Real Families: Overcoming Selective Mutism in Children
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- Опубліковано 27 вер 2024
- Will a young child who is chatty at home but mute as soon as she arrives at the school gates finally be coaxed into talking at school? Can a controversial new dental treatment really cure a severe case of Tourette’s syndrome? And for an unruly child who is about to be excluded from school, can a long-awaited confirmation of ADHD and an intensive course of treatment lead to a happier life?
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My bff in elementary school had selective mutism. I was the only person he would talk to. He was so amazing and sweet!
aww
Wow! Thanks so sweet
I was the same
My little sister did too, starting from age 4. The school didn’t believe she could talk until we showed them some home videos. They started to put her in a nurture room as she got older and still wasn’t talking. It was a quiet room full of books, toys, computers and more, with kids like herself. They actually all started talking to each other in little pairs and made it their little spot where they’d all take their lunch to the nurture room and hang out for the whole lunch, funnily enough🤣 they all progressed and branched out to make new friends and now that my sister is 11, it’s amazing to see how far she’s come. She went from not even talking to my grandma, auntie, uncle and cousins during visits, to starting her first day of year 7 all talkative and full of energy and having long phone calls with her friends on the phone. She now makes the most hilarious jokes at my grandma’s house and has the whole family laughing and it’s crazy to think that she never even spoke to them. She’s amazing. I love her so much
Same here
I wish we could get rid of the idea of a ‘perfect child’ no child is or will be perfect everyone has their own quirks and problems and they should still be accepted no matter the problem
You are so right. There is NO SUCH THING as a 'perfect child'
Yes!
exactlyno one or anything is perfect
I had to be a perfect kid in school 😐 and I a, the way I am because of that. I’m not like a bad person and rarely acted out in school because I had to be perfect
As a kid I agree! I'm tired of being compared to people like Cesar Millan(he's a dog trainer) or my cousin!
I remember being little and there was a girl in my gymnastics class with selective mutism. One day, our teacher said “If Daria speaks today, everyone gets ice cream!” ...It worked, she was so talkative and funny and we all got ice cream at the end. Her case was definitely less severe than Kathrine’s! I’m so happy that she’s improved so much by the end!
What if she didn't feel comfortable enough to? The whole class would have been mad at her for not getting ice cream. I mean its great that didn't happen tho
I have selective mutism and I do gymnastics Im 10 I'm scared to go to school I'm going to 5th grade
@@christopherhiggins3563 as long as you're happy... and if youre not do what makes you happy. :)
I had a child who was selectively mute in my class and another child could be hitting them take their toys from them and the child wouldn’t even cry. They wouldn’t peep. If it was safety I would have to step in, if it were toys at first I wouldn’t. I had to be this child’s voice and help them feel comfortable before they would even cry or ask for help.
H T I agree, looking back at it as an adult I don’t think it was the best or most mature way for the teacher to handle the situation (which wasn’t hers to handle)! Luckily it worked out but it easily could have gone another way
notice how kathrines friend was so supportive it was so cute
I wish I had a friend like that 😅
So cute. I feel bad for her 😢
Yeah it was so nice to see how supportive the other kids were, Henry's friends too stood by him.
Aww I wish that my friends were super supportive...instead of blocking me on FB.
@@AmandaConocido same :(
Did she seriously just say "I wish it had been a brain tumour because then they can just zap it out"? Wow
I think she just meant that somehing physical would be easier to deal with than mental. Which I think is a normal thing to think. It's much easier to deal with say, a broken arm, then say, depression or anxiety.
@@shevahauser1780 I have mental issues and it's very true what she said.
Sheva Hauser that’s right but, did she really had it to put it like that?? it’s so harsg
Yeah I was about to make a comment on that. It is very sad she said that
Sounds devastating but, I don’t think you’d understand unless you’re going through it.
If you clicked on this video just because you want to know about the person that's in the title and thumbnail; the girl that you're looking for is Katherine, here are the time stamps for when she comes on:
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UM THANKS
Tysm
THANK YOUUUU
I made it 100 thanks
You're the unsung hero
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”
Very well said :)
Absolutely love this comment ❤
I like how the friends of the boy with tics is super supportive of him. They understand & know how to deal with him. That’s true friends.
I thought they were his brother because the way the talk about him. It’s heartwarming
That was so nice to see.
I had a student like Katherine two years ago. At home she was a vibrant talkative child, but in the classroom and during small group she wouldn't say anything. Sometimes I would hear her from a distance whispering to another child, but the noise was so low you couldn't tell exactly what she was saying. The parents fought with me at first saying nothing was wrong with their child, but after months of fighting back I was able to get her the support she needed. Now she leads whole group lessons in a specialized classroom and is finally opening up!
God bless you for being such a good teacher.
How did you help her? I've a student with a quite similar situations as yours and finding it difficult to get her out of it. Thank you!
Amazing
U did the right thing helping ur student
@@heshanidelange8186 sorry for the late response! im horrible with youtube comments. I didn't necessarily get her out of her myself. i got her tested which she in turn qualified for SPED support. with that she was able to get goals which helped her open up. goals that were "in-line" with her educational needs like talking and verbal expression. she still whispers after two years later, but she now talks to adults.
I'm glad selective mutism is recognized and has therapies right now. When I was a child, 30 years ago, not even the psychologists knew about it. They were just saying that I was a bit shy and would grow out of it. Not true. My classmates were bullying me and adults never understood anything about me. I'm glad things changed so much since.
This was me all throughout childhood and as a result i was sent to special schools and classes. At one point called stubborn by a teacher and put in time outs. Very glad to know it is recognized today and there are other people out there who are the same. It is a struggle that is for sure.
Same here. I never got diagnosed with anything. My parents got told I would grow out of it. The teacher would stop the whole class lesson to demand that I speak and answer him. Classmates got so upset with me all the time.
Now I have two autistic kids. One severely
yep me too I was horrificly bullied about it throughout school
Me too ❤
I’m selective mute. I get told off all the time. By everyone. Called rude. Disrespectful... like come on I can’t control it
My Journey With Meadow it’s different for everyone but they could be lying
My Journey With Meadow its different for everyone. how are you going to tell someone they're lying and roll eyes about it like you really know them. Maybe they just could be recording when it's not happening.
My Journey With Meadow your rude and probably a karen too.
My Journey With Meadow I'm not 12 but you are acting like a Karen telling someone they're lying you don't know them. You don't know everything about everyone's brain so just stop.
chyan or I’ll continue commenting on a public video, because I can 🤷🏽♀️
I want to know if that little girl has been able to talk in her classroom yet!
Yeah I wonder the same thing. She was definitely making progress by the end of the documentary though. She was engaging in one-on-one play and communicating with that other little girl. But obviously shut down again when she was with the whole class. Guess it’s just something you have to take baby steps with, like anything.
yuki cross yes but they want her to improve
@yuki cross It's not so much about that...it's that she needs to be able to communicate in every day situations. Her education will suffer, she won't be able to communicate her needs or if she's hurt. I've known of kids who are selective mutes that literally will not tell anyone they are hurt. I know someone literally broke his arm and they only found out when he got home.
I’m selective mute. People try pressuring me into speaking with people. It ain’t very nice. Makes me not wanan talk to people and makes communication feel like a chore and set my anxiety off even more than it already is
Katherine can speak now I was in that class that she was in I am the browned hair girl with the fringe that was in front of her and was friends with her and also this was nearly 10 years ago that they filmed it
We need to stop normalizing what a “normal” child should be.
Fr
Amen
Shut up
When I was in the 5th grade we got a new girl in like January and her and I became instant friends. She has selective mutism and at first the only way we would communicate is through writing. I tried to help her talk in class and stuff, and overtime she began to whisper in my ear to talk to me. By the end of the year she sang along with the whole class at promotion. Sadly I lost touch with her :(
camryn keeney that is so sweet
No! You need to try finding her again! That would be an amazing reunion!
I hope you guys ended on good terms ❤❤
I'm 17 and still have SM ;^;
Using Zoom has actually made school so much easier, though. Since I can always just use the chat function, I don't feel out of place and I can actually express myself, especially since there's a private chat to message the teacher, and usually a public one for the whole class to see. Feels like I'm actually a part of the class for the first time in my life. Only good thing about 2020 haha.
So i don't have sm but this description perfectly what i felt like through the whole of school. I was just called shy and told to try and speak up in class more.
While I was watching I was wo during if zoom classes would be helpful. I'm glad it was helpful for you!
Online school was a lot better for some people. It's too bad it's not always an option.
I am 15 and the same way.
Yess, I'm 17 too. I always participated in zoom chats, finally got to live out the dream of answering a question I knew was right 😂 miss that
Adam has such a healing smile on his face, all the time. I cried with his mom, when he finally got an official diagnosis. Now they're going to be able to send him to a special needs school if need be, rather than fighting with the public schools.
This was me in school. I was never social. I was scared to speak. I was scared to do anything...
Same, I know how you feel. ❤️❤️❤️
I hated school
Same
I hated school too, but I do love school. But I have some very (not all the time) naughty students in my classroom
So one time, some students (they also teens) gave unkind comments to another student (my other classmate)
I actually had to go to what they called pre first grade because I was so scared and shy in Kindergarten that they said I wasn't ready for first grade yet.
Psychiatrist: what makes you angry?
Child: ........people
Me: me too people, more and more. ( I'm 62 )
Kathi Dori ok?...
@@maryxvlone5003 ( Yes, I'm ok, I should accept people as they are ) . I'm sorry to show my disappointement, when those brave kids and parents in this video are struggling with so heavy conditions.
Kathi Dori ok
Your almost 70
Kxley ikr
My little sister has cerebral palsy and she's perfect to me I couldn't ask her to be anything better ♥️
Yes I agree
It's nice to see how accepting the other children are, the way the mute girl's class learned sign language, and her little friend was so kind. And Henry, all his friends stood by him and he's still able to participate in their hobbies.
I was like this growing up. My teachers would constantly tell my parents that I hardly spoke up and was really quiet and they would never understand because they had such a talkative kid at home! It got better as I grew older, although I'm still struggling to speak in my college courses!
I was the same way. My parents were defensive about it so I never got any help or therapy. It took a lot of overcoming in my own head and I've accepted that I will always have to deal with it. I'm glad you're taking steps out of your comfort zone, you've got this!
Watching Katherine improve made me emotional because I was in the same situation as her! From the time I was 2 to 7, I struggled with selective mutism. It was one of the hardest things to deal with, but I eventually got on a medication for anxiety and it truly changed everything! I wish Katherine the best in her journey, I'm rooting for her!
Could I please ask which country you are from and what medicine it was?
I was just like Catherine in school but instead of helping me, they tried to hold me back I had great grades but there excuse was they didn't know if I understood. I'm like my grades prove I do. I still struggle with it now I completely shut down in social situations with large numbers of people. I will speak to people on occasion but mostly I just stare at people until they go away😅
How did they not know you understood the work? As long as the work is written down then there's proof you understand
@@elliex4136 some schools are slow ☺
I think it was probably more because when young kids are in school they're expected to reach certain developmental milestones by a certain point. And being able to speak and communicate with others is one of those milestones. So a child with selective mutism is arguably struggling to get to that milestone, which for some schools is grounds for holding that child back.
@@elliex4136 my point exactly!
@@jupitersnoot4915 unfortunately these teachers did not like me I was the only one they singled out, they would make me eat lunch in the class by myself while everyone went to the cafeteria, would make me sit in the dark class and would Rip up stuff I had done. Fortunately I only went there a year.
When Katherine started crying, I actually started to develop teary eyes as I understand exactly what she's going through as I am also a selective on top of ADHD.😕
Awww Adams mom! ❤️ Her having a diagnosis gives her hope and resources and experts and a community of people that truly understand.
This is so weird, I was selective mute at school until age 6, looking back the other children would say why don’t you just talk?! Just say something, and that made it worse and made me go into my shell more, especially because I knew if I did say something there would be a huge deal made about it. But eventually I did grow out of it. I’ve never seen or met anyone else with the same thing , especially as it was so long ago now. Very interesting!
Also, my family had to record me reading books at home, as they weren’t able to prove I could actually read so we would keep a record through filming me at home!
same but i think i was seven
Same goes for me.
Most of us with it have had comments like that, I thought it was only me that had this back when I was younger.
My heart goes out to all the families. I love Henry, his mom, his family, and his friends really meeting this change with courage, grace, and love.
Katherine is so freaking adorable. Bless her heart.
:)
My son didn't speak his first year of preschool! The teacher called me to ask if he was hearing impaired or had any other problem. We explained that he talked at home, though he was shy around strangers. Today he is an articulate, intelligent, personable 36-year-old!
Kathrine really touched me. My best friend was selective mute and when we were in first grade I sat out with her and played games and we had someone sit with us at lunch and I didn’t think it was odd and until last week I didn’t even know she had selective mutism I just thought she didn’t like talking because I just saw it from my view how she talked to me and I sat by her in class and when the teacher called on her she whispered to me the awnser and I said it to the teacher and I actually also had a tiny bit of selective mutism because of my anxiety
As an autistic female that also had selective mutism as a child. My parents saw nothing wrong lol I spoke to the people I needed to and that's it I spoke to like 1 other child who to this day is my best friend. I emulate others and that worked for me.
exact
Katherine may have ADD like me and she’s over stimulated in settings like traditional school. Often young girls fall into a grey area that no one quite knows what to do with. Keeping up with a large crowd and a back to back schedule like that forces you to exude so much energy... sometimes all your energy. It’s a lot. Often it feels easier to be more quiet, observe and just get along. God bless her 💫
yes, she could be autistic or ADD/ADHD (or both). it is more common in neurodivergent people to shut down and this can mean going mute, usually because of sensory processing difficulties. or she could be socially overwhelmed, or both. v interesting
I have to disagree. I think she has exactly what they say she has, selective mutism.
I thought that or anxiety my little girl has anxiety she's also very intelligent so she reacts differently than average children, we have a lot of struggles the main comment we get is wow Ellie is a genius you guys are so lucky if only they knew what we have to go through and her to go through at times
This is me when I was younger. I was just painfully shy
"what makes me angry?"
"people."
mood tho
I had social anxiety in school always quite until I got home and I had trouble holding a conversation
Same now....
I can’t get enough of this show!
Uea
Yea
Sameee
Technically, they can’t give Henry an F on his exams because of his Tourette’s. He can’t help it 😔
I had social anxiety most of my life. I never talked in school. My teacher asked my parents if anything was wrong at home. I’d take a zero grade if I had to do a group project or speak out loud, wouldn’t go to the bathroom or run in homework so nobody would look at me. Poor Katherine 😞
I'm like you right now ,I feel like dying
I knew a girl in kindergarten who had selective mutism and she had a twin who talked for her when they were together, but they seemed really nice
okay but kathrine is litterally adorable, shes so prettyyyy. and her friends are so supportive.
I suffered from selective mutism in the 70's and when I say suffered I mean suffered. Teachers screamed in my face, even though I was a very small child for my age and made excellent marks, they thought I should be bullied. I was told I was just stubborn. There were no special circumstances made for me or even a name to call my issue. I was literally frozen in fear all the time at school. Watching this video was very emotional for me even all these years later. I did eventually outgrow my selective mutism around age 9, but remained timid and fearful until about 15. I'm so glad children can get support and understanding now. I wouldn't want anyone to go through that, so alone and afraid, as I did.
I also suffered in the 60 s. Teachers made me sit in front of the class and screamed at me , when there was class parties I was sent in the hall , Kids were encouraged to make fun of me , my parents would tell the school how I would talk at home and how good I could read but they didn’t believe it they had my parents take me to a psychiatrist who said I should be put in an institution but they refused , the dr told me I was a baby cause only babies don’t speak and I should wear diapers and I would never have friends ,after a few sessions my parents stopped taking me , the principal would call me in his office and ask why I was so stubborn and didn’t talk , recess was a nightmare kids would chase me and take my stuff and no one did anything , I think they thought I would eventually tell them to stop ,I did make one friend from 4 to 6 th grade , she was nice to me and eventually I would whisper to her and then talk to her outside of school , I just couldn’t bring myself to speak all through elementary school , when I got to middle school at 13 I did start talking to a few kids and then answering teachers questions and I felt more comfortable but I was still considered shy , years later when I was in high school wr heard the phrase selective mutism and we figured out what I had , my son ended up having it also but then I knew what it was
@@nancydambrot5941 That's just awful. The adults were the cruel ones. They couldn't see past their own belief that it was a disciplinary problem. I'm sorry you went through that. Clearly the trauma of these childhood experiences are felt long into adulthood.
“10 year old Adam isn’t like other boys his age”
Neither am I.
Okay...?
edgy much???
cool, would you like a reward for that?
we get it your quirky
Um Okkk anyone else
I was mute preschool - year 2. I then just talked when I needed too as it still gave me extreme anxiety. When I found someone I connected with I started getting in trouble for talking too much 😂 I'm now medicated for anxiety so I can be myself every where I go, it's an amazing feeling but I still feel anxious to an extent.
I really feel for parents who have these struggles with their children. It makes me happy when they get some answers. It must be such a relief.
I was like that in kindergarten I was mute my anxiety was bad
Mine was in preschool I was even too scared to put my hands up
0:15 “one in 10 children are struggling to fit in”
Where’d they get those stats?! It’s gotta be at least 7 in 10 😂😭 I was expecting a 9 tbh
Edit: Well I guess I’m thinking about bullying and feelings of exclusion, when here they mean disability. Because tbh even many “normal” kids get excluded because of how much they weigh or what things they like or how smart they are or, idk anything! Who really fits in these days? Idk 😞
I know how this family feel my son is just like this he is worse with the agression and I have had to get him some extra help.😥
prayers are being sent your way. :)
Thank you so much!
Catherine is like my little sister. My little sister has social anxiety. She is very talkative at home, she never talks around people (except family) and always shuts down whenever we are leaving the house.
In preschool, my sister was a selective mute. She would stay silent in the corner while the other kids played, talked, and laughed. She had always been talkative at home, so it was pretty out of the character for her. At the time I was in kindergarten and I would always get a ride to the daycare where she would talk to me in a very low wispier.
I'm a preschool teacher and I had a selective mute in my group last year. I worked with her for nine months and I built trust with her before attempting to get her to speak. I waited two months before I first asked her to speak to me. It took another month before she did. I started by allowing her to feel a small bit of anxiety before accepting none verbal communication which I increased over time. The first time she spoke to me I had to take her to a quiet place and close my eyes. After that I built on her speech daily and when she was comfortable in encouraged other people to join in. By the end of my time with her she was speaking with other people a little bit and I've heard that she speaks in school now.
Thank you for being so consistent and suppotive for that child. I hope my 5 y.o. will meet someone like you to get over her selective mutism.
I’ve been teaching elementary school for 17 years. I’ve known 2 students who never spoke. It’s rare, but real.
The more you pressure the child, the worse the problem becomes. I think many are cases of what used to be called conversion disorder. Others seem to be on the autism spectrum. Sensory integration and anxiety issues seem to be in play as well. When there’s no pressure, some are entirely unremarkable. Nobody would notice anything unusual.
I can relate to Katherine. I didn’t speak aloud at school unless absolutely required, and then I’d speak rapidly in a monotone. By the end of year three I began to outgrow it, first with peers, then with adults. At home, no problem. In 1963, people thought I was just a defiant child.
"Does it bother you that you are different?" What kind of psycologist is that?!??!
I agree. Also when she says “It’s not that it is his fault” and then nods her head!
I’m so pleased he got his long awaited diagnosis but I didn’t like the psychologist
Why can't everyone just love everyone. Be kind to everyone. Maybe that person is having a bad day or whatever. Why can't we just have fun and make great memories. If someone doesn't like someone which is def fine, just don't hang out with that person. If u have to, just be nice n move the f on!!!!! That would be way too easy tho i guess..
I was mute until I turned four. I started to speak simple words like mama or train at three and a half. I started to fully talk at four and was a chatterbox, I can never stop talking!
the way the boys dog comforted him and showed so much love for him melted my heart!
Mom: what makes you angry
Adam: people
Me : this kid sounds like me
Aww I love Catherine. She reminds me very much of my younger self when I suffered with selective mutism and social anxiety as a child.
My child has selective mutism too he's 10 n has autism n severe learning difficulties but looking at him u would never know about the challenges he faces
When I saw this title, I knew exactly what this was. In elementary school, I had selective mutism! It’s very real! The reason I say “it’s very real” is because people used to tell me it wasn’t real. For instance, I was in a public place this one time-and my dad offered me $20 to simply whisper in his ear (where no one could hear me). But I just…. physically couldn’t. It’s such intense social anxiety…. to the point where you shut down!
I got better, though! One time, I spoke in front of my entire third grade class, and my teacher was SO PROUD OF ME!
Yesssss I'm so glad this series is back, I've been waiting since 2017!
This episode has already been uploaded on youtube
I’m mute every time I go to work
Ms Sagittarius Same here, I don’t know what to say to others
Jill Owls lol same
There's NOTHING wrong with being different. EVERYONE are perfect because of imperfections 😊
I am so happy that lady I was able to help her to talk with her best friend there in School thank you Lord
Am I the only one that is so scared to go back to schoool because of social anxiety and getting judged ect :(
No you're not i felt exactly that way when i was in school. You are not alone feeling like this
My 5 y.o. is selective mute, such a torture and 0 help from the system, just going in circles, from doctor to a doctot
i have it as well also selective mutism sometimes can be a anxiety disorder also some kids may grow out of selective mutism although its not always possible but some kids may be stuck with it but all you need to do is give y.o a bit of time until he/she is comfortable :)
0:30 why did I think he was reacting like spongebob when he was trying to get home but he kept missing the bus💀
i went to school with a woman who refused to speak in year 6. she only spoke with her best friend. it wasnt until maybe 3/4th into the year she verbally replied to the teacher.
shes was verbal the next year. idk what happened over the summer, and its none of my business. i still keep in touch with her. shes a nice woman.
OMG! Katherine really thouched my heart! So heartbreaking 😢💔
:)
Watching Katherine broke my heart because my 5 year old boy is the same, he also goes really quiet when he hurts himself or is hurt by another child. It kills me watching him go through it.
All my heart goes out to Catherine x
I was just like Catherine in school. I slowly grew out of it. I’m 22 now. I would talk all day long at home but went straight mute at school and social events. She’ll probably grow out of it or slowly become more verbal. I’m still this way sometimes when meeting new people.
I love that Henry’s friends have stayed by his side and are supporting him. 💙
Little Katherine is so sweet.
Why does Henry's mum act as though hes a burden to her 😤
I did not speak at first year either. I hasn’t been with children before! I remember that feeling of not having a voice.
She dosen't feel safe. She feel safer at home than at School. And feels like shell be judge. Sign launguage is awsome thats quite help ful.
I'm in year 8 since I started nursery I never talked in school I have selective mutism anxiety and autism and reading most comments there saying the used to get bullied I never got bullied for not talking people in school treats me the same as everyone else and doesn't Force me to talk and I do write on paper and stuff to communicate and stuff ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
As someone who's still working on figuring out their diagnosis but has been disabled for a while I hate the framing of us being a burden and having to hate ourselves and feel miserable ect ect...like damn y'all. Also I hate how much of the focus is the pov of the parents instead of the kids themselves being given most of the limelight since it's THEIR lives and conditions, not the parents. They can't understand know matter how close they are to the person who has a disability. Exhausting
Beautiful people, kids and parents ❤
I’m chatty in my house but at school friends family I go mute
I was one of those childern who went mute in class. At home I was out going and never stopped talking. School was stressful and we really weren't allowed to talk in class.
My younger brother has turrets and honestly, I don't mind. He's the best little brother anyone could have. It's not even annoying.
I had a friend in primary school that I showed around when she first started. She never used to speak until we started hanging out in primary school more and when I went to her house I found out she was a fun chatty girl. Now I realise she had selective mutism but it makes me feel happy bc I was the only person she would ever wisper to
I had this. 'What a name my child is not perfect' 😆 nobody's is.
6:29 oh bro tell me about it 😂
There was a girl in Australia who had Torets, she had a new Parkinson's surgery to help her. It was so surve she couldn't live at home and now she can.
I was selective mute. I turned out fine.
oh my God i was selectively mute in primary school too for years until one day my teacher was taking the register and then stopped at my name and said "I'm not going to continue until you speak and say here miss" and that's the first time I ever spoke and have spoken since hahaha, I'll never forget that teacher she kinda changed my life with just that one small thing.
The word "perfect child" is so horrible cause it's hurtful. It can cause ASD and ADHD kids to mask and hide it causing them to be under diagnosed. And neurodivergent kids are more likely to commit suicide as is and they're not stupid they can understand that they don't fit in and that ppl are judging them. I went from the "perfect child" to the disappointment child because I started failing and my mental health declined and it sucks cause I've known my entire life im nothing like ppl my age and Im not "normal" and that adds on to low self esteem and lack of confidence
I have a friend, a close one in fact, who has select mutism. He usually doesn't talk to me if were in class or near other people but during lunch or on the bus he's a WHOLE other person. It is fun to talk to him though because he's so creative.
I had a friend who couldn't speak and had problems walking. I would always ACE my tests and I would always give up my play time to teach him so he could get an A too! To me teaching him and helping him get an A was better than any play time I couldve ever had.
Adams masking in the doctors office shows why so many children dont get diagnosed
The crazy part is, that trait would be more associated with autistic girls who are trying to get a diagnosis. You made an excellent point about Adam, since there are boys who mask and we might not notice it.
NOT ALL AUTISTIC PEOPLE ARE THE SAME THEY ARE ALL DIFFERENT AND NEED DIFFERENT THINGS FOR IT OMG THAT MAKES ME SO MAD THAT PEOPLE THINK THAT THEY ARE ONLY AUTISTIC IF THEY ACT ONE WAY OR THE OTHER LIKE SHE DIDNT GET ANY ANSWERS FOR 8 YEARS. UGH😤😤😡😡😡
My 22 year old brother has never spoken to my dad .. only to my mom.. he never had friends at school because of it.. he sh and peed his pants on the daily at school because he was "too shy" to ask for permission.. still to this day he never says a peep all day just in his room .. he been living 22 years without existing..
I feel Katherine honestly, my social anxiety only started this year when I reached year 10 but I got such severe panic attacks that I haven’t been able to go back since Term 2. Now I just do school from home bc when I go anywhere with a lot of people I can’t handle it
I’m so sorry about that, I hope and pray that you get better! God bless you! 💜💜💜
I still get selective mutism in some social interactions. Especially when i get stressed at work. My brain shuts down. I dont speak.
15:04 Kathrines friend is so sweet 🥺🥺😩
I’m just starting to realize that the selective mutism I had all through out elementary school was not my fault I couldn’t control, but everyone made it seem like it was my fault, my mom treated me so badly, it brings me to tears every time I think about it, there is no reason a 10 year old should feel the need to off themselves because of the things their mom did and said to them, and my school was so horrible, they forced me into reading, yelled at me, and everyone including my own family laughed at me. I’m now 16 years old with social anxiety but I’m no longer mute at school, I still don’t have friends and I can’t make conversations, the only thing that keeping me from offing myself is my religion, I’m Muslim and it’s forbidden to off yourself, if it wasn’t I swear I would’ve been gone a long long time ago.
This video makes me hate school even more :)