Lmao as with all rules of thumb, they don't always apply. She said don't text me when I'm with him (rules) and also slept with me when she wasn't with him (breaking rules). Before ya'll crucify me, they weren't boyfriend girlfriend, and she was my ex girlfriend.
One thing i appreciate about your videos is that you DO NOT do the fast cut / edit after ever sentence that you deliver. That style drives me absolutely BANANAS 🍌 It’s more like a normal conversation THANK YOU ////
Totally agree with your comment. I appreciate that he does not do that or those flashy intros with the annoying music playing in the background throughout the whole video.
Great advice. But I just wanted to say… dude, you’re jacked! Don’t underestimate how much that helps, especially for us shorter guys. When I was younger I had very low muscle mass. Once I turned that around, I suddenly had lots of options. It certainly doesn’t make you irresistible to all women. But for the guys who struggle the most, it will put them in the running. Women are drawn to masculinity and muscle is an easy way to demonstrate that.
A lot of women do not like huge muscles, and the guy might project a self obsessed persona. They appreciate someone in good shape. Being in good shape, building muscle can lead to increased self confidence- that can be attractive to a woman.
takes a very long time to become confident in yourself and know who you are. if you can have that (and who you are isn't a cunt) you're in a good place. no point in faking personality to date someone, date who is similar to you.
The world needs less ""Alpha male"' youtubers. You seem to tell it how it is, or how you see it, and you don'"t resort to being disrespectful to other people to prop yourself up or vindicate lonely males. You seem to genuinely want to help people and not bombard them with rhetoric. A lot of the pickup artist macho incel type stuff is focused on putting women down, and the young males who are lonely feel rejected and then get resentful toward women or cop a big hit to their self worth. I think this is solid and very healthy advice! Thanks for sharing.
When I want to get a date, I usually just ask my wife if she’d enjoy going to dinner or maybe a sweet treat! 🤣 Love your channel. Cheers from across the pond!
What I did... I dated for years. Was treated like crap for years. Met a woman and tried to give her everything. She lied to me and got pregnant when I was only 22 years old. Then went on and ruined my life for years. Child custody hell. Left my kid with me and I raised her alone. I dated for years and was treated awful. I finally gave up at age 30. Then I asked God to bring the right one to me and make the wrong ones get away. It instantly worked. Immediately I started getting stood up on dates, getting dumped, ditched, ignored. I was mad at myself for asking Him that. Then 3 years later when I'd given up I met her. Married her 13 years ago. A diamond in the rough.. like she was literally made just for me. Ask God, gentleman. He made you and he makes the woman to help you. Go to the Maker.
Haha yes whatever God you prescribe to my friend. Don't you dare intimate that Christianity is the one true religion, just YOUR religion of choice. And a rather unoriginal one if I might add!
Dating coaches and dating apps hate this one simple trick! Just ask God! He probably forgot about you and the shit going in your life so follow up with him!
The key to job interviews is to present yourself as the guy that will get things done but more importantly do what you're told without question. Women don't exactly find that level of agreeableness irresistible. I'd say the key with them is to appear initially beyond their control, but with a slight hint that they might be able to tame you eventually - sort of like the "bad boy" with a soft spot.
Great clip again - I’ve a very good mate of mine - we are both married with kids now - but back in our 20s and 30s we were obviously regularly out on the prowl - one of our best “tactics” is that we tended to not try to pick up women but rather we were always joking and laughing with each other which often aroused the curiosity of women because they could see we were relaxed, casual and having a laugh and so many would end up coming up and basically either saying “Hi” or curious at to why we were having such a laugh by ourselves and they’d want to get in on the conversation. Once ice was broken and you felt you were making some leeway and obvious flirting was going on I used to have a line to further test the waters - I’d comment to a women something like “That’s a great outfit you’re wearing” To which they’d usually reply “Thank you so much” I’d then make the remark “Is there any chance I can talk you out of it ?” - And if I got a giggle or big smile in return I knew I was in like Flynn - ah, they were fun days 😊😊
I feel as if I’m just too much of a coward particularly with women I know. It’s mostly a confidence thing but this video has helped me a little bit so thank you sir.
It is quite simple honesty and most important confidence. I am over weight due to an illness not great looking but I have a great sense of humour. I was widowed in 2006 and was total devastated. When getting back to dating I was lucky and ended up with a good friend who gave me advice as per my first sentence. Think of it as a numbers game. I would never say I would like to take you to dinner. You may not get on and still end up paying for dinner. I would say let’s get a drink and see how we get on and if we do we can arrange a second date. Keep it simple. I am now married and very happy to find such an amazing lady. Good luck fellas James
Thank you for being sensible about it and keeping it simple, rather than going on about all the division and framing it as sets of adversaries, determined to destroy each other.
One thing I did as a woman a few months ago is... I just wouldn't date anyone who didn't laugh at at least a couple of my jokes first. And the quality of first and second, third dates skyrocketed. And then it hit me like an atom bomb Male dating advice right now is so bitter, so hostile, so every-move-must-be-perfect that I had made a rule that you must talk and laugh on dates. And it made things BETTER. As if that wasn't always the whole point! How did things get so bad? We gotta get back to the basics, man. These young men (and even some older men) are in serious trouble. You should go out with the intention of at least enjoying whatever you are doing, even if it does not work out. Then even if nothing happens, you'll have done some things you wanted. Biking, museums, trying that restaurant. And talk and laugh, for heaven's sake!
@@domeatown great point. A date should be a fun time out. It may lead to friendship, maybe more, maybe nothing. I think a lot of guys fixate so much on a date having to lead to a romantic outcome that they forget to relax and enjoy the moment. The best connections I made in life were through relaxed social times and shared humour/experiences. The current red pill trend certainly hasn't helped.
@@thatgearguy oh, it's like a pressure cooker. And I was so relieved to find out it wasn't me because... Nothing was working. To know it is a sort of cultural moment was both relieving and terrifying. It's so scary to realize that ideology can ruin one of the most basic things in human life.
@@domeatown I think we have arrived at a toxic combination fueled by social media. Guys seem to believe most girls are predatory gold diggers. Girls seem to believe most guys are unfaithful dogs or misogynists. Both enter the dating pool with a suspicious mind and treat dates like an interrogation. Online dating certainly fuels these ideas as the most predatory girls and boys dominate the game. Meanwhile to quiet majority sit back and wonder why the dating world has become so jaded and awkward. Most just give up!
@@thatgearguy I just never thought I'd live in a world where "try not to be openly hostile" was sage dating advice. It wasn't like this before the pandemic, so I suspect that played into it quite a lot.
Excellent advice. Just to expand a little on what you touched on. -Be yourself. Women can often spot a fake from miles away. - Learn to dance. If you can get on a dance floor and look like you are having fun, you will naturally attract women. Just dance by yourself and look like you're getting into the music.
i'm in my mid thirties now and find myself often complimented by or flirted on by older women. talking like 45-50 upwards. too bad i'm not really into that age range, but i get the impression that older generations are either way more comfortable with social interactions or simply dont make such a big deal out of it. i am a really reserved person and due to my introverted nature i often assume other people (and especially women) just want to be left alone too, like me. the few times i overcame my anxieties and approached a woman with a compliment and sincere interest it always lead to a nice conversation at least or some dates my personal struggles lie mostly within the lack of third places where i'd actually encounter some women that spark my interest beyond some physical attraction, since the majority of my hobbies (arts, crafts, cycling) happen in solitude
I like these videos, common sense is lacking nowadays, so I feel like these videos are needed. I plan on becoming a member soon, so I can check out your nutrition videos. Keep it up man!
Spot on mate - subscribed to your channel expecting knife videos and here I am agreeing with your life philosophy! I've found that 80% of your interactions with the opposite sex are really just a case of basic social skills and reading the room, so to speak. There are 3.5 billion women in the world (last I checked anyway), there's bound to be at least a few out there who you'll have a mutual attraction with! The other thing with rejection - I find generally if you're pleasant and polite but you're rejected, you'll be rejected pleasantly and politely. If you're constantly being told to fuck off, you probably need to adjust your attitude. Of course there's always the odd person who's just got no manners, but generally speaking I think that rule holds. Anyway, just my tuppence worth, good stuff pal!
Thanks Quantum. I think your dead right. I can only remember one time in my life where I made a polite approach and got some abuse. I think she was showing off in front of friends or maybe she had bad experiences previously. I just smiled and said thanks and walked away. I still felt pretty good about life and went on with my day! If your nice, normally you get nice back! More knife videos incoming!!
@@thatgearguy That's it: If you do everything with respect and someone's rude to you regardless, it says more about them than it does about you, in my book anyway! Looking forward to the new vids.
The key is to be calibrated and learn from your mistakes. Once you start seeing what works, keep doing that. Women are fundamentally the same and what works will always work, and what fails will always fail. It's why players get tons of girls, and losers always get none. A lot of what Gear Guy says here is true too, so listen to people who have demonstrated success for themselves.
Really good advice here. The bottom line is that women are attracted to men who have relaxed self confidence and look after themselves. If you've got good banter, you put down boundaries without getting angry and you're not afraid to say "no thanks, you're too much of drama queen / argumentative / money grabber etc. - there are better options out there than you."
Focus on one. Totally agree with the gear guy. When creating a rapport with one, your priority should be to approach another. You don't know The One. Her characteristics are all in your mind and far from reality and building her up in your mind will help nothing. Likely she will play the harmless game all the way to your asking her 16:34 out before mentioning a boyfriend. Yes, she will feel good about herself but you will have wasted mental energy on a fantasy being
Since I got into my 40's, I'm not worry or bother with dating, I still having dates love women but nowadays i keep it simple, drama free, specially working in security 😂
As I told my son 'If you can make a girl feel good about herself and safe with you, you are halfway there. If you can make her laugh as well, there'll be no stopping you boy'.
Im happily married with a kid but still watched this. Great advice, too many young guys overthinking dating and getting bad advice from other men and women. But if youre confident and polite it'll get you a long way.
What unusual about me, is I've ended up dating servers or bartenders and in turn being friends with the bouncers/security also I've gotten dates, becuase I'm a "barfly" I like live music and as a musician myself, I want to enjoy my beer and watch the band, there have been times a woman comes to order a drink, I didn't I iate the conversation, but it got deep and interesting, I would say be well rounded, read, be open minded, I'm not the greatest looking guy, but never had a problem getting dates! Also be clean and know your way around a kitchen. My personality has worked in other countries such as Germany, Mexico, Turkey, Romania etc and I'm working class. I think it's about respect, empathy and not being an idiot and show true interest, people like sharing thier culture or things about themselves
Good advice I guess, but I can't see me going back. The type of woman I could relate to is so unlikely to find, that I'm.better off enjoying what I do with my remaining singleton life, and believe me it's not a hardship.
Once she does the mean nasty disrespect thing esp when drinking means this will get worse and worse as they get older. It will never get better. So better to cut that one loose early on….
Totally agree with the compliment thing. As long as she isn't an attention vampire, i like to make others feel good about themselves, and i appreciate the same in turn. Im honest. Im not going to give a fake compliment. But, even if my attention isnt reciprocated ideally, i still get my own buzz out of making a girl feel special.
One of the biggest things women want in a man is good personal hygiene. Make sure you don't smell! Make sure your clothes don't smell. Clean your teeth. If you use aftershave, use a small amount. Do not spray your clothes with deodorant- yes, I'm talking to you!
This guy: “Hey. Hi. My name is Paul. How are you doing? I just happened to notice you. You look amazing, and I was just wondering if you would like to go out to dinner with me?” Me: “Hey. Hi. My name is Rob. How are you doing? I just happened to notice-“ Her: “K, no thanks.”
Yes I am thinking about that. I am looking to move to a bigger house. Currently I am in a tiny Bungalow. If I get an extra room I can convert it to do podcasts in it. Right now we would have to sit in my garage!
Yes relationships breakdown sometimes. That doesnt mean all women will leave you. That would be like saying a guy ripped me off on a business deal so I will never do business with men again. You just have to keep trying and roll with the punches my friend.
@@thatgearguy I think more so than ever relationships break down. Kids getting passed around at weekends. Ambition is good...... But so is contentment.
1. Get in somewhat shape. Got fat? = loose it. 2. Hygiene + style + form fitting cloths. 3. Have a purpose in life or a decent job. 4. Dont have massive debts and be broke before next paycheck comes around.. 5. Have your own place.. ideally.. + make sure its clean and tidy.. + a bit of decor, pictures/art on the wall etc. 6. /woman would now be a lot more interested.
Too much work for too little, tho. Most options we have are single moms, fat women, divorcees, etc. Not saying that men do any better, but women can easily share the same high quality guys so average guys just get desperate and bottom-of-the-barrel women. Truth is that these are terrible times for average guys, and honestly if you can find a way to be happy without women (beside drugs) I suggest to go for it, fully, if you can.
I do not buy that for a second. Stop being an average guy for one. Go to the gym, work hard at your job and actively seek out quality prospective partners. It boils down to one thing - people are lazy as hell and dont want to make the effort.
Theres so much trash out men out their. Just being clear clean consice and confident goes so far. Be a good MAN. Look decent. Don't be a child. Your set. Expect alot of no's. Nit everyone js foing to like you and thats is perfectly OK. You dont want just any women either..Its a good thing and nakes the yes special as well. Good luck gents.
Too many guys don't have any real personality. Some guys just work and watch football. What woman will be interested in that? Regardless, always just be authentic and stop thinking about sex, just talk to her, that's it, don't try to impress them, at least don't overdo them. Talk to women more or less how you would talk to a friend, just a bit softer maybe.
"some girls are in a relationship, they're going to say no". Really?! How many attractive women are not "in a relationship". At least for more than a few days in this modern world.
You are going fishing .. you need to become the bait that the fish are going to go after. Don't ask questions with a yes or no answer. What do you like to do? Where did you grow up? Work ? School ? Sarcasm ... no more than 2 compliments in a row. If you give 2 ... the next thing needs to be sarcasm . A playful insult. Just giving her a hard time Learn to insult and compliment at the same time
I would say having hoby ( must be hoby with social part) helps a lot. I bet if you are into dancing or chorus or team sports you would meet like minded person eventually. And starting young helps a lot. In my case i met my wife via medieval fair events i was acting as medieval executioneer. Crazy right😅
I have done research on a company before 1) I did not know what the hell the company was about 2) I forgot everything because I did not know what it was on about so I am in a lose lose situation here.
You lost me instantly when you said a high value woman is “ambitious”, that’s a masculine trait & “boss babes” are very unagreeable & very career oriented which means they won’t be prioritising family. That’s extremely unattractive in a relationship dynamic and only guys who can’t afford to take care of a family want that which aren’t high value men.
@@johnners911 Ha ha love it only good will come out out of it if you do young Jedi,I got a suprise the other day when my daughter popped her head around the corner of the door to tell me shes home only for 2 of the most Ginger fellas Ive ever seen with big smiles walk in behind her along with her mate whos also ginger I thought were being outbred no more Ginger jokes from now on :)
A lot of men can get from rags to riches, so maybe all men should strive for that first before spending too much focus on pairing up? Like just settling with what you can get? Females like to settle for the best they can get, men should do the same..
Problem is, by the time you get to riches, in the 40s for most men, your interest in women is on a steep decline. It's one of life's great cruelties. You finally "make it" but you don't even want "it" anymore.
@@scottrc5391 believe me, men always want it, there is evidence everywhere… the fact is with all the feminsn out there women are too toxic to put a ring on,, from my experience, when women are under 25 they are still mostly nice, then after they are 38 or so they then respect men a bit more because they spent between 25 and 38 being toxic strong independent women and it didn’t work out for them.. men just need to make their own money and wealth and stay healthy that’s really all
I have no idea why the algorithm sent me here but as a woman who has been chased by many a man the most important thing is overall health. Physical health, not necessarily big n bulky but someone who values his health. He eats as healthy as he can, has some kind of physical conditioning routine, and stays away from very risky activities. And he’s working out because he values his health not because he’s running from something. Mental/behavioral health. A man who is self aware, is kind, empathetic, has self respect, has processed any trauma he has, is a safe person to be vulnerable with, and doesn’t spew any red pill crap. Most women I know are instantly turned off by any RP lingo. Negging, manipulation, etc are hallmarks of insecurity. Listening to Rogan, Tate, Peterson, etc is a red flag to many women. True confidence is often quiet and calming. You MUST be able to emotionally regulate. Guys who have tempers, blow up our phones with rage texts, throw things, punch walls, and destroy things, especially their GF/wives things, are awful. A lot of men like to kill women’s plants. If a man did that to me I’d file a police report instantly! He’s be out of my life so fast Google would lose track of him. Having a work ethic and being good with whatever money he does make. Financial health. I know many happy couples where the guy is short, chubby, and making five figures but they’re really cool guys. They’re smart with the money they do make. They don’t drive fancy cars but they’re reliable. They’re usually creative types with a wicked sense of humor. They’re THEMSELVES and comfortable in their own skin. He bought property and has some kind of retirement plan. Imagine you’re a new inmate in a men’s prison. The other ones have been in there a looong time and they’re all giving you the “eye”. You’d be super vigilant, right? Well that’s what it’s like for most women. Not every inmate is a threat but enough are. Don’t do anything to a woman you wouldn’t want done to you if you were in a men’s prison. If you can’t afford a dinner date maybe keep working until you can spend money on dates comfortably. Women are finally figuring out that dating broke guys drags us down. When we get pregnant by a guy like that we’re told “you should’ve chosen better!” Every guy I dated paid for dates out but I cooked at my place for movie dates. We’d go hiking, one guy took me to a free hot spring, one took me cave spelunking, and guys who cook are HOT. One of my favorite memories is when a built guy was shirtless in my kitchen cooking up bison burgers. At the very least find out what activities she likes and be creative with dates. But don’t take her out somewhere secluded right away. That’s creepy! Also have hobbies. Take classes. Learn new things. You’ll meet a lot of people with similar interests that way. Much better than a bar or club. And pleeeeaaase don’t expect women to fill all your social needs. Have healthy friendships too. And pleeeease go to therapy if you can. Just being able to talk to one helps with social skills. It’s as important as going to the gym. And it’s way more courageous than most “alpha” activities.
The Peterson hate is quite strange. Then you list a bunch of things Peterson would say, not exactly, but in the spirit of "clean up your room" ~ "eat healthy, do some exercises, fix traumas" etc... These are much in the same spirit. Sure, he gets involved in politics a bit, but hey... :D Rogan also... he is just a guy sitting down and talking to other people, notably people from accross the spectrum. Climate scientist debate with climate denier. Vegan fanatic debate with Carnivore fanatic. He had a guy on who was talking up vaxx then later another who talked about side effects and hidden statistics about the vaxx. Idk enough about Tate to comment.
I am driving a real beater and has a lot of money but i have never really been able to get dates with the ladies. Either it was pretty or ugly ladies, they never has been attracted to me. Now I have realized I can get by with my right hand and a roll of toilet pater and some loition.
Can you guys just shut up for one moment from a guy who has been on security doors for years. Listen to what he is really saying.He is speaking the truth.
Find a woman thats good with kids , and can cook , tell her she looks beautiful every day , wife for life , been married since i was 19 , 56 now with 3 grandchildren, the chubby pretty ones are best 😂
All good except I wouldn't talk about confidence as "just" confidence, because that is one thing that is usually way harder to obtain than good musculature ;) I would even argue that in many cases confidence with women cannot be gained, as every approach is so traumatic that person may never get to the point where it gets, allegedly, easier.
Confidence is gained in many ways. Through success in your career, success in hobbys/sports and being happy with your body image. All of that means seriously hard work, which people dont want to do..
I was running down the road and another runner asked me how far do I go? I said all the way... unfortunately her boyfriend was right behind her. . I've never run so fast and so far in my chuffing life. . at least I got a good cardio work out. .
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A good rule of thumb, “if a woman is into you, she will break rules for you, if she’s not, she’ll make rules for you”
When a woman starts directing this or that right off the bat, it's a clear red flag.
@@razadaza9651 curious what rules you're talking about?
@@MouldySponge just what you read, a rule of thumb to go by
Lmao as with all rules of thumb, they don't always apply.
She said don't text me when I'm with him (rules) and also slept with me when she wasn't with him (breaking rules).
Before ya'll crucify me, they weren't boyfriend girlfriend, and she was my ex girlfriend.
The only rule of thumb
One thing i appreciate about your videos is that you DO NOT do the fast cut / edit after ever sentence that you deliver.
That style drives me absolutely BANANAS 🍌
It’s more like a normal conversation
THANK YOU ////
Totally agree with your comment. I appreciate that he does not do that or those flashy intros with the annoying music playing in the background throughout the whole video.
@@pAuL-nb2ud Thanks alot. I am glad the style is appreciated!
@@thatgearguy Yeah I agree with the commenter, you are a good storyteller.
I totally agree, this man is well spoken enough to not need those weird cuts and edits
Yup
That's what I like about his content.
Great advice. But I just wanted to say… dude, you’re jacked! Don’t underestimate how much that helps, especially for us shorter guys. When I was younger I had very low muscle mass. Once I turned that around, I suddenly had lots of options. It certainly doesn’t make you irresistible to all women. But for the guys who struggle the most, it will put them in the running. Women are drawn to masculinity and muscle is an easy way to demonstrate that.
Keeping yourself in good shape helps. Anyone can do it!
having muscle shows more than just masculinity, it shows you can work hard at something and are disciplined
A lot of women do not like huge muscles, and the guy might project a self obsessed persona. They appreciate someone in good shape. Being in good shape, building muscle can lead to increased self confidence- that can be attractive to a woman.
Emotional intelligence is the most undervalued masculine skill. Confidence comes from knowing who you are and knowing how to learn about others.
takes a very long time to become confident in yourself and know who you are. if you can have that (and who you are isn't a cunt) you're in a good place. no point in faking personality to date someone, date who is similar to you.
Kind of what I tried to say above and rambled! 🤣
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Here's a first date icebreaker that never fails: "Tell me about a female coworker that you can't stand."
@@scottrc5391 😅🤣 but I only have a couple of hours spare dude!
The world needs less ""Alpha male"' youtubers. You seem to tell it how it is, or how you see it, and you don'"t resort to being disrespectful to other people to prop yourself up or vindicate lonely males. You seem to genuinely want to help people and not bombard them with rhetoric.
A lot of the pickup artist macho incel type stuff is focused on putting women down, and the young males who are lonely feel rejected and then get resentful toward women or cop a big hit to their self worth. I think this is solid and very healthy advice! Thanks for sharing.
When I want to get a date, I usually just ask my wife if she’d enjoy going to dinner or maybe a sweet treat! 🤣
Love your channel. Cheers from across the pond!
Brilliant advice! I have tried this with your wife to great success!
Excellent breakdown. You’ve got a good way about you.
All the best with your channel mate.
Thanks!!
Solid video. You seem like a great guy and a great male role model. Breath of fresh air from most of the stuff you see.
I appreciate that!
Georgia, you remind of a friend who did door at a club when I was Army, big dude I wouldn't F with very nice person
What I did... I dated for years. Was treated like crap for years. Met a woman and tried to give her everything. She lied to me and got pregnant when I was only 22 years old. Then went on and ruined my life for years. Child custody hell. Left my kid with me and I raised her alone. I dated for years and was treated awful. I finally gave up at age 30. Then I asked God to bring the right one to me and make the wrong ones get away. It instantly worked. Immediately I started getting stood up on dates, getting dumped, ditched, ignored. I was mad at myself for asking Him that. Then 3 years later when I'd given up I met her. Married her 13 years ago. A diamond in the rough.. like she was literally made just for me. Ask God, gentleman. He made you and he makes the woman to help you. Go to the Maker.
Very well said, brother.
Haha yes whatever God you prescribe to my friend. Don't you dare intimate that Christianity is the one true religion, just YOUR religion of choice. And a rather unoriginal one if I might add!
The same god that hooked you up with these awful women?
Dating coaches and dating apps hate this one simple trick! Just ask God! He probably forgot about you and the shit going in your life so follow up with him!
@TheRis81 This kind of elitist mentality is why religions can't coexist.
As somebody who has blown it on both job interviews and dating....I needed this advice forty years ago!
The key to job interviews is to present yourself as the guy that will get things done but more importantly do what you're told without question. Women don't exactly find that level of agreeableness irresistible. I'd say the key with them is to appear initially beyond their control, but with a slight hint that they might be able to tame you eventually - sort of like the "bad boy" with a soft spot.
Wise advice old chap..I do enjoy these films.
Great clip again - I’ve a very good mate of mine - we are both married with kids now - but back in our 20s and 30s we were obviously regularly out on the prowl - one of our best “tactics” is that we tended to not try to pick up women but rather we were always joking and laughing with each other which often aroused the curiosity of women because they could see we were relaxed, casual and having a laugh and so many would end up coming up and basically either saying “Hi” or curious at to why we were having such a laugh by ourselves and they’d want to get in on the conversation. Once ice was broken and you felt you were making some leeway and obvious flirting was going on I used to have a line to further test the waters - I’d comment to a women something like “That’s a great outfit you’re wearing” To which they’d usually reply “Thank you so much” I’d then make the remark “Is there any chance I can talk you out of it ?” - And if I got a giggle or big smile in return I knew I was in like Flynn - ah, they were fun days 😊😊
I feel as if I’m just too much of a coward particularly with women I know. It’s mostly a confidence thing but this video has helped me a little bit so thank you sir.
Glad it helped! Good luck. The best things in life happen outside our comfort zones.
Good , commonsense advice sir, well done👍👍👏👏
25 years ago I needed this advice
It is quite simple honesty and most important confidence. I am over weight due to an illness not great looking but I have a great sense of humour. I was widowed in 2006 and was total devastated. When getting back to dating I was lucky and ended up with a good friend who gave me advice as per my first sentence. Think of it as a numbers game. I would never say I would like to take you to dinner. You may not get on and still end up paying for dinner. I would say let’s get a drink and see how we get on and if we do we can arrange a second date. Keep it simple.
I am now married and very happy to find such an amazing lady.
Good luck fellas
James
Thank you for being sensible about it and keeping it simple, rather than going on about all the division and framing it as sets of adversaries, determined to destroy each other.
Agreed. Great name by the way!
One thing I did as a woman a few months ago is... I just wouldn't date anyone who didn't laugh at at least a couple of my jokes first. And the quality of first and second, third dates skyrocketed. And then it hit me like an atom bomb
Male dating advice right now is so bitter, so hostile, so every-move-must-be-perfect that I had made a rule that you must talk and laugh on dates. And it made things BETTER.
As if that wasn't always the whole point! How did things get so bad?
We gotta get back to the basics, man. These young men (and even some older men) are in serious trouble.
You should go out with the intention of at least enjoying whatever you are doing, even if it does not work out. Then even if nothing happens, you'll have done some things you wanted. Biking, museums, trying that restaurant.
And talk and laugh, for heaven's sake!
@@domeatown great point. A date should be a fun time out. It may lead to friendship, maybe more, maybe nothing. I think a lot of guys fixate so much on a date having to lead to a romantic outcome that they forget to relax and enjoy the moment. The best connections I made in life were through relaxed social times and shared humour/experiences. The current red pill trend certainly hasn't helped.
@@thatgearguy oh, it's like a pressure cooker. And I was so relieved to find out it wasn't me because... Nothing was working. To know it is a sort of cultural moment was both relieving and terrifying. It's so scary to realize that ideology can ruin one of the most basic things in human life.
@@domeatown I think we have arrived at a toxic combination fueled by social media. Guys seem to believe most girls are predatory gold diggers. Girls seem to believe most guys are unfaithful dogs or misogynists. Both enter the dating pool with a suspicious mind and treat dates like an interrogation. Online dating certainly fuels these ideas as the most predatory girls and boys dominate the game. Meanwhile to quiet majority sit back and wonder why the dating world has become so jaded and awkward. Most just give up!
@@thatgearguy I just never thought I'd live in a world where "try not to be openly hostile" was sage dating advice.
It wasn't like this before the pandemic, so I suspect that played into it quite a lot.
@@domeatown I guess a lot of people spent a whole lot of time online..
Excellent advice.
Just to expand a little on what you touched on.
-Be yourself. Women can often spot a fake from miles away.
- Learn to dance. If you can get on a dance floor and look like you are having fun, you will naturally attract women.
Just dance by yourself and look like you're getting into the music.
I always wished my dancing was better for this exact reason!
well said. putting in the perspective of a job you realize how redicoulas some guys see it
i'm in my mid thirties now and find myself often complimented by or flirted on by older women. talking like 45-50 upwards. too bad i'm not really into that age range, but i get the impression that older generations are either way more comfortable with social interactions or simply dont make such a big deal out of it.
i am a really reserved person and due to my introverted nature i often assume other people (and especially women) just want to be left alone too, like me. the few times i overcame my anxieties and approached a woman with a compliment and sincere interest it always lead to a nice conversation at least or some dates
my personal struggles lie mostly within the lack of third places where i'd actually encounter some women that spark my interest beyond some physical attraction, since the majority of my hobbies (arts, crafts, cycling) happen in solitude
I like these videos, common sense is lacking nowadays, so I feel like these videos are needed. I plan on becoming a member soon, so I can check out your nutrition videos. Keep it up man!
Thanks Jack!
common sense isnt as common as one would assume
Thank you for excellent common sense advice - which seems far to hard to find these days.
Spot on mate - subscribed to your channel expecting knife videos and here I am agreeing with your life philosophy! I've found that 80% of your interactions with the opposite sex are really just a case of basic social skills and reading the room, so to speak.
There are 3.5 billion women in the world (last I checked anyway), there's bound to be at least a few out there who you'll have a mutual attraction with! The other thing with rejection - I find generally if you're pleasant and polite but you're rejected, you'll be rejected pleasantly and politely. If you're constantly being told to fuck off, you probably need to adjust your attitude. Of course there's always the odd person who's just got no manners, but generally speaking I think that rule holds.
Anyway, just my tuppence worth, good stuff pal!
Thanks Quantum. I think your dead right. I can only remember one time in my life where I made a polite approach and got some abuse. I think she was showing off in front of friends or maybe she had bad experiences previously. I just smiled and said thanks and walked away. I still felt pretty good about life and went on with my day! If your nice, normally you get nice back!
More knife videos incoming!!
@@thatgearguy That's it: If you do everything with respect and someone's rude to you regardless, it says more about them than it does about you, in my book anyway! Looking forward to the new vids.
Don't date problem solved.
The key is to be calibrated and learn from your mistakes. Once you start seeing what works, keep doing that. Women are fundamentally the same and what works will always work, and what fails will always fail. It's why players get tons of girls, and losers always get none. A lot of what Gear Guy says here is true too, so listen to people who have demonstrated success for themselves.
Thanks so much! This is laid out in a very helpful way.
You're very welcome!
You spoke a lot of sense , thank you
I find that the trick is to make women laugh. Because then their eyes tear up and they cant see how bloody ugly I am!
Really good advice here. The bottom line is that women are attracted to men who have relaxed self confidence and look after themselves.
If you've got good banter, you put down boundaries without getting angry and you're not afraid to say "no thanks, you're too much of drama queen / argumentative / money grabber etc. - there are better options out there than you."
Never ever put ba woman on a pedestal
I got relaxed after three weeks in Thailand. It helped getting over my neediness
Focus on one. Totally agree with the gear guy. When creating a rapport with one, your priority should be to approach another. You don't know The One. Her characteristics are all in your mind and far from reality and building her up in your mind will help nothing. Likely she will play the harmless game all the way to your asking her 16:34 out before mentioning a boyfriend. Yes, she will feel good about herself but you will have wasted mental energy on a fantasy being
Since I got into my 40's, I'm not worry or bother with dating, I still having dates love women but nowadays i keep it simple, drama free, specially working in security 😂
Love your videos but people can cry after not getting a job. Same person is likely to cry when their crush turns them down on a date though.
liking this man more and more...
Thanks Anja, very kind of you!
@@adfletch7687 😅😅🤣🤣🤣
As I told my son 'If you can make a girl feel good about herself and safe with you, you are halfway there. If you can make her laugh as well, there'll be no stopping you boy'.
That’s so sweet❤
Great Advice!
Im happily married with a kid but still watched this. Great advice, too many young guys overthinking dating and getting bad advice from other men and women. But if youre confident and polite it'll get you a long way.
I got rejected by a girl looking for a man in finance, with a trust fund, 6’5”, blue eyes…
So ask someone else instead.
@@thatgearguy ua-cam.com/users/shortsQ7oAGLxhbrk?si=s0BHRdiiOpHkVf7p
I bet she was a pig.
Consider that a bullet dodged...
So basic. So true. Love the t-shirt 🙂.
Thanks Pia! My Mum sent it to me!!
Very insightful
What unusual about me, is I've ended up dating servers or bartenders and in turn being friends with the bouncers/security also I've gotten dates, becuase I'm a "barfly" I like live music and as a musician myself, I want to enjoy my beer and watch the band, there have been times a woman comes to order a drink, I didn't I iate the conversation, but it got deep and interesting, I would say be well rounded, read, be open minded, I'm not the greatest looking guy, but never had a problem getting dates! Also be clean and know your way around a kitchen. My personality has worked in other countries such as Germany, Mexico, Turkey, Romania etc and I'm working class. I think it's about respect, empathy and not being an idiot and show true interest, people like sharing thier culture or things about themselves
How old are you?
As a woman I wish I could like this 100x.
Good advice I guess, but I can't see me going back. The type of woman I could relate to is so unlikely to find, that I'm.better off enjoying what I do with my remaining singleton life, and believe me it's not a hardship.
Once she does the mean nasty disrespect thing esp when drinking means this will get worse and worse as they get older. It will never get better. So better to cut that one loose early on….
True that 💯👍
Brilliant! 💯👍
Totally agree with the compliment thing. As long as she isn't an attention vampire, i like to make others feel good about themselves, and i appreciate the same in turn.
Im honest. Im not going to give a fake compliment. But, even if my attention isnt reciprocated ideally, i still get my own buzz out of making a girl feel special.
that sounds like solid advice, but how do you find a woman that you are attracted to in the first place?
Well I can only speak for myself but I see many attractive women every day in all sorts of places.
One of the biggest things women want in a man is good personal hygiene. Make sure you don't smell! Make sure your clothes don't smell. Clean your teeth.
If you use aftershave, use a small amount. Do not spray your clothes with deodorant- yes, I'm talking to you!
What if you dont drink? 😕
This guy: “Hey. Hi. My name is Paul. How are you doing? I just happened to notice you. You look amazing, and I was just wondering if you would like to go out to dinner with me?”
Me: “Hey. Hi. My name is Rob. How are you doing? I just happened to notice-“ Her: “K, no thanks.”
Pretty funny! And I am sure they do not say that to you!
@@thatgearguy You're right. It's more like Me: “Hey. H--" She: *checks smartphone* or "Ew."
Have you thought about expanding into podcasting? Something like this video would be ideal.
Yes I am thinking about that. I am looking to move to a bigger house. Currently I am in a tiny Bungalow. If I get an extra room I can convert it to do podcasts in it. Right now we would have to sit in my garage!
Dating is a valid reason to relocate to another country. Easier said than done though and you gotta use your wits.
Solid advice
.........Then they leave you taking your kids and money. 😮
Yes relationships breakdown sometimes. That doesnt mean all women will leave you. That would be like saying a guy ripped me off on a business deal so I will never do business with men again. You just have to keep trying and roll with the punches my friend.
@@thatgearguy I think more so than ever relationships break down.
Kids getting passed around at weekends.
Ambition is good...... But so is contentment.
1. Get in somewhat shape. Got fat? = loose it.
2. Hygiene + style + form fitting cloths.
3. Have a purpose in life or a decent job.
4. Dont have massive debts and be broke before next paycheck comes around..
5. Have your own place.. ideally.. + make sure its clean and tidy.. + a bit of decor, pictures/art on the wall etc.
6. /woman would now be a lot more interested.
Too much work for too little, tho.
Most options we have are single moms, fat women, divorcees, etc. Not saying that men do any better, but women can easily share the same high quality guys so average guys just get desperate and bottom-of-the-barrel women. Truth is that these are terrible times for average guys, and honestly if you can find a way to be happy without women (beside drugs) I suggest to go for it, fully, if you can.
I do not buy that for a second. Stop being an average guy for one. Go to the gym, work hard at your job and actively seek out quality prospective partners. It boils down to one thing - people are lazy as hell and dont want to make the effort.
Theres so much trash out men out their. Just being clear clean consice and confident goes so far. Be a good MAN. Look decent. Don't be a child. Your set. Expect alot of no's. Nit everyone js foing to like you and thats is perfectly OK. You dont want just any women either..Its a good thing and nakes the yes special as well. Good luck gents.
Too many guys don't have any real personality. Some guys just work and watch football. What woman will be interested in that? Regardless, always just be authentic and stop thinking about sex, just talk to her, that's it, don't try to impress them, at least don't overdo them.
Talk to women more or less how you would talk to a friend, just a bit softer maybe.
"some girls are in a relationship, they're going to say no". Really?! How many attractive women are not "in a relationship". At least for more than a few days in this modern world.
You are going fishing .. you need to become the bait that the fish are going to go after.
Don't ask questions with a yes or no answer.
What do you like to do?
Where did you grow up?
Work ? School ?
Sarcasm ... no more than 2 compliments in a row.
If you give 2 ... the next thing needs to be sarcasm . A playful insult. Just giving her a hard time
Learn to insult and compliment at the same time
I would say having hoby ( must be hoby with social part) helps a lot. I bet if you are into dancing or chorus or team sports you would meet like minded person eventually. And starting young helps a lot. In my case i met my wife via medieval fair events i was acting as medieval executioneer. Crazy right😅
The black hood can be very appealing!
I have done research on a company before 1) I did not know what the hell the company was about 2) I forgot everything because I did not know what it was on about so I am in a lose lose situation here.
If you spent as much time in the gym or asking girls out as you do in my comments section you might actually get laid.
A smart guy. A lot of common horse sense.
You lost me instantly when you said a high value woman is “ambitious”, that’s a masculine trait & “boss babes” are very unagreeable & very career oriented which means they won’t be prioritising family. That’s extremely unattractive in a relationship dynamic and only guys who can’t afford to take care of a family want that which aren’t high value men.
I find ambitious women very attractive. I am not looking to have children.
@@thatgearguy that would make sense then to each their own
Never let a woman choose you....always choose your woman youself.
🤔Or go straight for a ginger one (no need to thank me 😏)
Like a rusty brillo pad , back in the 80s they was 😂😂
I'm ginger myself. I'm concerned that having a ginger bride might be like crossing the beams in Ghostbusters.
@@johnners911 Ha ha love it only good will come out out of it if you do young Jedi,I got a suprise the other day when my daughter popped her head around the corner of the door to tell me shes home only for 2 of the most Ginger fellas Ive ever seen with big smiles walk in behind her along with her mate whos also ginger I thought were being outbred no more Ginger jokes from now on :)
@@stevek4438 Can't keep a good gene down, eh? 😅
Preserve gingers at all costs.
A lot of men can get from rags to riches, so maybe all men should strive for that first before spending too much focus on pairing up? Like just settling with what you can get? Females like to settle for the best they can get, men should do the same..
Problem is, by the time you get to riches, in the 40s for most men, your interest in women is on a steep decline. It's one of life's great cruelties. You finally "make it" but you don't even want "it" anymore.
@@scottrc5391 believe me, men always want it, there is evidence everywhere… the fact is with all the feminsn out there women are too toxic to put a ring on,, from my experience, when women are under 25 they are still mostly nice, then after they are 38 or so they then respect men a bit more because they spent between 25 and 38 being toxic strong independent women and it didn’t work out for them.. men just need to make their own money and wealth and stay healthy that’s really all
I have no idea why the algorithm sent me here but as a woman who has been chased by many a man the most important thing is overall health.
Physical health, not necessarily big n bulky but someone who values his health. He eats as healthy as he can, has some kind of physical conditioning routine, and stays away from very risky activities. And he’s working out because he values his health not because he’s running from something.
Mental/behavioral health. A man who is self aware, is kind, empathetic, has self respect, has processed any trauma he has, is a safe person to be vulnerable with, and doesn’t spew any red pill crap. Most women I know are instantly turned off by any RP lingo. Negging, manipulation, etc are hallmarks of insecurity. Listening to Rogan, Tate, Peterson, etc is a red flag to many women. True confidence is often quiet and calming.
You MUST be able to emotionally regulate. Guys who have tempers, blow up our phones with rage texts, throw things, punch walls, and destroy things, especially their GF/wives things, are awful. A lot of men like to kill women’s plants. If a man did that to me I’d file a police report instantly! He’s be out of my life so fast Google would lose track of him.
Having a work ethic and being good with whatever money he does make. Financial health. I know many happy couples where the guy is short, chubby, and making five figures but they’re really cool guys. They’re smart with the money they do make. They don’t drive fancy cars but they’re reliable. They’re usually creative types with a wicked sense of humor. They’re THEMSELVES and comfortable in their own skin. He bought property and has some kind of retirement plan.
Imagine you’re a new inmate in a men’s prison. The other ones have been in there a looong time and they’re all giving you the “eye”. You’d be super vigilant, right? Well that’s what it’s like for most women. Not every inmate is a threat but enough are.
Don’t do anything to a woman you wouldn’t want done to you if you were in a men’s prison.
If you can’t afford a dinner date maybe keep working until you can spend money on dates comfortably.
Women are finally figuring out that dating broke guys drags us down. When we get pregnant by a guy like that we’re told “you should’ve chosen better!”
Every guy I dated paid for dates out but I cooked at my place for movie dates. We’d go hiking, one guy took me to a free hot spring, one took me cave spelunking, and guys who cook are HOT. One of my favorite memories is when a built guy was shirtless in my kitchen cooking up bison burgers.
At the very least find out what activities she likes and be creative with dates. But don’t take her out somewhere secluded right away. That’s creepy!
Also have hobbies. Take classes. Learn new things. You’ll meet a lot of people with similar interests that way. Much better than a bar or club.
And pleeeeaaase don’t expect women to fill all your social needs. Have healthy friendships too.
And pleeeease go to therapy if you can. Just being able to talk to one helps with social skills. It’s as important as going to the gym.
And it’s way more courageous than most “alpha” activities.
He must also be able to read very long comments
You sound like every man’s worst nightmare.
Wish you were my dad, 40 years ago.
The Peterson hate is quite strange. Then you list a bunch of things Peterson would say, not exactly, but in the spirit of "clean up your room" ~ "eat healthy, do some exercises, fix traumas" etc... These are much in the same spirit.
Sure, he gets involved in politics a bit, but hey... :D
Rogan also... he is just a guy sitting down and talking to other people, notably people from accross the spectrum. Climate scientist debate with climate denier. Vegan fanatic debate with Carnivore fanatic. He had a guy on who was talking up vaxx then later another who talked about side effects and hidden statistics about the vaxx.
Idk enough about Tate to comment.
Came for the knives…staying for the entertainment!
I am driving a real beater and has a lot of money but i have never really been able to get dates with the ladies. Either it was pretty or ugly ladies, they never has been attracted to me. Now I have realized I can get by with my right hand and a roll of toilet pater and some loition.
@@thorsrensen3162 It isnt about looks, its about confidence. And your right hand is cold comfort when you need a companion.
Can you guys just shut up for one moment from a guy who has been on security doors for years. Listen to what he is really saying.He is speaking the truth.
11:08 😂😂😂
What !
Huh?
Find a woman thats good with kids , and can cook , tell her she looks beautiful every day , wife for life , been married since i was 19 , 56 now with 3 grandchildren, the chubby pretty ones are best 😂
You like chubby grandkids? 🤣
@@GlennMarshallnz Chubby pretty woman you clown 🤣🤣
Manofkentcata: It would probably be better not to tell your wife she looks chubby, it can be cold in the doghouse.
@@StevenKeery 👍👍🍻🍻
I bet you flash your knives... Bet they love it...........🗡🗡🗡🗡🗡
Ha the opposite. Most girls I know hate knives. That definitely attracts men!
@@thatgearguy I was being sarcasic of course.....
Damn, I would. Knives and guns.
One of your first questions to her should be "tip up, or tip down?" Followed by "What's your favourite grind?" 🤨
@@ironpirate8 lololol.. partially serrated AKA the bump n' grind..
After 40 I don`t care much about dating or women in general. Is that normal?
So wimmin dont need to make any effort,just exist?
No they have to make effort.
Getting them is easy keeping them is the hard part 🤣
She’s not yours it’s just your turn. A human can’t possess another human
How tall are you kind sir? You seem to have a good, tall build.
Im only 5'9" :)
i would say instagram models are low value hahaha
Well they are for me personally but I am sure some guys think they are great.
👌
Please keep telling men ways not to be creepy because this is something a lot of men don’t understand.
I will try!!
Ya, and massive expectations based on porn sure doesn’t help anyone either for a real, loving, healthy relationship
I’m a woman and the best advice I have is don’t say or do anything to a woman you would’ve want to receive from another man…in prison.
Dont bother
Well staying single is an option!
All good except I wouldn't talk about confidence as "just" confidence, because that is one thing that is usually way harder to obtain than good musculature ;) I would even argue that in many cases confidence with women cannot be gained, as every approach is so traumatic that person may never get to the point where it gets, allegedly, easier.
Confidence is gained in many ways. Through success in your career, success in hobbys/sports and being happy with your body image. All of that means seriously hard work, which people dont want to do..
now how to date a get
Or a Gyatt
@@thatgearguy this is why they say that dating asian girls in amsterdam is like russian rullete only instead of a gun there is something else :D
Yeah but you were also jacked so your advice without being muscular is not super valuable.
You could get off your ass and go to a gym. Or you can wallow in self pity wondering why "jacked" guys get dates.
@@thatgearguy I do. I was just saying that Very Valuable piece of advice was a bit missing in the video. That's all
Neil Strauss: The Game
Cold approaching might get you a few phone numbers, but if a woman likes you she'll send plenty of signals and you don't have to say much.
21 minutes of obvious waffle. Nothing new here.
Thanks for flouncing in the comments section. You realise you can just watch a different channel if you dont like something right?
@@thatgearguy 😂 fair enough
Best not to bother.... Its all baggage that stops you from doing stuff.
I was running down the road and another runner asked me how far do I go? I said all the way... unfortunately her boyfriend was right behind her. . I've never run so fast and so far in my chuffing life. . at least I got a good cardio work out. .