First and foremost I’m sorry you have gone through this with your so called “friend”. You definitely did not deserve this 😢 however I’m happy your co worker helped you in time of need. Secondly sounds like theirs a shift in her behavior for whatever reason it could be envy, or another reason why she wouldn’t help you. It was like a set up for failure, be careful who you call your friend and be aware of people period.
From what it sounds like is that she never really considered you a friend. You was just a “friend” available to her needs. Now that she’s advanced in life she has no regards for those who was there for her.
This is a lesson learned. $150.00 is worth your peace of mind. Don't ever depend on anyone but yourself. Your co-workers know too much about you. Respectfully❤
I’ve been living in DC for 16 years. The DMV is outrageously expensive. There is no place you’ll live that is worth the rent. I’m seriously considering moving back to NC. Paying $2,500 a month for a one bedroom apartment is insanity when I could have a three bedroom house for less. Also, getting your own hotel room is always going to be worth it. It eliminates stress.
I don't know why I found your channel but I'm glad I did! You had my attention from the beginning and I couldn't look away😅 I'm immediately subscribed!! Your personality is everything bro and obviously you're about to elevate in a great way because these kind of petty nuances always come before elevation! Wishing you the best I'm bout to pour me a drink and watch all yo videos 💙
I want out of the DMV, I got pepper sprayed on the Metro for no reason and I fell in front of the Grosvenor Metro on Christmas Eve and 3 people passed me without even asking how I was when I was on the ground.
Yeah DC folks are pretty nonchalant unless its happening to them. I'm like if you don't speak when i speak to you, or if i speak and you make eye contact and see me speaking and you get mugged after that... oh well you should have said hello back.
If your moving to the DMV without a car, definitely move to DC. The commute from VA to DC will get annoying after a while and those ubers get priceyyy. DC is fun but it's the ghettoooo! The homelessness and drugs in DC is crazy and it's everywhere. Never a dull day. Good luck :)
You’ll loved DC!! I left Atlanta/midtown and moved to DC and Arlington. I manage high-rises and I understand the high cost but DC is worth it. Don’t move to Resa because 2M st apartments is next door and it’s a voucher property
What does voucher property have to do with anything? People who receive assistance towards housing are not “Bad people”. Some people need help with housing bc of the economy. They too have a right to live in a safe and secure neighborhood. Not be judged or penalized for having a voucher.
Yeaaa, she doesn’t like you and seems like she never has. She is NOT a friend and deserves to be by herself. The fact that she chose her job over everything says a lot.
Unfortunately, no one is obligated to manage your travel logistics but you! Factoring others as a contingency plan will always put you in a vulnerable spot. The bigger issue here is that you didn’t want to spend the $150, Maria didn’t HAVE to let you stay with her, if she didn’t want company on a work night, that’s HER choice and she should not have to justify that. That fact that you feel so comfortable referring to this person whom you’ve claimed to know since college as a bytch is also a problem and I question the character of men who are comfortable referring to women this way, ESPECIALLY because you needed or wanted something from HER that she didn’t feel comfortable with. And you posted this, eventually she may see it…..no, if I were her, I would not be your friend after this.
lmao i’m not worried about being her friend anymore and in fact she has seen it. I mean you don’t know this but i’ve went through so much in college doing shit for her that she wouldn’t reciprocate i’m so over it man. I don’t usually refer to women as the b word but she really got under my skin so yea. But I know she’s seen it even tried to get it taken down and called me. i’ve blocked her on everything. All my friends know she isn’t a great friend. Even her college friends don’t fw her. I was truly the only one trying to keep that connection with her because I couldn’t let her go. But this situation ultimately ended that.
I stumbled across this channel - love it ! She's not a "friend", and sometimes we expect too much from others, sooooo lesson learned - do YOU, go it alone (sometimes), and don't ask that chick for sh*t else !! You seem to have a good spirit, and your humbleness is so refreshing, but you seem to be a bit "naive" when it comes to others. Having said this - it's time to make NEW friends (people grow apart)! or she may have a man, and was trying to keep it a secret from you, or her "housing" situation could have been jacked and she was embarrassed - who knows? but that's when YOU should have caught the hint and just left it alone. Keep making these entertaining vids & best wishes* !
I'm so sorry you went through this but hopefully you learned a lesson, If you have the money pay the $150 for 3 hours ,that would have alleviate the stress . I learned a long time ago not to ask for anything from anybody. There's an old say ( when someone show you who they are BELIEVE IT.
DC has gotten insanely expensive in the past ten years. So many people have been pushed out do to the increase in housing costs and general cost of living. Last time I was there, I saw that the unhoused population had more or less doubled. Tent cities down the street from "luxury" buildings. It was already getting expensive when I lived there. A few years ago I was living in a 2bd/2ba in a "luxury" building in the Petworth/Columbia Heights area and paying $2,125. I doubt you could find a deal like that these days and that was considered a little pricey.
That is so pricey! 🥹😩 I live in a house for about 800 dollars less. Decent apartments used to be around $700-900 (about 15 years ago). How the heck are people supposed to live?!?
Imma be honest… As a man, and you come across as a very intelligent charming guy, it’s not her responsibility to be considerate of you. Just leave folks like that be, and never expect anything from anyone. Only depend on yourself to do you right and have your own back. People are idiots and unreliable idiots at that. People suck lol
I moved to the DMV last month after living in Texas for a few years, I bet I’m on the first thing smoking out of here. I’m from the east coast and I just can’t get with it anymore. So much more calm and peaceful down south.
Your "friend" did you dirty and for you to have to apologize saying you're overly dramatic was very mature of you! Imma need to look through some of ur old college videos so I can find this person 👀 😁.
🙄 Maria is full of crap!!! Even if she lost a little sleep that ONE night, she could’ve dranked some coffee to stay up during that next day. I would say that’s a sign to cut off that one-sided friendship. She showed you how she is and how she truly feels about you. You’re co-worked showed more love to you than she ever will. Let it go Bro. Go to D.C. on a clean slate.
Moved to the NoVa area 1.5 years ago by way of NC. I was sticker shocked! I pay 1900 for 740 sq ft. and 100 just to park my car in the parking lot...2100/month with fees. Compared to paying under 1k/month when I had a mortgage in NC. I love my apartment in Arlington... but I love owning property MORE! Ill be moving back south come the end of my lease in 2025.. But best of luck to ya brotha!
Yikes, that lady used you down to the bone marrow. You helped her move & was a confidant when there was no one else. Unfortunately, it sounds like you liked her (as more than a friend) for a long time and she didn’t feel the same way. She definitely could’ve said no when you asked her to stay that week. Maybe she didn’t know how, but her being passive cost you a lot of time & money. She was extremely dirty for the whole bag situation. That part solidified her character. Sorry you went through that. On the flip side, DC is really great. I’m from MD & it’s a great city with an expansive social scene. Hopefully, you’ll make the best decision on where you decide to move. Well wishes to ya. 🙂🙏🏾✨
Thanks man and yes I did like her but we had a convo about it and got passed that a long time ago. I’m still not sure why she couldn’t say no but i’ve made my decision on where i’m living and will be making a whole video soon!
Story was amazing. Next time i would ask the hotel to hold the bag while you site see, some hotel allow that and if they got a bar would use that to charge phone before your flight (no need for a room since u was a guest). Your Friend was wrong, had every excuse in the books....would of thought she lived in the projects and didnt want you to see (which would of been more respectable)
Yes, he was doing too much trying to be cheap. He needs to except responsibility for his actions too. Why are you burdening your friends to house you and for transportation?
I agree. It was too much. Just pay for a hotel. Too stressful and relying on others was a poor choice. I wouldn’t have wanted to house a male friend from college.
Exactly. It wasn’t her responsibility to house him because he’s too CHEAP to pay for a hotel room for himself. She values her job as she should. And him calling her a “bitch” over and over speaks volumes about him. I hope she leaves him alone.
If you’re moving to DC for a life-changing career opportunity and have already received an offer, that's cool. Anything outside of that is a no-go 😂. That shit is not worth the high cost of living for a tiny ass city 😂😂
No to the second chance idea…most people don’t deserve it anyway (if anything, get somebody else to do it 😂). Based on the story she’s an opportunist. Its best to leave it.
Similar story. Drove from Atlanta to Augusta, Georgia to visit a good friend as a surprise because I hadn't heard from him in a while. I knocked on the door, he opened the door all sleepy eyed because he's retired so he sleeps whenever. He sees me, doesn't greet me, just stood there staring at me. So I asked him if he was okay because I haven't heard from him and he never responded to any messages I sent. He just nodded yes. I asked if he still had my number, and was he still speaking to me or...??? He again nodded yes. At that point I fully expected him to invite me in but when I saw that he wasn't going to invite me in, I found the sad need to excuse myself by saying that I was checking on him because I was wondering if he was alright. Do you know, I ended up leaving, after speaking to him for all of 2 minutes, all sad at the fact that HE KNOWS that I made the drive ALL THE WAY FROM ATLANTA (150 miles), and he treated me as if he didn't know me, and he didn't even invite me in! Like...what?!? I waited the rest of the day, and all of the next day for just a simple text from him to ask me if I was still in the area and invite me over, but no...NOTHING. I'm still not over that. 😔
Nah that’s wild asf. I truly learned last year just because you think you’re close to someone isn’t the same weight you hold in their life and that was crazy to me. People suck. I hope you let that go one day. I let that girl go quickly!
Meh, the only thing your friend did wrong was not letting you know by text to not come visit. You said it was a surprise, so when did you text him? Was it before you left or after? If it was after, you are in the wrong for imposing yourself on him. No one is obligated to cater to you if you come unannounced. It doesn't matter that the man is retired. For some people, unexpected visits can be considered rude or inconsiderate. If he knew you were coming through but neglected to tell you no, or come through another time, then yea, he should've let you know. Anyway, I guess this is a lesson learned. Don't make surprise visits.. you may not get the hospitality you're expecting.
@JamionWhite1 That's not wild. You also imposed yourself on your ex friend. Instead of relying on other people, you should've sucked it up and paid for a hotel. Your friend should've told you upfront she didn't want to have you stay with her. You being cheap caused all your issues. Instead of chilling in a hotel you're wandering around DC for 3hrs. To make it worse you imposed yourself on another friend who is married and needed you to be out for 3hrs ( smh). I cant believe you have the gall to share your pitiful, self imposed, experience to the world. Furthermore, you expected your friend, who may be legitimately busy or too far out, to come pick you up when you had the means to catch an Uber. Your issues are self-inflicted, but you wanted to blame everything on your ex friend. At the end of the day it's your responsibility to have a plan B if things don't go right. If you had the means to fly to DC and go apartment shopping, you should also have the means to pay for a hotel stay and possible Uber rides if you're not renting a vehicle. This is called being an adult. Your not in college anymore so stop being a burden to your friends.
LMFAOOOO bro didn’t even watch the video she knew for at least 2 months I was coming I asked her just about every week leading up was it okay. my job funded my whole trip… you would know if you watched the video. I told my job don’t get me a hotel for the weekend my friend is showing me to stay with her. please watch the entire video before speaking… canceling plan on your friend an hour before they are supposed to stay with you when they’ve checked in for 2 months straight is wild and if you don’t agree please reevaluate yourself and friendships. Because I would never do that to her if she visited me. And if I wasn’t even home I would’ve gave her the code to my apartment. Because i’m absolutely a great friend and deserve the same respect I give out. I’m praying for you :)
@elleg7880 No offense, but if you roll up on me or anyone I know, you would be still standing outside. I am surprised your friend answered the door. People don't have that country mindset anymore . You just cannot roll up unannounced. Why your relationship has not been repaired may not be related to the "pop-up". Have you misread the room? I can give you lots of reasons but for me it's my privacy mainly. I could be "entertaining" or be just plain tired. Suppose they already had a house full of folks? Preparing to leave for a trip? Fighting with a spouse, partner? No food? House dirty? Heck, I don't even roll up on my 87 year old mom, because she may not be home. In last 2 months she has gone on several trips. I am not traveling 5 hours for nothing. Surprises can be fun but showing up unannounced, not cool.
Metro is expensive except after 9:30 to closing and all day weekend where it’s a flat $2 fares are distanced based because they don’t have dedicated funding sources like New York where it’s on flat fare. Also if you travel on weekends check Metro’s website for track work.
Yea nope!!! She’s no friend at all. What if the shoe was on the other foot, how would she feel? Her contact would be deleted and no more communication. She showed you how she feels about you.
Your friend definitely did you dirty but always have a contingency plan when you travel. DC apts can be pricey, check surrounds cities (Pg county) you'll get more bang for your buck
The DMV is Popping for sure but very Pricey… And that Girl… She’s not being Genuine & Honest with you and using her job as the scapegoat. Or… She may not have wanted you to spend the night, with assumptions of Sex… I would move on from her & AiRBNB next time for more options & control 💯
U not wrong but i think she was embarrassed about where she stay and maybe she trying to" Keep Up With the Kardashian " and she didnt want you be in her business BUT soon as she acted funny i would have booked my own spot. I also wouldnt depend on anyone to help me navigate a new city because u just never know people be funny acting. And far as being her friend again well idk...u can use her for a little bit once u relocate maybe on a hi bye basis but i wouldnt be buddy buddy with her again. She Kinda slimey . Excited for ur new journey in DC best pf luck
Thank man I appreciate it. I never thought of the situation this way. But that friendship is definitely over. I can’t keep people like her in my life who gone be one step in and one step out. But yea that was stupid of me tryna depend on someone in a new city. Won’t happen again though 😂
I’m so sorry your friend treated you like that. Something similar happen to me also awhile back. We all have growing pains to learn. As you get older you will know who are your friends. Usually less than 5 fingers. Remember “ Remove Expectations “ from your vocabulary. You thought she was a friend and would help. As a friend you knew you will help her; however you thought (Expected), she would help you and unfortunately she did not. Perhaps that is a sign why men disrespect her and her other friends will leave without her. The signs were there you just ignored them. Remember this “God Blesses A Child Who Has His Own”. Never depend on someone always have a plan B, C, D….. Book the hotel even if it cost $150 for 3 hours. It’s worth a $150 to avoid being upset. Believe me I have paid a few $1000 just for peace of mind and I thank God I had the money to do so. Let her go…. I’m sure you have learned a valuable lesson. Wisdom under your belt. You made it thru. Keep that vibrant attitude and never let a man/woman steal your Joy. I’m 60 years old and I’m still learning wisdom and so will you.
appreciate it. I’m glad I went through it made me sit back and realize I have to start letting people go or lessen my energy towards them if they aren’t presenting the same energy to me!
I was thinking about moving back to DMV area but, I dont think so! I moved from there in 2020. I now live in Charlotte, NC in a 2br townhouse $1700 1300sqft. They really be tripping in the DMV and the apartments be old 500sqft for $2500 no thank you! You get paid in DC salaries are high but, I refuse to pay over $2000 to live in a box! The money you make in DC is going to all the bills yiu gone have to pay!!! The traffic is off the chain you can sit in traffic for hours getting to work, tge people are mean it’s hard to meet friends. It’s super competitive and political! Oh not to mention the high as taxes, high cost of food, gas everything!! The night life in DC is boring nothing much to do! Unless you wanna listen to gogo music all night or African music.. 😩😩 y’all can have DC!
Triggered but yet absolutely vindicated 😅. I'm thinking of moving back south (where I belong) to Charlotte...I think I'm done living the DM(V) city life... smelling PEE AND WEED on my way to work on the metro is very old and tired at this point..
The fact that you kirked out, called her out her name, and went straight to threatening to un-aliving her, is wild to me! I’m on the wrong side of UA-cam. Cuz yeah she was inconsiderate but that response was 😳
mannnnn I was so pissed. Just coming from a place that I would have never done that to her or treated her like she’s treated me since college. Shit hurt
She kept making excuses not to have any contact with you. I know it's tough but she doesn't want a friendship with you. She is weeding out people who she feel are a liability to here job
Im from Dc born and raised and not every part is expensive. You can still get a 1 bedroom in SE Dc for $800. It’s jus not in the best neighborhood and u will hear gunshots on a daily. If u want to live in a decent area of course it’s expensive but not everywhere in Dc is expensive
Bro no sane person is trying to live in a place where “you will hear gun shots” so obviously when he says every where he is saying the respectable places. No one is talking about the hood
@@AP90x was I talking to u? You obviously can’t comprehend. I didn’t say he wanted to live in the hood. All I was saying was not everywhere in Dc is expensive. People make it seem like everywhere in Dc starts off at $2,000 wen it’s still $800 apartments
Yo that chic was cold. You seem like a straight up great guy. She did you so dirty. I know you will forgive her for feeling sorry for her. I feel like YOU WERE RIGHT. HELL NO Don't MESS WITH THIS CHIC EVER AGAIN she will leave you in all types of bad situations. Your real respected professional friends will start to question your own Integrity. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Thank God for your co-worker. You may not be so lucky next time. I really didn't like it because she made you so angry She was so SHADY she got free food. NOBODY LIKES HER Anyway. CAREFUL after you find people out. You keep them for paybacks or to use them.. LET IT GO LET HER GO. GREAT VIDEO
It wasn't wise to cuss her out. She works for the FBI that could have been a really good "friend" to have. At the very least, you don't wanna make an enemy like that. It was a knee jerk reaction and the first time that happened to you clearly. As black boys grow into men our relationship dynamics change. It's cool to just hang out at a friends house all day or just cruise around the city aimlessly but as we get older and into survival mode, that stuff just stop's making sense. She works in intelligence, she has to make sound decisions and watch the company she keeps. Based on your reaction she made the right decision. You can't fault her for that. You admit you don't care that she work's for the FBI, you're calling her out of her name and you're online telling everyone your business. You may not realize it but she already saw that you were capable of that and that's why she cancelled on you. Straight up though, it could happen to anyone who has developed a relationship with a person and they just cut you off out of nowhere. She said her job comes before family and friends. That makes no sense and sounds like she took the same oath as the mob or a secret society. That tells you everything you need to know.
First, you said "I bought this girl dinner, guys". Then you say it was $20. She works for the FBI so she probably thinks she "made it" and probably judged you as being poor and inconveniencing her over $150 which, to her, is like getting her nails done pocket change. She's not your friend anymore.
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There are pros and cons to living anywhere in the world. Why do people complain so dam much there is no perfect place to live. And if you like making money DC area is definitely the place to be
@JamionWhite1 I grew up and went to school in DC. I love it but I don't want to live in it anymore...too expensive . too busy. I'm still close though in Clinton, MD.
Dude, clearly she's seeing someone & tried to work you in where you fit in. You weren't her #1 priority. What I would've done was adjust my plans at the first sign of her being wishy washy. I would've gone into full single man mode & had my meals at some of the many bars & restaurants where single women frequent, starting with Ben's next door. Too many women in DC to waste your life on nonsense
@@JamionWhite1 You shouldn’t want to be in someone’s space that doesn’t want you there for whatever reason. She doesn’t have to be inconvenienced for your convenience. She was right for being honest instead of letting you come and then talking bad about you behind your back. You’re a good person for wanting to hear both sides.❤️
I stumbled upon your Atlanta "luxury" apartment video and happy to have clicked on it. We're practically neighbors. I live down the way from you, that's if you haven't already moved. I can relate to your content, so I follow your page now. 🤗 Hoping for a follow to my page in return 😅
Bruh just spend the $150 for the hotel to avoid all these BS don’t ever depend on anybody and shawty agreed to host then told you no she can’t should’ve just cut her off from there idk why you continued to talking to her 😂🤦🏾♂️
lmao I was just being a dumbass. but i’m glad I went through this situation. Honestly I cut so many dead leaves out my life quickly so I did need this experience
I encountered similar situation like that I was there for this girl whenever she needed me I would go out my way to help her but when it came to me needing help from her she acted weird and too busy to answer my calls. Literally last week she called me asking for help I gave her the same energy and she got mad and now we don’t really talk at all @@JamionWhite1
With all do respect, at your age, don't you know, that there are NO real human friends in this world...no where. Everything, anyone ever, ever does for you, sooner, or later, will be expected to be paid back, monetarily, favors, etc. There are NO real human friends, none. Please read Jeremiah 17:5.
First and foremost I’m sorry you have gone through this with your so called “friend”. You definitely did not deserve this 😢 however I’m happy your co worker helped you in time of need. Secondly sounds like theirs a shift in her behavior for whatever reason it could be envy, or another reason why she wouldn’t help you. It was like a set up for failure, be careful who you call your friend and be aware of people period.
Thanks man I appreciated this 🫶🏾🥹
Definitely seem like she hiding something or didn't want him to see soemthing about her life
@@keepingitkasey oop never thought about that
Please don't take this in a negative way but don't judge people by what u would do for them in the same circumstance. Even good friends 😊
Please don't take this in a negative way but don't judge people by what u would do for them in the same circumstance. Even good friends 😊
From what it sounds like is that she never really considered you a friend. You was just a “friend” available to her needs. Now that she’s advanced in life she has no regards for those who was there for her.
Oooo I like how you said this. It makes so much sense 🤔
I concur!
This is a lesson learned. $150.00 is worth your peace of mind. Don't ever depend on anyone but yourself. Your co-workers know too much about you.
Respectfully❤
Exactly lol. And staying to close to your job doesn't allow you any time to really be off and away from work. And I agree 150 is worth it lol
Fairfax isn’t 2 hrs away from Navy yard .. she could slid its 30 min
nah fr tho it’s okay I haven’t spoken to her since that day
Don’t forget traffic is diabolical. It was probably closer to 45-hr.
I’ve been living in DC for 16 years. The DMV is outrageously expensive. There is no place you’ll live that is worth the rent. I’m seriously considering moving back to NC. Paying $2,500 a month for a one bedroom apartment is insanity when I could have a three bedroom house for less. Also, getting your own hotel room is always going to be worth it. It eliminates stress.
My mortgage is 2500 in Charlotte for 2500 sq ft single family home near uptown
I don't know why I found your channel but I'm glad I did! You had my attention from the beginning and I couldn't look away😅
I'm immediately subscribed!! Your personality is everything bro and obviously you're about to elevate in a great way because these kind of petty nuances always come before elevation! Wishing you the best I'm bout to pour me a drink and watch all yo videos 💙
Aweee this makes me so happy i’m glad you fw me 🥹
I want out of the DMV, I got pepper sprayed on the Metro for no reason and I fell in front of the Grosvenor Metro on Christmas Eve and 3 people passed me without even asking how I was when I was on the ground.
Yeah DC folks are pretty nonchalant unless its happening to them. I'm like if you don't speak when i speak to you, or if i speak and you make eye contact and see me speaking and you get mugged after that... oh well you should have said hello back.
If your moving to the DMV without a car, definitely move to DC. The commute from VA to DC will get annoying after a while and those ubers get priceyyy. DC is fun but it's the ghettoooo! The homelessness and drugs in DC is crazy and it's everywhere. Never a dull day. Good luck :)
bet thanks 🫠
You’ll loved DC!! I left Atlanta/midtown and moved to DC and Arlington. I manage high-rises and I understand the high cost but DC is worth it. Don’t move to Resa because 2M st apartments is next door and it’s a voucher property
What does voucher property have to do with anything? People who receive assistance towards housing are not “Bad people”. Some people need help with housing bc of the economy. They too have a right to live in a safe and secure neighborhood. Not be judged or penalized for having a voucher.
Where in Arlington would you recommend? Do you have to pay parking for every apartment?
Yeaaa, she doesn’t like you and seems like she never has. She is NOT a friend and deserves to be by herself. The fact that she chose her job over everything says a lot.
yeaaaa ion fw her nomo fosho
Unfortunately, no one is obligated to manage your travel logistics but you! Factoring others as a contingency plan will always put you in a vulnerable spot.
The bigger issue here is that you didn’t want to spend the $150, Maria didn’t HAVE to let you stay with her, if she didn’t want company on a work night, that’s HER choice and she should not have to justify that.
That fact that you feel so comfortable referring to this person whom you’ve claimed to know since college as a bytch is also a problem and I question the character of men who are comfortable referring to women this way, ESPECIALLY because you needed or wanted something from HER that she didn’t feel comfortable with.
And you posted this, eventually she may see it…..no, if I were her, I would not be your friend after this.
lmao i’m not worried about being her friend anymore and in fact she has seen it. I mean you don’t know this but i’ve went through so much in college doing shit for her that she wouldn’t reciprocate i’m so over it man. I don’t usually refer to women as the b word but she really got under my skin so yea. But I know she’s seen it even tried to get it taken down and called me. i’ve blocked her on everything. All my friends know she isn’t a great friend. Even her college friends don’t fw her. I was truly the only one trying to keep that connection with her because I couldn’t let her go. But this situation ultimately ended that.
I agree! This dude is a loser. My goodness.
I stumbled across this channel - love it ! She's not a "friend", and sometimes we expect too much from others, sooooo lesson learned - do YOU, go it alone (sometimes), and don't ask that chick for sh*t else !! You seem to have a good spirit, and your humbleness is so refreshing, but you seem to be a bit "naive" when it comes to others. Having said this - it's time to make NEW friends (people grow apart)! or she may have a man, and was trying to keep it a secret from you, or her "housing" situation could have been jacked and she was embarrassed - who knows? but that's when YOU should have caught the hint and just left it alone. Keep making these entertaining vids & best wishes* !
awe thanks I appreciate the wisdom! abe i’m glad you like the channel 🫶🏾
I would rather take that 40 min Metro ride rather than sitting in traffic. I love my city but live in VA. Arlington and Alexandria is not that far G
u got that big dawg
I'm so sorry you went through this but hopefully you learned a lesson, If you have the money pay the $150 for 3 hours ,that would have alleviate the stress . I learned a long time ago not to ask for anything from anybody. There's an old say ( when someone show you who they are BELIEVE IT.
YES RECEIVED. I haven’t spoken to her since that day. but thank you for the wisdom!
Great video. Love your energy!
you should've just said f it and got you a lil cheap airbnb
Thanks I appreciate it 🫶🏾 and nah really I should’ve just thuggery it out
DC has gotten insanely expensive in the past ten years. So many people have been pushed out do to the increase in housing costs and general cost of living. Last time I was there, I saw that the unhoused population had more or less doubled. Tent cities down the street from "luxury" buildings. It was already getting expensive when I lived there. A few years ago I was living in a 2bd/2ba in a "luxury" building in the Petworth/Columbia Heights area and paying $2,125. I doubt you could find a deal like that these days and that was considered a little pricey.
That is so pricey! 🥹😩 I live in a house for about 800 dollars less. Decent apartments used to be around $700-900 (about 15 years ago). How the heck are people supposed to live?!?
Imma be honest…
As a man, and you come across as a very intelligent charming guy, it’s not her responsibility to be considerate of you.
Just leave folks like that be, and never expect anything from anyone. Only depend on yourself to do you right and have your own back. People are idiots and unreliable idiots at that.
People suck lol
nah I learned that. i’m never going anywhere relying on someone again. idc who it is
Sounds like you should've just paid the hotel room fare and kept a charger on you? 🤔
I guess… so
I moved to the DMV last month after living in Texas for a few years, I bet I’m on the first thing smoking out of here. I’m from the east coast and I just can’t get with it anymore. So much more calm and peaceful down south.
Your "friend" did you dirty and for you to have to apologize saying you're overly dramatic was very mature of you!
Imma need to look through some of ur old college videos so I can find this person 👀 😁.
😂😂 nah i’m a different person from then fosho
but thank you that is NOT my friend anymore
🙄 Maria is full of crap!!! Even if she lost a little sleep that ONE night, she could’ve dranked some coffee to stay up during that next day. I would say that’s a sign to cut off that one-sided friendship. She showed you how she is and how she truly feels about you. You’re co-worked showed more love to you than she ever will. Let it go Bro. Go to D.C. on a clean slate.
Im looking forward to moving out of Washington DC this summer 😅
Please let me know which apartment you would choose :) Also let me know some advice on this situation I went through
The one in VA is way more safe far as crime goes.... DC most definitely is a good place to Party but living here is crazy at times 🤷🏾♂️
everywhere is expensive im blessed to be paying less than $800
shit where you live foo
They have $800 1 bedroom apt in Dc it’s jus in one of the worst neighborhoods
@@JamionWhite1 not me seeing this just now 😂 I live in Buffalo New York lol
@@Kellythelegend 😂 it’s all good
I used to live there...I could have told you where to move in a great area with lower rent.
damnnn I decided not to move anymore but that would’ve been great
You can tell me lol. 🙏🏾 I’m moving next month
Yea cam you list some places please
I live in dc! Come!
Moved to the NoVa area 1.5 years ago by way of NC. I was sticker shocked! I pay 1900 for 740 sq ft. and 100 just to park my car in the parking lot...2100/month with fees. Compared to paying under 1k/month when I had a mortgage in NC. I love my apartment in Arlington... but I love owning property MORE! Ill be moving back south come the end of my lease in 2025..
But best of luck to ya brotha!
Yikes, that lady used you down to the bone marrow. You helped her move & was a confidant when there was no one else.
Unfortunately, it sounds like you liked her (as more than a friend) for a long time and she didn’t feel the same way. She definitely could’ve said no when you asked her to stay that week. Maybe she didn’t know how, but her being passive cost you a lot of time & money.
She was extremely dirty for the whole bag situation. That part solidified her character. Sorry you went through that.
On the flip side, DC is really great. I’m from MD & it’s a great city with an expansive social scene. Hopefully, you’ll make the best decision on where you decide to move. Well wishes to ya. 🙂🙏🏾✨
Thanks man and yes I did like her but we had a convo about it and got passed that a long time ago. I’m still not sure why she couldn’t say no but i’ve made my decision on where i’m living and will be making a whole video soon!
Story was amazing. Next time i would ask the hotel to hold the bag while you site see, some hotel allow that and if they got a bar would use that to charge phone before your flight (no need for a room since u was a guest). Your Friend was wrong, had every excuse in the books....would of thought she lived in the projects and didnt want you to see (which would of been more respectable)
Thank you I appreciate it! Yea I have not spoken to her in almost a year and will never be speaking to her again. Also thanks for the advice
Dang! I would've just gotten a hotel! Lol
Yes, he was doing too much trying to be cheap. He needs to except responsibility for his actions too. Why are you burdening your friends to house you and for transportation?
I agree. It was too much. Just pay for a hotel. Too stressful and relying on others was a poor choice. I wouldn’t have wanted to house a male friend from college.
Exactly. It wasn’t her responsibility to house him because he’s too CHEAP to pay for a hotel room for himself. She values her job as she should. And him calling her a “bitch” over and over speaks volumes about him. I hope she leaves him alone.
Nah she wasnt trying to compromise at all she weird
Broooo I stg. I was thinking maybe i’m wrong but hell nah
@@JamionWhite1 nah if she didn’t want u to stay she should have just said that😂 she didn’t have to make up bs
Asf 🥴
The best way to live in the dmv is live in Maryland next to a metro station if you wanna ride the train
If you’re moving to DC for a life-changing career opportunity and have already received an offer, that's cool. Anything outside of that is a no-go 😂. That shit is not worth the high cost of living for a tiny ass city 😂😂
No to the second chance idea…most people don’t deserve it anyway (if anything, get somebody else to do it 😂). Based on the story she’s an opportunist. Its best to leave it.
no deadass ion talk to her anymoreeee
Just out of curiosity lol what color was the co worker and what color was the friend
lmfaoooo both white my guy 😭
Ahhhh! Seeeeeee dude you should've KNOWN BETTER.
Kids these days! 🥴
Damn she tried you! But that's not a friend!
☠️☠️ ong that is not a friend
Similar story. Drove from Atlanta to Augusta, Georgia to visit a good friend as a surprise because I hadn't heard from him in a while. I knocked on the door, he opened the door all sleepy eyed because he's retired so he sleeps whenever. He sees me, doesn't greet me, just stood there staring at me. So I asked him if he was okay because I haven't heard from him and he never responded to any messages I sent. He just nodded yes. I asked if he still had my number, and was he still speaking to me or...??? He again nodded yes. At that point I fully expected him to invite me in but when I saw that he wasn't going to invite me in, I found the sad need to excuse myself by saying that I was checking on him because I was wondering if he was alright. Do you know, I ended up leaving, after speaking to him for all of 2 minutes, all sad at the fact that HE KNOWS that I made the drive ALL THE WAY FROM ATLANTA (150 miles), and he treated me as if he didn't know me, and he didn't even invite me in! Like...what?!? I waited the rest of the day, and all of the next day for just a simple text from him to ask me if I was still in the area and invite me over, but no...NOTHING. I'm still not over that. 😔
Nah that’s wild asf. I truly learned last year just because you think you’re close to someone isn’t the same weight you hold in their life and that was crazy to me. People suck. I hope you let that go one day. I let that girl go quickly!
Meh, the only thing your friend did wrong was not letting you know by text to not come visit. You said it was a surprise, so when did you text him? Was it before you left or after? If it was after, you are in the wrong for imposing yourself on him. No one is obligated to cater to you if you come unannounced. It doesn't matter that the man is retired. For some people, unexpected visits can be considered rude or inconsiderate. If he knew you were coming through but neglected to tell you no, or come through another time, then yea, he should've let you know. Anyway, I guess this is a lesson learned. Don't make surprise visits.. you may not get the hospitality you're expecting.
@JamionWhite1 That's not wild. You also imposed yourself on your ex friend. Instead of relying on other people, you should've sucked it up and paid for a hotel. Your friend should've told you upfront she didn't want to have you stay with her. You being cheap caused all your issues. Instead of chilling in a hotel you're wandering around DC for 3hrs. To make it worse you imposed yourself on another friend who is married and needed you to be out for 3hrs ( smh). I cant believe you have the gall to share your pitiful, self imposed, experience to the world. Furthermore, you expected your friend, who may be legitimately busy or too far out, to come pick you up when you had the means to catch an Uber. Your issues are self-inflicted, but you wanted to blame everything on your ex friend. At the end of the day it's your responsibility to have a plan B if things don't go right. If you had the means to fly to DC and go apartment shopping, you should also have the means to pay for a hotel stay and possible Uber rides if you're not renting a vehicle. This is called being an adult. Your not in college anymore so stop being a burden to your friends.
LMFAOOOO bro didn’t even watch the video she knew for at least 2 months I was coming I asked her just about every week leading up was it okay. my job funded my whole trip… you would know if you watched the video. I told my job don’t get me a hotel for the weekend my friend is showing me to stay with her. please watch the entire video before speaking… canceling plan on your friend an hour before they are supposed to stay with you when they’ve checked in for 2 months straight is wild and if you don’t agree please reevaluate yourself and friendships. Because I would never do that to her if she visited me. And if I wasn’t even home I would’ve gave her the code to my apartment. Because i’m absolutely a great friend and deserve the same respect I give out. I’m praying for you :)
@elleg7880 No offense, but if you roll up on me or anyone I know, you would be still standing outside. I am surprised your friend answered the door. People don't have that country mindset anymore . You just cannot roll up unannounced. Why your relationship has not been repaired may not be related to the "pop-up". Have you misread the room?
I can give you lots of reasons but for me it's my privacy mainly. I could be "entertaining" or be just plain tired. Suppose they already had a house full of folks? Preparing to leave for a trip? Fighting with a spouse, partner? No food? House dirty? Heck, I don't even roll up on my 87 year old mom, because she may not be home. In last 2 months she has gone on several trips. I am not traveling 5 hours for nothing. Surprises can be fun but showing up unannounced, not cool.
I'm moving to DC
You don’t want to get a hotel you don’t want to ride metro gotta stay with coworkers be a grown man and handle your 💩
Amen 🫡
Metro is expensive except after 9:30 to closing and all day weekend where it’s a flat $2 fares are distanced based because they don’t have dedicated funding sources like New York where it’s on flat fare. Also if you travel on weekends check Metro’s website for track work.
EXACTLY‼️‼️‼️‼️
This ain't grown man behavior!
The whole DC area is expensive Arlington Virginia is just has high when it comes to rent
Wait, wait...how did you leave your bag at her place and then she texted you and said meet at the station "I don't want you to know where I live?"
I left my bag with her the night before. we had got dinner
Been living in DC for 8 years now and LOL'd when you mentioned the homeless crackheads! #SoTrue
man I was so blown ☠️
Yea nope!!! She’s no friend at all. What if the shoe was on the other foot, how would she feel? Her contact would be deleted and no more communication. She showed you how she feels about you.
You should've just stayed at a cheap hostel.
Your friend definitely did you dirty but always have a contingency plan when you travel. DC apts can be pricey, check surrounds cities (Pg county) you'll get more bang for your buck
I’m cracking up 😂😂😂 “bih wtf is wrong with you?”
Just subscribed
thanks man
The DMV is Popping for sure but very Pricey… And that Girl… She’s not being Genuine & Honest with you and using her job as the scapegoat. Or… She may not have wanted you to spend the night, with assumptions of Sex… I would move on from her & AiRBNB next time for more options & control 💯
DMV pricey for real I had to rethink my decision. But she ain’t a genuine person and i’m glad I got her out my life
U not wrong but i think she was embarrassed about where she stay and maybe she trying to" Keep Up With the Kardashian " and she didnt want you be in her business BUT soon as she acted funny i would have booked my own spot. I also wouldnt depend on anyone to help me navigate a new city because u just never know people be funny acting. And far as being her friend again well idk...u can use her for a little bit once u relocate maybe on a hi bye basis but i wouldnt be buddy buddy with her again. She Kinda slimey . Excited for ur new journey in DC best pf luck
Thank man I appreciate it. I never thought of the situation this way. But that friendship is definitely over. I can’t keep people like her in my life who gone be one step in and one step out. But yea that was stupid of me tryna depend on someone in a new city. Won’t happen again though 😂
I’m so sorry your friend treated you like that. Something similar happen to me also awhile back. We all have growing pains to learn. As you get older you will know who are your friends. Usually less than 5 fingers. Remember “ Remove Expectations “ from your vocabulary. You thought she was a friend and would help. As a friend you knew you will help her; however you thought (Expected), she would help you and unfortunately she did not. Perhaps that is a sign why men disrespect her and her other friends will leave without her. The signs were there you just ignored them.
Remember this “God Blesses A Child Who Has His Own”. Never depend on someone always have a plan B, C, D….. Book the hotel even if it cost $150 for 3 hours. It’s worth a $150 to avoid being upset. Believe me I have paid a few $1000 just for peace of mind and I thank God I had the money to do so.
Let her go…. I’m sure you have learned a valuable lesson. Wisdom under your belt. You made it thru. Keep that vibrant attitude and never let a man/woman steal your Joy. I’m 60 years old and I’m still learning wisdom and so will you.
Thank you for this. I really appreciate it and respect everything you’ve said. ❤️
Should've uber package your bag would've been easier on everyone.
I’m sorry that happened to you
appreciate it. I’m glad I went through it made me sit back and realize I have to start letting people go or lessen my energy towards them if they aren’t presenting the same energy to me!
I was thinking about moving back to DMV area but, I dont think so! I moved from there in 2020. I now live in Charlotte, NC in a 2br townhouse $1700 1300sqft. They really be tripping in the DMV and the apartments be old 500sqft for $2500 no thank you! You get paid in DC salaries are high but, I refuse to pay over $2000 to live in a box! The money you make in DC is going to all the bills yiu gone have to pay!!! The traffic is off the chain you can sit in traffic for hours getting to work, tge people are mean it’s hard to meet friends. It’s super competitive and political! Oh not to mention the high as taxes, high cost of food, gas everything!! The night life in DC is boring nothing much to do! Unless you wanna listen to gogo music all night or African music.. 😩😩 y’all can have DC!
Triggered but yet absolutely vindicated 😅. I'm thinking of moving back south (where I belong) to Charlotte...I think I'm done living the DM(V) city life... smelling PEE AND WEED on my way to work on the metro is very old and tired at this point..
You should have just spent the $150 for a hotel room. No drama
The fact that you kirked out, called her out her name, and went straight to threatening to un-aliving her, is wild to me!
I’m on the wrong side of UA-cam.
Cuz yeah she was inconsiderate but that response was 😳
mannnnn I was so pissed. Just coming from a place that I would have never done that to her or treated her like she’s treated me since college. Shit hurt
That sucks 😕 but I’m glad the FBI done spooked people into taking their jobs seriously
Has nothing to do with the job. She’s a soulless bitvh
The "b*tch" is what got me screaming
😂😂
She kept making excuses not to have any contact with you. I know it's tough but she doesn't want a friendship with you. She is weeding out people who she feel are a liability to here job
damn that makes a lot of sense
I stay in Bowie and my apartment is 2100 I’ll rather stay here and just drive to dc and va just expensive just for no reason 😂😂
2nd chance?! FDB
lmao no frrrrr
I think you were in the right.
Thanks man 💯
Im from Dc born and raised and not every part is expensive. You can still get a 1 bedroom in SE Dc for $800. It’s jus not in the best neighborhood and u will hear gunshots on a daily. If u want to live in a decent area of course it’s expensive but not everywhere in Dc is expensive
Bro no sane person is trying to live in a place where “you will hear gun shots” so obviously when he says every where he is saying the respectable places. No one is talking about the hood
@@AP90x was I talking to u? You obviously can’t comprehend. I didn’t say he wanted to live in the hood. All I was saying was not everywhere in Dc is expensive. People make it seem like everywhere in Dc starts off at $2,000 wen it’s still $800 apartments
Yo that chic was cold.
You seem like a straight up great guy.
She did you so dirty.
I know you will forgive her for feeling sorry for her.
I feel like YOU WERE RIGHT.
HELL NO Don't MESS WITH THIS CHIC EVER AGAIN she will leave you in all types of bad situations.
Your real respected professional friends will start to question your own Integrity. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Thank God for your co-worker. You may not be so lucky next time.
I really didn't like it because she made you so angry
She was so SHADY she got free food.
NOBODY LIKES HER Anyway.
CAREFUL after you find people out. You keep them for paybacks or to use them..
LET IT GO LET HER GO.
GREAT VIDEO
Facts ur apartment 2700 in DC
This man is tripping balls.
my life is so much better 😂 so idk how
It wasn't wise to cuss her out. She works for the FBI that could have been a really good "friend" to have. At the very least, you don't wanna make an enemy like that. It was a knee jerk reaction and the first time that happened to you clearly. As black boys grow into men our relationship dynamics change. It's cool to just hang out at a friends house all day or just cruise around the city aimlessly but as we get older and into survival mode, that stuff just stop's making sense. She works in intelligence, she has to make sound decisions and watch the company she keeps. Based on your reaction she made the right decision. You can't fault her for that. You admit you don't care that she work's for the FBI, you're calling her out of her name and you're online telling everyone your business. You may not realize it but she already saw that you were capable of that and that's why she cancelled on you. Straight up though, it could happen to anyone who has developed a relationship with a person and they just cut you off out of nowhere. She said her job comes before family and friends. That makes no sense and sounds like she took the same oath as the mob or a secret society. That tells you everything you need to know.
Should have just paid for the extra day at the hotel and rented a car for the day or just Uber’ed for the day.
As a man regardless of friendship, you shouldn’t ask to stay with a woman. I would’ve paid to the price for the room and avoid the drama all together.
$2,198 for a 1bedrom is NASTYYY WORKK
NASTY!!!
Don’t unpack, you’ll be moving again. Rent goes up every year.
She was dumb faced lying and she's not making any sense. She a user. She led you on then kept switching. Yeah she a bad friend
Why you have no money to book uber? Too much relying on people. Handle your own man. No one is your friend
20 minutes in DC is really like an hour 😂
Nah! bro let her go she put you in a dangerous situation. That could’ve caused you your life .
No fr. ion fw her no more tho
Maria was dead wrong 🤦♀️
ROTTEN
😂😂😂
I live in DC. The crackheads don't bother nobody.
That’s a mortgage on an expensive home.
Be a grown man get a hotel handle your business nobody owes you anything people don’t want another grown adult staying with them
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
First, you said "I bought this girl dinner, guys". Then you say it was $20. She works for the FBI so she probably thinks she "made it" and probably judged you as being poor and inconveniencing her over $150 which, to her, is like getting her nails done pocket change. She's not your friend anymore.
There are pros and cons to living anywhere in the world. Why do people complain so dam much there is no perfect place to live. And if you like making money DC area is definitely the place to be
Change this video to why Virginia is so expensive
You need some new friends AND co-workers.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 i’m so glad i’m in a different place a whole year later
@JamionWhite1 I grew up and went to school in DC. I love it but I don't want to live in it anymore...too expensive . too busy. I'm still close though in Clinton, MD.
Dude, clearly she's seeing someone & tried to work you in where you fit in.
You weren't her #1 priority.
What I would've done was adjust my plans at the first sign of her being wishy washy.
I would've gone into full single man mode & had my meals at some of the many bars & restaurants where single women frequent, starting with Ben's next door.
Too many women in DC to waste your life on nonsense
Bro, she had a dude over there breaking her back in.
LMFAOOOO YEOOOOOOOO. nah she ain’t like that bro trust me
You were wrong.
I appreciate it. Can you give me your explanation too?
@@JamionWhite1 You shouldn’t want to be in someone’s space that doesn’t want you there for whatever reason. She doesn’t have to be inconvenienced for your convenience. She was right for being honest instead of letting you come and then talking bad about you behind your back. You’re a good person for wanting to hear both sides.❤️
I stumbled upon your Atlanta "luxury" apartment video and happy to have clicked on it. We're practically neighbors. I live down the way from you, that's if you haven't already moved. I can relate to your content, so I follow your page now. 🤗 Hoping for a follow to my page in return 😅
Bruh just spend the $150 for the hotel to avoid all these BS don’t ever depend on anybody and shawty agreed to host then told you no she can’t should’ve just cut her off from there idk why you continued to talking to her 😂🤦🏾♂️
lmao I was just being a dumbass. but i’m glad I went through this situation. Honestly I cut so many dead leaves out my life quickly so I did need this experience
I encountered similar situation like that I was there for this girl whenever she needed me I would go out my way to help her but when it came to me needing help from her she acted weird and too busy to answer my calls. Literally last week she called me asking for help I gave her the same energy and she got mad and now we don’t really talk at all @@JamionWhite1
She is not a friend. She should have looked out for you. She is not going to make it not being here for you
DC WILD BRO LOL
ENJOY THE CRACKHEADS , The MOES , U street , DuPont Circle & The wild turkeys lol
Sounds like she just wanted a free meal. 😁This is just too much. ... Next time get your own Shyt.
With all do respect, at your age, don't you know, that there are NO real human friends in this world...no where. Everything, anyone ever, ever does for you, sooner, or later, will be expected to be paid back, monetarily, favors, etc. There are NO real human friends, none. Please read Jeremiah 17:5.
The ONLY true friend, one will EVER have, well, His name is Jesus Christ.
bruh she has a man that she stay with lol
😭 I never thought about that
DC and Atlanta Georgia and prince George county Maryland has the richest most educated black people in America 😊