Modern vs Traditional Values in Marriage | On the Fence | Ep 1

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  • @jasminesingh821
    @jasminesingh821 22 дні тому +9

    In a world that's shifting so fast, isn't it natural for marriage to adapt too? Traditions are valuable, no doubt, but they shouldn't be walls that keep us from living authentically. They should guide us, not confine us. The idea that one partner must sacrifice a career for family feels completely outdated in a time when both men and women have found profound purpose in their work. Now, if one spouse doesn't want to work for one reason or another that's a different story but if both want to work then a career isn't just a job anymore; it's a part of our identify, a way to contribute to society, and a personal source of growth.
    Choosing both family and career isn't just possible, I believe it's essential. The future of marriage I think lies in recognizing that there isn't a one-size-fits all approach. If both partners support each other's goals, the family can thrive, and so can each person within it. To me, that's the real evolution here: a marriage that values individual growth as much as it does the collective journey.

  • @Rajput_warrior12
    @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +99

    Men and women have evolved differently. 50 years of modernization can't override millions of years of evolution and their respective evolutionary instincts.

    • @LetsGoforDabash
      @LetsGoforDabash 2 місяці тому +14

      Exaaaactly, sari gender equality beh jaati hai when face the reality

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +18

      @@LetsGoforDabash equality sirf daru, party, enjoyment me hi chahiye. You'll see only males working underground, on electricity poles, on JCBs, on 18-wheelers or general trucks, in floods or rescue operations, landslides, cleaning gutters, in emergency services like 108 ambulance, fire brigade, heavy machines, electricity poles, windmills, mining or coal and other minerals, road accidents, wild animal attacks like tigers or snakes, underground tunnels. In the army in Kashmir, Ladakh, Arunachal Pradesh, when it comes to actual fighting, only men come. In Pulwama, Kashmir, Kargil thousands of soldiers were martyred, only men saved civilization.

    • @LetsGoforDabash
      @LetsGoforDabash 2 місяці тому +7

      @@Rajput_warrior12 unko bus cleavage feminism hi Krna hai bhai
      Kisi ko equality mein men hi nhi chahiye, inki gender equality bhi female obsessed hai

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 2 місяці тому +2

      Problem is these upper class women demeaning wmen who do hoisehold work as maid job..such a shame. Also when you don't earn exact same amount as a man, you must compensate by doing all household work..otherwise hire a maid..

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 2 місяці тому

      200%- all thos modern world with police and every facilities is just 50 years old😂😂

  • @shock-t3768
    @shock-t3768 2 місяці тому +29

    I agree with the guy 100%. It's not patriarchy or not treating women properly. The reason being taking care of the family is not less than career. A women who doesn't want to take care of her own family and just focus on her career, inherently thinks that taking care of the family inferior or less important. That's a very twisted way of thinking. For me as a man, I would choose to take care of the family any day if I have unlimited money and I do not have to worry about my career. Because for me, taking care of the family is a much bigger and a much more respectable job than working like a slave for money.

  • @ojaswitatoppo5306
    @ojaswitatoppo5306 11 днів тому +2

    OMG, I was on toes watching this episode. Literally, this was ON THE FENCE. With each topic, I felt like one of them will flip. It is good that you change questions before it bursts. I agree with him on one point and the next I am not. On The Fence.

  • @ansh7835
    @ansh7835 2 місяці тому +9

    Answers from a traditionalist Man to "All Your Questions":
    Is marriage necessary in the modern age? Marriage is the same as it was earlier; it isn't strictly necessary, but if one wishes to copulate, then yes, marriage is necessary. Once married, there's no going back. Marriage requires growth to fulfill the needs of others, especially the children, by providing them with the best resources and a healthy, loving home environment. It’s also about supporting your partner in becoming a fulfilled and satisfied person. If marriage doesn't make you better than being single, then it isn't fruitful. Children need both parents, not just until they are 20 years old, but for their entire lives. Ideally, children bond better with grandparents, and there is scientific evidence for that. To foster that bond, grandparents should ideally live together with the family.
    People have lived single lives in the past, and today we see it happening more frequently. Therefore, it’s not a problem at all.
    Stance on arranged marriage: I have seen arranged marriages work, even in cases where the couple only met on the day of the engagement. These marriages succeeded because the parents on both sides knew their children well, and the couple shared the same values. That said, give the couple two or three months to date and see how things go. Just suggest and let the couple decide. Remember, parents and siblings are good judges of the person we are dating. Often, we get blinded by infatuation, but family and friends can see through that, so it's important that the family knows the person. Yes, most men can make a decision in one meeting; the eyes say a lot about the person.
    Living in a joint family: Absolutely a must. Parents help raise the kids and offer guidance in other matters. For me, my wife’s parents and relationships are my relationships and responsibility. Both sides should be treated the same. If my wife has a brother, then let him take care of her parents, but I will be as concerned as I am for my own parents and be ready to provide whatever is needed. If my wife’s parents are alone, arrangements should be made to ensure they receive sufficient care and aren't left alone. This can be challenging depending on the circumstances, but it can still be managed even in extreme cases.
    Gender roles: Absolutely, both parents must be committed to the family and ready to take on any role as the situation demands. However, largely, home matters remain with the wife and external matters with the husband. Professional careers for both are important, but they are not the main focus; they are just a means to support the main focus, which is the family. Both the husband and wife should have hobbies and passions outside of their professional careers. The wife should be aware of matters outside the home, and vice versa. Decisions should be discussed and mutually understood. Yes, the woman is expected to take care of the home, but the man is also expected to support her.
    Wife's career: It’s important for a wife to have a career. If she's a housewife, that's fine, but ideally, she should have her own career, hobbies, and a well-rounded personality. It’s unfortunate that careers are made to seem like everything when they are just a small part of life.
    Does money matter? No, money doesn’t matter. What matters are values, intentions, and compatibility.
    Does everyone cheat? No, not everyone cheats. Cheaters have their own values, and some disguise these values perfectly. Once a cheater, always a cheater. For me, my wife is part of me, and I can't imagine either of us being with anyone else. We are both committed and secure in our relationship.
    Going back to an ex: Absolutely not. A person is an ex for a reason, and there should be no connection now.
    Living in a relationship: For me, monogamy means one partner for life. This only works when both partners believe in it. If that’s not possible, then the number of partners should be low. Therefore, for me, living together or getting married is the same thing; if you are sure about the person, then go ahead and live with that person, get married. As for knowing the person, people sometimes separate even after 30-40 years. Marriage is about commitment, compromises, and continuing to invest in the relationship just like on day one, even in old age. It’s about pulling your partner up when they are down. These intentions and commitment to the relationship and family matters.
    Marriage outside caste, religion, or ethnicity: I always prefer this over endogamy. (This is probably the only area where I differ from traditionalists.) Endogamy is a last resort for me-to marry within one's own caste. Family might have some reservations, but that can be managed.
    Open relationships (polygamous relationships): You already know the answer-it’s a no. For those who want to explore it, good luck, but it’s not for us.

    • @RahulPatil-yg7vy
      @RahulPatil-yg7vy 2 місяці тому

      Caste part applies only to those who take religious and spiritual practices seriously i.e sadhak by practice not by the virtue of birth alone.

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 2 місяці тому

      there is nothing bad in endogamy. Marwadis, jains, patels do it and raise intelligent, smart kids. its also about keeping wealth/influence within a community and take the community forward. more than endogamy its cousin marriages that are issue.
      what will u do if u r attracted to a girl from same caste, will u not pursue her just bcz it will lead to endogamy. this is illogical. u cannot control attraction.
      Only people in lower caste do not agree with it. bcz they want to marry up and guilt people who do

  • @kunalsenani2018
    @kunalsenani2018 2 місяці тому +28

    I wish this conversation was long. I like how Sahil think and is a straightforward guy. Aisi clarity chaiye jeevan me bus

    • @kaushiknatarajan2637
      @kaushiknatarajan2637 2 місяці тому +1

      It looks like a longer conversation has been edited down to this.

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 2 місяці тому +5

      Problem is these upper class women demeaning wmen who do hoisehold work as maid job..such a shame. Also when you don't earn exact same amount as a man, you must compensate by doing all household work..otherwise hire a maid..

  • @jessaabraham
    @jessaabraham 2 місяці тому +16

    His parents did so much for him. Her parents did not? So she will take care of my parents. Then rest wishywashy!!!!
    Marriage is not a license to buy a woman property so that she can be a caretaker for parents. It is for creating a family of your own together not under the umbrella of parents legally. When parents get old or sick it’s is the moral responsibility of kids to find a way to help. But Kids are not responsible for the well-being of the parents but the other way till kids become independent. That is life. Women being treated as property is the reason for what we see today. Property can be used however the owner chooses to.

    • @Cayotecccccc
      @Cayotecccccc 2 місяці тому +24

      Then don't marry stay with your parents

    • @sourabhkumar3852
      @sourabhkumar3852 2 місяці тому +17

      You cannot eat from both father and husband's plates.. u have to choose any one..

    • @ZoldicsDiaries
      @ZoldicsDiaries 2 місяці тому +4

      Problem is these upper class women demeaning wmen who do hoisehold work as maid job..such a shame. Also when you don't earn exact same amount as a man, you must compensate by doing all household work..otherwise hire a maid..

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +6

      You expect the man to provide for everything but don't want to share his responsibilites.

    • @vineetkullu2248
      @vineetkullu2248 2 місяці тому

      Men Create Fucking Societies.
      Emancipation Of Women Barrens Society.

  • @gurgaonwaala5054
    @gurgaonwaala5054 2 місяці тому +14

    This guy seems to be fake…he is just showing himself as greenflag only

  • @suryaprasanth9105
    @suryaprasanth9105 2 місяці тому +7

    I can see her getting triggered by his contradicting answers to her views, I can definitely say that she wants to fix him or date him.🤣😂

  • @siddharthasen439
    @siddharthasen439 22 дні тому +3

    I don't understand the need of this kind of debates from any objective viewpoint. Because the entire thing of a relationship working or not depends on the compatibility matching on various fronts. Hence, approaching it from an objective pov and assigning things as right or wrong is baseless because the topic of the discussion is subjective, what's right for someone might/might not be right for someone else. Which is why people date or spend time before deciding anything serious, so that they understand if their ideologies about life are syncing or not.

    • @tushar8998
      @tushar8998 4 дні тому

      The only logical comment here.

  • @Themetaphysician1999
    @Themetaphysician1999 2 місяці тому +26

    Modern marriages= Instant divorce quicker than Maggi noodles
    Traditional marriages= survive

    • @ashwinvk4124
      @ashwinvk4124 2 місяці тому +1

      survived because of social stigmas attached to divorce and speration

    • @legendunited152
      @legendunited152 2 місяці тому

      ​@@ashwinvk4124lmao fuck stop projecting your dad's maarriage on everyone

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому

      ​@@legendunited152 it's not a projection. Domestic abuse in an extremely common phenomenon in India. I don't like when any Indian hears facts, all they do is personal attacks.

  • @andiyo6999
    @andiyo6999 2 місяці тому +8

    I think this guy is in his own world, because single at 35 is insane
    Har cheez ka Time hota ! Hai life main 5 saal aur gye toh 40 main kaun marriage karega , yeh Ranbir Salman toh hai nahi.

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому

      Ranbir married at 40, salman didn't. People marry at 35 as well. You need to be well settled and good looking

    • @andiyo6999
      @andiyo6999 2 місяці тому

      @@Rajput_warrior12 so that’s what we are trying to say here , that nor he is Ranbir or from Kapoor dynasty nor he is earning in crores nor he is Salman , or having looks of Salman so how come he is fully confident that after 5 years at 40 he will get a girl like Alia Bhatt he is just in illusion and when after 5 years he will surely regret.

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +1

      @@andiyo6999 I find him better looking than salman, although I'm a guy. You don't know how much he's earning. There are a lot of ifs and buts here. Marrying at 35 is getting normal these days. To be able to do that in your 40's is a different thing.

    • @andiyo6999
      @andiyo6999 2 місяці тому

      @@Rajput_warrior12 But Active Human life is till 70 only , And moreover Biological clock is ticking my Friend , Because as We say Bade Log kehte the “ Har Cheez ka Time Hota Hai “ because Late Marriages leads to Lot of Problems in Life ! And I think Marriages on Time Are Best , because a person is young when he has kids , Late marriage means difficulty in conceving both for Male and Female As I am a Doctor myself I have seen lot of patients with late marriages suffering both mentally and Physically!

    • @arkapravade7234
      @arkapravade7234 2 місяці тому +2

      35 is normal in metro cities

  • @priyanka-hc1xp
    @priyanka-hc1xp 10 днів тому +2

    I dont know why but I got subtle aggressive vibes from the guy when he was being questioned. Maybe I am wrong.....

  • @prrashantmehta583
    @prrashantmehta583 2 місяці тому +1

    Basically, it’s not our society but judiciary and even hardcore feminist also believes that a Woman’s role in the society should be as nurturer. Because in all over the world the maintenance provided by husband only and courts are biased for the same. And if this is not then every one should advocating for no maintenance for spouse Husband or Wife because we are believe in equality.

  • @MrBlackjack456
    @MrBlackjack456 2 місяці тому +12

    Why does she have an accent? Sounds so fake.

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +1

      Not fake

    • @sasuke36571
      @sasuke36571 2 місяці тому

      woman is full of fake bro when theywere real they are fake from day 1

    • @kaushiknatarajan2637
      @kaushiknatarajan2637 2 місяці тому +1

      She is foreign educated Punjabi (I think), many of them develop accents because of living abroad so long. I mean, how does it matter? The content is good and you can understand it, so just carry on.

    • @MrBlackjack456
      @MrBlackjack456 2 місяці тому

      @@kaushiknatarajan2637 yeah maybe she has studied abroad but that doesn't change the accent much and definitely not to the extent of sounding fake

  • @ZoldicsDiaries
    @ZoldicsDiaries 2 місяці тому +14

    Problem is these upper class women demeaning wmen who do hoisehold work as maid job..such a shame. Also when you don't earn exact same amount as a man, you must compensate by doing all household work..otherwise hire a maid..

  • @ankurprakash5741
    @ankurprakash5741 2 місяці тому +9

    Bhai ne sabhi ladko k dil ki baat bol di 😅

  • @SweekkritiSingh
    @SweekkritiSingh 2 місяці тому +4

    Why will she ask you to go to work? Like who are you?????

  • @rajibghosh8919
    @rajibghosh8919 2 місяці тому +31

    He is Real Man 😊...
    That's called MAN !!!!?

    • @sasuke36571
      @sasuke36571 2 місяці тому +7

      he is high value man

    • @ashwinvk4124
      @ashwinvk4124 2 місяці тому +3

      he actually said lot of illogical things

    • @badliar6016
      @badliar6016 2 місяці тому +1

      Namard bolte hn usko

    • @dhananjayjadhav7208
      @dhananjayjadhav7208 2 місяці тому +3

      ​@@badliar6016tere father ko

    • @badliar6016
      @badliar6016 2 місяці тому

      @@dhananjayjadhav7208 Tujhe aur tere baap ko bolte hn

  • @PoojaJoshi-f2n
    @PoojaJoshi-f2n 2 місяці тому +3

    Let's see how his marriage fares ...he has unrealistic views

  • @sandeep23655
    @sandeep23655 17 днів тому +1

    6:30 Really was personal

  • @wscratchensniff5872
    @wscratchensniff5872 2 місяці тому +4

    OVERCONFIDENCE

  • @neerajkrishna.r2852
    @neerajkrishna.r2852 2 місяці тому +3

    Gotta lose the mom guilt, boys.

  • @GurjarUmesh-y9y
    @GurjarUmesh-y9y 27 днів тому

    Never seen such clarity and aura in a man

  • @krishanuchakraborty3500
    @krishanuchakraborty3500 2 місяці тому +2

    This conversation was far from real problems

  • @ankitmahapatra8921
    @ankitmahapatra8921 2 місяці тому +8

    Dude is that accent natural? It sounds so forced. It sounds so much like a LA influencer drag. Tone that down maybe a notch

  • @gyanmantra3488
    @gyanmantra3488 2 місяці тому +30

    She looks down when talks about her relationship…she indirectly tells that she is single ..she says I prefer monogamy even when she is not asked about it..she looks down and doesn’t look into eyes when he says caste don’t matter..and last ke 2 min mein to all know from insta that she touches her neck ,hair ,says sahil is hlowing..nd i saw now that she even stammers..sahil..she is into you bhai😂 aur tere mein confidence hai aajkal ki over feminist hava se ladki ko bahar nikaalne ka..she wants to submit to you..wife her up broooo❤❤❤

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 2 місяці тому +3

      she is waaay prettier than him. she is out of his league.

    • @KrishPDHAI
      @KrishPDHAI Місяць тому +5

      ​@@AA13494 jealous much?

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 Місяць тому +1

      @@KrishPDHAI jealous of who??? the salesmen??

    • @kaushiknatarajan2637
      @kaushiknatarajan2637 Місяць тому

      ​@@AA13494 Subjective opinion. I think he should date, but the thing with many women is they have a tendency to fall for men who do not see her the same way she sees those men.

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 Місяць тому

      @@kaushiknatarajan2637 no it is not subjective.
      beauty is subjective only to a certain degree. there will be a consensus more r less.
      just bcz ugly people marry dsnt mean their partners find them beautiful, it cud be many reasons like dying single

  • @tribhuvannarayansingh5463
    @tribhuvannarayansingh5463 2 місяці тому +12

    Bhai ka fan ho gaya main toh !!! Really ❤

  • @amanbaghel7841
    @amanbaghel7841 2 місяці тому +3

    Love that guy clear thoughts about marriage..
    What's the girl name who is hosting the podcast??

  • @Srikanth-gz4ke
    @Srikanth-gz4ke 2 місяці тому +2

    Where can we see this guy Sahil on social media?

  • @abhishekkanojia1886
    @abhishekkanojia1886 2 місяці тому +2

    This is just a very basic primitive level of thinking. There is no nuisance.

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 2 місяці тому +1

      its "nuance" not nuisance🤣

  • @Sandra11099
    @Sandra11099 2 місяці тому +11

    Full line de rhi hai but ladka samajh na rha…..koi isko batao….ki bandi mill gayi isse..faltu me wait kar rha hai…😅😅😅😅

    • @pratikdhage3491
      @pratikdhage3491 2 місяці тому +2

      Maybe he is looking for something else

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому

      I think he's looking for someone to settle down. But I wouldn't mind hookup until then.

    • @Sandra11099
      @Sandra11099 2 місяці тому

      @@pratikdhage3491 dekh Lena..he will end up with the host…just a matter of timing and how quick he gets the hint ..he should watch the video and notice that the host so charmingly tosses her hair..plays with her hair strand when she put out a next question to him..clearly she is attracted to him….. let’s see the guy if he is interested in her….

    • @Du.....249
      @Du.....249 2 місяці тому

      Salo tum ladko ka koi standard he ki nhi? Tabhi yah ladkio ka bhaw bad rakha he salo tum sab simp

    • @sreepurammike
      @sreepurammike 2 місяці тому

      Yes, she said aapke paas koi opening hain and you look glowing 😁

  • @albaztory959
    @albaztory959 2 місяці тому +4

    why should women leave their houses but men get to choose whether they live with their families or not, its kind of selfish i think

    • @Prakashkumar-dn3il
      @Prakashkumar-dn3il 2 місяці тому +9

      It's your choice but you have to respect that choice in the case of your brother also.

    • @SlimJim3082
      @SlimJim3082 2 місяці тому +9

      Cos when a man marries, his wife is now his responsibility. He has to now take care of her financially and physically.

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +6

      Next time you feel unsafe, ask your mom and sister to protect your brother and father, you'll get your answer

    • @AA13494
      @AA13494 2 місяці тому

      bcz men and women are not equal, they r equitable.
      if a woman wants men to provide and protect her then she has to follow the man and share responsibilities.
      nobody is 100% independent.
      u cannot hv yr cake and eat it to.

    • @tarun9542
      @tarun9542 25 днів тому +1

      Find an unemployed man, he can come to your house and you can pay for everything. 🤡

  • @sidharthdeo7138
    @sidharthdeo7138 2 місяці тому +1

    Hey Chandra! Just came across your cover song and couldn't help but imagine how good you'll sing the labyrinth song by asaf avidan

  • @Shubham_Toshniwal
    @Shubham_Toshniwal 2 місяці тому +5

    Please add English subtitle to all new videos for deaf viewers like me!

    • @agastyasingh6678
      @agastyasingh6678 2 місяці тому +1

      UA-cam provide option

    • @doncorleone3901
      @doncorleone3901 2 місяці тому +1

      Bro there is a button on youtube with cc written on it. Hit that to turn on automatic subtitles

    • @unknownsuar
      @unknownsuar 2 місяці тому

      ‎‎

  • @kumargourab1
    @kumargourab1 2 місяці тому

    what's the name of this guy ?

  • @booksquotes948
    @booksquotes948 2 місяці тому

    Who is this girl ????

  • @shivamsoni8232
    @shivamsoni8232 2 місяці тому +3

    Me is soo hee
    Hee is so meee😱😱🚨

  • @batm38
    @batm38 2 місяці тому

    We r just few decades away from kardashev-1 type of civilization,these type of topics r irrelevant in 2024.There will be no religion,borders, countries,culture,genders, identity etc.in future only humans.

  • @rutdvajrawal7933
    @rutdvajrawal7933 2 місяці тому +1

    Why dont you guys tag the guest ?

  • @SD-gq2ld
    @SD-gq2ld 2 місяці тому

    West delhi ka launda hai yeh pakka. Loved him

  • @AjayKumar-ek4tw
    @AjayKumar-ek4tw 2 місяці тому +3

    Hindi me hota to alag hi feel ati... Or madam bas karo .. bhaiya ko line mare ja rahi ho... Starting se... 😂

  • @toxoreed9334
    @toxoreed9334 2 місяці тому +1

    ❤️👑MGTOW👑🔥

  • @cse8218
    @cse8218 2 місяці тому +3

    Why she is faking her english accent lol 😂😂

  • @048_sagaryadav6
    @048_sagaryadav6 2 місяці тому +1

    MAN

  • @DirectDilSe29
    @DirectDilSe29 2 місяці тому +1

    7:00 mujhe esa kyo LG rha h ye khud kr legi shadi

    • @Sandra11099
      @Sandra11099 2 місяці тому +2

      Agree..bande ke samane beithi hai uski future wife aur bechara kahi or dhund rha…..😂😂😂

    • @Sandra11099
      @Sandra11099 2 місяці тому +2

      When a girl touches her hair and having a conversation with you…uska matlab the girl likes you….

    • @sidy6526
      @sidy6526 2 місяці тому +4

      ​@@Sandra11099
      Kuch bhi bc 🤷

    • @Rajput_warrior12
      @Rajput_warrior12 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@sidy65its26 it's true. Saying "kuch bhi" won't make you cool.

    • @kaushiknatarajan2637
      @kaushiknatarajan2637 2 місяці тому

      ​@@Sandra11099Likes you, does not mean will have a relationship or will marry you. One must be patient 😊

  • @TJ-wo1xt
    @TJ-wo1xt Місяць тому +1

    This discussion is too superficial.

  • @arunabhsrivastava7841
    @arunabhsrivastava7841 2 місяці тому

    How can I be on this show?