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I love your vids but that side note of "and it'd be rude to even tell someone they're being rude" pisses me off so much. Just be upfront and tell me im doing something wrong instead of talking behind my back. I know, different cultures but jeez 😥
I get all this. Japan's people seem very considerate compared to the Western world. I agree with most of them, but the one about giving a gift when you get one, I sure don't agree with that one. What if someone can't afford it? Did you and Maiko give gifts to the people who gave you baby gifts, etc. ?? The dog pee was a bit extreme too. However, I'm from Canada and I'm very blunt and say what's on my mind. They would be talking behind my back a lot! Hahaha Great video though. I think it's good that Japan expects people to change to their culture. Lot's of people get angry here in Canada because we have an extreme amount of immigrants, which is fine, but we've changed so many laws and rules to adapt to their culture not the other way around. That really angers me. They should adapt to ours or don't come. 💙🕊️🕊️💙
I’m a Japanese. Those manners and rules are stressful even for Japanese people. Sometimes, Japanese are feel weird about the rules and manners. I believe, I respect the rules but we don’t have to be too much strict. If someone had mistake, just forgive and explain for them. It is the most important thing. Big love for world.
I like your perspective, but i wonder if many other japanese think the same. Though, i have talked with a few japanese exchange students and they seem much more relaxed like yourself, so perhaps the new generations are more open to foreigners.
but i seen different.. seriously...japanese are so friendly and funny , i dont know because im from indonesia which having several similar culture for manners ..?..
@@brotherhood8852 Yes it’s true. I’m happy to hear that. However, someone like lazy or racist people doesn’t even explain to them. Because they’re feel lazy and annoying to explain to them. Of course they can’t understand completely. But we should effort to explain them. And we should understand each other.
i love Japan but they are plain wrong on this topic. Like it's objectively dysfunctional behavior to talk behind someone back rather than grow a pair and give feedback. They need to level up.
Yes, this is the one I found hardest to understand when I worked there. However, after a while, I came to appreciate the indirect approach. It doesn’t allow arguments etc to escalate or get so ugly because it is less confrontational.
@@tiashiraz8430 The problem there is that small issues are allowed to escalate in the background because they're not taken care of truthfully and directly.
@@vespagts7078 I think we value the idea of “honesty and directness” a lot in the West and assume that it brings about positive outcomes in the end. I am not so convinced of that any more. I think there is a lot to be said for not confronting certain issues ‘head on’. That doesn’t mean you don’t deal with them, but you do so in a more subtle way.
@@andywilliams8540 there’s no right or wrong in cultures mate. We don’t confront “wrongdoings” directly to avoid any confrontations and embarrassment. And while some do, we don’t talk behind ppls back because that itself is negative conversation, which gives negative impressions. We just keep it to ourselves. The condescending tone like yours from foreigners is one of the things we don’t appreciate.
@@francoislechanceux5818 really? Yellow people? No wonder why in general nobody wants a pathetic racist 🙄 Edit: haha that's funny how you self liked ur own comment cause no one will💖 i mean, unless there are others out there with a pea size brain then yeah,
@@Lara-vo6rp Why racist though? He just stated a skin color. Though I'm not sure if yellow is the universal color which can describe all asian people skin, but this has nothing to do with racism. You're exaggerating. Being so sensitive about skin color is as racist as discrimination based on race.
@@Lara-vo6rp I think you had very hard problem understanding my text, that you didn't even notice I highlighted this: "Though I'm not sure if yellow is the universal color which can describe all asian people skin, but this has nothing to do with racism.". You answered me with agression and contempt, which is typical for SJWs. You're just throwing accusations without any respect, to people, who are not ideologically aligned with you. I won't waste any more time, because I don't have more to say.
@@Isharoth did you just edit your comment? Or is it my fault I misread it? Also in your mind it was aggression, I was speaking in a passive sarcastic way. Either way if it is my fault then my bad. If I truly did misread, I apologize.
When my wife and I moved into our new home in Gakugei we bought and made a gift package for everyone on our floor. The reaction we got was mostly the look of 'why are you knocking on my door' Only one family accepted the gift. It was definitely odd.....even in Canada people were more welcoming.
Japanese people are generally not welcoming, especially in Tokyo. They don't want to see new people regardless of their nationality. They don't like strangers in general because trusting strangers can lead to dangers. North Americans are much much more welcoming when it comes to strangers.
This may be impossible for westerners to comprehend, but the Japanese actually save money. It does not mean that every household is rolling in cash, but if you save money over time, you may find that you can also be more generous for important occasions like weddings.
Now I understand why many Japanese migrate to Australia. I remember asking a Japanese friend why he moved because I had this idea that japan was this magical place of anime, good food, etc but then he always said "it's just easier " .
I asked the same thing to a Japanese friend of mine and she said "It's the pressure all around you. Sometimes I felt like I couldn't breathe properly. I felt extremely selfish just because I wanted some time to be myself".
@@johanna_na well that opinion based on your living situation / experience / knowledge / culture. You can't expect everyone to do the same, each place have their own rules and it's culture
I came back to Japan for 6-7 weeks after I traveled the US, lived in Australia, Canada, and Germany now. After 5 years, even though I left Japan like "Too many rules, conservative, I can't be myself" and thought "Never come back", now came back and I am just moved and surprised, how people are so friendly, kind and helpful and polite and everywhere is perfectly clean.(cleaner) I am glad that I see my country from a new perspective. But if you LIVE (not just travel) in this country as a person from a foreign countries, you will confront lots of things and will struggle, feel frustrated. Also if you don't speak good Japanese, not so many people are good at speaking English. So you will have a hard time. Good technology and good services, clean environment, people's politeness, good manners comes with the decipline, hardworking and many rules that they are taught to follow since their childhood. But again, if you don't grow up here, you will struggle with culture shock that I have been dealing with in foreign countries.
I am a Japanese high school girl. I am sorry for my poor English due to lack of study. It is true that such implicit rules exist, but we do not ask foreigners for them. Some of the rules introduced here are not so important because even Japanese people find it annoying. Japanese people are strict with Japanese people, but they are very tolerant when dealing with foreigners. You don't have to be so scared of the rules.
@@AdityaShah749 like seriously she already said her English isn't that well and on top of that this video is talking about the "rules". Is it all of them. Idk, youtube it
That wedding rule has me pretty lost. In America its rude to share the cost of the gift with the person receiving the gift. We always take the price tag off of the gift before wrapping. If I am understanding correctly in Japan you not only share the cost of the gift with the person receiving but they also give you a small portion of the gift back so you can get yourself a gift? I dont quite understand that one.
Definitely seems dumb to me, while I can understand why you would give the other person a gift after you receive one from them. It basically shows that you appreciate their gift and they do not feel ashamed that you did not appreciate the gift
Seperating yourself from the living is callous, and seperating yourself from the deceased isn't why you came to their grave. Remind me why you'd want to wear sunnies to a funeral? Oh. Right. The crying. Yeah that must be super awkward in a crowd of other crying people, gathered to pay respects to the departed. Must be such a downer for all the cocktail parties and polomatches the graveyard is normally hosting.
@@InservioLetum It goes right back in with the "don't let them see you cry" mentality of a lot of the older generation. Heaven forbid Grandma and Grandpa see you cry after they've spent your whole life telling you that big kids don't cry. That being said, it's a stupid mentality and one I would like to see slowly fade until we can learn to better balance our emotions.
Absolutely love your videos. They are very well presented and give amazing insights into Japanese life and culture. Please keep making them. Regards Pana (from Australia.)
@@Sniper0502 no. It's a culture that teaches honor and is also based on shame, that is the true reason for high suicide. Fail at something and you're a disgrace.
A lot of Depression and also pressure Lots of it from the older generation who are bosses or directors=( INCHO)(Japanese meaning) Being from Australia n all. It’s an experience but not always on positive. People work to hell n back for Perfection here to the detail. If it’s not enough people have committed suicide from being under that much Pressure.
@@roaringlizard so basically you're saying that they work and die with honour? Ok thats something nonsense to do Its not even a honour to die cuz work too hard, its more shame than die didnt do anything They need to change their culture a little rather than being a machine that works full time 24 hours Humans have advantages but also we have limits Their teaching about full time work is killing people
I understand the idea of "you got me something, let me get you something!" But a friend (not a Japanese one or anything) once said, "If I expected something in return, it wouldn't be a gift." Which is how I've always thought of it too, I'm doing something nice for you. The only thing I expect in return is a thank you.
Right! This is why I hate receiving gifts. Don’t bother giving me something, because I might hate the gesture. I grew up not expecting anything. On the other hand, I do like giving someone a gift, favor or anything, but as you’ve said it wouldn’t be a gift if you give something in return to what I gave you. I’ll be happier if someone would say thank you and doesn’t bother to plan how to return the favor.
This is not the case for every culture. You guys need to realize that different cultures can have different viewpoints on things. I’m Turkish, and we have a similar tradition about wedding gifts. The couple’s friends and relatives have to gift them a gold bracelet (or just gold if they can’t afford that). Then the couple is supposed to gift them a gold bracelet similar to what they were given in their weddings too. This doesn’t mean we don’t value your gift or that we are greedy. Just different viewpoints.
my question about this is, whats about u CANT pay back the gift...can u said no, i dont really want this gift, because i cant pay back? this receiving gifts is ok, but what will do a poor person if they got a rich person who give them a gift?
XD that's quite Thai for me (since I'm Thai). Yes, if you wanna gift someone, you wouldn't expect anything in return in the first place, you just..... gift.
In Germany it is illegal to not take a minimum number of days per year off, in Japan it is illegal to take the days off written on your contract. Well not totally but almost getting there.
@@ricardoquintana4080 it's a so called social phenomenon culture, Japanese are known to over work then self for perfection. So they'll work willingly till they are out or dead. While in china company will take advantage of employee n force work them till they are out or dead.
That's not true, regarding Germany. There's no law that tells you that you *have* to take your vacation, as far as I know. And in some jobs (for example those that depend on the weather/climate), while it's not recommended, people cut deals with their employer to just pay them for vacation days not taken.
@@drsnova7313 There is. You're supposed to take a set amount at minimum, but you don't have to take all of your vacation days. No one really checks that but an employee who's completely refused vacation could get their employer into trouble.
Some of those japanese are like of Pharisees.Eg. Wash hands before you eat and etc while showing no respect or do not mind about what really make us dirty inside. Nothing has changed after the pandemic here. People here would not exchange handshakes or even hugs.
This is interesting. I can appreciate the culture based around respect & honor. It seems counter productive to not tell people if they're making impasses though. If I was doing something wrong, I would want my friends & neighbors to tell me I am. I think it's important that people do their best to fit in & show respect for the communities they're in & videos like this help give us windows into seeing how to do so. Thank you
I have a Japanese friend who tells me all these things. I just act aggressively American and teach him culture, and rely on him to tell me when to stop lol
The only word that I find here out of place is Honor... Consideration, common courtesy & thoughtfulness just as you expect this from others, it's good enough. Honor belongs elsewhere. Unless you're ready to do a "hara-kiri" for some reason... (suicide by knife)
A culture based on respect & honor? Are you high? A culture, manners and behavior is based on convenience and obedience. Control, control, control... Only the North American Indians culture was based on honor, respect of life & mother earth
Being told you're being rude, even by accident, can create shame. That would mean you have a game of "rude but ignorant or shall I introduce shame in this moment?" Most of us would do the former because it's not worth risking the shame. Even in America, etiquette and hospitality experts would say the faux paus of someone else does not mean you then should be rude or embarrass the person. I agree though, videos like this are important to learn how to not BE accidentally rude in the first place!
Being considerate of each other isn't why Japanese are stressed. They're stressed for the same reasons why Americans (and most other people) are stressed: work, finances, health, time management
Don't hate your co-workers for taking time off that are legally allowed to take. Hate your company for putting you in a position that makes it hard to take vacations. No one on their deathbed thinks "Oh I should have worked more hours at my job".
And that is where the culture difference kicks in. Don't apply western values on a Asian society. I don't agree with their approach to taking time off either. But i'm not in the place to tell them to screw themselves. We need to either adapt or simply stay away.
@Lhasa Thailand Completely agree. As a french person where most people work 35h/week and enjoy quite a lot of days off /year... I find it quite sad how japanese are living to work. But that's just how they are, and I'm too biased to judge. It's slowly changing tho. Japanese young people are less and less afraid to change company anymore if work conditions are bad.
The thing is it’s not just about not taking your entitlement - it’s consideration. By checking with your coworkers you are taking time to be considerate of them. It is very hard to understand this from a western perspective because the west tends more toward individualism.
One thing that I really admire in Japanese culture is their attention to cleanliness. That thing about taking care of your dog pee totally makes sense for me.
When you receive a gift, you give a gift back. They recieve a gift, they give you another gift. You recieve a gift, you give a gift back. They recieve a gift, they give you another gift. Infinite loop of gifts!
@@Mwoods2272 Each return gift loses 50-70% of the value of the previous gift, so it would actually fall towards zero over time. It would be soon be a competition to find the cheapest possible gift.
So what I'm hearing is 1. Consult with coworkers on taking time off 2. Buy gifts for coworkers after vacations 3. Greet your neighbors and bring them gifts upon moving in (that's an interesting one, where Im from neighbors bring new neighbors gifts as a house warming present) 4. Properly take off shoes and orient them toward the door upon entering another's home 5. Do not touch and then return food in supermarkets 6. Educate yourself on table etiquette and do not lick chop sticks 7. Wash away dog pee when walking dog 8. Give new money in even amounts instead of gifts for wedding 9. Give back a gift of around 30-40% value in return for a gift received. 10. Do not wear sunglasses to funerals.
I'm not even Japanese, but I used to bring my colleagues gifts after vacations, but never got any from them lol so it's nice to hear there's actually such tradition in Japan
You can touch and return food at the same time. A lot of japanese do it. LoL. Well I agree that if you think Japan was a magical place like anime. Don't ever dream of coming here. People spend all of their lives working. You cannot survive here if your mindset was just to see an anime real live action. If you're allergic to stress, just leave Japan alone.
A lot of this just makes sense to me, and I don't feel annoyed at all. I work for a small local business in a town and always give advance warnings when I need to take time off, and my boss makes a schedule to fit everyone's needs. Also, I am always happy to fill in whenever someone needs to go to a doctor's appointment, go to a funeral, take care of a sick family member, etc. I even did this when I worked for bigger businesses to reduce stress for my manager and help out the other employees.
@lil trol I didn’t say gossip isn’t toxic. I’m saying it’s prevalent in almost every culture. Especially in the US; you must live under a rock if you think manners exist here at all. Almost anything goes in the US. The UK is also very big into gossip.
Me: I hope I make lots of friends when I move to Japan to work in 2021 You: ３００００￥ wedding gifts Me: I hope I make no friends when I move to Japan to work in 2021
I grew up in a rural area in the U.S. and if anyone moved in, you took a food dish of some sort to the person moving in as a welcome gesture. Also, when a friend, neighbor, family member passes away, it is customary to take a dish to the family as a sign of respect and thoughtfulness.
Even in suburbs this used to be the norm. I'm kinda sad that it sounds like the younger kids in Japan are starting to loose this tradition too. Its ok not to be particularly buddy-buddy with your neighbors, but its also a VERY good idea to know them at least a little.
I'm from the UK and the 'discussing time off' and 'bringing treats back from holidays' are things I've experienced here. The first one being in both shift work and in a small office. So many people complain if someone takes time off during busy periods and since it was an accountants office, taking time off within the two months before the end of the tax year is pretty much banned even if they don't say it to people. I was only an admin and when I tried to take time off in February I was pretty much told off for putting more work on the others. Treats wise, it was more the office. If anyone went abroad they would usually bring a big box of sweets from wherever they went to share with everyone. And if the office got edible gifts from clients around holidays or just as a 'job well done' thing, they were always put in the group kitchen to share out. Also, here we usually take gifts of alcohol, food, or flowers to people if we're visiting them in their homes. Especially if it's a dinner party or get together.
@@ChrisPage68 Personally, I agree with you, I think it’s wrong to get irritated when people take time off that is literally stated as time they can take in their contract. I do know why people get irritated though, those two months are the busiest time of the year for that office and leaving them short handed can lead to issues that cause clients and the company to be fined for late submission of paperwork. But, also, if a company can’t hit targets because one or two people decide to take holiday time, the company should consider taking on more workers. It’s one of the many reasons why I realised I wasn’t ever going to be comfortable or cut out for ‘traditional’ employment.
Is it not normal to bring money to weddings in America also? I have looked up videos for wedding planning and what not. It is common for people to bring maybe 150$ or more. Weddings cost a lot!
@@MaxRollison In Poland giving money is rather rude, unless specifically beeing requested (doesn't happen often). Also, everyone gives what they can afford, it would be rude to comment on low value of a gift. Only mandatory thing is flowers, sometimes switched for lottery coupons instead. You are only not supposed to gift knives, that's a bad omen or something. Reception usually is paid for by both famillies of bride and groom, but sometimes everyone pitches in if they are both poor.
@@TheCrusaderBin I will never understand Poland it seems... Rude to give people money... I just don't get it... interesting though! Everywhere has different customs and beliefs. If I knew more about Poland's history and people I would probably understand why it's rude as Japan also has some weird things going on as well that relate to its culture (for example, rude to tip). Tipping just means something different in Japan and in America. Thanks for the reply! :)
@@MaxRollisonI don't know where that person got that bit of information from but it's not true. Here in Poland it's absolutely normal to give money or other gifts especially if you are a close family member. I would say it's rather expected of you. Flowers are treated more like an addition to the whole thing. It's true you give what you can afford but there are some expectations and you definitely could be judged for not giving much by some (probably not to your face but still). It's the first time I hear about the lottery coupon thing. The bit about reception being paid for by both families is true. I would add that as a guest you could eat and drink whatever you want for free. My cousin boyfriend who comes from UK was really surprised by that since apparently you have to order and pay for whatever you want in his country. So it's not a norm around the world.
1:29 -Working in japan 2:36 -coming back from vacation 3:06 -Greeting your neighbors 3:43 -visiting homes 5:05 -grocery shopping 5:47-eating manners 6:41 -owning a dog 7:02 -wedding gifts 7:38 -receiving gifts 8:17 -funerals
This is fascinating! The part about talking with your colleagues before taking time off from work should be common sense everywhere if you work as part of a team. At my former job here in Germany it was actually mandatory. Sure, you have a certain number of holiday/vacation days (pretty many here, actually) per year, but you have to plan them together with your team and be ready to compromise if need be, so that everyone gets their fair share of time off when they need it, and the work doesn't suffer. It's just common courtesy. Too many people ignore that unless the boss requires it, though. The office gift giving upon return from your holiday is a nice idea. I usually just sent thankyou emails, but my very closest colleagues sometimes got little souveniers. Sadly, what a lot of people do instead is brag excessively about where they went and how much fun they had. That can come across as obnoxious if your colleagues had to slave away to cover for you in your absence. The gift giving to neighbours when you move into a new place is a very nice idea. I can see where it might get complicated if you live in a big apartment complex, though. Do you give to just the neighbours across from and on either side of you? To everyone on your floor? About reciprocal gifts, is there a time limit, or can you wait till, say, Christmas or the person's birthday to give them their gift? When you receive a gift, is it polite to open the package right away, or should you wait till the guests are gone? Do you send thankyou cards? Have a wonderful day, and keep up the great work!
But the thing is that this person is neglecting to tell you that a lot of corporations in Japan work as a team to a point. If you go up to your colleagues and discuss your vacation time then that's what starts problems behind your back and that's where the backstabbing begins with a lot of your colleagues.
i think they only care in matters where that 'foreigner' pays no attention to the unstated rules that native residents consider as basic workplace ettiquette.
A message from an old Japanese guy for your reference. I hope this helps you understand more. Using new unfolded cash shows a gesture for "I'm prepared for a happy event like this, and certainly, I'm prepared and thrilled to celebrate the bride, the groom, and their families and friends." To have pretty looking cash, we need to go to a bank, meaning, some preparation is involved. That's why we use newly unused cash. Whereas, we use used and folded cash purposefully for an unhappy event like funeral. It means "It has happened all the sudden and I'm not prepared for this!" So, you need to have cash out of your wallet and use it for an unexpected event like funeral. Why do we use cash instead of actual gifts? For wedding, all we want is for them to be happiest at this moment of their lives. Just like a brochure for a wedding shower, the couple can use cash for what they want instead of receiving something they may not want. For funeral, using cash shows condolences to support the family of the dead. In Japan, since a lot of ceremonial events are involved within one funeral, unfortunately, it costs a lot. So, the attendees to the funeral support the family financially with the cash as well (as spiritually with their presence). I hope I make sense to you.
It makes sense, and I don't really see it as excessive. The money thing is much better than the crazy western tradition of the "gift table". And in some parts of my country, weddings last _one week,_ and funerals last more than ten days...
Nanking never happened Manila never happened Bataan Death March never happened Comfort women never happened Unit 731,100,1655,1855 never happened Burma Massacre never happened Vietnam massacre never happened Singapore, Indonesia, Malaysia crimes never happened ~Japan
I would consider wearing sunglasses at a funeral rude as well. And I'm from the UK. Being considerate of co-workers when taking a holiday is a no-brainer as well. But it should definitely be up to the employer to make sure there are enough resources to cover everyone taking their full holiday allowance too.
From Australia, here its also rude to wear sunglasses at a funeral and taking leave without considering co-workers or companies situation will usually leave a sour taste in other employees mouths since we all need to help each other out from time to time. As far as I've been able to tell with funerals, (havent been to many) it is a bit un proper to wear any accessories during the ceremony. (watches, bracelets, hats, glasses that are needed etc.)
I'm from the US and I disagree on sunglasses at funerals in certain cases. Someone might wear them to cover up that their makeup is messed up from tears, or that their eyes and cheeks are swollen crying a lot generally. It depends who is wearing the sunglasses but certain people can wear them and the expectation would be to leave them to their process.
@@mariocerame I am sure I will be hated, since I wear prescription transition lens. I can't see anything if I don't wear them. lol The funerals I've been to, mostly everyone wear sunglasses on a sunny day, and hats too if they choose to. 😂😂 Only thing is don't wear bright happy color fashion/jewellery, it is disrespectful.
I’ve seen videos where they say that people in Japan rarely take their vacations because they don’t want to perceived as lazy and that they will work long past their scheduled hours everyday for the same reason which is ridiculous, you’ve allowed yourself to be brainwashed into not taking holidays and go home as scheduled.
If you look up the data, Americans consistently work more hours per year than Japanese people. Granted, I'm not sure if unpaid overtime is factored into that data, but the data often contradicts the beliefs Americans hold about Japan (working hours, suicide, etc)
@@Noelciaaa Depends which minorities you mean. Proportionally, some work harder, sure, but only those with better than average work ethics. The rest are no harder workers than their other racial equivalents.
It's unbelievable for me as a frenchman. In my country, holidays are sacred, we are proud of our five weeks holidays per year. It's another world. I can't imagine living in such a stressed and hung-up country. Not surprising the suicide level is so high. Calm-down Japanese folks !
@@pablosanchez5294 true but the true value is in the gift itself. If I give a $40 dollar toaster over a $200 toaster that shouldn't matter as long as the couple actually needed a toaster, Because if the couple already have one then me buying them a $200 dollar toaster has no value to them to begin with. I'm truly against cost and more for actually value so if someone gifts me something i actually need than i dont care what it cost because someone helped me out with one less problem in my life.
Well, that is how I know I’ve probably lived several lives in Japan. These “rules” are basic for me, very natural. That is how I live my life here in EU now. I’ve visited Japan a few years ago and I felt so at ease.. Even ppl living there asked us. How long have we been living in Japan:) Love the ceremonies and the “rules” of society, it makes life easier for me!
I've lived in Japan for 10 years and have never been invited to any local's home, but I've had many Japanese people invite themselves to my home (and they still never invited me to their homes). I've given up and tired of running a living gaijin museum.
I know what you mean, but I've actually grown to appreciate it. It doesn't really make logical sense to fault someone for genuine mistakes and accidents and it took me some time to adapt to it, but once you get adapted to the culture and take ownership of those mistakes and accidents that you think you have no control over, a very funny thing happens - those mistakes and accidents stop happening. You stop arriving late to work regardless of traffic. You make all your deadlines days in advance no matter how short or unfair. "Accidents" stop happening around you. You have, in essence, raised your bar for how you define mistakes and accidents. Finally, you've fully adapted to the culture when you start wondering to yourself, "why do all my foreigner friends and business affiliates make excuses for everything and don't own up?"
@@akikozu7444 Because we human and no one is perfect. Judging people for it can lead to you becoming stiff and a perfectionist. But i get what you mean.
@@chey6073 Thank you for the comment. You're right, and that's why I don't make any judgment. In fact, I certainly don't claim it to be fair and that's actually the first thing I clarify by recognizing and affirming the initial comment made by Mich. I only provide my experience and the resulting outcome to bring balance to what would otherwise be a one-sided take on why things are the way they are and hopefully give additional insight to those viewing in from the outside. And again, you're right - Japanese culture isn't for everybody - not even for me. I once left Japan because I hated living here, but now I can't imagine living anywhere else.
I live in germany so I’m used to following many rules (especially thanks to the german bureaucracy), but I feel like japan takes it to a whole new level.
I’m not sure if “ why are Japanese don’t like foreigners living in Japan” is really the best title for the video. But it is a good overview of some of the social rules that one has to follow to really be part of Japanese society (and not annoy people in general.) Paolo hinted at this, but young urban Japanese don’t necessarily follow all of these. The more rural you get, the more rules there, and the more people expect you to follow them. In my area, anyone who doesn’t participate in various community activities such as attending neighborhood meetings, volunteer Fire Brigade, community weeding, etc are definitely looked down on by the community. And, I guess non-Japanese residents are more likely to fall into this category.
Mhmm I see. Nice way of articulating it. Thanks. It pretty much makes sense. It’s like your an outcast if you don’t help or participate in activities. Witch in my opinion is a good thing, people have more morals like that. That’s why I like the Asian culture they really believe that family is a priority unlike my culture Dominicans are really wild lol, granted that every race has their morally ethical people and the ones who don’t.
this is also my observation. my mother lives in japan for 30yrs and shes in rural area. when we visited tokyo and her in yaizu i observed that people in yaizu follows rule more than people in tokyo. although im not saying that in general people living in tokyo, but there are couple of instances where we saw people who bends simple law like crossing the road while red indicator for people to stop and still they continue which we never neverr saw in yaizu area
the giving gifts back one is the one that stuck out/surprised me the most (i'm not disagreeing with it cos every country and culture has different norms and values), cos in my country most people would have the attitude that if you give someone a gift that's you giving them a gift for the occasion (or just because you want to), and now them giving you one back is out of obligation rather than just wanting to give you a gift so it doesn't feel as sincere (and people here would consider feeling entitled to get a gift back as just plain rude). this also may just be in my family but we always take the price tags off of gifts cos my mum says it's rude to try and figure out how much money the gift is worth and that instead you should appreciate the gift itself and the thought that was put into it
How interesting! Thank you for sharing these important customs. Learning the customs of a country is not only interesting, but definitely necessary so that we can show respect.for what the people value.
I mean, if you look at history a lot of Japanese culture (actually most Asian culture) is based off of traditions and a crap ton of respect. I went to get a haircut in Japan and the person who cut my hair handed me their business card and they got mad at me because he handed it to me with two hands and I didn’t grab it with two hands. Yes, it is a lot to keep in mind but I think it’s just better to respect someone’s culture, especially when in their country.
#1 where he said people don't usually take time off for the sake of the company and then people wonder why the mental health related issues are so high in japan, it sounds like they live for their company instead of themselves/their family
@@AJ-lo4eh That's great! Right now there's newer progressive workplace popping up. sadly the same can't be said about corporate and retail worker.It's really really rare for the lower kill worker bracket.
@@JohnnyPhillips-uo5fg "something they dont talk about" It's a very common knowledge. Theres nearly as much documentary about japanese dying from stress as sushi. They are aware of it and are actively talking about it.
lol, they actually want you in a cult xD Japan locked out its permanent legal foreign residents for 5 months and longer, due to "c0vid" this year. ..in sarcastic voice: makes you feel sooooo wanted.
@@buttlicker48 Theres no need to feel bad. I wanted to try the chopsticks to show that I was willing to try Japanese culture but I couldn't pick up a single thing on the plate. The chef handed me the fork with a smile
@@raimundononatobezerradossa5452 Brazil is the country with the largest population of Japanese people outside of Japan. I grew up in Japan and the US, and my best friend in the US was a Brazilian-American.
Yeah I'm Japanese and licking chopsticks is fine, especially if you're not from here people let you off the hook for things native Japanese couldn't get away with (the gaijin card). What you really want to avoid is sticking your chopsticks in your food when you're not using them and using your chopsticks to push plates and bowls around.
I have some advice as a Japanese! If you want to work or live in Japan, I strongly recommend that you make one Japanese friend before coming to Japan. There are a lot of jobs for foreigners to get used to Japan in Japan, so they will introduce you to a comfortable working environment by making Japanese friends in advance. Also, this video has been introduced too much, but please be assured that Japanese people are tolerant of the rules.
I lived in Japan for 4 years because I married a Japanese woman. My tip to foreigners was to learn about Japanese culture and make the effort to learn even a little of the language. In my experience, they appreciate it. Ebisu Garden was one of my regular places to visit
When language difficultty is SSS tiers and it's not one of the 5 main languages, even if you knew about 100 sentences you cannot understand the answer especially when they are surprised and can speak faster than spanish people xD
@Justice Strike I understand your line of reasoning, but your intentions are coming from a place of irrationality. Foreigners should live how the natives live, but it doesn't erase the fact they don't like foreigners at all. I understand the United States has problems, but how would the Japanese feel, if we banned them from using the American Ivy league schools? The international community would throw a fit, but in Japan, you're allowed to ban foreigners from restaurants, and there's shows that make fun of white and black people.
@@iROChakri Highly disciplined coupled with an absurdly high suicide rate and one of the worst work cultures in human history. Dont think you can compare yourself with many counterparts in that regard and think Japan is considered great.
My saying is, "The more people you know, the more trouble you have." People are too demanding and too full of expectations plus you have to deal with all their emotional crap on top of that. I just tell people that I want life to be peaceful and for each day to flow gently one into the next~ no drama, no BS- and anyone who disrupts that will find themselves gone. They can go have their drama festivals, tantrums, fits, inter-personal fights and other nonsense somewhere else and not try to drag me into all of it. Plus I don't want to hear all their whining about all that either. Lol. Eliminating toxic people from your life does make things oh so peaceful!
I'm from Central Europe and most of the mentioned aspects are pretty normal here as well (or at least I was taught that way), like greeting your neighbours or bringing holiday gifts and not touching food unless you buy it.
I’d love to retire there but America will always be my preferred lifestyle. I’m a Latino but the carefree, open-minded way that white Americans live is pretty ideal to me.
As a global citizen, Stay away from Japan Stay in the World Individualism should still take precedence over perverted collectivism. Neither is perfect but....I’m me, That’s why I live and exist
@@User_37821 Well someone’s racist. I’m betting... Chinese national maybe? Or some form of western European. Maybe city-borne American? Definitely a globalist. Japan as a whole values culture and tradition. These traditional expectations may seem stifling, but consider the purpose. Sure you’re expected to bring back omiyage after a vacation, take that from the perspective of your coworkers who have had to cover for you while you were away. Or take greeting neighbors with a small gift when you move, it’s just an excuse that allows you to meet and befriend said neighbors who you’ll see pretty often. Perverted collectivism, ohh please. There’s still plenty of individualism in japan, they just have the sense that people are NOT solitary creatures. Nobody is an island.
Just take initiative to learn do and don't before going and practise common courtesy in any country u visit. That's all. Each time in doubt ask. Ur literally one please away 😂😂 Their environment, culture and specially food is definitely the best if not one of it.
The one about taking holiday is probably the one I would have the most trouble with. Purely because of mindset. You plan your holiday and need that period off. Opposite, I'd have no issue covering someone elses work while they take a much deserved holiday and I certainly wouldn't expect something in return. It's both funny and so interesting to see this difference in culture and mindset. Great video!
@@ex0duzz Yeah, I feel like people should acknowledge this more. Of course there’s no such thing as a perfect country, but it’s just weird how many people out there defend Japan and ignore all of the negative aspects of its culture and history.
Having worked in Japan for 6 months...I felt so stressed with all these rules. Made me so grateful to live in a country where we live for ourselves and not our work and colleagues. If o want to take leave and I have leave owing, I’m encouraged to take it. I don’t have to bring back and gift for everyone and be out of pocket, and if I give monetary gift to a wedding couple...they’ll accept it in odd or even numbers...crisp or not...they’re just grateful...
@@varunishere who said I didn’t care about anyone. You don’t even know me. At least when im courteous it’s genuine and not because im being forced. Imagine just barely being able to make ends meet and stressing over buying everyone in the office treats because you’re forced to…or stressing whether or not your courteous monetary gift is crisp and acceptable numbers. Receiving courteously is just as important…if someone turns their nose up at a person because what they had to give is not in frickin odd or even numbers and not crispy enough…then Sorry I do feel grateful that I can choose who I want to be courteous to….btw a lot of Japanese don’t like these rules either. The ones I know find it stressful.
In all honesty, and let’s all be real here. Every country hates foreigners. No matter how hard you want to debate that. There will always be a massive part of a countries society which will hate foreigners or people who a different. But please be polite and kind and a good person when you can. We shouldn’t shun people who are foreign though, people come from different walks of life and they see things differently which is lovely to learn.
You know in some regions of the world they have same skin color and same language there are not much issues outside of politics warmongers. But there are cases when your own country is not going well and you have paperless foreigners getting money and priority job from the state... especially true in the european union.
Tunisia and Saudi Arabia and the rest of the North African and middle easterner gulf have just entered the chat. We literally love having tourists. Not only we like to diff ppl coming from diff places but they help with the economy too.
Not only in Japan , i think it's best if you research the custom/culture any country you'll go We also don't like stranger come into our house and do whatever they like
The issue is, most of things in this video you can't find by "research" I've watched hundreds of hours of UA-cam videos on Japan and most of these have never been mentioned before in all the "what not to do in japan" type videos out there. It's a shame Japanese are too "nice" to let you know if you do something wrong, yet at the same time hold it against you. There have been several things I noticed about Japan in which they being too nice ends up being rude. For example I seen a video that explained Japanese if you ask for directions will not tell you no or don't know if they don't know the directions, instead they will purposely give you bad directions wasting your time because it's against their nature to admit they don't know something. That in itself i find to be incredibly rude, especially to a tourist with limited time, available to enjoy your country, they may have even saved up years of money to take that trip, ,using up all their time off,, etc. and you just wasted hours of their time potentially giving wrong directions on purpose because you don't want to admit you don't know where that thing is located. I love Japan and the people in general, just some of their culture makes 0 sense to me, to the point where they are actually being rude by being too nice.
@@Midnight-vq7wy Don’t react right away when you feel triggered. Instead, reflect on what information is being presented and why it gives you a strong reaction. Is it the person who shared it, or that the information strongly validates or refutes something you believe? If that’s the case, what is the source of the information? Being self-aware enough to know what triggers you and whether it’s worth getting worked up can be a great deterrent to conflict and save our brains precious resources. Therefore shut the fuck up you child.
@@Qunyc1985 Well look whose talking, I won't read this whole essay you put to together but you could have just ignored me I guess I hit a bad spot in your mind for you to take the time out of your day to type that shit lol 😭😂😂
Halloween is a good example. Foreigners learn that it is not illegal to drink on the streets so they like to take advantage of these laxed rules. There was no such rule in the first place because Japanese never really drink on the streets. After what happened in Itaewon, the mayor of Shibuya banned such gatherings and drinking on Halloween.
It's only bad to live there if you're the kinda person who isn't good at following rules. I'm an american and that's what this country and many others lack, strict rules to go by, maybe most of the world should be more like Japan then most of it wouldn't be a shit hole.
I’m a half Mexican/American man living here in Japan for over 24 years and have gotten nothing but warm acceptance from 99.9% of the people I’ve met here throughout all these years I’ve been living here, and Japanese seem to have a special affinity for Mexicans and our lively and passionate culture! Many customs, Japanese don’t follow and they definitively have not expected me to follow most of these rules other than not going into someone’s house with my shoes on! Lol
@@BikerMiceOne that's actually a very lame mindset. How can they magically expect someone to learn something without ever teaching them ? Also many comments here are from Japanese and they themselves say the find most of the rules annoying
To say it's very passive aggressive is an understatement. When I was in osaka, it seemed like everyone was holding in a fart in the most brutal way possible
@@S__PaulusKenzieSantoso yup, each country has its own rules. people think other countries' are "extreme" or weird just because we aren't used to it, but i don't think it really is that hard to respect if you actually want to live there and educate yourself
A Japanese colleague (who had lived abroad and had acquired the very un-Japanese habit of being candid if asked) told me that it wasn’t so much that the Japanese don’t like foreigners or think they’re rude and more that they find the presence of foreigners stressful because foreigners are so unpredictable (almost the definition of being Japanese is that other Japanese know how you are going to behave because you follow the same rules as they do). Why is that stressful? Because if you do something very strange and un-Japanese you will by definition humiliate yourself publicly (just about the worst thing imaginable for a Japanese) but because you are not Japanese you will not realise that you have humiliated yourself which will make the Japanese feel shame on your behalf and they will resent you for that. Worse, if you are with THEM when you do it, you will also humiliate them in front of other Japanese people so they will have to take the shame for you because you don’t realise what you have done. The key words are “shame”, “humiliation” and “in public” - those things spell loss of face and to avoid that, many Japanese will avoid the loss-of-face-risk that foreigners (by definition) represent. The same guy once told me, only half jokingly, “Japan isn’t another country, it’s another planet”.
I have a little story. I'm a kendoka (I practice kendo) in Hungary in a relatively small town (relatively, but it's the "capitol" of our county). We used to have senseis visiting from Japan for teaching. It is considered a great honor and we learnt much. Here comes the funny part. We regularly take our senseis with us on a night out for eating / drinking. There was master who was visiting, who was a superior of our (thencurrent) sensei. Long story short, everybody got drunk, and the "lesser" master was blacked out in a ditch. His superior was furious about this of course, because he was basically embarassing his people (in his eyes). So he started beating him up. But for the outside viewer who didn't know what was happening, it was two Asians fighting in a ditch. It was ironic. They both went back to Japan and replaced him with a different sensei.
As a japanese, I'd say It's correct but ordinary japanese notice that overseas people don't get used to japanese habits and culture. So don't worry too much
I can't get used to the rules, because they're too strict. In my case, it feels like even the slightest difference in behavior will set people off and there's no room for forgiveness. I adore many of the food and sceneries though. And the occasional friendly chat with strangers.
@@_Dynamight_ In my opinion, if you talk about relationship in business, it'd be hard. But me and my friends who exchange students ofen screw up in japanese. So you should get some japanese friends with same hobby and motivate your daily life :)
@@trice1857 Nahh, it doesn't matter. Whether it's business or casual environment, formal or informal, people be treating you like a criminal if you make a mistake. For example, if I sit somewhere I'm not supposed to or if I forgot something, people will passive-aggressively get angry. They act like I've killed someone. No forgiving, no relaxing. "You made a mistake, and we're angry at you". As for people to hang out with, I would love to have some people. But all they do is talk bad behind my back. Sometimes I wish I can't understand Japanese. Thanks for your encouragement though.
I was there for half a year. None of this was an issue for me, I loved the people I was with and Japan is still one of my favorite countries on the planet. If you compare it to typical Western values, you won't make the most of your time there. Take it for what it is. I've learned that regard and consideration for your common man leads to a more pleasant society. Any yes, no society is perfect and imbalances are everywhere, but I loved the spirit behind the core of these customs. Example: it's rude to talk on your mobile phone on the trains in Japan. At first, that threw me off guard because I wasn't used to it, so I just deferred to texting if I had to. It wasn't until I was in another country when some guy started blabbing loudly on his phone on a quiet train, everyone could hear his conversation and it was distracting. You could tell it from people's faces. This guy had zero clue or care or concern that we could hear his personal business all throughout the cabin. It was then that I really appreciated this custom in Japan.
And what's so great about Japan? Difficult stupid rules, hard language which is not even Romanized, shallow unexpressive cold people with shallow & boring customs, bowing unnecessarily as if you were greeting some strange Deity until your lower back hurts (you don't show "respect & honor" by bowing like an idiot, it is shown by your actions, not by gestures..) living in constrictive & expensive apts., submissive and obedient women with no character and evasive, non friendly youngsters with personal traumatic and psychotic issues, old people with decadent and useless ideas and if you are a 'Foreigner', don't "shine too bright" or the rest of the commoners will simply envy and hate you... So, what are the attractions and interesting sites to visit? A bloody history of wars & carnage? No wonder Japanese love their "cosplay"... It is just pretending because they don't have something more interesting and personal to show. Sad.
Alright, so to blend in I should make sure that I am properly exploited by my employer, calmly accept all forms of peer pressure, while being as passive aggressive as possible. Got it.
@Yannik I've lived in Japan for 30 years and have found working here very agreeable. I've worked in the corporate sector (Canon), as a high school teacher and now run an elite youth ice hockey program. The sense of team and the support through which that entails has made work life very comfortable here. Not everyone works for a black company in the corporate towers of Shinjuku. Documentaries can be deceiving as they point the camera at wherever the filmmaker wants you to look and says "see"...
Ok so I lived in Japan for 2 years. Some caveats to some of these rules because it seems like a lot of people are a little overwhelmed in the comments: 1. Taking time off. Point 1 should be a general rule of thumb not just for Japan but for any work in general. If you decide to take some time off, make sure you are covered before leaving and that you reciprocate the same to your coworkers when it's their time to take time off as well. 3. Greeting your neighbors. My Japanese realtor actually walked me around to each of my neighbors and helped introduce me to the neighbors with a greeting card and translated for me when I first moved into my house. 5. Weddings and funerals. This is why you have Japanese friends and coworkers. If you have a question, just ask. I went to one wedding and one funeral my two years in Japan and without asking, my Japanese coworkers and friends helped me out to make sure I did everything correctly. Regarding sunglasses, no one wears sunglasses in Japan. Literally. Even when it's sunny. Next time you're in Japan, look at the locals and you'll notice this. So to summarize, you're not alone when you move to Japan. Ask for help when you need it. I guarantee you the Japanese will be more than happy to help you out and will be more appreciative that you're taking the time to learn about their culture.
Japan is not that great and just 'cause you adjusted to that shit doesn't mean everyone needs to that too and your adjusting to it doesn't justify it being right. Note : I don't hate japan btw
@Yannik I don't understand your comment. You bring up hypothetical situations which don't happen that often just to make Japan sound bad. So you're complaining about taking a job that makes you work overtime in Japan. Ok so don't move to Japan for that job? And then you mention a company canceling your vacation. My vacation plans have never been canceled when I lived in Japan.
its like this,you are employed its not up to you personally to do the other managements job (hr,supervisor etc etc) of employee and work task organization
Japan is not alone on this unwritten rules. It is good to make efforts to familiarize once’s self with the host country’s culture, but sometimes when it is too much, it is too much. Ii is interesting to learn that sun glasses at a funeral is considered to be rude:)! Thank you for sharing this message.
I don't understand the no sunglasses at a funeral rule. If you're at the graveside on a sunny day glasses really help. I'm supposed to wear them outside b/c of an eye problem.
How? The rules are pretty simple. Don't be rude to other people. Lol Don't be loud. Don't litter. Don't steal. Don't spit. Don't steal. Don't cut the line. Etc
I can understand that. Yet some people act like they are the only ones entitled to destructively manhandle shit. Plus it wastes product. I'm an American and I hate it when people literally open a product in the store to sample it then put it back on the shelf. A little old lady did this in front of me and she was confused about why I stared at her with utmost disgust. Me: "WTF...you broke or something...!?!"
I was waiting for someone else to mention it! He's hilarious, if you've watched the Day in the life of a Fireman... "That's so many hoes!" "Look! More hoes!" lmao
When I lived in Japan I got into big trouble with my neighbors for recycling. There were about 4 different groups to sort the garbage into and I think I was doing the batteries wrong. Some busybody lady across the street got really mad about it and wrote me a nasty letter in bad English. There were other foreign English teachers in my building and sometimes they'd want to have a party at their house. That is a huge no-no in Japan. The neighbors were really upset at the noise. You are always supposed to go out to an izakaya or something for that. One guy actually came over a party my neighbor was having and I had to translate, he said he had a baby that was trying to sleep. I felt bad because I knew he had to be absolutely at wits end to come over and complain.
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3 hours ago dam lol
somebody else pressing on your meat hehe thats not nice ;)
I love your vids but that side note of "and it'd be rude to even tell someone they're being rude" pisses me off so much. Just be upfront and tell me im doing something wrong instead of talking behind my back. I know, different cultures but jeez 😥
I get all this. Japan's people seem very considerate compared to the Western world. I agree with most of them, but the one about giving a gift when you get one, I sure don't agree with that one. What if someone can't afford it? Did you and Maiko give gifts to the people who gave you baby gifts, etc. ?? The dog pee was a bit extreme too. However, I'm from Canada and I'm very blunt and say what's on my mind. They would be talking behind my back a lot! Hahaha Great video though. I think it's good that Japan expects people to change to their culture. Lot's of people get angry here in Canada because we have an extreme amount of immigrants, which is fine, but we've changed so many laws and rules to adapt to their culture not the other way around. That really angers me. They should adapt to ours or don't come. 💙🕊️🕊️💙
Day in a life pleasse
I’m a Japanese.
Those manners and rules are stressful even for Japanese people.
Sometimes, Japanese are feel weird about the rules and manners.
I believe, I respect the rules but we don’t have to be too much strict.
If someone had mistake, just forgive and explain for them.
It is the most important thing.
Big love for world.
I like your perspective, but i wonder if many other japanese think the same.
Though, i have talked with a few japanese exchange students and they seem much more relaxed like yourself, so perhaps the new generations are more open to foreigners.
but i seen different.. seriously...japanese are so friendly and funny , i dont know because im from indonesia which having several similar culture for manners ..?..
@@brotherhood8852 Yeah, me too. This video is very negative, when Japanese people are actually very nice.
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Yes it’s true. I’m happy to hear that.
However, someone like lazy or racist people doesn’t even explain to them.
Because they’re feel lazy and annoying to explain to them. Of course they can’t understand completely.
But we should effort to explain them.
And we should understand each other.
私も日本人ですー
確かに日本のルールは厳しすぎだと思います。もうちょっと厳しくなかったらいいかな。。
Japan: telling someone to their face is rude.
My culture: talking behind someone's back instead of saying it to their face is extremely rude.
i love Japan but they are plain wrong on this topic. Like it's objectively dysfunctional behavior to talk behind someone back rather than grow a pair and give feedback. They need to level up.
Yes, this is the one I found hardest to understand when I worked there. However, after a while, I came to appreciate the indirect approach. It doesn’t allow arguments etc to escalate or get so ugly because it is less confrontational.
@@tiashiraz8430 The problem there is that small issues are allowed to escalate in the background because they're not taken care of truthfully and directly.
@@vespagts7078 I think we value the idea of “honesty and directness” a lot in the West and assume that it brings about positive outcomes in the end. I am not so convinced of that any more. I think there is a lot to be said for not confronting certain issues ‘head on’. That doesn’t mean you don’t deal with them, but you do so in a more subtle way.
@@andywilliams8540 there’s no right or wrong in cultures mate. We don’t confront “wrongdoings” directly to avoid any confrontations and embarrassment. And while some do, we don’t talk behind ppls back because that itself is negative conversation, which gives negative impressions. We just keep it to ourselves.
The condescending tone like yours from foreigners is one of the things we don’t appreciate.
"Why japanese don't like foreigners"
Everyone else: *gets Logan Paul flashbacks*
Dummy, even 50 years ago Japanese never liked foreigners not even yellow people like them. Ask the Koreans.
@@francoislechanceux5818 really? Yellow people? No wonder why in general nobody wants a pathetic racist 🙄
Edit: haha that's funny how you self liked ur own comment cause no one will💖 i mean, unless there are others out there with a pea size brain then yeah,
@@Lara-vo6rp Why racist though? He just stated a skin color. Though I'm not sure if yellow is the universal color which can describe all asian people skin, but this has nothing to do with racism. You're exaggerating. Being so sensitive about skin color is as racist as discrimination based on race.
@@Lara-vo6rp I think you had very hard problem understanding my text, that you didn't even notice I highlighted this: "Though I'm not sure if yellow is the universal color which can describe all asian people skin, but this has nothing to do with racism.". You answered me with agression and contempt, which is typical for SJWs. You're just throwing accusations without any respect, to people, who are not ideologically aligned with you. I won't waste any more time, because I don't have more to say.
@@Isharoth did you just edit your comment? Or is it my fault I misread it? Also in your mind it was aggression, I was speaking in a passive sarcastic way.
Either way if it is my fault then my bad.
If I truly did misread, I apologize.
When my wife and I moved into our new home in Gakugei we bought and made a gift package for everyone on our floor. The reaction we got was mostly the look of 'why are you knocking on my door' Only one family accepted the gift. It was definitely odd.....even in Canada people were more welcoming.
I'd be a little weirded out if my new neighbors brought me a gift, and I live in Florida.
@@froddobaggins But man they didn't even accept the gift. I didn't think anybody would do that (ofcourse if you look too suspicious then maybe)
Well he did say that it’s more common for people in less crowded areas, and in apartments that’s not that common in general
Japanese people are generally not welcoming, especially in Tokyo. They don't want to see new people regardless of their nationality. They don't like strangers in general because trusting strangers can lead to dangers. North Americans are much much more welcoming when it comes to strangers.
@@froddobaggins same
"Get a wedding present usually starting around 300$"
Step 1: Don't make friends who are not married.
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This may be impossible for westerners to comprehend, but the Japanese actually save money. It does not mean that every household is rolling in cash, but if you save money over time, you may find that you can also be more generous for important occasions like weddings.
Now I understand why many Japanese migrate to Australia. I remember asking a Japanese friend why he moved because I had this idea that japan was this magical place of anime, good food, etc but then he always said "it's just easier " .
I asked the same thing to a Japanese friend of mine and she said "It's the pressure all around you. Sometimes I felt like I couldn't breathe properly. I felt extremely selfish just because I wanted some time to be myself".
There is a very large number of Japanese in Peru.
@@algomez8563 i thought the large japanese population in south america was brazil?
@@viciousthrill7103 There's lots of them everywhere.
You realize anime is fantasy right? If you think anime represents reality in japan you are dumb
No.9 is actually rude in my country because gifting should be sincere and you aren't supposed to expect something in return.
Exactly! The idea of giving a gift is to make the other one happy, and it is a humble unselfish act! You NEVER expect anything back
@@johanna_na well that opinion based on your living situation / experience / knowledge / culture. You can't expect everyone to do the same, each place have their own rules and it's culture
@@arjunhamdalah4139 Yes?
@@arjunhamdalah4139 a gift is a gift, not an exchange of good.
Yes
I came back to Japan for 6-7 weeks after I traveled the US, lived in Australia, Canada, and Germany now. After 5 years, even though I left Japan like "Too many rules, conservative, I can't be myself" and thought "Never come back", now came back and I am just moved and surprised, how people are so friendly, kind and helpful and polite and everywhere is perfectly clean.(cleaner)
I am glad that I see my country from a new perspective. But if you LIVE (not just travel) in this country as a person from a foreign countries, you will confront lots of things and will struggle, feel frustrated. Also if you don't speak good Japanese, not so many people are good at speaking English. So you will have a hard time.
Good technology and good services, clean environment, people's politeness, good manners comes with the decipline, hardworking and many rules that they are taught to follow since their childhood. But again, if you don't grow up here, you will struggle with culture shock that I have been dealing with in foreign countries.
Paolo has a hotline for foreigners who run into problems in japan. he offers translation services too.
Do you know the hotline number?
@@reshmas4036 wait, did you just put anaesthesia and removed the tooth yourself?! EW
@@reshmas4036 lol dont self promote
@@reshmas4036 fuck off
@@Cookies_Aqua why
I am a Japanese high school girl. I am sorry for my poor English due to lack of study. It is true that such implicit rules exist, but we do not ask foreigners for them. Some of the rules introduced here are not so important because even Japanese people find it annoying. Japanese people are strict with Japanese people, but they are very tolerant when dealing with foreigners. You don't have to be so scared of the rules.
Sorry can you give me example of annoying rules in japan? I want more learn about japan because i want to work in japan someday. Thank you
Can you please explain further about the rules , because I am planning my higher studies in Japan.
@@AdityaShah749 youtube it
@@AdityaShah749 like seriously she already said her English isn't that well and on top of that this video is talking about the "rules". Is it all of them. Idk, youtube it
@@absolutelyfookinnobody2843 👍
Me : Broke
*gets invited to a wedding in Japan*
Me: *nervous sweating*
Got invited to a friend's wedding in Kyoto for March this year. When the COVID-19 hit I was low-key relieved 😬.
@@June-nf6nc 😂😂😂oof. I would agree if I had to do the same
Same. Got invited to a Korean wedding. Covid pushed it to next May.
The other family members
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Rip man
That wedding rule has me pretty lost. In America its rude to share the cost of the gift with the person receiving the gift. We always take the price tag off of the gift before wrapping. If I am understanding correctly in Japan you not only share the cost of the gift with the person receiving but they also give you a small portion of the gift back so you can get yourself a gift? I dont quite understand that one.
Definitely seems dumb to me, while I can understand why you would give the other person a gift after you receive one from them. It basically shows that you appreciate their gift and they do not feel ashamed that you did not appreciate the gift
Interesting: lots of items here that weren't covered in numerous videos on UA-cam already. Thanks for teaching us the new stuff!
Thanks for watching Pulsarstunes!
@@PaolofromTOKYO what if u refuse a gift
@@dirtydenom69 i also wanna know that
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Do not finger peaches lol they should use touch ; )
Japan: It's rude to wear sunglasses at funerals
Coffin Dancers:
But what if your blind without then
Seperating yourself from the living is callous, and seperating yourself from the deceased isn't why you came to their grave. Remind me why you'd want to wear sunnies to a funeral?
Oh. Right. The crying. Yeah that must be super awkward in a crowd of other crying people, gathered to pay respects to the departed. Must be such a downer for all the cocktail parties and polomatches the graveyard is normally hosting.
Inservio Don’t be too nerd
@@InservioLetum
It goes right back in with the "don't let them see you cry" mentality of a lot of the older generation. Heaven forbid Grandma and Grandpa see you cry after they've spent your whole life telling you that big kids don't cry. That being said, it's a stupid mentality and one I would like to see slowly fade until we can learn to better balance our emotions.
I don't pay much mind to the sacredness of funeral tradition as I know from experience we must all greive in our own way, judgement be damned.
I think I've just offended every Japanese person with my very existence.
Underrated!
It's because they think everyone but themselves is a barbarian.
They seem to be like that towards race as well though :/
Asian countries in general from what I've seen/heard.
i didnt do anything to them
@@nr655321 very true
Absolutely love your videos. They are very well presented and give amazing insights into Japanese life and culture. Please keep making them. Regards Pana (from Australia.)
It's sad to hear that many japanese don't get time off, its not very healthy to keep working all the time.
It's one of the major reasons they have such a high suicide rate
@@Sniper0502 no. It's a culture that teaches honor and is also based on shame, that is the true reason for high suicide. Fail at something and you're a disgrace.
A lot of Depression and also pressure Lots of it from the older generation who are bosses or directors=( INCHO)(Japanese meaning)
Being from Australia n all.
It’s an experience but not always on positive.
People work to hell n back for Perfection here to the detail.
If it’s not enough people have committed suicide from being under that much Pressure.
It’s a very “live to work” place, as fascinating a place it is, no society is perfect.
@@roaringlizard so basically you're saying that they work and die with honour?
Ok thats something nonsense to do
Its not even a honour to die cuz work too hard, its more shame than die didnt do anything
They need to change their culture a little rather than being a machine that works full time 24 hours
Humans have advantages but also we have limits
Their teaching about full time work is killing people
I understand the idea of "you got me something, let me get you something!" But a friend (not a Japanese one or anything) once said, "If I expected something in return, it wouldn't be a gift." Which is how I've always thought of it too, I'm doing something nice for you. The only thing I expect in return is a thank you.
Right! This is why I hate receiving gifts. Don’t bother giving me something, because I might hate the gesture. I grew up not expecting anything. On the other hand, I do like giving someone a gift, favor or anything, but as you’ve said it wouldn’t be a gift if you give something in return to what I gave you. I’ll be happier if someone would say thank you and doesn’t bother to plan how to return the favor.
This is not the case for every culture. You guys need to realize that different cultures can have different viewpoints on things. I’m Turkish, and we have a similar tradition about wedding gifts. The couple’s friends and relatives have to gift them a gold bracelet (or just gold if they can’t afford that). Then the couple is supposed to gift them a gold bracelet similar to what they were given in their weddings too.
This doesn’t mean we don’t value your gift or that we are greedy. Just different viewpoints.
my question about this is, whats about u CANT pay back the gift...can u said no, i dont really want this gift, because i cant pay back? this receiving gifts is ok, but what will do a poor person if they got a rich person who give them a gift?
XD that's quite Thai for me (since I'm Thai). Yes, if you wanna gift someone, you wouldn't expect anything in return in the first place, you just..... gift.
It's called culture. But I get you
"I offended the japanese just by going to Japan"
- James May
They’re wanna Ur dough not U
If you want to know why the Japanese were offended by James May watch his childish video.
Well get ur bud back home😙
@@frankkatusa1790 it was a damn good video Though
Not surprised
Your channel has me Romanticizing Japan I would love to visit in the near future. Much love from the US.
Well every foreigner is a Logan Paul for the Japanese people..
@Swag Surf Yeah (cries internally)
That’s not true lol
Yeah me too, I thought of him first when I read the title
lmao😭🤚🏾
@@mattfox9919 Logan Paul is disrespectful thats what he's saying
In Germany it is illegal to not take a minimum number of days per year off, in Japan it is illegal to take the days off written on your contract. Well not totally but almost getting there.
@Lone Wolf I worked in Germany. I don't know if it is illegal, but it sounds sick to not take days off.
@@ricardoquintana4080 it's a so called social phenomenon culture, Japanese are known to over work then self for perfection. So they'll work willingly till they are out or dead.
While in china company will take advantage of employee n force work them till they are out or dead.
That's not true, regarding Germany. There's no law that tells you that you *have* to take your vacation, as far as I know. And in some jobs (for example those that depend on the weather/climate), while it's not recommended, people cut deals with their employer to just pay them for vacation days not taken.
@@drsnova7313 There is. You're supposed to take a set amount at minimum, but you don't have to take all of your vacation days. No one really checks that but an employee who's completely refused vacation could get their employer into trouble.
@@drsnova7313 taking money instead of time off is actually illegal according to BUrlG. Unless you leave the company.
I was one year in Japan and I didnt know any of these rules. Damn, they probably hated me alot.
Stay away from Japan
Japan plans to dispose of radioactive waste into the ocean
@@User_37821 china does that too a lot
@Foxmanwo DE ok
Some of those japanese are like of Pharisees.Eg. Wash hands before you eat and etc while showing no respect or do not mind about what really make us dirty inside.
Nothing has changed after the pandemic here. People here would not exchange handshakes or even hugs.
@@User_37821 shut up I'm reporting you for spam
This is interesting. I can appreciate the culture based around respect & honor.
It seems counter productive to not tell people if they're making impasses though. If I was doing something wrong, I would want my friends & neighbors to tell me I am.
I think it's important that people do their best to fit in & show respect for the communities they're in & videos like this help give us windows into seeing how to do so. Thank you
I have a Japanese friend who tells me all these things. I just act aggressively American and teach him culture, and rely on him to tell me when to stop lol
The only word that I find here out of place is Honor... Consideration, common courtesy & thoughtfulness just as you expect this from others, it's good enough. Honor belongs elsewhere. Unless you're ready to do a "hara-kiri" for some reason... (suicide by knife)
A culture based on respect & honor? Are you high? A culture, manners and behavior is based on convenience and obedience. Control, control, control... Only the North American Indians culture was based on honor, respect of life & mother earth
Being told you're being rude, even by accident, can create shame. That would mean you have a game of "rude but ignorant or shall I introduce shame in this moment?" Most of us would do the former because it's not worth risking the shame. Even in America, etiquette and hospitality experts would say the faux paus of someone else does not mean you then should be rude or embarrass the person. I agree though, videos like this are important to learn how to not BE accidentally rude in the first place!
@@Phoenix-One0922 They seem pretty respectful
I think this is why the stress level in Japan is high
Protocol 4: "Materialism replace religion." If a hoax, why do they perfectly fit?
@@scintillam_dei what?
@@sehalos The Protocols of The Meetings of The Learned Elders of Zion explain why materialism pervades this modern world.
@@scintillam_dei So?
Being considerate of each other isn't why Japanese are stressed. They're stressed for the same reasons why Americans (and most other people) are stressed: work, finances, health, time management
A whole society built on "what other people think is more important than what I feel or think"
That's actually everyone- it's just different ways.
And that’s why the lgtb people suffer.
yeah..i hate tht
that's literally what societies are built on
_Wow! What a concept! Actually being considerate of others! Imagine that!_
:D
Don't hate your co-workers for taking time off that are legally allowed to take. Hate your company for putting you in a position that makes it hard to take vacations. No one on their deathbed thinks "Oh I should have worked more hours at my job".
For real. When you die they just replace you like a flat tire. I take vaca whenever I want its mine to use just like my money.
And that is where the culture difference kicks in. Don't apply western values on a Asian society.
I don't agree with their approach to taking time off either. But i'm not in the place to tell them to screw themselves.
We need to either adapt or simply stay away.
@Lhasa Thailand Completely agree.
As a french person where most people work 35h/week and enjoy quite a lot of days off /year... I find it quite sad how japanese are living to work.
But that's just how they are, and I'm too biased to judge.
It's slowly changing tho. Japanese young people are less and less afraid to change company anymore if work conditions are bad.
The thing is it’s not just about not taking your entitlement - it’s consideration. By checking with your coworkers you are taking time to be considerate of them. It is very hard to understand this from a western perspective because the west tends more toward individualism.
You can’t fix stupidity
One thing that I really admire in Japanese culture is their attention to cleanliness. That thing about taking care of your dog pee totally makes sense for me.
Well, it does in dense areas like on concrete asphalt and so on. Not so much if it's pee on pure dirt or a stretch of grass for example.
@@benktlofgren4710 yes, I agree with you.
When you receive a gift, you give a gift back.
They recieve a gift, they give you another gift.
You recieve a gift, you give a gift back.
They recieve a gift, they give you another gift.
Infinite loop of gifts!
The price of the gift gets higher and higher by the end, you will have to buy them a car.
recursion
@@Mwoods2272 Each return gift loses 50-70% of the value of the previous gift, so it would actually fall towards zero over time. It would be soon be a competition to find the cheapest possible gift.
@@Mobliz What if you give them hand made stuff like foods or crafts? Are they worth more or less?
@@Mobliz You can go negative, and give gifts that make them loose money, now thats a game to see how long they will ask for a break
1. Working in Japan 1:29
2. Coming back from Vacations 2:36
3. Greeting your Neighbors 3:07
4. Visiting Someone´s Home 3:43
SPONSOR 4:15
5. Grocery Shopping 5:06
6. Eating Manners 5:46
7. Owning a Dog 6:41
8. Wedding Gifts 7:03
9. Receiving Gifts 7:37
10. Funerals 8:17
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These timestamps don't always help the channel. I freaking skipped the sponsor
@@kamiko8021 well than dont skip it
Thanks
So what I'm hearing is
1. Consult with coworkers on taking time off
2. Buy gifts for coworkers after vacations
3. Greet your neighbors and bring them gifts upon moving in (that's an interesting one, where Im from neighbors bring new neighbors gifts as a house warming present)
4. Properly take off shoes and orient them toward the door upon entering another's home
5. Do not touch and then return food in supermarkets
6. Educate yourself on table etiquette and do not lick chop sticks
7. Wash away dog pee when walking dog
8. Give new money in even amounts instead of gifts for wedding
9. Give back a gift of around 30-40% value in return for a gift received.
10. Do not wear sunglasses to funerals.
Not bad, but 8 is give new money in odd amounts.
@@JasonUr ?? some people maybe didn’t catch all the points or didn’t want to watch the video fully lmao why are you mad about the commeny
I'm not even Japanese, but I used to bring my colleagues gifts after vacations, but never got any from them lol so it's nice to hear there's actually such tradition in Japan
You can touch and return food at the same time. A lot of japanese do it. LoL. Well I agree that if you think Japan was a magical place like anime. Don't ever dream of coming here. People spend all of their lives working. You cannot survive here if your mindset was just to see an anime real live action. If you're allergic to stress, just leave Japan alone.
Does 9 make the gift more expensive each timem
A lot of this just makes sense to me, and I don't feel annoyed at all. I work for a small local business in a town and always give advance warnings when I need to take time off, and my boss makes a schedule to fit everyone's needs. Also, I am always happy to fill in whenever someone needs to go to a doctor's appointment, go to a funeral, take care of a sick family member, etc. I even did this when I worked for bigger businesses to reduce stress for my manager and help out the other employees.
There is difference between being considerate and being forced to.
In my country talking behind someone's back is considered a sign of bad upbringing.
Never talk shit about your friends. That's my personal creed.
Which country? Because gossip exists in almost every culture.
@lil trol I didn’t say gossip isn’t toxic. I’m saying it’s prevalent in almost every culture. Especially in the US; you must live under a rock if you think manners exist here at all. Almost anything goes in the US. The UK is also very big into gossip.
Japan has left the chat
Japan plans to spread out the radioactive waste into the ocean
Stay away from Japan
Foreigners exist
Japan: and i took that personally
North Korea nuke Japan for the third time
@@LeCatt0 When did they dropped in Japan?
@@LeCatt0 Japan started..... Beef with Korea...
@@fxmika5937 when?
@@LeCatt0 in manga
My mum lived in Japan for 20 years. Now I know why she tells me off I’m rude all the time
Are you Chinese? because most of these things would be considered rude in traditional chinese culture too.
@@iceomistar4302 thats funny considering how they behave publicly
@@Xijifi True
@@huggybear441 lol chill.
@@huggybear441 hahaha whatever you say old bones.
In addition, in the grocery shop /mall , we have to put bill amount in the small tray.
We can't give it in the cashier's hand directly.
$300 as a wedding gift? Celebrate without me then lol
I would come down with a condition that I am always ill whenever I am around a wedding.
in brazil wedding gifts go from house accessories if the couple is moving and about $200-500, u are a cheapskate lol
@@miaalmeida4787 Yeah and in Brazil nearly everybody is poor because they spend their money on shit like that.
$300 barely covers you and your dates plates plus booze....
that's almost your entire welfare check,damned......
Me: I hope I make lots of friends when I move to Japan to work in 2021
You: ３００００￥ wedding gifts
Me: I hope I make no friends when I move to Japan to work in 2021
SAME
lmao same
😂😂😂😂❤️
@Jolene Jellybean I'm assuming only close friends probably get invited, and its probably 30000 total
what is your line of work going to be when you get there?
I grew up in a rural area in the U.S. and if anyone moved in, you took a food dish of some sort to the person moving in as a welcome gesture. Also, when a friend, neighbor, family member passes away, it is customary to take a dish to the family as a sign of respect and thoughtfulness.
Even in suburbs this used to be the norm. I'm kinda sad that it sounds like the younger kids in Japan are starting to loose this tradition too. Its ok not to be particularly buddy-buddy with your neighbors, but its also a VERY good idea to know them at least a little.
@@cosmosandquasar exactly. I feel like Japanese (young) are becoming really cold and want to live in their bubble
I prefer us over japan
Rural US is sweet.
That sounds like the fuckin south
I'm from the UK and the 'discussing time off' and 'bringing treats back from holidays' are things I've experienced here. The first one being in both shift work and in a small office. So many people complain if someone takes time off during busy periods and since it was an accountants office, taking time off within the two months before the end of the tax year is pretty much banned even if they don't say it to people.
I was only an admin and when I tried to take time off in February I was pretty much told off for putting more work on the others.
Treats wise, it was more the office. If anyone went abroad they would usually bring a big box of sweets from wherever they went to share with everyone. And if the office got edible gifts from clients around holidays or just as a 'job well done' thing, they were always put in the group kitchen to share out.
Also, here we usually take gifts of alcohol, food, or flowers to people if we're visiting them in their homes. Especially if it's a dinner party or get together.
It's your holiday entitlement. Why should you be obsessed about others at work?
@@ChrisPage68 Personally, I agree with you, I think it’s wrong to get irritated when people take time off that is literally stated as time they can take in their contract. I do know why people get irritated though, those two months are the busiest time of the year for that office and leaving them short handed can lead to issues that cause clients and the company to be fined for late submission of paperwork. But, also, if a company can’t hit targets because one or two people decide to take holiday time, the company should consider taking on more workers.
It’s one of the many reasons why I realised I wasn’t ever going to be comfortable or cut out for ‘traditional’ employment.
bro ain't no way I'm spending 300$ on a wedding present. I'll avoid invitations like a plague.
Is it not normal to bring money to weddings in America also? I have looked up videos for wedding planning and what not. It is common for people to bring maybe 150$ or more. Weddings cost a lot!
@@MaxRollison In Poland giving money is rather rude, unless specifically beeing requested (doesn't happen often). Also, everyone gives what they can afford, it would be rude to comment on low value of a gift. Only mandatory thing is flowers, sometimes switched for lottery coupons instead. You are only not supposed to gift knives, that's a bad omen or something. Reception usually is paid for by both famillies of bride and groom, but sometimes everyone pitches in if they are both poor.
@@TheCrusaderBin I will never understand Poland it seems... Rude to give people money... I just don't get it... interesting though! Everywhere has different customs and beliefs. If I knew more about Poland's history and people I would probably understand why it's rude as Japan also has some weird things going on as well that relate to its culture (for example, rude to tip). Tipping just means something different in Japan and in America. Thanks for the reply! :)
@@MaxRollisonI don't know where that person got that bit of information from but it's not true. Here in Poland it's absolutely normal to give money or other gifts especially if you are a close family member. I would say it's rather expected of you. Flowers are treated more like an addition to the whole thing. It's true you give what you can afford but there are some expectations and you definitely could be judged for not giving much by some (probably not to your face but still). It's the first time I hear about the lottery coupon thing. The bit about reception being paid for by both families is true. I would add that as a guest you could eat and drink whatever you want for free. My cousin boyfriend who comes from UK was really surprised by that since apparently you have to order and pay for whatever you want in his country. So it's not a norm around the world.
@@TheCrusaderBin Are you Polish? The things you wrote are rather unusual.
Foreigners: **exists**
Japanese people: Why is this invented
Yesh.....most indigenous consider a foreigner just a figment of their imagination.
😂
and i took that personally
Japan and anime is butter
Why trade with other country then why waging war against us and china just stay with your territory baka japan
1:29 -Working in japan
2:36 -coming back from vacation
3:06 -Greeting your neighbors
3:43 -visiting homes
5:05 -grocery shopping
5:47-eating manners
6:41 -owning a dog
7:02 -wedding gifts
7:38 -receiving gifts
8:17 -funerals
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Japan +Galapagos =jalapeños
Thanks
@@User_37821 Just so you know you replied to my comment, I didn't reply to yours. So who's gonna f**k off?
@@erfanulislam2972 Just so you know you
Replied to my comment, I didn’t reply to yours. So
Who’s gonna f**k off?
@@User_37821 Are you a fool or blind. Just go up and see who replied to whom...WTF!
This is fascinating!
The part about talking with your colleagues before taking time off from work should be common sense everywhere if you work as part of a team. At my former job here in Germany it was actually mandatory. Sure, you have a certain number of holiday/vacation days (pretty many here, actually) per year, but you have to plan them together with your team and be ready to compromise if need be, so that everyone gets their fair share of time off when they need it, and the work doesn't suffer. It's just common courtesy. Too many people ignore that unless the boss requires it, though.
The office gift giving upon return from your holiday is a nice idea. I usually just sent thankyou emails, but my very closest colleagues sometimes got little souveniers. Sadly, what a lot of people do instead is brag excessively about where they went and how much fun they had. That can come across as obnoxious if your colleagues had to slave away to cover for you in your absence.
The gift giving to neighbours when you move into a new place is a very nice idea. I can see where it might get complicated if you live in a big apartment complex, though. Do you give to just the neighbours across from and on either side of you? To everyone on your floor?
About reciprocal gifts, is there a time limit, or can you wait till, say, Christmas or the person's birthday to give them their gift? When you receive a gift, is it polite to open the package right away, or should you wait till the guests are gone? Do you send thankyou cards?
Have a wonderful day, and keep up the great work!
But the thing is that this person is neglecting to tell you that a lot of corporations in Japan work as a team to a point. If you go up to your colleagues and discuss your vacation time then that's what starts problems behind your back and that's where the backstabbing begins with a lot of your colleagues.
Damn, I bet Japanese co-workers would hate their co-worker who just died from overwork and left them with all their work to complete lol.
They'd hate him so much that they would come into his funeral with sunglasses on 😎
you sre so mean but 🤣🤣🤣
Im ded 🤣
i think they only care in matters where that 'foreigner' pays no attention to the unstated rules that native residents consider as basic workplace ettiquette.
@@erikasl.7050 i dont understand. now i understand
A message from an old Japanese guy for your reference. I hope this helps you understand more.
Using new unfolded cash shows a gesture for "I'm prepared for a happy event like this, and certainly, I'm prepared and thrilled to celebrate the bride, the groom, and their families and friends." To have pretty looking cash, we need to go to a bank, meaning, some preparation is involved. That's why we use newly unused cash.
Whereas, we use used and folded cash purposefully for an unhappy event like funeral. It means "It has happened all the sudden and I'm not prepared for this!" So, you need to have cash out of your wallet and use it for an unexpected event like funeral.
Why do we use cash instead of actual gifts? For wedding, all we want is for them to be happiest at this moment of their lives. Just like a brochure for a wedding shower, the couple can use cash for what they want instead of receiving something they may not want.
For funeral, using cash shows condolences to support the family of the dead. In Japan, since a lot of ceremonial events are involved within one funeral, unfortunately, it costs a lot. So, the attendees to the funeral support the family financially with the cash as well (as spiritually with their presence).
I hope I make sense to you.
This makes sense
@Nica101handcraft Nicaragua
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@@daisuke910
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It makes sense, and I don't really see it as excessive. The money thing is much better than the crazy western tradition of the "gift table". And in some parts of my country, weddings last _one week,_ and funerals last more than ten days...
Wow! When it comes to funeral and its ceremonies, it lasts long in Japan too.
Japanese people : everything you do is rude
Foreigners : what about talking behind people's back?
Japanese people: Nah, that's okay.
When I lived there I had a major problem with it because I came to see the culture as INCREDIBLY dishonest. I liked most of it but that one got me.
Nanking never happened
Manila never happened
Bataan Death March never happened
Comfort women never happened
Unit 731,100,1655,1855 never happened
Burma Massacre never happened
Vietnam massacre never happened
Singapore, Indonesia, Malaysia crimes never happened
~Japan
@A dude with a flashlight check Wiki ( rape of Manila) involved atrocities committed against Filipino civilians in the city of Manila
@@User_37821 LOL yeah half Filipino here. My mom's relatives tend to do it a lot...
@@User_37821 they're more worried about people licking chopsticks than atoning for All these massacres.
I would consider wearing sunglasses at a funeral rude as well. And I'm from the UK. Being considerate of co-workers when taking a holiday is a no-brainer as well. But it should definitely be up to the employer to make sure there are enough resources to cover everyone taking their full holiday allowance too.
From Australia, here its also rude to wear sunglasses at a funeral and taking leave without considering co-workers or companies situation will usually leave a sour taste in other employees mouths since we all need to help each other out from time to time. As far as I've been able to tell with funerals, (havent been to many) it is a bit un proper to wear any accessories during the ceremony. (watches, bracelets, hats, glasses that are needed etc.)
Yeah... feels like its common only in US
I'm from the US and I disagree on sunglasses at funerals in certain cases. Someone might wear them to cover up that their makeup is messed up from tears, or that their eyes and cheeks are swollen crying a lot generally. It depends who is wearing the sunglasses but certain people can wear them and the expectation would be to leave them to their process.
@@mariocerame I am sure I will be hated, since I wear prescription transition lens. I can't see anything if I don't wear them. lol The funerals I've been to, mostly everyone wear sunglasses on a sunny day, and hats too if they choose to. 😂😂 Only thing is don't wear bright happy color fashion/jewellery, it is disrespectful.
No it's not rude
I’ve seen videos where they say that people in Japan rarely take their vacations because they don’t want to perceived as lazy and that they will work long past their scheduled hours everyday for the same reason which is ridiculous, you’ve allowed yourself to be brainwashed into not taking holidays and go home as scheduled.
Capitalism brainwash the working class
If you look up the data, Americans consistently work more hours per year than Japanese people. Granted, I'm not sure if unpaid overtime is factored into that data, but the data often contradicts the beliefs Americans hold about Japan (working hours, suicide, etc)
@Psy locke yes and minorities have to work more for less as well.
@@Noelciaaa Depends which minorities you mean. Proportionally, some work harder, sure, but only those with better than average work ethics. The rest are no harder workers than their other racial equivalents.
It's unbelievable for me as a frenchman. In my country, holidays are sacred, we are proud of our five weeks holidays per year.
It's another world. I can't imagine living in such a stressed and hung-up country.
Not surprising the suicide level is so high. Calm-down Japanese folks !
Rule 9 is very strange. In western culture we remove the price tag from a gift so the gift isn't about how much you give.
Yeah and some people remove it so you don’t know how cheap the product was lol
Im asian but my mom does it too
@@pablosanchez5294 true but the true value is in the gift itself. If I give a $40 dollar toaster over a $200 toaster that shouldn't matter as long as the couple actually needed a toaster, Because if the couple already have one then me buying them a $200 dollar toaster has no value to them to begin with. I'm truly against cost and more for actually value so if someone gifts me something i actually need than i dont care what it cost because someone helped me out with one less problem in my life.
I don't find rude even if a cheap gift, its thought that counts and not price tag. Yeah Rule 9 is wierd.
@@pablosanchez5294 most people have a registry so they get gifts they wanted anyway and they can see how much it costs
"YOU MUST WORK TO DEATH LIKE ALL OF US RUDE GAIJIN!" - Dying overworked Japanese man.
(o3o) lol
Well, that is how I know I’ve probably lived several lives in Japan. These “rules” are basic for me, very natural. That is how I live my life here in EU now. I’ve visited Japan a few years ago and I felt so at ease.. Even ppl living there asked us. How long have we been living in Japan:) Love the ceremonies and the “rules” of society, it makes life easier for me!
I've lived in Japan for 10 years and have never been invited to any local's home, but I've had many Japanese people invite themselves to my home (and they still never invited me to their homes). I've given up and tired of running a living gaijin museum.
😂😂😂
Oh, my face turned red while reading that, it sounds kinda rude to "invite yourself" to one's home :/
They only invite you when you just move or your a new neighbor
Wow japanese good people
@@oas.rimmee you don't know people's true heart
My biggest issue with Japan is if someone makes a genuine mistake, they seem to assume it was intentional.
What a baseless generalisation. Shut the fuck up
I know what you mean, but I've actually grown to appreciate it. It doesn't really make logical sense to fault someone for genuine mistakes and accidents and it took me some time to adapt to it, but once you get adapted to the culture and take ownership of those mistakes and accidents that you think you have no control over, a very funny thing happens - those mistakes and accidents stop happening. You stop arriving late to work regardless of traffic. You make all your deadlines days in advance no matter how short or unfair. "Accidents" stop happening around you. You have, in essence, raised your bar for how you define mistakes and accidents. Finally, you've fully adapted to the culture when you start wondering to yourself, "why do all my foreigner friends and business affiliates make excuses for everything and don't own up?"
@@akikozu7444 Because we human and no one is perfect. Judging people for it can lead to you becoming stiff and a perfectionist. But i get what you mean.
@@chey6073 Thank you for the comment.
You're right, and that's why I don't make any judgment. In fact, I certainly don't claim it to be fair and that's actually the first thing I clarify by recognizing and affirming the initial comment made by Mich. I only provide my experience and the resulting outcome to bring balance to what would otherwise be a one-sided take on why things are the way they are and hopefully give additional insight to those viewing in from the outside. And again, you're right - Japanese culture isn't for everybody - not even for me. I once left Japan because I hated living here, but now I can't imagine living anywhere else.
@@HS-ie8tj stfu
I live in germany so I’m used to following many rules (especially thanks to the german bureaucracy), but I feel like japan takes it to a whole new level.
Was? Welche Regeln?
@@31er_ohne_AMG Du musst die frage klarer stellen, ich weiß nämlivh nicht genau was du meinst-
@@movedchannel7192 er sagt es gibt viele Regeln in DE. Ich Frage was für regeln
@@31er_ohne_AMG Achsoo okay naja ich weiss selber nicht wirklich welche regeln er/sie meinte
@@movedchannel7192 deswegen hab ich gefragt
When he added the ad for his snack business in the middle, I nearly switched the video off as I thought it was the end of the video😂
3:00 in Mexico, in the city I live in. The neighbors give YOU welcoming gifts, it’s a sign that we’re here for you, and hope you’ll return the favor.
The only gifts i get here is poop from my neighbour's dogs
Which place or state?
@@almagabriela2021 NL aquí toda la colonia les damos algo de comida a los nuevos
@@moofin4170 que padre, no en el mío no jaja
@@almagabriela2021 jalisco
I’m not sure if “ why are Japanese don’t like foreigners living in Japan” is really the best title for the video. But it is a good overview of some of the social rules that one has to follow to really be part of Japanese society (and not annoy people in general.) Paolo hinted at this, but young urban Japanese don’t necessarily follow all of these. The more rural you get, the more rules there, and the more people expect you to follow them. In my area, anyone who doesn’t participate in various community activities such as attending neighborhood meetings, volunteer Fire Brigade, community weeding, etc are definitely looked down on by the community. And, I guess non-Japanese residents are more likely to fall into this category.
i think it's clickbait for those who think they want to move to Japan
Mhmm I see. Nice way of articulating it. Thanks. It pretty much makes sense. It’s like your an outcast if you don’t help or participate in activities. Witch in my opinion is a good thing, people have more morals like that. That’s why I like the Asian culture they really believe that family is a priority unlike my culture Dominicans are really wild lol, granted that every race has their morally ethical people and the ones who don’t.
@@blanksky3342 yea pretty much it’s click bait, it’s a very controversial title.
Bru who tf cares lol. It’s just paolo being one of the boys trying guide us down the right path.
this is also my observation. my mother lives in japan for 30yrs and shes in rural area. when we visited tokyo and her in yaizu i observed that people in yaizu follows rule more than people in tokyo. although im not saying that in general people living in tokyo, but there are couple of instances where we saw people who bends simple law like crossing the road while red indicator for people to stop and still they continue which we never neverr saw in yaizu area
the giving gifts back one is the one that stuck out/surprised me the most (i'm not disagreeing with it cos every country and culture has different norms and values), cos in my country most people would have the attitude that if you give someone a gift that's you giving them a gift for the occasion (or just because you want to), and now them giving you one back is out of obligation rather than just wanting to give you a gift so it doesn't feel as sincere (and people here would consider feeling entitled to get a gift back as just plain rude). this also may just be in my family but we always take the price tags off of gifts cos my mum says it's rude to try and figure out how much money the gift is worth and that instead you should appreciate the gift itself and the thought that was put into it
Yes! My family does that as well and I completely agree with what your saying
My family does this too. And I'm American
@@jellyfish_bubbles Same here
I agree with you
In United States it considered very rude to give a gift back.
How interesting! Thank you for sharing these important customs. Learning the customs of a country is not only interesting, but definitely necessary so that we can show respect.for what the people value.
This country has more rules than any country.
I just plan on buying some anime stuff and going home
Same, I want to buy those plushies of anime characters that I like, do some sightseeing, and then I'm gonna get out of there..
thats why this country has one of the largest economy inspite of natural calamities and less natural resource
but some of these are unnecessary
I mean, if you look at history a lot of Japanese culture (actually most Asian culture) is based off of traditions and a crap ton of respect. I went to get a haircut in Japan and the person who cut my hair handed me their business card and they got mad at me because he handed it to me with two hands and I didn’t grab it with two hands. Yes, it is a lot to keep in mind but I think it’s just better to respect someone’s culture, especially when in their country.
Stay away from Japan
Japan plans to dispose of radioactive waste into the ocean
#1 where he said people don't usually take time off for the sake of the company and then people wonder why the mental health related issues are so high in japan, it sounds like they live for their company instead of themselves/their family
While I agree, In comparison, usa doesnt have paid vacation / parental leaves at all. Which is a different mess entirely.
@@HavenarcBlogspotJcK I have family living there that gets paid vacation...unless you're referring to just government workers
@@AJ-lo4eh That's great! Right now there's newer progressive workplace popping up. sadly the same can't be said about corporate and retail worker.It's really really rare for the lower kill worker bracket.
they committ suicide at a very high rate in japan something they dont talk about
@@JohnnyPhillips-uo5fg "something they dont talk about"
It's a very common knowledge. Theres nearly as much documentary about japanese dying from stress as sushi. They are aware of it and are actively talking about it.
Wow, getting into a cult would require much less effort
LMAO
..lol.
lol, they actually want you in a cult xD
Japan locked out its permanent legal foreign residents for 5 months and longer, due to "c0vid" this year.
..in sarcastic voice: makes you feel sooooo wanted.
Honestly living in japan seems so hard, I thought my country was bad but now I find that my country has much less stress
Depends
For them is easy
We never know what can hold our back
A chef in Kobe took such pity on me trying to use chopsticks that he went off and sourced me a fork.
☠️☠️🤣🤣
Nice.
awww..i’m so sorry for you. i suck at chopsticks too.
I feel so bad 😭
@@buttlicker48 Theres no need to feel bad. I wanted to try the chopsticks to show that I was willing to try Japanese culture but I couldn't pick up a single thing on the plate. The chef handed me the fork with a smile
Me: *turns all the shoes and sandals*
My parents: wtf are you doing?
"Im a bit special, haven't you figured that out by now"
You wouldn't leave shoes in front of the door.
In Brazil we also do That(but only in some parts of Brazil), maybe cause we have some Japaneses Here
@@raimundononatobezerradossa5452 Brazil is the country with the largest population of Japanese people outside of Japan. I grew up in Japan and the US, and my best friend in the US was a Brazilian-American.
I’m a Japanese. If I don’t turns all the shows, my parents will get angry since when I was a child😅 that’s so strict rule for me tho😕
**me licking chopsticks**
Japanese people: And I took that personally.
😂😂😂😂
Yeah.. not at all like here in US..
*Me stating an opinion*
US Snowflakes: I take offense to that!
I thought that shit was too extreme
Yeah I'm Japanese and licking chopsticks is fine, especially if you're not from here people let you off the hook for things native Japanese couldn't get away with (the gaijin card). What you really want to avoid is sticking your chopsticks in your food when you're not using them and using your chopsticks to push plates and bowls around.
@@destituteanddecadent9106 will you get disown if you do that?
I have some advice as a Japanese! If you want to work or live in Japan, I strongly recommend that you make one Japanese friend before coming to Japan. There are a lot of jobs for foreigners to get used to Japan in Japan, so they will introduce you to a comfortable working environment by making Japanese friends in advance. Also, this video has been introduced too much, but please be assured that Japanese people are tolerant of the rules.
I lived in Japan for 4 years because I married a Japanese woman. My tip to foreigners was to learn about Japanese culture and make the effort to learn even a little of the language. In my experience, they appreciate it. Ebisu Garden was one of my regular places to visit
When language difficultty is SSS tiers and it's not one of the 5 main languages, even if you knew about 100 sentences you cannot understand the answer especially when they are surprised and can speak faster than spanish people xD
Lmao and the world hates america because they want people to learn SOME english
@Justice Strike that problem is going to become worse with Biden in charge
A golden rule for travelling : always remember that you are the guest and not the homeowner
@Justice Strike I understand your line of reasoning, but your intentions are coming from a place of irrationality. Foreigners should live how the natives live, but it doesn't erase the fact they don't like foreigners at all. I understand the United States has problems, but how would the Japanese feel, if we banned them from using the American Ivy league schools? The international community would throw a fit, but in Japan, you're allowed to ban foreigners from restaurants, and there's shows that make fun of white and black people.
Japan : Why our people are suffering with severe Anxiety?
Also Japan : I like Rules!
SLAPAJAP!
@Ky Jelly maybe pooing in the streets is what the doctor ordered for anxiety?
Compared Japan to other developer country counterparts, Japan is still much better, highly disciplined lol
@@iROChakri Highly disciplined coupled with an absurdly high suicide rate and one of the worst work cultures in human history. Dont think you can compare yourself with many counterparts in that regard and think Japan is considered great.
@@drakelondon6849 that's a slur
The reason why I make less and less friends as I age. Less awkwardness and more peace of mind.
My saying is, "The more people you know, the more trouble you have."
People are too demanding and too full of expectations plus you have to deal with all their emotional crap on top of that.
I just tell people that I want life to be peaceful and for each day to flow gently one into the next~ no drama, no BS- and anyone who disrupts that will find themselves gone. They can go have their drama festivals, tantrums, fits, inter-personal fights and other nonsense somewhere else and not try to drag me into all of it. Plus I don't want to hear all their whining about all that either. Lol.
Eliminating toxic people from your life does make things oh so peaceful!
@@ronw484 This was actually a good read, thx for the advice.
I'm from Central Europe and most of the mentioned aspects are pretty normal here as well (or at least I was taught that way), like greeting your neighbours or bringing holiday gifts and not touching food unless you buy it.
"When I grow up I want to visit or live in japan. "
Me after this video: * "Never mind, I'll stay here."
I’d love to retire there but America will always be my preferred lifestyle. I’m a Latino but the carefree, open-minded way that white Americans live is pretty ideal to me.
As a global citizen, Stay away from Japan
Stay in the World
Individualism should still take precedence over perverted collectivism.
Neither is perfect but....I’m me, That’s why I live and exist
Don’t worry about it. As long as you show you’re actually TRYING to be decent/polite/aware, most people you meet will be forgiving.
@@User_37821 Well someone’s racist. I’m betting... Chinese national maybe? Or some form of western European. Maybe city-borne American? Definitely a globalist.
Japan as a whole values culture and tradition. These traditional expectations may seem stifling, but consider the purpose. Sure you’re expected to bring back omiyage after a vacation, take that from the perspective of your coworkers who have had to cover for you while you were away. Or take greeting neighbors with a small gift when you move, it’s just an excuse that allows you to meet and befriend said neighbors who you’ll see pretty often.
Perverted collectivism, ohh please. There’s still plenty of individualism in japan, they just have the sense that people are NOT solitary creatures. Nobody is an island.
Just take initiative to learn do and don't before going and practise common courtesy in any country u visit. That's all. Each time in doubt ask. Ur literally one please away 😂😂
Their environment, culture and specially food is definitely the best if not one of it.
I always liked the shoe room in Japanese houses. People walking around my house with shoes sickens me.
Yea me too I don’t whatever they step on inside my house
Way more bacteria on their feet
@@Sandlin22 no , that's not how it works
its a pretty normal thing in asia ,lol , i dont understand how can you wear shoes in the house , it sickens me
*he-man, how dare you bring shoes into my castle!!*
“Please do not finger peaches. It’s fragile.”
That's sounds so wrong-
Its literally vagina shaped lol
Hahahahaha!
you can not grab them peaches!
You made me chuckle 😮😂🤗👍
The one about taking holiday is probably the one I would have the most trouble with. Purely because of mindset. You plan your holiday and need that period off. Opposite, I'd have no issue covering someone elses work while they take a much deserved holiday and I certainly wouldn't expect something in return.
It's both funny and so interesting to see this difference in culture and mindset.
Great video!
Talking behind people's back is worse than telling people off to their face.
Japanese people love to do that because they hate confrontation
True. Talking behind my back is my mortal enemy. Better confront and say what they think is more honorable thank talking behind is coward.
Now you know why online bullying is so bad in Japan. Sometimes those who bow deeply stab you even deeper.
@@ex0duzz Yeah, I feel like people should acknowledge this more. Of course there’s no such thing as a perfect country, but it’s just weird how many people out there defend Japan and ignore all of the negative aspects of its culture and history.
well, lucky you, not in Japan it isn't. only individualistic vocal cultures like the US would think like this.
Having worked in Japan for 6 months...I felt so stressed with all these rules. Made me so grateful to live in a country where we live for ourselves and not our work and colleagues. If o want to take leave and I have leave owing, I’m encouraged to take it. I don’t have to bring back and gift for everyone and be out of pocket, and if I give monetary gift to a wedding couple...they’ll accept it in odd or even numbers...crisp or not...they’re just grateful...
@dennis wright No, Dennis, it is just THEIR custom and no one is gonna change that.
I thought that Chinese very crazy until I went to Japan.
You feel grateful for being discourteous? Caring for anyone seems harsh until you get cared for.
@dennis wright what else can come from a loser like u. Clowns like you are masters in their heads but the world laughs at you.
@@varunishere who said I didn’t care about anyone. You don’t even know me. At least when im courteous it’s genuine and not because im being forced. Imagine just barely being able to make ends meet and stressing over buying everyone in the office treats because you’re forced to…or stressing whether or not your courteous monetary gift is crisp and acceptable numbers. Receiving courteously is just as important…if someone turns their nose up at a person because what they had to give is not in frickin odd or even numbers and not crispy enough…then Sorry I do feel grateful that I can choose who I want to be courteous to….btw a lot of Japanese don’t like these rules either. The ones I know find it stressful.
In all honesty, and let’s all be real here. Every country hates foreigners. No matter how hard you want to debate that. There will always be a massive part of a countries society which will hate foreigners or people who a different.
But please be polite and kind and a good person when you can. We shouldn’t shun people who are foreign though, people come from different walks of life and they see things differently which is lovely to learn.
I think it depends on the country and where in the country, especially in The United States
Feels fine in Vancouver. Minus the whole housing issue but that's different to this viddo
I don't mind foreigners in Australia. But then, not everyone shares my view. Also I'm Indigenous, so like, everyone is a foreigner haha
You know in some regions of the world they have same skin color and same language there are not much issues outside of politics warmongers. But there are cases when your own country is not going well and you have paperless foreigners getting money and priority job from the state... especially true in the european union.
Tunisia and Saudi Arabia and the rest of the North African and middle easterner gulf have just entered the chat. We literally love having tourists. Not only we like to diff ppl coming from diff places but they help with the economy too.
Wow, thank you for sharing. I learned so much!
I’m Japanese. And For me I totally don agree “ foreigners living in Japan is rude” we are so welcome you to live in JAPAN!
Thank you
NO thank you! anyway
@@User_37821 How DARE you sir! Thank YOU!
thank you so much
You may welcome us but landlords, officials and bosses probably won’t...
Not only in Japan , i think it's best if you research the custom/culture any country you'll go
We also don't like stranger come into our house and do whatever they like
I dont mind strangers coming into my house! But yeah they must not do whatever they want.
True
The issue is, most of things in this video you can't find by "research" I've watched hundreds of hours of UA-cam videos on Japan and most of these have never been mentioned before in all the "what not to do in japan" type videos out there. It's a shame Japanese are too "nice" to let you know if you do something wrong, yet at the same time hold it against you. There have been several things I noticed about Japan in which they being too nice ends up being rude. For example I seen a video that explained Japanese if you ask for directions will not tell you no or don't know if they don't know the directions, instead they will purposely give you bad directions wasting your time because it's against their nature to admit they don't know something. That in itself i find to be incredibly rude, especially to a tourist with limited time, available to enjoy your country, they may have even saved up years of money to take that trip, ,using up all their time off,, etc. and you just wasted hours of their time potentially giving wrong directions on purpose because you don't want to admit you don't know where that thing is located. I love Japan and the people in general, just some of their culture makes 0 sense to me, to the point where they are actually being rude by being too nice.
I've always believed that every country/culture has its ups and downs. No country is perfect and free of problems. Its intresting to see those.
So you never make any decisions and cannot make accurate judgements. Thank you for putting that out there. Shut up.
@@Qunyc1985 you just had to say something huh, some of you need to look and shut up, do as you please cause this is a public comment section 😑
@@Midnight-vq7wy Don’t react right away when you feel triggered. Instead, reflect on what information is being presented and why it gives you a strong reaction. Is it the person who shared it, or that the information strongly validates or refutes something you believe? If that’s the case, what is the source of the information? Being self-aware enough to know what triggers you and whether it’s worth getting worked up can be a great deterrent to conflict and save our brains precious resources. Therefore shut the fuck up you child.
@@Midnight-vq7wy Read What I sent again since you don't have family or anyone who cares. Let it seep in.
@@Qunyc1985 Well look whose talking, I won't read this whole essay you put to together but you could have just ignored me I guess I hit a bad spot in your mind for you to take the time out of your day to type that shit lol 😭😂😂
Halloween is a good example. Foreigners learn that it is not illegal to drink on the streets so they like to take advantage of these laxed rules. There was no such rule in the first place because Japanese never really drink on the streets. After what happened in Itaewon, the mayor of Shibuya banned such gatherings and drinking on Halloween.
A lot of people are saying “Oh so I shouldn’t go to Japan”. Well, you can. Just don’t live in Japan.
It's only bad to live there if you're the kinda person who isn't good at following rules. I'm an american and that's what this country and many others lack, strict rules to go by, maybe most of the world should be more like Japan then most of it wouldn't be a shit hole.
No daniel I will not visit Japan
@@thedarkvegan6872 silence vegan
@@thomasdilfurd4176 I mean sure. Your life your decisions
ua-cam.com/video/39m9D5PVGhM/v-deo.html pls watch
I’m a half Mexican/American man living here in Japan for over 24 years and have gotten nothing but warm acceptance from 99.9% of the people I’ve met here throughout all these years I’ve been living here, and Japanese seem to have a special affinity for Mexicans and our lively and passionate culture! Many customs, Japanese don’t follow and they definitively have not expected me to follow most of these rules other than not going into someone’s house with my shoes on! Lol
Or maybe they are taught at a young age that its rude to point out your being rude and they never say anything?
@@BikerMiceOne that's actually a very lame mindset. How can they magically expect someone to learn something without ever teaching them ? Also many comments here are from Japanese and they themselves say the find most of the rules annoying
Nobody really has American DNA but you can have native American.
so do you think that japanese people are more opened to other races such as mexicans than americans?
Sounds like a very passive aggressive country
it is hahaha
they are....
To say it's very passive aggressive is an understatement. When I was in osaka, it seemed like everyone was holding in a fart in the most brutal way possible
Everyone has a rules,All you can do is respect and do the rules when you go to japanese
@@S__PaulusKenzieSantoso yup, each country has its own rules. people think other countries' are "extreme" or weird just because we aren't used to it, but i don't think it really is that hard to respect if you actually want to live there and educate yourself
A Japanese colleague (who had lived abroad and had acquired the very un-Japanese habit of being candid if asked) told me that it wasn’t so much that the Japanese don’t like foreigners or think they’re rude and more that they find the presence of foreigners stressful because foreigners are so unpredictable (almost the definition of being Japanese is that other Japanese know how you are going to behave because you follow the same rules as they do). Why is that stressful? Because if you do something very strange and un-Japanese you will by definition humiliate yourself publicly (just about the worst thing imaginable for a Japanese) but because you are not Japanese you will not realise that you have humiliated yourself which will make the Japanese feel shame on your behalf and they will resent you for that. Worse, if you are with THEM when you do it, you will also humiliate them in front of other Japanese people so they will have to take the shame for you because you don’t realise what you have done. The key words are “shame”, “humiliation” and “in public” - those things spell loss of face and to avoid that, many Japanese will avoid the loss-of-face-risk that foreigners (by definition) represent. The same guy once told me, only half jokingly, “Japan isn’t another country, it’s another planet”.
I have a little story. I'm a kendoka (I practice kendo) in Hungary in a relatively small town (relatively, but it's the "capitol" of our county). We used to have senseis visiting from Japan for teaching. It is considered a great honor and we learnt much. Here comes the funny part. We regularly take our senseis with us on a night out for eating / drinking. There was master who was visiting, who was a superior of our (thencurrent) sensei. Long story short, everybody got drunk, and the "lesser" master was blacked out in a ditch. His superior was furious about this of course, because he was basically embarassing his people (in his eyes). So he started beating him up. But for the outside viewer who didn't know what was happening, it was two Asians fighting in a ditch. It was ironic. They both went back to Japan and replaced him with a different sensei.
とこの国でも同じだろ
異分子は排除される
君の国にも差別はあるだろ？
それを行動に出さないで、心に秘めてるだけだよ
That society needs to change if they will have a chance of survival. They can't do that in isolation as they found out in the 1800s.
As a japanese, I'd say It's correct but ordinary japanese notice that overseas people don't get used to japanese habits and culture.
So don't worry too much
Correct “collect” to “correct”.
@@田中-g3q
I didn't notice that at all.
cheers!
I can't get used to the rules, because they're too strict. In my case, it feels like even the slightest difference in behavior will set people off and there's no room for forgiveness. I adore many of the food and sceneries though. And the occasional friendly chat with strangers.
@@_Dynamight_
In my opinion, if you talk about relationship in business, it'd be hard.
But me and my friends who exchange students ofen screw up in japanese.
So you should get some japanese friends with same hobby and motivate your daily life :)
@@trice1857 Nahh, it doesn't matter. Whether it's business or casual environment, formal or informal, people be treating you like a criminal if you make a mistake.
For example, if I sit somewhere I'm not supposed to or if I forgot something, people will passive-aggressively get angry. They act like I've killed someone. No forgiving, no relaxing. "You made a mistake, and we're angry at you".
As for people to hang out with, I would love to have some people. But all they do is talk bad behind my back. Sometimes I wish I can't understand Japanese. Thanks for your encouragement though.
5:18 "Please do not finger peaches. It's fragile."
That's pretty deep.
instead, just berate the peaches, tell them the true reality of life, peache drama
@@douglas8568 I dont think you got what he was thinking :D Peaches is normally used as an emoji for a ass. So dont finger the ass, its fragile!
@@Heavymetal16 😲 oh boy
That had me chuckling for two minutes straight.
Bro that’s woke
The land of expectations and judgement
I mean you ain't invited ... Lol
@@rocketfire8416 Yeah we know they hate foreigners.
@@snorcutter then don't come
@@rocketfire8416 I will come, and i'll be the most obnoxious foreigner they've ever met.
@@snorcutter I mean, it is their homeland, Japanese are privileged to do whatever they think is right on THEIR lands.
these rules really opened my eyes on what people mean by the stressful societal standards
Living in Japan seems like a lot of hard work.
And for very little reward in return
Yeah FUCK japan
@Daenack Dranils japanese are the most m€ntally m€ssed up @sians as all other asians know from viewing their b€haviour as tour!sts in asia
I was there for half a year. None of this was an issue for me, I loved the people I was with and Japan is still one of my favorite countries on the planet. If you compare it to typical Western values, you won't make the most of your time there. Take it for what it is. I've learned that regard and consideration for your common man leads to a more pleasant society. Any yes, no society is perfect and imbalances are everywhere, but I loved the spirit behind the core of these customs.
Example: it's rude to talk on your mobile phone on the trains in Japan. At first, that threw me off guard because I wasn't used to it, so I just deferred to texting if I had to. It wasn't until I was in another country when some guy started blabbing loudly on his phone on a quiet train, everyone could hear his conversation and it was distracting. You could tell it from people's faces. This guy had zero clue or care or concern that we could hear his personal business all throughout the cabin. It was then that I really appreciated this custom in Japan.
And what's so great about Japan? Difficult stupid rules, hard language which is not even Romanized, shallow unexpressive cold people with shallow & boring customs, bowing unnecessarily as if you were greeting some strange Deity until your lower back hurts (you don't show "respect & honor" by bowing like an idiot, it is shown by your actions, not by gestures..) living in constrictive & expensive apts., submissive and obedient women with no character and evasive, non friendly youngsters with personal traumatic and psychotic issues, old people with decadent and useless ideas and if you are a 'Foreigner', don't "shine too bright" or the rest of the commoners will simply envy and hate you... So, what are the attractions and interesting sites to visit? A bloody history of wars & carnage? No wonder Japanese love their "cosplay"... It is just pretending because they don't have something more interesting and personal to show. Sad.
Alright, so to blend in I should make sure that I am properly exploited by my employer, calmly accept all forms of peer pressure, while being as passive aggressive as possible. Got it.
@Nica101handcraft Nicaragua Calm down.
@Nica101handcraft Nicaragua how was he not chill?
@Yannik I've lived in Japan for 30 years and have found working here very agreeable. I've worked in the corporate sector (Canon), as a high school teacher and now run an elite youth ice hockey program. The sense of team and the support through which that entails has made work life very comfortable here. Not everyone works for a black company in the corporate towers of Shinjuku. Documentaries can be deceiving as they point the camera at wherever the filmmaker wants you to look and says "see"...
Then try South Korea for a month, you’ll find Japan to be heaven. Their working hours are j.u.s.t crazy... xD
@Nica101handcraft Nicaragua I don't think he was being serious xd I can feel the sarcasm
Ok so I lived in Japan for 2 years. Some caveats to some of these rules because it seems like a lot of people are a little overwhelmed in the comments:
1. Taking time off. Point 1 should be a general rule of thumb not just for Japan but for any work in general. If you decide to take some time off, make sure you are covered before leaving and that you reciprocate the same to your coworkers when it's their time to take time off as well.
3. Greeting your neighbors. My Japanese realtor actually walked me around to each of my neighbors and helped introduce me to the neighbors with a greeting card and translated for me when I first moved into my house.
5. Weddings and funerals. This is why you have Japanese friends and coworkers. If you have a question, just ask. I went to one wedding and one funeral my two years in Japan and without asking, my Japanese coworkers and friends helped me out to make sure I did everything correctly. Regarding sunglasses, no one wears sunglasses in Japan. Literally. Even when it's sunny. Next time you're in Japan, look at the locals and you'll notice this.
So to summarize, you're not alone when you move to Japan. Ask for help when you need it. I guarantee you the Japanese will be more than happy to help you out and will be more appreciative that you're taking the time to learn about their culture.
Japan is not that great and just 'cause you adjusted to that shit doesn't mean everyone needs to that too and your adjusting to it doesn't justify it being right.
Note : I don't hate japan btw
@Yannik I don't understand your comment. You bring up hypothetical situations which don't happen that often just to make Japan sound bad. So you're complaining about taking a job that makes you work overtime in Japan. Ok so don't move to Japan for that job? And then you mention a company canceling your vacation. My vacation plans have never been canceled when I lived in Japan.
its like this,you are employed its not up to you personally to do the other managements job (hr,supervisor etc etc) of employee and work task organization
It’s sad how selfish many westerners in the comments are acting not even attempting to understand Japanese culture but just reacting at face value.
@@End_Zionism Exactly 💯
Japan is not alone on this unwritten rules. It is good to make efforts to familiarize once’s self with the host country’s culture, but sometimes when it is too much, it is too much.
Ii is interesting to learn that sun glasses at a funeral is considered to be rude:)!
Thank you for sharing this message.
I don't understand the no sunglasses at a funeral rule.
If you're at the graveside on a sunny day glasses really help. I'm supposed to wear them outside b/c of an eye problem.
I would love to go to Japan, but my anxiety about offending anyone there would be too great.
Do you not make an effort not to offend people in the country that you live in presently?
Same :(
@@namekom I'm not at all rude by the standards of my own country but that's good to know from someone in Japan. Thank you and well wishes :)
日本人ですが、あなたを歓迎しています。ルールを守れていなくても、私は優しく教えてあげます。安心してください。
How? The rules are pretty simple. Don't be rude to other people. Lol
Don't be loud. Don't litter. Don't steal. Don't spit. Don't steal. Don't cut the line. Etc
Everyone’s talking about “f I n g e r p e a ch” but nobody’s mentioning how at 5:25 the guy says you don’t want someone else feeling your meat
I can understand that. Yet some people act like they are the only ones entitled to destructively manhandle shit. Plus it wastes product. I'm an American and I hate it when people literally open a product in the store to sample it then put it back on the shelf. A little old lady did this in front of me and she was confused about why I stared at her with utmost disgust.
Me: "WTF...you broke or something...!?!"
@@irishime i think he was thinking about something else when he heard the guy said smthng about "pressing up on your meat"
I was waiting for someone else to mention it! He's hilarious, if you've watched the Day in the life of a Fireman... "That's so many hoes!" "Look! More hoes!" lmao
Didn't even look at it that way. LOL I was genuinely looking at from the informational point of view.
Sometimes I can be a little slow. :-) LOL
@@Mochanism I know. Somebody's got to reply with a clean mind lol.
When I lived in Japan I got into big trouble with my neighbors for recycling. There were about 4 different groups to sort the garbage into and I think I was doing the batteries wrong. Some busybody lady across the street got really mad about it and wrote me a nasty letter in bad English.
There were other foreign English teachers in my building and sometimes they'd want to have a party at their house. That is a huge no-no in Japan. The neighbors were really upset at the noise. You are always supposed to go out to an izakaya or something for that. One guy actually came over a party my neighbor was having and I had to translate, he said he had a baby that was trying to sleep. I felt bad because I knew he had to be absolutely at wits end to come over and complain.
Japanese people are kind and considerate while Americans are mostly self centered, ignorant and loud.
@@Kyra_of_Kerkyra Go live in Japan and see how long the “everyone is kind and considerate” stereotype holds up.
@@Kyra_of_Kerkyra This broad generalization only comes from someone who’s never lived in Japan, lol.
@@Kyra_of_Kerkyra based on your last name I’m guessing you’re Czech. Calling all Americans “self centered, ignorant, and loud” is like saying all Czech people are drunkards, depressed, and racist
@@rbunebula_1551 not really racist (where did that come from?). But depressed drunkards? yep, that fits.