Thank you for sharing. My stillbirth has made me rekindle my faith in God. My baby is in heaven born at 21 weeks. Born 25 Jan 2020. So little and such a fighter. The priest that I asked to bless him said “he knows you are a good mother and is waiting in heaven for you”.
I know this video is late..but I want to just reach thru the screen and hug both of you. I bawled when Steve started crying. I've had 3 miscarriages. I have a 2 year old princess who is my life. I never take that for granted. The world needs more grandparents like you two. To advocate and to be a voice.
Steve and Shauna, My heart goes out to you both for the loss of Garrett. My son and daughter-in-law gave still-birth to their son, Caleb Calvin 7 years ago (also in the Denver area - Littleton). Virtually all of your comments and emotions struck home so much. Especially, the comment about grieving for both the loss of your grandson and hurting down to your very core for your children, knowing there is nothing you can do for them other than be there. There's nothing in the world, I don't believe, that hurts so much. Anyway, thank you also for doing something positive from your tragedy. Our kids also created something positive, "The Beautiful Scar Project". I won't go into what all it entails because you can go to the website as see but I'm so proud of them for doing something positive. Anyway, thank you for all you're doing and I pray God will continue to bless you and grant you His peace.
Huh? “Their mindset is very accurate.”?! Is that y u watch these types of vids/stories? To police & analyze the accuracy of ppl grievings “mindsets”? Are you the “control”, or…the “standard”? Ooooh! Have u got a vid, too? I wanna learn to spot the fakes, too! But I need a baseline.
This comment is so very late but I must post. My heart breaks for these grandparents and their daughter, son in law and family. I know in the UK some hospitals are able to have a separate section away from labour and delivery with cold cuddle cots for this situation. They have those cots in America too but I hope they can have separate areas some day in all hospitals. I could hear the blood curdling screams and crying of parents going through this when my baby was in the NICU for observation and I felt helpless and cried for them. I can’t imagine. These people and their foundation are doing amazing work for the education of infant loss, stillbirth. Hate to say it but even Drs, nurses, need to be educated. This is so raw, honest and informative. I love them.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandson to SIDS. You are right unless you have been through this loss you can’t understand. There isn’t a day goes by I don’t think of him. Hugs to all.
My sweet daughter & her husband had a late miscarriage at 18 weeks due to incompetent cervix. I was there at birth, a perfect little boy was born alive & was baptized. He lived only about 5 minutes. My daughter is still in shock, years later. I held my tiny little grandson in my hands, the hardest thing I have ever been through.
This video was really helpful to me.The experience of this couple is so parallel to my own that is really eerie. My son and daughter-in-law were pregnant with our first grandson, Myles. My daughter-in-law is also a healthcare professional who was careful and protective of this baby during the covid pandemic. They had a problem free pregnancy and we were all so very excited about the arrival of this baby. At 38 weeks, 5 days, on July 22, 2020, our daughter-in -law became concerned when she didn't feel him move. She called her doctor who told her to count movements and that there should be 10 movements per hour. She told us that after 30 minutes without a single movement, she knew that there something really bad wrong. She and my son went to the hospital where they did three ultrasounds with two different doctors. My son had called and told me to pray as they were driving to the hospital. I have never prayed so hard in my life but about two hours later, my son called sobbing and telling me, "Mom, he's gone." I really don't remember clearly but I think I screamed "No, God, no." and for a few seconds continued like that until I caught myself. Immediately stopped and asked my son, "What can I do?' He replied ,"There's nothing, Mom. There's nothing anyone can do." Because of covid, we were not allowed in the hospital so we never got to see or hold Myles. All we have are the pictures taken by a professional photographer from Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep and I will cherish them forever. We are all shattered. They have not found any reason why Myles died. As this couple says, you are devastated by the loss of the baby but worse is watching your child living through the worse time of their lives and not being able to do anything or say anything to help them. I also wonder how on earth we have the medical ability to transplant hearts, kidneys, etc. We have defeated so many diseases. So how can we not have figured out why so many thousands of babies are stillborn each year?
I can't imagine the pain I would feel if my adult children had to go through this kind of loss. Not only have they lost a grand child but they are helpless to take their child's heartache away.
Steve and Shauna, you are the parents and Grandparents that EVERY child and grandchild should have. You must make your daughter, son-in-law, Garrett and family so incredibly proud of you. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story, our daughter had a miscarriage like 15yrs ago, I remember the hurt ,we had tears of missing that baby, even all these yrs later we still remember it....Grandparents do feel the weight of loss also...God did bless us with a rainbow baby Girl ayr. Later, but we still remember our lost grand baby also... Thank you.
My son and daughter-in-law lost their first child to a stillbirth 15 weeks ago, she was 38 weeks pregnant! Sydney Riley was my first grandchild also and my sweet granddaughter ! Sadly, my late husband passed away December 31, 2014, so I have to carry this myself! My heart is broken and in pain unimaginable unbearable pain! For two weeks after I drove 35 minutes every day to my sons and daughter in law’s house to be with them and support them anyway I could, all the while dealing with my own grief! I was going to be Sydney’s Yaya, and watch her while my son and daughter-in-law worked! I had her bedroom set up at my house and I had so many adventures planned for her and I.. I did get to see her and say goodbye, she was perfect and beautiful! 💔😢😭 My beautiful 👼 granddaughter !!
🥺 Oh, sweet Pop-Pop, that was so unexpected. I ❤️ this, we don’t often hear from the grandparents POV. This is important. For everyone. I agree w/ y’all voicing your thoughts on the “lullaby”, or lack there of. When did this take place? I’ve never heard of nor witnessed anything remotely close to your story. Not allowing the parents to spend as much time as absolutely possible (or as time would allow) seems so cruel. ❤️
I think the focus of these grandparents...to use the technology available...to save more babies is amazing!! I had a premature first child (thankfully, after a few weeks in the NICU, he was fine and is now 17 yrs old) so I had high risk care with both my subsequent girls. There were issues with both of those pregnancies as well (I had early dilation and long bedrest) - the extra care was instrumental in keeping them safe! I also rented a home doppler with my youngest when those became available online to rent. I was able to check her heartbeat several times a day - anytime I wasn't feeling a lot of movement or just wanted to hear it!! It was very cheap to rent...why not send one home with EVERY pregnant woman?? Have insurance cover it or have the OB wrap it into the cost of the entire pregnancy care? Hearing these two speak so passionately about using all the technology out there makes so much sense...it's so sad that it now takes a tragedy or near tragedy for a pregnant mother to be entitled to that care.
Im so sorry that you went through that. My first, currently only grandchild is in heaven and I know how awful it is to be sitting in the same waiting room as families who are not saying goodbye. That sucked. It was awful. I'm scared for her future and the pain is awful.
I’m a grand parent n agree it’s true when something like this happens, grandparents suffer for their child and their child’s child..... their grand child. 😔I know when my grand daughter is in pain or hurt or sad we suffer for her and for our son too. This isn’t easy on anyone !!! I feel for the parents and grand parents equally it’s all so sad. My heart is with all ❤️
Am sorry for loss of You and Your daughter's family- what You have experienced was not only devastating, but as well seems wrong.When lost my angel princess in 23 weeks, it happened three months ago - she was put in a little, neat basket, dressed with a hat and little socks, wrapped in a cover. Yes, they also kept her somewhere next to me, possibly a storage, not even sure, where, but when I asked, insisted some, they brought her to me and am grateful for that immensily. Could hold her in my room, apart from everyone at the farest corner there was, apart from other parents welcoming their children born alive. Could be with her as long as I could, and even bringing her back, nurse asked, if I am sure I do not wish more time and am ready to said my goodbyes. My best wishes and thoughts to Your family, may Good heal Your hearts! ❤❤❤
i was thinking the same thing! I can't imagine finding my grandson stuffed in a closet and then to have the nurses to waste precious time with this little boy, dickering over how the baby was held. I really wanted to just scoop this couple right up
Thank you for sharing. My stillbirth has made me rekindle my faith in God. My baby is in heaven born at 21 weeks. Born 25 Jan 2020. So little and such a fighter. The priest that I asked to bless him said “he knows you are a good mother and is waiting in heaven for you”.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine. I'll keep you in my prayers. I hope you find true peace.
Oh these grandparents. You can tell how much they love their kids and their grandkids. Thank you for sharing your story. To Garrett 🎈
I know this video is late..but I want to just reach thru the screen and hug both of you. I bawled when Steve started crying. I've had 3 miscarriages. I have a 2 year old princess who is my life. I never take that for granted. The world needs more grandparents like you two. To advocate and to be a voice.
Steve and Shauna, My heart goes out to you both for the loss of Garrett. My son and daughter-in-law gave still-birth to their son, Caleb Calvin 7 years ago (also in the Denver area - Littleton). Virtually all of your comments and emotions struck home so much. Especially, the comment about grieving for both the loss of your grandson and hurting down to your very core for your children, knowing there is nothing you can do for them other than be there. There's nothing in the world, I don't believe, that hurts so much. Anyway, thank you also for doing something positive from your tragedy. Our kids also created something positive, "The Beautiful Scar Project". I won't go into what all it entails because you can go to the website as see but I'm so proud of them for doing something positive. Anyway, thank you for all you're doing and I pray God will continue to bless you and grant you His peace.
These grandparents are gold. Their mindset is very accurate. And as a mom of a stillborn boy I completely agree.
Huh? “Their mindset is very accurate.”?! Is that y u watch these types of vids/stories? To police & analyze the accuracy of ppl grievings “mindsets”? Are you the “control”, or…the “standard”? Ooooh! Have u got a vid, too? I wanna learn to spot the fakes, too! But I need a baseline.
This comment is so very late but I must post. My heart breaks for these grandparents and their daughter, son in law and family. I know in the UK some hospitals are able to have a separate section away from labour and delivery with cold cuddle cots for this situation. They have those cots in America too but I hope they can have separate areas some day in all hospitals. I could hear the blood curdling screams and crying of parents going through this when my baby was in the NICU for observation and I felt helpless and cried for them. I can’t imagine. These people and their foundation are doing amazing work for the education of infant loss, stillbirth. Hate to say it but even Drs, nurses, need to be educated. This is so raw, honest and informative. I love them.
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandson to SIDS. You are right unless you have been through this loss you can’t understand. There isn’t a day goes by I don’t think of him. Hugs to all.
My sweet daughter & her husband had a late miscarriage at 18 weeks due to incompetent cervix. I was there at birth, a perfect little boy was born alive & was baptized. He lived only about 5 minutes. My daughter is still in shock, years later. I held my tiny little grandson in my hands, the hardest thing I have ever been through.
This video was really helpful to me.The experience of this couple is so parallel to my own that is really eerie. My son and daughter-in-law were pregnant with our first grandson, Myles. My daughter-in-law is also a healthcare professional who was careful and protective of this baby during the covid pandemic. They had a problem free pregnancy and we were all so very excited about the arrival of this baby. At 38 weeks, 5 days, on July 22, 2020, our daughter-in -law became concerned when she didn't feel him move. She called her doctor who told her to count movements and that there should be 10 movements per hour. She told us that after 30 minutes without a single movement, she knew that there something really bad wrong. She and my son went to the hospital where they did three ultrasounds with two different doctors. My son had called and told me to pray as they were driving to the hospital. I have never prayed so hard in my life but about two hours later, my son called sobbing and telling me, "Mom, he's gone." I really don't remember clearly but I think I screamed "No, God, no." and for a few seconds continued like that until I caught myself. Immediately stopped and asked my son, "What can I do?'
He replied ,"There's nothing, Mom. There's nothing anyone can do." Because of covid, we were not allowed in the hospital so we never got to see or hold Myles. All we have are the pictures taken by a professional photographer from Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep and I will cherish them forever.
We are all shattered. They have not found any reason why Myles died. As this couple says, you are devastated by the loss of the baby but worse is watching your child living through the worse time of their lives and not being able to do anything or say anything to help them.
I also wonder how on earth we have the medical ability to transplant hearts, kidneys, etc. We have defeated so many diseases. So how can we not have figured out why so many thousands of babies are stillborn each year?
I can't imagine the pain I would feel if my adult children had to go through this kind of loss. Not only have they lost a grand child but they are helpless to take their child's heartache away.
Steve and Shauna, you are the parents and Grandparents that EVERY child and grandchild should have. You must make your daughter, son-in-law, Garrett and family so incredibly proud of you. ❤️
Thank you for sharing your story, our daughter had a miscarriage like 15yrs ago, I remember the hurt ,we had tears of missing that baby, even all these yrs later we still remember it....Grandparents do feel the weight of loss also...God did bless us with a rainbow baby Girl ayr. Later, but we still remember our lost grand baby also... Thank you.
My son and daughter-in-law lost their first child to a stillbirth 15 weeks ago, she was 38 weeks pregnant!
Sydney Riley was my first grandchild also and my sweet granddaughter ! Sadly, my late husband passed away December 31, 2014, so I have to carry this myself! My heart is broken and in pain unimaginable unbearable pain!
For two weeks after I drove 35 minutes every day to my sons and daughter in law’s house to be with them and support them anyway I could, all the while dealing with my own grief!
I was going to be Sydney’s Yaya, and watch her while my son and daughter-in-law worked! I had her bedroom set up at my house and I had so many adventures planned for her and I..
I did get to see her and say goodbye, she was perfect and beautiful! 💔😢😭
My beautiful 👼 granddaughter !!
Kind, strong grandparents.
🥺 Oh, sweet Pop-Pop, that was so unexpected. I ❤️ this, we don’t often hear from the grandparents POV. This is important. For everyone. I agree w/ y’all voicing your thoughts on the “lullaby”, or lack there of. When did this take place? I’ve never heard of nor witnessed anything remotely close to your story. Not allowing the parents to spend as much time as absolutely possible (or as time would allow) seems so cruel. ❤️
I wanna reach thru the screen and hug you both I’m so sorry for your loss
this is so great...not the story of course, but to have this perspective is truly due opening.
I can't even begin to comprehend the pain.
Prayers 🙏🏽
I think the focus of these grandparents...to use the technology available...to save more babies is amazing!! I had a premature first child (thankfully, after a few weeks in the NICU, he was fine and is now 17 yrs old) so I had high risk care with both my subsequent girls. There were issues with both of those pregnancies as well (I had early dilation and long bedrest) - the extra care was instrumental in keeping them safe! I also rented a home doppler with my youngest when those became available online to rent. I was able to check her heartbeat several times a day - anytime I wasn't feeling a lot of movement or just wanted to hear it!! It was very cheap to rent...why not send one home with EVERY pregnant woman?? Have insurance cover it or have the OB wrap it into the cost of the entire pregnancy care? Hearing these two speak so passionately about using all the technology out there makes so much sense...it's so sad that it now takes a tragedy or near tragedy for a pregnant mother to be entitled to that care.
Im so sorry that you went through that. My first, currently only grandchild is in heaven and I know how awful it is to be sitting in the same waiting room as families who are not saying goodbye. That sucked. It was awful. I'm scared for her future and the pain is awful.
I’m a grand parent n agree it’s true when something like this happens, grandparents suffer for their child and their child’s child..... their grand child. 😔I know when my grand daughter is in pain or hurt or sad we suffer for her and for our son too. This isn’t easy on anyone !!! I feel for the parents and grand parents equally it’s all so sad. My heart is with all ❤️
God Bless your family
Wow! Thank you for sharing!
This hospital sounds horrible... so clueless. In the storage room?
Am sorry for loss of You and Your daughter's family- what You have experienced was not only devastating, but as well seems wrong.When lost my angel princess in 23 weeks, it happened three months ago - she was put in a little, neat basket, dressed with a hat and little socks, wrapped in a cover. Yes, they also kept her somewhere next to me, possibly a storage, not even sure, where, but when I asked, insisted some, they brought her to me and am grateful for that immensily. Could hold her in my room, apart from everyone at the farest corner there was, apart from other parents welcoming their children born alive. Could be with her as long as I could, and even bringing her back, nurse asked, if I am sure I do not wish more time and am ready to said my goodbyes. My best wishes and thoughts to Your family, may Good heal Your hearts! ❤❤❤
That hospital sounds like it needs to be closed.
I am so, so sorry. I am heartbroken for your family. Only God knows the reason. God Bless You for your love of your family.
Grampa is a great father and stand up man i can just feel it love you both god bless you
I can't imagine 😢
I am incredibly thankful our experience was not at all like....the hospital we were at was so much more sensitive and caring and loving-
Some nurses and Dr can be very cold
Wow, what century was this or country? I'm sorry 😞
I wish I could send all of yall a card for the loss of your baby and to lit yall no iam so very sorry.
dear god, how heartless.
i was thinking the same thing! I can't imagine finding my grandson stuffed in a closet and then to have the nurses to waste precious time with this little boy, dickering over how the baby was held. I really wanted to just scoop this couple right up
god, dis lady is a difficult person.
The grandmother???
😳???
Why????
She don't take no BS....is all🤷🏽♀️