This is so true. I always had a "type" who was basically a perfect man. It was so unrealistic. I chased a type and got dogged out so many times because I was chasing an image. I let that go and met the love of my life. Our connection is amazing:) He isn't tall and isn't rich, but he has everything else I want. And he's real! Not a fantasy! I feel so lucky to be with him💖 Note: I did not pick him out of my friendzone. I have one male friend who I have never been attracted to and couldn't ever force myself to be attracted to. I met my soulmate by chance. I wasn't expecting it at all. We met through a random introduction through a coworker of mine. I was living my life and it came to me when it was meant to:)
Ok 👍🏼 congrats‼️ I don't need rich but financially responsible and literate is a must! I don't date irresponsible grown boys. I am happy 😊 for u.. Cheers 🍻 to many more years 👏🏽
I have requirements that a man has to have to get my attention FIRST!!!!!!!!!! 1. A skill/profession 2. He's financially stable 3. HAS A SECURE JOB 4. CAN HOLD A DECENT CONVERSATION 5. Has his own place 6. Has his own transportation 7. CAN AFFORD A RELATIONSHIP 8. I'm attracted to. NOW here's my reasoning for these requirements; IF HE has these things THEN, he is a quality man bcz these things he should have foe himself!!!! IF HE DOESN'T than how can he do them for me!!!!!!!! I've had enough DUDS, I only go for quality. Oh yeah and while I'm learning him NO SEX!!! It clouds the mind!!!!! He's got to be WORTH MY TIME BECAUSE I'M SPECIAL!!!!!!!!!!!
Settling is the fastest way to divorce. You need attraction and connection. I lot of people are in bad relationships because they normalize toxic behaviors.
This holds a lot of truth. I now have several men in my friend zone & one in particular has come to me recently wanting more. I've always liked him & he is a good man. We've been friends for 25+ years.
I clicked on to hear your response on the best place to find that one guy and you're spot on. Two incidents happened and I needed help My neighbor across from me would not help anyone even if he saw your organs hanging out. So my neighbor of 7yrs to the left of me came to the rescue quickly everytime.We speak to one another on a daily basis as good neighbors do. I had a light bulb moment and began to look at him as more than a neighbor and come to find out so did he. We are having the best daily conversations and laughter ever now that we're official. ❤
Please give us an update 2 years later and don't hold back keep it real honest. Males 99% of the time start off great until his mask comes off and the real character is on full display #TheFamousLoveBombing stage....
From another woman ladies...don't give a guy a chance that you've put in the friend zone for years. Just don't. Leave him there. He's bound to punish you for making him wait. That being said...I hear part of the message and can agree, but no. Don't settle. If they aren't your cup of tea, don't make them just because you're afraid to be alone or because you feel defeated. You will end up resenting them once you realize you still aren't into them. Live who you want to love and if there is a lesson in that choice, learn it and move on. Don't be listening to these people telling you to settle. Be open, keep your eyes open and yes, consider options, but don't force a situation that isn't made to be. Just because you are good friends doesn't mean you will be good romantic partners.
I agree 💯 if you've been on a friends zone with a man for years just keep it there. You'll regret it if you start dating him because he'll make you regret it. Better to stay single and celibate and at peace until the right man comes along. Don't settle out of loneliness please ?!!
Learn this the hard way! Childhood friends , he got married early in life , he always chased after me , but I friend zoned him.... he got divorced ...I got married , now I'm getting divorced and we tried it out and he cheated on me n punished me 😂😂😂 don't do it ladies
I think because a lot of attractive guys know that many women have lost their worth and are gonna chase them anyway. They feel that they don’t have to pursue.
@@gottahavefaith2526 I think you are right! If a man does not approach, I keep walking as well. I'm done with the staring contests 😂 He must didn't want to meet me bad enough and I can accept that better than the eager ones wasting my time.
Just found your videos and I like them. Please don't turn into a K.Samuels 😢 We don't need people tearing us down/apart ... not talking about women... talking about US black folk!!
@ariest5636 💯😂 OKAY!!!! He talks like women are the only human species that age; they age too🥴 Hell we don’t want no old scribble up man; because we know his a- don’t have nothing going on…lol
There are a lot of men that want beautiful women that take care of their health and are beautiful but they don't take care of themselves mentally and physically. Woman like physical appearance as well. It's not our primary driver in attraction but it's important.
I spent my life on men who weren't my type. But who were more marriage material. Never worked. However I came to realize that some women who have survived certain situations are much better on their own.
@@prettyloubey8411 there are some nuances to this situation that he’s not addressing. If you are with a man that is not your type physically that can be problematic. Only YOU are the one who’ll have to sleep with him. Also, there is nothing worse than being got by the ugly guy and he dogs you out. ESPECIALLY if he is envious of your beauty OR he has a low self esteem and hates you for lowering yourself to allow him in cuz he HATES himself and then doesn’t respect you cuz you BOTH know what’s subconsciously up. THAT’S a disaster. Sometimes the standards are too low and sometimes the standards are too high. It depends on the person and where they are at. A lot of women settle because they never had someone (THEIR PARENTS) teach them CAREFULLY what to look for in a mate. They never even saw the examples of what is a good relationship and how to BE in a healthy one. They don’t even know how to attach themselves with the right people in general OR AT ALL. These things must be carefully taught. This all has to be looked at by the individual and they need the right kind of person to help them that KNOWS how to read the situation they are in correctly. Also, any women being friends with a guy does NOT understand men. I know that sounds crazy but it’s a bad idea if you’re looking for a husband. Men take up space in many ways …
I agree that being older and alone sick for a long time has a downside. I had no one to help me except spiritual people who worked on me day and night to support my life. I had awakenings and Learned from their unconditional love and Divine love. I never felt alone. True love is spiritual. Finding true love can be an issue in the world because we are not taught how to attract it. Fake love or emotional love doesn’t always last. The love we really seek is inside ourselves and, when we find it, it materialises in the world for us….❤️
I laughed when you said your beauty goes down after your thirties. Im so happy my family has good genes. My cousins and parents never look our age, and most of us are 40's and above and look fab u lous!
Friends have to be careful not to cross that line. My homeboy n I tried, it did not work out. After some years, we recovered, thank God. So I'm not saying its not possible but friends just have to be careful.
This….. I asked god to remove everyone from my life that wasn’t for me and he removed my ex… but my guy friend is still around. And just today he asked me something and I told him them exact same words “that I didn’t want to cross that line and mess the friendship up”. It’s just crazy cause the lil things he does just always somehow be right on time…
They are somewhere not being lovers of this world. Having good hygiene.Eating clean And keeping the Sabbath holy. Where i live i keep my head and eyes down. No good over here😂
People think I've been picky and nooo I havent been at all! I have proof Lol The problem is I haven't been selective enough. I don't want a super fine man. You're right competition is real. And, I do like quiet calm guys but Ive noticed there is hidden unhealthy mystery there sometimes or an agenda. I no longer have lots of man friends. And I found they all had an attraction to me, but they had women already. I let that go. I do have love for my best friend I've known since I was 15. But at NO point has he ever said he cares for a relationship. We were teenage sweethearts. I think he sees something in me as wife material but some things like him not wanting commitment due to the work it takes, doesnt want children, and consider him a moreso private person not easily sharing or showing emotion. But I believe he knows I'm WIFE. I know i will be with someone who is ready to be HUSBAND and it doesn't have to be him.
I learned the hard way to take people at face value and accept them for who they are, not who they could be, because most people don't change too much, only slightly, more often then not, they are not a match. Finding a good match isn't easy, but I think that's because we appreciate a good match more when we had to work to find it, and we didn't find the person easily, because where there is more appreciation, there's more respect given which is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
Thank you my brother from the same heavenly father. Your knowledge is inspiring, you are truly a blessing with your deliverance. Keep inspiring all of us who have an ear to hear and the will of learning and a purpose to live happy.
Truth is good, friend or not. But you have to be at peaceful place with yourself. Now Kirk, I look better now then I did when I was younger. .. So thank you in advance for the compliment. Peace, Why, ?? Because I have peace and I had to learn how to love myself. I have to say loving one's self is a learning process. It's not automatically give or developed. Besides that I'm intuned with what you are saying. ❤
Kirk. You not easy ! You're a WOW. I believe 🙏 when you're not looking for man , Jah will bring you 🙏 a righteous spiritual 🙏 spirit 🙏 man...I don't deal with people places and mindless things.. I don't look for money, man, being an elder lol a grandman would be fine in I life . A Man will find me. Lol I don't eat meat Love ❤️ Your spiritual uplifting truth ✨️ 🙏 Bless, bless,bless. ❤ love ❤️ love❤️ love ❤️
Men that are your friends are friends for a reason, it's because you want them as friends, they're inadequate to be partners. If you liked them for more, they'd be more to begin with. Most men who want to be your friends is because they have hopes for more at some point. You're not their priority and they're not yours. Friends should never be more than that, it's a recipe for disaster. Attraction and romantic feelings are important in relationships, or you end up with a house mate you reluctantly have to sleep with. Women aren't men to just have mechanical disconnected sex, women are emotional beings and need emotional connections, we cannot sleep with our friends like men do. This is the biggest misunderstanding between genders, women need emotional connection to have good sex but men don't, men can have sex with anything and anyone, they don't need to like or have feelings for that person, it takes them longer to attach emotionally and that if they want to attach, cause normally they don't want to attach cause their need is mainly sex, for them sex is just a mechanical thing and that's all they need to be happy. You don't marry your best friend, this another stupid thing you keep hearing. Being friend and being in a relationship is different. These are different type of relationships, it's not possible to have friendship and relationship in the same connection, they require different types of input, output and behaviour. Stop advising women to lower their standards for men, while men keep their standards high for women.
Soul mates. Vasopressin bonding. Tree climbing beautiful men i love em all😂. Exactly " a whole different type of YOU"😂. Your videos are on point! Good, bad, .......love em all And this is why i don't get attached! They all ahbe their beautiful gifts but not all in 1. I did meet the all in 1 and he domt want me so ill just always look at the world and men as my playground ❤
If looking for attractive men is not what we should focus on as women, why is it ok for men to stick with 'men are visual' and 'we' women do not get better with age. From what you are saying, men's attractiveness is irrelevant as their main function is to ground us. Sorry, that argument is seriously flawed.
I was with a good man. One day I went over the bridge and he went silent. I asked to talk about the issue but i see a cold. Shoulder..i don't want to become that piece of garment he will looking for when everyone is gone
Thank you for the video I cannot date my best friend of almost 30 years she's racist I couldn't see myself dating someone that is obsessed with the opposite race and of course we're supposed to like who we like and that's okay but I would not see myself competing with what his dream girl is
I have a really great male best friend Im head over hills for. We do everything together. See each other every single day, multiple calls & texts every day. He is a really great guy, comes from a great family which Ive met. I want to date him but he friendzone me🤦🏾♀️😒
Move on. There is nothing there for you. You will waste years of your life hoping & thinking there is a chance. If a man truly wants you, he will never allow space for a next man to get you. After I went through it, I noticed the same with other women.
Sis it’s bc you’re doing all of those activities together. He has way too much access to you. Pull back a bit and see what happens. Don’t nag or anything just begin filling up your schedule with other exciting activities and telling him that you’re busy. Pay attention to his responses.
Yeah - so this man likes me for sure. But he comes from Burmese culture - I think they really take their time. This is so hard - he's a really good man who I'm attracted to, and he keeps calling me and likes me as a friend, but he says he doesn't want a relationship (with anyone). I'm doing my best to be patient.
I don't like materialistic men trying to impress me with their toys. Those guys are usually void inside. That ish don't impress me. I want a real man like back in the day.
I know my ideal partner is in my friend group but what happens when he doesn’t know ? We have been great friends for over 3 years now he even flatters me. But we still remain friends. So how do I go forwards maybe he doesn’t feel that way about me x
My son is attractive, single and childless!!! HE'S looking for a BLACK, honest, trustworthy, CHILDLESS female!!!! He can't find one so he's going to another race!!! He's 42 years old, thick and handsome! He's looking for WIFE MATERIAL and treats me, his mother, very well. When he does meet her, he'll make her a happy woman because he believes in catering to his lady!!!
This is probably the only video you've made that doesn't resonate with me. I have no desire or attraction to any of my male friends. That's why we're friends. If there's no attraction or desire, then it's settling for the simple fact that he's someone I get along with.
Looks fade , it’s better to avoid looking at how attractive some one is. Remember the devil was the most beautiful angel in heaven before he got kicked out and tossed into hell.
I had to stop dating a guy who wasn’t my type I just was waiting to see if my attraction can grow but unfortunately he was not patient and wanted to kiss and touch a lot by 2nd date which he stressed as a problem so I said this won’t work if he needed instant attraction/ physically I needed more time. Doesn’t always work 😅 trying to get a balance and a patient man
Im a 61 yr old wemon. I'm done with my type. As a younger woman, I didn't hang in bars or clubs often. So I wasn't looking for relationships and love there. I found out that being married, dating. I'm sorry to say a lot of black men aren't grown up and haven't evolved in their manhood.
Actually friends will never see each other naked so this is not True and I never want my friends to see me without clothes.Regarding age making things look better it is different for men than women.Sean Connery as an older man versus younger man I'm more interested in him as an older man than I would have been when he was younger.With us it's usually different via men's eyes though for different reasons.
I have a mail friend for about 38years know from we where going to school he always tell me that I am is wife I don't see him for 21 years and everytime he seems me he tells me that he is in love with me for so many years I think he is my husband but I am in a relationship for fifteen years now two kids and not married as yet I don't know if my baby father is going to be my husband if as been so long fifteen years omg
-Blessings . Question: What do you think about your male friend is your Exe friend whom likes you. The ex introduced you to the friend who you are now friends with today. The friend does not want the Ex to know he likes you. I don’t like him like that , he’s a decent guy; better qualities than my ex. Do you think it would be the proper thing to give him a chance? The ex ; friend. I’m not saying I will. I’m just want your input.
What if the man you talking about is married he's everything you said but he's married I told him I can't be your side chick but when we out I will dance with you an talk to u long as it's not about sex he was cool with all of it he says what most men say he not happy in his marriage I said go to counseling or a pastor pray do what you haven't been doing for her
Find a partner that is thinking about growing old together.
I really really need to find that guy
@@EnaColeDon't even look. He will magically show up, once you are happy with yourself, and by yourself.
This is so true. I always had a "type" who was basically a perfect man. It was so unrealistic. I chased a type and got dogged out so many times because I was chasing an image. I let that go and met the love of my life. Our connection is amazing:) He isn't tall and isn't rich, but he has everything else I want. And he's real! Not a fantasy! I feel so lucky to be with him💖
Note: I did not pick him out of my friendzone. I have one male friend who I have never been attracted to and couldn't ever force myself to be attracted to. I met my soulmate by chance. I wasn't expecting it at all. We met through a random introduction through a coworker of mine. I was living my life and it came to me when it was meant to:)
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Ok 👍🏼 congrats‼️ I don't need rich but financially responsible and literate is a must! I don't date irresponsible grown boys. I am happy 😊 for u.. Cheers 🍻 to many more years 👏🏽
I have requirements that a man has to have to get my attention FIRST!!!!!!!!!! 1. A skill/profession 2. He's financially stable 3. HAS A SECURE JOB 4. CAN HOLD A DECENT CONVERSATION 5. Has his own place 6. Has his own transportation 7. CAN AFFORD A RELATIONSHIP 8. I'm attracted to. NOW here's my reasoning for these requirements; IF HE has these things THEN, he is a quality man bcz these things he should have foe himself!!!! IF HE DOESN'T than how can he do them for me!!!!!!!! I've had enough DUDS, I only go for quality. Oh yeah and while I'm learning him NO SEX!!! It clouds the mind!!!!! He's got to be WORTH MY TIME BECAUSE I'M SPECIAL!!!!!!!!!!!
Settling is the fastest way to divorce. You need attraction and connection. I lot of people are in bad relationships because they normalize toxic behaviors.
Yes‼️
Yes. I need attraction or I can't do it.
@@sandrathornton2286 yes me too!
I agree! To add to that someone with character and integrity. Also, the same morals and values
You gotta be in the vibration to atract the type of person you so desire .
@Kira-ze1pn
True timing goes into it but first u have to be in good vibration 📳
This holds a lot of truth. I now have several men in my friend zone & one in particular has come to me recently wanting more. I've always liked him & he is a good man. We've been friends for 25+ years.
Women are not supposed to be looking for a man.. The Bible says HE Who finds a Wife finds a Good thing proverbs 18:22
That's exactly what I said.
Preach! We out here chasing Superman while overlooking Clerk Kent! Sis, you are invisible to Superman!!
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@@ginaburnett facts!
I clicked on to hear your response on the best place to find that one guy and you're spot on. Two incidents happened and I needed help My neighbor across from me would not help anyone even if he saw your organs hanging out. So my neighbor of 7yrs to the left of me came to the rescue quickly everytime.We speak to one another on a daily basis as good neighbors do. I had a light bulb moment and began to look at him as more than a neighbor and come to find out so did he. We are having the best daily conversations and laughter ever now that we're official. ❤
Please give us an update 2 years later and don't hold back keep it real honest. Males 99% of the time start off great until his mask comes off and the real character is on full display #TheFamousLoveBombing stage....
From another woman ladies...don't give a guy a chance that you've put in the friend zone for years. Just don't. Leave him there. He's bound to punish you for making him wait. That being said...I hear part of the message and can agree, but no. Don't settle. If they aren't your cup of tea, don't make them just because you're afraid to be alone or because you feel defeated. You will end up resenting them once you realize you still aren't into them. Live who you want to love and if there is a lesson in that choice, learn it and move on. Don't be listening to these people telling you to settle. Be open, keep your eyes open and yes, consider options, but don't force a situation that isn't made to be. Just because you are good friends doesn't mean you will be good romantic partners.
I agree 💯 if you've been on a friends zone with a man for years just keep it there. You'll regret it if you start dating him because he'll make you regret it. Better to stay single and celibate and at peace until the right man comes along. Don't settle out of loneliness please ?!!
Learn this the hard way! Childhood friends , he got married early in life , he always chased after me , but I friend zoned him.... he got divorced ...I got married , now I'm getting divorced and we tried it out and he cheated on me n punished me 😂😂😂 don't do it ladies
So true 💯, I agree with you dont make a friend a bf
Yes a male friend who sticks by you no matter what and respects boundaries
Working, staying out of trouble, building up their mind and body in some positive ways.
Seems like the bum guys have all the confidence in the world, while the attractive guys just stare you down then walk away. Smh
😂😂 Why tho
That’s because that’s all they have to offer. So they have to be the best at it. They ensure they have it.
I think because a lot of attractive guys know that many women have lost their worth and are gonna chase them anyway. They feel that they don’t have to pursue.
@@gottahavefaith2526 I think you are right! If a man does not approach, I keep walking as well. I'm done with the staring contests 😂 He must didn't want to meet me bad enough and I can accept that better than the eager ones wasting my time.
That's exactly what they do. These men in my opinion have b---tch mentality. We're living in some sad times. Please recognize that.
Just found your videos and I like them. Please don't turn into a K.Samuels 😢 We don't need people tearing us down/apart ... not talking about women... talking about US black folk!!
@ariest5636 💯😂 OKAY!!!! He talks like women are the only human species that age; they age too🥴 Hell we don’t want no old scribble up man; because we know his a- don’t have nothing going on…lol
There are a lot of men that want beautiful women that take care of their health and are beautiful but they don't take care of themselves mentally and physically. Woman like physical appearance as well. It's not our primary driver in attraction but it's important.
Thank you . Self physical care is very important for me followed by emotional intelligence.
I spent my life on men who weren't my type. But who were more marriage material. Never worked. However I came to realize that some women who have survived certain situations are much better on their own.
That is me. I survived a bad situation, I am better situated alone.
My male friends are married to my female friends. I married a man who wasn’t my type and divorced him years later.
I never agree with being with people who you are not attracted to or not your type. So I disagree with him on that .
@@prettyloubey8411 there are some nuances to this situation that he’s not addressing. If you are with a man that is not your type physically that can be problematic. Only YOU are the one who’ll have to sleep with him. Also, there is nothing worse than being got by the ugly guy and he dogs you out. ESPECIALLY if he is envious of your beauty OR he has a low self esteem and hates you for lowering yourself to allow him in cuz he HATES himself and then doesn’t respect you cuz you BOTH know what’s subconsciously up. THAT’S a disaster. Sometimes the standards are too low and sometimes the standards are too high. It depends on the person and where they are at. A lot of women settle because they never had someone (THEIR PARENTS) teach them CAREFULLY what to look for in a mate. They never even saw the examples of what is a good relationship and how to BE in a healthy one. They don’t even know how to attach themselves with the right people in general OR AT ALL. These things must be carefully taught. This all has to be looked at by the individual and they need the right kind of person to help them that KNOWS how to read the situation they are in correctly. Also, any women being friends with a guy does NOT understand men. I know that sounds crazy but it’s a bad idea if you’re looking for a husband. Men take up space in many ways …
My guy friend put me in the friend zone, so that's where im staying.
I agree that being older and alone sick for a long time has a downside. I had no one to help me except spiritual people who worked on me day and night to support my life. I had awakenings and Learned from their unconditional love and Divine love. I never felt alone. True love is spiritual. Finding true love can be an issue in the world because we are not taught how to attract it. Fake love or emotional love doesn’t always last. The love we really seek is inside ourselves and, when we find it, it materialises in the world for us….❤️
My decent male friends are married. I choose to be single, strong and independent woman
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I laughed when you said your beauty goes down after your thirties. Im so happy my family has good genes. My cousins and parents never look our age, and most of us are 40's and above and look fab u lous!
Friends have to be careful not to cross that line. My homeboy n I tried, it did not work out. After some years, we recovered, thank God. So I'm not saying its not possible but friends just have to be careful.
I believe that women forget that the king picks the queen, not the other way around.
This…..
I asked god to remove everyone from my life that wasn’t for me and he removed my ex… but my guy friend is still around. And just today he asked me something and I told him them exact same words “that I didn’t want to cross that line and mess the friendship up”. It’s just crazy cause the lil things he does just always somehow be right on time…
I don’t have any male friend, so where do I find mine?
Just stumbled on this platform. Delivered without belittling anyone ❤❤❤ 🙌🏽
You are wonderfully reasonable man - where can I find YOU?😂
They are somewhere not being lovers of this world. Having good hygiene.Eating clean And keeping the Sabbath holy. Where i live i keep my head and eyes down. No good over here😂
Lol, you’re funny!!! You’re also the truth!!!
OMG I just love you man " fooling with your big headed self " you sho right 🤣🤣🤣😂😂🤣🥰
Looks fade money goes but charector is charector so spot on go for the woman/man that have good charector 🎉
Wow❗️ I just stumbled upon your channel and immediately subscribed. I really needed to hear this❗️Thank you…♥️
People think I've been picky and nooo I havent been at all! I have proof Lol The problem is I haven't been selective enough.
I don't want a super fine man. You're right competition is real. And, I do like quiet calm guys but Ive noticed there is hidden unhealthy mystery there sometimes or an agenda. I no longer have lots of man friends. And I found they all had an attraction to me, but they had women already. I let that go.
I do have love for my best friend I've known since I was 15. But at NO point has he ever said he cares for a relationship. We were teenage sweethearts. I think he sees something in me as wife material but some things like him not wanting commitment due to the work it takes, doesnt want children, and consider him a moreso private person not easily sharing or showing emotion. But I believe he knows I'm WIFE. I know i will be with someone who is ready to be HUSBAND and it doesn't have to be him.
Just discovered your channel. ❤. Can’t disagree with any of your advice so far.
Awesome! Thank you!
😂😂😂 you are too funny! I love your transparency and honesty! You are talking nothing but facts! D&R Advice ❤️💜
I have a question why do some man’s refuse to work on their flaws and insecurities even if you are trying to offer help
I learned the hard way to take people at face value and accept them for who they are, not who they could be, because most people don't change too much, only slightly, more often then not, they are not a match. Finding a good match isn't easy, but I think that's because we appreciate a good match more when we had to work to find it, and we didn't find the person easily, because where there is more appreciation, there's more respect given which is the foundation of a healthy relationship.
That's right it's you.. Take yourself out of the equation.
My brother Thanks for what you shared.God Help us both Male and Female.🙏😭🕊
INTERESTING,THANKS FOR SHARING THE KNOWLEDGE FROM A MAN’S PERSPECTIVE
I felt this! I’m making better decisions for my future startups my right now!
Reality.....thank you so much for this great piece 👏
I just found your channel. You are speaking facts.
Thank you my brother from the same heavenly father. Your knowledge is inspiring, you are truly a blessing with your deliverance. Keep inspiring all of us who have an ear to hear and the will of learning and a purpose to live happy.
"Substandard typo's/type- oh oh's" HA
Truth is good, friend or not. But you have to be at peaceful place with yourself. Now Kirk, I look better now then I did when I was younger. .. So thank you in advance for the compliment. Peace, Why, ?? Because I have peace and I had to learn how to love myself. I have to say loving one's self is a learning process. It's not automatically give or developed. Besides that I'm intuned with what you are saying. ❤
Kirk…. You make me smile.
Why we have to be big headed? LOL. Love you Kirk ❤!!!
Powerful truths.❤
Where's the Man that brings calm and security? Because that's not who I've been meeting...
Blow the horn 📯 this is Soooo True...to a degree lol but True
The supermarket?😂; In us
My best friend 🥰. He’s Amazing 😊❤
Brilliant video👏
Kirk. You not easy ! You're a WOW. I believe 🙏 when you're not looking for man , Jah will bring you 🙏 a righteous spiritual 🙏 spirit 🙏 man...I don't deal with people places and mindless things.. I don't look for money, man, being an elder lol a grandman would be fine in I life . A Man will find me. Lol I don't eat meat
Love ❤️ Your spiritual uplifting truth ✨️ 🙏 Bless, bless,bless. ❤ love ❤️ love❤️ love ❤️
Men that are your friends are friends for a reason, it's because you want them as friends, they're inadequate to be partners. If you liked them for more, they'd be more to begin with. Most men who want to be your friends is because they have hopes for more at some point. You're not their priority and they're not yours. Friends should never be more than that, it's a recipe for disaster. Attraction and romantic feelings are important in relationships, or you end up with a house mate you reluctantly have to sleep with. Women aren't men to just have mechanical disconnected sex, women are emotional beings and need emotional connections, we cannot sleep with our friends like men do. This is the biggest misunderstanding between genders, women need emotional connection to have good sex but men don't, men can have sex with anything and anyone, they don't need to like or have feelings for that person, it takes them longer to attach emotionally and that if they want to attach, cause normally they don't want to attach cause their need is mainly sex, for them sex is just a mechanical thing and that's all they need to be happy. You don't marry your best friend, this another stupid thing you keep hearing. Being friend and being in a relationship is different. These are different type of relationships, it's not possible to have friendship and relationship in the same connection, they require different types of input, output and behaviour. Stop advising women to lower their standards for men, while men keep their standards high for women.
Soul mates. Vasopressin bonding. Tree climbing beautiful men i love em all😂. Exactly " a whole different type of YOU"😂. Your videos are on point!
Good, bad, .......love em all
And this is why i don't get attached! They all ahbe their beautiful gifts but not all in 1. I did meet the all in 1 and he domt want me so ill just always look at the world and men as my playground ❤
U are right I do have a type but I'm trying to keep an open mind these days. I just want to feel chemistry or some type of connection
Mr. Kirk Konscious. Reality!! I really enjoy... that frequencies and need to change the channel. And discernments need to change . Rhonda Prater .
If looking for attractive men is not what we should focus on as women, why is it ok for men to stick with 'men are visual' and 'we' women do not get better with age. From what you are saying, men's attractiveness is irrelevant as their main function is to ground us. Sorry, that argument is seriously flawed.
😂😂you are right on point 😅😅😅
I don’t have any male friends 🤷♀️
Don’t feel bad, I don’t either 😢
U are so right about hvng that type
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I have a ton of male friends that I have had for years!
Then you should be happy!!!
I love your honesty, I'm a 77 year old girl woman and now regret diďnt marry my soul mate
We need to learn to appreciate what we have before too late
Even the peacefull dudes are trouble 😅
All facts!!!!!Why we gotta be a bighead?😂😂😂😂😂😂
I was with a good man. One day I went over the bridge and he went silent. I asked to talk about the issue but i see a cold. Shoulder..i don't want to become that piece of garment he will looking for when everyone is gone
You say things we are embarrassed to hear 😅omg no filter .. I’m here 4 it
I had this with one man and I fear I will never find this again.
What if you don't have male friends?
I don’t have any male friends either but I’m sure if I pray and ask god to send one , I will someday!!!
Thank you for the video I cannot date my best friend of almost 30 years she's racist I couldn't see myself dating someone that is obsessed with the opposite race and of course we're supposed to like who we like and that's okay but I would not see myself competing with what his dream girl is
I have a really great male best friend Im head over hills for. We do everything together. See each other every single day, multiple calls & texts every day. He is a really great guy, comes from a great family which Ive met. I want to date him but he friendzone me🤦🏾♀️😒
Move on. There is nothing there for you. You will waste years of your life hoping & thinking there is a chance. If a man truly wants you, he will never allow space for a next man to get you. After I went through it, I noticed the same with other women.
Sis it’s bc you’re doing all of those activities together. He has way too much access to you. Pull back a bit and see what happens. Don’t nag or anything just begin filling up your schedule with other exciting activities and telling him that you’re busy. Pay attention to his responses.
Could he have an avoidant personality and attachment style towards love?
Lol your reall I luv it
What about online dating. A lot of people hide their true self when they show that side you move on after awhile you get tired of looking.
Eye opener
Yeah - so this man likes me for sure. But he comes from Burmese culture - I think they really take their time. This is so hard - he's a really good man who I'm attracted to, and he keeps calling me and likes me as a friend, but he says he doesn't want a relationship (with anyone). I'm doing my best to be patient.
I do not look for the type but for inside.
But also this took me to hell
FACTS
I don't like materialistic men trying to impress me with their toys. Those guys are usually void inside. That ish don't impress me. I want a real man like back in the day.
😂. My Male Friends Call Me "KING Mahlatse" And They Aren't Gay😅😅😅. No Chance
Fact💯💯💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I know my ideal partner is in my friend group but what happens when he doesn’t know ? We have been great friends for over 3 years now he even flatters me. But we still remain friends. So how do I go forwards maybe he doesn’t feel that way about me x
My son is attractive, single and childless!!! HE'S looking for a BLACK, honest, trustworthy, CHILDLESS female!!!! He can't find one so he's going to another race!!! He's 42 years old, thick and handsome! He's looking for WIFE MATERIAL and treats me, his mother, very well. When he does meet her, he'll make her a happy woman because he believes in catering to his lady!!!
This is probably the only video you've made that doesn't resonate with me. I have no desire or attraction to any of my male friends. That's why we're friends. If there's no attraction or desire, then it's settling for the simple fact that he's someone I get along with.
Looks fade , it’s better to avoid looking at how attractive some one is. Remember the devil was the most beautiful angel in heaven before he got kicked out and tossed into hell.
I understand ypur perspective. On the other hand, what about soul love? Which is beyond emoticons and beyond logics.
Your a good man 😊
Thank you
I had to stop dating a guy who wasn’t my type I just was waiting to see if my attraction can grow but unfortunately he was not patient and wanted to kiss and touch a lot by 2nd date which he stressed as a problem so I said this won’t work if he needed instant attraction/ physically I needed more time. Doesn’t always work 😅 trying to get a balance and a patient man
You are right
Im a 61 yr old wemon. I'm done with my type. As a younger woman, I didn't hang in bars or clubs often. So I wasn't looking for relationships and love there. I found out that being married, dating. I'm sorry to say a lot of black men aren't grown up and haven't evolved in their manhood.
Good morning good be with someone u are attraction to not what they have no perfect mate if u trying find perfect mate u will be along
Actually friends will never see each other naked so this is not True and I never want my friends to see me without clothes.Regarding age making things look better it is different for men than women.Sean Connery as an older man versus younger man I'm more interested in him as an older man than I would have been when he was younger.With us it's usually different via men's eyes though for different reasons.
I have a mail friend for about 38years know from we where going to school he always tell me that I am is wife I don't see him for 21 years and everytime he seems me he tells me that he is in love with me for so many years I think he is my husband but I am in a relationship for fifteen years now two kids and not married as yet I don't know if my baby father is going to be my husband if as been so long fifteen years omg
Wow. For 15 years? You should go look at my other video that speaks about how long a man takes to propose.
-Blessings . Question: What do you think about your male friend is your Exe friend whom likes you. The ex introduced you to the friend who you are now friends with today. The friend does not want the Ex to know he likes you. I don’t like him like that , he’s a decent guy; better qualities than my ex. Do you think it would be the proper thing to give him a chance? The ex ; friend. I’m not saying I will. I’m just want your input.
I wish I had male friends!!!
There are no absolute sometimes this advice works sometimes doesn't I dated not my type gave him a chance and relationship didn't work out
I love exciting you can be still and exciting in your home
What if the man you talking about is married he's everything you said but he's married I told him I can't be your side chick but when we out I will dance with you an talk to u long as it's not about sex he was cool with all of it he says what most men say he not happy in his marriage I said go to counseling or a pastor pray do what you haven't been doing for her
These guys are in the gym!!
All my male friends are in marriages and long term relationships. So that’s not even a consideration.