Look! If you truly believe someone is a stalker type, don't accept or allow them to spend money on you. If you find out after the fact, give them back whatever you reasonably can because true stalkers can be dangerous and it's not worth the headache.
As soon as she set those boundaries she should’ve sent him a check for what she owed him. After that all the creepy crap he pulled he should’ve been arrested.
@@TheRarestJewel showing up to someone's house Uninvited, with donuts is stalking. I'm sure if she had a said she would continue to date him he wouldn't expect to get the money back.
@@WeezyJeffersonYo no it isn’t not if you’re dating, it’s just spontaneous. And she may not want that because she’s “busy”, but being busy doesn’t mean you can’t eat a donut or drink coffee. Just miscommunication. If he kept doing it anyway that’d be another thing.
@WeezyJeffersonYo I think he did "stalk" her. At the same time It doesn't resonate with me why ppl would want to let others have something over thier head. I would have immediately returned his money and closed the door on the communication. The last thing u wanna do with a lunatic is owe them something. IMO
She was wrong for leading him on. I used to run 🏃🏾♀️ the other way when I encountered men like this while dating. There is no such thing as a free lunch. People have died for putting themselves in predicaments like this.
how did she lead him on exactly? I don't see that at all. A couple dates and help renting a uhaul? And why shouldn't she be allowed to change her mind as to continuing or not continuing a any sort of relationship?
She did not lead him on. He was tricking of his own right for his own reasons. She shouldn't have to pay anything for him harassing her on paper and getting fired as a result
@ReaP JoY The coworker could have responded by saying plaintiff should get her workplace security staff or call the police if she feels so scared to go to car by herself. So many stories in the news, where people having nothing to do with the parties involved get killed in the crossfire.
It's not about whether she led him on or not. It's about being cognizant about population of males out there who are not mentally mature when dealing with women they're interested in and being careful in my actions from beginning to end when dating someone. He's off for getting into the B N B after she still didn't pay him back and yet brought her to the show to get his money back.
Exactly. If she's a single mom she should be focusing on raising her children and saving her own money. She's lucky he didn't go off after she got him fired.
I don't think there ever was a loan. The judge says in the texts he kept saying "I got you." He wasn't saying "I'll loan it to you" or "I'll need this back within a week." People do to you what you let them do. It's not as if this woman was leading him on. She told him she wasn't trying to date, she told him she had boundaries, and this dude just kept on, kept on.
This should be a lesson never date /have an intaglement with anyone or ask/lend any money to anyone you work with . Always set boundaries with people you work with .This lady should not have taken money from him and is very cunning and sneaky she's just using this as an excuse to not pay the money back
Over the years I have seen women walk out of relationships because they were bored. They then go back on the dating market and expect good men to take them seriously. I have been single for 25 years; during this time I have friends who have been divorced up to 3 times. I only know of one man who benefitted from a divorce. I avoid the chaos by not dating single mothers, divorcees, overweight women, women with piercings and tattoos, women with weaves, women with long, stupid eye lashes and finger nails, women who have a high body count, addicts, feminists or women who are unwilling or unable to pay their way. This pretty much rules out 95% of black women. I travel often, I have lots of free time and I enjoy good food, both eating out and cooking my own. How can a woman top that?
She lucky he didn’t kill her. Did you see the news with the Instagram model using this guy from florida for his money and when to her apartment in a different state and kill her and himself
What money? Fifty bucks for a UHaul? Please. If she was a user, she would have gotten three months rent, her car insurance premium for six months, some jewelry, and a Neiman Marcus charge card.
As the old saying goes: “Don’t dip your pen in the company ink”. Also good to remember: “Never play in your own backyard”. Never date a coworker, classmate, neighbor, or anyone that has easy access to your personal, intimate life. If it goes bad you risk a very expensive and difficult situation trying to extricate your life from theirs.
I feel like "Never play in your own backyard" is kind of terrible, I mean, it's my yard! I get the idea that it's more like don't set fire to your own house or something like that....
Especially in our community; men must focus on themselves and spend their money on themselves. There is no reason to splash out money on women who have not qualified for it. The guy should have bought himself a nice suit and go on holiday by himself.
@@catierollins8493 : This is changing. There is no need for men to pay for stuff that she gives to other men for free. She is overweight and not the best looker; as long as we continue to give women like this credibility, they will continue to demand things from men that they do not qualify for. This is the reason why we see unemployed, 350lbs single mothers telling us that they don't AVE to bring anything to the table; because they are the table. In every other culture, people laugh at them; but in the black community; they feel that they are entitled to the best men.
@@kyoto32001 he was coming up to her desk at work. And came to her house. He could have demanded via text or emails. Especially if he wanted a paper trail. He wanted contact. Plain and simple.
When both of your parents are judges, it has to be tough to lie and stick to it. Lol Always love their little session at the end of these shows. It's nice to see the more personal side.
If he was bothering you that much, you knew he wanted his money back why not just give him the money ? And THEN you should of went to HR And the police and complained She didn’t have clean hands either she benefited from this creep regardless she knew he liked her and would give her the money.
I did NOT like it when the judge told her 'you got him fired' no he got himself fired, because he didn't respect her boundaries and after being warned by his manager he still didn't respect her boundaries. She did the only thing possible to do, take it to HR. The judge should have been congratulating her for being so brave, instead of accusing her, shame on the judge...
I can't believe the judge said that and another thing is the judge was asking her all these intimate questions about why there dating ended and she had to relive this embarrassment and national TV just to turn around and blame her for him being fired
Women aren't always as innocent as they claim to be. Only when it's convenient. She mingled with a coworker, used him up and when he was no longer valuable she then calls him a stalker and uses work as an excuse to not pay him back. Sure he's responsible for his own actions but if she's doing this maliciously then it's on her too. Pay the man back and then if he still bothers you then put in a complaint. That's what a decent person would do.
The u-haul was only $57! He booked the Air bnb after she told him she can’t go, and had the text to prove. She hardly used him. The Judge was dead wrong.
Crazy lady likes to spend his money and not have to pay it back before she blocks him and gets him fired to avoid paying money back. Yep, work relationships are either great or BOOM!
He was fired because he didn't take it seriously when his superiors told him to leave her alone at work. He wasn't trying to get his money back there, he was trying to force her into a relationship with him. He tried to buy her love then tried to wear her down and neither worked. I don't agree with everything on her end but he got his own azz fired.
How is she "crazy"? The judge was saying that in the texts this dude kept saying "I got you" (meaning: I'll take care of it, not I'll loan it to you). So many people try to buy affection and then when they don't get affection, all the money they laid out magically is a loan. That's not how life works! Like the defendant said, the man got himself fired because he would not take "no" for an answer. If his contact was about the money he thought she owed, he should have just sued like he eventually did and handled it through the courts. He wanted her, which is why he only went to court when all his attempts to be with her failed.
LADIES.....Here is a hard lesson. 99.9% of men will NEVER give you money or help you without expecting something in return. So if you accept it, don't be surprised when he comes to collect. Either be prepared to pay him back with the money or with azz. We are all grown folks here and know what the deal is.
Nah that's their mistake if I agree to pay that's one thing but no man should expect ass for money unless they're buying a prostitute. And we definitely should not be OKing this behavior, as if it's acceptable. it kills me that people think it's normal for men to expect sex bc they take u out to eat, or pay a bill whatever it is. We definitely need to stop being accepting of this boy's will be boy's behavior
Correct. This is not boys will be boys behavior. This is a grown woman trying to use a grown man for money. She used her feminine wiles to get it knowing she had no mutual attraction to this man. This is the oldest game in the playbook. Women are murdered daily over stupid things like this and children left motherless...over $57 damn dollars. I'm sure she could save her own money and provide for her own needs.
Why would she? If he's touching her at work without her permission, that's the issue of concern to the bosses. Whatever takes place outside of work is not their concern.
She was using him for money Judge Judy says all the time contacting someone to get your money back is not harassment, sure he was a little aggressive about it but she knew she was using him for money that’s why JM asked her all those irrelevant intimate question JM is not stupid she wanted the world to see she wasnt innocent in the situation
@@LolaleniceShe was not using him. She didn't ask for anything. This dude was trying way too hard to win her affection. Buying people things rarely ever accomplishes that!
@@lecuyerdooley1084 so what he was trying too hard…does that make it okay to take his money? If he’s creepy do not accept anything from him, report his actions to HR and if needed file a police report.
@@VettGirl66 I'm not saying I agree with her accepting his gifts, but again, he was offering. He kept saying "I got you." He wasn't saying "I'll loan you this or that." He got creepy when she let him know she wasn't interested in a relationship. Then, he started showing up at 7 a.m. and touching her at work.
This! I was yelling at my computer screen when JM said 'you got him fired' and cheering for the defendant for responding 'he got his own self fired'. JM was wrong to blame her for his behaviour. ETA: I just got to the end and JM finishes with 'you got him fired'?!?! What is wrong with JM?!? HE GOT HIMSELF FIRED! UGH! JM is so disappointing some times.
No one is all that but God, i don't care how someone looks good or bad, u should not be chasing them, count it as a blessing & more on, she sounds like a user/taker
I agree with the defendant,, I don't like how the judge said "you got him fired". She handled it appropriately from the beginning, his actions got him fired.
@@TopherGrant yeah you missed like the whole thing. They worked at the same place different managers. He kept crossing lines with her and she finally went to HR when he wouldn't leave her alone then he still contacted her after being told not to. Idk how she was using him for his money it was only what 57 bucks or something? The only reason he sued her was because he wanted contact with her. And if you mean the trip, she told him she couldn't go and he booked it anyway. He's a creep and he got him she fired.
@chris T lol no. She told him from thr beginning she wasn't interested in a serious relationship and he kept bugging her. Also if it was JUST about the money then when hr got involved and his manager told him to leave her alone, he could have said she owed him money and then hr and the manager could have told him how to handle that better. Furthermore he told her not to worry about the money until he got mad at her then he wanted it. It was a small amount of money one time. He was a loser that couldn't take no for an answer.
Why are you saying that like one justifies the other... Men are really fucked up, What makes you think it's OK to expect sex/relationship because you're stupid enough to try and buy somebody's love?
She really thought she could finesse this man out of his money...damn dummy. Then she pulls the single mom card. Grow up, raise your kids and stop playing games with men you have no interest in. These women end up on the news and their children are left to be raised by family members. Ridiculous.
Absolutely. It sounds like she was leading him on, but didn’t mind him taking her out. If you are not sexually attracted to a man or interested, you should not go out with him under romantic pretenses period.
This woman used this guy. She had him pick up the uhaul so he had to pay for it. She wanted a free trip on top of that. What a nasty woman to use someone like this. Then someone had to help her get into her car, what a drama queen. All he wanted was his money back that she promised to pay and then she gets him fired to cause more drama. What a piece of garbage she is.
I feel like they both got what they deserve!!! I do feel like he was being stalker tho but something tells me she was also using him and she knows better to not even take money from a co-worker but is not OK for him to cross any boundaries
SHE DIDNT GET HIM FIRED! His behavior got him fired! Don't care if about the other stuff. "Leave me alone means leave me alone" the easiest thing in the world to do is be away from someone. She may owe money but if the other coworkers see the stalking/ touching, He isn't even hiding it. Whether or not she owes her money all that extra other behaviors bs
defendant was trying to act all innocent and put together but she was clearly trying to use him and it backfired. then when the judge asked if they were dating she basically had to pull her teeth to admit that they went out on a few dates. Don’t use people and maybe you won’t have these problems
Exactly and I’m sorry I don’t care if I’m broke and my stomach touching my back I woulda never let him personally do anything for me. I can tell he’s an ass.
He was trying to buy her and it failed. Who goes the extent to continue to bother with someone after being told “leave me alone”. If it continues past that you have stalker tendencies. I’m sorry 🤷🏽♀️
@@TopherGrant Gotta be smarter and not allow that to happen to yourself. If he likes her, why not go direct and just ask her out to eat or something. Not offer up money because anyone would accept. Ijs….
@@valpooh7532 they did go out to eat. He paid. As expected. She had no intention on being with this man. Women decide that very early in a relationship. But telling him that means the free money will stop.
@@TopherGrant I missed the out to eat part. Either way, I’m sure he felt that she wasn’t interested at some point. That’s why he started offering to do other things and she accepted. Majority of women will do that.
@@valpooh7532 anyone would take it, sure. But only women think it's free and don't have to reciprocate. Women know men want sex. Women know men give money and time and attention in hopes of sex. Women accept money and attention and time because that's what fulfills their needs. Mens needs are met by sex. It's not a hard concept. No one is going out on dates for the conversation.
This happened to me..the man showed up at my job after we ended things over such boundary issues!!!!. I never borrowed money from him though. Some guys are just creepy and weird
I dont know why I have never taken gifts or money from men that I dont have time to date or have a romantic relationship with. Those men would never know anything about my personal life.
you want to spend his money but you don't want anything to do with him.. So His money is good for you but he is not. Then all of a sudden you feel scared but not scared when he was doing favors and giving money Some women play the system well.
anyone can, it's not hard. it doesn't effect anything u just adjust. hardest thing I've noticed is taking ur card out of atm machine when it has plastic pieces around the card slot 😂😂
the defendant needs to stop using this guy, you can tell he was willing to fork over money for your time but she didnt want his time but she wanted his money... we all see she is a gold digger
This is how things can turn out when people try to get over on others. People need to be very careful when using others because it's a dangerous game. If they only went on two dates, she shouldn't have felt comfortable enough to have to take from him financially if she truly wasn't interested in him in that way. I've seen things like this end badly. It's a seriously dangerous game. People can become obsessive or revengeful.
@@adrianprince7266 you don't get the point these are classic signs of a obsessive man who doesn't like rejection and if she didn't get away from him something bad would've happened to her
@Deanna, classic signs or not his mistake was giving the money in the first place, all the while knowing he had other intentions. She knew this as well but decided to accept the money anyway. Had he not done that then we aren't here with him in this case today. Of course he got upset when she rebuffed his advances. Classic signs or not, this all could've been handled in the very beginning if he had kept his money to himself. That's not even debatable
@@adrianprince7266 agreed! She knew this man liked her so she took advantage of the situation. She decided to set up boundaries after she got his money.
She was just trying to get money from dude.. she played him out and was trying to avoid having to pay him. But he is a fool for losing his job over a chick like that.
I think she used him but I also believe he was acting inappropriately and not taking NO for an answer. He could have just sued her in court before it all went this far on his end.
Look! If you truly believe someone is a stalker type, don't accept or allow them to spend money on you. If you find out after the fact, give them back whatever you reasonably can because true stalkers can be dangerous and it's not worth the headache.
Agreed
I know someone who did just that. I didn't understand why and she said tht way he'll have any reason to come back.
even if they spend 0 dollars they are still stalking women
Do not date people you work with or give them money because if things do not work out, it can create a hostile work environment or cost you your job.
yep not supposed to shit where ya eat
Exactly. “don’t get your meat where you get your bread” lol.
Yes I agree!
💯 %TRU FACTS ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾
Yup
As soon as she set those boundaries she should’ve sent him a check for what she owed him. After that all the creepy crap he pulled he should’ve been arrested.
I’m sure he was only tryna get his money not stalking this lady she switched up n blew it up because she owed him money 😂
@@TheRarestJewel showing up to someone's house Uninvited, with donuts is stalking. I'm sure if she had a said she would continue to date him he wouldn't expect to get the money back.
@@WeezyJeffersonYo no it isn’t not if you’re dating, it’s just spontaneous. And she may not want that because she’s “busy”, but being busy doesn’t mean you can’t eat a donut or drink coffee. Just miscommunication. If he kept doing it anyway that’d be another thing.
Exactly.
@WeezyJeffersonYo I think he did "stalk" her. At the same time It doesn't resonate with me why ppl would want to let others have something over thier head. I would have immediately returned his money and closed the door on the communication. The last thing u wanna do with a lunatic is owe them something. IMO
She was wrong for leading him on. I used to run 🏃🏾♀️ the other way when I encountered men like this while dating. There is no such thing as a free lunch. People have died for putting themselves in predicaments like this.
how did she lead him on exactly? I don't see that at all. A couple dates and help renting a uhaul? And why shouldn't she be allowed to change her mind as to continuing or not continuing a any sort of relationship?
She did not lead him on. He was tricking of his own right for his own reasons. She shouldn't have to pay anything for him harassing her on paper and getting fired as a result
@ReaP JoY The coworker could have responded by saying plaintiff should get her workplace security staff or call the police if she feels so scared to go to car by herself. So many stories in the news, where people having nothing to do with the parties involved get killed in the crossfire.
It's not about whether she led him on or not. It's about being cognizant about population of males out there who are not mentally mature when dealing with women they're interested in and being careful in my actions from beginning to end when dating someone. He's off for getting into the B N B after she still didn't pay him back and yet brought her to the show to get his money back.
@@rosej5029 I agree and also it’s maddening that we as women have to do so many things to protect ourselves.
If you don’t have money to go on a trip. Don’t go on the trip! People really need to get their priorities right.
She didn’t go on the trip apparently she told him that she wasn’t going and not to get the Airbnb
Absolutely I have experience that twice with so-called adults 😅😅😅😆
Exactly. If she's a single mom she should be focusing on raising her children and saving her own money. She's lucky he didn't go off after she got him fired.
Man or woman, stop giving folks money hoping that they'll like you more.
If he WAS harassing her at work then she didn't get him fired, he got himself fired.
He's crazy. But she definitely worked the hell out of him. And after she was done using him, him asking for his money now he's a Stalker.
I don't think there ever was a loan. The judge says in the texts he kept saying "I got you." He wasn't saying "I'll loan it to you" or "I'll need this back within a week." People do to you what you let them do. It's not as if this woman was leading him on. She told him she wasn't trying to date, she told him she had boundaries, and this dude just kept on, kept on.
This should be a lesson never date /have an intaglement with anyone or ask/lend any money to anyone you work with . Always set boundaries with people you work with .This lady should not have taken money from him and is very cunning and sneaky she's just using this as an excuse to not pay the money back
The only lesson here is for men who need to keep their money to themselves so they don't find themselves here.
@@adrianprince7266 The same for women too.
Cut the bullshit! He was tricking! And when he didn't get no nookie he wanna sue her.
@@mitchy2311 literally tho, he wanted to impress her by spending $ on her, but money wasn’t enough for her to look past his creepiness
Over the years I have seen women walk out of relationships because they were bored. They then go back on the dating market and expect good men to take them seriously. I have been single for 25 years; during this time I have friends who have been divorced up to 3 times. I only know of one man who benefitted from a divorce. I avoid the chaos by not dating single mothers, divorcees, overweight women, women with piercings and tattoos, women with weaves, women with long, stupid eye lashes and finger nails, women who have a high body count, addicts, feminists or women who are unwilling or unable to pay their way. This pretty much rules out 95% of black women. I travel often, I have lots of free time and I enjoy good food, both eating out and cooking my own. How can a woman top that?
It sucks when you use a guy for his money and he turns out to be “stalkerish.” She’ll have to choose better next guy she uses.🤣
She lucky he didn’t kill her.
Did you see the news with the Instagram model using this guy from florida for his money and when to her apartment in a different state and kill her and himself
😂😂
And when you use a woman for her looks and body and she turns out to be stalkerish, you should choose better the next time.
😂😂😂😂
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Of course she has boundaries after she got that money
What money? Fifty bucks for a UHaul? Please. If she was a user, she would have gotten three months rent, her car insurance premium for six months, some jewelry, and a Neiman Marcus charge card.
As the old saying goes: “Don’t dip your pen in the company ink”. Also good to remember: “Never play in your own backyard”. Never date a coworker, classmate, neighbor, or anyone that has easy access to your personal, intimate life. If it goes bad you risk a very expensive and difficult situation trying to extricate your life from theirs.
💯💯💯🔥so fucking right gonna screenshot this and post it around you are a blessing for bringing all that up
I feel like "Never play in your own backyard" is kind of terrible, I mean, it's my yard! I get the idea that it's more like don't set fire to your own house or something like that....
"Don't shit where you eat" is another one you can add to your repertoire
I agree
Another good motto is, " don't screw the crew"
Self-Control brother most women find a man being overly thirsty a total turn-off 💯
But they have no problem taking his money
@@TopherGrant yep. People will always take what you give up. Lol men will take poom poom even if they don’t like you.
@@catierollins8493 not those raised with morality and a sense of self-righteousness
Especially in our community; men must focus on themselves and spend their money on themselves. There is no reason to splash out money on women who have not qualified for it. The guy should have bought himself a nice suit and go on holiday by himself.
@@catierollins8493 : This is changing. There is no need for men to pay for stuff that she gives to other men for free. She is overweight and not the best looker; as long as we continue to give women like this credibility, they will continue to demand things from men that they do not qualify for. This is the reason why we see unemployed, 350lbs single mothers telling us that they don't AVE to bring anything to the table; because they are the table. In every other culture, people laugh at them; but in the black community; they feel that they are entitled to the best men.
Both of them are wrong in this situation. She shouldn't be hitting up men for money and he shouldn't be stalker.
demanding repayment of a loan is NOT "stalking".
@@kyoto32001 he was coming up to her desk at work. And came to her house. He could have demanded via text or emails. Especially if he wanted a paper trail. He wanted contact. Plain and simple.
@@tan_ya_ she blocked him so I guess the only way to communicate with her was at work
@@dawnlee866 nah, certified letters, serving agencies, etc. He could have avoided the work contact.
When both of your parents are judges, it has to be tough to lie and stick to it. Lol Always love their little session at the end of these shows. It's nice to see the more personal side.
Right. It also has to be pretty Awesome in case you get in a bit of trouble too😉😁I Love watching their conversations.
@@mrshappilymarried1 Yes. That's true. 😁
I agree, the two judges at the end has become one of my favorite parts.
I love the personal side too
I think we know why she plays bad cop. Who do you think wear the pants in the relationship but anyhow they seem genuinely happy together
If he was bothering you that much, you knew he wanted his money back why not just give him the money ? And THEN you should of went to HR And the police and complained
She didn’t have clean hands either she benefited from this creep regardless she knew he liked her and would give her the money.
Girl get outta here! You had time for him when you needed that money 🙄 Now all of a sudden you got "Standards & boundaries" 🤦
I love when they pull the "I'm a single mom" card....
😂 the big tvs in the court rooms where they are supposed to stand is cracking me up.
I'm glad she corrected the judge. He got himself fired.
The judge was right, but so are you they both got him fired for what they did
I’m glad she corrected the judge too!
And she played him and she Will get played 🤔
I did NOT like it when the judge told her 'you got him fired' no he got himself fired, because he didn't respect her boundaries and after being warned by his manager he still didn't respect her boundaries. She did the only thing possible to do, take it to HR. The judge should have been congratulating her for being so brave, instead of accusing her, shame on the judge...
100% agree but she was messy for mixing relationships with work
I can't believe the judge said that and another thing is the judge was asking her all these intimate questions about why there dating ended and she had to relive this embarrassment and national TV just to turn around and blame her for him being fired
@chris T well said...couldn't agree with you more
Women aren't always as innocent as they claim to be. Only when it's convenient. She mingled with a coworker, used him up and when he was no longer valuable she then calls him a stalker and uses work as an excuse to not pay him back. Sure he's responsible for his own actions but if she's doing this maliciously then it's on her too. Pay the man back and then if he still bothers you then put in a complaint. That's what a decent person would do.
The u-haul was only $57! He booked the Air bnb after she told him she can’t go, and had the text to prove. She hardly used him. The Judge was dead wrong.
Crazy lady likes to spend his money and not have to pay it back before she blocks him and gets him fired to avoid paying money back. Yep, work relationships are either great or BOOM!
You can definitely tell that she is trouble.
He was fired because he didn't take it seriously when his superiors told him to leave her alone at work. He wasn't trying to get his money back there, he was trying to force her into a relationship with him. He tried to buy her love then tried to wear her down and neither worked. I don't agree with everything on her end but he got his own azz fired.
How is she "crazy"? The judge was saying that in the texts this dude kept saying "I got you" (meaning: I'll take care of it, not I'll loan it to you). So many people try to buy affection and then when they don't get affection, all the money they laid out magically is a loan. That's not how life works! Like the defendant said, the man got himself fired because he would not take "no" for an answer. If his contact was about the money he thought she owed, he should have just sued like he eventually did and handled it through the courts. He wanted her, which is why he only went to court when all his attempts to be with her failed.
@@granitemoss1451 Preach! Desperation is never a good look.
LADIES.....Here is a hard lesson. 99.9% of men will NEVER give you money or help you without expecting something in return. So if you accept it, don't be surprised when he comes to collect. Either be prepared to pay him back with the money or with azz. We are all grown folks here and know what the deal is.
THIS!!! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
FACTS!!!
Her ultimate goal is to not pay or give up the booty
Nah that's their mistake if I agree to pay that's one thing but no man should expect ass for money unless they're buying a prostitute. And we definitely should not be OKing this behavior, as if it's acceptable. it kills me that people think it's normal for men to expect sex bc they take u out to eat, or pay a bill whatever it is. We definitely need to stop being accepting of this boy's will be boy's behavior
Correct. This is not boys will be boys behavior. This is a grown woman trying to use a grown man for money. She used her feminine wiles to get it knowing she had no mutual attraction to this man. This is the oldest game in the playbook. Women are murdered daily over stupid things like this and children left motherless...over $57 damn dollars. I'm sure she could save her own money and provide for her own needs.
It’s funny she never mentioned the money to her bosses.
Exactly
Right
How did this stalker get you "#"
Why would she? If he's touching her at work without her permission, that's the issue of concern to the bosses. Whatever takes place outside of work is not their concern.
@@lecuyerdooley1084 we’ll maybe because the reason for his contact was the money and for her to leave it out is suspicious
When the defendant’s employers see that she had used her workplace to participate in this personal matter, she may also lose her job.
She definitely used him for money but if she’s knows what’s best for her don’t play games the next guy could be worse smh
Absolutely. She didn't know who she was playing with and she better stop before she ends up on the news...over $57
So true
Ppl blow my mind claiming “they tried to give the $ back x-amount of times” well, they want it back now. Return it and be done.
She was using him for money Judge Judy says all the time contacting someone to get your money back is not harassment, sure he was a little aggressive about it but she knew she was using him for money that’s why JM asked her all those irrelevant intimate question JM is not stupid she wanted the world to see she wasnt innocent in the situation
Gurl bye. She got a $50 UHall charge off him. If you think that's using ... then step ya life up!
@@lecuyerdooley1084 be a better human my comment stands
@@LolaleniceShe was not using him. She didn't ask for anything. This dude was trying way too hard to win her affection. Buying people things rarely ever accomplishes that!
@@lecuyerdooley1084 so what he was trying too hard…does that make it okay to take his money? If he’s creepy do not accept anything from him, report his actions to HR and if needed file a police report.
@@VettGirl66 I'm not saying I agree with her accepting his gifts, but again, he was offering. He kept saying "I got you." He wasn't saying "I'll loan you this or that." He got creepy when she let him know she wasn't interested in a relationship. Then, he started showing up at 7 a.m. and touching her at work.
He got his own self fired! I can’t believe JM blamed the defendant for the plaintiffs behavior.
This!
I was yelling at my computer screen when JM said 'you got him fired' and cheering for the defendant for responding 'he got his own self fired'. JM was wrong to blame her for his behaviour.
ETA: I just got to the end and JM finishes with 'you got him fired'?!?! What is wrong with JM?!? HE GOT HIMSELF FIRED! UGH! JM is so disappointing some times.
No one is all that but God, i don't care how someone looks good or bad, u should not be chasing them, count it as a blessing & more on, she sounds like a user/taker
I agree with the defendant,, I don't like how the judge said "you got him fired". She handled it appropriately from the beginning, his actions got him fired.
How? His job had nothing to do with her. She was clearly taking advantage of a guys money that she didn'teven like
@@TopherGrant how is it her fault?!? He contact her when he was pushing himself on her. She did right, so he cost himself the job.
@@misunderstood136 did I miss a part? What did she have to do with his job? Why did she contact his employer?
@@TopherGrant yeah you missed like the whole thing. They worked at the same place different managers. He kept crossing lines with her and she finally went to HR when he wouldn't leave her alone then he still contacted her after being told not to. Idk how she was using him for his money it was only what 57 bucks or something? The only reason he sued her was because he wanted contact with her. And if you mean the trip, she told him she couldn't go and he booked it anyway. He's a creep and he got him she fired.
@chris T lol no. She told him from thr beginning she wasn't interested in a serious relationship and he kept bugging her. Also if it was JUST about the money then when hr got involved and his manager told him to leave her alone, he could have said she owed him money and then hr and the manager could have told him how to handle that better. Furthermore he told her not to worry about the money until he got mad at her then he wanted it. It was a small amount of money one time. He was a loser that couldn't take no for an answer.
She knew what she was doing. Because she magically needed boundaries after she got his money
She DID get him fired by pretending she was scared of him. You could see that she lied about stuff
She was using this dude and when she got what she wanted she wanted to deaden it. It costs to take money lady.
5:15 Douglas' confused stare face cracked me up. He had no idea what the plaintiff meant by that sentence 😁😁
The plaintiff struggled to explain himself and the judge interrupts a lot. Defendant used him…
How come they never feel uncomfortable when money is being poored on them?
If shes got to borrow money for a trip then she can't afford it. 🤔
He might have stalked her, but she took advantage of him by not repaying the money.
Of course she did. She knew all along that he was smitten over her and took advantage of an opportunity. Theres no doubt about that.
Oh please. She didn't take advantage of him. Men know exactly what they are doing when they give a woman money or help her.
Why are you saying that like one justifies the other... Men are really fucked up, What makes you think it's OK to expect sex/relationship because you're stupid enough to try and buy somebody's love?
Don’t use someone and maybe you won’t be “stalked”! Also she did get him fired by using him. I hate users.
Defendant led this guy on. Took his money, then blocked him. Shameful. She knew what she was doing🤔
He was acting stalkerish.
She really thought she could finesse this man out of his money...damn dummy.
Then she pulls the single mom card. Grow up, raise your kids and stop playing games with men you have no interest in. These women end up on the news and their children are left to be raised by family members. Ridiculous.
Absolutely. It sounds like she was leading him on, but didn’t mind him taking her out. If you are not sexually attracted to a man or interested, you should not go out with him under romantic pretenses period.
That’s y these women be single with kids
Because men that care for them they use them and men that don’t want them those the ones they drool over😤
This woman used this guy. She had him pick up the uhaul so he had to pay for it. She wanted a free trip on top of that. What a nasty woman to use someone like this. Then someone had to help her get into her car, what a drama queen. All he wanted was his money back that she promised to pay and then she gets him fired to cause more drama. What a piece of garbage she is.
The defendant trying to play with the plaintiff for some $$$.
She better learn to not play with crazy 😜 (i.e., the plaintiff).
She is a LIAR!! You used him girl come on now. USER!!
I feel like they both got what they deserve!!! I do feel like he was being stalker tho but something tells me she was also using him and she knows better to not even take money from a co-worker but is not OK for him to cross any boundaries
SHE DIDNT GET HIM FIRED! His behavior got him fired! Don't care if about the other stuff. "Leave me alone means leave me alone" the easiest thing in the world to do is be away from someone. She may owe money but if the other coworkers see the stalking/ touching, He isn't even hiding it. Whether or not she owes her money all that extra other behaviors bs
He was good for her when his wallet was open…!
I would never hookup with a coworker
She used him and I'm sure she didn't tell HR she borrowed money. I know he came off creepy, I think she knew what she was doing.
I feel like he was a creep and trying to buy her attention.
Maybe too needy
I feel like she is a user. Doesn't like the guy but likes his money
And she was down with it until it was time to pay back
She nothing but a user
"You learn to live then you live to learn"
best wishes to the plaintiff next time
defendant was trying to act all innocent and put together but she was clearly trying to use him and it backfired. then when the judge asked if they were dating she basically had to pull her teeth to admit that they went out on a few dates. Don’t use people and maybe you won’t have these problems
Yea he creepy as hell I would’ve called the cops. The fact that he is looking crazy as if he didn’t do a thing is beyond ridiculous
Exactly and I’m sorry I don’t care if I’m broke and my stomach touching my back I woulda never let him personally do anything for me. I can tell he’s an ass.
Wow, another life learned lesson
No fool like an old fool
LOL
He was trying to buy her and it failed. Who goes the extent to continue to bother with someone after being told “leave me alone”. If it continues past that you have stalker tendencies. I’m sorry 🤷🏽♀️
Yes she accepted all the things he was paying for even though she doesn't like him. This happens all day every day. People take advantage of people.
@@TopherGrant Gotta be smarter and not allow that to happen to yourself. If he likes her, why not go direct and just ask her out to eat or something. Not offer up money because anyone would accept. Ijs….
@@valpooh7532 they did go out to eat. He paid. As expected. She had no intention on being with this man. Women decide that very early in a relationship. But telling him that means the free money will stop.
@@TopherGrant I missed the out to eat part. Either way, I’m sure he felt that she wasn’t interested at some point. That’s why he started offering to do other things and she accepted. Majority of women will do that.
@@valpooh7532 anyone would take it, sure. But only women think it's free and don't have to reciprocate. Women know men want sex. Women know men give money and time and attention in hopes of sex. Women accept money and attention and time because that's what fulfills their needs. Mens needs are met by sex. It's not a hard concept. No one is going out on dates for the conversation.
This happened to me..the man showed up at my job after we ended things over such boundary issues!!!!. I never borrowed money from him though. Some guys are just creepy and weird
she played him big ..:-(((
I dont know why I have never taken gifts or money from men that I dont have time to date or have a romantic relationship with. Those men would never know anything about my personal life.
she used him and expected not to pay him back
stop complaining and pay him his money!
you want to spend his money but you don't want anything to do with him.. So His money is good for you but he is not. Then all of a sudden you feel scared but not scared when he was doing favors and giving money
Some women play the system well.
I call them Opportunist
Who can exist and perform activities of daily living with nails that long????
anyone can, it's not hard. it doesn't effect anything u just adjust. hardest thing I've noticed is taking ur card out of atm machine when it has plastic pieces around the card slot 😂😂
I sure can’t 😢
Don’t eat anything she cooks 🤢🤢🤢 long fake nails 💅 are extremely unsanitary 😵💫
Shes a giant scammer! Use men for their money then ghost them
Thank God she made clear dating and relationship not everyone knows the difference
She obviously doesn't get it. Pay him and he will leave her alone.
This male is dangerous.
the defendant needs to stop using this guy, you can tell he was willing to fork over money for your time but she didnt want his time but she wanted his money... we all see she is a gold digger
🇺🇸❤️🙏🏽took his time took his money got him fired and u have kids SMH foul women foul women foul women 🇺🇸❤️🙏🏽
She is just another one of these people who uses at any opportunity. Stock you, he wanted his money!
Lonely, desperate men actually find her attractive!
That man was ridiculous to work with. He acted out in front of everyone and in my opinion was hostile . Im so glad it was resolved.
He got himself fired not her.
She probably already had a man and never had any intentions on being with him.
Ummmmm👀👀 She was using him cause he probably liked her but she don’t like him back🤔
Sir, she’s not that into you🥴
He would have gotten a lot further with her had he been able to control himself.
Nope. She didn't like him. She was just using him for miney
"If you get him fired???" Ummmm...he got HIMSELF fired! He should have left her alone after he was TOLD to leave her alone from HR. Period.
This is how things can turn out when people try to get over on others. People need to be very careful when using others because it's a dangerous game. If they only went on two dates, she shouldn't have felt comfortable enough to have to take from him financially if she truly wasn't interested in him in that way. I've seen things like this end badly. It's a seriously dangerous game. People can become obsessive or revengeful.
I hate that she doesn't let people talk.
This guy needs to be in jail for harassment and have a restraining order put on him this is how women get killed by men who are obsessed with them
If he needs to be in jail for his behavior and actions then she needs to go well before him for not paying him his money back.
@@adrianprince7266 you don't get the point these are classic signs of a obsessive man who doesn't like rejection and if she didn't get away from him something bad would've happened to her
@Deanna, classic signs or not his mistake was giving the money in the first place, all the while knowing he had other intentions. She knew this as well but decided to accept the money anyway. Had he not done that then we aren't here with him in this case today. Of course he got upset when she rebuffed his advances. Classic signs or not, this all could've been handled in the very beginning if he had kept his money to himself. That's not even debatable
@@adrianprince7266 she did have to pay him back. Finish the episode before opening your fool mouth
@@adrianprince7266 agreed! She knew this man liked her so she took advantage of the situation. She decided to set up boundaries after she got his money.
She was just trying to get money from dude.. she played him out and was trying to avoid having to pay him. But he is a fool for losing his job over a chick like that.
She was using this dude and he’s a sucker!
all that for 57 dollars.
Do not date, take favors, or borrow money from someone you’re dating or someone you work with!!!!!!
Not an intelligent criticism but damn! Who wants to wear those disgusting germ traps on her fingers? Yuck!
I'm a single mom tells you a lot about her
And does a man being a single dad tell you a lot about him as well?
@@Childfree334 Yes.
@@Childfree334 base on watching these TV court shows more women say I'm a single mom than men
For some odd reason, I believe him that she twisted the whole case.
Honestly; I have no idea why brothers get involved with this calibre of women.
don't mix business with pleasure.
I think she used him but I also believe he was acting inappropriately and not taking NO for an answer. He could have just sued her in court before it all went this far on his end.
Ladies take note of this guy. He's a creep and he's going to hurt someone
He was a flirt. She lead him on. Both are at fault!
Why is it that most times…. Boundaries only come in when it’s time to repay?
He don't wanna got you! Lmmfao 🤣😭😭
$57 🤣🤣😂😩.
If you can't answer a simple question you're straight up lying. It's that's simple.
I just needed my money ... that's why I took her breakfast at 7am on a Saturday !!! LOL!! GOLD !!
She a liar
The judge kept saying that the defendant got the plaintiff fired, NO-he did that on his own