Learning Together: Patient Stories - Stillborn, Still Loved Honouring Kate

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  • @patriciavoncannon1426
    @patriciavoncannon1426 3 роки тому +20

    We are told not to cry with our patients who have lost their babies. I quit that job and went to help moms like these. Thank you for letting us help you.

  • @laurajohnson3656
    @laurajohnson3656 3 роки тому +10

    My son was stillborn in 2003. It is so true what this mother said about the smallest gestures meaning so much. Most people are uncomfortable and don't know what to say to grieving parents, so they don't say anything at all. Please don't say something hurtful like, "It was for the best", or, "you can have other children"...these are very ignorant and damaging things to say. If you just let them know how sorry you are about the death it makes a big difference, and so does acknowledging the fact that the child existed, they had a name, and that they were loved. My heart goes out to those who have lost a child, no matter how old. It's a hell that I wouldn't wish on anyone, but it is possible to live a joyful life after this kind of tragedy; I am living proof ❣❣ *In loving memory of Quade Little, born still

  • @imhonest4352
    @imhonest4352 3 роки тому +23

    My wife and I just experienced this last month and it's a feeling I never wish on my worst enemy. 😔🙏🏾

    • @imhonest4352
      @imhonest4352 2 роки тому +2

      @MC omg thank you so much and same to you and your family. I'm truly sorry for your loss. Its soo devastating and we're trying to pull together still. Our daughter was stillborn 2 weeks before her due date and she was healthy all the way up until her due date. Sending prayers to you!!

    • @O.Sea.D
      @O.Sea.D 2 роки тому +1

      💔💔💔💔💔

    • @leleharrington-perkins7276
      @leleharrington-perkins7276 2 роки тому +1

      So sorry for your loss

    • @imhonest4352
      @imhonest4352 2 роки тому +1

      @@leleharrington-perkins7276 thank you soo much! It's still painful at times because every show or commercial reminds us daily.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому +1

      I am so very sorry for your loss.

  • @nattyophelia7879
    @nattyophelia7879 4 роки тому +9

    I cried with you, for Kate. What a beautiful baby.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому +2

      Oh my gosh, thank you for saying that ❤ I am just seeing all these comments now! Proud mom of Kate.

  • @mariasophia24
    @mariasophia24 4 роки тому +23

    my god, same happened to me... unbelievable
    it was a matter of timing, birth was too late
    pain will never go away, you just learn to live with it...

  • @mariasophia24
    @mariasophia24 4 роки тому +15

    feeling truly speechless, I didn’t get to see him, afterwards hardly survived maternal sepsis
    I feel the same as you do... wish you all the best

    • @mommyshark1124
      @mommyshark1124 4 роки тому +3

      I'm sorry for your loss ma'am. May you find a measure of peace. May God bless you & your family🙏

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому +2

      I am so sorry you didn't get to see your son. My heart breaks for you.

    • @mmc5916
      @mmc5916 2 роки тому +2

      I am sorry. Sepsis nearly killed me too.

  • @loridoolaghty3453
    @loridoolaghty3453 4 роки тому +4

    I'm so sorry for your loss. She is a beautiful baby girl. Rest in heaven baby.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому

      Thank you, Lori. For some reason I am just seeing these comments now. Thank you for your kind words ❤❤

  • @gillianmaxted1856
    @gillianmaxted1856 4 роки тому +9

    My son was still born on 1 Sept 1987 and he was taken away and I never saw him or held him, but listening to people talking today I feel as though I am back in 1987

    • @laurajohnson3656
      @laurajohnson3656 3 роки тому +1

      Praying for peace for you; I am tearing up and it's been 18 years since I lost my son...he would've graduated in 2021 and it was hard to see all the festivities going on that my son should have been a part of

  • @genellic342
    @genellic342 3 роки тому +6

    Tomorrow I will be delivering my baby girl at only 18 weeks, she has a genetic condition and is just not viable for life. I have no Idea how I will make it through tomorrow, but somehow this video gave me a sense of comfort. So Thank you, thank you for sharing your story

    • @inaayah2378
      @inaayah2378 2 роки тому

      It’s one of the most painful things I have ever experienced, so heartbreaking but you know what, trust in God’s plan and believe people when they say time is a great healer

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому

      Thank you for commenting. I am just seeing these comments now. My sincere condolences to you on the loss of your baby girl. My heart goes out to you.

  • @jessicapepin9911
    @jessicapepin9911 3 роки тому +5

    My husband and I lost our Arabella 4/5/2021, I was 39 weeks 6 days. It is the most painful thing anyone can go through. Besides missing her every day, it's surprising how little help and community for bereaved parents and their siblings. I hope we can find away to keep her memory alive.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому +1

      I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet Arabella. Thinking of you.

  • @mommyshark1124
    @mommyshark1124 4 роки тому +4

    To all who suffer such a loss, I'm so sorry. May you all find a measure of peace & comfort🙏🙏💔💔

  • @virginiadavies6280
    @virginiadavies6280 4 роки тому +7

    I am so sorry for your lost baby girl it's so Heartbreaking 💔.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому

      Thank you, Virginia ❤For some reason I am just seeing these comments now. Thank you for taking the time to write ❤

  • @JOXGIRL1
    @JOXGIRL1 3 роки тому +5

    Thank you for sharing your experience. And a Woman’s Health and Neonatal nurse, I will remember to include the family in caring for their stillborn, or baby that passes shortly after birth. I can see how important that is.

  • @aditi1729
    @aditi1729 3 роки тому +2

    I can’t even imagine the pain you’ve had to endure. Rest in peace, little Kate❤️

  • @amyneff7866
    @amyneff7866 4 роки тому +5

    We share such a similar story. 11 years ago and the pain is unending. 💔

  • @mmc5916
    @mmc5916 2 роки тому

    I lost my baby on this day in 1985. I know some dont understand how much this hurts. But i had to be induced. When i was finally dilated they took me to surgery. I never got to hold my sweet baby. It is so important that you have pictures of Kate. I am so sorry for anyone reading this who has lost their baby.

  • @janmac218
    @janmac218 2 роки тому

    Just watched. Such a lovely Mother. Sad.

  • @nonhlahlamatamela4239
    @nonhlahlamatamela4239 4 роки тому +3

    Your story hurts😭😭😭please be strong...God heals
    Time will assist

  • @bessierife1699
    @bessierife1699 Рік тому +1

    I'm truly sorry for the loss of so many babies. I just watched a video that was called "Our Angels Story "the woman was going to have a home birth

  • @ann-mariewilliams1712
    @ann-mariewilliams1712 3 роки тому +1

    My worst nightmare. I just cannot imagine going through this. 💔

  • @lizzmorales7550
    @lizzmorales7550 2 роки тому +2

    I lost my baby boy last month at 17 weeks pregnant, Rest In Peace baby Samuel mommy loves you 😢🌹👼💔🕊

    • @standup2982
      @standup2982 10 місяців тому

      I'm so very sorry for your loss 💔

    • @coranford7463
      @coranford7463 5 місяців тому

      So very sorry for your loss, my sons name is also Samuel x

  • @Spartacus_Snakeplissken1
    @Spartacus_Snakeplissken1 Рік тому

    I lost my guardian angel, Spartacus Static Hill Guglielmo aka my Sparty last year October, 26,2022. He was 36 weeks and 3 days when I gave birth. I'm currently pregnant with his brother, SnakePlissken and he's due around the same time Sparty came. I'm scared but stay hopeful. I miss my Sparty so much and so far my little, Pliskeey is holding on.

  • @nayera.s
    @nayera.s 3 роки тому +30

    In my religion we believe that babies that have passed away either through miscarriage or stillbirth will be waiting at heaven's gate for their parents and will plead to God that they won't go in until the parents come with him or her 🥺💔

    • @tuesdaypatience
      @tuesdaypatience 3 роки тому +3

      I believe that with all my heart, as well 👩🏻‍🍼.

    • @theresaakins2317
      @theresaakins2317 2 роки тому +2

      What religion believ3s this? It's cool.

    • @K_Saqib
      @K_Saqib 2 роки тому +3

      @@theresaakins2317 not sure what religion the op is but in my Islam its same belief

    • @taqweemdien4098
      @taqweemdien4098 5 місяців тому +1

      Islam ❤

  • @almasolorio79
    @almasolorio79 2 роки тому +1

    I am so sorry. I just lost my baby last week. It is so painful 😣

  • @Sarahdrybones
    @Sarahdrybones 3 роки тому +3

    I've had 2 still births one was a twin to my daughter. The first child I carried and had a full 25 hour labor but I lost him. Devastating

  • @patriciavoncannon1426
    @patriciavoncannon1426 3 роки тому +2

    WHY WERE YOU NOT ALLOWED TO SPEND THAT TIME WITH HER?? OMG! NY HEART CRIES FOR YOU....

  • @reneemansini7687
    @reneemansini7687 3 роки тому +2

    She is beautiful mama!

  • @kieletavankpana9210
    @kieletavankpana9210 3 роки тому +4

    Worst pain ever!! I lost my baby boy at 38 weeks 4 days on 10/28/2020. Everything was perfect until that very moment. I still cry everyday, have my sympathy hugs.

  • @zikkimuziki
    @zikkimuziki Рік тому

    I just lost my 38 week old baby. He died three days before and I didn't feel it or didn't accept it. I haven't figured it out yet. I'm shattered.

    • @annaamileav626
      @annaamileav626 Рік тому

      Me and my husband lost our baby boy at 33 weeks 3 weeks ago the pain is so painful but I promise God is a healer seek him praying for you

    • @everlynakinyi8715
      @everlynakinyi8715 Рік тому

      I lost my son on 1of August 2023 l never knew until aweek

    • @standup2982
      @standup2982 10 місяців тому

      I'm so incredibly sorry for all of yours losses 💔

  • @RonS123-l5k
    @RonS123-l5k 2 роки тому +1

    I can remember having a miscarriage and the Dr. not being able to hear the heart beat on the Doppler then a follow up ultrasound then being placed in the Dr.s office and hearing the horrific news. You've miscarried and the time just stops. If it wasn't for the Dr. I probably would've lost it. So I understand loss, so I extend peace and blessings to you.

    • @venesazunti439
      @venesazunti439 2 роки тому

      Thank you. I am so very sorry for your loss. I extend the same peace and blessings to you ❤

  • @JacquelineGriggs-wv3oj
    @JacquelineGriggs-wv3oj 2 місяці тому

    I am blocked from commenting on any Mayo Clinic video interesting
    My daughter Nicole Caroline was stillborn on the 26th of September 2000 Born at King Edward Memorial Hospital in Western Australia 🇦🇺. This Month on the 26th of September Nicole would be celebrating her 24th birthday she would have 2 sisters 3 brothers and a mother and father who love her very much.
    Sadly 😥 Nicole celebrates in heaven with the Angels and those I've loved and lost I pray 🙏 We her family we will remember her I will never forget the pain of her loss I will never forget begging my doctor at the Ante natal appointments to refer me on to a hospital with a stronger Ultra sound I will never forget telling him so many times something is wrong I will never forget his refusal you choose this hospital this is where you stay. I remember being forced to go around him having to beg a GP at a random medical centre to refer me to another hospital I remember the 6 weeks I had to wait to get that appointment Thank God for that Random GP ❤. Nicole passed away Sadly I was too late the placenta failed . I felt I watched my world fall apart the day my sweet girl died weighing just a tiny 490 grams starved by a failing placenta the Ultra sound couldn't pick up Starved by a heartless Doctor standing Ante natal clinic who said you chose this hospital this is where you stay . Nicole they say was legally not a life her in Australia she didn't take a single breath of air. I held her tiny body in wept as iq counted her perfectly tiny fingers and toes I kissed her perfectly formed head. 9 months into the pregnancy Nicole was most definitely a life ❤

  • @vsibirsky
    @vsibirsky 3 роки тому +1

    I should not have watched this. The most moving video I have ever watched about this experience and the most triggering.

  • @bessierife1699
    @bessierife1699 Рік тому

    And after so many hours of contractions and oxygen they admitted her to the hospital and after more hours and oxygen she gave birth and the baby was still born

  • @JenniferDrake-pn7ns
    @JenniferDrake-pn7ns 3 роки тому

    💖💖💖

  • @CatsRule
    @CatsRule 3 роки тому +1

    she was lucky to hold her dressed in pink ... my baby girl had tubes up her nose and throat dressed in a green surgical cloth laying on a stretcher ...

  • @lynnfeller7565
    @lynnfeller7565 4 роки тому +1

    Very sorry

  • @juliebowers550
    @juliebowers550 5 років тому +1

    You surely could of helped with bathing and dressing I volenteered with those type and there r many things can do .they gave a memory box with all types of items.

  • @Blake1720
    @Blake1720 4 роки тому

    I don’t understand. Why didn’t she go to the hospital as soon as she felt the contractions and believed the baby was coming? Also what does she mean by she grabbed her arm or her leg while she was still pregnant?

    • @taytubeofficial
      @taytubeofficial 3 роки тому +3

      Braxton Hicks contractions aren’t labor contractions, many women have them later on in the pregnancy. They aren’t timed the same length apart the way contractions would be and are more or less “random” but they aren’t indicative that you are going into labor at that time.
      When the baby is bigger you can start to identify parts of their body. You can even sometimes see a foot pressing into your stomach. I’m sure she probably was just guessing that what she pushed on was an arm or a leg, (the word “grabbed” was kind of a strange choice, but maybe she meant something closer to “squeeze” or “press”, or maybe she did just grab at her stomach) But most likely she could tell the part she was feeling wasn’t something hard and big (like a head or butt) So that doesn’t leave that many parts besides limbs. Usually if you push on a baby they will react and move. (I had an extremely high risk pregnancy myself, and did this a lot out of anxiety, if I didn’t feel movement for a while)

    • @Blake1720
      @Blake1720 3 роки тому

      @@taytubeofficial thanks for the info! 😊

    • @vic7917
      @vic7917 3 роки тому

      A lot of people are first time. We don’t know everything.