Will You Ever Be the Same, Healed After Narcissistic Abuse?

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  • @YBALSTHYYY
    @YBALSTHYYY Місяць тому +215

    Afterwards you see the world through more open eyes, you realise how many of these monsters walk among us & that they ultimately control the world.

    • @Mayalalitaa
      @Mayalalitaa Місяць тому +9

      Absolute facts it’s actually insane

    • @margo3073
      @margo3073 Місяць тому +1

      yes.unfortunately.......

    • @2Kirass
      @2Kirass 7 днів тому

      I just say i started pointing at them and is fucking working

  • @Hearthbed
    @Hearthbed Місяць тому +322

    Professor Sam Vakinin is one of my favorite external objects 🎁

  • @carola.dieudonne
    @carola.dieudonne Місяць тому +34

    "Many victims of narcissistic abuse have made a pledge to never be with another person again and to remain solitary for the rest of their lives. They have learned that hell is the other person. That sometimes a wrong choice, a wrong mate selection could lead to a togetherness that is a concentration camp." You have done it again... spot on!

    • @anthonyrab9468
      @anthonyrab9468 26 днів тому +1

      Not only narcissistic, I would say same for hystrionic, bpd or covert narcissist

    • @questroyal8650
      @questroyal8650 26 днів тому +1

      You are right ! Also me I choose to be solitary.In my case loose any trust in females.I know are a lot many genuine females..but I become more awere.

    • @comadronasmith1209
      @comadronasmith1209 18 днів тому +1

      Omg, perfect analogy. I was living in a concentration camp for 27 years. Now I live alone and will never involve myself romantically again. But I have a lot of loving relationships. It feels like coming back from the dead.

  • @teresadvorak6145
    @teresadvorak6145 Місяць тому +121

    The answer is No, you will never be the same again. Thanks Doc❤❤❤

    • @chiliart8056
      @chiliart8056 Місяць тому +9

      Definitly no now when I look at someone thay get chils if thay cross boundery

  • @JJOK1818-okthen
    @JJOK1818-okthen Місяць тому +93

    This information should be taught to all children - save some souls 🙌✨

    • @sysye
      @sysye Місяць тому +8

      I'm not the same person and I'm so happy I'm nor

    • @earthrooster1969
      @earthrooster1969 Місяць тому +12

      And to adults...children are not able to truly understand the abuse until much much later

  • @wendykasera
    @wendykasera Місяць тому +26

    Exactly what is happening to me, spiritual death, i don't feel like myself anymore. Narcs kill your innocence. Your view of humanity changes. And one feels so disintegrated.

  • @monikaknapczyk7151
    @monikaknapczyk7151 Місяць тому +50

    The loss of innocence. My own words after the relationship with certain person. Maybe all people feel that kind of relational trauma in similar way.

  • @ariesnarona
    @ariesnarona Місяць тому +29

    I know I will never be the same again. I am now stronger.

  • @magali.bazzano
    @magali.bazzano Місяць тому +28

    It takes time. But there is peace, light, and calmness at the end. Therapists never helped by the way. I had to fix and heal myself. It took years.

    • @nyxcole9879
      @nyxcole9879 Місяць тому +3

      Same, I'm getting close ❤

  • @AbiBrown-q9k
    @AbiBrown-q9k Місяць тому +54

    I met this guy at a local coffee shop in early june 2024. He had no boundaries or filters. I was taken back by how vulgar he was at times. He told me he was a busy man. I am a great listener and he was a non-stop talker. He started to be very judgmental me eg: he called me I was controlling, lonely, always right, too sensitive, negative, disliking his friends vain, judgmental, analyzing everything he says, I don't see myself for what I am in a negative light, in denial these are just a few comments. I told him too many times that I did not like his abusive ways. He finally stopped going to the same coffee shop. He was trying to control my mind, voice and thoughts my reality....this has been very scary, confusing experience

    • @irenahabe2855
      @irenahabe2855 Місяць тому +11

      Confusing and intrusive experience indeed.

    • @Kzjonez1
      @Kzjonez1 Місяць тому +6

      It is well known he has NPD thus is not surprising what you experience . Regardless,he know his stuff better than anyone I have come across.

    • @mialite7959
      @mialite7959 Місяць тому +12

      Did you meet Sam Vaknin or just some guy? Your post is very confusing.

  • @PinkiePi
    @PinkiePi Місяць тому +69

    The most glaring aspect of my experiences is that every time I listen to content like this from a qualified source like Prof Vaknin, it is like a play-by-play of my experiences, and he describes exactly how I feel and the state I am in. Yet, after 10 years with a covert malignant narcissist, I still doubt myself, blame myself, gaslight myself, make excuses for my ex, etc.
    This content is extremely valuable and important. Not just for education, but for the validation and vindication of victims of narcissistic abuse. Thank you Prof Vaknin!

    • @teresadvorak6145
      @teresadvorak6145 Місяць тому +9

      I think it comes down to making the decision of what your willing to live with & what your not going to tolerate. In my own case, I've went no contact from those who hurt or destroy me. I never said a word to them about it, I just went no contact & they figure it out after a while. Then you've got to watch out & guard yourself from their retaliation. Every case is individual while being similar to most narcs. I guess 😮 ❤❤❤

    • @zdziebelko100
      @zdziebelko100 Місяць тому +3

      Thank you Sir. Beautiful and so, so true

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 Місяць тому +50

    Thank you, Professor Vaknin. This breakdown helped me a lot. The narcissist thought he could crush my spirit forever but I’m the best version of myself in spite of him. The family and friends that he tried to isolate me from, remind me daily that I’m lovable. I don’t take anything for granted.

  • @hopealivealways
    @hopealivealways Місяць тому +80

    Thank you for the candid discussion on the NAC abuse post-traumatic state. People keep avoiding this discussion and giving uninformed toxic positivity advice. It is not that there is no healing, it is that this abuse changes us, so we have to see healing through a different lens

    • @teresadvorak6145
      @teresadvorak6145 Місяць тому +9

      I've learned alote & healing, since tuning in to all these (how to deal with narc abuse) sites on you tube. I've been learning for 4 years now & have things ever turned around! I'm so grateful for these good Doctors like Sam❤❤❤

    • @hopealivealways
      @hopealivealways Місяць тому +6

      @@teresadvorak6145 Wonderful. Let's keep learning and growing.

  • @brandibernard967
    @brandibernard967 Місяць тому +51

    Pushed me into my awakening. So in someway I'm appreciative. Thank you for the insight. Going on 3 years of healing.

    • @edithflood631
      @edithflood631 Місяць тому

      Going on 29 years of healing. Major insights at year 28. “Changed but okay”, as he says. In this, my actual experience, Mind or God (as one pleases or prefers) will only allow enough insight into the prior (or ongoing) narcissistic experience, as the victim/subject can psychologically withstand at any one time. There are two interesting conjectures to be drawn from this. One, after a major insight or revelation from within, you will feel you are 98% healed. But the missing two percent will hold great significance when it is revealed in the future. It will still rock your world. But you will have a foundation by then (which is why it will be revealed, remember). Two, and this is the shocker. At some deep level, Self, Mind or God *knew* and was aware of everything that was happening to you, every secret of the narcissist, every betrayal, at the time it was happening. At some deep level there was awareness. The task for the higher self was to get you out of the mess with your sanity and wisdom intact. Because the entanglement with (textbook) evil (a totally amoral deceptive being) is a huge potentially fatal problem to resolve and escape from. . Thus, the blinkered blindness and the periodic earth-shaking revelations in the years after you leave the narcissist. But, never forget, at a deep level, all along, you knew. It was a kind of hidden power, if you like. Because for sure the narcissist would have crushed that as well if they could have.

    • @raegen5618
      @raegen5618 Місяць тому +1

      Me too! I hope you’re doing ok.

    • @brandibernard967
      @brandibernard967 Місяць тому

      @@raegen5618more than I can ever voice! Hope ur well

    • @brandibernard967
      @brandibernard967 Місяць тому

      @@raegen5618 fabulous

    • @italiama79
      @italiama79 Місяць тому +2

      Me too! I believe that was the blessing in disguise

  • @Muppet.master
    @Muppet.master Місяць тому +40

    I am becoming a lion from the prey it once was . Big love from Manchester UK ❤️🙏❤️🃏

  • @SteveH-u5w
    @SteveH-u5w Місяць тому +23

    Two years of the most horrific borderline alcoholic drug addict experience with a younger woman leads me to four days since what I believe to be the final discard following my mirroring her. I’m in court to obtain a non molestation order tomorrow. Videos of her cheating with men in their late 60s but still she denied. triangulating, multiple cheating, physical and verbal abuse discard rate reached every two days , I guess she really is one of the worst kinds of borderlines. Ive found myself again after what seems a living hell where I lost myself. Therapy awaits. This channel helped save my soul. Thank you

  • @maggiemcdonald3185
    @maggiemcdonald3185 Місяць тому +16

    Was the worst experiance of my life , but has turned out to be the making of me 🎉❤🙏

  • @demigaines5644
    @demigaines5644 Місяць тому +33

    Thank you. So Very Much For Sharing This I Needed To Hear This Im A Victim Of Narcissitic Abuse After Experiencing Emotional And Psychological Abuse Very Horrific. I'm Learning To Love Myself Again And Forgiving Myself. This Person Destroyed My Life My Health My Self Confidence. After Going Through Narcissistic Abuse I Feel Like An Infant Again Learning How To Love Myself And Self Caring.
    Narcissistic Abuse Is Brutal....

  • @lieagain
    @lieagain Місяць тому +17

    Early in my recovery. The world feels evil at times.

  • @Guitarmfig
    @Guitarmfig 12 днів тому +1

    I don't understand how people suffer so much with this I have been through various disengagements and got over them very quickly, within a couple of months, maybe I'm a monster HAHAHAHAHA 😂 Love your channel and your humour Prof

  • @maryvera123
    @maryvera123 Місяць тому +12

    Congratulations, Professor Vaknin, on your new appointment at SEEU! 🎉

  • @earthrooster1969
    @earthrooster1969 Місяць тому +13

    7:05 truly appreciate how you talk about crisis and how we react to it. Like animals playing dead, or using camouflage..
    I am going through a similar journey where I am distancing myself from my toxic family, starting to actively dissociate with my childhood trauma (after truly processing it and acknowleding it) and being very stubborn on my journey to stay the course...there is no other way..

  • @JavierMares
    @JavierMares Місяць тому +11

    Congratulations on your new appointment, Professor Vaknin!

  • @monikaannakania1869
    @monikaannakania1869 Місяць тому +10

    Professor Sam Vaknin, thank you so much for giving me so much hope, right now while I already got into the believe that I will be in this broken pieces for the rest of my life... Thank you so much!!!

  • @Shanti1777
    @Shanti1777 Місяць тому +13

    I Love listening and suffering with you.
    Realized so much through your lessons.

  • @StellarHeron
    @StellarHeron Місяць тому +2

    Sam…I don’t need to tell you this, but you are the best at demystifying the mechanics of narcissistic abuse. So much gratitude for your sharing!

  • @CherylBriere-gp8bk
    @CherylBriere-gp8bk Місяць тому +28

    Sam, can people pick up on this victim’s feeling of inner death? You talk about the uncanny valley in the narcissist that signals you’re in the presence of an absence. Is there something similar in the victim? I think many people mistake the victim for the narcissist

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  Місяць тому +30

      Yes, there is. This is why some people avoid victims.

  • @shreeja08rao
    @shreeja08rao Місяць тому +11

    Sam this is the most important thing I needed in this moment

  • @AmandaPryar
    @AmandaPryar Місяць тому +4

    After the abuse I suffered, I have noticed that I'm stronger and I can spot a narcissist as soon as I ( or they) start to speak; its an eye opener and I now walk away from them with a silent smile and a knowing that they didn't destroy me. I'm nolonger afraid to say NO! . I think it could be that in knowing whose a narcissist I've lost my love for and trust in humanity.

  • @earthrooster1969
    @earthrooster1969 Місяць тому +6

    Thanks for reminding us Dr Vaknin that one does not have to lose faith in the goodness of humanity after being let down horribly by the narcissist.
    Love you mentioning that Nature at best or worst is indifferent and we can strive to create our reality by our own investment of ideas, actions, etc...

  • @HarryBeats_
    @HarryBeats_ Місяць тому +40

    25:00 “When you have graduated from the narcissistic abuse University, the higher education of the narcissist” 🤣
    The curriculum is harrowing
    Wonderful video, Sam, thank you.

  • @summerhall7289
    @summerhall7289 Місяць тому +14

    Love you, Professor! Keep up your fantastic work, and screw those plagiarizers! Call them ALL out!!
    (Hi, Minnie! 👋🏻)

  • @prittike
    @prittike 7 днів тому

    Hupty Dumpty - 🤣🥳 Thank you soooo much! I cried through half of the video and at the last sentence - just broke out in laugh! I so much needed this relief.

  • @productioninquiry8937
    @productioninquiry8937 Місяць тому +15

    I don't want to be. I want to be smarter, better and more aware.

  • @alinee1995
    @alinee1995 Місяць тому +26

    I am going through it right now and it's so hard

    • @emmasuo272
      @emmasuo272 Місяць тому +9

      First of all I wanna hug you so tightly my sister you're not alone yes it feels really really dark but you know it does get better you'll shine like a diamond in the end you'll be a lioness and a resilient person I love you so much and you're not alone in this you're loved this is just a change process go through it and embrace the new version of you more power to you my powerful girl 🫂💛💚🤍

    • @alinee1995
      @alinee1995 Місяць тому +3

      @@emmasuo272 thank you for your kind words

    • @brandibernard967
      @brandibernard967 Місяць тому +2

      Sending much love and light 🤍

  • @kahtnipp
    @kahtnipp Місяць тому +7

    I'm so incredibly grateful for you, your knowledge, wisdom and how you share them with us freely like you do. Thank you so much for all that you've shared and all that you've done for the world.

  • @ghostqueen2082
    @ghostqueen2082 Місяць тому +7

    Another great lecture in The Defense against the Dark Arts 👌

  • @sillyconenavia
    @sillyconenavia Місяць тому +2

    I bought your book Self Malignant Love, I am still scared to read it. You have been one of my biggest sources of comprehending and defining these creatures. I have been to 3 therapist, great help. They say by time I finish my healing process, I will have less friends & family members and I will be lonelier. King David said Wisdom is more precious than rubies, nothing compares to her, Amen. Thank you for your videos & thank you for coining the terms for us all. I truly your videos, your on point and concise with your explanations. I am 17months away from a 26yr fake & phony marriage. I blew her cover, went no contact, unmasked her and left many of her family with their antennas up in the air. May Elohim always bless you Dr. Vaknin, again thank for everything.
    Shalom,
    Servando Navia Jr. Hernandez

  • @Zwiebly
    @Zwiebly Місяць тому +1

    This is very comprehensive, thanks. I felt the image at the end of the video. ".. broke you into pieces..". This is exactly how I felt. I still feel the urge to contact different people and reaffirm myself but then I feel guilty that I am only seeking validation and that they could see me as weak and that they could be of the same opinion as the person who discarded me and and and

  • @RhondaLange-w5j
    @RhondaLange-w5j Місяць тому +5

    So brilliant, yet easily explained to the average Joe or Jane.Not a stuffed shirt, even silly at times.Thankyou,. Dr. Vaknin.

  • @JuiceLion
    @JuiceLion Місяць тому +3

    So incredible precise explained. Thank you Dr. Vaknin.🙏🏽

  • @Hearthbed
    @Hearthbed Місяць тому +43

    O kay shoshanim.
    I say ok shoshanim to myself constantly as I switch from one task/thought to the next 😂 😂😂

    • @InTheSkyWithLucie
      @InTheSkyWithLucie Місяць тому +11

      He has become an introject in your mind! but same lol

  • @davidroot8196
    @davidroot8196 Місяць тому +2

    I think this is the best Sam Vaknin video I’ve seen and I’ve watched many of them.

  • @YTistooannoying
    @YTistooannoying Місяць тому +15

    Professor, my husband, over the last two years, has flown off the rails. We have been together 24 years. He started drinking again after 8 years of sobriety and all his lies came down around him. I found out he has been visiting prostitutes for at least the last 10 years. Lying to people about his life. He even started lying about easily provable things and laughing when he was confronted.
    I have finally ended things with him and... I am happier, but it feels like I have been living with a really, painful noise for the past 24 years and it's suddenly silent. It's really disorienting, and even though it feels good it's uncomfortable. I am also afraid the noise will start up again and I won't be able to stop it.
    I am afraid. I have cut off all communication, but I'm scared. He is so manipulative I am scared... so scared. I wish he would just leave me alone
    Edit: I forgot the most important part of my comment. Your videos have helped arm me. I have stopped being the Echo to his Narcissi. Thank you for sharing all of this with us. I listen to Dr. Ramani too, but your way of speaking just gets through to me just right. Thank you

    • @emmagladstone573
      @emmagladstone573 Місяць тому +3

      Big hug to you. Hang in there. You can see it, that’s the most important step. F$&k him! Stick to your own feelings, beliefs and boundaries. They are right, even when you’re questioning them. Wishing you all the very best.

  • @SusanWillans-b9q
    @SusanWillans-b9q Місяць тому +3

    Hi Dr. Vaknin! Great video as usual, but I prefer another outcome. After a life time of narcissistic abuse from our mother and brother, my sister and I have matured to the point where they can’t surprise us, break us any more. Brother maybe got away with stealing our inheritance from our parents estate, but we know how to carry on with our own families and life. He is old and alone, unwell, and I can’t wait to see how he blows himself up again (figuratively of course), and no one left to bail him out.

    • @SusanWillans-b9q
      @SusanWillans-b9q Місяць тому

      Good evening Dr. Vaknin! Greetings from Canada!

  • @pat_rick01
    @pat_rick01 Місяць тому +2

    Upon reading Sam's title only, I recalled that last week, I felt like my old self for about 5 seconds and it escaped me. I lost my mental grip. To be myself is going to be very difficult, having been married 46 years in a gradual, ever worsening tornado.

  • @allannielsen5308
    @allannielsen5308 Місяць тому +5

    Thank you Sam Vaknin…very very brilliant explanation 🙏🏼👍✋💯

  • @binglopez4919
    @binglopez4919 Місяць тому +1

    Thank you Dr Sam for the insightful life wisdoms!

  • @mugsybalone2286
    @mugsybalone2286 Місяць тому +17

    What about those of us who didn’t choose a narcissistic partner, but were given a narcissistic parent? If you never trusted yourself ever from all the gaslighting, is there a way back to healthy self trust?

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  Місяць тому +17

      Yes. Watch the NA Healing playlist.

  • @EverahSnow
    @EverahSnow Місяць тому +12

    Congratulations! 🎉

  • @211Sevi
    @211Sevi Місяць тому

    Great organisation of content! Thank you for the encouragement (Knowing that brokenness is fixable and damage can be rendered into valuable lessons and healing is very hopeful!) and the precious advices!!! ❤

  • @elisa9359
    @elisa9359 Місяць тому +2

    Many thanks for giving me this decent hope 🙏....God bless you !

  • @TeresaLeonard-Gilham-ly6kh
    @TeresaLeonard-Gilham-ly6kh 11 днів тому

    Thank you for this video! Very helpful and hopeful…

  • @kindbudkudos
    @kindbudkudos Місяць тому

    Thank you so much. I needed this right now, thabk you prof sam.

  • @Lilianapescariu12
    @Lilianapescariu12 Місяць тому +7

    Someone saw the silhouette from the another room in the left side of video? By the way so much I love this video, greetings from Romania

  • @mayracramer1
    @mayracramer1 Місяць тому +2

    Came at a perfect time this news! Thank you.

  • @jorjetanojarova6253
    @jorjetanojarova6253 Місяць тому +2

    Yeees absolutely! I’m a brunch now😁 Love to learn from you professor!

  • @jans724
    @jans724 Місяць тому

    This was a very good and informative talk! Good list of ten points!

  • @kimwright2538
    @kimwright2538 Місяць тому +5

    Relationshit that’s what it is.
    Thank you for truth telling Professor. Everything you speak is exactly how it was. The outcome, I am Healed, Awake but more importantly an educated empath. Be well and love yourself to everyone listening 🙏🏽❤️‍🩹🙏🏽

  • @peoplespoet1974
    @peoplespoet1974 Місяць тому +2

    Both my parents are, and my ex of 20 tears (a B.P.D.) ...As an 'Aspie'? It caused imposter syndrome which I am recovering from and I battle Cptsd. Being a goth singer from the 80s and 90s, I am also deep into sociology and was in college a few years but still an 'understudy'. ----Great points.

  • @denverjonah
    @denverjonah Місяць тому +2

    Dr Vaknin is a little introject. Love the material … good channel.

  • @Riostunning
    @Riostunning Місяць тому +2

    Always getting the right topic at the right time, thanks professor ❤

  • @LolaAileenVanslette
    @LolaAileenVanslette Місяць тому +1

    Being raised by, have extended family, three marriages (one to a sociopath - diagnosed while I was pregnant with my second daughter; once to a covert narcissist), I've learned not to trust ANYONE! After this last relationship with a malignant-vulnerable narcissist, I don't plan on trying again. Apparently, I'm the problem, or I wouldn't keep getting involved with them.

  • @hsbwuab
    @hsbwuab Місяць тому +6

    Thank you doc. Vaknin for this video. That do you think about Neville Symington theory on narcissism?🤔

    • @samvaknin
      @samvaknin  Місяць тому +8

      Nothing new about his "theory".

  • @fi-jannereijne7445
    @fi-jannereijne7445 Місяць тому

    Thank you for this so clear and true reading. It waa yust what happend.
    Recovering is possible. Very happy now. Its a project indeed. .

  • @snowps1
    @snowps1 Місяць тому +4

    I think I would be healed mostly from my narc ex-bf from 20 years ago if it weren't for having a narc SIL in my life. I hate that I have to stay away from my brother and his kids to avoid her as much as possible.

  • @alinajeziorska5959
    @alinajeziorska5959 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you Prof. Vaknin

  • @ronniemitchell1473
    @ronniemitchell1473 Місяць тому +1

    This was amazing! Thank you for this, it has been so helpful!

  • @PROMOTIONALSHORTS5784
    @PROMOTIONALSHORTS5784 Місяць тому +5

    I am new and improved. A shade of ruthless - with humour
    😅

  • @johncampbell301
    @johncampbell301 Місяць тому +3

    Your videos have helped me so much🎉 thank you.

  • @_zarda_
    @_zarda_ Місяць тому

    Very nice content, well done Sir. I went almost all the assumptions one by one listed by you. Nothing less nothiing more

  • @sokoleski
    @sokoleski Місяць тому

    This was very clear....and very useful 💚

  • @JacK-qn4zh
    @JacK-qn4zh Місяць тому +5

    No. You will never fully trust again nor be a victim. After that kind of mental games without any answers...Just find peace within yourself. Once you have that, you just won't wanna again once things are good...or at least I have't. Coming up on 7 years and...I still read all but, When life is good...why mess it up?!

  • @carolina-k9s
    @carolina-k9s Місяць тому +16

    Thank you for your wisdom.

  • @MarySiney
    @MarySiney Місяць тому

    Thank you for your kindness 😢

  • @Darkpheria
    @Darkpheria Місяць тому +1

    ❤You Are on the One! Gratitude.

  • @sofiaavetisian5673
    @sofiaavetisian5673 Місяць тому +5

    Is it possible that because I was raised by a narcissistic father and a borderline mother most of the 10 assumptions here were already negatively affected by my parents even before I met the narcissist? For example the belief that I’m essentially loveable and can trust myself

  • @truebalticamber
    @truebalticamber Місяць тому

    Following for 2years, and believe that this video is probably most powerful in recognising toxic with npd person. Cant thank you enough. Had seriuose doubts whatever I am too needy for simple decent kind behavior or it is actual abuse.

  • @olga-g8q8y
    @olga-g8q8y Місяць тому +12

    To meet a narcissist it is the best thing what can happen to you if you survive! You”ll never become the same and that’s the best growth you can never ever get from the life :))

    • @anesasosevic2813
      @anesasosevic2813 Місяць тому

      @olga Narcissists are the best teachers, but school is pretty difficult. Victims must learn to survive at first, then their task is fight to victory. ❤

  • @jonmason4791
    @jonmason4791 Місяць тому

    Thank you for a very hopeful message

  • @hollymerriman7189
    @hollymerriman7189 Місяць тому +1

    OK, we will never be the same and I’m just going through my healing process thanks to radical acceptance. But maybe we can be better in someways more discerning wiser. Let people earn our trust rather than just giving it away for free. There’s so many comments, I won’t see the reactions to mine butwhat does everyone else think?

  • @alisonlittlewood4780
    @alisonlittlewood4780 Місяць тому +2

    Spot on Professor😊

  • @livewires8637
    @livewires8637 Місяць тому +4

    Not the same. Now aware of codependent behaviors and able to choose to be toxic or not.

  • @karencoklow3036
    @karencoklow3036 24 дні тому

    I’m so broken emotionally & psychologically honestly, I’m not sure I’ll ever recover. I hope but I don’t see how it’s going to happen. I’m so guarded and vigilant I push everyone away 🖤💔

  • @Kzjonez1
    @Kzjonez1 Місяць тому +4

    Professor will this apply to BPD abuse as well ? I feel it does Having graduated from the BPD abuse university myself it is what I experienced. What say you ?

  • @govandahmed1846
    @govandahmed1846 Місяць тому +1

    great lecture Sam. thank you❤

  • @JasonKinne
    @JasonKinne Місяць тому +3

    "Humpty Dumpty" here. Wow. Smh. Onward!

  • @Alex-f6v4b
    @Alex-f6v4b Місяць тому

    Im different now and i will keep changing
    I learned good lessons with narc and I'm looking forward to fresh start!

  • @HealandInspire
    @HealandInspire Місяць тому +4

    You just spoke to me. Been alone 4 years now. Traumatized still. 37 years I gave him. I used to believe it was his PTSD. Until he devalued me for years and then discarded me, did I figure out he is a Covert Narcissist. Thank you…

  • @Senarableuenn
    @Senarableuenn Місяць тому

    Thank you again Sam

  • @harrietbrown8807
    @harrietbrown8807 Місяць тому +4

    and what when my husband of 30 years of narcistic abuse now becomes a devout catholic, says I'm sorry, forget and move on, but my love and trust is gone? I have to go through all the "forgiving" process and he is a " born again ' person?

  • @gusdagoose6048
    @gusdagoose6048 Місяць тому +1

    Unreal how the narc could have framed me. I disregarded my intuition.😢

  • @sabiajahang8660
    @sabiajahang8660 Місяць тому

    'Hell is other people' is a funny saying because if you read what Sartre ment by it, it is not the other people that are hell. But and I am paraprashing here: 'because we see our own reflection in their eyes'. Only someone as brilliant as Sartre was, could come up with something like this. It is still self-referential in conclusion, no escape from oneself. Hell is not the other people surrounding us, but seeing ourselves back that makes it hell. Just brilliant.

  • @clockwork9825
    @clockwork9825 Місяць тому

    Love this guy!!!

  • @vancamerawoman7399
    @vancamerawoman7399 Місяць тому

    I’m definitely not the same. I’m far more aware now and won’t fall for it again 😊

  • @chrishintz1077
    @chrishintz1077 Місяць тому +2

    People change momentarily, from minute to minute. Everything is in flux.

  • @nicolabenjamin2661
    @nicolabenjamin2661 Місяць тому +1

    I feel better already. ❤

  • @DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p
    @DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p Місяць тому

    Thank you so much Dear Sam❤

  • @theosilva7188
    @theosilva7188 Місяць тому

    Thanks for the brillante analysis .❤❤

  • @kris_ty685
    @kris_ty685 Місяць тому +3

    I think I am trapped in the adjustment phase.