I severely dislike people like this- classless, selfish jerks! Went to a wedding where it was a pot luck. People saw someone brought salmon, and scooped it all up to take home, not even seeing if all the guests had tasted any( the grooms mother had NOT)!
For 3 years, we used to go to my husband's Aunts apartment building, when we moved closer to his family in another State. (We would go to my families prior or have it at our place.) They had a room to use for gatherings with a full kitchen. Pretty much everyone (around 30 people) would come. Most would bringing some sort of dish. I would do a few desserts. As it was in an apartment building his aunt would also invite neighbors to come, make up a plate and then they leave. By the end of the day most people were gone, leaving their messes on the table and kitchen. My husband, 2 kids and myself were usually last to leave. Wanting to visit, as we only saw everyone together at that time. We ended up cleaning up everything. Putting the leftovers in the fridge. The final year we attended, everyone left including his aunt. That year I said, nope not this time! We left the empty room, just cleaning up after ourselves. The next time we saw his aunt she told me how tacky it was to just leave! His family has always been entitled! Sorry but I wasn't raised that way. And I am actually the only in law still in the family after 30 years! I would hope for some sort appreciation from his side. Especially after his disabled mother lived with us for 10 years! I told my husband he can continue going to "family events" but I wouldn't be joining. And my kids could decide if they wanted to go or not. He made the right choice and stayed with the ones who actually gave damn. So we just have our little family holidays now, even included our 3rd child. It just amazes me how so many "relatives" take advantage of good people wanting to make things special. Then give you attitude about it!! All goes to show how we are raised. Or the people you marry teaching you morals.
@@JulieD76no matter where I go, I always help clean up. My Gram taught me it's the right thing to do. I go to my ex husband's house with him, my son, my sisters in law and brothers in law, nieces and nephews, yes we all still considered ourselves related. But I clean up after the holidays or even football parties. He tells me to leave to go he'll take care of it. One year he was like no leave it go and just relax. So, yeah I did. He was in the kitchen and I asked if he wanted help. He said no. I went home. Next day I came up and the mess was still there. So I cleaned it up. So now when he goes to say something like that, I look at him like don't finish that sentence... lol
I loved doing Thanksgiving. I did it for over 30 years. We toasted our loved ones, no longer with us and the more food everyone took, the happier I was. This year, I passed the torch to my nephew's fian̈c❤e. I brought the pies.
Even if the food is ruined, the good thing is a Joe didn’t get to eat it. Just throw the trash and move on and never invite him back again host Christma but don’t invite him or his family
Every family dinner is potluck (for us). When the meal is over, all the food is split evenly between each household. Unless, of course, someone doesn't want something. The only exception to that is gluten-free items. I am gluten free and and if a relative buys something particular that is gluten-free and it doesn't get all eaten up, They usually just give all the leftovers to me. But that is the only exception. None of us would be so greedy and rude as to even consider taking all the food. 😡
This is another AI, because it repeats repeats repeats repeats repeats repeats and just drops off the side of a cliff. Christmas was never even mentioned. What did her husband say to his brother after seeing all that food in nasty pots? What did the rest of the family have to say? What did her own mother say when none of her desserts made it home? For the family to come with gallon sized ziploc bags, THEY'VE DONE THIS BEFORE, SO WHY DIDN'T OP AND HER HUSBAND NOT KNOW THIS FAMILY DOES THIS EVERY TIME? The family needs to have a meeting and discuss what they want to do with this brother's family and their OUTRIGHT THEFT. Maybe, the family should charge them for half the cost of the food, since they take it all home anyway. OR, they should offer: leftovers can be taken home, once they are paid for, according to how much food each person takes. Individual dinners on a plate- are $1. Ziploc Bags are $20 each. My Grandfather had 12 siblings, and every year around Father's day, they gathered at a camping area for a Weekend Reunion. The oldest brother had 12 or 13 kids himself, but he wasn't such a hard worker, outside of the bedroom, and they were always broke. The rules were: you bring enough food to feed your family, and when all that food was put on one table, there was plenty of variety. Except the oldest brother and family rarely brought any food, no camping gear, no cots,... no, he expected everyone else to see to their needs. By the time I came along, the reunion had dwindled since the original kids had to leave the area for jobs, and the reunion was held at the old country school building. That's when we heard that the siblings finally told the Oldest brother they weren't going to cover for him anymore. They need to bring their own food and camping gear to the reunion. That pissed the oldest brother off, and he moved several hours away and we never saw the whole family again. And I see other commenters with similar situations, but greedy guts are not tolerated, like this brother has been. All that lead up, and it just stops with no solid resolution. Yeah. That's AI.
I would have called the thieves and said,”Hey, I think you misunderstood me about the leftovers. Unfortunately, I spent so much on the meal, that I’m too broke to go shopping for my family. I was planning on using leftovers to get us through the rest of the week. We’ll be right over to get our week’s worth of food back.”
Why didn't the husband say something. Why would people take that much food, just one takeout container per person and a slice or two of pie. They wouldn't be invited to any other dinner.
If I go to someone’s house, I don’t take leftovers. If I want leftovers, I will just make a turkey. I always cook 3 or 4 turkeys and freeze the meat for sandwiches and pot pies
We had my father’s sister and family, six kids. We offered to pack them some leftovers. No, they were fine. They snatched and ran, hopped in their station wagon and zoomed off. The Turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, dressing, gravy, baked beans, relish tray, rolls and a whole pumpkin pie. My dad figured out and just missed going out the front door and heading them off. It took two years and Grandma’s intervention to get the roaster back. Last time we invited them to anything. Especially after they added twins to the mix.
A problem with many OPs is they tell everyone they are doing something (eg NOT hosting Xmas) weeks in advance. This gives them ample time to plan how to and act like AHs. Why not tell them one week before and block them. Even better off the main phone if it isn't vital and use a second/ burner phone. Happy holidays
The only thing to do here is to host Christmas, and have some absolutely, ravishing, AMAZING dishes/desserts (extra points for making sure two are Joe & his wife’s favorites) sitting, covered, but tempting, in the kitchen as people troop in/out. Then? Neatly remove those goodies to the fridge in the garage (and lock the garage door). Have all the empty pie/tupperware/casserole dishes ready to divide up the turkey & other left overs into different leftover dishes FOR YOU. Just before dinner is over, pop into the kitchen and start putting away anything that didn’t go onto the table, then quickly divide up & stash all the food in the fridge, and bring out the desserts. “What, Joe? Grandma’s chocolate peppermint cake that’s your favorite? Oh, I’m sorry, that’s for a party tomorrow night. And Lois’s gave pumpkin custard? No- that’s for the day after.” and “What? Leftovers? No- sorry. Last time we hosted I was just too tired to cook for a week after. So we’re keeping the leftovers for next week. But I can share any recipes you liked so you can make it yourself!” If your MIL raised such a greedy, mannerless hyena? Fine. NO ONE gets any leftovers- EVER again.
Tell your relatives exactly what he did in ruining the food and tell them because he ruined the food that you had counted on feeding yourselves that there was no budget left for Christmas. So you won’t be hosting, but Joe might be willing to provide the money, time, and effort to host this year.
I always offer everyone to please take some stuff home and I don't think I've ever experienced anyone do this. I sometimes wish they would take more so I didn't have to make room and put it all away.
You photograph everything. Show how he treated you then tell the family he and his family will never be allowed in your home again and xmas is off this year and you will not be in the same house as him this year so, up to the rest of them how they handle it
Op I’m sorry but you made this so much worse. 1st you need to be a bit more pissed at your husband as he watched them take the food and said nothing but to ask for the food back? It’s like sending back a plate in a restaurant, you never know how it will come back. Your cousin is a jerk, no doubt about that but I would have basically just seen it as lesson learned and when Christmas comes around you pull him to the side and privately let him know there will not be a repeat of thanksgiving. “You are welcome to a plate for each of you but no more and I will be watching so don’t make me embarrass you” and keep it moving.
Take pictures and send to a family group chat and tell you family what he did and then tell them this is why everyone will have to find somewhere else to have Christmas dinner your done being the latest for Joe and his family!
I'll take a plate of food or a single serving of dessert home with me if host offers and makes up the plate; otherwise I just offer to help them pack the food away in their frig and with cleanup/dishwashing. I try not to bring any dish I contribute in a container I'll want back and assure them they can just keep the leftovers.
I was cringing. So they took her leftovers? She TOLD them to!! You offer people a table of food complete with containers for them to fill up, they're going to go for it. Oh but, she wants to eat Thanksgiving meal for additional days? She can just cook it again. No biggie no sweaty no fuss.
I hate myself for wanting him to bring poop in those pots. "Food leftovers". At least that would be a twist. Story is ridiculously boring, no drama, nothing.
So, Joe will NEVER be invited to another family meal that you host. Photos of the food he returned along with how he took it ALL should go into the family chat. I bet your in laws would be interested to know that he took the entire dessert buffet and turned it into inedible sludge. Maybe they won’t care. But I would be incandescent with rage and might have dumped a pot over his head. As for your husband avoiding responsibility and conflict? He’s on meal prep and dish duty for the next month, all by his lonesome. Then perhaps he will understand the work that went into the feast and the disrespect you were offered in return.
Get in your car and go to their house. I would. No one messes with my desserts. Go get some of it back. That's just ignorant and greedy. If they won't give it back, get some money from them.
I seriously don't understand people who offer you to help yourself to something then get fussed when you don't take the amount that they seem to be acceptable. Be specific, or don't offer at all.
@Alittleb1tter Better yet, have some flipping manners and when someone says help yourself, take enough for a meal or two, not a week or two. Were you raised in a cave by bears?
You got EXACTLY what you asked for. YTA for demanding he return it and THINKING he would in the same condition. Next time-don’t put containers out, or fix them yourself. And don’t invite Joe.
I just belly laughed like a hyena at the descriptions of the mashed up food Joe brought back. That's what op gets for being stingy. So much for having the spirit of Thanksgiving.
Stingy? With the food OP bought with their own money? That’s laughable. I bet you’re the type that would take a tv at a family members house and call them selfish when they ask you to return it lmao
I can't believe OP you are pain in the butts listening to you makes me sick. What is done is done just take the lesson for the future and stop grumble .
When people host a big family gathering it cost lots of money, time, and effort. And they count on having leftovers because it is the only thing they get out of it. It usually comes out of their regular food budget too. She has a right to be angry. They did steal. And she should tell the relatives why she isn’t in a position to host for Christmas. There are very old rules about sharing food and Joe and his family broke those rules. They should not be invited to any event until they have made up the debt in money or kind. It’s about living together for the good and survival of all. Thieves and liars are not welcome because they threaten the survival of the group. Very old rules, very basic.
My SIL did the same thing. For my birthday, I had ordered hundreds of dollars of Chinese food for 9 people. My idea was to order a bunch of different dishes that no one had ever tried before so we could discover new dishes. I had about 25 bowls of Chinese food, plus egg rolls, soups, etc. I wanted everyone to try something new. After we finished eating less than half of what I had ordered, my SIL asked if she could take some home. I said to her “Help yourself.” She literally packed up everything. EVERYTHING! Nothing was left. She walked out with three bags of food. I didn’t notice until I went to clean up. From that point forward, I immediately put everything away once we are done eating. I offer nothing to her. I give to others, but never to her.
I hope you did it in a way that she couldn't notice!
@@lindajacobs1487 why? the point is to make it clear that she did wrong
I would have gone to her house and made her give me some money. That's just greedy and glutenous.
I would have gone to her house, and told her that she couldn't have EVERYTHING like a greedy pig and them immediately grabbed everything, told her that unless she want to pay for the food she doesn't get ALL of the leftovers like that and left. You could have been nice and left her a small plate, but remember by saying "help yourself" are the magic words to "take everything for yourself" and greedy entitled people will do just that.
@@lindajacobs1487why, to avoid offending the obnoxious, greedy asshole who decided she was entitled to the food her sister purchased rather than her? Oh God no, we wouldn’t want to offend dear sis🙄🙄🙄🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
That guy would never be invited to my house in his life. And if anyone says anything they are also banned.
Other guests might not know what Joe's family does. Expose them. Then if anyone says anything, ban them then.
I would not take food back. Just count how much meals they taken then do not invite them this many times.
This is why it's important for the host to dish out leftovers themselves for anyone who wants to take leftovers home. I'm honestly not surprised her brother brought back the food in that condition. He did it on purpose to spite her for demanding her food back. Family or not, people can be very selfish and extremely mean. That man had the mentality of, "If I can't have the leftovers, then no one can." Never, and I mean never, leave people to help themselves to the leftovers of a party you're hosting. Always take the time to make the plates or containers for them yourself. Not everyone has respect for other's homes and food. And even if he didn't mix everything together the way he did, he more than likely would've done something else to the food that could've been way worse. At least this way, you have evidence for the entire family to see what he did. That is as long as you took pictures.
Joe did not mix the food for convenience. He did it out of spite.
I would tell him that he just got himself uninvited to all holidays from now on 🤷♀️ did to himself
Don't invite him again
He showed them exactly who he was when he returned the food back. He would have never set foot in my home again…That could have fed so many people and he deliberately wasted it…
Her husband dont care. He'll be back hanging out with beers laughing at her.
Next time you host, invite everyone except Joe and his family. Take pictures of the pots of ruined food and post it on social media.
The husband doing nothing is an asshole. Call out your family, that's bullshit.
I couldn’t agree with you more. I think the husband is an as*hole he needs to give us head a shake and rattle everything back in the place and realize when you do a family function like that it’s for everybody to take not just one person’s family. I’m glad my family don’t act like that. I cook and bring the turkey devilled eggs, pie, butter tarts and cookies and I still would never think of taking everything home. It’s just disrespectful. It would be different if that family member and his family didn’t have food and you knew that they were gonna get by on making all different types of meals with that stuff but that’s not the case here. What they did here was just ignorant.
Absolutely agree.
Kinda rude to take that much food. It's supposed to be a plate per person. That's what my family do.
Mine too ❤😊
Joe is so uncouth. He did that on purpose because she told him to bring the food back. This man has NO shame
There is one in every group. He probably brought the bare minimum for the Thxgiving meal like drinks or paper plates.
He has probably been the entitled golden "boy" all his life and feels he can do what he wants.
Definitely not the ahole. But since the husband blew her off, I think she needs to throw him out of the house and not let him back until he has all the ingredients to cook the feast over again. And make him cook. Then eat a meal and THROW THE REST AWAY. I bet he'd take her side from then on!!
Where was her husband when Joe brought the food back? Something is fishy here.
Why didn’t anyone say something when he was taking everything?
How is Joe related to the family? Just don’t invite Joe and his family for the next bigger and better event.
Would anyone really want the food back?!? Come on, If he was ignorant enough to take all of the food, Do you really trust him to bring it back (especially after being confronted and embarrassed) untouched?
i wouldn't have called and confronted joe, he's not worth it. i would have just gone over to his house for leftovers, ate, and brought them back myself
I used to host Thanksgiving for 40 or so of my ex's family and they would bring their own to go containers and take everything. Ticked me off since I had cooked for days and I had no leftovers for my family to have over the weekend and I had to cook again.
So you were a puzzy for 40 years. You deserve it.
Joe can host next year
That was a horrible ending. There needed to be a family post or something where they all hear about the crimes Joe committed and agree he is banned from all family holiday gatherings from then on.
Freeze that slop up into serving size portions for joe and his family and do host the next meal but guess what they get served infront of everyone and definately tell the reason and that this is what they will be served until it is gone..".nope, you dont get xmas duck or easter ham you wanted this food this badly, you can eat it till it is all gone...i dont waste food" ....if other family protests..they can eat it too.....bonus is you wont have to host again....dont even bother defrosting.
Joe would have been wearing the food he brought back. Cleaning the kitchen would have been worth the look on his face.
It’s not just that he took some food. It’s that he took all the food. It sounds like a large gathering and no one else got any of the leftovers. Not the parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, and certainly not the hosts. If you still want to host Christmas don’t invite him and his family and tell the rest why.
I severely dislike people like this- classless, selfish jerks! Went to a wedding where it was a pot luck. People saw someone brought salmon, and scooped it all up to take home, not even seeing if all the guests had tasted any( the grooms mother had NOT)!
For 3 years, we used to go to my husband's Aunts apartment building, when we moved closer to his family in another State. (We would go to my families prior or have it at our place.) They had a room to use for gatherings with a full kitchen. Pretty much everyone (around 30 people) would come. Most would bringing some sort of dish. I would do a few desserts. As it was in an apartment building his aunt would also invite neighbors to come, make up a plate and then they leave. By the end of the day most people were gone, leaving their messes on the table and kitchen. My husband, 2 kids and myself were usually last to leave. Wanting to visit, as we only saw everyone together at that time. We ended up cleaning up everything. Putting the leftovers in the fridge. The final year we attended, everyone left including his aunt. That year I said, nope not this time! We left the empty room, just cleaning up after ourselves. The next time we saw his aunt she told me how tacky it was to just leave! His family has always been entitled! Sorry but I wasn't raised that way. And I am actually the only in law still in the family after 30 years! I would hope for some sort appreciation from his side. Especially after his disabled mother lived with us for 10 years! I told my husband he can continue going to "family events" but I wouldn't be joining. And my kids could decide if they wanted to go or not. He made the right choice and stayed with the ones who actually gave damn. So we just have our little family holidays now, even included our 3rd child. It just amazes me how so many "relatives" take advantage of good people wanting to make things special. Then give you attitude about it!! All goes to show how we are raised. Or the people you marry teaching you morals.
Taking food from a house party is one thing but Salmon from a wedding. OMG
@@JulieD76no matter where I go, I always help clean up. My Gram taught me it's the right thing to do. I go to my ex husband's house with him, my son, my sisters in law and brothers in law, nieces and nephews, yes we all still considered ourselves related. But I clean up after the holidays or even football parties. He tells me to leave to go he'll take care of it. One year he was like no leave it go and just relax. So, yeah I did. He was in the kitchen and I asked if he wanted help. He said no. I went home. Next day I came up and the mess was still there. So I cleaned it up. So now when he goes to say something like that, I look at him like don't finish that sentence... lol
I loved doing Thanksgiving. I did it for over 30 years. We toasted our loved ones, no longer with us and the more food everyone took, the happier I was. This year, I passed the torch to my nephew's fian̈c❤e. I brought the pies.
Even if the food is ruined, the good thing is a Joe didn’t get to eat it. Just throw the trash and move on and never invite him back again host Christma but don’t invite him or his family
Every family dinner is potluck (for us). When the meal is over, all the food is split evenly between each household. Unless, of course, someone doesn't want something.
The only exception to that is gluten-free items. I am gluten free and and if a relative buys something particular that is gluten-free and it doesn't get all eaten up, They usually just give all the leftovers to me.
But that is the only exception. None of us would be so greedy and rude as to even consider taking all the food. 😡
This is another AI, because it repeats repeats repeats repeats repeats repeats and just drops off the side of a cliff. Christmas was never even mentioned. What did her husband say to his brother after seeing all that food in nasty pots? What did the rest of the family have to say? What did her own mother say when none of her desserts made it home?
For the family to come with gallon sized ziploc bags, THEY'VE DONE THIS BEFORE, SO WHY DIDN'T OP AND HER HUSBAND NOT KNOW THIS FAMILY DOES THIS EVERY TIME?
The family needs to have a meeting and discuss what they want to do with this brother's family and their OUTRIGHT THEFT. Maybe, the family should charge them for half the cost of the food, since they take it all home anyway. OR, they should offer: leftovers can be taken home, once they are paid for, according to how much food each person takes. Individual dinners on a plate- are $1. Ziploc Bags are $20 each.
My Grandfather had 12 siblings, and every year around Father's day, they gathered at a camping area for a Weekend Reunion. The oldest brother had 12 or 13 kids himself, but he wasn't such a hard worker, outside of the bedroom, and they were always broke. The rules were: you bring enough food to feed your family, and when all that food was put on one table, there was plenty of variety. Except the oldest brother and family rarely brought any food, no camping gear, no cots,... no, he expected everyone else to see to their needs. By the time I came along, the reunion had dwindled since the original kids had to leave the area for jobs, and the reunion was held at the old country school building. That's when we heard that the siblings finally told the Oldest brother they weren't going to cover for him anymore. They need to bring their own food and camping gear to the reunion. That pissed the oldest brother off, and he moved several hours away and we never saw the whole family again.
And I see other commenters with similar situations, but greedy guts are not tolerated, like this brother has been. All that lead up, and it just stops with no solid resolution. Yeah. That's AI.
I would have called the thieves and said,”Hey, I think you misunderstood me about the leftovers. Unfortunately, I spent so much on the meal, that I’m too broke to go shopping for my family. I was planning on using leftovers to get us through the rest of the week. We’ll be right over to get our week’s worth of food back.”
Why didn't the husband say something. Why would people take that much food, just one takeout container per person and a slice or two of pie. They wouldn't be invited to any other dinner.
In OP"s place, I would have kept quiet and made sure (a) never host a dinner for the family again OR (b) never call Joe again
Yup, just tell her husband that and the rest of the family that Joe & his family are never allowed in her house
Joe should never be allowed back in that house!
Oh, the atrocities committed in the name of 'just following orders"
Tell him to enjoy the food , because that is the last meal he will get from you
Whose brother was Joe?
I'd have called hosts from the past to see it the same thing had happened. It's time Joe's family is exposed for what they are.
If I go to someone’s house, I don’t take leftovers. If I want leftovers, I will just make a turkey. I always cook 3 or 4 turkeys and freeze the meat for sandwiches and pot pies
We had my father’s sister and family, six kids. We offered to pack them some leftovers. No, they were fine. They snatched and ran, hopped in their station wagon and zoomed off. The Turkey, ham, mashed potatoes, dressing, gravy, baked beans, relish tray, rolls and a whole pumpkin pie. My dad figured out and just missed going out the front door and heading them off. It took two years and Grandma’s intervention to get the roaster back. Last time we invited them to anything. Especially after they added twins to the mix.
A problem with many OPs is they tell everyone they are doing something (eg NOT hosting Xmas) weeks in advance. This gives them ample time to plan how to and act like AHs. Why not tell them one week before and block them. Even better off the main phone if it isn't vital and use a second/ burner phone. Happy holidays
Hosting a huge family event should not be like falling in love with your job. Do your part and refuse to oblige others. Then you won't be disappointed
I would have been crying and screaming go get my food right fucking now or we are getting divorced
Where is the rest of the story?
Yta. You should have packed it up yourself and distributed it to the other ones.. you screwed up your self.
26:55 THIS BROTHER-IN-LAW IS GOING TO FIND OUT HE ISN'T FUNNY AT ALL
My family do this all the time sometimes it pisses me off but I learned to hide me a plate things i want for the next day 😂
The only thing to do here is to host Christmas, and have some absolutely, ravishing, AMAZING dishes/desserts (extra points for making sure two are Joe & his wife’s favorites) sitting, covered, but tempting, in the kitchen as people troop in/out.
Then? Neatly remove those goodies to the fridge in the garage (and lock the garage door). Have all the empty pie/tupperware/casserole dishes ready to divide up the turkey & other left overs into different leftover dishes FOR YOU. Just before dinner is over, pop into the kitchen and start putting away anything that didn’t go onto the table, then quickly divide up & stash all the food in the fridge, and bring out the desserts.
“What, Joe? Grandma’s chocolate peppermint cake that’s your favorite? Oh, I’m sorry, that’s for a party tomorrow night. And Lois’s gave pumpkin custard? No- that’s for the day after.”
and
“What? Leftovers? No- sorry. Last time we hosted I was just too tired to cook for a week after. So we’re keeping the leftovers for next week. But I can share any recipes you liked so you can make it yourself!”
If your MIL raised such a greedy, mannerless hyena? Fine. NO ONE gets any leftovers- EVER again.
Tell your relatives exactly what he did in ruining the food and tell them because he ruined the food that you had counted on feeding yourselves that there was no budget left for Christmas. So you won’t be hosting, but Joe might be willing to provide the money, time, and effort to host this year.
I always offer everyone to please take some stuff home and I don't think I've ever experienced anyone do this. I sometimes wish they would take more so I didn't have to make room and put it all away.
Invite everybody but those four - "They still have the Turkey from Thanksgiving - they sure cannot be hungry again, can they" ...
Joe would never step foot in my house again.
You photograph everything. Show how he treated you then tell the family he and his family will never be allowed in your home again and xmas is off this year and you will not be in the same house as him this year so, up to the rest of them how they handle it
Her situation is similar to Us.... My aunts & uncle's families are like them.... So my parents stop hosting.
Envite Joe and family for Xmas and have a “special “ table for them….and feed them the frozen thanksgiving leftovers….
Charge him for it!
Call the rest of the family and tell them Christmas dinner is off the table literally! Tell them they can host it.
Never let Joe and his family come to another meal.
Op I’m sorry but you made this so much worse. 1st you need to be a bit more pissed at your husband as he watched them take the food and said nothing but to ask for the food back? It’s like sending back a plate in a restaurant, you never know how it will come back. Your cousin is a jerk, no doubt about that but I would have basically just seen it as lesson learned and when Christmas comes around you pull him to the side and privately let him know there will not be a repeat of thanksgiving. “You are welcome to a plate for each of you but no more and I will be watching so don’t make me embarrass you” and keep it moving.
Is this person a relative? Just don't invite him again
Bill Joe for the amount of food he took.
Take pictures and send to a family group chat and tell you family what he did and then tell them this is why everyone will have to find somewhere else to have Christmas dinner your done being the latest for Joe and his family!
Where’s the rest of the video where op explains that she won’t be cooking out hosting shit anymore 😂
Did they steal? Or did you not monitor how left overs were handled.
Taking that amount is stealing when you come prepared with your own bags. Help yourself to some leftovers is not saying take everything.
So you take everything like him?
I'll take a plate of food or a single serving of dessert home with me if host offers and makes up the plate; otherwise I just offer to help them pack the food away in their frig and with cleanup/dishwashing.
I try not to bring any dish I contribute in a container I'll want back and assure them they can just keep the leftovers.
Am I the only one who got anxiety from the OP and how she escalated a situation she should’ve let go?
I was cringing. So they took her leftovers? She TOLD them to!! You offer people a table of food complete with containers for them to fill up, they're going to go for it. Oh but, she wants to eat Thanksgiving meal for additional days? She can just cook it again. No biggie no sweaty no fuss.
I hate myself for wanting him to bring poop in those pots. "Food leftovers". At least that would be a twist.
Story is ridiculously boring, no drama, nothing.
So, Joe will NEVER be invited to another family meal that you host. Photos of the food he returned along with how he took it ALL should go into the family chat. I bet your in laws would be interested to know that he took the entire dessert buffet and turned it into inedible sludge. Maybe they won’t care. But I would be incandescent with rage and might have dumped a pot over his head. As for your husband avoiding responsibility and conflict? He’s on meal prep and dish duty for the next month, all by his lonesome. Then perhaps he will understand the work that went into the feast and the disrespect you were offered in return.
Get in your car and go to their house. I would. No one messes with my desserts. Go get some of it back. That's just ignorant and greedy. If they won't give it back, get some money from them.
Invites people to take leftovers. They do. Proceeds to show surprises pikachu face.
I seriously don't understand people who offer you to help yourself to something then get fussed when you don't take the amount that they seem to be acceptable. Be specific, or don't offer at all.
@Alittleb1tter Better yet, have some flipping manners and when someone says help yourself, take enough for a meal or two, not a week or two. Were you raised in a cave by bears?
I can't believe I mistakenly listened to this video at night. You never complete the story. Just leave us hanging.
She was hot about them mashed potatoes
You got EXACTLY what you asked for. YTA for demanding he return it and THINKING he would in the same condition. Next time-don’t put containers out, or fix them yourself. And don’t invite Joe.
Why do you keep repeating 2 turkeys a ham,etc obviously everyone ate from the food and you gave them containers for take aways 😂😂😂😂
I just belly laughed like a hyena at the descriptions of the mashed up food Joe brought back. That's what op gets for being stingy. So much for having the spirit of Thanksgiving.
Stingy? With the food OP bought with their own money? That’s laughable. I bet you’re the type that would take a tv at a family members house and call them selfish when they ask you to return it lmao
I can't believe OP you are pain in the butts listening to you makes me sick. What is done is done just take the lesson for the future and stop grumble .
You're probably someone that would pull this bull 💩!!!
When people host a big family gathering it cost lots of money, time, and effort. And they count on having leftovers because it is the only thing they get out of it. It usually comes out of their regular food budget too.
She has a right to be angry. They did steal. And she should tell the relatives why she isn’t in a position to host for Christmas.
There are very old rules about sharing food and Joe and his family broke those rules. They should not be invited to any event until they have made up the debt in money or kind.
It’s about living together for the good and survival of all. Thieves and liars are not welcome because they threaten the survival of the group. Very old rules, very basic.