Don't Fear Marriage
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- Опубліковано 4 лис 2019
- It is possible for a marriage to not be broken. Jackie and Bobby have served as living examples of that reality on this channel, but today they address the fear of marriage head on. In today’s culture, where it’s almost expected for marriages to have a list of problems, Jackie and Bobby reassure us that the desire for a healthy and holy marriage is not in vain. If that desire is strong in you and you’re single, have faith and hope that there is someone else out there, your future spouse, who desires it and will strive for it just as much.
Remember, pray. Pray for holy couples to come into your life to show you how it’s done, and pray for the gifts of faith and hope.
Marriage in the Catechism:
"The matrimonial covenant, by which a man and a woman establish between themselves a partnership of the whole of life, is by its nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring; this covenant between baptized persons has been raised by Christ the Lord to the dignity of a sacrament" (1601).
“Every man experiences evil around him and within himself. This experience makes itself felt in the relationships between man and woman. Their union has always been threatened by discord, a spirit of domination, infidelity, jealousy, and conflicts that can escalate into hatred and separation. This disorder can manifest itself more or less acutely, and can be more or less overcome according to the circumstances of cultures, eras, and individuals, but it does seem to have a universal character” (CCC 1606).
According to faith the disorder we notice so painfully does not stem from the nature of man and woman, nor from the nature of their relations, but from sin. As a break with God, the first sin had for its first consequence the rupture of the original communion between man and woman. Their relations were distorted by mutual recriminations; their mutual attraction, the Creator's own gift, changed into a relationship of domination and lust; and the beautiful vocation of man and woman to be fruitful, multiply, and subdue the earth was burdened by the pain of childbirth and the toil of work” (CCC 1607).
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I totally get this... my mom was married and divorced 3 times before I was 16. Very dysfunctional family life, abuse, suicide, drug addiction, alcohol, you name it - I've had to endure it. After many years of counseling and then finally meeting a Catholic man, became Catholic - baptized and confirmed at age 28, we married a year later. I cried all the way down the isle, scared to death!!! But trusted God was Loving and Leading me. We became involved with the Militia Immaculate group in S. Cal with ALL the Great Catholic Families! What a Life Saver these people are. ANYONE READING THIS - BE SURE TO SURROUND YOURSELVES WITH GREAT CATHOLIC FAMILIES!!! My husband and I will be celebrating our 30th Anniversary in April 2020. Thanks be to God... Blessings, Sharon
Wow God is good.
I've never witnessed a healthy, Godly marriage in real life. I am so grateful for Internet allowing a glimpse of what that can be like. Your marriage is a blessing to so many people, thank you for your example.
Amen! Ditto
I used to idolize romantic love. That was a very hard thing to topple from its pedestal. Thanks be to God that I did though, I am more realistic and reasonable in my expectations now.
@@lizbeth.gonzalez No unfortunately. Not yet. :(
@@lizbeth.gonzalez Why are you asking people their marital status? Is this for a psychological study?
Anything is possible with God. Put Him first and He will led
Video Idea: A day in the life of a married Catholic couple.
Angel Quinones yes please!!!!
God bless your marriage guys, please pray for me so that I can find a great woman and have a beautiful marriage like yours.
God bless you guys, thank you for your inspiration, we need more family oriented people like you.
As a Catholic, there’s nothing more important than your Vocation. If you’re discerning marriage with someone. Why delay or be afraid?Your Vocation is your path to Holiness, thus, heaven. Get out there, pursue your vocation with fervor, and most importantly: “Be not afraid!” (Much of this is a realization for myself that I wanted to share). Thanks for the video!
I have never witnessed a good marriage, but I refuse to give up hope! Put God first and completely trust in Him.
Please, please, please pray for my vocation. I am 21 yrs. old and feel God calling me. I could be a priest or married. Please pray God let's me know my vocation. Thank you!
Will do✝️🙏
Get a spiritual director ok
Praying for you🙏🏽
Mama Mary. 😍 Thank you for sharing this beautiful message. The world needs this. Especially when we are now surrounded with TV shows and movies that always shows infidelity and broken marriages. God bless you. 😍
It has really helped us to have solid friendships with a few Catholic married couples that we can get together with and be real with. Having friends who are willing to go deeper and share their struggles / joys / trials has been SO good for us!
Is the Lord shading me? I’m legit AFRAID of serious relationships and marriage even though I see people in my life with beautiful marriages
If you feel the Lord speaking to you on the matter pray and reflect on it being open to whatever He tells you and act as the Lord says to act, if He says to act. It is a chance to trust God and learn more of His plans for your life and how He wants to help you. Trust Him. God bless you.
😭 Me too! I always feel something is wrong with me.
Yeah I feel the shade, too. 😂😂 God don't at me lol
Maybe it's a sign of your immaturity?
@zadose a nun that sounds fun she'll have an amazing time
You guys, Jackie and Bobby, are an incredible example of marriage for all of us.
Pray for holy couples, pray you will encounter holy couples - that's a new one for me
I was praying for healthy people with healthy marriages to come into my life and then entered Bobby and Jackie... 😉
God bless you both🤗 thanks for sharing your knowledge. My husband and I just celebrated our 32 anniversary. People ask us all the time how we do it. We just do it. Not alone of course. We try and put God first but when we don’t and find ourselves in the thick of it we put our struggles in God’s hands and move forward. Always look to God and our Holy Mother’s guidance. Always. Sending lots of love and prayer blessings🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗
With 19, I got engaged with my first boyfriend, and thank god it did not end in marriage, it would have been a total disaster. But since then, I'm so afraid of marrying the wrong person. Now I'm 27 years old and the pressure, especially in a South Asian society, is huuuge
"you gotta go for it because otherwise it's to live a life in fear and never committing" - I DEFINITELY needed to hear this!! I'm recently engaged and lately have been confronting a lot of fears regarding the "what ifs" of the future and overall change of life during this next year for me! Thank you Jackie and Bobby for being such a beautiful example. I only pray that my future marriage will be a light to others!
I remember when Bobby got engaged, dumped the girl to go to seminary, then quit seminary to marry someone else. Don't be afraid guys
It always seems like ascension videos come out just when God needs me to here them. Thank you guys. I am in a relationship and am discerning marriage. Me and my boyfriend have a great healthy relationship but i've been filled with fear recently because of other marriages i've seen and a lil ugly past me and my boyfriend faced (and overcame). Going back to your "knowing if he is the one" video, Jackie, gave me the peace I was beginning to lose out of fear. Thank you guys. Pray for us couples discerning marriage. Love y'all.
I cannot believe this ! I just came back from my church ( I am Catholic) and we had a discussion about this exact subject-marriage. I had ( and still have) so many thoughts about it gathered from all that we mentioned. I hope that my fear will go away, but for now, thank you so much for making this video! I love watching the videos you make because they bring a perspective on things that makes me see everything differently. Thank you and God bless!
Finally. My generation needs to hear this!
Thank You for showing what marriage really is, in every single episode. True role models. God bless You
Thanks guys .Our 41 rst anniversary os next week on the 11 of November.please pray for us.And as we get older, God’s grace is so inportent for sure. We both came from bad marriages. ........But like you said with God all things are possible. And sometimes it is all God’s grace.
Congrats on reaching 41 years!
Thank you for this. I was/am jaded about marriages (even though I’m not married), but this has helped.
Thank you for being a great model of marriage💕God bless you both!❤ Awesome message!🙌
Surprisingly it was an anime of all things that showed me the best distilled example in my youth of what romantic love is meant to be.
The Archivist
Which anime? Which couple?
@@danielsampong6607 Eureka and Renton from Eureka Seven, but only the anime and I recommend the dub. It is rather violent though and make sure your theology is solid before you go into it. Also note that I have bottle cap thick rose-tinted glasses in some areas and well I was a teenager at the time. I am not saying it is bad, but exercise prudence. If you do decide to give it a real go, watch the whole thing to understand it. That one springs to mind, but there are others, like I said.
I came across a holy couple who inspired me the most..... that's you Jackie and bobby ..... love ur videos..... i want to be in a marrige like yours 😍
This is just beautiful 😍😍It is always beautiful to see couples who are making it work in Christ.....May Our Lord bless You both
Love you guys, thank you! ❤️
Thank you ! I needed this..
Low key sending this video to some friends... Thank you so much for this video! ♥️
Thank you so much for this video... needed it in my life right now! GBY
Thank you for this video...
I got engaged about a week and a half ago. Thank you for this!
speaking of marriages you don't often see in media ;)
God bless you two and all of Ascension Presents!
Needed that keep going hes been so good to me
Thank you. I have the fear, because I come from a toxic place. And I am very often seeing God as someone who wants us to sacrifice and be totally miserable. Thank you for saying it is not true at all. He wants us to live in joy and peace, not in chains, and destructive dependence. I portrayed marriage as sad necessity in "bearing the cross" of the egoism, immaturity and mistakes of your spouse. Because that is love all about, right? To accept people even their souls are sick and they hurt you. I have seen so many marriages of suffering women and indifferent men not responsible for anything, trying to escape...
It CAN be different in my life. And good marriage is possible.
A sacramental & healthy marriage is beautiful 💕
Sadly, some "marriages " or relationships are very unhealthy & abusive. That's why some people divorce & need healing through annulment. How about a video about the heartbreak & healing from divorce/separation?
Not some people, more than 50% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of divorces are initiated by the woman. Marriage is supposed to be a good thing but it has become very dangerous for a man to get married, they get destroyed in court. I'm stating the obvious truth in the world in which we live
Wish you guys a blessed marriage. 🙏❤️
ahh i used to listen to the offspring 😂 i needed that comic relief 💕
I'm 12. Why am I here?
Why ARE you here
That's awesome that you're here, welcome! I wish I knew the faith at your age, it would've impacted my life in a wonderful way. God bless you ✨
@@remotestuff8721 i asked first.
@@remotestuff8721 why are you you're not needed lol
Your so cute
Hi Jackie, Bobby, thank for all the content that you create. My wife really likes the picture of Mother Mary and the Child Jesus above your mantle. Can you tell me where you got that picture?
What if it's not being jaded about marriage itself but jaded about the selection pool?
I'm no saint, I'm constantly stumbling into sin, so no way I'm getting someone as wholesome as I'd like, but even so, I at least have enough self respect to not go with someone used up who's only settling down "after all the fun" and sees it as a last resort, that's just begging to have a marriage broken before it even starts.
I am afraid of marriage because I feel like I will not be sufficient to make him happy or I will be too selfish. But I have a list of what I want in a husband and I am working on myself to fulfill those qualities.
I love the curly hair today!!
I've come to fallen for the lie that marriage isn't right for me because of how I act in front of my crush. I get so worried that he'll catch on that I work really hard to try to hide it... I don't even know how he feels. I've only now started to consider consecrated single life because of the anxiety I put myself through with my crush. It's so not healthy... and I only just recently realized that I do want to be married, and just feeling a lot of doubt.
What do you mean by that? Do you mean feeling awkward around him and such? If so that doesn't mean you aren't called to marriage; it simply means you have a giddy crush on him and there's nothing wrong with that! Feelings are normal and (generally) healthy and they should be examined not demonized. Nothing wrong with hanging out with this crush and increasingly getting to know him better and seeing where it goes. You'll never know unless you try.
You have the Ite Ad Joseph tee from Brick House In the City!! I was debating on whether I should get it for my dad as a Christmas present this year! 😄
Hi Jackie and Bobby! I love your content! Can you recommend some books for engaged couples ? Thank you very much
I'm 30,I'm in married. I think what scars me the most are the beliefs of potential gfs. Many aren't authentically practicing their faith so they don't believe how the cathechism describes marriage. They go to church but believe the world. That's scary cuase I realise that love isn't enough to sustain a marriage. It's a strange place to be
I love how crazy you are about our Lord Jackie! Q: could you do a video about idolising relationships, and marriage? And if you could please suggest prayers or ways to fight the spirit of idolisation. So many girls and women are desperately looking for love, crazily using every online dating app possible, living miserably because they are single. I think we have a social crisis!
Somehow, anytime I hear someone say something like “God doesn’t want you to be miserable” or “God wants us to me happy” it STOPS me in my tracks…
I need to figure out why that makes me feel surprised every time
pfft. we SHOULD fear marriage. it's a huge commitment. especially for us as catholics when we can't even get divorced. it's a sin to divorce our spouse unless we have a valid reason (we're suffering abuse). on top of that, Marriage is hard stuff. And a lot of times, I've seen my friends get married and it's like their girlfriend changed completely once they got married. some gained over 100lbs, some got super depressed or they lied to their spouse to be about how much they liked traveling or how much they wanted to do this or that with their life. yeah...this is the reality of the situation for a lot of people. we can talk about proper discernment but in reality, marriage is one of the things we need to fear most because we are catholic
Knowing that marriage is a sign of God's love makes it all the more hurtful when the Catholic church says that only those who can care for children can get married. It seems like God made me just to be miserable with my illness and alone forever. It's just cruel.
Guys this is a great video. I agree with all of it . Bobby is so right. We go by what we have seen in our own families The part that Jackie says toward the end of the video about the single life not always being the easiest and more. On the other hand some people are called to single life. I have a question for Jackie though Im not sure what she means by misery? You have to be the person you would like to add to your life.
@jackiefrancoisangel
About fear of committing and having one foot out of the door... I feel like I have this fear in many areas of life, I'm just afraid to step in and go for it...When I have any big decision to make, before making it and committing to something I first think of the way out in case I don't like it or in case something goes wrong (like for example, thinking about conditions of quitting a job before even starting it). It's like a general fear of commintting myself to something and being "trapped" there without a way out. I understand it's silly and having this mindset it's impossible to make any big decision in life, but I still have this fear. Any advice on that?
Grazie! :)
Marriage is like retirement. Let me explain! If you think every day of retirement is going to be like the very best day of the very best vacation you've ever had--you are going to be disappointed. If you think marriage is going to be that swooning feeling all day every day forever, you are going to be disappointed. Marriage and retirement are LIFE. Meaning there are wonderful days, OK days, boring days, joyous days, sad days, etc. So: realistic expectations!
I was raised Catholic and am not anymore buy I still find these videos interesting
holy cow Im 1st and needed this.
The one thing I fear about marriage is the emotional involvement someone else could lead me into if I was married, and they excited me. I know someone who did that to his wife, and I am disgusted for him. Even the other person who may not have been married, she lives with that knowledge that she could have broken up a marriage because the man wanted something more than he was getting at home. Scott Hahn talked about marriage as not just a generic sacrament but a sacrament with a name. You say your spouse's name, you see their face and touch their hands. I want to be surrounded by honest married couples.
Any books you recommend during marriage prep?
Possibly a silly question, but could someone at Ascension press or elsewhere tell me what t-shirt bobby is wearing? Is it Saint Joseph related? I would really like to know so i can possibly get one similar. Id be grateful for any response!
3:27 May I suggest The Waltons?
Never be afraid of marriage but you should as a man always fear family court!
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Please pray that I too will SOON find a great catholic man to be my husband and that we will help each other get to heaven through sacrificial love 🥰
Until the laws are changed I am going to have to pass on marriage.
A very hard pass.
Watching this while drinking wine I'm so miserable.
YASS GUYS SAY IT FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK (ME)**
Kids are supposed to look up to their parents marriage so they have a understanding of “True Love”. Or a “healthy happy couple”. But it’s hard when I hate my parents marriage and my sisters engagement. Anyone else turn to the media instead for examples of a healthy Marriage instead? 🙋♀️
I'm married to God
Money is important
Hii everyone! Surely you´re excited about another video from Ascension as I am. So I thought about asking you all for help. Please, can anyone add english subtitles to these videos? I translate it into another language and it´s much easier to translate when there´s english subtitles already. It could be an english native speaker. Thank you! God bless
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My husband goes to the pub with his friends he thinks theres nothing wrong with it he knows I dont like it but he doesn't seem to see its wrong
Divorce him marry me I don't drink lol
I'm praying for your marriage!
@@dylanakers7272 pray for mine to I don't have a girlfriend
What is wrong with getting beer with the boys?
No thank you, as the old saying goes, no woman no cry!
I am married through government but not church, , im living with my husband and we have a newborn , is this commiting sin?
Yes it is
I don’t know. Ask your priest, not random people on the internet. Priests are more knowledgeable of the truth than randoms.
I always advise this if you are not ready for a life long commitment to another person don't get married and if you are not open to having children don't get married. I say it's better to break it off rather than to get married and go through a costly divorce and custody battle over children. The vows you exchange are binding with yourself and God to break that vow is a mortal sin this also shows that you cannot keep a promise.
I do the opposite I try to discourage people from getting married because there is real life responsibility and real life consequences when a person decides to get married and therefore marriage shouldn't be taken lightly.
I've been married to my wife for 15 years and we have two boys.
Don’t fear marriage but watch all of our videos that make you obsessively over think your relationship to the point where you feel paranoid about making a life long commitment
There's nothing like seeing the guy in the next foxhole take a direct hit.
God made us creators. Haven’t seen a beautiful marriage? Create one. Don’t know the future? You don’t have to cuz u can create it! 😇
just fear the DIVORCE $$$$$$$$$$$$
Read my comment on this
Family life and marriage is overrated. Nothing wrong with remaining single.
Marriage is supposed to be for life and a good thing. However, more than 50% of marriages end in divorce and 80% of them are initiated by the women, then in court, the man gets destroyed and it doesn't matter if he did something wrong or not. Your right, nothing wrong with remaining single.
Why would I fear marriage I have so many offers 😁
Marriage: the worst decision of my life. Total misery.
I agree with marriage under god but not the state, if I could find a woman who wanted to marry me without involving any legality of marriage I'm there, but at 53 I've all but given up on this subject, good video tho guys
I love all the content on ascension presents Except for these two.
Higginsamerica I just sent this to my daughter I hope she doesn’t hate me but she has the right guy and she is engaged but has fear. Ugh
Don't get married, fellas
When is the sacrament of marriage going to include same sex couples?
@Matt Blaise Are you speaking from authority or just expressing a personal opinion?
Never
Marriage is nothing to fear. Religion is the way to stupidity, but marriage is good for those who want it.
Don’t ever get married. That’s the end of your freedoms. Marriage needs love, love doesn’t need marriage. The real marriage is in the heart not a piece of paper. You fight, get tired of each other, start lying, start cheating, stay away from home more, then your health starts suffering. Don’t let these religions and outdated traditions manipulate you into an early grave. Don’t do it people, it’s all about money and power. Less is More. You can live cheaper and not have to babysit someone else’s emotions and be at peace .
My friend. From my historical knowledge, without religion you’ll find yourself in an early grave much easier.
@@AndrewTheMandrew531 My friend, from my historical standpoint, religions are interpretations, speculations, and personal preference. Religions have never ever done anything for me and I don’t want them to. My God is love, my religion is common sense. I left religions in 86 and life has never been better.
I'm praying for you!
It's not that marriage is scary. It's just worthless and doesn't benefit men.
Jackie can you please just stop interrupting your husband.... you talk too much. Thanks 🙏👍👍👍
Jackie is definitely a feminist neocon. Well intentioned but definitely not a good example for women in the modern day.
We dont want to hear you read out the catechism to us... Cant you understand that we live in a time in the church where there trying to get women in the Ministry of the priesthood. We don't need more "man like women" we need more women who submit in "all things" to their husbands. And I'm sorry to say Jackie that isn't you. You need to be the quiet one not your husband.
There is not reason Jackie shouldn’t read out of the Catechism to others in this type of place and context. There is no reason Jackie shouldn’t use her gifts of speaking to glorify God with spiritual teachings in this type of place and context. Please leave behind that pagan/Muslim teaching and opinion that women should be less than men in all things. We all have different gifts and should use them to glorify God. Sure men and women are different and should have different positions in the church. But it was thanks to women the church grew. So to oppress women is to choke the church.
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